I came out on the other side of this mindset. I suffered greatly living in my own head. At times I just wanted to give up and end everything. The thing I had to do was stop giving a fuck. I mean really stop. I know the world does not care about me, and I learned to become happy with it. I had to rewire my way of thinking. I even went so far as to create a mantra to recite when the despair kicked in. Over time, that voice of misery in my head became quiet. I only pursue what benefits me. If other people are part of that, that is great. If not, who needs them? Everything is transactional: even friends and love. Nothing in this world is free. I play the world's game to my benefit. Everybody is playing a character out in the world, why not do it myself? I also had to that there are many people out there profiting on the misery of others with media (books, UA-cam, influencers, etc...) that say they have your best interests in mind but they just want to sell you bullshit (you mentioned one of them in this video). It was hard as hell to reach this point, but I had no choice. It was either play the game or fade away. People still play by the rules of nature even though they like to think that they don't. Just a bunch of primates that can build things. There is a game that is being played that will happen with or without you. Why not get your piece of the pie? I am not sure if this will help you, and I cannot tell you how to get here. You will have to come to that on your own.
I AM 73, ALONE BUT NOT LONELY, THERE IS ALWAYS SOMETHING TO DO OR SOMEWHERE TO GO..IF YOU WANT TOO. BEING ALONE IS HAVING THE ABILITY TO DO WHAT YOU WANT, WHEN YOU WANT. I HAVE PEOPLE I CAN GET TO KNOW, I HAVE A PLANET THAT I LOVE AND CAN EXPLORE, I HAVE HOBBIES. I LOVE MYSELF, I LOVE OTHER PEOPLE..I AM TRULY FREE. THIS "I AM LONELY," IS A STATE OF MIND THAT CAN DESTROY ONES SOUL...LIVE!
There is a cure for all the suffering, and it's NOT alcohol or drugs. It's all in learning how to be the master of your own brain, which can be your own worst enemy. Once you learn and practice every day for the rest of your life, you will be free of suffering and live in equinimity, harmony, and tranquility, and every day will get better as you constantly improve on who you can be.
I’m one of those incel virgins that lives in his mother’s basement. I’m 35years old, make $105k a year, with a good career. 6foot tall at 240lbs. Aka not ugly… Yet, I’m so lonely that a .45cal has been my on my mind since 2018 just to put an end to it. I can’t do it!!!! Let that be clear, I don’t want to do that to my family. But that makes me all the more lonely.
Dude, how tf are you an incel if you're tall, not ugly, and make 100k? And why are you living in a basement? If you're not ugly, you can still get poon while living in your mother's basement. If you got money, you can still get poon if you're ugly, or if you live at home with your mom. You live in Alaska or somethin'?
This is a difficult headspace. I turn 50 years old in a few days. I had no plans beyond 27. I had no expectation of survival. However, I met my wife and had a son. 23 years later, I wrestle with these thoughts every day. I live for them, not for me. I've been secretly hollow for decades. It pains me sometimes that I don't feel. But I thank God everyday for allowing me to raise a Son before I go.
You remind me of my older brother, and I love him very much. A lot of us are eating a giant turd sandwich out here; I appreciate you honestly articulating how a lot people (including myself) feel these days. I don't have much to say, but I'm gonna keep taking it one shitty, poo-filled bite at a time.
Great video. Everything you mentioned resonated. I’m trying to figure out why this loneliness keeps lingering and why so many others feel this way also.
I feel similar man. I just played a random game of shadow dark (like D&d) with a friend and it was such a fun and connected experience. We have to try something. Ultimately we can’t just do nothing. Thankful for anything.
I have been divorced for about seven years and I know that it is easy to be lonely if I don’t have people to spend time with. There are other guys around though, and if you look around to see if there are other guys who want to go hiking, play pool, and have beers together, you will find companions.
So does life or society owe you entertainment? Happiness? Ease? I worked with people who had high level disabilities. It helped me see that my expectations and entitlements were way off base. Course corrected with gratitude for the agency i have that some do not. Congrats on giving up the booze. I had to face that myself. Validate yourself for that strength. It only takes one tiny shift to transcend the thinking patterns that trap you. Your channel is feeding your reality. Misery needs company but only to meet you there to walk out of it...or not.
I've heard it said lately that life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be had. Combine that with the trend of people paying for experiences with things over experiences with people.... We are truly disposable. Make no mistake. AI will document it all. Enjoy your youth... it fades fast...
FWIW I missed listening to you yesterday. I hope you did something fun. Maybe I'm just addicted to content. WSJ published a recent article "America’s Young Men Are Falling Even Further Behind." Maybe should have been "Putting Women on a Pedestal is Bad for Civilization." Ironically, the article studies a family of Mexicans in Miami. Of course their daughter has a degree in business, a job, and is engaged. Their sons have no purpose and see no direction. No P***y No Work. I have a theory that the PUA are also lonely. Like any addiction, they cover it up with slaying, but those aren't real relationships.
"America’s Young Men Are Falling Even Further Behind." In the same article, there will be the complaint, "But we still need to talk about the wage gap." The media is chock-full of celebration paradoxes.
if you want a tip that gets you forward tho instead of keeping you in your doomcycle - download some dating app, fix up your beard to make it look clean, use some facial oil and stuff to get your skin fixed, try to work out a bit and put on a T-shirt that isn't completely destroyed ... bald is fine. put up some nice fotos in your app and keep looking for matches, you'll find one eventually. it's just a matter of time - and then you'll have new problems you can ramble about bro, trust me, i was there.
Love isn't about having no boundaries. In fact, if another man [or woman] cares about your well-being they'll hold you accountable and if you love them, you'll hold yourself accountable as well . Do with that what you will and if it triggers you, let that be a sign you need to refocus. We all have our struggles. How we solve problems defines us. Don't let that definition be wandering. I say this after wandering for many years.
It might be time for men not to be dependent on others. Putting your time in effort helping others will keep you from being lonely. Pray for friends and you will get them and too many so that others are bothersome to you.
Im sure that those people who are succesful in many ways in life do not write those kind of things on the internet. They dont feel the need to bring everybody else down. "Get a hobby get a different job etc" arent also helping anybody because those are so obivous things that many have already tried. People who say "seek god" also arent helping.
We are similar. It's bittersweet. Endless suffering is bad. But the good part is being a conscious man and questioning the meaning of actions. There are definitely goals i could aspire to or actions i could take. But there is no real reason to. Maybe i should chase a girl and seek pleasure. Weighing the pros and cons of this make me hesitate.
Go to the gym in Thailand bro! Seriously, men are going to have to come up with something. I think I would at least give serious consideration to an AI robot girlfriend. Sure, it is shallow and awful, but if could talk to you and scratch your back I might throw $20-$30K at something like that. Is that wrong?
To answer the question... possibly not. But we have to adapt to that fact. Btw. I think most life forms on this rock are having a wretched time, so theres that. On a positive note. Congratulations on the sobriety.
Um, no. I’m not interested, and frankly, I don’t feel sorry for you. At 36, I've come to recognize that before I bothered to cultivate a personality, I was an insufferable person, quick to point fingers at everyone but myself for my myriad misfortunes. I reached a point where I was casting blame for the things I hadn’t even attempted, shackled by my own fears. Then came the years of earnest self-examination, of putting myself out there in all my messy, unfiltered glory. For the first time, I allowed myself to be liked-or hated-based on my authentic self. It’s astounding how many of you seem to prefer the comfort of inaction, failing to even step outside your bubble to grasp what you truly want.
Subbed and LIked man! Real person, real content. Good to see. Sorry you're lonely, over 1k people have watched so far tho, I bet most want to help if they could.
I was gonna suggest the number one thing to do to fight male loneliness is to move to a small town. The women in small towns are so extremely different than in big cities. They don't have this outlook of having so many men fall all over them that happens in big cities and so they do not have any attunement to to modern day female 500 and counting ICK list. Moved to a small town a long time ago coming from NYC where you get lucky rarely to suddenly having women knocking on your door at 5am drunk is wild. That said your background looks woodsy. Are you in a small town?
What I've learned from dealing with loneliness is that you never completely forget it. BUT you can look for a job where you come into contact with people a lot. If that's not the right thing (and I know you don't want to hear that) you can look for hobbies that take you further and also connect you with people (martial arts, chess, tennis etc.). It's still a superficial solution. I agree, the most important thing is to find a woman to start your own family, which is easier said than done. Because at some point you become bitter and only see women for what they seem to be good for (beauty and fertility). If that doesn't work for you, then you can try to find God and if that's not a solution either, then it's just one of many lives in the history of mankind that couldn't fulfill its dreams and even basic needs. In any case, I wish you to get rid of your loneliness and never give up. I won't either. (From a lonely white, bald, average-looking man from Germany).
the advicebros are lacking in empathy which requires a certain amount of intelligence. they don't have it. many of them are also making repetitive "incel reaction" videos to get traffic. i experienced similar levels of loneliness in 2023. it eventually wore off and i just reached the "fck it" phase. Not in a dangerous oogabooga joker way that normies worry about. just disengagment from unnecessary socializing. dont even talk to the cashiers at the supermarket. they seem bothered by it too lol. so i play video games,go to the supermarket, munch pizza, listen to my playlists and got to my crappy part time job. wash, rinse,repeat. it's great lol. obviously human beings are different. my tolerance for solitude and indifference to rejection might be genetic. also im a fuckup. You clearly put in much more work in your adult years than i have and probably most men(you actually have a house). the disappointment is understandable. i pray and hope that you find solace. in whatever form possible. take care.
Women pick up on the desperation vibe, and this only turns them off as far as making a meaningful connection that can lead to romance. I would suggest coming from a place of happiness and getting out and doing things you enjoy and meeting women in an organic manner without the pretense of being desperate to get laid.
Raymond - people do care about your loneliness. There has to be an equally intelligent female out there! You are not average guy. You have had bad experiences that keep from exploring the other available ladies. Anyway, commenting to help get your channel monetized.🍁🍂🍁🍂 So any more thoughts on POF? You really don’t want lots of kids! Please! You will regret it. I hope your channel grows and you find a female. You are funny.
Man I hear you so much dude. I know to many guys in this hopeless state. THERE IS SEEMINGLY NO SOLUTION.... the only one i thought of would involve a situation where the power goes out for a long long time. Thaank you for making these videos man, its nice to hear this from a more mature dude.
Loneliness is intensely tough. I feel for you. Life is tough and has lots of stuff that sucks balls totally. But there is lots of beauty outside of the mundane. Seek your Creator. That void can only be filled by God. Seek and you will find. Bless you
I have no respect for a creator who would make Hell, which is the vast majority of religions. Even in ones where there is no Hell, God allows for intense suffering for no reason. If God exists, God is a monster.
Nobody 'took away sex from men' that is an illusion, man. If you want to have sex, you have to show yourself to the world, express yourself, create something. Women are like fish, they don't bite an empty hook. I remember I was desperately lonely in 2014, so I took up sreet music. I literally dragged myself out (being an introvert that was an ordeal) to the streets to play some music! Eventually I got to know excellent partners, had meaningful loving relationships, which otherwise would have never happened, if I just sat at home waiting for stuff to come into my life.
While I disagree with some of what you say, you make a lot of good points. I feel like a lot of us men are broken. Hang in there, guys. We will get through this.
when did youtube become a vent for how rough my life is? You are above ground so be happy and do things! people are lonely because you spend more time on the web and less out in public.. its a fact modern tech makes people more lonely
If you don't snap out of this mind vacuum you are in. This is exactly what’s wrong with men nowadays. “Lets make a video” dude, if you don't get out and make it happen. Social media is not real, you are not going to find your acceptance here. Go out and do something for someone outside of yourself. That's how you find inner peace as a man. We as a group, as men, have lost that concept.
Isn't it interesting that the only thing people seem to ever want men to do is serve other people endlessly while expecting nothing in return? You missed my point, watch my other videos.
@@raymond_sycamore I think the key here is expectation. What ARE your expectations and if they are high, are you paying close attention to what you're putting in to receive those expectations? I personally feel like serving others like family and close friends, as well as maybe having some pets or a hobby you can build like music or art, goes a LONG way to feel fulfilled in life. But if you feel like your servitude outweighs your rewards, consider WHY you're serving the people you are. I mean you say the only people close to you is really your dad. I would feel pretty dissatisfied too if I wasn't valued in more lives than my father's. That's a fair way to feel. But you create value by being who you are and helping others to be themselves. The more you can be there for someone while also having someone else to talk to, the more valued you feel and the more of an impact you have in life. Again, as a first time viewer of this channel, you seem pretty damn secluded and this channel only seems to be a cultivated echo chamber for voicing your feelings. I get some people may try to say something to you that's dismissive or disingenuous, but not all of your comments are like that and I think some offer valid criticisms to your line of thought. Also don't see you responding to too many comments so I'm really curious how interested you even are in having any discourse around how you feel or if you just want to have a place to spew your feelings into the internet.
@@raymond_sycamore I noticed this quite a few years ago; whenever I would do something for someone else, I was told "Doing good things for others is its own reward". If someone else did something for me, the same person would tell me "You owe me one". Like it or not, at least one RP mantra is undeniably true - "Women are human beings; men are human doings."
working part time and delivering food in your free time(uber/doordash),amazon flex, laser ship,selling stuff on ebay or etsy, short term work from freelance marketplaces, remote jobs(need higher skills for that), wedding/event photography services offered on instagram,livestreaming, and of course monetization on youtube. the list goes on.....
Men are not loved; what men provide is loved, but only as long as they provide it. If a man is not useful, he will be 'lonely' - at least until he begins to enjoy his solitude. Definition of useful - able to be *used* for a practical purpose or in several ways (emphasis added).
What you're going through, I call awakening. Life is not the fairytale you've been promised. We are ALL on our own. Life is not easy, and sometimes we wished we had support, but nothing is free in this world. Human love is a myth. People all need to be loved, but most don't have a need TO love. You will have to get over all those pipe dreams you have, even the ones you think are just normal basic needs. You are forever on your own, people don't care. The wealthy man will never be truly loved, the hot woman will never be truly loved. You want to feel loved ? Observe all the great things your maker has planted in you, and all around you. His is the wisdom that will lead you to peace. He is the only true source of love. You can go to church if you want, or better yet, you could build one inside you. I wish you peace my brother, I know what you're going through.
Real talk, one of the key problems is that hyper-capitalism isolates people, because apathy is more profitable than community, there is a reason why 3rd spaces no longer exist and only the most richest nations are being hit with a lonely male crisis. It's Thatcher's dream that became a waking nightmare, there IS NO SOCIETY, it's a massive crowd of individuals ; a sea of strangers, we are witnessing social collapse.
I'm more lonely than you. I burned my retinas from going delusional one moment and staring directly at the sun. Now I'm half blind and death is near, life is hell. Pls nobody stare at the sun ever.
@@raymond_sycamore of course, it's a chance. When I was delusional I saw ZERO warnings that I should not stare at the Sun in my social media so I sometimes post why I lost my liife on videos I watch, maybe somebody who's at risk notices one of my comments one day
I came out on the other side of this mindset. I suffered greatly living in my own head. At times I just wanted to give up and end everything. The thing I had to do was stop giving a fuck. I mean really stop. I know the world does not care about me, and I learned to become happy with it. I had to rewire my way of thinking. I even went so far as to create a mantra to recite when the despair kicked in. Over time, that voice of misery in my head became quiet. I only pursue what benefits me. If other people are part of that, that is great. If not, who needs them? Everything is transactional: even friends and love. Nothing in this world is free. I play the world's game to my benefit. Everybody is playing a character out in the world, why not do it myself? I also had to that there are many people out there profiting on the misery of others with media (books, UA-cam, influencers, etc...) that say they have your best interests in mind but they just want to sell you bullshit (you mentioned one of them in this video). It was hard as hell to reach this point, but I had no choice. It was either play the game or fade away. People still play by the rules of nature even though they like to think that they don't. Just a bunch of primates that can build things. There is a game that is being played that will happen with or without you. Why not get your piece of the pie? I am not sure if this will help you, and I cannot tell you how to get here. You will have to come to that on your own.
Thank you.
I AM 73, ALONE BUT NOT LONELY, THERE IS ALWAYS SOMETHING TO DO OR SOMEWHERE TO GO..IF YOU WANT TOO. BEING ALONE IS HAVING THE ABILITY TO DO WHAT YOU WANT, WHEN YOU WANT. I HAVE PEOPLE I CAN GET TO KNOW, I HAVE A PLANET THAT I LOVE AND CAN EXPLORE, I HAVE HOBBIES. I LOVE MYSELF, I LOVE OTHER PEOPLE..I AM TRULY FREE. THIS "I AM LONELY," IS A STATE OF MIND THAT CAN DESTROY ONES SOUL...LIVE!
Why the caps lock?😂
@@animal79thecat Opps! Sorry
All by design. Tiny hats, big problems
So many Cohencidences...
There is a cure for all the suffering, and it's NOT alcohol or drugs. It's all in learning how to be the master of your own brain, which can be your own worst enemy. Once you learn and practice every day for the rest of your life, you will be free of suffering and live in equinimity, harmony, and tranquility, and every day will get better as you constantly improve on who you can be.
worse than don’t care. they laugh at it. they fear it. they judge it.
but hey thats life
I'm alone 24/7 no family no friends.
word brotha
No unbalanced relationships; no giving more than you get back.
Sometimes I wish I didn’t have a family. All they do is cause drama and bitch at you at least in my case.
@@swagdonor2357 Yes i agree i can relate ive been there also with my family over the years.
They'll call it suicide but it was genetic failure that ended my life. I genuinely don't think there's anything hated more on Earth than ugly men.
Loser mentality.
I’m happy I just saved 15 percent on my car insurance!
The fact a man in his mid 30s makes a video like this shows this society is broken
And closer to collapse than many seem to think.
@@Doberman_6773 collapse? Western society? LOL.
conservative white men broke it than cry how it's everyone else's fault
Yeah the early mid 20th was just a fluke in time. Men for the most part have always been with no companion
Pro tip: drink your coffee 20 minutes before you get in front of your camera... you'll wake right up.
It annoys me when he pauses to take sips from his cup. Also please clean off that black mark on the right lens of your glasses.
I’m one of those incel virgins that lives in his mother’s basement. I’m 35years old, make $105k a year, with a good career. 6foot tall at 240lbs. Aka not ugly…
Yet, I’m so lonely that a .45cal has been my on my mind since 2018 just to put an end to it. I can’t do it!!!! Let that be clear, I don’t want to do that to my family. But that makes me all the more lonely.
I hear ya. I stick around out of a love for my family and spite for those that rule this world
Dude, how tf are you an incel if you're tall, not ugly, and make 100k? And why are you living in a basement?
If you're not ugly, you can still get poon while living in your mother's basement. If you got money, you can still get poon if you're ugly, or if you live at home with your mom.
You live in Alaska or somethin'?
This is a difficult headspace. I turn 50 years old in a few days. I had no plans beyond 27. I had no expectation of survival. However, I met my wife and had a son. 23 years later, I wrestle with these thoughts every day. I live for them, not for me. I've been secretly hollow for decades. It pains me sometimes that I don't feel. But I thank God everyday for allowing me to raise a Son before I go.
Dude, I love this channel!
You remind me of my older brother, and I love him very much. A lot of us are eating a giant turd sandwich out here; I appreciate you honestly articulating how a lot people (including myself) feel these days. I don't have much to say, but I'm gonna keep taking it one shitty, poo-filled bite at a time.
No. People don't care. When I'm not working I am always alone.
Get yourself some seriously time intensive hobbies.
Great video. Everything you mentioned resonated. I’m trying to figure out why this loneliness keeps lingering and why so many others feel this way also.
I feel similar man. I just played a random game of shadow dark (like D&d) with a friend and it was such a fun and connected experience. We have to try something. Ultimately we can’t just do nothing. Thankful for anything.
I have been divorced for about seven years and I know that it is easy to be lonely if I don’t have people to spend time with. There are other guys around though, and if you look around to see if there are other guys who want to go hiking, play pool, and have beers together, you will find companions.
Doing some volunteering work makes life much more enjoyable. Maybe volunteer with an animal shelter?
we don't need any animal shelter shootings
So does life or society owe you entertainment? Happiness? Ease? I worked with people who had high level disabilities. It helped me see that my expectations and entitlements were way off base. Course corrected with gratitude for the agency i have that some do not. Congrats on giving up the booze. I had to face that myself. Validate yourself for that strength. It only takes one tiny shift to transcend the thinking patterns that trap you. Your channel is feeding your reality. Misery needs company but only to meet you there to walk out of it...or not.
Men have always had the potential to be lonely. You have to make life happen yourself.
You are definitely correct about your last statements.
I've heard it said lately that life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be had. Combine that with the trend of people paying for experiences with things over experiences with people.... We are truly disposable. Make no mistake. AI will document it all. Enjoy your youth... it fades fast...
A dog, if you have the resources. Made my life worthwhile.
We are on the same team here…
FWIW I missed listening to you yesterday. I hope you did something fun. Maybe I'm just addicted to content. WSJ published a recent article "America’s Young Men Are Falling Even Further Behind." Maybe should have been "Putting Women on a Pedestal is Bad for Civilization." Ironically, the article studies a family of Mexicans in Miami. Of course their daughter has a degree in business, a job, and is engaged. Their sons have no purpose and see no direction. No P***y No Work. I have a theory that the PUA are also lonely. Like any addiction, they cover it up with slaying, but those aren't real relationships.
"America’s Young Men Are Falling Even Further Behind." In the same article, there will be the complaint, "But we still need to talk about the wage gap." The media is chock-full of celebration paradoxes.
"Men no longer transferring resources to Society and Women". Sooner or later, someone will float a bachelor tax.
The only person who cares about you is you. Act accordingly.
I felt some comfort in reading Shopenhauer councels and maxims.
This is David Guetta in another life 😂😂😂
I don't think anyone cares.
if you want a tip that gets you forward tho instead of keeping you in your doomcycle - download some dating app, fix up your beard to make it look clean, use some facial oil and stuff to get your skin fixed, try to work out a bit and put on a T-shirt that isn't completely destroyed ... bald is fine. put up some nice fotos in your app and keep looking for matches, you'll find one eventually. it's just a matter of time - and then you'll have new problems you can ramble about bro, trust me, i was there.
@@nynelol1819 no, they don’t
I wouldn't be so sure; some of these things are starting to effect society (and women). And that is who any problems will be solved for.
Love isn't about having no boundaries. In fact, if another man [or woman] cares about your well-being they'll hold you accountable and if you love them, you'll hold yourself accountable as well . Do with that what you will and if it triggers you, let that be a sign you need to refocus. We all have our struggles. How we solve problems defines us. Don't let that definition be wandering. I say this after wandering for many years.
It might be time for men not to be dependent on others. Putting your time in effort helping others will keep you from being lonely. Pray for friends and you will get them and too many so that others are bothersome to you.
Im sure that those people who are succesful in many ways in life do not write those kind of things on the internet. They dont feel the need to bring everybody else down. "Get a hobby get a different job etc" arent also helping anybody because those are so obivous things that many have already tried. People who say "seek god" also arent helping.
Feel this brother.
We are similar. It's bittersweet. Endless suffering is bad. But the good part is being a conscious man and questioning the meaning of actions. There are definitely goals i could aspire to or actions i could take. But there is no real reason to. Maybe i should chase a girl and seek pleasure. Weighing the pros and cons of this make me hesitate.
I think we are in a period of sexual market forces realigning. Things change.
Go to the gym in Thailand bro! Seriously, men are going to have to come up with something. I think I would at least give serious consideration to an AI robot girlfriend. Sure, it is shallow and awful, but if could talk to you and scratch your back I might throw $20-$30K at something like that. Is that wrong?
all you want is something to fuck. Shallow and awful is right on the mark.
No but it is sad tbh
How about just learning to enjoy your own company and being by yourself? It's literally that easy.
To answer the question... possibly not. But we have to adapt to that fact. Btw. I think most life forms on this rock are having a wretched time, so theres that. On a positive note. Congratulations on the sobriety.
Um, no. I’m not interested, and frankly, I don’t feel sorry for you.
At 36, I've come to recognize that before I bothered to cultivate a personality, I was an insufferable person, quick to point fingers at everyone but myself for my myriad misfortunes. I reached a point where I was casting blame for the things I hadn’t even attempted, shackled by my own fears.
Then came the years of earnest self-examination, of putting myself out there in all my messy, unfiltered glory. For the first time, I allowed myself to be liked-or hated-based on my authentic self.
It’s astounding how many of you seem to prefer the comfort of inaction, failing to even step outside your bubble to grasp what you truly want.
No they don't care 😂 god bless
I enjoyed your video
There it is. Immigrants. That's the problem. Got it. Now your video makes sense.
You haven't had many wins recently. Setup your life to get more wins.
Gets tough to do the older you get my friend. Those wins aren't available if there's no game.
@@1974greymalkin Start small and build from there
No mate, they dont.
Subbed and LIked man! Real person, real content. Good to see. Sorry you're lonely, over 1k people have watched so far tho, I bet most want to help if they could.
I was gonna suggest the number one thing to do to fight male loneliness is to move to a small town. The women in small towns are so extremely different than in big cities. They don't have this outlook of having so many men fall all over them that happens in big cities and so they do not have any attunement to to modern day female 500 and counting ICK list. Moved to a small town a long time ago coming from NYC where you get lucky rarely to suddenly having women knocking on your door at 5am drunk is wild. That said your background looks woodsy. Are you in a small town?
What I've learned from dealing with loneliness is that you never completely forget it. BUT you can look for a job where you come into contact with people a lot. If that's not the right thing (and I know you don't want to hear that) you can look for hobbies that take you further and also connect you with people (martial arts, chess, tennis etc.). It's still a superficial solution. I agree, the most important thing is to find a woman to start your own family, which is easier said than done. Because at some point you become bitter and only see women for what they seem to be good for (beauty and fertility). If that doesn't work for you, then you can try to find God and if that's not a solution either, then it's just one of many lives in the history of mankind that couldn't fulfill its dreams and even basic needs. In any case, I wish you to get rid of your loneliness and never give up. I won't either.
(From a lonely white, bald, average-looking man from Germany).
the advicebros are lacking in empathy which requires a certain amount of intelligence. they don't have it. many of them are also making repetitive "incel reaction" videos to get traffic. i experienced similar levels of loneliness in 2023. it eventually wore off and i just reached the "fck it" phase. Not in a dangerous oogabooga joker way that normies worry about. just disengagment from unnecessary socializing. dont even talk to the cashiers at the supermarket. they seem bothered by it too lol. so i play video games,go to the supermarket, munch pizza, listen to my playlists and got to my crappy part time job. wash, rinse,repeat. it's great lol.
obviously human beings are different. my tolerance for solitude and indifference to rejection might be genetic. also im a fuckup. You clearly put in much more work in your adult years than i have and probably most men(you actually have a house). the disappointment is understandable. i pray and hope that you find solace. in whatever form possible. take care.
Women pick up on the desperation vibe, and this only turns them off as far as making a meaningful connection that can lead to romance.
I would suggest coming from a place of happiness and getting out and doing things you enjoy and meeting women in an organic manner without the pretense of being desperate to get laid.
I believe this guy has put in some effort to integrate. He's fairly intuitive and his personality has to be interesting or engaging to some people
It's good to just here this guy as he is , without judgment or attempts to fix anything
Did you listen/ read Senecas shortness of life.
i feel you that my life
Raymond - people do care about your loneliness.
There has to be an equally intelligent female out there!
You are not average guy. You have had bad experiences that keep from exploring the other available ladies.
Anyway, commenting to help get your channel monetized.🍁🍂🍁🍂
So any more thoughts on POF?
You really don’t want lots of kids!
Please! You will regret it.
I hope your channel grows and you find a female.
You are funny.
thank you for watching and the encouraging words.
Man I hear you so much dude. I know to many guys in this hopeless state. THERE IS SEEMINGLY NO SOLUTION.... the only one i thought of would involve a situation where the power goes out for a long long time. Thaank you for making these videos man, its nice to hear this from a more mature dude.
Thank you for watching.
Why don’t you just pack a sandwich for $5 instead of paying $17 for lunch out?
Loneliness is intensely tough. I feel for you. Life is tough and has lots of stuff that sucks balls totally. But there is lots of beauty outside of the mundane. Seek your Creator. That void can only be filled by God. Seek and you will find. Bless you
Unfathomable cope. God never came to me in my greatest hour of need. Why would he come now?
@@defeatisfinal God is something people make up to cope with life and death
I have no respect for a creator who would make Hell, which is the vast majority of religions. Even in ones where there is no Hell, God allows for intense suffering for no reason. If God exists, God is a monster.
"You'll be rewarded in the *next* life" might be the greatest long con in human history.
Nobody 'took away sex from men' that is an illusion, man. If you want to have sex, you have to show yourself to the world, express yourself, create something. Women are like fish, they don't bite an empty hook.
I remember I was desperately lonely in 2014, so I took up sreet music. I literally dragged myself out (being an introvert that was an ordeal) to the streets to play some music!
Eventually I got to know excellent partners, had meaningful loving relationships, which otherwise would have never happened, if I just sat at home waiting for stuff to come into my life.
That's the gayest fucking comment I've seen in a long time. Fucking another man in the ass with no lube would be less gay than your comment.
bro. just get yourself a dog.
also america is a business. not a country.
Not a joke. A tree falls in the forest...
Big up, from london 🇬🇧
@@jessewrites17792 thank you from watching across the pond!
While I disagree with some of what you say, you make a lot of good points. I feel like a lot of us men are broken. Hang in there, guys. We will get through this.
when did youtube become a vent for how rough my life is? You are above ground so be happy and do things! people are lonely because you spend more time on the web and less out in public.. its a fact modern tech makes people more lonely
I don't think I've ever been more lonely than certain times that I've been out in the publica
Tech could have been designed differently.
Since it was created - it’s literally in the name You can put whatever you want on here if you don’t like it here no one is making you stay
A long time ago. Pretty natural to have to talk about what you;re going through with people who may care or be in a similar position.
People care
And I have some oceanfront property in Nebraska that I'm willing to sell for a great price.
I didn't liked to video. Stop crying on UA-cam. You're not the only one who is lonely.
Gr gr Dario.
Dude, Why even fucking put a comment lime this on this video. You are a part of the problem. Go somewhere fucking else with this attitude.
If you don't snap out of this mind vacuum you are in. This is exactly what’s wrong with men nowadays. “Lets make a video” dude, if you don't get out and make it happen. Social media is not real, you are not going to find your acceptance here. Go out and do something for someone outside of yourself. That's how you find inner peace as a man. We as a group, as men, have lost that concept.
Isn't it interesting that the only thing people seem to ever want men to do is serve other people endlessly while expecting nothing in return? You missed my point, watch my other videos.
@@raymond_sycamoreexactly
@@raymond_sycamore I think the key here is expectation. What ARE your expectations and if they are high, are you paying close attention to what you're putting in to receive those expectations? I personally feel like serving others like family and close friends, as well as maybe having some pets or a hobby you can build like music or art, goes a LONG way to feel fulfilled in life. But if you feel like your servitude outweighs your rewards, consider WHY you're serving the people you are. I mean you say the only people close to you is really your dad. I would feel pretty dissatisfied too if I wasn't valued in more lives than my father's. That's a fair way to feel. But you create value by being who you are and helping others to be themselves. The more you can be there for someone while also having someone else to talk to, the more valued you feel and the more of an impact you have in life. Again, as a first time viewer of this channel, you seem pretty damn secluded and this channel only seems to be a cultivated echo chamber for voicing your feelings.
I get some people may try to say something to you that's dismissive or disingenuous, but not all of your comments are like that and I think some offer valid criticisms to your line of thought. Also don't see you responding to too many comments so I'm really curious how interested you even are in having any discourse around how you feel or if you just want to have a place to spew your feelings into the internet.
@@raymond_sycamore I noticed this quite a few years ago; whenever I would do something for someone else, I was told "Doing good things for others is its own reward". If someone else did something for me, the same person would tell me "You owe me one".
Like it or not, at least one RP mantra is undeniably true - "Women are human beings; men are human doings."
I agree with what you said about the internet being real life. Real life as a substitute for the internet, rather than the other way around.
disagree
Gotta focus on more positive things. I don't think you're totally accurate. Sorry you feel.so lonely.
What are the other options instead of a 9-5?
working part time and delivering food in your free time(uber/doordash),amazon flex, laser ship,selling stuff on ebay or etsy, short term work from freelance marketplaces, remote jobs(need higher skills for that), wedding/event photography services offered on instagram,livestreaming, and of course monetization on youtube. the list goes on.....
mother cares...
other than your mom... nobody really cares.
Go to Pai, Thailand for 6 months or so. If you have income, just get out of the US for a bit my guy.
Men are not loved; what men provide is loved, but only as long as they provide it. If a man is not useful, he will be 'lonely' - at least until he begins to enjoy his solitude.
Definition of useful - able to be *used* for a practical purpose or in several ways (emphasis added).
What you're going through, I call awakening. Life is not the fairytale you've been promised. We are ALL on our own. Life is not easy, and sometimes we wished we had support, but nothing is free in this world. Human love is a myth. People all need to be loved, but most don't have a need TO love. You will have to get over all those pipe dreams you have, even the ones you think are just normal basic needs. You are forever on your own, people don't care. The wealthy man will never be truly loved, the hot woman will never be truly loved. You want to feel loved ? Observe all the great things your maker has planted in you, and all around you. His is the wisdom that will lead you to peace. He is the only true source of love. You can go to church if you want, or better yet, you could build one inside you. I wish you peace my brother, I know what you're going through.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but you COULD solve your loneliness if you lowered your attractiveness standards for who you date, right?
Real talk, one of the key problems is that hyper-capitalism isolates people, because apathy is more profitable than community, there is a reason why 3rd spaces no longer exist and only the most richest nations are being hit with a lonely male crisis. It's Thatcher's dream that became a waking nightmare, there IS NO SOCIETY, it's a massive crowd of individuals ; a sea of strangers, we are witnessing social collapse.
Get a puppy?
I'm more lonely than you. I burned my retinas from going delusional one moment and staring directly at the sun. Now I'm half blind and death is near, life is hell. Pls nobody stare at the sun ever.
@@tragedy_723_latviski I was not expecting this comment.
@@raymond_sycamore of course, it's a chance. When I was delusional I saw ZERO warnings that I should not stare at the Sun in my social media so I sometimes post why I lost my liife on videos I watch, maybe somebody who's at risk notices one of my comments one day
Constructive criticism: twenty minutes is a bit too long for a rant. Just my opinion, but I'd keep it to 10 mins or less.
That wouldn't be enough.
sorry for the typos