I actually am getting "I am" tattooed on me soon, for this reason. I personally associate "I am" with power, positivity and growth. But the problem is, I often forgot I Am anything at all! I'd like to get the tattoo on my wrist (and technically upside down, but the tattoo's for me so pfft) so that I see it everyday and am reminded of how amazing I really Am! Weeeee!
I can, I have, and I will! Great video. I identify with it so much. I have had those experiences getting established on and establishing my own private rural acre. So much work, some fulfillment, yet a void that isn't filled. This really made me feel like that disintegrates into the self-presence and satiated self-efficacy that clears your mind, soul, and improves how you feel and how you feel about yourself and achievements.
Watching this has made me realise that I have low confidence not low self esteem. I generally quite like myself and am happy with who I am, but I constantly fear messing things up and have terrible social anxiety. That must be why a lot of therapy techniques I've done in the past haven't worked. So how do I get confidence?
Julia, one thing I am noticing is that as I change and get more comfortable with myself I am a bit more VOCAL about my opinions. Not mean, or pushy, just speak up a bit more. I am noticing people are not used to this especially from me. I am noticing people, primarily my family, doesn't know how to cope with the "new me" so to speak and it feels like they can't enjoy time with me now. Why is it, THE WHOLE WORLD is allowed to have opinions and tell me all about what they think, but when I decide I would like to have an opinion, and speak up about it, others are offended? Do people only want to hang around others who ONLY agree with then? Could you do a video on this?
What makes your videos/advice stand out from others (In my opinion) is the focus on how simple details can evoke growth and change, effectively making one self-aware of our responsibility to ourselves. You communicate strong messages without sounding preachy. So much value on this channel, thank you for posting.
Julia Kristina Counselling Erica, there are few things that mean more to me than what you’ve said here. Thank you. So grateful to have you in my camp❤️
Erica V I went to a professional therapist thinking I would be understood, but instead I have never felt so judged. I thought I was there to get help. Not feeling ten time worse about my self, my emotions and thoughts. Julia is a person that doesn’t do that. She helps you to think it through and come to your own conclusions instead of telling you “what to do”. A rare talent in this time and age.
I am pretty tired from all the 'could be' and 'might be' uncomfortable worries that go through my mind-- it's been happening for so long it's become almost completely subconscious and automatic. *I can and I have done hard things* >: )
Phillip Rajcany our thoughts are so powerful, and if it became automated fro you, it became unconscious. You can change those worries again, just like they entered your subconscious, you can retrain your brain to get automated opposite thoughts, the thoughts that are not worries. This takes time and effort, but you can retire your brain. What you learned, you can also unlearn.
My teacher in grade 4 planted the seed of self efficacy that has supported me through many challenges. When struggling through frustration about a school project to the point of tears, he said that I was tenacious and that I had what I needed to solve the problem. It’s amazing how his encouraging words have helped me through the big problems, the frustrations, and self doubt.
Do you have advice for someone who is just "fumbley" in general. I have fumbled through all of my successes. I fumble every day in the job that I have been good at for years! I'm good at drawing blood, I've been good at it for years but every time I still kind of fumble my way through it. I somehow give off the vibe that I'm inexperienced when I'm not. I've had patients ask me if I'm a student, and in my head I'm like, "umm no I've been at this for years, I've drawn blood from babies and frail old ladies." But you wouldn't know it looking at me (until I do the stick and they're like, "wow no one ever gets me on the first try!") I fumble through the morning routine I do EVERY morning and even my hobbies that I've been at since I was a kid. ...I'm sorry this comment got so long,
And I kind of feel the need that I'm not "being too tough" on myself. I mean, sometimes I am, especially when it comes to making mistakes at my job (medical field... people's lives..) but I'm also aware that there are times where it seems like I was magically carried though certain things... Like basic training in the Air Force, my flight and I knew they were carrying me. And I know that I was handed the job I have now because I literally replaced myself when I eventually got kicked out of the military. (My work family hired me as a civilian to replace my position... If that makes sense?)
I shared your 25 ways to say No, as well as you method of asking yourself "Is This Worth It" when dealing with a moment of anxiety with my psycoligist and she said both are wonderful and actual asked me to send her the 25 Ways To Say No so she can use it in her methods she uses with others
I can and I've done hard things! 😎 Oh, yeah! 🤔 To be completely honest, I can use more confidence in some fields, part of me gets pretty insecure about taking action, not because of lack of self-esteem (I do like myself, LOL) but because of the idea of not knowing how to manage situations... I know life doesn't come with a manual but wouldn't be nice have one with all the codes to respond properly to each situation? 😂 Nice video, love it!
I can and have done hard things, but I find my self in 44 years of life always having to do this , and I am not sure if I can keep living life like this
katia correia learning about anxiety helps a lot and it’s so good you’re doing this. By learning, you’re actually becoming more self aware of what’s going on within you and that’s the key to get rid of it, for good! Cheering you on!
Crisp descriptions. I learnt about something new today, self efficacy. I thank you. I shared your video before I was through watching it, hence my comment is edited.
I can say with high confidence that your video is somewhat flawed. You are confusing competence with confidence. I am sure you know people that are very competent but don't display/have confidence - and vice versa. Also, you are using 'confidence' and 'self-confidence' interchangeably - not too concerning but also not very accurate. You yourself are a great example of someone displaying high self-confidence, which is the key for success as a youtuber or eg. sales person - but at the same time this has nothing to do with your competence. You are certainly not a bad actor, so this is just a friendly reminder to self-review your content. Watch out for overconfidence, (logical) inconsitencies etc. I was looking for a proper definition of self confidence vs. self esteem - which is absolutely essential - but so far couldn't find it on yt. However, you seem to be one the few to even distinguish the two concepts, so thumbs up for that. 🙂 Cheers from Germany, Marcus.
Thank you for explaining the difference. I thought I wanted to be a confidence coach but my purpose is more aligned to being a self esteem coach/mentor🥰
oh i kidna get this. I used to be confident(I can be successful, make money, professionally succeed, my skills are great and I'm smart) but used to have no self esteem at the same time(nobody likes me, I'm worthless, I'm just an object and tool and don't deserve to be loved, no one wants to be friends with me, no one can love me). There were areas in my life i was confident in and areas where I just had 0 confidence/efficacy, like making friends and maintaining relationships, which is funny becuase I actually had lot of friends and always made friends wherever I went..omg yeah i know exactly that sliding off feeling, nothing sticking... so sad!
In my personal experience, confidence is not something you can pull out of your ass whenever you like, as the deluded Tony Robbins seems to think. Self confidence is increased with many little successes, and in turn builds self esteem, which builds self belief. People who do not believe in themselves don't have self confidence or esteem. What matters is working through limiting beliefs, and replacing them with strong supporting beliefs, which are not based upon what the world thinks of us, but what WE think of ourselves.
Hmm... I wonder: perhaps we as a society are having such self esteem issues due to our continued rejection of God or any idea of a creator. Am I a being created in the image and likeness of a God who loves me unconditionally; a key part of His eternal plan? Or am I a highly ordered puddle of mud, an accidental creation of an uncaring universe? If we take the position of the latter, where do I find my value? Me and everyone I know will likely be dead and forgotten in about a century. It's hard to feel valued from that perspective. But I guess you're not allowed to say such things as an unbiased therapist... I notice that you and many others often send the message of "you are enough" (which is a fine and lovely message), but no one ever seems to say *why* I am enough. I think this is what makes the message difficult to believe, at least for me.
WOW you are so gifted in helping others! What a blessing you are to so many and me. What mic are you using? I need one so I have been researching them but I haven’t seen that one and the sound is fantastic. Much Love.... xoxo I can and I have done hard things!
Personally, I feel the attribute I most aspire to maintain is my sense of self-efficacy, especially in response to external expectations. Thanks for articulating the differences, it helps to actually know the difference.
That was really great thank you - I love braking it down into the short phrases really helps to clarify it. I'm leading a self-esteem and confidence session and I think this distinction will be really helpful. Thanks for sharing
self-confidence: I CAN
self-efficacy: I WILL
self-esteem: I AM
❤ this
You got it😉🙌🏻❤️
What about "I Do?" (As in like a job or task you perform on a regular basis.)
Thank you so much
I actually am getting "I am" tattooed on me soon, for this reason. I personally associate "I am" with power, positivity and growth. But the problem is, I often forgot I Am anything at all! I'd like to get the tattoo on my wrist (and technically upside down, but the tattoo's for me so pfft) so that I see it everyday and am reminded of how amazing I really Am! Weeeee!
Would make sense. 😐
I can, I have, and I will! Great video. I identify with it so much. I have had those experiences getting established on and establishing my own private rural acre. So much work, some fulfillment, yet a void that isn't filled. This really made me feel like that disintegrates into the self-presence and satiated self-efficacy that clears your mind, soul, and improves how you feel and how you feel about yourself and achievements.
Watching this has made me realise that I have low confidence not low self esteem. I generally quite like myself and am happy with who I am, but I constantly fear messing things up and have terrible social anxiety. That must be why a lot of therapy techniques I've done in the past haven't worked.
So how do I get confidence?
Dido
How are you now..
Julia, one thing I am noticing is that as I change and get more comfortable with myself I am a bit more VOCAL about my opinions. Not mean, or pushy, just speak up a bit more. I am noticing people are not used to this especially from me. I am noticing people, primarily my family, doesn't know how to cope with the "new me" so to speak and it feels like they can't enjoy time with me now. Why is it, THE WHOLE WORLD is allowed to have opinions and tell me all about what they think, but when I decide I would like to have an opinion, and speak up about it, others are offended? Do people only want to hang around others who ONLY agree with then? Could you do a video on this?
I can and have done hard things. I will!
What makes your videos/advice stand out from others (In my opinion) is the focus on how simple details can evoke growth and change, effectively making one self-aware of our responsibility to ourselves.
You communicate strong messages without sounding preachy.
So much value on this channel, thank you for posting.
Julia Kristina Counselling
Erica, there are few things that mean more to me than what you’ve said here. Thank you. So grateful to have you in my camp❤️
Erica V So true!
Erica V I went to a professional therapist thinking I would be understood, but instead I have never felt so judged. I thought I was there to get help. Not feeling ten time worse about my self, my emotions and thoughts. Julia is a person that doesn’t do that. She helps you to think it through and come to your own conclusions instead of telling you “what to do”. A rare talent in this time and age.
@@juliakristinamah I love your videos; you seem like a really kind person, and I’m impressed with your knowledge ❤️👍🏽
I AM - that's what I need more work on! Thank you, Julia! Hugs from the other side of the screen :)
People hate you if you're confident and have self esteem.
I am pretty tired from all the 'could be' and 'might be' uncomfortable worries that go through my mind-- it's been happening for so long it's become almost completely subconscious and automatic.
*I can and I have done hard things* >: )
Phillip Rajcany I am also tired of over thinking everything! Yes for me subconscious and automatic
Phillip Rajcany our thoughts are so powerful, and if it became automated fro you, it became unconscious. You can change those worries again, just like they entered your subconscious, you can retrain your brain to get automated opposite thoughts, the thoughts that are not worries.
This takes time and effort, but you can retire your brain.
What you learned, you can also unlearn.
Totally. We forget how we got through things!
I am commenting as I watch it!
This woman takes a long time getting to the point
great .. you described the difference perfectly
My teacher in grade 4 planted the seed of self efficacy that has supported me through many challenges. When struggling through frustration about a school project to the point of tears, he said that I was tenacious and that I had what I needed to solve the problem. It’s amazing how his encouraging words have helped me through the big problems, the frustrations, and self doubt.
Do you have advice for someone who is just "fumbley" in general. I have fumbled through all of my successes. I fumble every day in the job that I have been good at for years! I'm good at drawing blood, I've been good at it for years but every time I still kind of fumble my way through it. I somehow give off the vibe that I'm inexperienced when I'm not. I've had patients ask me if I'm a student, and in my head I'm like, "umm no I've been at this for years, I've drawn blood from babies and frail old ladies." But you wouldn't know it looking at me (until I do the stick and they're like, "wow no one ever gets me on the first try!") I fumble through the morning routine I do EVERY morning and even my hobbies that I've been at since I was a kid.
...I'm sorry this comment got so long,
And I kind of feel the need that I'm not "being too tough" on myself. I mean, sometimes I am, especially when it comes to making mistakes at my job (medical field... people's lives..) but I'm also aware that there are times where it seems like I was magically carried though certain things... Like basic training in the Air Force, my flight and I knew they were carrying me. And I know that I was handed the job I have now because I literally replaced myself when I eventually got kicked out of the military. (My work family hired me as a civilian to replace my position... If that makes sense?)
I shared your 25 ways to say No, as well as you method of asking yourself "Is This Worth It" when dealing with a moment of anxiety with my psycoligist and she said both are wonderful and actual asked me to send her the 25 Ways To Say No so she can use it in her methods she uses with others
I can and I've done hard things! 😎 Oh, yeah!
🤔 To be completely honest, I can use more confidence in some fields, part of me gets pretty insecure about taking action, not because of lack of self-esteem (I do like myself, LOL) but because of the idea of not knowing how to manage situations... I know life doesn't come with a manual but wouldn't be nice have one with all the codes to respond properly to each situation? 😂 Nice video, love it!
Self Love is not arrogant
I can and I have done many hard things and managed to get through them all alive.
Amen.
Thanks again lol for your response. Take care
lupeholt thanks for your response
I have and I can do hard thinks am good enough I accept my self just like I am now I am love and blessings to others amen 🙏
I have confidence in lifting weights
I can
I will
I am
Julia you nailed it w/ this awesome video.
Thank YOU!
I can and have done hard things, but I find my self in 44 years of life always having to do this , and I am not sure if I can keep living life like this
I agree with you on self esteem... but
I thought confidence was a feeling... competence is what you want really.
But great you explained... thx 😄
Signed up to get your TOP 5 HEALTHY REMINDERS but they never showed up
Another great video as always!thank you Julia!!!!
Absolutely my pleasure Karina! Thanks for watching.
im dealing with anxiety and your videos are helping me so much :)
katia correia learning about anxiety helps a lot and it’s so good you’re doing this. By learning, you’re actually becoming more self aware of what’s going on within you and that’s the key to get rid of it, for good!
Cheering you on!
Crisp descriptions. I learnt about something new today, self efficacy. I thank you. I shared your video before I was through watching it, hence my comment is edited.
This is probably a stupid question but... Can self-confidence and self-efficacy decrease?
Also... I want to work on all three.
I can say with high confidence that your video is somewhat flawed.
You are confusing competence with confidence. I am sure you know people that are very competent but don't display/have confidence - and vice versa.
Also, you are using 'confidence' and 'self-confidence' interchangeably - not too concerning but also not very accurate.
You yourself are a great example of someone displaying high self-confidence, which is the key for success as a youtuber or eg. sales person - but at the same time this has nothing to do with your competence.
You are certainly not a bad actor, so this is just a friendly reminder to self-review your content.
Watch out for overconfidence, (logical) inconsitencies etc.
I was looking for a proper definition of self confidence vs. self esteem - which is absolutely essential - but so far couldn't find it on yt.
However, you seem to be one the few to even distinguish the two concepts, so thumbs up for that. 🙂
Cheers from Germany, Marcus.
Thank you for explaining the difference. I thought I wanted to be a confidence coach but my purpose is more aligned to being a self esteem coach/mentor🥰
I really love your summary...
I can (confidence)
I will (efficacy)
and I am (esteem)
...........holy moly!
Keywords of the year xD
Awesome! So glad it connected with you.
oh i kidna get this. I used to be confident(I can be successful, make money, professionally succeed, my skills are great and I'm smart) but used to have no self esteem at the same time(nobody likes me, I'm worthless, I'm just an object and tool and don't deserve to be loved, no one wants to be friends with me, no one can love me). There were areas in my life i was confident in and areas where I just had 0 confidence/efficacy, like making friends and maintaining relationships, which is funny becuase I actually had lot of friends and always made friends wherever I went..omg yeah i know exactly that sliding off feeling, nothing sticking... so sad!
In my personal experience, confidence is not something you can pull out of your ass whenever you like, as the deluded Tony Robbins seems to think. Self confidence is increased with many little successes, and in turn builds self esteem, which builds self belief. People who do not believe in themselves don't have self confidence or esteem. What matters is working through limiting beliefs, and replacing them with strong supporting beliefs, which are not based upon what the world thinks of us, but what WE think of ourselves.
Hmm... I wonder: perhaps we as a society are having such self esteem issues due to our continued rejection of God or any idea of a creator. Am I a being created in the image and likeness of a God who loves me unconditionally; a key part of His eternal plan? Or am I a highly ordered puddle of mud, an accidental creation of an uncaring universe? If we take the position of the latter, where do I find my value? Me and everyone I know will likely be dead and forgotten in about a century. It's hard to feel valued from that perspective. But I guess you're not allowed to say such things as an unbiased therapist...
I notice that you and many others often send the message of "you are enough" (which is a fine and lovely message), but no one ever seems to say *why* I am enough. I think this is what makes the message difficult to believe, at least for me.
I am
Where the hell is this easy to get confidence? I've been looking for it for 38 and STILL haven't found it!
WOW you are so gifted in helping others! What a blessing you are to so many and me. What mic are you using? I need one so I have been researching them but I haven’t seen that one and the sound is fantastic. Much Love.... xoxo I can and I have done hard things!
As a therapist, This is so informative! you break it down into easy to know and easy to share information. really great video, thank you
Personally, I feel the attribute I most aspire to maintain is my sense of self-efficacy, especially in response to external expectations. Thanks for articulating the differences, it helps to actually know the difference.
This is probably the best video about self-esteem on youtube! Thanks a ton for such valuable information!
I can
And I HAVE done hard things!! 😜😂
I will.
I can and I have done tough things! Very tough! I can always find a way to get what I need done.
Hope you speak a little slowly ,calmly. It will be much more pleasant.Thank you so much!
Is there any difference between self efficacy and self confident.??.plz describe ..
You are just awesome. You have been helping me so much because I cannot find a therapist that’s free.
I need more confidence went thru trauma and saw it 3 1/2 years ago I lost my husband of 30 years together
I’m curious what your diet and lifestyle is like. You look really healthy and young. I’m assuming you take very good care of yourself :-)
Please please explain what self belief is???
Lieing to yourself about something
By request, I’m saying: I can and I have done hard things.
Truth: I have experienced challenges that I didn't think I'd mentally and emotionally survive.
That was really great thank you - I love braking it down into the short phrases really helps to clarify it. I'm leading a self-esteem and confidence session and I think this distinction will be really helpful. Thanks for sharing
You are fabulous.I watch your videos everyday .
I literally worry about how much I worry.
I should watch this video everyday. Thanks for this and your other videos Julia.
what is stopping u from making color videos?
I can do hard things! I am good as a certified nurse assistant with the elderly.
I am sharing this with my siblings it’s important for them 👍🏻
I’m confident in cooking and being a good spouse.
when you lose it you cant get it back are no reasen to have it in the ferst place
Oof I have low self efficacy and low self esteem
Great video and great content indeed
beautiful. Energy.. ..you. made..me. Feel.Good. about. myself.
I love your videos! thank you so much!
I can and I have done hard things ❤
I don't even have that self confidence O.o
Thank you great video
i can and i have accomplished hard things
Very good information. You look emotional on the end of the video.
I can and i have done hard things , thank you so much 🙏🌱
I wonder is there an order in which we should work on these things
I have done hard things. I can I will I am
I needed this today. Thank You. I need to work on, “I am”.
I can and I have done tough things
I can and i have done hard things. By the grace of God.
Thank you so much for sharing with us
I love your videos.You are like a big sister.Love you.
I want to work on self efficacy
I can and have done hard things. I will!
I sheared, did I spelled it correct? Lol
I can and I have done hard things.
Ich habe bereits schwere Aufgaben gemeistert und ich kann das.(German)
thank you 😊
I CAN & I HAVE DONE HARD THINGS!!
I have and I CAN do hard things!
One of the best video I Ever saw ❣️
I can and have done hard things. No cap
I can and I have done hard things ❤️
I am to I will to I can
I can and I have done hard things
i can and i have done hard things
Top vídeo thank you
I can and I have done hard things!!
I CAN AND HAVE DONE HARD THINGS!!!
I can and I have done hard things 💛
I can and I have done hard things
I can a d i have been thought tough things
I can and I have done hard things
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I can and I have done hard things
I can and i have done hard things. I am.
I can and have done tough things