What I hate about being an introvert, is that everyone would think that I’m sad or really lonely. But in reality I just wanna stay away from people and actually have a moment to be by myself.
@@ioanaberbece8137 Yeah it's kinda annoying how people instantly assume that you're depressed or something if you're alone instead of socializing all the time
Same happening to me in university 😭 I feel like I don't fit into other people Edit: I made two best friends are they are the best people of my life. And with other people, they are the ones who start conversation with me. Sometimes you just have to make a little move and everything starts moving towards you
Wow, I would get mad with both things, if someone would say that to me. I’m an introvert, I used to get in “fights” very often, just by doing nothing, so it’s really weird. When I speak and say something they tell me to shut up, when I don’t they ask me why I don’t talk.
But whole world thinks different. And I don't "love this". Society so far needs to understand introversion. When you have a job interview you need to be an extravert e.t.c. We are not understood. And I oftenly fall into a trap of thinking that something is wrong with me.
I'm an extrovert but too lazy to watch this. It was recommended to me so I clicked to read the comments. Some of y'all mistake social anxiety for introversion and yes I made my research. My older brother is at the end of the introversion spectrum and he is more confident around people than me. I'm a socially anxious extrovert which is literal hell. Also I love introverts ya'll are cute
I’ve been invited to parties before by my close friends, but I’ve never gone because there were way too many people I didn’t know there. But I’m completely fine when I go out with a few friends on a night out, it’s fun
Yep... But then i have my parents who are like... "You have to go there, you are lucky that we allow you to go to friends parties or other events unlike other parents"
Man i seen life mostly for what it is. (Hopefully) sometimes it's funny that whatever job I'm at I'm teased in earshot about how quiet I am. But majority of the time just uncomfortable with being watched all shift because I'm quiet.
Yeah there’s a difference to being alone and being lonely, being alone is to not be around people, being lonely is not being around people and to wish you were around people.
Vanish a lot of people are taking the mick out of everything I show interest in. And I mean everything. Any tiny thing. They laugh and mess around and tease and take the mick out of everything. They do it every day and I don’t know if they think it doesn’t bother me or not but it’s getting to the point that I don’t want to go into school. I can’t tell if this is bullying or not but I don’t think it is. We’re all kids. They’re just messing around. That’s what I’m telling myself Also I don’t know why I just put this in here I apologise
LucyTheEvilFox you need someone to talk to? i hope you can look past the things they say to you and if you wanna be a little more specific i can help you. sorry if my comment offended you
I guess u meant being talkative. Speaking for myself, I guess that's not essentially a trait that doesn't occur with introverts, it's just that we can have as much fun when we're alone as when accompanied. But we're like this mostly when in a one on one conversation (as said in the video).
@@user-ci2ds7mw7s Try to like Steve Harvey said "be comfortable being uncomfortable"and excesise doing things outside your comfort zone especially with women, because women want to have a connection with men and making them feel a spark of attraction and connection, which may require expressing yourself more while flirting with them, check out dating couches like Dan Bacon here on UA-cam for dating advice.💯
"The biggest mistake an introvert can make is trying to be an extrovert." I felt that💔 . . . . . . Edit I somehow developed myself to being extrovert but the most thing that I'll ever advice u all, "You must accept who u really are bc that's the last thing that u'll be proud of." I realized that I don't need others' hate sayings to me just to pleased them. I learned that when u became true to yourself & to people around u, others would love you u. Not that I'm saying all would love you bc there's no such thing in world that all would be loving u, it's impossible but you'll be happier with yourself if u start giving yourself no care to what other's are saying about u.
I went to one (it was supposed to be a tame birthday party...yeah, no) and played candy crush in the chair in the corner. Never going to another ‘birthday’ again
Being Introverted doesn’t mean that they’re nerds who read books all day. Edit:A lot of people are replying that they're introverts and they read books and alot are saying they're introverts but they don't read books.What I meant with the og comment was that reading books all day doesn't make you introvert.You could read all the books you want but your personality type is a diffirent thing. Edit 2:You guys still don't get it
@@ashishranjan887 No..Most introverts are actually strong minded and think things through.. depression is just a state of mind..It's just a way of looking at things..there are all sorts of stuffs going on, the thing is, what do we decide to look at.. I really don't need to share my thoughts with anyone, I don't think a person who hasn't even given a thought about what life is can actually guide me..yes maybe he/she can make us ignore what we were thinking and that will be called as getting out of depression but for me, that's just running away and not seeking the truth..I also want to try and experience the ways of mind to be mentally stronger.. I have some introvert friends (I am also an introvert) and they all know that depression is just a state of mind..
@@panzer2781 me too. If I end up being bullied I would consider how that develops. If it's going to be temporary I won't react. If it's not physical, I definitely won't hit the person, because I'm not stupid enough to start a fight. So far I have never had the need to fight, but I'm always prepared for the possiblity
You know what introvert means: You can't start speaking with someone that you're not close to.. You can't stop talking with someone that you are close with.. Am I right ?
Yes thats true.One day i talked with a girl in my class and i realised im too much cause i kept talking and still when she see me she laughs at me istg
Teachers: be quite. How many time i need to tell you. Why i never said this to her(me) Me: because I'm shy I hate when teachers are saying this to my classmates. Im always blushing.
Quarantine, social distancing, studying from home, lockdown was heaven for me. people will say I am being abnormal, but dear outgoing people we don't feel lonely when we r alone. we love it.
"The biggest mistake an introvert can make is try to be an extrovert" I felt that My parents always tell go out and play with them (somewhat forcing me to become an extrovert) I will be very happy if they understand me
Yeah... My mom puts me into social events often and I just hate it... I'm just there and not talking to anybody and I want to go home and be alone. But my parents force me to being an extrovert... And they even said that I'll go to some psychiatrist so they will learn me communicate more... I can't understand why they do this
See brother being introvert have nothing to do with playing outside which is quite natural I remained introvert and I still played it's a different kind of joy
I am 20 years old and I am an introvert. Growing up, I was really a shy guy. I used to think myself as an introvert when I was shy and sometimes try to pretend like an extrovert which was hard. These past couple of years, I have been trying to be aware of myself. All the things you have mentioned is true and I have experienced most of them. I have realized that it is very important to express our feelings and communicate whenever needed, no matter of our personality. Thank you, you have been really educating us.
being an introvert, the only problem i have is when i am left with a group of strangers..i feel awkward and nervous when i am thrown into a new environment but when i get comfortable then i don't have any issue in socializing.. its just that i need time to get comfortable with new people and new situations.. another thing is that i need some alone time to recharge myself ..i can't be with people for a long time because i get drained out... i don't like small talks and i don't enjoy talking just for the sake of talking... i like expressing myself to people who really listens... when someone does not listen or don't pay attention, i don't speak at all
It's really funny how my teacher said that "she's introvert, she's quiet, she doesn't speak often, she has to be an extrovert" Like now I feel so relieved that a video like this existed to give me such an important lesson! Thank you so much!! Btw HAPPY NEW YEAR;)
I literally teared up 😭💞 this is relatable af- people just give us a "quiet one" or "not so cool one" tag and they think it's funny it actually hurts a lot. To all the introverts, be who you are and don't let the words to people stop you ✨ 💛
Same. Its even a reason that my bf almost breaks up with me.. I'll be like "hey lets play a game" and he is like "ight only if you talk more" and we fought alot, I say that I really cant talk much,he doesnt believe me tho
As an introvert since childhood thankfully I was not bullied ever in school or college. Even those so called bully or stronger looking guys from my classroom were good to me. Maybe I got lucky or what I don't know.
@@vamshitarun4399 Yeah I was silent but not that dangerious kind of silent kid. I was good at exam and I kinda used to help them in exam by showing my answers. Maybe that's why they were not bad to me.
I love how for most or perhaps even all of us introverts is that as soon as we find someone in the group that's also introverted or even more introverted than you are we will immediately pull ourselves together to include them more and be kind because we know exactly how it feels to be left out or misunderstood. We got each others backs 💯
Seriously I dont see the big deal its literally so easy to just ignore other people why would you listen to people you dont feel like talking to or arguing with
You kids are lucky to live in this day and age where you can watch encouraging and helpful videos like this. When I was your age we didn't have UA-cam and nobody told us stuff like this. We grew up being told there was something wrong with us and many of us are still screwed up to this day because of it. ☹️
Same, except next month it'll be 40 years. For the first half of my life I felt bad about it, thinking I needed to "fix" myself and try to become something I'm not. Then I got tired of the frustration and accepted and embraced who I am as I am. It took a lot of effort, but I am more comfortable with myself than I have ever been. I still get the odd "you're so quiet" comment, it's still a little triggering but I just shrug it off.
@@rhysbiggins4683 I still don't see how other people can FORCE you to talk against your will if you don't want to! But then again, I have a very high assertiveness level as per the ocean test (I think 16 out of 20), so I can simply dig in my heels and refuse to talk despite pressure to do so -- maybe it's different for introverts with low assertiveness!
There's a lot of difference between introversion and social anxiety. Most of us suffer from social anxiety disorder but we think ourselves as introverts. Honestly, the difference needs to be understood.
Spot on!!! When I read comments, I’m like “nope that’s social anxiety not introvert personality”.... I have been an introvert since as long as I can remember. Took countless myers briggs and always 98-100 percent introvert but about 10 years ago, I started feeling very anxious when I had to go around people. Long story short, I saw a therapist, counselor and took a long psychiatric exam and was diagnosed with social anxiety
@@mayukhdas73 Pretty sure introverts just enjoy being alone like extroverts enjoy being with people, and someone with social anxiety would have trouble doing social things like socializing. Maybe they want to be social but doing it just gives them too much anxiety.
@@kidmundane8029 Yes. An introvert just means someone who recharges when they're alone rather than around other people. An introvert can be the life of the party and know how to socialise but still prefer to be at home. An introvert can also be nonsocial and shy, there's many different types tho that is the stereotype when people think of the word introvert. Bottom line is introverts get energy from being alone/in a place they think is comfortable and extroverts get it from being around people.
I'm a shy introvert and I always was. When I was in kindergarten I was always lonely, and with no friends. But one girl would always come to me and talk to me. I tried to walk away because I liked the loneliness, but after I switched my kindergarten she came too and tried talking to me again. She never gave up on me and now we are still best friends till this day. UwU.
Don’t let them affect you. Once you embrace your introversion and shine that light. No one will judge you and when they do, you should have the attitude “i don’t give a f**k”
The quietest person in the room gets the most attention therefore without saying a word he is the loudest in the room. All eyes on him and if he ever chose to say just one sentence it would hold more value and worth than the other guy who thinks he is the loudest in the room.
*Extrovert* - gain energy from the outside - socialising *Introvert* - gain energy from the inside - introspection Extroversion and Introversion can change (become *ambivert* ) throughout life
Am I introvert? I can talk to people and not be quite but Its really hard for me to be that way, really, because I want others to like me. I always think of what other people would think about me. To be honest I am scared to express myself. Untill now I am confuse of what should be me. I prefer staying at home and enjoy myself and family.
@@racquelcastilla3322 I wouldn’t necessarily say that you are an introvert. What I would say is that you have to improve your self esteem because you seek external validation. Only by not caring what others think of you, will you be truthfully able to speak your mind. Your wholeness comes within.
@@racquelcastilla3322 introvert do not look for validation of others because they know WHO THEY ARE. Introvert are not supposed to fit in, but to stand out. Or impressed other people. Introvert are not "here" to impress no one. They celebrate their uniqueness. I am an introvert. I shut down my outside to build my inside. Confident are silence, insecurities are loud.
Rina Querida That’s not true. At all. Many introverts look for validation from others and struggle to discover who they are. Introversion has absolutely nothing to do with confidence, self esteem, creativity or uniqueness. It is simply where you draw energy from. That’s it.
I have seen 21 years of my life being and introvert, shy, staying away from people, not attending any parties. Hate parties. Hate gathering. Hate relatives . Hate to talk to anyone. Love being alone. But family and friends hate me because of this. Making fun of me.
Pratibha Sharma I mean, not really for me. I have a few close friends, and one that I find is my true, loving friend that I can be crazy around without feeling conscious of myself. We’re both introverts who have known each each other for about 6 years now 😂. I’m not friends with everyone, but practically everyone knows me because of the extroverts lol, they know my name and that I’m that quiet one who never speaks. Most people r nice and friendly, I’m just not friends with everyone.
I think it's the opposite. It's easier for us introverts to find real friends. Part of it being, we don't surround ourselves with fake people, they're too draining for us. Rather, we spend time with people who even in our introversion can make us feel energised and talking to them is just effortless. They are the real friends who always stick around no matter what.
This were a lot of examples of bullying. Being an introvert doesn’t mean you’re being bullied and doesn’t mean you have no friends or are always the one left out. I get the message of the video, but the examples weren’t that great
Thank you so much for making this video. I’m a student, and I’ve struggled a lot in school. I always thought there was something wrong with me because people often ask why I’m quiet or don’t participate, but I never know how to explain it. Watching your video really made me feel understood, and it brought me to tears. Thank you for creating something that speaks to people like me - it means a lot
My whole life I watched extroverts get rewarded (especially in high school and college). They got the fame, girls and attention. It also looked like they had more fun. So I forced myself to be an extrovert and eventually became very extroverted with my personality. I traveled the world, threw parties, fought mma in front of thousands of people and gave speeches as a teacher in front of hundreds. What I found out was forcing myself to be an extrovert was very exhausting and created a lot of anxiety. When I threw parties I was so anxious and overthinking that I couldnt even enjoy them. There is some truth to this video, sometimes we are naturally wired to be a certain way, learn to enjoy your natural qualities and be content with that. Forcing yourself to be another type of person will never make you happy.
Wow you acheived alot. Even if you say you didn't enjoy it you will have alot of interesting memories to look back on. 😄 Normally when i do something infront of many people my whole face becomes on fire haha. And i agree that having parties is the thing that drains most energy out if you. I can only enjoy going out with max 4 people who i know extremely well. Glad that introverts are being normalised now 😀
@@ChristieO3O absolutely, thanks to the internet and recent research we now understand our introverted behavior. In the past we were always made to feel isolated and scrutinized by others.
@@your.dreamcream nothing wrong getting out of your comfort zone because that is how we learn and develop in life. Unfortunately (or fortunately) we still need to learn extroverted traits to get by in this American culture. I think for us introverts the most important thing to know is when our social batteries get drained and we need to check out so we can isolate.
This good but I want to be more I dont want to be stuck as i am rn I dont want to be just hiding, i also want to make friends but i just dont have that courage that skills to talk people And that leaves me frustrated But If i try to just choose me I feel lonely But making friends just making feel not true to myself it makes me so conscious I want to make friends without worrying
@@Yassi_gorl I do understand that feeling. Regrets on memories that could have been made and bonds that could have been formed. It does get lonely trying to be yourself. What I had in mind was that you can interact, go out more and stuff but in a way you don't judge yourself or try to be someone else. You know have fun but always be you in ways that you've yet to discover. If you have good friends that you are comfortable being with them. I'm sure they understand your feelings, if they don't then you can tell them about it. Ask to spend time with them. It don't have to be something very unique, start from something simple. Be bold and yes be shy like shit out it later. This is how I do now. I don't have to say much around them because they understand me. You may feel left out in that situation. If so, then say some things that you want time to time instead of anxiety filling you up.
I am not an introvert please I have lots of friends...(imaginary) I talk a lot...(with myself) I take part in lot of activities... (Like overthinking) I even have a best friend...(my dog)
I'm an introvert and trying or pretending to be an extrovert is my biggest regret. I've wasted my entire junior high school years pretending to be someone that I'm not. Also, all the friends that I've made eventually leaves me at the end.
İ tried that when I liked a boy. I was hate myself 🗣️ why are you shying? .. it was my biggest mistake. But now I know myself and I love myself 💘 Hi from Turkey 💞
Exactly, I always felt I needed to be more loud, more outgoing but it always hurt me that even though I try those things people still see me as quiet. That or I would always feel like I make friends only for them to leave me.
I really hope society starts accepting more introverted behavior as time goes on, maybe then we'll have peace instead of the usual bullying and insecurities.
I remember when I used to go to school I was known as the 'shy girl' by everyone. When I was in middle school, it happened in gym, there was a girl talking to her friends, she called my name and asked how old I am, I said my age and she said, "See? That's the only way she'll talk to you!" and laughing a bit, I never thought of it and went on to what I was doing. No one ever really talked to me since it went around school that I never talk. Others assumed that I never talk since they heard it from someone else, and see me (not talking/quiet), even teachers and office staff noticed it, but they also noticed my kind personality. I'd say that I relate more with teachers than the people I went to school with, besides my friends. I may have been the quietest, but I was also a very smart person, the kind people go up to for answers or how to solve questions on their classwork, or copy homework. Some questions the teachers asks the class that no one answered but I already knew what it was- I just don't want to give it away. Don't get me wrong, some people talked to me, even had conversations with me. However, when there were partner projects, I was ALWAYS the only one without a partner, or a group (unless I had a friend in a class with me). It at first bothered me, but I got used to it and decided to work on my own. I only talk to people when they talk to me. But I don't open up to people easily, but when I do and become friends with them, I'm always by their side and they'll see the goofy, more extroverted side of me! I have a few friends, but I like to keep my circle small. But the simple moral of the story is this: Never judge introverts everyone, if you actually go up and talk to them, everyday, they'll become used to you and they'll be some of the most interesting people you'll ever meet. *There are some introverts still waiting to be adopted :D* *If you read this far, I thank you for being patient and reading this. I'm sorry for talking so much, I'm an author, so I type more words than I think I type.*
This is me in school but not the part where I'm left out without a partner. If you're smart, a lot of people will want you in a group project. In a drama skit, I usually end up writing the script and directing the scene 😂.
I was unhappy about being an introvert during my school and college days. But now I'm not. I accept me as myself & I'm just proud to be an introvert being in my thoughts rather than with somebody else. I love the company of myself more.
@NLVR totally related bro, but sometimes i felt tired and can’t be as active as the extroverts like most of my friends who are extroverts in college:😭 how do i become stronger as yoursef breuh?
Well said agree, I'm introvert from childhood days and now as well, I hate myself from 23 yrs now at 24. I feel i born with something unique personality, sometimes I hide my feelings & pains , wishes, sometimes I burst out with became show anger, emotional, fear of loss & failure, future. I was not able talk with elder seniors, girls.
When I use to be kid parents thought being quite is good things that what kid should be in front of elders. So I thought to be good kid and trying my best to be quite. Once I grew up I found out that I am an introvert. But then also I knew there is disadvantages being introvert and also advantages being introvert. So even being extrovert also have same benefit and problem. But the most important is that never stay silence when you need to speak. "Be who you are!"
I have throat problems and social anxiety I think so then it's so hard for me to speak up, talk to other people that I'm not close with normally, and participate. And then that results in getting bad grades for participation and I feel like it just isn't fair
Same bro. I am happy till lockdown but now schools open and my classmates again making fun of me. And the other boys just humiliates me to put better impression on girls. And I am depressed now.
I'm actually an "outgoing introvert", which basically means i love interacting with people and making new friends, but at the end of the day social interaction will always drain me and i still prioritize alone time, and it's kind of hard for me to be social if i'm not already with a few close friends (for example, in a class where i have no friends i won't speak to anyone, but in one where i have a couple i'll be super chatty and outgoing)
We introverts are the most fascinating people with a mysterious personality. That's the beauty of us, we are someone within ourselves and we prefer not to show it to the world. Don't be ashamed to be an introvert, embrace your qualities, don't try to hide who you really are. Be you! Cuz that's when you can live *your* life to the fullest 😉
I used to ask my highly introverted friend that All the time in high school. Thought I was helping and back then I was not well aware of what an introvert is. I remember convincing him to go to prom even if he wasn't gonna bring a date, after a month of insisting he came, he danced a little then decided to sit through the rest of the time, drink beverages and eat snacks. I'm kinda ashamed that I kept trying to force him to join the dance floor and almost put him on the spot, I thought he was sad and wanted a push 🤦🏻♂️. We rarely text now after he moved to college which I guess is fair... So to all the other introverts, excuse our misunderstanding sometimes, even when you tell us a million times that you are not sad and you are good for now, we... We mean well.
@@oyaoyaoya5639 but like... Why don't you talk? Like I get it introverts don't like to talk much, but like if an extrovert asks u to join a convo or an event, why wouldn't u?
I was always the one left out because of being so quiet in class but nobody understood what being an Introvert is all about so I thank you for this video!
It can be both scary and natural. I'll take myself as an example : shy and introverted dude. But it happened several times on the tube or in the street, I heard something I'd like to react to and I do it. People are surprised because "wtf this random dude just told me his opinion" but that leads most of the times to nice conversation after 😊 Force yourself out of your comfort zone, you'll see it'll become easier with time and you won't be even asking yourself "how the heck does that even works?" 😜
Speaking as an introvert, that short film basically summed up my life. Most of my friends in school pressured me to do stuff that I didn't want to do but I didn't say anything because I just wanted to focus on the thing I was doing. Luckily my parents understood me they were all heavy introverts. And I wish everyone could understand that I don't want to do things, or go to th8ngs because when I do I'm usually ignored.
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One of the worst situations for an introvert is when you have to do a group activity with people you don't know.
Yeah, cuz we have trust issues 😂
Group projects is my worst nightmare 😅😂😂
omg I feel this ahahah
Actually with people cooler than u and on top of that you have to do presentations
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What I hate about being an introvert, is that everyone would think that I’m sad or really lonely. But in reality I just wanna stay away from people and actually have a moment to be by myself.
Same bro ify
Same
My mom asks me if something is wrong at least 3-4 times a day. And then she gets upset when I get mad....
Exactly bruh👊👊
@@ioanaberbece8137 Yeah it's kinda annoying how people instantly assume that you're depressed or something if you're alone instead of socializing all the time
*"You don’t need to be loud to have great ideas."*
Susan Cain
"AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH"
Jacksepticeye
@@djBaro_official ding ding ding top of morning
yeah
You just quoted a quote
@@justarandomperson7798 I love doing that
Being an introvert at workplace is hell, no matter how good you’re you’ll always feel left out coz you’re not the chatty one
Same happening to me in university 😭
I feel like I don't fit into other people
Edit: I made two best friends are they are the best people of my life. And with other people, they are the ones who start conversation with me. Sometimes you just have to make a little move and everything starts moving towards you
we introverts lives in our heads so we do not have the necessary energy to chat with others.
Ah yeah
😭😭😭😭me
@@iqrabhat645 same Here at College
Basically I'm an introvert. But when I get true loving friends, I become an extrovert. Anyone like this?
Exactly me
Sankara Narayanan yes!
Mee 😂😂🤚🤚
Totally me hah
Me
Introverts report card be like:
She/he is a smart student but needs to participate more in class.
this is so relatable.
Yas.. totally relatable
Relatable
It's not like I didn't participate its just I don't know what to do
Relatable AF
Saying an introvert to speak up is as rude as to say an extrovert shut up.
Wow.
Let me break this.
chhota bhai 😂😂
It is as rude as saying to a banana stop being a fruit.
Wow, I would get mad with both things, if someone would say that to me.
I’m an introvert, I used to get in “fights” very often, just by doing nothing, so it’s really weird. When I speak and say something they tell me to shut up, when I don’t they ask me why I don’t talk.
Sitting alone is better than surrounded by fake people 👏
True 🥺
These lines literally hit to my heart man you're a legend
@@Mustafa-qq5hg thanks 👍
Right
Don’t know how many times I’ve said this 👍👍
"Don't think of introversion as something that needs to be cured". I love this
But whole world thinks different. And I don't "love this". Society so far needs to understand introversion. When you have a job interview you need to be an extravert e.t.c. We are not understood. And I oftenly fall into a trap of thinking that something is wrong with me.
@proper psychology thank you
@serega superman I grew up thinking something was wrong with me. The world isn't kind to us introverts
@@leratomabusela7468 yep
That was a relief to me
Mostly introverts are watching this whereas extroverts should watch this.
I'm an extrovert but too lazy to watch this. It was recommended to me so I clicked to read the comments. Some of y'all mistake social anxiety for introversion and yes I made my research. My older brother is at the end of the introversion spectrum and he is more confident around people than me. I'm a socially anxious extrovert which is literal hell. Also I love introverts ya'll are cute
Kyle tf
@@zerlix.4878... what
chhota bhai I am
@@kyleg2294 I too is an extrovert then i question myself
What happens if 2 introverts met each other?
When you’re both shy and introverted people take you as arrogant
Exactly
True.
Its soo truee
Yeahh
Omg, finally someone who understands!!
You may think I'm small, but I have a universe inside my mind."
Same
Exactly
So true ❤
100 percentage true
I am an introvert
But as you can see
I am in my way to success
"Don't think of introversion as something that needs to be cured" I wish more people understand that😪
Me too.
But studies show that extroversion correlates with happiness and healthy self-image
Same
No Name What a load of bullocks. I bet I’m more happy than most extroverts.
No one can cure me
*“Don’t think of introversion as something that needs to be cured."*
Susan Cain
@Top Most No they even can be artists. Skill like sketching etc can only be learned in quite and lonely places.
myrically yeah I also watched 2 minutes into the video
@@SomeGuy-sf7bc I just wrote the quote down for you, so you'll never forget 😉
I m an introvert then
@Top Most Stop quoting me!
"PewDiePie"
Every introvert was once or more than once called "shy and timid" by teachers and relatives.
Yep
Many times
I'm literally the ghost in my class, every teacher write that i'm really discreet, shy...
I often get called the quite king in my class
Yep
"THE BIGGEST MISTAKE AN INTROVERT CAN MAKE IS TRY TO BE AN EXTROVERT" this line 💥
Oh
@@kjjadeja3531 oh why? Are you an introvert who is currently trying to be an extravert ?
lol that's weird cuz i did 💀
@@kjjadeja3531 lmao nooo! infact im worse now💀
@@59strawberries soooo bad😭😭
Extrovert: Quarantined is hell
Introvert: *Finally, it's heaven*
Yasssssss🖤Introverts just enjoy themselves and Never care about others
@@akilaakhila5604 thats not true. I care about others.
@@sadjklfthere maybe different types of Introverts . I just say what I feel✌️
Actually 😂😂😂👏👏👍👍
True...
I’m an introvert and would never bring a book to party.
I never bring my book to a party. I just find the bookcase and pick one from there. 😅
I wouldn't go to the party
Unless it's a book on how to be an extrovert.
I’ve been invited to parties before by my close friends, but I’ve never gone because there were way too many people I didn’t know there. But I’m completely fine when I go out with a few friends on a night out, it’s fun
@Yui Nuni Well, I don't go to parties. Hell, I even bailed early from my uncle's wedding night.
*I’m an introvert, I wouldn’t even consider being at the party.*
yep last party I went, I was chillimg with his cat 😂😂😂 while they're blasting music having fun
Yep... But then i have my parents who are like... "You have to go there, you are lucky that we allow you to go to friends parties or other events unlike other parents"
I probabbly would but the think is that I am not invited.
I was introvert at the start of party but then at the last everyone was my friend :)) sometimes you need to speak up
Sometimes my parents force me to go to a party. I rather lock myself in my room tbh
Being an introvert doesn't mean that they are always sad or feeling lonely.
We are so comfortable with ourselves ♥
Usually only after a certain point in life when we see things from another angle
Man i seen life mostly for what it is. (Hopefully) sometimes it's funny that whatever job I'm at I'm teased in earshot about how quiet I am. But majority of the time just uncomfortable with being watched all shift because I'm quiet.
Yeah there’s a difference to being alone and being lonely, being alone is to not be around people, being lonely is not being around people and to wish you were around people.
Yup. :)
Introverts love to work alone, but that doesn’t mean we can’t work in groups.
That is a good distinction to make.
I can work with a group but it's very mentally draining. I prefer working alone.
i only like to work in a group if it’s with friends or people i know other that groups make me very uncomfortable-
True, but when it comes to working in groups it’s going to be like our *last option*
Right, but I still never have liked group work when it came to school. Ya know, such as "stations" in English.
why does modern society still think bullying is “haha loser”
I got sodomized once
Ikr
I cringed at that part
Vanish a lot of people are taking the mick out of everything I show interest in. And I mean everything. Any tiny thing. They laugh and mess around and tease and take the mick out of everything. They do it every day and I don’t know if they think it doesn’t bother me or not but it’s getting to the point that I don’t want to go into school. I can’t tell if this is bullying or not but I don’t think it is. We’re all kids. They’re just messing around. That’s what I’m telling myself
Also I don’t know why I just put this in here I apologise
LucyTheEvilFox you need someone to talk to? i hope you can look past the things they say to you and if you wanna be a little more specific i can help you. sorry if my comment offended you
When you are being asked to introduce yourself in front of the class :
me: Ah shit, here we go again
This is why I hate first day of school
I hated it
if anyone want a introvert frnd then join this group chat.whatsapp.com/HvIn0lYHFc8JkfjoFM5m1o
Teacher: Introduce youself
Me: -I exist, live, and breathe oxygen-
Teacher:
Class:
Facts😂
Introvert can actually very social. Just with the right people ♥
I guess u meant being talkative. Speaking for myself, I guess that's not essentially a trait that doesn't occur with introverts, it's just that we can have as much fun when we're alone as when accompanied. But we're like this mostly when in a one on one conversation (as said in the video).
@@thiagogs2524I’m An Introvert and I talk a lot with the people I feel comfortable with
I agree
"Loneliness is not necessarily when you are alone".
Some people need space. Just give it to them.
True
True
I wish people understood some of us just need the space and be alone for a while!
But now, I'm too old being a single man😭
@@user-ci2ds7mw7s Try to like Steve Harvey said "be comfortable being uncomfortable"and excesise doing things outside your comfort zone especially with women, because women want to have a connection with men and making them feel a spark of attraction and connection, which may require expressing yourself more while flirting with them, check out dating couches like Dan Bacon here on UA-cam for dating advice.💯
saying the words "speak up" to an introvert is the most worst feeling.
Or can be the most annoying phrase people say to you
@@infernalshogun2064 yeah
Indeed
It's the same feeling for an extrovert being told to shut up 😂
I won't say that it's the worst feeling ever but it does kinda hurt. Being an introvert is hard fam...
"The biggest mistake an introvert can make is trying to be an extrovert."
I felt that💔
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Edit
I somehow developed myself to being extrovert but the most thing that I'll ever advice u all, "You must accept who u really are bc that's the last thing that u'll be proud of." I realized that I don't need others' hate sayings to me just to pleased them. I learned that when u became true to yourself & to people around u, others would love you u. Not that I'm saying all would love you bc there's no such thing in world that all would be loving u, it's impossible but you'll be happier with yourself if u start giving yourself no care to what other's are saying about u.
I tried that...Only lasted one day, was too exhausting :/
@@juanmanuelmoramontes3883 *hugs u**
@@juanmanuelmoramontes3883 that is so sad for u, me I tried it for months but I didn't survive
Tried that, became an ambivert lol
What kind of partner should an introvert guy seek, an introvert, or an extrovert girl?
only introverts can understand the power of silence
Friends think why I am not partying and enjoying life🙃.
Introverts are powerful
I’m an introvert and I would never bring a book to a party
I wouldn’t go to party
i would not go to the party 😉😂😂
They wouldn't even know i exist
I went to one (it was supposed to be a tame birthday party...yeah, no) and played candy crush in the chair in the corner. Never going to another ‘birthday’ again
I’d never be invited... haha.. ha.huh
I would be at home 😂😂
Being Introverted doesn’t mean that they’re nerds who read books all day.
Edit:A lot of people are replying that they're introverts and they read books and alot are saying they're introverts but they don't read books.What I meant with the og comment was that reading books all day doesn't make you introvert.You could read all the books you want but your personality type is a diffirent thing.
Edit 2:You guys still don't get it
True.
And that's exactly what society thinks of us
Yeah and not all introverts are self-conscious there are confident introverts out there
Me who's read all Harry Potter books, and is writing my own book series: *wheeze*
True
Our family thinks we're depressed but the truth is that we're more comfortable with ourselves
And when we are actually depressed..... We can't even share it with anyone and it actually gets worst.
@@ashishranjan887 No..Most introverts are actually strong minded and think things through.. depression is just a state of mind..It's just a way of looking at things..there are all sorts of stuffs going on, the thing is, what do we decide to look at.. I really don't need to share my thoughts with anyone, I don't think a person who hasn't even given a thought about what life is can actually guide me..yes maybe he/she can make us ignore what we were thinking and that will be called as getting out of depression but for me, that's just running away and not seeking the truth..I also want to try and experience the ways of mind to be mentally stronger.. I have some introvert friends (I am also an introvert) and they all know that depression is just a state of mind..
Hmm
@@Variable_Degree_Series truth
Yes
I’m an introvert but if I get bullied someone is going to get a punch in the face from me
Wish I has that thinking I'm always telling myself it's not worth it
@@panzer2781 me too. If I end up being bullied I would consider how that develops. If it's going to be temporary I won't react. If it's not physical, I definitely won't hit the person, because I'm not stupid enough to start a fight. So far I have never had the need to fight, but I'm always prepared for the possiblity
I'm an introvert and I don't know how to fight
Yea. We can still stand up for ourselves. We not shy or anything its just too fucking much to talk or to be wth other ppl. We like quiet.
@@alextint5987 you learn on the road no one know how to fight until he/she gets into a real fight
You know what introvert means:
You can't start speaking with someone that you're not close to..
You can't stop talking with someone that you are close with..
Am I right ?
I'm totaly aggre with u
Absolutely 👍
Yes thats true.One day i talked with a girl in my class and i realised im too much cause i kept talking and still when she see me she laughs at me istg
yup
Nope, I never speak unless people talk to me first. Idk about talking with friends tho since I don't have any
Teacher: "EVERYONE BE QUIET! CANT YOU ALL BE QUIET?!"
Intervert kid at the back: *hold my words*
Patrick Dulfo this is funny, but I also don’t like this
Again an ARMY member fr tho. Its like being scolded for no reason
Wait, I am an introvert and I talked a lot.
Teachers: be quite. How many time i need to tell you. Why i never said this to her(me)
Me: because I'm shy
I hate when teachers are saying this to my classmates. Im always blushing.
I'm more like the introvert kid in the front
When two introverts became friend its is amazing
Yeah searching for someone like that, but looks like on real society introverts don't exist at all 🤔
me and my friend 🥲
And when two introverts of opposite sexes become lovers, that's the best of all!
@@agentorange153 sounds good but hard to find right
@@nipun555 but They hidden germs
Life is hard when you are both shy and introvert beleive me this is the truth
I agree @Saa chi
I can relate to it
Spot on
Probably tougher to be a shy extrovert
Skyler D. agreed, assume you would be expected to be loud but you’d be scared. the shy introvert would expected to be quiet and could sneak out of it
Quarantine, social distancing, studying from home, lockdown was heaven for me. people will say I am being abnormal, but dear outgoing people we don't feel lonely when we r alone. we love it.
True! I wished that this setup wont end, but here we are back to normal..
You are not alone.
@E, Beautifully put. God bless
Yes I love the time being with myself than anyone else. I often think i can live in another planet alone..
If you feel lonely, you are in bad company.
"The biggest mistake an introvert can make is try to be an extrovert"
I felt that
My parents always tell go out and play with them (somewhat forcing me to become an extrovert)
I will be very happy if they understand me
Yeah... My mom puts me into social events often and I just hate it... I'm just there and not talking to anybody and I want to go home and be alone. But my parents force me to being an extrovert... And they even said that I'll go to some psychiatrist so they will learn me communicate more... I can't understand why they do this
@@zuzanastrakova5169 some similar situation here 😢
I agree with you. It is important to accept and appreciate yourself just as you are.
See brother being introvert have nothing to do with playing outside which is quite natural
I remained introvert and I still played it's a different kind of joy
Because of an introvert everyone avoid me in my family. I seriously think about suicide in sometime.
I am 20 years old and I am an introvert. Growing up, I was really a shy guy. I used to think myself as an introvert when I was shy and sometimes try to pretend like an extrovert which was hard. These past couple of years, I have been trying to be aware of myself. All the things you have mentioned is true and I have experienced most of them. I have realized that it is very important to express our feelings and communicate whenever needed, no matter of our personality. Thank you, you have been really educating us.
I too 20 years introvert 😃
Yes I totally agree with you 💯💯💯💯
"Be alone that's the secret of invention, that's where the ideas are born" - Nikola Tesla
Brandon L Love it!!!
Also an odd patient
But not all are genius , what about ordinary person who wants a simple life
@@shankardas6938 live simply
@@rajeev6126 he cant, becuz of this
"Extroverts change the world, but introverts makes worlds" (citation not from me ;-;')
Bruh you have positive thoughts keep it up
Wow motivational Line ✌👍
I have a better one
Women change the world but men get prostate cancer
@@superleekegshoondinovevo6998 wut. (Lol I'm confused, as a female)
@@xhlcus88 consider yourself lucky you are free from the clutches of the prostate cancer demon
being an introvert, the only problem i have is when i am left with a group of strangers..i feel awkward and nervous when i am thrown into a new environment but when i get comfortable then i don't have any issue in socializing.. its just that i need time to get comfortable with new people and new situations.. another thing is that i need some alone time to recharge myself ..i can't be with people for a long time because i get drained out... i don't like small talks and i don't enjoy talking just for the sake of talking... i like expressing myself to people who really listens... when someone does not listen or don't pay attention, i don't speak at all
Most of this describes me. And I’m a Natasha too. We should be friends.
@@natashakawechebanda9571 yeah sure 😊
Agree with this
I can definitely relate to most of this
Same here
It's really funny how my teacher said that "she's introvert, she's quiet, she doesn't speak often, she has to be an extrovert" Like now I feel so relieved that a video like this existed to give me such an important lesson! Thank you so much!!
Btw HAPPY NEW YEAR;)
if you're a quite person, just own it. Be comfortable with yourself and know that you have your fair share of strengths that are unique to you.
Quiet*. :)
Thank you for your message. :)
Hm
Mindprovement Beautiful!!
@@riteshmahato1026 hm? How much? 😂
That's eye opening
Imagine being introvert, shy and have social anxiety. Let me tell you, it's a nightmare.
I think i have those in me, but not sure
True dude
It really is.
It's not,if u look at it right.
That is not what an introvert is, that is being socially awkward.
Why the hell he is reading in a party? We introverts dont attend dump party
We aren't even invited ,most of the time...
I get invited but , i make excuses
We make excuses
They wanted to show how we feel in social gatherings
U r right we introvert rarely attend party
I literally teared up 😭💞 this is relatable af- people just give us a "quiet one" or "not so cool one" tag and they think it's funny it actually hurts a lot. To all the introverts, be who you are and don't let the words to people stop you ✨ 💛
Life advice: Being an introvert doesnt mean he is weak....Sometimes introverts can beat the shit outvof you..if you try to bully
😂🤣😂
/r/iamverybadass
This is absolutely true.. And it's me 💪
@@darksoul00866 Cringe..
BIG FACTS
I just hate when someone say:
*why are you not speaking much?*
Same here😂
U don't know how much I hate it. It's totally none of their business.
Same. Its even a reason that my bf almost breaks up with me.. I'll be like "hey lets play a game" and he is like "ight only if you talk more" and we fought alot, I say that I really cant talk much,he doesnt believe me tho
@@dilarakarabulut1243 you deserve better person who will never leave you.
Tell them "coz you are!"...and just do what you were doing.
Extroverts bullying introverts is the neverending story
True, it’s mainly because the bully is often the one who feels insecure though
As an introvert since childhood thankfully I was not bullied ever in school or college. Even those so called bully or stronger looking guys from my classroom were good to me. Maybe I got lucky or what I don't know.
@@makadoxvsdk9530 that's a whole new meaning to the - "silent kid".
@@vamshitarun4399 Yeah I was silent but not that dangerious kind of silent kid. I was good at exam and I kinda used to help them in exam by showing my answers. Maybe that's why they were not bad to me.
@@makadoxvsdk9530 oh lol. relatable haha
I love how for most or perhaps even all of us introverts is that as soon as we find someone in the group that's also introverted or even more introverted than you are we will immediately pull ourselves together to include them more and be kind because we know exactly how it feels to be left out or misunderstood. We got each others backs 💯
Life of introverts is not easy at all 🥺
It's easy for me 😌😄
Seriously I dont see the big deal its literally so easy to just ignore other people why would you listen to people you dont feel like talking to or arguing with
@@neneyashirothegirlwhoevery8022 I wish I have that confidence
@@joelvalencia2721 you can have that confidence you just gotta find it
True
“Introverts may prefer the quiet, they may prefer space and stillness. They prefer working alone.” Sums up my 16 years of life 😂
You kids are lucky to live in this day and age where you can watch encouraging and helpful videos like this. When I was your age we didn't have UA-cam and nobody told us stuff like this. We grew up being told there was something wrong with us and many of us are still screwed up to this day because of it. ☹️
@@nicholashayes5773 That really sucks :/
Same here
No way dude, same 😂🤣
Same, except next month it'll be 40 years. For the first half of my life I felt bad about it, thinking I needed to "fix" myself and try to become something I'm not. Then I got tired of the frustration and accepted and embraced who I am as I am. It took a lot of effort, but I am more comfortable with myself than I have ever been. I still get the odd "you're so quiet" comment, it's still a little triggering but I just shrug it off.
I feel different from my family because I'm the only one "introvert" in my family.
Same bud
Same
Sane
Naur same 😭 went to a family event yesterday and I was not that sociable. Felt out of place
@@dre_andre007 Bro I feel the same way. No matter what you say or do I feel like I don't belong here.
As an introvert, I have to deal with many difficulties on a daily basis. The worst of them are when someone forces me to talk
Now you realised what intriversin is
Same
Wait, how can anyone FORCE you to talk against your will???
@@agentorange153it’s happened to me before
@@rhysbiggins4683 I still don't see how other people can FORCE you to talk against your will if you don't want to! But then again, I have a very high assertiveness level as per the ocean test (I think 16 out of 20), so I can simply dig in my heels and refuse to talk despite pressure to do so -- maybe it's different for introverts with low assertiveness!
There's a lot of difference between introversion and social anxiety. Most of us suffer from social anxiety disorder but we think ourselves as introverts. Honestly, the difference needs to be understood.
Spot on!!! When I read comments, I’m like “nope that’s social anxiety not introvert personality”....
I have been an introvert since as long as I can remember. Took countless myers briggs and always 98-100 percent introvert but about 10 years ago, I started feeling very anxious when I had to go around people. Long story short, I saw a therapist, counselor and took a long psychiatric exam and was diagnosed with social anxiety
Care to explain the difference?
@@mayukhdas73 I want to hear too
I have social anxiety disorder
@@mayukhdas73 Pretty sure introverts just enjoy being alone like extroverts enjoy being with people, and someone with social anxiety would have trouble doing social things like socializing. Maybe they want to be social but doing it just gives them too much anxiety.
I honestly don’t know why people think that everyone wants to be a part of their lives
Look, if there's a God up there, I'm pretty sure He wouldn't even know what the answer to that question is.
amen..
Because most people are not just selfish, they're also self-centered...
@@ChefMonke07 Amen and Amen
I literally never say a word unless I absolutely have to.
Right!!!😍😍
Same
SAME
Me too
Same, now I stutter whenever I talk
Thank you for this episode from the bottom of my soul. I feel inward love and affection for myself and I know that being an introvert is beautiful.
I think this fits more with nonsocial people, rather than introverts
I'm both so it fits me either way
Gareth same
Are they different
@@kidmundane8029 Yes. An introvert just means someone who recharges when they're alone rather than around other people. An introvert can be the life of the party and know how to socialise but still prefer to be at home. An introvert can also be nonsocial and shy, there's many different types tho that is the stereotype when people think of the word introvert. Bottom line is introverts get energy from being alone/in a place they think is comfortable and extroverts get it from being around people.
behrlo moyn exactly 🤤😭
I'm proud to be an introvert...
Same bro
Same
#Mee tooo
Why?
same
But I'm not, I'm sad cause I don't have friends
I'm a shy introvert and I always was. When I was in kindergarten I was always lonely, and with no friends. But one girl would always come to me and talk to me. I tried to walk away because I liked the loneliness, but after I switched my kindergarten she came too and tried talking to me again. She never gave up on me and now we are still best friends till this day. UwU.
Me too same
Ur lucky to have that 😉 kinda frndd whoohooo
Aww that’s so sweet:’) 😭💗
OMG me too.... but soon I figured out that she just used me in the end.... she betrayed me....
So cute 😍💕
Being an introvert is far better than trying to rub elbows with everybody against your will
One of my teachers said this to my mum
“She needs to talk more in class and I can hardly hear her when she talks”
And I’m an introvert
In my case every teacher had said that from the last 12 years whenever my parents went to parent teacher meeting😟😕😞
It's so f irritating😥
This is what my teachers say to my mom every time they meet her
@@kenetkelbesa3870 that's why i don't take them to meetings if i take i go with my dad who is less talkative as well 😂🤣
Same here
It's hard being an introvert in this extroverted world. 😔
sure ...
You are correct...I always suffer and get depressed when sitting among a group and being alone
Entertain yourself. There's no point in getting disappointed because of the blabberings of some idiot extros.
True mate
Don’t let them affect you. Once you embrace your introversion and shine that light. No one will judge you and when they do, you should have the attitude “i don’t give a f**k”
Introvert squad✋
Fazil 🙋♂️
🙋🙋
Cheers
INFP here!
🙆♂️
As an introvert i get depressed many times but this video gives me chill, thank you💛
"The quietest person in the room, is actually the loudest."
Mind isEverything k
Sounds deep but actually doesnt make sense at all, sorry
i think he means
the quietest person in the room is the loudest in their mind
The quietest person in the room gets the most attention therefore without saying a word he is the loudest in the room. All eyes on him and if he ever chose to say just one sentence it would hold more value and worth than the other guy who thinks he is the loudest in the room.
i thought it will be in their minds but actually im loud in my mind,even when im trying to sleep
*Extrovert* - gain energy from the outside - socialising
*Introvert* - gain energy from the inside - introspection
Extroversion and Introversion can change (become *ambivert* ) throughout life
I find you almost every video comment😇☺😊
Am I introvert?
I can talk to people and not be quite but Its really hard for me to be that way, really, because I want others to like me. I always think of what other people would think about me. To be honest I am scared to express myself. Untill now I am confuse of what should be me.
I prefer staying at home and enjoy myself and family.
@@racquelcastilla3322 I wouldn’t necessarily say that you are an introvert.
What I would say is that you have to improve your self esteem because you seek external validation. Only by not caring what others think of you, will you be truthfully able to speak your mind. Your wholeness comes within.
@@racquelcastilla3322 introvert do not look for validation of others because they know WHO THEY ARE. Introvert are not supposed to fit in, but to stand out. Or impressed other people. Introvert are not "here" to impress no one. They celebrate their uniqueness. I am an introvert. I shut down my outside to build my inside. Confident are silence, insecurities are loud.
Rina Querida That’s not true. At all. Many introverts look for validation from others and struggle to discover who they are. Introversion has absolutely nothing to do with confidence, self esteem, creativity or uniqueness. It is simply where you draw energy from. That’s it.
Most of the introverts are seeing things deeper than others. They do not want to waste time with trivial things like most people do.
Exactly! I don't want superficial relationships with people. I want to be genuine and I want that from others.
Yeah mostly they are gossiping so nah I have my problems to take care of
And that’s why I hate small talk.
Well, I do see things deeper than others, but I love wasting my time too.
Ey stop leaking the secrets
I have seen 21 years of my life being and introvert, shy, staying away from people, not attending any parties. Hate parties. Hate gathering. Hate relatives . Hate to talk to anyone. Love being alone. But family and friends hate me because of this. Making fun of me.
21 years old?
Oh yeah so true I agreee
Its alright mate we all are in the same boat 🗿
@@gowtham6822 almost
if you really love being alone you would not be shy.
Introverts don’t read books while everyone else plays games.
I mean if it’s a damn good book I will. Depends on the game and the book
@@vavacadoz Exactly..
Wait...are we all armys?
It's so funny 🤣 I watch a random clip on yt and army are everywhere 🤣
Maybe you don't if someone want to what's wrong with that?
The most difficult task is to find real friends
ikr...that's why we have to take care ourself
Pratibha Sharma I mean, not really for me. I have a few close friends, and one that I find is my true, loving friend that I can be crazy around without feeling conscious of myself. We’re both introverts who have known each each other for about 6 years now 😂. I’m not friends with everyone, but practically everyone knows me because of the extroverts lol, they know my name and that I’m that quiet one who never speaks. Most people r nice and friendly, I’m just not friends with everyone.
I think it's the opposite. It's easier for us introverts to find real friends. Part of it being, we don't surround ourselves with fake people, they're too draining for us. Rather, we spend time with people who even in our introversion can make us feel energised and talking to them is just effortless. They are the real friends who always stick around no matter what.
I don't even have friends
@@iliveinsideyourhouse3943 then try to make some 😝
This were a lot of examples of bullying. Being an introvert doesn’t mean you’re being bullied and doesn’t mean you have no friends or are always the one left out. I get the message of the video, but the examples weren’t that great
Thank you. Someone who understands the meaning of the word "introvert"
Introvert r the person who love being alone , they doesn't feel jealous of being alone
Brenda TB yeah ikr
Yeah the success thing is too cliche and could lead to bad impression and expectations to introverts
Yeah and they too have best friends to whom they openly speak up. They don't have any problem being with their friends and teachers.
Thank you so much for making this video. I’m a student, and I’ve struggled a lot in school. I always thought there was something wrong with me because people often ask why I’m quiet or don’t participate, but I never know how to explain it. Watching your video really made me feel understood, and it brought me to tears. Thank you for creating something that speaks to people like me - it means a lot
My whole life I watched extroverts get rewarded (especially in high school and college). They got the fame, girls and attention. It also looked like they had more fun. So I forced myself to be an extrovert and eventually became very extroverted with my personality. I traveled the world, threw parties, fought mma in front of thousands of people and gave speeches as a teacher in front of hundreds. What I found out was forcing myself to be an extrovert was very exhausting and created a lot of anxiety. When I threw parties I was so anxious and overthinking that I couldnt even enjoy them. There is some truth to this video, sometimes we are naturally wired to be a certain way, learn to enjoy your natural qualities and be content with that. Forcing yourself to be another type of person will never make you happy.
Agree ✨ el gringo nice name
Wow you acheived alot. Even if you say you didn't enjoy it you will have alot of interesting memories to look back on. 😄 Normally when i do something infront of many people my whole face becomes on fire haha. And i agree that having parties is the thing that drains most energy out if you. I can only enjoy going out with max 4 people who i know extremely well. Glad that introverts are being normalised now 😀
@@ChristieO3O absolutely, thanks to the internet and recent research we now understand our introverted behavior. In the past we were always made to feel isolated and scrutinized by others.
I agree to you .. I also tried to be extrovert once and ended up with stress and anxiety .. I feel better alone
@@your.dreamcream nothing wrong getting out of your comfort zone because that is how we learn and develop in life. Unfortunately (or fortunately) we still need to learn extroverted traits to get by in this American culture. I think for us introverts the most important thing to know is when our social batteries get drained and we need to check out so we can isolate.
I'm an introvet but I don't let others bully me...sheesh
Hi fie
Same, I always got bullied since elementary and high school but I fight back
@@phaydimalenda787 with force?
same I don't want to get bullied and I fight them back in not intentionally way
@@vermelho7801 if they hurt me physically of course I will fight back
"The biggest mistake an introvert can make is try to be an extrovert." That is really what i want people to know......
This good but I want to be more
I dont want to be stuck as i am rn
I dont want to be just hiding, i also want to make friends but i just dont have that courage that skills to talk people
And that leaves me frustrated
But If i try to just choose me
I feel lonely
But making friends just making feel not true to myself it makes me so conscious
I want to make friends without worrying
😁
@@Yassi_gorl God same
M tryna b an extro
@@Yassi_gorl I do understand that feeling. Regrets on memories that could have been made and bonds that could have been formed. It does get lonely trying to be yourself. What I had in mind was that you can interact, go out more and stuff but in a way you don't judge yourself or try to be someone else. You know have fun but always be you in ways that you've yet to discover.
If you have good friends that you are comfortable being with them. I'm sure they understand your feelings, if they don't then you can tell them about it. Ask to spend time with them. It don't have to be something very unique, start from something simple. Be bold and yes be shy like shit out it later. This is how I do now. I don't have to say much around them because they understand me. You may feel left out in that situation. If so, then say some things that you want time to time instead of anxiety filling you up.
the first three scenes literally happened with me multiple times, only people who faced it will understand the feeling. almost crying
Yes
ALL of these scenes happened with me multiple times!
I am not an introvert please
I have lots of friends...(imaginary)
I talk a lot...(with myself)
I take part in lot of activities... (Like overthinking)
I even have a best friend...(my dog)
Same
Same here 😌
You are not alone 🙃
Same.Like I also sometimes talk to myself and then my parents say that I should not talk to myself saying that others will think u are crazy.
Same here
I'm an introvert and trying or pretending to be an extrovert is my biggest regret. I've wasted my entire junior high school years pretending to be someone that I'm not. Also, all the friends that I've made eventually leaves me at the end.
I feel you☹
İ tried that when I liked a boy. I was hate myself 🗣️ why are you shying? .. it was my biggest mistake. But now I know myself and I love myself 💘
Hi from Turkey 💞
Exactly, I always felt I needed to be more loud, more outgoing but it always hurt me that even though I try those things people still see me as quiet. That or I would always feel like I make friends only for them to leave me.
exactly, thank you for pointing this out
@@RedditNail are u a nigerian
THIS WORLD IS SO JUDGEMENTAL
agree
Filipino?
So you also judgemental
@Rhian Kate dude his spelling is actually right xD
Rhian Kate It was the correct spelling tho...
❣️😍 Its soo connecting soo relatable.. and the best thing is we all introverts came out and expressing our feelings and opinions through comments here
I really hope society starts accepting more introverted behavior as time goes on, maybe then we'll have peace instead of the usual bullying and insecurities.
I remember when I used to go to school I was known as the 'shy girl' by everyone. When I was in middle school, it happened in gym, there was a girl talking to her friends, she called my name and asked how old I am, I said my age and she said, "See? That's the only way she'll talk to you!" and laughing a bit, I never thought of it and went on to what I was doing. No one ever really talked to me since it went around school that I never talk. Others assumed that I never talk since they heard it from someone else, and see me (not talking/quiet), even teachers and office staff noticed it, but they also noticed my kind personality. I'd say that I relate more with teachers than the people I went to school with, besides my friends.
I may have been the quietest, but I was also a very smart person, the kind people go up to for answers or how to solve questions on their classwork, or copy homework. Some questions the teachers asks the class that no one answered but I already knew what it was- I just don't want to give it away. Don't get me wrong, some people talked to me, even had conversations with me. However, when there were partner projects, I was ALWAYS the only one without a partner, or a group (unless I had a friend in a class with me). It at first bothered me, but I got used to it and decided to work on my own. I only talk to people when they talk to me.
But I don't open up to people easily, but when I do and become friends with them, I'm always by their side and they'll see the goofy, more extroverted side of me! I have a few friends, but I like to keep my circle small. But the simple moral of the story is this: Never judge introverts everyone, if you actually go up and talk to them, everyday, they'll become used to you and they'll be some of the most interesting people you'll ever meet. *There are some introverts still waiting to be adopted :D*
*If you read this far, I thank you for being patient and reading this. I'm sorry for talking so much, I'm an author, so I type more words than I think I type.*
Which author are you?
This is me in school but not the part where I'm left out without a partner. If you're smart, a lot of people will want you in a group project. In a drama skit, I usually end up writing the script and directing the scene 😂.
Yeah, same with me. I'm always left without a partner or the last one picked for a group.
@Galaxi There's that factor but most times in my case, I assumed those roles to get out of acting in the drama skit.
@@mayankjha1145 I don't get exactly paid for my works, since I'm only an author from wattpad XD.
One more thing to say, " the more you become smarter the more you become quiet".
*quiet
Very well said.
that is dumb logic
Babies dumb
The more you become smarter? You mean, the smarter you become
I was unhappy about being an introvert during my school and college days. But now I'm not. I accept me as myself & I'm just proud to be an introvert being in my thoughts rather than with somebody else. I love the company of myself more.
@NLVR totally related bro, but sometimes i felt tired and can’t be as active as the extroverts like most of my friends who are extroverts in college:😭 how do i become stronger as yoursef breuh?
How old r u
Well said agree, I'm introvert from childhood days and now as well, I hate myself from 23 yrs now at 24. I feel i born with something unique personality, sometimes I hide my feelings & pains , wishes, sometimes I burst out with became show anger, emotional, fear of loss & failure, future. I was not able talk with elder seniors, girls.
When I use to be kid parents thought being quite is good things that what kid should be in front of elders. So I thought to be good kid and trying my best to be quite. Once I grew up I found out that I am an introvert. But then also I knew there is disadvantages being introvert and also advantages being introvert. So even being extrovert also have same benefit and problem. But the most important is that never stay silence when you need to speak. "Be who you are!"
Teachers: shhh! Be quiet! Don’t talk when I’m talking!
Also teachers: why doesn’t this student talk more?
I don't talk because I can't speak up
I have throat problems and social anxiety I think so then it's so hard for me to speak up, talk to other people that I'm not close with normally, and participate. And then that results in getting bad grades for participation and I feel like it just isn't fair
ISTGGG
Meep true, like maybe if u stop forcing me to speak i would actually start speaking up, i speak when i have to, that’s how I function
I speak when it is necessary
Introvert things:
i personally hate short talks.
random idiot: hey , how are u?
me: fine.
*now what?*
Ikr
Relatable
Same
Surface talk....the worse
i guess i'm that one idiot that always do the short talks to keep up the conversation
"There is a big difference between being shy and being an introvert."
Yeah I'm both. 😒
Same bro. I am happy till lockdown but now schools open and my classmates again making fun of me. And the other boys just humiliates me to put better impression on girls. And I am depressed now.
@@trws97 I am so sorry about you🙁
Me tooi
@@gabrielamedvedtadic thanks for the sympathy
Same here I’m both
I'm actually an "outgoing introvert", which basically means i love interacting with people and making new friends, but at the end of the day social interaction will always drain me and i still prioritize alone time, and it's kind of hard for me to be social if i'm not already with a few close friends (for example, in a class where i have no friends i won't speak to anyone, but in one where i have a couple i'll be super chatty and outgoing)
That's called being an ambivert!
That not introvert, that called ambivert which means having both introvert and extrovert quality.
We introverts are the most fascinating people with a mysterious personality. That's the beauty of us, we are someone within ourselves and we prefer not to show it to the world.
Don't be ashamed to be an introvert, embrace your qualities, don't try to hide who you really are.
Be you! Cuz that's when you can live *your* life to the fullest 😉
Facts !
bub you aren''t quirky or special for being introverted, it's literally just a personality trait. Nice try, get therapy
@@mayw2140 troll harder
But the problem is you could only unlock this courage in chat/cmt section. Show'em the public...when necessary
You’ve said it all. Thanks for speaking in behalf of us and thanks for the encouragement 💪🙌🙌🙌
“Why are you always so quiet?”
So far nobody has asked me that so I guess I'm kind of lucky but when I do speak up a little they're all surprised and it's kind of funny
@@bonniebunbuns630 same thing but I get asked: "why are you so quiet?"
I used to ask my highly introverted friend that All the time in high school. Thought I was helping and back then I was not well aware of what an introvert is. I remember convincing him to go to prom even if he wasn't gonna bring a date, after a month of insisting he came, he danced a little then decided to sit through the rest of the time, drink beverages and eat snacks. I'm kinda ashamed that I kept trying to force him to join the dance floor and almost put him on the spot, I thought he was sad and wanted a push 🤦🏻♂️. We rarely text now after he moved to college which I guess is fair... So to all the other introverts, excuse our misunderstanding sometimes, even when you tell us a million times that you are not sad and you are good for now, we... We mean well.
Oh my gosh! That question! I hear that all the time!
That question even lead to someone asking me if I was mute.. 😑
@@oyaoyaoya5639 but like... Why don't you talk? Like I get it introverts don't like to talk much, but like if an extrovert asks u to join a convo or an event, why wouldn't u?
*“LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST,*
*INSTEAD OF LOVING THE IDEA OF*
*OTHER PEOPLE LOVING YOU.”*
Agree💯
It's so true!!!👌👌👌
*"WHY ARE WE SCREAMING"*
@@bjrntykhelle2892 just to acknowledge that people are not alone with this mindset🙃
Are you BTS army 😃😃😃
I was always the one left out because of being so quiet in class but nobody understood what being an Introvert is all about so I thank you for this video!
when you're shy as well as an introvert....
Welcome to the club shy introverts united... separately... in different houses, but united... I guess.
@@NoName-hv7xn 😂😂😂
@@Ulkamukta 😂😂😂
Yeah!! I am
@@aktaverma2120 No worries, we know the struggle.
how can someone simply start talking with a random person?
how.. how the heck does that work?!?!
Connection on a human level.. saying hi and connecting, caring about everyone or someone you just met
It can be both scary and natural. I'll take myself as an example : shy and introverted dude. But it happened several times on the tube or in the street, I heard something I'd like to react to and I do it. People are surprised because "wtf this random dude just told me his opinion" but that leads most of the times to nice conversation after 😊 Force yourself out of your comfort zone, you'll see it'll become easier with time and you won't be even asking yourself "how the heck does that even works?" 😜
@@Btsarmy-oo3pl oops haha, i read that wrong somehowww xd thanks thoughh
@@joecisco7504 I don't connect with anybody
Like how can you not have social anxiety, i mean what in topics do i start the weather???
Imagine being lonely while you're not alone and being a happy person when you're alone.
i got it..
Omg I wanna cry...so accurate...I feel this way around company ALL THE TIME.
I totally agree with you issa
I don’t need to imagine, cause I experience it every day.
I get what ur saying
Speaking as an introvert, that short film basically summed up my life. Most of my friends in school pressured me to do stuff that I didn't want to do but I didn't say anything because I just wanted to focus on the thing I was doing. Luckily my parents understood me they were all heavy introverts. And I wish everyone could understand that I don't want to do things, or go to th8ngs because when I do I'm usually ignored.
"Quiet people have the loudest minds"
They do because we observe things in the wider picture
Preach💪
Yeah😃👍
Yeah....
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