1. He initiates conversation. 2. He wants to see you 3. He desires to provide for you. Appears dependable 4. He wants to introduce you or bring you around friends/family 5. He's consistent
the only thing is even he did all of these things.. he has 4 children...with 2 exes.. too much drama at least u needed to stop this on going relationship
Thank you for sharing interesting 😊Best friends. It is a great start 👍 Men living in past and fear can risk loosing one in a million opportunitie can't live in hope all your life and empty promise it's not just man women can do the same
I don't know if you're able to see this and answer this. What if he's still seeing me but he's not asking me out on dates anymore? He has problems with money because an incident and couldn't take me out as much as before and that his responsibilities are a lot this time around. AITA for asking for his time?
This fits my best friend to a T. Until we figured it out that it was mutual. Now he's distant as hell and told me he's not interested in a relationship but that he really wants me as a friend and we can have sex if we want. 🤦🏼♀️ I just told him he can calm down because this isn't a race. If he needs time cool, if he wants his freedom first alright. I might not be available later on down the line but the world's way too crazy out there to not value a good friendship. Let's raise each other's bars so we don't end up in the bad relationships we fell for before! Let's see if he can manage it or if his insecurities are bigger than a strong three year long friendship through some of the worst times.
Met a man who showed all the non verbal cues of liking me. He moved slow. So slow. But we also worked together and neither of us wanted the office to know. I left that job. I thought it would help him approach me. Instead he was also courting another female, 30 years younger than him! Glad I wasn't at least humiliated openly. Gods redirection was my protection 😢
Truth is some people just don’t like being transparent. They’ll create a completely different senario and have you chasing your tail the entire time. My advice is just be upfront and let someone know what’s the deal. Instead of creating so many illusions and confusion. Which is a a sure way of deading the entire situation.
It's too bad people can't just be real wit each other. It's unfortunate that most dating these days requires some game playing, like, for what???🤷🏼♀️🤔
Describes my hubby to a T. He was slow moving but only because he’s very intentional and he thinks through everything a lot. These kind of men are the best because they’re usually not over friendly and offering any and everybody their time. They are worth your patience 💞
I’m in this now. The slowness felt uncomfortable for me, but it’s been sooo worth the wait. He’s a good man and is very intentional, and always shows up for me in meaningful ways. I’m so grateful ❤
I just thought of another sign that he is really into you even when he is not saying it. He REMEMBERS even little things you say and mention in conversation. He may even remember things you long forgot you said or were not even all that important to you, but he remembers them and brings them up in conversation.
If a man does not want to lose you, meaning.....if he can't picture life without you in it....he'll move mountains if he has to. That's just the reality of the situation. He will leave no stone unturned, & that's as real as it gets. In my humble opinion. Have a blessed Friday ya'll! ❤😉🙏🏾
I'm going to have to disagree, it depends on the season of life that man is in. If he was financially stable as yall date then his finances took a hit.. he no longer feel worthy of you and your love. He feel like you can do better and as much as he like you, express to his mom and sis you are the one, he will let walk away because he don't feel like he can support you financially. Date a man who finances, career and accomplishments are in check
My late hubby started as my best friend. He still paid if we went anywhere. He made sure that I was too prideful to ask for help, so we would show up at my job and give me lunch money. He kept my car clean. He helped with my child. He had a couple of girlfriends. For years my family would say that y'all are a couple y'all just don't know it. We had 16yrs of marriage before he passed away.
So many points given were literally my Relationship with this guy I’m seeing now. He moved like a turtle but now we are at a good point I look back and realized a lot of us rush into relationships without genuinely knowing these people and I can say this moving as slow as it did in the beginning has taught me so much about myself, my dating style, setting boundaries patience and tolerance. Would I wait for someone else this long? No but I don’t regret taking things slower with hik Because it yielded in great results and taught me a lot about Him
Well I think your case is rather the rare one. When I was younger I waited for a guy whome I loved for 9 months to see where we are going, being tolerant, patient, being also his friend along the way (we were romantically involved too) so just to happen after everything good I gave into this ,,relationship” he told me (after 9months) that he wasn’t sure still. Guy was playing me damn well using my love and good atributes I had for him. Now I am sure that when guy means seriously with a woman and is in love it will be just clear, no confusion or questions mark, he’ll be the chasers and woman won’t have to change herself in order for him to make a move or show that she is his priority. Now in my 30s I know this to be true.
Thank u..I am this spot right now....and he sometimes goes days b4 calling, and we've been seeing each other x 2 months and have had only a handful of dates...I am SO confused!
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ACTING OFF demonic traits...It's WILD!!!!!!!!!! My, guy pursued me, after our 1st date he would text me Good-morning beauty txts every morning, we linked up twice thereafter, I learned he's not looking for nothing "when u go looking for things u found them" this hurt my feelings because I learned this after he got my goodies (he initiated), Saturday he proposed me coming by so I could tlk to him bout why I was feelin indifferent; He rainchecked me. 3 days went by didn't heear from him! I called him to check on him and he ended the convo with I'll call u when I leave here. Checked my phone at one something and he texted talkin bout he got pulled over and they took the longest... I responded.. he never responded.. NEVER....
As a reserved slow moving man I really can't stand the comments in the comment section. "If he wanted to, he would", "if you're dating for X amount of time and he doesn't ask to be serious he doesn't want you". Like some of y'all need to lay off the gas and time frames and let things develop at their own pace
I totally agree. I’m dating a man that’s 11 years younger than me and he is very reserved and is moving very very slowly. He said he doesn’t want to just jump into a relationship. I like him enough to respect that. We’ve already been intimate and we enjoy that time with each other. I know he likes me and when I’m vocal about something he does that I don’t like, he always tries to make it right. I just take it as he takes getting into a relationship very seriously. As he should. I’m patient and living my life. I think women get hyper fixated on a particular man and stop their lives waiting on him to make a move. No. Don’t do that. Enjoy him when y’all are together but don’t wait for him to make a move. Live your life. If he takes you off the market, good. If not, you wouldn’t care anyway because you were too busy enjoying life
@@TilishaGYeah, she's just in denial. I'm constantly getting men 10 to 15 (even 18) years yonger than me interested. I don't fornicate. I wait until marriage. When they find that out, they immediately stop pretending that they like me. That's how you know a younger man just thinks you'll be easy because you're old and available. This lady's young man is only sticking around because she put out instead of having higher standards for herself. He is NOT moving slowly. He is using her.
Sometimes moving slow is a good thing because u can see if there's gone be a relationship, or any kind of connection before saying I'm sure glad I didn't sleep with that person sheesh😅
My man every day says to me good morning and he calls me every night. He's the most sweet person. He's a keeper ....I'm latina .I call him my gringo bonito .we are distance in a different city .he's traveling hours to see me .
If you've been going on dates for 3 months and he hasn't discussed entering into a committed relationship, he doesn't want one with you. You can bring up the conversation about commitment and hopefully he can provide a time-frame. Being real, just stop talking to him. He's full of crap and feels comfortable not being in a relationship with you. When a man wants you, he will lock you down and move with intentions. 3 months of dating, like a date per week is enough time.
True. I dated a guy who after like 2 dates was talking about being exclusive. Didn’t work out in the end but I was dealing with some other life trials where I couldn’t focus on a relationship.
I don’t mind going on a date with a guy continuously even if he hasn’t asked me out officially , so long as I’m not giving him the benefits of a girlfriend then I’m good , same with other guys that don’t wanna get committed with me…. I can only get so serious with a guy who’s so intentional about me and who’s ready to move mountains for me!!!!…. But the rest of the unserious guys that are just interested to take me out on a date, the relationship will be centred on Platonic level… period 🤌🤌🤌🤌
Eye opening. Never been in this situation up until the last few months.. I guess I’m giving him the benefit the doubt. But I don’t think I should be doing that.
A date per week is wild 😅😅 don't you have anything else to do apart from dates ?? What is happening in between?? Are you even trying to connect?? All these dates who is supposed to foot the bill?? Him?? If I were a man I'd be so tired of such a woman I wouldn't lock her down. 😅
Thank you for helping us to understand men, they can be not as communicative as we want and be insecure as well. When they are slow and the communication isn’t consistent, it feels that they don’t care or love you right. From their side they might even feel reluctant to show more as they don’t know how it comes across. In the end, if only we all could be more understanding, honest, vulnerable and open. We can all be complex, especially when feelings are involved. Nonetheless, keep sharing your knowledge and spreading positivity. We need more people like you who tries to connect and be more understanding towards one another.
My best friend shows all of these signs. To be entirely transparent, i know already. He's such a sweet and attentive guy but he is just so damn reserved. Not many people get to see his soft side thanks to his outward appearance. The guy acts like a walking mystery. I think it's a defensive mechanism, to guard himself so fully. He's got a heart of gold. He notices the little things, is always so respectful, intensely romantic, a bit strange, but fully himself and criminally under appreciated. He hasn't made a move yet, but i think it's gonna happen soon. Either he makes a move or i will, because I'm a patient lady, but i don't want to hurt him by not being direct and inviting in potential misunderstandings. I didn't think of him like that at all when we first started being friends, and then eventually best friends, but he's honestly surprised me in so many ways.
I hope we ain't sharing the same friend. This speaks perfectly of my closest male friend. Strange, weird, looks tough to the general public, but a sweet loving soul when it's just us. Not so many words. Thinks things through before acting. Respects me to a fault.
Slow can be very sexy!! Taking time for things to develop is underrated!! It also builds up the tension which can be very hottt when things do finally come together. Long, slow flirting…. No need to rush but keep it fun!
I have to politely disagree. In my experiences, if they’re not making moves, they’re just not that interested. They’re sticking around to see if things will change, but do you really want to waste your time? Just have the conversation early on and see if the level of interest you want is there. Just talk about it. And if it is then stick around and see if it’ll get better on the physical front. With all this dating advice out there, I’m really seeing that. it’s very situational. And it depends on the guy. We can’t box these men into one checkbox, it just isn’t gonna work.
He can be just shy, could have bad experience with physical intimacy, can be afraid of rejection, low self esteem etc... but still can be really interested.
@@jendabekCZI am going to politely disagree with you. When man is in love he’ll do anything for his object of love, he will prioritize her and she’ll know. No matter how shy he is, no matter even his painful past experiences (who doesn’t have them?), there is nothing that can stop man in love. When he isn’t but we want him to be in love with us (too), that’s when we make up arguments and excuses.
If a MAN wants you You won't have to guess You won't have to ask anyone Apply any techniques When man desire and truly love a woman, they move mountians for them.. If u are guessing...then he is just not into you We only need to accept this reality and move on.
At this stage of my life,,I listen my intuition and take action. I met a man, he started really well giving me attention, then he stared slow down. I felt frustrated 😣 and confused. I close my doors permanently. I don’t need that kind of men in my life…wish him the best, but far away from me.
Wow! This explains sooooo much about the budding relationship I have with an old friend. We disconnected for a little over 20yrs, then reconnected last summer. It's going SOOOO SLOW! But both of us have some major traumas in our pasts (he speaks about them, but without that "victim" tone), so this helps me to believe it's probably fear. I pray God can help me be the encouragement I need to be, without walking into a masculine role & trying to hurry him up! 😂
My exact story . We met in HS 25 yrs ago always crushed on each other kept in touch never the right time . We both had toxic relationship’s . And reconnected after . We are both healing he has greater fear and is moving very slow although the needle is moving . So I pray for patience. At times I fear I I’m playing myself but other times I know he is the one .
Similar story but my ex is dealing with health issues first. Meanwhile, we were communicating heavily and emotions are getting more involved. It was becoming torture so I decided to walk away and let him get his health together first. If it's meant to be it will be but my time and love is more valuable. I say, follow his lead bc if you push him, you will be pushing him the entire relationship and get frustrated. If he's not going at the pace you like, then I say move on. If he really wants you, he'll step up and if not, he'll let you leave. Be fine either way, and make room for the love of your life to enter at the right time. I feel if a man wants you he will let you know. Waiting around for him to decide if or when he really wants to lock you down is draining and you are worth more than that.
@BeautyQueen2023X avoidant attachments are never specific to a particular gender. The video is giving insight about men who display these characteristics… I know women who are fearful avoidant and typically express why to the men they are dating… I wish men would be more open to the women they date and how they feel.. there you have it both sides of the coin 🪙
I think this is my Current situation. I’m 21 and have been communicating with this guy (25) for about 6 months. He’s made it known that he’s hesitant to take the next step because he’s trying to finish school and work. But more specifically, his last relationship ended because he couldn’t be as present with his girlfriend as she wanted him to. Yesterday I tried to tell him that, if we’re in a relationship, I’m going into it knowing what he has going on and that, at times, I’d need to come second to his current goals and that I’m okay with that. He responded with saying that he didn’t want to go through “this” (breakup) again, and that I could easily say I could be okay with it now but eventually I’d want more and he wouldn’t be able to give it to me. I have strong feelings for him but I ended up blocking him last night. I think I made the right choice but I also have strong feelings for him.
@@jordyn.24 I can totally relate ! it’s such an emotional roller coaster when things like these are in the way of a true connection. I’m glad your honest and positive about you feelings .. sending love and light for 2024 🫶🏽
My man was all that, but I made it easy for him. I told him he deserves to be loved, and I was just going to love him no matter what he does, and now he's open and all over me. He says I make it so easy.
My question is, what type of green light is this type of man expecting us to give them to confirm we like them too? 🤔 These signs can be very confusing 😕
Scenarios where he still won't see you, even if he wants to: Depression Social anxiety He sees himself as someone, who can't provide He sees you are in higher level than him
If he "has a slow hand" he's either a commitment phobe, not that interested, and/or keeping his options open. Dont waste a lot of time on such men. Set a cutoff time for "talking" then leave when things inevitably stagnate or deteriorate. Aint nobody fot time for that mess! 😂
I appreciate, listening to the jewels that are dropped on us. I am in a situation with someone who I truly care about and they expressed that they care about me, but yet the person is super standoffish in many ways I tried to look at his pattern but his pattern is consistent. I pretty much know it to the tea and of course people can do their thing without you knowing and then on the other hand when the person is with me and I walk in the door, he can’t resist me and then I feel the connection so that’s where a lot of mixed signals come in for me. Generally I can disconnect myself from a person but I’m finding that I really care about this person so it’s made it a little harder and sometimes I’m even hesitant with asking questions because sometimes people continue to get frustrated or shut you out because they don’t want to answer your questions and it can be discouraging too. Single life can be lonely and trying to find a partner or companion whatever one you wanna call, it can be draining and emotional.
I’ve had a friend like this….yet he wouldn’t make his stance clear. So when I moved on & started to date someone else, he got deep off in his feelings. When my relationship ended, he made certain to come around and do things as if we were dating but when his feelings started getting involved, he backed off. I told him what he was doing and that I peeped that when his emotions gets involved , he backs up & it always blew up into an argument 🤷♀️. Can’t be going back and forth with inconsistency…. Ijs
See the thing is that, I’ve been dating this man for about 5 months. We practically talk to each other like we’re boyfriend and girlfriend. He’s consistent, he takes care of everything. But hasn’t made it official, so I’ve been assuming that he is taking it super slow, BUT why are we acting like we’re together without the actual title ? 😅 I’m not trying to overthink it because everything is going GREAT. He even mentioned that he is taking this situation as if he really is in a relationship and it’s only me. But why not make it official already? Lordddd
Just don't waste too much time hun. By now he should definitely know whether he actually wants to be with you. Give yourself a time limit. If he doesn't bring it up, then you bring it up. If he still doesn't want to commit, just literally DISAPPEAR. Give him time to see his life without you and see if he can come back with an actual commitment. Stephan and Tony Gaskins have videos on these kinds of situations. I wish you the best. 💜
@@pinkishdiamondz that’s what I’m thinking. I’m in no rush but I don’t want to gain too much feelings just yet, I think I need more reassurance from him also.
Just pressed play. Dated someone for almost 6 mos; big age gap. Had great times. Convo on point. So much in common, including spirituality. Unfortunately, I cut it off because I got the vibe that he saw me as a home girl. I can't figure men out. 🤷🏾♀️
Did you get a vibe you were a homegirl to him, or did you get confirmation from him? I ask bc you said you can't figure men out. If that's the case, you could have misread the situation.
@@chrysanthemums4963 A little of both. I told him from day 1 what I wanted; he did the same. I didn't want to start catching feelings so I pulled away. We'd be in the phone for hrs while we both worked. He went on a rant about someone he thought was planning to use him for free food unmatching with him. Then he went to a sneaker ball with someone; that wasn't an issue. It was the details he mentioned about the person who invited him. I've been down that road before. Men really don't understand that sometimes it's not them, it's the woman. Initially when I tokd him I was stepping away because I wanted something serious & he didn't, he seemed stunned. He said something like he heard me but he didn't know I was serious. I asked why would I be joking about that. There's an age gap & he has some maturing to do. I'm not obligated to stay til he does. It was just so disappointing because the connection & friendship was really good. Ironically, we both went to the event he invited me to go to for NYE, just separately. We've been texting, but I'm sure it's temporary.
Oh gosh I haven’t watched this yet but i go slow too, never the twain shall meet, but slow is sensitive, not needy, priorities, patience, knowing what I’m wanting to observe, allowing mind and body to agree and intention oriented. I’m out with the girls at the moment and will catch this later to see if there’s similarities. Single life is incredibly interesting 😂😂😂 Happy New Year to you all and all that you give to us @stephanspeaks
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My ex used to drive forever if he had to, anytime i wanted or needed something. Just to spend 5 minutes. It was wild! If i wanted to go to the store, or wanted someone to go with me somewhere. It was sweet i guess. To drive allll the way across town just to see somebody for 10 minutes lol🤪😁🖐🏾
6 signs he's into you but moving slow; ...........when all he does is watch stephan's videos!!! merry christmas stephan, i miss you....try to come to chicago next year...
So thankful for THIS video. It describes my current situation PERFECTLY. Met a guy 👦 9 mos ago. He initiates conversation in the eve/weekends. We banter back& forth. Shares things with me that aren't shared with others. He bought me a smart tv 📺 & electric fireplace for Christmas, but he's never asked me out. He's introduced me to his son & brother, and SIL. I don't know what to make of our relationship. I often wonder if my educational level [AAS, BSS, BSED, MAE] & achievements [author, educator, social worker] have intimidated him [he has a high school diploma]. That matters not to me. I'm confused. I care a LOT about him.
girl you have to talk to him what you guys are. He could be waiting for you to give him a proper signal. If you’ve communicated with him already, high chance he could be keeping his options open.
My man has adhd and he open up to me two months into dating and glad he did because it help me understand his adhd and we've been together for a year and three months. He moved slow and was direct at telling me he wants a commitment ❤
Hi. You are an awesome addition to my daily personal reflective moments. I have this from a man who just lost his wife last year. I like him but he said he needs time and that makes sense to me. Ive been looking through your videos for something to help me navigate this. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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Yes. They are very, very confusing! I realized this guy was only going out of his way to talk to me in person and not any other time. Still don’t know what that means as you didn’t address it in this video. I do know I need to leave it alone though.
I invited a girl out and she said that she got out of a relationship 5 months ago. I told her ok but I want you to know that not every men are the same. And I would like to get closer to her like to kiss her neck and touch her shoulders and y’all know but I’m scared of creeping her out and make her feel harassed and her to tell management about it and me getting fired. What should I do. And there are 2 other guys behind her. So idk what to do. 🤦♂️😂
This guy made a lot of time to text me (hours-long conversations that he would initiate), we made out, 3 weeks later his texting got more distant and I noticed him mildy flirting with another girl at work and confronted him about it. He said "we're hanging out." He showed so much interest in me (the texting got sexual many times) but when I asked him to hang out he made excuses and said he couldn't do anything serious right now and he didn't want to hurt me. Did he choose the other girl because it's more casual (he said "it's more casual than you think and she's moving out-of-state in the spring")? He's a dismissive avoidant. It almost feels like he's scared of our stronger emotional connection and with her he doesn't have to feel any pressure. I'm heartbroken.
Ooh this happened to me once, but I caught the game and shut it down asap. But I know this...I had to establish boundaries. Meaning... 1. no texting/talking after a certain time (for me after 9p. Anything after these hours opens the doors doors for #2). 2. No sexual talk at all! I've noticed from observation and example that men who frequently text and initiate s3xual convo are NOT INTERESTED IN YOU FOR RELATIONSHIP. They only want s3x and move on to the next. Hope this helps. ❤
@@alexdalton4535 I don't think he would spend so much time messaging me and saying he has a lot of respect and admiration for me if he wasn't into me?
Stephen, I’m glad you’re letting ladies know about us, men, taking it slow and the reasons why. Ladies on comment section, thank you for sharing about your husbands taking it slow before you married one another. For a minute I’ve thought I was mentally slow, but now I see what my friend told me before, “God created you this way, don’t let Satan make you think that way.” I have learned so much from her and I can tell she learned some from me. ❤️ Single ladies, thank you for understanding and being patient with the rest of us who want to have a respected relationship, a very valuable relationship. Those of us men refuse to be mixed with the boys in men’s bodies and narcissists. We refuse to be associated with human dogs. We refuse to. 🛡️
Thank You Stephan for this Video it helped me to understand my friend better he is a older gentleman we're eight years apart it's ok because he is old fashion & I love that about him
Same situation here bae...I have been frnds with him for 7month and he started having feeling for me and he opened up About it to me..I gave it time to think about it then after some time I said yes to dating him..but now his cool down and taking it slow...no text or call, seriously wat does that mean..Men be serious!!
Oof, I guess I need to stop looking so hard. These are the ones who are moving slow?? All of these seemed pretty obvious to me... lesson learned, if a guy likes me, it won't be hard to tell 😬
What is it when it’s going good with a new guy and he introduces to friends and it’s going well but one gets territorial with ME and starts to CLAIM me def trying to comes between us physically. And we were trying to be polite but circumventing the alpha friend. Very uncomfortable for both of us. I could tell. I had to leave and avoid the friend. I may see him again. When I do I’m going to tell him this situation. It was so JR high. Immature and the friend was not very intelligent and not my type at lol. A bit old school guy. Stunted. It’s really upset me and blew a good chance I think.
Been communicating with a guy in Europe for about 7 months. Tells me he’s involved in some messy situation at “his company” and can’t come here, he’s worried about his family (he has 2 young kids, 14 & 11). Says he’s a widower for 7 years, that he’s crazy about me, all the usual spew. I’ve offered to come to him he refuses saying the man has to come to the woman not her to him. I’ve played along with him, he hasn’t asked me for anything but neither has he given me anything. I’m thinking I need to kick him to the curb…either he’s married or a scammer. Any thoughts?
How do you define "sparingly" communicating or inconsistent communication? How would you categorize someone consistently messaging someone once to twice a week with just a few exchanges, basically just catching up on how the week's been? Would that fall under inconsistent? Most conversations are under the guy's initiative.
Phone calls tell it without fear. Conversational subjects define much. No phone conversations also say much. I.e. being overheard, secretive. Red flag! The dating scene is messed up. Phone conversations allow an exit or acceptance without drama. IMHO
Supposedly famous, texts daily morning and night, met through daughter, whom I had previously had video chat with. Things were moving along fine, and then there were changes in the set schedule of an in person meeting. The available meeting time changed due to him having a full schedule with no time on the horizon. I feel less hopeful of a successful relationship. I told him I need to see him soon. Whether I travel or he does, if only for a day. I'm about ready to shut it down. He said he was serious and wanted to marry me. He said the Lord told him that I was "The One".
OMG I can't stand the Swear Words....Hell is a Real Place. I guess I won't be able to listen to the content because I am offended by his "sidekicks." He acts like he is a Christian but there is a mixture of the demonic....demons swear and the some sort of Christian wording.
I don't understand the giving money part. Why on earth would I accept money from a guy who's interested in me or even a guy if he was my bf. It's so strange... I'm an adult with a job 💀 buying each other gifts on special occasions or taking turns paying for dates makes sense when money gets brought up but just randomly feeling entitled to another human beings hard earned $$ #somepeoplearenuts 😂😂
Dated 4 months, all is true but he is not good in communiating between the dates...when we meet its like we are a solid couple...but i want that talk also when we dont meet in person
Exactly I am in long distance relationship he gonna pay my ticket plane to meet 🙂 he asked to take things slow untill we meet and we are sure so i said yes we should slow down so thats the plan
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1. He initiates conversation. 2. He wants to see you 3. He desires to provide for you. Appears dependable 4. He wants to introduce you or bring you around friends/family 5. He's consistent
If he doesn’t tell me off the rip I’m not analyzing assuming or interpreting anything.
the only thing is even he did all of these things.. he has 4 children...with 2 exes.. too much drama at least u needed to stop this on going relationship
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It's so sweet when someone is interested in you.❤
Yes feels so good too ❤
Thank you for sharing interesting 😊Best friends. It is a great start 👍 Men living in past and fear can risk loosing one in a million opportunitie can't live in hope all your life and empty promise it's not just man women can do the same
I don't know if you're able to see this and answer this. What if he's still seeing me but he's not asking me out on dates anymore? He has problems with money because an incident and couldn't take me out as much as before and that his responsibilities are a lot this time around. AITA for asking for his time?
This fits my best friend to a T. Until we figured it out that it was mutual. Now he's distant as hell and told me he's not interested in a relationship but that he really wants me as a friend and we can have sex if we want. 🤦🏼♀️ I just told him he can calm down because this isn't a race. If he needs time cool, if he wants his freedom first alright. I might not be available later on down the line but the world's way too crazy out there to not value a good friendship. Let's raise each other's bars so we don't end up in the bad relationships we fell for before! Let's see if he can manage it or if his insecurities are bigger than a strong three year long friendship through some of the worst times.
Met a man who showed all the non verbal cues of liking me. He moved slow. So slow. But we also worked together and neither of us wanted the office to know. I left that job. I thought it would help him approach me. Instead he was also courting another female, 30 years younger than him! Glad I wasn't at least humiliated openly. Gods redirection was my protection 😢
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
See this is what I worry about: him being slow with me and fast with someone else
Truth is some people just don’t like being transparent. They’ll create a completely different senario and have you chasing your tail the entire time. My advice is just be upfront and let someone know what’s the deal. Instead of creating so many illusions and confusion. Which is a a sure way of deading the entire situation.
Y did u leave the job?
instead of worrying about that, enjoy the guy going fast with you and slow with others @@drnyashamercy
It's too bad people can't just be real wit each other. It's unfortunate that most dating these days requires some game playing, like, for what???🤷🏼♀️🤔
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
My point has always been this.
This comment here!!! 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
That part!!
Shyness. Insecure. Scared. Fear of rejection.
It is a simple gut feeling if someone likes you know❤
You will see it
You will feel it
You will know it
Be wise Protect your Heart Mind and Soul 🙏🏾
True.
Yeh but gut feeling can't determine the degree to which someone wants u or their exact intentions
@@EspritArkitektanother great point! They might want the Fringe benefits only!!!!
Every situation is different and gut feelings are real. When you know you know.
Always important to listen to your intuition
Describes my hubby to a T. He was slow moving but only because he’s very intentional and he thinks through everything a lot. These kind of men are the best because they’re usually not over friendly and offering any and everybody their time. They are worth your patience 💞
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I’m in this now. The slowness felt uncomfortable for me, but it’s been sooo worth the wait. He’s a good man and is very intentional, and always shows up for me in meaningful ways. I’m so grateful ❤
@@Coral781 he’s a good man Savannah ! lol
Slow but stable and consistent.
Same!
I just thought of another sign that he is really into you even when he is not saying it. He REMEMBERS even little things you say and mention in conversation. He may even remember things you long forgot you said or were not even all that important to you, but he remembers them and brings them up in conversation.
Narracist and sociopaths do that too!!!! I married one!!! They even fool shrinks!!! An educated one is even more dangerous!
❤ That's true, and that says alit about a man if he really does remember everything you ever said or told him.
So basically I just need to be patient and stop overthinking.
If a man does not want to lose you, meaning.....if he can't picture life without you in it....he'll move mountains if he has to. That's just the reality of the situation. He will leave no stone unturned, & that's as real as it gets. In my humble opinion. Have a blessed Friday ya'll! ❤😉🙏🏾
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Thank you. They need to grow up!!
🔥🎯🔥 it a simple gut feeling if someone likes you know❤
Damn right they do and it’s a shame.
I'm going to have to disagree, it depends on the season of life that man is in. If he was financially stable as yall date then his finances took a hit.. he no longer feel worthy of you and your love. He feel like you can do better and as much as he like you, express to his mom and sis you are the one, he will let walk away because he don't feel like he can support you financially.
Date a man who finances, career and accomplishments are in check
My late hubby started as my best friend. He still paid if we went anywhere. He made sure that I was too prideful to ask for help, so we would show up at my job and give me lunch money. He kept my car clean. He helped with my child. He had a couple of girlfriends. For years my family would say that y'all are a couple y'all just don't know it. We had 16yrs of marriage before he passed away.
So many points given were literally my
Relationship with this guy I’m seeing now. He moved like a turtle but now we are at a good point I look back and realized a lot of us rush into relationships without genuinely knowing these people and I can say this moving as slow as it did in the beginning has taught me so much about myself, my dating style, setting boundaries patience and tolerance. Would I wait for someone else this long? No but I don’t regret taking things slower with hik
Because it yielded in great results and taught me a lot about
Him
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Well I think your case is rather the rare one. When I was younger I waited for a guy whome I loved for 9 months to see where we are going, being tolerant, patient, being also his friend along the way (we were romantically involved too) so just to happen after everything good I gave into this ,,relationship” he told me (after 9months) that he wasn’t sure still. Guy was playing me damn well using my love and good atributes I had for him. Now I am sure that when guy means seriously with a woman and is in love it will be just clear, no confusion or questions mark, he’ll be the chasers and woman won’t have to change herself in order for him to make a move or show that she is his priority. Now in my 30s I know this to be true.
Thank u..I am this spot right now....and he sometimes goes days b4 calling, and we've been seeing each other x 2 months and have had only a handful of dates...I am SO confused!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you! Update we are now in a committed relationship.
Great information thank you for sharing 😊God Bless you both for amazing life together 🙏🏻
*A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.*
So true.. Walking on an eggshell is HELL !!!!
Freedom and love go hand in hand.. I think I got it from Osho
Dating world is so difficult these days.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
ACTING OFF demonic traits...It's WILD!!!!!!!!!! My, guy pursued me, after our 1st date he would text me Good-morning beauty txts every morning, we linked up twice thereafter, I learned he's not looking for nothing "when u go looking for things u found them" this hurt my feelings because I learned this after he got my goodies (he initiated), Saturday he proposed me coming by so I could tlk to him bout why I was feelin indifferent; He rainchecked me. 3 days went by didn't heear from him! I called him to check on him and he ended the convo with I'll call u when I leave here. Checked my phone at one something and he texted talkin bout he got pulled over and they took the longest... I responded.. he never responded.. NEVER....
It’s best to be friends first… Iam in no hurry, I gotta make sure you’re actually what I want
100%
Smart
As a reserved slow moving man I really can't stand the comments in the comment section. "If he wanted to, he would", "if you're dating for X amount of time and he doesn't ask to be serious he doesn't want you". Like some of y'all need to lay off the gas and time frames and let things develop at their own pace
I totally agree. I’m dating a man that’s 11 years younger than me and he is very reserved and is moving very very slowly. He said he doesn’t want to just jump into a relationship. I like him enough to respect that. We’ve already been intimate and we enjoy that time with each other. I know he likes me and when I’m vocal about something he does that I don’t like, he always tries to make it right. I just take it as he takes getting into a relationship very seriously. As he should. I’m patient and living my life. I think women get hyper fixated on a particular man and stop their lives waiting on him to make a move. No. Don’t do that. Enjoy him when y’all are together but don’t wait for him to make a move. Live your life. If he takes you off the market, good. If not, you wouldn’t care anyway because you were too busy enjoying life
@@Darkempress45moving very slowly but already been intimate is wild 😂
@@TilishaGYeah, she's just in denial. I'm constantly getting men 10 to 15 (even 18) years yonger than me interested. I don't fornicate. I wait until marriage. When they find that out, they immediately stop pretending that they like me. That's how you know a younger man just thinks you'll be easy because you're old and available. This lady's young man is only sticking around because she put out instead of having higher standards for herself. He is NOT moving slowly. He is using her.
@@TilishaGSo true
@@Darkempress45Sis, I did this with my ex. It wasn't worth it. Guy was only into me physically & only wanted that intimate connection
Sometimes moving slow is a good thing because u can see if there's gone be a relationship, or any kind of connection before saying I'm sure glad I didn't sleep with that person sheesh😅
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏🏼
@@MeetStephanSpeaks U,Very Welcome!
No sex before marriage!!!!!
My man every day says to me good morning and he calls me every night. He's the most sweet person. He's a keeper ....I'm latina .I call him my gringo bonito .we are distance in a different city .he's traveling hours to see me .
Im so sick of this crap lol its a game and i hate games like this 🤦🏾♀️
If you've been going on dates for 3 months and he hasn't discussed entering into a committed relationship, he doesn't want one with you. You can bring up the conversation about commitment and hopefully he can provide a time-frame. Being real, just stop talking to him. He's full of crap and feels comfortable not being in a relationship with you. When a man wants you, he will lock you down and move with intentions. 3 months of dating, like a date per week is enough time.
True. I dated a guy who after like 2 dates was talking about being exclusive. Didn’t work out in the end but I was dealing with some other life trials where I couldn’t focus on a relationship.
I don’t mind going on a date with a guy continuously even if he hasn’t asked me out officially , so long as I’m not giving him the benefits of a girlfriend then I’m good , same with other guys that don’t wanna get committed with me…. I can only get so serious with a guy who’s so intentional about me and who’s ready to move mountains for me!!!!…. But the rest of the unserious guys that are just interested to take me out on a date, the relationship will be centred on Platonic level… period 🤌🤌🤌🤌
Eye opening. Never been in this situation up until the last few months.. I guess I’m giving him the benefit the doubt. But I don’t think I should be doing that.
A date per week is wild 😅😅 don't you have anything else to do apart from dates ?? What is happening in between?? Are you even trying to connect?? All these dates who is supposed to foot the bill?? Him?? If I were a man I'd be so tired of such a woman I wouldn't lock her down. 😅
I wish this was my problem. I have never met a man that would go super slow 😂 I would love that.
🙏 ❤️
Thank you for helping us to understand men, they can be not as communicative as we want and be insecure as well. When they are slow and the communication isn’t consistent, it feels that they don’t care or love you right. From their side they might even feel reluctant to show more as they don’t know how it comes across. In the end, if only we all could be more understanding, honest, vulnerable and open. We can all be complex, especially when feelings are involved. Nonetheless, keep sharing your knowledge and spreading positivity. We need more people like you who tries to connect and be more understanding towards one another.
Glad I could help 🙏
When she's into him✅️😍 It's better to have loved❤. He should pray & make that move 😊
Women are even less communicative expecting that their man will figure it out
My best friend shows all of these signs. To be entirely transparent, i know already. He's such a sweet and attentive guy but he is just so damn reserved. Not many people get to see his soft side thanks to his outward appearance. The guy acts like a walking mystery. I think it's a defensive mechanism, to guard himself so fully. He's got a heart of gold. He notices the little things, is always so respectful, intensely romantic, a bit strange, but fully himself and criminally under appreciated.
He hasn't made a move yet, but i think it's gonna happen soon. Either he makes a move or i will, because I'm a patient lady, but i don't want to hurt him by not being direct and inviting in potential misunderstandings.
I didn't think of him like that at all when we first started being friends, and then eventually best friends, but he's honestly surprised me in so many ways.
I hope we ain't sharing the same friend. This speaks perfectly of my closest male friend. Strange, weird, looks tough to the general public, but a sweet loving soul when it's just us. Not so many words. Thinks things through before acting. Respects me to a fault.
I wont be patient, I mean you have one life you shouldnt wait for anybody
Slow can be very sexy!! Taking time for things to develop is underrated!! It also builds up the tension which can be very hottt when things do finally come together. Long, slow flirting…. No need to rush but keep it fun!
I have to politely disagree. In my experiences, if they’re not making moves, they’re just not that interested. They’re sticking around to see if things will change, but do you really want to waste your time? Just have the conversation early on and see if the level of interest you want is there. Just talk about it. And if it is then stick around and see if it’ll get better on the physical front. With all this dating advice out there, I’m really seeing that. it’s very situational. And it depends on the guy. We can’t box these men into one checkbox, it just isn’t gonna work.
He can be just shy, could have bad experience with physical intimacy, can be afraid of rejection, low self esteem etc... but still can be really interested.
I absolutely agree with you!!!🙌🙌🙌
@@jendabekCZI am going to politely disagree with you. When man is in love he’ll do anything for his object of love, he will prioritize her and she’ll know. No matter how shy he is, no matter even his painful past experiences (who doesn’t have them?), there is nothing that can stop man in love. When he isn’t but we want him to be in love with us (too), that’s when we make up arguments and excuses.
If a MAN wants you
You won't have to guess
You won't have to ask anyone
Apply any techniques
When man desire and truly love a woman, they move mountians for them..
If u are guessing...then he is just not into you
We only need to accept this reality and move on.
Why be interested in broken? That's for sure to fail. He's not healed and will bring everything u described him to be onto u.@jendabekCZ
At this stage of my life,,I listen my intuition and take action. I met a man, he started really well giving me attention, then he stared slow down. I felt frustrated 😣 and confused. I close my doors permanently. I don’t need that kind of men in my life…wish him the best, but far away from me.
AMEN!! Women have to be willing to walk away and not settle. Know your worth!
Most times they are married when they act like that
Wow! This explains sooooo much about the budding relationship I have with an old friend. We disconnected for a little over 20yrs, then reconnected last summer. It's going SOOOO SLOW! But both of us have some major traumas in our pasts (he speaks about them, but without that "victim" tone), so this helps me to believe it's probably fear. I pray God can help me be the encouragement I need to be, without walking into a masculine role & trying to hurry him up! 😂
My exact story . We met in HS 25 yrs ago always crushed on each other kept in touch never the right time . We both had toxic relationship’s . And reconnected after . We are both healing he has greater fear and is moving very slow although the needle is moving . So I pray for patience. At times I fear I I’m playing myself but other times I know he is the one .
Similar story but my ex is dealing with health issues first. Meanwhile, we were communicating heavily and emotions are getting more involved. It was becoming torture so I decided to walk away and let him get his health together first. If it's meant to be it will be but my time and love is more valuable. I say, follow his lead bc if you push him, you will be pushing him the entire relationship and get frustrated. If he's not going at the pace you like, then I say move on. If he really wants you, he'll step up and if not, he'll let you leave. Be fine either way, and make room for the love of your life to enter at the right time. I feel if a man wants you he will let you know. Waiting around for him to decide if or when he really wants to lock you down is draining and you are worth more than that.
Some men are genuinely afraid 😢… but this fear risk the whole relationship 🥺
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
@BeautyQueen2023X avoidant attachments are never specific to a particular gender. The video is giving insight about men who display these characteristics… I know women who are fearful avoidant and typically express why to the men they are dating… I wish men would be more open to the women they date and how they feel.. there you have it both sides of the coin 🪙
I think this is my Current situation. I’m 21 and have been communicating with this guy (25) for about 6 months. He’s made it known that he’s hesitant to take the next step because he’s trying to finish school and work. But more specifically, his last relationship ended because he couldn’t be as present with his girlfriend as she wanted him to. Yesterday I tried to tell him that, if we’re in a relationship, I’m going into it knowing what he has going on and that, at times, I’d need to come second to his current goals and that I’m okay with that. He responded with saying that he didn’t want to go through “this” (breakup) again, and that I could easily say I could be okay with it now but eventually I’d want more and he wouldn’t be able to give it to me. I have strong feelings for him but I ended up blocking him last night. I think I made the right choice but I also have strong feelings for him.
@@jordyn.24 I can totally relate ! it’s such an emotional roller coaster when things like these are in the way of a true connection. I’m glad your honest and positive about you feelings .. sending love and light for 2024 🫶🏽
@@glamour127 That means more to me than you’ll ever know. I hope your 2024 is filled with love and light as well.❤️
This helped me a bit to understand long distance relationships. Thank you !
Glad I could help 🙏
My man was all that, but I made it easy for him. I told him he deserves to be loved, and I was just going to love him no matter what he does, and now he's open and all over me. He says I make it so easy.
My question is, what type of green light is this type of man expecting us to give them to confirm we like them too? 🤔 These signs can be very confusing 😕
Yes Stephan!!! Actions speak louder than words
Most definitely!
Scenarios where he still won't see you, even if he wants to:
Depression
Social anxiety
He sees himself as someone, who can't provide
He sees you are in higher level than him
Is this you feeling this way?
What do you mean higher level
Like he can’t provide you anything because u already have more than him
If he "has a slow hand" he's either a commitment phobe, not that interested, and/or keeping his options open.
Dont waste a lot of time on such men. Set a cutoff time for "talking" then leave when things inevitably stagnate or deteriorate.
Aint nobody fot time for that mess! 😂
Can you please do videos for that of us with young kids and how to move on in these situations
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
He did all of this for a while…then ghosted. Known him for 17 years and always expressed attraction, so I’m all the way confused about his actions.
I appreciate, listening to the jewels that are dropped on us. I am in a situation with someone who I truly care about and they expressed that they care about me, but yet the person is super standoffish in many ways I tried to look at his pattern but his pattern is consistent. I pretty much know it to the tea and of course people can do their thing without you knowing and then on the other hand when the person is with me and I walk in the door, he can’t resist me and then I feel the connection so that’s where a lot of mixed signals come in for me. Generally I can disconnect myself from a person but I’m finding that I really care about this person so it’s made it a little harder and sometimes I’m even hesitant with asking questions because sometimes people continue to get frustrated or shut you out because they don’t want to answer your questions and it can be discouraging too. Single life can be lonely and trying to find a partner or companion whatever one you wanna call, it can be draining and emotional.
Omg Like a sermon at church , this was right on time! Thank you Stephan
But I feel like it ended prematurely! Was there more? @stephanspeaks
I’ve had a friend like this….yet he wouldn’t make his stance clear. So when I moved on & started to date someone else, he got deep off in his feelings. When my relationship ended, he made certain to come around and do things as if we were dating but when his feelings started getting involved, he backed off. I told him what he was doing and that I peeped that when his emotions gets involved , he backs up & it always blew up into an argument 🤷♀️. Can’t be going back and forth with inconsistency…. Ijs
🎉Stephan is sexy chocolate!!!😊 🍫
See the thing is that, I’ve been dating this man for about 5 months. We practically talk to each other like we’re boyfriend and girlfriend. He’s consistent, he takes care of everything. But hasn’t made it official, so I’ve been assuming that he is taking it super slow, BUT why are we acting like we’re together without the actual title ? 😅 I’m not trying to overthink it because everything is going GREAT. He even mentioned that he is taking this situation as if he really is in a relationship and it’s only me. But why not make it official already? Lordddd
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
Same story sis. Going into month 4. He is everything, but he is not for titles! I’m going to give it a little time and then move on!
Just don't waste too much time hun. By now he should definitely know whether he actually wants to be with you. Give yourself a time limit. If he doesn't bring it up, then you bring it up. If he still doesn't want to commit, just literally DISAPPEAR. Give him time to see his life without you and see if he can come back with an actual commitment. Stephan and Tony Gaskins have videos on these kinds of situations. I wish you the best. 💜
@@dr.kimbrough4506Not for titles or not for accountability? Don't let him drag you. Best wishes.💜
@@pinkishdiamondz that’s what I’m thinking. I’m in no rush but I don’t want to gain too much feelings just yet, I think I need more reassurance from him also.
Ughh i have the worst luck with men. Its always just sexual and that hurts 😕
Heavy on the confusing as hell
Just pressed play. Dated someone for almost 6 mos; big age gap. Had great times. Convo on point. So much in common, including spirituality. Unfortunately, I cut it off because I got the vibe that he saw me as a home girl. I can't figure men out. 🤷🏾♀️
I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
I feel you on this one
Did you get a vibe you were a homegirl to him, or did you get confirmation from him? I ask bc you said you can't figure men out. If that's the case, you could have misread the situation.
@@chrysanthemums4963 A little of both. I told him from day 1 what I wanted; he did the same. I didn't want to start catching feelings so I pulled away. We'd be in the phone for hrs while we both worked. He went on a rant about someone he thought was planning to use him for free food unmatching with him. Then he went to a sneaker ball with someone; that wasn't an issue. It was the details he mentioned about the person who invited him. I've been down that road before. Men really don't understand that sometimes it's not them, it's the woman. Initially when I tokd him I was stepping away because I wanted something serious & he didn't, he seemed stunned. He said something like he heard me but he didn't know I was serious. I asked why would I be joking about that. There's an age gap & he has some maturing to do. I'm not obligated to stay til he does. It was just so disappointing because the connection & friendship was really good. Ironically, we both went to the event he invited me to go to for NYE, just separately. We've been texting, but I'm sure it's temporary.
What does home girl mean?
Oh gosh I haven’t watched this yet but i go slow too, never the twain shall meet, but slow is sensitive, not needy, priorities, patience, knowing what I’m wanting to observe, allowing mind and body to agree and intention oriented. I’m out with the girls at the moment and will catch this later to see if there’s similarities. Single life is incredibly interesting 😂😂😂 Happy New Year to you all and all that you give to us @stephanspeaks
Happy New Year
This video came right on time when I needed this clarification
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Stephan, I thank GOD for you. You have blessed my life in many ways. I hope to meet you one day to show my gratitude. Keep up the great work for GOD in JESUS CHRIST. Love you!❤🥰🙏🏽
This is off topic...I love seeing how in Kingdom marriages they get pregnant fast. Call me weird but I love it. It's beautiful! GOD IS SO GOOD. THANK JESUS!❤️
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks, You're welcome! Aaww, thank you! You're in my prayers.❤️
Interesting video….. however you’re right it can be confusing at time and other times it’s not. 🙏🏾
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching and sharing, I appreciate your feedback!
My ex used to drive forever if he had to, anytime i wanted or needed something. Just to spend 5 minutes. It was wild! If i wanted to go to the store, or wanted someone to go with me somewhere. It was sweet i guess. To drive allll the way across town just to see somebody for 10 minutes lol🤪😁🖐🏾
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
See that's how you know they like you
Was there sex involved??
So what happened?
Mine too, my ex high school sweet heart
6 signs he's into you but moving slow; ...........when all he does is watch stephan's videos!!!
merry christmas stephan, i miss you....try to come to chicago next year...
Merry Christmas. I will consider that!
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I like moving slow. It is so exciting. We haven't discussed age or kids yet.
So thankful for THIS video. It describes my current situation PERFECTLY.
Met a guy 👦 9 mos ago. He initiates conversation in the eve/weekends. We banter back& forth. Shares things with me that aren't shared with others.
He bought me a smart tv 📺 & electric fireplace for Christmas, but he's never asked me out. He's introduced me to his son & brother, and SIL.
I don't know what to make of our relationship. I often wonder if my educational level [AAS, BSS, BSED, MAE] & achievements [author, educator, social worker] have intimidated him [he has a high school diploma]. That matters not to me.
I'm confused. I care a LOT about him.
You'll find my video on why men are intimidated by you informative. Check it out here 👉 ua-cam.com/video/FJ-4Kh0tkYA/v-deo.html
Why doesn’t he communicate during the daytime?
@laus7987 He does that too in between his work schedule.
Ask him straight..wat u guys are period!
girl you have to talk to him what you guys are. He could be waiting for you to give him a proper signal. If you’ve communicated with him already, high chance he could be keeping his options open.
Yes, we need to just admit it. When men and women are friends, very often one or the other is interested. Stephan is being super real and he is right.
My man has adhd and he open up to me two months into dating and glad he did because it help me understand his adhd and we've been together for a year and three months. He moved slow and was direct at telling me he wants a commitment ❤
Hi. You are an awesome addition to my daily personal reflective moments.
I have this from a man who just lost his wife last year. I like him but he said he needs time and that makes sense to me. Ive been looking through your videos for something to help me navigate this. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
You'll find my video on how to heal with a man in a relationship or while dating to be helpful. Check it out here 👉 ua-cam.com/video/7G9n0OVMG_Q/v-deo.html
Last year😂 you been eyeing him or something
If a man really loves a woman, he wont remind her of her past, qnd he will do anything to protect he, and not ket old friends cone back around
If he’s into me he’ll show me. If he isn’t I’ll be left wondering how he feels. Understanding men takes more energy than being with a man
Yes. They are very, very confusing! I realized this guy was only going out of his way to talk to me in person and not any other time. Still don’t know what that means as you didn’t address it in this video. I do know I need to leave it alone though.
The one i got, he's moving slow, but keeps looking at my profile everyday.
I invited a girl out and she said that she got out of a relationship 5 months ago. I told her ok but I want you to know that not every men are the same. And I would like to get closer to her like to kiss her neck and touch her shoulders and y’all know but I’m scared of creeping her out and make her feel harassed and her to tell management about it and me getting fired. What should I do. And there are 2 other guys behind her. So idk what to do. 🤦♂️😂
This guy made a lot of time to text me (hours-long conversations that he would initiate), we made out, 3 weeks later his texting got more distant and I noticed him mildy flirting with another girl at work and confronted him about it. He said "we're hanging out." He showed so much interest in me (the texting got sexual many times) but when I asked him to hang out he made excuses and said he couldn't do anything serious right now and he didn't want to hurt me. Did he choose the other girl because it's more casual (he said "it's more casual than you think and she's moving out-of-state in the spring")? He's a dismissive avoidant. It almost feels like he's scared of our stronger emotional connection and with her he doesn't have to feel any pressure. I'm heartbroken.
Ooh this happened to me once, but I caught the game and shut it down asap. But I know this...I had to establish boundaries. Meaning...
1. no texting/talking after a certain time (for me after 9p. Anything after these hours opens the doors doors for #2).
2. No sexual talk at all!
I've noticed from observation and example that men who frequently text and initiate s3xual convo are NOT INTERESTED IN YOU FOR RELATIONSHIP. They only want s3x and move on to the next.
Hope this helps. ❤
@@chrysanthemums4963 Thank you, at least I will know to watch out for this now in the future.
He's not that into you
@@alexdalton4535 I don't think he would spend so much time messaging me and saying he has a lot of respect and admiration for me if he wasn't into me?
He doesn’t like you that much
Gon' put it out there...confusing is an understatement...but nonetheless, I'll listen to your take on it!🤔😏
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Stephan, you shared some very valuable points & insights. 👏🏾
Glad I could help 🙏
No one is into me and I don't care shame
Women REALLY need to ask this question:
"Am I ONLY looking for Superman or neglecting and avoiding Clark Kent?"
Which one is it?
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you shouldnt do anything like that to highly sought-after woman. she doesn't entertain
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Stephen, I’m glad you’re letting ladies know about us, men, taking it slow and the reasons why.
Ladies on comment section, thank you for sharing about your husbands taking it slow before you married one another. For a minute I’ve thought I was mentally slow, but now I see what my friend told me before, “God created you this way, don’t let Satan make you think that way.” I have learned so much from her and I can tell she learned some from me. ❤️
Single ladies, thank you for understanding and being patient with the rest of us who want to have a respected relationship, a very valuable relationship.
Those of us men refuse to be mixed with the boys in men’s bodies and narcissists. We refuse to be associated with human dogs. We refuse to. 🛡️
Lol okay this guy definitely doesn’t like me 😂😭
Thank You Stephan for this Video it helped me to understand my friend better he is a older gentleman we're eight years apart it's ok because he is old fashion & I love that about him
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
I don't know what brought me here , I am supposed to study for my chemistry exam 😅
Oh yes, this is my situation now thank you so much for this wise advice💯
I have a man that does all of this. We've been at it for less than a year & he's already wanting to move forward forward & I'm a lil scared 😂
Same situation here bae...I have been frnds with him for 7month and he started having feeling for me and he opened up About it to me..I gave it time to think about it then after some time I said yes to dating him..but now his cool down and taking it slow...no text or call, seriously wat does that mean..Men be serious!!
@@brendyshayhe loss interest
You can say that again Stephan.. very confusing as hell and you are like 😒😒
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I know a married man that shown interest in (he and) his sister's friend 👀
I don’t want him to make physical moves too soon! He made them within a month 😢
It had been 3 weeks 😢
It feels like when we are face to face, all is good, and we mesh well. But, once I leave, he emotionally disconnects . How can one change that???
I think dating is really hard for both sexes!!!
His actions are proof of his intent. If you are confused about his intent, you are most likely a PLACEHOLDER. 😮
This sounds like my male best friend😂😂😂
Oof, I guess I need to stop looking so hard. These are the ones who are moving slow?? All of these seemed pretty obvious to me... lesson learned, if a guy likes me, it won't be hard to tell 😬
I honestly don’t think men are that confusing if you learn to take what they say at face value and know that they’re action oriented.
Sometimes?!!! To me it's a total mystery!
What is it when it’s going good with a new guy and he introduces to friends and it’s going well but one gets territorial with ME and starts to CLAIM me def trying to comes between us physically. And we were trying to be polite but circumventing the alpha friend. Very uncomfortable for both of us. I could tell. I had to leave and avoid the friend. I may see him again. When I do I’m going to tell him this situation. It was so JR high. Immature and the friend was not very intelligent and not my type at lol. A bit old school guy. Stunted. It’s really upset me and blew a good chance I think.
Been communicating with a guy in Europe for about 7 months. Tells me he’s involved in some messy situation at “his company” and can’t come here, he’s worried about his family (he has 2 young kids, 14 & 11). Says he’s a widower for 7 years, that he’s crazy about me, all the usual spew. I’ve offered to come to him he refuses saying the man has to come to the woman not her to him. I’ve played along with him, he hasn’t asked me for anything but neither has he given me anything. I’m thinking I need to kick him to the curb…either he’s married or a scammer. Any thoughts?
Sounds like a scammer. Do not send money ever. Kick him to the curb.
Eastern or Western Europe? Not to be stereotypical but there lies your answer 😊
@@nancybash1814 he speaks Spanish & Italian as well as English.
@BeautyQueen2023X he hasn’t asked for any, and I would never send money to anyone I haven’t looked in the eye in person and probably not even then
@BeautyQueen2023X it’s what they do…either guilt you or go off on you. Either way you cut them off & they move on to greener pastures
Yeah I'm not going to have somebody use me just to pass the time
How do you define "sparingly" communicating or inconsistent communication? How would you categorize someone consistently messaging someone once to twice a week with just a few exchanges, basically just catching up on how the week's been? Would that fall under inconsistent? Most conversations are under the guy's initiative.
Phone calls tell it without fear. Conversational subjects define much. No phone conversations also say much. I.e. being overheard, secretive. Red flag! The dating scene is messed up. Phone conversations allow an exit or acceptance without drama. IMHO
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Mhm this dude flipped out because I suggested we should talk on the phone more.
What if they dislike phone calls?
@@cherrylane79 then they need to vocalize that
Supposedly famous, texts daily morning and night, met through daughter, whom I had previously had video chat with.
Things were moving along fine, and then there were changes in the set schedule of an in person meeting. The available meeting time changed due to him having a full schedule with no time on the horizon. I feel less hopeful of a successful relationship. I told him I need to see him soon. Whether I travel or he does, if only for a day. I'm about ready to shut it down. He said he was serious and wanted to marry me. He said the Lord told him that I was "The One".
So...seems like...instead of him... I am the one giving out all this little signs... so maybe it is one sided...
OMG I can't stand the Swear Words....Hell is a Real Place. I guess I won't be able to listen to the content because I am offended by his "sidekicks." He acts like he is a Christian but there is a mixture of the demonic....demons swear and the some sort of Christian wording.
I don't understand the giving money part. Why on earth would I accept money from a guy who's interested in me or even a guy if he was my bf. It's so strange... I'm an adult with a job 💀 buying each other gifts on special occasions or taking turns paying for dates makes sense when money gets brought up but just randomly feeling entitled to another human beings hard earned $$ #somepeoplearenuts 😂😂
Sometimes men can be confusing as hell 😂 lol I love these videos
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Dated 4 months, all is true but he is not good in communiating between the dates...when we meet its like we are a solid couple...but i want that talk also when we dont meet in person
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
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Omggg how old are we???This is some junior high school ish. Ridiculous people need to grow up.
Exactly I am in long distance relationship he gonna pay my ticket plane to meet 🙂 he asked to take things slow untill we meet and we are sure so i said yes we should slow down so thats the plan
Do you understand "I don't care" DO YOU UNDERSTAND? IDC
Then he's not the one! He already knows and apparently so do I.