Hello Coach I sent you a message on Instagram but I wanted to send you one here because I know you're more active on your UA-cam comments. I'm in a hopeless situation completely hopeless and i'm devastated I have no idea what to do I can't afford your email coaching or Skype coaching I've been watching your videos for the last couple of months and have even used your listen while you sleep album almost every night. I also live in central Florida! I'm a 24 year old male and I have been in a long distance relationship engaged to my 25 year old female ex fiance for 5 years. At the beginning of our relationship I was unfaithful because I would seek attention from the opposite sex and caused allot of drama. My ex never wanted to leave me and forgave me but every couple of months I could not handle the pressures of being in a long distance relationship and I realize that now and I have changed! It has been over a year since we had any real issues with trust or drama until I started receiving emails, and messages from people on twitch.tv which is a streaming platform because I enjoy to play games and so does she that's how we met. I would receive messages saying that she's been cheating on me and several other messages saying she doesn't love me and isn't happy this greatly effected my self esteem and caused me to be insecure I confronted her about this and it caused a huge whole in our relationship we started to argue about when she hang out with her friends and many other things. I haven't gotten to the craziest part honestly so one of the people who were sending me these messages about my ex has started dating them as of 6 months ago that's how long we've been separated this person also doesn't live where they do they are out of the country and had planned to visit them this month I was also devastated about this and was going crazy. For the first couple of months when we broke up I was chasing her messaging her to give me another chance which I know is completely the wrong thing to do I have improved my life quite a bit from where I was and have even lost 50 pounds I wouldnt say it was the healthiest way because I have a lack of appetite now. I tried no contact and it sparked her interest level but I threw myself at her and she started to run away instantly ive sent her emails ive even sent her mom and email. In the email sent to her mom the short version is I know what I did was wrong I'm sorry I hurt your daughter I love you and your family you were like the mom I never had and If given another opportunity things would be different I let her know what I was doing with my life and the improvements I made but I got no response. I sent my ex an email with the same kind of idea saying I know what I did was wrong I changed and if you change your mind let me know I told her I loved her and cared for her in this email also. fast forward to yesterday I got into a car accident and blew out my back tire I was texting me ex because I was trying to expose the person she was seeing as the person who sent all the nasty messages about her to me to trigger the insecure behaviors which I take responsibility for but I felt she needed to understand that person was the person who spoke badly of her to me which I had no idea it was him until recently. She took his side for the last 3 days until I found a new piece of revealing evidence that shows he had been lying she told me she believed me and that she needed time to get off the internet and told me I need to let go and stop obsessing and she also thanked me for doing what I did to let her know but she blocked me on instagram and has left facebook communication open for now I'm not even sure if shes going to continue to speak to this person I dont know what my next move is and I need your help because my mental health is so greatly effected right now I feel like i'm dying from the inside out.
What if my ex text me to let me know her bunny died that I had bought her... I consolidated her. Text her a bit but made it really short. Tried not to seem needy. I told her good talking and said we'd talk soon. I haven't text her neither has she... is this indirect direct.. What can I do?
Hi coach , I am yr really fan now . My boyfriend broke up with me telling that we don't have future together .so I went through your video and I followed your instructions no contact rules. After only 3 weeks he contacted me. I am lucky I had watched your video already how to handle if ex contact us . I handled his contact very well. Now we are dating again and we have still strong feelings we are couple . Thank you coach you are so great . Yr video helped me to get my ex back . Thank you coach.
I went to my friends and family for help and support. But they didn't do me any good. Not to say they didn't mean well, they did. But these two right here, they were the ones that truly helped me. And I don't even know them!
I have to say this video has made me feel the best so far. I was dumped because I did alot of the things this guy did, but since she left I have went NC and have been going to therapy to deal with how I act. I actually enjoy it and my family has seen improvements also, which gives me a feeling of being proud of working on myself. I plan on continuing therapy rather she comes back or not because I want to better myself. I know this was uploaded a year ago but thank you for the video!
Yea, I got a new job, new car and feeling good. She never reached back out, and think she jumped into another relationship and got engaged. Even though we was together for almost 4 years, she left when I was about to buy a ring. I am no longer hurting over it. I won't lie sometimes I miss her but I have other things to keep focus on now.
Nope, I am a homebody so it's hard to meet new people. And not much luck with online dating. I am about to start back at the gym but I just got a new puppy and we are having fun.
I haven't heard a word from my ex since we broke up just over 12 months ago. Incredibly, just a few days ago, my first wife wife reached out....l hadn't heard from her in 25 years since the divorce!
Hey man that's really interesting the same thing happened to me my ex broke up with me 2 months ago and all of a sudden an X from like almost 10 years ago reached out to me around that same time that she broke up it's so strange how things work I guess you never know when they will reach out
I wish I knew then what I know now. It's sad to think you'll likely never get a chance to build the relationship you envisioned, but there's always another future out there for all of us.
This is incredibly my case. Going to therapy now to understand my traumas and how did I ended up that insecured, losing her. She rejected me after the break up, I tried to talk to her about it, I don't blame her. But this video gives me a purpose to keep on trying to be better. It's so hard, I wonder if she knows that.
I’m in the same boat as well brother going to therapy to take the personal issues I have within myself. I have reached out and been rejected idk if I will ever hear from her again
I'm utterly heartbroken, I have difficulty believing she'll ever come back since she left me for a counsellor and are still together after five months.
You should be thankful your situation is clean cut and you don`t need to keep hoping, unless of course you devalue yourself to be a crumb eater. Decided, plan, execute and trust in time. (Also read up on Stoicism) Good luck!
I'm doing much better now than a year and a half ago. I wish my ex would return to me. I am focused on bettering myself and learning from my past mistakes. I want to be better for myself before anyone else.
2 months of doing no contact, he send me a message last week for my birthday, i thanked him and that was it. i often think why would he return to me? i wasn't a good girlfriend, as i didn't know i had anxiety, but the brake up helped me realize that, and now, i work on myself each day and i am getting better every day.
Same here. Didnt realize my anxiety added to the problem. It doesnt take the heartache away though Abril. Now we just have hope to meet someone who treats us and accepts us.
Thank you Coach Craig and Margaret for another excellent coaching session! I cannot believe how fortunate I was to have found you on U tube. Greetings, Rob J
An overlap indicates your ex was already planning to leave the relationship. It's basically cheating. This isn't the same as a rebound, because a rebound is a relationship someone gets into to cope with the pain of the breakup. An overlap means they had time to talk and bond with the person they moved on to. It's most likely all a fantasy, but it could last longer than a rebound. In some cases it could work out. It's really hard to say.
... well I did the same, was with my girl 1 and a half years... she loved me like crazy, the way she looked at me was incredible. The last time we talked, she said, that she still has feelings and that she still thinks about me, that it has been intense (in the relationship she always kept saying, that I am the best that happened to her, that she feels safe, she never loved anyone like this before), but she said that there is no hope. I know it was just 1 and a half years, but we did so much together, travelled all the time, shared the passion of working out. She lived with me the last 6 months of the relationship. That was also why it all got bad, I neglected her... had my own problems and got more and more frustrated, didnt realized I was not showing love. She was crying pretty often and her unhappiness made my frustration grow further, I was worried... but did not understand. I cant describe how bad I feel right now, the problem is, she has been left alone in her childhood and needs affection even more. It's been a month since she broke up with me, she is keeping herself really busy with friends and work, she started seeing other guys pretty fast... I assume its going to lead to a rebound soon 😞. The worst about this all is... she is the one, no other girl made me feel this way, I just feel this deep connection, she still is friends with my sister though... maybe she will come back? I really dont know, but I told her I would be incredibly happy, if she would reconsider. Tears randomly flow down my face every day, I cannot believe this, its a nightmare.
@@jeremiecalma9224 well did not come back, but I know why. She is constantly watching all my posts n stories, usually the first to see. I just know that she is scared to contact me, she knows what she's done. But I dont really care anymore, I have learned a lot since that time. Accepted the way things are, you could say that was a good lesson for me and I am happy bout the way I am evolving currently. Found real peace.
My ex says she is angry, resentful, cold towards me. We still live together for a brief period of time. 2 weeks after our breakup she met up with a guy and told me she had a spark. She also blamed me for meeting this guy because I added a girl she doesn't like on Facebook. It was a 5 year relationship. I definitely have my part. I have already begun doing me. I've started to get therapy and am working on my faults.
Thats ver similar to my situation too. Weve been together for 6 years. She met up witht his guy on tinder and cheated on me. I slapped her for that. 4 days later she broke up with me. One month later, she is dating him now. I know i wad wrong and is currently working on myself but she seems to think she did nothing wrong at all.
I'm so depressed lately and hopeless... And I felt guilty, but I feel better watching this. I was with him for 4 years. We broke up in September, he reached out a bit. But now ignored me... I take this time for work in myself. Somedays are harder and others easier.. Hope in God I don't feel this sadness anymore
Soap opera opening scene - I left a violent narc in July 2018 and moved 80 miles away, and last slept with her end of Sept 2018. I called a halt to the encounters, to heal and move on. I dated a few women from July until I met a woman I fell for at the end of Oct. This is the 0.64 that I've rounded up (Dan Savage ref) but she came with a problem. She's the headmistress of the school my ex's child attends. After initially blessing our dating, the ex called for a meeting with the school supervisor to threaten her job and, among other things, told him I'm a sex addict. For context, the ex had already begun a relationship and now lives with the guy. We went underground until Dec when we came out and she told the ex she's going to date me seriously. It all seemed fine, until I was told by a friend of the ex that she says I cheated on the new one with the ex. I told the new one and she knew the dates were wrong and laughed it off. Two Monday's ago, I emailed the ex and told her to stop spreading rumours about me, upon which she emailed the new one, denying everything. This began anxiety in the new one about her job, and when her teen kids sneaked out for the night last Saturday night, that saw her blamed by her ex, her emotional lid popped and she cut me loose this past Sunday night via WhatsApp, to relieve the pressure. I asked to talk on the phone or meet for coffee but she declined. She's said she need her emotional turmoil to settle before she sees me. I do understand, and loving her as I do, and knowing she loves me, I've let her go and I've gone no contact. I see it as my only shot, and I genuinely think she needs the time. I took a day to grieve and picked myself up but I hold out hope. If she reaches out in the next 6 months, I'll be there. If not, through the work I'm doing on me, I should be good for the next relationship. Thanks for the great vids Craig! Very helpful!
mine wanted to come back because the grass wasnt greenier on the other side,,,,,it was just my turn,but i declined because i only go forwards and not backwards,,,,plus i know i would be dumped again all over again,,,no thank you,i deserve better
I miss my ex husband too. I’m 47 and we had been together for 19 yrs and we have 4 children; 17, 15, 11, and 8. I’m not blaming our children at all but our 30’s were so busy with children it was so hard to date each other. I lost him to a much younger co worker. They had an affair for 2 yrs that is now over. We divorced last year in September. We have seen each other on an intimate and emotional level numerous times since then. I want him back but he does not. Too much negative emotions in his mind and he can’t forgive himself for the affair. It’s so hard being away from him. I am a Christian and I have already forgiven him. I hate that our family is split apart. I feel he has ruined my home, my life, my love, my career, my lively hood. What I mean by that is I haven’t been able to work as A RN since then because of my emotional depression. Any advice ladies. It’s been one year since our divorce and I am not sure if we will ever get back together. He says he loves me and is still attracted to me.
I'm a dude and I've never commented but seeing your post and lack of responses made me feel for you. Your situation sounds very involved, I can only commiserate in the heartbreak. I'll try and send you good vibes. Theres a lot of people in the world.. god has a plan, however painful it seems. Bless
I think for a start you may be best stopping anything intimate. Giving him the benefits of a relationship without the commitment. I completely relate to your situation about wanting the family back. The loss and sadness. Dont help him heal by using you. It will only make him get over you. He has to feel the loss of your love and time. If that doesnt make him come back, well I'm sorry to say nothing was going to. My ex left when our baby was 8months old. Been gone for ten months. No chance of him returning. I believe if he loved me then he would have come back by now. You couldn't possibly stay away this length of time from someone you loved. Maybe he never loved me. All I know is that if someone leaves they were over you the day they walked. It's time for you to mirror their effort and investment. Perhaps the fear of you moving on (alone or a new relationship) will ignite a challenge to chase. Couple this with improvement in mind, body and soul and you have done all that you could. I will say my ex believe he can do better. Who am I to say that he is wrong. But he lost someone who loved him. I lost someone who didnt care about me. I guess one day that thought may hit home. Xx
You guys put out some amazing information that is very encouraging and gives people hope. I really enjoy listening to you and Margaret. Thanks so much for your time...
Love the advice & insight given by Coach Kenneth & Coach Margaret in this video. Sadly, this knowledge will not work on women (or men) who possess narcissistic tendencies. And they are the most charming, cunning of them all.
Well my ex cheated on me with their ex then put a ring on my finger after we made up. I then began not to trust them and started being concerned about what they was doing away from me (insecurity). They then broke up with me. I then found on social media after the breakup they was heavily involved in cyber prostitution from different popular people they did things with so... I don't want my ex back i just want my ex to realize how good of a person I was that's all...
Another bomb. Love you Craig & Magrt Still on NC. It is almost one month but she blocked me on whatSapp but still friends on Facebook. Still hoping for the best.
Hey Craig, I know every situation is different but would you be able to let us know if this couple got back together? I think my situation is very similar to this person.
For the record, I'd buzz my head for you Coach.. It's something I already do anyway lol.. As far as this vid goes.. I don't know why my ex WOULDN'T take me back (or at least initiate a conversation).. I guess 4 months dating is not long enough to get a 2nd chance with a girl.. Some coaches say that relationship length means nothing.. It's all about "attraction level".. If that's the case, she was obsessed with me for much of that time, so you'd figure that she'd reach out.. After going NC for almost double the time we were a couple, I'm convinced we just didn't date long enough. I've officially lost all hope in her returning. Good thing I'm happy with myself, and have been feeling good lately. I have more options than ever before as well. Done wasting my time on an ex that is never coming back :)
thelegionary07 i am feeling the same way. And on top of that I work with her and have to see her every day. I am trying to show her Im strong but its not there yet. We dated 4 months and I dont know if any of these videos will truly benefit me because I think the exact same thing about the “not enough time” yet Im still over here in love with her when shes already moved on. I did nothing wrong to her. I was really insecure and not confident to be with her because shes a nurse at my work and Im just a nursing assistant. It bothered me and she always told me not to worry about small things like that because she never looked at that as a bad thing. My overthinking and anxiety ruined my relationship with an amazing woman. I hope some day (when im moved on or not) that she sees how much I really cared because I was really just so afraid to lose her. When I had nothing to worry about all along. I love her. And I think I always will. even if its not two sided. :(
@@necroknight0056 I hear ya bro.. It's tough.. In my case, my begging, pleading and crying all happened around a rough time in my life, and she knew I was dealing with multiple things, so you'd figure she'd think "maybe he just was in a bad place.. Let me see how he's doing".. Nope, not one peep, like, story view, or pic of the cat I got her since we broke up almost 10 months ago. It comes off as very cold and proves without a shadow of a doubt she never cared for me, but I don't care anymore. I'm not bitter anymore in the sense that I'm angry at her.. No.. Now my motivation is just higher than ever to prove her wrong and all those before her that I'm a catch.. Currently talking to a girl I'm really digging so far.. Ending up with someone better than her is my goal
Love ya guys 👍 I love my former lover & she is going through tough time with depression & just life & has affected me as well . I believe she will come back eventually
Hahaaa.. Broke my no contact after 2 weeks, she replied but.. Hasn't replied after she told me how I was doing 😌 I knew I messed up the second I told her how she was doing and everything.. Should have just left it alone, now my anxiety shot up a bit and gotta work on the process all over lol. But at the same I know I'm better off now than when we were together, lot of change in a few months
I absolutely *LOVE* this!! There has to be some reason he stuck with me for four years after we got back together. I was just asking myself this morning if he will find it in his heart to come back again.
I've started to go to therapy and am trying to work on myself but if I think about it there was nothing redeeming about me that he would come back too. We dated for three years and he broke up with me over a month ago but he seems over me already and just talks to me like a friend. I'm a nobody so I don't think he'll want me back romantically ever again.
It has been 3 weeks of no contact and the break up after 3 years together he broke up with me and moved out after a fight and still won't talk to me and I have not reached out or broke no contact as hard as it is.
@@sherrireynolds4585 are you serious? Im so happy for you. As a guy I have no hope my ex will come back. But she cjeated on me. It shouldnt be me with this burden, it should be her. Im just going to get a full sleeve tat and move the fuck on with my life. Fuck her.
My Ex Has Been Gone and Been With Another Man Now for Two (2) Years Going on Three (3).....and I did My Best to be Good to Her and Did My Absolute Best to treat Her Like an Absolute "Queen" When were together....but it was Never Good Enough....and She was Always Really Good at Telling Me Everything I did Wrong....and Never Anything I did Right....I"m 57 Years Old Now and Had Many Failed Relationships in My Past for One Reason or Another and Have tried to Learn from My Mistakes so that I didn't keep Making the same Mistakes over and over Again....I've Never Been Married in My Life....and it Doesn't Look Hopeful at this Stage in My Life that I Ever Will because I"m Not Good Enough to Ever Get Someone to Want to Stay in My Life....I Feel like a "Total Failure" and a "Loser" When it Comes to "Relationships" and Not Worthy of God"s Love and Blessings Even though I try to be a Good, Decent Hardworking Guy....and I Have Come to the Obvious Conclusion that God Hates Me and I Probably Will Never Figure Out Why?.
Dear coaches , my ex and I were together for 15 years, he broke up with me 4 months ago. I have been a ghost for 4 months. Should I or when should I start Facebook back up ? My ex ran to his 12th grade girlfriend he hasn't seen since 1988 !
My girl broke up little over a week ago . We are in 50s i just had big surgery and after all was clear she broke up . I did no contact after few texts my last saying i was sorry for lets us down and was going to work to better myself . Wish she stayed but for my next relationship. Idk why i saw no signs of break up got along sex great laughs . Few days later she texts me i started this 1000 times im.a mess she thinks bout me /US in everything she does she sorry she hurt me she needs to work on self in her own way .. love me always she one needs podcasts .. i responded a day later that it sadden me she was hurt overwhelmed and felt couldnt go thru it togetjer but i respect her choice and lmk if that changes and thanked her for showing me podcasts because i really enjoy the help
It really kills me to see my ex hanging out eith her new friends. I'm so scared that she will completly forget about me. She's really stubborn. Help me
Let her hang with them. Dont pay attention to it. Respect her space dont blow up her phone. Work on you and be patient. Hit up your boys and go out. The thing is when she is out with her friends she is still thinking of you if you were good to her. Thats the seed. Let it grow. When you are happy she will notice and be like wtf he should be devastated. Play it cool bc you are the prize. If she doesnt see it someone else will. And more than likely a total upgrade and probably someone you might think is out of your league. Trust the process man. Much love bro
Hi Craig, What if your ex has already moved on after I spent three months trying to patch things up? When we broke up officially, she was on tinder and talking to guys the same/next day? Why would no contact work on someone that doesn't want you?
I mean you said it yourself. She doesn't want you. We just need to man up and accept that these people weren't who we thought they were and move on. I know this is easier said than done, which is why I'm here in the first place, but why are we wasting time on a person that doesn't want us?
From my experience the best way to get over bad feelings is to not dwell on them, when they pop up counter them with something as simple as "it wasn't that big of a deal", and let time do the rest. There is no magical formula to eliminate bad feelings, but the key is to release them from your life so they don't turn into a source of bitterness.
@J J I kind of disagree. No amount of self love will necessarily get rid of bad feelings. It will just make it easier for you to get over it a little faster. By the way, none of us are the "most" important person, that statement in and of itself is vain. We are just important and that's enough. But this is my own opinion. If that works for you, that's all that matters.
@J J No, I'm not the most important person and neither are you. We are all equally as important. I understand what you are saying, but I disagree with the wording.
I don’t know that there’s been a video on this topic yet but it’s a question I’ve had since beginning your videos: Can I get an ex back that has an avoidant attachment?
I need help. I’m so confused. He calls me out of the blue. We’ve been broke up 6 months, we haven’t talked til about a month til the other day. Right off he says we’re just alike we should just go ahead and get back together. I just said his name like no don’t start saying stuff like that. And then he said he was joking. Then started saying how bad he has missed me and wanted to no if I missed him. Then the next day I talk to him and he says not to get my feelings into it and he just wants to be friends and I need to move on.wth? Why one day he’s talking different then the next. Is it just cause he didn’t get the right reaction from me or wanna see what I would say. Idk! Please share ur thoughts and opinions cause I have no idea what to think about the whole situation. We’ve been friends for 25 yrs and were together for almost 7 and was suppose to get married. Well never be able to be just friends. It’s just to hard for me. Does he want me back or just playing games w me ??
What if you are back and forth with your ex. It's been like 3 weeks now where we have gotten out on dates(her idea),had lunched at work (her idea), had sex once and now she has gone cold again. Now she started texting again but won't set dates. it's sooo tiring...
Whenever my ex said I was doing something wrong in out relationship I would change it I.e. she said I didn’t ask how her day had been often enough and how she was, I started to do this everyday and she told me to stop. I feel like she wanted to break up with me anyway and was looking for reasons to but since I would always fix the things she would get mad at me for she would keep changing her mind on what she wanted from me in the relationship
@@hgzmatt I had the same thing dude, her birthday was a few weeks after we broke up and I had already bought her a few things and made her a few things and so I just gave her them and when she opened them she told me she wanted to marry me but then started excluding me from activities she would do with our friends. She kissed me a number of times after we broke up but then denied this later on when the arguments started between us. I made the mistake of thinking it would all work out eventually where as she had no intentions of actually working things out. I've got another girlfriend now and I'm really happy, I wish I never dwelled so much on the breakup!
There are several comments regarding short term relationships. I too had a very intense 5 month relationship end, I being the dumpee. Is there realistically any hope? Have been no contact for about 3 weeks.
This is a lot like my situation, only i was the one that got into another relationship bout a month and a half later. Me being the boyfriend. This was 10 years ago in high school and i still regret it. I had no idea what i had xD
Hey guys ! Thanks Craig for the work and everyone for the comments. I allow myself to ask on the comment.. I would love to have a skype.. I have to admit i cant afford it. Hope thats fine. Technical question i cant solve on my own... After several weeks of hésitation (breaks, discussions..) my gf ended the relation. Of course i discovered the vidéos only After... So i made some mistakes (like text her the day after, and showing fragility aller over the process). Then she asked me to go no contact for a while because she is struggling with the end of the relation. I couldnt held myself So she blocked me. I respect her decision since then. Almost two weeks silence. And decided to go for hardcore no contact as you suggest. But i have the feeling that i didnt set the frame (like u say in your vid "ok. Have fun. You know how to find me if.. Blabla". And i am hesitating between stay this way or just make one contact to equals power. Any thoughts ?
Mr. Craig and marger my wife left me after 10 years of marriage accusing me of cheating on her with a vo worker. My wife and i been sperated for 2 years now we have a daughter. My daughter will be 10 years old on March 22, my daughter wish is for my wife and i to get back toghter. Is their any hope for me or she just going to give up on our 10 year marriage and marry someone else. This 2 year seperation is effecting me i am having trouble sleeping. Am i the only one feeling this way. I think my wife will never come back to me. I ask her will we ever get back toghter she said no not ever. I feel so unhappy.
Hey Craig, it's 4am and m watching your videos. Today my ex drove passed me in his beautiful brand new BMW with a very beautiful girl in his front seat. I really loved this guy but we hadn't spoken in almost 3 months, I hoped he would reach out. Could you please do a video on how to stop loving your ex. he told me to move on and that we don't always get what we want. he looked happy and was smiling, probably because he noticed me looking at them. I was staring blankly at the road and only saw his smile after he was almost passed me
I am in so much pain right now. Today has been the hardest in a long time. I have cried so much today. 6 months since the breakup and 34 days nc. I wish God was real so he could kill me. I want this pain to end.
I can figure out how to cook, ride my mountain bike, how to do a spinning back kick, dance, sing, camp, work on my car, drive 18 wheelers with manual transmissions, program, and 3d model. But for the life of me i cant figure out what i did that was so bad that she decided to end things. I got her a pendant that said i love you. It was half a heart. I have the other half. I only know where mine is.
@@hgzmatt mine was 2.5 years. She broke up with me by changing her facebook status. No call, no text or fucking anything. I call her and it turns out she had a threesome with her coworker and his wife. Wtf? She then goes on to tell me she never loved me, and then a week later said she wants to work on things with me to then changing her fucking mind again. It's now been 1 week of nc. What tbe fuck am I doing wasting .y time and energy on tbis girl? I was a week away from poppi g the question, and she does this. Why do I love her?
Can I send my ex Email she can read about here avoidance attachment? even though I am no contact I am the anxious attachment and she is the avoidance attachment?
Tony Hamati terrible idea. Don't do it. Especially in an email when you already broke up. I had an ex who also tried to psychoanalyze me after the breakup and I found it desperate, weird and a turn-off
Coach Craig and Coach Margeret, could you make a video explaining what to do if the break up was due to pressure from her parents? Thank you! Love your videos, they make my days easier!
@@CoachCraigKenneth Thank you coach! We were so happy for 3 years before the pressure they gave due to my ethnicity got to her, the video you recommended really helped me gain perspective. I hope she can overcome this while i better myself
My ex broke up with me because I was 'the man' of the relationship. That just shows he has issues eith his masculinity. Sorry I'm strong and assertive? Lol
he left me 2 months ago. he said our issue was my attitude. i only found out 6 days ago that he rekindled his relationship with his old gf during his travel in canada and US. I was able to unlock his iphone. I went ballistic and hit him, he apologized and promised he will fix our relationship. 3 days afyer, i was so drunk I didnt know he was coming to visit me, i was so intoxicated i started getting physical again. he fed me and tucked me in bed then left. now he has blocked me. He told me his reason for going back with the girl is for citizenship papers for him . he is asking me to wait for him until he divorce her. i just want him to stop his evil plot. is this still what you call rebound relationship? i think he will continiously do it coz of his plan to use her. the girl knows about me, she blocked me as well....
He invested so much into Us... told me I was his happiness... the one... I saw love in his eyes... then, he disappeared. I texted and called. He gave me some lame excuses about being busy and broke... Last time I saw him was 1st August. I am better, but still obsessed. Somebody help me.
@@danbie86 Oh, my. I wrote that a year ago. So much has happened since August 2019. We did get back together, but we broke up again in August 2020. He is a narcissist. He never did love me, I suppose. I went through hell in this relationship. Never again. Be careful of the man who lovebombs you then disappears - nothing good happens afterwards.
@@solidcatink oh yes for sure. Been with a narcissist before and NEVER AGAIN! love bombing is horrible. This guy seems more dismissive avoidant, didn’t really love bomb. I will get over him soon enough.
@@danbie86 And no matter how much we love them, no matter how good a woman we are, they will still find something "wrong". I gave up. Got out before he completely destroyed me. I don't love him anymore, just still hurt from being abused by him. At this point, I'm studying him from a scientific/psychiatric point of view, as he is a med school case now as far as I'm concerned. The love bombing was enjoyable, but after spending a wonderful week of vacation with him IN MY HOUSE IN MY COUNTRY, he started devaluing and discarding me. Your dismissive avoidant man won't change. Run and don't look back. There are good people out there to love, looking to love us. No rush. Let nature take its course. Stay away from dating apps, they are breeding grounds for narcissists and mentally unstable people, in my humble opinion.
This is strange, I had her in my dreams lately and I dont follow her anywhere on social media etc. except her friend but that actually had nothing to do with my ex specifically, the girl posted art I liked and that was it. Today, that girl unfollowed me on social media and after analyzing the situation for months, now i have all the clarity and evidence that my ex hasnt moved on from me and is trying to force me to break no contact. Won't happen. I am not so sure she's gonna reach out soon but at one point I'm counting on seeing a text from her one day. Not hoping for anything though, realistically I was really caring, supportive, non manipulative and never jealous and i really kept track of her interests cause some of them are common, like why shouldn't she come back? I'm practically somewhat ideal. Its been 8 months since our last contact and I did post breakup mistakes but I picked myself up and changed for the better for my own sake, not her's. Im not waiting for her at all, but Im counting on hearing from her at one point
Can anyone give some advise?I'm in high school and I lost my first love about 4 months ago. I made all the classic mistakes. Clinginess, wada wada wada. I did beg and plead for 2 days after the breakup, but no more after that. The last I talked to her was about 2 months ago. We haven't spoken since. I feel like she's never gonna reach out to me ever again. (The relationship was good. We handled things maturely, her family treated me like their own. It was good. Everything was.) I pushed her away because I wasn't changing and I didn't see the problem. But I have been working on myself. A lot actually. I've been watching Craig Kenneth. I recently got accepted into Early College. Got a new car. I'm trying new styles of clothes and shoes. I am now a Section Leader in out High School Marching Band. I see her at school, lunch, between classes, etc. She seems fine. The last texts I told her that I couldn't be friends. And she replied with "yeah, I don't want to be friends either." I could tell she was being either mean or sarcastic. Because I told her I can't be friends and she said the same thing, does that mean I won't ever hear from her because she might be scared to reach out? Should I use the No Contact rule? Even if I'm in High school? Do I have a chance?
Andrean Dicky Hey man, Idk how you’re feeling about it now, but if you’re still feeling bad about it I will tel you this....you will feel better and it will go away. I used to be so unconvinced that time heals it. But it does. It really does. But you also have to heal in a good way and better yourself. Don’t change who you are but do things to heal you know? Now, regarding my ex...me and her are on good terms now and can talk normally and be friends. Which I’m glad about because over time I didn’t see her as an ex anymore, I seen her as a person who helped me grow and mature and learn. That’s a good thing. I don’t ever see myself dating her again. She’s changed too much and she’s just not attractive to me in that way anymore. She’s still gorgeous but...you know? I’m now on the way to dating my best friend (which is very confusing, but me and her are mature and have the same interests and talk about everything). And I’ve dated other people and put myself out there. There will come a point where you feel really good about yourself and there also may be those feelings again. I still get them sometimes. But I’ve come to terms with myself that’s it’s over and I don’t want it. I know myself worth and I wasn’t being treated right in the relationships after the ex we are speaking of now so I ended them....IIII did. I had the strength to do so cuz I knew my worth. And when that day comes when you know how much your bring and are happy with yourself, it’ll be the turning point in your life. I suggest you just do things to heal individually and do things you love to do. Try new things. Whatever makes you feel good. You’re ex may come back to you, but you need to focus on yourself. If she don’t, you need to be at a point where you’re ok with that. You can do it. Hell, I did it and I thought I was never gonna be better. :) (if you have any questions feel free to ask!)
@@ezekielv2479 man I CAN SO relate at this. Im currently just finished highschool too and on my way to college. Thanks for sharing bro, hope u get a good life and future ahead. Cheers!
I had some great Skype calls today! Inspiring stuff!
Hello Coach I sent you a message on Instagram but I wanted to send you one here because I know you're more active on your UA-cam comments. I'm in a hopeless situation completely hopeless and i'm devastated I have no idea what to do I can't afford your email coaching or Skype coaching I've been watching your videos for the last couple of months and have even used your listen while you sleep album almost every night. I also live in central Florida! I'm a 24 year old male and I have been in a long distance relationship engaged to my 25 year old female ex fiance for 5 years. At the beginning of our relationship I was unfaithful because I would seek attention from the opposite sex and caused allot of drama. My ex never wanted to leave me and forgave me but every couple of months I could not handle the pressures of being in a long distance relationship and I realize that now and I have changed! It has been over a year since we had any real issues with trust or drama until I started receiving emails, and messages from people on twitch.tv which is a streaming platform because I enjoy to play games and so does she that's how we met. I would receive messages saying that she's been cheating on me and several other messages saying she doesn't love me and isn't happy this greatly effected my self esteem and caused me to be insecure I confronted her about this and it caused a huge whole in our relationship we started to argue about when she hang out with her friends and many other things. I haven't gotten to the craziest part honestly so one of the people who were sending me these messages about my ex has started dating them as of 6 months ago that's how long we've been separated this person also doesn't live where they do they are out of the country and had planned to visit them this month I was also devastated about this and was going crazy. For the first couple of months when we broke up I was chasing her messaging her to give me another chance which I know is completely the wrong thing to do I have improved my life quite a bit from where I was and have even lost 50 pounds I wouldnt say it was the healthiest way because I have a lack of appetite now. I tried no contact and it sparked her interest level but I threw myself at her and she started to run away instantly ive sent her emails ive even sent her mom and email. In the email sent to her mom the short version is I know what I did was wrong I'm sorry I hurt your daughter I love you and your family you were like the mom I never had and If given another opportunity things would be different I let her know what I was doing with my life and the improvements I made but I got no response. I sent my ex an email with the same kind of idea saying I know what I did was wrong I changed and if you change your mind let me know I told her I loved her and cared for her in this email also. fast forward to yesterday I got into a car accident and blew out my back tire I was texting me ex because I was trying to expose the person she was seeing as the person who sent all the nasty messages about her to me to trigger the insecure behaviors which I take responsibility for but I felt she needed to understand that person was the person who spoke badly of her to me which I had no idea it was him until recently. She took his side for the last 3 days until I found a new piece of revealing evidence that shows he had been lying she told me she believed me and that she needed time to get off the internet and told me I need to let go and stop obsessing and she also thanked me for doing what I did to let her know but she blocked me on instagram and has left facebook communication open for now I'm not even sure if shes going to continue to speak to this person I dont know what my next move is and I need your help because my mental health is so greatly effected right now I feel like i'm dying from the inside out.
After 7 months with mostly radio silence, she has re orbited, n we have been out 4 times already...this stuff is for real!!thanks coach!
What if my ex text me to let me know her bunny died that I had bought her... I consolidated her. Text her a bit but made it really short. Tried not to seem needy. I told her good talking and said we'd talk soon. I haven't text her neither has she... is this indirect direct.. What can I do?
What if the guy had an extracurricular person and wants to make amends for his mistake?
When your too nice to them they walk all over you .have to balance it out and stand your ground !
I'm so heartbroken & wouldn't wish this pain on anyone.....
I agree it sucks
how are you doing?❤️
It totally sucks Crystal. I know how you feel but I’m time you will get stronger and better.
Yeah not even my enemies
Agree, soul splited.
I LOVE when Craig said, “You’re AWARE of the problem but doesn’t mean you’ve changed”.
the power of just walking away is incredible
I wish Margret was my grandma lol
She is hun.
I KNOW RIGHT!!!
Yeeesss!
Right?! 😄
I wish you lived closer to me 😋
There's something about Margarets voice that is so comforting.
Hi coach , I am yr really fan now . My boyfriend broke up with me telling that we don't have future together .so I went through your video and I followed your instructions no contact rules. After only 3 weeks he contacted me. I am lucky I had watched your video already how to handle if ex contact us . I handled his contact very well. Now we are dating again and we have still strong feelings we are couple . Thank you coach you are so great . Yr video helped me to get my ex back . Thank you coach.
Yay! Stay motivated!
That is amazing!!!
I went to my friends and family for help and support. But they didn't do me any good. Not to say they didn't mean well, they did. But these two right here, they were the ones that truly helped me. And I don't even know them!
I have to say this video has made me feel the best so far. I was dumped because I did alot of the things this guy did, but since she left I have went NC and have been going to therapy to deal with how I act. I actually enjoy it and my family has seen improvements also, which gives me a feeling of being proud of working on myself. I plan on continuing therapy rather she comes back or not because I want to better myself. I know this was uploaded a year ago but thank you for the video!
Hey James, would you mind giving updates ? Just curious
Yea, I got a new job, new car and feeling good. She never reached back out, and think she jumped into another relationship and got engaged. Even though we was together for almost 4 years, she left when I was about to buy a ring. I am no longer hurting over it. I won't lie sometimes I miss her but I have other things to keep focus on now.
@@jparis92100 I'm so sorry, did you not date anyone during this period ?
Nope, I am a homebody so it's hard to meet new people. And not much luck with online dating. I am about to start back at the gym but I just got a new puppy and we are having fun.
I have made several new friends during this period, with my new job. One of my favorite videos is "let them go" with madea. Should check it out.
I haven't heard a word from my ex since we broke up just over 12 months ago. Incredibly, just a few days ago, my first wife wife reached out....l hadn't heard from her in 25 years since the divorce!
Geoff Sheehan it just shows that no contact works, i guess :)
25 years! Really... some people will be dead in 25 years...
Hey man that's really interesting the same thing happened to me my ex broke up with me 2 months ago and all of a sudden an X from like almost 10 years ago reached out to me around that same time that she broke up it's so strange how things work I guess you never know when they will reach out
I wish I knew then what I know now. It's sad to think you'll likely never get a chance to build the relationship you envisioned, but there's always another future out there for all of us.
This is incredibly my case. Going to therapy now to understand my traumas and how did I ended up that insecured, losing her. She rejected me after the break up, I tried to talk to her about it, I don't blame her. But this video gives me a purpose to keep on trying to be better. It's so hard, I wonder if she knows that.
Hey, would you mind updating your journey?
I’m in the same boat as well brother going to therapy to take the personal issues I have within myself. I have reached out and been rejected idk if I will ever hear from her again
I'm utterly heartbroken, I have difficulty believing she'll ever come back since she left me for a counsellor and are still together after five months.
You should be thankful your situation is clean cut and you don`t need to keep hoping, unless of course you devalue yourself to be a crumb eater. Decided, plan, execute and trust in time. (Also read up on Stoicism) Good luck!
@@absoluttchamp crumb water 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻 great term
Me too. It hurt so much🥺 I cry every night when I think no chance that he come to me. 21 days of no contact he stay with rebound. Sorry for my english
@@palidaw6853 feeling better now?
I ordered the work books today. I am looking forward to meeting the new me!
They are digital! You have to download them. You can print them on your end if you like
I did not know that.
Coach Craig Kenneth. I may have to send you my other email address. That one is on my IPad. It easier to convert to pdf and put in file on my iPad.
I'm doing much better now than a year and a half ago. I wish my ex would return to me. I am focused on bettering myself and learning from my past mistakes. I want to be better for myself before anyone else.
I think my brain is going to blow up with so much information
2 months of doing no contact, he send me a message last week for my birthday, i thanked him and that was it. i often think why would he return to me? i wasn't a good girlfriend, as i didn't know i had anxiety, but the brake up helped me realize that, and now, i work on myself each day and i am getting better every day.
Same here. Didnt realize my anxiety added to the problem. It doesnt take the heartache away though Abril. Now we just have hope to meet someone who treats us and accepts us.
My ex rang me today after 3.5 months and wants to meet up. Your advice is top class.
I'm not sure if I want her back I'm 50/50 on it. ?
Liked before the vid even started lol
Thank you Coach Craig and Margaret for another excellent coaching session! I cannot believe how fortunate I was to have found you on U tube. Greetings, Rob J
Make a video on Overlapping relationships and if they are still rebounds and chances of getting back in that situation. thank you!!
An overlap indicates your ex was already planning to leave the relationship. It's basically cheating. This isn't the same as a rebound, because a rebound is a relationship someone gets into to cope with the pain of the breakup. An overlap means they had time to talk and bond with the person they moved on to. It's most likely all a fantasy, but it could last longer than a rebound. In some cases it could work out. It's really hard to say.
Coach has made videos about your ex leaving you for someone else. Check them out it's good stuff.
yes, and "serial monogamy", I've been overlapped alot btw but was probably the one overlapping the other guy some of the time too
Coach Craig. You Sir!. You’re the Man!!.
Why she broke up?
... well I did the same, was with my girl 1 and a half years... she loved me like crazy, the way she looked at me was incredible. The last time we talked, she said, that she still has feelings and that she still thinks about me, that it has been intense (in the relationship she always kept saying, that I am the best that happened to her, that she feels safe, she never loved anyone like this before), but she said that there is no hope. I know it was just 1 and a half years, but we did so much together, travelled all the time, shared the passion of working out. She lived with me the last 6 months of the relationship. That was also why it all got bad, I neglected her... had my own problems and got more and more frustrated, didnt realized I was not showing love. She was crying pretty often and her unhappiness made my frustration grow further, I was worried... but did not understand. I cant describe how bad I feel right now, the problem is, she has been left alone in her childhood and needs affection even more. It's been a month since she broke up with me, she is keeping herself really busy with friends and work, she started seeing other guys pretty fast... I assume its going to lead to a rebound soon 😞. The worst about this all is... she is the one, no other girl made me feel this way, I just feel this deep connection, she still is friends with my sister though... maybe she will come back? I really dont know, but I told her I would be incredibly happy, if she would reconsider. Tears randomly flow down my face every day, I cannot believe this, its a nightmare.
Soo~ any update about your relationship with her?
Did she contact you?
@@jeremiecalma9224 well did not come back, but I know why. She is constantly watching all my posts n stories, usually the first to see. I just know that she is scared to contact me, she knows what she's done.
But I dont really care anymore, I have learned a lot since that time. Accepted the way things are, you could say that was a good lesson for me and I am happy bout the way I am evolving currently. Found real peace.
@@pascal6158 no, but gave hints for me to contact her, which I never will. Its her turn.
@@Innerstanding_mind Freut mich zu hören :) Hoffe du findest jemanden der dich bei deinem Weg begleitet. Geile Playlists btw :D
What if their track record is to NEVER go back to an ex?
it all depends if she or he still interests in you in the end
Move on
I really love when you both come on! You both are the best
You and Coach Margaret are the best! I've learned so much from your videos.
My ex says she is angry, resentful, cold towards me. We still live together for a brief period of time. 2 weeks after our breakup she met up with a guy and told me she had a spark. She also blamed me for meeting this guy because I added a girl she doesn't like on Facebook. It was a 5 year relationship. I definitely have my part. I have already begun doing me. I've started to get therapy and am working on my faults.
Thats ver similar to my situation too. Weve been together for 6 years. She met up witht his guy on tinder and cheated on me. I slapped her for that. 4 days later she broke up with me. One month later, she is dating him now. I know i wad wrong and is currently working on myself but she seems to think she did nothing wrong at all.
@@imtheonehero9305 fuck that bitch dude. I would never hit my ex, but she dod a terrible thing to you and honestly deserved a good slap.
@@gwynbleiddroach2589 exactly bro.
I'm so depressed lately and hopeless... And I felt guilty, but I feel better watching this. I was with him for 4 years. We broke up in September, he reached out a bit. But now ignored me... I take this time for work in myself. Somedays are harder and others easier.. Hope in God I don't feel this sadness anymore
Update?
Soap opera opening scene - I left a violent narc in July 2018 and moved 80 miles away, and last slept with her end of Sept 2018. I called a halt to the encounters, to heal and move on. I dated a few women from July until I met a woman I fell for at the end of Oct. This is the 0.64 that I've rounded up (Dan Savage ref) but she came with a problem. She's the headmistress of the school my ex's child attends. After initially blessing our dating, the ex called for a meeting with the school supervisor to threaten her job and, among other things, told him I'm a sex addict. For context, the ex had already begun a relationship and now lives with the guy. We went underground until Dec when we came out and she told the ex she's going to date me seriously. It all seemed fine, until I was told by a friend of the ex that she says I cheated on the new one with the ex. I told the new one and she knew the dates were wrong and laughed it off. Two Monday's ago, I emailed the ex and told her to stop spreading rumours about me, upon which she emailed the new one, denying everything. This began anxiety in the new one about her job, and when her teen kids sneaked out for the night last Saturday night, that saw her blamed by her ex, her emotional lid popped and she cut me loose this past Sunday night via WhatsApp, to relieve the pressure. I asked to talk on the phone or meet for coffee but she declined. She's said she need her emotional turmoil to settle before she sees me. I do understand, and loving her as I do, and knowing she loves me, I've let her go and I've gone no contact. I see it as my only shot, and I genuinely think she needs the time. I took a day to grieve and picked myself up but I hold out hope. If she reaches out in the next 6 months, I'll be there. If not, through the work I'm doing on me, I should be good for the next relationship. Thanks for the great vids Craig! Very helpful!
mine wanted to come back because the grass wasnt greenier on the other side,,,,,it was just my turn,but i declined because i only go forwards and not backwards,,,,plus i know i would be dumped again all over again,,,no thank you,i deserve better
Margaret and Craig it is like you are talking about me. Wow! I adore you guys. Thank you!
You guys are life savers, well actually mind savers.Thanks !
Do these tips work with short term relationships?
I miss my ex husband too. I’m 47 and we had been together for 19 yrs and we have 4 children; 17, 15, 11, and 8. I’m not blaming our children at all but our 30’s were so busy with children it was so hard to date each other. I lost him to a much younger co worker. They had an affair for 2 yrs that is now over. We divorced last year in September. We have seen each other on an intimate and emotional level numerous times since then. I want him back but he does not. Too much negative emotions in his mind and he can’t forgive himself for the affair. It’s so hard being away from him. I am a Christian and I have already forgiven him. I hate that our family is split apart. I feel he has ruined my home, my life, my love, my career, my lively hood. What I mean by that is I haven’t been able to work as A RN since then because of my emotional depression. Any advice ladies. It’s been one year since our divorce and I am not sure if we will ever get back together. He says he loves me and is still attracted to me.
I'm a dude and I've never commented but seeing your post and lack of responses made me feel for you. Your situation sounds very involved, I can only commiserate in the heartbreak. I'll try and send you good vibes. Theres a lot of people in the world.. god has a plan, however painful it seems. Bless
I think for a start you may be best stopping anything intimate. Giving him the benefits of a relationship without the commitment. I completely relate to your situation about wanting the family back. The loss and sadness.
Dont help him heal by using you. It will only make him get over you. He has to feel the loss of your love and time. If that doesnt make him come back, well I'm sorry to say nothing was going to.
My ex left when our baby was 8months old. Been gone for ten months. No chance of him returning. I believe if he loved me then he would have come back by now. You couldn't possibly stay away this length of time from someone you loved. Maybe he never loved me.
All I know is that if someone leaves they were over you the day they walked. It's time for you to mirror their effort and investment. Perhaps the fear of you moving on (alone or a new relationship) will ignite a challenge to chase. Couple this with improvement in mind, body and soul and you have done all that you could.
I will say my ex believe he can do better. Who am I to say that he is wrong.
But he lost someone who loved him. I lost someone who didnt care about me.
I guess one day that thought may hit home. Xx
Update?
My sister and brother in law broke up for two years and got back together.
You guys put out some amazing information that is very encouraging and gives people hope. I really enjoy listening to you and Margaret. Thanks so much for your time...
Love the advice & insight given by Coach Kenneth & Coach Margaret in this video. Sadly, this knowledge will not work on women (or men) who possess narcissistic tendencies. And they are the most charming, cunning of them all.
Good video. Both you great🤗
I love you both, please never stop making vids, they help a bunch! ❤️
I like how you both get along!
Absoluty love this video, just what I need it. Thanks.
Well my ex cheated on me with their ex then put a ring on my finger after we made up. I then began not to trust them and started being concerned about what they was doing away from me (insecurity). They then broke up with me. I then found on social media after the breakup they was heavily involved in cyber prostitution from different popular people they did things with so... I don't want my ex back i just want my ex to realize how good of a person I was that's all...
Another bomb.
Love you Craig & Magrt
Still on NC.
It is almost one month but she blocked me on whatSapp but still friends on Facebook. Still hoping for the best.
Update?
I'm in same situation . it's been 20 days of NC and it hurts to see me blocked so I just deleted WhatsApp
Any updates?
@@honeybee1766 how's your situation now?
Update?
Hey Craig, I know every situation is different but would you be able to let us know if this couple got back together? I think my situation is very similar to this person.
For the record, I'd buzz my head for you Coach.. It's something I already do anyway lol..
As far as this vid goes.. I don't know why my ex WOULDN'T take me back (or at least initiate a conversation).. I guess 4 months dating is not long enough to get a 2nd chance with a girl.. Some coaches say that relationship length means nothing.. It's all about "attraction level".. If that's the case, she was obsessed with me for much of that time, so you'd figure that she'd reach out.. After going NC for almost double the time we were a couple, I'm convinced we just didn't date long enough. I've officially lost all hope in her returning. Good thing I'm happy with myself, and have been feeling good lately. I have more options than ever before as well. Done wasting my time on an ex that is never coming back :)
thelegionary07 i am feeling the same way. And on top of that I work with her and have to see her every day. I am trying to show her Im strong but its not there yet. We dated 4 months and I dont know if any of these videos will truly benefit me because I think the exact same thing about the “not enough time” yet Im still over here in love with her when shes already moved on. I did nothing wrong to her. I was really insecure and not confident to be with her because shes a nurse at my work and Im just a nursing assistant. It bothered me and she always told me not to worry about small things like that because she never looked at that as a bad thing. My overthinking and anxiety ruined my relationship with an amazing woman. I hope some day (when im moved on or not) that she sees how much I really cared because I was really just so afraid to lose her. When I had nothing to worry about all along. I love her. And I think I always will. even if its not two sided. :(
@@necroknight0056 I hear ya bro.. It's tough.. In my case, my begging, pleading and crying all happened around a rough time in my life, and she knew I was dealing with multiple things, so you'd figure she'd think "maybe he just was in a bad place.. Let me see how he's doing".. Nope, not one peep, like, story view, or pic of the cat I got her since we broke up almost 10 months ago. It comes off as very cold and proves without a shadow of a doubt she never cared for me, but I don't care anymore. I'm not bitter anymore in the sense that I'm angry at her.. No.. Now my motivation is just higher than ever to prove her wrong and all those before her that I'm a catch.. Currently talking to a girl I'm really digging so far.. Ending up with someone better than her is my goal
You guys are both so encouraging and kind! I re-watch a lot of your videos and always look forward to a new video
Angie N Yes😍. Me tooo
Love ya guys 👍 I love my former lover & she is going through tough time with depression & just life & has affected me as well . I believe she will come back eventually
Joshua Hopkins any update ?
Steve 6 months & still nothing . Moving on . She ghosted me & just became cold towards me . Understanding I deserve better
Hahaaa.. Broke my no contact after 2 weeks, she replied but.. Hasn't replied after she told me how I was doing 😌 I knew I messed up the second I told her how she was doing and everything.. Should have just left it alone, now my anxiety shot up a bit and gotta work on the process all over lol. But at the same I know I'm better off now than when we were together, lot of change in a few months
So~ any updates?
Loved it guys...thanks...very encouraging...but...nope...not buzzing my head! :-))
I absolutely *LOVE* this!!
There has to be some reason he stuck with me for four years after we got back together. I was just asking myself this morning if he will find it in his heart to come back again.
Aliacoo exactly
Any updates?
I've started to go to therapy and am trying to work on myself but if I think about it there was nothing redeeming about me that he would come back too. We dated for three years and he broke up with me over a month ago but he seems over me already and just talks to me like a friend. I'm a nobody so I don't think he'll want me back romantically ever again.
Thank you for the motivation!!
The best Coaches! Thank you so much!
Thanks again!!👍🏼👍🏼
Love your vids. Be nice to hear some stuff for 20, 30,40 year marriages tho.
Does no contact work in this situation
It has been 3 weeks of no contact and the break up after 3 years together he broke up with me and moved out after a fight and still won't talk to me and I have not reached out or broke no contact as hard as it is.
Sherri Reynolds any update ?
Nope, still won't talk to me, I think he's dating somebody else and that's fine, I'm slowly getting over him.
Update: we are back together, we have been 6 weeks 😁
@@sherrireynolds4585 are you serious? Im so happy for you. As a guy I have no hope my ex will come back. But she cjeated on me. It shouldnt be me with this burden, it should be her. Im just going to get a full sleeve tat and move the fuck on with my life. Fuck her.
@@sherrireynolds4585 how long did it take for him to come back after NC?
My Ex Has Been Gone and Been With Another Man Now for Two (2) Years Going on Three (3).....and I did My Best to be Good to Her and Did My Absolute Best to treat Her Like an Absolute "Queen" When were together....but it was Never Good Enough....and She was Always Really Good at Telling Me Everything I did Wrong....and Never Anything I did Right....I"m 57 Years Old Now and Had Many Failed Relationships in My Past for One Reason or Another and Have tried to Learn from My Mistakes so that I didn't keep Making the same Mistakes over and over Again....I've Never Been Married in My Life....and it Doesn't Look Hopeful at this Stage in My Life that I Ever Will because I"m Not Good Enough to Ever Get Someone to Want to Stay in My Life....I Feel like a "Total Failure" and a "Loser" When it Comes to "Relationships" and Not Worthy of God"s Love and Blessings Even though I try to be a Good, Decent Hardworking Guy....and I Have Come to the Obvious Conclusion that God Hates Me and I Probably Will Never Figure Out Why?.
This is so sad
Dear coaches , my ex and I were together for 15 years, he broke up with me 4 months ago. I have been a ghost for 4 months. Should I or when should I start Facebook back up ? My ex ran to his 12th grade girlfriend he hasn't seen since 1988 !
Love dis vid...its quite eye opening... Thnk u fr doin them
My girl broke up little over a week ago . We are in 50s i just had big surgery and after all was clear she broke up . I did no contact after few texts my last saying i was sorry for lets us down and was going to work to better myself . Wish she stayed but for my next relationship. Idk why i saw no signs of break up got along sex great laughs . Few days later she texts me i started this 1000 times im.a mess she thinks bout me /US in everything she does she sorry she hurt me she needs to work on self in her own way .. love me always she one needs podcasts .. i responded a day later that it sadden me she was hurt overwhelmed and felt couldnt go thru it togetjer but i respect her choice and lmk if that changes and thanked her for showing me podcasts because i really enjoy the help
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It really kills me to see my ex hanging out eith her new friends. I'm so scared that she will completly forget about me. She's really stubborn. Help me
Let her hang with them. Dont pay attention to it. Respect her space dont blow up her phone. Work on you and be patient. Hit up your boys and go out. The thing is when she is out with her friends she is still thinking of you if you were good to her. Thats the seed. Let it grow. When you are happy she will notice and be like wtf he should be devastated. Play it cool bc you are the prize. If she doesnt see it someone else will. And more than likely a total upgrade and probably someone you might think is out of your league. Trust the process man. Much love bro
Maybe she's not so much stubborn as just making her own choices, which to be fair, she has every right to do.
If me and my ex were only together for three months does that matter if it was only a short time or does no matter how much time has passed
Hi Craig, What if your ex has already moved on after I spent three months trying to patch things up? When we broke up officially, she was on tinder and talking to guys the same/next day? Why would no contact work on someone that doesn't want you?
I mean you said it yourself. She doesn't want you. We just need to man up and accept that these people weren't who we thought they were and move on. I know this is easier said than done, which is why I'm here in the first place, but why are we wasting time on a person that doesn't want us?
How do you get over the bad feeling created by a rubbish breakup?
From my experience the best way to get over bad feelings is to not dwell on them, when they pop up counter them with something as simple as "it wasn't that big of a deal", and let time do the rest. There is no magical formula to eliminate bad feelings, but the key is to release them from your life so they don't turn into a source of bitterness.
@J J I kind of disagree. No amount of self love will necessarily get rid of bad feelings. It will just make it easier for you to get over it a little faster. By the way, none of us are the "most" important person, that statement in and of itself is vain. We are just important and that's enough. But this is my own opinion. If that works for you, that's all that matters.
@J J No, I'm not the most important person and neither are you. We are all equally as important. I understand what you are saying, but I disagree with the wording.
@J J That, I completely agree with!
I don’t know that there’s been a video on this topic yet but it’s a question I’ve had since beginning your videos: Can I get an ex back that has an avoidant attachment?
I love Margaret!
I need help. I’m so confused. He calls me out of the blue. We’ve been broke up 6 months, we haven’t talked til about a month til the other day. Right off he says we’re just alike we should just go ahead and get back together. I just said his name like no don’t start saying stuff like that. And then he said he was joking. Then started saying how bad he has missed me and wanted to no if I missed him. Then the next day I talk to him and he says not to get my feelings into it and he just wants to be friends and I need to move on.wth? Why one day he’s talking different then the next. Is it just cause he didn’t get the right reaction from me or wanna see what I would say. Idk! Please share ur thoughts and opinions cause I have no idea what to think about the whole situation. We’ve been friends for 25 yrs and were together for almost 7 and was suppose to get married. Well never be able to be just friends. It’s just to hard for me. Does he want me back or just playing games w me ??
Very comforting video ❤️
What if you are back and forth with your ex. It's been like 3 weeks now where we have gotten out on dates(her idea),had lunched at work (her idea), had sex once and now she has gone cold again. Now she started texting again but won't set dates. it's sooo tiring...
Sounds like your a crutch while she looks for other people
Whenever my ex said I was doing something wrong in out relationship I would change it I.e. she said I didn’t ask how her day had been often enough and how she was, I started to do this everyday and she told me to stop. I feel like she wanted to break up with me anyway and was looking for reasons to but since I would always fix the things she would get mad at me for she would keep changing her mind on what she wanted from me in the relationship
This sounds like what I dealt with. They kept moving the goal post...
@@hgzmatt I think sometimes people just decide they want something else but can't justify breaking up with a good reason so then they create problems
@@hgzmatt I had the same thing dude, her birthday was a few weeks after we broke up and I had already bought her a few things and made her a few things and so I just gave her them and when she opened them she told me she wanted to marry me but then started excluding me from activities she would do with our friends. She kissed me a number of times after we broke up but then denied this later on when the arguments started between us. I made the mistake of thinking it would all work out eventually where as she had no intentions of actually working things out. I've got another girlfriend now and I'm really happy, I wish I never dwelled so much on the breakup!
Long distance 3 years 4 years of knowing each other..... 5 months no contact
There are several comments regarding short term relationships. I too had a very intense 5 month relationship end, I being the dumpee. Is there realistically any hope? Have been no contact for about 3 weeks.
Mine was a very intense 4 months (prior t working 1 year together)
No contact since March.
Update?
This is a lot like my situation, only i was the one that got into another relationship bout a month and a half later. Me being the boyfriend. This was 10 years ago in high school and i still regret it. I had no idea what i had xD
Hey guys ! Thanks Craig for the work and everyone for the comments.
I allow myself to ask on the comment.. I would love to have a skype.. I have to admit i cant afford it. Hope thats fine.
Technical question i cant solve on my own... After several weeks of hésitation (breaks, discussions..) my gf ended the relation. Of course i discovered the vidéos only After... So i made some mistakes (like text her the day after, and showing fragility aller over the process). Then she asked me to go no contact for a while because she is struggling with the end of the relation. I couldnt held myself So she blocked me. I respect her decision since then. Almost two weeks silence. And decided to go for hardcore no contact as you suggest. But i have the feeling that i didnt set the frame (like u say in your vid "ok. Have fun. You know how to find me if.. Blabla". And i am hesitating between stay this way or just make one contact to equals power. Any thoughts ?
Update?
Mr. Craig and marger my wife left me after 10 years of marriage accusing me of cheating on her with a vo worker. My wife and i been sperated for 2 years now we have a daughter. My daughter will be 10 years old on March 22, my daughter wish is for my wife and i to get back toghter. Is their any hope for me or she just going to give up on our 10 year marriage and marry someone else. This 2 year seperation is effecting me i am having trouble sleeping. Am i the only one feeling this way. I think my wife will never come back to me. I ask her will we ever get back toghter she said no not ever. I feel so unhappy.
Hey Craig, it's 4am and m watching your videos. Today my ex drove passed me in his beautiful brand new BMW with a very beautiful girl in his front seat. I really loved this guy but we hadn't spoken in almost 3 months, I hoped he would reach out. Could you please do a video on how to stop loving your ex. he told me to move on and that we don't always get what we want. he looked happy and was smiling, probably because he noticed me looking at them. I was staring blankly at the road and only saw his smile after he was almost passed me
Wow that's crappy. I really hope you are doing better now.
I wish I had found his channel earlier
I am in so much pain right now. Today has been the hardest in a long time. I have cried so much today. 6 months since the breakup and 34 days nc. I wish God was real so he could kill me. I want this pain to end.
Everything is going to get better
no one talks about what we have too offer
Thanks for everything love the advice xoxo E
What is the age limit on these videos
I can figure out how to cook, ride my mountain bike, how to do a spinning back kick, dance, sing, camp, work on my car, drive 18 wheelers with manual transmissions, program, and 3d model.
But for the life of me i cant figure out what i did that was so bad that she decided to end things. I got her a pendant that said i love you. It was half a heart. I have the other half. I only know where mine is.
My ex turned out to be a narcissist and i dont want him to come back
Radio silence didn't work.. She didn't come back.
literally nearly my exact situation mine only stuck around for a year though. So i dont think shes as attached as this guys was.
@@hgzmatt mine was 2.5 years. She broke up with me by changing her facebook status. No call, no text or fucking anything. I call her and it turns out she had a threesome with her coworker and his wife. Wtf? She then goes on to tell me she never loved me, and then a week later said she wants to work on things with me to then changing her fucking mind again. It's now been 1 week of nc. What tbe fuck am I doing wasting .y time and energy on tbis girl? I was a week away from poppi g the question, and she does this. Why do I love her?
WOW GREAT VIDEO!!! TUESDAY HEAT!!
Can I send my ex Email she can read about here avoidance attachment? even though I am no contact I am the anxious attachment and she is the avoidance attachment?
Tony Hamati terrible idea. Don't do it. Especially in an email when you already broke up. I had an ex who also tried to psychoanalyze me after the breakup and I found it desperate, weird and a turn-off
TrueLies thank you for your advice !!
Coach Craig and Coach Margeret, could you make a video explaining what to do if the break up was due to pressure from her parents? Thank you! Love your videos, they make my days easier!
We have done that topic. The secret reasons of break ups and another video about family interfering in relationships
@@CoachCraigKenneth Thank you coach! We were so happy for 3 years before the pressure they gave due to my ethnicity got to her, the video you recommended really helped me gain perspective. I hope she can overcome this while i better myself
What about breaking up do to going to work?
Great professionals🙏
My ex broke up with me because I was 'the man' of the relationship. That just shows he has issues eith his masculinity. Sorry I'm strong and assertive? Lol
Or maybe you were controlling...
he left me 2 months ago. he said our issue was my attitude. i only found out 6 days ago that he rekindled his relationship with his old gf during his travel in canada and US. I was able to unlock his iphone. I went ballistic and hit him, he apologized and promised he will fix our relationship. 3 days afyer, i was so drunk I didnt know he was coming to visit me, i was so intoxicated i started getting physical again. he fed me and tucked me in bed then left. now he has blocked me. He told me his reason for going back with the girl is for citizenship papers for him . he is asking me to wait for him until he divorce her. i just want him to stop his evil plot. is this still what you call rebound relationship? i think he will continiously do it coz of his plan to use her. the girl knows about me, she blocked me as well....
Hit him? WOW just like my ex. 😝
He’s a playa! Hopefully, you cut the dead weight from your life and moved on.
My stomach hair is crusty
Are the prices in US dollars on the website?
I did one and yes they are in us dollars
Ohh Yeah. . I almost killed my self when he left me. Now, he came back with the BIG SORRY but it seems I dont love him ANYMORE!
zedo7615 love yourself first♥️you matter.....
He invested so much into Us... told me I was his happiness... the one... I saw love in his eyes... then, he disappeared. I texted and called. He gave me some lame excuses about being busy and broke... Last time I saw him was 1st August. I am better, but still obsessed. Somebody help me.
I’m in a similar situation. How are you now? Did he ever come back?
@@danbie86 Oh, my. I wrote that a year ago. So much has happened since August 2019. We did get back together, but we broke up again in August 2020. He is a narcissist. He never did love me, I suppose. I went through hell in this relationship. Never again. Be careful of the man who lovebombs you then disappears - nothing good happens afterwards.
@@solidcatink oh yes for sure. Been with a narcissist before and NEVER AGAIN! love bombing is horrible. This guy seems more dismissive avoidant, didn’t really love bomb. I will get over him soon enough.
@@danbie86 And no matter how much we love them, no matter how good a woman we are, they will still find something "wrong". I gave up. Got out before he completely destroyed me. I don't love him anymore, just still hurt from being abused by him. At this point, I'm studying him from a scientific/psychiatric point of view, as he is a med school case now as far as I'm concerned.
The love bombing was enjoyable, but after spending a wonderful week of vacation with him IN MY HOUSE IN MY COUNTRY, he started devaluing and discarding me.
Your dismissive avoidant man won't change. Run and don't look back. There are good people out there to love, looking to love us. No rush. Let nature take its course. Stay away from dating apps, they are breeding grounds for narcissists and mentally unstable people, in my humble opinion.
@@solidcatink thanks. Yes i dont want him back. It just hurts the way he ended things. Definitely better men out there for me. It’s his loss!
This is strange, I had her in my dreams lately and I dont follow her anywhere on social media etc. except her friend but that actually had nothing to do with my ex specifically, the girl posted art I liked and that was it. Today, that girl unfollowed me on social media and after analyzing the situation for months, now i have all the clarity and evidence that my ex hasnt moved on from me and is trying to force me to break no contact. Won't happen. I am not so sure she's gonna reach out soon but at one point I'm counting on seeing a text from her one day. Not hoping for anything though, realistically I was really caring, supportive, non manipulative and never jealous and i really kept track of her interests cause some of them are common, like why shouldn't she come back? I'm practically somewhat ideal. Its been 8 months since our last contact and I did post breakup mistakes but I picked myself up and changed for the better for my own sake, not her's. Im not waiting for her at all, but Im counting on hearing from her at one point
Can anyone give some advise?I'm in high school and I lost my first love about 4 months ago. I made all the classic mistakes. Clinginess, wada wada wada. I did beg and plead for 2 days after the breakup, but no more after that. The last I talked to her was about 2 months ago. We haven't spoken since. I feel like she's never gonna reach out to me ever again. (The relationship was good. We handled things maturely, her family treated me like their own. It was good. Everything was.) I pushed her away because I wasn't changing and I didn't see the problem. But I have been working on myself. A lot actually. I've been watching Craig Kenneth. I recently got accepted into Early College. Got a new car. I'm trying new styles of clothes and shoes. I am now a Section Leader in out High School Marching Band. I see her at school, lunch, between classes, etc. She seems fine. The last texts I told her that I couldn't be friends. And she replied with "yeah, I don't want to be friends either." I could tell she was being either mean or sarcastic. Because I told her I can't be friends and she said the same thing, does that mean I won't ever hear from her because she might be scared to reach out? Should I use the No Contact rule? Even if I'm in High school? Do I have a chance?
Dude this is just like my story
How u guys doing right now
Andrean Dicky Hey man, Idk how you’re feeling about it now, but if you’re still feeling bad about it I will tel you this....you will feel better and it will go away. I used to be so unconvinced that time heals it. But it does. It really does. But you also have to heal in a good way and better yourself. Don’t change who you are but do things to heal you know? Now, regarding my ex...me and her are on good terms now and can talk normally and be friends. Which I’m glad about because over time I didn’t see her as an ex anymore, I seen her as a person who helped me grow and mature and learn. That’s a good thing. I don’t ever see myself dating her again. She’s changed too much and she’s just not attractive to me in that way anymore. She’s still gorgeous but...you know? I’m now on the way to dating my best friend (which is very confusing, but me and her are mature and have the same interests and talk about everything). And I’ve dated other people and put myself out there. There will come a point where you feel really good about yourself and there also may be those feelings again. I still get them sometimes. But I’ve come to terms with myself that’s it’s over and I don’t want it. I know myself worth and I wasn’t being treated right in the relationships after the ex we are speaking of now so I ended them....IIII did. I had the strength to do so cuz I knew my worth. And when that day comes when you know how much your bring and are happy with yourself, it’ll be the turning point in your life. I suggest you just do things to heal individually and do things you love to do. Try new things. Whatever makes you feel good. You’re ex may come back to you, but you need to focus on yourself. If she don’t, you need to be at a point where you’re ok with that. You can do it. Hell, I did it and I thought I was never gonna be better. :) (if you have any questions feel free to ask!)
@@ezekielv2479 man I CAN SO relate at this. Im currently just finished highschool too and on my way to college. Thanks for sharing bro, hope u get a good life and future ahead. Cheers!
Andrean Dicky Cheers!
coach Maragarret foley looks like she can make a mean ass breakfast
Y'all assume the ex will reach out. I have never reached out to an ex that I ended it with. My ex has not reached out to me and it's been 9 months.