Anger Management For Mothers
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- Опубліковано 3 чер 2024
- Being a mom is a full time job that takes a lot of patience and love. To the moms out there who strive their best to raise wonderful people, this one is for you. Here are 10 things to help with anger management towards children:
1. Remember who you are
2. Remember your job
3. Remember who they are
4. Keep the perspective
5. Enjoy the journey
6. Things are exactly as they should be
7. Child development
8. Take care of the team
9. Take care of yourself
10. Anger and how it affects you
Watch and Enjoy!
Dr. Paul Jenkins
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My child actually put soap in her own mouth after I threatened it once. She doesn't care. She'll starve herself if I don't make one of the 2 things she'll eat. Its crazy!!!
...And for only a moment, they go through this faze, but feels like a life time to us at that moment. You got a strong willed girl on your hands. No man is going to control her, that's for sure. 😃❤
A mother complained about her son that he was good for nothing only for driving nails into a plank of wood. The teacher padraig pearse told the mother to get a hammer some 🪵wood and nails for the boy
Inspiring🎉
My eyes just filled with tears when I read this video title. I feel like I am always so angry at my 4-year-old and I hate that side of me. So I am grateful for your advice. Thank you for thinking of us "grumpy" moms 💛
Veronica, you "grumpy" moms are the angels that raise our kids. You make all the difference. I had a special experience making this video. You need to know who you are! So honored to be on your team. DrPaul
P.S. - did you see this? ua-cam.com/video/2dAAnt1i2po/v-deo.html
I feel the same way!!! I bet there are many of us out there.
You are not alone Veronica. I hate my self when I get angry at my 6 year old and see his little eyes water. I can’t wait to absorb this information.
Im feeling gulity too.
Shireen Hendricks I’m holding your hand Shireen.
This is beyond powerful. I yelled at my kids today and I felt so lost, sad and regretful before I watched this video. After I apologized to my kids, prayed for God to forgive me and help steer me in the right direction, I found this video. Thank you!!!!
I Am Love & Abundance, you are on the right track and I am excited for the changes coming to you and your family. Take a look at the parenting playlist for some more strategies.
Scrolling through the messages here, I've realised I'm not alone in what I feel. I want to extend my love to all mothers and fathers out there trying to make things work!
Thank you for your supportive comments, Ashena.
"I'm not keeping a clean house, I'm raising a child...". Wow, that's liberation for me there. Thank you, Doc!
Right! Perspective is everything. DrPaul
I’m currently a SAHM of two young children. I often feel bad because it’s hard to balance keeping a clean house and properly tending to my children. I don’t want to sit them in front of the TV all day or give them devices all day so that I can fold clothes and wash dishes.
That's so good! It all comes back to priorities and getting distracted chasing the wrong things!
Finally...thankyou for this...😀
This hit home for me too.... i had been feeling drained and checked out and then he said this.... THANK YOU!!
Thank you doc. All of us moms need this. I hate myself sometimes, I feels like an evil mom and I don't deserve a child.
You can change to positive parenting, Sharifah Shelin. I am honored to be on your team and offer some tips.
Exactly . 😔
I definitely understand that is why I’m here
This is so relatable
That’s exactly how I felt this morning 😞
“Cleaning and scrubbing can wait for tomorrow, / For babies grow up so we learn to our sorrow. / So quiet down, cobwebs, and dust, go to sleep! / I’m rocking my baby, and babies don’t keep.” That’s the poem. There is a melody for it, too.
Thank you so much, Suki Baldwin. I love that - it puts things into perspective.
My eyes just teared up 😭
I'm crying real tears. As a young mom, and now grown teen mom, I never anticipated how discouraging motherhood can get, and it's nice to see this in such an empowering perspective. Thank you
DeAnza Andrews, honored to be on your team.
I'm teary-eyed specially when I hear #3,#2 and #1. I get to be so angry with my babies sometimes when the house is messy and starts to yell sometimes and after I did that I'll have so much guilt and I feel so bad and realized they're just babies. They're just playing and learning. I'm glad this video popped up when I opened UA-cam. Thank you :)
Keep on pushing momma ✊🏽 you are not alone
I am weeping 😢..... motherhood during teenage can be so challenging. Most of the days I feel like a failure as a mom and worry about my teens future.
To all of u moms out there who are worried ur not a good mom.... MY MOM once told me only good moms worry about not being good moms... lousy moms dont even notice they are not good at it.
I cried at "things are exactly as they should be." Thank you so much for this reminder!
I have 3 little boys with autism, and I have been so anxious and afraid that nothing was as it should be. The idea that something was wrong and needed to be fixed has been the root of all my anger and stress.
My children are happy and healthy. They see and react to the world differently then neurotypical children. They meet milestones at their own pace. I don't need to panic over that or try to rush them..
They are each exactly who they should be. Each a treasure. And the work to raise them is unending just as it is supposed to be! I am a mom, and so very blessed to carry that title 🥰.
Blueberry Cottage, you are truly the mother your child needs.
You are loved by those babies more than you think, or know. God bless you
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Thank you. I needed to read this 💗
When you read a comment of someone whose living your life in another continent it validates, it gives strength and it gives hope. Thank you 😭🙂
Im so glad im not the only mom struggling with anger ❤LOVE this advice❤
No way, J S. We are all in this together and you are not alone.
J S
What kind of glad it is? You are trying hard to explain your ugly behaviour. Tell it to your children that you are not the only one! Take responsibility for your actions women.
I just want to say that every mom commenting here is a great mom, thank you for sharing this experience and for trying to better yourself. You are so inspiring. I've always felt ashamed to talk about this, feeling like all the other moms are doing a much better job. I have been constantly reminding myself to accept the fact that it's okay if things are not how I want. It's a rocky road but we will manage.
Thank you so much! Appreciate your support of others. This is a great community.
I have self esteem and self confidence issues so every time I go to the store with my child and she throws a temper tantrum because I say no on something and I see other moms with well behaved kids I always get jealous and wonder what I’m doing wrong
Love this. I honour you momma
i feel guilty about being grumpy mom. It makes me sad. But this video help me how to manage my anger.
Glad you found the video helpful, Celestial Maniaul. Thank you for watching.
I'm sitting here, nodding, as if you're actually speaking to me directly....
Love to be on your team! DrPaul
Grateful
I often revisit some of your videos....Ever hear of Kenny Chesney? He has a song titled...YOU SAVE ME...the first couple of paragraphs depict me on some stressful days.....then I watch and think, YOU SAVE ME.
Bruh
I'm a 16-year-old boy but I feel like some of the things in this video are really insightful on human relationships in general. Thanks
I'm honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV, Andrew Ahn. Thanks for watching. Yes, many of these principles can be applied to other relationships. If you are interested in watching more videos, we have a "Just for kids and teens" playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCicx6xcJ5ZJzVe9UBlRTQV.html
Thank you for this. I’m watching it while hiding from my kids because I’m too hoarse from yelling at them.
This video just changed my life.
Heather Chance, glad you are looking for resources to help. Calm voice will save your lungs. Thank you for trying it out.
I'm literally doing the same thing!!
Heather Chance me too !!
Happened to me yesterday.
I want to thank you for this much needed video. I have a 7 yr old son and a 4 yr old daughter. I love them dearly! I’ve wanted to be a mother for as far back as I can remember. I had an angry mother and I swore I would never be that to my children, but here I am.... An angry mother just like her. I’ve hated myself for this. A few weeks ago, in prayer, I promised God that this was the year I would stop screaming at my children. That I would step outside if what I know, and find the tools to help me in this endeavor. I love my children more than anything, and now they will see that in the way I deal with them. Thank you for helping me take the first steps.
luvinlife225, so honored that you found the videos and are using them to change to a more positive parenting style. You CAN do this.
Reading through the comments and learning that some of you cried watching this and wish you could be a better mom. I completely understand where you’re coming from. Please don’t worry. Just the fact that you are looking up things on how to be a better mom for your child already says that you are a great mom, and you are trying. ❤️
Eden Gebrezgi, well said!
I was in a bathroom stall the other day at the mall and I heard a mom being so impatient with her son because he was talking so much and I suppose, dragging, and she sounded SO annoyed at his dragging and talking. And it broke my heart because she has no idea how lucky she is to have a little one that TALKS. My 4 year old doesn't and how I wish she did.
I was also sad because I heard myself in her, too. The realization that I needed to be kinder to my children fell on my heart like Atlas struggled to hold up the sky. And I was so hurt because despite how I was feeling, my kids love me right now, unconditionally, and I want that to go on as they get older because home is always going to be here for them. Mommies and daddies, good luck. I'm rooting for you too.
Miffed Cuttlefish, thank you for sharing the experience. You are the mother your children need.
I cried at #5. I have a 16, 7, 5 yr old and 7 months old. I just want to enjoy them. I feel like so much gets in the way of that, it makes me sad. Chores, home and yard maintenance, kids fighting, extended family obligations and more.
You're right Che Lawrence - lots of stuff on our plate, and the really important stuff can slip. Perspective makes a big difference. So glad you're here! DrPaul
I’ll keep perspective in mind as I go through my day. Thank you for the valuable content you are sharing.
I agree with you. Single parenting 2 boys is hard work.
I know what your saying and it’s true when you have kids and so many things to do is not easy at all//
I agree. Wishing you well
Thank you so much .. I'm crying right now , because I'm mom who lost control of her anger and this video is like a cure for my soul 💕.. mom from Libya
Thank you for your honest comment, Zakeia Benmoussa. Thank you for showing up for your children.
And you are from Libya so, that alone is a punch in the face.
Same here
I'm an angry mom too
Everyday I got angry at my 3 and a half daughter.
But thanks to this video it made me realize a lot of things.
Hey Dr!!
I was an angry mum. And it's not like I'm never angry anymore, I still get angry but it doesn't define my life or my relationships. I was also suffering "depression" and was even suicidal.
One of the things that really changed my life was sleeping early. Instead of staying up in my phone after the kids sleep, I'd get kids to bed at 730 and be in bed by 830. For me, this completely cured my "depression" which I really think was just sleep deprivation and I'm really wondering if this is a common misdiagnosis. I became a better wife and mother just by sleeping. I think my husband has ptsd from how I used to be lol.
So if this is an issue for mum's they need to sort it out. It sorts out a big chunk of the anger issue.
Another thing that changed me was realising that I could lose my kids at any time. I think a lot of our anger is exactly what you said about "things are what they should be". You aren't meant to be holidaying, sipping tea and floating alone in the pool. You're meant to be in the kiddy pool watching your kids having an amazing time for a few years till they grow up a bit. So I chose to enjoy all the blessings that I was overlooking because I was distracted by what I thought I wanted.
Another thing is I hear a lot of my friends say they wasted their life by having their kids and they wished they had a career. I view my motherhood as my career. I view my home as my workplace. When you take it seriously and you get what you need done, you feel accomplished. Now I expect my house to get messy. I have a day care and tutoring centre and restaurant happening here! But once the kids are in bed and they've been nourished with everything they need, its closing time. I can do my end of day cleaning and really feel so fulfilled. I now enjoy all the things I used to hate. And it's actually all that matters to me I have no interest in any of the things I used to long for.
Getting enough sleep and changing perspective is so important. I totally agree with you on not getting worked up when kids destroy things. I'm better at that but still not quite there. I have a destructive 3 year old that always finds a way to make chaos. And he always goes after my brand new things. Really looking forward to a year from now when he's 4. They tend to calm down by then 😂
Umm Osayd, you hit on so many good points here. I always say you first need to take care of yourself. Getting the proper amount of sleep is so overlooked in our society and as your situation indicates, it is an individual need. It is so much easier to be our best self when our needs are met. We must live in the present and be happy where we are, each and every moment. Children don't keep, they are growing every minute and reaching that time when they will leave the nest. Disappointment comes from unmet expectations and when we change those expectations, we are all around happier. Thank you for a wonderful comment that really brings out how these things can have impact on not only one life, yours, but your entire family as well.
salam
mashaallah this is indeed a very practical advice that i would love to execute it immediately. i think you might be right, perhaps my anxiety and impatience are the results from self-deprivation!
This comment helped me. Thank you💕
I thank you for taking time and writing all this for people in same boat.
Thank you for this comment I also noticed that when I wake up before my baby it gives me time to start the day with taking care of myself so when she wakes up I'm able to take care of her better
For moms with little ones... and children of any age. Some words that helped me when my daughter was going through terrible twos. I was just take some breaths and tell myself "this too shall pass". The frustration can be intense sometimes...but an eternal perspective can give so much peace. Hope this helps someone.
Yes, this too shall pass. Very powerful and true, Dawn Harris.
I'm a 2 year old girl's mother from China. Recently desperate from China's lockdown and unemployment and experiencing the terrible 2 with my kid at home every single day. Cried while watching this video, Thank you so much. Really learned and inspired. I might still won't be a perfect or patient Mom, but I will try and learn and I believe I will be better after watching your videos. Appreicate ! !
Penny Wang, we are all in this together. Remember to love them no matter what and even if... We will get through this.
Hang in there girl!!! Us mothers need to stay strong and know that we are so not alone.
"we're not raising apples,we're raising boys"those words made me cry😭i feel guilt with my only son😭
jennifer calixtro, no guilt today, just enjoy your son.
I cried many times watching this video . Feeling guilty feeling sad and feel the hope and encouragement to be a better me for my daughters. It's not an easy job being a parent but it takes awareness and willingness to mold a better people for the current and next generation. Thank you or this❤️
wind archer, parenting is not for wimps. This shows you are the mother your children need.
This brought tears to my eyes. MY husband is psychologically incapacitated showing narcissistic signs. Im a single mom now
Ms Pretty Kawaii, I hope you are in a safe place and I wish you the best.
Ive been there it gets better i promise you i soent 8 years with a partner who nevet cared about me ot his own childs needs. I hope you havr the support you need to help yoi bring your child up happy and healthy
I am sitting here crying my eyes out!! There is so much expectation on us moms, we need to be the perfect wife, mother, daughter, sister, employee, etc. We just need to work so much harder and it never stops. Thank you for that, just thank you. My husband is an awesome man who loves his team and truly appreciate and values us so much but to hear it come from someone other than him that is not another woman is amazing. Thank you
D Pinto, I am honored to be on your team.
🤭😢😭🤭 thank you Doctor, I HAVE to STOP complaining, and start enjoying my ride...😭😔😭🤭 ...babies don’t keep😭😭😭😭😭
Lady Bow - yes, enjoy the ride - and what a grand one it is too! DrPaul
As a single dad, I have to learn feminine traits along with bettering my masculine traits to raise my child. It's helped me become more empathetic and patient. This was really helpful, thanks.
You are welcome. I wish you well! Love them no matter what and even if...
I think this video will help many parents and grandparents. Such wisdom. My babies are 37 and 33 now. Some of the days went by sooo slowly, but the years flew by. My boys are men now- good, kind men. Their lives aren't perfect, but they have good lives. That's all I truly ever wanted for them, so I'm happy.
Carol, perfection not required, sounds like you and they are in a good place. Thank you for commenting.
I'm not keeping a clean house, I'm raising a child. Wow. Things are exactly as they should be. Thank you for your wisdom. You are making such diffrence.
Amy Pirnack, you are the one making the difference in your part of the world. Thanks.
I listened intently just soaking in these truths and then literally sobbed when you got to number 1. I can’t thank you enough. You’ve no idea how badly I needed to watch this video today. Thank you thank you thank you.
-Mom of 2 toddlers (soon to be 3!)
Ash - YOU have no idea how much your comment means to me. Of all the videos I've created over the past nine months, this one has meant the most to me personally. Thank you for who you are and what you do! DrPaul
Not easy babe but I guarantee those babies r the love of ur lives ❤️ ❤️
I feel you! I have 2 toddlers and a preteen, all boys too haha its hard on my own
I’m over here crying. 😭 I’m a mum of 2 boys and one in the oven. Your
Content is wonderful. Just found you
Today. I’m videos 3 in. Needed this today.
Welcome!! Glad you found us, Abigail Scott.
I needed this! This lockdown has turned our home upside down and my 4 year old has turned so angry ! It’s so hard not to lose my mind! Crying every night feeling like a failure! Thankyou for this! It’s nice to know I’m not alone !
Amy B, you are the mother your child needs. Focus on what you can do with your son. Consider some of our parenting groups for added support.
I feel like the exact same…I would love to help my 4 year old to stop being so angry…at not getting his way, when play needs to stop or when it’s time to leave somewhere…angry angry angry…and I hate myself for not being able to help him, and for being upset at him at the same time for acting out.
Going through the same thing with my 3 year old.
Agreed ❤
@@narissaraghunanan5483 wondering if it's gotten better I'm going through this with my 4 in half year old.
I appreciate this session. Opened my eyes. I remember asking my son 5yrs old why do you do these stuff repeatedly. He's so much smarter than me.. lol.. he said "mom", I'm a kid"
He is a smart kid, Latoya Logan, as are you. We have more for you on our Positive Parenting playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU.html
Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.
Wow that totally warmed my heart, and that’s one of those things that I just know will stick with me lol so sweet!
Actually today I felt so much anger towards my 3yr Old. Parenting isn't easy, we need grace
Agreed.
Thank you Doctor Paul for helping us lonely & lost moms. God bless you 🙏
Siyara KB, honored to be on your team.
I'm crying after listening and watching to this entire video. I've recently become a single mom after being a young (early 20s) mother and being low income. I tried my best but feel I made so many mistakes, especially because I was being treated so badly/abused by the father. Now my kids are older and I have learned a lot but I need to relearn more in order for my kids to have a better life. A lot of times the guilt takes over-- really they are the most important thing in my life ❤
You got this! Don't ever give up, keep trying and it will turn out o.k.
I am folding laundry as my kids are napping and I am just thinking to myself how can I apply this to my everyday Actions !! And it brings me joy and tears to know that I will be a greater mom after this video thank you God bless 🙏♥️
Mariana you are their whole world. Thank you for being a conscious mom. You've got this! DrPaul
Agree
I needed to hear this. I've been so hard on myself and my toddler lately. Things are exactly as they should be.
Lyndel Paris, honored to be on your team.
“Babies don’t keep.. and neither do teenagers” - this part had me in tears thinking of my own.. thank you for sharing your knowledge it is really an eye opener!
Jet Oro, glad the video helped. Thank you for watching.
I don’t even have kids and I’m crying. I found these videos to learn how I should interact with my young siblings. I love this channel!!!
Tabinova, and we are happy you are here. You got this.
I got so emotional thinking of the times I missed being observant of what my child was actually doing and jumped to being judgemental and missed the opportunity of recognising who this child actually is. 😭😭😭😭
Ashiya, and when we know better, we do better.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV yes we do sir. Thank u so much.
A child of a mom that has anger issues here.
I hope my mom watches this soon. She always gets mad at me for literally everything i do like eating. Even forgetting to turn of the lights and mugs when she just forgets about hers as well. I think she tries to find every way possible to get mad at me she threatens me then tells me im disrespectful while im just asking her a question. Im really sick of my life right now I just hope she gets rid of her anger issues. She compares me to everyone and does all those bad things I really dont know what to feel right now Its so hard to control my emotions especially during this pandemic Im always at home and I cant go to school and meet my friends and take a break from them. Everytime i wake up i just feel disappointed because the cycle repeats again tons of school activities > other responsibilities > mom getting angry of little things > hearing bad things from her > getting hurt > sleep I just dont wanna wake up anymore I just hate my life i hate my life i hate my life but I dont wanna die I'm not really that hurt. I just feel so empty and unloved I just wanna be happy I wanna wake up thinking that my whole day will be happy I'm really waiting for that moment.. I guess she's still special for me but i dont think I'm special to her but im not really gonna expect her to become better I wanna have better parents. I wanna leave but i cant cause im just a teenager. I hope she becomes more understanding
Blue Earl, try writing her a letter so she can know how you feel. You may need some counseling to help the two of you interact more positively.
I just found my new Guru, Dr. Paul Jenkins. I live for my son. I always only ever wanted to be a Mum. I was told I was infertile but found out 1 day I was 5 months pregnant!!! :-O I was waaaaaaay out of my depth, I'd never prepared for it, seriously!! LOL! So now I'm in the thick of it....and I'm relentlessly watching these videos. This is medicine for me and my little boy. I can't express my gratitude enough.
Thanks for sharing!! We are glad to have you in our community, Queen of the Butterflies.
Sometimes as a father I think I fall into the category of things don't seem like they should when it might be normal. But I have always held myself to a higher standard so I hold my kids to a higher standard. Especially in todays world. So I feel like I have higher expectations then sometimes I should for their age.
It is good to have standards and expectations, but it they aren't age appropriate or age appropriate, we might be setting them up for failure.
Thank you for the enlightenment. I've got 2 boys and they drain me so much every single day. I'm always angry and frustrated to the point that I wanted to be on my own Alone.
Farmer's Daughter, Try to find one joyful thing each day in your boys. Connect in some meaningful way. Don't worry about the discipline right now, just connect.
Me too...but upon rewinding my life. as a kid I was. not as disciplined as my daughter... Many a times, I see myself in her....my negatives & positives reflected through her. I'm OK & She's OK🌈🌈
Appreciated your awesome talk. Moms need that affirmation. Emotional labor is so draining. During your talk it tripped a memory of the anger I felt taking care of my 97 year old mother, and had to apologize to her at times. And the guilt I felt at being angry. And the lack of anyone affirming the difficult job I was doing. There should be, if there isn't, a national caregivers day. I am watching this video because as a "great aunt" I want the emotional health of my niece and her two daughters. This lecture reminds me to encourage her greatly which I will now start doing...
Thank you for watching and trying out the suggestions. National Caregivers Day is the third Friday in February.
Cried. And cried again. I've been so angry for so long...
Carrie Bostic, it feels so good when we can finally begin to let it go and choose positivity.
I just yelled at my 9 yr old and she got teary and hearing this changes me
Ruthie Brenda, we all make mistakes. You can do this.
My baby is 24, and I daydream about being able to do it all again ... but better. As a single mother, I took the "I'm here to..." too far and was too strict (though my parents thought I was a pushover). I wanted to impress people with how well behaved my child was, and I did get many compliments on his manners and sweetness, but this video makes my heart ache.
Hi Lilac Milkshake, you obviously tried your best and that is all we can give our children. Thank you for sharing.
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Omg I'm doing the same thing
I’m sitting sobbing because it’s so powerful
Iris Van Der Zon, yes, thank you for being here.
This is a great video but why is it just for moms? I'm a single dad here dealing with all this same stuff. It's still helpful at any rate though so thanks.
Motherfudger666, it has to do with what people are searching for on the internet. I have lots of dads and even teachers and daycare workers, grandparents and aunts subscribed to the channel. Just hear the word parent when I say mom.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Fair enough. Thanks.
I'm a Dad as well and I loved and appreciate the video but why not say parent instead of mom...only moms have children?
I've listened to this twice in the car dropping my fiance off at work, and I've cried both times. This video is so moving and your words are comforting. Thank you for making me (and I'm sure others) feel seen with this video!
Thank you, Marcia. You are the parent your child needs.
Awesome message! I just realized I need to apologize to my girls for losing my sh*t last night when they flooded the bathroom playing at bath time :-( Perspective is everything!
Luisa H Lee, you are teaching them a valuable lesson.
Hell, i flooded the bathroom one time and i wasnt even a kid anymore, i was freaking 20 or something.
I planned to take a bath, then stuff happened and i had to go in the yard to do some stuff.
I came back in and the whole place was under water.
In my haste i simply forgot to turn off the crane.
facepalm
Mom was pretty pissed about the damage (some woodwork damage), but she also was laughing at how i managed to cause the flooding.
Yeah that still gets brought up at family parties to this day.
Truer words were never spoken.. when we take care of ourselves we are so much better as parents! Also, that our ONLY job is to LOVE them, not to change them, or ‘make sure..’ 😊
And that is a game changer.
# 6 got me… hard to think that things are the way they should be… as a foster momma it never seems like that
Larissa Moore, I get it, just shows the love you have to share with these special people.
Ha i knew you must have been a member, I prayed for help and this is where i ended up.. thank you heavenly father and for these posts.
Rebecca Vele, that has happened before. So glad you have found value in the videos.
The exact same thing happened to me! Thank Heavens for Dr. Paul! So glad he was willing to follow the prompting to start a UA-cam channel to help parents everywhere. This is one of my all-time favorite videos of his, so I come back to watch it every now & again.
I’m just so choked up I can’t even speak leading up to the top 3. This is so powerful. I need to hear this. As a mum of 4 wonderful kids that test me every single day. My heart is just bursting as I recall the day I became a mum 😭
Nurhayati Mokhtar, glad to have you as part of our community.
'They are already that person' I love you for saying this
Clara Webb, you are the mother your children need.
I almost cried on number 9 cuz my child and every child deserves the most amazing moms
Aisha Shar, and you are that mom.
I just wanna say from the bottom of my heart " Thank you!!!!" ❤️❤️❤️
Monica Kumar A, you are welcome.
Thank you for this! I needed this video today. Number #5 literally has me in tears because it’s so true. These stages don’t last so we should enjoy it.❤️ Love your channel so much
FacciaBella5, I'm honored by your comment - this is why I do the channel in the first place. Thanks for watching. DrPaul
My eyes just filled with tears and i hate my self when I couldn’t control my anger spells
Sarah Khaled, hang in there. Hopefully we can work on this and be prepared to give yourself a do-over.
I love how you remove the shame when you talk about this topic!
We are here to help and support, thank you for being here.
Thank you for this video💕 This is a great starting point for me.
Glad you found some value, Stephanie. Thanks for watching.
O my, just what I needed at this time. Thank you Dr Paul🙏 for this amazing advice ❤️
Glad you found the video, Wholesome Natural living. Glad to have you at the channel.
I bursted into tears at no, 1,,solo mama of 4 plus kids,not much team to work with here,no family support 😭
Blessingz thanking you
Chani Rooney, I hope you can build up your team as things begin to reopen. Find a support group, many are online now. It could give you some ideas.
Dr. Paul Jenkins, I am so happy the you tube algorithm connected me to you. Blessings ❤
Wish I'd had this advice when mine were little. Still good advice as we head into teen years
Yes April - remember we can never start any younger than we are right now. You've got this! DrPaul
I teared listening to your last point on remembering who you are. As a new mum taking care of my toddler I feel invisible and unappreciated everyday and it’s really driving me crazy. It takes a village to raise a kid, but there’s no village here, just me. I guess I really needed someone to tell me that all my efforts are noticed and appreciated, even though I know that they are my responsibilities for being a mother.
Elaine Teo, you are the mother your child needs.
Me too and my daughter’s dad doesn’t understand being a stay at home mom to a toddler 24/7 is hard and frustrating so I definitely feel unappreciated and never have time for myself I have no friends to talk to so I have a lot of bottled up anger since my daughter’s dad won’t let me talk about it instead he blames me for everything
@@daniellejohnson2373I understand how you feel I relate to this.
I’m living in another country with 0 support here I was literally crying before I came across this video ❤️
Toxic Teezy, I am glad we can connect. Work on that support system.
Can't be perfect. I've learned to be a mom who is not angry. I decided I want my son to just be himself and stopped expecting him to be the way I want him to be. Takes time. I'm not perfect, but I'm doing my best. Life's wayyy too short to be constantly angry. I'm proud of myself and my son. 💜😊
June Kirri, aww, love to hear this. Love the self-acceptance and acceptance of your son just the way you are and how you will be in the future.
Wow... I can’t stop crying. Thank you. 💕
Awww, Tanya, you got this. Honored to be on your team.
This is a great video but applies equally to us Dads too, doesn’t it? Thank you to all the wonderful mothers out there and if you’re following this channel you are among the powerful few who want to be a better parent. Good luck in your own journey through parenting.
It does, and I have a video made for that. The title comes from research by the UA-cam Team.
I am standing in my kitchen listening whilst cleaning up. Lately I have been increasingly stressed out with the constant battles between my 3 young sons, my husband and I. Choosing to Home Educate them whilst still trying to deal with bad behaviour, sibling fighting, keeping our home clean and running and maintaining some form of sanity in the process - has had me feeling so much disconnect, anger, frustration, sadness towards my boys. Our home in a permanent mess!
But listening to those words...
“We’re not raising apples, we’re raising boys”... just had me tear up.
From now on when I feel overwhelmed with housework and all the mess that Home Educating 3 young, lively, energetic, wild boys brings - I will remind myself... I’m not raising a house, I’m raising my sons!
You rock.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you! 🤘🏻
we are not raising apples, we are raising boys. I feel so touching! I am a mom with 2 boys, the 3year-old older brother is always driving me crazy, and i realize that my anger comes every time quicker and quicker, after being angry is always regrets. I was so frustrated before that why I can be so tolerant and nice to a stranger but not my own son. Today i suddenly understand after watching this video. I can be a better mom for sure! super thanks!
Yan Zhu, I am so glad you have had this breakthrough. It still takes practice and additional learning - most people don't change overnight. I am here for you. If you haven't already, you can check out other videos from my Positive Parenting playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU.html. Thank you for commenting.
Thank you I needed that u are a great speaker and inspiration on us mothers screaming yelling and what not I'm feel so calm after listening to this video.
Thank you for commenting and sharing, Beatrice Sutton. Honored to be on your team.
#1 reminded me of The Lion King lol but I truly enjoyed this. So much truth and I'm glad you acknowledge that parents need to keep perspective and control of themselves. Thank you
Honored to be on your team Priscilla - thanks for your comment. DrPaul
I was searching UA-cam out of desperation and in tears because I am so upset with myself for the anger that bubbled up inside me. I get angry so quickly! I don’t want to be this way. I want to be the mother I want to be! I dearly love my children and treasure them, why do I get so cross so quickly!? I am desperate to change! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video and wisdom. It has given me a lot to think on. I am going to make some pictures to put around my house with some of these points on to help me remember and to keep perspective. I really am so grateful! ❤️
Jo Raine, glad to have you at Live On Purpose TV, please continue to watch and interact with comments, I am sure there will be others who will help you on your journey. If you want more individualized help, you can make an appointment to speak with one of our Live On Purpose Coaches at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall to see what other options are available.
Thankyou so much for your reply! 🙂
I’m a grandma who is taking care of a very active 4 y/o who has an attachment disorder. I desperately needed!
Erma Abrazado, I hope we can meet some of your needs. We have done a video on reactive attachment disorder, ua-cam.com/video/z42r3e6rTVw/v-deo.html
Hello! I found your videos today and I am so glad that I did!!! I truly enjoy your wisdom and warmth. Thank you for being able to take such serious subjects (from a worn and weary mom's perspective) and bring them to the light in a caring and candid way!!! And yes, I am here because they don't keep their room clean! I spent most of yesterday trying (threatening, bribing and harassing) to get my six year old daughter to clean her room!!! Well your words are so soothing. There is a better way. Now I just have to spend every waking moment that the kids are sleeping learning those ways! THANK YOU SO MUCH and God bless you!!!
Monica your comment means so much to me - thank you! Spend a little time here on the Positive Parenting playlist - we've got dozens of videos there that I think you will resonate with. You might also be interested in our Parenting Power-up Audio Course, which will be released in the next few weeks. DrPaul
parentingpowerup.com
Absolutely! I'm excited to share it with my MOPS mamas!!! We are always looking for encouraging parenting resources like what you offer here. I look forward to the audio course! Thank you! God bless you!!!
Honored to be on your team Monica - let me know if you guys want some particular topic and I'll put it on the production schedule. DrPaul
Thank you Dr Paul! I will discuss it with leadership! I appreciate it very much!
Thank you for this msg , i cant stop cry .
luna chiu, please decide on a positive step so you can see a brighter future ahead. Thank you for watching.
I don’t know you but I appreciate you thanking all moms for raising the next generation, it’s so kind and nice to hear
Thank you, honored to be on your team.
Thank-you for this! Gave me so much perspective! Thank you!
Vijeta Shannon Peter, glad you enjoyed the video.
Thank you so much... no. 1 is an eye opener....you make my life, as a mom, smoother... stay blessed.
Thank you, Devika Bhargava. Thank you for being there for your kids and trying new things.
I love listening to you. Thank you 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
Thank you MARINA WILKINSON. More coming...
Thank you!!! I've been hoping that you'd put something like this up!
Thanks erinleighnavo! This one was special for me. Also, the video I mentioned that my daughter shared was not in the final cut for some reason. Here's the link if you want to see it: ua-cam.com/video/2dAAnt1i2po/v-deo.html
DrPaul
I just discovered your channel and I'm loving it so far 💕 It's so sweet and touched my soul. I'm literally crying in this video, I need it so much at this moment. I'm grateful I had found you and THANK YOU for doing this for all of us.
We are glad to have you at Live On Purpose TV, Damares Lima. Share with your friends.
Dear Dr.
Thanks so much for healing and helping us..You withhold nothing but generous with your kindness to make home a happier place.
Princess Davina, thank you for your kind words. Thank you for being at Live On Purpose.
This is so beautiful. Thank you. Something we need to be reminded of EVERY DAY!
You are welcome, Dana M. I'm glad the video resonated with you Honored to be on your team!
I just found your channel and I love it. Thank you so much for sharing! This is life-changing content and I'm sharing it with everyone I know : )
Thank you,SunshineHurricaneMix. We want to get the message out to all we can.
"things are exactly as they should be" is the life mantra as well..
Yes, thank you Mystic.
Thank you for these tips. I would like to add that breaking and overwriting negative traditional reactions and patterns that we observed and received from our own parents and have become our default reaction to frustration with our kids could be helpful, too
It takes a lot of effort, but we can change and become more positive, despite our upbringing. Thanks for commenting, Santiago Hernandez.
As a young mom. My child is really training me to yell at her to do things😭 I hate that I get so angry sometimes. So I really need anger management🙌🙌 thanks for this video.. I'm looking into creative ways on how to get my child to be more interested in learning. Guess I'll start right here🙌🙌😊
Jonnel Mclean, yes, pick one thing to start on and focus on that before trying to do more. Take back the control, don't give it to your child. Say it out loud, I won't allow you dictate my feelings and I will not yell at you. Sometimes just saying it out loud allows us more control.
Thanks for making me cry! I love it!!!! 😻
Anytime, Mrsvega209. I hear that a lot with this video. I hope the video was helpful.
Oh number one melt my heart, and that was all I needed, number five brought me back to the point of consciousness. Thank you for this. I chose to enjoy this ride from today.
Uma-Ele Joseph, honored to be on your team.
Thank you so much Dr!!! I can't get enough of your videos... they're so comprehensive and make so much sense! I'm so grateful for your advice and guidance 🙏 am lapping it all up, making mental notes, and determined to make a difference to the quality of life for my kids, myself and my team!!! God bless you for all your efforts to help us all. It's truly a blessing to have you provide us with your insights and wisdom!
Honored to be a part of your team, M S. We need each other.
Thank you so much for your videos. I’m not even sure how I came across your page but I’m so glad! #5 hit me the hardest, I have a 16 month old and 7 year old both boys and it’s hard to find a balance. 🧡
I'm glad you found Live On Purpose TV too, Liah Rose. It's an honor to have you here.
Wow, I really love the way you phrase things and put things into perspective.
Kaitlyn Owens, glad to have you at the channel.