Someone asked me this... My workbook series, The Knowledge Series vol 1-5 has over 350 questions! They will give you hours and hours of material, all focused on personal growth 💪
I can't begin to express how pumped I am that you shared my success story because it helps show everyone just how effective these workbooks are. I flew threw all five in five days and I've since rewatched most of the videos a few times, I just can't get enough of how helpful they are. To everyone reading this, keep going! Keep watching these videos, get the workbooks if you are able, and prepare yourself for if you ever get the opportunity to reconnect with your ex, which most people do. You got this!
That’s insane! 5 days? Most people do one workbook in about a week or two! You must have been on them nonstop! Btw 6-10 are coming along and they are gunna be amazing 🔥🔥
Plz I need your help I was engaged I was with her for 5 years we have a daughter together 3 years old and she says she wants to focus on her life her job I'm so depressed I don't sleep anymore don't feel like I want to carry on anymore she's my soulmate my bestfreind
Hi coach Craig I absolutely love your videos... I wish you would do a video about my situation. My ex partner of 11 years had an affair and left me in the end of March this year..am 46 he is 34..we have 2 young kids together... he has been back about 8 times since then and only staying about a few days or a week at a time... each time he said he had finished with her when he hadn't... I love him so much and want our family back but he has moved in with her and says she treats him better than I ever did..that's just wrong..her ex did the same to her last year what my ex is doing to me...she knows he has been back at mine to work it out, but she has still got her claws into him how can I compete with someone like that when he was back at mine and when he left me again I sent her copies of the texts he sent me saying love you...but now he won't send me any texts like that again...I know I was very stupid for sending her anything I really could kick myself but when your hurt u just don't think straight. So any way haven't let myself go I look after myself I defiantly don't look my age. But she looks older than me lol she is not anything to look at. But anyway my rant over there...it's been nearly 7mths now and it still hurts Every day... I wish he would see sense that he truly had a living family that loves him and want a him home...he doesn't really bother with the kids...he is only know going to a lawyer to get access to them after I said he could see them but I don't want her to have anything to do with them am so hurt confused and angry all at the same time... coach Craig please can you help is it hopeless to get him back...x
Word of warning: if you’re obsessed with getting your ex back and only work on yourself in the hope of rekindling things, it’ll all blow up in ur face sooner or later. You might work on yourself for a bit, and hypothetically speaking she does come back and sees you in a “different light” it’s all just a front. You only changed because of her. In conclusion you’re still the same old person. Real change comes from within. Real changed is when you realize you’re all you need and that you’re capable of so much more. If you reach that state of being then you’re golden. But if you desire to change just because of her, it’ll all blow up in ur face sooner or later.
V R fuck that mate. Go forward in life and improve every aspect of yourself. Mentality, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, financially and physically. Be the best version of yourself for yourself. Fuck these hoes. Love yourself first. Growth never stops!
my therapist said the best way to get her back is to get back to how I was when me and my ex started dating, I agree with the other comment about growing, because in the first place, the negative energy I put out, in part, and don't me wrong, I want my ex back, but my ex is a negative person in many ways with a lot of trauma, so how I was when i got her, was anxious and angry for not having any relationships for 6 years, so in a way, it was kind of fitting. I had a severe condition that is now cured where I wasn't able to date hardly at all (it's a physical condition, long story) so I had this huge gap. My ex knows about the gap, so it makes it even more desperate probably to her. Anyway, I digress, I agree with what you guys both said in a way. I want to take the best of how I was in May 2019 (right when me and my ex started talking) and improve upon it.
Thank you this is what I was looking for. I want to hear about becoming the new me not rekindling anything and taking away the new happiness of that person......believe me it has not been an easy road to get to this point.
I wrote my doctoral dissertation on romantic breakups and no contact by the person that is feeling rejected. The research really supports the value of no contact for healing and potential repair of the relationship. You and Margaret are excellent, and it's so nice you are a resource of hope. :)
angela mcmahon I for one would love to read your dissertation! I am a returning adult student working on a masters at Stony Brook University. My focus area as an undergraduate was bridging psychology with barbarism and Colonialism... macro scale... for me, coach kennith explores the micro scale and going through what I have gone through personally .. part of the healing process is knowing it is based in human nature and my situation is not a one of anomaly. I am always open minded and learning . Forward your .pdf please !
I barely started no contact about 3 weeks ago but was continuously messing up the first 3 months...she looks at my social media and messages me once and a while...but I don't look at hers...I'm working on my goals...but do I still have a chance?
I think that anyone with a inch of integrity and reason will understand after 5 min of watching any of your videos that this channel is not about pickups or manipulations. That it is a serious channel, that has genuine value for healthy relationships and healthy attraction. If I got to see any of your videos by an introduction from another person, a friend or partner, i would think that they really have their heart in the right place. There is nothing shrewd here, only authenticity! Love you and Margaret!
In order to get into relationship you need to do pick up;) If you dont know how to do pick up, you will not be in relationship. Dont undervalue pick up channels because they give big value to people.
I’m going through no contact right now. But wanted to say that years ago I went no contact with another guy & it worked on him. He told me it drove him absolutely insane & that he checked my social media 500 times a day. He actually drove to my house because I had blocked his number to give me a piece of junk mail that was delivered to his house. I took it & shut the door lol then I noticed he wrote a letter on the back of the junk mail envelope saying he misses me so much & please talk to him. I thought about it for a day & texted him the next day a brief message. We got back together, it didn’t last though. In the no contact period I grew & my feelings were not the same for him again so I then dumped him. That was 6 years ago. We are casual friends now. He still wants to pursue more but I have zero feelings. So yes, sometimes it works. Just typing this out to give someone hope. I come to read the comments in all these videos because I too, need the encouragement at this time. ❤️
Okay something similar happened to me. We were in NC for almost 2 years and when we finally got in contact, we hung out a few times and they admitted that they loved me and thought about me all the time. But their avoidance led them to cut things off again but without “Hard feelings”. They wanted to remain friends, but not really. I went NC again. And so far I’ve been in it since. I wonder if her feelings were just not the same when we reconnected, but that would be confusing since she said she loved me.
Unfortunately if your bf is a narcissist there's no way they'll ever miss u or realise their mistakes. Rather they'll blame it on u for every arguments and misundrstandings. They'll cheat lie but will act as the victim...
hazel ryan sounds like my ex.. he’s cold hearted found someone I assume idk,,he’s hard to get over and I know it’s for the best.. I hope it gets better for me.
hazel ryan You are 💯 correct. I left my Narc ex because of the way he was treating me, asked a woman out to lunch behind my back because she was moving away and this was a woman he had a crush on and admitted he was still attracted to, and that was unacceptable to me. Even though I knew he wouldn’t have slept with her because she only liked him as a friend, it hurt me because of his lack of boundaries with females. He also had two other single attractive female friends he talked to all the time over the phone, by text, and even did handyman-type favors for in person and never bothered to introduce me to them even though I kept asking him. He blamed me for the breakup instead of wanting to fix the problems and get rid of his other side girlfriends as I explained to him what emotional affairs are. He was telling them the same things he told me on a daily basis and talking to them all the time plus basically tucking each other in bed by text and dropping everything he was doing for them. It amazed me his complete disregard and ambivalence to my feelings. He saw nothing wrong with his behavior yet certainly wouldn’t have been ok with me treating him the same way. Total self absorbed Narcissist. So I was the enemy he hated me for dumping him and I felt like I had no choice that I couldn’t tolerate the situation I was in. But I still really loved him and I was depressed and missed him and when I tried to ask him back and work things out because I missed him and was in agony and he would just ghost me and punish me by not responding whatsoever. It took me over a year to get over a guy I was only with for 4 months because the trauma bond was so strong between us. I’m glad now that it didn’t work because he had major deal breaking issues going on and was starting to insult me and criticize me and completely stopped touching me anymore after only a couple of months and would push me away when I attempted intimacy. Now I find out he has a new girlfriend and he got off Facebook because it was causing problems in their relationship even though when I complained about his Facebook behavior he said I was way too controlling and he didn’t see anything wrong with talking to other women or hearting and wowing their pictures yet ignoring my posts. I was so hurt and angry that he was giving attention to other women when I was the one he was with and driving him all over the state for his doctor appointments. A life with him would’ve meant sharing him with other women “friends” he was having emotional affairs with. No thank you I have gotten over him just upset that he treated me like shit and I find out now he has a new girlfriend and he deactivated his Facebook profile for her and wouldn’t do it for me. Oh well God’s got my best interests at heart and he will bring a man to me that will make all the hell I’ve been through be worth it!
Exactly! I dealt with one of those last year. Very cold hearted. Ironically I did what he stated in this video on my own, good to know I went down the right path, met an awesome woman and seven months later she is benefiting from the new me. As for the ex, she popped in an exercise class for a few times at the beginning of the month. Surprised me she did that but I just held my own that she has no effect on me now. Felt really good not to feed her ego even saying hi to her and she has since disappeared again which I'm sure is for good now.
When someone leaves us, do we really want him or her back ? Why did they leave us in the first place? For a fantasy. Body? Well be it!! When someone loves you and adore you however you are, they will never leave !
Silver Mont Not always true. I’m older by too much for him. He wants kids. My kid is 18 and I’m not starting over. He said I was his everything but left me to try a relationship with a young girl he met to see how it goes. He’s just that serious about having a baby of his own. So it sucks.
Coach, I cannot express my feelings on this video, it is beyond fantastic and hits ALL the hot buttons. If a person that just experienced a break up only watched ONE video, this would be the one. So much information is a understatement. Thank you for your hard, hard work and your passion. You have a dear friend in me that you have never met! I truly do not believe a human being as your self exists, but there you are putting out fantastic "free" info week after week. At this point I almost do not care if my ex ever reaches out as I have you!! Long live Coach Craig. Greetings, Rob
I started to watch other self help videos. Like dressing better, make up for my age and inspirational videos. TD Jakes, Les Brown, Jim Rohn and Tony Robbins. These videos inspired me to be my best self. Wealth, health and relationships. It is about me in the end. I must do it for myself. I have been hearing Craig's voice "It's okay" since he made that video. I had a recent death and all of the work I have done has helped me do better at keeping in emotional self control. This channel has changed my life and I am truly thankful for Coach Craig and Coach Margaret's help. Keep it up Craig! You're changing people's❤ lives!
Best video I have seen on this topic, it's clear you're not trying to get people's money and that you're revealing everything on your videos thumbs up and I'm subscribed
Because he went thru this himself. He knows firsthand how it feels to be broken up and has implemented NC to be a better man and how it’s helped/changed him.
Almost 2 yrs ago my fiancé walked out on me. We haven’t spoken since. I can’t stop thinking about her. This is the toughest thing I’ve ever done. Thank God for your videos getting me through the rough patches.
I been in no contact for about 5 months... I ruined it by calling her over the weekend private ... just wanted to hear her voice then I hung up like a little kid. This break up has been the worst thing in my life.
Thank you coaches. I sincerely love you guys and your investment into our broken hearts. I miss my girlfriend desperately, but because you've taught me the value of attachment, I believe she will come back. I recognized she was trying to bread crumb me and put me in friend zone to soothe her separation anxiety. But never commit to our relationship, so I told her no, under current circumstances I want nothing further with her. I love you, love our intimacy and chemistry and those feelings would never permit me to accept friendship. I feel strong, empowered. I hurt. I miss her. But I saw what was happening and knew I needed her to feel the breakup. Much love. And appreciation
Didn't take long, she started flirting with me today. She'd been pushing, running for over a week. I broke no contact daily, but today I sent her a text. Wished her well. Thanked her for the memories and good times. I knew I was going the other way, made it clear I wasn't going to be a friend. I'd be a supportive boyfriend, but not friend. 2 hours later she said she missed me. Missed my kiss... I went along. But I'll continue no contact. Only reply if she texts. I won't fall over myself to be with her.
I also believe that anxious attachment style doesn’t really exist. If existed it’s base on curiosity creates by an avoidant attachment person. Based on a relationship with an avoidant you become anxious and it’s not abnormal to be anxious. Please coach comment on that. Thanks!
People can show anxious behaviour with secure people. If a secure person needs space to do things, an anxious person can still blow up their phone or turn up uninvited. The concept of someone being clingy and always wanting to be around their partner is anxious behaviour. Anxiety in a relationship is abnormal behaviour, it stems from fear of threat to life and wellbeing for ourselves and the ones we love. Not them pulling away, whether justified or not. If you're anxious in a relationship, you need to therapy.
I am quite older. About 68 yrs old Male. Enjoy this video very good advice Married first 29 years, (and met in a bar mind you) then 8 years to 2nd wife and was married in the Philiipines a story book wedding to a previous runner up for Miss Philippines. And no, that's not why we clicked at first long story never mind. Lessons learned. Been there, done that many times. Never easy yes I know It's been my experience looking back on my life that when you really want, need, and deserve a second chance (and we all do) most of the time you don't get it. Period. Now lift you spirits. Just Imagine there are thousands of beautiful pebbles next to each other on the beach sand as you walk along looking down admiring their beauty. Would it be so hard to pick another if the one you previously chose (your bf or gf) leaves you? There are about 7 billion people on planet earth. Not just ONE. 7 Billion got that? Why oh why does loosing just one destroy you? If I could give you a better, more beautiful "pebble" right here and right now, today, tell Me now just how much you would care about someone whom hurt you or left you for no good reason? Amen? You deserve better and the next one will be just that. You are worthy of only the best treatment and respect. God Loves You remember that too. Hope you feel better now
Thank you so much for the help. I cant say it enough. Im improving my life in so many ways and becoming excited about my relationship as well as my persponal goals. I was really down. I got dumped, but im turning things around !
Hello Craig....I've only been split up for 3 weeks and it hurts like nothing else...but listening to you is certainly helping...I just pray the no contact thing is working..
@@agbordaniels Hey man, thanks for your reply. I had forgotten I even wrote this and I was notified someone replied. I was so depressed back then. I did have to grow up though. It took almost a year to figure it out but I realized I am stronger than what i was. I had no idea she had been cheating on me for 4 months prior to our breakup so no wonder NC failed miserably. She had already moved on while she was still with me. I'm glad she did what she did when she did it though. Better than having it done to me after we were married and had kids. She showed her true colors after being with her for 5 years. This whole situation forced me to grow up and become stronger.
We had a chat! But nothing serious happened! She never said she wants me back or anything of such sort just that it was the best time for her and she is the reason why we ended up!! Same old thing she wants to focus on her career!!
@@rahulagarwal3349 yeah. That's classic. Samen old bull. My ex wife did the same when she broke up with me 1 an a half years ago. She texted me to apolized and told me she wanted to be by herself. It's all bull. It's a phase of the break up. At that period of time they go into feeling guilty for the break up. They feel sorry for us. They know we're suffering and they know you want to get back. Fake it till you make it. Tell her it's ok and that you're ok with the break up. Even if you go home to cry after. This will hit them. Don't text them or communicate until they do it again. My case was total desaster. I started accusing her of having someone else and started mentioning friends from her facebook..🤣 don't mess up like I did...lol be strong.
I've been watching your videos for the last few months Craig. I love spending my time on UA-cam ingesting valuable content. Thank you for being so awesome, and putting these videos out here for us. I for one genuinely appreciate it and look forward to it every day. Hell I re-watch most videos all the time and learn more each time. Much love from Seattle WA!!!!
I'm quite confused why anyone would be so excited to have their ex back when they've dated or are in the middle of dating someone else. If anything, it shows ambivalence, a lack of loyalty (in the latter situation), and monkey branching (in the latter situation).
@@absoluttchamp I mean it's not about giving up. It's about being practical. They're an ex because it didn't work out. People get tunnel vision / delusional and think their ex is "the one" because they're scared to be alone or scared to move on (which is understandable because people are at their most vulnerable state during these times), and then you have these shrinks preying on that fear in the form of "coaching" someone, who is incredibly emotional and can't think objectively, on how to get their ex back.
@@daviddang6791 I am all for coaching, but with time you will learn to become your own coach and accept less bs from girls. Having said that, I also need to hear the obvious thing after a breakup for some time, but I like to get passed that phase as quickly as possible. GF of 2.5yrs broke up just a few days ago after my most serious relationship ever. Had a few calls with a friend and watching youtube videos but have decided I will sort this out. In the end, the solution always lie inside you... To the men out there, ffs, man up!
He's right. You really do start to miss them like CRAZY. But in my case, he was messing with a bunch of women, so I won't go back no matter how much I miss him. But, yeah... The distance can be brutal on your heart.
Im in none contact four months now She reached out to me after 7 months first time in feb on valentine day. Wish I saw your videos back then. Now its has been 4 month of no contact. Tryin everyway not too reach out to her . Your videos gives me hope and gives me diciplin . Thank you so much for making us believe in love again . Your are truly the best coach Craig. Please make a video about ”Will she reach out twice ”?( again )
You're the best, Coach Craig. I needed this video today. And what you do is such a great thing. You give people hope and hope is priceless. Keep up the good work.
Hey Coach, thank you for helping me with your email coaching :) Thought it would be helpful, but I trust you so much that it really brought some peace to my mind now that I know what's the best thing to proceed :) THANK YOU
You may not be their best option. We want to believe.we are but.that is not.necessarily.so. It wasn"t in my case. My rebound turned out to be the love.of my life.
Hi guys I really want to share my story with you: My ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago after a small fight we had, I didn't say anything at the moment and accepted it. 1 day later I sent her a text asking if she was ok and she sent me a huge wall of text on how our relationship was over and I there's nothing to discuss about it. And again, I said: "That's fine I respect your decision, sorry If I caused any trouble" and went full no contact. As she had stuff in my house and vice versa she texted me a couple times during the week and I kept being cold, distant and emotionally strong. I tried keeping my messages as short as I could, answering only from 3 to 3 hours and keep myself busy everytime. I knew she still had feelings for me and she was having a hard time as well, so as the days were passing, she started showing more emotions, sharing her personal life with me and trying to make things good between us. When the day of meeting her finally arrived, I met her to give her stuff and acted like nothing happened, we spent 3 or 4 hours just talking random subjects, having a laugh and flirting with each other and I never mentioned my intentions of wanting to get back together with her. That night I went home and didn't text her. Next day I woke up with her texting me saying she needed to talk with me in person and she was really into that idea; I said "ok, whenever you want we can have a chat" and that day was today, a couple hours ago. She met me in my house and we talked a lot, she said she noticed more negative aspects in our relationship and enforced the fact there would be nothing between us anymore. And I respected that. Now I'm sitting here writing this comment and I just had sex with her, she seemed really happy and I guess we rebuilt some attraction here. So my conclusion is: This videos from Coach Craig are amazing! Don't acted impatiently and don't overthink, take your time, act cool and I believe everything will be sorted. Don't chase!! The worst thing someone can do when someone breaks up is not giving him/her the space they need... I will still try to get back with her and i'll try to be patient, if it doesn't work at least I won a good friend! So keep it cool guys and good luck :)
I see the ex because we have a child in hospital. I have mixed feelings between wanting him back + wanting him dead. He told our child he regrets how he dealt with the break up but not the actual break up .
Yes he said that 'this is the last call m doing, understand that & it can't work more, don't text me & blocked' I can't talk. I texted him for 3 days then I left him alone. Today it's 7days complete I'm not going to reach him. He is heartless and careless. I'hv done alot to be with him. I'm upset & he's bzy. Redicious. I loved him.
Coach.. I know I handled the break up horribly, but I feel like if she's judging me entirely on those 2 weeks (plus 2 drunken texts a month and half later) DURING A REALLY ROUGH TIME IN MY LIFE, then she never cared about me at all.. If she's been snooping my social media out of curiosity these past few months, she would then see that I've been trying lots of new things, posting positive motivational quotes acknowledging my past weaknesses, got myself my own apartment (a huge step in the right direction for me), and yet here I am, 7 months later, and she still hasn't even said "hey, how have you been?" or given me the slightest of signs that any of that passion was real at all.. I will never quit on myself, or trying to progress in my life mentally, physically, and spiritually, but I have to say that it's quite discouraging to not hear from her after a HARD 7 months of NC.
Six and a half months today. He's never bothered to ask if I'm okay. It's a tough gig, I never thought it could be this hard. This is our second breakup, and this one is twice as hard.
You don’t want to be with a person like that anyways. If she doesn’t care about you then you don’t need her. Don’t post how you’re changing in hopes for attention then be let down. Focus on yourself and stop wasting life for her. She isn’t for you, someone is wondering where you are right now. So meet her!
@@PaintSociety Well I don't post stuff solely for her.. It is mostly for myself, and I don't post frequently.. Definitely haven't put my life on hold either (very active with dates).. I just miss the connection I had with her.. The connection is truly what's tough to find
What about if he's happy with this woman because she offers him more 'fun' and more social events? He cheated on me with her and actually moved 60 miles away, bought a house, so he could be with her. Yet, he says he won't marry her yet ..he's 74 yrs old and he divorced me after 9 yrs. of marriage. I still can't get over him....
I would really appreciate it if you could post a video about this: partner A usually has the right to ask questions regarding the shady behavior of partner B (e.g., "Who's calling you at this hour?"; "What are you working on at the computer so late?"). Granted, partner B has the right to not answer them. But, if partner B has a very low tolerance for perceived controlling behavior, he will probably act annoyed (or even aggressive) and try to evade the question, or just give a dismissive answer (e.g., "Why are you so interested?"; "I'm working on something"). What happens is, partner B seems shady even when there's nothing shady going on, just because he refuses to give in to the perceived control attempt. (1) How can partner A tell if it's a shady answer, or if you've crossed partner B's boundary with feeling controlled? (2) How can partner A ask these questions and not trigger partner B's issues? Or does partner A need to settle for never being able to ask?
This video was great! Perfect timing as well. However my immersion was distracted several times with huge volume jumps between cuts. Almost blew my studio monitors Craig! :P ... Huge fan, love your work!
Response to : From Broken Up to Chasing You. Thanks Coach Kenneth. I am a Mature Woman who " Loves" Your Video's. I believe You do this because You Genuinely " Care" about People. You Yourself know what it " Feels like" to be Dumped and have a Broken Heart. I Really Wish I Heard All of Your Video's Before I Ever got into any " Serious Relationship". I found out if You put somebody Too High on a Pedestal We become the Footstool !! And No one could Respect or " Love" Someone they can Walk All Over!! I have an Ex from Years Ago. We Reunited as Friends. But Alot of the time my Ex brought up the Past. And although my Ex has Many Unhealthy behaviors, my Ex Focus's STILL on telling Me " All" the Few Dozen ways I should change! Although if I bring Up just One Unhealthy Point of my Ex's Behavior my Ex Will start Going Off on Me Yelling!! And when I even Text about a Reply to my Ex Demands, then my Ex says to Either Not Text at All or just talk about Not Deep things. So Another Words I Feel my Ex is saying Your All Wrong and I am All Right and Perfect. And I Feel my Ex wants Me to make a Long List of Changes and Improvements while my Ex is Pointing the Finger at me, tbose 4 Fingers of my Ex Still Points Back to my Ex. But it is Very Sad and Traumatizing to have a Very Abusive Ex who thinks Only I Need to Change. I am Shocked at my Ex's Narcissistic Self Absorbed Lack of Self Awareness. I am getting to the Point of I am feeling that I am starting to Lose Feelings for this particular Ex. But when I Begin to pull away then my Ex is Calling my or Skyping me and Flirting with me. It is just a Dumb Game. I admit I Do Need to Change some things. And it will take time. But both People should Work on Improving themselves!! I went for Example to a Counselor around "10" Years for Example. But my Ex says I should get into some Counseling. But Refuses to Understand that I did go to about "10" Different Counselors in my Lifetime. Willingly I sought Counseling. I took Many Classes at a College University when I was Younger and Graduated. But my Ex Feels Superior and Acts Superiot to Me. Other times my Exi is Very Sweet and " Vulnerable" like when We "1st" Met!! And this Vulnerability is Very Attractive. But once I get Close were Close for maybe a Month then my Ex's Walls Go up when I Start Really Caring. Maybe I show the Needy side and my " Vulnetable" side again. Then my Ex back to Nit Picking on Me All over Again and my Ex YELLS YELLS and says Very CRUEL Abusive things. I am Beginning to See even if my Ex is " Physically: Very Attractive to Me. I deserve to be and Everyone Deserves to have a Partner and Friend Really Respect and " Love " them. I do Not mind hearing what I Need to Change to Improve Myself and my Home. But my Ex can make me Accountable talking in a " Normal" Kind but Firm Tone. My Ex says that my Ex realizes that my Ex is setting Off my Abandonment Issues. My Mother is Dying now and I Need Compassion now. And my Ex is YELLING at me time and time again.My Good Friends on the other hand who are " Christian" treat Me with Kindness and Respect and Love and Dignity. I Grew up in a VERY Abusive Household.My Mother was Normal but my Dad Drank and Cheated on my Mom and put my Mom down Alot. But my Dad when he was Sobar my Dad was as Sweet as Pie!! Then my Dad would take turns and my Dad would Cook for my Mom and me. And my Dad was Macho but he was a Pussycat Sweet when he was Gardening. I Felt like I Grew up with Doctor Jeckyl and Mr.Hyde and Now I keep picking Partners over my Life More like my Unavailable Dad. I know it is Very Sad. I probably should get into Therapy to See " Why" I keep Self Sabotaging my Own Life. I hoped this Ex would be Sweet like when we "1st: met and my Ex Pursued me. Sometimes my Ex is Very Sweet. I do Love this Ex. But I might be better off Not talking Daily to this Destructive person who does Not even have their own Shit together. But has the Nerve to constantly to Judge me!!! A person can Ask people to change things without Yelling and being " Cruel". I like Your Video's. Your a Very Kind and Compassionate Man. There are Many Video's Teaching Woman how to Manipulate Your Man ( or Woman if their Gay). But I " Love" that You Craig are " Honest" and Very Interesting. You do Not teach Us to Manipulate. I Agree that it Helps Alot to give a person SPACE to Breath and to Work on Ourselves and " Improve" Our Own Selves!!! My Friends are Kind and Accept Me!! I do Request More Respect from Friends. I put up with More Garbage from an Ex. I Need to STOP this stuff. Say Hi to Margaret. I give You Permission to let Margaret the other Therapist who is a Woman Read this. I Like that You have been there! You were Dumped and You got Needy and Tried the Grand Gestures and know Full well this does Not Work but only Angers the person..My Ex pushed me So far away I am beginning to have Less feelings. But I know my Ex is going through things. I am Not mentioning any Names. God Bless You and Margaret and Thankyou!! I know I Deserve a Partner in my Future who WILL Respect Me. I have an Older Man who is a Good Platonic Friend. He Respects Me Alot. But I like him as a Good Friemd. Why do We Women like the Challenge So Much? i also Love the Sweet , Vulnerable side to my Ex. Then the WALLS go back up . Then Close again! I Admire the Women in Good Marriages with a SANE Husband or ( Wife if their Gay). Thank God that God gave me a Very Very Kind and Loving Mother and Grandmother ( but my Grandmother Died). Going through All this is Extremely PAINFUL. I think I am just going to go back to being Single. I AM Single for Years. I mean Emotionally I think I will go back to Relying on me and Friends and God. And Not an Ex. Take Care. I am watching You. Your Handsome and Very Sweet. Hugs. Thankyou Sweetie!!
My ex broke up with me four months ago, and I left him alone. He reached out to me on Thanksgiving. I took his call. But now he’s telling me he’ll never forgive me and there’s no more us but he still loves me and misses me now we are in no contact again I’m so confused 😢💔
Hi coach, Can you do a video on how to deal with dating someone who is divorced after more than a decade of marriage and the commitment issues that come along with that
So what does one do when your ex breaks up with you and then you graciously accept their decision and plan to leave them alone but then THEY won’t leave you alone!!? My ex wants to maintain this pseudo connection with me and perhaps he’s too embarrassed now to tell me he was either wrong OR he was using the breakup to turn the tables so he felt more in control and was expecting me to chase after him and object but then it all backfired and now he doesn’t know what to do! He’s still calling me babe and checking in at his usual times through out the day has tried to video call me a couple times but I won’t answer. He hasn’t placed me in a friend zone either but it’s a very ambiguous place to be. I also think he’s realizing now that he doesn’t want to loose me or my son who he also loves very much. But I’m not going to rescue him out of this and feel there needs to be consequences otherwise he’ll never deal with things in a straightforward manner with me and this is a deal breaker big time since I very much deal with things in a very upfront and direct manner. Very confusing to say the least!!!!
I was in a very similar situation. He never said the words “let’s be friends” so I didn’t want to jump the gun and tell him I wouldn’t be his friend because I didn’t want to scare him off. He left so much furniture and stuff at my house. This went on for a few months. We hung out a few times, had fun, hooked up. It started to feel like limbo. So I told him “listen, when we broke up I told you I’d like to work things out with you and if that’s not what you want then that’s ok too. But you have all your stuff in my house and whatever is going on between us is pretty unclear. I’m trying to respect your decision to end things but if that’s what you want then I need you to get your things and let me move on.” He blew up! He got really angry and asked why I would even want to try again and said there were too many issues. He told me he doesn’t want to have a family anymore and will die alone (avoidant). He said there was no chance of us getting back together. I was sad and angry but I held my head high and accepted this. A week later he got his things out. Two days after that he reached out again and I was cold. I was done with the breadcrumbs. I felt like I had essentially helped him wean himself off me and helped him through a breakup I didn’t want. I went no contact. It’s been 43 days and he just reached out saying he saw me walking when he was driving by. Here we go again. Lol
Yo I love and appreciate all of the videos, especially the ones that make me cringe because it exposed all of the things I did wrong, but I really want to hear some success stories of ppl getting back who really messed up and made all of the post break up mistakes
I hope this works... ex of a year and eight months broke up a second time. First time is because I didn’t trust her enough because she had a guy best friend and then then the guy messaged me and said there was nothing between them and said he’d leave her alone and he did. Me and her then worked things out and got back together after a week or two of separation. Dated for about 2 and a half months and towards the end she seemed like she was losing interest in me, Ik for a fact it’s something I did or maybe ways I was acting but I can’t put my finger on what it could be. After we broke up I begged to fix things but she said there was nothing to fix and we can’t get back together and it’s better for us like this. That really hurt because we were together for a while (my longest relationship yet) and we met each other’s family’s and ALWAYS talked about the future together. Hopefully this works... if not then it’s gonna suck, but there’s nothing I can do but keep focusing on myself and bettering myself.
She is coming back trust me bro I'm at day 90 it went from no contact to doing my family asking how I'm doing to looking at my FB page to calling my phone twice yesterday just wait it out trust me this shit works
My bf started ignoring me without any reason! i message and called him but got no response..i didnt know what went wrong so now i will leave him alone after i watch this video and see how it goes..
People need to realise that you need to love yourself before anyone else can, including your ex. Breakups hurt but you have to deal with the pain. Stop bitching like your ex is the only person that's made you happy or can ever make you happy. Embrace being single until you have heeled. Exes do come back especially if there was a deep love and passion ect but they're not going to come back to some needy person with low self esteem. It takes time to get over a breakup.
My mom left me and my brother when we were young, she came back into my life when I was in middle school. My first love and I broke up and it broke me. I always knew it had something to do with my mom. The first person who has ever given me everything just abandon me and it felt like my childhood all over again. Now since we have been broken up it has brought me and my mom closer together
Met a guy on Tinder, dated exclusively after the first date for 3 weeks. Shared almost every interest in common, values, personal life goals, great intimacy... he broke up with me saying he didn't develop feelings to make him wants more of the relationship...but nothing was bad. Even though i told it is premature since those feelings takes time, he told me that he rather breaking up now then waiting further in the relationship and find out he still doesn't have those feelings. Should i just let it go, even though i like this guy and i am convinced that it could work ?
WE ARE UNEQUALLY YOKED IN A SPIRITUAL WAY. SO I FEEL WITH THE ADVANCEMENT OF MYSELF AND EVEN IF THIS INVISIBLE EX COMES BACK, ILL KNOW IF HE JUST WANTS THE BENEFITS OF ME OR NOT. IM STILL OPEN TO OPEN AND BETTER RELATIONSHIPS WHICH WILL NOT HINDER MY FAITH IN GOD. I DONT BELIEVE IN COMPETITIVE RELATIONSHIPS ITS DEMONIC.
My ex-husband of 19 years did exactly this he came to me in June claiming how much he was still in love with me how much he missed his best friend and I thought we were getting back together well here it is five months later and I have went full 60 my head thinking we were getting back together but he just keeps going back and he keeps asking for space he says he doesn’t think it’s gonna work I just don’t know what to do
Me & my ex have been talking more & talking ab how hard it is to date anybody else .. I texted me && he told me he was thinking ab me & I told him I was thinking ab him too & that I wanted to see him on Wednesday & he agreed im gonna go really slow & not bring up getting together any time soon just gonna vibe till he brings it up
Coach Craig, can you do a video segment on what to do if the break up had to do with her parents even though everything was fine? Maybe even if ethnicity was involved?
Does it mean people who handle the break up poorly, does that mean theres no chances at all to rekindle things? I feel like my ex forget about everything in this no contact. (Long distance)
Petros Giorgallis im worry , my ex had forgotten about me. I saw craig video about it. But still felt like theres no hope for me. Especially in long distance
@@rafaelfabro4782 he did. He messaged me on my mobile last December. We communicate here and there, but nothing came out of it. I think with time I lost interest in rekindling our relationship. We hardly communicate now. It's been easier since I've accepted that our 7 year relationship was over for good. Hang in there!
what;s sad is every return of ex also means they broke up with someone else. and makes me wonder what if i was the someone else ? "rebound" it was only a 6month relation but she showed she was invested in as much as i was (too much) and then left one day.
What if you get with a guy that breaks up with you and the dumpee does the no reaching out so forth. Then the dumper calls and well your back together then couple of months He breaks up with you again and this goes on and on till the dumpee is so sick of it She just goes crazy sending texts that are not nice.
ur videos sre awesome n it helped me butbstill need help theres times wen i think of evil plsns which is not me at all i wanna do thst workbook how do i get thst? thanx coach
I'm the one who ghosted for no reason, 2 months later I wanted him back, we saw each other last nite,and he is now the ONE DONE ! Ouch :( What do I do now ????
if she realise how much better you are than the new guy she is now dating, what makes you think when she come across someelse who appreantly better than you and she left you for him.
He doesnt want to have contact now . So i told him contact me if you want contact, contact me first. So i know you yourself want contact with me every now and then. Until then i will not contact you. I also told him if you contact me it also means that the contact will not be one sided. Because i dont wanna be the only one texting you. Did i do the good thing here?
Craig i was inb relationship with a woman for 5 years, but she was cheating on me over another guy, i caught her red handed. Since then i broke up with her, but we encounter each others most of the time and i see no changes in her eyes if she is repenting. So what i should do that she will miss me and run to me with apology?
What if you failed and didn't give the space a first. What if I blew her up, then I got upset with her and she blocked me on every communication platform. What now?
@coach craig Kenneth Hi Craig, I go into NC every month. Initially she reached out weekly then bi weekly , monthly and now bi monthly. I asked to meet up several times, the last time I asked she didnt deny but did not seem that interested. Now 40 days goes by and she sends me a photo of a present I bought her son which to me means she misses me or is this indirect- direct approach? I didnt respond. will she get offended because this was a more personal message?Also do I just ignore this message even though its days old? Its frustrating.
Im in no contact for 8 months. Since the time I started it she reaches out to me every 2 or 3 weeks, saying she misses me hard, but so we talk for some days, and when i ask her out she says she dont want to get back together and I go no contact again. It is becoming crazy, she do it every time, every 2 or 3 weeks, she is clearly missing me, but still not wanting to get back. After 4 months of she doing it i blocked her in all social media and message services, she still calling me and trying to reach me saying she misses me. I dont know what to do. She simply dont stop to reaches out to me, but at the same time dont want to get back together. This is crazy!
Hi Craig, what if your ex has already moved on after I spent three months trying to patch things up? When we broke up officially, she was on tinder and talking to guys the same/next day? Why would no contact work on someone that doesn't want you?
Me and my ex have been dating for 6 months. I guess we moved too quickly and moved in together after one month. To cut a long story short I became needy and began nagging at him over small things to get his attention. Some days I felt like I had to beg him to kiss me. Now I realise that I can't expect someone to give me affection all the time. Last week he moved out and broke up with me saying her needed space. I of course was a mess and pleaded for him to come back to the flat at first and give me another chance. I have been no contact for almost a week. He only contacts me about bills etc.I really want him back , do I have a chance?
Yes, u need to give him space though. By doing what u were doing, you’re making yourself look unworthy of him. Don’t look for reasons to contact him, just leave it there and he’ll come back when he’s ready. U need to be a more stable and respectable version of yourself though, stop all the begging and pleading shit
Thanks for these videos - they are helpful. My question is if everything seemed to be going great but he began communicating less and then stood me up/ ghosted, if he does contact and want me back, do I bring up this rather cowardly way to handle a breakup or just be happy he rekindled and move on? And if he contacts with a Miss You text, is best reply something like thanks I hope ur well but not a miss you back ? Thanks for advice!
we were only friends, but I was in love and she got a new boyfriend so I ended the relationship because I was heartbroken. I also unfriended her from fb and told her not to call me. does the no contact rule apply here?
@Coachcraigkenneth Modified no contact is so damn difficult for ME! I see her everyday when she picks up our children and i remain stoic,happy & interact with her only about our children. She will text me, I'll call instead of texting so she doesn't interpret my text a specific ways and hears im not angry at her im just indifferent(its about our children of course)
Hi Coach and everyone here! I talked to a girl for 4 months and we went to holiday and had an amazing time togheter, when we came home I asked her out 2 weeks later she said she was busy with work that week, I said ok let me know when you are free, days are going and we talked casually but my gut had another feeling.. so I asked her out again 2 weeks later and she said she had a lot of work bla bla bla, then I asked her the question because I was tired of her immature games and behaviors.. I said how do you feel do you want to continue see me, she said I dont know im not ready yet to begin something right now, my answer was Ok then I now.. I was angry, hurt.. I went no contact, 3 days later was my 30 year birthday, she saw my snaps from my birthday but didnt say something, and 3 weeks later she deleted me from snapchat, our only socialmedia we got eachother in.. that did hurt because I didnt deserve that kind of threatment, it was so immature, didnt know if she did it to punish me, or maybe to make me contact her and give som attention.. but im still in no contact and her actions only shows her bad intents.. doesnt look good, trying to move on but this is still on my mind but trying to move on...
Someone asked me this...
My workbook series, The Knowledge Series vol 1-5 has over 350 questions! They will give you hours and hours of material, all focused on personal growth 💪
I can't begin to express how pumped I am that you shared my success story because it helps show everyone just how effective these workbooks are. I flew threw all five in five days and I've since rewatched most of the videos a few times, I just can't get enough of how helpful they are. To everyone reading this, keep going! Keep watching these videos, get the workbooks if you are able, and prepare yourself for if you ever get the opportunity to reconnect with your ex, which most people do. You got this!
That’s insane! 5 days? Most people do one workbook in about a week or two! You must have been on them nonstop!
Btw 6-10 are coming along and they are gunna be amazing 🔥🔥
Holy shit 6-10! i'm gonna be a personal growth monster after this.
Plz I need your help I was engaged I was with her for 5 years we have a daughter together 3 years old and she says she wants to focus on her life her job I'm so depressed I don't sleep anymore don't feel like I want to carry on anymore she's my soulmate my bestfreind
Hi coach Craig I absolutely love your videos... I wish you would do a video about my situation. My ex partner of 11 years had an affair and left me in the end of March this year..am 46 he is 34..we have 2 young kids together... he has been back about 8 times since then and only staying about a few days or a week at a time... each time he said he had finished with her when he hadn't... I love him so much and want our family back but he has moved in with her and says she treats him better than I ever did..that's just wrong..her ex did the same to her last year what my ex is doing to me...she knows he has been back at mine to work it out, but she has still got her claws into him how can I compete with someone like that when he was back at mine and when he left me again I sent her copies of the texts he sent me saying love you...but now he won't send me any texts like that again...I know I was very stupid for sending her anything I really could kick myself but when your hurt u just don't think straight. So any way haven't let myself go I look after myself I defiantly don't look my age. But she looks older than me lol she is not anything to look at. But anyway my rant over there...it's been nearly 7mths now and it still hurts Every day... I wish he would see sense that he truly had a living family that loves him and want a him home...he doesn't really bother with the kids...he is only know going to a lawyer to get access to them after I said he could see them but I don't want her to have anything to do with them am so hurt confused and angry all at the same time... coach Craig please can you help is it hopeless to get him back...x
No contact or no reaching out gave me STRENGTH!
Word of warning: if you’re obsessed with getting your ex back and only work on yourself in the hope of rekindling things, it’ll all blow up in ur face sooner or later. You might work on yourself for a bit, and hypothetically speaking she does come back and sees you in a “different light” it’s all just a front. You only changed because of her. In conclusion you’re still the same old person. Real change comes from within. Real changed is when you realize you’re all you need and that you’re capable of so much more. If you reach that state of being then you’re golden. But if you desire to change just because of her, it’ll all blow up in ur face sooner or later.
Gotta go back to how you were BEFORE she came along
V R fuck that mate. Go forward in life and improve every aspect of yourself. Mentality, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, financially and physically. Be the best version of yourself for yourself. Fuck these hoes. Love yourself first. Growth never stops!
my therapist said the best way to get her back is to get back to how I was when me and my ex started dating, I agree with the other comment about growing, because in the first place, the negative energy I put out, in part, and don't me wrong, I want my ex back, but my ex is a negative person in many ways with a lot of trauma, so how I was when i got her, was anxious and angry for not having any relationships for 6 years, so in a way, it was kind of fitting. I had a severe condition that is now cured where I wasn't able to date hardly at all (it's a physical condition, long story) so I had this huge gap. My ex knows about the gap, so it makes it even more desperate probably to her. Anyway, I digress, I agree with what you guys both said in a way. I want to take the best of how I was in May 2019 (right when me and my ex started talking) and improve upon it.
Thank you this is what I was looking for. I want to hear about becoming the new me not rekindling anything and taking away the new happiness of that person......believe me it has not been an easy road to get to this point.
#FACTS
I wrote my doctoral dissertation on romantic breakups and no contact by the person that is feeling rejected. The research really supports the value of no contact for healing and potential repair of the relationship. You and Margaret are excellent, and it's so nice you are a resource of hope. :)
If u want to share the research email me on my website
angela mcmahon I for one would love to read your dissertation! I am a returning adult student working on a masters at Stony Brook University. My focus area as an undergraduate was bridging psychology with barbarism and Colonialism... macro scale... for me, coach kennith explores the micro scale and going through what I have gone through personally .. part of the healing process is knowing it is based in human nature and my situation is not a one of anomaly. I am always open minded and learning . Forward your .pdf please !
Absolutely and I'd be honored. It was a qualitative study and what I saw was that the faster no contact is done the better...
I totally agree. Email it to me at AskCraigKenneth@gmail.com
I barely started no contact about 3 weeks ago but was continuously messing up the first 3 months...she looks at my social media and messages me once and a while...but I don't look at hers...I'm working on my goals...but do I still have a chance?
I think that anyone with a inch of integrity and reason will understand after 5 min of watching any of your videos that this channel is not about pickups or manipulations. That it is a serious channel, that has genuine value for healthy relationships and healthy attraction. If I got to see any of your videos by an introduction from another person, a friend or partner, i would think that they really have their heart in the right place. There is nothing shrewd here, only authenticity! Love you and Margaret!
In order to get into relationship you need to do pick up;)
If you dont know how to do pick up, you will not be in relationship.
Dont undervalue pick up channels because they give big value to people.
I’m going through no contact right now. But wanted to say that years ago I went no contact with another guy & it worked on him. He told me it drove him absolutely insane & that he checked my social media 500 times a day. He actually drove to my house because I had blocked his number to give me a piece of junk mail that was delivered to his house. I took it & shut the door lol then I noticed he wrote a letter on the back of the junk mail envelope saying he misses me so much & please talk to him. I thought about it for a day & texted him the next day a brief message. We got back together, it didn’t last though. In the no contact period I grew & my feelings were not the same for him again so I then dumped him. That was 6 years ago. We are casual friends now. He still wants to pursue more but I have zero feelings. So yes, sometimes it works. Just typing this out to give someone hope. I come to read the comments in all these videos because I too, need the encouragement at this time. ❤️
For how long that NC last
Okay something similar happened to me. We were in NC for almost 2 years and when we finally got in contact, we hung out a few times and they admitted that they loved me and thought about me all the time. But their avoidance led them to cut things off again but without “Hard feelings”. They wanted to remain friends, but not really. I went NC again. And so far I’ve been in it since. I wonder if her feelings were just not the same when we reconnected, but that would be confusing since she said she loved me.
Thank you so much for this encouragement! 🙏🏻❣️
Unfortunately if your bf is a narcissist there's no way they'll ever miss u or realise their mistakes. Rather they'll blame it on u for every arguments and misundrstandings. They'll cheat lie but will act as the victim...
hazel ryan sounds like my ex.. he’s cold hearted found someone I assume idk,,he’s hard to get over and I know it’s for the best.. I hope it gets better for me.
hazel ryan You are 💯 correct. I left my Narc ex because of the way he was treating me, asked a woman out to lunch behind my back because she was moving away and this was a woman he had a crush on and admitted he was still attracted to, and that was unacceptable to me. Even though I knew he wouldn’t have slept with her because she only liked him as a friend, it hurt me because of his lack of boundaries with females. He also had two other single attractive female friends he talked to all the time over the phone, by text, and even did handyman-type favors for in person and never bothered to introduce me to them even though I kept asking him. He blamed me for the breakup instead of wanting to fix the problems and get rid of his other side girlfriends as I explained to him what emotional affairs are. He was telling them the same things he told me on a daily basis and talking to them all the time plus basically tucking each other in bed by text and dropping everything he was doing for them. It amazed me his complete disregard and ambivalence to my feelings. He saw nothing wrong with his behavior yet certainly wouldn’t have been ok with me treating him the same way. Total self absorbed Narcissist. So I was the enemy he hated me for dumping him and I felt like I had no choice that I couldn’t tolerate the situation I was in. But I still really loved him and I was depressed and missed him and when I tried to ask him back and work things out because I missed him and was in agony and he would just ghost me and punish me by not responding whatsoever. It took me over a year to get over a guy I was only with for 4 months because the trauma bond was so strong between us. I’m glad now that it didn’t work because he had major deal breaking issues going on and was starting to insult me and criticize me and completely stopped touching me anymore after only a couple of months and would push me away when I attempted intimacy. Now I find out he has a new girlfriend and he got off Facebook because it was causing problems in their relationship even though when I complained about his Facebook behavior he said I was way too controlling and he didn’t see anything wrong with talking to other women or hearting and wowing their pictures yet ignoring my posts. I was so hurt and angry that he was giving attention to other women when I was the one he was with and driving him all over the state for his doctor appointments. A life with him would’ve meant sharing him with other women “friends” he was having emotional affairs with. No thank you I have gotten over him just upset that he treated me like shit and I find out now he has a new girlfriend and he deactivated his Facebook profile for her and wouldn’t do it for me. Oh well God’s got my best interests at heart and he will bring a man to me that will make all the hell I’ve been through be worth it!
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Exactly! I dealt with one of those last year. Very cold hearted. Ironically I did what he stated in this video on my own, good to know I went down the right path, met an awesome woman and seven months later she is benefiting from the new me. As for the ex, she popped in an exercise class for a few times at the beginning of the month. Surprised me she did that but I just held my own that she has no effect on me now. Felt really good not to feed her ego even saying hi to her and she has since disappeared again which I'm sure is for good now.
then you DEFINITELY don’t want them back
When someone leaves us, do we really want him or her back ? Why did they leave us in the first place? For a fantasy. Body? Well be it!! When someone loves you and adore you however you are, they will never leave !
Silver Mont Not always true. I’m older by too much for him. He wants kids. My kid is 18 and I’m not starting over. He said I was his everything but left me to try a relationship with a young girl he met to see how it goes. He’s just that serious about having a baby of his own. So it sucks.
We're both the same age but she left me because I wanted kids but she didn't. But I only wanted them with her. Without her, I don't anymore.
i love how this guy is on here ... He is getting me through a relationship and on myself.. Thanks Craig
Coach, I cannot express my feelings on this video, it is beyond fantastic and hits ALL the hot buttons. If a person that just experienced a break up only watched ONE video, this would be the one. So much information is a understatement. Thank you for your hard, hard work and your passion. You have a dear friend in me that you have never met! I truly do not believe a human being as your self exists, but there you are putting out fantastic "free" info week after week. At this point I almost do not care if my ex ever reaches out as I have you!! Long live Coach Craig. Greetings, Rob
Oh u probably say that to all the coaches
Not a hope!!! Thank you again coach.
@@CoachCraigKenneth haha😂😂
@@CoachCraigKennethsomeone is anxious 😂❤ love your videos man.
I started to watch other self help videos. Like dressing better, make up for my age and inspirational videos. TD Jakes, Les Brown, Jim Rohn and Tony Robbins. These videos inspired me to be my best self. Wealth, health and relationships. It is about me in the end. I must do it for myself. I have been hearing Craig's voice "It's okay" since he made that video. I had a recent death and all of the work I have done has helped me do better at keeping in emotional self control. This channel has changed my life and I am truly thankful for Coach Craig and Coach Margaret's help. Keep it up Craig! You're changing people's❤ lives!
I've heard his voice too!
Best video I have seen on this topic, it's clear you're not trying to get people's money and that you're revealing everything on your videos thumbs up and I'm subscribed
Because he went thru this himself. He knows firsthand how it feels to be broken up and has implemented NC to be a better man and how it’s helped/changed him.
Been listening to you for around a year and I am only truly understanding the full meaning of what you are teaching.
Thanks CK 💝
Almost 2 yrs ago my fiancé walked out on me. We haven’t spoken since. I can’t stop thinking about her. This is the toughest thing I’ve ever done. Thank God for your videos getting me through the rough patches.
Geez that is harsh. Update ? 2 yrs later 😳
How are things now ? What happened?
It’s been 7 years now. What happened?
I been in no contact for about 5 months... I ruined it by calling her over the weekend private ... just wanted to hear her voice then I hung up like a little kid. This break up has been the worst thing in my life.
That's classic. The dumper does that as well...🤣 start all over and be strong..
How are you now? Are you happy?
Thank you coaches. I sincerely love you guys and your investment into our broken hearts. I miss my girlfriend desperately, but because you've taught me the value of attachment, I believe she will come back. I recognized she was trying to bread crumb me and put me in friend zone to soothe her separation anxiety. But never commit to our relationship, so I told her no, under current circumstances I want nothing further with her. I love you, love our intimacy and chemistry and those feelings would never permit me to accept friendship.
I feel strong, empowered. I hurt. I miss her. But I saw what was happening and knew I needed her to feel the breakup.
Much love. And appreciation
Didn't take long, she started flirting with me today. She'd been pushing, running for over a week. I broke no contact daily, but today I sent her a text. Wished her well. Thanked her for the memories and good times.
I knew I was going the other way, made it clear I wasn't going to be a friend. I'd be a supportive boyfriend, but not friend.
2 hours later she said she missed me. Missed my kiss... I went along.
But I'll continue no contact. Only reply if she texts. I won't fall over myself to be with her.
Hi, how are things now? Anything happened since?
I also believe that anxious attachment style doesn’t really exist. If existed it’s base on curiosity creates by an avoidant attachment person. Based on a relationship with an avoidant you become anxious and it’s not abnormal to be anxious. Please coach comment on that. Thanks!
People can show anxious behaviour with secure people. If a secure person needs space to do things, an anxious person can still blow up their phone or turn up uninvited. The concept of someone being clingy and always wanting to be around their partner is anxious behaviour. Anxiety in a relationship is abnormal behaviour, it stems from fear of threat to life and wellbeing for ourselves and the ones we love. Not them pulling away, whether justified or not. If you're anxious in a relationship, you need to therapy.
I am quite older. About 68 yrs old Male. Enjoy this video very good advice
Married first 29 years, (and met in a bar mind you) then 8 years to 2nd wife and was married in the Philiipines a story book wedding to a previous runner up for Miss Philippines. And no, that's not why we clicked at first long story never mind.
Lessons learned.
Been there, done that many times.
Never easy yes I know
It's been my experience looking back on my life that when you really want, need, and deserve a second chance (and we all do) most of the time you don't get it. Period.
Now lift you spirits.
Just Imagine there are thousands of beautiful pebbles next to each other on the beach sand as you walk along looking down admiring their beauty.
Would it be so hard to pick another if the one you previously chose (your bf or gf) leaves you?
There are about 7 billion people on planet earth.
Not just ONE. 7 Billion got that?
Why oh why does loosing just one destroy you?
If I could give you a better, more beautiful "pebble" right here and right now, today, tell Me now just how much you would care about someone whom hurt you or left you for no good reason?
Amen?
You deserve better and the next one will be just that. You are worthy of only the best treatment and respect.
God Loves You remember that too.
Hope you feel better now
Thank you.
I think before marriage, every couple should be able to endure at least 1 breakup and how you both handle things. Speaking from experience 😐
Thank you so much for the help. I cant say it enough. Im improving my life in so many ways and becoming excited about my relationship as well as my persponal goals. I was really down. I got dumped, but im turning things around !
Hello Craig....I've only been split up for 3 weeks and it hurts like nothing else...but listening to you is certainly helping...I just pray the no contact thing is working..
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+2349056214156⏯⏯⏯ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up...
6 months after the breakup and 34 days of NC. I cry every day still. I hope she comes back.
I feel for you. My ex girlfriend split with me 5 Month's ago and the pain is real I hope we All get through this soon
Bro stop 🛑 it n grow up, you’re stronger than that.
@@agbordaniels Hey man, thanks for your reply. I had forgotten I even wrote this and I was notified someone replied. I was so depressed back then. I did have to grow up though. It took almost a year to figure it out but I realized I am stronger than what i was. I had no idea she had been cheating on me for 4 months prior to our breakup so no wonder NC failed miserably. She had already moved on while she was still with me. I'm glad she did what she did when she did it though. Better than having it done to me after we were married and had kids. She showed her true colors after being with her for 5 years. This whole situation forced me to grow up and become stronger.
I know he is not coming back but I'm still watching this to ease the nerves.
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+2349056214156⏯⏯⏯ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up....
As far as I'm concerned I think it's best to dump them back and tell them where to go.
Rip the safety net away as soon as possible
It has been a long time. I still miss her... I want to be a success story for u Craig.. Your videos has really helped me!!
how is it going
She reached out just to apologize!!
@@rahulagarwal3349 congrats bro...what did u do..
We had a chat! But nothing serious happened! She never said she wants me back or anything of such sort just that it was the best time for her and she is the reason why we ended up!! Same old thing she wants to focus on her career!!
@@rahulagarwal3349 yeah. That's classic. Samen old bull. My ex wife did the same when she broke up with me 1 an a half years ago. She texted me to apolized and told me she wanted to be by herself. It's all bull. It's a phase of the break up. At that period of time they go into feeling guilty for the break up. They feel sorry for us. They know we're suffering and they know you want to get back. Fake it till you make it. Tell her it's ok and that you're ok with the break up. Even if you go home to cry after. This will hit them. Don't text them or communicate until they do it again. My case was total desaster. I started accusing her of having someone else and started mentioning friends from her facebook..🤣 don't mess up like I did...lol be strong.
This is all a 1000% true. Didnt believe it until it happened to me. Make changes in your mind set and possibly body and folks respond much better.
I've been suffering for 2 weeks now. Trying not to contact her. I've been failing. I just found your videos
I've been watching your videos for the last few months Craig. I love spending my time on UA-cam ingesting valuable content. Thank you for being so awesome, and putting these videos out here for us. I for one genuinely appreciate it and look forward to it every day. Hell I re-watch most videos all the time and learn more each time. Much love from Seattle WA!!!!
I'm quite confused why anyone would be so excited to have their ex back when they've dated or are in the middle of dating someone else. If anything, it shows ambivalence, a lack of loyalty (in the latter situation), and monkey branching (in the latter situation).
I never give up, but the moment that happens the door is locked and keys thrown away
@@absoluttchamp I mean it's not about giving up. It's about being practical. They're an ex because it didn't work out. People get tunnel vision / delusional and think their ex is "the one" because they're scared to be alone or scared to move on (which is understandable because people are at their most vulnerable state during these times), and then you have these shrinks preying on that fear in the form of "coaching" someone, who is incredibly emotional and can't think objectively, on how to get their ex back.
@@daviddang6791 I am all for coaching, but with time you will learn to become your own coach and accept less bs from girls. Having said that, I also need to hear the obvious thing after a breakup for some time, but I like to get passed that phase as quickly as possible. GF of 2.5yrs broke up just a few days ago after my most serious relationship ever. Had a few calls with a friend and watching youtube videos but have decided I will sort this out. In the end, the solution always lie inside you... To the men out there, ffs, man up!
He's right. You really do start to miss them like CRAZY. But in my case, he was messing with a bunch of women, so I won't go back no matter how much I miss him. But, yeah... The distance can be brutal on your heart.
My boyfriend break up with me and am so sad .After started to watch your videos am more calmer and thinking where I went wrong in my relationship .
Peaches Trusky hello how did it turned out?
Peaches Trusky are u applying no contact?
Update please
It's over move on - remember the good and move forward
Im in none contact four months now She reached out to me after 7 months first time in feb on valentine day. Wish I saw your videos back then. Now its has been 4 month of no contact. Tryin everyway not too reach out to her . Your videos gives me hope and gives me diciplin . Thank you so much for making us believe in love again . Your are truly the best coach Craig. Please make a video about ”Will she reach out twice ”?( again )
Hi what happened since this ?
You're the best, Coach Craig. I needed this video today. And what you do is such a great thing. You give people hope and hope is priceless. Keep up the good work.
Merry Christmas Craig and Margaret 🎅 thank you so much for your videos 🎁😊❤
Hey Coach, thank you for helping me with your email coaching :) Thought it would be helpful, but I trust you so much that it really brought some peace to my mind now that I know what's the best thing to proceed :) THANK YOU
You may not be their best option. We want to believe.we are but.that is not.necessarily.so. It wasn"t in my case. My rebound turned out to be the love.of my life.
Pain is the best motivator. ❤️ making ourself a priority is the solution now. Thank you babe. Greetings from #London 🇬🇧
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Coach, do these methods work in case of short term relationships that are between 3 to 6 months?
Hi guys I really want to share my story with you:
My ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago after a small fight we had, I didn't say anything at the moment and accepted it. 1 day later I sent her a text asking if she was ok and she sent me a huge wall of text on how our relationship was over and I there's nothing to discuss about it.
And again, I said: "That's fine I respect your decision, sorry If I caused any trouble" and went full no contact. As she had stuff in my house and vice versa she texted me a couple times during the week and I kept being cold, distant and emotionally strong. I tried keeping my messages as short as I could, answering only from 3 to 3 hours and keep myself busy everytime. I knew she still had feelings for me and she was having a hard time as well, so as the days were passing, she started showing more emotions, sharing her personal life with me and trying to make things good between us. When the day of meeting her finally arrived, I met her to give her stuff and acted like nothing happened, we spent 3 or 4 hours just talking random subjects, having a laugh and flirting with each other and I never mentioned my intentions of wanting to get back together with her.
That night I went home and didn't text her.
Next day I woke up with her texting me saying she needed to talk with me in person and she was really into that idea; I said "ok, whenever you want we can have a chat" and that day was today, a couple hours ago.
She met me in my house and we talked a lot, she said she noticed more negative aspects in our relationship and enforced the fact there would be nothing between us anymore. And I respected that.
Now I'm sitting here writing this comment and I just had sex with her, she seemed really happy and I guess we rebuilt some attraction here.
So my conclusion is: This videos from Coach Craig are amazing! Don't acted impatiently and don't overthink, take your time, act cool and I believe everything will be sorted. Don't chase!! The worst thing someone can do when someone breaks up is not giving him/her the space they need...
I will still try to get back with her and i'll try to be patient, if it doesn't work at least I won a good friend!
So keep it cool guys and good luck :)
Question, what's your best tip in making an ex miss you if you're stuck in the same house?
We usually come to this channel because of you, but stay here because of Margaret ❤️ but we love you too Craig 😁❤️
We are a team! We each bring different perspectives and things to the table. It makes us stronger 💪
@@CoachCraigKenneth I was just joking Craig. Your channel has changed my life. I am eternally grateful to you.
I see the ex because we have a child in hospital. I have mixed feelings between wanting him back + wanting him dead. He told our child he regrets how he dealt with the break up but not the actual break up .
move on. hate him if you have to.
Yes he said that 'this is the last call m doing, understand that & it can't work more, don't text me & blocked' I can't talk. I texted him for 3 days then I left him alone. Today it's 7days complete I'm not going to reach him. He is heartless and careless. I'hv done alot to be with him. I'm upset & he's bzy. Redicious. I loved him.
Did he come
Best channel on UA-cam
You are talking about my ex and l. He left me and l am still grieving. It looks like he hates me .
Not caring works!
Thank you!! So much this is what I need to hear. I was getting ready to break no contact..😱.. You are the BEST!!!
Dr. Kenneth the best video you have thus far, I can't wait to free up some funds to get your program.
Coach.. I know I handled the break up horribly, but I feel like if she's judging me entirely on those 2 weeks (plus 2 drunken texts a month and half later) DURING A REALLY ROUGH TIME IN MY LIFE, then she never cared about me at all.. If she's been snooping my social media out of curiosity these past few months, she would then see that I've been trying lots of new things, posting positive motivational quotes acknowledging my past weaknesses, got myself my own apartment (a huge step in the right direction for me), and yet here I am, 7 months later, and she still hasn't even said "hey, how have you been?" or given me the slightest of signs that any of that passion was real at all.. I will never quit on myself, or trying to progress in my life mentally, physically, and spiritually, but I have to say that it's quite discouraging to not hear from her after a HARD 7 months of NC.
thelegionary07 don’t worry man your not alone in the life boat I’m in the same situation
Six and a half months today. He's never bothered to ask if I'm okay. It's a tough gig, I never thought it could be this hard. This is our second breakup, and this one is twice as hard.
I’m going on 5 months bro... I’m in the same boat as you are, and so many other guys are too. It’s hard.
You don’t want to be with a person like that anyways. If she doesn’t care about you then you don’t need her. Don’t post how you’re changing in hopes for attention then be let down. Focus on yourself and stop wasting life for her. She isn’t for you, someone is wondering where you are right now. So meet her!
@@PaintSociety Well I don't post stuff solely for her.. It is mostly for myself, and I don't post frequently.. Definitely haven't put my life on hold either (very active with dates).. I just miss the connection I had with her.. The connection is truly what's tough to find
Thank u coach 🙏💙
Ur a blessing a BIG ONE
Thanks for existing!!
What about if he's happy with this woman because she offers him more 'fun' and more social events? He cheated on me with her and actually moved 60 miles away, bought a house, so he could be with her. Yet, he says he won't marry her yet ..he's 74 yrs old and he divorced me after 9 yrs. of marriage. I still can't get over him....
I would really appreciate it if you could post a video about this: partner A usually has the right to ask questions regarding the shady behavior of partner B (e.g., "Who's calling you at this hour?"; "What are you working on at the computer so late?"). Granted, partner B has the right to not answer them. But, if partner B has a very low tolerance for perceived controlling behavior, he will probably act annoyed (or even aggressive) and try to evade the question, or just give a dismissive answer (e.g., "Why are you so interested?"; "I'm working on something"). What happens is, partner B seems shady even when there's nothing shady going on, just because he refuses to give in to the perceived control attempt. (1) How can partner A tell if it's a shady answer, or if you've crossed partner B's boundary with feeling controlled? (2) How can partner A ask these questions and not trigger partner B's issues? Or does partner A need to settle for never being able to ask?
Polaris this needs answering !!
@@kiannasade yes!
This video was great! Perfect timing as well. However my immersion was distracted several times with huge volume jumps between cuts. Almost blew my studio monitors Craig! :P ... Huge fan, love your work!
Yeah my new mic seems to be doing that. I’m trying to figure out a way to deal with that
No biggy! ... Made me jump a few times though lol
Response to : From Broken Up to Chasing You. Thanks Coach Kenneth. I am a Mature Woman who " Loves" Your Video's. I believe You do this because You Genuinely " Care" about People. You Yourself know what it " Feels like" to be Dumped and have a Broken Heart. I Really Wish I Heard All of Your Video's Before I Ever got into any " Serious Relationship". I found out if You put somebody Too High on a Pedestal We become the Footstool !! And No one could Respect or " Love" Someone they can Walk All Over!! I have an Ex from Years Ago. We Reunited as Friends. But Alot of the time my Ex brought up the Past. And although my Ex has Many Unhealthy behaviors, my Ex Focus's STILL on telling Me " All" the Few Dozen ways I should change! Although if I bring Up just One Unhealthy Point of my Ex's Behavior my Ex Will start Going Off on Me Yelling!! And when I even Text about a Reply to my Ex Demands, then my Ex says to Either Not Text at All or just talk about Not Deep things. So Another Words I Feel my Ex is saying Your All Wrong and I am All Right and Perfect. And I Feel my Ex wants Me to make a Long List of Changes and Improvements while my Ex is Pointing the Finger at me, tbose 4 Fingers of my Ex Still Points Back to my Ex. But it is Very Sad and Traumatizing to have a Very Abusive Ex who thinks Only I Need to Change. I am Shocked at my Ex's Narcissistic Self Absorbed Lack of Self Awareness. I am getting to the Point of I am feeling that I am starting to Lose Feelings for this particular Ex. But when I Begin to pull away then my Ex is Calling my or Skyping me and Flirting with me. It is just a Dumb Game. I admit I Do Need to Change some things. And it will take time. But both People should Work on Improving themselves!! I went for Example to a Counselor around "10" Years for Example. But my Ex says I should get into some Counseling. But Refuses to Understand that I did go to about "10" Different Counselors in my Lifetime. Willingly I sought Counseling. I took Many Classes at a College University when I was Younger and Graduated. But my Ex Feels Superior and Acts Superiot to Me. Other times my Exi is Very Sweet and " Vulnerable" like when We "1st" Met!! And this Vulnerability is Very Attractive. But once I get Close were Close for maybe a Month then my Ex's Walls Go up when I Start Really Caring. Maybe I show the Needy side and my " Vulnetable" side again. Then my Ex back to Nit Picking on Me All over Again and my Ex YELLS YELLS and says Very CRUEL Abusive things. I am Beginning to See even if my Ex is " Physically: Very Attractive to Me. I deserve to be and Everyone Deserves to have a Partner and Friend Really Respect and " Love " them. I do Not mind hearing what I Need to Change to Improve Myself and my Home. But my Ex can make me Accountable talking in a " Normal" Kind but Firm Tone. My Ex says that my Ex realizes that my Ex is setting Off my Abandonment Issues. My Mother is Dying now and I Need Compassion now. And my Ex is YELLING at me time and time again.My Good Friends on the other hand who are " Christian" treat Me with Kindness and Respect and Love and Dignity. I Grew up in a VERY Abusive Household.My Mother was Normal but my Dad Drank and Cheated on my Mom and put my Mom down Alot. But my Dad when he was Sobar my Dad was as Sweet as Pie!! Then my Dad would take turns and my Dad would Cook for my Mom and me. And my Dad was Macho but he was a Pussycat Sweet when he was Gardening. I Felt like I Grew up with Doctor Jeckyl and Mr.Hyde and Now I keep picking Partners over my Life More like my Unavailable Dad. I know it is Very Sad. I probably should get into Therapy to See " Why" I keep Self Sabotaging my Own Life. I hoped this Ex would be Sweet like when we "1st: met and my Ex Pursued me. Sometimes my Ex is Very Sweet. I do Love this Ex. But I might be better off Not talking Daily to this Destructive person who does Not even have their own Shit together. But has the Nerve to constantly to Judge me!!! A person can Ask people to change things without Yelling and being " Cruel". I like Your Video's. Your a Very Kind and Compassionate Man. There are Many Video's Teaching Woman how to Manipulate Your Man ( or Woman if their Gay). But I " Love" that You Craig are " Honest" and Very Interesting. You do Not teach Us to Manipulate. I Agree that it Helps Alot to give a person SPACE to Breath and to Work on Ourselves and " Improve" Our Own Selves!!! My Friends are Kind and Accept Me!! I do Request More Respect from Friends. I put up with More Garbage from an Ex. I Need to STOP this stuff. Say Hi to Margaret. I give You Permission to let Margaret the other Therapist who is a Woman Read this. I Like that You have been there! You were Dumped and You got Needy and Tried the Grand Gestures and know Full well this does Not Work but only Angers the person..My Ex pushed me So far away I am beginning to have Less feelings. But I know my Ex is going through things. I am Not mentioning any Names. God Bless You and Margaret and Thankyou!! I know I Deserve a Partner in my Future who WILL Respect Me. I have an Older Man who is a Good Platonic Friend. He Respects Me Alot. But I like him as a Good Friemd. Why do We Women like the Challenge So Much? i also Love the Sweet , Vulnerable side to my Ex. Then the WALLS go back up . Then Close again! I Admire the Women in Good Marriages with a SANE Husband or ( Wife if their Gay). Thank God that God gave me a Very Very Kind and Loving Mother and Grandmother ( but my Grandmother Died). Going through All this is Extremely PAINFUL. I think I am just going to go back to being Single. I AM Single for Years. I mean Emotionally I think I will go back to Relying on me and Friends and God. And Not an Ex. Take Care. I am watching You. Your Handsome and Very Sweet. Hugs. Thankyou Sweetie!!
Remember as well when they break up with you, they don’t lose you, they give you away
My ex broke up with me four months ago, and I left him alone. He reached out to me on Thanksgiving. I took his call.
But now he’s telling me he’ll never forgive me and there’s no more us but he still loves me and misses me now we are in no contact again
I’m so confused 😢💔
Hi coach,
Can you do a video on how to deal with dating someone who is divorced after more than a decade of marriage and the commitment issues that come along with that
Would love to see a video on this!
So what does one do when your ex breaks up with you and then you graciously accept their decision and plan to leave them alone but then THEY won’t leave you alone!!? My ex wants to maintain this pseudo connection with me and perhaps he’s too embarrassed now to tell me he was either wrong OR he was using the breakup to turn the tables so he felt more in control and was expecting me to chase after him and object but then it all backfired and now he doesn’t know what to do! He’s still calling me babe and checking in at his usual times through out the day has tried to video call me a couple times but I won’t answer. He hasn’t placed me in a friend zone either but it’s a very ambiguous place to be. I also think he’s realizing now that he doesn’t want to loose me or my son who he also loves very much. But I’m not going to rescue him out of this and feel there needs to be consequences otherwise he’ll never deal with things in a straightforward manner with me and this is a deal breaker big time since I very much deal with things in a very upfront and direct manner. Very confusing to say the least!!!!
I was in a very similar situation. He never said the words “let’s be friends” so I didn’t want to jump the gun and tell him I wouldn’t be his friend because I didn’t want to scare him off. He left so much furniture and stuff at my house. This went on for a few months. We hung out a few times, had fun, hooked up. It started to feel like limbo. So I told him “listen, when we broke up I told you I’d like to work things out with you and if that’s not what you want then that’s ok too. But you have all your stuff in my house and whatever is going on between us is pretty unclear. I’m trying to respect your decision to end things but if that’s what you want then I need you to get your things and let me move on.” He blew up! He got really angry and asked why I would even want to try again and said there were too many issues. He told me he doesn’t want to have a family anymore and will die alone (avoidant). He said there was no chance of us getting back together. I was sad and angry but I held my head high and accepted this. A week later he got his things out. Two days after that he reached out again and I was cold. I was done with the breadcrumbs. I felt like I had essentially helped him wean himself off me and helped him through a breakup I didn’t want. I went no contact. It’s been 43 days and he just reached out saying he saw me walking when he was driving by. Here we go again. Lol
6:30 I keep coming back to this part for comfort. It really helps
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Good Work Coach keep it up
Yo I love and appreciate all of the videos, especially the ones that make me cringe because it exposed all of the things I did wrong, but I really want to hear some success stories of ppl getting back who really messed up and made all of the post break up mistakes
I wrote a long email where I explained how I felt and then blocked him. He’s lost me and he’ll realise
Please update soon
How things going??
nai karna tha , waise ab kya situation hai ?
Hope you're doing well
He told me that he doesn’t want to get back together because now he feels nothing for me anymore ...
Update
Awesome email n question! Perfect answer too!! Thank you a million
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+2349056214156⏯⏯⏯ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up....
I hope this works... ex of a year and eight months broke up a second time. First time is because I didn’t trust her enough because she had a guy best friend and then then the guy messaged me and said there was nothing between them and said he’d leave her alone and he did. Me and her then worked things out and got back together after a week or two of separation. Dated for about 2 and a half months and towards the end she seemed like she was losing interest in me, Ik for a fact it’s something I did or maybe ways I was acting but I can’t put my finger on what it could be. After we broke up I begged to fix things but she said there was nothing to fix and we can’t get back together and it’s better for us like this. That really hurt because we were together for a while (my longest relationship yet) and we met each other’s family’s and ALWAYS talked about the future together. Hopefully this works... if not then it’s gonna suck, but there’s nothing I can do but keep focusing on myself and bettering myself.
She is coming back trust me bro I'm at day 90 it went from no contact to doing my family asking how I'm doing to looking at my FB page to calling my phone twice yesterday just wait it out trust me this shit works
Update did she ever came back?
My bf started ignoring me without any reason! i message and called him but got no response..i didnt know what went wrong so now i will leave him alone after i watch this video and see how it goes..
All the best 💐
Evalyne Njeri thanks..ill try! its just so hard and very frustrated at the moment anxiety level is high
People need to realise that you need to love yourself before anyone else can, including your ex.
Breakups hurt but you have to deal with the pain.
Stop bitching like your ex is the only person that's made you happy or can ever make you happy.
Embrace being single until you have heeled.
Exes do come back especially if there was a deep love and passion ect but they're not going to come back to some needy person with low self esteem.
It takes time to get over a breakup.
My mom left me and my brother when we were young, she came back into my life when I was in middle school. My first love and I broke up and it broke me. I always knew it had something to do with my mom. The first person who has ever given me everything just abandon me and it felt like my childhood all over again. Now since we have been broken up it has brought me and my mom closer together
Met a guy on Tinder, dated exclusively after the first date for 3 weeks.
Shared almost every interest in common, values, personal life goals,
great intimacy... he broke up with me saying he didn't develop feelings
to make him wants more of the relationship...but nothing was bad. Even though i told it is premature since those feelings takes time, he told me that he rather breaking up now then waiting further in the relationship and find out he still doesn't have those feelings. Should i just let it go, even though i like this guy and i am convinced that it could work ?
Let it go.. You dated for 3 weeks and that's no time to build a close bond ect regardless of what you had in common.
What happened to you? :((((( same situation
Update?
9 months breakup 3months no contact .still I have feelings while he has new one.still my heart cry
WE ARE UNEQUALLY YOKED IN A SPIRITUAL WAY. SO I FEEL WITH THE ADVANCEMENT OF MYSELF AND EVEN IF THIS INVISIBLE EX COMES BACK, ILL KNOW IF HE JUST WANTS THE BENEFITS OF ME OR NOT.
IM STILL OPEN TO OPEN AND BETTER RELATIONSHIPS WHICH WILL NOT HINDER MY FAITH IN GOD. I DONT BELIEVE IN COMPETITIVE RELATIONSHIPS ITS DEMONIC.
Whats the success rate ?
One could wish!
I believe this can work!
My ex-husband of 19 years did exactly this he came to me in June claiming how much he was still in love with me how much he missed his best friend and I thought we were getting back together well here it is five months later and I have went full 60 my head thinking we were getting back together but he just keeps going back and he keeps asking for space he says he doesn’t think it’s gonna work I just don’t know what to do
He goes back to you because he knows you'll always be there. A safety net
Me & my ex have been talking more & talking ab how hard it is to date anybody else .. I texted me && he told me he was thinking ab me & I told him I was thinking ab him too & that I wanted to see him on Wednesday & he agreed im gonna go really slow & not bring up getting together any time soon just gonna vibe till he brings it up
Great and just what I needed to hear, thanks Coach
Coach Craig, can you do a video segment on what to do if the break up had to do with her parents even though everything was fine? Maybe even if ethnicity was involved?
Does it mean people who handle the break up poorly, does that mean theres no chances at all to rekindle things? I feel like my ex forget about everything in this no contact. (Long distance)
Petros Giorgallis im worry , my ex had forgotten about me. I saw craig video about it. But still felt like theres no hope for me. Especially in long distance
@@Serfel6669 same. Long distance relationship here... almost a month of no contact still no message even though he has unblocked me
@@Kira.__.06 did he contacted you already? I'm currently in the same situation
@@rafaelfabro4782 he did. He messaged me on my mobile last December. We communicate here and there, but nothing came out of it. I think with time I lost interest in rekindling our relationship. We hardly communicate now. It's been easier since I've accepted that our 7 year relationship was over for good. Hang in there!
Any update @jen hui ?
what;s sad is every return of ex also means they broke up with someone else. and makes me wonder what if i was the someone else ? "rebound" it was only a 6month relation but she showed she was invested in as much as i was (too much) and then left one day.
What if you get with a guy that breaks up with you and the dumpee does the no reaching out so forth. Then the dumper calls and well your back together then couple of months He breaks up with you again and this goes on and on till the dumpee is so sick of it
She just goes crazy sending texts that are not nice.
ur videos sre awesome n it helped me butbstill need help theres times wen i think of evil plsns which is not me at all i wanna do thst workbook how do i get thst? thanx coach
Did you get her back???
I'm the one who ghosted for no reason, 2 months later I wanted him back, we saw each other last nite,and he is now the ONE DONE ! Ouch :( What do I do now ????
Lisa Hiersekorn according to the feminist playbook you falsely accuse him of a crime
Why ghost? It's so fucking selfish.
if she realise how much better you are than the new guy she is now dating, what makes you think when she come across someelse who appreantly better than you and she left you for him.
He doesnt want to have contact now . So i told him contact me if you want contact, contact me first. So i know you yourself want contact with me every now and then. Until then i will not contact you. I also told him if you contact me it also means that the contact will not be one sided. Because i dont wanna be the only one texting you. Did i do the good thing here?
You did the right thing 👍 dont loose hop and never settle for less❤
Craig i was inb relationship with a woman for 5 years, but she was cheating on me over another guy, i caught her red handed. Since then i broke up with her, but we encounter each others most of the time and i see no changes in her eyes if she is repenting. So what i should do that she will miss me and run to me with apology?
Shes no good ! Over and over you say ? Man get some one better
OK guys I can share what happened, please give me a moment to share this story.
What if you failed and didn't give the space a first. What if I blew her up, then I got upset with her and she blocked me on every communication platform. What now?
@coach craig Kenneth Hi Craig, I go into NC every month. Initially she reached out weekly then bi weekly , monthly and now bi monthly. I asked to meet up several times, the last time I asked she didnt deny but did not seem that interested. Now 40 days goes by and she sends me a photo of a present I bought her son which to me means she misses me or is this indirect- direct approach? I didnt respond. will she get offended because this was a more personal message?Also do I just ignore this message even though its days old? Its frustrating.
Im in no contact for 8 months. Since the time I started it she reaches out to me every 2 or 3 weeks, saying she misses me hard, but so we talk for some days, and when i ask her out she says she dont want to get back together and I go no contact again. It is becoming crazy, she do it every time, every 2 or 3 weeks, she is clearly missing me, but still not wanting to get back. After 4 months of she doing it i blocked her in all social media and message services, she still calling me and trying to reach me saying she misses me. I dont know what to do. She simply dont stop to reaches out to me, but at the same time dont want to get back together. This is crazy!
What happened in the end?
Hi Craig, what if your ex has already moved on after I spent three months trying to patch things up? When we broke up officially, she was on tinder and talking to guys the same/next day? Why would no contact work on someone that doesn't want you?
If someone doesn’t want you. You have to respect their space and move on. Don’t go trying win her back it make you look creepy
Is that the same with someone whos with a rebound?
What if the person that preak up with you has depression and get medicine for that are all this rules apply to this situation to?
Me and my ex have been dating for 6 months. I guess we moved too quickly and moved in together after one month. To cut a long story short I became needy and began nagging at him over small things to get his attention. Some days I felt like I had to beg him to kiss me. Now I realise that I can't expect someone to give me affection all the time. Last week he moved out and broke up with me saying her needed space. I of course was a mess and pleaded for him to come back to the flat at first and give me another chance. I have been no contact for almost a week. He only contacts me about bills etc.I really want him back , do I have a chance?
No
Yes, u need to give him space though. By doing what u were doing, you’re making yourself look unworthy of him. Don’t look for reasons to contact him, just leave it there and he’ll come back when he’s ready. U need to be a more stable and respectable version of yourself though, stop all the begging and pleading shit
Thanks for these videos - they are helpful. My question is if everything seemed to be going great but he began communicating less and then stood me up/ ghosted, if he does contact and want me back, do I bring up this rather cowardly way to handle a breakup or just be happy he rekindled and move on? And if he contacts with a Miss You text, is best reply something like thanks I hope ur well but not a miss you back ? Thanks for advice!
we were only friends, but I was in love and she got a new boyfriend so I ended the relationship because I was heartbroken. I also unfriended her from fb and told her not to call me. does the no contact rule apply here?
Frank Cuffaro hi
@Coachcraigkenneth
Modified no contact is so damn difficult for ME! I see her everyday when she picks up our children and i remain stoic,happy & interact with her only about our children. She will text me, I'll call instead of texting so she doesn't interpret my text a specific ways and hears im not angry at her im just indifferent(its about our children of course)
Hi Coach and everyone here! I talked to a girl for 4 months and we went to holiday and had an amazing time togheter, when we came home I asked her out 2 weeks later she said she was busy with work that week, I said ok let me know when you are free, days are going and we talked casually but my gut had another feeling.. so I asked her out again 2 weeks later and she said she had a lot of work bla bla bla, then I asked her the question because I was tired of her immature games and behaviors.. I said how do you feel do you want to continue see me, she said I dont know im not ready yet to begin something right now, my answer was Ok then I now.. I was angry, hurt.. I went no contact, 3 days later was my 30 year birthday, she saw my snaps from my birthday but didnt say something, and 3 weeks later she deleted me from snapchat, our only socialmedia we got eachother in.. that did hurt because I didnt deserve that kind of threatment, it was so immature, didnt know if she did it to punish me, or maybe to make me contact her and give som attention.. but im still in no contact and her actions only shows her bad intents.. doesnt look good, trying to move on but this is still on my mind but trying to move on...
Serkan Ronaldo I think you can’t move on because your ego is bruised its not about love
Serkan Ronaldo did you pay for all or most of the holiday? It sounds like she may have been a bit of a user, unfortunately, but I don't know...
I had a woman use me for a holiday too. Its pathetic they act like they're crazy about you then they're impossible to see again.