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MedCircle in court process now fighting with everything that I have to get my boys back. WHY don’t judges have to be better educated on this?? Hearing the possibilities of going up against him scares me more than my worst nightmare! How do we find help?
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Hi, I am definitely involved with a full-blown narcissist/psychopath in a civil criminal lawsuit and have 100s of videos of him saying the most egregious things. An example is he claims I have been a scammer all my life [nottrue] and another is that he posts videos that Ihaveflesh eating bacteria and when he does videos he does audio-only and even though it is his voice and his channel he denied it was his voice. it was very frustrating and its an ongoing case. the worst thing is he makes 3 + videos a day and all stating that he is not the person in the audio upload even lying to the prosecutor. So you are correct they really dont believe they do anything wrong because thus far he has gotten away with it. Even worse he made 50+ videos of how my ex-girlfriend is sleeping with many men [not true] she is getting married to her new boyfriend. He denies 64 audio and now video uploads on youtube saying hes just making commentary but in fact has no remorse for any of his deeds however the prosecution has been following him for a year now and knows he's lying. I will update you when its over. BTW, he calls may people wives ffing prostitutes bar girls whores and worse ... more that 20 that I can prove and he will go nuts even if you say his wife is a flying monkey...but she is and helps him on his shows. He has done all of the above to 20 people and again states he has never said a negative thing but only making commentary. truel you have nailed this topic. thanks for your insights
She is so educated in every facet of psychology that she doesn't even pause to gather her thoughts when asked these questions. She immediately has such a well versed and thorough explanation in nearly every response. She's such a joy to listen to and so incredibly gifted with communication.
@@michaellinder4945 my first instinct told me she was awesome but she is all the oppposite. I guess i must throw ny instinct away and find another one lol
It's not free. You are the product. They're relying on getting your attention so you eventually spend your money on stuff the advertisers want. All this content costs you money eventually. It's just far more indirect than it used to be.
@@monklingtoneverjet2536 it seems like he is huh? Hahah and hes like weirdly inquisitive about psychopaths 😂 looks like after every description of them hes thinking to himself "yea,that is how i am" lmaooo
I married a psychopath the marriage lasted 13 years! I am 4 years out but still working to find me and my life! I often think, “I wonder if I would have been better off if he accomplished killing me!” I live in a small town and finding counseling has been a joke! Your channel along with a few others has literally pulled me this far! I appreciate the knowledge I have gained.
Counciling can help, but only if a.) the therapist has empathy/kindness or b.) the therapist knows about cluster b. Just wanna let you are not alone in the world in your psychopathic findings. I dated a psychopath/covert narcissist. Lies, manipulation, cheating, you name it. I found what helped me heal most was research. These...beings...are not human. Whether that is from thousands and thousands of years ago with different cave species or a recent human evolution, who knows? But yeah, counciling can only go so far because either they are clueless, greedy, or a monster themselves. Again, just wanna say you are not alone. I remember that in itself helped the most.
There are lots of online resources like Dr. Gabor Maté, he has helped me so much. Books by Thich Nhat Hanh have helped me tremendously too. I really hope you can find healing, being in an abusive relationship is so tough and dealing with the residual effects too. I dated a sociopath for a few years and it really slowed my progress from healing from childhood abuse. I wish you the best♥️
I'm 28 years out. We have a 33 yr old daughter and 2 grandchildren. I've often wondered if I should have this conversation with our daughter. However, I think she understands something's not quite right about mom. She's very very smart but not scary like her mom. Point is having that experience is never truly in the past. Learn, be smarter, ( I like to say that I may not know exactly what I want but I've got a pretty clear idea of what I will not endure or tolerate.) Without exception, everyone's life is or will be scarred by tragedy. Pick it up move on live your life in such a manner that makes it clearly worth the FN trouble😉. In the event you're working through things?..... Endeavor to persevere.... Flourish. Hope that helps😐!
How can any human being store this much thorough information in their head and effortlessly articulate it on command with this much fluidity???? This lady is unbelievable.
Well done. Dr Ramani knows her stuff. She rarely says um. She is just chock full of knowledge and wisdom on these topics. We are gifted with this information, and it's so helpful.
@@yyeezyy630 I clearly do not watch that person. Ramani is a gifted speaker, and I think you can agree that a person using um repeatedly is very distracting to listen to.
I’m so appreciative that she is sharing her knowledge and expertise on a UA-cam channel. Fascinating to hear the difference in terms made so clearly. ☮️
But in a world with no emotional abuse, how would we know to recognize it? *EVERYONE IS A TEACHER* - by example or *non-example - the better of the two.*
@@newjersey-thesupertrucker No man, she just personally lived a lot of shit with these kind of ppl :) after a lot of abuse u become expert in the domain.
So true. It’s even more entertaining to see people start to love bomb you when THEY are in need. Lmao I’ve been thru it too mcuh that now it’s kinda funny/crazy to experience but separate from myself
@@towanda2947 I don't know if it's a genuine or lasting kind of feeling better about themselves, but I imagine that when they are complimenting someone with an agenda, they might feel a short term sense of being on their game and enjoying being successful at interaction. It's probably hard to correctly assume or generalize for them beyond that.
The primary traits of a sociopath are an inability to actually honestly care for another human being, to feel another's pain, to feel sorry (deeply, truly sorry) for the pain he/she causes you (or others), to feel real love, to feel any real obligation to the well being of anyone but himself/herself, to have a conscience, period. Some say sociopaths tend to be “very charming”. I disagree with this characterization. I believe, rather, the sociopath mimics what he/she has observed as “charming” behavior tailored specifically to the individual upon whom he/she decides to prey. Sociopaths get off on “getting one over on you”, on interacting with you long enough to figure out what you like/care about (be that your kids, your pets, your family, your music, your hobbies, whatever), then tailoring their comments and conversations with you to those topics to “reel you in”, feigning similar interests or interest in general, playing you like a fiddle until you think they're so cool or so funny … then, once they've gained your trust, start testing you little by little in more sick ways to see if you'll do things to please them. To a sociopath, who is easily bored, it's all a game. You are a joke to them. They are getting pleasure at your expense, even though it may take you awhile to catch on. But you should have some early instinctive feelings that “something just doesn't feel right about this”. Trust your instincts IMMEDIATELY. The longer you stay involved with a sociopath, the more you will come to feel demoralized and broken and, quite possibly, suicidal. To the sociopath, you (and the countless others upon whom they are preying - because, make no mistake, they typically have multiple victims going at one time, “the others” - who they're keeping secret from you), you are a source of ego inflating supply. Everytime he/she can get you to come running when they say they want you, get you to believe them when they say “they're done with all that ” (referring to whatever bad behavior you've discovered and confronted them with, behavior that has deeply hurt you), whenever you react to the pain they cause you by crying /breaking down/ pleading/screaming/cursing/sobbing … they are LOVING it. It's like you're giving them the best drug, the best high they've ever had. And they know they've got you … and you become an even bigger joke to them than what you were to begin with. You're no longer a challenge, though, frankly, which makes you easily dismissed by them. Just when you think you wont hear from them again, though, you suddenly will, with a text that seems innocent enough … and you may be tricked into thinking, at that moment, “See, he/she does really care!” But again, watch and live it out, if you must, but you'll only find yourself right back at devastation and heart shattering pain. The sociopath cares about NO ONE, period. Sadly, deep inside, not even himself/herself. They are people who harbor a deep inner self-loathing, whose core is made of empty nothing and hateful insecurity. But NEVER make the mistake of thinking - if only you could show the socipath how committed YOU are to him/her, how much you love him/her, how YOU believe they are worthy of love, you can fix their inner wounded child …. Blah, blah, blah. Just stop yourself, for the love of all that is sane. I beg of you. Because your best efforts WILL NOT work to achieve this end. Your best efforts, your repeated coming back to them like this, in fact will only affirm the sociopath’s view of you as a pathetic pawn from whom he/she can continue to get “supply” (the ego feed they desparately need to survive). You mean NOTHING to him/her. You never did. You never will. A sociopath is not curable. There is no medicine, no anti-psychotic, no antidepressant, no therapy (the sociopath would never engage it anyway) that can ameliorate this condition. The only thing you must do is take steps toward SELF PRESERVATION. And you must, because a sociopath will kill you eventually. Truly. Psychologically damage you so profoundly, if you stay engaged in any relationship with him/her over a substantial period of time, that you may never recover. I know this. I allowed myself to stay committed to one for 22 years. And I'm intelligent. But my belief in my own self worth plummetted to the most dangerous lows a person's self-value could plummett. If you recognize these traits in whomever you've begun a relationship with, just RUN. and never, NEVER, look back. Block all contact. Don't fool yourself, as I did for years after I finally said, “Get out!”, into thinking, “Well, he sent me this text. I mean, I guess we could be friends.” It doesn't work! A sociopath doesn't have friends. A sociopath gathers people for “supply”, and any acts of reaching out to you is an attempt by the sociopath to see if they can still hook you, whether you will stil be an easy source of “supply” to them. It is ALL at your peril and expense and ALL designed for his/her benefit. Run, run, and run. And never, never, never look back. Trust me. I KNOW the truth of which I speak. Additionally, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. 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its often depicted as "inability"... what if someone is intentionally non-empathic. Like someone who has his personal ideology to feel empathic only for a specific group of people and actively suppress empathy for others? For example someone who is really really egocentric or egoistic, but usually is able to be empathic. I can believe that many sociopath can very well know pain, fears and read intentions of others, but they decide consciously or subconsciously to not act on their emotions?
Quick response as you seem to approach this from a non-scientific standpoint. Logically speaking sociopaths are made from societal stresses. Once you remove this stimulant, then equally they are capable to become a fully functional human being like any "normal" person. Also note she is ignorant. There is a high proportion of psychopaths in society that are fully functional and she states the majority end up in prison this is false.
@@MissStrawberryGunif psychopaths weren't able to understand feelings they wouldn't be so proficient at manipulating others. They CAN feel and understand emotions. The difference is unlike so called "Normal" people they have complete control over their emotions. The truth is all these "experts" still only have a small grasp on psychopathy. Not all birds have the same colors. Those of us on the higher spectrum are fully self aware. Thus we are able to hone in on our weaknesses and improve them.
@@donhashugeballs sounds like a very silly grandiose delusion. 😂 never said they can't feel emotions. they can feel rage, for sure. they have COGNITIVE empathy. what classifies someone as ASPD is lack of being able to FEEL empathy.
Ok so based on this diagnostic video i understand here is where I stand as a single man (*JUST from the video)... Me: "Hi I wanna talk to you because you asked how I was, I wan't to be polite because you have been to me..." Female: Oh REALLY!!! I wanted you to be my Husband... Video: Oh he is playing prince charming and definitely a psycho. ...OK now flip that over Me: "Ok i see you looking at me but i'm just gonna ignore you, i'm busy and have no interest in talking..." Female: "Oh REALLY!!! I wanted you to be my Husband... Video: Oh he is playing with your mind and definitely a psycho. FFS *JUST F**KN CAN'T DO ANYTHING, IF YOU ARE A SINGLE MALE THE ONLY PSYCHOS UNLESS YOU ARE A SERIAL KILLER IS FEMALES, SAME WITH THIS STUPID B*TCH CONTROLLING THIS VIDEO, THE MAN IS A MALE B*TCH CASE CLOSED*
Bliss I think you might be a bit delusional in your ramblings here. You make a lot of sweeping generalisations which you’re probably not qualified to do. You’re also making a diagnosis of someone you’ve never met - President Trump.
@@bliss4383 You seem to have a bit of a disorder of your own. You post more and more / look we see you/ cant be arsed reading all that unimportant Crap you find and just take a chill pill calm down if possible. Or are you in need of Attention from people you do not even know. Bore somewhere else , thanks ... TDS is Real
@Queen Tantrum You just gave a clear explanation why she should not be your therapist, unless you're looking to please your senses i.e. a therapist who tells you what you want to hear or conversly the opposite "Here's what needs fixing about you. . ." And very likely if you can identify w that, then you probably know exactly the disordered thoughts or behaviors in your own life that need changing, as well as the practical choices available to your unique situation, even to a degree no therapist could *as accurately* conclude. At a certain point - it seems to me - the main benefit of therapy is to have someone listen as we reveal *TO OURSELVES* - painfully honestly - what The Watcher (id) sees you doing all the time, and may reveal either excessive self-criticism, or any degree of disownership of responsibility - or any point in between. The idea that a therapist could know me better than I know myself as I look in the mirror HONESTLY - I find to be implausible. The therapist's mission statement includes my willingness to submit to a kind of brain hack - i.e. psychopharmacological intervention(s) designed to help me *demonstrate behaviors* considered by _________ to be more "normal" or less problematic or stress-inducing for those around me. And the real problem is that we are mostly all capable under certain conditions of expressing the full-range of behaviors when our very survival is threatened. And the real threats of current wars/ nuclear warfare, govt bribery and corruption - can put all of us under that stress - w mostly predictable responses: The definition of CIA social psyops. It's like Hermann Goering said - The bigger the lie, the more times repeated, the more people tend to believe it ESPECIALLY if they are led to believe they are under threat of attack. Americans are being programmed for depression and or anxiety because it is such an easy manipulation at that point. Ex: "Bomb Syria. Label anyone who disagrees 'an Assad-apologist' and a Russian spy." becomes reality for soft- minds - and off we go down the capitalist rabbithole with Islam as the threat, when in fact te MIC is the greatest CREATOR of depression and anxiety AND is the greatest threat to mankind's survival as a species on earth. 1984 happened a looooooong time ago. *Blade Runner was November, 2019* and I'm pretty sure we all can spot a *replicant* Just sayin - you *may* start out lookin for a therapist, and end up saving humanity as we know it. *[Or maybe just masturbate instead?]*
@Electricfishfan *Touche.* BUT that doesn't contradict me pointing out - her showing her cards - so to speak - with her comment about avoiding "charming" ppl, while using several obvious "charms" i.e. affect displays, batting eyelashes, eyes wide, use of smile, hands sculpting air, etc etc. *She knows/worries that charming types may see through her mask of charms* - er so to speak. . . you gather my inference. Ultimately charms and makeup etc are a *distraction*
She might be well studied but it doesnt mean she will be good at treating patients. Another factor is "chemistry" ;finding a therapist to work with is like finding someone to have a successfull marriage with. Often being your own therapist is the best solution for the most part of your treatment.
1:55:46 this part makes me cry. How I wish someone, anyone, had picked up on my desperate cry for help as a child. But the sad truth is that no one did, and I have suffered tremendously for it. 15 years later I am now finally making some progress by daring to confess to a psychologist
Some progress?! This is huge! How many people on this planet dare to explore situations that are so complicated, so confusing, so traumatising. Little Robin has got YOU now. Sending you much love!
The way Dr. Durvasula talks about children always brings tear to my eyes, and what she said about that grief you feel when seeing other kids with caring loving families, the sense of having been robbed of that and a normal childhood, she got that spot on, bullseye.
The kids are the real losers in these situations. When I did in home therapy with families that were predominantly referred by child services I ran into individuals with these personality disorders regularly. It was terrible to see what was happening with their children. I ended up working with the child to help them know it’s not them it’s the adult’s issue & to look for their self-worth inside themselves. It was truly heartbreaking & something that will never leave me.
@@Kayster1971 ok.. if you have been dating one of these kids.. of course he is no longer a kid. But he is what I believe to be BPD with Cluster B Narcissistic personality disorder so what would that look like to a normal person? He appeared to be very honest at first, then the longer I'm around.. the more the odd outbursts and petty arguments. Bringing up a text message to a guy who sent a text message about giving me some d!€k and he would bring it back up over and over again throughout our relationship in order to make the terrible things that he would do to me alright.. and they wouldn't even add up. Like what he did was just not the same.. and how long he used it ..that one thing he could say was a mistake of mine. And he continued to use it to justify everything he did to me. Cheating, which he never admitted. But the fact that he was constantly starting stupid petty arguments just to leave me at home so he could run off and go to his ex who he was obsessed with. And he doesn't have any remorse.. and if he does, it doesn't have the same effect as it would have on me. He would look upset, guilty, miserable.. and then he would project and try to rub that onto me. I am empath. I have no medical training but I have dated so many messed up people. I am like a magnet to them. I have learned everything I know from my dating record.. he would be so sweet somehow but then same day and he would turn into an insensitive disgusting thing. And his whole personality would change by one single trigger.. and anything and I mean anything would trigger that change. But if he ever got caught doing something wrong then no matter what triggered him to change.. which also made him do the messed up thing to me... he would still use the stupid text message which I never reacted on.. although I could have... he did act.. without the text messages continuing.. but the part of the text message that bothered him.. was my response I deleted..so he made up all of the possibilities of what could have happened and although he didn't believe that I did anything.. he knew he had.. so if he let me off the hook for the message... what would he hold me guilty for? So he always used that. But ok.. so here's the biggest thing. He would text this other girl.. which was not allowed for me period. No one from the opposite sex, except my dad. But he messaged her plenty. But he deleted ALL of their messages.. and when I went to ask him about that, because he read all my messages to and from everyone all the time.. constantly asking me who was that, what did they say.. I mean ridiculous. Even when it was just a random meaningless notification.. anyway so when I asked him to read their messages which I knew they had messaged on multiple places say the phone, messenger, duo.. and all of them were erased and he was so smug 😏 and proud and it really made me feel sick to my stomach the way he would switch.. and go from this guy.. to that guy.. to THAT GUY. I thought I was going crazy for a while until he started doing it in my face. And called me while she was there beside him and talking nasty to me about what they were doing.. which they probably weren't at the moment but who knows..
Like a person who pretends to be a medical doctor with their PhD, like someone who uses psych terms in all kinds of out there and bizarre ways ? What page of the dsm is flying monkey on?
Have you seen the movie "I Care a Lot"? The museum were I worked for almost 30 years fell victim to a pack of psychopaths and some young people employed by us who had no morals or ethics who allowed themselves to be used to advance their own careers. To this day we don't know what they told the board but they managed to get us fired. At least we got a severance package. Though not much of one. The head psychopath who engineered all this was a brand new board member. No sooner were my boss and I fired and all the professional staff quit in support of my boss and me. Then this new board chairwoman turned around and fired the young people she had doing her bidding. They got a taste of their own medicine. The attack on the museum came from two fronts. First a wedding company run by a mafia boss from New Orleans and his business partner a female, wanted control of the museum. We were in an architecturally significant building which was the only space in town to hold large weddings of 300 people or more. The female partner started an affair with our then board chairman. Soon the mafia boss made this chairman a business partner where they set up a business called Ballroom LLC. Then the mafia boss got his personal high net worth private banker who works at Bank of America elected to our board. The former chairman was asked to step down as chairman to allow this new board woman to become chairwoman. The entire time she was grooming two young ladies to help with her real goal. These are the same ones she got rid of when they were no longer useful to her. That group is now running their for profit business through a 501c3 not for profit institution. The private banker is using the museum to launder money for her clients. I think anyone who read this much gets the drift. But believe me this is not nearly all of what went on. Thanks for letting me vent.
She is right about forgiveness. I kept forgiving my mother, got my trust broken over and over again, until I finally let go of expectations which was painful as well because it meant there was no more hope. I wish I could let go of resentment and guilt and the feeling it was my fault, that maybe I didn’t love her enough.
Aww well with these personality disorders it’s difficult to forgive because they believe they can abuse you over and over like a free pass to continue there behavior properly forgive when she is not around but sadly your mom won’t get any better they say narcissistic people get worse with age because they believe there nothing wrong with them especially your mom so am sorry your going through this.🙏😞🕊
It’s not your fault never was so in time you can let her go I would so you don’t get hurt anymore let her suffer on her own I know she is your mom but going no contact will be the best to do whatever you decide.🙏🕊
Forgiveness is for the forgiver. Don’t get stuck on having to hear an apology from a person, and stop holding on to resentment. Moving on will free up space for happiness that we all desire and deserve. 🙏🏻💜☮️
The understanding of human psychology is an asset these days. You shouldn't cause yourself anxiety or paranoia, but you should always be on guard for the ulterior motives of other people.
bruh … psychopaths and sociopaths aren’t some huge percentage of our population. u sound crazy. we can expect most people to behave with some human decency
Kobie , Psychiatry has always been at the bottom of the pile and it's so unfair because if I think back to the early 1980s and the AIDs epidemic when thousands of people were dying it became the Cause Celebe of the century . Billions of dollars were raised , protests on the streets , rich and famous people backed research and now ( 2021 ) AIDs is no longer a Death Sentence except for the poverty stricken . My love 💕 to you and yours .
I once heard it said: "You can judge the character of a person by the way they treat people who can't do anything for them". It's something that always stuck w/ me,. When i'm entering a new relationship or friendship i make a point of observing how that person tends to treat other people, and it's interesting and instructive how often it is radically different from how they interact w/ me.
@@timisaac8121 beware the person who gives most to those who mean least. Case in point: my father is a master woodworker, joinery, cabinetry, home builder trade, yet was too busy to build me a kitchen pantry when I moved to house that had no cupboards. When the neighbour's children kicked the ball over, he couldn't just throw it back over like I always do, he ended up rolling it into the front yard and under the house it went. He then wrote them an apology letter explaining where to find it. All my mother's complaints and frustrations are booming in the back of my mind theses days.
@@WollongongSkyWatch I have seen that before: A person exceedingly gracious and charming to everyone on the street but nasty as 5 day old cod fish to those around him.
@@WollongongSkyWatch NOOO!! That is truly the worst!~!! They gaslight you by cooperative!! Very painful for you. Do you have a plan or just trying to do your best?
7:48 Cluster B ASPD misconception (anti-society / norms of society) 11:05 Cluster C Avoidant PD, Social Anxiety disorder 15:1216:0017:4724:10 ASPD marker 26:0047:30 Do not take a diagnosis (or PATTERN) as your label or definitive permanent state, take it as a step to move to their best version of themselves and optimal life style 51:001:05:55 Adult’s consent 1:08:23 Pattern does not feel great and cant be changed 1:12:53 1:18:20 1:20:39 Psychopath’s game (actions based on attracting or impressing vs disposable or dispensable in their service) 1:25:00
I was adopted in infancy by a couple where one parent had psychopathic traits. She sometimes told me stories about how she and her cousin drowned animals when they were children. Even as an adult she had no regrets. She laughed about it. She had a sadistic streak that manifested with dependent children, pets, and later elders. She sometimes threatened to blind and even murder me when I was very young. She often told me, “I never make a threat I wouldn’t keep,” and “I am not a mercy person.” I survived and am neither blind nor dead. However living in a state of terror took its toll. I grew very slowly, never thriving. I am under 5’0” tall today. Dependent pets and elders also suffered while in her care. One of our family members died of starvation. It was horrible. I wish that the public knew that adoptees and foster child end up in the hands of abusers too. People say, “Oh but adoptive parents are all carefully vetted. Adopted children are wanted-no one would abuse them. It’s beautiful thing.” People adopt children for all kinds of reasons. The majority of adoptees I have met say they were adopted to save their adoptive parents’ marriages. They have their own stories about what happened to them when their adoption was a disappointment. They failed to save their adopters’ marriages. We have a multi-billion dollar adoption industry that supplies prospective adopters with babies and small children in exchange for money. Adoptees need safe homes too. We don’t need a double-whammy if it can be prevented. We need people to work in those places that can screen prospective adopters for personality disorders. They are needed in foster care too.
So glad you survived the abuse. What a nightmare. Makes one wonder what the matter was with her husband. I guess he was victimized also. Anyway you are a survivor but it’s still not easy.
Jesus! I'm so sorry for the trauma and fear you experienced in your life. I only hope you are no longer in contact with her or her enablers that knew how unfit and abusive she was. I pray you had one or more adults in your life you could trust and feel safe in their company. I also pray you have pursued and benefitted from professional counseling to give you an opportunity to live a full and rewarding life. God bless you always. I thank you for your courage and strength to share your experiences. You are brave and important. Please continue moving forward and take excellent care of you! Much love, respect, and admiration, Frances xoxo
Ramani is my therapy. She just understands mental health and psychology and trauma so well that she leaves little room for confusion. She really is an expert in her field. Hands down the most respectful and honest.
If your therapeutic journey is orientated around hearing someone just talk about diagnosis then I would kindly suggest perhaps your healing journey is yet to begin.
@@Mia-rb5lj it is extremely difficult to find help, especially if abused by a narcissist. I have been. I have cptsd. I have a PhD therapist, paying out of pocket. It is extremely expensive. Even then, most in therapy are not properly vetted in these disorders as Dr Ramani is. Even PhD degreed therapists. Book knowledge is not the same as direct knowledge through experience. This is a reality of life. It isn't the fault of therapists. This is a difficult topic all around. Difficult to truly understand, and for most difficult to accept that such people truly exist. Psychopaths and such walk a line of reality barely within our existence, mostly within their own false existence. To understand them fully, and completely, is to be a psychopath one's self. To try to truly understand them, can make one lose touch with reality and cross into that very dangerous realm. Those like Dr Ramani are able to effectively navigate this minefield using science and logic.
I have never been diagnosed, but I believe I have antisocial personality disorder in a higher functioning capacity. I am a business owner with a wife and two kids and when my wife found out it helped her understand me and helped our relationship. The catch is that I have faith in the Bible and I practice the growth that it says you are required to maintain in order to be a Christian, so I have a high standard of a moral code that I actively practice each day like lifting weights whether you believe in God, or not, at least I have some thing I strive to achieve that holds me to a standard higher than even a non-sociopath in most cases
Your already asking yourself if you have it so you probably dont have it. Antisocial means that you don't conform nor care about the social norm, you are rather miss using it for yourself and self gane. Ook ets say your wife s parent have a lot of life saving and you have a pyramide scheme any common husband wordt come there inlaws out of there life saving a psychopath or a sociopath wont care and can't even care about that they just do it
@@Kitty-ex2gqI know right a nice family man with 2 kids and also a business too and a firm believer in Christ sounds like an absolute joy to be around
I divorced a psychopath after 29 years! It’s been 2.5 years since the divorce and he still won’t let things go! Court was excruciating and he crushed me just like you stated! He is a high functioning healthcare c-level!!! Charmed the judge, his attorney, and my attorney!
@@mayaj4846 absolutely she did because she was a brand new judge and had and still has zero clue about coercion, trauma bond, intermittent reinforcement and all that good stuff. It is what it is....he is just as greedy as they come.
Your strength is astounding! Please do recognize the courage it took you to leave after so long and finally take charge of your own life, that is no small feat.
It is so crazy making to have been in your marriage for so long! I bet you are still sorting out things up above the brow. Thank you are alive and embrace peace (:
Interesting how she says she avoids charming people at parties. I used to live in a lot of shared accomodation situations where we would interview lots of people as potential roommates. It got to the point that I would not allow exceedingly charismatic people to move in, because I had at various times in the past found these types of people to more likely be manipulative and users.
@@icameinlikeawreckingball2504 By charming I actually mean exceedingly charismatic. Specifically, people who on first meeting them center all their attention on you in an effort to make you like them. If someone you've just met makes you feel special in their presence, proceed with caution.
@@urdadsleftasshole69 I said "proceed with caution"...I just mean if someone wants to manipulate you they will try to charm you first. Not all charming people are manipulative on the other hand.
Psychopaths cannot form relationships ever as they dont care enough to begin them in the first place. Psychopaths cannot feel anger as anger is linked to a form of empathy even if be it to a part of yourself. A actual psychopath is a double edged sword as they can hurt others and or without realizing it and they also are easily taken advantage of because not being able to get angry and have any true self care means a psychopath will not care if you hurt them be it beating them, rape, and so on. The only time psychopaths have ever had positions of power or influence is because they were born into royalty or inherited massive wealth as a psychopath will not work with other people. They lack the ability to even care to work with people seriously in the first place. A psychopath wont even pretend to like people if it's to acquire power as again they cannot care enough to even pretend in that way. Psychopaths are very much live in the moment individuals and true long term goals are not possible. Psychopaths make good slaves and servants because they are incapable of caring about their safety and have no interest in achieving power and influence.
I grew up with very emotionally and verbally abusive parents. My mother would often refer to me as a sociopath when I was a kid. In adult life when I worked through this stuff with mental health professionals I learned that the reason I I had trouble showing emotions so young was due to trauma from bullying ,racism and growing up in a family of alcoholics. this video is a great resource, Dr. Ramani's work has help me so much!
Sadly, here too by step p. But I like you will come out the other side, happy n thankful we have our own will and can maneuver this world and don't /won't be a victim of "THEIR" problems.
The host is wonderful. He does not interrupt her and asks really intelligent questions. This is the 1st time seeing the doctor. God, but she is so very intelligent and is a joy to listen to. She sounds it, but has a way of explaining things that's understandable to those of us without a doctorate. Excellent UA-cam class.
“We’re better off focusing on patterns”. Wow now it explains why my therapist told me to always “stick to the facts” and it’s helped me tremendously in my healing.
We need to implement more emotional intelligence in school systems. Kids will learn how to regulate their emotions and receive help if they need guidance in how to work through them in a healthy way.
More? Is there some already? When I went to school there was none. You’re 100% right and if we don’t do this ASAP we will fail as a species; the psychopaths already run much of the world economy and will destroy us all.
Kudos to the interviewer too, she is extremely articulate and he can keep up without getting totally lost in some of her explaining. I had to pause and go back 2 or three times to soak in some concepts, he didn't even break a sweat once 👏🏽
The woman in this program is so well educated that it seems impossible for anyone to have that much information inside their head. Facts and conversation flow from her lips like water from a rampant river. This shocks me because ive never heard or spoken to anyone so confident and brilliant in all of my 70 years of living. Truly an amazing woman...
Yea i dated a sociopath he was very charming at first for like 7months straight n he got along with everyone and then tried to control and manipulate me and had people go against me , i ended up exposing him and he cried threaten to kill himself if i left him i blocked him but he still until now tries finding ways to speak to me is creepy
Abigail Simpson yes mam thank u he even had the audacity to message me on my personal email after blocking him its sad to know people like that exist and cant be helped but im just happy im aware now and can move on and watch for those red flags for anyone new i find
The saddest part is that Western society glorifies "hustlers, pimps, psychopaths, narcisistic behavior, and dark empaths"... Look at the most popular comic book characters, most popular movie characters, in fiction, in politics, in media, in Hollywood, in business. Our society often tells us that it's good to be hustled and you are just weak if you are not participating in the game. That is why so many people fall prey to these predators.
Thank you Dr. Ramani! You are so articulate, knowledgeable, empathetic, helpful, an incredible educator and AMAZING woman!. I'm sooo happy I found you here. Thank you.
the only abuse that exists is physical. verbal abuse = not always saying nice things emotional abuse = not taking responsibility for your actions, you control the way you feel; and not other people.
Yea, she's REAL, not one of those fake one's only out to get your money (a psychopath, lol). Me too after I started listening to her. I started to realize there truly are good psychologists and psychiatrists out there.
Thank you both. You were my rock during my spiritual awakening. Now I am fully aware of how no remorse can debilitate a sensitive personl like me. I was casted into the dark
I was in a relationship with 2 different types of people with mental illness, which has led me to embark on my degree in Forensic psychology. I respect Dr. Ramani and her research!
If one day, I end up explaining highly complex topics as Dr. Ramani does, I will be a happy person. Such a knowledgeable and eloquent lady. I could listen to her for an entire day.
I was told by a friend years ago, that he thought he had anti-social personality disorder. I wish I had known what it was then. I assumed based off of hearing the name that he was just a little anti-social. I didn't understand who I was dealing with. What I have been dealing with is someone sadistic and cruel that lacks all self awareness and has a complete lack of empathy. This experience has been a nightmare from hell. I really think it's time that the disorder is renamed to something more fitting to the kind of people that the label represents. I agree with Dr. Ramani.
@@rhysweaver7178 Oh, I see. Thanks. Not a native speaker so I assumed she wanted to believe the fantasy. There are movies and novels for that, but not real life. If one becomes Prince Charming after years then that's not love bombing, it is true love. But if one presents themselves that way it's an act.
And I had a relationship with someone who had literally 40 relationships within just a several year period. All of them ended with "that person was the problem" and then come to find out, they play the same game on you. They chew you up and spit you at as you said, don't care about you, smear campaign, discard/ghosting, etc. and yet this person is considered cheerful and loving, a "perfect" and outgoing person by everyone around them. Nevermind their drug addiction, trainwreck lifestyle every weekend and trail of broken people behind them. Yet no "criminal" history or signs that will alert you. But now I see they do have a rap sheet, they have those broken people behind them, the crimes of the heart they have not been convicted of.
Some of them have others committing crimes for them. That’s a pattern with street pimps, for example. Better to send others out to commit crimes for you, and save your record is the mentality. My abusive ex-husband explained to me that “we” were going to ruin my credit, because we would always have his to fall back on. Of course, I was in no position to complain. I couldn’t believe the audacity and transparency of that statement!
@@heidiho5179 How awful for you. Hopefully you are in the hands of a great therapist. Because a person needs a professional to guide them and help them recover. 💗✝️💕 Life is fragile handle with Prayer.
One day my uncle's neighbor came over, and the instant he came through the door, I had a horrible feeling about him. He sat next to me and I was so uncomfortable. I tried to avoid him all night, and the conversation was really weird and he was so opinionated and harsh. I couldn't shake the bad feeling I had. Later I told my uncle and mom how I felt. They dismissed me. Later that year, he was busted for stealing from the company, computers and other expensive stuff, plus, he would travel to Thailand under pretense of work, but he would go to brothels and sleep with underage girls. Some other things were found in his home after a raid I think. I knew he was a bad person. I felt it the instant I saw him. It was weird, but I am glad I have a radar going on. No-one else did.
He's incredible with his questions. I almost always hate interviews because they seem to miss all of the key topics that really matter, and he's covered basically everything I've felt tempted to google mid-interview. I love an expert, but it takes expert questions to get the answers you need.
I really liked his questions asking her if she thought children could be diagnosed with personality disorders. That's my burning question. To catch these disorders before they get full-blown where they leave a wake of damaged victims.
Psychology is soft science, it’s not 100%… my brother and I were both diagnosed with cognitive disorders when we started school, my mother did not want us to be drugged, we were chaos… my brother would pee in public at school, constantly disturbed his classmates, I bullied other kids… and was violent… my mom just kept monitoring us and was very patient… there were time that she broke down and cried, she told us that she needed our helps…we were compassion, we learnt and we understood … we re both fine now. I m sure there were real mental issues on some kids, but I believe there are many just phrase!!! There are good therapists and bad ones, it’s just a job for many of them. They don’t really know as much as you thought they did…We re grateful for our mom not let us depend on drugs in such a young age. She always knows she wouldn’t depend on other ‘ppl’ to do her job, and she researched and experimented a lot to help us. She put us on different sports, we took taekwondo, tennis, soccer and swimming, we also had piano lessons, and we attended chess club and cube club during the weekend…
She's a doctor. Calling her 'highly intelligent' is patronizing. Ask yourself if you would have made a statement on her intelligence if she were a man.
Listening to Dr. Ramini describe CEOs: I can relate the characteristics she describes to most employers or higher ups I’ve worked for by her descriptions alone. She just nails it. She is so knowledgeable and I’ve learned so much from listening to her
She's not that great. She's better than most of these so called psychologists. But certainly not the best. Dr. Sam Vaknin is one of the more knowledgeable on this subject.
I was married to a man with antisocial personality disorder and also narcissistic. He was very subtle while dating. I saw 1 red flag that I ignored. Now 21 years later I can see it more clearly. Thank goodness we never had children. As time went on things became worse. He would demonstrate a certain personality when in public but the true stuff came out when alone. It is important to be cautious in relationships.
@@annamarie3288 I was visiting him and had my bar of soap on the sink. He went into bathroom and saw it grabbed it and threw it across the room. We were only together 5 years. Divorced 21 years ago.
Forgiveness is different then trust. I have forgive a friend, however I will never trust. I will walk away from them. I don’t wish wrong to come to them.
Thank you! What a super-awesome chat! I specialized in psychology for 3 years in university and took "Abnormal Psych". 10 years ago I became roommates with a friend who ended up being a sociopath. There was slways drama, arguments and his behavior with a co-worker seemed bizarre and cruel. A good friend said he sounded like a sociopath. I found a "sociopath checklist" online and knew of the general criteria. He got a 4/5,. I thought he was honest as I had no reason to believe he was a liar; he said he was honest. One day, after he used my laptop, I found some very revealing skype chat and realized everything was a lie. I'm mentioning this because the lying is hard to prove unless you look carefully and honestly. In hindsight, I admit I overlooked warning signs as I'm non-confrontational and was naive. As the expert says here, if you have concerns about someone, look at their behavior broadly. I now think of any relationship as a something like a workplace: no one gets a promotion before proving themselves. Better to have no relationship than a bad relationship.
How to spot a sociopath/psychopath for regular people: -their eyes look dull, bored, etc. It's like looking at an animals eyes. There's just...nothing there, no ones home. -after a while you can catch their voice sounding monotone, dull. Like they are reading from a history text. They might be able to hide it at first, but not always. -if you have...truly experienced one (Shivers)...you will know them just by their vibe. Your gut will tell you, "avoid avoid avoid!" -they are smart, really smart. Super duper smart. Do NOT under any circumstance think they have average iqs or that you can outsmart them, most times you can't unless you have solid proof. Most have 150+ Iq but some can have 200+ and higher. -Most don't have s3xual orientations. With a psychopath they can suit anyone, male, female, les, gay, trans... They don't have a personal preference. Some will, but most don't. They swing both ways. -Sometimes they will tell you. You'll be sitting there with them at a coffee shop, sipping your drink, when they suddenly say out of no where "You know, you should really stay away from me." You ask why, cause it's super eerie, and they respond "I'm not a good person." -anger. They will have anger. Tell you they wanna punch people, etc. Anger is a major sign. -they will act weird, creepy. They will hide behind a corner and shout "boo!" as you pass them, or they will suck the energy from the room by dropping their mask for a minute. It will feel like you are in the room with garek (the wolf) from "the never ending story" -time. To spot a psychopath takes time and patience. I've had a lot of experience, and so far I've been able to tell within a year or so.
@@alexanderwindh4830 I don’t think it’s paranoid. Charm doesn’t automatically mean narcissist of course nobody claims that. But charm is selfish in itself. You use charm to manipulate someone doesn’t mean it’s sinister. But saying that charm is in everyone is same as saying envy is in everyone or everyone lies. Yes maybe everyone lies but not everyone is considered a liar. And even so lying is a narcissistic trait, ego driven just like charm.
That's a slap if you blanket every charmer. Could be a woman or be child, papa or a stranger. You def need to have you b.s. filters on to know dif. Trying to teach my son to learn how to read people. It's hard to show people to use their intuition so it's more about asking what he observes in a particular situ. But yes have seen many
There's something that's off about all these women in the comments coming here to state that their exes are psychopaths. Maybe some of it is true, but a lot of it seems like confirmation bias and this era's desire to diagnose everything.
@@dogestranding5047 It's the need to rationalise the toxic behaviour in their exes because they can't seem to understand that neurotypical people can be horrible - maybe even more so - than someone with a PD.
My Mother has antisocial personality disorder, NPD, and is absolutely a sociopath. I am still unraveling the abuse and I am 43. It has been extremely painful. This video was quite good. Thank you kindly.
@@whytho1534 I am wondering whether her mother was ever clinically diagnosed with both Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Anti-Social Personality Disorder. Those suffering from either disorder, especially the former, are notorious for not seeking or outright refusing treatment of any kind. Furthermore, too many laypeople (attempt to) diagnose others in their lives or otherwise without the requisite and extensive background, schooling, knowledge, qualification, and certification to do so; and even then, proper, well-trained, and ethical licensing mental health professionals do not "diagnose" those whom are not their own direct clients (and whom they have not treated in some capacity) unless there is a substantial need to do so in order to facilitate growth and client awareness and accountability or in order to meet the stipulation(s) put in effect by their clients' respective private or state insurance agencies. With all this in mind, I would have to conclude that the commentator either misunderstood the dual diagnosis of Cluster B personality disorders given to her mother or the commentator determined the dual diagnosis for herself, either one of which explains her relative lack of knowledge or awareness regarding one aspect of the diagnosis (in other words, providing a clinical and an informal descriptor for the same disorder). What are your thoughts?
Eggshells are a nightmare. Living with a person / a relationship with a person - with whom you cannot have decent communication is a total nightmare. It makes you nuts! I have been there. 14 years marriage to a passive aggressive covert narcissist who, with 7 therapists, looked like the paragon of virtue where I looked like the nut job. The 8th therapists recognised my symptoms! I was divorced and left a year later! Done and dusted. Living so happily alone with 9 animals!
How does one stay with a narcissist after year 1 ? Year 2? Year 3? Year 5? Do you see what I'm asking? It takes two to tango. I can understand a year or two or three, but 14 years?!?! You knew something was wrong but were in denial. That, and how long did you date before marrying this guy? Lastly 9 animals is about 7 too many. Sounds like you were traumatized but having that many animals isn't really a normal solution.
I have never heard anyone who completely understands what it’s like to be gaslighted by everyone you know about your ex because he’s too charming or seemingly nice to them in a social setting. I was also in complete denial even when I saw the red flags early in the relationship. I love that this doctor will take evidence from phones or emails from clients.
Dr Ramani’s expertise shines through in every video. The way she presents facts and evidence with such clarity is truly commendable. Thanks to her, I've become a dedicated viewer of MedCircle!!
The description of antisocial personality disorder is so consistent with what I endured from my sister 3 years my senior. Uses aliases, scams the government, manipulated and gaslighted every family member, instigated violence. I have been able to checkmate her behavior by documenting everything and getting my parents lawyer involved to end her manipulating them for money as they were slipping into dementia but it was hell for several years.
Everything you mention sounds like me I wonder if it’s because of my disability and or have low intelligence I’ve heard that doesn’t help. I feel dumb because I decided to go on a 3 day alcohol binge and now I just stay in doors and not work I’m afraid of everyone it sucks. I think my family members are narcissistic though
maybe she has a need to rationalize a past relationship or has issues with her dad ;D. I think male emotions are different, not an issue of males not being able to talk about emotions -- its a difference of wavelengths, «The Double Empathy Problem». Male mental health is severely malnourished, possibly effected by most psychologists being female as well.
I’m seventy three. When I was 13 my dad talked to me about going to college in order to get training so that I could support myself. He said he never wanted me in a situation where I would depend on a man. He always wanted me to be able to support myself. That was almost 6 decades ago. We need to do this today. If you care about your daughter, do what my dad did. He saved my life. BTW; growing up in the early sixties I never heard the word therapist.😳
My parents stopped supporting me when I was 15. It was 20 years ago and I haven’t forgiven them for it. They live alone now, nobody talks to them. Don’t toss out your kids don’t abandon your damn kids!
This described my recent ex-husband to a T. Highly intelligent, manipulative, covert, charming, until the ring went on.. within days a true destructive monster was unleashed. My family and friends couldn't see what l was talking/begging for them to see, nothing nade sense until 2 friend's who have lived something similar in their past came to my rescue. Early on his own daughter, a BP herself, did try to give me hints which l naively did not understand, as l never before have heard or known of any one with these issues, and least with antisocial personality, narcissism and bipolar disorders. It's 3 years later and l am still healing from those 2 years of nightmares which he dragged me into, he almost ruined my entire life, affected deeply my emotional, physical and financial health. I was just blessed to still have emotional supportive health thru friends who fought for me and still have my back. These kind of ppl are true evil, creating havoc and leaving a path of destruction wherever they go.
@fr_ Tempest So true. I much later realized that, why we were on and off-on relationship for 5 years, then l broke it up, only to have him return 2 years later and immediately he swept me off, within less than a year we married and the true nightmares started with in days...8 months later, l had to escape to save my life!. Your sense of timing is perfect.
@@yxngscxmbxg7193 People? What ppl? Only If you're referring to the parents ...as she explains early developmental environments is only thing that could somehow change an outcome ..ironically...often these kind are luckier than most people ..when they seem to be the ones truly finding and keeping for themsleves "the really empathetic and kind ppl" ..those of us, who WISHED we could somehow help them, and allowing them to make good changes to their behavior and for mutual benefit...but instead we just walk right into their evil trap ..wether that trap is made by his/her parents of the early environment or created out of their exploitative cunning minds .....One thing is (we) "empaths" do try to live and love them like they are but usually ( more than often) end up either destroyed, mentally, emotionally and financially if not too, even maimed if we do not escape, we must run out litteraly and physical to protect our lives!!. There is NO fixing of any kind for these ppl ..that is a ONLY sad reality.. tougher for womenn to live with one of these... men by nature are more resourceful to survive.. for women, as our nature is to nurture and care we tend to hang around hoping ..praying for change until at some point ..we hope something or someone comes to rescue us. l say these ppl, are well developed Dracula's in the flesh! ..have learned to suck life out of another human and many do enjoy, doing it! For they are Merciless.
I have aspd, in the sociopath area of it. I feel that people like me are treated like lame and infirm children in a bronze age Sparta. We get thrown out immediately, which just makes everyone else's problems worse. I've learned how to behave to effectively hold relationships and steady long term income and I've gone from being dirt poor to upper middle class in the last 6 months, only from learning what people expect others to do and say. Life is a huge learning experience till we die and I'm excited for the future, especially as I'm expecting my first child soon.
Exactly….and business people also…Bill Gates….George Soros…. President Bush…Biden…Obama….Ted Turner….Emanuel Macron….Hitler….Putin …. Stalin….Nancy Pelosi….Gretchen Whitmer ….the governor of California….. the idiot mayor of New York……especially that moron Emanuel Macron though. Macron may end up being worse than Hitler.
@@raccoondon488 as an education worker i can never work ever again in my field if i go to jail, as politicians you can always stay that way. I wonder who ever wrote these laws
The real problem here is parenting!! Majority of these disorders are environmental/dysfunctional family issues. It’s so sad that unhealthy people are raising unhealthy children (innocent children corrupted). What are we doing as a society to help this problem??!! What can we do to better educate new parents?!! Knowledge is power!!!
I've been a stay at home mom for 24 yrs. I don't believe in having them and then ditching them, what a gross life! The more you make, the more you pollute!
ACANKU! "ODD" Oppositional defiance disorder could be said to have been Jesus Christ's diagnosis, seeing the OP's moniker I thought I'd take it into relevance... I'm on the fence, though, regarding your thoughts in relation to ODD. And, speaking of the OP's moniker, and not intending any disrespect, Jesus Christ needs to be removed from the table. Not in the fashion of totalitarianism via not being allowed to discuss the predicament of the deity. Discussions on the hypocrisy of such religions and political arenas might be helpful to children. Getting them away from the narcissism found in both areas of worship and getting them to respect themselves and others instead of seeing everything and everyone as missing something within their souls only Christ can help fill could very well benefit the future. Yes, I am biased against Jesus Christ and the teachings, how he flipped over the tables and wanted to bring down the temples. This is antisocial behavior, which is exactly how Dr. Ramani describes as definition of the subject, how many might have forgotten. Parents, they can only do so much in teaching their children to avoid apathy. The system needs to start allowing freedom of expression. Being able to tell everyone who you are, and to dissent without being told to pack your bags and go to another country could help. Feeding into the position of the country one lives in as the strongest, and mightiest, and how if you don't pray to Jesus goodness will go to another country perpetuates anger, and placed manipulation in high esteem, which is said to be frowned upon but shown to be accepted. The hypocrisies of society helps edge along such behaviors. Take away worship of a "Lord" and "savior" one might not wish to be counted as such, which is how these people who see their behavior as excusable want to be treated.
Wow. Best video I've seen. Every single point was a spot on description of ME. I'm a survivor, and have been diagnosed with severe PTSD from the trauma. Only way i got out was my husband suddenly and unexpectedly died. I still struggle with love/ hate & relief/grief even though it's been 4 years now. 😪
My daughter is diagnosed as BPD. She goes to therapy every two weeks. It has been a life saver for her and the rest of the family. She's a social butterfly now and boundaries must always be in place with her. My sister is a covert narc and sister son is malignant narc. My sister is being so sweet, makes me wonder what she's up to
So after watching this I realized I was married to a very charming narcisisstic sociopath for 14 years. He made it almost impossible to leave him because he isolated me so much, but I got out and I am happy now.
@@jimmydriveway Not really, the fact that he was in my life means I'm cleaning up a narcissistic mess. He also had years of therapy we struggled to pay. They always said he had borderline personality disorder. He didn't tell them everything though because he was a manipulative monster. So a lot of my money went down the drain for therapy, useless therapy he never got any better. He just made it more difficult to leave year after year.
@@LilLucky604 He was particularly abusive one day. I ended up getting out of the car when he went into a store and I called the cops. They arrested him long enough for me to gather everything and leave to another state.
My brother was diagnosed with antisocial PD and mamic depression. This was compounded with our mother being an alcoholic narcissist. He exhibited conduct disorder by age 5. He had his expected stints in jail and later prison. As he aged, his suicide attempts became frequent. His girlfriend cut him down from near death hangings 4 different times. I was his big sister caring for all the younger siblings as mother was useless, and dangerous. My father was such a decent and good man, but codependent as hell with mom so he always gave in to her demands that no help be brought in to care for us. Mother hid behind her affluence which worked so well back in the 50'sand 60's. My brother asked me often, "Tell me again sis why mom doesn't love me...." He never could understand how sick of an alcoholic she was nor her cold nature, no hugs, no I love yous...never. What a heart breaker. He succeeded in ending his life at age 36 while staying in a boarding house down by old man river in downtown Rock Island, Illinois. He was found by another boarder in the morning when he went to shower where he found Billy who had strangled himself with a torn t-shirt which he had secured to one of the water handles. Not high enough to hang, he literally strangled himself. The coroner told me that manner of death is unusual and demonstrates the unbearable pain he must have felt to override the natural reaction to breathe. I was twisted for so long after that. I am now 64 and am a codependent empath with a significant problem with CPTSD. I exhibit my brokenness via anxiety which I am told is displaying my underlying depression. I don't know really who I am other than a collection of defense mechanisms and reflexive reactions as I carefully observe other's behaviors. I am a people pleaser who dysregulates if I feel I am losing control of events in my life. I keep on fighting until some psychosomatic illness forces me to stop, like giant hives, EBV in later life and aerophagia. I am stuck in my programmed reactions from my toxic childhood. I feel unworthy, cannot trust and am plagued with shame. The body indeed will keep score if we are unable to manage our dysregulation. I just want to feel that I know who I am and have a chance at real love before I die.
I actually understand what you are talking about. I was raised by a mother who had undiagnosed attachment disorder and a father who had untreated bipolar disorder along with pathological lying, narcissistic behaviors, so I grew up very anxious and had difficulty coping with stress and developed social awkwardness. I have a lot of trouble trusting and have fought with low self worth all my life. You are not alone. There are many of us out there.
I don’t like being a focus to anyone, but I think about silencing those thoughts in my head every day. I know I’m too old now but I’d want any young people reading, don’t leave it too late to find help before it’s ingrained and unchanging, you cannot teach an old dog new tricks. Don’t live with pain you don’t have to. Please. I love you brothers and sisters, I’ve never met you or interacted with you but I empathise with you. I know you in that I know myself. I wish you all the best.
@@JOY-ye2us In fact, it is compassionate to oneself to forgive them, and to remove them from one's life, if one's life is better that way. :). Making the decision to be strong for both of you is ok. You are a good person, and forgiveness is always for the person forgiving.
@@katherinewilson1853 my daughter is a narcissist because everyone spoiled her including myself now that she’s almost 18 she lives with my sister cause she wants less restrictions. She didn’t invite me to see her in the band parade, she didn’t tell me when her prom was so I missed it. And she went to see he boyfriends mother instead
For me forgiveness is the decision to have no bad feelings about someone. That doesn't mean that you don't be aware what this person has done, neither that you leave your guards down. It can be releasing to forgive and leave bad things behind you.
It's not always easy for a person. With trait APD or NPD. I was diagnosed with conduct disorder when O was arrested at 13. I've been in Law Enforcement, and have been the best father possible, and my kids are good for it. I truly despise having such a hard time connecting with a woman. Then when I do. I push borders to see how close I can take us to the end. To see how much it can hurt; both of us! Stupid! That's so damn counterproductive, and - intuitive. My own self sabotage, for control, or instilling a fear, or whatever it is I do this for. It's illogical and destructive of any hopes of having a long lasting beautiful woman. Who has her own feelings. I don't truly want to hurt! Self discovery has been years in the works. Still further from understanding it than I ever was. I listen to your channel and several others about characteristics, of both abuser, and abused. I don't see much help for those who can't help being that way, maybe even find a better way to be in relationships. Figured I'd shine a light.. Not everyone who does this, know how to change it some. The boredom of of happily ever after is also hard to swallow. Not easy on either side I suppose.
It is 100% in the self thought area. Balanced self love required then expect to meet a charming individual that's real. Quantum Physics- absolute. It's the "Universal Law of Attraction" Get to know that fact/law. And live happy!
44JesusIsLord44 - mine was literally voted life of the party in high school. I never imagined the horror I’d live through in divorce and child custody. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve said to myself , “I never knew people like this even existed “.
Now that we have the Pandora box open about Psychopaths ...every person should be tested for mental disorders before hired for Law Enforcement, or any Department that has to do with Crime & Law.
When she was describing cluster B specifically anti social disorder characteristics; 1. No morales 2, breaks the law 3, no empathy for others 4. Liars/ deceitful 5. Lack remorse 7. Has no shame A better definition for anti social disorder is POLITICIAN
Wow! A masterclass for free?! Thank you . Dr Ramani is amazing btw, and she is such an inspiration to a person like me, who wants to major in Psychology.
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Is there a way to contact you that is not on an open, public forum? "Outing" someone with antisocial personality disorder can be dangerous.
Yes, I have. Two psychopaths. One is a a sadistic rapist and the other one is a serial killer. Both of them are my worst enemies.
MedCircle in court process now fighting with everything that I have to get my boys back. WHY don’t judges have to be better educated on this?? Hearing the possibilities of going up against him scares me more than my worst nightmare! How do we find help?
@@angiecrawford8420
Because the whole judicial system is based on deception amd occult science..
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U r colonial stock ..and security for thr charge u bring agaisnt a person...
The whole court documemt is a negotiable instrument that os traded on tje stock market...
Hi, I am definitely involved with a full-blown narcissist/psychopath in a civil criminal lawsuit and have 100s of videos of him saying the most egregious things. An example is he claims I have been a scammer all my life [nottrue] and another is that he posts videos that Ihaveflesh eating bacteria and when he does videos he does audio-only and even though it is his voice and his channel he denied it was his voice.
it was very frustrating and its an ongoing case.
the worst thing is he makes 3 + videos a day and all stating that he is not the person in the audio upload even lying to the prosecutor.
So you are correct they really dont believe they do anything wrong because thus far he has gotten away with it.
Even worse he made 50+ videos of how my ex-girlfriend is sleeping with many men [not true] she is getting married to her new boyfriend.
He denies 64 audio and now video uploads on youtube saying hes just making commentary but in fact has no remorse for any of his deeds however the prosecution has been following him for a year now and knows he's lying.
I will update you when its over.
BTW, he calls may people wives ffing prostitutes bar girls whores and worse ... more that 20 that I can prove and he will go nuts even if you say his wife is a flying monkey...but she is and helps him on his shows.
He has done all of the above to 20 people and again states he has never said a negative thing but only making commentary. truel you have nailed this topic.
thanks for your insights
She is so educated in every facet of psychology that she doesn't even pause to gather her thoughts when asked these questions. She immediately has such a well versed and thorough explanation in nearly every response. She's such a joy to listen to and so incredibly gifted with communication.
Well said. Totally agree.
@@velvetindigonight she is a medical professional
@@kirilmihaylov1934 Yes I know this. Interestingly many medical professionals do not present half as well!
@@velvetindigonight True that
@@kirilmihaylov1934 :)
Don’t let anyone trick you into falling in love with their potential. Fall in love with what they show you. Believe their actions.
That's Right I had to learn.
Go with your first instinct!
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@@michaellinder4945 my first instinct told me she was awesome but she is all the oppposite. I guess i must throw ny instinct away and find another one lol
But there great at the start and then not so great all of a sudden
Can we take a moment to talk about how this content is on the internet FOR FREE??? Respect!
Don't jinx it
am i tripping or does the guy on the right seem like a psychopath himself? lol
It's not free. You are the product. They're relying on getting your attention so you eventually spend your money on stuff the advertisers want. All this content costs you money eventually. It's just far more indirect than it used to be.
@@Aryzo Jesus, I had the same thought.....lmao
@@monklingtoneverjet2536 it seems like he is huh? Hahah and hes like weirdly inquisitive about psychopaths 😂 looks like after every description of them hes thinking to himself "yea,that is how i am" lmaooo
I married a psychopath the marriage lasted 13 years! I am 4 years out but still working to find me and my life! I often think, “I wonder if I would have been better off if he accomplished killing me!” I live in a small town and finding counseling has been a joke! Your channel along with a few others has literally pulled me this far! I appreciate the knowledge I have gained.
Counciling can help, but only if a.) the therapist has empathy/kindness or b.) the therapist knows about cluster b.
Just wanna let you are not alone in the world in your psychopathic findings. I dated a psychopath/covert narcissist.
Lies, manipulation, cheating, you name it.
I found what helped me heal most was research.
These...beings...are not human. Whether that is from thousands and thousands of years ago with different cave species or a recent human evolution, who knows?
But yeah, counciling can only go so far because either they are clueless, greedy, or a monster themselves.
Again, just wanna say you are not alone. I remember that in itself helped the most.
That's where I am too. Praying every day to die.
There are lots of online resources like Dr. Gabor Maté, he has helped me so much. Books by Thich Nhat Hanh have helped me tremendously too. I really hope you can find healing, being in an abusive relationship is so tough and dealing with the residual effects too. I dated a sociopath for a few years and it really slowed my progress from healing from childhood abuse. I wish you the best♥️
@@rebeccapruitt3259 you can make it out and find someone healthy. You’re stronger than your situation. Please stay safe
I'm 28 years out. We have a 33 yr old daughter and 2 grandchildren. I've often wondered if I should have this conversation with our daughter. However, I think she understands something's not quite right about mom. She's very very smart but not scary like her mom.
Point is having that experience is never truly in the past. Learn, be smarter, ( I like to say that I may not know exactly what I want but I've got a pretty clear idea of what I will not endure or tolerate.)
Without exception, everyone's life is or will be scarred by tragedy. Pick it up move on live your life in such a manner that makes it clearly worth the FN trouble😉. In the event you're working through things?..... Endeavor to persevere.... Flourish.
Hope that helps😐!
How can any human being store this much thorough information in their head and effortlessly articulate it on command with this much fluidity???? This lady is unbelievable.
Anyone who is gifted.
They dive into the problem in a daily basis.
@@josephineananda Leave. Now. thanks 😊
Because she loves the sound of her own voice.
It's her passion, you can tell she lives and breathes this stuff.
I like her. I wish we had more therapists like her: passionate, honest, intelligent, empathetic.
Kaitlyn Stone,You are beautiful 🌹🌷🌺,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!
I thought she was very matter of fact and unempathetic. I guess when you deal with thousands of cases you just become a number.
She’s not after the money 🐽 she cares, people like her make a difference in healthcare, they are part of the solution and not the problem.
@@MarcelAspenite You need to be like that to explain things properly and to deal with hundreds of these cases.
Unfortunately she is $500/hr
Dr ramani talking about personality disorders for 2 HOURS??? Am i in heaven???
Well done. Dr Ramani knows her stuff. She rarely says um. She is just chock full of knowledge and wisdom on these topics. We are gifted with this information, and it's so helpful.
You clearly watch Andrew Tate if you attach a stigma to um, which is a normal human thing
@@yyeezyy630 I clearly do not watch that person. Ramani is a gifted speaker, and I think you can agree that a person using um repeatedly is very distracting to listen to.
@@RyanOlsen yea but its not an indicator of a persons expertise really
I’m so appreciative that she is sharing her knowledge and expertise on a UA-cam channel. Fascinating to hear the difference in terms made so clearly. ☮️
'Emotional abuse is unacceptable any day of the week." Dr.R 🙏🏽💯
But in a world with no emotional abuse, how would we know to recognize it?
*EVERYONE IS A TEACHER* - by example or *non-example - the better of the two.*
@@TheJdmartinjax fake we never have cus we are oj im hoppy or not never you tell me its my perception
@@mekerr4299 I am pretty sure we agree.
Precious. goods How could/should someone handle being Emotional abused by a stalker on U-tube who keeps following me..
They can't function unless they have our full attention, telling us we're crap does the trick, and more tricking is it!
This woman is so clear and concise and knowledgeable…I would love to have her as s therapist.
Shecis clearly one of the personalities she's talking about.
@@newjersey-thesupertrucker wdym?
Good call. 💯 Percent Agree👍
@@newjersey-thesupertrucker
No man, she just personally lived a lot of shit with these kind of ppl :) after a lot of abuse u become expert in the domain.
@K sounds good but I can see she's exactly one of the personality types she's talking about
I love how she calls out that charming people can be so scary. It's like they're complimenting you but it really has nothing to do with you..
So true. It’s even more entertaining to see people start to love bomb you when THEY are in need. Lmao I’ve been thru it too mcuh that now it’s kinda funny/crazy to experience but separate from myself
In what way I know someone who does this.....does it make them feel better about themselves?
@@towanda2947 I don't know if it's a genuine or lasting kind of feeling better about themselves, but I imagine that when they are complimenting someone with an agenda, they might feel a short term sense of being on their game and enjoying being successful at interaction. It's probably hard to correctly assume or generalize for them beyond that.
Ever met a two year old that wants a cookie before dinner?
@@maebandy ahhh yes
The primary traits of a sociopath are an inability to actually honestly care for another human being, to feel another's pain, to feel sorry (deeply, truly sorry) for the pain he/she causes you (or others), to feel real love, to feel any real obligation to the well being of anyone but himself/herself, to have a conscience, period. Some say sociopaths tend to be “very charming”. I disagree with this characterization. I believe, rather, the sociopath mimics what he/she has observed as “charming” behavior tailored specifically to the individual upon whom he/she decides to prey. Sociopaths get off on “getting one over on you”, on interacting with you long enough to figure out what you like/care about (be that your kids, your pets, your family, your music, your hobbies, whatever), then tailoring their comments and conversations with you to those topics to “reel you in”, feigning similar interests or interest in general, playing you like a fiddle until you think they're so cool or so funny … then, once they've gained your trust, start testing you little by little in more sick ways to see if you'll do things to please them. To a sociopath, who is easily bored, it's all a game. You are a joke to them. They are getting pleasure at your expense, even though it may take you awhile to catch on. But you should have some early instinctive feelings that “something just doesn't feel right about this”. Trust your instincts IMMEDIATELY. The longer you stay involved with a sociopath, the more you will come to feel demoralized and broken and, quite possibly, suicidal. To the sociopath, you (and the countless others upon whom they are preying - because, make no mistake, they typically have multiple victims going at one time, “the others” - who they're keeping secret from you), you are a source of ego inflating supply. Everytime he/she can get you to come running when they say they want you, get you to believe them when they say “they're done with all that ” (referring to whatever bad behavior you've discovered and confronted them with, behavior that has deeply hurt you), whenever you react to the pain they cause you by crying /breaking down/ pleading/screaming/cursing/sobbing … they are LOVING it. It's like you're giving them the best drug, the best high they've ever had. And they know they've got you … and you become an even bigger joke to them than what you were to begin with. You're no longer a challenge, though, frankly, which makes you easily dismissed by them. Just when you think you wont hear from them again, though, you suddenly will, with a text that seems innocent enough … and you may be tricked into thinking, at that moment, “See, he/she does really care!” But again, watch and live it out, if you must, but you'll only find yourself right back at devastation and heart shattering pain. The sociopath cares about NO ONE, period. Sadly, deep inside, not even himself/herself. They are people who harbor a deep inner self-loathing, whose core is made of empty nothing and hateful insecurity. But NEVER make the mistake of thinking - if only you could show the socipath how committed YOU are to him/her, how much you love him/her, how YOU believe they are worthy of love, you can fix their inner wounded child …. Blah, blah, blah. Just stop yourself, for the love of all that is sane. I beg of you. Because your best efforts WILL NOT work to achieve this end. Your best efforts, your repeated coming back to them like this, in fact will only affirm the sociopath’s view of you as a pathetic pawn from whom he/she can continue to get “supply” (the ego feed they desparately need to survive). You mean NOTHING to him/her. You never did. You never will. A sociopath is not curable. There is no medicine, no anti-psychotic, no antidepressant, no therapy (the sociopath would never engage it anyway) that can ameliorate this condition. The only thing you must do is take steps toward SELF PRESERVATION. And you must, because a sociopath will kill you eventually. Truly. Psychologically damage you so profoundly, if you stay engaged in any relationship with him/her over a substantial period of time, that you may never recover. I know this. I allowed myself to stay committed to one for 22 years. And I'm intelligent. But my belief in my own self worth plummetted to the most dangerous lows a person's self-value could plummett. If you recognize these traits in whomever you've begun a relationship with, just RUN. and never, NEVER, look back. Block all contact. Don't fool yourself, as I did for years after I finally said, “Get out!”, into thinking, “Well, he sent me this text. I mean, I guess we could be friends.” It doesn't work! A sociopath doesn't have friends. A sociopath gathers people for “supply”, and any acts of reaching out to you is an attempt by the sociopath to see if they can still hook you, whether you will stil be an easy source of “supply” to them. It is ALL at your peril and expense and ALL designed for his/her benefit. Run, run, and run. And never, never, never look back. Trust me. I KNOW the truth of which I speak. Additionally, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. To simplify the process, consider hiring a private investigator to do the sleuthing for you I genuinely appreciate how incredible you are and your work! Thank you for a job well done Metaspyhub@gmail. com,,
You're confusing psychopath with sociopath. Sociopaths are able to feel a certain degree of love/attachment, whereas psychopaths are not.
its often depicted as "inability"... what if someone is intentionally non-empathic. Like someone who has his personal ideology to feel empathic only for a specific group of people and actively suppress empathy for others? For example someone who is really really egocentric or egoistic, but usually is able to be empathic. I can believe that many sociopath can very well know pain, fears and read intentions of others, but they decide consciously or subconsciously to not act on their emotions?
Quick response as you seem to approach this from a non-scientific standpoint. Logically speaking sociopaths are made from societal stresses. Once you remove this stimulant, then equally they are capable to become a fully functional human being like any "normal" person. Also note she is ignorant. There is a high proportion of psychopaths in society that are fully functional and she states the majority end up in prison this is false.
@@MissStrawberryGunif psychopaths weren't able to understand feelings they wouldn't be so proficient at manipulating others. They CAN feel and understand emotions. The difference is unlike so called "Normal" people they have complete control over their emotions. The truth is all these "experts" still only have a small grasp on psychopathy. Not all birds have the same colors. Those of us on the higher spectrum are fully self aware. Thus we are able to hone in on our weaknesses and improve them.
@@donhashugeballs sounds like a very silly grandiose delusion. 😂
never said they can't feel emotions. they can feel rage, for sure. they have COGNITIVE empathy. what classifies someone as ASPD is lack of being able to FEEL empathy.
she is a genius. the way she speaks on these things leaves no room for misunderstanding. So refreshing as a student of psychology.
she is an LGBT male hater
Ok so based on this diagnostic video i understand here is where I stand as a single man (*JUST from the video)...
Me: "Hi I wanna talk to you because you asked how I was, I wan't to be polite because you have been to me..."
Female: Oh REALLY!!! I wanted you to be my Husband...
Video: Oh he is playing prince charming and definitely a psycho.
...OK now flip that over
Me: "Ok i see you looking at me but i'm just gonna ignore you, i'm busy and have no interest in talking..."
Female: "Oh REALLY!!! I wanted you to be my Husband...
Video: Oh he is playing with your mind and definitely a psycho.
FFS *JUST F**KN CAN'T DO ANYTHING, IF YOU ARE A SINGLE MALE THE ONLY PSYCHOS UNLESS YOU ARE A SERIAL KILLER IS FEMALES, SAME WITH THIS STUPID B*TCH CONTROLLING THIS VIDEO, THE MAN IS A MALE B*TCH CASE CLOSED*
Not a genius but a good psychologist knowledgeable on the topic.
no she is narcissist self.
True
When she mentions careers that could be phsycopaths she needs to include politicians.
She mentioned ONE with CEO!
WOOSH_POLICE I suppose it depends on the agenda of the psychopath.
Bliss I think you might be a bit delusional in your ramblings here. You make a lot of sweeping generalisations which you’re probably not qualified to do. You’re also making a diagnosis of someone you’ve never met - President Trump.
@@celebratingandover6135 Eat this, too.
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@@bliss4383 You seem to have a bit of a disorder of your own. You post more and more / look we see you/ cant be arsed reading all that unimportant Crap you find and just take a chill pill calm down if possible. Or are you in need of Attention from people you do not even know. Bore somewhere else , thanks ... TDS is Real
Gosh, I wish she was my therapist.
I would fake to be 1 to be 1 on 1 with her!
@Queen Tantrum You just gave a clear explanation why she should not be your therapist, unless you're looking to please your senses i.e. a therapist who tells you what you want to hear or conversly the opposite "Here's what needs fixing about you. . ." And very likely if you can identify w that, then you probably know exactly the disordered thoughts or behaviors in your own life that need changing, as well as the practical choices available to your unique situation, even to a degree no therapist could *as accurately* conclude.
At a certain point - it seems to me - the main benefit of therapy is to have someone listen as we reveal *TO OURSELVES* - painfully honestly - what The Watcher (id) sees you doing all the time, and may reveal either excessive self-criticism, or any degree of disownership of responsibility - or any point in between.
The idea that a therapist could know me better than I know myself as I look in the mirror HONESTLY - I find to be implausible. The therapist's mission statement includes my willingness to submit to a kind of brain hack - i.e. psychopharmacological intervention(s) designed to help me *demonstrate behaviors* considered by _________ to be more "normal" or less problematic or stress-inducing for those around me.
And the real problem is that we are mostly all capable under certain conditions of expressing the full-range of behaviors when our very survival is threatened. And the real threats of current wars/ nuclear warfare, govt bribery and corruption - can put all of us under that stress - w mostly predictable responses: The definition of CIA social psyops.
It's like Hermann Goering said - The bigger the lie, the more times repeated, the more people tend to believe it ESPECIALLY if they are led to believe they are under threat of attack.
Americans are being programmed for depression and or anxiety because it is such an easy manipulation at that point. Ex: "Bomb Syria. Label anyone who disagrees 'an Assad-apologist' and a Russian spy." becomes reality for soft- minds - and off we go down the capitalist rabbithole with Islam as the threat, when in fact te MIC is the greatest CREATOR of depression and anxiety AND is the greatest threat to mankind's survival as a species on earth.
1984 happened a looooooong time ago. *Blade Runner was November, 2019* and I'm pretty sure we all can spot a *replicant*
Just sayin - you *may* start out lookin for a therapist, and end up saving humanity as we know it.
*[Or maybe just masturbate instead?]*
@Electricfishfan *Touche.* BUT that doesn't contradict me pointing out - her showing her cards - so to speak - with her comment about avoiding "charming" ppl, while using several obvious "charms" i.e. affect displays, batting eyelashes, eyes wide, use of smile, hands sculpting air, etc etc. *She knows/worries that charming types may see through her mask of charms* - er so to speak. . . you gather my inference.
Ultimately charms and makeup etc are a *distraction*
That may be the pithiest yt comment ever.
Esp the *1 to be 1 on 1 with her* part. So *replicant-y*
She might be well studied but it doesnt mean she will be good at treating patients. Another factor is "chemistry" ;finding a therapist to work with is like finding someone to have a successfull marriage with. Often being your own therapist is the best solution for the most part of your treatment.
1:55:46 this part makes me cry. How I wish someone, anyone, had picked up on my desperate cry for help as a child. But the sad truth is that no one did, and I have suffered tremendously for it. 15 years later I am now finally making some progress by daring to confess to a psychologist
Some progress?! This is huge! How many people on this planet dare to explore situations that are so complicated, so confusing, so traumatising. Little Robin has got YOU now. Sending you much love!
why whine about it online? Lol
Yup me too I agree with you Thank you for your support 🙏😊
Same darlin,. atb.
The way Dr. Durvasula talks about children always brings tear to my eyes, and what she said about that grief you feel when seeing other kids with caring loving families, the sense of having been robbed of that and a normal childhood, she got that spot on, bullseye.
Breaks my heart to know that...
That's exactly how I felt as a kid and feel even more now as my family has fallen apart
The kids are the real losers in these situations. When I did in home therapy with families that were predominantly referred by child services I ran into individuals with these personality disorders regularly. It was terrible to see what was happening with their children. I ended up working with the child to help them know it’s not them it’s the adult’s issue & to look for their self-worth inside themselves. It was truly heartbreaking & something that will never leave me.
I know, sorry you have to, too.
@@Kayster1971 ok.. if you have been dating one of these kids.. of course he is no longer a kid. But he is what I believe to be BPD with Cluster B Narcissistic personality disorder so what would that look like to a normal person? He appeared to be very honest at first, then the longer I'm around.. the more the odd outbursts and petty arguments. Bringing up a text message to a guy who sent a text message about giving me some d!€k and he would bring it back up over and over again throughout our relationship in order to make the terrible things that he would do to me alright.. and they wouldn't even add up. Like what he did was just not the same.. and how long he used it ..that one thing he could say was a mistake of mine. And he continued to use it to justify everything he did to me. Cheating, which he never admitted. But the fact that he was constantly starting stupid petty arguments just to leave me at home so he could run off and go to his ex who he was obsessed with. And he doesn't have any remorse.. and if he does, it doesn't have the same effect as it would have on me. He would look upset, guilty, miserable.. and then he would project and try to rub that onto me. I am empath. I have no medical training but I have dated so many messed up people. I am like a magnet to them. I have learned everything I know from my dating record.. he would be so sweet somehow but then same day and he would turn into an insensitive disgusting thing. And his whole personality would change by one single trigger.. and anything and I mean anything would trigger that change. But if he ever got caught doing something wrong then no matter what triggered him to change.. which also made him do the messed up thing to me... he would still use the stupid text message which I never reacted on.. although I could have... he did act.. without the text messages continuing.. but the part of the text message that bothered him.. was my response I deleted..so he made up all of the possibilities of what could have happened and although he didn't believe that I did anything.. he knew he had.. so if he let me off the hook for the message... what would he hold me guilty for? So he always used that. But ok.. so here's the biggest thing. He would text this other girl.. which was not allowed for me period. No one from the opposite sex, except my dad. But he messaged her plenty. But he deleted ALL of their messages.. and when I went to ask him about that, because he read all my messages to and from everyone all the time.. constantly asking me who was that, what did they say.. I mean ridiculous. Even when it was just a random meaningless notification.. anyway so when I asked him to read their messages which I knew they had messaged on multiple places say the phone, messenger, duo.. and all of them were erased and he was so smug 😏 and proud and it really made me feel sick to my stomach the way he would switch.. and go from this guy.. to that guy.. to THAT GUY. I thought I was going crazy for a while until he started doing it in my face. And called me while she was there beside him and talking nasty to me about what they were doing.. which they probably weren't at the moment but who knows..
"Their whole life is about getting away with stuff." Wow. Chilling and very telling.
more so when you realize it describes women.
☝🏽looks like we got a narc on the loose!
If you watch the corporate testimony in the Grenfell Tower Inquiry here on yt, you can see bucket loads of it.
Super fun but annoying
Like a person who pretends to be a medical doctor with their PhD, like someone who uses psych terms in all kinds of out there and bizarre ways ? What page of the dsm is flying monkey on?
She speaks in a way I can understand, yet I can’t turn away because I am learning. I love how nothing is sugarcoated. Thank you so much.
Bravo, I agree easily understandable speaker.
Physcopath
Fantastic explanation. Great and clear coverage. Thank you 😘
You nailed it 👍. She was who let me figure out he is a full blown narcissist. 😔
Have you seen the movie "I Care a Lot"? The museum were I worked for almost 30 years fell victim to a pack of psychopaths and some young people employed by us who had no morals or ethics who allowed themselves to be used to advance their own careers. To this day we don't know what they told the board but they managed to get us fired. At least we got a severance package. Though not much of one. The head psychopath who engineered all this was a brand new board member. No sooner were my boss and I fired and all the professional staff quit in support of my boss and me. Then this new board chairwoman turned around and fired the young people she had doing her bidding. They got a taste of their own medicine. The attack on the museum came from two fronts. First a wedding company run by a mafia boss from New Orleans and his business partner a female, wanted control of the museum. We were in an architecturally significant building which was the only space in town to hold large weddings of 300 people or more. The female partner started an affair with our then board chairman. Soon the mafia boss made this chairman a business partner where they set up a business called Ballroom LLC. Then the mafia boss got his personal high net worth private banker who works at Bank of America elected to our board. The former chairman was asked to step down as chairman to allow this new board woman to become chairwoman. The entire time she was grooming two young ladies to help with her real goal. These are the same ones she got rid of when they were no longer useful to her. That group is now running their for profit business through a 501c3 not for profit institution. The private banker is using the museum to launder money for her clients. I think anyone who read this much gets the drift. But believe me this is not nearly all of what went on. Thanks for letting me vent.
She is right about forgiveness. I kept forgiving my mother, got my trust broken over and over again, until I finally let go of expectations which was painful as well because it meant there was no more hope. I wish I could let go of resentment and guilt and the feeling it was my fault, that maybe I didn’t love her enough.
Aww well with these personality disorders it’s difficult to forgive because they believe they can abuse you over and over like a free pass to continue there behavior properly forgive when she is not around but sadly your mom won’t get any better they say narcissistic people get worse with age because they believe there nothing wrong with them especially your mom so am sorry your going through this.🙏😞🕊
It’s not your fault never was so in time you can let her go I would so you don’t get hurt anymore let her suffer on her own I know she is your mom but going no contact will be the best to do whatever you decide.🙏🕊
Forgiveness doesn't mean you should continue to give someone the opportnity to hurt you.
I can relate. My mom has spent her life trying to destroy me. the more well and distance I get, the more creative she becomes.
Forgiveness is for the forgiver. Don’t get stuck on having to hear an apology from a person, and stop holding on to resentment.
Moving on will free up space for happiness that we all desire and deserve. 🙏🏻💜☮️
The understanding of human psychology is an asset these days. You shouldn't cause yourself anxiety or paranoia, but you should always be on guard for the ulterior motives of other people.
I agree..people's intentions can be hidden easily
bruh … psychopaths and sociopaths aren’t some huge percentage of our population. u sound crazy. we can expect most people to behave with some human decency
Because of that I'm always very paranoid and have huge issues trusting people..
So that basically runs straight across the board?
Same!🤗
I wish I have seen this video 43 years ago, would have saved me a lot of tears and unhappy years
Kobie, I wish you well. Take care and stay safe xx
♥️
No kidding. To find you´ve been victimized by these people for an entire lifetime is the most infuriating thing in the world.
Kobie Boshoff: How awful, I hope for the rest of your years you are blessed with love and respect. ♡
Kobie , Psychiatry has always been at the bottom of the pile and it's so unfair because if I think back to the early 1980s and the AIDs epidemic when thousands of people were dying it became the Cause Celebe of the century . Billions of dollars were raised , protests on the streets , rich and famous people backed research and now ( 2021 ) AIDs is no longer a Death Sentence except for the poverty stricken . My love 💕 to you and yours .
I once heard it said: "You can judge the character of a person by the way they treat people who can't do anything for them". It's something that always stuck w/ me,. When i'm entering a new relationship or friendship i make a point of observing how that person tends to treat other people, and it's interesting and instructive how often it is radically different from how they interact w/ me.
Very interesting: Do you mean they treat the server well, and you like shit? Or the other way?
@@timisaac8121 beware the person who gives most to those who mean least. Case in point: my father is a master woodworker, joinery, cabinetry, home builder trade, yet was too busy to build me a kitchen pantry when I moved to house that had no cupboards. When the neighbour's children kicked the ball over, he couldn't just throw it back over like I always do, he ended up rolling it into the front yard and under the house it went. He then wrote them an apology letter explaining where to find it. All my mother's complaints and frustrations are booming in the back of my mind theses days.
@@WollongongSkyWatch I have seen that before: A person exceedingly gracious and charming to everyone on the street but nasty as 5 day old cod fish to those around him.
@@timisaac8121 thank you, Tim, the validation is truly appreciated and warming. None of my family want to see it, ie his sisters and their children.
@@WollongongSkyWatch NOOO!! That is truly the worst!~!! They gaslight you by cooperative!! Very painful for you. Do you have a plan or just trying to do your best?
7:48 Cluster B ASPD misconception (anti-society / norms of society) 11:05 Cluster C Avoidant PD, Social Anxiety disorder 15:12 16:00 17:47 24:10 ASPD marker 26:00 47:30 Do not take a diagnosis (or PATTERN) as your label or definitive permanent state, take it as a step to move to their best version of themselves and optimal life style 51:00 1:05:55 Adult’s consent 1:08:23 Pattern does not feel great and cant be changed 1:12:53 1:18:20 1:20:39 Psychopath’s game (actions based on attracting or impressing vs disposable or dispensable in their service) 1:25:00
I was adopted in infancy by a couple where one parent had psychopathic traits. She sometimes told me stories about how she and her cousin drowned animals when they were children. Even as an adult she had no regrets. She laughed about it. She had a sadistic streak that manifested with dependent children, pets, and later elders. She sometimes threatened to blind and even murder me when I was very young. She often told me, “I never make a threat I wouldn’t keep,” and “I am not a mercy person.”
I survived and am neither blind nor dead. However living in a state of terror took its toll. I grew very slowly, never thriving. I am under 5’0” tall today. Dependent pets and elders also suffered while in her care. One of our family members died of starvation. It was horrible. I wish that the public knew that adoptees and foster child end up in the hands of abusers too. People say, “Oh but adoptive parents are all carefully vetted. Adopted children are wanted-no one would abuse them. It’s beautiful thing.” People adopt children for all kinds of reasons. The majority of adoptees I have met say they were adopted to save their adoptive parents’ marriages. They have their own stories about what happened to them when their adoption was a disappointment. They failed to save their adopters’ marriages. We have a multi-billion dollar adoption industry that supplies prospective adopters with babies and small children in exchange for money. Adoptees need safe homes too. We don’t need a double-whammy if it can be prevented. We need people to work in those places that can screen prospective adopters for personality disorders. They are needed in foster care too.
That's terrible you had to go through that. I've heard some very disturbing stories from people that were fostered. I hope you are doing well now.
So glad you survived the abuse. What a nightmare. Makes one wonder what the matter was with her husband. I guess he was victimized also. Anyway you are a survivor but it’s still not easy.
Several books can be written on it.
Jesus! I'm so sorry for the trauma and fear you experienced in your life. I only hope you are no longer in contact with her or her enablers that knew how unfit and abusive she was. I pray you had one or more adults in your life you could trust and feel safe in their company. I also pray you have pursued and benefitted from professional counseling to give you an opportunity to live a full and rewarding life. God bless you always. I thank you for your courage and strength to share your experiences. You are brave and important. Please continue moving forward and take excellent care of you! Much love, respect, and admiration, Frances xoxo
We could all collectively write an entire series of books!!
Ramani is my therapy. She just understands mental health and psychology and trauma so well that she leaves little room for confusion. She really is an expert in her field. Hands down the most respectful and honest.
If your therapeutic journey is orientated around hearing someone just talk about diagnosis then I would kindly suggest perhaps your healing journey is yet to begin.
You should get one on one professional help. Many states have mental health programs. Insurance will often also pay some therapy. Good luck.
@@lauraelizabeth4444 Real change comes with behavioral.
Ha, definitely not honest.
@@katieandnick4113 why do you say that?
Dr Ramani is saving people lives by helping us be aware of what is happening around us. I want to give her a big hug and say THANK YOU!
Thank you for sharing. We let Dr. Ramani know about the feedback she gets. Thrilled that you are finding her content with us helpful.
Really. Water and oxygen saved mine. Big oxygen fan here, tho. And water. . .
MedCircle Please would you tell me how to get help, or were to get help on Narsctic abuse.
@@Mia-rb5lj it is extremely difficult to find help, especially if abused by a narcissist. I have been. I have cptsd. I have a PhD therapist, paying out of pocket. It is extremely expensive. Even then, most in therapy are not properly vetted in these disorders as Dr Ramani is. Even PhD degreed therapists. Book knowledge is not the same as direct knowledge through experience. This is a reality of life. It isn't the fault of therapists. This is a difficult topic all around. Difficult to truly understand, and for most difficult to accept that such people truly exist. Psychopaths and such walk a line of reality barely within our existence, mostly within their own false existence. To understand them fully, and completely, is to be a psychopath one's self. To try to truly understand them, can make one lose touch with reality and cross into that very dangerous realm. Those like Dr Ramani are able to effectively navigate this minefield using science and logic.
@@Mia-rb5lj Simply educate yourself. I had a narcissistic girlfriend, and helping myself to the many videos here on youtube is a worthy way to go.
I have never been diagnosed, but I believe I have antisocial personality disorder in a higher functioning capacity. I am a business owner with a wife and two kids and when my wife found out it helped her understand me and helped our relationship. The catch is that I have faith in the Bible and I practice the growth that it says you are required to maintain in order to be a Christian, so I have a high standard of a moral code that I actively practice each day like lifting weights whether you believe in God, or not, at least I have some thing I strive to achieve that holds me to a standard higher than even a non-sociopath in most cases
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the fact you have a moral code says enough about how weak you are.
Your already asking yourself if you have it so you probably dont have it. Antisocial means that you don't conform nor care about the social norm, you are rather miss using it for yourself and self gane. Ook ets say your wife s parent have a lot of life saving and you have a pyramide scheme any common husband wordt come there inlaws out of there life saving a psychopath or a sociopath wont care and can't even care about that they just do it
Sheesh. You sound like a joy to be around…..
@@Kitty-ex2gqI know right a nice family man with 2 kids and also a business too and a firm believer in Christ sounds like an absolute joy to be around
Dr. Ramani: "To me now charming people are terrifying." OMG I totally get that!!
So would it be safe to say that alpha & sigma males are narcissists by nature?
@@angelsaing579 idk. Alpha's perhaps. definitely be on guard with them
Don't take words to face value, literally. She meant in moderation is cool Dedee
@@pittyj369 obviously lol
@@deedee7780 not obvious, what 3 traits does charm envelopes according to you?
“Charming people are terrifying” - so true!
Not all of them are... Actually most are not
Yes, me. 😞
too good to be true
Guy Leite Jr same😏 its the best & worst thing to be charming
Samri Fikre
Charming means to charm or cast a spell over another. Much better to be gracious and respectful.
I feel the same way about meeting "charming" people. It always makes me wonder who they really are.
Same. I like the quiet people now that dont have to be center of attention
I knew Santa hated all of us sycophants. 😐
They are users. There's nothing to them. Avoid them at all costs.
They put on a fassad to hide their true self but people get sucked in by them and think that they are wonderful.
@@unknown-lf6zx I tried those out but they’re the same, or worse, just takes longer for their disorders to appear.
I divorced a psychopath after 29 years! It’s been 2.5 years since the divorce and he still won’t let things go! Court was excruciating and he crushed me just like you stated! He is a high functioning healthcare c-level!!! Charmed the judge, his attorney, and my attorney!
29 years? At this point the judge probably judged you 😮
@@mayaj4846 absolutely she did because she was a brand new judge and had and still has zero clue about coercion, trauma bond, intermittent reinforcement and all that good stuff. It is what it is....he is just as greedy as they come.
Your strength is astounding! Please do recognize the courage it took you to leave after so long and finally take charge of your own life, that is no small feat.
It is so crazy making to have been in your marriage for so long! I bet you are still sorting out things up above the brow. Thank you are alive and embrace peace (:
* God
Interesting how she says she avoids charming people at parties. I used to live in a lot of shared accomodation situations where we would interview lots of people as potential roommates. It got to the point that I would not allow exceedingly charismatic people to move in, because I had at various times in the past found these types of people to more likely be manipulative and users.
Could you explain more? How would you tell if someone is “charming”? What traits make a person charming in your opinion?
@@icameinlikeawreckingball2504 By charming I actually mean exceedingly charismatic. Specifically, people who on first meeting them center all their attention on you in an effort to make you like them. If someone you've just met makes you feel special in their presence, proceed with caution.
@@urdadsleftasshole69 I said "proceed with caution"...I just mean if someone wants to manipulate you they will try to charm you first. Not all charming people are manipulative on the other hand.
@@urdadsleftasshole69 lol, you're doing it right now.
Psychopaths cannot form relationships ever as they dont care enough to begin them in the first place. Psychopaths cannot feel anger as anger is linked to a form of empathy even if be it to a part of yourself. A actual psychopath is a double edged sword as they can hurt others and or without realizing it and they also are easily taken advantage of because not being able to get angry and have any true self care means a psychopath will not care if you hurt them be it beating them, rape, and so on. The only time psychopaths have ever had positions of power or influence is because they were born into royalty or inherited massive wealth as a psychopath will not work with other people. They lack the ability to even care to work with people seriously in the first place. A psychopath wont even pretend to like people if it's to acquire power as again they cannot care enough to even pretend in that way. Psychopaths are very much live in the moment individuals and true long term goals are not possible. Psychopaths make good slaves and servants because they are incapable of caring about their safety and have no interest in achieving power and influence.
I grew up with very emotionally and verbally abusive parents. My mother would often refer to me as a sociopath when I was a kid. In adult life when I worked through this stuff with mental health professionals I learned that the reason I I had trouble showing emotions so young was due to trauma from bullying ,racism and growing up in a family of alcoholics. this video is a great resource, Dr. Ramani's work has help me so much!
Same here.
God bless you DEAR
Wishing you all the best sending positive energy and love your way❤️❤️❤️😭
I am so glad for you!
Sadly, here too by step p. But I like you will come out the other side, happy n thankful we have our own will and can maneuver this world and don't /won't be a victim of "THEIR" problems.
The host is wonderful. He does not interrupt her and asks really intelligent questions. This is the 1st time seeing the doctor. God, but she is so very intelligent and is a joy to listen to. She sounds it, but has a way of explaining things that's understandable to those of us without a doctorate. Excellent UA-cam class.
I am in DBT therapy. Radical acceptance is a huge, huge part of DBT. It has saved my life. I have been in this specific therapy for about 2 years
“We’re better off focusing on patterns”. Wow now it explains why my therapist told me to always “stick to the facts” and it’s helped me tremendously in my healing.
OMG I love her, I took her class multiple times during my undergrad. She’s a great professor!
Which college?
@@user-qq1gc7lf7e cal state LA i believe is where she teaches
I would be terrified she would analyze me. 😀🤣
Ugh lucky
Omg what an honor!
We need to implement more emotional intelligence in school systems. Kids will learn how to regulate their emotions and receive help if they need guidance in how to work through them in a healthy way.
More? Is there some already? When I went to school there was none. You’re 100% right and if we don’t do this ASAP we will fail as a species; the psychopaths already run much of the world economy and will destroy us all.
Absolutely. Tap into it before they get to be adults and go into society right!
I agree but the public school system can only do so much. Good parenting is really the key.
@@katkatkatkat463 100% the world is tun by psychopaths. Very scary!
Yes! 😊💜💜💜💜💜💜
Kudos to the interviewer too, she is extremely articulate and he can keep up without getting totally lost in some of her explaining. I had to pause and go back 2 or three times to soak in some concepts, he didn't even break a sweat once 👏🏽
The woman in this program is so well educated that it seems impossible for anyone to have that much information inside their head. Facts and conversation flow from her lips like water from a rampant river.
This shocks me because ive never heard or spoken to anyone so confident and brilliant in all of my 70 years of living. Truly an amazing woman...
She’s very charming.🤔😳 lol
That's what He said 😏😂
When they show you who they are the first time....believe them, seek help and get out.
So true.. run
Run 🏃🏾♀️ faster 💨
Yea i dated a sociopath he was very charming at first for like 7months straight n he got along with everyone and then tried to control and manipulate me and had people go against me , i ended up exposing him and he cried threaten to kill himself if i left him i blocked him but he still until now tries finding ways to speak to me is creepy
@@missperfectluxury7630 ensure you stay away from him. His ultimate goal is to lure your back in so he can punish you. Run💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃
Abigail Simpson yes mam thank u he even had the audacity to message me on my personal email after blocking him its sad to know people like that exist and cant be helped but im just happy im aware now and can move on and watch for those red flags for anyone new i find
".....anything that feels like a hustle, is probably a hustle!"
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Instincts.
Exactly!
The saddest part is that Western society glorifies "hustlers, pimps, psychopaths, narcisistic behavior, and dark empaths"... Look at the most popular comic book characters, most popular movie characters, in fiction, in politics, in media, in Hollywood, in business. Our society often tells us that it's good to be hustled and you are just weak if you are not participating in the game. That is why so many people fall prey to these predators.
These videos are en enormous hustle, this company is called Medline but has no Mds only PhDs pretending to be medical doctors.
Thank you Dr. Ramani! You are so articulate, knowledgeable, empathetic, helpful, an incredible educator and AMAZING woman!. I'm sooo happy I found you here. Thank you.
"Emotional Abuse is never acceptable any day of the week."
Mean people suck.
Funny that SHE is doing all these things she says I'm doing. I'm an idiot.
Agreed .the main stream propaganda media's and the DNC politicians truly need to watch this video
@Phillip Hiller yep alot of that goes on🥵
the only abuse that exists is physical.
verbal abuse = not always saying nice things
emotional abuse = not taking responsibility for your actions, you control the way you feel; and not other people.
The most informative 2 hours of my life.
Fantastic! We have a lot more from Dr. Ramani and other mental health doctors at MedCircle.com. You can access our large library for free.
I didn't even realize it was 2 hours till I read ur comment.
She is awesome
@@MedCircle I very much like this format. Very well organized and presented. Do you have one on paranoia? Because now I don't trust anyone!
@@MedCircle at 1:27:20 or so, what we you going to say that they don't like? You got interrupted & we want to know what you were going to say.
I am looking forward to this. I'm a massive supporter of Dr. Ramani. She has changed how I think of therapists, and those who seek them.
I hope you enjoyed, Ali! There is a lot more from Dr. Ramani at MedCircle.com. 🙌
Yea, she's REAL, not one of those fake one's only out to get your money (a psychopath, lol). Me too after I started listening to her. I started to realize there truly are good psychologists and psychiatrists out there.
@@Belialith I bet she has not donated one penny to help anyone . See what she can do for others but not what others can do for her career
Thank you both. You were my rock during my spiritual awakening. Now I am fully aware of how no remorse can debilitate a sensitive personl like me. I was casted into the dark
we so much need this knowledge on a public level
This is a publicly accessible platform.
@@SugaryPhoenixxx the statement means IT NEED TO BE TAUGHT ABOUT IN SOCIETY..
I was in a relationship with 2 different types of people with mental illness, which has led me to embark on my degree in Forensic psychology. I respect Dr. Ramani and her research!
so sorry for you
It stems from a deficit of self love. SLD Speaking from experience
So happy for you (i chose this interpretation)
Yes, my family was why I became a psychotherapist. And I ended up with 2 people like this
If one day, I end up explaining highly complex topics as Dr. Ramani does, I will be a happy person. Such a knowledgeable and eloquent lady. I could listen to her for an entire day.
I was told by a friend years ago, that he thought he had anti-social personality disorder. I wish I had known what it was then. I assumed based off of hearing the name that he was just a little anti-social. I didn't understand who I was dealing with. What I have been dealing with is someone sadistic and cruel that lacks all self awareness and has a complete lack of empathy. This experience has been a nightmare from hell. I really think it's time that the disorder is renamed to something more fitting to the kind of people that the label represents. I agree with Dr. Ramani.
So they know what they are and don't care.
@@Blech-h9zmore than likely. They know what they’re doing is immoral but they simply don’t care or will justify it.
"Prince Charming is most likely Prince Psychopathy" so true
Fight me
@@Ftfwjdndfjw Why would you say that?
@@n.c.6211 I think she says it because she got dumped by someone.
@@rhysweaver7178 Oh, I see. Thanks. Not a native speaker so I assumed she wanted to believe the fantasy. There are movies and novels for that, but not real life. If one becomes Prince Charming after years then that's not love bombing, it is true love. But if one presents themselves that way it's an act.
@ggg whatev yeap, everyone pretends but some of us are real. Look at every professional.
And I had a relationship with someone who had literally 40 relationships within just a several year period. All of them ended with "that person was the problem" and then come to find out, they play the same game on you. They chew you up and spit you at as you said, don't care about you, smear campaign, discard/ghosting, etc. and yet this person is considered cheerful and loving, a "perfect" and outgoing person by everyone around them. Nevermind their drug addiction, trainwreck lifestyle every weekend and trail of broken people behind them. Yet no "criminal" history or signs that will alert you. But now I see they do have a rap sheet, they have those broken people behind them, the crimes of the heart they have not been convicted of.
Some of them have others committing crimes for them. That’s a pattern with street pimps, for example. Better to send others out to commit crimes for you, and save your record is the mentality. My abusive ex-husband explained to me that “we” were going to ruin my credit, because we would always have his to fall back on. Of course, I was in no position to complain. I couldn’t believe the audacity and transparency of that statement!
@@heidiho5179 How awful for you. Hopefully you are in the hands of a great therapist. Because a person needs a professional to guide them and help them recover. 💗✝️💕 Life is fragile handle with Prayer.
Exactly...🎯🎯💯
@Cher with Y.E.S. ikr yesssssssssss. 😍😍
pov: blind to redflags
One day my uncle's neighbor came over, and the instant he came through the door, I had a horrible feeling about him. He sat next to me and I was so uncomfortable. I tried to avoid him all night, and the conversation was really weird and he was so opinionated and harsh. I couldn't shake the bad feeling I had. Later I told my uncle and mom how I felt. They dismissed me. Later that year, he was busted for stealing from the company, computers and other expensive stuff, plus, he would travel to Thailand under pretense of work, but he would go to brothels and sleep with underage girls. Some other things were found in his home after a raid I think. I knew he was a bad person. I felt it the instant I saw him. It was weird, but I am glad I have a radar going on. No-one else did.
Intuition and discernment never lie.
The ability to spot them is a gift. Always trust that intuition - it could save you so much pain and could even save your life.
Read the book, The gift of fear, by Gavin De Becker. You will totally relate.
Sounds like a chill guy to me
@@VastoLorde13 yeahhh sure think man. what had he done wrong? I didn't get it.
She is so well spoken and articulate. So easy to learn from her. She’s a true expert!!!
He's incredible with his questions. I almost always hate interviews because they seem to miss all of the key topics that really matter, and he's covered basically everything I've felt tempted to google mid-interview. I love an expert, but it takes expert questions to get the answers you need.
Look up for Dr Grande he explains all the traits clearly.
I really liked his questions asking her if she thought children could be diagnosed with personality disorders. That's my burning question. To catch these disorders before they get full-blown where they leave a wake of damaged victims.
Psychology is soft science, it’s not 100%… my brother and I were both diagnosed with cognitive disorders when we started school, my mother did not want us to be drugged, we were chaos… my brother would pee in public at school, constantly disturbed his classmates, I bullied other kids… and was violent… my mom just kept monitoring us and was very patient… there were time that she broke down and cried, she told us that she needed our helps…we were compassion, we learnt and we understood … we re both fine now. I m sure there were real mental issues on some kids, but I believe there are many just phrase!!! There are good therapists and bad ones, it’s just a job for many of them. They don’t really know as much as you thought they did…We re grateful for our mom not let us depend on drugs in such a young age. She always knows she wouldn’t depend on other ‘ppl’ to do her job, and she researched and experimented a lot to help us. She put us on different sports, we took taekwondo, tennis, soccer and swimming, we also had piano lessons, and we attended chess club and cube club during the weekend…
I could listen to her all day. She is highly intelligent.The questions he asks are spot on.
Me too
Yes, I've watching this for an hour. I'm completely engulfed in what she's saying. She knows her craft.
shes selling her self out, as a proffesional, i see greed in her, not narsism, or any other disorder,
@@loriluv127 She certainly does, I think she’s the best out there. She’s helping so many people.
She's a doctor. Calling her 'highly intelligent' is patronizing. Ask yourself if you would have made a statement on her intelligence if she were a man.
No one roasts a narcissist like Dr. Ramani. :D
Andromeda I think she might be one lol
@@ViliusJ I think you might be one lol
Adi M signs point to ya haha base off my research
@@ViliusJ Okay! 😶
No she isn’t, she is very empathetic.
Listening to Dr. Ramini describe CEOs: I can relate the characteristics she describes to most employers or higher ups I’ve worked for by her descriptions alone. She just nails it. She is so knowledgeable and I’ve learned so much from listening to her
She's not that great. She's better than most of these so called psychologists. But certainly not the best. Dr. Sam Vaknin is one of the more knowledgeable on this subject.
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I was married to a man with antisocial personality disorder and also narcissistic. He was very subtle while dating. I saw 1 red flag that I ignored. Now 21 years later I can see it more clearly. Thank goodness we never had children. As time went on things became worse. He would demonstrate a certain personality when in public but the true stuff came out when alone. It is important to be cautious in relationships.
The covert narcissist. Very friendly as strangers (the charm). But the telltale signs comes out later.
@@robertlee4172 Exactly Right. Bless her heart! She spent all those years with a cruel person.💔
What was that 1 red flag? Please. Thanks
do you ever wonder why he chose to be with you? if they don't have emotions what could his motive have been?
@@annamarie3288 I was visiting him and had my bar of soap on the sink. He went into bathroom and saw it grabbed it and threw it across the room. We were only together 5 years. Divorced 21 years ago.
You can tell who loves their job by the way they speak about it
Forgiveness is different then trust. I have forgive a friend, however I will never trust. I will walk away from them. I don’t wish wrong to come to them.
Marlene Hellmann THIS IS SOOOO TRUE!!
Exactly.
Well said
I love your post. It sums up how I feel about my ex.
Your right. I have forgiven but the trust is not the same there.
Thank you! What a super-awesome chat! I specialized in psychology for 3 years in university and took "Abnormal Psych". 10 years ago I became roommates with a friend who ended up being a sociopath. There was slways drama, arguments and his behavior with a co-worker seemed bizarre and cruel. A good friend said he sounded like a sociopath. I found a "sociopath checklist" online and knew of the general criteria. He got a 4/5,. I thought he was honest as I had no reason to believe he was a liar; he said he was honest. One day, after he used my laptop, I found some very revealing skype chat and realized everything was a lie. I'm mentioning this because the lying is hard to prove unless you look carefully and honestly. In hindsight, I admit I overlooked warning signs as I'm non-confrontational and was naive. As the expert says here, if you have concerns about someone, look at their behavior broadly. I now think of any relationship as a something like a workplace: no one gets a promotion before proving themselves. Better to have no relationship than a bad relationship.
How to spot a sociopath/psychopath for regular people:
-their eyes look dull, bored, etc. It's like looking at an animals eyes. There's just...nothing there, no ones home.
-after a while you can catch their voice sounding monotone, dull. Like they are reading from a history text. They might be able to hide it at first, but not always.
-if you have...truly experienced one (Shivers)...you will know them just by their vibe. Your gut will tell you, "avoid avoid avoid!"
-they are smart, really smart. Super duper smart. Do NOT under any circumstance think they have average iqs or that you can outsmart them, most times you can't unless you have solid proof. Most have 150+ Iq but some can have 200+ and higher.
-Most don't have s3xual orientations. With a psychopath they can suit anyone, male, female, les, gay, trans...
They don't have a personal preference. Some will, but most don't. They swing both ways.
-Sometimes they will tell you. You'll be sitting there with them at a coffee shop, sipping your drink, when they suddenly say out of no where "You know, you should really stay away from me."
You ask why, cause it's super eerie, and they respond "I'm not a good person."
-anger. They will have anger. Tell you they wanna punch people, etc. Anger is a major sign.
-they will act weird, creepy. They will hide behind a corner and shout "boo!" as you pass them, or they will suck the energy from the room by dropping their mask for a minute. It will feel like you are in the room with garek (the wolf) from "the never ending story"
-time. To spot a psychopath takes time and patience. I've had a lot of experience, and so far I've been able to tell within a year or so.
@@specialtwice4975 very accurate describes me well
@@specialtwice4975 the first two points doesn't make sense. Some just have a resting face
Beware of “charming” people!! Charming is not a natural human feeling, like love. Charm is created for the person's benefit.
So true. Charm is selfish and has an agenda
That's too paranoid... Charming is subjective and revealed in all of us at different points.
@@alexanderwindh4830 I don’t think it’s paranoid. Charm doesn’t automatically mean narcissist of course nobody claims that. But charm is selfish in itself. You use charm to manipulate someone doesn’t mean it’s sinister. But saying that charm is in everyone is same as saying envy is in everyone or everyone lies. Yes maybe everyone lies but not everyone is considered a liar. And even so lying is a narcissistic trait, ego driven just like charm.
That's a slap if you blanket every charmer. Could be a woman or be child, papa or a stranger. You def need to have you b.s. filters on to know dif. Trying to teach my son to learn how to read people. It's hard to show people to use their intuition so it's more about asking what he observes in a particular situ. But yes have seen many
Nonsense
1:17:13 “Emotional abuse is unacceptable any day of the week.”
Emotional abuse triggers emotional abuse. It's usually the one who did the abusing that is deemed the victim.
They probably had it coming
any abuse is unacceptable any day of the week, month, year, or century
@@pinkyhotmessx69 everything will wither and decay but it’s energy will stay
ha, well it is the "new normal" so better get used to it. Richard Grannon vids may help
These videos always give me chills because they always confirm that fact that I’ve dated a psychopath
There's something that's off about all these women in the comments coming here to state that their exes are psychopaths. Maybe some of it is true, but a lot of it seems like confirmation bias and this era's desire to diagnose everything.
Bryan, its more common in men so more women will encounter it romantically
@@senoritaaurora5123 Got any sources?
@@dogestranding5047 It's the need to rationalise the toxic behaviour in their exes because they can't seem to understand that neurotypical people can be horrible - maybe even more so - than someone with a PD.
what was it like? i don’t wanna seem super nosey, or possibly offend you but i’m just curious to know of some examples/instances
I've watched so many videos with this lady. She should be a household name. Thank God for UA-cam. Cuz we need to be educated on these kind of people
My Mother has antisocial personality disorder, NPD, and is absolutely a sociopath. I am still unraveling the abuse and I am 43. It has been extremely painful. This video was quite good. Thank you kindly.
cant even imagine your experience. youre so strong dude!
I can be sure you’re quite manipulative yourself then
@@jennestes5494 May I ask what warranted this comment?
How can your mom have Anti social personality disorder and sociopathy because ASPD is the clinical term for sociopathy they're the same thing lmao
@@whytho1534 I am wondering whether her mother was ever clinically diagnosed with both Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Anti-Social Personality Disorder. Those suffering from either disorder, especially the former, are notorious for not seeking or outright refusing treatment of any kind. Furthermore, too many laypeople (attempt to) diagnose others in their lives or otherwise without the requisite and extensive background, schooling, knowledge, qualification, and certification to do so; and even then, proper, well-trained, and ethical licensing mental health professionals do not "diagnose" those whom are not their own direct clients (and whom they have not treated in some capacity) unless there is a substantial need to do so in order to facilitate growth and client awareness and accountability or in order to meet the stipulation(s) put in effect by their clients' respective private or state insurance agencies. With all this in mind, I would have to conclude that the commentator either misunderstood the dual diagnosis of Cluster B personality disorders given to her mother or the commentator determined the dual diagnosis for herself, either one of which explains her relative lack of knowledge or awareness regarding one aspect of the diagnosis (in other words, providing a clinical and an informal descriptor for the same disorder). What are your thoughts?
Eggshells are a nightmare. Living with a person / a relationship with a person - with whom you cannot have decent communication is a total nightmare. It makes you nuts! I have been there. 14 years marriage to a passive aggressive covert narcissist who, with 7 therapists, looked like the paragon of virtue where I looked like the nut job. The 8th therapists recognised my symptoms! I was divorced and left a year later! Done and dusted. Living so happily alone with 9 animals!
Ace
Yeah they were the problem sure thing buddy
meh, it's not that bad.. the ones with directed energy weapons on the other hand..
Congrats on your freedom.
How does one stay with a narcissist after year 1 ? Year 2? Year 3? Year 5? Do you see what I'm asking? It takes two to tango. I can understand a year or two or three, but 14 years?!?! You knew something was wrong but were in denial. That, and how long did you date before marrying this guy?
Lastly 9 animals is about 7 too many. Sounds like you were traumatized but having that many animals isn't really a normal solution.
I have never heard anyone who completely understands what it’s like to be gaslighted by everyone you know about your ex because he’s too charming or seemingly nice to them in a social setting. I was also in complete denial even when I saw the red flags early in the relationship. I love that this doctor will take evidence from phones or emails from clients.
Consider the phenomena of wishful thinking and the psychology of previous investment.
I get it.
Dr Ramani’s expertise shines through in every video. The way she presents facts and evidence with such clarity is truly commendable. Thanks to her, I've become a dedicated viewer of MedCircle!!
The description of antisocial personality disorder is so consistent with what I endured from my sister 3 years my senior. Uses aliases, scams the government, manipulated and gaslighted every family member, instigated violence. I have been able to checkmate her behavior by documenting everything and getting my parents lawyer involved to end her manipulating them for money as they were slipping into dementia but it was hell for several years.
She is probably behaving that way coz she was abused by your parents, her behavior sounds like a trauma response. and you’re a lousy sister
Everything you mention sounds like me I wonder if it’s because of my disability and or have low intelligence I’ve heard that doesn’t help. I feel dumb because I decided to go on a 3 day alcohol binge and now I just stay in doors and not work I’m afraid of everyone it sucks. I think my family members are narcissistic though
ASPD is more than that. Should see my situation. Easily top 100 stories
She is so passionate about her knowledge in this subject. I love it.
maybe she has a need to rationalize a past relationship or has issues with her dad ;D. I think male emotions are different, not an issue of males not being able to talk about emotions -- its a difference of wavelengths, «The Double Empathy Problem». Male mental health is severely malnourished, possibly effected by most psychologists being female as well.
I just love listening to this woman. Smart, down to earth.
“When a signal is given to you, it’s only useful if you’re willing to heed it.” Dr. Ramani
I’m seventy three. When I was 13 my dad talked to me about going to college in order to get training so that I could support myself. He said he never wanted me in a situation where I would depend on a man. He always wanted me to be able to support myself. That was almost 6 decades ago. We need to do this today. If you care about your daughter, do what my dad did. He saved my life. BTW; growing up in the early sixties I never heard the word therapist.😳
Your Dad was very wise indeed. Blessed you are to have him.
My dad did the same thing. I'm 66.
My parents stopped supporting me when I was 15. It was 20 years ago and I haven’t forgiven them for it. They live alone now, nobody talks to them. Don’t toss out your kids don’t abandon your damn kids!
Wow, I wish more parents did this.
@@EEsUA-camChanel My mother abandoned me as well. You're not alone. You deserve a strong foundation and support system. Hope you are healing. 🤍
1:13:47 "They can keep a lid on it long enough to get a ring on it." This is so true with manipulators and gaslighting lol.
This described my recent ex-husband to a T. Highly intelligent, manipulative, covert, charming, until the ring went on.. within days a true destructive monster was unleashed. My family and friends couldn't see what l was talking/begging for them to see, nothing nade sense until 2 friend's who have lived something similar in their past came to my rescue. Early on his own daughter, a BP herself, did try to give me hints which l naively did not understand, as l never before have heard or known of any one with these issues, and least with antisocial personality, narcissism and bipolar disorders. It's 3 years later and l am still healing from those 2 years of nightmares which he dragged me into, he almost ruined my entire life, affected deeply my emotional, physical and financial health. I was just blessed to still have emotional supportive health thru friends who fought for me and still have my back. These kind of ppl are true evil, creating havoc and leaving a path of destruction wherever they go.
@fr_ Tempest So true. I much later realized that, why we were on and off-on relationship for 5 years, then l broke it up, only to have him return 2 years later and immediately he swept me off, within less than a year we married and the true nightmares started with in days...8 months later, l had to escape to save my life!. Your sense of timing is perfect.
@@beezb728 we are made into this. Everyone with ASPD once had the potential for positive mental health. People created this
@@yxngscxmbxg7193 People? What ppl? Only If you're referring to the parents ...as she explains early developmental environments is only thing that could somehow change an outcome ..ironically...often these kind are luckier than most people ..when they seem to be the ones truly finding and keeping for themsleves "the really empathetic and kind ppl" ..those of us, who WISHED we could somehow help them, and allowing them to make good changes to their behavior and for mutual benefit...but instead we just walk right into their evil trap ..wether that trap is made by his/her parents of the early environment or created out of their exploitative cunning minds .....One thing is (we) "empaths" do try to live and love them like they are but usually ( more than often) end up either destroyed, mentally, emotionally and financially if not too, even maimed if we do not escape, we must run out litteraly and physical to protect our lives!!. There is NO fixing of any kind for these ppl ..that is a ONLY sad reality.. tougher for womenn to live with one of these... men by nature are more resourceful to survive.. for women, as our nature is to nurture and care we tend to hang around hoping ..praying for change until at some point ..we hope something or someone comes to rescue us. l say these ppl, are well developed Dracula's in the flesh! ..have learned to suck life out of another human and many do enjoy, doing it! For they are Merciless.
Almost married a woman like this. Yes I waited 2 years 2 months and she came unglued. Thankful I waited
I have aspd, in the sociopath area of it. I feel that people like me are treated like lame and infirm children in a bronze age Sparta. We get thrown out immediately, which just makes everyone else's problems worse. I've learned how to behave to effectively hold relationships and steady long term income and I've gone from being dirt poor to upper middle class in the last 6 months, only from learning what people expect others to do and say. Life is a huge learning experience till we die and I'm excited for the future, especially as I'm expecting my first child soon.
People make us look like we are not human
Yah they're a hug stigma with cluster b disorder that suck so I'm sorry
She basically just explained the characteristics needed if you want to become a polician.
Right?
Exactly….and business people also…Bill Gates….George Soros…. President Bush…Biden…Obama….Ted Turner….Emanuel Macron….Hitler….Putin …. Stalin….Nancy Pelosi….Gretchen Whitmer ….the governor of California….. the idiot mayor of New York……especially that moron Emanuel Macron though. Macron may end up being worse than Hitler.
@@raccoondon488 as an education worker i can never work ever again in my field if i go to jail, as politicians you can always stay that way.
I wonder who ever wrote these laws
Yes!
@@raccoondon488 Obama/Hitler…..sure.
The real problem here is parenting!! Majority of these disorders are environmental/dysfunctional family issues. It’s so sad that unhealthy people are raising unhealthy children (innocent children corrupted). What are we doing as a society to help this problem??!! What can we do to better educate new parents?!! Knowledge is power!!!
I've been a stay at home mom for 24 yrs. I don't believe in having them and then ditching them, what a gross life! The more you make, the more you pollute!
@Jesus lover, so true. Knowledge is crucial for parents in properly raising children .
Jesus Lover more programs for trauma recovery is needed. That is how we are going to face this issue.
ACANKU!
"ODD"
Oppositional defiance disorder could be said to have been Jesus Christ's diagnosis, seeing the OP's moniker I thought I'd take it into relevance... I'm on the fence, though, regarding your thoughts in relation to ODD.
And, speaking of the OP's moniker, and not intending any disrespect, Jesus Christ needs to be removed from the table. Not in the fashion of totalitarianism via not being allowed to discuss the predicament of the deity. Discussions on the hypocrisy of such religions and political arenas might be helpful to children. Getting them away from the narcissism found in both areas of worship and getting them to respect themselves and others instead of seeing everything and everyone as missing something within their souls only Christ can help fill could very well benefit the future. Yes, I am biased against Jesus Christ and the teachings, how he flipped over the tables and wanted to bring down the temples. This is antisocial behavior, which is exactly how Dr. Ramani describes as definition of the subject, how many might have forgotten.
Parents, they can only do so much in teaching their children to avoid apathy. The system needs to start allowing freedom of expression. Being able to tell everyone who you are, and to dissent without being told to pack your bags and go to another country could help. Feeding into the position of the country one lives in as the strongest, and mightiest, and how if you don't pray to Jesus goodness will go to another country perpetuates anger, and placed manipulation in high esteem, which is said to be frowned upon but shown to be accepted. The hypocrisies of society helps edge along such behaviors. Take away worship of a "Lord" and "savior" one might not wish to be counted as such, which is how these people who see their behavior as excusable want to be treated.
Nope. Sure, parents can screw up their kids, but it's not the only cause and it just isn't that simple.
Lacking empathy seems a whole different animal than lacking remorse. I had never thought about it from this perspective. Thank you.
they go hand in hand, highly unlikely someone is gonna have remorse if they dont have empathy
Wow. Best video I've seen. Every single point was a spot on description of ME. I'm a survivor, and have been diagnosed with severe PTSD from the trauma. Only way i got out was my husband suddenly and unexpectedly died. I still struggle with love/ hate & relief/grief even though it's been 4 years now. 😪
My daughter is diagnosed as BPD. She goes to therapy every two weeks. It has been a life saver for her and the rest of the family. She's a social butterfly now and boundaries must always be in place with her. My sister is a covert narc and sister son is malignant narc. My sister is being so sweet, makes me wonder what she's up to
Ive been diagnosed with BPD any information you can give me id be most grateful
@@StRiKerhost My channel focuses mainly on bpd. I was diagnosed aged 21. I cover everything bpd related xxx
Also.. I wrote a book called 'The Big Book on Borderline personality disorder'. You can find it on amazon and read the reviews xxx
BPD and the trauma behind it can be life ruining. Be proud of her getting help.
What are you? Was your daughter abused?
She is right , The flags were flying. When I look back I remember what should have sent me running.
Doesn’t the book of Proverbs say “charm is deceitful.” Great talk
It certainly does!!!
Yes it does!
Who cares what that ancient fairy tale says.
Jesus 🙋🏾♀️☺️
And yet religious leaders ooze it.
Dr ramani is an absolute beast in her field, never seen such a skilled psychologist.
So after watching this I realized I was married to a very charming narcisisstic sociopath for 14 years. He made it almost impossible to leave him because he isolated me so much, but I got out and I am happy now.
How did you get out?
That’s great. It took her 8 years of school to diagnose a narcissist and you diagnosed your ex after watching one video. You saved a ton of money.
@@jimmydriveway Not really, the fact that he was in my life means I'm cleaning up a narcissistic mess. He also had years of therapy we struggled to pay. They always said he had borderline personality disorder. He didn't tell them everything though because he was a manipulative monster. So a lot of my money went down the drain for therapy, useless therapy he never got any better. He just made it more difficult to leave year after year.
@@greenroses4950 Oh, ok. Lol. I thought you were basing your entire diagnosis of him just from this video. Glad you got out.
@@LilLucky604 He was particularly abusive one day. I ended up getting out of the car when he went into a store and I called the cops. They arrested him long enough for me to gather everything and leave to another state.
My brother was diagnosed with antisocial PD and mamic depression. This was compounded with our mother being an alcoholic narcissist. He exhibited conduct disorder by age 5. He had his expected stints in jail and later prison. As he aged, his suicide attempts became frequent. His girlfriend cut him down from near death hangings 4 different times. I was his big sister caring for all the younger siblings as mother was useless, and dangerous. My father was such a decent and good man, but codependent as hell with mom so he always gave in to her demands that no help be brought in to care for us. Mother hid behind her affluence which worked so well back in the 50'sand 60's. My brother asked me often, "Tell me again sis why mom doesn't love me...." He never could understand how sick of an alcoholic she was nor her cold nature, no hugs, no I love yous...never.
What a heart breaker.
He succeeded in ending his life at age 36 while staying in a boarding house down by old man river in downtown Rock Island, Illinois. He was found by another boarder in the morning when he went to shower where he found Billy who had strangled himself with a torn t-shirt which he had secured to one of the water handles. Not high enough to hang, he literally strangled himself. The coroner told me that manner of death is unusual and demonstrates the unbearable pain he must have felt to override the natural reaction to breathe.
I was twisted for so long after that. I am now 64 and am a codependent empath with a significant problem with CPTSD. I exhibit my brokenness via anxiety which I am told is displaying my underlying depression. I don't know really who I am other than a collection of defense mechanisms and reflexive reactions as I carefully observe other's behaviors.
I am a people pleaser who dysregulates if I feel I am losing control of events in my life. I keep on fighting until some psychosomatic illness forces me to stop, like giant hives, EBV in later life and aerophagia. I am stuck in my programmed reactions from my toxic childhood. I feel unworthy, cannot trust and am plagued with shame.
The body indeed will keep score if we are unable to manage our dysregulation. I just want to feel that I know who I am and have a chance at real love before I die.
I hope you can heal
I wish u the best and hope u heal. We are all only human and deal with a lot more similar things than different
Bless you 🤍🤍🤍 xX
@44JesusIsLord44 Thank you
I actually understand what you are talking about. I was raised by a mother who had undiagnosed attachment disorder and a father who had untreated bipolar disorder along with pathological lying, narcissistic behaviors, so I grew up very anxious and had difficulty coping with stress and developed social awkwardness. I have a lot of trouble trusting and have fought with low self worth all my life. You are not alone. There are many of us out there.
"emotional abuse is unacceptable any day of the week."
this was an amazing interview btw
@@nancyn891 imagine experiencing this on a daily basis. I know the feeling.. the demeaning looks, the facial expressions the anger behind it
"emotional abuse is unacceptable any day of the week.", except on fridays, when it is called FFF and led by a girl with an anger disorder.
I don’t like being a focus to anyone, but I think about silencing those thoughts in my head every day. I know I’m too old now but I’d want any young people reading, don’t leave it too late to find help before it’s ingrained and unchanging, you cannot teach an old dog new tricks. Don’t live with pain you don’t have to. Please. I love you brothers and sisters, I’ve never met you or interacted with you but I empathise with you. I know you in that I know myself. I wish you all the best.
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that a person should keep them close enough to continue acting out against us.
I have always heard that "Forgiveness is not a FEELING. Forgiveness is a DECISION." It is so tough to make that decision.
I think you can forgive them but not allow them in your life, or if you have kids with them forgive them but keep them at a diatance
Yes.
@@JOY-ye2us In fact, it is compassionate to oneself to forgive them, and to remove them from one's life, if one's life is better that way. :). Making the decision to be strong for both of you is ok. You are a good person, and forgiveness is always for the person forgiving.
@@katherinewilson1853 my daughter is a narcissist because everyone spoiled her including myself now that she’s almost 18 she lives with my sister cause she wants less restrictions. She didn’t invite me to see her in the band parade, she didn’t tell me when her prom was so I missed it. And she went to see he boyfriends mother instead
For me forgiveness is the decision to have no bad feelings about someone.
That doesn't mean that you don't be aware what this person has done, neither that you leave your guards down.
It can be releasing to forgive and leave bad things behind you.
The most charming men I dated turned out to be narcissistic or exploitative, or both. It was quite the rollercoaster ride.
It's not always easy for a person. With trait APD or NPD. I was diagnosed with conduct disorder when O was arrested at 13. I've been in Law Enforcement, and have been the best father possible, and my kids are good for it. I truly despise having such a hard time connecting with a woman. Then when I do. I push borders to see how close I can take us to the end. To see how much it can hurt; both of us! Stupid! That's so damn counterproductive, and - intuitive. My own self sabotage, for control, or instilling a fear, or whatever it is I do this for. It's illogical and destructive of any hopes of having a long lasting beautiful woman. Who has her own feelings. I don't truly want to hurt! Self discovery has been years in the works. Still further from understanding it than I ever was. I listen to your channel and several others about characteristics, of both abuser, and abused. I don't see much help for those who can't help being that way, maybe even find a better way to be in relationships. Figured I'd shine a light.. Not everyone who does this, know how to change it some. The boredom of of happily ever after is also hard to swallow. Not easy on either side I suppose.
It is 100% in the self thought area.
Balanced self love required then expect to meet a charming individual that's real.
Quantum Physics- absolute.
It's the "Universal Law of Attraction"
Get to know that fact/law.
And live happy!
44JesusIsLord44 - mine was literally voted life of the party in high school.
I never imagined the horror I’d live through in divorce and child custody.
I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve said to myself , “I never knew people like this even existed “.
Little Frog 🐸 You have to kiss a lot of frogs to become a little frog 💋
@@terrencecruz2598 The agony you live in has my sympathy, but towards your victims I have more.
Now that we have the Pandora box open about Psychopaths ...every person should be tested for mental disorders before hired for Law Enforcement, or any Department that has to do with Crime & Law.
When she was describing cluster B specifically anti social disorder characteristics;
1. No morales
2, breaks the law
3, no empathy for others
4. Liars/ deceitful
5. Lack remorse
7. Has no shame
A better definition for anti social disorder is POLITICIAN
Morals*
ANY GIRL 18 + TINDER SLUT HAS ALL OF THESE TRAITS X10 MORE THAN ANY MAN SLUT.
Hmmm would that not be trump?
Morals*
Wow! A masterclass for free?! Thank you . Dr Ramani is amazing btw, and she is such an inspiration to a person like me, who wants to major in Psychology.
Kiss at the garden
Kiss at the gate
Love might be blind
But your neighbors ain't
Be careful sowing wild oats
Don't get turned into mush
Kyle conducts a great interview. He asks the right questions and allows for a thorough response. Excellent all around.
I really enjoyed listening to this. Its difficult to find comprehensive and articulate psych specialist sources as well put together as this was.