How To Save Marriage On The Brink Of Divorce
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- Dr. Paul gives us simple principles to help save a marriage that is on the brink of divorce. Remember, easy and simple are not the same thing. These 3 principles include being grateful for your marriage and spouse so listen up.
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My wife has filed for separation. Im doing everything in my power to save this marriage! Im doing all the little things around the house and just trying to show her. Im praying to god 🙏 to keep my marriage to together!
Work on yourself and she will see the change. Let he see it, not just hear about it and she is more likely to give it another go.
@LiveOnPurposeTV ok thank you. I've been trying and just going to keep on trying!
@@bds8350 Yeah, keep going steadfastly, take the chance, don't ask for the chance - you have the chance everyday! Keep it up for at least 3 months, because she might have a huge sorrow to get through, and do recognise the interlaced stages of sorrow in her process. Be appreciative if she lets you know something about how she feels along the way, even if the feelings she shares are anger, disappointment, resentment, regret. Beyond them is often fear. What you respond with must also be 100% honest and no people-pleasing.
If she cries and yells and pounds your chest, tell her it is hard for you to hear that you have hurt her so much, but *you are not going anywhere, you are not leaving her* because of these feelings and their expressions. Say that you are sorry, but most of all: tell her that you are determined that you as a couple can handle this, if "we just give it time and if we practice to stay together and to live in true peace and harmony, ups and downs and all. Tell her that *you* will keep trying!" Don't leave it to God, he has given you all you need to do this. So do it, stay put and invite your wife to the new stage in your marriage where you, her husband, are taking this very seriously. "We can handle this!" Speak in a tender and determined voice, remember that. Voice and body language is 100% of the communication, when there is tensions. But repeat good and only good words. Do things she has asked for a long time already! Arrange things! Improve things. Finish unfinished business. Show your manly capacity in all things in life. And add some romantic appreciative and elevating gestures. Don't let her guess your intentions: she is not a mindreader. Confess: "I bought five kinds of flowers for you because I have forgotten which ones are your favourites."
You are not going to be her door-mat and slave, but be the one who can help her have a life in which she thrives - by taking any directions, tips, and hints that you haven't been too appreciative about before. Give her time to start to believe in this change!
I recommend Stephen Covey: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - be (become) such a man, in a way that is *visible* and 100% comprehensible and believable to your wife, and she will fall for you again.
Me and my fiancé just split. She moved back into her moms yesterday and it’s the first night we spent separated for almost 4 years. It put things into perspective and was a wake up call for me. I realized how much of the issue I was. I’ve been able to self reflect and realize why things were the way they were for us. I’ve realized I love this girl to death and I’ll do anything to save this and to propose to her again. We gotta change for ourselves first and everything will click or fall back into place. I wish you good health and happiness on your journey of things. If you truly love her, you got this bro. We got this, let’s get our ladies back
I feel for you. 5 weeks in my separation. She's walking away from me unintentionally emotionally neglecting her
“If you want an easy solution; you’re gonna have to find another channel!”... you got my attention! 💕
Haha, glad I captured your attention, Mariana Munoz. Thank you for watching, I hope you found something valuable in the video.
Well said. We need to pay the price.
I don't know where the videos on what i could be working on are, but I need to find them to change, to save my marriage of 24 yrs. And I did almost everything wrong that could've been done. Nothing physical, but everything else. Lots of prayers.
Just saved my marriage for another day! 🙌🏻
Honored to be on your team.
How
One day at a time!
Love your outlook!
We are at the brink. I watched your vid today. After dinner I wrote down my 25 gratitude. Then I asked my husband to do the same.
We read each other gratitude out to one another, it was the first time I saw my husband cried so hard. So hard that he is sobbing. We both cried and hugged and cried for good 30 mins. I never knew gratitude is so powerful. We still dont have a solution yet but I would like to thank you for this vid. I've never seen this side of my husband, he poured his heart out. I told him we are going to do this gratitude for 5 days. Let's hope for a miracle.
Giliang Chen, thank you so much for sharing your experience with me. I am so glad the 2 of you were humble enough to do the gratitude exercise. Gratitude is very powerful. I have done several videos on that subject. Here's a couple if you're interested:
"How Gratitude Can Change Your Life" - ua-cam.com/video/jKDOl8g__pw/v-deo.html
"Why Is A Gratitude Journal Important?" - ua-cam.com/video/ZHArAp8n-Eg/v-deo.html
We also have a Positive Relationship Resources playlist, for more helpful tips: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX.html
Thanks for watching - I'm honored to be on your team.
Love
How did it go?
What happened????
My partner and I aren't married however we've been together for the better part of the past (nearly) 8 years. We've hit a really tough spot and I'm so grateful that you've shared this with me.
You've already helped me in being a better parent and helped me grow as a person.
I hope that this will help my partner and I save our relationship. I'm planning on using this model for the rest of the time we are together (which I hope turns into a marriage).
Thank you! I'm grateful for you and your team. You really are a bright light in the world. ❤
Thank you, Jennifer Hebert. I wish you well and hope you have much success.
Hey guys pray and keep praying and look for answers on UA-cam on how to pray the right way it will help to pray for others relationships/marriage too. Pray for others and even for your enemies.
BunnyDoc, good idea. Thank you for your positivity.
He's right, it's not easy. I used a resource I found online to help my failing marriage. Took some work but it helped tremendously.
Devin D, so glad you were able to get some results.
What was that
Wish you left a link to the resource that helped you.
@@lowerclassbrats77Me too, it would have helped me a lot.
I mean I’m here because I feel like I’m more alone in my marriage than when I was single and we had gotten a divorce and got back together to the same! Same crap! And again I’m just a roommate in the house and our son obviously can notice that. So I don’t know if I should just leave. He lies, stone walls me, and spent thanksgiving at his moms. I’m an idiot for getting back together but I love this video thank u and you are hilarious I love it .. I will use this video thank u
Jas E., I am glad you found value in the video. You are not an idiot; people love to love others, and be loved in return, and perhaps you thought it would be different a second time. Who knows, maybe it can be. I have an entire playlist dedicated to "How to Fix a Marriage that's been Damaged". If you think it might be helpful, you can find it here: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPD7ZFUy4BGprDhRq8tDD2yg.html. Also, we do have a promotion right now, where you can have a free 25 minute breakthrough call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If that sounds interesting, you can schedule that here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall. Thank you for watching.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV hi, I was wondering what kind of call it is? Do you give advice or reccomend programs/books/etc?
So it’s been a year later, did u try this? Did it work?
What did you do to contribute to the problem?
I’m literally freaking out I don’t want to lose my wife and family...thank you so much!!!! I’m
Going to try this. Wish me luck!
Wishing you all the best, izSpeshul! Thanks for being willing to try.
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I have been emotionally abusive to my spouse for the greater part of our 15 year marriage. I had a turn in my life a month ago and I'm committed to bettering myself. I love her dearly and I don't want to lose her.
It'll bring you to your knees, if not totally destroy you... embrace the challenge & find a way to win
It is currently 6am and I needed to stumble across this video. I am 100% committed to fixing my marriage. I have already made a list of things I need to work on myself to save my marriage and ready to start day one today! Hoping I can do this!
You CAN do it, Desiree Garcia. So glad you have begun.
How did it work out?
10 months gone already..I am just starting with my problems saw this video ..I am curious on whether it works or not...how are you doing?
IF there's one thing that WORKS, it is blessing him or her everyday. THAT is unconditional love in the purest form, blessing him everyday, and you watch, something will happen, it did for me and it will for you.
Well its been 11 months how are things
I came across your video on the internet. This is very helpful. I believe that all things work together for good to those who love God.
So true.
I am really in need of this.
Have a 3 yrs old daughter and a 6 months old son.
My family and I were separated due to the pandemic lock down between Singapore and Malaysia. Where I used to travel between countries daily.
I'm currently in Singapore, working and bringing the bread to home.
My wife has signal for a divorce.
God give me chance to find this motivation video.
God give me a wake up call.
Thank you Paul
You are welcome, Ryan Yong. Thank you for watching - honored to be on your team. We have more for you on our "How to Fix a Marriage that's been Damaged" playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPD7ZFUy4BGprDhRq8tDD2yg.html, as well as the Positive Relationship Resources playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX.html
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It took me until I was 33 years old to realize I had NO IDEA how to show my husband respect. I sometimes slip up but apologies go a very long way, and telling him when I was wrong and he was right!! He loves hearing “you’re right!!” 🥰🤣 As a result, he is so much more affectionate, happy, and always joking with me like we used to.
Kiwi K, it helps so much when couples can joke with one another. Humor is so helpful.
Respect is the groundwork for all good things
How is going now ? 😂
This is so imformitive,and useful.I am going to apply this in my marrige.God bless you ,for this information.
You are welcome, Steve Stegman. Thank you for watching and good luck creating a new marriage.
Very helpful will give it my best
Update, did this work?
Your giving me hope!
I've been so focused on building my business assets and own self that I have completely neglected what made her love me in the first place.
Glad you realize that! Better days ahead for you two.
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My marriage is hanging by a thread… She asked me for divorce and I said yes, but I love her and our family. I will take this challenge. As a husband, I was already doing the 95% months ago. As of now, I am still showing that I care by serving her, getting her stuff she like without her asking for them, and sometimes I try to hear her out even when she doesn’t want to talk to me. But I will still take the challenge and see what happens.
IPJ Home Solutions, I hope things change for the better and you two are able to build a new marriage.
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I love this video SO MUCH. I really appreciate you taking the time to help hurting families. I can't say thank you enough. I am about to take the challenge!!
You are welcome, Scott Barrett. I can't tell you how honored I am to have you at Live On Purpose TV and to have you try the challenge! Thank YOU for not giving up on your family.
Have you come across the book Cupid’s poisoned arrow?
Did it work?
I am sorry...I watch loads of your videos. I agree with all of the tips you usually give. This is unfortunately what I have been doing almost all of the 30 years being married to my narcissistic husband. I do not receive anything in return on his part...he just love being the recipient of all these things freely while not doing any one thing on his part. Marriage is work on both sides of the union. You can't force someone to be interested in their own marriage. He is just enjoying the part where he gets to be selfish and reap all the benefits while not bringing anything to the table.
Bronwen W, hopefully he will come to understand what he has to lose before he loses it.
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My wife moved out 4 months ago and we are in the middle of divorce proceedings. I have been kind and forgiving. I realize I was a big part of what started this and have been changing myself. There are boundaries where I can only talk about custody stuff and selling of the house stuff. Beyond that I can not say anything. I haven't given up but I don't think there is any hope.
Draggin' Wagon, it sounds like you are doing everything that is within your control, which is the only thing you can do. My sympathies are with you during this difficult time. Would she agree to marriage counseling? You have probably thought about it - maybe even done it - but I ask because some people disregard counseling because they either think it won't do any good, or there is a social stigma attached to it. If nothing else, I would like to be on your support team. Please consider browsing around on these playlists for more information and tools:
How to Fix a Marriage that's been Damaged - ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPD7ZFUy4BGprDhRq8tDD2yg.html
Positive Relationship Resources - ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX.html
Positive Personal Development - ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html
@@LiveOnPurposeTV we went to 2 councelling sessions together then our councelelor wanted to see each of us separately. By the time she had her turn she wanted a divorce. She won't go back with me.
Don't guilt yourself dude. You know what she did, now stand by it. Men have a bad habit of beating themselves up for things the woman was at fault for. We are constantly gaslit for being responsible for everything and we are not.
I just came across this video, my wife and I have been separated for nearly 4 months now. We've been going to weekly therapy sessions individually, spoken to priests, I've asked her on dates here and there and we enjoy dinner together. It's been very difficult for me, and her as well. If you days ago we talk and after She told me that She was having on difficult time sleeping missing me, I asked her to return home but she said she isn't ready. 2 days ago she told me she wants a divorce and I am absolutely devastated. We've been together 17 years, married 15 years and I will do absolutely anything to win her back.
That 95: 5% strategy is brilliant! I'm gonna try it.
Maedros Bott, it is worth the try.
❤️❤️❤️ literally on the brink! I will never give up!! I will give this a good fight! She is my one and my forever….
Pray for the biggest battle of my life. I don’t want to lose my wife. I love her so much!
@@joelroberta7029 thanks
I wish you the best.
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How are things now -
I would love to see a disclaimer here about the kind of marriages not worth saving, like when the husband is verbally or physically abusive or is an addict not seeking help. I am very happily remarried now--imperfect as we both are---but staying with my first husband would have been detrimental to the mental health of both myself and my children.
VegRunner 66, Safety is always first. And, like I say, it isn't a choice until you see it as a choice. This explains why some stay in abusive relationships. Until they see a way out, they don't take it.
Or if he slept with a prostitute 😶😓🤮
It's worked out for me. whtsap me let's chat better
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I saved my marriage a few times by just doing the gratitude thing daily. After 3 days usually I see a difference....it switches your mindset. Here we are 17 yrs later 😆
The problem with the gratitude is that once you see that everything is going well... you stop to do it and after a few months/yrs.... you're back to square one 😅 so you do it again, you feel it working... and you stop....again 🙄...it's a vicious circle....
In order to stay in the "euphoric state" you need to continue doing your gratitude 🙏
It changes everything 😊
Good point, the principles need to be in practice daily to maintain a healthy relationship.
I am so happy I found this video!! I knew it was meant for me when I saw my exact huge flower vase in the background (exact) this is day five of my gratitude experiment and I must say each day was better and better and I was so amazed how it worked and I felt so much better myself Day 1 I saw improvement, Day 4 we had dinner together and my spouse gave me one of the most passionate kisses and I almost jumped for joy, and this literally just happened hours ago❤ as I write this it's day 5 so everyone should try this because it works!! Thank you all so much, I will update you guys because I can't wait to see what today brings.
@Star Dancer 🖕🏽 Must be nice... Seriously though... I am legit jealous of you! I'm at the beginning of this separation. Every day has been some of the worst days of my life and nothing seems like it's going to change anytime soon because she barely texts me back and won't answer my calls... And she kicked me out of the house, and has the 4 kids to help with her emotions, as I'm trying to find a good parking lot to sleep in the back seat of my vehicle in the middle of winter in Northern Michigan.
@@I_Stuck_Ur_MomWhat exactly did you do in the relationship? How clean did you keep YOUR side of the street?
You don’t just get kicked out of the house for no reason.
Am I suppose to show him the gratitude list or just keep it to myself ?
while watching this, still hearing my wife voice causing me from the next room .God help me.Thanks so much, for this wonderful experience, im going to start working it out as from tomorrow being 05/10/2019.
Thank you for trying, Richyy Rob, honored to be on your team.
@Jimah Odianosen thanks so much can you share the perfect solution for me please ,i can wait for it dear.
I took him for granted and put so much extra stress on him for a very long time until he finally gave up. I'm gonna have to put in a lot more than 5 days work on this. But he's worth it. So I'll serve him from now on. If he'll still let me. 💔
You will find out where he stands with the challenge. I wish you luck.
I hope everything worked out 🥺
95/5 is good approach - be selfless
Yes, Herakles, and if you can build the trust again, then you will find she will be able to give you 95 when you need it.
😊Dr ALAKAZAM. Honestly I don’t know how to experience my feelings but I will forever great to you for bring back my ex wife 😊
This video assumes the spouse who filed is still "open" or vulnerable to your efforts and attempts at stopping it. There are spouses who will be glad that you're trying more and being a better "co-parent" if you have kids, because this gives them relief but will not take their foot off the divorce gas pedal. It just makes them think the process should go smoother. But their focus is always getting to the end of the divorce so they can say it's done. Then they can really embrace their rebound or start dating around and advertise the trauma and narrative about their decision.
If only I learned this earlier. 95-5. I’ve been doing the reverse. Now I have to change into positive changes immediately losing seconds. Thanks for the advice.
Honored to be on your team.
Its hard to do any of these things when after every fight your spouse gives you the silent treatment and stonewalls
rednailsNJ yea same here
🙋♀️ Add me to the list as well. Separated, in my 2nd week of no contact & it looks like divorce is inevitable 🥺
@@atheistinalabama4206 hang in there... At week two I felt the same way... If you two love eachother there's hope
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Thank you ❤️ It's nice to hear encouragement for a change💯 Unfortunately, I'm afraid the damage has been done, just by the way things went down & I have no trust in this man😢 I know in the end it will all be for the best but there are some things u just can't forgive.
rednailsNJ, if you want to save the marriage, sometimes a fight to the end is necessary. Is your spouse open to counseling? If so, then I encourage you to find a good marriage counselor. As one option, I would like to offer a free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If that sounds like something you'd be interested in, you can schedule the call here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
So, I just finished watching this video and I am sitting here with tears streaming down my cheeks because I now realize that I have failed my wife and the relationship as a result. Although we are not yet divorced I fear so much that it will end up that way and I DO NOT wish to be alone, or more specifically, without her! My wife is amazing in SO many wonderful ways. She loves fully and completely. She gives with her whole heart. My libido and sex drive have diminished and as a result my wife and I rarely connect sexually. Recently I have discovered that my testosterone is quite low. However, until now I have been too scared and anxious to do anything about it. I just hope that I am not too late. I love my wife and love our life together...it is time for me to step-up and be the man she deserves and needs.
Jay Reynolds, I am just now getting to your comment ... have you been able to do any of the experiment? I wish you and your wife the best. Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.
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These marital challenges sounds like regular issues and not applicable to abusive issues.
After 24 years of clinical experience with couples, I'm not sure what "regular issues" are any more. Principles determine all of life's outcomes! DrPaul
I am not questioning your years of experience and in fact applaud your work in this much needed area. I agree 100% regarding the application of principles. A principle I have learnt is that not even God himself can save anyone who first doesn't see themselves as a sinner much less us mere mortals. I wish you every blessing in your work ✌
Live On Purpose TV After 21 1/2 years of marriage, 3 rounds of couple’s therapy, and reading every Gottman book available, there is most definitely a difference between “regular issues” and a marriage where one of the partners is more interested in using and abusing the other partner than in fostering a mutually healthy relationship. Conflict resolution is non-existent with abusers, they live for conflict and chaos and twist everything to make themselves the victim. Mine even figured out how to weaponize the Gottman theories and techniques against me. Ie: “Oh contempt towards you upsets you? Well then, I’m gonna pour on the contempt even more than I did before!” If you haven’t done a video on divorcing a person with high narcissistic traits, call me. Mine has been going on for 3 1/2 years now and the level to which he will stoop to lie, cheat, steal and alienate me from everyone I love-including my daughter who hasn’t spoken to me in all this time (starting immediately after we separated-after being very close with me her entire life) is mind-blowing.
you are a genius doctor you put your hand right on the problem
Middle Ofno where. Thank you for watching.
I just wrote everything down. We are not on the brink of divorce. We are hitting a rough patch and I would rather get in front of it than to wait till it is too late. I will come back with an update. God bless you all.
Mrs. C.A.M., glad you are being proactive.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you 😊 me too.
I'm in distress and need to save my marriage. I've been so focus on other things - work, aging parents, childhood trauma, and now being laid off, that I completely forgot to nurture my relationship. Now my husband is gone and wants a break with very limited contact. I'm determined to change the course of this downward trajectory now that I'm aware of how much I've been negatively impacting him. Although I will respect his wishes for space, I will write the 20 things I'm grateful for and share it with him when he's ready to talk.
That is a great plan. Wishing you the best.
You failed.
I created an account to post, because I'm not ready to broadcast this to the world under my real name. I came to this video via direct search because my marriage is failing. I'm going to do this 5 day challenge, and it's actually not going to be that much of a change for me. #1: I've already been in this mindset for a few months. I assumed 95% of the focus for saving the marriage months ago... I've been actively working on improving my own contribution to "us" and it has not gone unnoticed. I do want her to put in more effort, but I'm not going to openly ask for her to do more... she's already doing enough. #2 Is new. I will be doing this. I'll share something on the list for #3 too each day. This part I have also been doing in some ways, except without explicitly understanding what I was doing or setting much of a clear goal. I really like the 4 ways to give. I took notes and will be keeping it in mind.
I see our biggest problem right now is connection. I can do all this stuff and treat my wife like the queen I want her to feel like, but if there's no connection between us, it's going to fail anyway.
I'll write the lists and step up my giving/sending/service game. I'll be back in 5 days but wanted to share ahead of time instead.
Glad you are holding yourself accountable by writing in and then letting me know how it went. If this does not get your spouse's attention, you may wan to consider some counseling.
How has it gone after the 5 days or last 2 weeks?
I am curious too because it’s been 2 years now. How did it all go?
4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse
1. Criticism
2. Defense
3. Contempt
4. Stonewalling
5 Day Experiment
1. 96:5 Responsibility
2. 25:5 Gratitude
3. Give, Send and Serve
GIVE: 4 Social Gifts - Appreciation, Connection, Enlightenment, Elevation
SEND: Message: That you value the relationship
SERVE:
You have all the elements.
Yes,I have been trying to not be critical which is a major fault I
wasn't so aware of.
Keep up the good work. ✌
Awareness is the first step to change, Plus Bonus. Glad you are on the path to positivity.
I am grateful for YOU and the fact that you make these wonderful videos to help people out there! Thank you! My husband and I have been through a LOT, and though we may not be on the brink of divorce, I feel that if neither of us try, we definitely could be. When I try, he tries. So when I see videos like this and my attitude changes, it changes the whole dynamic... so THANK YOU!! This is a great video!
tashball, it is so easy to get comfortable and forget that we have a part in the success of a relationship.
My wife doesn't want to try anymore cause I was a selfish jerk
I hope your right. I'm willing to do anything and put in *any* effort to get her to stay - she's the love of my life!
Be patient, Choppington Otter. Thank you for watching.
Ok I am going to try these things. Does this work if my spouse has anxiety that not only affects me but the kids and everyone else also?
Thank you for trying, Jen M. It can definitely help, just remember to be consistent. It usually takes a while to see improvements. There are other videos on the channel about anxiety. I hope these can help: "Self Care Strategies For Anxiety" - ua-cam.com/video/8fBVT6rUVg4/v-deo.html
"Overcome Fear And Anxiety" - ua-cam.com/video/aihKxrypVJA/v-deo.html
"How To Stop Overthinking Everything And Find Peace Of Mind" - ua-cam.com/video/Lgy0ErJQnYY/v-deo.html
You may also want to consider taking advantage of our free 25 minute call with one of my Live On Purpose coaches. Getting your spouse on the call would be additionally beneficial, so you could work together. If that sounds interesting, you can schedule here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
One more suggestion: I am giving away my book "Pathological Positivity" for free. (I just ask that you pay for the shipping.) A beautiful side effect of becoming more positive, is that is decreases our anxiety. If you would like a free book, please go here: drpauljenkins.info/freebook
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Just watched your video, and i'm going to start my 5 day experiment,a lot of what you said made soooo much sense, he's been complaining about those specific things but didn't believe him. Sometimes hearing it from someone else point if view helps to open your eyes and mind a little more. Thank you. Will post updates during my 5 days.
Queen BB, awsome, glad you are giving it a go.
Live On Purpose TV well? It worked wonders, i must say, and i have a nee appreciation for my hubby, i'm seing things positively and differently, sometimes you lose track of what is most important in life and marriage, im very thankful 🙏🏻
This is really difficult to do when my husband doesn't even speak to me but if I get the chance I'll do these things. Thank you.
Amber H, I hope he does and you can rebuild your relationship.
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Really needed to see this. I love my husband so much and I want to do everything I can to help things between us. Thank you so much!
Ashley Hicks, there is hope and you can do it.
Ashley Austin I wish my wife had that attitude. We are separated and she wants a divorce. I love her and want to restore our marriage.
John Jaso I really hope things work out for you! I know it’s consuming when things are bad at home.
Ashley Austin it’s a compulsion in a sense I’m trying to fight off. Negative thinking and loss of hope is hard for me to shake off. Knees and crying out to the Lord is the norm.
@Leoncia Ciarra im afraid its over for us but wish you the best
One of the main reasons I fell in love with my spouse is that he helped me around the house. But now he doesn't do that at all.what should I do should I say something to him or should I just let it be because it's really wearing on me
B Adamson, have you told him how you feel? Ask him to partner with you in all aspects of your life.
I have asked and told he how i feel. He says i am nagging. I feel like he misrepresented himself.
Please continue making videos about marriage
We will! Thank you for your comment!
Great advice. My wife and I are currently in counseling. We both have anger issues. I admit I have anger toward her and am working to resolve, BUT...our sex life is awful, and has always been that way. I give it 1/2 stars. This makes me very resentful (and angry). I love her but the lack of sex is just unbearable.
Thank you for watching and commenting, Matt Portnoy. I am glad that you and your wife are going to counseling; it really can help. Hopefully once you have improved other areas of your marriage, the intimacy will get better as well. We do have some relevant videos on the channel, if you are interested:
"How To Stop Being Angry All The Time" - ua-cam.com/video/4ef8LRHB5AI/v-deo.html
"How to Fix a Marriage that's been Damaged" playlist - ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPD7ZFUy4BGprDhRq8tDD2yg.html
Live On Purpose TV thanks...we just had a HUGE blow up. She walked out, no keys, no phone, no jacket. I really think she’s going to leave tomorrow. Even the smallest, most innocuous discussions turn ugly fast. It’s like I just can’t talk to her at all anymore.
@@mattportnoyTLV I am very sorry to hear that. I hope she is OK and comes back tonight. I have a couple more videos for you to watch, if you are willing:
"How To Forgive Someone Who Keeps Hurting You" - ua-cam.com/video/xx-wJcCoVD0/v-deo.html
"How To Say Sorry For Hurting Someone You Love" - ua-cam.com/video/0iNknc8Rtoc/v-deo.html
I hope you these videos help and your relationship can start to heal. Best wishes.
Sorry if this is a silly question but do we both do this at the same time or do I do 5 days then she does 5 days?😞
Hope it got better for you
Even when I apologize it doesn’t do anything. I try to explain my thought process my actions the distractions I had when he feels I don’t care for his feelings and he doesn’t consider them . I know it can’t be resolved but understanding shows I wasnt just being neglectful
You two might need help with communicating with each other.
Can you tell me how you would handle being in a relationship with a toxic mate who is narcissistic and is customarily speaking to me in a demeaning and hurtful way going on 18+ years?
Maria B, please keep watching the videos and you will hear me say that you need to get clear on what you control and what you don't. If this has been going on over 18 years, then it probably isn't going to change. You are the one that can change and decide what you want to put up with. If you want to make different choices, that is always an option. It is an option to allow things to happen as they always have. Which one will lead to happiness for you?
Read the book of Proverbs. The answers are there. Good luck.
I’m here trying to save my marriage, my wife and I just now spoke about divorce and she’s in the thinking process. Right now.
I'm about to try this out, I tried it yesterday and noticed that the reminder of I'm in charge of 95% helps so much as a rational to do a better thing. Where I had an issue yesterday was when I was at my limit trying to do multiple things keeping a kid calm while helping to feed the other and then being asked to do a third thing, I got annoyed then thought back 95% and calmed down but that was when I noticed my thought was can't you see how much I'm doing right now and not well I'm in charge of 95%
Thank you for sharing. You are doing your best and as long as you know that you can keep the frustration down.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I'm just getting that feeling that every time I was at rest or on the cellphone and my wife was annoyed at me because she was doing a lot more then I noticed, and now the shoe is on the other foot and I understand her frustration hahahahaha
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I’m starting this experiment today. My wife doesn’t want to separate but we are hurting badly, because of me. Thank you for this video!
You can do it!
Amen!
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How do you do this experiment when you’re separated? And were served divorce papers today?
Alverto Martinez, work on yourself as much as you can. As for your spouse, if there is any contact keep it positive and express gratitude. Best wishes my friend.
Thank you !!! I’m on it!!! Can’t wait to share after five days!!
You got this! Let us know.
OMG it really works for me he came back to me 🌹🌹I'm so glad it worked out
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More than 5 days have passed, care to share Shannon? :)
What do we actually do after 5 days?. What is the next step?. I’m really curious as what we’re suppose to do next.
Thanks for watching the video, Joanna Riseley. After the 5 days, assess how your marriage relationship is. Is it better than before? Were you consistent in trying the challenge? Did your spouse respond? Ask yourself these questions (please don't answer them here). : ) If you did notice a difference, that's great, keep it up! If not, look for ways to power things up even more; maybe you can do another 5 days, maybe have a conversation with your spouse to try to find out what is important to them. If things do not seem to be getting better, please consider going to marriage counseling. Counseling really can save marriages.
I tried
Edit: I'm gonna try harder
I like that you are not giving up, Bmack776. If you make the decision to leave, then you will know you did everything you could.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV it's really tough, but I will proceed with love in my heart and a good attitude. Thank you for posting the video.
I asked my husband for advice on this, and he had some great suggestions. Now, all I gotta do is exercise the discipline, respect, and care for him to follow them.
brightpage1020, I wish you two the best.
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This comment is GOLD. Too many people give changing in marriage lip service but their actions speak volumes.
Often when women are done in a marriage they are DONE.
A Husband can say, “I’ll do ANYTHING to save my marriage.” but his inconsistent effort over time proves that his comfort level matters more to him than the Wife does.
And if he has severely wounded her by infidelity, the ONE thing she needs is to feel like she MATTERS. Because nothing makes you feel more worthless than being cheated on and replaced by someone she erroneously thinks is ‘better.’
When consistent efforts are too ‘hard’ for the Husband and he slips into complacency she feels like he thinks she isn’t worth the trouble. This reinforces the notion that she doesn’t matter to him.
This is one reason women walk away. It seems easier to live alone than live with the pain of being reminded how worthless you are.
Men who cheat have NO idea how much deep damage they have done. This stuff isn’t just going to go away on it’s own. You have to WORK at fixing what you nearly destroyed.
She may forgive, but believe me, she will NEVER forget. And she will be battling that pain that YOU caused forever.
The repairs could last a LIFETIME.
If you say you value your Wife - ACT like it. And don’t stop when you get tired or lazy. If you cheated you are SO close to losing everything near and dear to you. Some women leave their men after 15 years of halfhearted repair work.
Don’t let that be YOU.
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My s/o tells me I get content and lazy within our relationship and it's TRUE because in my mind I think that it's just good enough that I do what I have to do. I want to lift him up and make him feel loved, thank you for this real advice that isnt just telling me to leave him because he isn't who I want him to be in my mind. I appreciate honest advice.
Succ Wong, we want to go through the hard times so our relationships can be stronger. Build that foundation.
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I ruined my marriage, we are in the middle of divorce, and there is an injunction(based on false allegations), but in any case this is golden, and I am pumped to try this out and see if I can still save our marriage. It worth saving!!
I wish you luck.
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I wish I would of watched this video sooner. Thanks for the info though. Very useful. Thank you and God bless.
Glad it was helpful!
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Well...I used to give all of me before, trying to sort things out. I stopped doing all the things that used to annoy him, I even started to breathe for him and it seems that more and more things adds up...he constantly has something to criticize about me and I'm sick and tired of trying just to find out that in the end I get even more criticize, all I do I bad and wrong, whatever I do doesn't please him so I started to ignore him completely but even so I don't get peace, he still screams at me out of nothing...I don't know if I have any power left to do all this again, it's a lot of work you're asking for, I've been there, but I'll try it again, LAST TIME shot, we shall see if it works...thank you so much!🥰
Myra Myra, I am sorry you are going through this. It may be good so if the relationship does end, you will know you have done everything you could.
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Its well.. how are you now? As a Christian, I ve seen the tremendous power of prayer... God created him, and he can change his heart ! Just ask God to help you.. that's why Jesus came.
I’ve done all this and don’t have any problem on keep on doing it, but long should I expect her to react positively?
Tony Saunders, if she is showing more interest in the marriage I would continue. If not, that is your message about how invested she is in the relationship. Time to talk or get some counseling so the marriage can be fulfilling for both of you.
Sir trying to write a gratitude list but u said no points should be repeated in to tomorrow's list but very difficult I mean especially about spouse and marriage same things come to mind any suggestions...?
nb, think very small. Don't think too large.
My wife and I had financial problems which resulted in a negative attitude towards one another. I had to work a lot to keep us financially stable as a result I was told all I do is worry about money. Covid happened and I had to deploy to the border near Mexico. I’ve been away for a year. Went home on leave for 10 days and it was great. I’m a month out now from coming home and all of a sudden she’s not sure if she wants me back. Being away and not knowing what to do. I feel helpless. I know what I need to do to better myself. I’ve sought personal counseling to develop my psyche so I can be better for her and the kids. However this feeling of hopelessness is absolutely crushing me. We’ve been married 16 years. Our anniversary is a week after I come home. At a loss
phillyfan, hopefully she can see that there is something worth saving here. Work on yourself and get her an anniversary gift. Express your love and commitment to her and your family.
If she loved you once she can love you again.
Do what you did in the beginning.
Act exactly like you did when you were dating her and watch what happens.
I hope neither one of you cheated because if so, there is a lot of specific repair work to be done.
This takes longer than anyone would like.
Sweeping it under the rug will only make it worse.
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I have a question . Do I have to show this to my wife each day? Or is this something I keep to myself?
Whichever you think is best, galandrius. It might be interesting to talk about.
Live On Purpose TV I don’t know if she will be happy or she probably won’t want to see it. Say if I decide to share it with her, what do you think should I read it to her or just give it to her for her to read on her own ?
Watch it together and then you can discuss what you each think.
Plan sounds GREAT! But we are on limited communication. That is where this is going to be hard to do. Any tips? I would definitely try any tips to make sure this whole thing works.
Micheal Graziani, thanks for watching and being open to trying new things. We have several videos on communication. I hope you can find what you're looking for here:
"How To Improve Communication In Marriage" (with my wife Vicki) - ua-cam.com/video/b6MycuRtTxo/v-deo.html
"How To Improve Communication In Marriage" - ua-cam.com/video/oKOA92c_8_U/v-deo.html
"How To Communicate With Your Spouse" - ua-cam.com/video/oAeA3b_3CXQ/v-deo.html
My wife is having an affair and focusing on that relationship instead of ours. Married 10 years, 2 small kids and she is blocking out the feelings for us, rewriting history and not doing anything to work on us. Is this still recommended?
crazyk9, it is up to you. You can decide if you want to fight for the relationship or if it is not going to serve you and your children. So much to think about.
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what do I do if my husband doesn't want to talk to me? We've been separated for a week and he doesn't want to talk to me. 😭
He might need a little time. Wait a bit, work on yourself and then see if he is open to talking.
How do you save a marriage where my wife took off to another state with our kids and disappeared for over 6 months, and now we both have restraining orders against eachother? I also believe that she has a new boyfriend. I only get to see our kids on facetime a few times a week, and have to go to the other state to have supervised visits. It just feels impossible... I just want my family back
Custodial Custodian, I can hear your pain at being separated from your kids. Since you have restraining orders against each other, it will be hard to talk to one another and work out the problems. Always be positive with the kids and leave the door open for her to speak with you. I hope her heart softens and you are able to communicate about your problems and how to handle them productively and positively with the children involved.
Dump her!
Very good video. I enjoyed it even though it may be too late for my marriage. Before I watched it I was planning on leaving and divorcing. Now I’m thinking I might just leave for a week and calm down and consider.
I wish you the best, Kate.
We been separated for 3 months now. The past few weeks she has barely spoken to me, says shes not attracted or in love with me anymore. We’ve both made mistakes but I want to try and save this. But its starting to feel hopeless.
glenn martin, I am sad for you. Give her something to be attracted and in love with. Show kindness, show interest in her. Be tuned in to her wants and needs.
Live On Purpose TV i’m trying to give her the space she wants and to listen when she does have something to say. I’m not giving up hope and I appreciate your words!
My wife has filed but said she’s keeping her options open, but she asked me to leave to give her and my daughter space once again, which I am going to do but my move in date with a short term lease starts on 7/15 I’m scared that when I’m out she will continue towards the divorce.
I guess that could happen, but it could happen with you there since she has already filed. I hope you can put everything back together.
I need guidance. How does this program work if we are separated. How do we apply the 95:5 program. Thank you.
Kelvin Chu, apply the program with whatever contact you have with your spouse. They may be limited but they will build on one another. Thank you for watching.
Thank you sir! This should help me a lot! I will fight for my marriage
Julio C, that is wonderful! Glad you are willing to give it a another try.
Would it be a good or bad idea for both people to do the 5 day challenge at the same time?
It is fine to do then at the same time, Alyson Dundas. It is all about putting the other person first an thinking about them.
Currently packing myself and daughter up to head back home to my parents.
Currently I’m in Hawaii and my parents live in VA..
My husband and I are going to separate for more than 6 months for sure..
I’m more scared than anything but I know it’s for the best either way.
How do I go on and not worry about him having someone over to our home or talking to other women?
That’s the hardest part for me is not knowing what’s going to be going on when I do leave.
Madi Blake, thank you for watching Live On Purpose TV. This is a difficult time for sure. Please remember what you can control and what you cannot. You can't control your husband, what he does, who he sees, etc. However, you can control your actions, thoughts, and feelings. Find positive things to do during this time of separation. If you want to work on yourself, we have a Positive Personal Development playlist for you - ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html. A good one to start with might be "How To Stop Worrying About Everything" - ua-cam.com/video/uFX4x7KvQ3o/v-deo.html
Live On Purpose TV thank you so much for responding! I will watch these immediately and start to figure out a way to focus on positive and things in my control
Thank you for making this video!
Thanks for making this! I will try the 95:5 and what also that was explaind in this.
ClearWay Law, you are welcome.
I ( think ) i’m on the brink of a Divorce to. On easter my wife told me that she lost feelings for me. And that she don’t know if she wants to stay with me anymore . She wanted a break. We don’t sleep together anymore. We almost don’t talk anymore. Because she want distance. We have a child and we take care of her together And communicatie about our child. But further no connection. I really don’t know what i did wrong but she also don’t give me further information .
I’m just exhausted. I work hard every day. We have a nice house. There is financial security. She can do and have what she wants. I created a safe bubble for our family. I never cheated. I always treaded her with respect. And i was there for her in her darkest times. It’s very hard to be punished. But you don’t know what you did wrong.
JDN Rotterdam, It is time to work and care for yourself as this seems to be consuming you. Decide what you are o.k. with and what you aren't. Ask her to go to counseling and see what she says. That will tell you a lot about where she is at.
What do you do, when you have been doing this for practically all your marriage - yet, don’t even get a thank you. I have done everything for us as a family, he goes to work, which I am always so appreciative of (I work too) and get absolutely no acknowledgement- it hurts so much.
CherryLipgloss1000, we come to a point where we have to decide how we want to live our life. Your choice.
This is so meaningful. I'm thankful to find this today. More than words can say.
S Melograno, I am glad you are part of our community.
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So I tried this. It definitely worked, but I was absolutely miserable. I could hardly get her to do something as a family let alone the two of us. Also when I would commit socially, she would always start talking about all of our problems, never able to just have a conversation other than about disagreements. I felt like I was her puppet. I felt like I was the only one putting in work for the health of our marrige, no compromise, just me doing whatever she wanted and more. I don't want to live like this.
Wonderful! Better days ahead for you.
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I have to say, you are fun to watch and real smart too😊. I have a question though, can this work on a covert narcissist? Nothing I do or say is good enough. He is never happy about anything and he keeps changing rules and expectations. It's either I tiptoe around him or we have explosive fights over anything or stone walling. We've been married for 21 years and he is 17 yrs older than me. I truly believe that he hates me. He tells me I can leave if I want, I think he wants to play the victime if I do it instead of him. I'm not perfect, I have always taken the blame for everything and prayed for years (still do) for God to change me and save my marriage but I am stuck. I know we are basically done but we have 3 children (12, 17, 20) not to mention the culture and religious considerations. I don't know what to do
Muziklove1975, thank you for watching the video and putting forth effort to save your marriage. Would your husband be open to trying counseling? Some people are resistant to it, but it really can help. We have a free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches available. Perhaps that would be a good start. If it is something you want to continue with, you can either continue with your coach, or find another counselor elsewhere. To schedule, go here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
If that is not something your husband is willing to do, how about watching some videos on this channel? We have a "How to Fix a Marriage that's been Broken" playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPD7ZFUy4BGprDhRq8tDD2yg.html, and a Positive Relationship Resources playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX.html
Best wishes.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV is the 25 minute call with one of the coaches still available? My husband and I are not living together, but we love each other a lot, he's said it. But he sounds like he's in depression, saying he isn't happy and he wants to be alone and he's already checking for divorce. It's very hurtful and we also have a son. I think he would be open to the 25minute call, probably not to much to me trying, but I guess I don't lose anything trying. Please advise me Dr. And thank u!
@@orangejuice393 Yes! The call is still available. DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
I've kind of been doing this for 21 years, and still she recoils at my touch. Yes there is trauma in her past. Yes, we have seen 7 therapists. Yes, I realize I play a part (how could I not), but still we have a sexless marriage. A non intimate relationship. We make an amazing business partnership, co-parents, and planners, but we're lousy at marriage.
Jay, I am so sorry. Don't give up and keep searching for another therapy or therapist.
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How does this apply if my spouse has moved out, wants a legal separation, and is living with another female?
Teresa Mendiola, you can fight to the end if you aren't divorced yet. You decide what you want to do.
Don't give up.
how would some of the later concepts in the video be applied when your separated spouse wants space and only wants to talk one day a week about our children unless its important in order to give her her space I feel I need to give it to her to show I truly care but at the same time I feel it is difficult for me to show her and make her feel more confident about my changes and want to work on the marriage with so little contact
Rug Time Toys, Work on yourself during this time. She will see the difference when you do interact. You can let her know what you are doing and that will give her something to think about when you are apart.
my marriage is going down and I feel like the days I watched my brother die of brain Injury. I know we are separating, and my wife seems to have made her mind. its hard to know she's is seeing someone, I just dont know what and how to go about it.
Daniel Od, it is difficult to go through. If you and your wife want help, give my assistant a call.
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Just think....If we ALL did the 5 day challenge (each week!) and started it over each time.....We wouldn't have lost that loving feeling to begin with!!!
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It is worth our effort.
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Listened to this today. Took notes. Look forward to the experiment. Thanks! 👍
Thanks, VID801. Hope it goes/went well. Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.
Ive been served papers wife is done tried everyting to restore marriage sence sep 2019 no contact for months
I wish you the best. Can you show her anything concrete that you have worked on? How you have changed?
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Pride and Ego is the root of all evil
Agreed.
Idk what to do...I will try this
You can do it!
I like this dude's up beat attitude. I'll give his advice a go.
Idiotic Tirades, thanks, I wish you the best.
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But what if you're seperated and my husband doesn't want to talk or see me at all?? I have been doing no contact for 8 months now
Drkmoon Drkmoon, there might not be too much you can do if you have reached that point. The best thing for you to do is to work on yourself and become the best you can be for this relationship or the next.
18 years of relationship, 12 years of marriage, 95:5 has to been two sided. Only one person doing this over a long period of times is way too exhausting and draining if a simple "SERVE" is not something he will do despite self acknowledging his contribution to the family asking ne to be grateful for having a man who is willing to share the house chores. This isn't all about a spouse. I don't need a maid spouse !! Why is it I am always the one stsying awake searching for ways while he is sound asleep ?? This is driving me crazy over time !!
esther Wong, I hope you can talk to someone who can help you to figure out the answer to these questions. It sounds as though you want more of a partnership. If you want to see what services we have, talk to one of our coaches at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Hi Dr. Thanks for your brief yet deep and meaningful response. I went through articles about partnership in a marriage and true enough i have the same feeling that we are lacking all the criterias of being a true partner. I have been the dominant but i never want an obedient husband to just follow my command. It is stressful to have them all on my plate. I never want to overruled and holding all the power, i somehow wish to have someone to rely on for certain decision. I wish he could involve more spiritually when planning for our daughter's upbringing instead of me doing all the thinking, planning and handling. I am not borne strong, but i chose to grow stronger because I don't wish to put all burden on his shoulder. This in turn created his low esteem. I rather be an ordinary woman while he be the leader if that make a sense to a happier marriage. Being supportive is not just keeping quiet and follow. Loneliness is what left in me while holding on the family for my daughter's good sake 🥺
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I feel sorry for my daughter having brought to this family that seems to have everything but in fact nothing. A big house without love, toys without companion. I have filed a divorce anyway as i am losing control over my emotion, losing focus over my child developnment, this is indifferent from a broken family. Perhaps divorce is really inevitable 😕
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This was so good!!! We were there and went to therapy but like you said after time we kept reflecting on the past! I wanted to know how to move forward. It was all my feelings that were shut off it's the worst feeling. Regardless I know you can get those back and marriages can go through that. It's worth the fight. This is what I was looking for. Thank you! God bless!
Cassie Gardner, thank you, it is worth the fight. Good luck.
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