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I feel like there's this weird disconnect when people tell you not to miss out on dating. Like not all of us have the option. Women are the ones who decide whether or not you get to date. I've approached girls, asked girls out, but they reject me. It's something you really can't control. So the advice of don't miss out on dating really means nothing when it's not your choice to miss out.
Oh you can control it to an extent. But this joker's channel isn't going to teach you how. Get money muscles frame and game you'll start seeing a tiny bit of results unless you're truly bottom tier.
right like your odds significantly decrease if you're broke and/or ugly you can be in your 30s even 40s and get women easily if you take care of your body and/or have lots of money
I am 33. To say I've missed a lot is putting it nicely. Currently working on myself so I can get into the dating world. Spent my 20s mostly being a caregiver to my ailing mom, she passed away not long after I turned 27. Got a nice job now, but currently trying to build a side hustle, along with weight lifting/bulking, and sharpening my somewhat dimmed social skills.
Feel you bro. I'm 33 too. Just got out of an christian doomsday cult after 12 years. Set my life on pause at 21 yo. For me it's somewhat the other way around. I still work at a shitty low wage job; on the other hand have social skills, confidence and so on, but didn't put them to use "properly" in the real world. Greetings from Germany.
@@AlvinLovesAnime I appreciate it. It's been 6 years, and I've never stopped thinking of her. That's why I continue to forge ahead to keep making self-improvement.
In the same boat but in my 20s and still unattractive at 34 now. I get escorts now as I don’t have a social circle to meet women. Apps dont work for me as I don’t get matches. I’m s very social person but that is sort of irrelevant really if you don’t have a social circle.
“Romantically” seeing women in your 20s makes perfect sense. The problem I have with it is If the women I see are not friend material, I do not want anything to do with them. I would not want someone using me just for sex, I don’t want to use someone for sex either. All the friends I have is genuinely based on the fact that I like them as people. They like me as person. I know this because I have nothing to offer them but friendship. - There comes the paradox of having Hoes. why have hoes if you genuinely don’t like hanging with them as people. If you do like someone as person, then why would you put them in a situation where you just use them for sex. - Having a girlfriend is infinity better than having hoes. - As a guy, girls only want you for the idea of who you are, not who you are genuinely. - Per my definition of friend, girls who are your friend makes sense. But “girlfriend” as in a girl who you romantically like and likes you too could never be your friend, because it is not genuine. They just default to a hoe.
This is where I'm at. I meet so many women who literally do nothing meaningful with their time. They don't have any interesting hobbies or aspirations and I simply do not enjoy spending more than an hour with them or their friends. Would I have sex with them yeah sure. But from my standpoint that usually requires some form of investment from me either time or money and I have no idea how to genuinely give them the validation they are certainly expecting from men. Why spend my resources chasing sex with women I don't care for? I do think I should continue learning how to cast a wider net though. Being able to speak with anyone to make interesting conversations and experiences happen is a valuable skill. I also want to learn how to effectively portray myself to others and get to know people better.
I'd like to add my own experience here: I had my first girlfriend at 16, it ended badly and I didn't so much kiss a girl again until I was almost 23. After a brief but enjoyable affair, I went through another dry spell until a month before my 26th birthday, when I met my future ex-wife. This marriage collapsed when I was 35, and the dry spell after it lasted three more years. In 2023 I've finally fixed a lot of issues that were holding me back. In my example: I've lost a lot of weight (220lbs/100kg), stoked up my confidence to white hot levels and worked on my approaches and guess what? I've managed to attract girls and had more action in 2023 than in my entire life before. I'm 40 next year and I'm genuinely excited to see where I go from here. It's never too late to get good.
I have to ask: how does one go through a 3 yr dry spell if not for a lack of effort? like I can't imagine, if you left the house each of those days and talked to some women you'd end up with literally zero sex. Am i missing something?
@@popinjay69I wasn't making approaches, and I was a walking blimp. That's why the dry spell lasted three years (Actually 38 months, until April this year). Since April it's been a lot more fun, and it's only got better as my weight has continued to drop. I'd definitely do things differently if I could re-live my 20s.
@@Ares-isYou miss 100% of the shots you don't take. That's the ethos I live by. I also try make at least 1 approach per day, as it's all good practise. I, like all of you, are full of amazing potential. It won't be wasted :)
Very inspiring story mate. Thanks for sharing. Gonna try t live in your footsteps as a 27 year old just making his way back into the dating world after my first real heart break
well, college education and my job has halted my personal life in my early twenties , and now at 27 , grabbing my balls and just approaching people even if i'm surrounded by guys who are just wusses and keep telling me not to , it would be embarrassing and they'll judge you .... thanks denmo for always being that positive voice in my head .
Bruh I’m in the same boat. Turning 27 next month. Shitty job, no money, no car and zero experience 😞 but am currently making moves to get out of this rut.
@velklll brother I promise you, I'm 19 and I got a job through a temp company. Consider it, you'll always have a job pretty well guaranteed. And off chance you find a decent one like I did you could even be hired from temp to hire. Granted I took some leaps for it it truly wasn't hard it was just a willingness to learn trade skills and take advantage of what you've learned
Man I'm a year below you and I've had all levels of insecurities and fear plauging my 20s so far and I'm afraid that it might be to late to unfuck my life and start dating, I feel like I pissed away my youth
Not every guy gets to enjoy his 20s, i didn't really have a girlfriend until I was 29, but it was a short-term relationship for a couple of months. My wasted 20s will forever be a pain for the rest of my life, i don't see that ever healing
As a guy that gets a lot of attention from women, its really not that big of a deal dating in your 20s. I have gone out on several dates, but none of them left an impact in me. Only my 1 steady relationship with a girl did I really enjoy. Remember quality> quantity
@@azazel673 As a guy that gets a lot of water, drinking is not really a big deal. I've had several cups of water, but none of them left an impact on me.
@@mafumofu986 maybe thats part of your problem. Water is essential and you’re comparing it to women. Please do yourself a favor and put them down of the pedestal. Women are not essential and you dont need them to live an enjoyable 20s. Trust me, quality> quantity. Even if you meet the right one at your 30s
Yeah man I am just 22 but a tragic accident put all this life stuff on hold. But this is my time of transformation, couldn’t be more grateful! Jack we will link soon.
Had my first girlfriend ever at 29. I also had my first kiss with her, first everything. I fell head over heels for her, we went on vacations together, created so many awesome memories, I was planning on marrying her, having kids, I thought she was the woman of my life. But clearly she didn’t, because she broke up with me after 1.5 years. I was devastated. For the next six months, I was just trying to survive every day, while she found a new guy barely a couple weeks after breaking up and she has completely moved on and forgotten about me. Since then I’ve decided to never date again and I never want to feel the same pain as I felt with her. I’m now 34 and am finding happiness in other things in life, such as art (I paint and play the piano), sports (I play tennis and badminton), and chess. I also prioritize spending time with my family more than everything else. Good luck guys, not everybody will have a happy ending…
I had a somewhat similar experience here man. Dating is so, so much easier for women in terms of options, It's painful and unfair but that's just the way it is. She was just one of many, someone who taught you a very valuable lesson of self worth. keep working on yourself, become better and better, go out and meet people, eventually someone will see and appreciate everything you are.
For someone who has just turned 31 and never dated this video triggers a feeling of massive regret, but I had to watch it, I wasted my 20s being an introverted stoner playing video games, jerking off to porn and not going out and socialising, didn't make any mentionable gains in academics or in career either, followed my passion and hobbies to some extent. Today I don't really have awesome social and dating skills, I feel hopeless have negative suicidal thoughts sometimes, but I know I can't give up, ideas shared in this video are a bitter pill to swallow but can't change the past and have to live with it.
Kind of the same. Not a stoner, but only lost my virginity at 25. No relationships ever have worked out. Fuck it, I have my classic cars and I feel like King of the fucking world when I'm just cruising and having a good time wither alone or with friends.
This is just a fear of missing out on things. You don't need to date a lot of people really. Be picky,have high standards and don't think with you D man. Life isn't all about dating and being with someone new. This society nowdays needs strong families and strong people with healthy mind and not some jerkos with tinders. Create Strong families with woman who actually loves you for who you are and a woman who fears God and don't ever leave her,way better than being a dumb beta scared of missing out on dumb things.
I was thinking the same aight have fun and all but in reality the only purpose for me on dating is finding a partner for life, yeah I could have some fun with some of the girls I approach, but then you realize she’s not a long term choice and I just nope outta there(anyone can do whatever they want but that’s my way of doing things)
@@fj_212 Have "fun" by teaching them how to be a right human,we already have enough of delusional people. It's on us,humans with the sense and appreciation for ourselves and God to teach those cursed how to be and what to do. Fun comes in heaven,eternity.
@@almighty5839 The problem of missing out comes from inside your heart and from living in the future. Be present and enjoy the moment. Cheap fun comes with a great price that you don't even realize at the moment. God makes you pay later .Stop while you have time.
Trust me guys don't strave towards nutting. If you date it should be to find the person your going to marry and build a family with and not to just for fun.
Just be smart about it. Sadly these day it is hard to find a really good woman (traditional). The only way I think you’ll be able to tell one from another is by getting experience
I’d say building a social circle is far more important than dating (especially since it also translates into having more dating options when you have people to create social environments with) Just my opinion tho idk
Usually you increase your dating prospects if you build a social circle. I didn’t do this in my 20s and now I am a lonely 34 year old. I feel like life has passed by and it’s over. It feels impossible to meet people now. I don’t even know where to begin anymore.
@@therealmcgoy4968I’d say a lot of this dating game is backwards for guys. Girls seem to only want what’s out of their league even the ugly ones. Optimistically it’s a win win situation cause you either get a date or learn from the rejection. But rejection SUCKS for a few hours and maybe a few days but yeah I’d say working ok social skills is key like how to develop a good conversation and having things to ask when the convo dies down. We really need to become the best versions of ourselves
@@Onewiththesauce8 yes but you meet women through social circles. A friends girlfriend for example could end up introducing you to another woman who is her friend and then that would be how you could potentially meet women. I’m sure your friends would look for women for you who they think would be compatible on sone level. This is what I mean by social circles. If you don’t have a social circle in a way you are screwed. This is my situation. I have no friends irl.
It's all about connections and how authentic you are to yourself around people. There is no point in chasing anyone, if you had to go up to a girl and ask her out you already lost.
@@Set-vt true I get what you mean, I believe so anyways, you mean as long as we’re being ourselves authentically having a great time genuinely with no expectations of the end results besides being a genuine person and that energy is attractive in itself and people will be drawn to that naturally? Because that’s what I’m feeling drawn towards myself being more authentic and genuine myself. It’s tough being vulnerable but it allows for growth and expansion to occur
By next year 2025 my 20s will be over and never had relationship and sadly am pretty much gave up. In college, the most memorable experience was getting rejected by a Japanese girl on the spot. That was back in 2015, and I never tried again. By next March, it will have been a decade since that happened, yet nothing has changed for me and never will
Recently I've been cold approaching a ton almost daily, finally talked to this girl I've wanted to approach for a whole year. We had an amazing convo, lasted 2hrs, had a ton in common, at the end I got her insta. Two days later messaged her and she left me on delivered. Shits making me sad especially since literally everything went perfect idk what happened
What I didn't realize until I was older is that dating is similar to finding a good job. It's a numbers game where yeah you're going to have a lot of rude people who just get your job application and don't reply to you. It's pretty rude but they don't really care. But one day you're going to find that dating prospect that is very interested in you and will get back with you then things will be great. So don't give up! Improve yourself, including your looks and financial stability and good things will happen.
all good brother you just proved to yourself you can do it once, so you can do it again. also maybe your approach and convo was good but you messed up the next step. this is why I have socializer school to teach this lol
Im 29, I used to have the carefree charisma and social confidence up until 23, female group of girls I was messing around with opened my eyes up as well as a friend's friend false allegations case had happened just as the MeToo movement was gaining fire. It cause me to stop going out and ultimately I got very depressed. Now at 29, a friend convinced me to get back out there, but all I see around me is women same age with baby rabies or women I can't tell if they are legal age or not. I don't do dating apps either because I am not physically fit anymore and they do go off looks (going to the gym). I'm lost at this point.
Keep your head up bro it isn’t too late. The good thing for men is that we can excel in what we do for many years. Your window of opportunity does not close past 20’s, if anything those opportunities become wider. One thing that makes dating in 20’s hard is that women of the same age often want an older man because he’s most likely more established and has experience. So yeah, it ain’t over for ya.
Men dating in your early and middle 20s is easier and many women prefer this age range, in your late 20s it is so hard ( just if you are rich and have an attractive body)
I went full in to dating girls between 18-23 years old and at 24 I got enough of it and started to focus on my career, and I felt so bad that I wasted so much time with the girls. Now your video made me feel better to know that I actually did everything at the right time.
mine was the opposite. focused on myslef and money at 18-23 because i felt no girl was trying to date a broke boy and i told myself that I at least had to have a girlfriend by the time I was 25 (Which is still 20s) so its all good. Well fast forward into the future and I got some good money day trading crypto, but i am getting my ass handed to me because i suck at talking to girls and if i do get a relationship it doesnt even last long. Only thing that gives me hope is by the time i reach 30 i should be experienced enough to keep at least one girl
Your channel has come to me at a really ideal time my guy. Been watching for 1 month and in late June of this year, my long term partner of 6 and 1/2 years and I broke up. First serious girl and while we were hoping to travel the world together, she left to go travel with someone else. I am shattered still, did the whole proposal etc before venturing out and as I' m going through this process, everything you're saying is so refreshing and motivating. I'm starting to produce content and I am motivated a bit by this break up to also prove something to myself and see where it leads. Getting yourself out there and being amongst people, building relationships (not just romantic) is great advice and everyone here can do that, it takes practice, some luck and being true to your character and self, which people will love or not. It's not the end, we have time. Thanks for this content and good luck everyone (fyi i'm 26).
@@gailainsley6939these young dudes have not gotten the memo yet unfortunately of the times were in. The women are something else too, I can guarantee you in his mind it was serious but not to the Gen z breed he was with. She probably was open to all social media, talking and dealing with other men the whole time. Unfortunately the days of old are gone and aren’t coming back, 2/3 of these females don’t even want to get pregnant. Most are clueless, have no purpose and are just time wasters.
I'm the, got married early and divorced after a year and then got jaded guy. I've been approaching girls recently because of you. It works so good! Holy shit I wish I started this sooner
My best friend and I had a discussion about me needing to start dating now literally the other weekend. He is right. I’m a great guy but it’s time for me to stop being just a nice guy that girls feel comfortable around. It’s time for me to be attractive to them as well. I would always get to the point of showing a girl how I want to be with them and I didn’t take the step. I think I’m ready now
why dont women want a kind guy they feel comfortable and safe around? Shouldn't that be attractive? As a guy I want a kind woman I feel comfortable and safe around - that's attractive to me.
@@JakeRosen635 I think its cause literally every guy nowadays is nice (at least to women) and you don't stand out in any way by being just nice, you need to be more than that or else she'll choose someone more attractive in terms of physical attractiveness, being funny/having charisma, or having high status
Nailed it bro! You shouldn't avoid it, but it shouldn't be your main priority either. Too many men go all-in on dating in their 20s and neglect their fitness/purpose. I'm mainly focusing on my business while slowly leveling up my dating/social skills. My social skills absolutely sucked at the start but they have already gotten quite a bit better. Excited to see where they'll be at in a few years
I got same situation like you but i tried and i just became more open to people and started making Conversations and talking about Anything just talk or ask people in public about directios and now six months later or even less i can talk to anyone without social anxiety like even ppl cant believe i had 0 social skills before, my big tip is stop masturbating it destroys your mins, soul, and body and your will to do things, good luck bro
I’m somebody who’s sorta split between the monk mode, borderline tradcon ideas, and red pill, and I do a whole lot of approaches but I also struggle with myself always second guessing myself about dating after every rejection And there’s probably many more who can use this video to fully pick a side between becoming successful before dating, and dating while becoming successful.
Fuck im 19. Haven't had a girlfriend, never kissed or dated. I'm fairly handsome. My one friend even told me her friend thinks I'm cute, and i still couldn't do anything about it. Its like im scared to be myself infront of girls, as if I'm not enough to match the amount of boyfriends and experiences they've had, or I'm supposed to fit my mould I feel society has placed on me and girls will think I'm a creep. Its a genuine mental block and I don't know what to do at this point. Time is flying by and I'm really scared I end up hitting 30 being single. Fuck it sucks
Bruh, just try to turn thouse girls on :D they gona fuck the shit out of you u aint even gona need to do anything hahaha :D But allso idk try be brave to just tell first words and then its eazy XD girls to be honest whants sex more then guys so dont be shy
That's your mental illness, usually referred to as social anxiety disorder, not people. What have you done to try to cure yourself of your mental illness?
I rate this. This is a very good video. A large part however is environment. Like it’s tough if you live with your parents away from absolutely everything, however I think I’m relatively attractive, I work out, party like I could die tomorrow and having a blast. Already had lots of lessons, fails and fuckups but I’m learning all the time. It’s awesome
The way i see it, you do what makes you happy. Just as long as you don’t go hurt or harass other’s because you can’t get any. I think you’ll be fine if you wanna focus on building your career over dating or if you wanna date in your twenties. That’s fine too, nobody on the redpill or bluepill side should tell you what you should be doing, because no one knows what’s best for you but you and you alone.
I met my girlfriend/fiance at 20 years old. And we stayed together for 8 years until we had broken up earlier this month. I am now twenty-eight and I feel like I have been cheated my precious dating time in my early twenties. I focus so much time and love into this one and only. And now I have absolutely no dating game experience because she was the one who approached me in the first place. I know how to go on dates and how to treat a woman, but getting started all over again and not having any experience on how to even approach and talk to women is so intimidating. Especially since my last partner was pretty hot, I'm not going to settle down for just about anybody. But women that I'm attracted to are either in their early to mid-20s. They're more than likely not going to want to go out with an almost 30 year old. It's completely soul-crushing
Bro we are very similar! I've only ever had 1 girlfriend. We mutually ended our relationship after 9 years. We were high school sweethearts and each other's first. I'm 27 now. After the breakup, I never tried going for another relationship. Never downloaded any dating apps and i don't go to clubs. I'm more of an introvert than an extrovert. But I downloaded a language exchange app so I could make new friends. And I did. 7 months after the breakup, I started talking to this 21 yr old Japanese girl online. (I was talking to maybe 7 to 8 different girls but only she was flying out) She hasn't been to America and after 1 month of talking, she decided to come to my state for vacation. We spent 3 nights at the hotel. We had full days itinerary and we did alot of fun activities like parasailing, beach, restaurants, etc. During the first night, we kissed and we had s3x. Being at this age and have only had 1 prior body count, banging another chick so so exciting! The week after, i bang another chick! She was just a customer and we decided to eat after i finish work. After dinner, i made the move and she invited me to her hotel (was on vacation). I never really had much friends because i was very loyal, but now, ive met about 10 girls the past 4 months, without the use of dating apps or going to the clubs. Mostly a language exchange app or i meet at work! I already made plans to meet many girls in different months, and I'm just gonna enjoy and have s3x with them! The other girls I've hang out, I'm just gonna be friends with them and not make a move. I hope you'll find someone!
Guys, sex is supposed to something special. Anyone telling you to have sex with alot of women is also lying to you. Sure it can be fun and i fully understand that, but all i can say is try your best to not find a girl just to have sex with. Look for the long term relationship.
@@Raw.milk1Hell nah. 50??? I’m a virgin and will stay that way until I find a wife material girl, and only be with her. I’d rather practice semen retention and celibacy than bang 50 low quality sluts
Daily Denmo uploads feed my motivation atm. Luckily I'm only 18, so i have time for improvement, but apart from interacting with friends and family I'm incompetent af socialising with strangers, never-mind women.
My 20's was all gone. It was totally dedicated to catching up. I was with a fuckedup family with no money, i had no mentors, no emotional intelligence, super anxious, just like my parents, and lived in fear in ending up like my parents, never had a penny, finished my degree late, never had freedom. Started a job in middle of nowhere at 25, at maybe 28 i started have a drop of freedom. At 30 am living the best i've ever lived, own my own house even. But i lost all related to dating and women. I got in love, never had any king of reciprocation. I spent months, years, thinking about woment that barely knew i existed. Love is nothing to me. Just a bad prank. A long bad prank. Nothing in it for me.
You can't really change what happened or the hand that you were dealt in life, I agree, but you have to make the best of it. I mean what else CAN you do? With a job and a house, you obviously have plenty of money, why not spend some on going out to clubs or traveling the world? Maybe try your luck in other countries? Many people find success in dating that way. 30 is still not old, you have another 10 years to settle down, you can definitely find someone by that time. Also, why not try your hand at becoming famous on YT or Tiktok? You've got the time for it and it would generate status and put you in front of potential partners, and then girls would be approaching YOU (on Insta mainly). Point is there's a lot you can do still
Thank you denmo I have been watching your videos since the start of the year while I was going through divorce and they helped me a lot to the point I don't recognize that version of myself, greetings from Mexico.
I'm 36 and man the confidence I have today compared to my 20's is a huge difference. I missed out and at the time social media was just Facebook and not everyone used it. This was before Instagram and Snapchat.
It’s tough after college man. I’ve gotta go to busier/more populated areas now to approach, I live in a small town. It doesn’t get easier men, I’m 27 now and have only been in one relationship. Date while you’re in college, grow some balls and approach women in class, if I could go back to my 21/22 year old self knowing what I know now about women, I would.
It gets even worse as you get older. The small social circle I had in my early 20s evaporated by the time I was in my late 20s. I think that happens but got sone reason I was unable to form a new one or create one. I’m 34 now and kicking myself in the ass. I feel like by not having a social circle as an average guy you are screwed. It’s so bad that when my job is like “who do you use as work references”… I’m like shit I don’t even know that many people anymore to even put down. It’s blackpilling really.
same, 24 now and i just left college. approached hella girls my last year and found success but i don’t want any of them as my future wife. i would deff approach all the time if i was 19-21 again
everyone is closed off at my college, nobody really talks to you unless they knew you from somewhere else and theres no girls im even interested in my class. college is really boring nowadays
@@markn9619 bro you have to take advantage and kinda lower your standards ngl. because it gets harder with time and after college, all the good girls are taken
@@UserRobot215 And I am twice your age, and was in that boat till recently. Did every self improvement thing, work out, maxed out what I could make to 7 figures (I am in tech), said fuck it and just started to approach, make some conversation. ToddV is very helpful and also Dan Bacon. I lost the ability to give a shit. I figured if I don't do it now I will take it to the grave. I figured they are getting a good deal from me, even if I'm older :lol: Their loss if they say no. Plenty of rejections but I got some good bites. And I have a few girls now. I kept asking women for a workout partner. I am a speed skater and have women I skate with. You just have to do it bro. There are great vids about flirting and how to escalate with women. I was always very serious with women and that does not spark attraction.
I didn't make the most out of my twenties but I try not to regret it because this is a time when people mess up aka having kids too early because your brain isnt fully mature. Also there is no point in having regret because you truly do not know what would have happened. You could have had a great time or you could even well be dead. One drunken night with a girl could have ended up with you being knocked over by a car.. You never truly know. My good friend from school died 4 months ago on his new E bike and he was only 30!. appreciate you being here, try your damn best until the day you die and surely you will be able to make up for the experiences you missed out on because rarely anyone works on themselves that much so you can have an edge over most people when they get older.
Kinda unique sitch here. I’ve dated around a good amount, didn’t always make the best choices. I recently had a situationship with who I thought would be “The One”. After years of toxic relationships I was so excited and relived to have someone who was mentally stable and cared. Long story short it was a right person wrong time situation… it’s been a month now and It’s just been hard as no one else has really made me feel the same since. I know it’s early, I’m talking to a couple girls right now but it’s just not the same thrill. I know I shouldn’t be waiting around for her to come back either but now there’s this different standard she’s set.
I do not want to get married because of the expense of divorce and my need to be alone most of the time. I do not want to date because if not dating to marry, dating is progressing a relationship despite knowing it will not be a long term item. I do not date/romance casually because it feels shallow and have always hated how I’ve felt afterwards. I also have a moral issue with many partners. I do not feel there is anything to miss out on, especially compared against all of the experiences you can make on your own. I believe going at it alone in your 20s can be just as fulfilling as dating in your 20s, so long as you make the most of it. No woman has anything you need, that cannot be obtained yourself.
Actually 20s looks like too late time to start dating, because most 18 years old girls already had a lots of experiences and they prefer to be in relationship with more experienced guys rather than 25 years old who have never had a gf.
Apps I think are a waste of time. If you don’t have a social circle you are already at 29 or 30 at a major disadvantage I think. I think physical improvement on top of maybe creating a social circle are both important. Also finding things people in your age or around your age are important. At 30 everything becomes an uphill battle especially dating world it feel’s impossible to even navigate.
@@Denmosocial Thanks Denmo, im 33 now and only started this whole dating thing less than a year ago, i have made good progress, but i still have a long way to go. But then again, the right one might be the next one i meet and i do have a date tomorrow, wish me luck.
Im currently 16 years and this content from you denmo is so mind blowing and prepars for the live and to have this knowledge at this age is crazy you know what you have to do and talk to girls and boys and interact with them and become friends insted of scroling trough tiktok big content kep it up
Dude listen, on one hand what he's saying is good. Get of your ass and phone and get out there and meet poeple. That's correct. But on the other what he's saying is wrong. Brother do not try to sleep with alot of women. If you can meet the love of your life in school right now, try to hold on to her for as long as you can and i mean until you die. There is nothing that will make you feel better trust me.
Why waste my time and resources trying to chase women when 99% of them are boring. I meet so many women who literally do nothing meaningful with their time. - They don't have any interesting hobbies or aspirations and I simply do not enjoy spending more than an hour with them or their friends. Would I have sex with them? yeah sure. But from where I stand that usually requires a pretty substantial investment from me in either time or money. - Once I've made the investment just to maybe see this one out, I fail to give them the validation they are certainly expecting from me. Why spend my resources chasing sex with women I don't care for? - I do think I should continue learning how to cast a wider net though. Being able to speak with anyone to make interesting conversations and creating interesting experiences is a valuable skill. I also want to learn how to effectively portray myself to others and get to know people better.
"Do NOT Miss Out On Dating In Your 20s..." Like it's my fucking choice. I'm almost 26, 5'3, obese and with no dating experience. I've been working out seriously and trying to improve my diet for the last couple months and have alrealy gotten a little bit better, but it will still take at least 1 year to become half decent looking. I'm trying to make it as an entrepreneur but my mental health gets in the way and I still can't afford leaving my parents' house and having my own car. A girl at the bakery was nicerr than usual to me today and was all smiles, but I don't even know how to read if that's an opening to ask for her number I if I'm imagining things, and after that, what to text? what to do on a date? all these little detais I was never taught and have no experience on, and that's assuming she or any other girl even likes me. If I mess it up which is likely, I'll have to talk to her everytime I go there and will become the laughing stock of the bakery girls, the weirdo virgin that can't read the room. At 25 I'm expected to know things because everybody else was out there living theis lives and I wasn't. I couldn't, I was always different and weird and didn't fit in. fuck...
@@nickga it's my fault I'm fat and I'm doing something about it. But I can't just choose to date. As I am I don't stand a chance. When I'm finally ready I'll probably be in my thirties. And also being 5'3 isn't my fault and there's nothing I can do about it but it will permanently impact my chances with women. Not only am I way behind, if I give it my all I'll still be handicapped by my height. And being weird as a kid wasn't my fault, I was a kid, but it still shaped my life experiences, how I was treated and how I felt growing up. All I've ever wanted was to be normal and I've hated myself every day for as long as I can remember. Not so much now but still.
I spent all of my 20s in a 4 year relationship and then immediately afterwards a 6 year. I’m 31 and single now, I have zero idea what is going on with the dating world. I’m just gonna stick to the guns I’ve always used, someone is bound to come along eventually.
Hey Denmo, love the janitor story 🤣 I don't usually comment in YT videos, but this one really spoke to me. I'm working very hard to grow my business, and I am also guilty of not dating because "I'm working on myself". But you're right. If I don't date now, I'll regret not dating later. I don't know man, I feel very emotional because I'm 27 now, so it really woke up something in me to finally get my ass off & stop coping.
I am in the same boat here bro. but I think this type of video is misleading. If you want to end up like 60-year-old Phil, then keep dating. I don't think Jeff Bezos in his 60s would give you advice like Phil
@michaelz6408 that's what I've been saying and finally someone agrees with me. This guy in the video give poeple the wrong advice. Go out there and try to fuck every girl you can?? That's insane. I'm not saying i won't do it, like if 20 girls approached me in a span of 20 days asking for sex i wouldn't decline but that still doesn't make it right.
I’m 25. I can’t get laid no matter what I do. Women hate me, and at this point, the feeling is mutual. I’ve tried working out a ton, working my rear off, asking women out, nothing works. Literally nothing. Life sucks.
you could work out all you want but if your mentality, your psyche is off, then you won't come of as a person they'd like to be around. Cultivate a positive minset in your head even if it doesn't feel that way right now. I could remember a time talking to people in uni made me want to really vomit, but pushing myself constantly paid off. I feel you bro but you have to do it just a bit longer. All the best
Same bro I'm 23 at this age I already feel tired physically and mentally I don't give a fuck no more and every single night I wish my death and I wish I will be my last birthday.
@@listless5046 I do not normally comment but I want you to read this at least, even though we do not know each other. You are not special, plenty of other guy feel hopeless, just like you. I am sorry, you are NOT entitled to die. Murdering your future self would be the most selfish thing you could ever do, next to killing other people. You might not understand this now but in the future you will be so grateful not to have done it your future self would violently smack you in the head right now for even thinking about it. You don't get to give up your opportunity to live because everyone before you and everything else is not alive, but you are. You get to experience all the joy and all the pain in the world that a rock could not experience. A lot of people have shittier lives than you, yet they keep on. Why? Because they have a reason to, responsibilties, like a family to care for or future children, other people around them, meaning they can never give up because so much depends on them. Their suffering means something. Are you just suffering for nothing? Then practice virtue. Do you feel bad about yourself? Practice virtue. Be a better person. You probably wouldn't feel this way if you were a good person, so take the opportunities you were given (everybody has some) and make the world a little better before you die because you owe it to the world but first and foremost you owe it to YOURSELF. Coming from someone who felt powerless: if you choose to, things will get better.
Get a person that will want to commit time for you. That's the end goal. Ignore the rest, the primary thing is to approach a girl that looks to you like a person that will see value in yourself and will want to be alongside you for some time in her life. If you ain't getting any signals, or something small sounds off, it's better to let that chance die before you end up in a story similar to the ones told in the other comments.
I mean, i don't want to miss out on it, trust me, the last thing i want is to not date in my 20's(22 rn). But it looks like it's not up to me *at all* . I approach girls and get brutally rejected, laughed at, disrespected every single time, either that or i get their number just so they never really say anything, i usually get no effort whatsoever from the other party...even when i show no interest i still get disrespected or made fun of. I haven't dated in like 5+ years and saying i feel lonely is an understatement, it's literally making more depressed as time goes on. I could give a number of reasons why this happens but all I'm going to hear is "oh, be more social, or workout" or "hurr incel!" Nothing that will really help me. Truth is, some guys are just luckier when it comes this type of stuff, something no one wants to admit especially the ones trying to make a buck from other's lack of success.
It’s not luck, it’s genetics. You’re either attractive or your not, it’s that simple. Women are always going to leverage their beauty and options to maximize their fun early on, and settle with the stable provider.
I feel like videos like this are going to put some people into a panic mode where they become desperate and try to do whatever it takes to get a girl because they are in constant fear of their time running out. Doesn't sound healthy. I agree with not missing out but dating is hard and putting pressure on young men to "not miss out in your 20s" isn't going to make it any easier.
@@christiansnaturestudio6599 Bro that'll happen no matter what. I had like 180 matches total before I got banned and 15 active conversations, literally all of them weren't that serious about meeting up; they just wanted to do small talk and waste my time. Out of that 180 matches I only actually got 12 of them out.
I feel like in the past men had it easier to find a decent woman - you just had to be half decent. Nowadays, women feel like they have all the options in the world with all this social media. However, do not get discouraged! Hard work builds character. Heck, bring it to me even harder! Don't stop bros! We will all shine.
Honestly dating in my 20s it’s not even close to worth it I literally have had not even in the end of the year where I’ve had people want to date me for money or want to date me while still having their man on the side or just want me for sexual pleasures but then there is those people that are just bona fide gold digging. Honestly I’d rather be a passport bro going to somewhere else and find love that way then have to deal with someone that’s just going to treat me in a certain way and that Golddigger literally told me to my face that I could not afford someone like her when I literally not even a few months back spent 400 on a prostitute that wasn’t even worth it and I told her to her face why in the fuck would I want to be with someone that would do nothing to help me? The thing that I’m staying here gentlemen is don’t lower your values for a woman don’t think that you have to improve yourself for a woman improve yourself for you you don’t have to stop doing the things that you love just improve yourself little by little every single day because that would make you the better version of yourself and not the version that she or the other person wants because you don’t have to be someone’s Prince charming all you need to do is be the best you. Break ups have been every day but a relationship may make you even worse or make you better but it all comes down to how much you are willing to improve because if you’re still stuck in the right that you were in the last relationship you’re just going to bring that along along with that person that might as well need to stay in the sidelines because they’re not even close to over their significant other and bringing their baggage along. I hope my words help someone else I know that you got this all you need is to stay motivated in your goals and try to improve yourself either by exercising or doing things that you love doing that does not involve dating or just pick up a new hobby that you thought about doing but you just have been in such a rut that you felt you were not good enough to do it.
If you only have casual sex in your 20s, you're still going to be a child in your 30s. You'll have tons of game and you'll be able to secure first dates and first sexual experiences, but that's it. You won't have any relationship experience. It's still better than doing nothing, but I'd say always aim to get into relationships.
@@mafumofu986 The guy in the video said to make sure to go on dates in your 20s so that you're not a child in your 30s. I'm just pointing out that if not being a child is your goal then you need to do more than dating: you need to get into relationships. But personally, I say do what works best for you. If you're happy with your situation, then all the best to you. Cheers.
Great advice, personally I would recommend not dating until your late 20s -30s. Your 20s are a time of self discovery and trying to figure out who you are and what you want to do in life.
I hear what you're saying, it's just that I'm not allowed to bring girls over (living with my parents) so I absolutely have to work on myself and that's why I enrolled in a coding bootcamp. I'm doing it so that I can leave my small town and have my establishment in order to be able to date women. I have a crappy beater car that can't even take me to the nearest actual city. I'm in a situation where I am actually having to wait on money before the dating life is even feasible. Whenever I walk through the small town I live in hoping to meet girls it's super desolate and no one goes outside other than children. I'm in a situation where I have to leave before starting a successful social life. Maybe it's why I got bored of playing videogames, because my brain sees my life situation as a threat to my survival. I'm starving to be financially successful
You're not alone most men are in a similar situation where financial stress interferes with their dating life. The only men that can really afford to date in their 20s are trust fund babies, college dudes, professional athletes and influencers. Most men never become successful and the ones who do usually get there at 30-35ish
@@positivevibesonly3795this just isn’t true, I’ve dated throughout every single financial situation. You just need to know how to play your cards right. OP, if your car doesn’t work to chill with girls, have them drive to you. If they like you enough they’ll pick you up. You could take public transportation, ride a bike, etc. there are a plethora of ways. You don’t even have to spend money on a date. Go on a hike, people watch, watch a sunset. Don’t give up, if you desire it make it happen! I dated girls throughout high school having no car and having parents that disapproved of me being in a relationship. It’s definitely worth it. Good luck!
One thing to also remember times were different when dude was in his 20s majority of women we’re housewives or pure now a days you have to work 3 times as hard for a woman that’s been ran through and doesn’t even bring half of what they brought to the table plus they have a lot more opportunity and options
13:38 yep. there it is. my trauma and very reason I never even look at another woman even in 50 meter range, let alone date. As of now I am 22 years old and fucking miserable. Once my mandatory military service ends, this is when I should really start trying to get rid of this demon from years ago. Signed up for your email newsletter btw
Like the raw drags or grey clips 13:10 that shows Denmos honesty on maybe something was a bit wierd or too much. It kinda helps apply it to my life and i am thankful for that.
Well I'm 30 now and have missed out clearly. Do I regret it, absolutely! I had no idea how to go about this, coupled with the fact that I had to also deal with culture shock from moving from different places.
Giving in to hookup culture is not the cure for the failing state of relationships. Everybody needs to be better instead of making up shitty behaviours to compensate for other people’s shitty behaviours. Grow up.
Great, video. Currently turning 25 and will be tuning down my level of Self-Improvement. I feel I'm at a high enough level to handle my shit and want to focus on actually living. To be honest, if I would have just focused on what I'm good at and cut out the bullshit I now realize I could have been making $100K at 18 and been hooking up a lot. Frontloading is a motherfucker and have spent the last 10 years(since I was 15) doing 100 hours of self help/self improvement a week. I can tell you one thing... If you just follow your instincts and heart and do what your a natural at you can avoid the fucking grind.
Yup bruh, do stuff insted of sitting beeing sad insted go do anything and money cant buy everything. Like for example when u drink u more brave but if u learn to be same brave not drunk u gona be even better so i think same whit money u might tink that momey something is better biger whit money but nah skills gona get u even further haha
I'm 24, and I've been single since birth. I'm also turning 25 this year 😭 a quarter of my life, and I still haven't made it. I am going to stay positive, though!
Im 19 and im really experiencing the social part i’ve left behind back in high school and really feeling the phrase: You dont value something until you loose it. Havent had a GF but tríed so many times with disappointments along the way, my recommendation is just work to being attractive not only physically but mentally attractive, you’ll see the results
facts their was stats that said gays have more money then straight men i was thinking how it was bc gays arent complicated and they jus hook up with no playing around dating woman spending money will add up over time.
I feel the message is 'Just like you need to build on yourself and your career, you should also work on your relationships', until you fall you will never learn to walk. Its only by failing that we become more successful
I'm 33 and wasted my 20's when it comes to women. I remember when I was 27 and was a lot on tinder. I got matches with women aged 22-27 all the time and had no problems opening conversations with them either. Now when I try to go on tinder the amount of attractive women around my age is zero. The only attractive ones left are low quality gold diggers who wont respond to you anyway. Also I feel like my sex drive has plummeted after I turned 30. I do have something to do with women in their late 20's/early 30's. There is a comfort in that.
Yeah it’s straight brutal getting back into the dating scene in your early 30s.. the market for single women has been reduced by 75% and the available single women have multiple kids, are less attractive and come with baggage.
Dude the same here. I can’t even attract fat chicks or the usual single moms anymore. It’s beyond brutal no one matches with me now. I don’t even bother. I tried every dating app maybe a year ago and had the same experience. I don’t go to bars anymore either and women in their 30s and late 20s are not as friendly and will play games with you. If you didn’t date in your 20s then you are in a way screwed I think. I know I am.
I do not want to date women in my 20s heck not even in my upcoming 30s. I am struggling, broke, behind, not fit and not established yet that's going to take years for me to build self improvement is key to living a great successful life.
Men need to focus on improving and becoming the best version of themselves especially in their 20's. Wasting time on female's only hold you back from reaching your full potential 💯
I feel like there's this weird disconnect when people tell you not to miss out on dating. Like not all of us have the option. Women are the ones who decide whether or not you get to date. I've approached girls, asked girls out, but they reject me. It's something you really can't control. So the advice of don't miss out on dating really means nothing when it's not your choice to miss out.
sounds like you havent tried enough times and do not have charisma or skill in socializing. Thats what I'm here for
Oh you can control it to an extent. But this joker's channel isn't going to teach you how. Get money muscles frame and game you'll start seeing a tiny bit of results unless you're truly bottom tier.
right like your odds significantly decrease if you're broke and/or ugly you can be in your 30s even 40s and get women easily if you take care of your body and/or have lots of money
It’s natural selection. Just let nature do its thing, we all gonna die off 😂😂😂
@@protoknightsmusicarchives3232 Having balls and going for what you want in life is not toxic advice. That's called being a man.
I am 33. To say I've missed a lot is putting it nicely. Currently working on myself so I can get into the dating world. Spent my 20s mostly being a caregiver to my ailing mom, she passed away not long after I turned 27.
Got a nice job now, but currently trying to build a side hustle, along with weight lifting/bulking, and sharpening my somewhat dimmed social skills.
Feel you bro. I'm 33 too. Just got out of an christian doomsday cult after 12 years. Set my life on pause at 21 yo. For me it's somewhat the other way around. I still work at a shitty low wage job; on the other hand have social skills, confidence and so on, but didn't put them to use "properly" in the real world. Greetings from Germany.
@@UserRobot215it’s not too late in your early 30s but these guys are so far behind that it will take a boatload of work to make it work at this point.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
@@AlvinLovesAnime I appreciate it. It's been 6 years, and I've never stopped thinking of her. That's why I continue to forge ahead to keep making self-improvement.
In the same boat but in my 20s and still unattractive at 34 now. I get escorts now as I don’t have a social circle to meet women. Apps dont work for me as I don’t get matches. I’m s very social person but that is sort of irrelevant really if you don’t have a social circle.
“Romantically” seeing women in your 20s makes perfect sense. The problem I have with it is
If the women I see are not friend material, I do not want anything to do with them. I would not want someone using me just for sex, I don’t want to use someone for sex either. All the friends I have is genuinely based on the fact that I like them as people. They like me as person. I know this because I have nothing to offer them but friendship.
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There comes the paradox of having Hoes. why have hoes if you genuinely don’t like hanging with them as people. If you do like someone as person, then why would you put them in a situation where you just use them for sex.
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Having a girlfriend is infinity better than having hoes.
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As a guy, girls only want you for the idea of who you are, not who you are genuinely.
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Per my definition of friend, girls who are your friend makes sense. But “girlfriend” as in a girl who you romantically like and likes you too could never be your friend, because it is not genuine. They just default to a hoe.
1.close friends
2.friends
3.romantic interest
4.acquaintance
What about a girl who was your friend and fell in love woth u after knowing u for years?
that is a great question, i will need to think about that for a couple days. @@Aya_is_a_gamer
This is where I'm at. I meet so many women who literally do nothing meaningful with their time.
They don't have any interesting hobbies or aspirations and I simply do not enjoy spending more than an hour with them or their friends. Would I have sex with them yeah sure. But from my standpoint that usually requires some form of investment from me either time or money and I have no idea how to genuinely give them the validation they are certainly expecting from men. Why spend my resources chasing sex with women I don't care for?
I do think I should continue learning how to cast a wider net though. Being able to speak with anyone to make interesting conversations and experiences happen is a valuable skill. I also want to learn how to effectively portray myself to others and get to know people better.
ive never had a woman take an interest in me, id be ecstatic if a girl wanted to use me for sex
I'd like to add my own experience here: I had my first girlfriend at 16, it ended badly and I didn't so much kiss a girl again until I was almost 23. After a brief but enjoyable affair, I went through another dry spell until a month before my 26th birthday, when I met my future ex-wife. This marriage collapsed when I was 35, and the dry spell after it lasted three more years. In 2023 I've finally fixed a lot of issues that were holding me back. In my example: I've lost a lot of weight (220lbs/100kg), stoked up my confidence to white hot levels and worked on my approaches and guess what? I've managed to attract girls and had more action in 2023 than in my entire life before. I'm 40 next year and I'm genuinely excited to see where I go from here.
It's never too late to get good.
Nice brother
I have to ask: how does one go through a 3 yr dry spell if not for a lack of effort? like I can't imagine, if you left the house each of those days and talked to some women you'd end up with literally zero sex. Am i missing something?
@@popinjay69I wasn't making approaches, and I was a walking blimp. That's why the dry spell lasted three years (Actually 38 months, until April this year). Since April it's been a lot more fun, and it's only got better as my weight has continued to drop. I'd definitely do things differently if I could re-live my 20s.
@@Ares-isYou miss 100% of the shots you don't take. That's the ethos I live by. I also try make at least 1 approach per day, as it's all good practise.
I, like all of you, are full of amazing potential. It won't be wasted :)
Very inspiring story mate. Thanks for sharing. Gonna try t live in your footsteps as a 27 year old just making his way back into the dating world after my first real heart break
Im 23 still single since birth 😆.
Same boat
You got this sexy mf no homo
@@Mr.L24123 ?
Same bruv😂
26 years
well, college education and my job has halted my personal life in my early twenties , and now at 27 , grabbing my balls and just approaching people even if i'm surrounded by guys who are just wusses and keep telling me not to , it would be embarrassing and they'll judge you .... thanks denmo for always being that positive voice in my head .
Bruh I’m in the same boat. Turning 27 next month. Shitty job, no money, no car and zero experience 😞 but am currently making moves to get out of this rut.
@velklll brother I promise you, I'm 19 and I got a job through a temp company. Consider it, you'll always have a job pretty well guaranteed. And off chance you find a decent one like I did you could even be hired from temp to hire. Granted I took some leaps for it it truly wasn't hard it was just a willingness to learn trade skills and take advantage of what you've learned
Man I'm a year below you and I've had all levels of insecurities and fear plauging my 20s so far and I'm afraid that it might be to late to unfuck my life and start dating, I feel like I pissed away my youth
Not every guy gets to enjoy his 20s, i didn't really have a girlfriend until I was 29, but it was a short-term relationship for a couple of months. My wasted 20s will forever be a pain for the rest of my life, i don't see that ever healing
My father spend his entire life f*cking tons of girls, until he got married in unhappy marriage in his 30s.
It doesn't worth it!
As a guy that gets a lot of attention from women, its really not that big of a deal dating in your 20s. I have gone out on several dates, but none of them left an impact in me. Only my 1 steady relationship with a girl did I really enjoy.
Remember quality> quantity
All I have ever done in my 20s is work, work, and work. Went to Prison and earned a Felony - yeah - no sane Woman would love me.
@@azazel673 As a guy that gets a lot of water, drinking is not really a big deal. I've had several cups of water, but none of them left an impact on me.
@@mafumofu986 maybe thats part of your problem. Water is essential and you’re comparing it to women. Please do yourself a favor and put them down of the pedestal. Women are not essential and you dont need them to live an enjoyable 20s. Trust me, quality> quantity. Even if you meet the right one at your 30s
Yeah man I am just 22 but a tragic accident put all this life stuff on hold. But this is my time of transformation, couldn’t be more grateful! Jack we will link soon.
You got this 👍
I believe in you!
what happened ?
yea what happen @@marvin2678
We believe in you
Had my first girlfriend ever at 29. I also had my first kiss with her, first everything. I fell head over heels for her, we went on vacations together, created so many awesome memories, I was planning on marrying her, having kids, I thought she was the woman of my life. But clearly she didn’t, because she broke up with me after 1.5 years. I was devastated. For the next six months, I was just trying to survive every day, while she found a new guy barely a couple weeks after breaking up and she has completely moved on and forgotten about me. Since then I’ve decided to never date again and I never want to feel the same pain as I felt with her. I’m now 34 and am finding happiness in other things in life, such as art (I paint and play the piano), sports (I play tennis and badminton), and chess. I also prioritize spending time with my family more than everything else. Good luck guys, not everybody will have a happy ending…
i truly wish the best for you my man. Do me a favour and try just one more time. I know how it feels man. But giving up is not the solution.
please read the comment form "sh0ckmaster" under this post. This might give you the hope you need...🙏❤
I had a somewhat similar experience here man. Dating is so, so much easier for women in terms of options, It's painful and unfair but that's just the way it is.
She was just one of many, someone who taught you a very valuable lesson of self worth. keep working on yourself, become better and better, go out and meet people, eventually someone will see and appreciate everything you are.
The only way you lose is by quitting so please keep your chin up king and go out and grab life by the balls once again
Why did she break up with you though
For someone who has just turned 31 and never dated this video triggers a feeling of massive regret, but I had to watch it, I wasted my 20s being an introverted stoner playing video games, jerking off to porn and not going out and socialising, didn't make any mentionable gains in academics or in career either, followed my passion and hobbies to some extent. Today I don't really have awesome social and dating skills, I feel hopeless have negative suicidal thoughts sometimes, but I know I can't give up, ideas shared in this video are a bitter pill to swallow but can't change the past and have to live with it.
Kind of the same. Not a stoner, but only lost my virginity at 25. No relationships ever have worked out. Fuck it, I have my classic cars and I feel like King of the fucking world when I'm just cruising and having a good time wither alone or with friends.
Dont worry man there are people out there who are in their 40s 50s who never had a high value women u still have time
@@TristanGosal-tl1zo let's be honest it is not easy to have women in your 30s, women goes for men in their early and middle 20s.
The experience/lack of experience and manipulation part is spot on. And not just in romantic relationships too.
@@user-xn2wg2oe7sjobs, friendship, with relatives...
I feel like everyone has had a man like Phil motivating us atleast one point in our life
shoutout to phil
This is just a fear of missing out on things. You don't need to date a lot of people really. Be picky,have high standards and don't think with you D man. Life isn't all about dating and being with someone new. This society nowdays needs strong families and strong people with healthy mind and not some jerkos with tinders. Create Strong families with woman who actually loves you for who you are and a woman who fears God and don't ever leave her,way better than being a dumb beta scared of missing out on dumb things.
I literally have this fear and I knows it’s dumb but can’t help it I don’t want to have a shitty college or 20s experience
I was thinking the same aight have fun and all but in reality the only purpose for me on dating is finding a partner for life, yeah I could have some fun with some of the girls I approach, but then you realize she’s not a long term choice and I just nope outta there(anyone can do whatever they want but that’s my way of doing things)
@wisewisdom7879Thank you,God Bless you and everyone with the clear mind!
@@fj_212 Have "fun" by teaching them how to be a right human,we already have enough of delusional people. It's on us,humans with the sense and appreciation for ourselves and God to teach those cursed how to be and what to do. Fun comes in heaven,eternity.
@@almighty5839 The problem of missing out comes from inside your heart and from living in the future. Be present and enjoy the moment. Cheap fun comes with a great price that you don't even realize at the moment. God makes you pay later .Stop while you have time.
Trust me guys don't strave towards nutting. If you date it should be to find the person your going to marry and build a family with and not to just for fun.
Just be smart about it. Sadly these day it is hard to find a really good woman (traditional). The only way I think you’ll be able to tell one from another is by getting experience
i date to fuck, like 5 times a month, its great.
everybody is different
100% correct. To have the mindset that you will just spend your young years having sex with as many people as you can will ruin your life!
cope
I’d say building a social circle is far more important than dating
(especially since it also translates into having more dating options when you have people to create social environments with)
Just my opinion tho idk
Usually you increase your dating prospects if you build a social circle. I didn’t do this in my 20s and now I am a lonely 34 year old. I feel like life has passed by and it’s over. It feels impossible to meet people now. I don’t even know where to begin anymore.
@@therealmcgoy4968I’d say a lot of this dating game is backwards for guys. Girls seem to only want what’s out of their league even the ugly ones. Optimistically it’s a win win situation cause you either get a date or learn from the rejection. But rejection SUCKS for a few hours and maybe a few days but yeah I’d say working ok social skills is key like how to develop a good conversation and having things to ask when the convo dies down. We really need to become the best versions of ourselves
@@Onewiththesauce8 yes but you meet women through social circles. A friends girlfriend for example could end up introducing you to another woman who is her friend and then that would be how you could potentially meet women. I’m sure your friends would look for women for you who they think would be compatible on sone level. This is what I mean by social circles. If you don’t have a social circle in a way you are screwed. This is my situation. I have no friends irl.
It's all about connections and how authentic you are to yourself around people. There is no point in chasing anyone, if you had to go up to a girl and ask her out you already lost.
@@Set-vt true I get what you mean, I believe so anyways, you mean as long as we’re being ourselves authentically having a great time genuinely with no expectations of the end results besides being a genuine person and that energy is attractive in itself and people will be drawn to that naturally? Because that’s what I’m feeling drawn towards myself being more authentic and genuine myself. It’s tough being vulnerable but it allows for growth and expansion to occur
By next year 2025 my 20s will be over and never had relationship and sadly am pretty much gave up.
In college, the most memorable experience was getting rejected by a Japanese girl on the spot. That was back in 2015, and I never tried again. By next March, it will have been a decade since that happened, yet nothing has changed for me and never will
Recently I've been cold approaching a ton almost daily, finally talked to this girl I've wanted to approach for a whole year. We had an amazing convo, lasted 2hrs, had a ton in common, at the end I got her insta. Two days later messaged her and she left me on delivered. Shits making me sad especially since literally everything went perfect idk what happened
What I didn't realize until I was older is that dating is similar to finding a good job. It's a numbers game where yeah you're going to have a lot of rude people who just get your job application and don't reply to you. It's pretty rude but they don't really care.
But one day you're going to find that dating prospect that is very interested in you and will get back with you then things will be great. So don't give up! Improve yourself, including your looks and financial stability and good things will happen.
get #’s not socials. If she’s pretty then her dm’s are flooded.
this is so common i feel ya man :(
Women will be nice in the moment, but all along as you're talking to them they are planning the ghosting.
all good brother you just proved to yourself you can do it once, so you can do it again. also maybe your approach and convo was good but you messed up the next step. this is why I have socializer school to teach this lol
Im 29, I used to have the carefree charisma and social confidence up until 23, female group of girls I was messing around with opened my eyes up as well as a friend's friend false allegations case had happened just as the MeToo movement was gaining fire. It cause me to stop going out and ultimately I got very depressed. Now at 29, a friend convinced me to get back out there, but all I see around me is women same age with baby rabies or women I can't tell if they are legal age or not. I don't do dating apps either because I am not physically fit anymore and they do go off looks (going to the gym). I'm lost at this point.
Keep your head up bro it isn’t too late. The good thing for men is that we can excel in what we do for many years. Your window of opportunity does not close past 20’s, if anything those opportunities become wider.
One thing that makes dating in 20’s hard is that women of the same age often want an older man because he’s most likely more established and has experience. So yeah, it ain’t over for ya.
Men dating in your early and middle 20s is easier and many women prefer this age range, in your late 20s it is so hard ( just if you are rich and have an attractive body)
I went full in to dating girls between 18-23 years old and at 24 I got enough of it and started to focus on my career, and I felt so bad that I wasted so much time with the girls. Now your video made me feel better to know that I actually did everything at the right time.
mine was the opposite. focused on myslef and money at 18-23 because i felt no girl was trying to date a broke boy and i told myself that I at least had to have a girlfriend by the time I was 25 (Which is still 20s) so its all good. Well fast forward into the future and I got some good money day trading crypto, but i am getting my ass handed to me because i suck at talking to girls and if i do get a relationship it doesnt even last long. Only thing that gives me hope is by the time i reach 30 i should be experienced enough to keep at least one girl
@@johnwick7583experience doesn’t keep a woman, it’s compatibility.
Most people focus on their career. You are saying nothing special
@nevergiveupbaby1720 no, i didn't focus on my career earlier, read again. And I felt bad about it.
Your channel has come to me at a really ideal time my guy. Been watching for 1 month and in late June of this year, my long term partner of 6 and 1/2 years and I broke up. First serious girl and while we were hoping to travel the world together, she left to go travel with someone else. I am shattered still, did the whole proposal etc before venturing out and as I' m going through this process, everything you're saying is so refreshing and motivating. I'm starting to produce content and I am motivated a bit by this break up to also prove something to myself and see where it leads. Getting yourself out there and being amongst people, building relationships (not just romantic) is great advice and everyone here can do that, it takes practice, some luck and being true to your character and self, which people will love or not. It's not the end, we have time. Thanks for this content and good luck everyone (fyi i'm 26).
26 is too young to be getting married and all that other stuff. It’s for your own good that you guys didn’t go through with it. Do it from 28 onwards.
keep up the good work my bother
@@gailainsley6939 no do it 35 or older
@@gailainsley6939these young dudes have not gotten the memo yet unfortunately of the times were in. The women are something else too, I can guarantee you in his mind it was serious but not to the Gen z breed he was with. She probably was open to all social media, talking and dealing with other men the whole time. Unfortunately the days of old are gone and aren’t coming back, 2/3 of these females don’t even want to get pregnant. Most are clueless, have no purpose and are just time wasters.
@@gailainsley6939it’s criminal to recommend such in 2023, and with a lost generation of not only women but males.
Stop procrastinating, start approaching. www.denmo.social/socializer
too late now make a video for lads in their 30s
Hey Denmo, 5 girls in the past 2 months agreed to go out after approaching them, then they all end up ghosting, any advice
Dates, driving/travelling, dinners all cost money so.... have disposable income first.
I'm the, got married early and divorced after a year and then got jaded guy. I've been approaching girls recently because of you. It works so good! Holy shit I wish I started this sooner
join socializer school so I can find out what mistake you are making that messes things up
This video is going to hurt for guys that are in their late 20's or early 30's.
maybe... or they use it as motivation
Can't hurt someone over something they already know and accepted.
I’m 18 just turned that age 4 months ago
Meh, not anymore
If you focus on dating in your early 20s you wouldve been broke later, so there is no balance
27 and only had one gf. Its bad, but i need to make a change and approach everything on sight.
bad mindset hahah
you got this brotha
Yikes
Approach everything on sight lol. HEY though, the best athletes of the game have lost a lot. How can you succeed if you do not fail?
Do your best because it will be harder when you reach 29
My best friend and I had a discussion about me needing to start dating now literally the other weekend. He is right. I’m a great guy but it’s time for me to stop being just a nice guy that girls feel comfortable around. It’s time for me to be attractive to them as well. I would always get to the point of showing a girl how I want to be with them and I didn’t take the step. I think I’m ready now
why dont women want a kind guy they feel comfortable and safe around? Shouldn't that be attractive? As a guy I want a kind woman I feel comfortable and safe around - that's attractive to me.
@@JakeRosen635 I think its cause literally every guy nowadays is nice (at least to women) and you don't stand out in any way by being just nice, you need to be more than that or else she'll choose someone more attractive in terms of physical attractiveness, being funny/having charisma, or having high status
Nailed it bro! You shouldn't avoid it, but it shouldn't be your main priority either. Too many men go all-in on dating in their 20s and neglect their fitness/purpose. I'm mainly focusing on my business while slowly leveling up my dating/social skills. My social skills absolutely sucked at the start but they have already gotten quite a bit better. Excited to see where they'll be at in a few years
It's tough for someone who was neglected as a child, because of this I have 0 social skills, and cant understand people's emotions.
same
It is tough man but I’m fucken tired of people saying they don’t do anything because it’s “hard”. Life is hard for all of us, grow a fucken pair
Do something about it then
I got same situation like you but i tried and i just became more open to people and started making Conversations and talking about Anything just talk or ask people in public about directios and now six months later or even less i can talk to anyone without social anxiety like even ppl cant believe i had 0 social skills before, my big tip is stop masturbating it destroys your mins, soul, and body and your will to do things, good luck bro
But you need to
Try and practice socializing to get social skills though - you will never gain them by binge watching videos like this on UA-cam
I’m 20 atm and this advice is life changing fr
gotchu bro
Im 31 never had a girlfriend or dated before and still a virgin
Good choice of life
Better to be a virgin than a walking std
Nah it's not. I risked it for a worker because I was so hungry for her@@rockandroll9705
This will be me in 11 years
I’m somebody who’s sorta split between the monk mode, borderline tradcon ideas, and red pill, and I do a whole lot of approaches but I also struggle with myself always second guessing myself about dating after every rejection
And there’s probably many more who can use this video to fully pick a side between becoming successful before dating, and dating while becoming successful.
Fuck im 19. Haven't had a girlfriend, never kissed or dated. I'm fairly handsome. My one friend even told me her friend thinks I'm cute, and i still couldn't do anything about it. Its like im scared to be myself infront of girls, as if I'm not enough to match the amount of boyfriends and experiences they've had, or I'm supposed to fit my mould I feel society has placed on me and girls will think I'm a creep. Its a genuine mental block and I don't know what to do at this point. Time is flying by and I'm really scared I end up hitting 30 being single. Fuck it sucks
Calm down 🤣 you're still a teenager. Life is gonna throw you way worse problems to worry about than girls.
Bruh, just try to turn thouse girls on :D they gona fuck the shit out of you u aint even gona need to do anything hahaha :D But allso idk try be brave to just tell first words and then its eazy XD girls to be honest whants sex more then guys so dont be shy
Same but I'm 20 already 😬
Time for yyou to do Geomaxxing
Mate just fucking do it I'm 25 there is legit no reason not to go for it. Learned that lesson at 24 still pretty young. Do it bro JUST DO IT!
This is probably the most important video on the channel, this is paid content level, thank you jack.
thanks brotha, hope to see you in the socializer community one day
fuck, I'm 29, and I'm that guy who missed out on all the fun time. But people give me heart attacks and anxiety, so I avoid ppl😄
That's your mental illness, usually referred to as social anxiety disorder, not people. What have you done to try to cure yourself of your mental illness?
if you need serious help then join socializer school I'll help you out
Just take a couple shots, helps me out.
I rate this. This is a very good video. A large part however is environment. Like it’s tough if you live with your parents away from absolutely everything, however I think I’m relatively attractive, I work out, party like I could die tomorrow and having a blast. Already had lots of lessons, fails and fuckups but I’m learning all the time. It’s awesome
Step 1: Meet a girl
Step 2: Be attractive
Step 3: Make money
Step 4: Wake up
The way i see it, you do what makes you happy. Just as long as you don’t go hurt or harass other’s because you can’t get any. I think you’ll be fine if you wanna focus on building your career over dating or if you wanna date in your twenties. That’s fine too, nobody on the redpill or bluepill side should tell you what you should be doing, because no one knows what’s best for you but you and you alone.
Exactly
I wasted my twenties on two 5 year-long relationships that both failed. Never again
I met my girlfriend/fiance at 20 years old. And we stayed together for 8 years until we had broken up earlier this month. I am now twenty-eight and I feel like I have been cheated my precious dating time in my early twenties. I focus so much time and love into this one and only. And now I have absolutely no dating game experience because she was the one who approached me in the first place. I know how to go on dates and how to treat a woman, but getting started all over again and not having any experience on how to even approach and talk to women is so intimidating. Especially since my last partner was pretty hot, I'm not going to settle down for just about anybody. But women that I'm attracted to are either in their early to mid-20s. They're more than likely not going to want to go out with an almost 30 year old. It's completely soul-crushing
Bro we are very similar! I've only ever had 1 girlfriend. We mutually ended our relationship after 9 years. We were high school sweethearts and each other's first. I'm 27 now. After the breakup, I never tried going for another relationship. Never downloaded any dating apps and i don't go to clubs. I'm more of an introvert than an extrovert. But I downloaded a language exchange app so I could make new friends. And I did.
7 months after the breakup, I started talking to this 21 yr old Japanese girl online. (I was talking to maybe 7 to 8 different girls but only she was flying out) She hasn't been to America and after 1 month of talking, she decided to come to my state for vacation. We spent 3 nights at the hotel. We had full days itinerary and we did alot of fun activities like parasailing, beach, restaurants, etc. During the first night, we kissed and we had s3x. Being at this age and have only had 1 prior body count, banging another chick so so exciting! The week after, i bang another chick! She was just a customer and we decided to eat after i finish work. After dinner, i made the move and she invited me to her hotel (was on vacation). I never really had much friends because i was very loyal, but now, ive met about 10 girls the past 4 months, without the use of dating apps or going to the clubs. Mostly a language exchange app or i meet at work! I already made plans to meet many girls in different months, and I'm just gonna enjoy and have s3x with them! The other girls I've hang out, I'm just gonna be friends with them and not make a move. I hope you'll find someone!
Thats not true alot 19 to 24 year old women show me interest and im 26 it all depends on how you carry yourself
Women like older men
Um what, women in their early 20s find men in their late 20s most attractive. U have ur best years right now u should not be wasting them.
I’m in a similar boat 8 year relationship and she approached me and it’s over now. Granted I’m 24 now but it’s tough restarting.
Guys, sex is supposed to something special. Anyone telling you to have sex with alot of women is also lying to you. Sure it can be fun and i fully understand that, but all i can say is try your best to not find a girl just to have sex with. Look for the long term relationship.
@@Raw.milk1Hell nah. 50??? I’m a virgin and will stay that way until I find a wife material girl, and only be with her. I’d rather practice semen retention and celibacy than bang 50 low quality sluts
Beta shit lol men shouldn’t settle down in their 20s
Its not worth it
Daily Denmo uploads feed my motivation atm. Luckily I'm only 18, so i have time for improvement, but apart from interacting with friends and family I'm incompetent af socialising with strangers, never-mind women.
My 20's was all gone. It was totally dedicated to catching up. I was with a fuckedup family with no money, i had no mentors, no emotional intelligence, super anxious, just like my parents, and lived in fear in ending up like my parents, never had a penny, finished my degree late, never had freedom. Started a job in middle of nowhere at 25, at maybe 28 i started have a drop of freedom. At 30 am living the best i've ever lived, own my own house even. But i lost all related to dating and women. I got in love, never had any king of reciprocation. I spent months, years, thinking about woment that barely knew i existed. Love is nothing to me. Just a bad prank. A long bad prank. Nothing in it for me.
You can't really change what happened or the hand that you were dealt in life, I agree, but you have to make the best of it. I mean what else CAN you do? With a job and a house, you obviously have plenty of money, why not spend some on going out to clubs or traveling the world? Maybe try your luck in other countries? Many people find success in dating that way. 30 is still not old, you have another 10 years to settle down, you can definitely find someone by that time. Also, why not try your hand at becoming famous on YT or Tiktok? You've got the time for it and it would generate status and put you in front of potential partners, and then girls would be approaching YOU (on Insta mainly). Point is there's a lot you can do still
Thank you denmo I have been watching your videos since the start of the year while I was going through divorce and they helped me a lot to the point I don't recognize that version of myself, greetings from Mexico.
I'm 36 and man the confidence I have today compared to my 20's is a huge difference. I missed out and at the time social media was just Facebook and not everyone used it. This was before Instagram and Snapchat.
It’s tough after college man. I’ve gotta go to busier/more populated areas now to approach, I live in a small town. It doesn’t get easier men, I’m 27 now and have only been in one relationship. Date while you’re in college, grow some balls and approach women in class, if I could go back to my 21/22 year old self knowing what I know now about women, I would.
I’m in college and 18 and yet to approach women only be here for like a month though.What would your advice be.
It gets even worse as you get older. The small social circle I had in my early 20s evaporated by the time I was in my late 20s. I think that happens but got sone reason I was unable to form a new one or create one. I’m 34 now and kicking myself in the ass. I feel like by not having a social circle as an average guy you are screwed. It’s so bad that when my job is like “who do you use as work references”… I’m like shit I don’t even know that many people anymore to even put down. It’s blackpilling really.
same, 24 now and i just left college. approached hella girls my last year and found success but i don’t want any of them as my future wife. i would deff approach all the time if i was 19-21 again
everyone is closed off at my college, nobody really talks to you unless they knew you from somewhere else and theres no girls im even interested in my class. college is really boring nowadays
@@markn9619 bro you have to take advantage and kinda lower your standards ngl. because it gets harder with time and after college, all the good girls are taken
I’m 24 and never been on a date nore ever had a girlfriend.
It’s a struggle :(
Searc for Coach Corey Wayne, saved my life
@@UserRobot215 Time will pass, he will be 30, 40, 50 and posting that. Bro better take fucking action.
@@UserRobot215 And I am twice your age, and was in that boat till recently. Did every self improvement thing, work out, maxed out what I could make to 7 figures (I am in tech), said fuck it and just started to approach, make some conversation. ToddV is very helpful and also Dan Bacon. I lost the ability to give a shit. I figured if I don't do it now I will take it to the grave.
I figured they are getting a good deal from me, even if I'm older :lol: Their loss if they say no. Plenty of rejections but I got some good bites. And I have a few girls now. I kept asking women for a workout partner. I am a speed skater and have women I skate with.
You just have to do it bro. There are great vids about flirting and how to escalate with women. I was always very serious with women and that does not spark attraction.
we’re still young bro, you have a chance to get a 21-25 baddie
@@JhonnyStone100 true but I have to act now my time is very limited.
I'm 38 and my only regret is not meeting more women in college. I'm more than making up for it now though. Mens prime years are 30s and 40s
I'm 26 I've only had sex once at 21 just never had confidence smoked to much weed do u still think I've plenty of time to make up for lost time
Literally how I feel rn in college have barely met any women
@@fiat_ow7876me rn but I feel like I’m wasting my time away doing nothing
But your getting all that used up 😺now so it’s way better to get it as early as you can trust me 🤣💯
@AntinatalistPB1999 If you got the confidence go for it. Just don't get anyone pregnant
I didn't make the most out of my twenties but I try not to regret it because this is a time when people mess up aka having kids too early because your brain isnt fully mature. Also there is no point in having regret because you truly do not know what would have happened. You could have had a great time or you could even well be dead. One drunken night with a girl could have ended up with you being knocked over by a car.. You never truly know. My good friend from school died 4 months ago on his new E bike and he was only 30!. appreciate you being here, try your damn best until the day you die and surely you will be able to make up for the experiences you missed out on because rarely anyone works on themselves that much so you can have an edge over most people when they get older.
Thank you for being the "Sane red piller" on UA-cam, you have no idea the dark holes your content has pulled me out of!
Kinda unique sitch here. I’ve dated around a good amount, didn’t always make the best choices. I recently had a situationship with who I thought would be “The One”. After years of toxic relationships I was so excited and relived to have someone who was mentally stable and cared. Long story short it was a right person wrong time situation… it’s been a month now and It’s just been hard as no one else has really made me feel the same since. I know it’s early, I’m talking to a couple girls right now but it’s just not the same thrill. I know I shouldn’t be waiting around for her to come back either but now there’s this different standard she’s set.
Why don't you date women who are good people and attractive?
"Alex Hormozi got this one chick he is dating"😂 Its his wife
Man this honest straight talk hits different.
I do not want to get married because of the expense of divorce and my need to be alone most of the time.
I do not want to date because if not dating to marry, dating is progressing a relationship despite knowing it will not be a long term item.
I do not date/romance casually because it feels shallow and have always hated how I’ve felt afterwards. I also have a moral issue with many partners.
I do not feel there is anything to miss out on, especially compared against all of the experiences you can make on your own. I believe going at it alone in your 20s can be just as fulfilling as dating in your 20s, so long as you make the most of it. No woman has anything you need, that cannot be obtained yourself.
Actually 20s looks like too late time to start dating, because most 18 years old girls already had a lots of experiences and they prefer to be in relationship with more experienced guys rather than 25 years old who have never had a gf.
avoid hoes, vet them out
I just turned 20, this video is what I needed to see
perfect timing
When you're 29 and still struggling with dating 😥
Gym is the only way lads, if your body isn't fit you haven't done step 1
Apps I think are a waste of time. If you don’t have a social circle you are already at 29 or 30 at a major disadvantage I think. I think physical improvement on top of maybe creating a social circle are both important. Also finding things people in your age or around your age are important. At 30 everything becomes an uphill battle especially dating world it feel’s impossible to even navigate.
Lol no. Dating apps abd approaching while you fag about pottery class with a load of dorks
Why is the gym seen as this game changer? There are innumerable guys who barely work out or not at all who do just fine.
I wish someone had told me all this when i was 20.
all good bro we here now
@@Denmosocial Thanks Denmo, im 33 now and only started this whole dating thing less than a year ago, i have made good progress, but i still have a long way to go.
But then again, the right one might be the next one i meet and i do have a date tomorrow, wish me luck.
@@sugibudder God willing bro🙏🏽
@@sugibudder good luck brother , hope for the best . 📈🗿
Im currently 16 years and this content from you denmo is so mind blowing and prepars for the live and to have this knowledge at this age is crazy you know what you have to do and talk to girls and boys and interact with them and become friends insted of scroling trough tiktok
big content kep it up
Dude listen, on one hand what he's saying is good. Get of your ass and phone and get out there and meet poeple. That's correct. But on the other what he's saying is wrong. Brother do not try to sleep with alot of women. If you can meet the love of your life in school right now, try to hold on to her for as long as you can and i mean until you die. There is nothing that will make you feel better trust me.
glad it helps you brother. send it to your friends too!
Why waste my time and resources trying to chase women when 99% of them are boring. I meet so many women who literally do nothing meaningful with their time.
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They don't have any interesting hobbies or aspirations and I simply do not enjoy spending more than an hour with them or their friends. Would I have sex with them? yeah sure. But from where I stand that usually requires a pretty substantial investment from me in either time or money.
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Once I've made the investment just to maybe see this one out, I fail to give them the validation they are certainly expecting from me. Why spend my resources chasing sex with women I don't care for?
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I do think I should continue learning how to cast a wider net though. Being able to speak with anyone to make interesting conversations and creating interesting experiences is a valuable skill. I also want to learn how to effectively portray myself to others and get to know people better.
"Do NOT Miss Out On Dating In Your 20s..." Like it's my fucking choice.
I'm almost 26, 5'3, obese and with no dating experience. I've been working out seriously and trying to improve my diet for the last couple months and have alrealy gotten a little bit better, but it will still take at least 1 year to become half decent looking. I'm trying to make it as an entrepreneur but my mental health gets in the way and I still can't afford leaving my parents' house and having my own car.
A girl at the bakery was nicerr than usual to me today and was all smiles, but I don't even know how to read if that's an opening to ask for her number I if I'm imagining things, and after that, what to text? what to do on a date? all these little detais I was never taught and have no experience on, and that's assuming she or any other girl even likes me. If I mess it up which is likely, I'll have to talk to her everytime I go there and will become the laughing stock of the bakery girls, the weirdo virgin that can't read the room.
At 25 I'm expected to know things because everybody else was out there living theis lives and I wasn't. I couldn't, I was always different and weird and didn't fit in. fuck...
Low carb diet. Cut out refined sugar, potato, pasta, bread and rice.
Start walking for 30 min a day and progress to running.
@@davidbowman2035 yeah, great way to tank your thyroid and cause weight loss resistance further down the road
It is your fault.
@@nickga it's my fault I'm fat and I'm doing something about it. But I can't just choose to date. As I am I don't stand a chance. When I'm finally ready I'll probably be in my thirties. And also being 5'3 isn't my fault and there's nothing I can do about it but it will permanently impact my chances with women. Not only am I way behind, if I give it my all I'll still be handicapped by my height. And being weird as a kid wasn't my fault, I was a kid, but it still shaped my life experiences, how I was treated and how I felt growing up. All I've ever wanted was to be normal and I've hated myself every day for as long as I can remember. Not so much now but still.
@outoftouch9891 There is ppl who are severely disabled that still get dates. Less excuses, more action.
I spent all of my 20s in a 4 year relationship and then immediately afterwards a 6 year. I’m 31 and single now, I have zero idea what is going on with the dating world. I’m just gonna stick to the guns I’ve always used, someone is bound to come along eventually.
Don't miss dating in your 20s? Hella disconnected video bro. Most men it's not a choice, hoeflation is real as shit.
you can get girls despite 'hoeflation' brother
Hey Denmo, love the janitor story 🤣
I don't usually comment in YT videos, but this one really spoke to me. I'm working very hard to grow my business, and I am also guilty of not dating because "I'm working on myself". But you're right. If I don't date now, I'll regret not dating later. I don't know man, I feel very emotional because I'm 27 now, so it really woke up something in me to finally get my ass off & stop coping.
I am in the same boat here bro. but I think this type of video is misleading. If you want to end up like 60-year-old Phil, then keep dating. I don't think Jeff Bezos in his 60s would give you advice like Phil
@michaelz6408 that's what I've been saying and finally someone agrees with me.
This guy in the video give poeple the wrong advice. Go out there and try to fuck every girl you can?? That's insane.
I'm not saying i won't do it, like if 20 girls approached me in a span of 20 days asking for sex i wouldn't decline but that still doesn't make it right.
@@michaelz6408It's all about finding balance I think.
I’m 25. I can’t get laid no matter what I do. Women hate me, and at this point, the feeling is mutual. I’ve tried working out a ton, working my rear off, asking women out, nothing works. Literally nothing. Life sucks.
you could work out all you want but if your mentality, your psyche is off, then you won't come of as a person they'd like to be around. Cultivate a positive minset in your head even if it doesn't feel that way right now. I could remember a time talking to people in uni made me want to really vomit, but pushing myself constantly paid off. I feel you bro but you have to do it just a bit longer. All the best
Same bro I'm 23 at this age I already feel tired physically and mentally I don't give a fuck no more and every single night I wish my death and I wish I will be my last birthday.
@@listless5046you gotta live for your family bro, your mum dad and siblings need you. Live for them.
@@listless5046 I do not normally comment but I want you to read this at least, even though we do not know each other. You are not special, plenty of other guy feel hopeless, just like you. I am sorry, you are NOT entitled to die. Murdering your future self would be the most selfish thing you could ever do, next to killing other people. You might not understand this now but in the future you will be so grateful not to have done it your future self would violently smack you in the head right now for even thinking about it. You don't get to give up your opportunity to live because everyone before you and everything else is not alive, but you are. You get to experience all the joy and all the pain in the world that a rock could not experience. A lot of people have shittier lives than you, yet they keep on. Why? Because they have a reason to, responsibilties, like a family to care for or future children, other people around them, meaning they can never give up because so much depends on them. Their suffering means something.
Are you just suffering for nothing? Then practice virtue. Do you feel bad about yourself? Practice virtue. Be a better person. You probably wouldn't feel this way if you were a good person, so take the opportunities you were given (everybody has some) and make the world a little better before you die because you owe it to the world but first and foremost you owe it to YOURSELF.
Coming from someone who felt powerless: if you choose to, things will get better.
Sick pfp bro
Get a person that will want to commit time for you. That's the end goal. Ignore the rest, the primary thing is to approach a girl that looks to you like a person that will see value in yourself and will want to be alongside you for some time in her life. If you ain't getting any signals, or something small sounds off, it's better to let that chance die before you end up in a story similar to the ones told in the other comments.
I mean, i don't want to miss out on it, trust me, the last thing i want is to not date in my 20's(22 rn). But it looks like it's not up to me *at all* . I approach girls and get brutally rejected, laughed at, disrespected every single time, either that or i get their number just so they never really say anything, i usually get no effort whatsoever from the other party...even when i show no interest i still get disrespected or made fun of. I haven't dated in like 5+ years and saying i feel lonely is an understatement, it's literally making more depressed as time goes on. I could give a number of reasons why this happens but all I'm going to hear is "oh, be more social, or workout" or "hurr incel!" Nothing that will really help me. Truth is, some guys are just luckier when it comes this type of stuff, something no one wants to admit especially the ones trying to make a buck from other's lack of success.
It’s not luck, it’s genetics. You’re either attractive or your not, it’s that simple. Women are always going to leverage their beauty and options to maximize their fun early on, and settle with the stable provider.
Glad you’re able to see all the redpill “gurus” for what they are, grifters looking to capitalize off of unattractive men’s insecurities and failures.
@@renegade2325 That's exactly what i meant by luck.
I feel like videos like this are going to put some people into a panic mode where they become desperate and try to do whatever it takes to get a girl because they are in constant fear of their time running out. Doesn't sound healthy.
I agree with not missing out but dating is hard and putting pressure on young men to "not miss out in your 20s" isn't going to make it any easier.
I just recently got banned from Hinge (which was the only way I was having success with women), now I don't have a choice but to approach 😂
I got like 2 matches on Hinge but got ghosted afterwards. The convos ended up dry
@@christiansnaturestudio6599 Bro that'll happen no matter what. I had like 180 matches total before I got banned and 15 active conversations, literally all of them weren't that serious about meeting up; they just wanted to do small talk and waste my time. Out of that 180 matches I only actually got 12 of them out.
@@christiansnaturestudio6599when people on UA-cam warn that women get like 100 matches a day they're not kidding.
How tf u get banned? 😂
27
Never dated
I feel like in the past men had it easier to find a decent woman - you just had to be half decent. Nowadays, women feel like they have all the options in the world with all this social media. However, do not get discouraged! Hard work builds character. Heck, bring it to me even harder! Don't stop bros! We will all shine.
Moral of the story, do it for Phil
lmao
Honestly dating in my 20s it’s not even close to worth it I literally have had not even in the end of the year where I’ve had people want to date me for money or want to date me while still having their man on the side or just want me for sexual pleasures but then there is those people that are just bona fide gold digging. Honestly I’d rather be a passport bro going to somewhere else and find love that way then have to deal with someone that’s just going to treat me in a certain way and that Golddigger literally told me to my face that I could not afford someone like her when I literally not even a few months back spent 400 on a prostitute that wasn’t even worth it and I told her to her face why in the fuck would I want to be with someone that would do nothing to help me? The thing that I’m staying here gentlemen is don’t lower your values for a woman don’t think that you have to improve yourself for a woman improve yourself for you you don’t have to stop doing the things that you love just improve yourself little by little every single day because that would make you the better version of yourself and not the version that she or the other person wants because you don’t have to be someone’s Prince charming all you need to do is be the best you. Break ups have been every day but a relationship may make you even worse or make you better but it all comes down to how much you are willing to improve because if you’re still stuck in the right that you were in the last relationship you’re just going to bring that along along with that person that might as well need to stay in the sidelines because they’re not even close to over their significant other and bringing their baggage along. I hope my words help someone else I know that you got this all you need is to stay motivated in your goals and try to improve yourself either by exercising or doing things that you love doing that does not involve dating or just pick up a new hobby that you thought about doing but you just have been in such a rut that you felt you were not good enough to do it.
If you only have casual sex in your 20s, you're still going to be a child in your 30s. You'll have tons of game and you'll be able to secure first dates and first sexual experiences, but that's it. You won't have any relationship experience.
It's still better than doing nothing, but I'd say always aim to get into relationships.
They not ready to hear that 😂
You ain't wrong
if I have a stable livelihood, friends and fuckbuddies, why should I not stay a child into my 30s?
@@mafumofu986 The guy in the video said to make sure to go on dates in your 20s so that you're not a child in your 30s. I'm just pointing out that if not being a child is your goal then you need to do more than dating: you need to get into relationships.
But personally, I say do what works best for you. If you're happy with your situation, then all the best to you. Cheers.
@@mafumofu986 thought guys childhood is fron 0days old - 40 years old.
Am I missing something??? LoL
Great advice, personally I would recommend not dating until your late 20s -30s. Your 20s are a time of self discovery and trying to figure out who you are and what you want to do in life.
I hear what you're saying, it's just that I'm not allowed to bring girls over (living with my parents) so I absolutely have to work on myself and that's why I enrolled in a coding bootcamp. I'm doing it so that I can leave my small town and have my establishment in order to be able to date women. I have a crappy beater car that can't even take me to the nearest actual city. I'm in a situation where I am actually having to wait on money before the dating life is even feasible. Whenever I walk through the small town I live in hoping to meet girls it's super desolate and no one goes outside other than children. I'm in a situation where I have to leave before starting a successful social life. Maybe it's why I got bored of playing videogames, because my brain sees my life situation as a threat to my survival. I'm starving to be financially successful
Chad doesn’t need financial stability and bangs chick’s in his beater or in their bedroom when their parents sleep
You're not alone most men are in a similar situation where financial stress interferes with their dating life. The only men that can really afford to date in their 20s are trust fund babies, college dudes, professional athletes and influencers. Most men never become successful and the ones who do usually get there at 30-35ish
@@positivevibesonly3795this just isn’t true, I’ve dated throughout every single financial situation. You just need to know how to play your cards right. OP, if your car doesn’t work to chill with girls, have them drive to you. If they like you enough they’ll pick you up. You could take public transportation, ride a bike, etc. there are a plethora of ways. You don’t even have to spend money on a date. Go on a hike, people watch, watch a sunset. Don’t give up, if you desire it make it happen! I dated girls throughout high school having no car and having parents that disapproved of me being in a relationship. It’s definitely worth it. Good luck!
Im in a pretty similar situation.. My parents wont be happy if i bring girls over and dont have enough money to go out on dates frequently
One thing to also remember times were different when dude was in his 20s majority of women we’re housewives or pure now a days you have to work 3 times as hard for a woman that’s been ran through and doesn’t even bring half of what they brought to the table plus they have a lot more opportunity and options
13:38 yep. there it is. my trauma and very reason I never even look at another woman even in 50 meter range, let alone date. As of now I am 22 years old and fucking miserable. Once my mandatory military service ends, this is when I should really start trying to get rid of this demon from years ago. Signed up for your email newsletter btw
you got divorced, man? What age did you get married at?
Like the raw drags or grey clips 13:10 that shows Denmos honesty on maybe something was a bit wierd or too much. It kinda helps apply it to my life and i am thankful for that.
Well I'm 30 now and have missed out clearly. Do I regret it, absolutely! I had no idea how to go about this, coupled with the fact that I had to also deal with culture shock from moving from different places.
Your story with Phil is surprisingly wholesome af in a weird way 😂
lmao
I’d still rather isolate myself, there’s no way I’m putting myself back out there.
Giving in to hookup culture is not the cure for the failing state of relationships. Everybody needs to be better instead of making up shitty behaviours to compensate for other people’s shitty behaviours. Grow up.
Great, video. Currently turning 25 and will be tuning down my level of Self-Improvement. I feel I'm at a high enough level to handle my shit and want to focus on actually living. To be honest, if I would have just focused on what I'm good at and cut out the bullshit I now realize I could have been making $100K at 18 and been hooking up a lot. Frontloading is a motherfucker and have spent the last 10 years(since I was 15) doing 100 hours of self help/self improvement a week. I can tell you one thing... If you just follow your instincts and heart and do what your a natural at you can avoid the fucking grind.
Yup bruh, do stuff insted of sitting beeing sad insted go do anything and money cant buy everything. Like for example when u drink u more brave but if u learn to be same brave not drunk u gona be even better so i think same whit money u might tink that momey something is better biger whit money but nah skills gona get u even further haha
I'm 24, and I've been single since birth. I'm also turning 25 this year 😭 a quarter of my life, and I still haven't made it. I am going to stay positive, though!
Bro dont think we didn't notice the female denmo in the thumbnail 💀💀
😂😂😂 clicked vid to find this comment lol
lmao thumbnail guy messed it
Im 19 and im really experiencing the social part i’ve left behind back in high school and really feeling the phrase: You dont value something until you loose it. Havent had a GF but tríed so many times with disappointments along the way, my recommendation is just work to being attractive not only physically but mentally attractive, you’ll see the results
I think otherwise.... when you know what you want and understand bigger picture, dating is waste off money and emocional baggage
Let me guess, the pimp(Andrew Tate) told u that....🙄
@@whynot1548 sleeping with women that dont care about you is awaste of time
facts their was stats that said gays have more money then straight men i was thinking how it was bc gays arent complicated and they jus hook up with no playing around dating woman spending money will add up over time.
@@marvin2678and these hose pass along their diseases.
@@whynot1548 Andrew Tate actually knows wtf he's talking about
I feel the message is 'Just like you need to build on yourself and your career, you should also work on your relationships', until you fall you will never learn to walk. Its only by failing that we become more successful
I'm 33 and wasted my 20's when it comes to women. I remember when I was 27 and was a lot on tinder. I got matches with women aged 22-27 all the time and had no problems opening conversations with them either. Now when I try to go on tinder the amount of attractive women around my age is zero. The only attractive ones left are low quality gold diggers who wont respond to you anyway. Also I feel like my sex drive has plummeted after I turned 30. I do have something to do with women in their late 20's/early 30's. There is a comfort in that.
who says you gotta date around your age?
Yeah it’s straight brutal getting back into the dating scene in your early 30s.. the market for single women has been reduced by 75% and the available single women have multiple kids, are less attractive and come with baggage.
@@DeeK1992as a 33 year old guy you can try dating 22 year old girls but the maturity gap is huge
@@brianmeen2158 theres a lot of guys in their 30’s dating girls in their 20’s thats normal
Dude the same here. I can’t even attract fat chicks or the usual single moms anymore. It’s beyond brutal no one matches with me now. I don’t even bother. I tried every dating app maybe a year ago and had the same experience. I don’t go to bars anymore either and women in their 30s and late 20s are not as friendly and will play games with you. If you didn’t date in your 20s then you are in a way screwed I think. I know I am.
This feels like the "IF you're homeless, just buy a house" meme but unironic
I do not want to date women in my 20s heck not even in my upcoming 30s. I am struggling, broke, behind, not fit and not established yet that's going to take years for me to build self improvement is key to living a great successful life.
Men need to focus on improving and becoming the best version of themselves especially in their 20's. Wasting time on female's only hold you back from reaching your full potential 💯
lol whoever listens to this gonna be 30+ years old and wonder why no bad 22-25 yr olds fucking with them. guys, don’t wait
Yea listen to this guy..don't wait and end up getting played by a woman then ghosted for an older man with more experience and money
Bro I need a Phil in my life, what a chad 😂
Too late I'm 32. I'll catch up soon enough on all the missed action.
phil sounds like a awsome guy to hang out with
What if you are Christian and waiting for marriage?
that is fine brother I respect religious choices
Denmo is the big brother I never had
I guess my problem is that although I'm sexually atracted to women I don't like them as humans/people.
Am 24 never had a relationship in my life.
The premise of this video screams she broke up with you, not the other way around.
Protect Jack Denmo at all costs.
Weird watching a guy that looks like he prowls the neighborhood in a panel van looking for loose children speaking like he's 90's George Clooney.