I find the older I get the pack dwindles. Friendships dissolve , people change, true colors come out, self attentions appear. It's hard to find a good, positive pack with good people that are trust worthy. Really hard.
This is my reality too.. it’s easy to have a pack if you’re John, but what about the regular guys just trying to live a good life and raise your kids .. my pack are my kids. I don’t think most people know what the definition of loyalty is nor do they care.
It might be sad to say or consider but this my friend is our pack right here. Real shit is being expressed and some people are starting to understand that. I guess we have the alot of people to be thankful for that can bring us through time and space to reply to one another.
When you are a kid or a teenager, you think you have a lot of friends, but when You get older you notice that only a few of then are worthy to call a 'friend'.
Once the partying stops and people get married that is when the so called close friendships fade to casual acquaintances. I am 43. I went to a wake this January where a childhood friend of mine passed at 42 from a 2 year battle with cancer. I had no idea he was sick for that length of time until another person told me he died.
I think that’s true but depends on the environment that you’re “finding” these people. I’m not adding someone to my team that I met at a bar. (Not saying you do that, just giving that as an example)
@@MrNobody00121 morning 0330 . Coffee time then chores. I agree with your statement. I don't drink and don't deal with many that do. Only head into town every three or four months for possibles. Only team I trust , 11B, 0311, my pups an horses. Just never been a people person. If it wasn't for dogs an horses , I wouldn't have any adult supervision. Lol enjoy fellas, watch your six. Bear
@@SolisIlanga99% of families are worthless now because theyre always trying to be better and more succesful than you. its more like an enemy to fight with to show whos "better" so yeah socializing isnt worth it nowadays
We are disconnected from people because we are connected to our cell phones. When I commute on the city train, I take the time to look around me and notice the electronic plague: everyone is starring at their cell phones. Nobody talks or looks at each other at all. They just stare at their phones with their headphones on. Social media, movies, video games, and all the other stuff instantly available on our devices have put us in a hypnotic state that is just too comforting and addictive.
I’m 64 and what I have discovered about life and friendships is this, when you laugh, the world laughs with you when you cry, you cry alone. I know this is an old saying, and most of you have already heard it, but it really is true. I’m sure there are people out there that have that one really good friend that would take a bullet for them, but on the flipside of that there was that so-called friend who’s sleeping with your wife behind your back.
I had the latter. So many "friends" and bosses stabbed me in the back through the years. Just turned 39 and have zero friends, no close family, work at home, no social life. Its a rough road, but its better than being hurt anymore
You always have a choice! Listen, there is no one on this planet that is exactly like you. Be true to yourself; you do this, life becomes more interesting.m
I love my isolation and solitude. It helped me get sober, get back in school, change careers, get out of debt, and get my life back on track. Some of us are just meant to be on our own.
@@--________________________-- Oh, absolutely. I agree with that 100%. It’s a small percentage of us who are able to handle it, but after my last relationship ended badly 8 years ago, I decided that I had my fill of companionship. I had two serious relationships and several flings. The last one broke me, however, and I knew in my heart that I wasn’t cut out for romance or love. I’ve been able to learn how to love myself, and that’s something I could never achieve before I was alone.
What he failed to mention is that the vast majority of men who have this mentality did not ask for it. They’ve been left with the choice of either sinking alone or fighting alone to stay afloat. And once you’ve embraced the idea of being a lone wolf (as you must if you are to thrive under it) and found that you are indeed capable of carrying it, it’s very difficult to go back.
Idk about that. I see a lot of men who have wives that are begging their husbands to talk to them, share with them, work together as a team. It's the men who withdraw.
I really hear you on this. I am kinda at this stage in my life too as a neurodivergant. I would still try to talk to someone close though. I value quality relationships over quantity any day!
People are too selfish...the moment you stop being a resource....crickets...people stop returning your calls/texts. They really don't want to deal with your problems...they will stick around long enough...if your buying..let the good times roll.. until the good times run out...but the second you start going through hard times...you find out who your true friends are....no one. I think Eric Clapton may have said this...not sure.. "I'm a recluse by choice." For me, listening to music and comedy is something I love..never fails me....way more dependable than a friend...in my experience.
I know a guy who has LoneWolf tattooed on his arm. Has a leather biker vest that says “LoneWolf.” I told him that it’s against the rules to give yourself your own nickname.
Lone wolf all the way. Rule number 1 in life first and foremost is learn to be your own best friend. People come and go but your going to be with yourself for a long time so like yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company.
Being alone is ok. I have gone to sporting events,concerts,and even the movies alone. It's just so hard to get together with people as you get older . The funny thing is that when I go to the movies alone I see other married men who are also alone.
@@STMARTIN009 it's a good strength to have. I think too many people these days are needy. They constantly need company and attention. If ever a moment on their own they are straight on their phones txting and everything else. So many people put up with being in toxic relationships purely cos they are afraid of being single or alone. Liking your own company is a good quality to have.
*YES!!!!!!* FINALLY Someone else acknowledges this!!! I've been saying for years but the essential trick to being able to live alone, is to be comfortable with yourself, and with your own thoughts and feelings. Because no one else will be there for you at the end of the day, but yourself. I'm frankly astounded to meet another person who understands this. Pleased to meet you! 🤝
@@davecrupel2817 Yep. I'm on the same boat as you. I used to live by this "friendship pack" mentality too, and all the people did was leave me in the gutters. I don't like being alone, but I'll do it if I have to. And right now especially in these times, it seems like I have to. I'm a lot more comfortable being alone than I was before, so this is great for me!
I 100% agree. Learn to be your own best friend. Some people don't like spending time with themselves because it causes introspection and they dont like what they see. I'm not saying I'm perfect either. Sometimes I introspect on my own and I don't like what I see but I've made my peace with it. I'll admit that it's not a good way to live but sometimes it's all you have. It's worse to surround yourself by people and feel even lonlier.
One of the things my late father instilled in me from a young age was that nobody cares about you or your problems. He would always say that he didn't like telling me this, but that's the way it is. I'm now well into adulthood and I've learned that he was absolutely right.
He's only right because you let him be right, it is nothing to do with the people around you it has all to do with yourself in the way you feel and the way your father taught you shitty lesson that ultimately aren't true
@@jaydena6297 No. his father was right. And therefore he’s right. You just want to keep believing in illusions. You’ll find out. It’s coming. Too god damn young and naive.
@@mattm.5436 seems you're the only one wants to keep believing in delusions. I'm sorry no one was around enough to care about you. But I have people that care about me and I'm not going to give up in my life just because some pathetic statement from some stupid people
After a break up it makes you realize you ain’t got no one but yourself Sometimes the loneliness sinks in deeply and will have you paralyzed It’s a weird feeling but I’ve been feeling it for the longest it sucks having no one around friends family or partner
Going through this now, without those feelings, but yeah women are in for a wake up call soon when the internet goes down, the dollar collapses, and they lose their friends that encourage their nonsense.
Maybe his pack just doesn’t resonate with who he is, his morals, beliefs, ethics, values n’ all. Maybe his pack didn’t tell him that but he did, who they are rejects him, who he is? Idk… context is needed though 😅
I used to tell my brother: the lone wolf is the strongest, but it will never outmatch the pack. Strength will always be in numbers, but should you separate, you should be capable of self-reliance for your own survival
Just find good Company, that is way better. I was alone a long time and did not want to socialise with anyone. After all i am happy to live with a girl i love But besides her i am veey much alone which i enjoy. My girl Got the same mentality and we dont do everything together which is why we fit great together.
@@nicowinswhere can u find good company? There is very lesser chance you will find them in the crowd . Better to have a adaptable mentality. You never know that your company will work as poison or potion
Loneliness is the reality of life I think. Why be a part of soyciety which treats you like a disposable object? Common men are at the bottom of social food chain.
Its not a reality, its a spirit you submitted to when you rebelled against your parent/mother. It's all anger driven. Go directly forgive your mama and daddy! And that so called loliness will go away.
@@celinamilian You sure talk a lot like you know about these peoples life.Its ethier you are psyhic or you are a ignorant loud mouth m o fu. I wonder which one you are far more likely to be :)
I just explained to my new girlfriend that this is how I've always viewed myself. Only child, neglected, dysfunctional parents. addiction. Adult Aspergers diagnosis, suicide attempt, career lost. Wife cheated on me after 24 years. I also migrated to a new country and stayed isolated from all friends for 9 years so I could look after my two babies.Yet because of my 2 beautiful young children I wouldn't change a second of my life as it brought me to them. Exactly where I am meant to be. So, for me, I HAVE to know and believe I can survive by myself because my children need me. 48 and swimming, cycling, kettle bell every week to help my mental health and it does. Id love to try acting but my shyness overwhelms me. Anyway, best wishes and thanks for the content from Ireland 👋🇨🇮
But that's a different mindset, some people here in comments just shut down. I'm a woman and I feel you, alone in a city is not the one of origin. I don't have friends or date someone but you know what, even though I'm fine, sometimes I would like to share the exciting things I do or I'd like to share my moments with someone. I don't want to have friends just for the sake of not being alone, when I see other people I try to be nice and warm and make that interaction the best of it, even if it's a hello. We don't need to make the world even harder for others
Please GO INTO ACTING! We need more actors with actual life experience and who’ve been through shit! The great Alan Rickman thought so too, he told young actors to not act and to go experience life and do acting at an older age, he started acting when he was older too. Please, go for lessons, join a theatre company, start reading acting books and plays and start practicing on your free time, a great course for acting would be Matthew Harrison’s video course, he has it for pretty cheap, you can download the videos after you pay like my brother did and download the learning materials to a extended hard drive. But learning in person for acting in a group environment is the best way to do it because you learn how to act with other people and you guys become close and like a 2nd family.
My ex had Asperger's. I hope you have some self awareness because she had none. Very little empathy either. Once that physical connection tapered off it was a hard road
Why gangs appeal to youngsters, even if they are criminal and negative. They'll have more male camaraderie in a year at 17 than some 35 year old cubicle guys still will have.
"comradery" is one of the last things they're thinking about. They're just thinking about all the money, cars, rims, bitches and hoes and other material things that they'll be able to obtain from hustling drugs being a gang banger. That and the hope of "saving up enough to get out of the hood"...🙄
When you say that there is really such Grace and having the end on your own instead of with people you don't even want to be around I tried making friends I ran into an old buddy in high school and his girlfriend and I would visit their house every few weeks I really once a week then eventually I told myself you know what I don't have to do this I'm not enjoying this so I'm just going to go less you know unless they text me which hasn't happened yet which is great because I really don't want to see them
From the orphanage to the marine corps, to the coast guard. Nobody is looking out for me now, But I’m always looking to help anyone in distress, or to give good encouraging words of Hope. I don’t want to be part of a group, ever since I left the coast guard. And I’m good on that. Good visiting with yah!
I found cancer is a great determinant of true friendship. During my cancer journey I watched my so called friends disappear like mist in the sunlight, now 64 alive, with no friends & glad of it.
As a man grows older than 30, he will have less friends anyway. I am realizing that most of my friends and relatives were simply traitors waiting to betray you. I feel stronger alone. I have my wife, kids and hopefully have grandchildren soon. They are my friends
Relying on others too much has the same effect. There has to be balance. If you don't know how to be independent to an extent, you won't go far either.
When my brother got in trouble and needed help with some work he had to do, I helped him, and when I needed help with my rent, he helped me. If you find someone you can count on, it's amazing. It's not easy, but you can
The lone wolf chooses to die alone because independent and self-sufficient individual. They find contentment in their own company and prefer solitude over social interactions. Their decision to embrace a solitary existence is not influenced by trauma but is a conscious choice reflecting their desire for freedom, self-reliance, and a deeper connection with themselves.
Exactly I fall into the category but I do go to church and fellowship with other Christians and go to work and do talk to people but I'm careful about who I talk too. I keep to myself and enjoy my own company and yes it can get lonely but I don't let it get me down either
The Lone Wolf is difficult and not everyone is prepared to handle it. You will die... and you will die alone. You never ask for anything and you move forward the best you can... I have been alone for a long long time... It is hard... dont belive people that tells otherwise... sometimes you end up in this path because you had no choice or because you were forced by external circinstances to move in this direction. Once you get used to it, like I did, it is hard to go back to the pack life.
I agree, it takes discipline to be alone, sometimes I think about reaching out to someone, then think how selfish that is for me to do to someone, because I sure won't listen to someone else if they reach out, so I stay to myself and my pups
I've made my peace with death a long time ago. I don't mind if I'm going to die alone. The world doesn't owe me anything, and I don't owe the world anything either. As a matter of fact, if my Creator wish to take me tomorrow, I would feel so relieved.
We all die in the end. I had to adopt a " lone wolf" mentality as all the people in my life abandoned me. It is horrible and it hurts, but everyone either abuses or leaves.
Not true. You haven’t found the right people… or maybe… you’re not the right people. And yes, I would know. I’ve lived around good people who care about me my entire 30 years of life. That’s real. Don’t you want that?
@@eskaban_edits_beats_and_morefor 99% of People yes. It is sad you never met the 1 % who you truly can trust. I only met 1 person which is my girlfriend i have been with for 10 years now. Also her life i an the only person that sticks around. Friends will always come and go
@@nicowins relationships i trust even less, besides im not build for dating, dont trust women neither sadly, i learned too much about how they operate biologically and psychologically, glad it works out for you
I learnt being alone was better than being surrounded by half assed people. I got sick of crossing oceans for people who wouldn't even cross a puddle in the street for me..
@MrHaggyy You don't know 💩 about me, what I've gone through, the people I thought were my friends or how long I knew those people. It's a shock when the people who do you dirty or don't care about you are the ones you've spent over 10 years wasting your time on and have also supported through their worst times. They were a bridge there before they burned it. Go troll someone else you pathetic W⚓️
@MrHaggyy my response seems to have vanished.... You don't know nothing about me, the people I thought were my friends or how many years I wasted on them before I saw their true colours. I can confirm they were a bridge until they burned it. Go troll someone else
@@kellyjordan6440 Literally every culture in human history has valued community because it’s necessary. Don’t be fooled, the internet’s cynical mindset is a very recent one.
The older I get, the more I realise that I just don't like other people's company. It's not that I don't like people, I just prefer not having to be answerable to anyone. I don't have to please anyone or live by someone elses schedule. To me it's not loneliness, it's freedom.
But we need people, do you harvest your food by yourself, move by foot and never need anything from someone else? I get it but some of y'all go too far. I'm a lone wolf too, but I like people, i just don't connect with every single person. Truth is, we need others, be careful with that mindset
@marte1376 I understand what you're saying. I work with people and I like them. It's just if I had a choice, I would prefer to be on my own. I'm realistic and realise that it's not always an option.
A real loner wouldn't post any comments, the impulse to communicate is a remnant of the fact you're a social animal. Who turned your society into a marketplace?
@@xyaeiounn I'm curious why come to a video where people don't want to be apart of a group and share their experience thru the comments? What do u gain from it?
Life taught me not to rely on others and pushed me into being a lone wolf, it’s not that we choose to but more a survival mechanism. If I rely on others everything I do or plan will get messed up
“His fate isn’t pretty, the lone wolf dies.” We all die, my friend. You came into this world alone. And, chances are, you’ll leave it the exact same way.
Strong people take care of others as a function of that strength. Standing on your own isn't some great achievement. Lifting others up isn't either. It's BASIC.
I learned if i didn’t reach out, none of the friends would check up on me or reach out. Family is the only thing i keep close. Everyone else is just passing by.
The wolf pack may take care of their weaker members, but when it comes to humans, we shun the weaker members. No one wants to be part of a pack that feeds on their own, even if they are alpha at heart.
Turns out dominance hierarchies are only formed in captivity, humans are meant to live in smaller communities where everyone has varying positions in circles of influence. All those circles are crushed when met by a city-state and it's slave armies. All of modern history is social animals being turned into slaves.
When you really want to experience and discover yourself, you need to be alone. It wiil be hard but you will discover so many things about yourself. The Power is within, Know Thyself ❤
Man I Love that “Lone Wolf” mentality. Since I can remember-I have been my own Best Friend. Figured out very early in life I was happier playing alone. Guess I’ll die alone under a dead tree. As long as I’m in Texas that’s ok.
@@PlethoralityI'm never bored on my own....not saying that what he's saying in this video isn't true or that we don't need people but some people actually like having time to themselves
@@robertdelatte3944because 99% of people are unable to and want to make the best out of their life as far as life allows them to. not everyone is as competent as andrew tate or whatever
Im 41. In my 20s i had a group of friends. As i got older, that group shrunk. Im now married with two kids and a great career. I only talk to two of the remaining 10 friends i kept in touch with. Even those two seem like a distant time as we all move on with life.
A man essentially has to learn that NO ONE IS COMING. If you depend on "the pack" then it weakens you, no different than those in gangs who beat their chest in numbers but coward away when solo. The cake is going at it alone, the icing is the pack.
I've been a lone wolf my entire life. Not by choice, I just don't belong in any ones pack, and I'm not someone who can make their own. Everyone who left my life, left me. Not the other way around. I'm not someone who fits in, and I will always be alone, and it will impact the level of my success in life. I'm okay with that now. When I thought it was a problem that's when my mental health suffered.
relatable. and most people are too judgy and wanna be better than you and use criteria thats as shallow as money and status and looks etc. rather be alone.
Of course we do! I don't know a single guy my age who isn't 100% out for himself and fake. I do not have one real friendship. I just know a lot of people. This is what it is down at the lower - mid levels of society. Too focused on survival for such frivolities as friendships.
I was just having this conversation with my brother yesterday... It feels good to show what you've accomplished on your own and with no help.... but what that takes away from you, you'll never get back. We are not meant to be alone. We are meant to work as a community.
I like your post. can you please tell me what you mean by "but what that takes away from you, you'll never get back"? what does it take away from you? thanks in advance. (other people can reply with their thoughts as well)
@@far06c Your sanity, your trust, your carefreeness, your tolerance, your social life, your love life, your comfort, I can go on. You might expereince some of these things again, but it will forever be tainted by what it took for you to reach the other side. When you do something yourself, literally sacrifice everything for your goal because you have no choice when going alone, these things will be lost as you get to your goal and as you achieve it. Pity the ones that do all this and dont reach their goal. They got the bad consequences without the good. And when you do reach it, and see all the people that said certain things, neglected you, didnt understand, didnt take you serious, etc...thats when the feelings of no trust or tolerance or carefreeness rear its head. How can I trust people that like me now but didnt take me serious before even though their lips said they did but their actions show otherwise? Everything changes being alone and some stuff you wont get back. And the ones you do will have an asterisks by it.
@far06c sorry, didn't see this til now. Cool and sadly, @libertybelllocks7476 took the words right out of my mouth, read his/ her reply and you'll get my explanation.
Well, when you try to connect with people and they bury their face in their phones or always have a negative comment on anything you enjoy... I don't see being alone as better. I am just trying to get through this life the best I can. I think it is easy to see someone by themselves and blame them or cast judgment, but there may be a reason. If the reasons still persist, of course they will prefer their own company.
That's where you're wrong. I'm not a lone wolf. I'm a lone tiger which can be just shortened to tiger because tigers are true creatures of solitude. I dont need a pack to hold me up. I hold myself up. I ain't built for a pack and I'm tired of pretending to be something I'm not because society deems it as the norm, said an extrovert. Fuck that. I walk my own path. Live by the sword. Die by the sword. And I can live with that and my choices.
"They say humans are social animals, they can't live alone. But you can live pretty well by yourself. I tell ya, instead of feeling alone in a group, it's better to have real solitude all by yourself." --Faye, Cowboy Bebop.
Yeah...all this pack stuff is overrated in contemporary times. It can do more harm than good. What's so wrong about being happy and content by your own nature?
Taken out of context, she was taken advantage of with memory loss with this being her initial view lol she didn't want to be hurt again, and becomes vulnerable and has a character arc where she is at a loss when the group falls apart. Way to mischaracterize her. No man is an island is true, finding the right people is hard, and striving for that is part of the journey along with one's meaning where the struggle gives rise to that in one way or another.
@@xyaeiounn wtf is the "social group" and why would one want to offer them anything? are you a part of this "social group"? are you advertising? its like you are trying to sell them something but got nothing to offer but a "threat" if they dont chase after you, a threat a curse since they rejec tyou? does this "social group" accept you? wtf is this social group worth and wtf even is this and why should anyone for matter be breaking their neck for it, I dont get it, go on tell me champion, pack mate LMFAO. kid go to sleep.
@@CyberPunkBadGuy the 'social group' is any group you find yourself in, as a social animal: the bigger picture. Your name and attitudes are ridiculous.
People are human and most of them change and might snake you at the end . Im a lone Lion a wolf isnt sht with out his pack . I trust no one too many fake friends in this world
That is why humans shouldn't put COMPLETE trust in other humans. Your creator is the most honest, the most caring, the most wisest, the all knowing, the ever living. your creator is the only being you need to put complete trust in and believe me.. your life WILL change.
Lions are social as well, you know a lion pride? Rationalize how you want-the lies we tell ourselves-we as social animals flourish with a social networks. The struggle is not only finding but maintaining that from friends, peers, and family in some shape or form.
I use to be the person that is super friendly to everyone.. But the more you get wise, the more you grow old and the more you learn that your pack is smaller than you thought and you like it ornnot, there will be a time that you will be alone, and that's when you know, you're a lone wolf after all..
Wow i did the opposite, then again, I never took being in a pack for granted so never got disappointed by it's hollowness. I had people who cared for me. I get friendlier and more important to others every decade of my life.
As I get older. I am appreciating the genuine people I have around me. I value time like currency. I’ve learned to be happy with what I have and not chase that dollar to buy materialistic things I don’t need. I am single and have nobody to tell me what to do anymore. Single life is lonely, but it’s less anxious and less stressful too…
Everyone is the main character of their own lives. The problem is people want to be the main character in everyone else’s life too. Either that or they’ve been shown the evil side of people and want nothing to do with them. Its just an ego thing. I could sit here and tell everyone to allow love into their lives but it’s hard to do that in today’s world. Such a small portion of people that want to built with one another
It's not an ego thing, it's reality. It's not some self-imposed limitation that we've copped ourselves into. When you're a kid you think you have a lot of friends, then you get older and realize there's maybe a tiny portion of those people who are really your friend. Reality hits you in the face as you get older and it can make you depressed.
LoneWolf here and loving it! People think LoneWolfs grew up hoping to be a LoneWolf. No! I wanted family..friends. Have/had a huge heart . Most of them fuked me with no Vaseline. So I'm good being to myself as long as I don't hurt anyone yet more so myself.
The lone wolf is strong........i am 41 years old, and i have been through the hardest times starting at 6 years old. A story i will tell one day when im ready. And lone wolf mentality is how i got here. -Red Wolf
I had a lot of friends, I couldn't focus they wasted my time when I was a teenager, as soon as I entered college and immigrated, I found myself free from distraction (family and friends) and so strong at doing my goals.
The lone wolf is necessary, they are dispersers. They play an important role, they join other packs and mate, bringing new blood /DNA to avoid to much inbreeding there is a purpose unbeknownst to the wolf and it’s very common and necessary, when it goes off on its own. They keep packs healthy. ❤
Most men live this quiet life because we were never taught to communicate with confidence. We are told we are being assholes or little shits as kids trying to figure out our feelings. While the ladies are treated as princesses and never do anything wrong. It’s hard to be a good partner when one thinks they are a dog and the other thinks they are a princess.
The longer you are alive on this rock , you realise as a man, there are very few friends that are cheerleaders,I rather be on my own than have friends like that.
I would rather be a lone wolf than hang with a diseased or damaged pack. Everyone dies, Everything dies but guys like me will die with pride knowing we overcame all , everything by our selves
I have a lone wolf mentality, but for me it conserves enough mental and physical energy that I can give to my family and friends I care about most. Anyone outside of that circle, nothing personally, but I mentally reject. It's important to always keep everything professional, but if your outside my circle, I'm not giving you my energy. I know I often come across as cold because of this, but the way I look at it, I weed out a lot of dramatic and nonsensical people. The key is to just be open to new relationships that unfold naturally. If you have to force it, its not meant to be.
Put 3 or more men together, they're going to start bullying someone. I just enter a room, and they start. So f*ck the pack, I'll walk alone with my self respect intact.
@@tehronmoment1367 you talk shit to them in front of others to call their bluster. Often as adults the bullies want to assert themselves however violence does not come. Especially in a work place. Most people are too stupid to back up a work place fight or any other serious incident as most Americans live pay check to paycheck. Married men dont even get me started on their weaknesses. We are good. Talk loud when they dont want you to.
Over the years I figured out that I can only rely on myself. Other people either don't care about issues I'm facing or they want to exploit some service out of me.
I find the older I get the pack dwindles. Friendships dissolve , people change, true colors come out, self attentions appear. It's hard to find a good, positive pack with good people that are trust worthy. Really hard.
Hard indeed.
This is my reality too.. it’s easy to have a pack if you’re John, but what about the regular guys just trying to live a good life and raise your kids .. my pack are my kids. I don’t think most people know what the definition of loyalty is nor do they care.
You have to accept other peoples shortcomings. They have to accept yours. You have to help each other overcome them.
It might be sad to say or consider but this my friend is our pack right here. Real shit is being expressed and some people are starting to understand that. I guess we have the alot of people to be thankful for that can bring us through time and space to reply to one another.
@@C_Hart Agreed
When you are a kid or a teenager, you think you have a lot of friends, but when You get older you notice that only a few of then are worthy to call a 'friend'.
Once the partying stops and people get married that is when the so called close friendships fade to casual acquaintances. I am 43. I went to a wake this January where a childhood friend of mine passed at 42 from a 2 year battle with cancer. I had no idea he was sick for that length of time until another person told me he died.
How I feel right now!
My great grandfather, grandfather and father never had "friends". Grown men with families shouldn't need "friends".
You'll be glad to have just one friend.
gets really lonely as we get older I feel it often
Everyone dies one day. But living in your own terms is not something every one can do.
Right on. This video is promoting weakness like a woman
It really isn't but it's your inherent insecurity that had made you think it is. @celinamilian
@@celinamilianhe’s promoting his weak beta group
👍👍
What do you mean by that?
It’s hard to find good people
amen brother
I think that’s true but depends on the environment that you’re “finding” these people. I’m not adding someone to my team that I met at a bar. (Not saying you do that, just giving that as an example)
If I may suggest, try a Catholic Church or a monastery. You'll find plenty.
@@MrNobody00121 morning 0330 . Coffee time then chores. I agree with your statement. I don't drink and don't deal with many that do. Only head into town every three or four months for possibles. Only team I trust , 11B, 0311, my pups an horses. Just never been a people person. If it wasn't for dogs an horses , I wouldn't have any adult supervision. Lol enjoy fellas, watch your six.
Bear
I’m telling you now it’s probably impossible to find the ideal group of people your looking for. You can lead people away from flaws though.
lone wolf mentality is on the rise because there is a lack of friendship in these modern times.
@@SolisIlanga whether friends or families, as long as there's a good bond, that's good to have.
@@SolisIlanga99% of families are worthless now because theyre always trying to be better and more succesful than you. its more like an enemy to fight with to show whos "better" so yeah socializing isnt worth it nowadays
We are disconnected from people because we are connected to our cell phones. When I commute on the city train, I take the time to look around me and notice the electronic plague: everyone is starring at their cell phones. Nobody talks or looks at each other at all. They just stare at their phones with their headphones on. Social media, movies, video games, and all the other stuff instantly available on our devices have put us in a hypnotic state that is just too comforting and addictive.
@@SolisIlanga Most of the time your family moves on and doesn't care about you or is just toxic and you are the black sheep. Happens a lot.
@@borissibor2638 It's not the only reason, but it certainly doesn't help. My family has been dysfunctional since the 90s
I’m 64 and what I have discovered about life and friendships is this, when you laugh, the world laughs with you when you cry, you cry alone. I know this is an old saying, and most of you have already heard it, but it really is true. I’m sure there are people out there that have that one really good friend that would take a bullet for them, but on the flipside of that there was that so-called friend who’s sleeping with your wife behind your back.
I had the latter. So many "friends" and bosses stabbed me in the back through the years. Just turned 39 and have zero friends, no close family, work at home, no social life. Its a rough road, but its better than being hurt anymore
Sometimes the only person you can count on….
is yourself.
The ONLY person you can truly count on is yourself.
And trust. Can't trust anyone else
As a woman I felt that😊
Yeah sometimes as a man there's no else that will come to save you except yourself.
No one that you can rely on but yourself you're right.
Yup
Sometimes, we don’t have a choice
we do
How? Please give an example. I think i know what you wrote, But would like you to explain please
Try being a longterm caregiver for decades as a guy also working full time.
You always have a choice! Listen, there is no one on this planet that is exactly like you. Be true to yourself; you do this, life becomes more interesting.m
@@tommypauly3249 The words of someone with an easy life, sometimes there is no other choice.
Being alone is a choice for some but a curse for others
Interesting choice of words.
Sad but true.
sad truth.
True
You're damn right!!
I love my isolation and solitude. It helped me get sober, get back in school, change careers, get out of debt, and get my life back on track. Some of us are just meant to be on our own.
isolation can be good in so many ways but some people arent built to be on there own mentally and can harm themselves even more sadly
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Oh, absolutely. I agree with that 100%. It’s a small percentage of us who are able to handle it, but after my last relationship ended badly 8 years ago, I decided that I had my fill of companionship. I had two serious relationships and several flings. The last one broke me, however, and I knew in my heart that I wasn’t cut out for romance or love. I’ve been able to learn how to love myself, and that’s something I could never achieve before I was alone.
You’re the guy that everyone wishes troubled youth turn into. Keep going man.
yeah and when you can't get out of that then you will realize how fked up it makes you
@@thymos6575
I’ve been doing this for nearly a decade, man. I’m doing just fine and dandy. 😂👍
What he failed to mention is that the vast majority of men who have this mentality did not ask for it. They’ve been left with the choice of either sinking alone or fighting alone to stay afloat. And once you’ve embraced the idea of being a lone wolf (as you must if you are to thrive under it) and found that you are indeed capable of carrying it, it’s very difficult to go back.
Extremely true
Amazing response I agree
That's literally what his organization is trying to reverse. You commented before looking further.
Well said
Idk about that. I see a lot of men who have wives that are begging their husbands to talk to them, share with them, work together as a team. It's the men who withdraw.
A lot of men are tired of having their energy pulled on and none of it returned.
I stay alone because I'm sick of people.
Why don't those men band together instead of being on their own?
@The_Lovey_Informer then they will suffer alone. People used to band together and created America because they were outcasts.
I really hear you on this. I am kinda at this stage in my life too as a neurodivergant. I would still try to talk to someone close though. I value quality relationships over quantity any day!
@ indeed
People are too selfish...the moment you stop being a resource....crickets...people stop returning your calls/texts. They really don't want to deal with your problems...they will stick around long enough...if your buying..let the good times roll.. until the good times run out...but the second you start going through hard times...you find out who your true friends are....no one. I think Eric Clapton may have said this...not sure.. "I'm a recluse by choice." For me, listening to music and comedy is something I love..never fails me....way more dependable than a friend...in my experience.
I love being the lone wolf. I feel no need for attachment or emotion anymore, completely alone and love it.
I would rather die. But salute to you
Ok husk
@@pradabears that's because you lived a very easy life butter cup. Child
I don't know if I love it. But it's easily preferable to the constant stresses, mental gymnastics and insecurities that come with a relationship.
I know a guy who has LoneWolf tattooed on his arm. Has a leather biker vest that says “LoneWolf.” I told him that it’s against the rules to give yourself your own nickname.
Lone wolf all the way. Rule number 1 in life first and foremost is learn to be your own best friend. People come and go but your going to be with yourself for a long time so like yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company.
Being alone is ok. I have gone to sporting events,concerts,and even the movies alone. It's just so hard to get together with people as you get older . The funny thing is that when I go to the movies alone I see other married men who are also alone.
@@STMARTIN009 it's a good strength to have. I think too many people these days are needy. They constantly need company and attention. If ever a moment on their own they are straight on their phones txting and everything else. So many people put up with being in toxic relationships purely cos they are afraid of being single or alone. Liking your own company is a good quality to have.
*YES!!!!!!*
FINALLY Someone else acknowledges this!!!
I've been saying for years but the essential trick to being able to live alone, is to be comfortable with yourself, and with your own thoughts and feelings. Because no one else will be there for you at the end of the day, but yourself.
I'm frankly astounded to meet another person who understands this. Pleased to meet you! 🤝
@@davecrupel2817 Yep. I'm on the same boat as you. I used to live by this "friendship pack" mentality too, and all the people did was leave me in the gutters. I don't like being alone, but I'll do it if I have to. And right now especially in these times, it seems like I have to. I'm a lot more comfortable being alone than I was before, so this is great for me!
I 100% agree. Learn to be your own best friend. Some people don't like spending time with themselves because it causes introspection and they dont like what they see. I'm not saying I'm perfect either. Sometimes I introspect on my own and I don't like what I see but I've made my peace with it. I'll admit that it's not a good way to live but sometimes it's all you have. It's worse to surround yourself by people and feel even lonlier.
One of the things my late father instilled in me from a young age was that nobody cares about you or your problems. He would always say that he didn't like telling me this, but that's the way it is. I'm now well into adulthood and I've learned that he was absolutely right.
I was taught to never want anything from anyone. And it all works out!
He's only right because you let him be right, it is nothing to do with the people around you it has all to do with yourself in the way you feel and the way your father taught you shitty lesson that ultimately aren't true
@@jaydena6297 No. his father was right. And therefore he’s right. You just want to keep believing in illusions. You’ll find out. It’s coming. Too god damn young and naive.
@@mattm.5436 seems you're the only one wants to keep believing in delusions. I'm sorry no one was around enough to care about you. But I have people that care about me and I'm not going to give up in my life just because some pathetic statement from some stupid people
@@jaydena6297 What would you be giving up about?
After a break up it makes you realize you ain’t got no one but yourself
Sometimes the loneliness sinks in deeply and will have you paralyzed
It’s a weird feeling but I’ve been feeling it for the longest it sucks having no one around friends family or partner
Us bro
Going through this now, without those feelings, but yeah women are in for a wake up call soon when the internet goes down, the dollar collapses, and they lose their friends that encourage their nonsense.
@@gainer552a WOMAN hurt you that you hate a whole gender. How pathetic
@gainer5526 yep then those with skills are gonna rise from the dark
@@rcman4.2flyboy Damn right! I always say the same thing. 😎
We end up being the lone wolf when we get tired of being rejected by the pack.
Why were you rejected? People have always been socially inclined, so why have you been rejected.
Maybe his pack just doesn’t resonate with who he is, his morals, beliefs, ethics, values n’ all. Maybe his pack didn’t tell him that but he did, who they are rejects him, who he is? Idk… context is needed though 😅
Get a new pack, no?
You’re rejected when you are the hunchback that can’t hold the sword and shield on 300
lmao, this is so fucking corny.
I used to tell my brother: the lone wolf is the strongest, but it will never outmatch the pack. Strength will always be in numbers, but should you separate, you should be capable of self-reliance for your own survival
You lied to him, you taught him to be a coward and to be like his mother; a groupie!😂
@@celinamilian Damn. . 😂
@celinamilian but it's true though
@@xchino0427and nobody asked you
@@xchino0427 That is a womanly answer but I understand when we just agree for the sake of it using feelings.
Being a lone wolf is way better than bad company
best good company
Just find good Company, that is way better. I was alone a long time and did not want to socialise with anyone. After all i am happy to live with a girl i love But besides her i am veey much alone which i enjoy. My girl Got the same mentality and we dont do everything together which is why we fit great together.
@@nicowinswhere can u find good company? There is very lesser chance you will find them in the crowd . Better to have a adaptable mentality. You never know that your company will work as poison or potion
What’s your point? It’s still not as good as good company.
At least as a loner you know what to expect ..
I rather see the dagger be plunged in my chest than feel it suddenly in my back
Loneliness is the reality of life I think. Why be a part of soyciety which treats you like a disposable object? Common men are at the bottom of social food chain.
The result my generation been a screen generation. We believe that we have social life but it all super facial.
Its not a reality, its a spirit you submitted to when you rebelled against your parent/mother. It's all anger driven. Go directly forgive your mama and daddy! And that so called loliness will go away.
@@matthewvelge1196no thats mama caused lolinesd
@@celinamilian You sure talk a lot like you know about these peoples life.Its ethier you are psyhic or you are a ignorant loud mouth m o fu.
I wonder which one you are far more likely to be :)
I just explained to my new girlfriend that this is how I've always viewed myself. Only child, neglected, dysfunctional parents. addiction. Adult Aspergers diagnosis, suicide attempt, career lost. Wife cheated on me after 24 years. I also migrated to a new country and stayed isolated from all friends for 9 years so I could look after my two babies.Yet because of my 2 beautiful young children I wouldn't change a second of my life as it brought me to them. Exactly where I am meant to be. So, for me, I HAVE to know and believe I can survive by myself because my children need me. 48 and swimming, cycling, kettle bell every week to help my mental health and it does. Id love to try acting but my shyness overwhelms me. Anyway, best wishes and thanks for the content from Ireland 👋🇨🇮
But that's a different mindset, some people here in comments just shut down. I'm a woman and I feel you, alone in a city is not the one of origin. I don't have friends or date someone but you know what, even though I'm fine, sometimes I would like to share the exciting things I do or I'd like to share my moments with someone.
I don't want to have friends just for the sake of not being alone, when I see other people I try to be nice and warm and make that interaction the best of it, even if it's a hello. We don't need to make the world even harder for others
Please GO INTO ACTING! We need more actors with actual life experience and who’ve been through shit! The great Alan Rickman thought so too, he told young actors to not act and to go experience life and do acting at an older age, he started acting when he was older too.
Please, go for lessons, join a theatre company, start reading acting books and plays and start practicing on your free time, a great course for acting would be Matthew Harrison’s video course, he has it for pretty cheap, you can download the videos after you pay like my brother did and download the learning materials to a extended hard drive. But learning in person for acting in a group environment is the best way to do it because you learn how to act with other people and you guys become close and like a 2nd family.
My ex had Asperger's. I hope you have some self awareness because she had none. Very little empathy either. Once that physical connection tapered off it was a hard road
Why gangs appeal to youngsters, even if they are criminal and negative. They'll have more male camaraderie in a year at 17 than some 35 year old cubicle guys still will have.
Exactly 💯
Because men have a pack mentality
@@winning3329 men are generally looking for a place to belong! And many'll find it anywhere they can
who wants a bunch of cringy looking, wanna be thug punks for camaraderie, morw over when you are at your mid 30s
"comradery" is one of the last things they're thinking about. They're just thinking about all the money, cars, rims, bitches and hoes and other material things that they'll be able to obtain from hustling drugs being a gang banger. That and the hope of "saving up enough to get out of the hood"...🙄
Better to be a lone wolf then with the wrong pack
When you say that there is really such Grace and having the end on your own instead of with people you don't even want to be around I tried making friends I ran into an old buddy in high school and his girlfriend and I would visit their house every few weeks I really once a week then eventually I told myself you know what I don't have to do this I'm not enjoying this so I'm just going to go less you know unless they text me which hasn't happened yet which is great because I really don't want to see them
🙏
❤❤oh yes
Men are always better in a pack that’s what women hate
@Tuga_Celjust like how society hates single men/women🥱
From the orphanage to the marine corps, to the coast guard. Nobody is looking out for me now, But I’m always looking to help anyone in distress, or to give good encouraging words of Hope. I don’t want to be part of a group, ever since I left the coast guard. And I’m good on that. Good visiting with yah!
I found cancer is a great determinant of true friendship. During my cancer journey I watched my so called friends disappear like mist in the sunlight, now 64 alive, with no friends & glad of it.
As a man grows older than 30, he will have less friends anyway. I am realizing that most of my friends and relatives were simply traitors waiting to betray you. I feel stronger alone. I have my wife, kids and hopefully have grandchildren soon. They are my friends
@@FC-xc3zy20 and already at that point. Don't wanna settle for kids or wife yet, any advice for the next ten years
@@maliki14 what is the problem?
Glad you made it through your tough journey brother. The brutal reality of so called friendships kills more men than cancer
@@maliki14 build your wealth
Relying on others too much has the same effect. There has to be balance. If you don't know how to be independent to an extent, you won't go far either.
Absolutely. Iron sharpens iron, not plastic or rubber sharpens iron. Each individual must be a competent asset in order to contribute to the team.
Autonomy and interdependence. Self sufficiency ‘and’ selflessness.
True.
Who is on the opposite? I am very independent and I
Don’t trust, motherfuckers to be dependent on them it’s made me more stronger mentally
THIS is the answer. Balance. Self sufficiency AND/OR selflessness DURING THE APPROPRIATE TIMES. Thanks for finally saying it, my comrade.
When my brother got in trouble and needed help with some work he had to do, I helped him, and when I needed help with my rent, he helped me. If you find someone you can count on, it's amazing. It's not easy, but you can
Ironically I feel alone when I'm with others, but not when I'm actually alone.
Truth.
same
Ditto. I try to carry everyone, then never reciprocate
Same
Nah bro that's just your comfort zone. It's familiarity that you enjoy.
"The lone wolf dies"
Reality check, we all die.
You know what he means , he's not 8 years old he knows we all die .
@@Senko1800 Then he should have been more descriptive if what he meant because that was a broad statement
@user-vi9zm5ss4f He didn't make one
@@goingoutonmyshield2811 No you just missed the point he made .
@@Senko1800 You mean the opinion he made. Lone wolf, Pack wolf, everything dies son, the only relevance is when and how. Period.
Most men are at their best when they're alone and then can give back when they've been blessed with their struggle
... *blessed with their struggle?* ... NANI?
"One is better than many"
-The man who was betrayed by his own kind
@perseus274 exactly Perseus
*"a single arrow breaks easily. But many arrows are hard to break. So fight with me so that we will be unbreakable"* - Genghis Khan
The lone wolf chooses to die alone because independent and self-sufficient individual. They find contentment in their own company and prefer solitude over social interactions. Their decision to embrace a solitary existence is not influenced by trauma but is a conscious choice reflecting their desire for freedom, self-reliance, and a deeper connection with themselves.
Exactly!
Very well said!!!!!!
Perfectly stated
Exactly I fall into the category but I do go to church and fellowship with other Christians and go to work and do talk to people but I'm careful about who I talk too. I keep to myself and enjoy my own company and yes it can get lonely but I don't let it get me down either
Well said young squire. I agreed. Besides my dogs an horses are the only adult supervision I need. Lol enjoy guys , .W.Y.S.
When I needed people the most, no one showed up. That's why I go through things by myself now.
When being a lone wolf is all you got. You make the best of it , always striving to better yourself
The Lone Wolf is difficult and not everyone is prepared to handle it. You will die... and you will die alone. You never ask for anything and you move forward the best you can... I have been alone for a long long time... It is hard... dont belive people that tells otherwise... sometimes you end up in this path because you had no choice or because you were forced by external circinstances to move in this direction. Once you get used to it, like I did, it is hard to go back to the pack life.
I agree, it takes discipline to be alone, sometimes I think about reaching out to someone, then think how selfish that is for me to do to someone, because I sure won't listen to someone else if they reach out, so I stay to myself and my pups
Everyone dies alone anyway
With God its hard?😂😂
It's more about safety. When you rely on others, you open and and make yourself vulnerable. That's not an option if you're alone.
But it's also a risk. No one can save or help you when you are alone.
"The lone wolf dies."
Everybody dies, and goes through death alone.
Alone? Oh, no. Not at all. The lone wolf suffers alone, and usually dies much sooner and alone.
I've made my peace with death a long time ago. I don't mind if I'm going to die alone. The world doesn't owe me anything, and I don't owe the world anything either. As a matter of fact, if my Creator wish to take me tomorrow, I would feel so relieved.
I feel the same😞
Me too
‘the lone wolf dies’
brother, we all share the same fate
We all die in the end. I had to adopt a " lone wolf" mentality as all the people in my life abandoned me. It is horrible and it hurts, but everyone either abuses or leaves.
You’re not wrong, man
true. im a lone wolf because i know too much about human nature and theyre just not worth being with. all so fake and shallow
Not true. You haven’t found the right people… or maybe… you’re not the right people.
And yes, I would know. I’ve lived around good people who care about me my entire 30 years of life. That’s real. Don’t you want that?
@@eskaban_edits_beats_and_morefor 99% of People yes. It is sad you never met the 1 % who you truly can trust. I only met 1 person which is my girlfriend i have been with for 10 years now. Also her life i an the only person that sticks around. Friends will always come and go
@@nicowins relationships i trust even less, besides im not build for dating, dont trust women neither sadly, i learned too much about how they operate biologically and psychologically, glad it works out for you
It’s better to be alone than being with the wrong ones
This can't be emphasized enough.
i was so extroverted, had my own pack, did whatever it takes to keep it together, but nothing can last forever, now i'm an introvert .
What changed?
@@Broken_War_MachineI'm guessing loneliness and denial, same as other men.
Didn't change my mind. I've had no problems with this life so far, that's why I live like this
Rather live as a lone wolf, than live with a problem pack
best good pack
I learnt being alone was better than being surrounded by half assed people. I got sick of crossing oceans for people who wouldn't even cross a puddle in the street for me..
Well said
Those were the words I’ve been trying to say all along.
Sounds dumb, but don't cross oceans before you didn't establish a bridge over your rivers.
@MrHaggyy You don't know 💩 about me, what I've gone through, the people I thought were my friends or how long I knew those people. It's a shock when the people who do you dirty or don't care about you are the ones you've spent over 10 years wasting your time on and have also supported through their worst times. They were a bridge there before they burned it. Go troll someone else you pathetic W⚓️
@MrHaggyy my response seems to have vanished.... You don't know nothing about me, the people I thought were my friends or how many years I wasted on them before I saw their true colours. I can confirm they were a bridge until they burned it. Go troll someone else
It has to be a balance. Mob mentality is just as detrimental as isolation.
Yes 🙏
Totally agree. But these podcasts are looking for subscribers to join their "men's group" so they can make money!
@@kellyjordan6440the Grift that keeps on grifting
@@kellyjordan6440 Literally every culture in human history has valued community because it’s necessary. Don’t be fooled, the internet’s cynical mindset is a very recent one.
Yes. Balance is the key to paradise.
Some have no choice to do it alone!
The older I get, the more I realise that I just don't like other people's company. It's not that I don't like people, I just prefer not having to be answerable to anyone. I don't have to please anyone or live by someone elses schedule. To me it's not loneliness, it's freedom.
But we need people, do you harvest your food by yourself, move by foot and never need anything from someone else? I get it but some of y'all go too far. I'm a lone wolf too, but I like people, i just don't connect with every single person.
Truth is, we need others, be careful with that mindset
@marte1376 I understand what you're saying. I work with people and I like them. It's just if I had a choice, I would prefer to be on my own. I'm realistic and realise that it's not always an option.
Exactly
Spot on. I am a loner. Always have been.
A real loner wouldn't post any comments, the impulse to communicate is a remnant of the fact you're a social animal. Who turned your society into a marketplace?
@@xyaeiounn you don’t know one damn thing about me so stuff your opinions to someone who cares!
@@xyaeiounn I'm curious why come to a video where people don't want to be apart of a group and share their experience thru the comments? What do u gain from it?
Tough to be in a pack when the pack doesn't appreciate you. I was forced into solitude, but I chose to rise against.
Life taught me not to rely on others and pushed me into being a lone wolf, it’s not that we choose to but more a survival mechanism.
If I rely on others everything I do or plan will get messed up
“His fate isn’t pretty, the lone wolf dies.”
We all die, my friend. You came into this world alone. And, chances are, you’ll leave it the exact same way.
I said the exact same thing when I heard him say that. The pack dies too!
Only difference is do you want to die alone in a miserable pack that's toxic or die alone comfortable with yourself and at peace? Pick one.
@@LethalByChoiceSay it louder for the people in the back!!
@@Mus34679AMEN
not alone no
Weak people hate those who can stand on their own
Then all humans are weak - because we are all social creatures (unless you are mentally challenged).
this. so much this. the haters are relentless
Strong people take care of others as a function of that strength. Standing on your own isn't some great achievement. Lifting others up isn't either. It's BASIC.
@@xyaeiounn And weak people say that strong people are only strong if he lives and provide for you the weak person, amirite.
I learned if i didn’t reach out, none of the friends would check up on me or reach out. Family is the only thing i keep close. Everyone else is just passing by.
Untill family betrays you too,
The wolf pack may take care of their weaker members, but when it comes to humans, we shun the weaker members. No one wants to be part of a pack that feeds on their own, even if they are alpha at heart.
Facts bro a normal bro damn
Turns out dominance hierarchies are only formed in captivity, humans are meant to live in smaller communities where everyone has varying positions in circles of influence. All those circles are crushed when met by a city-state and it's slave armies. All of modern history is social animals being turned into slaves.
When you really want to experience and discover yourself, you need to be alone. It wiil be hard but you will discover so many things about yourself. The Power is within, Know Thyself ❤
Amen 😅
Man I Love that “Lone Wolf” mentality. Since I can remember-I have been my own Best Friend.
Figured out very early in life I was happier playing alone.
Guess I’ll die alone under a dead tree. As long as I’m in Texas that’s ok.
Texan to Texan..........I agree.
I walk alone. I live alone. I fight alone .I shall die alone.
Bored alone isnt fun though, ay?
Nor is being boring, alone.
@@PlethoralityI'm never bored on my own....not saying that what he's saying in this video isn't true or that we don't need people but some people actually like having time to themselves
@@Plethoralitywhy the fuck would someone want to go to a bar or club every weekend when you can be building your dreams / kingdom instead?
@@robertdelatte3944because 99% of people are unable to and want to make the best out of their life as far as life allows them to. not everyone is as competent as andrew tate or whatever
Everyone’s gonna die alone
Im 41. In my 20s i had a group of friends. As i got older, that group shrunk. Im now married with two kids and a great career. I only talk to two of the remaining 10 friends i kept in touch with. Even those two seem like a distant time as we all move on with life.
I understand you😞😞
I understand you😞😞
May i ask what is your career now sir?
@@anti-life9241 NP (Nurse Practitioner)
Sometimes I'm tired, But I Have to keep going..
All the Best Men....
OMG ↑THIS↑ .Thanks fir saying it, comrade.
A dying lone wolf is indifferent. I couldn’t care less. I’m tired. When death has come, I’ve smiled. And now, I’m just waiting for my turn.
IMHO (what he may be missing) is that the lone wolf doesn't care if he dies. At least he dies without getting used, abused, and thrown away.
Most women stay together and do things together. Most men are alone and achieve things alone.
ahhhh nooo
A man essentially has to learn that NO ONE IS COMING. If you depend on "the pack" then it weakens you, no different than those in gangs who beat their chest in numbers but coward away when solo. The cake is going at it alone, the icing is the pack.
There is strength and self realization in solutide.
well said
I appreciate this so much. Thanks for sharing
A man lives 2 lives. The second one starts when he realizes nobody's coming to save him...
I've been a lone wolf my entire life. Not by choice, I just don't belong in any ones pack, and I'm not someone who can make their own.
Everyone who left my life, left me. Not the other way around. I'm not someone who fits in, and I will always be alone, and it will impact the level of my success in life.
I'm okay with that now. When I thought it was a problem that's when my mental health suffered.
relatable. and most people are too judgy and wanna be better than you and use criteria thats as shallow as money and status and looks etc. rather be alone.
Of course we do! I don't know a single guy my age who isn't 100% out for himself and fake. I do not have one real friendship. I just know a lot of people. This is what it is down at the lower - mid levels of society. Too focused on survival for such frivolities as friendships.
As much as I try to be in a pack, the pack isn't just the path for me. I didn't choose to be a lone wolf. It is what I am.
You described it really well.
scusami,dove trovo l'intervista intera?su yotube?grazie
lol, that's loser talk, next you'll say you're a survivor.
@@xyaeiounn takes one to know one
I will die proving this wrong... You are all you have in this world.
It's good to be self-sufficient, but as long as you live in a society, you'll depend on other people. That's just a fact.
I’m a one man wolf pack!
OK Alan 😂
I was just having this conversation with my brother yesterday...
It feels good to show what you've accomplished on your own and with no help.... but what that takes away from you, you'll never get back. We are not meant to be alone. We are meant to work as a community.
I like your post. can you please tell me what you mean by "but what that takes away from you, you'll never get back"? what does it take away from you? thanks in advance. (other people can reply with their thoughts as well)
@@far06c Your sanity, your trust, your carefreeness, your tolerance, your social life, your love life, your comfort, I can go on. You might expereince some of these things again, but it will forever be tainted by what it took for you to reach the other side.
When you do something yourself, literally sacrifice everything for your goal because you have no choice when going alone, these things will be lost as you get to your goal and as you achieve it.
Pity the ones that do all this and dont reach their goal. They got the bad consequences without the good.
And when you do reach it, and see all the people that said certain things, neglected you, didnt understand, didnt take you serious, etc...thats when the feelings of no trust or tolerance or carefreeness rear its head. How can I trust people that like me now but didnt take me serious before even though their lips said they did but their actions show otherwise?
Everything changes being alone and some stuff you wont get back. And the ones you do will have an asterisks by it.
@far06c sorry, didn't see this til now.
Cool and sadly, @libertybelllocks7476 took the words right out of my mouth, read his/ her reply and you'll get my explanation.
@libertybelllocks7476 thank you, couldn't have put it better myself!
beta boy!
Well, when you try to connect with people and they bury their face in their phones or always have a negative comment on anything you enjoy...
I don't see being alone as better. I am just trying to get through this life the best I can.
I think it is easy to see someone by themselves and blame them or cast judgment, but there may be a reason. If the reasons still persist, of course they will prefer their own company.
That's where you're wrong. I'm not a lone wolf. I'm a lone tiger which can be just shortened to tiger because tigers are true creatures of solitude. I dont need a pack to hold me up. I hold myself up. I ain't built for a pack and I'm tired of pretending to be something I'm not because society deems it as the norm, said an extrovert. Fuck that. I walk my own path. Live by the sword. Die by the sword. And I can live with that and my choices.
Badass~
Then what you posting your thoughts on UA-cam for you weird creampuff? D&D meeting starting late today?
"They say humans are social animals, they can't live alone. But you can live pretty well by yourself. I tell ya, instead of feeling alone in a group, it's better to have real solitude all by yourself."
--Faye, Cowboy Bebop.
Yeah...all this pack stuff is overrated in contemporary times. It can do more harm than good. What's so wrong about being happy and content by your own nature?
Taken out of context, she was taken advantage of with memory loss with this being her initial view lol she didn't want to be hurt again, and becomes vulnerable and has a character arc where she is at a loss when the group falls apart. Way to mischaracterize her.
No man is an island is true, finding the right people is hard, and striving for that is part of the journey along with one's meaning where the struggle gives rise to that in one way or another.
But is more efficient whwn you have team it increase productivity.
Yeah it was basically a lie. While I don't really have the mentality, I do find it better to just be alone.
Written by a man who makes comic books n cartoons yo.
Guys usually have a lone wolf mentality because of the number of times they have been let down by those that they thought had their backs.
The lone wolf mentality is not only about strength, but the most important thing is that you have nothing to lose and this is real strength.
Having nothing to offer the social group isn't strength. I don't think all the "tough" lone wolves in the comments have lived any of this.
@@xyaeiounn wtf is the "social group" and why would one want to offer them anything?
are you a part of this "social group"? are you advertising? its like you are trying to sell them something but got nothing to offer but a "threat" if they dont chase after you, a threat a curse since they rejec tyou? does this "social group" accept you? wtf is this social group worth and wtf even is this and why should anyone for matter be breaking their neck for it, I dont get it, go on tell me champion, pack mate LMFAO.
kid go to sleep.
@@CyberPunkBadGuy the 'social group' is any group you find yourself in, as a social animal: the bigger picture.
Your name and attitudes are ridiculous.
@@xyaeiounn They haven't. They called them keyboard warriors.
Real recognize real for sure!
Crazy i have better discussions with ppl on the net than in real life. Communication is a lost art.
People are human and most of them change and might snake you at the end . Im a lone Lion a wolf isnt sht with out his pack . I trust no one too many fake friends in this world
That is why humans shouldn't put COMPLETE trust in other humans. Your creator is the most honest, the most caring, the most wisest, the all knowing, the ever living. your creator is the only being you need to put complete trust in and believe me.. your life WILL change.
Lions are social as well, you know a lion pride?
Rationalize how you want-the lies we tell ourselves-we as social animals flourish with a social networks. The struggle is not only finding but maintaining that from friends, peers, and family in some shape or form.
I use to be the person that is super friendly to everyone.. But the more you get wise, the more you grow old and the more you learn that your pack is smaller than you thought and you like it ornnot, there will be a time that you will be alone, and that's when you know, you're a lone wolf after all..
Wow i did the opposite, then again, I never took being in a pack for granted so never got disappointed by it's hollowness. I had people who cared for me. I get friendlier and more important to others every decade of my life.
As I get older. I am appreciating the genuine people I have around me. I value time like currency. I’ve learned to be happy with what I have and not chase that dollar to buy materialistic things I don’t need. I am single and have nobody to tell me what to do anymore. Single life is lonely, but it’s less anxious and less stressful too…
Everyone is the main character of their own lives. The problem is people want to be the main character in everyone else’s life too. Either that or they’ve been shown the evil side of people and want nothing to do with them. Its just an ego thing. I could sit here and tell everyone to allow love into their lives but it’s hard to do that in today’s world. Such a small portion of people that want to built with one another
Bullseye 🎯🎯🎯
couldn't have said it better myself...
It's not an ego thing, it's reality. It's not some self-imposed limitation that we've copped ourselves into. When you're a kid you think you have a lot of friends, then you get older and realize there's maybe a tiny portion of those people who are really your friend. Reality hits you in the face as you get older and it can make you depressed.
@@LethalByChoice thats not what this is about at all lmao
LoneWolf here and loving it! People think LoneWolfs grew up hoping to be a LoneWolf. No! I wanted family..friends. Have/had a huge heart . Most of them fuked me with no Vaseline. So I'm good being to myself as long as I don't hurt anyone yet more so myself.
My man said no vaseline lol. Damn they must have done you dirty bruv.
The lone wolf is strong........i am 41 years old, and i have been through the hardest times starting at 6 years old. A story i will tell one day when im ready. And lone wolf mentality is how i got here.
-Red Wolf
Im 63 and love being a lone wolf, 💯 per cent self reliant 💪
Or maybe I'm a successful old guy with two houses, car, hiking and camping at weekends and doesn't need a woman to complete me.
Too many men have a herd mentality
I had a lot of friends, I couldn't focus they wasted my time when I was a teenager, as soon as I entered college and immigrated, I found myself free from distraction (family and friends) and so strong at doing my goals.
The lone wolf is necessary, they are dispersers. They play an important role, they join other packs and mate, bringing new blood /DNA to avoid to much inbreeding there is a purpose unbeknownst to the wolf and it’s very common and necessary, when it goes off on its own. They keep packs healthy. ❤
Most men live this quiet life because we were never taught to communicate with confidence. We are told we are being assholes or little shits as kids trying to figure out our feelings. While the ladies are treated as princesses and never do anything wrong. It’s hard to be a good partner when one thinks they are a dog and the other thinks they are a princess.
Yeah over the last 20yrs or so this narrative has been pounded into us especially if you are under 30yrs old right now which I am
Same
The longer you are alive on this rock , you realise as a man, there are very few friends that are cheerleaders,I rather be on my own than have friends like that.
good luck on forming that pack and maintaining it lol
I would rather be a lone wolf than hang with a diseased or damaged pack. Everyone dies, Everything dies but guys like me will die with pride knowing we overcame all , everything by our selves
I have a lone wolf mentality, but for me it conserves enough mental and physical energy that I can give to my family and friends I care about most. Anyone outside of that circle, nothing personally, but I mentally reject. It's important to always keep everything professional, but if your outside my circle, I'm not giving you my energy. I know I often come across as cold because of this, but the way I look at it, I weed out a lot of dramatic and nonsensical people. The key is to just be open to new relationships that unfold naturally. If you have to force it, its not meant to be.
Put 3 or more men together, they're going to start bullying someone. I just enter a room, and they start. So f*ck the pack, I'll walk alone with my self respect intact.
Sounds like you need be around better men brother im sorry that you have had to deal with that.
@@tehronmoment1367 you talk shit to them in front of others to call their bluster. Often as adults the bullies want to assert themselves however violence does not come. Especially in a work place. Most people are too stupid to back up a work place fight or any other serious incident as most Americans live pay check to paycheck. Married men dont even get me started on their weaknesses. We are good. Talk loud when they dont want you to.
Nah. Can't group all men in together...
Not always by choice...
No pack would ever accept me, truly MGTOW. To hell with everyone 😅
Do we have to pay to be in this community you’re preaching?
most likely
Yeah. John is cool, but this guy is full of shit regurgitating all these “pack” cliches.. just another social fad.
Lol
Religious communities are always pay-to-play. 10% of your income.
We are not wolves, we are human beings. Comparing Apples to oranges my friend.
Over the years I figured out that I can only rely on myself. Other people either don't care about issues I'm facing or they want to exploit some service out of me.