An Interview with a Sociopath (Antisocial Personality Disorder and Bipolar)
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2020
- Dyshae is diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder. People with this condition are often referred to by the media as a “sociopath” or “psychopath”. Dyshae wants others to know that it is possible for a person with this disorder to become better adjusted to the world with the help of intensive therapy.
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I like how he mentioned that emotions are trumped by logic, and then they use that logic to recreate emotion. Like someones grandma dying, you don't feel it, but you do understand what your response should be. It sounds exhausting tbh.
It really does, I feel bad he has to live life putting on these acts. As long as he chooses to be around other people, he has to go through these motions like it's a job or chore. All the things we do/say without thinking, hundreds of interactions we have a day that are mostly driven by feelings and emotions, and he has to act allll those out based on what's appropriate. His friends & family have to live life understanding that they are just of some benefit to him in some way that isn't related to emotions. I know he has no way of feeling the difference but I'd feel awful if I had to live like that.
Sympathy or what researchers call cognitive empathy
it's just a response, it won't make you feel anything, it's just how "society" has decided that we should respond, at some point it's seared in your mind and you don't actually need to think about it, but early on, yeah, it's brutal.
@@Merinzify Well no, there are social aspects to empathy, but understanding that other people feel things and matter, and not just you is intrinsic to most human beings.
My girlfriend understands emotions this way , it makes her very cold and exhausting to deal with
I am a psych nurse. I've seen sociopaths "in action." He is very self aware and I truly doubt he is being manipulative on this video. Kudos to him and his therapist. He is aware enough to know he needs to seperate himself from others to keep others safe, FROM HIM.
He manipulated you into thinking that. That's what he does.
@@xfallofmanx oh so you must be a psych nurse. You must be an expert on this
@@xfallofmanx 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Facts
@@neckbackcripplinganxietyattack The whole deal with sociopaths is that they're very good at convincing you that they're being sincere. That's the whole point.
How did you pass psych? Because you suck at it. You fell right into his trap. You of all people should know that words don't mean anything and actions are what matters. He can say all of that stuff but then he'll go and do everything he said he wasn't going to do. That's the whole point.
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How do i reach out to him? Is he on Instagram
this guy has more emotional intelligence than some people here crying about how bad of a person he is for having a disorder lol. good for Dyshae for getting therapy and learning to know himself and how to go through life in his own way
I might be wrong but I think they have a really good emotional intelligence, they just don't really care how others feel and their mind works more based off of whats right than how somebody feels. I could be completely wrong though.
@@balznack you are
@@devilmaycrysarockingdontcome correct me please
@@balznack nah u's rite
Facts I guess
Shout out to his therapist for helping him find and know himself on such a deep level. And major shout out to to him for being brave enough to take that journey into self discovery and awareness.
SHOUT OUT TO HUMANS WHO CAN OWN THEIR BS WITH OR WITHOUT THERAPY.....
@@charlieholiday374Exactly what I said friend.
Shout out to his therapist for helping him find and know himself on such a deep level. And major shout out to him for being brave enough to take that journey into self discovery and awareness.
Yeah his self-awareness is incredible. It shows that therapy and reform is necessary. I have a bias with narcissists and sociopaths because my mom married him and he was borderline abusive in every way and had no self awareness. Its been eight years since we got him out of our lives and I am still not mentally okay. After watching this video, I’m glad not all sociopaths are inherently evil or exactly like my former stepdad. It would be great if everyone with these types of personality disorders could get the help they need and become as self aware as the guy in the video because then less people would get hurt by people with these disorders who don’t have self awareness or get help. I love how the guy in this video is aware of how his actions affect others and he is trying not to do that.
@@NoLefTurnUnStoned. you worded it better than the OP
“When you’re quiet as a person to they kinda forget you’re there” true, you can obtain a lot of info just by being silent and observing
Don’t understand - “When you’re quiet as a person to they kinda forget you’re there”. What?
Life of Scorpio
@@jahhgottigzz8776 If someone is a gemini and they are exhibiting these traits beware........
@@laurenanderson7330 well it's exactly like that. If someone is really quiet in a group setting, you hardly notice their presence hense you kinda forget they are there. Think about a classmate as an example.
@@yasmino6387 were they meant to write “too”?
This is the deepest interview I saw in this channel so far. The sincerity in his words are so brutal and yet so revealing. He should be really proud for taking this step and speaking out, even stating that his motivation wasn’t to reach the average audience, it really touched me.
😊😊
If this is true at all and not another manipulation lol
@@Wasp239 lord y'all are so callous for absolutely no reason
@wasp sincere or not his points makes sense
@@fortunamajor7239 Unfortunately, most people speaking out about this obvious possibility are speaking from experience.
I'm not ASPD but im autistic and what he said about empathy really hit home. A lot of people say I'm empathetic because i am caring and usually nice but i never really "feel" empathy for anyone and i really struggle to feel or think what i'm "supposed to" when good or bad things happen. I wish him luck, just lacking empathy makes connecting to people hard and i cant imagine having aspd on top of that.
autistic people feel empathy, they just struggle to connect because a lack of understanding social cues. but they have actually often deeper empathy than neurotypical people. sociopaths and narcissists r the disorders that actually lack empathy.
I have the exact same thing! I do wish everyone the best, but I'm never emotionally involved. Just can't seem to form a connection or bond with people. I could go a year without speaking friends or fam and im just fine. I do feel a strong connection to some animals. I've had 2 dogs, sold them after a couple of years because I lost all interest in them. Now I have one, a little chihuahua, and its the first dog I feel genuine love for. I take real good care of her. I don't want kids for that same reason, imagine not being able to love your kid, or starting to feel annoyed with their presence after a while... It's sad sometimes, but im a happy and unbothered person overall.
My brother is full on autistic & I noticed as an adult he doesn't have empathy. He can apply it. But he's still a good person overall like you.
@@nickpeterson1778
Autistic people do have empathy but lack cognitive empathy. We don't really understand emotions very well, and we can't usually describe them either. Well, that's in my experience anyways, we're a spectrum, so I can't say all of us are like this, but most I know are, and I am one.
I'm autistic and I feel the same.
When do You hear about sociopaths? When they do something bad. You never hear about the way they live and the life they have before they break down. These people don't appear out of nowhere, they are real and have history. It's important to know them and for them know themselves. Shout out to this guy for being Brave and sharing part of his story
Plus it's very hard to get them to a point of receiving a diagnosis. It's similar to Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It's extremely hard for Narcissists to open up to the possibility that they have a personality disorder due to the nature of their disorder. While Sociopaths essentially end up masking until they are exhausted and can't anymore, so they live their lives thinking this is just how it be and those around them live in ignorant bliss unless they're close enough, long enough. But also, we tend to hear the worst case scenarios of any mental illness and disorder. But many are very 'high functioning'.
Thank youn
Yes !!! ❤️❤️❤️
Do sociopaths know they are sociopathic?
@@user-zy9yg2eu5t they get diagnosed.
Imagine if everyone in the world was THIS self aware. His honesty and self awareness is beyond me
Exactly
@@foxleyleon there’s nothing unadmirable about him. He didn’t choose to have this disorder, but the way he deals with it and is so self aware, more than any of us will ever achieve
@@foxleyleon We admire certain traits, does it matter to you?
Yeah I really admire the way he handles it! I haven’t had a proper diagnosis yet, but I research a lot of psychological trauma and disorders as a result of relationships between children and parents, and I find these things really fascinating, but yeah I know there’s definitely something wrong with me, but I can’t pinpoint it just yet. (gonna bring it up to my therapist when I realise what it is). Anyways, unfortunately, I have a lot of obtrusive thoughts as a result of my family dynamic and issues within. Sometimes doing harm to myself and my family. I’m just grateful that I have boundaries and limits and understanding about why I have these emotions I guess? Idk it’s just kinda admirable to see that someone else who knows and has boundaries and limits to make sure that they don’t harm anyone and they don’t get harmed themselves.
@@foxleyleon I don't think you understand what being an empath means cause you wouldn't be under this comment section judging others for being open and vulnerable about their weaknesses.
Ohh... at first glance he looks normal but when you look at the body language you can spot it. He smiled and his face changed to show pleasure in what he was talking about. He's very genuine and open about his diagnosis.
This guy is extremely articulate. He did an EXCELLENT job explaining and making the listener understand his actions and how he feels. I feel very sad that he cannot remember the last time he was happy nor does he see love as a possibility
Well he doesn't seem to care about happiness at all. You're projecting your own needs on him.
But still the empathy is surely nice :)
@@BirdNatureViewpretty sure he does care about his happiness. He just has different needs in order to be happy. Everyone has a different definition of happiness, but they all want to feel it.
He does not feel, he thinks and reasons, your comments show you cannot get past that.
@@psefti He himself mentioned having had bipolar episodes filled with emotion. How would you reconcile that with your view of how he operates?
@psefti everybody must feel on some level, no matter how buried the feelings. That’s what I believe.
if everybody implemented this level of self-reflection, the world would be a much better place
This guy deserves everything this disability sends his way
It will take a lot more than that to make a significant difference.
Yes it would be
so true. This guy is super smart and aware. I like it
Yeah that should include you too 😉
I respect that he did this interview. He didn’t have to. He is clearly very intelligent. It seems that he has a good therapist who genuinely is trying to make his quality of life better.
he reached out to be able to do this interview. seeking attention.
@@MegaSmk you could say that about everybody interviewed on this channel.
Why are you praising his intelligence?
@@DogDogGodFog I didn’t “praise” his intelligence. It was just my personal observation that he seemed to be fairly articulate and pretty intelligent. I didn’t ask anyone to agree with me.
@@KarlaElaine100 I mean, it was obvious that he was intelligent. People with this personality type will generally be more intelligent because they'll look at life from a more technical than emotional standpoint.
I have seen this video probably 20 times over the years. Thank you for speaking ou and as someone with ASPD myself, your massive amount of insight has helped encourage me to know that I'm not less than, just different. Thank you so much to everyone involved.
What’s it like if you don’t mind me asking?
@@Steezealwayshe probably doesn’t really have it. People like to assume they do if they have a day where they feeling mean.
@@Iwinnuu Don't say that when you don't know
@@Iwinnuuso you assume all people with ASPD are mean?
@@vampierv not assume it’s absolutely factual
This interview rubbed me the wrong way the first time I watched it, however, I believe now that I'm rewatching it its because it reminded of myself. It took me a long time to fix my ways, but I used to actually enjoy manipulating people I viewed as weak. It was hard to hear, but I'm glad I rewatched it and got reminded of how far I've come.
It’s amazing to come out the other side of a mindset and look back at how you acted. It’s like you have different people living eras of your life. I’m really happy you’ve made an effort to decrease the amount of suck in the world by working on yourself ❤
Ur just stingy
May I ask what type of characteristics or what behaviors from someone that make them appear to be weak to you?
Wow, same here
@antrinh4230 me personally & no I haven't been diagnosed but I tend to look at body language. I play this lil trick wit my eyes where I tend to look down with out any contact & if I can see or feel you look at me I stare at u intensely & if you look away it makes me think you weak. How you respond to my presence can make think you're weak it's a range of different circumstances
It’s shocking to see how unprepared our world is to treat people with this kind of disorders, and also to make a room for them. There’s so much we haven’t figured out yet…
Rigghhht. It needs to stop being so stigmatized so they all can get the things they need.
@@flygirl1297 maybe if they DO get the right support instead of being demonised and punished they might not be so antisocial. I've studied criminology and most of the people in prisons have antisocial personality disorder. Its a psychological and/or psychiatric issue brought on by multiple traumas, neglect of all kinds and various other things compounded. It is hard to sympathise but the majority of these people aren't born like this, they become this. Some are neurodivergent and because this is not picked up and supported, coupled with abuse, neglect and lack of opportunities, they learn inappropriate ways of relating and behaving. Inappropriate socially, but when you look at at from the micro to macro perspectives, it all makes sense.
I also think the real or really dangerous, 'psychopaths' and sociopaths are not the ones in the prison or treatment populations, they're the ones in successful careers in the mid to top levels of hierarchy. The former two are unfortunate, unsuccessful 'deviants'.
@@nopenope1834 yeah, being made the outcast does not help them at all. A lot of the most prolific serial killers have had similar disorders, which def was excelerated by childhood trauma and abuse making it hard for them to know how to relate to ppl. They're not able to express their corrupted thought patterns bc they r instantly deminized. It's really sad & does nothing to help anyone. a lot of mental disorders come about due to circumstance. I have BPD & it's stemmed from childhood trauma, & I'm lucky enough to be able to have the resources to manage it.
@@flygirl1297 I'm glad to hear you have the support and resources. Sadly, many people don't. I always throw my two cents in as a person with lived experience (PTSD/trauma, addiction) and some formal education; because the demonisation occurs from two ends, the general public who may not understand the disorders well (and fall for the fear generated by media, whether news or entertainment), and the other is the educated professionals themselves, they can do a lot of good, but some of them do not understand the lived aspects or have their own moral prejudices, which impact how they perceive and treat these disorders. So im all about educating people within my capacity, where I can.
It's so hard to find videos of people with antisocial personality which makes learning about it hard. That's why this video is so valuable because we get to see it from their perspective.
I have two friends with ASPD haha, they’re not bad at all XD
@@josanishere1384 :0
@@Lily-gz3ip ?
@@Lily-gz3ip What?
@@josanishere1384 its just an emoticon
I am struggling with how much I relate to this man's experience of wanting a reliable source of attention, affection, and self-improvement despite having to imitate, accommodate, and compensate at all interactions. Thank you SBbSK. I really enjoyed seeing him make peace with his condition, because I am still warring against mine. Chaotic is the best word to describe it.
I myself have seen many traits of myself in him but I believe due to abuse I've never really had any outbursts I just kind of sit in the background and use others to get what I want. I'm aware this is wrong but I just don't know anything else. Are you similar?
This brother is very aware of his condition. This is such a good interview, I've learned so much.
Even if he doesnt feel real remorse, he has the balls to admit that what he does isnt doing any good to anyone even to himself, I respect him for that, i hope he finds the way and balance to overcome the way he choose to develop his personality to feel in control in current society.
He admits he's had this disorder as far back as he can remember. Some people are just born incapable to feel empathy/sympathy, remorse, guilt, and even love. But that said, most sociopaths these days are willingly sociopathic; flaws of character, not a neurological dysfunction like this guy.
Based
Dont fall for it. This whole video is a part of his game.
He's playing with your emotions. He has cast a net to see what he can catch and manipulate. He would have hurt a lot of people.
@@dancruz4635 How exactly do you know that he is doing this? What evidence do you have that proves he is doing exactly what you say? Otherwise you are just making assumptions about him, perhaps he is trying to be as much of a good person as he can, perhaps he is in therapy, rare for this disorder, trying to learn how to cope and how to interact with people in general. You don't know him, yet you are judging him based on his diagnosis.
He's so intelligent that I couldn't let go of my skepticism that he is actively manipulating and answering with what he thinks we want to hear.
Same
Now I’m wondering if I’m being naive, but I can tell he is being open
he would tell that's wise from the sounds of it
I could see him struggle to tell the truth at least twice during the interview. It must really be hard for him not to take advantage of people. I’d be lying if didn’t say that a part of me thinks all men have this disorder. Definitely a few I’ve known.
@@passionatebliss4591 well, 1 in 4 people are sociopaths, not all of them are diagnosed tho, they are everywhere, EVERYWHERE
My brain imploded after watching this interview. The questions asked and answered… I am speechless. Homework was done on both sides. Thank you to both. I feel less neglected and ostracized from this world. The way both were able to articulate their thoughts and views was impeccable. Thank you to both, I wish I had the words to express my gratitude. Thank you.
He's blessed in the fact that his level of understanding his issues are so beautiful. But I see tears coming through. You are proof that we can all change.
My partner of 8 years has antisocial personality disorder and he is an exceptionally good person. Like Dyshae, he runs off logic and not emotions, but since he has good values it doesn't matter. It's just another way of getting to the same results. I wish we as a society were more understanding and considerate of people's different processing systems, instead of neglecting, stigmatizing, and shaming them
God bless you Jordan! This is the best comment I’ve seen!! My goodness, the world would be so much better if we took the time to truly understand differences! How boring would it be if we all thought the same, processed the same, etc? I’d like your comment a thousand times if I could!
It certainly isn't easy dealing with people like us on a daily basis. I applaud your patience and empathy.
yess!
This passed Tuesday
Finally an educated and thoughtful comment about this. Whatever is happening in their brain to make them this way isn’t their fault. It’s their actions that they are in control of and determine their morality. Most don’t even realize this and I also wish they would stop judging things they don’t understand.
"Knowing others is intelligence, Knowing oneself is true wisdom" - Laozi
The guy knows himself and i'm glad he's taking a logical approach to help earth and humanity.
He doesn’t care about the good for earth and humanity though. He only cares about what he will get out of it.
He knows shieeeet, fuckall nada sheeeeesh
His therapist is the key here, clearly she is a brilliant therapist
No one knows themselves. It’s a myth.
@@mark_lhr3 that might be the dumbest comment i've ever heard, people who go through intense psychedelic experiences can know themselves down to the fabric of their place in the universe
It's good to see a fellow self-aware and thriving person with this disorder. I've spent most of my life being demonized for things I just couldn't control or understand. Ever since I learned how to make my actions align with my morals, I've been living a happy and fulfilling life. I could never understand why the things my instincts told me to do were making everyone around me so upset, no matter how hard I tried. Yes, complex psychological disorders can be very trying on their families and loved ones, but remember that the world is full of good people fighting an invisible battle every day out of genuine care for the world and people around them.
How can you have a care in other people if you don´t feel emphaty ? This sounds like BS to me. You changed because it suited you more long term.
@@sierraecho884 what a horrid comment. the world will never change as long as people like you are around
@@sierraecho884 Does that mean they didn't care?
@@princewith1000friends They do care, about themselves a little. But generally speaking no they don´t care. They are more like an computer all logic no heart. They care if they get power money etc. If they care about others it´s because this giv them somehow an upper hand to get what they want. For instance if they want to influence you and they know you care they will mirror that and make an impression as if they care. If you measure they brain function they don´t thou. It´s not because they are evil though it´s just they way they are born.
Wow. Extremely self aware and although he may not have “empathy”, he is able to think logically and out the world into perspective in order to limit his damage on others
Thanks god he came to the conclusion that "being nice" is a better long term strategy than being manupulative. Those people are a serious danger.
@@sierraecho884 What if you end up having a child that happens to be one of “those people?”
Ngl, I’m sorry but he’s lying when he says that. I’m legit him, like I’m legit that guy, and it’s a daily thing. Maybe major manipulation was a year ago but minor is an every day, every interaction
@@Punicia Sociopaths are not born sociopaths. You can't have a sociopathic child without making them one.
There are different types of empathy. There's the more recognized emotional one but there's also a logical empathy, like asking yourself "what would I do in that situation".
You can tell this person has done a lot of work to get to where he is right now and how self aware he is. That takes so much mental energy like you wouldn’t even believe. He should be incredibly proud of himself for the amount of self awareness he has... he has more self awareness than most people... but he has to in order to make it work in his life.
As someone with ASPD you wouldn’t believe what it takes to get this self aware 🤬
Not necessarily, some people are just naturally self-aware. And I think sociopaths are more prone to be self-aware because no emotions cloud their judgement.
@@Rooiku I don’t agree with this, but i appreciate your input. If folks with ASPD or NPD were more inclined to self awareness than I don’t think that line of thinking behaviour would be considered a mental health issue… which it is and is in the DSM-5. ASPD and NPD comes about as a protective mechanism I believe… similar to how other personality disorders come about such as Borderline. Also I respectfully disagree with you when you indicate that people with ASPD don’t have emotions to cloud their judgment… well actually they do have emotions but again those emotions are essentially in survival mode 24/7 overly protecting themselves by any means necessary at times. That’s not me giving an excuse for their behaviour because no.
So I do feel it’s offensive to negate these things when having a personality disorder no matter what one is incredibly challenging to deal with and you have to continue to try to overcome it every single day.
APD / Bipolar if controlled is especially powerful and is the GOD, KING, and Ultimate WARRIOR gene. A lot of us cannot feel fear when fighting and see anyone who challenges us as funny because we are so powerful feeling when manic especially. The more primal ones like me just love a challenge and a fight to the death makes our mouths water. We are a different breed. Just how Dogs are domesticated wolves, we bipolar are the Wolves in a modern domesticated world.
@@ironwolf4087 Mr Wolf, you are right on some things but I suggest "taming" yourself. This "power" if you will is a tool for success if you let it be. Or you can choose to be immoral and distasteful and waste it upon yourself and society.
His advice was perfect for anyone. Trust should never be automatically given. That is madness.
Let me remind you of a basic rule in traffic. You have to see the other as a capable car operator, if everybody expects the other to behave dangerous there would be accidents all over the place because people would feel the need to preemptively compensate the stupidity of the other.
@@user-xq4st9ie7r given, that's more road etiquette than cultivating relationships. relationships often last longer than a one time encounter on the road
I didn't even trust him throughout this interview. When the interviewer asked if he had been sized up by the interviewee and the guy said "not really" I knew he was lying through his teeth. I wouldn't trust this guy as far as I could throw him....ever.
@@charlottesmom He did say he sees the therapist as beneficial and so has no need to try and scam him. Like, he's surely considered it because that is how these people function, but I think the question was more about it being an intentional thing.
But it's a good idea to never trust these people. They will only tell the truth if it is either beneficial or fun for them.
@@user-xq4st9ie7r Tbh never happens. Only time I get close to accidents is when I don't compensate. Otherwise a lot of issues are averted.
This interview is absolutely amazing. His honesty and ability to articulate himself about what's happening inside. I'm sure professionals have heard all of this but for us, it's so insightful and makes understanding why some things have been done in the past and why ppl do things we don't understand
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People like him are exactly why I say that being a good person has nothing to do with who you are, but your actions. He's actively trying to prevent himself from causing harm to other people even though he doesn't have the emotional understanding or empathy to fully know why, while many 'normal' people like him wouldn't be able to do the same. Respect
How do we know ?
But there truly is a logical reason for it, he kinda explained it a the end.
If other people are happy, know the truth and don't fear you/like you we all are better of because of the ripple effect it has. So instead of him having his emotions to guide him he had to reach the logical conclusion which is the reason why whe developled the emotions in the first place.
So to make it clear we are better of if everybody is the best version of himself he can be.
True! The pure fact he noticed that he himself is different than the rest is what I would call a miracle for people with this condition.
I don’t mean anything by this, but I feel like this comment suggests you’d be the type of person to be manipulated.
I agree with you that what’s he’s doing here appears to be “good” and I actually believe he’s genuine. However, you have to be very careful against giving sociopaths in your life any “social credits”, because they will use that as leverage to devastate you.
Maybe an example would be befriending someone after seeing someone rescue a puppy, and after a few months of friendship you give them a key to feed your dog when you’re out of town. They steal what they want, leave the door open, the let dog run away, and you come back a week later and learn that this person staged rescuing the puppy months prior to gain your trust. On top of the betrayal it doesn’t make sense - why did this person go through all that effort? Couldn’t they have just robbed your house without gaining your trust? Maybe you could’ve afforded to give them money up-to the price of the stuff they stole, so why did they have to do this and let your dog run away?
Just in my limited experience with ASD and manipulation, you have to be really careful about giving someone trust. That doesn’t mean you can’t believe or appreciate someone - I think this guy is being genuine and I am really happy he shared his story. You just have to be aware of the minute possibility they could manipulate you.
My sister was never diagnosed with ASD (maybe by now, I haven’t spoken to her in 10 years) but I strongly suspect it. And to be honest, when she did nice things that made me trust her (a pattern over many, many years), I don’t think she was necessarily being malicious. She was just building social credits knowing that I appreciated the things she did. And when a time came convenient for her to cash in (whether it was 1 month, 4 months, 8 months, …) she’d do so at expense to me.
@@stevebean1234I’m sorry for your experiences. I think this disorder may be a bit of spectrum and some people can feel shallow emotions, or feel a wider range of feelings other times. I feel this man is being genuine bc like he said, what would he get out of manipulating us in this moment? This is an older video, too
The idea that he sees people as vehicles for getting stuff he wants, and still have the empathy to WANT them to have the tools to defend themselves against people who operate like him, is honestly bizarre/awesome.
As he said. "It's a game and they lost"
Understand that it isn't that he has the empathy. He can't experience empathy, that's the hallmark of his condition. What happens is that there is a specific brand of therapy that is geared at helping a person with ASPD understand that the costs of hurting other people outweigh the benefits.
I believe its more like he is self aware that what he does is not correct, not really an empathy.
As he said, he does not feel shameful, but he knows it was inadequate.
i think he said that for us as the viewers watching benefit and not really for him. like he's saying it because he probably thinks that's what we want to hear.
therapy has allowed him to see it from both sides
What an incredibly well-spoken man. This has got to be one of my favorite videos on your channel. Much love to both of you.
Just learned about antisocial personality disorder in my mental health nursing class, and it's very interesting to understand Dyshae and love to see him being open and honest here, great respectful interview!
As a person with ASPD, he's far more "self aware and self actualized" than a majority of neurotypicals. It's take a lot of bravery, courage and confidence to open up about running game on people but distancing yourself to not take advantage on them. Society tends to ostracize individuals that have a different neurological processing, instead of realizing they're also human just like us. Props to Dyshae.
It was truly fascinating to hear about this perspective because it’s so different. I fully agree with you
Do you know about the dark triad? Where would you put yourself on that spectrum?
Especially in the Southern U.S.
@First name Last name 100% spot on. We all have free will, we are not machines
Everyone has different neurological processing
This guy is highly intelligent. He's figured out a way to be himself and still maintain his existing relationships through honesty and logic. (Understanding that it's logical to be a good person because it ultimately makes your life better rather than relying on emotions to make you feel compassion or guilt.)
Even people without sociopathy sometimes have transactional relationships, manipulate others for their own purposes, get mad at being disrespected, etc. There's just emotion thrown in the mix of that which obviously changes a lot of the dynamics.
I mean OFTEN have transactioanl or worse relationships
Nothings wrong with logic based thinking … I learned a lot from this intelligent being
most things or I would say almost everything is emotions driven and to a major extent transactional between humans. especially the relationships that we were not born with. If you really go down through the psychology of it you will find the reasons of why chose you have certain people in your life. Its all transactional!
We say we fall in love but even that is after a lot of "courting" and driven by fulfillment of certain emotional needs and if they are met we allow ourselves to fall in love with that individual. Transactional.
Seeing this I felt so great to see I'm not the only one like this. I have to fight the urge to not manipulate ppl, and it's not just for things or anything I can get it's just for the power 😭, so I also stay to myself unless I feel the person is stable enough to not get manipulated or try to plz me.
He's a regular human to me
being open about this was very brave, thank you for the interesting insights Dyshae
Thank you, Dyshae. I clicked on this video but then stopped and walked away from it three times because even though I am working on my own self awareness (for like the tenth time in my life) your words provided too clear of a reflection of myself and the easiest thing to do was walk away and deflect and pretend this isn’t me. But I came back each time after only a few minutes bc your truth spoke to my truth and honestly I’ve been struggling.
You guys seem very conscious about things the average Human is not. Seriously. Like you understand some things with more clarity 🙏
Basically you have compassion. But you understand, to some kind of degree, that everyone is responsible for their own emotions. That's amazing, because most humans Blame their own emotions on others or external happenings 🙏
@@LiveYourLifeWithJoy Well if you would drown, you'd probably panic. A lot of emotions are caused by habits or even instincts
He seems very self-reflecting and despite his disorders honest. Must be difficult to get along with life with these conditions. All the best to him.
It's extremely rare from what I gather and psychologists seem to say that even those diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder aren't as problematic or often hopeless as ASPD patients as they're almost always only there because they're forced to, or to put on appearances. Narcissists might be there for more self-pitying/victimising reasons but ASPD seem as a general rule to, unlike narcissists, actually be quite aware what they're doing to others is wrong, and often just won't care, and won't see their traits as a huge hindrance either. A good example of a portrayal of it is the Sopranos, they gloss over the actual diagnosis which is really just implied in a one off comment, but they put their research in and many/most genuinely lack both empathy and self control. It was a long time until I appreciated how much it actually does overlap with psychopathy and that they are essentially the same.
I think it's easier. He has no emotion. It's all logic and self- serving..he doesn't feel sadness, hopelessness and despair..
Yeah sociopaths can be very convincing, still better to stay away from people like that, for your own good, this guy could just be bull s... his way through this
Rare is the person with this disorder that can turn a lens of scrutiny on themselves. What makes sociopaths/psychopaths so dangerous is their refusal to admit they have a psychological problem. Kudos to him - he may not see it, but he must care about others in a roundabout way if he actively limits social interaction. I’m not sure what his reasoning is, but I applaud his honesty.
He explained his reasoning, he came to the realization that even though his actions benefitted him momentarily, it was introducing chaos into social interactions and society. He can logically understand that introducing this level of chaos into the lives of people who DO have emotional responses to the chaos is a negative thing. He can't understand the emotional repsonse, but hes come to the understanding that other people do and his actions can trigger these responses, even if he has no idea why.
I don't think it's scrutiny or any roundabout emotion. He's an incredibly logical thinking person and it makes logical sense that if he effects others negatively, (Not because he cares but because he says having friends and family in the long run is beneficial and describes it as an "equation" and "transactional) he should limit his interactions with them.
I think the diagnosis were a way for him to help understand himself better. Scrutiny would almost imply negative connotations and he doesnt feel positive or negative.
He even says he looks at harming others as a logically bad thing.
@@drdre4397 while you’re right, most psychopaths/sociopaths do not have that line of thinking, as it conflicts with their perception of themselves as more important than others. I think most know full well that their actions do not equate with bettering the world, and simply do not care. That is why this young man is unique.
It's not that they don't know that they have a disorder, it's that they dont care. Narcissists are more likely to refuse therapy because they think there's nothing wrong with them.
@@superunknown8613 their refusal to accept a diagnosis means they don’t believe they have a disorder, and don’t care how their actions affect the world. That’s why cases that their acknowledge sociopathic behaviors are so unusual.
This man demonstrates such strength of character for daring to become self aware. He knows exactly who he is and who he is not. It takes most of us a life time to discover that. I really hope he is doing well.
Wow. He is so articulate. He’s so intelligent. Good for him for doing everything he can to better himself. ❤
He must be naturally a good person if he is using his logic to benefit the world instead of creating more chaos and pain. Some people would do the opposite.
I actually appreciate him.
I'm just saying, you need to see him with his logic basically
you cant really say he is a good person because as you can understand his superego didnt developed at all, it just he is using his logic very well and he is pretty good at it
@@aslhanozer8546 Yeah that's literally all he has, logic. This is why people like him are always so smart. It's like if one of your senses gets damaged your other senses get heightened. He can't feel emotions so all he uses is logic.
I agree with you. Despite his diagnosis, he’s able to choose to stay to himself so he doesn’t harm people. That speaks volumes
Some? Probably majority?
It breaks my heart that his solution is basically just limit social interactions. It’s important to remember that sociopaths are victims as well, to their own brains. Often due partially to horrible childhood circumstances. I hope he’s doing relatively well. None of us would trade brains with him in a heartbeat. No one asks to have an abnormal brain.
You obviously don't understand that he is not interested in social interactions. He feels no empathy and he doesn't need friends like you do. He is not a victim!
@@katrinmeier6371 He has said he limits his social interactions for the sake of other people. ASPD and other disorders, like BPD and NPD, are caused by trauma. He may have had some childhood trauma that caused this disorder. Please be more respectful. People with these disorders are still people. They are still human. They still deserve respect and kindness.
@@estheroudewesselink5508
He also said, that he is mainly interersted in manipulating others, not just hanging out and making new friends.
It’s hard because it’s part of you, you have to keep controlling it you can never fully get rid of it.
Seems like he will be willing to increase his social circle with the help of therapy. And he sounds like he has a close circle of friends and family too already. He did emphasize its important for people to know him.
That took a lot of courage. Dyshae should be proud of himself for sharing this interview with others. His wisdom and hard work can help inspire other people, who are challenged by these mental health conditions.
He is an articulate and inteligent man. I hope he continues to be an open book like this. His sharing is super helpful
Proud of the guy. He understands that using people is wrong and distances himself from people that he deems 'weak'. Not a lot of people have the guts to admit that kind of stuff.
You’re right but even during this interview he could just be attempting to manipulate the interviewer and audience for some reason, I feel like he’s being honest though but it’s hard to tell.
@@BrushEm did you watch the whole thing?
@@Bendanna93 ye
Psychopaths and sociopaths are incapable of seeing things as "wrong" he probably thinks that doing those things just isn't beneficial for him overly all.
@@ollehkacb That's definitely not true. He said in the video that he's aware that his actions are hurting other people. He calls it "low frequency actions". He knows.
It would be interesting to see 2 people who are diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder have a conversation and see how they interact with each other. Even more so to see if a relationship could be possible between 2 people with the same diagnosis, who could relate to each other’s experience.
This interview is fascinating.
more common than you think... honestly would be okay with that. they would be infinitely easier to read. everyone lies, thats nothing new. its the logic behind it.
Trump and
Melania …narc couple.
They usually co exist very well. I believe we recognize our "own kind" and have an understanding of how we view each other.
I was thinking the same!
yes!!!
This young man is very knowledgeable and I can tell he has a great therapist and just the fact he is so open and honest about his diagnosis gives me hope for my loved one... Thank u sir!!!! ❤
This guy is very brilliant in many ways. I applaud him for his self awareness and not wanting to impact anyone’s life in a negative way. Very well spoken and understood him completely. I haven’t been diagnosed with anything myself, but I found myself relating to this young man in a lot of ways. God bless this brother for coming out and voicing his reality.
As someone with autism, I can almost relate to him in that sense of not understanding these extreme cases of emotion. Dude is actually pretty normal and good on him for showing us that APD isn't just killers and bad people
No he's not normal
@@Joey71420 he doesnt choose to be like this. if what he says is true (limiting social interactions etc.) then hes doing the best he realistically can. doesnt matter if he isnt normal, hes living the best possible way he can and thats respectable
He isn’t wrong . People like that ARE annoying.
@@Agnius432 what you comment is very absurd. emotions are human nature whether male or female. Men also empathize like women but the way we express that empathy is different.
it's ASPD*, but yeah
19:37 he basically broke this down perfectly. We have to forgive ourselves for being manipulated. Just because we have fallen for things does not mean we should stay mad at ourselves. Forgiveness really is about forgiving ourselves.
Exactly it really is
It's crazy that he has more insights than actual person with high empathy levels
@@laniakeas92 Empathy is learned, after all. He is a person too.
I love his outlook and it's wonderful how much finding a therapist can help.
He's not a bad person. He's getting help, did this great thing that helps people see what his life is like. His self-awareness is wonderful.
Manipulation, sociopathy and narcissism are words that are thown around quite a lot.
"forgiveness really is about forgiveness" ?
Yeah I thought that was a cold hearted answer at first, but the more I think about it the more I realise how right he was.
Learned much from this. Our traits are neither good or bad, it is our awareness of our traits and how we use them/ not use them that matters. There is much good intention and energy in this video- and I am so encouraged by it. I love the part about forgiving ourselves. This is a true Insight, a deep one that comes from deep contemplation.
He’s so articulate and considerate - you can see him working out his answers calmly; it must be hard to answer that many personal questions so fluently and rapidly.
I also like how you sit with the guest on the sofa now and again, it brings a levelling effect in your interviews - you’re both on the same ground etc.
I’ve never seen someone articulate this level of self awareness. Definitely appreciate this video.
He's actually evil
@@Bambotb do u know him personally?
@@Bambotb like you?
@@Bambotb every1 is, u aren’t a perfect angel stop hating and get inspired. U come off envious smh do better
That’s what 2 years of therapy does. I have also had the same (for a general and social anxiety disorder when I was a teen) It makes you extremely self aware and I’m now helping my boyfriend with his mental issues. Go to therapy people it’s so worth it.
He is more self-aware than many of the so-called "normal" people he refers to.
Because it's easy to compare their level of normalcy with people with his "condition" to remain ignorant to what can be improved with them.
He’s probably also been to a therapist while most people of demographic simply have not
Absolutely self-aware.
all surface level manipulative behavior. probably completely different behind closed doors
This was amazing to watch. He should be very proud of how well he described his mental health. He is very likable and very calm
Wow, "low frequency." That's deep. I appreciate Dyshae's openness and vulnerability as well as the host's courage and openness. Love this channel! The world needs more authentic interactions like this without judgement. It's a beautiful thing.
As an ASPD individual, I was told I feel no emotion or empathy toward anyone, which is why I have no default moral compass to work with. I can do the most awful crime: (insert crime here) and just keep going about my day, as if it was nothing. However, I won't because my parents taught me right from wrong. I follow thier codes because they are morally inclined people and I trust thier decisions on how to live life. I'm constantly told that I should be lucky I had such 'grounded' people in my life because someone like me could be very detrimental to a society. Like this man here, I limit my social interactions. I'm interested to see that there are ASPD people out there, who are trying thier best and that, like me, they are choosing to function in a way that isn't going to be harmful to others.
Can you tell me the positive things your parents did while raising you? Things you found worked well and things that didn't.
I know that people with ASPD tend to have trouble as children growing up.
Any particular event you remember your parents handled well?
I'd appreciate your answers.
@@xxxcxxx2253 I'd like to hear it too...
Dope… you are very fortunate to have a family who loves you, even though you may not feel the same things that do, it’s a good thing you have people with a moral compass to emulate, or as you said, a person with aspd, such as yourself, really could be detrimental to society…
good on you and your parents
What happens when you face a situation your parents haven't shown or explained to you?
Glad that UA-cam finally opened the comment section. A very interesting and much needed discussion. Hope he's doing good.
SBSK commented on a different comment that he's into gardening now!!
@Eric Harris pretty lame username and profile pic
UA-cam doesn't close comments the video owner does
24:11-24:24
@papachinggy True, I clicked hoping that because I had seen this before.
thanks to both of you for making this interview, it was absolutely fascinating.
the questions were just on point and prof the interviewee for being so honest and candid, I really learned a lot.
what an excellent interview, thank you for being so honest Dyshae.
I appreciate the exposure to such a stigmatized disorder. Hopefully have an opportunity to learn about others who struggles with the same if not similar challenges.
@Jennifer Coburn It's not a solution to fear and avoid them either. It'll only make it worse for them
@Jennifer Coburn they are still people. They fall through the cracks because of the fear others have, when really people should be focusing on getting them help, as therapy can often times make a huge difference. It won't make them develope more empathy but it'll at least help them realize why it's important to not just focus on themselves. The more awareness, the less fear and the less cases you will hear of people with this disorder becoming dangerous
@Jennifer Coburn not all people with this disorder are going to turn into horrible violent people. And I think the more you can get someone to talk about how their brain works like that, the more benefits it'll have. Therapy will help many people with this disorder. There are dangers out there, but there are dangerous people who have no disorders so it's not fair to single out someone with a disorder, especially when this man as much as he could have been deceiving everyone, warned about how they often do it, why, and even said he shouldn't be fully trusted. The best thing you can do is make them self aware and help help recognize the way their brain works and what it wants them to do. To avoid violence/hurting others in general. Once again they are still people, and doing nothing/not trying to help someone who may need it with this disorder is unfair, if not to them then to the people they may harm (not all people with this disorder are violent). You dont have to trust someone to hear them out or get them help. Edit: I'm not saying it's your duty to go out there and get people to therapy, however comparing all people with the disorder to parasites is unfair, as some do recognize the harm they can cause and try to stop it. Sure it's not because they feel bad for the person but they realize it isn't good for the world as a whole and society. Which is a good step.
@Jennifer Coburn Have you ever stopped to think that the stigma might be the very thing that makes them so dangerous? I mean I'm not saying they should be handled with kid gloves either but they are still people, and people that have a lot of potential if they can learn to work with their disorder. Painting them all as human trash solves nothing.
@Jennifer Coburn I think they do care about the stigma.
I wouldn't trust him outside of a controlled setting like this, but he explained himself extremely well and didn't sugar-coat anything. Everybody should watch this.
@@xxxexxxeamsmith5819 down astronomically bad
@@xxxexxxeamsmith5819 girl 😭😭
Yeah but him exposing himself just adds an element of complexity to his/they're GAMES!
What, or who, is being controlled in a setting like this, exactly?
@@Soren_Skarsgard Fr. Everyone wants to see a Power Dynamic that's not there.
This was absolutely mind blowing, and incredibly fascinating. I hope he is doing well.
I love how he’s very aware and educated on his condition
You can tell he doesn't let emotions obstruct his mental processes just by hearing how articulate and analytical he is about his own condition...
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@Mo highly? considering how hes going about his situation, mans been dealt a shitty hand
@Coo Chi Errrr... OK.
Everyone with sociopathy and psychopathy is, we feel a deep degree of pride off of our condition. You will believe you are better than others
@@goopguy548 Yup, that's one of the symptoms. Why would you manipulate and take advantage of others if you think that's bad...
I seriously appreciate his honesty. Much better than people who feign remorse. That hurts more.
the thing is that you dont know if hes honest, you never know with anyone
@@ChingelBopDingelFlop right . That’s why I can’t.
his reality is the one he creates in the present at that moment . he doesnt care. he just fills in whatever and tags along untill he takes what he needs. should you be in his way, well that sucks for you. if you happe nto not be in his way you will never know and jsut keep believing its such a sad story and so brave he come on here to do aaaaall of this for you guys. /s
@@PsykoFeen Who cares though, it’s not like they’re ever gonna meet him
He said that he did already, it's called masking, who would act like they had no remorse? Even murderers do that
Hes being genuine, love that he was so honest and explained himself very well. PROPS TO HIM! Thank you.
So proud of this young man. My son is 19 years old and a schizophrenic. Videos like these give up hope, and I'm sure it does the same for others. I pray that everyone who has a mental illness has a recovery. How brave of him for doing this video.
He managed to see himself as transparently as he able to see others transparently. That's quite a feat.
I see myself transparently too. And most ppl around can't handle it.
@@kriiigern777 deep introspection is a property of people rejected by society.
@@piranias That's the case for me, unfortunately.
As someone who has been hurt by someone with BPD in the past, I found his message "I hope that you can forgive yourself," and "it wasn't you, it's something that is wrong with me" to be strangely comforting.
Editing to clarify: I understand that BPD is not the same thing as Sociopathy (ASPD) nor Bipolar Disorder (BP), however ASPD and BPD belong to a class of personality disorders called Cluster B disorders. Often, there are overlapping patterns and symptoms and they all have significant descriptive similarities.
As someone who has BPD, I would like to reiterate that most likely it was definitely something wrong with the person, not you. We can be pretty mean and hurtful and callous sometimes which is not directed to any particular person, almost just whoever is in front of us or closest to us at the time.
BPD is hard to have but it is also very hard to be around and I'm sorry you were hurt by it and I hope you are doing okay
Yeeees, I felt the same way, some kind of mini resolution. I guess it's what I wanted to hear from the person who hurt me.
Agree
@@kydiasan21 That’s very kind of you to say. Admitting that you’ve been hurtful to those you love is a hard thing to do. It seems like you have put in the work to gain insight into your disorder and hopefully ease SOME of the mental anguish I know you probably feel. I was also abused by someone with BPD, so your words are impactful in a small way for me in my own healing process. I have a ton of sympathy for you. I’ll never understand, but I sympathize and hope you feel some peace.
@@kydiasan21 Hi, I'm a cluster b- NPD with a scattering of the others in the cluster.
My ex was BPD and I always thought she was hurtful to me because of my proximity to her - like getting caught in the storm. Rather than it being about me as an individual.
Is that your experience of it?
Very very very good and honest(if all❤) conversation.
Everything he said was amazing to reflect on. Search and find yourself.
I pray you both are still around. Thank you for this interview💞
Wow , this was such a great interview. So much knowledge to be had here. I hope he can lead a healthy, happy life that works for him.
What really got me is when the interviewer asked him the last time he felt happy, and he did not know. I never thought about people with APD in that way, and this gives me some empathy toward them. This interview was extremely insightful.
Wow yes I thought the same. I thought It was kinda sad to not be capable of experiencing happiness regularly.
Most people with this disorder have moderate to severe depression
They don’t have emotions so how can you teach happiness ? Like he doesn’t know what being happy feel likes therefore he can’t answer ! It’s like asking someone with good eye sight if they ever know how does person who need glasses see ? They will say they don’t know because they never experienced blurry vision
@@savvyinfo9762 they do feel emotions, some are more shallow than others. for example remorse, ppl w aspd lack it but if they do feel it, it’s shallow. that doesn’t mean they don’t feel emotions
@@oliverxhmll The that’s sad
I would personally be interested in an update video! Not sure if anyone else would be as well? 👍👎
SBSK commented on a different comment that he's into gardening now!!
@@daja9637 - That's so awesome! Thank you for letting me know! 🥰
I have found gardening helps with my anxiety. It is very relaxing. So glad he is doing well now 😊
I read on a reddit post that he got arrested for a violent crime. He said the guy was from his neighborhood.
Yes!!
Great honest interview. Thanks to everyone for their efforts on making this interview possible.
What I've learned from others is that accepting these "disorders" is life-saving to their person. Serious props to those who constantly fight these habits. We should see this more often. Make people aware who DONT have this going on. So important.
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I've never been diagnosed but I resonate a lot with this guy. I wouldn't doubt I have this. But for me. Having a label or diagnosis was only going to hold me back. I would use it as an excuse to not achieve something. I've learned disabilities often come with other abilities. I can dissociate on command and observe myself from an external perspective. Helps me to not do something unnatural. I've never known what to say to people when they say someone dies. Death is just as natural as birth. Body language was a huge thing I watched in people. I'm intelligent but I lack social skills. Emotions have only ever clouded logic in my opinion.
@@thomassilva7246 I've met someone explain all of this to me. It takes people on both sides to understand each other. It's so retrospective for you to recognize it and see how you can make situations easier for others. Even though you don't feel it, it's very selfless and means a lot to those who DO feel. I would know, I'm the opposite and feel EVERYTHING lol. That's a huge curse haha. Makes having a relationship with someone who has anxiety, depression, pschizo and narcissistic qualities, and split personality hard.
No. They treat life as a warzone and deserve to have that energy reciprocated
He would make a good investigator or law agent. Specially when in contact with manipulative criminals.
I thought the same ... so analitic mind.
I imagine he would excel in that career.
@@ktmmatt7243 Dexter
That's the Last thing he should do. People with sociopathic disorders feed off each other, thats why in group therapy, they're generally not allowed to associate with each other outside of that group.
@@Woodesies with that self awareness? Yes.
I really appreciate stuff like this. When people treat you badly, you can internalize it. You can get bitter and resentful. Hearing someone talk about their side of the interaction actually takes away the personal feeling. Puts a lot of people in my life in context. I have learned so much from the people who have come out to talk about what manipulation is like for them as a manipulative person.
Theres a lot of power in realizing why things happened the way they did. That it wasnt you; it was them. It definitely helps to cut through brainwashing and bitterness.
Clarity is the antidote to hurts caused by confusion
Props to him for the work he’s put but also shout out to whoever his therapist’s is!
If this dude straight up told me “hey your personality benefits me in some way, I’m going to keep you around and do stuff for you so we both have a beneficial friendship” I would 100% be okay with that
It’s actually more-so you doing more for him than him doing for you, but he will do his best to make it seem as mutual as possible
@@FlackoBrazy bingo bullseye right on the money !!!
@@FlackoBrazy you’re assuming I want materialistic things in return when really I just appreciate a deep thoughtful conversation from a friend. And I have nothing to give *except* my personality, so idk how he’d be able to pretend that it’s mutual, when its really not. but he said it himself, I’d have to be skeptical around him and really get to know him before I’d be able to identify when he’s manipulating me
@@lostinthewoods3918 Oh okay, but in that case he will just deem you unbeneficial and won’t enjoy your company or will just try to lower your self value. It’s all a mind game, sometimes narcissistic
@@lostinthewoods3918 your comments make very little sense from beginning to end. You created a scenario for yourself only to say the scenario wouldn't work on you
He is so smart and self aware. He should be proud of that. This is a very interesting interview and I'm glad to understand things from the perspective of the disordered person
Would you think hes so smart and should be proud if you find out how many people hes taken advantage of and how serious it was and how badly it affected those peoples lives?
@@akuma4u I am well aware of what disordered people are capable of. The reason why I mentioned that is because somewhere in the video he mentioned he is not proud of himself or someone wasn't proud of him. I don't remember clearly but I mentioned it because it was related to the video
Yeah, I think he might want to be proud for seeking help; a lot of people avoid therapy since it can be painful to deal with conflicts/challenges within one's internal self.
@@dianak0691 yes you're right! It is challenging and they probably have to relive some childhood issues as part of their therapy. Most people don't get any help even when they're self aware of their behaviour.
@@akuma4u cry
This gentleman is very intelligent and self aware! Thank you for sharing.
When he was speaking to ppl he hurt in the past I was waiting for him to give a “I’m sorry” or an apology, but he was very careful to stay true to himself. This was super interesting to watch.
He had to seriously think about it...he probably doesn't know what "sorry" means
Him thinking exclusively logically, "sorry" doesn't hold any bearing because it's already happened....in his mind he can only give advice moving forward to attempt to make things right
Yeah I respect him not saying sorry because if he did it's certainly not genuine
Yeah I respect him not saying sorry because if he did it's certainly not genuine
@@MrAvocadoMan it is still better than not saying it. If you were in a bad mood and don't smile at your mother just because you wanna be "genuine" that would be dumb. Sometimes politeness doesnt come naturally but you still should do it to be a better human and make people feel better.
This guy would be like one of those FBI detectives or police interrogators where they get criminals to incriminate themselves by manipulating them and pretending to be their friend.
Should be a lapd cop , make $100k+ doing what he does for free
Um, I’m not sure that’s a great idea dude.
you think an ANTI social person would work for the improvement of society? that’s a far reach and a big hurdle to overcome. i’d say he’d be the criminal himself, manipulating the fbi.
Columbo?
@@cassgray9340 sure it is
This was incredibly brave. Amazing. So proud of you, impressed and humbled by your example of courage.
Excellent interview, Dyshae. Thank you for sharing your story.
As someone who shares his disorder, self awareness is the only way to battle it.
The most difficult part by far is learning what is good and bad and what noises to make when having a conversation, it's so so so difficult!!!
UPDATE: I'm going through therapy and seeing some improvements, i feel i have a good recovery ahead of me. I'm excited.
What do you mean what noises?
@@Erin-ho8qu Like when someone tells you something that is supposed to make you sad you have to make the noise "awwww" and if its supposed to move you emotionally you have to go "ohhhh" and such.
I totally agree I’m finally 32 years old and finally understand my behaviors and I try my best to avoid triggers and I recognize I’m doing it but can’t stop. Mind over matter ive learned, or simply a shift in concentration
I'm currently trying to understand and notice my behavior, it's difficult. I keep going back and forth with my progress. Any advice to help out
@@supremeweeblord255 hey man it’s honestly as simple as treat others how you would like to be treated
If this man is reading these comments, I would like him to know that this video has set him apart from the mediocre. Sir, if you can continue to honestly articulate your thought patterns and relationship dynamics, you will help so many people - including others like you. Thank you for your candidness. You may not feel caring, but you are behaving in a caring way, and that is huge.
#1. He doesn't care #2. He is likely condescending towards you for thinking such a way and trying to empathise with him as you are inferior (in his mind) #3. What was the point of your comment if you knew he wouldn't care? You obviously are just vying for attention and just wanted to "say your piece", which is egotistical at the very least
@@chobai9996 i guess cho bai has all the answers
@@chobai9996 you are the only egotistical one here, pal. Matter of fact, YOU sound very much sociopathic based on just your train of thought in that one comment. Is that why you think you can explain how this man in the video would feel? You *know* bc you ARE like him?
I agree! I feel bad for him in a way. It’s so hard to be stuck in a constant battle within your own mind. You can tell that he truly wishes that he could be “normal” and he’s trying.
Yes that would make him caring, the fact that he did this most honest interview. It helped me alot.
Dyshae is one of the most articulate young adults I have ever seen. I hope you work with people to educate them in your life.
This was really a great vid! Hearing it from the horses mouth. Really appreciate the frankness and honesy. Definitely enlightening.Amazing how self aware of his behavior he has become and that he is learning from therapy.
Even though Chris is really attentive in his other videos, you can see that he REALLY has his guard up in this entire video, I mean as he should, but it's kind of cool to see Chris as less "happy go lucky" and "the fun guy" (not that these are problems mind you) and more of the "oh crap, I REALLY have to take this person seriously, because he could possibly manipulate me".
I wish someone else interviewed him.
I didn't watch his other video, but I really can feel that he's being tense xD
Yeah it's a bit annoying honestly
I wish he treated the guy like a human more than he did. Someone with ASPD are still humans with emotions and desires. They dont like feeling like everyone is afraid of them.
He did say he was afraid of his audience being manipulated, he's protecting himself and others. I guess that some of the people watching are vulnerable, so it makes sense to me.
I'm so happy they turned the comments on so we can have an educational conversation about it. to be honest, this kid is extremely intelligent and self-aware. "smiling disarms people" really stands out to me. "simulated emotions" pretends to be happy to make others comfortable. admitting he can't hide forever is huge because a lot of sociopaths are narcissistic in thinking they can and want to hide behind a marriage and children but he "limits interactions" and time with people
Exactly that’s what happens to me in relationships after a year or two it breaks down because I can’t just love or connect genuinely. It’s my biggest fear these days.. live a life missing out on what it is to be human.
@@frederickmacdonald4171 If you’re not already, seek therapy. You can have a fulfilling life with ASPD. Just don’t go seeking out relationships until you’re sure that you can achieve that kind of emotion, cuz that ain’t fair to either of y’all. It’ll just be wasting both of your guys’ time.
@@frederickmacdonald4171 i’m autistic and constantly mask. i don’t really know who i am, i imagine that’s something you also deal with? i have a hard time making connections because i feel like i mask so differently with different people that i’ll never be able to be “myself” around them. i would love to hear about your experiences, especially since ASPD is so stigmatized
i hope you find happiness with yourself and have a full life :)
what he can not help though is smiling when he doesnt want to. (which we all struggle with im sure)
Unlikely that he's highly intelligent. More likely that he's had extensive therapy that has helped him become more self-aware.
That was an amazing interview! Dyshae is the embodiment of the Taoist principle of wu wei. It's remarkable that he's willing to minimize his interactions - both to preserve his growth and protect others. Would love to see a follow-up.
Although I was a little off put by the interviewer, I am very proud of how transparent the interviewee was! I’m appreciate his level of self awareness, the tools he uses to benefit himself and others and the time he took to address the stigma around ASD
THE COMMENT SECTION IS BACK!!! i just want to express how this interview helped change my life. it helped me find some needed empathy and understanding. i was in a very traumatic entanglement with a person with the same disorder and this guy coming forward honestly helped me to process the situation a little better. Thank you!!!!!🙏
I BELIEVE THIS IS HAPPENING TO ME AS WELL.
Same here. It really puts things into perspective.
why was it ever shut off?
Same. This video helped me understand why he did those things to me. And that it wasn't my fault.
@@jasminnieo it wasnt
As an empathetic person my experience of life is almost the opposite. I feel so many things, and feel others emotions almost like they are contagious.
I really appreciate him explaining his perspective.
couldn’t relate more
I feel the same way, and I actually felt some envy during some moments of the interview for the way he experiences the world.
Me too
@humanity is a joke to our ancestors that sucks lol
@humanity is a joke to our ancestors very interesting. hope u figure things out