The Key to Letting Go of Guilt From Your Past
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Guilt from our past can sit in the back of our brains and cause us all kinds of unnecessary pain and discomfort, and it's really hard to let go of guilt when we don't know how to. Here I teach about how to let go of guilt from something you did in your past, and also from something you didn't overtly do, but are still feeling guilty about it.
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Perfect timing! So much past guilt and regret. Not serving me at all and it really keeps me stuck. It's a control thing for me. I cannot now control the outcome of those events and it is painful. I'm hoping one day I will be able to forgive myself. It was all done during my drinking days and I haven't had a drink for 15 years. Haven't watched you for a while but I'm back... thank you for being here ❤
glad you're here Mandy - what was one of your takaways from this talk?
Can’t change the Past, so always move On to a healthy happy Future 🙂
Julia,
Your video was awesome. This topic was definitely what I need to hear this morning. Thanks for what you do.
I have grown up in a codependent, enmeshed, & dysfunction family. I also was a caregiver for 35 years.
Recently, have had some major losses and events that I blamed for myself for.
I hold myself accountable about my unacceptable behavior. I'm learning I can only control me.
I wrote in my journal this morning how to release some of that guilt.
Thanks a lot Julia!!
You're welcome Sandi - I see you doing the work!
Yup, I can use this. It takes me such a long time to let go of things.
what did you learn in this talk that will help you let go of things faster?
I learned that I can be the one to forgive myself.
To get closure, I always needed to be reassured and forgiven. Otherwise I would ruminate about it for days/weeks/months. Until enough time passed and I would slowly let go.
The ‘prison of guilt’ was a very real place for me.
But thanks to you, I understand that I can ‘re-parent’ myself and be the one to offer up compassion and understanding.
Talk it through. Own it. And move on.
Just a different way of looking at things.
Thank you so much Julia!!
Hello Julia! Senior Shifter here!
I was looking forward to this talk since you mentioned that you made a video on it in your IG Stories.
Thank you always for sharing your stories. I remember you mentioned before that you had something at age 19 that you felt terrible before and never shared the details until now. That must have felt very terrible to go through that guilt and shame. At the same time, I know that you had learned, grown and healed from this experience and now you are teaching us how to heal from guilt. Thank you!
My notes:
Guilt can be very debilitating.
Guilt is an adaptive emotion. Can be used to guide us into more healthy, helpful, productive, and serving behavior.
PART 1: Guilt from something we did do.
• Acknowledge the experience
• Reparent yourself
• Offer yourself compassion
• And forgive yourself.
PART 2: Feeling guilty even though we were not responsible.
• We can only speculate that things could have gone better or worse
• Built trust within yourself.
• Things happen without any control.
To anyone reading this (including myself) and if you are struggling with guilt and shame, that WE are ALL still worthy and valuable people! ❤
Hi Shifter! Always too to have you here.
@@juliakristinamah You're welcome! Nice to hear back from the REAL Julia and not the spammer! Lol
From Ghana, and it's as if you read my mind. Thank you. Keep up the good work Madam Julia.
So glad you're here and that you found this one helpful.
Proud Shifter here!
This brought me to tears. I couldn't imagine how this person must have felt to was guilted for the death of their father and by all people their mother. Breaks my heart. Thanks for another profound talk... you are on a roll with them here lately! Lots of though provoking things to think about between your videos and your talks in the Shift. Forgiveness is something I have struggled with giving myself. I am more forgiving of others but often have struggled with forgiving myself. I am getting better though as I learn and grow. Thanks always Julia! ❤
Hi Tasha! Really glad this one connected. See you in The Shift!
So powerful and helpful… it might not have been a great choice, then acknowledge it and give yourself forgiveness.
Hey coach! Yes - you got it ;-)
I definitely deal with guilt lots but I'm learning to not deal with it as much!! Thanks for this Julia!! I appreciate you!!
keep up the great work!
I’m a brand new shifter! So excited and grateful to be here ❤
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This made me realize that kids that are raised Christian/religious are incredibly more susceptible to carrying immense amounts of guilt into adulthood.
Thank you Julia for a very helpful and supportive message. I think building trust in self is vital to successfully deal with guilt and shame from the past.
Absolutely. Really glad this talk was helpful. Thanks for being here.
We all feel guilt at some point in our lives.
Hi. My wife has been admitted to the psychiatric hospital 5 times in the last 4 years. We have been married for about 20 years with 4 kids. She is currently admitted again and this one is really hurting us and I have tremendous guilt.
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Good stuff! Jesus wants to save us and heal us from all sin and guilt! 🥰☝🏽. Give it to Jesus and don’t listen to the lies that satan wants to feed you!
Loretta Emmons Jesus was tempted by Satan so Jesus said "Get thee behind me Satan!"
We who feel Satan's evil dwelling within our minds need to say the same thing. Out loud. One time.
I agree, Clair 😊☝🏽
Amen I agree
Thank you for making this video! Guilt sucks and it’s so healthy to break through and free yourself of it. Would also love to see something exploring the intersection of religion and guilt, tho that might be a heavy and overly theological topic.
This is a great topic - and an important one. Let me see if I can put something together.
@@juliakristinamah Thank you! That would be fantastic & highly appreciated.
Definitely could use this, thank you Julia
You're welcome Leslie - glad you found it helpful.
Much needed 🌟
Thank you !!
You're so welcome. Glad you're here.
When I was 18… I was dating this guy in college.. and I fell in love (or it was more of an infatuation because he was extremely good looking & popular) with a senior.
And I ended up cheating on my boyfriend.
Even when I was going through the upheaval, I knew I was doing something “wrong”. I was wracked with guilt.
The end was pretty messy. It’s only recently that I realised I feel guilty … about that situation. I sub-consciously feel like I did not suffer enough cause shortly after I graduated, I got into a very cushy job. And my ex was still devastated.
Acknowledging that this guilt still lingers in me…. And will start to work to release it.
I still feel guilty about calling a teacher by her first name when I was a student in high school even though I don’t remember doing it Julia after someone I went to high school with told me I did years later.
Some great points. Thank you.
You're so welcome Paula. Thanks for watching.
Hi julia
Please do a video on how to deal with persons who are OCD and don't agree that they have OCD
Thank you 😊 ❤
Thank YOU! God bless 🤍
You're so welcome! Thanks for being here Faith.
Thanks
Yes, I think everyone has done things in the past they regret. What was I thinking. However it made me who I am today - a mixture of good and bad. The realization of being an imperfect, complex human being that can mess up his life very quickly without God. I think what matters is learn from mistakes
I agree. There is always so much insight and growth to be had from our mistakes.
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Thanks, but I need some more help desperately, I'm on the wait list for shifters.😢
Thank you Julia:-)
I watched two of your videos so far and both are just so extremely valuable to me. It’s like you made videos about all of my flaws, with really useful advice on how to address them. So, thank you!
How much is the course? I’m interested but I didn’t see the cost on your site. I’m really hoping it’s within my means 😮
Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤
You're so welcome Karen.
My name is Adela. This is my first time here
I feel guilty Julia about using one girl to make the other one I really liked jealous in high school.
Is there something that is unforgivable?
How do I build a sense of self -trust?
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WOW
All teenagers are rebellious Julia.
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Sorry, didn't mean to write a 1000-page Thomas Mann novel here...
Wow watching all these podcast these people got alot of problems. You should take insurance....I forgot your name but you have good post ..can't be a bottom cause hetro is the best rite. I've been working with some beautiful intelligent degrees J.D. since 2006
Gasp!! 😮 Smoking at bible camp?! You heathen!! How dare you?! 😂😂😂
I felt so so terrible about it for YEARS! But you're right, it's not the worst transgression in the world. lol
I think God forgave you Julia for smoking at that Bible camp.
I like your videos, but your examples are not helpful 😢
That farmer story brought healing ❤️🩹 watched my brother run away from the farm life didn’t say anything at 4yrs old, blamed by parents…not a physical death but farm failed. We Struggled to stay above…. Brother struggled with addiction rest of his life came back home suffered mental illness til his death 😢 Guilt is a Beast!
Thank you
I wonder if you UA-cam viewers subscribe and follow your channel. I see you still post a lot that’s great! I often struggle with depression and anxiety and a terrible addiction personality. Do you use snap? Thank!
Thank you! 🙂
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