How to build your confidence -- and spark it in others | Brittany Packnett Cunningham | TED
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- Опубліковано 16 чер 2019
- "Confidence is the necessary spark before everything that follows," says educator and activist Brittany Packnett Cunningham. In an inspiring talk, she shares three ways to crack the code of confidence -- and her dream for a world where revolutionary confidence helps turn our most ambitious dreams into reality.
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Confidence isn’t “I know they’ll like me”, it’s “I’m okay if they don’t”.
How to get there is the million dollar question
sir pls i really need to share this
@@dmnla This is how you get there ----->
Proverbs 29:25
“Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.”
thank you
That is a golden statement!
The more you deal with your fears, the more confident you become 💯
Spiders, presenting in front of a group of people, how others view me
Facts💯
Yes. But it’s so hard though :(
@@starfab7 yeah... same for me:( really really hard unfortunately
@@sabriyaboulware15223🎉323
People often confuse confidence with extroversion or being social. A person does not have to appear confident to others to have confidence in themselves. A shy person can have more inner confidence than a gregarious extrovert, and people cannot be confident always in every situation. If one lacks confidence in a situation, it might just mean your are not comparable with that situation or activity. A man intoxicated on alcohol can appear very confident, but it's not genuine. Confidence without a purpose can lead one into many undesirable situations.
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I'm going to use your comment in a essay thanks!
Very well said🙌🙌
well put
so profound
"You can't be what you can't see" - so true.
odysseus570 this comment gave me more confidence than the whole video
Yes, that's right!
What does that mean?
I consider this one of the best ted talks I've ever watched. This is incredibly valuable information
Same. third time watching today lol
literally so true,it’s so inspiring & motivative
Same here this is a great TedTalk Brittany nailed it
Confidence is not something you have to achieve, you already have it in you, you just have to know how to use it.
This is something
by this you mean: "your body already knows what its capable of, you just have to get with the program"?...
I think it's both
thank you
True. It's a skill, the more you polish it, the more 'good' you at using it
*_Experience builds Confidence_*
Unless it’s an experience where someone doubts and destroys you, as too often happens. Experience is way too broad a category.
@@andreadeagon2301 You're so right about that! I've had horrible experiences, none of which built any confidence in me at all.
The older I get (more experience) the less “confident” I feel. So.... yea.
@@andreadeagon2301 The way I see it, experience of rewards/payoffs builds confidence. Experience that punishes causes us to avoid experiences (understandably so), but avoiding a) doesn't allow us to be learn from the experience, if we are curious rather than self-critical, and b) doesn't allow us to encounter a potentially confident-building experience. If we can learn what doesn't work, and keep making adjustments to increase the chances of future experiences being rewarding, then any experience can build confidence, directly or indirectly. Basketball Michael Jordan recalls his success as being due to (not in spite of) his failures, including failures that caused people to destroy him.
It's not experience but skills.
"you can't be what you can't see". Building the world we dream💯
WOW, that was awesome! I am seriously working on my confidence because as a battered survivor of child molestation for 5 years, I had completely lost myself and had no willpower or confidence in myself at all. It has been a journey of trial and error, many many mistakes. However, I miraculously found the confidence to start a UA-cam channel about my story and my trials... and now I have GAINED the confidence to help others and I am so grateful to be able to do so!
I'm glad you persevered past your obstacles. Sounds like you are in the right direction, my hats off to you
@@dmnla Aww, thanks! :) I appreciate it.
Keep healing ❤️🩹
I'm glad you are healing and helping others go thru the same process. Kudos to you!
The problem is that you have to DO something. Some of us are so confused about the existence itself, so much so that we are frozen to action.
You have to start moving. You'll figure out nothing more by standing still
You have to start moving, the sooner the better: persistent indecision & inaction can easily lead to a sense of hopelessness, despair & consequent mental illness. No choice.
The stress from being frozen is often much worse than actual the consequences of acting. Make yourself targets and tell yourself you're going to start, figure everything else out along the way.
Agreed. You must act whether directly related to the obstacle/goal or not. Trying a new skill, challenging yourself in a manageable way is incredibly helpful. I just posted another video about a simple exercise for this. ua-cam.com/video/NO3kQEP9Iq4/v-deo.html
a good place to start would be with your own wellness. focus on improving your 5 pillars of health (emotional, social, physical, mental, and spiritual) your purpose will come to you as you continue to focus on your own well being
as cliche as this quote can get, it has actually helped me build the confidence I have today. It is "fake it till you make it". Every single time I felt like I wasn't capable of doing something, I pushed myself and forced myself to do it. I faked my confidence when it wasn't really at its best, I gave tips to people on confidence when I myself needed it, but I soon realized that whatever fake confidence I pretended to have, became a reality. It became my way of expressing myself. With joy, confidence, and good posture, it was part of who I am. Now many people including those whom I thought were "close friends" tried so hard to bring me down. Wether it was by pretending to "jokingly" mock something I did ( project, presentation, etc..) or even literally hating me suddenly out of the blue for no apparent reason. But honestly, I never gave importance to that, I kept doing what I was doing because it was best for me.
It is essential story
I grew up in a community where I was allowed to be confident. Being told that you could and SHOULD be excellent set a foundation in me that I never thought could be shaken. Unfortunately, the last decade in the corporate world attempting to be a leader has stripped me of my confidence. Thank you for sharing this insightful and inspirational message that I can share with the next generation. Hopefully, they will continue to be confident no matter the external factors.
Same
F go away 😢
"Curiosity (asking questions) invites people to be in charge of their own learning."
I wish more people understood and applied this, myself included.
At school, at work, at home, in all relationships.
1. Permission - seeing it in others and have others lead by example, that way letting you know it's okay to be confident.
2. Community - the perfect environment to try confidence, again and again. Take a series of actions to develop it.
3. Curiosity - Her manager asked her "What was your intention?" After a failure. Curiosity invites others to be in charge of their own learning when they're already fragile.
thank you guy
Loved this talk. The reality is that having Confidence is a moving target and constant nurturing is necessary.
Great Video!
Make that constant nurturing fun with some adventurous challenges.
A really good friend of mine recommended this video to me because i dont have much confidence, and im glad he did because im going to try and be more confident in myself.
This is so so valuable! Thank you Brittany for sharing your wisdom & knowledge to a world that needs to hear this! Sending love you way!
"Permission, Community, and Curiosity," with examples. Fabulous!
i swear this is the best ted talk i ve ever seen...i just loved it so much to the fact that i chose this as my topic for my speaking assessment in school.
She’s a true poet. So inspiring.
I will never forget how difficult my fourth grade year was due to my moms chronic illness. However, my teacher made the all the difference in my confidence and allowed me to grow and blossom. It’s teachers like Ms. Packnett and my fourth grade teacher that change children from unsure to having belief in themselves. Thank you 🙏.
Bravo ❤
This is good so needed to hear this and see this today!! Still working on my self confidence and building it up in myself as well!!
Wow this really helped me to pin point where I've been going wrong.
As a kid I was called fat and had my front teeth smashed out by another kid.
My Dad would always keep the light off in the bathroom so he couldn't see himself in the mirror.
I got myself an apprenticeship at my late teens. There I was bullied everyday for 4 years. Slowly losing confidence in myself everyday. Being rejected by girls time after time.. Why because my confidence was so low.
At 27 years old I dropped all of my friends and decided to start life again.
Now I am 30, I hope I can gain the confidence back that I once had. Just like when I was a little kid. Maybe one day I can become the person that was pushed away.
I hope you can too💕
I wish you the best
Thankyou both.
I will give that a listen also.
Ur not alone dear ...keep fighting u r great warrior
You can do it. We're here cheering you on.
I absolutely needed to hear this talk today, I realized that it is confidence that is stopping me from making a big life decision. I appreciate these talks so much, they are truly life changing... and just like Jamal, I chose McCain as well :) its good to be different and make a decision based on thought and not fear of what others will think.
I got goosebumps listening to her, this is officially one of my favourite Ted Talks.❤️❤️.
I can't wait till when I can be on that stage✨
"Redesign the world in the image of your own dreams"
A great talk to start an inspired day...
*3 things you need to build your confidence*
Having knowledge is not enough; you need confidence to complement that knowledge. You could say that knowledge and confidence are like puzzle pieces; you need both of them.
*1. Permission*
When others show you confidence, your brain is "permitting" you to build it. When you have seen someone do something, in the back of your mind you are thinking that since it was possible for them it is also possible for others like you to do that. In Nelson Mandela's words, "it always seems impossible until it's done." Britanny's anecdote about her parents makes me think of Veritasium's video on self-efficacy. In the video Derek explains that one of the reasons why some children follow their parents' career paths is that they grew up knowing someone else around them is capable of doing it. As they grow up, self-efficacy or the confidence that they can also do it builds up as well.
*2. Community*
Community is the ideal environment in which you can nurture your confidence. What I got from the video was that it is important to find an environment that encourages you to develop your confidence and rewards you for expressing it. It follows that you avoid or leave one that punishes you for doing so.
*3. Curiosity*
This is strongly linked with community. If you are in an environment that promotes confidence growth, then the people around you must only guide you and let you take charge of your own learning when you make mistakes. Learning and discovering things on your own cultivates curiosity.
Confidence 🤝
Thank you
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Well said
I love the energy that she emanates on.
Thank you Brittany for being exactly the woman you are. I appreciated what you are putting together. With my profond respect. From a French woman : thank you
Loved her Ted talk. There are a lot of people who see the value in others and seek to extinguish everything about it. Everyone has to decide what is best for them. Even if it mean moving on, up and onward.
WOW!!! I'm just speechless, that woman just inhales chalenge and exhale leadership. That's exactly the kind of man i want to be!
I love that permission/community part. I practiced that when I was a trainer which awarded me several ERAs (bonuses) and compliments from staff I trained.
Such a powerful message. I agree with her. Community allows / provides confidence room to exist and thrive and show up as its true and best self in the body it is inheriting. Thank you Brittany!! Thank you for sharing with us that community is one of the keys in unlocking the confidence in all we do! 💓💓💓📈✈️✈️🚀
'community is the safest place try confidenceon', .permission, community, curiosity is all things we will need to breed the confidence.
This was extremely emotional for me. I was just searching for ideas about confidence and came across this. Thank you. very revolutionary indeed!
This was absolutely beautiful 😍 so grateful for youtube that 2 yrs later i can enjoy this content . Love that quote from Purity-" Yes I get scared but I have my sister to back me up and remind me that we will not fail." In the pages of history African women actually did most of the business, I can see why. Beautiful speech!
Brittany Your speech was very strong, significant, and educational. For those whose self-confidence had been destroyed, it offers hope. I'm hoping that your speech will impact millions of people's lives. I genuinely respect your self-assurance and sincerity. Best regards.❤
That's the most impressive TED speech I have ever heard! I wish I had a teacher like Brittany ❤
I missed out on so many opportunities , during my lifetime all because I could never speak in public,
You didn't lack confidence, you lacked courage. Get the courage to speak in public and you will gain confidence.
I feel you
Sounds like you might have some great things to share, and inspire others to speak up earlier.
Open a YOU TUBE channel and SPEAK AND SPEAK AND SPEAK AND EVENTUALLY you will be on your way to
I grew up in a community where my confidence was shunned. I was told to shut up in class, people started to call me annoying because I talked and laughed too much, and my mom told me to stop being so confident. That caused me to become really quiet and insecure, so much that sometimes people get surprised when I talk because they thought I was mute. My mom still tells me that my job as a female is to be quiet, smile and let the men to the work but honestly I’m really tired of it and I think I’m going to try and be myself again :)
Yes you should! You are unique, adequate and enough. You deserve to be the confident person you were made to be!
You definitely should don't let others sat about you bother you . You are you for a reason what others say doesn't matter don't let them get to you
That’s literally me
It’s sounds like you had low self stem and were loud to get noticed, not bc you were confident, don’t blame your mom.
Being real and having no expectations from others are the hallmarks of confidence.
I have watched this today and watched it twice.🎉
This comes at a time when I'm just getting started in my Nursing career
Strong speech by a wonderful lady! Well done :)
I don't completely understand what she said because my English is poor but she is confident in her presentation on the public eye that is an admirable skill.
Such a powerful talk! Thank you for your insight!
This is SO powerful! Great examples, great orator!
Wow. She's incredible! Great message. Great public speaker. Great suit.
Confidence has ever since brought about success in my life.
i really appreciate
This is soo good to hear as i always felt i have not much confidence. I feel afraid to talk Infront of people. Thank you for your valuable words.❤
One of the best ted talks I have ever watched ...brilliantly articulated....!!!
Confidence is the key that opens so many doors. Great video!
Thank you very much in advance, the topics discussed in this video are very good and interesting. Self-confidence is the attitude of someone who is able to think positively and believe that his abilities have qualities and can be useful for himself, others, and the environment. but not everyone is able to believe in themselves.
In your conversation there are three things needed to build confidence. Because having knowledge alone is not enough, we need confidence to complete the knowledge. It could also be said that knowledge and confidence are like pieces of a puzzle, so we need both.
The first point is Permission. When other people show confidence, our brain will also think to help build confidence in us. When we see someone doing something, in our mind we will think that if they can do it why can't we?
Then the second point is Community. Community is an ideal environment in which we can cultivate a sense of self-confidence. What I got from this video is that it's important to find an environment that encourages us to develop self-confidence and value ourselves to express it. In other words we must also- avoid or abandon those who punish or reject us for doing so.
And the last point is curiosity. It is closely related to community. If we are in an environment that encourages self-confidence growth, then the people around us just have to guide us and let us take charge of our own learning, and when we make mistakes we have to learn and find solutions on our own to cultivate curiosity.
However, in my opinion, people often confuse self-confidence with extroversion or being social. one does not have to appear confident to others to have confidence in oneself. Shy people can have more inner confidence than gregarious extroverts, and people can't always be confident in every situation. If someone lacks confidence in a situation, it may mean that we are not worth the situation or activity. aimless beliefs can lead a person into many undesirable situations.
So it can be said that self-confidence is the first step before we do anything. Confidence is the difference between feeling inspired and actually starting between trying and doing to completion. self-confidence helps us to keep going even when we fail. And based on the three points above, it can be concluded that Permit can give birth to self-confidence, the community maintains it and curiosity strengthens it.
This is one of the best TED talks I've viewed. I'm going to share it with everyone. So well done
The video's emphasis on inner acknowledgment and respecting oneself has prompted me to be more compassionate towards my imperfections, fostering a healthier sense of self-esteem.
I really want to give a ted talk when I get more confidence over my own situation, it's been a long journey and want to share it to the world.
looking forward to hearing it
Ms. Packnett Cunningham is a brilliant, engaging speaker. I enjoyed this Ted Talk, and I know her third grade students loved being taught by her.
"Confidence is the difference between being inspired and actually getting started; between trying and doing until it's done."
BEING INSPIRED -> GETTING STARTED -> TRYING -> DOING UNTIL IT'S DONE
You need confidence to proceed to the next step in the process!
This needs to go viral. So eloquent and beautifully delivered.
That flawles talk brings back the confidence into my blood in my way to an exam. Thank you.
while watching this video, I shed some tears, I felt that those irreparable harm might embed in me for don't know how long, I also felt comfort that I might find the causes making me timid, so much sorrow as well as feeling released. How can an adult like me to heal on my own, God bless all of us to reach our own peace.
The timing of me finding this video is precisely remarkable!
This was absolutely fantastic. The wrap up starting at 12:30 was inspiring!
Chills started at 1 minute into video. Love this talk 🤗
Thank you for this! I will be sharing!!
What an incredible video!
I think this topic is very interesting. It's very beneficial for everyone. A lot of people don't think they can achieve their big dreams in life. And British speaker Packnett Cunningham says that one of the tools to achieve these dreams is confidence. The speaker has a high sense of self-confidence from his idol, Septima Clark. To him, Septima Clark was a symbol of confidence. With confidence, we can move forward at a time of failure, and we can achieve a dream come true.
I totally agree with what the speaker conveyed, because I experienced less self-confidence myself. I realized that in a certain way, in a situation that I liked, I felt ready to do something and it went well. However, in other situations I did not like, I lost confidence and it produced quite a bad result. Self-confidence is needed by myself, including everyone, including me. The speaker explained the solution to how to gain confidence in this video. I raceA topic on this subject is very relevant and everyone agrees with it.
I hope you also watch this video.
I love everything she said. What an amazing speaker👏
Confidence is key! Great speech
She did amazing !!!!! So articulate and well spoken
This was necessary and required for me. Beautiful from start to finish. 💓
permission ,community and curiosity which make a person great meaning full.
Taking risks builds confidence
This is a radical way of thinking about confidence. I needed to hear this.
Thank you for this Queen, well done! You definitely have another supporter.
OMG, if i could like this TED episode twice, i surely would!
I just liked it so there's your second like
You can like it as many times as you want sweetie
*_I never knew that A Talk on Confidence can be this good until I saw this_* ♥
This woman makes me to think out of my mind🙌🏻
Confidence is the key of our success 👍✌
People often confuse confidence with being conceited, but that's not it. Confidence means accepting small failures and going on despite the obstacles. Confident human beings realize that there will always be people who try to bring others down, but they do not pay attention to nasty comments. They know their value. It took me years to develop my confidence, but it was worth fighting for. Now I am a young, independent woman who knows her advantages and knows how to use them.
I wish all of you to find confidence in your lives. Never give up! ❤
THE FACT THAT I WATCHED THIS TED TALK AMONG MANY AND AM FRM KENYA THOSE WOMEN MADE ME PROUD OF THEM😇😇
Thanks for this wonderful talk
If your confident those friends around you can gain confidence. When you have a group of confident people the newcomers to the group will strive to increase there confidence.
Amazing speech!
This was so good! Confidence is key!
Fabulous presentation about confidence
This was a great presentation on confidence, loved the stories.
Was looking for something to build my confidence. That is it...permission, community and curiosity 😍
'You need confidence', ted talk synthesized, why thank you, I already knew that
I’ve played this in the morning for the second time this week. This specific Ted talk is very uplifting and validating!
I love this💕 Confidence requires- community, permission and curiosity.
One of the best Ted talks I've listened to.
Love this!! Very very true!
Her speech stained me inside out! Love it
The video should be titled how people gain confidence, considering the fact that no tools or tips are given on how one can actually become more confident. "Get support from the community " was pretty much the driving point in this video and yet it's nearly impossible to gain support unless the confidence is already present. It was a pretty good video though, the presenter was very charismatic & confident.
Applause for theatre.
Wrong watch again and get over the fact that she is a Black woman.
@@IrresistibleWitch You really had to take it there didn't you? Jeez...
@@IrresistibleWitch ... Lol.. you're suffering from a severe case of SJW projectionist oblivion :)
@@rogerspable
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I literally stand speechless, u are incredibly amazing, u words come from deep inside and touch me alot, and offer me many insights .
"This kind of confidence is exactly we need to unleash the future that we need🖤"
May Allah bless u...Thanks a million
This is absolutely refreshing and I am so happy I came across this video ! 😍♥️ ! Can’t wait for my feature 🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂 🥰♥️ I WILLLLL align with all that is meant for me 🥰💕
She first speak about a book that she is into it. She speaks about confidence and why we still miss it even though we are better than ever before. She likes confidence, and wants to spread confidence everywhere, she's obssessed with confidence. She talks about her class as she was a teacher of students either black or brown. She encounted the story of one of her student that never wanted to read his writing stuff out loud. At last he showed up confidence and read out loud his writing. Another student who loved distracting other students. One day she snapped and told Regina not that she interacted her peers, rather than that she told her that she was herself an interaction. That killed her confidence. Too confident or not confident at all aren't good feeling. Confidence is a revolutionnary choice. Permission, community, curiosity are the three pillars of confidence. She encounted her story about her parents buying a car, but her mother was the one who negotiated buying that car. Her mother behavior gave her the permission to be a confident woman. Community also was one of the thing she saw in Kenya when a woman told her that her sisters inspired her to be confident. Curiosity invites people to be in charge of their own knowledge.
She’s great I like the way how she expresses herself
That was so inspiring... I love her.
Congratulations! This is a wonderful talk!
going down as one of my favouritr TED talks 💕👌🏽