LOVE EXPERT ON: When A Man TRULY LOVES You, He Will DO THIS! | Stephan Speaks & Jay Shetty

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  • @SheilaSookram
    @SheilaSookram Рік тому +4739

    "Being your best self for the wrong person will bring out the worst version of you. "

  • @countrygospel601
    @countrygospel601 Рік тому +18279

    So amazing, You are not reading this by accident. This is the confirmation You've been waiting for. God is saying to You, You are going to make it. No matter what the situation looks like right now. I am going to send a positive change Your way. With blessings, solutions, healing and love. So be strong, hold on, and don't give up. You're next in line for Your miracle and blessings. Amen !!!

    • @whistlepiglet
      @whistlepiglet Рік тому +181

      Amen 🙏🏻
      Sending many blessings your way as well!

    • @thomasthomasphilp4393
      @thomasthomasphilp4393 Рік тому +125

      Amen. I needed this message. I pray God to make his/her instrument

    • @dafneyjanelle6006
      @dafneyjanelle6006 Рік тому +65

      Amen. I receive this.. God is going to bless and favor you..Thank you!🙌🏾

    • @Hoyopodcasy
      @Hoyopodcasy Рік тому +26

      Thanks you too pleased

    • @flyfish2562
      @flyfish2562 Рік тому +18

      Amen ❤

  • @iamDeej
    @iamDeej Рік тому +3382

    “The safe choice is usually the wrong choice.” That was a hard lesson to learn

    • @rebelraccoon9018
      @rebelraccoon9018 Рік тому +35

      A necessary lesson.

    • @murph804
      @murph804 Рік тому +38

      So true 😂😂
      People are like okay this person is better than wht I have..
      Thn they call it love.. 😅

    • @AkireMaru
      @AkireMaru Рік тому +44

      @@murph804 who said love is the reason you need to marry? Do you then divorce when the person is no longer the person you “love”? Marriage was intended to raise a family, unify people and pool together resources. Love is a modern day conception

    • @dblanc3870
      @dblanc3870 Рік тому +2

      Hmmm... I'm 1 minute in, is there an in depth discussion about this during this episode?

    • @OreadNYC
      @OreadNYC Рік тому +34

      @@AkireMaru Especially when so many people quite obviously have absolutely no damn clue what "love" is supposed to be. A lot of people mistakenly believe that control is part of love -- it isn't (control and love are if anything polar opposites). Infatuation or being "in love" is not real love either. Yes, being "in love" feels terrific -- but when you take a critical look at it, you realize that it's actually very self-directed. Granted, most people are simply doing the best they know how based on the faulty and/or incomplete definitions of "love" which other people gave them -- but without ever realizing it, many people are essentially offering up a lump of pyrite believing it to be gold.
      Part of the problem, of course, lies in the fact that we really only have one word to describe all the different kinds of affection we feel for people -- our parents, our children, our partners, our pets, our friends, our chosen deities, our role models, our favorite movie stars, etc.. (We even use the same word to speak of nonliving things that we appreciate such as food or music.) The ancient Greeks had it right -- they used different words (agape, eros, storge, etc.) to refer to different kinds of affection.

  • @mattsheezy5469
    @mattsheezy5469 10 місяців тому +1372

    Always be careful of what you say to her when you’re arguing. You can say you’re sorry, they can say they forgive you, but they CAN’t forget, & emotional pain creates deep resentment.

  • @nicolemaltese
    @nicolemaltese Рік тому +1526

    "You're not really missing the person you are missing the feeling." So true ❤

    • @DaveDivines
      @DaveDivines Рік тому +4

      That feeling is always available if you are willing to listen for it.

    • @melvinjerry4975
      @melvinjerry4975 10 місяців тому +1

      That same feeling was not from a thin air...

    • @DaveDivines
      @DaveDivines 10 місяців тому

      @@melvinjerry4975 It kind of was though, the person is just a collection of frequencies inhabiting a part of space and time, yes there was connection and exchanges. Energetic exchanges. It was highly charged magnetic and dielectric fields working together in the creation and destruction of potential in a dance that led to the feeling arising.
      We are forever shaping these fields, all is stored in the akash, when we tune in.
      Give it a go, I will as well, then lets chat.

    • @BecomingtheBeatitudes
      @BecomingtheBeatitudes 10 місяців тому +1

      ❤ or the dream

    • @IamFighterman
      @IamFighterman 3 дні тому

      But if it's love, then it's normal

  • @ShrimpPerr
    @ShrimpPerr Рік тому +2715

    It’s so refreshing to see two men who can talk about feelings and vulnerabilities. We need more of this in this world.

    • @Tmo2024
      @Tmo2024 Рік тому +15

      😂 or stop watching crap like sneako and Myron

    • @snoogiebottom
      @snoogiebottom Рік тому +21

      I agree and both have good communication skills!! Amicable discussions.

    • @enjoliblount5327
      @enjoliblount5327 Рік тому +4

      Amen&Amen 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @enjoliblount5327
      @enjoliblount5327 Рік тому +2

      @@snoogiebottom🙏🏽💕🙏🏽

    • @brianb6415
      @brianb6415 Рік тому +9

      @@Tmo2024those guys are so mad at women it’s sad lol

  • @PaulaJaneWNBFPro
    @PaulaJaneWNBFPro Рік тому +2542

    “Being your best for the wrong person”. That resonates.

  • @GenshinQuizo
    @GenshinQuizo 11 місяців тому +888

    These two men are the dads we didn't know we needed. I'm a girl and I think they're speaking pure wisdom.

    • @Naampetra
      @Naampetra 10 місяців тому +10

      Amen to that sis

    • @JamieJ1224
      @JamieJ1224 10 місяців тому +4

    • @britanisweet1290
      @britanisweet1290 9 місяців тому +10

      Agree. I love how he places the emphasis on being transparent with yourself especially for women and how our intuition is indeed powerful if we tap into it and nurture it

    • @sagebrooks6907
      @sagebrooks6907 7 місяців тому

      Ditto❤👍💯

    • @ElaineQueen
      @ElaineQueen 6 місяців тому +1

      I learnt alot honestly

  • @Sweetheart_Sessions
    @Sweetheart_Sessions Рік тому +2451

    When a man truly loves you, there' no space to second guess. He will make sacrifices, be honest and straightforward, listen and act in ways that dictate so.

    • @deficator750
      @deficator750 Рік тому +53

      yeah that guy you described is in the friendzone. women lust over men who are selfish and disrespectful

    • @lynncarter4964
      @lynncarter4964 Рік тому +87

      But he won't do it perfectly, especially on days he is very stressed with work etc. So be patient if he is generally a good guy who loves you. Life will always be full of ups and downs.

    • @snoogiebottom
      @snoogiebottom Рік тому +39

      Yes that is true!!! A Man truly loves you will make sacrifices, be honest and straightforward, provide the support you need. Compromise and communication and put out fires.

    • @uberbabe585
      @uberbabe585 Рік тому +10

      Ok Cinderella

    • @ihateyouactually
      @ihateyouactually Рік тому

      @@uberbabe585💀

  • @raeanneegan6191
    @raeanneegan6191 Рік тому +2697

    It’s true, as women we know. If we would honour our inner voice we would have saved ourselves a lot of heartache, tragedy and pain

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek Рік тому +40

      You would think so. But it's actually only their inner voice that women ever listen to at all. Their inner voice is also constantly afraid, undecisive and a bad judge of character. While you praise your inner voice, many other women fell into quite a bit of mischief for listening to their inner voice.
      Studies have shown (I think in Sweden) that women actually get happier when they listen to men. That's how you gonna save yourself from tragedy and heartache. But in todays society as soon as the notion comes up to listen to advise from a man, the women are immediately histerically crying about the oppressive patriarchy.

    • @raeanneegan6191
      @raeanneegan6191 Рік тому +105

      @@nightmareTomek nope not at all true. Our inner voice is spot on but we simply don’t want to face it because of the fantasy created in our minds already.

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek Рік тому

      @@raeanneegan6191 What you just said is the fantasy already created in your mind.
      You women talk as if you need freedom of choice and you're getting dictated what to do all the time. Then we see you never listen, do random and idiotic choices all over the place, and run into problems constnatly head-on. Men all over the world shake their heads that you never heed their advise. "Becaus men don't understand the emmooootions that I'm going throu!" O_o
      Then you get into a relationships with a bad man and say you didn't listen to "your inner voice" or some similar bulls#_. When it's usually many men that would have told you the same, but they know you wouldn't have listened.

    • @SteffiMarshall
      @SteffiMarshall Рік тому

      ​@@raeanneegan6191 Men are just more selfish then women, and it becomes a tit for tat

    • @kayveeh
      @kayveeh Рік тому +3

      AMEN!

  • @YogawithAliBeale
    @YogawithAliBeale Рік тому +765

    Showing up for my reality check. Being alone is better than being in an unhealthy relationship for the wrong reasons.

    • @tanyamiller6083
      @tanyamiller6083 Рік тому +6

      100%

    • @Laurendaw
      @Laurendaw Рік тому +9

      I rather the opposite 😢 I’m scared of being alone

    • @YogawithAliBeale
      @YogawithAliBeale Рік тому +10

      @@Laurendaw 💗alone is hard to it's hard both ways.

    • @asaltweapon1741
      @asaltweapon1741 Рік тому +11

      I can attest to this. 20 years married. Horrible relationship. Still healing. Haven't even kissed a man in over a year.
      Been talking to this man and just being patient and seeing where it goes. So far, he's a great friend.

    • @thomasebeny
      @thomasebeny Рік тому

      💯 percent right 🎉

  • @Nataliaa96
    @Nataliaa96 Місяць тому +1613

    find Partner from Dreams by Bruce Thornwood (thank me later)

  • @maurapryor-ross6252
    @maurapryor-ross6252 Рік тому +2079

    “Walking around unhealed is like walking around with broken glasses. You can’t see straight ” ❤❤❤❤ THATS A WORD RIGHT THERE

    • @starshine6699
      @starshine6699 Рік тому +6

      Whew

    • @Glynis-vh4vz
      @Glynis-vh4vz Рік тому +10

      I was told that God healed me of my Seizure Disorder and God says I'm married b/c I have a 21 yr old son. He feels that I am married in his eyes.

    • @cardinalrule6018
      @cardinalrule6018 Рік тому +9

      This resonates deeply with me. The only interactions in my daily life are repeats of how my abusers treated me bc I'm not willing to accept any other way yet.. until I'm healed.. I'm working on that.

    • @larsstougaard7097
      @larsstougaard7097 Рік тому +3

      Great comment, I see it clearly 🤓

    • @kellyfortes5949
      @kellyfortes5949 Рік тому +2

      ​@@Glynis-vh4vzķ😅i😮778

  • @johnfink7755
    @johnfink7755 Рік тому +235

    “If you haven’t healed, you are 90% more likely to pick the wrong person”. Damn. Right.

    • @mombiedragon
      @mombiedragon Рік тому +6

      Right!?! So many profound things being said here!

  • @jaquelinegutierrez8949
    @jaquelinegutierrez8949 Рік тому +1125

    “Walking around unhealed is like walking around with broken glasses. Can’t see straight no matter how hard you try!” Wow did I need to hear this!!

  • @BarbaraLinton-k1c
    @BarbaraLinton-k1c 27 днів тому +140

    Watching this emotionally charged video brings back the agony of my recent breakup. My four year relationship ended abruptly when my partner walked away, leaving a deep, unhealed wound in my heart. No matter how much I try to forget, I can't seem to let go, feeling lost and unsure about my future without him. Despite my best efforts, I remain consumed by the emptiness he left behind, and I just needed to share this pain here.

    • @ChristineCole-u3f
      @ChristineCole-u3f 27 днів тому +2

      It's incredibly hard to move on when someone you love becomes just a memory. I was in a similar situation when my five year relationship fell apart. I couldn’t imagine my life without him and fought endlessly to get him back. In my desperation, I reached out to a spiritual guide, who helped me restore what I thought was lost forever.

    • @BarbaraLinton-k1c
      @BarbaraLinton-k1c 27 днів тому

      Interesting! I’m genuinely curious how did you discover this spiritual counselor, and what’s the best way for me to connect with someone who could help me in a similar way?

    • @ChristineCole-u3f
      @ChristineCole-u3f 27 днів тому

      You should meet Fatherabulu, a highly regarded spiritual advisor who is renowned for helping people reconnect with their ex partners. His unique methods and spiritual insight have restored many broken relationships.

    • @BarbaraLinton-k1c
      @BarbaraLinton-k1c 27 днів тому +1

      Thank you so much for sharing this. Your advice is invaluable, and I’m deeply grateful for pointing me in the right direction. I’ll definitely explore this and see if it helps me too.

    • @MM-zt9tf
      @MM-zt9tf 22 дні тому

      Same here but after 14 years.. he cheated wiry a friend of mine and left me heartbroken. He seems to have avoidant attachment and I love him sooo much but I am too broken. I never felt so betrayed by someone in my life. He's turning 40 on the 2nd, I'm turning 34 in januar. He breadcrumbed me all this period untill I cut him off and 2 weeks no contact hoping he will teach out cuz I love him, but I think he's spending time wiry that 27 years old girl .. I'm devastated.

  • @jozealpetersen8314
    @jozealpetersen8314 Рік тому +791

    "If your partner thinks you're never going to walk away from them no matter what they do. You've lost. We have to get to a place where we realize that as long as we show up the way we're supposed to show up for each other, we've got each other's back. But neither of us will tolerate an unhealthy relationship and someone that blatantly does not want to work on making this better"
    That part!

    • @shadysidehairstudiomessine8556
      @shadysidehairstudiomessine8556 Рік тому +3

      I think the Bees have it all figured out. Research it.

    • @missyflutter5562
      @missyflutter5562 Рік тому +1

      50/50

    • @missyflutter5562
      @missyflutter5562 Рік тому

      @@shadysidehairstudiomessine8556for real

    • @EhiavbhiChristopher
      @EhiavbhiChristopher Рік тому +3

      ​ I am from Alabama in U.S.A, I am the only child of my family. I was raised by a Priest After the death of my granny and father. My dad told me before his death that my mother died on the process of given birth to me. After the death of my father, my uncle John took me in as his son but the wife Janet was not really good to me

    • @EhiavbhiChristopher
      @EhiavbhiChristopher Рік тому

      ​ I am from Alabama in U.S.A, I am the only child of my family. I was raised by a Priest After the death of my granny and father. My dad told me before his death that my mother died on the process of given birth to me. After the death of my father, my uncle John took me in as his son but the wife Janet was not really good to me

  • @MargoDoty-tg9vy
    @MargoDoty-tg9vy Рік тому +1968

    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not angered, it keep no record of wrongs. LOVE does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always preserves. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

    • @alaalfa8839
      @alaalfa8839 Рік тому +27

      Therefore first love people experience is with a dog or cat or any pet, someone who does not use analytical mind so much.

    • @Oscar_239
      @Oscar_239 Рік тому +24

      ​@alaalfa8839 those analytical thinkers are the worst. They're emotionless. My ex told me crying was a sign of weakness

    • @skyuchiha3338
      @skyuchiha3338 Рік тому +12

      Amen 🙏 thank you for spreading the word.

    • @iam_adamfromearth
      @iam_adamfromearth Рік тому +3

      Amen!

    • @Brenda-xo8xz
      @Brenda-xo8xz Рік тому +22

      GOD IS LOVE❤

  • @beu2543
    @beu2543 Рік тому +2021

    Realized we were both wasting our time. Ended it so now I can fully focus on my self before I give myself to anyone else. Singleness is a super power when used properly.

    • @The4s
      @The4s Рік тому +16

      Love this ❤

    • @Realness4sho
      @Realness4sho Рік тому +12

      💜💜💜

    • @laumarlopez8417
      @laumarlopez8417 Рік тому +30

      So true. Good to know others think like me. I don’t need to be dating every weekend just because I don’t have a boyfriend.

    • @janellamurphy5665
      @janellamurphy5665 Рік тому +4

      Excellent information kings❤

    • @janellamurphy5665
      @janellamurphy5665 Рік тому +3

      REAL TALK TRUTH🤗

  • @yasminhoyle8954
    @yasminhoyle8954 11 місяців тому +269

    Such a raw and intelligent podcast. No blaming other sides, just promoting self awareness which is hugely lacked these days!

    • @britanisweet1290
      @britanisweet1290 9 місяців тому +3

      oooouuu! well said! I learnt achieved this a year ago after my last heartbreak. Self Transparency is key- meta cognition and ultimately self-awareness which is indeed scientifically the highest level of human development according to Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

    • @QueenKaeOfficial
      @QueenKaeOfficial 3 місяці тому

      Yesssss frrrr

  • @jariahguernsey
    @jariahguernsey Рік тому +1250

    My husband says he knew he loved me the first time he saw me smile. We definitely had fast love, hung out one time and didn't stop. It's still going strong ❤

    • @rebeccakerr217
      @rebeccakerr217 Рік тому +33

      😮 Lucky!

    • @christinet6336
      @christinet6336 Рік тому +44

      If we could all be so fortunate 😂. ✨✨ Congratulations 🎊🍾🎉✨✨✨✨💖✨✨✨

    • @michelle0307
      @michelle0307 Рік тому +16

      Congratulations ❤️ 🙏🏻

    • @jariahguernsey
      @jariahguernsey Рік тому +56

      @@christinet6336 I dated guys who were abusive and treated me like shit and cheated on me before I met him. So yes, I feel very fortunate!

    • @Scorpio12348
      @Scorpio12348 Рік тому +16

      I hope to find love and compatibility again some day

  • @moeadany2924
    @moeadany2924 Рік тому +492

    You will find love when you find peace inside of you.

    • @GirGirGirGir160
      @GirGirGirGir160 Рік тому +1

      very true

    • @boldbeautiful2040
      @boldbeautiful2040 Рік тому +15

      You will find love when you find God. The bible says Jesus is the prince of peace

    • @StarrySkies9888
      @StarrySkies9888 Рік тому +5

      If that was true why do I know people who found love during stressful times? Its not fair to say that to people.

    • @yardvarkslawncare7866
      @yardvarkslawncare7866 Рік тому +5

      So true. Finally after 33 years i found my person. Right after 6 long years of working hard on my soul

    • @fullcircleessentials
      @fullcircleessentials Рік тому

      ​@@yardvarkslawncare7866 I like that

  • @andreabellini6796
    @andreabellini6796 Рік тому +838

    I’ve been in a long relationship with a man who never held my hand, never showed love, never took pictures with me and I stupidly believed he just wasn’t an affectionate person. We just broke up last week and he said he just never “felt that way” about me. I realize I was constantly giving love and got absolutely nothing back, I’m sure it was convenient because I did every single thing for him. I deserve better, not whatever that was.

    • @tinayt2249
      @tinayt2249 Рік тому +51

      Sorry to read that you will find happiness

    • @babylon616
      @babylon616 Рік тому +22

      I know the feeling.

    • @josephvance8900
      @josephvance8900 Рік тому +13

      Stay strong

    • @vlogs6326
      @vlogs6326 Рік тому +31

      He might be a narcisst a utiliser. Research on this within yourself why u attract such toxic people in life and correct the pattern within urself.

    • @shadysidehairstudiomessine8556
      @shadysidehairstudiomessine8556 Рік тому +34

      There are so many of these guys out there. I personally think they are lost souls.

  • @nicksterp2805
    @nicksterp2805 11 місяців тому +126

    I honestly believe so many ppl are in terrible, unhappy relationships because they are so scared of change and being alone. It is not easy being alone and facing dark times. It is not easy healing. I've been single most of my life but I absolutely don't put up with crappy, emotionally unavailable ppl in my life anymore or narcissists that drain my energy and don't give me anything back

    • @BLHuff22
      @BLHuff22 2 місяці тому +2

      This is perfectly said

    • @NAMBOGOKEVIN
      @NAMBOGOKEVIN Місяць тому +1

      The fear of being lonely or starting over is the major force mkg people stay in toxic relationships

  • @Whatwouldjessdo
    @Whatwouldjessdo Рік тому +745

    Love is when you want what is truly best for the other person, even if that doesn't involve yourself in their life.

    • @JohnMoser66
      @JohnMoser66 11 місяців тому +12

      Well said!

    • @patriciamaesolon6410
      @patriciamaesolon6410 10 місяців тому +7

      Sad but true💔💔💔💔💔

    • @gaganpreet_pharmapup9205
      @gaganpreet_pharmapup9205 10 місяців тому +2

      ❤❤

    • @sonjabrandes
      @sonjabrandes 9 місяців тому +2

      🥺❤️

    • @jusknwvlog626
      @jusknwvlog626 9 місяців тому +5

      If it doesn’t involve you it isn’t the best ,never give up on love…
      If you take the easy path, life will be hard
      If you take the hard path, life will be easy..

  • @Iamkalynnpaige
    @Iamkalynnpaige Рік тому +139

    Biggest thing I have learned is to not fall for the potential. It’s more about the effort a person is willing to put in

    • @ConradKurtMorgan
      @ConradKurtMorgan Рік тому +2

      Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?

    • @desmondwilson430
      @desmondwilson430 Рік тому +1

      There is no Mr right until we make him right. A relationship is never about how much at the beginning but how much we could make it grow into. My old friend and pastor would tell me, if you aren't ready to feel or look stupid, then don't fall in love ,lol But sincerely that is the bitter truth.

    • @musanoah9125
      @musanoah9125 9 місяців тому

      Hi​@@ConradKurtMorgan

  • @zoeswift6253
    @zoeswift6253 Рік тому +1448

    I think it shows a man really loves you if he feels safe enough to be vulnerable with you. I can't speak for other women, but that's how I feel.

    • @AnnTsungMD
      @AnnTsungMD Рік тому +98

      I can agree! It's true that when someone is willing to be vulnerable with us, it can be a sign that they truly trust us and feel safe around us. When we're vulnerable with someone, we're opening up and showing them our true selves, which can be scary but also incredibly rewarding. It can help us build trust and understanding, and ultimately lead to more fulfilling relationships.

    • @jacksonpollock3519
      @jacksonpollock3519 Рік тому +28

      I think You’re so right it is frightening.

    • @mimikim777
      @mimikim777 Рік тому +54

      I think vulnerability is a strength and a skill (something that’s learned and practiced to be good at.) Some are still learning. But it doesn’t mean there isn’t love there. Or said differently, if a man isn’t vulnerable with you, it doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t love you. It may mean he is still learning himself.

    • @NazareSnyder-kn1jn
      @NazareSnyder-kn1jn Рік тому

      ​@@AnnTsungMD 😊

    • @neekh007
      @neekh007 Рік тому +29

      Sometimes men also get angry that they were vulnerable and showed weakness. Sometimes it’s a catch 22

  • @ReaSoRea
    @ReaSoRea 9 місяців тому +80

    That was me.. “losing myself because I was scared I was going to lose the other person”. It started to make me stressed and anxious, questioning my own worth even. Lessened learned, if you’re not a good fit it’s ok. Don’t take it personal or your’ll face the consequences within yourself and your own value

  • @jezabeltokio
    @jezabeltokio Рік тому +432

    When he spoke about how women's intuition is strong, that is so true. All the men that have hurt me, I always end up saying sorry to myself for not listening to my intuition telling me they weren't good. I will now listen to my intuition after all these situations but he's right I've always tried to ratioinalize it.

    • @feofaakifahina229
      @feofaakifahina229 10 місяців тому +11

      I’m about to cry. I’m in the same boat..

    • @britanisweet1290
      @britanisweet1290 9 місяців тому +2

      Agree! I'm finally listening to mine!

    • @sarafox4375
      @sarafox4375 8 місяців тому +4

      I'm the same. I know the rules to my heart but break my boundary and allow someone in. It is good that we are aware and it can only get better. But yes in hindsight it hurts because you knew.

    • @taliw7736
      @taliw7736 8 місяців тому +2

      yes well said I also have to listen to that sign somethings wrong

    • @hijab63
      @hijab63 7 місяців тому +1

      Umm, right in the kisser! Luv this

  • @kmwilkerson04
    @kmwilkerson04 Рік тому +717

    Best line: You’re not missing the person, you’re missing the feeling.
    Powerful statement and great revelation for many (including looking at my own past).
    Thank you 😊

    • @nancykane8680
      @nancykane8680 Рік тому +12

      For me I am missing the person, too. .a special man. Different

    • @andrewcruz7595
      @andrewcruz7595 Рік тому +2

      For me I'm missing the girl too regardless of the difference we have with each other

  • @arlenecastro9149
    @arlenecastro9149 Рік тому +895

    When I got divorced from my husband I thought it was the end for us.. we both moved on and started dating other people and did therapy on our own and became great friends because we had 3 kids together .. we fell in love again 4 years later.. it was a nice surprise and came out of no where

    • @theYungSquids
      @theYungSquids Рік тому +88

      What a story. Congratulations

    • @stephaniecass8487
      @stephaniecass8487 Рік тому +44

      Going through a rough patch of my own, it's nice to hear about unexpected positive outcomes 😊 sometimes the pain of growing needs to be felt first before the growth can actually happen

    • @kimberlycarmonacorpuz2072
      @kimberlycarmonacorpuz2072 Рік тому +10

      I'm in my lowest now, I don't even know what I have to do with my own relationship, it feels like I'm the only one holding on now. I wanted to give up but we have 2 adorable children and I don't want them to get hurt

    • @samantha4868
      @samantha4868 Рік тому +14

      The friendship element

    • @colinnembhard1036
      @colinnembhard1036 Рік тому +7

      Really fallout a love and fall in back thats serious 😳

  • @user-el4cq5qg2j
    @user-el4cq5qg2j 23 дні тому +32

    It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.

    • @Jessiesanders-f4r
      @Jessiesanders-f4r 23 дні тому

      I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.

    • @user-el4cq5qg2j
      @user-el4cq5qg2j 23 дні тому

      Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.

    • @Jessiesanders-f4r
      @Jessiesanders-f4r 23 дні тому

      I'II quickly search for him online. Thank you.
      I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; his absence is keenly felt.

    • @user-el4cq5qg2j
      @user-el4cq5qg2j 23 дні тому

      I promise you will not regret it.

    • @Jessiesanders-f4r
      @Jessiesanders-f4r 23 дні тому

      I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤

  • @HotTamale-z4b
    @HotTamale-z4b Рік тому +1266

    For me, two indicators that a man loves me are peace and protection. Is he your light or your darkness? Does he cover you or abandon you? Those two things are unmistakable and speak volumes.

    • @Mayfloweralways
      @Mayfloweralways Рік тому +2

      👏Really, that’s all a woman needs to know. Because I’m in a relationship like that now, and we don’t have the problems I had with my ex. My ex fed me a sob story. He was hurt and needed this and that to feel safe and wasn’t ready. The problem is, we become motherly. We want to take care of and heal. But the really ugly truth is that a man that needs a mother should go to his own. A man can’t step up for you, if you’re his mother. He can’t. He has to see you as someone that he needs his life together to attain. And because he has his life together, he has the ability to step into that roll as provider and protector. Not because you can’t provide for and protect yourself, but because a man can’t respect you, if he’s not serving you. He wants to know you won’t have a man who won”t step up for you, because you’re discerning.

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek Рік тому +17

      Statistics show that women are the ones abandoning men, women initiate divorces in 80% of cases (or was it 90%)? If you're gonna say now "the man must have been abusive", it's not the case. The men are usually perplexed and surprised. And when the women are interviewed, they usually can't provide a good reason why they left (and often stole the house and robbed their kids of a father). I've seen some individuals ask so many uncomfortable questions until the women admitted they had left a good man for no good reason whatsoever.
      So much for loyality. That's how screwed up this whole thing is: women expect men to give them something that they're not willing to give in return.

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek Рік тому +2

      I can't see your comment, YT makes it invisible. I could only read the first 2 sentences.
      I know that women love showing the exception to the rule. And love to pronounce their personal feelings as an argument.
      But statistics show that what women say and women do does not confirm. These are really easy to find, too, and have around the same values in all western countries. It makes sense biologically, too, it just paints women in a worse picture than they like to be painted in, thus they're always offended and there are outcries.
      But that's currently what's happening: women preach lots of sweet words (essentially lies) about loyality and trust and love and eternity, and in the end they are the ones to break up. How can a man even trust a woman then? The only conciliation there is for us is that the more naivly the women speaks about these things, the less the chance of a lasting relationship. So we can mentally prepare.

    • @vanitagomes3794
      @vanitagomes3794 Рік тому

      Can u elaborate please

    • @dg5175
      @dg5175 Рік тому +63

      I've yet to meet a man who can be my peace and protection. Most didn't make me feel at peace or protected at all. Instead left me broken and used while I lifted them up.

  • @Liv-db7so
    @Liv-db7so Рік тому +252

    „Sometimes you‘re not missing the person, you’re missing the feeling.“ 🙌

    • @sharinvile5074
      @sharinvile5074 7 місяців тому +7

      I am missing the feeling right now. Not the man.

    • @trueessence4829
      @trueessence4829 4 місяці тому +1

      Facts😊

    • @brendamccullough7812
      @brendamccullough7812 3 місяці тому

      I miss my husband of 43yrs, it wasn’t love at first but it grew. I’ve befriended a man about 2 years after he passed and we have been communicating daily, only met twice. We have many things in common but I will start asking more questions since he’s told me he fell “in love “. I do care for him deeply but he doesn’t know how to communicate other than the things we know we love about each other. Real love and affection is not just about the things we want to do together. It’s communication about other things also. I’m glad I listened to this. Now I need to ask him questions about the future since he wants me to move halfway across country to live with him. He’s been alone a long time, had 2 bad experiences with relationships. I’m going to start asking questions not pertaining to the usual things we talk about. I have enjoyed being on my own. I do want to have a good relationship based on love, giving and caring for each other. If he doesn’t want to discuss things other than what we have been, then I don’t think this relationship with him will work. Just being honest here and he knows how I feel now so it’s time to address the issues beyond just the things he wants. I want those things too.
      This video really made me realize I need to do it now.
      What I give I want in return.

    • @eddyyahweh7987
      @eddyyahweh7987 2 місяці тому +1

      How do I know which is which , missing the person or the feeling?

  • @iam_adamfromearth
    @iam_adamfromearth Рік тому +316

    "Most relationships that involve connection and true love are typically hard. Not because relationships have to be hard, but because most people have been hurt by something in their life, are holding onto past traumas and haven't resolved it. Once they meet this individual that they feel so strongly about, it is scary. This is where things get difficult - is the difficulty, and how do I handle this? How do I manage this? You'll have people feel like they're losing themselves... but they're not losing themselves: their true self is coming out. And it's this self that's been hiding behind that wall they've been using for 'protection'."
    Almost brought me to tears...

    • @AFOLABIDamilola-yw9jb
      @AFOLABIDamilola-yw9jb Рік тому +2

      Hello how are you doing today

    • @decolonizewitht
      @decolonizewitht 11 місяців тому +10

      Time stamping for my own records, this begins at 23:23

    • @Jewelsessences
      @Jewelsessences 9 місяців тому

      Soemtimes the true self is so ugly and toxic and disgusting that ppl wear masks to hide who they really are

    • @TreasureForeverOfficial
      @TreasureForeverOfficial 9 місяців тому +4

      See I know this but I have met men that can’t handle this once they are faced with it and this is the place where they will either step into their best selves or, run. ❤🙏🏽

    • @pilipinas-si9ek
      @pilipinas-si9ek 8 місяців тому

      Looks like my ex. Experience .

  • @Jane-2-n7k
    @Jane-2-n7k 13 днів тому +60

    For me, the covert narcissist comes across as a people pleaser. They like to be in the spotlight to get the validation that they crave for, as other narcissists but at the same time, they pretend to be humble, simple, generous, over giving. The covert narcissist will take time to build a relationship/friendship with you. During this period, they will show their admiration and their devotion by helping you with everything that is you need. They will try to convince you that you are soulmates and that they understand you deeply. At the same time, you will see them being overly altruistic, maybe helping society by engaging in charities, activism. They feed the poor, take care of the homeless. All this makes you think how lucky you are for having met such a beautiful soul. You want to be by their side for ever.
    However, soon you notice how much they enjoy being invited in galas to talk about their achievements. But they don’t admit that. They still play the humble guy who doesn’t want all this. Who is beyond money, beyond fame and recognition, who wants to share the floor with other people. But their acts don’t match their words. You come to realise that this selfless soul is actually doing whatever it takes to be in the centre of attention. When you do something together be it at work or at home, they want to control everything about it. They just exerce their control in a more polite and implicit way, making you believe that your voice was heard whereas in reality you did what they wanted you to do. Covert narcissists have a smooth way of leading you on. They don’t shout, they don’t give orders. They are master actors. They convince you that you are together in this. What makes them a narcissist is that when the time comes for them to use you in order to draw certain benefits, they will do it without a second thought and you are not going to believe in your eyes.
    And when you stand up for yourself and raise your voice against them calling them for their phony identity, then you will see their rage for the first time and the mask will fall. Covert narcissists manipulate less with rage/exhibiting superiority and more with people pleasing behaviour/playing the eternal victim. They are not aggressive as overt narcissists. They are more cunning. What they both have in common is self-centered ness and lack of empathy. In the case of coverts, it will take you longer to find out.They knew what they wanted to get out of you from the beginning. They created a whole theatre play to fool you about who they are and their true motives. You will trust them with all your heart but when the time comes for them to prove their loyalty by choosing your bond over their personal gain, they will choose the latter with no remorse, without even taking any responsibility. Unlike the overt narcissist, they will have an eloquent excuse for doing so, rationalizing why they had to f@ck you over. They will pretend to be sorry about it because this is something that matches the image of modesty that they want to project but in reality they are not sorry at all. You will see them partying with your own money when they said they didn’t have enough to pay you back. You will see them being unfair and untrustworthy to other people as well. When the mask of the victim will fall, you will see the cruel smile of a perpetrator who managed to get what they want without deserving it. If you decide to unmask them run for your life.
    Additionally, If you’re noticing unsettling changes in your partner’s behavior, it might be worth paying attention to those instincts. I had a similar experience that began with small suspicions. After months of uncertainty, I finally chose to look into it and uncovered a hidden part of my husband’s life-secret conversations, a separate email account, and all the things I had feared. Though it was difficult, learning the truth ultimately brought me the clarity I needed to move forward. If you feel something is off, trust yourself. For support or guidance, you can contact MetaspyClubLLC@gmail. com.

  • @jessicahanson4264
    @jessicahanson4264 Рік тому +429

    "Anything that is not sustainable is unhealthy. " -Stephan Speaks 🗣️

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Рік тому +3

    • @hadassahcornish2941
      @hadassahcornish2941 Рік тому +9

      Sustainable doesn’t work with someone who refuses to be real or in a real full time relationship.

    • @hadassahcornish2941
      @hadassahcornish2941 Рік тому +7

      Also running her into the ground first while living your wonderful lives is probably not exactly a great way to garnish her love. Selfish isn’t attractive.

    • @BrieRonoh
      @BrieRonoh Рік тому +8

      If it feels like draining you then it's unhealthy. I learnt that,,I'm happy now.

    • @hadassahcornish2941
      @hadassahcornish2941 Рік тому +2

      @@BrieRonoh yes, also if you don’t know whether you’re in a relationship or not because no one is able to make it clear its probably best to wait until you can get any kind of clarity instead of assuming you are for like 20 or so years without any tangible proof.

  • @paulmaddison121
    @paulmaddison121 Рік тому +161

    If you love someone you do whats best for them and not whats best for you. Don't ever mistake infatuation for love, loyalty is how you build love, nothing else

    • @ashwanijha7695
      @ashwanijha7695 Рік тому +2

      Yes. If only about love. But in a love relationship, you need to think of fair partnership.

    • @hellenmuhoi6335
      @hellenmuhoi6335 8 місяців тому

      That's true Paul how are you?

    • @raymondotoole2600
      @raymondotoole2600 8 місяців тому

      Needs to be fair. That isn’t fair

    • @MyC-mw6mg
      @MyC-mw6mg 5 місяців тому +1

      That's not in any form love.

  • @krose3
    @krose3 Рік тому +302

    I have only felt the spark one time in my life. The man that I have been married to for 13 years. All other experiences always felt forced. When I met my husband, I saw the potential of having a family with him. Two weeks after I saw him, he asked me out. We were honest with each other in the beginning. We lost our way. I realised we were taking each other for granted. After 3 kids, we lost ourselves. A lot of negative things got let in. It was not healthy. I told him I was not happy. He told me he was not happy either. We decided therapy was needed. We started going, and it was the best thing we ever did. We are back on track. We're communicating and being honest with each other. Intimacy between us is the best it has ever been.

    • @ruthrose1000
      @ruthrose1000 Рік тому +25

      I’m so happy for you:) I live stories of not giving up and thriving…prayers for peace, joy and joy!!

    • @oliviadimock8202
      @oliviadimock8202 Рік тому +5

      That’s so awesome!! So glad you two are in a good position ☺️❤

    • @samiam5434
      @samiam5434 Рік тому +1

      That’s so great!! I’m happy for you! 😢

    • @emmawelsh5336
      @emmawelsh5336 Рік тому +3

      This was lovely to read. Well done to you both for being willing to do the work to save your relationship. ❤

    • @portiajakoba9574
      @portiajakoba9574 Рік тому

      That is beautiful ❤

  • @DaxCollier
    @DaxCollier Місяць тому +105

    This discussion highlights the importance of understanding love and emotional growth. The journey to self love workbook by Cameron J. Clark is a companion.

  • @sandrar852
    @sandrar852 Рік тому +336

    So true about masculine energy. A man that does not walk in his masculinity sends cues to a woman that she will always have to carry him. Leaving her thinking, that she can never be carried, that she has to constantly protect him and he never protecting her. Part of masculinity is protection. If a woman doesn't feel you can protect her, how can she truly trust you?

    • @Liv-db7so
      @Liv-db7so Рік тому +7

      👏👏👏🙌

    • @sarawalmsley2084
      @sarawalmsley2084 10 місяців тому +6

      Yes!

    • @samaelletaincell6382
      @samaelletaincell6382 9 місяців тому +5

      Actually... I think that's where you are in the wrong. Because it would imply, a feminine person could never carry someone... but if you look closer, women are actually often fiercer in defending their kin then men. I won't deny there aren't weak men... but feminine ones often are anything but weak. They're are just less dominant. But not being dominant, or being emotionnal, doesn't imply not being strong. But have you ever seen any movie, any story, which a feminine small guy being the protector? I haven't... so inconsciously people just don't associate it with strength. But it's often not a reality. I believe the issue is more that woman are much more naturall protectors then men. So if the dude has any weakness, of suppossed weakness they will try to protect, point. They tend to do that with everyone and it's fucking exausting. So a guy who seems not to need protection, a "strong" dude, is a break, while they'll project the needed protection on any dude who doesn't seem strong enough.
      And people don't realise either, what someone is worth in a real crisis situation, and that's what matters. And actually funny, in my experience, it's those feminine guys you then can count on.

    • @nikrojuatellington4066
      @nikrojuatellington4066 8 місяців тому +1

      This made me think of my own relationship so true

    • @sharinvile5074
      @sharinvile5074 7 місяців тому +9

      I broke up with my boyfriend only cause of that! I don’t feel protected and he just didn’t show me he’s ready to lead. And me as an independent woman, this is not what I want. I want a man who can lead and protect me 😅

  • @chelseycioli499
    @chelseycioli499 Рік тому +487

    “ it’s not the feminine energy that’s the problem it’s who you give it to” SIR YOU JUST OPENED A MAJOR HEALING DOOR FOR ME. I’ve been taken advantage of and I really adopted my masculine energy and dove into my life in nyc after that. I def saw my feminine energy as a weakness till recently and still work to keep it open

    • @sjt7028
      @sjt7028 Рік тому +5

      👍

    • @FreedomofSpeech865
      @FreedomofSpeech865 Рік тому +5

      I understand this fully 💕

    • @JahBlessd
      @JahBlessd Рік тому +13

      Good to hear you're working on allowing yourself to be genuine and feminine. The Bible let's us know that God not only made women different but He also highly regards the type of woman who has a gentle spirit.

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek Рік тому

      Correction: you allowed yourself to be taken advantage of. By falling for a top 20% man who's most likely out of your league and is never gonna settle down because he's getting all the female attention from the whole city.
      And at all the people here embracing you being the victim will just accomplish that you're gonna be susceptible to be taken advantage of a few more times, maybe until you get resentful and distrust men altogether. Or you just listen to advise for a change.
      Or you don't even have to listen to me. I've seen many men independently come to the same conclusion. One of them is Kevin Samuels, he's dead and has a YT channel and he talked about this, from exactly this perspective of a top 20% high value man that had always multiple women being in love with him and thus didn't want to settle for just one.

    • @dg5175
      @dg5175 Рік тому +1

      I realized this not too long ago.

  • @ginabee1212
    @ginabee1212 Рік тому +67

    "The same wall that's protecting you is the same wall that is blocking your blessings"...this is profound!!

  • @KittaDaranykone-b3l
    @KittaDaranykone-b3l 10 місяців тому +15

    Love is a beautiful thing to feel for someone, but being in love with loyalty is priceless 💯💋♥️

  • @michellecrenshaw5699
    @michellecrenshaw5699 Рік тому +377

    A disagreement is not necessarily a "fight" and does not have to be. My husband and I did not argue or fight,. We listened to each other when we disagreed on an issue. You argue when you feel you have to be right. But the goal in relationships is to try to UNDERSTAND not to be right. Peace!

    • @kimdagnillo8246
      @kimdagnillo8246 Рік тому +9

      So well put, ty for this

    • @lazykid9167
      @lazykid9167 Рік тому +11

      Very nice said. Competing about who is right just for the ego to be right can start intoxicate things fast.

    • @InSpiritandinTruth4444
      @InSpiritandinTruth4444 Рік тому +1

      Exactly! Sounds like a healthy relationship/marriage 😊 🙏🏻 ᥫ᭡

    • @Lisa-om4it
      @Lisa-om4it Рік тому +3

      I’ve heard that about not being right, but giving in and pretending to be wrong is no solution. Sometimes both people believe they’re right and there isn’t enough information to prove it one way or the other. In that case, you have to agree to disagree if there’s evidence for both. Trying to “not be right” doesn’t seem like an honest solution to me, though.

    • @lazykid9167
      @lazykid9167 Рік тому +2

      @@Lisa-om4it yes, I think that’s fine if you both are able to agree to disagree, even better. This is a different mindset . What I’m saying that the mindset of - proving one is right and proving the other wrong is simply getting toxic in a relationship fast. Because proving something leads to a debate , it’s like in a court. It’s about separation and showing that one wins and one loses. It’s less about accepting others feelings and less about understanding each other, it’s competetive and rather disregards others feelings. So this attitude does not strengthen bond and bring partners together in long term. Except if both of you are really enjoying debating. But then it has to be respectful and entertaining.

  • @zblus
    @zblus Рік тому +206

    Things that stood out for me:
    The lesson after being hurt isn't that you shouldn't love, it's that you loved the wrong person
    Loving is the right thing to do, rather than being closed off, because it exposes who they are faster
    You may have loved wrong because you were not at your full potential/healthy/confident/healed self
    Love fully

    • @_kv_8374
      @_kv_8374 Рік тому +1

      I didn’t love the wrong person though ☹️🔫

    • @Trio-tn5qi
      @Trio-tn5qi 10 місяців тому +4

      Perfect recap, now I can quit thinking so hard. Thanks for your help. Their convo/breakdown was truly amazing. Wisdom Downloaded.

  • @DilCardyn
    @DilCardyn Рік тому +834

    Dear friend, when a man truly loves you, his actions will speak louder than words. He will prioritize your happiness and well-being above his own, communicate openly and honestly with you, and make an effort to understand and support you. Trust your instincts and observe his behavior, as true love is consistently shown through actions rather than just words. Remember to also communicate your needs and feelings to ensure a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Best of luck on your love journey!

    • @vetaquattlebaum9720
      @vetaquattlebaum9720 Рік тому +4

      Absolutely 💯 Amazing!!

    • @pdavful
      @pdavful Рік тому +4

      Perfectly said! You are right on it🎉🎉🎉

    • @roselavalley9337
      @roselavalley9337 Рік тому +30

      Love what you said & also want to highlight that a man who loves you will also prioritize himself. There is this hidden misconception that as a woman in a relationship you need to come before all else & within that I see a lack of foundation. A man will prioritize the relationship you two hold because it is of value to him. It is also important that he is prioritizing himself as well because he is a active participant of the relationship. A relationship is not a one way street or a linear experience ( we face obstacles in a relationship, growth & more often than not new experiences that give us more understanding of our partner) it’s important that both parties are prioritizes their growth, identifying their triggers, work on their independent confidence/ insecurities, discover how to regulate their own emotions & reflecting on their behavior, etc. These are big foundational pieces & aspects to a relationship. Because there are moments where happiness isn’t present, actions can be misinterpreted, & or communication is difficult ( these are very normal things & it’s important remember that you are two individuals navigating a relationship together). I’m not saying that you aren’t aware of this I just like to empathize the importance of this in conversations because a relationship is complex with so many different areas that really stem from our individual experiences, journeys & choices. So I think it’s less about him putting you above him & more about how he elevates himself in correlation to the respect, love & care he has for you & vice versa because ultimately that will produce a relationship that is grounded in the wellness of each other & nourishment progress!

    • @saskiafinnan4216
      @saskiafinnan4216 Рік тому +2

      @@roselavalley9337 so well said 🙌🏻

    • @Kpc577
      @Kpc577 Рік тому +13

      Men need love too it doesn't have to be men doing everything to make y’all happy.

  • @SharonVillarreal-k7w
    @SharonVillarreal-k7w 12 днів тому +20

    Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

    • @AndrianaGomes-l6k
      @AndrianaGomes-l6k 12 днів тому

      It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

    • @SharonVillarreal-k7w
      @SharonVillarreal-k7w 12 днів тому

      Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

    • @AndrianaGomes-l6k
      @AndrianaGomes-l6k 12 днів тому

      His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @AndrianaGomes-l6k
      @AndrianaGomes-l6k 12 днів тому

      he is father akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.

    • @SharonVillarreal-k7w
      @SharonVillarreal-k7w 12 днів тому

      I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤

  • @ReloadTH
    @ReloadTH Рік тому +581

    Just recently parted with my GF of five years. We had three amazing years and our relationship fell apart the last two. No matter what we did we couldn’t fix it. After listening to this, I finally found the courage to talk to her rationally and we agreed to give each other space and time to heal. I was definitely responsible for a lot of our issues and I was never able to see my wrongs before.
    We’ve been apart for a month now. It was extremely difficult at first to accept this. I missed her dearly and at times I had to fight with every ounce of strength in my body and soul to not call her. I’m at week 5ish now and the pain has slowly waned down and I have better clarity about our relationship. While I do believe if we found each other again, we could make it work, I’m no longer trying to force us to work.

    • @tracilaceicustomwigweavest3301
      @tracilaceicustomwigweavest3301 Рік тому +61

      Awwwww boobie, go get your lady back ❤

    • @lucimancari
      @lucimancari Рік тому +76

      I agree go fight for her not with words or promises but with actions. Show up for her and make her your priorty

    • @GoldenAngel-
      @GoldenAngel- Рік тому +34

      Give it another try , and learn from each other more be honest and communicate openly and when hard times comes , you both have each other as support
      Start as friends again and see if something serious can grow again God Bless

    • @AnnaK-gv3kn
      @AnnaK-gv3kn Рік тому +21

      ​@@lucimancariEvery day ask her "What can I do to make your life easier?" Then do it. Few days and she will come to you.

    • @jahnavibhargava2572
      @jahnavibhargava2572 Рік тому +20

      Why do people support getting back together over exploring new connections...

  • @msskyn5340
    @msskyn5340 Рік тому +213

    I married someone who should’ve been a one night stand by ignoring and silencing my intuition. I lost myself being afraid to lose him. After my divorce I found myself on the journey of trusting myself as soon as my intuition speaks. The very first time. About anything. This singleness journey has me loving myself like no one else can.

    • @agnesyolanda966
      @agnesyolanda966 Рік тому +4

      When I red your comment Miley’s song came to mind😂😂!!!you have to love you before you can love anyone else ! When you love you ,you know your worth and recognize when someone else recuperate what you feel and the level you feel it!!!

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Рік тому

      Congrats Sandra, good to hear you're in a good space now ❤

    • @PYTfromNY2WA
      @PYTfromNY2WA Рік тому +1

      I felt that “ lost myself being afraid of losing him”

  • @lorieckel3992
    @lorieckel3992 Рік тому +223

    I think we all really know in our hearts when someone loves you! You feel it, they make their intentions known, they pay attention to you, they follow thru with what they say they are going to do, you don’t have to second guess. If it’s not there don’t try to force the process..
    That never works!

    • @lyricgirl2012
      @lyricgirl2012 Рік тому +6

      remember ladies a man can love more than one woman, make sure you ask him the big question "what your future looks like with him"? then you'll know to either let go and move on or continue talking to him. I met a man that loved me and also loved his wife. showed all the qualities of making time for me and telling me to go visit my son and gave me money to go visit him. one thing that stood out from the rest of the guys that I've never heard a man say to me he said to me, "dont think of no man not even him". I laughed in my head because i believe he just want me to himself.

    • @azra5648
      @azra5648 Рік тому +3

      ​@@lyricgirl2012Any man or woman who falls for someone loving more than one person is naive and wants to stay clueless.

    • @yvettemarypaulinezichem9250
      @yvettemarypaulinezichem9250 Рік тому +2

      You can never ever love two people at tge same time, thats BS, one will suffer for sure.

    • @ConradKurtMorgan
      @ConradKurtMorgan Рік тому +2

      Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?

  • @IrisAnne
    @IrisAnne 9 місяців тому +5

    "Holding 2 opposing ideas" - And being okay and at peace with that is the heart of dialectical behavior therapy, DBT

  • @csheets40
    @csheets40 Рік тому +249

    He absolutely had me at "God is love." This is the way to truly show and receive someone's love.

    • @queenieme37
      @queenieme37 Рік тому +2

      Same. This made clear to us.

    • @ConradKurtMorgan
      @ConradKurtMorgan Рік тому +2

      Does spirituality matters in a relationship?

    • @AndrewJamesBaldwin
      @AndrewJamesBaldwin Рік тому

      Hey how are you doing,?

    • @mmaya772
      @mmaya772 Рік тому

      ⁠Yes cause if you’re not evenly yoked it won’t work out in the long run.*@@ConradKurtMorgan

    • @wmns4314
      @wmns4314 Рік тому +3

      Nah, atheists experience love too, it has literally nothing to do with “god”

  • @barbaraschultz1442
    @barbaraschultz1442 Рік тому +426

    You can have connection, chemistry, and compatibility with many people!
    You have to have respect for yourself and them. You have to maintain self agency. I agree, know who you are otherwise you become what your partner wants.

    • @Realness4sho
      @Realness4sho Рік тому +3

      💜💜💜

    • @heltristan
      @heltristan Рік тому +9

      Very very TRUE ... know yourself , love yourself first ... then maybe you are ready to be in a relationship. Be TRUE.

    • @heltristan
      @heltristan Рік тому +4

      Alignment ... AMEN !

    • @shellbell8062
      @shellbell8062 Рік тому +8

      Stephan was defining "connection" in a different way than you are. You can have compatibility and chemistry with many, but that "soul connection" where your spirit recognises them as "your one" only happens once or twice in a lifetime. I can truly verify this. I thought I experienced true connection before, but now that I have really experienced it I can attest to the fact that this is a once in a lifetime event and is like nothing I have ever known before.

    • @tammier8860
      @tammier8860 Рік тому +1

      Thank you! You will not have a connection with many ppl.

  • @Dominique_ShoeAddict
    @Dominique_ShoeAddict Рік тому +383

    The statement that resonated the most is "If your partner think that you wont walk away no matter what they do, You"ve already lost". In my case I had to end it and walk away. This episode really helped me during my healing process.❤❤❤

  • @hzlkelly
    @hzlkelly 11 місяців тому +122

    It’s sad when you love someone based on what they presented and then when you truly get into it they become someone you don’t know and you’re stuck because you can’t sustain it.

    • @victoriabernice
      @victoriabernice 9 місяців тому +6

      A great way to describe how I feel 😢

    • @Kinsugi
      @Kinsugi 8 місяців тому +2

      I was looking for a comment that said just that.

    • @hzlkelly
      @hzlkelly 8 місяців тому +3

      @@victoriabernice I hope you make it out okay. There is real love out here it’s just truly scarce.

    • @hzlkelly
      @hzlkelly 8 місяців тому

      @@Kinsugi 🙏🏾 you’re welcome.

    • @sharinvile5074
      @sharinvile5074 7 місяців тому +1

      I give too much in my relationship and he’s not appreciating and the giving energy does not reciprocate

  • @clarissamarquez3769
    @clarissamarquez3769 Рік тому +186

    My ex and I were together for 13 years, a month after he left me I met my current boyfriend, within 5 days of knowing each other I ended up in the hospital for a month, and he spent every single day with me taking care of me. I knew the first week he was my husband. I knew our souls had agreed to meet again. And that’s my future husband 💙💙💙

    • @Patrickroy042
      @Patrickroy042 Рік тому +2

      Amazing ❤

    • @Relationship_advice12
      @Relationship_advice12 Рік тому

      Love can be expressed in many ways. One way I know is to send it across the distance to the person who is reading this.

    • @DrMikeHerring-zu5cd
      @DrMikeHerring-zu5cd Рік тому

      That was really amazing

    • @vlajster
      @vlajster Рік тому +10

      Lmao what a fast rebound,only women could do that. Hope that this won't be a future divorce 🤣🤣

    • @Mrtellitlikeitis
      @Mrtellitlikeitis Рік тому +9

      Oh stop. A month later. Good gosh

  • @gabbylewis2561
    @gabbylewis2561 Рік тому +90

    this whole video taught me more in a hour than i’ve learned in 21 years

  • @DD-ol1pq
    @DD-ol1pq Рік тому +262

    I’m just going to have to be the one to say this… and I don’t want to. There are a LOT of broken people out there. You need to take the time to learn who you’re dealing with. If you see signs, WRITE THEM DOWN on a piece of paper. Otherwise, you’ll forget or just ignore them. Look at that everyday and ask yourself is this something you can live with everyday for the rest of your life.
    Secondly, if you’re dealing with something you don’t agree with - someone who won’t change for the better. Ask yourself, “if my BEST FRIEND was dealing with this very scenario, would I hurt for them. Not would you do anything because we know some people won’t listen to logic. But would you HURT for them. If so, he/she is not right for you. My two cents.

    • @alexialira3839
      @alexialira3839 Рік тому +21

      I like the whole writing things down approach (you can even write the good things.)
      Another thing I think can work is asking yourself if you would be ok with having children with him/her (even if you say you don't want kids) and them coming out exactly like him/her.
      Can you deal with his/her mini me 's for 18+ years? Same personality, same attitudes? Are you ok with him/her raising them/helping raising them instilling his/her values, morals, habits on them? Would they be a good role model? Would you trust them to care for the kids if you're gone?
      Really sit down and think this through and be honest with yourself while answering.

    • @DD-ol1pq
      @DD-ol1pq Рік тому +12

      @@alexialira3839 Agreed. Many of us put ourselves aside for the love of someone who doesn’t even deserve us. They put more thought into buying a car or a house. 🤦🏽‍♀️ 😂 Trying to keep it light but finding the right one is important and it’s not just finding someone who likes you. Like this man said, connection, chemistry AND compatibility. And you’re right, be honest with yourself. And take your time. Because if he/she is the right one, they’re not going anywhere.

    • @878rebeccaa
      @878rebeccaa Рік тому +3

      That’s a good idea to write it down

    • @linzeefayee
      @linzeefayee Рік тому +4

      AMEN love this!!!

    • @sashasdream
      @sashasdream Рік тому +1

      Ofc I’m going to listen to this pod episode but can someone give me the run down or “too long didn’t read version”

  • @x-2954
    @x-2954 7 місяців тому +160

    Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I hired a private detective Barryinvestigation@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!

    • @jessidae6332
      @jessidae6332 7 місяців тому +3

      omgoodness you are literally explaining my exact situation 😮!! I appreciate you sharing hope with us 🙏❤️For giving strength to know we aren't alone and it's ok to put yourself first at time ❤️ 💜 💕 🙏 I believe God is speaking through you ❤️! Again, thank you so much and congratulations for staying true to you and your daughters and especially God ! ❤️

    • @dorjennifer2609
      @dorjennifer2609 7 місяців тому +1

      I was in that same predicament for about 5 yrs ago. But Thank GOD I’m out.

    • @respinal71
      @respinal71 5 місяців тому +1

      OMG! You were married to my soon to be ex? Everything you said I've lived for 20 years now I've been discarded.Thank God!!

    • @janebaikinuku125
      @janebaikinuku125 3 місяці тому

      Thank you, I thought I was the only one going through the same situation 😢😢😢 I just walked out of my narc partner last week & I feel free 🥳💃🏾 I walked away with no explanation to him... And his reaction was no surprise to me because it's always the same when we have a disagreement 🙄🙄 he even posted that I left him because he was poor 🙄😞 and that hurt me so much, because I didn't care about what he had materialisticly, because I was supporting him financially. And he wasn't even working when we started talking & I even supported and helped him get a job 😢😢😢 But I'm not turning back I'm moving on with my life and his still going on saying mean things about me and not even mentioning every good thing I did for him...... 💔😔

    • @char6081
      @char6081 Місяць тому +1

      wow sounds like my dad a little

  • @songwriterlife7777
    @songwriterlife7777 Рік тому +70

    Wow. Emotionally Intelligent men really do exist. This video is proof. helped me so much. ♥

    • @tuulikki71
      @tuulikki71 Рік тому +3

      ❤ really ! this topics used to be women's area , I'm also so happy to find these emotionally intelligent men who are able to share their insights.

  • @D-A-N-
    @D-A-N- Рік тому +182

    A happy relationship isn’t about feelings but sharing the same principles, trust me feelings always come and go. It depends if you want to remain with them and have a family or move on. Beginning stages everyone loves hard because it feels good but the same values is what will keep two together. Not feelings.

    • @ladyhawke7034
      @ladyhawke7034 Рік тому +19

      Yes. Agreed. Short and simple. I am so glad that my husband and I were 'on the same page' as far as principles go.
      I married my penpal. We got to know each other by writing letters. We've been married almost 29 years now.

    • @knownasxristako3321
      @knownasxristako3321 Рік тому +7

      Amen to that! Feelings are the flavour, principles are the quality.

    • @OreadNYC
      @OreadNYC Рік тому +3

      Love is a choice as well as a feeling, yes (the choice being to make your partner's needs and feelings as much of a priority as your own) -- but in all fairness, you need the feelings as well. The foundation of a relationship should ultimately be a close friendship rather than just infatuation or lust, but trying to have a relationship with someone purely for logical or practical reasons is probably going to be less than satisfying because most people aren't that logical or practical. Yes, trying to be in a relationship with someone whose values are significantly different from yours is usually the "kiss of death"...but while trying to have a relationship with someone primarily because this person "looks good on paper" is better, at least as often as not, it tends not to work terribly well in the long run.

    • @mrjulio787
      @mrjulio787 Рік тому +4

      @@OreadNYC I would disagree here that feelings have to be involved for a successful relationship. First this is first you must have some attraction to that person , but even that will get old and dusty what then ? Committed people figure out ways to see new things , in life and in their partner . Only commitment both ways works. I remember my weight loss journey that took me from 220 to 170 . I remember very clear that every single day my feelings where not in place as a matter of fact my biggest hurdle in loosing weight were my feelings . Thank God I got up did the works out and ate correctly without listening to my feelings , why ? Because if I did I would %100 be fat still. Feelings we give to much credit to , life goes beyond the way we feel.

    • @oneofakindlifestyle
      @oneofakindlifestyle Рік тому +1

      Absolutely agree. Having the same core principles is very important when merging lives together. If you decide to have a family together, children etc. How will you raise these children? What values, lessons etc will you teach these children? 🥰😘

  • @bavellino522
    @bavellino522 Рік тому +260

    When he said “You present yourself as something to someone that you can’t sustain” hit me right in the feels, as well as the gut. 😮😢😊🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @annahappen7036
      @annahappen7036 Рік тому +5

      Pretty much describes every man I ever dated.

    • @kimking3909
      @kimking3909 Рік тому +3

      I’m not understanding…

    • @Gomba13
      @Gomba13 Рік тому +4

      I stopped having anxiety when I stopped trying to present myself any other way than I truly am. If you are genuine and they love you, you know they love YOU and not the idea of you.

  • @karinam4115
    @karinam4115 10 місяців тому +18

    Healing from childhood neglect , emotional neglect , abandonment issues. How we were cared from a caregiver can affect who we choose, caregiver was emotional unavailable as a child, we will tend to be attracted to the unavailable person cause it seems familiar and the healthier available seems boring although it’s the healthy option . Breaking the patterns , so we don’t repeat the same patterns. C-PTSD will give way to limerence so choosing g to one to heal it’s a process , knowing g yourself . Crappy Childhood Fairy on you tube gives insights on healing etc . You got this! You are enough!🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

  • @EvaMariaJordan
    @EvaMariaJordan Рік тому +270

    So far everything this guest has said about love is exactly what I feel. And then I burst into tears when he said; "love is about giving." This guest you have right here is a high quality man. 🏆👏

    • @SkillzOne3000
      @SkillzOne3000 Рік тому +13

      Love is about giving. This should be a real wide eye opener to those around us: a lot of takers walking amongst us & that shows how much of the population do not even love themselves let alone others.

    • @melaniejette5130
      @melaniejette5130 Рік тому +1

      Me too!

    • @lashlyfeacdemy
      @lashlyfeacdemy Рік тому

      My thoughts exactly ❤

    • @AndrewJamesBaldwin
      @AndrewJamesBaldwin Рік тому

      Hey how are you doing today?

    • @CarlDewith
      @CarlDewith Рік тому

      You have a good heart from your expressions
      I want to know more about you

  • @lazombie3052
    @lazombie3052 Рік тому +237

    “The detox” I felt that! Leaving my partner of 12 years was debilitating. My mind and heart knew it was best to let go, but my body didn’t understand!

    • @quinb4154
      @quinb4154 Рік тому +9

      Hello, how did you find the courage and strength to leave? Congrats on making that move.

    • @esthyanaz3086
      @esthyanaz3086 Рік тому +4

      Really hard especially when you have kids together

    • @margiel2180
      @margiel2180 Рік тому +13

      I left cause I felt like throwing up all the time from nerves couldn't eat...

    • @margiel2180
      @margiel2180 Рік тому

      Also I feel the detox

    • @mygpeach
      @mygpeach Рік тому +6

      I left my husband of 27 years. I too knew that it was what was necessary, but like you, my body didn't understand. I became so sick, hospitalized and all. There are children involved as well so the guilt definitely ate me up but I've heald from it, I'm just so glad that I trusted my decisions.

  • @jacensage4489
    @jacensage4489 Рік тому +176

    "people doesn't change but actually they just become conscious who they really are" "sometimes you're not missing the people, you're missing the feeling" i
    love that

  • @tessa7793
    @tessa7793 9 місяців тому +120

    Thank you for this video.
    I had 2 boyfriends before my 25th. A "Late bloomer" so to speak
    After a lot of spiritual, emotional growth and travelling around the world, I finally met my true love connection at 36. The moment we met we both 'just knew'. Immediately pregnant with twin boys we had 4 children in 3,5 years and still In love.
    If I had met him in my 20's I would not have recognised the love connection.
    It is all meant to be.
    I hope you all find the one for you❤

    • @NonoNana-et9we
      @NonoNana-et9we 9 місяців тому +6

      Do you think it is hard to be in love in early 20? Because i think yes

    • @blackeneddove
      @blackeneddove 5 місяців тому +3

      Your story is so beautiful and gives me so much hope. Best wishes to you and your family.

    • @princessdiana2305
      @princessdiana2305 4 місяці тому +2

      I felt so happy for you!! I think,when it happens,you just know it is love and he or she will be your future. I was hopeless as 18 year old because generation doesnt really like wanting to have family and thinking serious. But now I think I have enough time :)

    • @tessa7793
      @tessa7793 4 місяці тому +1

      @@blackeneddove Time is an illusion, feelings are not. When you, your soul and spirit feel it is the moment for love, it will come to you.. First love and know yourself, then the rest will follow ❤️🩷❤️

    • @tessa7793
      @tessa7793 4 місяці тому

      @@NonoNana-et9we well, when you are young you might not be confident enough or still need room to grow. Love is wonderful when it is reciprocated.

  • @burgerpowder8
    @burgerpowder8 Рік тому +111

    i just ended a relationship of 3 years with my first love. it was very toxic and codependant. one of the reasons i stayed with him is because i felt unlovable and thought id never find anyone else who loved me. he never loved me and he was a waste of time. he would love bomb me and give me attention when he was bored then practically go missing 80% of the time. it was a learning experience. im hoping one day ill find someone who loves hard like me and puts effort into becoming a better person and being open minded. i only know love is real because of how i love.

    • @annabellshapegud
      @annabellshapegud 9 місяців тому +3

      Wow smh I felt this on another level

    • @divineoshun5099
      @divineoshun5099 8 місяців тому +7

      I was in you’re position 3 years ago I’m now in a loving relationship with the most sweetest guy ever . One thing I encourage you to do is to completely step into you”re feminine era to attract passionate men from the way you present yourself, speak and act trust me it works

    • @MiMi-wg4jk
      @MiMi-wg4jk 7 місяців тому +2

      This is what I'm going thru right now. Are you okay now? Have you fully moved on?

    • @jitkazachova1051
      @jitkazachova1051 Місяць тому

      ​@@divineoshun5099do you have more ideál about it ?

  • @jessicahanson4264
    @jessicahanson4264 Рік тому +108

    "So scared of losing someone so don't ask right questions to see if the relationship will work...not being yourself"- Jay Shetty

  • @fun1one
    @fun1one Рік тому +73

    Relationships are hard because as a young person most of us didn’t have support, someone to talk to, explain things etc. Good Luck to everyone.

  • @bartholetbay412
    @bartholetbay412 4 місяці тому +226

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

    • @michaelfischer-xp4cw
      @michaelfischer-xp4cw 4 місяці тому +5

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

    • @bartholetbay412
      @bartholetbay412 4 місяці тому

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

    • @michaelfischer-xp4cw
      @michaelfischer-xp4cw 4 місяці тому

      Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @bartholetbay412
      @bartholetbay412 4 місяці тому

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

    • @bee-h3s
      @bee-h3s 4 місяці тому +1

      Awe, I’m right there with you. 5 years together but I’m slowly realizing and accepting I didn’t truly know who I was with. I gave myself without giving them a chance to show me they deserved it. Now I’m 5 months pregnant getting ready to be a single mom, and all he can say is he fucked up. This was on point, I don’t know who I was in that relationship and became the worst version of myself. It will get better❤😊

  • @tennesseesdaughter315
    @tennesseesdaughter315 Рік тому +285

    He said a word!! “Don’t change your ability to maintain your feminine/masculine energy just because you’re sharing it with the wrong person” ❤❤❤

    • @NandedaDaniel
      @NandedaDaniel Рік тому +1

      There must be something wrong with my eyes, I can't take them off you. Let's commit the perfect crime, I'll steal your heart and you steal mine.😅😅 I'm sorry sorry for intercepting you this way but I think you need someone interesting in both inside and outside.🤔😊😊😊😊😊

    • @jessejones3712
      @jessejones3712 Рік тому

      You are so beautiful and i was instantly attracted to your smile .....

    • @ConradKurtMorgan
      @ConradKurtMorgan Рік тому

      Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?

  • @insanegamer112
    @insanegamer112 Рік тому +382

    My boyfriend never knew how to show love. I thought he took me for granted. I always put in efforts to make him feel special, but he never did anything for me. The truth is, he doesn’t know what I expect from him. Neither did I; yes, even men have expectations. And, we never openly talked about it. To build understanding, we now play "Lovify" questions game. In this game, we have to guess what we expected from each other. I learn a lot about my boyfriend. we are tring to open up about topics we previously avoided ❤

    • @alinavolkova748
      @alinavolkova748 Рік тому +4

      Sounds wonnderful, how is the game 'played', may i ask? I mean, how do you start and proceed with it

    • @insanegamer112
      @insanegamer112 Рік тому

      @@alinavolkova748 you can play it on your phone. Its actually an app.

    • @ishita_cu
      @ishita_cu Рік тому +2

      Thanks for sharing your experience :)

    • @CeliaCavalli
      @CeliaCavalli Рік тому +3

      This is so cute & such a great way to communicate in a fun way ♥️

    • @dunianns2716
      @dunianns2716 Рік тому +12

      Work on your feminine energy. Not everyone has love inside anyway. If a person doesn't give you love, it's because they don't know it, they don't have it, they don't know... get out of there before they hurt you more.

  • @sally5256
    @sally5256 Рік тому +168

    I always say - you can’t love someone who doesn’t love you back. That is in terms of a relationship. It’s soo true 🙏❤️

    • @ConradKurtMorgan
      @ConradKurtMorgan Рік тому +9

      Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?

    • @AndrewJamesBaldwin
      @AndrewJamesBaldwin Рік тому +2

      Hey how are you doing,?

    • @mylifeyourwill7800
      @mylifeyourwill7800 Рік тому +3

      I say you can’t love someone who doesn’t love themselves

    • @stevenwest1298
      @stevenwest1298 Рік тому +1

      Love is a two way stuff not one sided so the both persons deserve to receive same energy, how are you?

    • @gozgal
      @gozgal 11 місяців тому

      @@mylifeyourwill7800 Oh you can love them but life will be miserable. They will act like they love you because they need your love and adoration but if they don't love themselves they can never return true love.

  • @meltemahmet3094
    @meltemahmet3094 11 місяців тому +34

    Do you know how many relationships you saved just with this podcast... my lovely tears from my broken heart to healing soul..cheers to you

  • @lilyliang6
    @lilyliang6 Рік тому +45

    Such wisdom ! Don't stop being the loving, good person you are just cause you were hurt by a wrong person.

  • @vanessarossi-sondgeroth8490
    @vanessarossi-sondgeroth8490 Рік тому +301

    When someone truly loves you, they will put your needs above theirs, they will never give up on you in the darkest hours

    • @eltonbrown444
      @eltonbrown444 Рік тому +3

      Love is internal , precious and unique!! I want to love again pls 😮

    • @Izzyreal-gy9vw
      @Izzyreal-gy9vw Рік тому +17

      This entirely depends on the dynamics of the relationship. There is room in love for letting go. Note: letting go and giving up are two different things

    • @mlblahblahblah2965
      @mlblahblahblah2965 Рік тому

      Wrong.

    • @victormuisyo2648
      @victormuisyo2648 Рік тому +5

      That's selfish love

    • @colinnembhard1036
      @colinnembhard1036 Рік тому +6

      Hard to believe that the only way some love u is if they put your need over there got be other ways because no one should love anyone more than ourselves because you can put a person over yourself and that person still not love u

  • @sandydao7261
    @sandydao7261 Рік тому +51

    Its true. I left my child's father after 2 years. I didnt feel loved. I moved on and gave this guy a chance that had been chasing me since I was 18 years old. I've never been so happy in my life before.

  • @vanessagomez5132
    @vanessagomez5132 5 місяців тому +5

    The part where he said
    “Woman’s intuition is extremely powerful I’m a huge believer in it and I feel like Women know very early this isn’t it but they rationalize reasons to convince themselves to give this man a chance and this again is a waste of time because it just doesn’t work.”
    It is so true. Ever since I was a small little girl, I always followed my intuition. Except my previous relationship, I didn’t listen to it and it has been the biggest lesson by far in life. God gave me so many signs and I tried to control the relationship. I changed so much for the person that I lost myself. I am growing closer to God and I feel at peace, knowing that if I can understand how to allow God to guide me, I will be okay.
    I hope many woman and men watch this video. These are two very wise men speaking.

  • @tinker2217
    @tinker2217 Рік тому +86

    40:43 I'm so glad Jay said that. That is very true. Being good for the wrong person really messes you up. It takes a lot to trust and be vulnerable enough to expose that behavior in the next person.

  • @NgaNguyen-vi1xk
    @NgaNguyen-vi1xk Рік тому +34

    “We’re so scared of losing someone that we're okay with not asking important questions and discovering important truths that actually define whether this relationship is going to last. Ultimately, you’re not being yourself, you're losing yourself, scared that you're going
    to lose the other person so you're okay with not being yourself”

    • @hiddenname9809
      @hiddenname9809 2 місяці тому

      Exactly what is a lasting relationship? Relationship that last one year? 5 to 10 years? 15 years?

    • @NgaNguyen-vi1xk
      @NgaNguyen-vi1xk 2 місяці тому

      @@hiddenname9809 for me it’s till death do us part

  • @meena8669
    @meena8669 Рік тому +201

    At the 38:00 time stamp. Wow that resonated with me so much! Never ever let anyone change you from being a kind loving and caring person in a relationship. If someone doesn’t appreciate that or value that, move on. You don’t need this world to change you into a harder shell of yourself. The right person will value your compassionate nature and hold on to you ❤

  • @Zulimaayannaiam
    @Zulimaayannaiam 11 місяців тому +6

    Becoming intuned with self is a priority above everything else. I can testify to this discussion

  • @Maniglia878
    @Maniglia878 Рік тому +72

    What is meant for you will find you. Louis Hay said “let them go and love yourself “ or “let go and let God”.
    I am not the same person of a year ago and I am thankful I became aware of how is important for me to be at peace where I am in life. Single and glad I never got married with anyone I met because I had low self esteem.
    I have goals in my life and if I want to get drunk I’ll drink the best wine 🍷
    Love yourself and be a good person.
    🙏❤️

    • @cad5017
      @cad5017 Рік тому +6

      I love Louis Hay ❤
      She has good advice for life. My favorite line she said, “You have to love yourself first before you can love those around you.” Which is true. How can we love someone or respect them if we can’t love and respect ourselves? ❤

    • @Maniglia878
      @Maniglia878 Рік тому +4

      @@cad5017 that’s a journey right there, then when we think we love ourselves someone comes along and we realize that we still have work to do 🤣
      I have deep issues in that department and I am scared because I am aware how easily seduce we are. It’s a pointless conversation because it doesn’t matter, I realize that the relationships I have are worth it and everything else is a bonus.

    • @Maniglia878
      @Maniglia878 Рік тому

      @@cad5017 BTY I don’t understand men but I understand incarnated souls having an experience.

  • @lilyliang6
    @lilyliang6 Рік тому +24

    This is one of the best dialogue I have seen regarding "relationship and how and why", let alone its between two men talking about very sensitive and intricate issues. Most refreshing.

  • @wendyharper2474
    @wendyharper2474 Рік тому +10

    I loved the part where stephan said that it's the hardest when people that are meant for each other have the hardest time getting together. I testify to that.

  • @meganharrington9755
    @meganharrington9755 10 місяців тому +47

    Literally watching this a 2nd time, it was THAT GOOD. So relatable in many ways and my goodness did Stephon hit the nail on the head for me! His self awareness is astounding and amazing. I could listen to you both go on and on. Bravo for an awesome convo everyone needs to hear. Yall should teach a class together that’s implemented in high schools 😊

    • @Datrosimmons
      @Datrosimmons 10 місяців тому

      Stephon always hits the nail on the head !
      And might I say you hit my heart on the chest haha
      You’re stunning

    • @Alphacentauri819
      @Alphacentauri819 10 місяців тому

      @@Datrosimmonsmaybe listen to this talk 100 more times…and do the healing work, before trying weird hitting on people on the internet

  • @PascalBachmann
    @PascalBachmann Рік тому +58

    Stephan and Jay do a great job of breaking down the signs that a man truly loves you. I think it's important to remember that love is not just about how he makes you feel, but also about how he treats you. If he's respectful, supportive, and makes you feel loved and valued, then there's a good chance that he truly cares for you.

  • @ifuekoegbe5464
    @ifuekoegbe5464 Рік тому +29

    This is it 😊
    "You need the peace of knowing I did what I needed to do".

  • @jibarabicha4853
    @jibarabicha4853 Рік тому +30

    That bit where they talk about how unsustainable it is showing certain sides and suppressing other sides of your personality to attract people is so spot on. It can be so disheartening to the person who worked on themselves to fall for someone who was hiding their true self and turns out to be almost a stranger in the end.

  • @angeliamiranda7390
    @angeliamiranda7390 11 місяців тому +6

    Definitely an eye opener but also got handed a mirror. We both become an issue off trauma neither of us gave each other. And feeding off that trauma caused us to actually hand each other trauma 😢prayers to everyone 🙏😊
    Things will get better. You will get better. God has a plan for everyone.

  • @malibumama__
    @malibumama__ Рік тому +75

    So many women learn to cut off toxic people from this man. And look at themselves so they can change. Love this interview and I’ve been very helped by both of them!

  • @nmsperry
    @nmsperry Рік тому +52

    In my experience as a woman, I am happy to be calming and loving when my partner gets heated and angry in order to get back to center…but only if they are being respectful. So often that line is crossed by men where the “masculine” side comes out directed TOWARD the female. I don’t believe we should be expected to withstand that.

  • @thenovaregimen5241
    @thenovaregimen5241 Рік тому +130

    Finally my 2 favorite people in one room having a beautiful conversation 👑

  • @rejoiceolaleye
    @rejoiceolaleye Місяць тому +1

    I don't know how Stephan managed to enunciate what so many people feel (almost on a daily basis), in such a clear manner.
    Very well articulated message, simple and potent.

  • @msbee9637
    @msbee9637 Рік тому +112

    I wish I watched this before I went to all my relationships. I don’t want to be in any relationship anymore. I want to take time to heal and forgive myself for everything that happened in my life. I know I will be okay and become the woman who I was before everything but better. I am not perfect but I am perfectly imperfect.💛✨

  • @realsouthernmamayall8711
    @realsouthernmamayall8711 Рік тому +126

    I was guided to this. Been in a relationship for 2.5 years now. Confirming now that I made the right decision to leave ❤

    • @briannaarnett9101
      @briannaarnett9101 Рік тому +14

      I had to leave mine yesterday. I’m hurting, and I’m not sure why, he became verbally abusive. I know I made the right decision. I’m just sad

    • @Herway333
      @Herway333 Рік тому

      @@briannaarnett9101I’m just sitting in my car crying. I’m so tired

    • @SteffiNovaASMR_Replays
      @SteffiNovaASMR_Replays Рік тому +1

      @@briannaarnett9101I’m sorry to hear that. How are you doing now?

    • @anlinmanalili2835
      @anlinmanalili2835 Рік тому +3

      I need prayers so I can get out 😢

    • @chiarahej3500
      @chiarahej3500 11 місяців тому

      @@anlinmanalili2835I am sending prayers to you!

  • @yokopaul-ishii6385
    @yokopaul-ishii6385 Рік тому +15

    Love is commitment, a leap of faith, a decision you make. It is not a rush, not a feeling. You deliberately make a choice if you love that person forever, even after death. To give anything, unconditionally, and be happy for that person's growth and success, moving forward together through good and bad times.

    • @susieroberts4112
      @susieroberts4112 Рік тому +4

      I saw a man at work the other day and told him I liked his pin. It was a rose pin he had in the middle of his shirt where the buttons were, he said he lost his wife in March and that Rose was her name so he wore it to have her with him. They were together for 50 and half years he said. 😢😮❤

  • @JessicaAnotii
    @JessicaAnotii Місяць тому +35

    Very cool video A month ago, I ended a five-year relationship. My soulmate made the decision to walk away from me, and even though I've done everything in my power to get him back, I can't help but feel disappointed because I can't see my life with anyone else. I want to say that I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I simply can't. I miss him so much and I don't know why I'm saying this here.

    • @Yukajoseph
      @Yukajoseph Місяць тому

      I learnt the hard way that saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult when a 12-year relationship ends. But I was unable to let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counsellor, and he was able to assist me in getting him back.

    • @JessicaAnotii
      @JessicaAnotii Місяць тому

      Interesting-sounding! How can I most efficiently get in contact with a spiritual counsellor that you recommended?

    • @Yukajoseph
      @Yukajoseph Місяць тому

      His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @Yukajoseph
      @Yukajoseph Місяць тому

      he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

    • @JessicaAnotii
      @JessicaAnotii Місяць тому

      I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤