To me, the hardest part about dating is actually FINDING people. For example... *Dating apps:* Unless you're attractive, forget it. *The bar/club:* Way too expensive and ALWAYS too loud. Terrible place for flirting. *College/university:* Unless you're a student or have a friend who can invite you to events, you're kind of screwed. *The gym:* People DON'T want their workout interrupted. And if you get a reputation of asking people out, you might be considered a creep and banned from the gym altogether. *Cafe:* People go there for peace and quiet. But I guess you can try asking out the barista. *The park/nature:* People don't go out anymore. They work, go home, scroll on their phones, and stream content. *Cold approaching:* Almost never works as people are naturally weary of strangers. Forget looks, money, or confidence. Just finding places to meet people is a challenge in itself.
I agree with you for the most part except the last two you mentioned. cafes, yes although it’s a place people go for peace and quiet it wouldn’t be the end of the world if you take maybe 2-3 mins of someone’s day and if the interaction doesn’t go as well as you hoped you’ll have the piece of mind that you’ll literally never have to meet them again and somewhere like the park is is a great spot and there’s usually quite a bit of people when the weathers atleast half decent
HONESTLY, One of the BEST videos I've seen on the subject, explains in EXTREME detail each path to meeting women (Approach, Friends, clubs) and gives excellent advice and examples on each one. As for the fear of "What if they're gonna call the police or call me weird" I had that as well, and after approaching 14 girls since this Monday (4 days) I've had 0 interactions like that, worst I've got is aloof response and I moved on, learning from each interaction. This fear comes from being constantly online and listening to redpill videos, but once you ACTUALLY go out, you see there are way more nice, gentle and kind women around you than you ever expected.
*In a world where everyone is glued to dating apps, it’s refreshing to see advice on how to meet girls in real life. Social skills are so underrated these days, and this video really nails how to approach and connect authentically!*
I just wanted to say as a woman i agree with alot of this. Just going out more often to places regularly can help aswell (coffee shops, librarys, cafes) you can take a laptop and get some work done, read or draw (idk lol.) If you have a few things in your routine that gets you out of the house and around people (even if you go by yourself) your chances of seeing someone you want to approach will probably increase. Good video dude 😊👍
It’s so hard because our generation just barely talks to people anymore, and it seems like many have diminished social skills and even less motivation to talk to people. You used to have to talk to people to do anything, and talking to strangers was much more common, maybe even essential. There were no distractions either, you couldn’t bury your head in your phone. Kind of sucks how things are now. I wish our generation would just talk to each other just to talk.
@@LeeEverett1it's funny because I've actually never had anyone approach me lol. Just kind of goes to show that people don't talk to eachother anymore 😅... I'd say if someone was respectful when they approached me (asking if it's okay to sit next to me, asking if I'm busy before they try talking, ect) then I would be absolutely fine with it but you have to remember that it's just my opinion. Hope this helps!
@@Ryan-cb1eiyeah 😞. I'm kind of just hoping that the people who aren't like that will bump into people who aren't like that (If that makes any sense...)
I'm sick of relying on dating apps. There are plenty of nice parks and museums in my area with tons of women seen by themselves, I need to get the balls to go talk to them.
hi Lee couldn't agree more dating apps are a trap and there's still plenty of ways to meet women in the real world. I basically walk people through that. Check this out... www.honestimprovement.co.uk/
Agree, but it’s so difficult since we’re all not used to talking to random people here and there anymore. And it’s so easy to just bury your head in your phone.
Force yourself to do it with all types of people, not just girls. Start conversations in general. It is scary at first, but with repetition it becomes easier.
I think guys also underestimate how awkward women can be, especially now more than ever. If you're not aware of this, you can think it's something you're doing wrong and fall back in your head and be awkward yourself. Just keep that in mind.
I would say this advice is spot on from a woman's perspective. There are a lot of us out there wondering why men don't approach anymore and would love to be approached by someone kind and confident. At the very least, it's a bit of a social boost for both people and would leave a lasting impression.
I've been looking for a girlfriend for a while and I've thought about approaching girls but I just was always worried that they would feel uncomfortable and I never want to make a woman feel uncomfortable. Do you think that that's something I should be worried about or no?
@Jason-em8kr No. The times I've been approached I've never felt uncomfortable. In fact, I've always admired the courage it takes for a man to approach or offer a kind compliment. Every woman's different, but if you are genuine and sincere when you approach, it's not likely she'll be uncomfortable. Plus, plenty of people chit chat with me when I'm in the grocery store or out running errands. Approaching a girl is no different than starting a conversation or offering an honest compliment. Or maybe just saying something funny or obvious. The majority of ladies would receive that well. We tend to make things bigger than they are if we overthink and worry. An approach doesn't have to be more than a kind word, and to this, most women are pretty open and accepting 😉
@@NewbieLoki not sure why you think I need to lie. But anyway, that's a defeatist mentality. You can think that but it's doing nothing to help you. And sure, there are probably some girls that only want to be approached by "a Chad or a Tyrone" but for most of us, confidence is enough to open the door.
*courage is like a muscle, just keep working on it.* you do eventually get to the point where you ignore the anxiety of going up to girls and just start going up to random girls with out even thinking about it. Then the crazy part is it starts to work, you got this fellas!!!
The point on dating friends and friends of friends makes me laugh cause I deal with exactly what you talk about, I’ve got my main friends and then a handful of female friends who I wouldn’t date but friendly with, but my main friends don’t have other friends outside of that immediate circles, and my female friend’s friends are either not my people, taken, lesbian or not interested. It’s like a social bubble I haven’t been able to pop hahah
I like your style bud! Gonna go ahead and sub because anyone preaching this content needs to be heard. Great advice on approaching. I've done it too, it's one of the best confidence-building tools I've ever found - and yes, I've gotten dates with beautiful strangers this way. I call it "real-life swiping"
I turned 23 a month ago now. Never had a girlfriend and I am on the verge of giving up. The years of loneliness and hopelessness are driving me to the edge of a cliff I don’t want to fall from…
I’ve been there bro and am still there. But I’m staring to care less and less as the days go. Get with your boys, they may have gfs that you could maybe get comfortable and ask for some advice or maybe they know somebody. If not hang out with the boys and move on, one day you will get there. That’s coming from a guy about the same age as you and in the same situation.
I second the other two. 35 in February. Live for yourself and the bros. Accept your fate, and if you find someone at some point, it will be even sweeter
To be fair when you are in a small town and you bike around no one is ever outside even in summer it’s impossible someone you’re age and in your town to see
"Abordagem clara, sem enrolação, ótima entonação da voz e bons conselhos, vídeo top demais" English: "Clear approach, no fuss, great voice intonation and good advice, great video"
I actually know more guys who are the opposite. I know 7 guys who went through a bad breakup and swore off dating entirely. I only know 2 who tried again and were successful. Myself, I refuse to use dating apps. I realize how much I want true love and I know that short flings will only hurt myself and make me numb. More likely to not find what I need
@@milktothefifthpower That is a valid response, just saying the majority of guys keep trying until they're burned so deeply they swear off dating like your friends did, but some of us realize we only have this life until we die so we say FK IT and keep trying because we only need 1 person for life
I hate approaching on the street. No one has the time to have a conversation. I know how to approach in a social setting though. The thing is that most of socialising is just college parties at bars where no one really knows no one and im by myself so it ends up in hookups. What i miss is that my friend group would know another group and there would be girls there. There is none of that friendgroup mingling anymore
If you need a way to start a conversatiom, go to a girl (it works best when she is wearing a dress or something) and say: "Hey, funny coincidence but I wanted to wear the exact same outfit today!" Works every time😂
Just gotta be busy out doing stuff regulary, routinely and consistently- gym, sports clubs, art clubs, cafes, local bars, classes, etc. Social stuff in your daily routine
Iam single for years. And I found its not because Iam ugly or cant talk with girls. Problem si WHERE. All the girls dissapear after school. I meen like one girl per year and if its not working Iam waiting for next oportunity for years.
WOW 6:45 is a TOTAL mind shift, I've never thought about it like that but it does make a lot of sense - After approaching a STRANGER, it's gonna be WAY easier to have SOMETHING, anything to hold onto that's a conversation starter, like being in the same job, class or party...
Great video, bruh. I’ve been going out a lot this year for once. I was clubbing, approaching girls, then slowing progressed to approaching girls outside the club space. And now I’m doing it without having a drink beforehand. What a revelation of an experience this year has been. Mostly duds & no’s. But have I got some good times times snuck in there. Still haven’t find my love yet, but I’ll be out tomorrow, on my off-day approaching. Wish me luck, brother
Omg I needed this video ! I am 26 years old and Ive been relying using dating apps and just getting frustration sadness yeah my self-esteem on the floor. Frustrated sad because I dont find a girlfriend. This really motivates me to try out of my comfort zone and meet people. However , what I can do because I dont have friends either :( I am so lonely, what would you say would be the best way for me?
This is sadly a very common issue. I suggest to just go out to the park or mall, some place where people gather and simply talk to others. It can start with a simple hello
One of my biggest fears is making a girl uncomfortable while approaching her. If i do it in a polite and respectful way is this something i should be worried about or no for tbe most part?
Honest Improvement, what do you say to the multitudes of women on Tiktok and UA-cam saying in no uncertain terms that they do NOT want to be approached?
My problem is, i think everyone doesn't want to be bothered. Doesn't help that i put myself in their situation (because i don't want to be bothered), years of cultural indoctrination up to and including social media. And as i get older, the less i want to deal with people. Well, you can't really meet people, let alone a potential spouse if you live out in the sticks and only deal with people as necessary like work or shopping
Apps have been the only place women will show interest and MAYBE even talk. It's extremely few and far in between but its still 1,000x more opportunities than happen in real life. In real life i might as well be invisible. I never see guys approaching women. And anytime women have talked about when it has happened to them, it seems like they always have aomething negative to say. Seems like the only guys that cold approach are guys with UA-cam channels lol.
Step 1) Don't live in the USA. If you do, move to a country with better, pedestrian friendly town infrastructure, made for people and not for cars. Makes the access to normal social life easier. 2) Don't stay home. Go out with friends. You'll eventually meet someone. They may or may not break your heart at the end, but even that's better than staying home/using apps.
@@IMAGE_NT_HEADERS But it's true. I don't get why and how Americans are ok with living that way in their weird spead apart long distance and car-dependent infrastructure. And their social and dating culture is yucky, compared to most European countries.
@@kurtslavain what you see online is not always reality; even most small towns have walkable downtown areas that are pretty easily accessible. Every big city has public transport. People online blow issues so out of proportion because it's cool nowadays to degrade your country for internet points. As for the culture thing, I cannot deny that it is pretty brutal on the coasts, but in middle America, people are still pretty normal for the most part.
@@kurtslavainbrotha the entire USA infrastructure isn’t like that where I’m at its very walkable to the point u can walk to the grocery store or the dog park and sidewalks everywhere everything kinda seems walking distance honestly
Guys, save 16 minutes of this video by compressing it into "Do cold approach". Yeah, works great for pretty boys. The rest of us average guys, average face, average tall, have equally no chance with cold approach as with dating apps.
Less than 30 seconds in and I feel like an old fart "Back in the old days we used to meet people" Not a cynic, just awesome, sad and melancholic(however you write this word) feeling about not having those things as natural anymore and having to ACTUALLY pursue them ACTIVELY today, knowing full well that there's LESS people hanging outdoors anyways and on their phone if they ever do go out... but we still gotta try
I'm complemented by women all the time but I've learned it kills a conversation to complement her looks or say you're attracted to her. Why? Hypergamy? Who knows, I don't have a female mind interpretor. So complement something personal like clothes or jewelry and that gets the point across but always keep her guessing or it's game over
i agree intrigue can add curiosity to conversation and keep people more engaged, however there is still something very attractive about a man who is able to "unashamedly" communicate his interest in a "i want you, but i dont NEED you" tone. i'm curious to hear more about your compliment interactions. where do you meet most of these women?
Just approach people in the course of your daily activities and start convos, including with pretty girls. It can be scary at first, but with repetition it becomes easier. I do not recommend dating apps. I have never used any. I of course have my phone on me but I am not dependent on it. In fact I rarely use it except to text or call someone to set up a meeting in person.
@dylanmoore6146 that's not a thing, in my mind. Like "bro, can you not see that I'm reading? Leave me alone." At least, that's how I see it. Everyone is just doing their thing and you're just interrupting
Honestly, just saying “Hi, I like your shoes” is enough to start it off. She’ll say thanks, you say you’re welcome, then ask if she’s from here. She will respond yes or no, and probably ask you. If she responds no, ask her what brings her to your city. Just basic small talk. Then ask for her name. She’ll say her name and ask what yours is, shake her hand and introduce yourself. Then say “want to grab a coffee sometime?” If she says yes, get her number. If she doesn’t want to, she’ll say she has a boyfriend. Just say okay no worries, take care. It really is that easy
What happens if I have anxiety and I get really nervous when approaching a girl and she just looks at me weird, or what if Idk what to say? Then what?.
@@pevebe I was married for 8 years and respect his wishes to wait and unfortunately ended up in divorce. Then Covid happened, so I wasn't fooling around. Don't come for me if you don't know the full story babe.
@@pevebe unfortunately sometimes we make bad choices thinking that the other person is going to keep his/her... but lessons we learned and even thou my biological clock is ticking I'm a huge believer and I have faith that I will find the right person this time.
@@pazgaiabeautydon’t listen to them they can’t critical think clearly. Just keep working at it and plenty of guys are in the same position at the same age. Just keep putting yourself out there and somebody is bound to see
U make it look like Charlie,on 2 1/2 men. Picking up women, maybe 1 for every night. Just like on of my ex. He went to the store every day,I think it's to look for women,when he was supposed to be with me . I found out when I recorded,when I was at work
Hello dear, thanks for sharing your experience but most likely this will not work for most of the guys for the following reasons: 1. You are white, ladies treat non-white either as a fetish if black or as a scary creature (that's just a fact engraved in western society until now) 2. You mentioned about Bulgaria, yes that's a different world sorta, try to randomly approach someone let's say in the UK or even worse in the US, some people actually were under cuffs just because he said "Oh you look so great today" - Harassment! do you really want to go behind jail just because you said hi to someone and most likely rules will be on her favour? 3. The issue with modern dating is not the apps, but the quality of people in general, dating apps accelerated the trend of attention seeking, meaningless interactions true, but so is social media too.
few quick notes 1: can't speak to this 2: i met my current girl doing this in the UK 3: social media isn't real life it portrays the most extreme whilst in reality people are still largely normal
And short, bald, brown dudes like myself are seen as disgusting rats by girls. No matter what you do. I've been through it man. Now 32 years old, not even one girl showed interest. In my culture getting married and having a family is really important. So right now I am a failure in the eyes of people around me, including my family. 😭 I noticed people don't respect me as much. I am now at the point of contemplating of ending it all. And no it has nothing to do with "confidence" and "being brave". If you get rejected 11 out of 10 times, for 32 years, at some point you must face the facts.
@@PSR91 Try to focus on yourself, and explain this to your family, yes family are important thing, and in my opinion still is, but now forming a family with someone so superficial does more harm than good. So you are really better off alone than being with someone who will get "bored" after two months and change brands :)
To me, the hardest part about dating is actually FINDING people. For example...
*Dating apps:* Unless you're attractive, forget it.
*The bar/club:* Way too expensive and ALWAYS too loud. Terrible place for flirting.
*College/university:* Unless you're a student or have a friend who can invite you to events, you're kind of screwed.
*The gym:* People DON'T want their workout interrupted. And if you get a reputation of asking people out, you might be considered a creep and banned from the gym altogether.
*Cafe:* People go there for peace and quiet. But I guess you can try asking out the barista.
*The park/nature:* People don't go out anymore. They work, go home, scroll on their phones, and stream content.
*Cold approaching:* Almost never works as people are naturally weary of strangers.
Forget looks, money, or confidence. Just finding places to meet people is a challenge in itself.
I agree with you for the most part except the last two you mentioned. cafes, yes although it’s a place people go for peace and quiet it wouldn’t be the end of the world if you take maybe 2-3 mins of someone’s day and if the interaction doesn’t go as well as you hoped you’ll have the piece of mind that you’ll literally never have to meet them again and somewhere like the park is is a great spot and there’s usually quite a bit of people when the weathers atleast half decent
Cold approachiing works trust me just be naturally social I went on 2 dates with a girl that I cold approached and it was alright lol
You’re making up social barriers. There’s no sign saying you cannot ask someone out in any of your examples
They dont look open to approach. @@harryreevesinchapter1313
@@harryreevesinchapter1313 for real if a woman wants you to approach her no matter where it is even if its a funeral go approach her
HONESTLY, One of the BEST videos I've seen on the subject, explains in EXTREME detail each path to meeting women (Approach, Friends, clubs) and gives excellent advice and examples on each one.
As for the fear of "What if they're gonna call the police or call me weird" I had that as well, and after approaching 14 girls since this Monday (4 days) I've had 0 interactions like that, worst I've got is aloof response and I moved on, learning from each interaction. This fear comes from being constantly online and listening to redpill videos, but once you ACTUALLY go out, you see there are way more nice, gentle and kind women around you than you ever expected.
*In a world where everyone is glued to dating apps, it’s refreshing to see advice on how to meet girls in real life. Social skills are so underrated these days, and this video really nails how to approach and connect authentically!*
I just wanted to say as a woman i agree with alot of this. Just going out more often to places regularly can help aswell (coffee shops, librarys, cafes) you can take a laptop and get some work done, read or draw (idk lol.) If you have a few things in your routine that gets you out of the house and around people (even if you go by yourself) your chances of seeing someone you want to approach will probably increase. Good video dude 😊👍
Hello beautiful how are you
How do you feel about men approaching you respectfully? Does it ever annoy you or are you always nice/flattered?
It’s so hard because our generation just barely talks to people anymore, and it seems like many have diminished social skills and even less motivation to talk to people. You used to have to talk to people to do anything, and talking to strangers was much more common, maybe even essential. There were no distractions either, you couldn’t bury your head in your phone. Kind of sucks how things are now. I wish our generation would just talk to each other just to talk.
@@LeeEverett1it's funny because I've actually never had anyone approach me lol. Just kind of goes to show that people don't talk to eachother anymore 😅... I'd say if someone was respectful when they approached me (asking if it's okay to sit next to me, asking if I'm busy before they try talking, ect) then I would be absolutely fine with it but you have to remember that it's just my opinion. Hope this helps!
@@Ryan-cb1eiyeah 😞. I'm kind of just hoping that the people who aren't like that will bump into people who aren't like that (If that makes any sense...)
9:45 - "It shouldn't be ignored just because it feels scary.".
Well said!
I'm sick of relying on dating apps. There are plenty of nice parks and museums in my area with tons of women seen by themselves, I need to get the balls to go talk to them.
hi Lee couldn't agree more dating apps are a trap and there's still plenty of ways to meet women in the real world. I basically walk people through that. Check this out...
www.honestimprovement.co.uk/
Agree, but it’s so difficult since we’re all not used to talking to random people here and there anymore. And it’s so easy to just bury your head in your phone.
@@Ryan-cb1ei That is a bad habit.
Force yourself to do it with all types of people, not just girls. Start conversations in general. It is scary at first, but with repetition it becomes easier.
@@HonestImprovementYT Cold approach is dead. Stop lying.
I think guys also underestimate how awkward women can be, especially now more than ever.
If you're not aware of this, you can think it's something you're doing wrong and fall back in your head and be awkward yourself.
Just keep that in mind.
Just ask her questions and get curious about what she’s interested in. Who knows maybe that will help.
I would say this advice is spot on from a woman's perspective. There are a lot of us out there wondering why men don't approach anymore and would love to be approached by someone kind and confident. At the very least, it's a bit of a social boost for both people and would leave a lasting impression.
I've been looking for a girlfriend for a while and I've thought about approaching girls but I just was always worried that they would feel uncomfortable and I never want to make a woman feel uncomfortable. Do you think that that's something I should be worried about or no?
@Jason-em8kr No. The times I've been approached I've never felt uncomfortable. In fact, I've always admired the courage it takes for a man to approach or offer a kind compliment. Every woman's different, but if you are genuine and sincere when you approach, it's not likely she'll be uncomfortable.
Plus, plenty of people chit chat with me when I'm in the grocery store or out running errands. Approaching a girl is no different than starting a conversation or offering an honest compliment. Or maybe just saying something funny or obvious. The majority of ladies would receive that well. We tend to make things bigger than they are if we overthink and worry. An approach doesn't have to be more than a kind word, and to this, most women are pretty open and accepting 😉
Cap all you girls nowadays just want Chad or Tyrone to approach you 😔
@@NewbieLoki not sure why you think I need to lie. But anyway, that's a defeatist mentality. You can think that but it's doing nothing to help you. And sure, there are probably some girls that only want to be approached by "a Chad or a Tyrone" but for most of us, confidence is enough to open the door.
@@lhughes6656bunch of crap
Video starts at 11:15
*courage is like a muscle, just keep working on it.* you do eventually get to the point where you ignore the anxiety of going up to girls and just start going up to random girls with out even thinking about it. Then the crazy part is it starts to work, you got this fellas!!!
The point on dating friends and friends of friends makes me laugh cause I deal with exactly what you talk about, I’ve got my main friends and then a handful of female friends who I wouldn’t date but friendly with, but my main friends don’t have other friends outside of that immediate circles, and my female friend’s friends are either not my people, taken, lesbian or not interested. It’s like a social bubble I haven’t been able to pop hahah
I like your style bud! Gonna go ahead and sub because anyone preaching this content needs to be heard. Great advice on approaching. I've done it too, it's one of the best confidence-building tools I've ever found - and yes, I've gotten dates with beautiful strangers this way. I call it "real-life swiping"
love that Nicholas, real-life swiping has got a nice ring to it!
I liked your video thanks man. Felt like a casual conversation with some honest straightforward advice
thanks Sergio, I appreciate the support!
I turned 23 a month ago now. Never had a girlfriend and I am on the verge of giving up. The years of loneliness and hopelessness are driving me to the edge of a cliff I don’t want to fall from…
I’ve been there bro and am still there. But I’m staring to care less and less as the days go. Get with your boys, they may have gfs that you could maybe get comfortable and ask for some advice or maybe they know somebody. If not hang out with the boys and move on, one day you will get there. That’s coming from a guy about the same age as you and in the same situation.
@@heckinbonk2269what if you don’t have any friends? I’ve tried having friends, but people have their own lives and everyone is busy.
Bud.... 43 here so don't worry about it, you're still embryo
I second the other two. 35 in February. Live for yourself and the bros. Accept your fate, and if you find someone at some point, it will be even sweeter
The painful feeling of none want you. And seeing others having happy relationships
To be fair when you are in a small town and you bike around no one is ever outside even in summer it’s impossible someone you’re age and in your town to see
I feel your honesty and sincerity, these words are music to my ears. Wow, surely this is the best conseil video I've seen lately.
I really needed to find this video, thank you for sharing! 🙏
"Abordagem clara, sem enrolação, ótima entonação da voz e bons conselhos, vídeo top demais"
English:
"Clear approach, no fuss, great voice intonation and good advice, great video"
0:42 - 1:36 - Story of EVERY guy after a break up summarized in less than a minute
Absolutely
I actually know more guys who are the opposite. I know 7 guys who went through a bad breakup and swore off dating entirely. I only know 2 who tried again and were successful. Myself, I refuse to use dating apps. I realize how much I want true love and I know that short flings will only hurt myself and make me numb. More likely to not find what I need
@@milktothefifthpower That is a valid response, just saying the majority of guys keep trying until they're burned so deeply they swear off dating like your friends did, but some of us realize we only have this life until we die so we say FK IT and keep trying because we only need 1 person for life
I hate approaching on the street. No one has the time to have a conversation. I know how to approach in a social setting though. The thing is that most of socialising is just college parties at bars where no one really knows no one and im by myself so it ends up in hookups.
What i miss is that my friend group would know another group and there would be girls there. There is none of that friendgroup mingling anymore
If you need a way to start a conversatiom, go to a girl (it works best when she is wearing a dress or something) and say:
"Hey, funny coincidence but I wanted to wear the exact same outfit today!"
Works every time😂
Just gotta be busy out doing stuff regulary, routinely and consistently- gym, sports clubs, art clubs, cafes, local bars, classes, etc. Social stuff in your daily routine
Never approach at the gym, duh
@@MrShaiya96 im not on about approaching in the gym. Im on about just being out of your house around other people as much as possible
@@MrShaiya96 why baby
@@aryan-s5t u don’t know? Been under a rock?
Money, money, money, money, time, time, time
Iam single for years. And I found its not because Iam ugly or cant talk with girls. Problem si WHERE. All the girls dissapear after school. I meen like one girl per year and if its not working Iam waiting for next oportunity for years.
1:21 not me getting a dating app ad right at this break 😂
WOW 6:45 is a TOTAL mind shift, I've never thought about it like that but it does make a lot of sense - After approaching a STRANGER, it's gonna be WAY easier to have SOMETHING, anything to hold onto that's a conversation starter, like being in the same job, class or party...
Great video, bruh. I’ve been going out a lot this year for once. I was clubbing, approaching girls, then slowing progressed to approaching girls outside the club space. And now I’m doing it without having a drink beforehand. What a revelation of an experience this year has been. Mostly duds & no’s. But have I got some good times times snuck in there. Still haven’t find my love yet, but I’ll be out tomorrow, on my off-day approaching. Wish me luck, brother
Incredible wisdom and perspective that I needed brother. Thank you
Omg I needed this video ! I am 26 years old and Ive been relying using dating apps and just getting frustration sadness yeah my self-esteem on the floor. Frustrated sad because I dont find a girlfriend. This really motivates me to try out of my comfort zone and meet people. However , what I can do because I dont have friends either :( I am so lonely, what would you say would be the best way for me?
This is sadly a very common issue. I suggest to just go out to the park or mall, some place where people gather and simply talk to others. It can start with a simple hello
Also fake/toxic people run wild on dating apps.
One of my biggest fears is making a girl uncomfortable while approaching her. If i do it in a polite and respectful way is this something i should be worried about or no for tbe most part?
You can't, you just have to be lucky
boutta get the huzz!!
Honest Improvement, what do you say to the multitudes of women on Tiktok and UA-cam saying in no uncertain terms that they do NOT want to be approached?
Exactly
My problem is, i think everyone doesn't want to be bothered. Doesn't help that i put myself in their situation (because i don't want to be bothered), years of cultural indoctrination up to and including social media. And as i get older, the less i want to deal with people. Well, you can't really meet people, let alone a potential spouse if you live out in the sticks and only deal with people as necessary like work or shopping
Apps have been the only place women will show interest and MAYBE even talk. It's extremely few and far in between but its still 1,000x more opportunities than happen in real life. In real life i might as well be invisible. I never see guys approaching women. And anytime women have talked about when it has happened to them, it seems like they always have aomething negative to say. Seems like the only guys that cold approach are guys with UA-cam channels lol.
Step 1) Don't live in the USA. If you do, move to a country with better, pedestrian friendly town infrastructure, made for people and not for cars. Makes the access to normal social life easier.
2) Don't stay home. Go out with friends. You'll eventually meet someone. They may or may not break your heart at the end, but even that's better than staying home/using apps.
Rent free.
@@IMAGE_NT_HEADERS But it's true. I don't get why and how Americans are ok with living that way in their weird spead apart long distance and car-dependent infrastructure. And their social and dating culture is yucky, compared to most European countries.
@@kurtslavain what you see online is not always reality; even most small towns have walkable downtown areas that are pretty easily accessible. Every big city has public transport. People online blow issues so out of proportion because it's cool nowadays to degrade your country for internet points. As for the culture thing, I cannot deny that it is pretty brutal on the coasts, but in middle America, people are still pretty normal for the most part.
@@kurtslavainbrotha the entire USA infrastructure isn’t like that where I’m at its very walkable to the point u can walk to the grocery store or the dog park and sidewalks everywhere everything kinda seems walking distance honestly
Guys, save 16 minutes of this video by compressing it into "Do cold approach".
Yeah, works great for pretty boys. The rest of us average guys, average face, average tall, have equally no chance with cold approach as with dating apps.
Love ur work bro absolute masterpiece ❤
Less than 30 seconds in and I feel like an old fart "Back in the old days we used to meet people"
Not a cynic, just awesome, sad and melancholic(however you write this word) feeling about not having those things as natural anymore and having to ACTUALLY pursue them ACTIVELY today, knowing full well that there's LESS people hanging outdoors anyways and on their phone if they ever do go out... but we still gotta try
The reason why Dating Apps are horrible is because of the fact that a lot of men act like total darn simps. We need to go back to the old methods!
great video bro
can you make an update do 2025? got here a bit late
Great video!
No. Not with autism. Not ever.
This is advice for people who don't need it, as usual.
I'm complemented by women all the time but I've learned it kills a conversation to complement her looks or say you're attracted to her. Why? Hypergamy? Who knows, I don't have a female mind interpretor. So complement something personal like clothes or jewelry and that gets the point across but always keep her guessing or it's game over
i agree intrigue can add curiosity to conversation and keep people more engaged, however there is still something very attractive about a man who is able to "unashamedly" communicate his interest in a "i want you, but i dont NEED you" tone.
i'm curious to hear more about your compliment interactions. where do you meet most of these women?
Just approach people in the course of your daily activities and start convos, including with pretty girls.
It can be scary at first, but with repetition it becomes easier.
I do not recommend dating apps. I have never used any.
I of course have my phone on me but I am not dependent on it. In fact I rarely use it except to text or call someone to set up a meeting in person.
sadly my daily activity is simething which ive never seen a girl my age do
@@climbrrr Where do you live?
@@VladislavBabbitt in hull
Apps are a waste of time
And money
Ok, so start talking to ladies out in the streets. But i feel like I'd just be interrupting people as they go by their day.
Go anywhere there will be ppl doing something where they’re not super focused or in a hurry lol
@dylanmoore6146 that's not a thing, in my mind. Like "bro, can you not see that I'm reading? Leave me alone." At least, that's how I see it. Everyone is just doing their thing and you're just interrupting
So just say ''Hi'' and then be silent, got it XD
Jokes aside, good advice!
Honestly, just saying “Hi, I like your shoes” is enough to start it off. She’ll say thanks, you say you’re welcome, then ask if she’s from here. She will respond yes or no, and probably ask you. If she responds no, ask her what brings her to your city. Just basic small talk. Then ask for her name. She’ll say her name and ask what yours is, shake her hand and introduce yourself. Then say “want to grab a coffee sometime?” If she says yes, get her number. If she doesn’t want to, she’ll say she has a boyfriend. Just say okay no worries, take care.
It really is that easy
I have aproached beautyfull girls ,but then is no in my city
What happens if I have anxiety and I get really nervous when approaching a girl and she just looks at me weird, or what if Idk what to say? Then what?.
2nd is my favourite option.
Any advice for women... in my case apps are a huge disappointment... and I'm turning 39 and feeling I'm running out of time
You've had over 20 years to make it happen, running out of time? You were out of time half a decade ago love
@@pevebe I was married for 8 years and respect his wishes to wait and unfortunately ended up in divorce. Then Covid happened, so I wasn't fooling around. Don't come for me if you don't know the full story babe.
@@pazgaiabeauty Unfortunate, but ultimately you chose your ex husband nobody else
@@pevebe unfortunately sometimes we make bad choices thinking that the other person is going to keep his/her... but lessons we learned and even thou my biological clock is ticking I'm a huge believer and I have faith that I will find the right person this time.
@@pazgaiabeautydon’t listen to them they can’t critical think clearly. Just keep working at it and plenty of guys are in the same position at the same age. Just keep putting yourself out there and somebody is bound to see
Never gonna happen. Unless a girl is open to it.
I use my imagination without being delusional.
U make it look like Charlie,on 2 1/2 men. Picking up women, maybe 1 for every night. Just like on of my ex. He went to the store every day,I think it's to look for women,when he was supposed to be with me
. I found out when I recorded,when I was at work
Jordan Peterson poster spotted 👌
you know it man! I saw him live in Manchester. Got to meet him too such a good experience
Start your own dating app where you can connect us coz many apps are all fraud am from kenya
Hello dear, thanks for sharing your experience but most likely this will not work for most of the guys for the following reasons:
1. You are white, ladies treat non-white either as a fetish if black or as a scary creature (that's just a fact engraved in western society until now)
2. You mentioned about Bulgaria, yes that's a different world sorta, try to randomly approach someone let's say in the UK or even worse in the US, some people actually were under cuffs just because he said "Oh you look so great today" - Harassment! do you really want to go behind jail just because you said hi to someone and most likely rules will be on her favour?
3. The issue with modern dating is not the apps, but the quality of people in general, dating apps accelerated the trend of attention seeking, meaningless interactions true, but so is social media too.
few quick notes
1: can't speak to this
2: i met my current girl doing this in the UK
3: social media isn't real life it portrays the most extreme whilst in reality people are still largely normal
I’m white female in the US and I cannot relate to what you’re saying here @ianjamesxxxx
And short, bald, brown dudes like myself are seen as disgusting rats by girls. No matter what you do.
I've been through it man. Now 32 years old, not even one girl showed interest.
In my culture getting married and having a family is really important. So right now I am a failure in the eyes of people around me, including my family. 😭 I noticed people don't respect me as much.
I am now at the point of contemplating of ending it all.
And no it has nothing to do with "confidence" and "being brave". If you get rejected 11 out of 10 times, for 32 years, at some point you must face the facts.
Of course you cannot relate, how would you relate to a guy's experience?
@@PSR91 Try to focus on yourself, and explain this to your family, yes family are important thing, and in my opinion still is, but now forming a family with someone so superficial does more harm than good. So you are really better off alone than being with someone who will get "bored" after two months and change brands :)
43 Year old virgin here
hey Michael, what do you think has been the biggest barrier to finding somebody to spend you life with?
@@HonestImprovementYT All the women that like me have been taken!
drag out the the thing as much as possible, this could have been a 2min vid
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