@@Jamienicholas02 You completely missed the fucking point. Buy a dog because it'll give most of you immature motherfuckers something to mature you. A dog is a serious responsibility. It's a whole ass LIFE you have to take care of. That's number one. Number two--having responsibilities will take your mind off a bunch of bullshit, like obsessing over your lack of a girlfriend. Paradoxically, when you stop thinking about having a girlfriend...you'll end up getting a girlfriend. but of course, people on the internet seem to be forever investing in living like a teenager and thinking like one too.
And just ignore your sexual desires. Sexual satisfaction matters too. I don't just want it to be me and my hand for the rest of my life. Let's be real here lol A dog is a man's best friend but some of us seek and desire more than that. A dog can be nice but can never reciprocate emotions and validate as much as another human can.
I went on a date on Wednesday. I meet her through friends at university and while at first we just hung out as a group and we never really got to talk much, last Friday I bumped into her at a cafe and we sat and talked for 45 mins and then we realised we had a class to go 5 mins before it started. The day after I messaged her and asked if she would like to go out to eat sometime and without hesitation she said yes now we both looked at places we could go and she suggested a place that she heard good things about and to tease I said that I’ll trust her judgment this time but if I’m disappointed I’ll be deciding next time, jokingly. Long story shorter, we went to breakfast, sat there for 2 and a half hours talking constantly and then only left cause she had classes and we both had a great time and She started talking about a next time. So I’m going to be asking if she wants to go out again soon. It is possible brothers!
@@Thanadeez thanks bro, and thanks to the rest of you guys too. I’m trying man we are both super busy with uni and shit. I asked if she was free tonight but she isn’t so I’ll see her at uni later this week. It’s hard I know we are both busy but my brain keeps going oh she lost interest but she is still messaging with enthusiasm when she responds and when we see each other at uni it’s smiles and talking for a while so at this point I’m trying my hardest to not seem needy or overly attached which is difficult cause I’m excited to have someone show interest in my after all the work I’ve been putting into myself. Lost 17kg been eating super healthy and hitting the gym 5-6 days a week and I’ve always been mentally strong but I’ve been upgrading my mind set as well and working on my posture and confidence, I even got a complement out of the blue from another chick at uni
The thing about socializing or cold approaching girls is that u need to get warmed up to be good at talking and flowing in conversation. Otherwise, if u just go about ur day, and u randomly see a hot girl, ur gonna be nervous, too scared to approach, and if u do approach, ur gonna stumble on ur words and come across like a weird/awkward unconfident wreck, and she's gonna reject u. Getting a girlfriend comes down to approaching a ton of girls and hoping u get lucky, or being a part of a social circle with hot girls and getting introduced to one.
To me, it's not worth the struggle because if you don't have the looks of a model and your "game" sucks, it's over, and I don't want to play games. Also, being in a relationship is overrated. I prefer to be comfortable, doing whatever I want whenever I want. I stay alone and focus on what I am passionate about, focus on my career as well. Sometimes I feel lonely and sad, it happens, but never lasts a very long time. Recently, I've been feeling lonely and downloaded an app called "slowly". It's not a dating app per say, but it's a way to meet girls my age who live in my country, without any of us showing off our faces, and getting to know each other. With their profile description, I can tell if I'm going to get along well with them or not: if we have things in common, if they seem nice to talk to, smart... Because there's no profile picture but just an avatar, you can have an idea what the person looks like but it helps a lot with interraction, on the contrary of dating apps where only the hottest men (1% of men) get all the matches & replies. On an app like Slowly, girls talk to you for what you have to say, and eventually appreciate you who you are as a soul, and not just for your looks.
This video actually helped me a bunch. I've seen a couple of your videos but this one in particular motivated me to at least go the bookstore today. You're right, it's all about leaving your house.
@@someguycalledcerberus9805At the very least, he probably got some fresh air and had a good time getting out of the house. Maybe even possibly made some friends. Going to the bookstore is just a stepping stone
Had a friend that just went "hey, how's it going" to literally anyone, anywhere, anytime and i'd say 75% of the time (that im aware) he sparked a conversation. It doesnt have to be bombshell women, could be the old man walking down the street or the lady at the cash register in a restaurant. I suppose its a good practice
If someone walked up to me on the street saying that, I would assume I'm getting scammed, recruited for some cult, or the guy is trying to beg for money. Which is what happened every time someone walked up to me like that.
Today, I went out to the bar with my note book and a pencil. Ordered a few rounds to my self meanwhile I sat down next to two good looking girls. I tried to occupy myself writing different thoughts and poems and when one of the girl went to bathroom, I asked out the other one. I felt such a relief eventhouht she said she has a boyfriend. I said to her no problem just take it like a compliment and I wished her nice evening. Her response seemed genuine so I felt so proud for myself. Next time I will be more confident. :D Thank you!
Good stuff bro, rejection give you more experience than success because you look at the faults youve made in the interaction. Keep going and you'll score
"Today, I went out to the bar with my note book and a pencil." Cringe. Doing this bullshit at a coffee shop is bad enough. "I tried to occupy myself writing different thoughts and poems . . ." You're not Goethe. Those girls saw your 'extemporaneous poetizing' and immediately thought, "This guy is a pretentious douche".
dude this video gave me a BOOST yesterday. went to the lake after work on my street bike, was riding up and down doing wheelies n stuff just messing around and they had this chick wave at me from her car parked on the side chillin. i rode down thinking damn do i know her? then i rode back past her saw she was still there and literally got scared in my helmet but i told myself FUCK that i am going to go talk to her and turned around. shit went so fire, i might’ve choked the end bc i gave her my number but aye it was my first real cold approach (i didn’t end up knowing her) but we chilled for like 20 minutes and talked. all thanks to the confidence i get from your vids bro, thanks man.
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All the beautiful girls are usually taken. Or they lie so that you wouldn't get butt hurt. The girls I had often leave me for another man though I had money and paid for all their food and shit. It's getting worse as I get older. I can't keep it up anyhow. It's frustrating. I don't know what's wrong with me. I once had a girl whose vagina was shut as a clam.
Honestly, approaching anyone is scaring the shit out of me. You know, if I got no reason why would I approach someone, they didn't want my company and will do just fine without it. Sure they would be polite but probably that's it. This is a limiting belief that I have. Yeah...
I have this sometimes too but the thing is most people would love it if a person starts a conversation with them it feels refreshing that they themselves don’t have to do it, I’d dig in at their interests and if y’all don’t have that many they’ll either stay as an acquaintance or you can go a different route and share stories with eachother since y’all are so different which works for anyone I mean there was this friend group of girls in my English class always talking and huddling up with eachother (because the class was infront of the entire school’s AC generator is was cold asf) and it was surprisingly easy to talk to them you just have to trust yourself no matter how many set backs maybe meet people online first then get warmed up with that and then do it IRL either way you try it you’ll eventually get to the point where you talk to girls cause if they’re too hard for you just take it slow talk to other guys then slowly start approaching girls once you’re good with everything else. Also if you’re an adult I’d worry even less since you’re just gonna approach a girl if she rejects you you’re not gonna see her again you won’t even care about it 5 years from now so why not y’know? All or nothing is what I’m saying so yeah. I think you should work on those insecurities maybe working out learning to fight or quitting masturbation and porn which is gonna improve you in literally every way trust so yeah don’t ever be shy or scared
It's not a 'limiting' belief, it's a rational one. Unless you're highly charismatic or good-looking, why would a female stranger want to talk to you? If some chick who was both boring and fat tried to make small talk with you while you were out and about, wouldn't you be annoyed? You have this anxiety because your past approaches have failed, and your past approaches have failed because you lack looks, charisma, and status/wealth. Improve your appearance and make PILES of cash, and your every approach will succeed.
As I've been saying on Discord, you can't make an omelette without breaking some eggs. I've been putting myself out there a lot since finding my feet, and it feels like everything has just clicked in to place. As long as I am dressed well, my hair is styled and I smell good, any time is approach time. Getting a girlfriend is just a matter of time now. Thanks for inspiring me boss.
Been off work for almost 3 weeks now, spending so much time with guys who really want to hang with me, spent time with a girl, been to the park, been to the beach, PS 0waking up early. Only thing missing is putting myself infront of women haha. But thats gonna come next, I promise bro. Loved the video ❤
Bro its 40 degrees celsius outside i might need to go in midnight all jokes aside, I love your simple delivery bro keep it up, you helped me in the past it was enormous!
I actually already have a cool book that I read at nice places in my city. Couldnt bring myself to talk to a stranger women yet. Gotta bring your voice in my head to push me lol. Keep them fist bumps coming, love em 😂
@@Denmosocial ngl, even if you exaggerate it as joke, I think it's fucking cringe when you speak down to your viewers every 20 seconds. You give solid basic advice on dating, but is reinforcing the negative thoughts about myself really going to help me with meeting women? Just my 2 cents
Dude, thanks you. I moved to an other country 2 months ago and wanted to improve my social skills and started to watch your videos. It help me a lot and since few weeks I'm starting to speak to a lot of girls and it keep to be easier every time. Today I've met 3 girls and where I am is not even my first language, sick
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s. It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others. But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm. Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend. So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel. I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life. And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction. Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not? Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't. I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long. Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. Guys, men, have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk and stand a certain way, breathe a certain way, have a certain lifestyle, because leading or taking the lead is something that is behavior based, skill based, think a certain way, and many more things, that i either don't know or forgot. Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating. One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard. So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game. And I don't get or understand why a guy or a human male or just a person in general has no right to feel depressed or feel bitter and forever resentful if they manage to get their first relationship late-in-life. For example, if a person doesn't have their first relationship until their 30s or 40s and older. People say that a person like that should still be happy, but I feel a person like that has to have a right to feel forever depressed and bitter and resentful because they feel that their youth went to waste or their youth was stolen from them. I feel men have a right to be angry about something like that more than women do because for all-time men have always been dealt with the burden of having to accept or take responsibility for their lives while women can simply rely on others to do it for them. For all-time relationships and dates are basically handed or given to women on a silver platter but not for men
I get where you’re coming from. But relying on the fact that it’s in our human nature to feel these negative emotions and deciding to indulge in them will only bring you more misery. And yes, we all have different mindsets and our own philosophies when it comes to life, I’m going to have my own sets of beliefs and you’re going to have your own. And here’s the thing, neither our way of living is the right or wrong way to live or think, it just depends on what we want in our lives. When I read your comment, I found it very insightful, and although you brought up some very good points, it’s a very pessimistic view about life in my opinion. So if I were to give advice, I would say that you have to realize that life is just unfair, sure you can get mad, be upset, and feel these terrible emotions because that’s what humans do, but don’t let these negative aspects of your life control you. I myself have so much to work on and I hope you can do the same for you as well. Have a good one :)
Where is your drive to conquer where is your ego dude? You really hope to be a woman ? Really? What the fuck man. There are two ways , accept the facts and play with the rules and win or cry . You choose
I had my first relationship/kiss at 39. The woman was exhausted from dating so much, done with it and just desperate for the one. I was like a puppy dog so happy to have my first shot at it. I was over the moon to have actually accomplished something I thought I would never get to experience in life. She could not relate at all and when we broke up she just saw the whole thing as a waste of her time. My best memories/experiences were just a waste of time for her. The insecurity and self-doubt of prolonged social exclusion will never leave you. I struggle with the bitterness as I don't want to be a bitter ungrateful person. To be clear I'm not bitter at women, I think men have excluded me much more and I think I am more their responsibility.
Hello there my friend. I just read your comment and it was HIGHLY RELATABLE to me. You just described everything that I feel now, because I had my first real relationship at 28-29, and I'm feeling bitter and sad about it. In my case, I have CPTSD and that has really affected me and many aspects of my life for years, even today. I grew up without a father and my mother was a religious extremist who was also quite abusive (I had to deal with a lot of physical and psychological abuse). My self esteem is ground level, and it truly messed up even good opportunities in my life where I could have gotten a girlfriend. I feel that my best years were taken away from me, that I also missed out a lot. I see young couples wearing high school uniforms and that's enough to make me angry and sad. I could say that I got lucky, my first times were always possible thanks to the advances of the females, I never actually had the courage or confidence to start anything by my own or to take the first step. Is there a way to reach out to you? I'm really looking for something to talk about these things with... I'm glad to see I'm not the only one. Sometimes people tell me "others have had it worse, you should be happy you at least had it", but there's no point in comparing oneself to others that have it worse, it's stupid. Hugs, brother. I hope you can answer. I wish you the very best.
Keeping it real... ALL YOU NEED TO GET A GF IS TO GET OUT THE HOUS..... ANd talk to women, and be confident and have self esteem, and be good with women ! yeah thats really keeping it real !
My brother in christ. Chasing something is like catching a butterfly, the more you try the more it fly away, but the moment you stop theres just a chance it will land on you're shoulder. I mean my current girlfriend at Walmart, i was getting a bag a flower for making bread. There was a rip in the bag, and when i throw it in my cart the flower got all over her. Now 2 years later im planning on proposing to her next month.
Exactly, there’s a difference between chasing and letting it happen, when you be patient and let it happen you know the feeling and the girl will to. My shots aren’t falling right now and they haven’t been for a little while but the times where I was getting action the female gravitated toward me and I didn’t have to do anything much like how all females have it right now.
Yeah this is the one for me. I’m great at talking to people, but I really spend a ton of time working and then most of the rest of my time at home. I’ve gotta make getting out of the house for something other than work a priority.
I’m in college and there’s so many women. It’s kinda scary but I think I just gotta get out there and say hi. I’m not lacking in the physical department, and every time I’ve tried to talk to a girl it was a good turnout. I’m in my head tho
i once saw a really cute girl at the library but didn't really went to talk to her i regretted it so much that i got another chance by seeing her at the dentist, i gathered my courage and said ' fuck it whats the worst that could happen' and went to her i ended up getting the phone number
Did u smash tho? Cos getting a phone number doesn’t mean jack, unless you had intimate relations with her and you lot are a thing☝️ I’ve gotten snapchats and phone numbers from females too and I was just like you, scared to approach but when I actually got their contact information, went home all giddy and excited, I either had to wait hours or even days on end for a text back or gotten flaked on when we did make plans.. So it really is Law of Averages, the more girls you ask out and get their phone number, maybe one will text back and possibly smash but building yourself up from scratch and becoming a better version of yourself is a lot more better and will yield more positive results in the dating world than being stuck on read like me😂
I've been single like, forever and man... it always gives me mixed feelings! Certain days, I'm super happy when I realise there aren't people around and I just love doing my favourite hobbies Other days, after an epic gym workout, I will tend to sit down and just f**King stare deep into the abys listening to sigma music Ngl, I am pretty happy to be alone 😂 one advantage Is that you don't have to deal with shit like cheating, lies and all that stuff that happens sometimes in relationships (not trying to offend people here who are in long, awesome committed relationships but just stating for those that have issues) But yeah, main conclusion I'm getting at: Be happy that you're single and make the most of doing things you love while you are single. When the time comes and you do get in a relationship, you can appreciate your relationships more as you learnt how to love yourself first. Hope this helps :) Much ❤to all who took time to read this :)
I actually struggle staying at the gym for so long. I get it's probably the optimal non alcoholfueled place to meet people my age (30) but I always think i'm taking up space/time for people who also wanna workout on same machine. I used to stay longer when I went with friends since we talked and stuff, but now I pretty much go alone, in and out. Gonna try to last longer. I also feel there's this notion that no girl wants to be talked to when they go to the gym (from Miami, FL, idk if it may be different elsewhere) Two of my female coworkers said I was weird for going to the gym to socialize/get social exposure, especially during COVID. They pretty much implied gym should be exclusively for working out. I saw your channel a few weeks ago, love your content. I stopped wearing earbuds at the gym in efforts to seem more open to convo, felt like I was the only one haha.
Buddy, thanks to your motivation, after work, i went to Yogurtland where i always get something to eat and i always see the same cute cashier. So i ask this girl on a date (i used a horrible choice of words) and she rejected me with “ill pass” which hit me like a rock BUT i finally got the first one out of the way. Holy fuck, its a big relief, i feel like i can ask any girl on a date now. Youve made an unstoppable man
@@Juve-vo3ieyou’re right🤣 i havent gone in a while, but i have an idea of the days and time she work since i used to go all the time. Its honestly a W because im spending less money and getting less fat🤣😭😭
It's like the pretty people telling the ugly people that they're pretty too. But the ugly people know that they'll never be as pretty as the pretty person telling them that they're pretty. I'm 31 and never had a girlfriend. Just because you go and talk to girls doesn't mean she's going to be your girlfriend. If she's giving you attention, it's because she wants something from you, and if by some miracle you get a girlfriend, she'll just cheat on you and brag about she slept with you right after she cheated on you without showing just because it's funny.
Denmo my brother from another mother❤.Today i went out and got 2 numbers from very beautiful girls.I hope i see u 1day.A lot of guys are depressed and lonely.keep going 👍
Just be successful bro, at a time when men's wages have been stagnant and decreasing for 40+ years. The reason men are lonely is because men are economically failing.
Most of the time I dont agree with him but it is true that all you need to do is take care of how you look and go to places where people your age go to. Doesnt matter if youre introvert or extrovert
Best way to get a girlfriend in my opinion is being in a high paying job working with a group of people creating friendships. From that they will invite you to partying where you can meet a lot of new people. Best option. But it’s easier said than done.
@@D3xterJettster It all comes down to being present and fun to be around. I’m not the most talkative person but I try to keep myself involved and engaged.
My job now I rarely interact with women. I kinda miss my old job at a call center as there was tons of chicks and fresh meat all the time. Working at a grocery store was pretty awesome too as everybody has to eat so I’d see so much ass. Most of my girlfriends were from jobs I have. I actually want to get a part time job now just so I can get more 🤣
I like the deliberate approach idea, but just remember, ur anxiety is gonna SOAR! I went to the mall to talk to women, not shop, & it takes A LOT to break through the paranoia and excuses. If ur serious, look at ur watch & give urself 30 SECONDS to talk to a girl! this is the only way I actually stopped making excuses & talked to girls…still got a long way to go, but YES, getting out of the house is a big STEP ONE
7 months ago was august…wow, yes. still at it. honestly, I get beyond frustrated sometimes. all I can say is when you get a number, just use it to set up the date. don’t bother trying to be funny or clever or whatever, they just ghost you. if they still don’t reply to ur date request, maybe try a random phone call. I hate to say it, but I’m an attractive, fit, tall guy with great hair, & it’s still so much work. cold approach is for chads or for guys with incredible social skills. all I can seem to get is rejection or flaky numbers
I feel the same, I have approached multiple women and I am still a virgin without a girlfriend in life. Another friends of mine had several girlfriends without approaching any women and somehow this sucks
It works to talk to women and be friends. They might be helpful also they can tell another woman your a good guy and hook you up. Some women will tell you who they know might be perfect for you.
I gotta stop watching these videos because 95% of the time I already knew all this information and have been applying it for a while but for some reason it’s not working. It’s almost as if it isn’t that simple/some people don’t get as lucky. But I’m delusional and won’t give up, when I honestly could’ve used that time better and feel like shit every time I don’t get lucky. I think you should do this but there’s also a balance cause I tried so hard at one point where it genuinely was fucking up my mental health and honestly I still haven’t fully recovered since then. Yet I’m a delusional idiot who’s still going out of his way to try. It’s exhausting. I guess this is a comment for the few people like me, you’re not alone, and sometimes it’s okay to let it go.
I see, that these videos are for the younger people who still think a girlfriend will change anything in their life, it's them that need to change, the girls will come except you are down ugly, then you will only helping hands from people you pay
The problem with modern women nowadays is that they are all getting 1000 plus offers every day online, imagine if she waits like a year, that means i have to be better than over 400 000 guys ! how the hek can i beat odds like that ?
Why can’t you put yourself in front of women, because I’m such a failure that I cannot take any more failures or rejection yes I take it personally, and I genuinely see the look of “ugh why’s he taking to me” on their face, I cannot take the rejection, I can’t, I can’t go and do it again afterwards I have to recover. I don’t get this way with job interviews or making friends. I hate my life and myself and I don’t want to be an old man who dies alone.
Who tf goes to a bookstore or library in 2023? Hit up the park, see a cutie walking her dog, easy...or any other place The fact that this clip was even made to point out to "leave the house" should go without saying, guess for some it´s needed...
The problem is: in the country where I live people aren't so open to strangers like in UK or Canada (and many other english speaking countries,), we see strangers talking to us as somebody who probably wants to give us some ad and we automatically want to stop the conversation. And if I'd want to speak to some girl on the street I'd need at least some subject that we both share. Since I started keeping more eye contact with people I started to see some girls looking at my eyes longer than usual, but I'd doubt that they'd want to speak with me (I'm a short guy so I wonder what do they see when they stare like that in my eyes ;D). Have you got any advice for me?
Greetings Jack, my problem is that I feel I dont communicate in general. Seems like I'm closed in my head. I believe I have the looks but I dont look "approachable". I try to be in a more uplifting mood. What would you suggest to change that? How could I train myself to look for a chance to communicate with most people in every situation? A video on this would be great!
Go for a 2 mile jog, come home, shower, and get dressed. DO NOT SIT DOWN! Leave for a walk around an area where girls are at. You'll have so many energetic, enthusiastic approaches with great results. If the girl sticks around and starts asking you questions within the interactions, suggest you exchange numbers
It doesnt matter how aproachable you do or dont look its 100% irelivent because women NEVER aproach ! im in the same boat, i look good i work in modelling and tv and i cant get a gf because im autistic, i do try but im exceptionally bad at it ! its very frustrating getting rejected by loadds of women that like you just beause your not good with women ! how you communicate with people better ? i guess just dont have autism, i do try but really im so bad at it i creep women out and i dont really get good responses very often, its a real pest ive been needlessly single for over 40 years because of this bloody mental problem ! but i still do try sometimes, but it is hard ! If you havent got autism you can just force yourself to do it and it will work because you will pick up on the soical stuff and know what to do !
My anxiety comes from being very high demanding with my self and putting the bar very high ( for my own self lol ),to be more likeable, i guess. So im "condemned" to keep the conversation on that level haha, which often is hard, because women can tell when the intensity goes down, and this seems to me as a turnoff due to my "mistake". Anyone relates? Btw you killing It man, thank you.
Just remember that, in 2020 and 2021, when we had all the covid restrictions, a great deal of the time, the apps were the _only_ way to meet people. Obviously that's no longer the case, I'm js. And really, I think that the IRL approaching is more practical in the sense that you're interacting with a real person. Even if you have some interactions that don't go well, or if some girl instantly gets pissed off for no reason _because_ you walked up to her, then try this: you can end the interaction whenever you want. She says she's a Cowboys fan when you're a Bears fan? She's a liberal and you're more conservative? You can literally end that interaction by walking away. And you can end it for any reason. Just make the initial approach and if she does something off putting, you can stop and _not_ get her number, etc.
Bro your content is just the best. We need more you tubers like you. I decided to buy a jet ski 2 years best decision of my life went out on the lake last year with a girl i just met and got laid the same night. Proof a jet ski can get you 🐱 😂.
I have come to the conclusion that no matter what I do and what position I put myself in there’s just some type of supernatural power that’s just not gonna let me get women I just can’t explain it, I’m not ugly I’m not short my teeth are white and straight, almost like I’m invisible. I’ve come to the conclusion it’s just not my season and hasn’t been the past couple of years.
Getting out of the house is the first step. I leave my house to do stuff every day, but I don’t approach random girls so I don’t get girls. I can’t bring myself to approach random girls, seems too creepy and cringe so opportunities only pop up a couple times a year. Then again, by living an active lifestyle you can probably expect a couple of “natural opportunities” to get a girlfriend over the course of a year. By sitting in your house jacking off and playing world of Warcraft you won’t have any opportunity at all so there’s that
Bro I watched several clips of you. Nothing that you say is wrong. Sooner or later everyone that is watching you, currently stuck on their chair in their comfort zone will realize that they need indeed to just go out and get their social skills a firmware update. You know what transformed me many years ago from an introvert with social anxiety to a guy that can have a normal chat with women that lead to a date without my legs shaking or loosing my voice? Work, a stupid job in sales in IKEA. Being *forced* to talk to hundreds of strangers per week. Having the most silliest job ever developed my charisma and if you develop your charisma NOTHING stands in your way. Not to mention that it is so fulfilling TALKING with strangers.
IInteresting im autistic, my legs shake when i talk to women, im not sure i could handle a job where i talk to hundreds of strangers a day, i do go out on saturday and if im drunk i can talk to a few strangers for an hour tops, then i need a break so i go out the club and have a smoke and get a bottle of water then i go again, drunk im not too bad, my legs dont shake, but sober its a real pest and despite forcing myself to ask some women out its still very difficult ! and the annoying thing is even if i force myself and the woman likes me they still say no because i ask so underconfidently, its a real pest to know if i said the same words but confidently id have had loads f women and in turn that would bring loads more women, but because im bloody nervous they just all say no, its a real pest i hate it.
Honestly I be like that sometimes I’m on my phone but whenever I do get approached or try to talk to someone AirPods and phone are gone not only does it look more respectful but for me I can pay attention way better if I don’t have Kendrick rapping a verse better than an entire Drake album on my AirPods as she’s telling me the story of how she took Salvia and lived an entire lifetime in a span of 15 minutes
I honestly do kinda live in a town like you described and i go to a small trade school so theres a total of like 15 maybe 20 women total and thats including the non eligible ones. but ill admit i still dont have an excuse i could definitely at least dedicate a solid hour a week to finding girls. Ig i just gotta work with the options in my area and stop hanging with the bois during so much of my freetime.
Its so crazy that this guy thinks that simply leaving your house will result in you finding a relationship. I'm fucking 5'7 and autistic with a full time engineering job. I've been going to the gym regularly for the last year and its not like I've got women breaking down my door lmao. 50 bucks says this guy's over 6 ft tall.
This video is just amazing, me and many other mans are afraid to go ask a girl out but now after i watched this video i relaised this fact, if you go to talk to a random girl in your city, it dosen't really matter what happens or you shouldn't be embrarassed because if she dosen't wanna hang out with you she's gonna probably forget you, or if she wants to hang out with you well good. In total what do u have to lose when u go talk to a girl?
Doesn’t matter if you’re rich or not rich women will never approach you, you have to make the first move or else you’ll be lonely doesn’t matter how successful you are
"If you can get gas, you can get ass."
Denmo, 2023
Except if your ass releases gas
If you need gas, you go to the gas station,
if you need ass...
@@Badboyifier😂😂😂😂
it true tho
@@DenmosocialLet's make this the folk wisdom.
If you want a girlfriend, buy a dog and stop thinking about getting a girlfriend. The end.
Buy a cute puppy/dog and then girls will come and pet them, now your open for conversation.
@@Jamienicholas02 You completely missed the fucking point.
Buy a dog because it'll give most of you immature motherfuckers something to mature you. A dog is a serious responsibility. It's a whole ass LIFE you have to take care of. That's number one. Number two--having responsibilities will take your mind off a bunch of bullshit, like obsessing over your lack of a girlfriend. Paradoxically, when you stop thinking about having a girlfriend...you'll end up getting a girlfriend.
but of course, people on the internet seem to be forever investing in living like a teenager and thinking like one too.
And just ignore your sexual desires.
Sexual satisfaction matters too.
I don't just want it to be me and my hand for the rest of my life.
Let's be real here lol
A dog is a man's best friend but some of us seek and desire more than that.
A dog can be nice but can never reciprocate emotions and validate as much as another human can.
lmao dont do this
@@Denmosocial No disrespect, but of course you'd say that.
I went on a date on Wednesday. I meet her through friends at university and while at first we just hung out as a group and we never really got to talk much, last Friday I bumped into her at a cafe and we sat and talked for 45 mins and then we realised we had a class to go 5 mins before it started. The day after I messaged her and asked if she would like to go out to eat sometime and without hesitation she said yes now we both looked at places we could go and she suggested a place that she heard good things about and to tease I said that I’ll trust her judgment this time but if I’m disappointed I’ll be deciding next time, jokingly. Long story shorter, we went to breakfast, sat there for 2 and a half hours talking constantly and then only left cause she had classes and we both had a great time and She started talking about a next time. So I’m going to be asking if she wants to go out again soon.
It is possible brothers!
Mega rarity my friend, but good on you and good LUCK to you most of all
God bless you. Also remember to shorten a bit your datings. Leave her wanting more, don't push to the limit. Cheers bro
Bro won
goodluck, don’t mess it up
Huge
@@Thanadeez thanks bro, and thanks to the rest of you guys too. I’m trying man we are both super busy with uni and shit. I asked if she was free tonight but she isn’t so I’ll see her at uni later this week. It’s hard I know we are both busy but my brain keeps going oh she lost interest but she is still messaging with enthusiasm when she responds and when we see each other at uni it’s smiles and talking for a while so at this point I’m trying my hardest to not seem needy or overly attached which is difficult cause I’m excited to have someone show interest in my after all the work I’ve been putting into myself. Lost 17kg been eating super healthy and hitting the gym 5-6 days a week and I’ve always been mentally strong but I’ve been upgrading my mind set as well and working on my posture and confidence, I even got a complement out of the blue from another chick at uni
Stop overthinking it bro. www.denmo.social/socializer
I wish it was easy but it isn’t.
You talking about women, or overthinking about life in general? 😂😂😂
Do you Canadians call gas stations gas stations or petrol stations or some shit
@@theinfamousop2691who cares bro
Denmo,i'm 15 should i even cold approach girls this early?
The thing about socializing or cold approaching girls is that u need to get warmed up to be good at talking and flowing in conversation. Otherwise, if u just go about ur day, and u randomly see a hot girl, ur gonna be nervous, too scared to approach, and if u do approach, ur gonna stumble on ur words and come across like a weird/awkward unconfident wreck, and she's gonna reject u. Getting a girlfriend comes down to approaching a ton of girls and hoping u get lucky, or being a part of a social circle with hot girls and getting introduced to one.
If you have at least a little skill you can pull off although you're nervous to get a number. it's always better to approach than not approach.
@therealmcgoy4968 Lol is that what a non chad needs to do?
The words of someone who hasn’t had many girlfriends I gather?
Just do it y’all, I always regret it when I hesitate.
To me, it's not worth the struggle because if you don't have the looks of a model and your "game" sucks, it's over, and I don't want to play games.
Also, being in a relationship is overrated. I prefer to be comfortable, doing whatever I want whenever I want. I stay alone and focus on what I am passionate about, focus on my career as well. Sometimes I feel lonely and sad, it happens, but never lasts a very long time. Recently, I've been feeling lonely and downloaded an app called "slowly". It's not a dating app per say, but it's a way to meet girls my age who live in my country, without any of us showing off our faces, and getting to know each other. With their profile description, I can tell if I'm going to get along well with them or not: if we have things in common, if they seem nice to talk to, smart...
Because there's no profile picture but just an avatar, you can have an idea what the person looks like but it helps a lot with interraction, on the contrary of dating apps where only the hottest men (1% of men) get all the matches & replies. On an app like Slowly, girls talk to you for what you have to say, and eventually appreciate you who you are as a soul, and not just for your looks.
This video actually helped me a bunch. I've seen a couple of your videos but this one in particular motivated me to at least go the bookstore today. You're right, it's all about leaving your house.
boom, you got this brother
7 months later, may I ask if it helped you find a girlfriend? Care to share your story if it did?
@@someguycalledcerberus9805At the very least, he probably got some fresh air and had a good time getting out of the house. Maybe even possibly made some friends. Going to the bookstore is just a stepping stone
Had a friend that just went "hey, how's it going" to literally anyone, anywhere, anytime and i'd say 75% of the time (that im aware) he sparked a conversation. It doesnt have to be bombshell women, could be the old man walking down the street or the lady at the cash register in a restaurant. I suppose its a good practice
Musta been hot
What did he follow that up with? The first words don't matter as much as keeping the other person interested.
If someone walked up to me on the street saying that, I would assume I'm getting scammed, recruited for some cult, or the guy is trying to beg for money.
Which is what happened every time someone walked up to me like that.
Bro your humor is top notch. You should do stand up
He used to do pranks before his self improvement stuff
Today, I went out to the bar with my note book and a pencil. Ordered a few rounds to my self meanwhile I sat down next to two good looking girls. I tried to occupy myself writing different thoughts and poems and when one of the girl went to bathroom, I asked out the other one. I felt such a relief eventhouht she said she has a boyfriend. I said to her no problem just take it like a compliment and I wished her nice evening. Her response seemed genuine so I felt so proud for myself. Next time I will be more confident. :D Thank you!
Nah, she shot you down on bs
what was your opening line?
Good stuff bro, rejection give you more experience than success because you look at the faults youve made in the interaction. Keep going and you'll score
"Today, I went out to the bar with my note book and a pencil."
Cringe. Doing this bullshit at a coffee shop is bad enough.
"I tried to occupy myself writing different thoughts and poems . . ."
You're not Goethe. Those girls saw your 'extemporaneous poetizing' and immediately thought, "This guy is a pretentious douche".
She wouldn’t be at a bar if she had a boyfriend. She let you down east bro sorry to say
dude this video gave me a BOOST yesterday. went to the lake after work on my street bike, was riding up and down doing wheelies n stuff just messing around and they had this chick wave at me from her car parked on the side chillin. i rode down thinking damn do i know her? then i rode back past her saw she was still there and literally got scared in my helmet but i told myself FUCK that i am going to go talk to her and turned around. shit went so fire, i might’ve choked the end bc i gave her my number but aye it was my first real cold approach (i didn’t end up knowing her) but we chilled for like 20 minutes and talked. all thanks to the confidence i get from your vids bro, thanks man.
How did it go after?
Good word, Denmo.
I'm on the way to getting there and you're helping more than you know.
Thank You.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🚪 Leaving your house intentionally to meet women is crucial for getting a girlfriend.
01:26 🌆 You can meet women in various places like coffee shops, universities, libraries, and clubs; the key is putting yourself in front of them.
06:19 📱 Avoid being constantly glued to your phone and instead be present in real life to notice opportunities to meet women.
11:36 🗓️ Dedicate intentional time during your week to be in places where women are, like parks, coffee shops, or bookstores.
16:25 🤝 Be the one to initiate conversations with women; don't wait for them to make the first move.
18:41 💰 Consider investing in a course or mentorship to get step-by-step guidance on how to get a girlfriend and take action.
You're the one of them ,who literally we need 💗
I thik your name will also beautiful
bless this man
Legend
All the beautiful girls are usually taken. Or they lie so that you wouldn't get butt hurt. The girls I had often leave me for another man though I had money and paid for all their food and shit. It's getting worse as I get older. I can't keep it up anyhow. It's frustrating. I don't know what's wrong with me. I once had a girl whose vagina was shut as a clam.
@@star-ji6jy None of this is even remotely helpful if you're ugly. 'Game' is the apex of imbecility.
This video made me realize that I am letting fear controlling my life and there is nothing I can do about it
believing that theres nothing you can do about it is what's preventing you from doing anything about it
Good, let it consume you. Treat women like one of the guys it's easy.
For me I try my best to socialize with girls things never workout but I always try my best being autism
Honestly, approaching anyone is scaring the shit out of me. You know, if I got no reason why would I approach someone, they didn't want my company and will do just fine without it. Sure they would be polite but probably that's it. This is a limiting belief that I have.
Yeah...
I have this sometimes too but the thing is most people would love it if a person starts a conversation with them it feels refreshing that they themselves don’t have to do it, I’d dig in at their interests and if y’all don’t have that many they’ll either stay as an acquaintance or you can go a different route and share stories with eachother since y’all are so different which works for anyone I mean there was this friend group of girls in my English class always talking and huddling up with eachother (because the class was infront of the entire school’s AC generator is was cold asf) and it was surprisingly easy to talk to them you just have to trust yourself no matter how many set backs maybe meet people online first then get warmed up with that and then do it IRL either way you try it you’ll eventually get to the point where you talk to girls cause if they’re too hard for you just take it slow talk to other guys then slowly start approaching girls once you’re good with everything else. Also if you’re an adult I’d worry even less since you’re just gonna approach a girl if she rejects you you’re not gonna see her again you won’t even care about it 5 years from now so why not y’know? All or nothing is what I’m saying so yeah. I think you should work on those insecurities maybe working out learning to fight or quitting masturbation and porn which is gonna improve you in literally every way trust so yeah don’t ever be shy or scared
It's not a 'limiting' belief, it's a rational one. Unless you're highly charismatic or good-looking, why would a female stranger want to talk to you? If some chick who was both boring and fat tried to make small talk with you while you were out and about, wouldn't you be annoyed?
You have this anxiety because your past approaches have failed, and your past approaches have failed because you lack looks, charisma, and status/wealth. Improve your appearance and make PILES of cash, and your every approach will succeed.
As I've been saying on Discord, you can't make an omelette without breaking some eggs.
I've been putting myself out there a lot since finding my feet, and it feels like everything has just clicked in to place. As long as I am dressed well, my hair is styled and I smell good, any time is approach time.
Getting a girlfriend is just a matter of time now. Thanks for inspiring me boss.
you got this homie. hope to see you in my community
I'm going out for the first time to try approaching. Got my shit together in my life and feel ready. Wish me luck!
@@bumpygarage4291 Fucking awesome mate. Enjoy it 😎
@@bumpygarage4291have fun!!!!! U don't need luck
Just admit it it’s over bro.
Fear will continue to run my life 💯
Real
Maybe the fear is the best we got..
not if you fight it
@@JesseMcLeod-hu3fh not a winnable fight
@@lamefuqq6985 According to who?
Been off work for almost 3 weeks now, spending so much time with guys who really want to hang with me, spent time with a girl, been to the park, been to the beach, PS 0waking up early. Only thing missing is putting myself infront of women haha. But thats gonna come next, I promise bro. Loved the video ❤
Bro its 40 degrees celsius outside i might need to go in midnight
all jokes aside, I love your simple delivery bro keep it up, you helped me in the past it was enormous!
I like how I know with every fiber of my being that I will not leave my home to search for a girlfriend, but I still enjoy watching these.
go and do it, bet u wont 😬
@@eg-zg4ns been there done that...
This is actually golden advice
wow, I was moving my mouse to switch and right there you said don't click away melvin and stopped me! Your UA-cam game is on point Denmo!
I actually already have a cool book that I read at nice places in my city. Couldnt bring myself to talk to a stranger women yet. Gotta bring your voice in my head to push me lol. Keep them fist bumps coming, love em 😂
It hilarious when Jack calls us "stupid fu**ks" kinda true 😅
He is damn right 😂😂
speaking to myself vicariously through you
@@Denmosocial ngl, even if you exaggerate it as joke, I think it's fucking cringe when you speak down to your viewers every 20 seconds. You give solid basic advice on dating, but is reinforcing the negative thoughts about myself really going to help me with meeting women? Just my 2 cents
@@danethenicethat's why you doesn't get any pussy my dude
@@danethenicedude it's just a little humor. Don't be soft
Dude, thanks you. I moved to an other country 2 months ago and wanted to improve my social skills and started to watch your videos. It help me a lot and since few weeks I'm starting to speak to a lot of girls and it keep to be easier every time. Today I've met 3 girls and where I am is not even my first language, sick
keep it up G share your W's in our socializer community
I love your delivery and your advice. Had me dying, laughing, but very valuable points
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s.
It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others.
But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm.
Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend.
So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel.
I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life.
And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction.
Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not?
Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't.
I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long.
Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction.
Guys, men, have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk and stand a certain way, breathe a certain way, have a certain lifestyle, because leading or taking the lead is something that is behavior based, skill based, think a certain way, and many more things, that i either don't know or forgot.
Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating.
One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard.
So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
And I don't get or understand why a guy or a human male or just a person in general has no right to feel depressed or feel bitter and forever resentful if they manage to get their first relationship late-in-life.
For example, if a person doesn't have their first relationship until their 30s or 40s and older.
People say that a person like that should still be happy, but I feel a person like that has to have a right to feel forever depressed and bitter and resentful because they feel that their youth went to waste or their youth was stolen from them.
I feel men have a right to be angry about something like that more than women do because for all-time men have always been dealt with the burden of having to accept or take responsibility for their lives while women can simply rely on others to do it for them.
For all-time relationships and dates are basically handed or given to women on a silver platter but not for men
I get where you’re coming from. But relying on the fact that it’s in our human nature to feel these negative emotions and deciding to indulge in them will only bring you more misery. And yes, we all have different mindsets and our own philosophies when it comes to life, I’m going to have my own sets of beliefs and you’re going to have your own. And here’s the thing, neither our way of living is the right or wrong way to live or think, it just depends on what we want in our lives. When I read your comment, I found it very insightful, and although you brought up some very good points, it’s a very pessimistic view about life in my opinion. So if I were to give advice, I would say that you have to realize that life is just unfair, sure you can get mad, be upset, and feel these terrible emotions because that’s what humans do, but don’t let these negative aspects of your life control you. I myself have so much to work on and I hope you can do the same for you as well. Have a good one :)
Where is your drive to conquer where is your ego dude?
You really hope to be a woman ? Really?
What the fuck man.
There are two ways , accept the facts and play with the rules and win or cry .
You choose
I had my first relationship/kiss at 39. The woman was exhausted from dating so much, done with it and just desperate for the one. I was like a puppy dog so happy to have my first shot at it. I was over the moon to have actually accomplished something I thought I would never get to experience in life. She could not relate at all and when we broke up she just saw the whole thing as a waste of her time. My best memories/experiences were just a waste of time for her.
The insecurity and self-doubt of prolonged social exclusion will never leave you. I struggle with the bitterness as I don't want to be a bitter ungrateful person. To be clear I'm not bitter at women, I think men have excluded me much more and I think I am more their responsibility.
@@zeethree how do you feel about not having dated until then?
Hello there my friend. I just read your comment and it was HIGHLY RELATABLE to me. You just described everything that I feel now, because I had my first real relationship at 28-29, and I'm feeling bitter and sad about it.
In my case, I have CPTSD and that has really affected me and many aspects of my life for years, even today. I grew up without a father and my mother was a religious extremist who was also quite abusive (I had to deal with a lot of physical and psychological abuse). My self esteem is ground level, and it truly messed up even good opportunities in my life where I could have gotten a girlfriend.
I feel that my best years were taken away from me, that I also missed out a lot. I see young couples wearing high school uniforms and that's enough to make me angry and sad.
I could say that I got lucky, my first times were always possible thanks to the advances of the females, I never actually had the courage or confidence to start anything by my own or to take the first step.
Is there a way to reach out to you? I'm really looking for something to talk about these things with... I'm glad to see I'm not the only one. Sometimes people tell me "others have had it worse, you should be happy you at least had it", but there's no point in comparing oneself to others that have it worse, it's stupid.
Hugs, brother. I hope you can answer. I wish you the very best.
Man you keep it so real it’s what keeps me coming back. Been watching you for months man love you and your brand for real ‼️🙏🏾
Keeping it real... ALL YOU NEED TO GET A GF IS TO GET OUT THE HOUS..... ANd talk to women, and be confident and have self esteem, and be good with women ! yeah thats really keeping it real !
My brother in christ. Chasing something is like catching a butterfly, the more you try the more it fly away, but the moment you stop theres just a chance it will land on you're shoulder.
I mean my current girlfriend at Walmart, i was getting a bag a flower for making bread. There was a rip in the bag, and when i throw it in my cart the flower got all over her. Now 2 years later im planning on proposing to her next month.
Exactly, there’s a difference between chasing and letting it happen, when you be patient and let it happen you know the feeling and the girl will to. My shots aren’t falling right now and they haven’t been for a little while but the times where I was getting action the female gravitated toward me and I didn’t have to do anything much like how all females have it right now.
@@jimbobfisher8904explain with examples please
@@jimbobfisher8904 its all about looks
If you do the right things. You will reap a harvest. Keep grinding boys
thats right
You can make all the right moves and still lose. That is not weakness, that is life.
Yeah this is the one for me. I’m great at talking to people, but I really spend a ton of time working and then most of the rest of my time at home. I’ve gotta make getting out of the house for something other than work a priority.
I’m in college and there’s so many women. It’s kinda scary but I think I just gotta get out there and say hi. I’m not lacking in the physical department, and every time I’ve tried to talk to a girl it was a good turnout. I’m in my head tho
Keep in mind fear is your biggest enemy 💯. Everybody is scared of something but once you overcome the fear realize that it's not that bad.
Getting b*tches in school is the easiest sht
Twin
"grocery store you se a girl , go talk to her" sure fire way to get your eyes destroyed by pepper spray
I have never been to a social grocery store in my life. Those places are like being inside of a giant freezer, I just want to gtfo ASAP.
If I got pepper spray I would wear my ballistic glasses then and would cu@@ her out loudly 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬👺🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬
@@zeethree same lol but lowkey the store makes me feel more awake
i once saw a really cute girl at the library but didn't really went to talk to her i regretted it so much that i got another chance by seeing her at the dentist, i gathered my courage and said ' fuck it whats the worst that could happen' and went to her
i ended up getting the phone number
Did u smash tho? Cos getting a phone number doesn’t mean jack, unless you had intimate relations with her and you lot are a thing☝️
I’ve gotten snapchats and phone numbers from females too and I was just like you, scared to approach but when I actually got their contact information, went home all giddy and excited, I either had to wait hours or even days on end for a text back or gotten flaked on when we did make plans..
So it really is Law of Averages, the more girls you ask out and get their phone number, maybe one will text back and possibly smash but building yourself up from scratch and becoming a better version of yourself is a lot more better and will yield more positive results in the dating world than being stuck on read like me😂
Yes sirrr you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
@@YG-rr6zvI Don’t believe In sex outside of marriage
...and then you woke up
@@YG-rr6zv can you expand more on the building yourself up will get you more results? What does that mean and how?
Man, you are an amazing speaker. What's more, you really know what to say. 🙏
I've been single like, forever and man... it always gives me mixed feelings!
Certain days, I'm super happy when I realise there aren't people around and I just love doing my favourite hobbies
Other days, after an epic gym workout, I will tend to sit down and just f**King stare deep into the abys listening to sigma music
Ngl, I am pretty happy to be alone 😂 one advantage Is that you don't have to deal with shit like cheating, lies and all that stuff that happens sometimes in relationships (not trying to offend people here who are in long, awesome committed relationships but just stating for those that have issues)
But yeah, main conclusion I'm getting at: Be happy that you're single and make the most of doing things you love while you are single. When the time comes and you do get in a relationship, you can appreciate your relationships more as you learnt how to love yourself first. Hope this helps :)
Much ❤to all who took time to read this :)
U should be my best friend yeah this is true I'm a 18 yr old graduate and still doing what I love and I hate feeling rushed by demo and my dad
I'm a virgin at 18
I actually struggle staying at the gym for so long. I get it's probably the optimal non alcoholfueled place to meet people my age (30) but I always think i'm taking up space/time for people who also wanna workout on same machine. I used to stay longer when I went with friends since we talked and stuff, but now I pretty much go alone, in and out. Gonna try to last longer. I also feel there's this notion that no girl wants to be talked to when they go to the gym (from Miami, FL, idk if it may be different elsewhere) Two of my female coworkers said I was weird for going to the gym to socialize/get social exposure, especially during COVID. They pretty much implied gym should be exclusively for working out.
I saw your channel a few weeks ago, love your content. I stopped wearing earbuds at the gym in efforts to seem more open to convo, felt like I was the only one haha.
Here in LA same way, girls pretty much avoid eye contact at the gym with everyone
Yeah and coffee shops are only to get coffee, don't you dare pick up women at a coffee shop.
I never wear headphones but I also feel kind of weird that I’m one of the only ones not wearing any
@@Swan584 same in Texas
@@Swan584 avoid those bit@@ like the plague
Buddy, thanks to your motivation, after work, i went to Yogurtland where i always get something to eat and i always see the same cute cashier. So i ask this girl on a date (i used a horrible choice of words) and she rejected me with “ill pass” which hit me like a rock BUT i finally got the first one out of the way. Holy fuck, its a big relief, i feel like i can ask any girl on a date now. Youve made an unstoppable man
Use bad boy rizz. Flirt
That’s the spirit! Keep asking more man!
@@pandulani😂😂I’m still the same shy guy unfortunately. I’ll get around to it
And now you can never go to that yogurtland again
@@Juve-vo3ieyou’re right🤣 i havent gone in a while, but i have an idea of the days and time she work since i used to go all the time. Its honestly a W because im spending less money and getting less fat🤣😭😭
The Melvin on the computer got me rolling😂
Tomorrow I’m gonna meet some girls in Boston. I planned it already, but now watched this video - And now I’m even more motivated. Thanks!
Love your new content format man
It's like the pretty people telling the ugly people that they're pretty too. But the ugly people know that they'll never be as pretty as the pretty person telling them that they're pretty. I'm 31 and never had a girlfriend. Just because you go and talk to girls doesn't mean she's going to be your girlfriend. If she's giving you attention, it's because she wants something from you, and if by some miracle you get a girlfriend, she'll just cheat on you and brag about she slept with you right after she cheated on you without showing just because it's funny.
blackpilled
That is why I stay single boyyo
Anyone from Poland here?
Seeing a video by someone who isn't a manosphere masterbater is refreshing.
Denmo my brother from another mother❤.Today i went out and got 2 numbers from very beautiful girls.I hope i see u 1day.A lot of guys are depressed and lonely.keep going 👍
What if you are extremely ugly and women simply hate you? 😂
Denmo out here thinking his audience base actually buys groceries
lmaoo
Bro trying to put us in jail
Dont chase girls chase success. Chasing girls gets you a low quality woman, chasing success the quality women will come to you
Yea I'll find women at my company's board meetings
Just be successful bro, at a time when men's wages have been stagnant and decreasing for 40+ years.
The reason men are lonely is because men are economically failing.
Bro, stop coping
Women don't approach men
Even the most successful men approach thier dates 💀
@flamingmoe1805 Doesn't always work that way dude
Hardest cope ever.
Tip no. 1 Leave your house and u get a gf 😂
imagine walking up to someone and saying"
"Hello good sir, please direct me to the nearest women station"
@:08 dude, this is literally the badass job ever! first lesson when you start to learn how to fly anything is avoid power lines.
I love how you say it like it is
Most of the time I dont agree with him but it is true that all you need to do is take care of how you look and go to places where people your age go to. Doesnt matter if youre introvert or extrovert
This one was deep! What a wisdom dude!
Best way to get a girlfriend in my opinion is being in a high paying job working with a group of people creating friendships. From that they will invite you to partying where you can meet a lot of new people. Best option. But it’s easier said than done.
If you have a high paying job, why not just pay for sex? Dating is for plebs.
Friendships are hard when you're introvert
@@D3xterJettster It all comes down to being present and fun to be around. I’m not the most talkative person but I try to keep myself involved and engaged.
My job now I rarely interact with women. I kinda miss my old job at a call center as there was tons of chicks and fresh meat all the time. Working at a grocery store was pretty awesome too as everybody has to eat so I’d see so much ass. Most of my girlfriends were from jobs I have. I actually want to get a part time job now just so I can get more 🤣
we're all fucking melvin round erre
Editor is killin 😆👌🏾
My passport changed my life
I like the deliberate approach idea, but just remember, ur anxiety is gonna SOAR! I went to the mall to talk to women, not shop, & it takes A LOT to break through the paranoia and excuses. If ur serious, look at ur watch & give urself 30 SECONDS to talk to a girl! this is the only way I actually stopped making excuses & talked to girls…still got a long way to go, but YES, getting out of the house is a big STEP ONE
So, 7 months later, care to tell me how's your progress?
Did you get a girlfriend? Any interesting stories of how things went, etc?
7 months ago was august…wow, yes. still at it. honestly, I get beyond frustrated sometimes. all I can say is when you get a number, just use it to set up the date. don’t bother trying to be funny or clever or whatever, they just ghost you. if they still don’t reply to ur date request, maybe try a random phone call. I hate to say it, but I’m an attractive, fit, tall guy with great hair, & it’s still so much work. cold approach is for chads or for guys with incredible social skills. all I can seem to get is rejection or flaky numbers
@@stevenwilson4083 Thanks for the honest report man. The game is so rigged.
“If you can get gas, you can get ass” 3:10 😂😂😂
Is that a Marcus Aurelius quote ?
This is great advice. I will take all of it. Thank you.
I used to approach hundreds of girls, still didn’t get a girlfriend 😂 been single for 8 years now lol it’s all good tho
I feel the same, I have approached multiple women and I am still a virgin without a girlfriend in life. Another friends of mine had several girlfriends without approaching any women and somehow this sucks
@@sven4798brutal, it’s time for plastic surgery and a mail order bride from Russia 🇷🇺
This is the best intro eveeeer
Oh bro you chose violence in that beginning 😂
me watching this video, while having a girlfriend xd
I went from watching your videos to having a girlfriend in like a couple months. As soon as college started...kill confirmed lol.
bro thats unreal. Send me an email telling me your story!
@@Denmosocial yeah bet! Which email?
the one on my about page
It works to talk to women and be friends. They might be helpful also they can tell another woman your a good guy and hook you up. Some women will tell you who they know might be perfect for you.
Dude i just discovered you yesterday and you are damn funnyy lollll and obviously videos are great!
I gotta stop watching these videos because 95% of the time I already knew all this information and have been applying it for a while but for some reason it’s not working. It’s almost as if it isn’t that simple/some people don’t get as lucky. But I’m delusional and won’t give up, when I honestly could’ve used that time better and feel like shit every time I don’t get lucky. I think you should do this but there’s also a balance cause I tried so hard at one point where it genuinely was fucking up my mental health and honestly I still haven’t fully recovered since then. Yet I’m a delusional idiot who’s still going out of his way to try. It’s exhausting. I guess this is a comment for the few people like me, you’re not alone, and sometimes it’s okay to let it go.
I've said it, you should be a preacher. I absolutely like your mannerisms while you speak.
I see, that these videos are for the younger people who still think a girlfriend will change anything in their life, it's them that need to change, the girls will come except you are down ugly, then you will only helping hands from people you pay
This guy is a legend, single handedly saving all of us.. Respectttt
Saturday 15 pm, bro thanks for everything
The problem with modern women nowadays is that they are all getting 1000 plus offers every day online, imagine if she waits like a year, that means i have to be better than over 400 000 guys ! how the hek can i beat odds like that ?
Forget a “girlfriend” if I could get one to say hi to me that would be a victory.
Why can’t you put yourself in front of women, because I’m such a failure that I cannot take any more failures or rejection yes I take it personally, and I genuinely see the look of “ugh why’s he taking to me” on their face, I cannot take the rejection, I can’t, I can’t go and do it again afterwards I have to recover. I don’t get this way with job interviews or making friends. I hate my life and myself and I don’t want to be an old man who dies alone.
Who tf goes to a bookstore or library in 2023? Hit up the park, see a cutie walking her dog, easy...or any other place
The fact that this clip was even made to point out to "leave the house" should go without saying, guess for some it´s needed...
The problem is: in the country where I live people aren't so open to strangers like in UK or Canada (and many other english speaking countries,), we see strangers talking to us as somebody who probably wants to give us some ad and we automatically want to stop the conversation. And if I'd want to speak to some girl on the street I'd need at least some subject that we both share. Since I started keeping more eye contact with people I started to see some girls looking at my eyes longer than usual, but I'd doubt that they'd want to speak with me (I'm a short guy so I wonder what do they see when they stare like that in my eyes ;D). Have you got any advice for me?
Exactly. The worst part is trying to find something meaningful or common interests without knowing someone.
I can't leave my house..........I'm paralized.
Time to escortmaxx
Cold approach only works for chad
This unironically sounds like a lecture my science teacher would give me
Greetings Jack, my problem is that I feel I dont communicate in general. Seems like I'm closed in my head. I believe I have the looks but I dont look "approachable". I try to be in a more uplifting mood. What would you suggest to change that? How could I train myself to look for a chance to communicate with most people in every situation? A video on this would be great!
Go for a 2 mile jog, come home, shower, and get dressed. DO NOT SIT DOWN! Leave for a walk around an area where girls are at. You'll have so many energetic, enthusiastic approaches with great results. If the girl sticks around and starts asking you questions within the interactions, suggest you exchange numbers
It doesnt matter how aproachable you do or dont look its 100% irelivent because women NEVER aproach ! im in the same boat, i look good i work in modelling and tv and i cant get a gf because im autistic, i do try but im exceptionally bad at it ! its very frustrating getting rejected by loadds of women that like you just beause your not good with women ! how you communicate with people better ? i guess just dont have autism, i do try but really im so bad at it i creep women out and i dont really get good responses very often, its a real pest ive been needlessly single for over 40 years because of this bloody mental problem ! but i still do try sometimes, but it is hard ! If you havent got autism you can just force yourself to do it and it will work because you will pick up on the soical stuff and know what to do !
That fist bump made me like
My anxiety comes from being very high demanding with my self and putting the bar very high ( for my own self lol ),to be more likeable, i guess. So im "condemned" to keep the conversation on that level haha, which often is hard, because women can tell when the intensity goes down, and this seems to me as a turnoff due to my "mistake". Anyone relates? Btw you killing It man, thank you.
Relatable. I hate small talk. Would prefer to speak about useful information only.
Just remember that, in 2020 and 2021, when we had all the covid restrictions, a great deal of the time, the apps were the _only_ way to meet people. Obviously that's no longer the case, I'm js. And really, I think that the IRL approaching is more practical in the sense that you're interacting with a real person.
Even if you have some interactions that don't go well, or if some girl instantly gets pissed off for no reason _because_ you walked up to her, then try this: you can end the interaction whenever you want. She says she's a Cowboys fan when you're a Bears fan? She's a liberal and you're more conservative? You can literally end that interaction by walking away. And you can end it for any reason. Just make the initial approach and if she does something off putting, you can stop and _not_ get her number, etc.
3:09 OMEGALUL
Yooo bro ive also watched dodgeball, btw as always good content, keep it up
Bro your content is just the best. We need more you tubers like you. I decided to buy a jet ski 2 years best decision of my life went out on the lake last year with a girl i just met and got laid the same night. Proof a jet ski can get you 🐱 😂.
Will you start making pranks again? These videos helped us a lot with confidence ad social skills.
Lmao the first minute in this video
I have come to the conclusion that no matter what I do and what position I put myself in there’s just some type of supernatural power that’s just not gonna let me get women I just can’t explain it, I’m not ugly I’m not short my teeth are white and straight, almost like I’m invisible. I’ve come to the conclusion it’s just not my season and hasn’t been the past couple of years.
Getting out of the house is the first step. I leave my house to do stuff every day, but I don’t approach random girls so I don’t get girls. I can’t bring myself to approach random girls, seems too creepy and cringe so opportunities only pop up a couple times a year. Then again, by living an active lifestyle you can probably expect a couple of “natural opportunities” to get a girlfriend over the course of a year. By sitting in your house jacking off and playing world of Warcraft you won’t have any opportunity at all so there’s that
Bro I watched several clips of you. Nothing that you say is wrong. Sooner or later everyone that is watching you, currently stuck on their chair in their comfort zone will realize that they need indeed to just go out and get their social skills a firmware update. You know what transformed me many years ago from an introvert with social anxiety to a guy that can have a normal chat with women that lead to a date without my legs shaking or loosing my voice? Work, a stupid job in sales in IKEA. Being *forced* to talk to hundreds of strangers per week. Having the most silliest job ever developed my charisma and if you develop your charisma NOTHING stands in your way. Not to mention that it is so fulfilling TALKING with strangers.
IInteresting im autistic, my legs shake when i talk to women, im not sure i could handle a job where i talk to hundreds of strangers a day, i do go out on saturday and if im drunk i can talk to a few strangers for an hour tops, then i need a break so i go out the club and have a smoke and get a bottle of water then i go again, drunk im not too bad, my legs dont shake, but sober its a real pest and despite forcing myself to ask some women out its still very difficult ! and the annoying thing is even if i force myself and the woman likes me they still say no because i ask so underconfidently, its a real pest to know if i said the same words but confidently id have had loads f women and in turn that would bring loads more women, but because im bloody nervous they just all say no, its a real pest i hate it.
love the vid, keep making more.
Honestly I be like that sometimes I’m on my phone but whenever I do get approached or try to talk to someone AirPods and phone are gone not only does it look more respectful but for me I can pay attention way better if I don’t have Kendrick rapping a verse better than an entire Drake album on my AirPods as she’s telling me the story of how she took Salvia and lived an entire lifetime in a span of 15 minutes
I honestly do kinda live in a town like you described and i go to a small trade school so theres a total of like 15 maybe 20 women total and thats including the non eligible ones. but ill admit i still dont have an excuse i could definitely at least dedicate a solid hour a week to finding girls. Ig i just gotta work with the options in my area and stop hanging with the bois during so much of my freetime.
Its so crazy that this guy thinks that simply leaving your house will result in you finding a relationship. I'm fucking 5'7 and autistic with a full time engineering job. I've been going to the gym regularly for the last year and its not like I've got women breaking down my door lmao. 50 bucks says this guy's over 6 ft tall.
Brutal reality Looks and height matter more than personality and money.
This video is just amazing, me and many other mans are afraid to go ask a girl out but now after i watched this video i relaised this fact, if you go to talk to a random girl in your city, it dosen't really matter what happens or you shouldn't be embrarassed because if she dosen't wanna hang out with you she's gonna probably forget you, or if she wants to hang out with you well good. In total what do u have to lose when u go talk to a girl?
Doesn’t matter if you’re rich or not rich women will never approach you, you have to make the first move or else you’ll be lonely doesn’t matter how successful you are
The first 8 minutes of this are just unhinged