A Simple Game To Never Run Out Of Things To Say In Conversation

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  • How To Never Run Out Of Things To Say In Conversation
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    We’ve all been there - you’re in conversation, things are humming along nicely and then out of nowhere the awkward silence rears it’s head. At just that moment, your mind goes completely blank, you don’t know what to say and you can sense the other person’s eyes wandering as they look for someone else to talk to.
    That scenario sucks so here are 5 tips to make sure you never run out of things to say in conversation
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    0:54 Ask open-ended questions
    1:40 Use revival questions
    2:37 Make a complimentary cold read
    3:00 Flip the script and let them be the one to talk
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  • @nachocabo4221
    @nachocabo4221 4 роки тому +5575

    -So, how do you like Toronto?
    -I've never mentioned Toronto...
    - ... Why?

  • @DanielVoyles
    @DanielVoyles 4 роки тому +6426

    "I see you have a big mouth, do you like to talk a lot?"

  • @FonchoVidal
    @FonchoVidal Місяць тому +551

    - Whats are you doing?
    - Drinking
    - Why?
    - Because I want to forget
    - What?
    - The shame I feel for drinking
    (Awkward silence)
    - This reminds me of that time I was in Toranto

    • @Kayoloz
      @Kayoloz 12 днів тому +26

      Family guy ahh conversation

    • @cheezit4080
      @cheezit4080 12 днів тому +19

      Little prince

  • @jamesq7954
    @jamesq7954 Рік тому +6970

    Me: "as an introvert, I've had a lot of experience with awkward silence."
    Therapist: "and what have you learned?"
    Me: "How to weaponize it against my enemies."
    Therapist: ......
    Me: .... "So how do you know Toronto?"

    • @Twowheelsandadream4
      @Twowheelsandadream4 Рік тому +345

      There is something wrong with my mind… TheRapist is how I read Therapist.

    • @drumerdude2661
      @drumerdude2661 Рік тому +27

      I lived there once but I had to get out there u know because of the dream killing and the boring silence and the bloody hippies smoking weed

    • @idrinkwater1124
      @idrinkwater1124 Рік тому +79

      @@Twowheelsandadream4 💀💀

    • @lilyoda4208
      @lilyoda4208 Рік тому +12

      @@Twowheelsandadream4 nawh same

    • @cloudfinraptor
      @cloudfinraptor Рік тому +39

      To pack even more tips into there: *So why do you know Toranto?*

  • @ziimbo3957
    @ziimbo3957 4 роки тому +17914

    Flirting with the bartender: “you come here often?”

    • @user10842
      @user10842 4 роки тому +101

      😂

    • @rpeshbhujade3974
      @rpeshbhujade3974 4 роки тому +74

      😂😂😂

    • @skullj2872
      @skullj2872 4 роки тому +116

      Bro, why.

    • @claudizero6964
      @claudizero6964 4 роки тому +105

      I swear, if she’s that type of cool girl, she’ll laugh and that’s the spot where you want to be! Now order a se+ on the beach and she’ll be all yours 😏

    • @mitsuracer87
      @mitsuracer87 4 роки тому +60

      "You, come here often."

  • @Aubjordan
    @Aubjordan 4 роки тому +2715

    “I had a good time yesterday at the party.”
    “So you had a good time yesterday?”
    “Um yeah like I just said...
    “Why?”
    “...Because I went to the party...”

  • @kookiesjams595
    @kookiesjams595 Рік тому +3223

    1. Say ‘this reminds me of..’
    2. Ask open ended questions.
    3. Ask ‘why?’
    3. Use revival questions - like ‘How do you guys know each other?’
    5. Ask them about their future plans
    6. Compliment them
    7. Allow the other person to move the conversation by maintaining eye contact, or repeat the last words they said to encourage them to continue

  • @tetrabirac779
    @tetrabirac779 Рік тому +1738

    My dad, who is really great at socializing, taught me one rule:
    Try asking your conversation partner questions about he/she. Not only will it lead to new conversation topics like they mentioned in the video, it also gives you time to think about how to follow up after they finish. As an introvert, this works greatly for me.

    • @caramelese8520
      @caramelese8520 Рік тому +73

      Till the person says I'm good you?

    • @tetrabirac779
      @tetrabirac779 Рік тому +76

      @@caramelese8520 usually it does not continue like that, but if it does thennn bruh it's gonna be awkward silence again

    • @jadenpina3989
      @jadenpina3989 Рік тому +21

      @@caramelese8520
      after that talk about something that happened to you recently that might continue the conversation (in a good way obviously)

    • @ahleenah
      @ahleenah Рік тому +11

      Ohh I got the same tip! He even used it on me without me realizing and after I finished talking he said “see”
      Stuck with me since then and as a shy introvert, has helped me a lot

    • @as8kay
      @as8kay Рік тому +7

      Please gimme some more tips like this I really die during a conversation have nothing to ask or say and the conversation ends right there with awkward silence from both sides

  • @rainyclouds7631
    @rainyclouds7631 4 роки тому +4566

    “you look like you would be great with kids“
    “Oh actually not really“
    “well I had the impression because you look like my mom“

  • @Gigatless
    @Gigatless 4 роки тому +20423

    Me: How old are you?
    Her: 21
    Me: *Why*

    • @fiorenzacavallini6730
      @fiorenzacavallini6730 4 роки тому +212

      lol

    • @brianwalendy3735
      @brianwalendy3735 4 роки тому +519

      Because I drink the blood of babies, of course

    • @nopeq7993
      @nopeq7993 4 роки тому +737

      Well, I was born at an early age and I've been alive ever since.

    • @ragnasheen8950
      @ragnasheen8950 4 роки тому +216

      Her: Because I was born at a very young age.

    • @ShadowZone1996
      @ShadowZone1996 4 роки тому +133

      Have a date in an hour. I’m using this as a pick-up line for sure dude lmao

  • @jordwright507
    @jordwright507 Рік тому +103

    It's amazing the wit and humour in this comment section, from people who are here because they believe they struggle to hold a conversation!!

  • @elizabethwest5949
    @elizabethwest5949 Рік тому +603

    I always say, “you too” at the wrong times. Usually it’s at the end of a conversation. Like to someone working at a movie theater and they say, “enjoy the movie”, and I say, “you too”. Or when the doctor ends with, “make sure you take your medicine”, and I’m just like, yea, “you too”.

    • @ahhwe-any7434
      @ahhwe-any7434 Рік тому +5

      1st person: hryd today
      Me: I'm ok 🤔🤷🏻‍♀️
      2nd person 1 sec later: hryd today
      Me: pretty great, & you?
      Most ppl: idrc
      Me: yeah me either
      Response back sometimes: nothing. Maybe just an acknowledgement
      Replys to Greetings: hi (that's not what they asked)
      I c u
      I c u 2
      Ok cool
      Cool
      Bye
      K bye

    • @mouplayerbr
      @mouplayerbr Рік тому +34

      - Happy birthday to you ☺
      - u2 😊
      - 🤨
      - 😰

    • @skillatar4572
      @skillatar4572 Рік тому +13

      Imagine the doctor telling you to remember to take your medication and your just like, “yeah you too” as if they are crazy or something or you think they need help lol, it just sounds aggressive to say “you too” back to a doctor about taking medication lol

    • @scarlet7960
      @scarlet7960 Рік тому +8

      Btw if this ever happens, just laugh it off. Like seriously, sometimes embracing the fact you can't talk changes the mood from awkward to goofy.
      People don't realize it but good conversations are more about feeling comfortable then being charismatic

    • @megamaser
      @megamaser Рік тому

      You too

  • @Judoka008
    @Judoka008 5 років тому +14606

    Person: "So where are you from?"
    Me: "Why?"
    ..............*awkward silence*
    Me: "That reminds me of all the other awkward social interactions".

    • @hansitorsnes5020
      @hansitorsnes5020 5 років тому +311

      Pure gold

    • @RhinoGamin
      @RhinoGamin 5 років тому +362

      The funny thing is that could actually be a really hilarious conversation😂

    • @amyh1755
      @amyh1755 5 років тому +89

      I'm screaming laughing at this

    • @Zgtsu
      @Zgtsu 5 років тому +78

      you cant hear me right now but im clapping

    • @tuyuu2191
      @tuyuu2191 5 років тому +9

      @@Zgtsu 😂😂

  • @camryn9597
    @camryn9597 4 роки тому +4878

    me at his house-
    “so do you come here often?”

    • @FBWUniverseMode
      @FBWUniverseMode 3 роки тому +128

      That is a nice way to talk to a thief he'd peacefully leave.

    • @Xinyannya
      @Xinyannya 3 роки тому +31

      @@FBWUniverseMode"and that's how me and your mom met son"

    • @mistertrueromance
      @mistertrueromance 3 роки тому +7

      Maybe we should just be friends
      Mind: She's insane, just distance yourself, man.

    • @uttkarshkumar6897
      @uttkarshkumar6897 3 роки тому

      That will Bring more Awkwardness

    • @2trekkers777
      @2trekkers777 3 роки тому +1

      Why

  • @JetBlackJester
    @JetBlackJester Рік тому +393

    I tried that complimentary cold read technique at a work event - "What do you like to do for fun" and "You look like you're pretty into fitness" after introducing myself. The woman (a complete stranger) thought I was flirting with her and I ended up in a disciplinary with HR for inappropriate behaviour. Be very careful who you use this advice with.

    • @danny.ray101
      @danny.ray101 Рік тому +113

      "It seems you were hitting on that female coworker. What are your thoughts?"
      "Don't worry, I have learned the lesson. So you all look like you enjoy eating a lot?"

    • @JetBlackJester
      @JetBlackJester Рік тому +10

      @@danny.ray101 Not really. I had been talking shop all day and was looking for common ground. If it hadn't been a networking event and I wasn't already supposed to chat to people I didn't know I might have seen it that way.

    • @danny.ray101
      @danny.ray101 Рік тому +9

      @@JetBlackJester Then it's even more ridiculous...

    • @abodieqwerty4678
      @abodieqwerty4678 Рік тому +1

      Don't trust women.

    • @theinacircleoftheancientpu492
      @theinacircleoftheancientpu492 Рік тому +31

      @JetBlackJester
      I think that talking about fitness to a woman brings up different connotations than if you talk about fitness to a man, quite simply because a man talking to a woman about her body is considered flirting or at least borderline usually, while guys are not as sensitive on the topic.
      That said, at a setting where people are supposed to interact, and given the information I am aware of, I feel like she could have cut you a little more slack and tried to guage your intentions before coming to a conclusion.
      In summary, I believe all parties involved could have done better, its just a little unfortunate that the learning experience for you was rather awkward.

  • @willandrews8577
    @willandrews8577 Рік тому +22

    I've never wanted to meet someone who's been to Toronto this much in my life.

  • @blacklarry998
    @blacklarry998 4 роки тому +6058

    *me flirting at a funeral
    "So, do you come here often?"

    • @nicktokar2459
      @nicktokar2459 4 роки тому +140

      Who you trying to flirt with at a funeral?

    • @blacklarry998
      @blacklarry998 4 роки тому +408

      @@nicktokar2459 the widow

    • @Xelexment
      @Xelexment 4 роки тому +32

      That funeral comment made cry bc my grandma died not to long ago and now im sad

    • @kaysas9686
      @kaysas9686 4 роки тому +87

      @@Xelexment why? Did you flirt with someone there?

    • @terrencesora1174
      @terrencesora1174 4 роки тому +30

      @@Xelexment Why...

  • @sovereignty7897
    @sovereignty7897 4 роки тому +39473

    Me flirting in class -
    "So which school are you from?"

    • @Kuza01
      @Kuza01 4 роки тому +1961

      Why?

    • @mandystop1077
      @mandystop1077 4 роки тому +840

      @@Kuza01
      Just Asking

    • @AlexandruRadu96
      @AlexandruRadu96 4 роки тому +982

      @@mandystop1077 how do you like Toronto?

    • @advancedtheories1332
      @advancedtheories1332 4 роки тому +807

      @@AlexandruRadu96 Toronto? isn't that a city? that reminds me of where I'm from. which is kind of like a city but much smaller.

    • @dragonicbladex7574
      @dragonicbladex7574 4 роки тому +172

      @@AlexandruRadu96 yes

  • @oljenka88
    @oljenka88 3 місяці тому +33

    Most important thing imo - make yourself genuinely interested in the person. A lot of the conversation will just fall into place by itself instead of trying to come up with the next best thing to say 🙂 This helped me so much in life

  • @seaweedcat4267
    @seaweedcat4267 Рік тому +61

    What I've found is that people looove to talk about themselves! If you want to keep the conversation going, act like everything they say is the most interesting thing you've ever heard and you want to hear every single detail.
    You study commerce? What do you do? What job would you pursue in the future? What are the assignments like? Your parents made you study it, what do your parents do? What would you rather be studying instead, why? Every single piece of detail is a prompt that you can keep building on.
    And most of all, remember that the other person is a human being too! Chances are they want to keep the conversation going too and they'll want to cooperate with you. While trying to come up with ways to keep it going, remember to actually listen to what the other party is saying as well!

    • @siphons5737
      @siphons5737 3 дні тому

      That's the only thing I know how to do, keep a conversation alive ? Yeah, start one, might need to call help on that one.

  • @jobless5866
    @jobless5866 3 роки тому +9247

    Them: How old are you?
    Me: Toronto
    Them: That’s not an age
    Me: Why?

  • @rohan1748
    @rohan1748 3 роки тому +4155

    Her : So do you like Toronto ?
    Me : Hey that's my line !!
    Her : Why?
    *Awkward Silence*

    • @babayaga3064
      @babayaga3064 2 роки тому +77

      Man what a hilarious comment section, I wish I cud meet u all and make more jokes about this video, that would be epic! I'm so weak for good humour 😂😂

    • @missingpatel7349
      @missingpatel7349 Рік тому +106

      @@babayaga3064 We are really doing okay in comments section but chances are it will be *severely awkward silence* if we meet in real life.

    • @ungewohnlich510
      @ungewohnlich510 Рік тому +6

      Uno reverse :D

    • @IoannisFragiskos
      @IoannisFragiskos Рік тому +1

      Underrated comment 😂

    • @muhammadraza2766
      @muhammadraza2766 Рік тому +1

      😂😂😂😂

  • @sniper6081
    @sniper6081 Рік тому +4

    I was wondering why this video was recommended to me until I saw the comments section. It all makes sense now.

  • @Wheredidigetthismuffin
    @Wheredidigetthismuffin Рік тому +55

    The more I see videos like this, the more I understand that I just have anxiety. I follow this script, I don't do anything incredibly weird. But my mind puts everything under a microscope. And sometimes I just got to accept that I just don't vibe with everyone. Some conversations just arent going to be great.

  • @PatoValdes18
    @PatoValdes18 4 роки тому +9152

    me in an airplane: “so, where you going?”

    • @shotgun_daddy-1089
      @shotgun_daddy-1089 4 роки тому +98

      On a plane

    • @panlis6243
      @panlis6243 4 роки тому +386

      @@joaquin991 to Toronto?

    • @flymb3358
      @flymb3358 4 роки тому +151

      I did do that once actually

    • @MrDoon-ez5qm
      @MrDoon-ez5qm 4 роки тому +23

      somehow that's what I get ask all the time

    • @vmillio7564
      @vmillio7564 4 роки тому +11

      Is this directed at someone or just a question out of nowhere hoping someone replies?

  • @_username
    @_username 3 роки тому +4785

    “The weather nice today huh?”
    "Thanks, you too"

  • @DrownedInGames
    @DrownedInGames Рік тому +36

    I have a friend who asks questions like the ones from this video when trying to hold conversations, and now I think he got the conversation ideas from this video.

    • @joanna4500
      @joanna4500 Рік тому +9

      ask them how they like toronto and see what they do

    • @DrownedInGames
      @DrownedInGames Рік тому +1

      @@joanna4500 I'll do that sometime hahah

  • @fa5rani
    @fa5rani Рік тому +82

    One thing I learned through my conversations, "some people are boring" don't push it, it they are exciting or excited in you, you'll never stop talking.

  • @clutch_zone72
    @clutch_zone72 4 роки тому +8090

    Awkward silence:
    Why and Toronto: I'm about to end this man's whole career

    • @adr_x1114
      @adr_x1114 4 роки тому +39

      Lmao 💀

    • @ezdor8877
      @ezdor8877 4 роки тому +15

      Why dpes this only have 66 likes. Lmaoo

    • @santaclaus3077
      @santaclaus3077 3 роки тому +6

      Hahahaha

    • @n-3262
      @n-3262 3 роки тому +22

      I woke my sister up laughing at this😂😂😂

    • @agathawiebe6339
      @agathawiebe6339 3 роки тому +2

      Bahahaha 😂😂😂

  • @saadanwar9559
    @saadanwar9559 5 років тому +9380

    Me meeting my friend standing with his father
    Me:So how do you guys know each other?

  • @LucianoBAF
    @LucianoBAF Рік тому +62

    1. Open ended questions (how do you like ?)
    2. Ask about their motivativations with a simple "Why?" (Why did you decide to get into ?)
    3. When the conversation stalls, use revival questions:
    - "How you guys know one other?"
    - "What's your story?". The person might give options on what specifically, then you can read which option was mentioned in a more excited tone of voice
    - "What are your plans to the future?"
    4. Complimentary cold read (you look like you are pretty into )
    5. In a cold silence, deep breath and keep easy eye contact. Alternatively, repeat the last words they've said

    • @Prizm44
      @Prizm44 Рік тому +3

      Jesus Christ, does anyone else want to write yet another comment stating the exact same thing that was in the video?

    • @xhvsh
      @xhvsh 16 днів тому

      how do you like toronto?

    • @igor_ostrovski
      @igor_ostrovski 3 години тому

      ​@@Prizm44this is called a resume so people remember what they watched. Maybe understand some people might appreciate it??

  • @alyssa3415
    @alyssa3415 3 роки тому +4807

    me: what's your name?
    them: Emma
    me: why?
    them:
    me: so how do u like Toronto?

  • @pasteltheunicorn3899
    @pasteltheunicorn3899 3 роки тому +9223

    “So...tell me a bit about yourself”
    My mom at the dinner table: “..what?”
    *pointing to vase on table*“This reminds me of a vase I have at home”
    “????”

  • @deli_bread
    @deli_bread Рік тому +101

    I just like to ask completely random questions out of the blue. I don't mean stuff like "Where'd you get your shirt from?" or something. I mean questions like "Is soup a drink?" or "Do you pour cereal or milk first?" since those types of questions usually lead to a debate, or just an interesting conversation. Also yes, both of those questions were food related. Food is always a good conversation topic, since most everyone enjoys food (or at least has an opinion on it). Some other good questions to ask are hypotheticals. I like these since they're pretty interesting, and if you run out of them it's really easy to just make one up. Ex: "Would you rather fight 10 5 year olds or 2 20 year olds?" or "Would you eat a gallon of mayonnaise for 10,000 dollars?" You can also elaborate on the question, or change it slightly depending on their answer, like instead of "Would you eat a gallon of mayonnaise for 10,000 dollars?" it'd be "Would you eat a gallon of mayonnaise for 3.5 dollars?" Sorry for the long comment, and thanks to anyone who read all the way through! Hoped this helped!

    • @R9naldo
      @R9naldo Рік тому +28

      How to get friendzoned in just one interaction

    • @CosmicRando
      @CosmicRando Рік тому +1

      @@R9naldoyeah 💀

    • @hazelmint6671
      @hazelmint6671 Рік тому

      My cousin always asks us these kinds of questions lol!
      Its usually very crazy so we roll our eyes each time he starts with a 'would u rather...' 🤣🤣
      Questions like, 'would u rather, marry/date a person who is shockingly ugly, (he also includes some kind of abnormality, like he has unstoppable diarrhea) but he has the best personality (factually) and loves u dearly , or would u rather marry someone who is impossibly gorgeous and rich but has the shittiest personality..
      This is tame actually, compared to some of his other ones 😂🤣🤣

    • @pinkroses135
      @pinkroses135 Рік тому

      😂 love that approach! Not too personal yet allows someone to display their personality and go into other subjects.

  • @dbliss741
    @dbliss741 Рік тому +68

    There’s nothing cooler than curating a vibe where you sit confidently with a dash of aloofness during those “awkward silences”

    • @Mo-.
      @Mo-. Рік тому +2

      I do that practically all the time by accident bc of not often starting convos (unless with already established friends)

    • @megamaser
      @megamaser Рік тому +2

      I disagree. I've been practicing this my entire life because I enjoy silence. But it hasn't made me "cool" or curate any kind of vibe that anyone else notices. Mainly it makes me forgettable, which is good. I don't want boring people to remember me, only the ones worth talking to.

  • @anythingbutme6602
    @anythingbutme6602 5 років тому +7943

    Me: You look like you are really into food!
    Her: I'm pregnant.
    Me: ...Why?

    • @FirstnameLastname-es1ko
      @FirstnameLastname-es1ko 4 роки тому +276

      Anything Butme Who the hell says that in the first place?😂 “You look like you are really into food!”

    • @xapokalypse
      @xapokalypse 4 роки тому +168

      @@FirstnameLastname-es1ko that's why they watch this video! 😂

    • @aaliyahs.adventures.
      @aaliyahs.adventures. 4 роки тому +6

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @itzelneptune
      @itzelneptune 4 роки тому +26

      She allowed herself to get nasty

    • @benderisgreat95able
      @benderisgreat95able 4 роки тому +46

      Seriously. Why? Smart people stopped having kids in 2008.

  • @yahdood6015
    @yahdood6015 3 роки тому +25305

    [ awkward silence ]
    Me: [ sees glass of water ] “heh, reminds me of how humans need to stay hydrated”

  • @bean2468
    @bean2468 Рік тому +5

    This video was so helpful I talked to a woman and she didn’t run away! 10/10 would recommend

  • @Isaiah-Hughes
    @Isaiah-Hughes Рік тому +2

    "Great weather today!"
    "Thanks, you too."

  • @oppelo5981
    @oppelo5981 3 роки тому +18557

    “Do you like Toronto?”
    “Yes” *awkward silence*
    “How do you like Toronto?” 😌
    “It’s good.” *awkward silence*

    • @fl3tched
      @fl3tched 3 роки тому +1216

      Why

    • @nil4897
      @nil4897 3 роки тому +851

      So much for an open-ended question lol

    • @cartanfan-youtube
      @cartanfan-youtube 3 роки тому +481

      That’s when you ask then what they like about it

    • @roscoe4943
      @roscoe4943 3 роки тому +29

      Yes

    • @mg-lb3tm
      @mg-lb3tm 3 роки тому +251

      i’m from toronto and i can confirm it is good

  • @oblobbles
    @oblobbles 3 роки тому +4877

    A depressed person:"sometimes I just feel like this world would be better without me"
    ....
    Me: "so what are ur plans for the future?"

    • @DeadeyeToya
      @DeadeyeToya 3 роки тому +78

      You know the word future reminds me of a state that is my destiny to behold my actions a period of time following the moment of speaking or writing; time regarded as still to come.

    • @thinginground5179
      @thinginground5179 3 роки тому +94

      "I wanna kill myself"
      Me: "Toronto"

    • @meowww7557
      @meowww7557 3 роки тому +71

      why?

    • @jimsclub8080
      @jimsclub8080 3 роки тому +28

      Why would be better ;)

    • @iiCounted2134
      @iiCounted2134 3 роки тому +41

      damn that went dark quick lmfaoo

  • @SGWV
    @SGWV Рік тому +4

    I love this video solely because of its comments section

  • @majadinicc
    @majadinicc Рік тому +12

    seeing that this video has so many views makes me feel less alone. we just all have some problems with social skills but hey, nothing that we can't overcome

  • @carageak
    @carageak 4 роки тому +57312

    Me with my girlfriend at their place meeting her family: So how do you all know each other?

  • @Whydoothercomments
    @Whydoothercomments 4 роки тому +6795

    Me: How old are you?
    Girl: 19
    Me: when I was your age I was 21

  • @marcusfarrands9311
    @marcusfarrands9311 Рік тому +3

    short, ad straight to the point, no unessecary buildup or intro, love it

  • @helved807
    @helved807 Рік тому +6

    I've come to learn a bit about this, and it took me a while to understand that it's not only me in a conversation that is struggling, it's both sides, (or in a group, all sides). This made me less worried about the responsibility of the conversation failing falling on me.

  • @rottencheeseballs2496
    @rottencheeseballs2496 4 роки тому +2774

    Me: So what’s your story?
    Her: What do you mean by that?
    Me: ... Why?
    Her: *leaves*
    Me: sits to rewatch this video and take notes

  • @airyballoon
    @airyballoon 4 роки тому +3601

    *at a bar*
    Me: you look like you come here often
    Her: What, I look like an alcoholic??
    Me: what’s your story
    Her: I don’t have a drinking problem!
    Me: Tell me why

    • @nelmae6026
      @nelmae6026 3 роки тому +226

      *Her, starts to get drunk and proceeds to loosen up:* ain't nothin but a heartache

    • @ej_matthewsart
      @ej_matthewsart 3 роки тому +25

      @@nelmae6026 glad I wasn't the only person who though BSB lol

    • @sarahgebhardt404
      @sarahgebhardt404 3 роки тому +78

      🎵Ain't nothing but a heartache🎵

    • @fiipknife3830
      @fiipknife3830 3 роки тому +44

      @@sarahgebhardt404 TELL ME WHY

    • @sarahgebhardt404
      @sarahgebhardt404 3 роки тому +40

      @@fiipknife3830 ain't nothin' but a mistake

  • @justmechanicthings
    @justmechanicthings Рік тому +3

    The open ended questioning was one of my key plays on first and second dates, along with asking what favourite and to elaborate on what makes it so

  • @monaebreak561
    @monaebreak561 25 днів тому +18

    People who you can just be silent with are the best!!! ❤

  • @ltv9784
    @ltv9784 3 роки тому +4554

    I tried to make my crush laugh by extra saying “Why” “Toronto” etc.
    But she just watched me awkwardly.
    Then I remembered that not everyone knows this comment section.

  • @_tronk_2529
    @_tronk_2529 5 років тому +6773

    Bold of you to assume that I engage in conversation.

    • @treblinka9530
      @treblinka9530 5 років тому +31

      James Hickok I have aids :)

    • @sus3509
      @sus3509 5 років тому +17

      Swear bro I ain’t never starting a convo

    • @stevesbonesai
      @stevesbonesai 5 років тому +60

      @@treblinka9530 so.., what do you enjoy most about having aids?

    • @bl8d5uck3r
      @bl8d5uck3r 5 років тому +2

      noo i feel bad for liking your comment and making the number iLlUmInAtI

    • @VisionVaultArchive
      @VisionVaultArchive 5 років тому +1

      @@bl8d5uck3r dw i changed it :)

  • @Skeletone56
    @Skeletone56 Рік тому +4

    With this, I was able to bring back a conversation with my grandparents at dinner.
    This was very helpful, thank you.

  • @andresf.3472
    @andresf.3472 Рік тому +5

    The one that always help is remember about “FORD”: Family Occupation Recreation Dreams. Also using open statements questions like why, how, when, where instead of closing ones.

  • @levince9315
    @levince9315 4 роки тому +5504

    *The gods have given us this outstanding comment section.*

  • @brunotheexpert8230
    @brunotheexpert8230 4 роки тому +28428

    Teacher : Where is your homework ?
    Me: At home , and yours?
    Teacher : what?
    Me: why?
    Teacher : *confused*
    Me: So what do you do for living?

    • @ashleyw5579
      @ashleyw5579 4 роки тому +833

      Bruno The Expert thank you for making me actually lol 😂😂

    • @ernarjandos1031
      @ernarjandos1031 3 роки тому +644

      Thats just “how to escape homework”

    • @jeamychun
      @jeamychun 3 роки тому +243

      This made me laugh 😂😂😂

    • @swoop155
      @swoop155 3 роки тому +95

      Omg this was awesome hahahaha

    • @user-sl1ry6op7m
      @user-sl1ry6op7m 3 роки тому +32

      😂😂😂😂

  • @chookers1074
    @chookers1074 Рік тому +19

    With the right person, you’ll never run out of words

  • @ronvavra
    @ronvavra Рік тому +4

    My wife and I had dinner with people we see occasionally. Not real close. The other couple are very outgoing and talkative but we came to one of those grinding halts where everybody just sits there wishing they were not there. Then the host asked "read any good books lately". We were off and running. It was brilliant.

  • @augustuscaesar5076
    @augustuscaesar5076 4 роки тому +7659

    Her: I had a fight with my sister
    Me: How do you two know one another?
    Her:..... She's my sister
    Me: *why?*

    • @IsaiahReitanFilm
      @IsaiahReitanFilm 4 роки тому +203

      Augustus Caesar her: because we’re related
      Me: because you’re related?

    • @KingLoof
      @KingLoof 4 роки тому +153

      @@IsaiahReitanFilm Me: Actually that reminds me of a friend who, just recently, got into a fight with her sister

    • @hankiedave
      @hankiedave 4 роки тому +28

      @@IsaiahReitanFilm Her: uh..yes
      Me: *_why?_*

    • @user-dc4yr2ev5h
      @user-dc4yr2ev5h 4 роки тому +16

      Augustus Caesar Well her parents did the big f*ck twice.

    • @AdmiralBonetoPick
      @AdmiralBonetoPick 4 роки тому +21

      Her: Toronto

  • @haironyourscreen4848
    @haironyourscreen4848 4 роки тому +15372

    Me: hi
    Her: hello
    Me: tell me your story
    Her: I was born in Switzerland...
    Me: so how do you like Toronto?
    Her: I said Switzerland
    Me: you said Switzerland?
    Her: yes
    Me: Why?

    • @masud_1
      @masud_1 4 роки тому +720

      i thought there was a hair on my screen, Lol

    • @moural1133
      @moural1133 4 роки тому +230

      @@masud_1 ibwas blowing it the whole time until i read ur comment😂

    • @ananya1541
      @ananya1541 4 роки тому +154

      I literally thought there was hair on my screen and was blowing on it the whole time until i saw your username lol

    • @sarahB06
      @sarahB06 4 роки тому +119

      oH lol I tHoUghT tHEre wAs A hAiR On mY ScReEN

    • @therebelartisteofficial
      @therebelartisteofficial 4 роки тому +8

      😂

  • @donna-elizabeth
    @donna-elizabeth Рік тому +10

    It's all about the weather in the end. If you run out of things to say, the weather talk saves the situation...it always leads on to other subjects that spring from how the weather is affecting you, your plans ahead etc. Well known thing in the UK 🤣

  • @cultless699
    @cultless699 Рік тому +6

    Ayy this was a GREAT video. It was very friendly and positive, not making you feel awkward imagining saying these things because you also brang out some arguments with them. Also, very important is, for someone with ADD like me, and with poor memory too, this video was very short and to the point and you even made a recap at the end to remember easily. I mean, first off, it’s important to always be yourself but this video really help out people with social anxiety. Thank you, I will use this in my future conversations!❤

  • @Zwervar_
    @Zwervar_ 4 роки тому +3666

    Barber: "So what do you do for work?"
    Me: "I'm a cashier, what about you?"
    *awkward silence*

  • @unacuentadeyoutube13
    @unacuentadeyoutube13 3 роки тому +3320

    - This place reminds me of my grandma's death.
    - Maybe that's because it's my mum's funeral.
    - How did she die?
    - I don't want to talk about it, please.
    - Ok. How did you meet each other?
    *Akward silence*
    - How's your mum doing?

    • @penglu364
      @penglu364 3 роки тому +32

      🤣🤣

    • @frossknight3209
      @frossknight3209 3 роки тому +71

      This one's underrated

    • @kylewadley5031
      @kylewadley5031 3 роки тому +53

      That sounds like something that Oversimplified would write for his videos😂

    • @Lucas-gx8ic
      @Lucas-gx8ic 3 роки тому +7

      Ouch 😂

    • @rhitoja1
      @rhitoja1 2 роки тому +4

      I'd love to like thus comment vut really dont wanna ruin the fine like counts 420

  • @iansarmiento23
    @iansarmiento23 2 роки тому +1

    This is great... For 1 on 1 conversations. I've got a friend who won't shut up in a group conversation and won't let anyone have a word in and he'll eventually change the subject.

  • @zxkredo
    @zxkredo Рік тому +3

    Also learning not to be akward in silence is great too. You don't need to be talking all the time.
    Very helpful video anyways! Sometimes you just wanna talk but don't find common ground.

  • @LegitSarchie
    @LegitSarchie 3 роки тому +26919

    Teacher: where’s your homework?
    Me: *takes deep breath whilst maintaining eye contact*
    Teacher: what are you doing?
    Me: so why did you decide to be a teacher?
    Teacher: excuse me?
    *awkward silence*
    Me: How do you like Toronto?

    • @no-fc9tp
      @no-fc9tp 3 роки тому +1968

      teacher: asks for homework*
      student: “but why?

    • @salmanallam2012
      @salmanallam2012 3 роки тому +68

      AYEEEE sarchie is heree 😍🤣

    • @mayarchithung4683
      @mayarchithung4683 3 роки тому +95

      RIP bro😂

    • @ahegde1004
      @ahegde1004 3 роки тому +36

      Epic 👌🏻

    • @LegitSarchie
      @LegitSarchie 3 роки тому +6

      @@salmanallam2012 you watch the my videos?😂

  • @zacadoole1
    @zacadoole1 3 роки тому +2938

    If someone asked me "so what's your story?" I'd break into a cold sweat

    • @thefork4416
      @thefork4416 3 роки тому +232

      why

    • @loot3647
      @loot3647 3 роки тому +469

      @@thefork4416 toronto

    • @AvaRose06
      @AvaRose06 3 роки тому +140

      this reminds me of the time I got -cold- feet and ran out on my wedding.

      so what’s Toronto like?

    • @linasbubble
      @linasbubble 2 роки тому +22

      @@loot3647 PAHAHAHA YALL LEAVE. IM CRYING

    • @dinowattz
      @dinowattz 2 роки тому +11

      @@linasbubble why?

  • @thijsbruijn3512
    @thijsbruijn3512 Рік тому +3

    Toronto saving every conversation

  • @mohsenjan4540
    @mohsenjan4540 Рік тому +1

    that was great. thanks for your precious channel. I really appreciate it. many many thanks.

  • @socklips7655
    @socklips7655 4 роки тому +3484

    1. Maintain an unblinking stare
    2. Randomly and substantially change the tone of your voice.
    3. Respond to all of their responses with "As was foretold in the prophecy"

    • @martinprince7773
      @martinprince7773 4 роки тому +195

      Socklips and then follow up with “Bring me the child!”

    • @00wolfQUEEN
      @00wolfQUEEN 4 роки тому +61

      I love you guys

    • @willrogers9932
      @willrogers9932 4 роки тому +73

      @@martinprince7773 bonus points if you point to a pregnant lady

    • @lunacyrus2274
      @lunacyrus2274 4 роки тому +2

      I’m so glad I had your advice

    • @Ryan-rv5em
      @Ryan-rv5em 4 роки тому +1

      LMFAOO

  • @f.b.iagent3971
    @f.b.iagent3971 4 роки тому +3080

    Me, talking to my cousin at her mum’s funeral
    Me: this reminds me of that time my aunt died

    • @bingbong5786
      @bingbong5786 4 роки тому +17

      John McKenvil r/woooooosh

    • @Zangetsu_
      @Zangetsu_ 4 роки тому +11

      John McKenvil LMAO

    • @fade2008
      @fade2008 4 роки тому +33

      @John McKenvil But you didn't give any signs that u understood.
      Sooo how do you like Toronto

    • @MushisCow
      @MushisCow 4 роки тому +17

      @@fade2008 *_Why?_*

    • @fade2008
      @fade2008 4 роки тому +16

      @@MushisCow ummmm *_Nice weather, huh?_*

  • @matthewclark7952
    @matthewclark7952 Рік тому +3

    Good tips, I shall definitely give this a go. I suffer badly from social anxiety disorder but I’m trying to improve the whole time.

  • @katlibby83
    @katlibby83 Рік тому

    I’ve been using your tips at job interviews and they’re working great! Thank you!

  • @aurilio5633
    @aurilio5633 4 роки тому +3768

    Me: *Looks at flower*
    Also me: Woah, That flower reminds me of flowers.

  • @deusvult3103
    @deusvult3103 4 роки тому +2901

    Girl sitting alone on the bench.
    Me: Hi
    She: Hi
    Me: So how do you guys know each other ?

    • @amirtamang4210
      @amirtamang4210 4 роки тому +30

      🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @f.b.iagent3971
      @f.b.iagent3971 4 роки тому +94

      That one was on you, if you had replied “why” then you guys would have had a better conversation

    • @deusvult3103
      @deusvult3103 4 роки тому +9

      @@f.b.iagent3971 hahahah you are right FBI...I'm gonna remember it for the next time.
      Thank you ✌

    • @izzys1035
      @izzys1035 4 роки тому

      😂😂😂

    • @OldVids_
      @OldVids_ 4 роки тому +4

      *runs away*

  • @SG003
    @SG003 Рік тому +2

    I'm quite introverted and I'm more of a listener than talker so I'm good with people who talks a lot.

  • @vatos3367
    @vatos3367 Рік тому +5

    Whenever I have a silence with someone I ask him whether he/she wants to talk or enjoy the environment. When they wanna talk I‘ll ask which topic he/she wants to discuss. You‘ll build easily a conversation again.
    If he/she chooses the other option it’s not awkward anymore. Besides they will start a convo again about how happy they are/like the environment/ you know when….etc

  • @hamza3065
    @hamza3065 4 роки тому +6338

    Laughed my lungs out!!
    This comment section is on fire!!

  • @pikarizardcharikachu2573
    @pikarizardcharikachu2573 3 роки тому +3583

    I can tell from this whole comment section that we are all introverts.

  • @averyward2116
    @averyward2116 Рік тому

    I feel like as long as you're a good and kind person you can just say the first things that come to mind

  • @AstraalSolace
    @AstraalSolace Рік тому +6

    I like how some of these tips are the things that annoy me the most when people do them to me lol

  • @audreythorpe6962
    @audreythorpe6962 3 роки тому +9389

    My fav question to ask when convo goes quiet is “how do u think chairs would work if our Knees bent backwards” I’ve had some wild convos from it

    • @harambe8302
      @harambe8302 3 роки тому +1289

      That question is so random lol

    • @fercam4792
      @fercam4792 3 роки тому +97

      Lmaoo

    • @rustyshackleford3917
      @rustyshackleford3917 3 роки тому +257

      You’re a saint Audrey

    • @tomjones6277
      @tomjones6277 3 роки тому +839

      Having read this comment yesterday and asked this question today I can confirm the results are legendary

    • @edsonq.valencia1802
      @edsonq.valencia1802 3 роки тому +523

      Or something like "have you ever asked yourself if hippos think that rhinos are unicorns?"

  • @Anny-me9ny
    @Anny-me9ny 4 роки тому +3527

    “So how do you like Toronto?”
    “ I don’t”
    “Well that’s *N I c E*

    • @MrMastermeier
      @MrMastermeier 4 роки тому +20

      How do you like Toronto?
      Yes it’s Nice

    • @davidkamski5286
      @davidkamski5286 4 роки тому +25

      Annnddd we're back to square 1 lol

    • @dee8163
      @dee8163 4 роки тому +14

      "i don't"
      "Is it the traffic or crowd? I've heard it can get crowded?"
      (I'm learning so much from this channel)

    • @madmisskelly
      @madmisskelly 4 роки тому +8

      I always laugh and add "well at least you're honest!"

    • @kblc7952
      @kblc7952 4 роки тому +12

      *WHY?*

  • @angelogabriel2316
    @angelogabriel2316 Рік тому

    what a fantastic video! i have some problems about talking to other people, i think acctually that it is the bigest problem i have, so with this video i learned some things new im will try next time i see someone. THANK YOU

  • @exodus146
    @exodus146 Рік тому

    Thanks for the upload

  • @d.lastbreath2272
    @d.lastbreath2272 5 років тому +16805

    We all lack social skills , don't we?

    • @kblc7952
      @kblc7952 5 років тому +147

      D. Lastbreath no just had that a few hours ago.. damn that was the most awkward thing. long story short she turned me off with one sentence and then i had to change my sentence i wanted to say and then i left..

    • @peterg9798
      @peterg9798 5 років тому +17

      @@kblc7952 thats what you get for being a oldhead

    • @kblc7952
      @kblc7952 5 років тому +25

      Apree i’m 15 lmao

    • @peterg9798
      @peterg9798 5 років тому +20

      @@kblc7952 you can be 15 and an oldhead tf

    • @kblc7952
      @kblc7952 5 років тому +13

      Apree yeah aight u a oldhead too?

  • @trevorwhiteboy2649
    @trevorwhiteboy2649 3 роки тому +27206

    PRO TIP: You can’t run out of things to say if you never initiate a conversation

    • @harsha307
      @harsha307 3 роки тому +372

      The other person is just not interested

    • @ultrablitz9673
      @ultrablitz9673 3 роки тому +621

      Me after reading this: kalm
      Me after someone else initiates a conversation: PANIK

    • @igorbednarski8048
      @igorbednarski8048 3 роки тому +97

      Big brain stuff

    • @ETn4606
      @ETn4606 3 роки тому +15

      Fax

    • @ashbash8716
      @ashbash8716 3 роки тому +7

      Catch this radio
      (This is a joke)

  • @forbullitwin.
    @forbullitwin. Рік тому +1

    Fun story I have been playing vrchat for a while now and recently thanks to this channel I have started noticing stuff like this in conversation. Now I am very socially awkward and I been working on my social skills. I realized being social is alot like a good form of mind games know how manipulate the conversation you can befriend anyone and it helps with the work force

  • @LifeIsGood1992
    @LifeIsGood1992 Рік тому +1

    This is the no BS content that is helping us in real life 🙏👌

  • @iamatrashcan
    @iamatrashcan 4 роки тому +745

    me: you look like you're into fitness.
    my cat: ...

    • @Chillwave6
      @Chillwave6 4 роки тому +13

      Shane Dawson, seconds before tragedy

    • @zzanatos2001
      @zzanatos2001 3 роки тому +14

      Me: I'm into fitness.
      Her: Really?
      Me: Yeah - fitness whole pizza in my mouth.

    • @laavanya2335
      @laavanya2335 3 роки тому

      😂😂😂

  • @whim_tv
    @whim_tv 4 роки тому +8705

    "how do you like Toronto"
    "I've never been there"
    "why?"
    "because I live in another country"
    "this reminds me of the time I didn't have anything to say"

  • @Anonymous-ev3rl
    @Anonymous-ev3rl Рік тому +3

    I usually try to convince myself to stay calm like I'm comfortable in the silence and then the other person becomes comfortable as well. It usually helps if there's somewhere I can look off to like the sea or people walking by

  • @AbsurdShark
    @AbsurdShark Рік тому +1

    Thank you, i tried the mentioned tips, and my cat reacted nicely.

  • @reallynoname
    @reallynoname 2 роки тому +17068

    I told my first date „You look like you enjoy McDonalds quite a lot!“
    She really opened up, even raised her voice. It brought so much energy to the conversation.

  • @nice-me9ce
    @nice-me9ce 3 роки тому +548

    Her: My dog died today. I'm really sad about it
    Me: Yeah they do that

  • @Makememesandmore
    @Makememesandmore Рік тому

    I love this idea! I hope I don't forget these points!

  • @jonny_sm884
    @jonny_sm884 Рік тому

    I'd really like to learn something here...
    BUT I CAN'T STOP VIBING TO EXURB1AS MUSIC!!

  • @markazain8996
    @markazain8996 4 роки тому +1253

    Kid: I’ve forgot the letter after x
    *Me: why*
    Kid: wow thank you