Subscribed! Stephen I hope to hear about handling yourself in a connection, for both men and woman specially. I have to admit something though, I feel in a true connection that is endorsed by God, both parties fit like a glove physically , emotionally, spiritually, mentally on a core blueprint level, and the physical intimacy has a very spiritual depth to it, so I feel it’s something that will come naturally in physical intimacy and overall not much needs to be discussed in this department in a connection, maybe some minor things may need to be discussed. The pull and energetic resonance is so high that the mind stops and pure energy takes over. This is just how I feel it should be in a connection. But other things such as insecurity, fear , boundaries all need to addressed for the connection to bloom and blossom.
1.He cares about your opinion (he wants to include and impress you) 2. He struggles to satisfy you (, when he loves you, he's more cautious, more sensitive and more fragile.., because he may he overthinking or in his head to much, it can make him nervous and cause him to have a harder time satisfying you, try criticizing him positively) 3. He always makes himself available to you (do not him allow him to focus on you so much that he looses focus on his life/future/career) 4. He never tells you NO (because he's so concerned with making you elevate/happy/etc etc, he says YES to everything) 5. He would seem to good to be true ( try to let go of what love you're accustom to, try being able to receive him willingly)
My daughter told me her cousin had a man that loved her. I told my daughter, he doesn't love Nicole. No man that loves you would let you drive his rattle trap vehicle 30 miles to work, while he took the good car 10 miles to work! A man who loves you cares about your safety.
The man who loves you wants to bring you peace and clarity. The man who doesn't care- or who isn't serious bring you chaos and confusion"Brilliant and so helpful💜
… you’re talking about God, right? …. because there isn’t a man on this planet (male or female) who can give peace or clarity to anyone, including themselves, only God can do that ~ so if you’re lacking peace and clarity, don’t turn to man in your quest for it, it can only arise from within you, nobody can give it to you and likewise, nobody can bring chaos or confusion into your life; because of the perfect and immutable law of cause and effect, if you are chaotic and confused within you, you will be met with chaos and confusion in your outer life/the world of appearances/the manifest world, which may appear in the form of a man, but trust me, no man (ego) is powerful enough to cause either chaos or confusion in you or your life unless it was already there to begin with. Stop looking to the body of flesh to give you that which only God can give and once you have no lack, because you turned to God, you can then enjoy the most exquisite, sublime and the most truly ecstatic mind blowing experience you will ever have with another body, and boy, once you’ve experienced that, you’ll never go back to the imitation of love, you’ll see how little it has to offer no matter how much peace and clarity the guy thinks he can give you …
@@autumn5852 Imagine being on this Earth, in this World and thinking others can't bring you Love. Only God. Ohhh Honey... God has you here to love and be lived and YES, it takes another human to do this. Exactly HIS plan. Doesn't mean you don't Love God but... why are you here if all you need is Gods love? Learn your lessons here. Learn to love here with other humans. This uppity BS is annoying AsF.
A man who loves you will take care of you, he will always make sure you are all right, he will always put you first before anything else. He will grow old with you. He will always value your opinion, what you think and what you want. He is happy when you are happy, he is sad when you are sad, he is worried when you are not feeling well. Love should not be one sided.
I’m dating a new guy. We’ve been talking for 3-4 months and we made it official Labor Day weekend. He truly loves me. He always puts me first, he thinks of my feelings before his, he always put him first. I don’t know why I question my feelings at times though. Maybe it’s too early.
Hi Stephan, Ive been watching your videos for the past 3 years after I left a toxic relationship. They've played a huge part in my healing and I can't thank you enough for your informative wise advice. Now I am in the best relationship of my life with a man I can hardly believe exists and I'm so happy and at peace. I am not religious but have benefited so much from your work. Keep doing what you are meant to do, much love from Canada ❤️❤️
I am 80 years old. My man who is 77 told me on the second date that he loves me and I should marry him. Was stunned but have come to realize he does love me as I love him.
Sometimes even that can be confusing when his actions are good and his words aren’t. That’s super confusing. Stephan I would love to hear your thoughts on that. ❤️
I love a "yes man". My man can sense when I need him to take the lead. He asked flat out yesterday "do you want to chose or do you want me to take charge?" I really loved that and said "you take charge". I realize after this video I need to tell him I liked that so he will know to keep doing that. haha
A true leader doesn't ask for the green light if he can lead and take charge. That's YOU leading him. He just does regardless and he stands firm on that. A yes man is not a leader. Yes man has a negative connotation, not positive lol
I love my wife so much I’ll use every and any sign to show her 😂 edit: I told my now wife I love her a month after dating in high school. Looking back now 11 years later, that love pales in comparison to what I have for her today. Signs of love and love languages change but communication is key and just watch the love grow.
God bless the two of you! A love like that is rare. I just took at look at your channel. I hope you are healed, have a speedy recovery and enjoy one another for many many years. 🙏🏽
There's a thin line...sounds like it could be a bit toxic. If someone keeps giving you reasons to question your love and loyalty, then they're not the one.
I don't think this is true, sometimes it's necessary to throw in the towel nomatter how much you love a person, that doesn't mean you would love them any less, but you have to know when to leave a person alone or you'll go thru the same cycles.
Yes that's RIGHT someone who loves you will bring you peace, love and joy and someone who doesn't will bring you chaos, drama and confusion including difficulties. Judge someone by their actions not their words. Not everyone is right for us but only GOD knows who has a USEFUL purpose in our lives. Love is sweet when it is with the RIGHT person.
Love is action... not just words. And there are a ton of Prince Charming romance scammers on the prowl who will play into a woman’s emotions in order to get what they want (sex, money, food, a place to stay, etc). Gotta move super slow to find out people’s true intentions.
3. Make sure you ask him what he is doing with his life so you can make sure the time he spends with you does not make him lose sight of his goals. Make him feel like his accomplishments turn you on so he will want to keep doing those things instead of forgetting that he has a life to live outside of you. He has money to make because he needs it to become one with you in his life.
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A masculine man will tell you what his plans are. You don’t have to ask him anything. His words would be, “ My plan is to …..”
@ Right and when you hear the words “I want to be” come out a man’s mouth you need to run. I want to do is a better word because it has room for doing anything. The ones who say I want to be will lay on you all his life telling you that people are stopping him from being that. If every woman leave them until they become that, they will never become that because they only wanted someone to take care of them while they dream. My ex boyfriend told me he wanted to become a comedian when he finish high school. I told him that’s cool because he can tell some good jokes. He than told me about all the money he wanted to spend on his prom. When he could not afford to make that dream come true, he cheated on me. I guess he was mad because I had the money he needed to buy the limo and the ring he wanted to give me at his prom but I never offered it to him. That is when I knew his future dream was to sit on his ass while I take care of him until his dream comes true. He still a security guard now. He still tells me his dreams of every business he thinks about opening because he see I opened a business for my husband. My husband told me he wanted to learn how to do everything any man knows how to do so he don’t need any man to come fix anything for him, around his family. He knows how to do everything except fly a plane and he wants to learn that too. He delivered our babies by himself and he never hire any lawyers when he needs to go to court. His main income is a CDL driver owning his own trucking company. He learned how to build a car using a shell only, in order to get my fathers blessing to marry me. I have a friend taking care of some man who claims he is an artist and a poet. He won’t get a job, claiming people not giving him a chance to do his craft. I seen his art and heard his poetry. He is trash at both. She believes in him so much that she rented out an art studio to show his works in hope that someone buy that trash. I went to see his art and it was nails on a board with a bunch of rubber bands all over it, not even paintings. She has a lil son that he stays home to watch while she goes to work. I hope he not at home doing things to that baby. Those type men like to scare women into staying with them claiming they will become rich as soon as the woman lose faith in them. No man ever thinks to give any money to anyone who believed in him for a long period of time before they finally could not afford to take care of him while he dreams. They just leaves with anger and revenge on their mind and never look back.
I know my man loves and adores me. However, he will tell me "no," but he tells me in the most beautiful and sexy way ever that I haven't cared that much that I got a "no," because I am left with a sensible understanding as to why he came with it.
All true!! I had a man who loved me like no other, used to say "To the moon & back", amongst so many poems, love letters, flowers delivered...picked up the phone every time i called, even in the middle of a work meeting...while maintaining his masculinity at the same time - Perfect...for 5 yrs. Asked me to marry him after 4. I swore I'd never allow myself to take him for granted. Unti i did, the 5th yr. I lost myself, let fear from my past & the unknowns of the future dictate my decisions, thoughts, how i treated him. Allowing self sabotaging to take over. Pushed him away until one day he listened to me. I was and still am in shock, 5 months ltr. Biggest, hardest lesson of my life. Now, im devastatingly sad, guilty, sprinkled with REGRET. Asking the universe over & over again "Why???" When i really know the answers. Ladies, do yourself a favor and listen to song "Like Im gonna lose you" & live by it, love by it!! ❤
Yes! yes! and yes! to being made priority. You’re not a convenience or a toleration (as one man put it). You are priority! Any man who doesn’t make you priority just step. You are too worthy and too valuable to be treated less. Don’t settle for that. 💜
I hear ya - Christiana! Lol Great tips - Stephan! I can see how a man who cares too much about his woman’s opinions can be a sign that he loves her - it makes perfect sense. If he didn’t love her why would he care? But, I can see why it’s also problematic, because women like men who can lead, and he’s not leading - if he has to constantly be asking for her input. He just needs to find a balance, I guess. Maybe he should try surprising her every once in a while, I’m sure women love surprises - good ones of course! Lol Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
As a young woman, I’ve honestly used these videos in hindsight of my relationship. I was skeptical about our relationship at first because of the age difference ( six years) . He may not voice it all the time but he shows that I’m his priority. This man invests in me to a different spectrum and it shows. Some of your key points he displays all the time. For the first time, I get to experience what loves feels like ! I love your videos!!
The keyword is "invest." He finds you valuable and worthy of investment, and anything a man invests in, he keeps and protects and takes care of. I'm happy for you and encouraged for myself. God bless.
I'm right where you are. There's a big age difference, he said he loved me first. We have only been together 4 weeks, and I see alot of this already. I have waited a long time for this. Good things come to those who wait.
A woman can be too good to be true to a man when she loves him too. A man needs to understand that also. Because they have been hurt they end up sabotaging the relationship.
So true...after being with my kids father (24years) i finally found the man god sent to me is almost wayyy to good to be true...I have never felt love besides my kids like this before and he is definitely a godsend he survived lead poisoning and open heart surgery he's a walking miracle my angel I say. ... wish everyone the best and hope you find that One 💯🙏❤️ Believe I tried to sabotage us because of being broken but I gave love a chance again and I'm thankful I did...
Sexually chemistry starts in our heads first, then goes to the physical. A confident man can look you in the eye, and ask you for something in that moment, and in return... he gets what he wants because he knew he could get it. That level sexy, that level of confidence, it will always win. Love this! Keep them coming.
Every man needed to think about these 5 signs... When we start to look at the other with empathy as we look ourselves, we will start to understand love...
The LAST thing he said about thinking he's too good to be true and you may feel you don't deserve it causing problems, REALLY hit home with me! Past childhood and adult trauma has made it seem impossible for me to believe he really loves me and then when I question it and accuse him of not loving me, he gets upset and we both go off. I'm now seeing a therapist to heal my trauma. I just have to calm down and trust him. Thank you Stephan
Fear can be self sabotaging if you don't allow yourself to heal, so healing is the 🗝️ I agree communication is also important too but majority of the time men aren't emotional or don't allow themselves to be vulnerable so when we as women share things like our fears it creates fear for them too. Especially if you have one that relies on your input for numerous of things. Or some run, so you definitely want to stay prayed up, communicate, get therapy if necessary and heal in order to receive & give healthy love
These type of males are also Not good listeners. And later then, communication becomes a loss along with other relationship activities. Because we realized that we had been talking to the wall for a long time. Words that don’t match with their behavior and still justify themselves after knowing that is wrong.
# 5 Yes !! I'm nervous fearful because I really did feel as if I didn't deserve such a good Man but it's time for me to embrace my Man Love he tells me all the time WE ALL HAVE A PAST!! Thank you 😊
Thank you for this.. I’m grateful I made it through the first year with my man. I had a lot of pain, fear and past issues that came up but he handled it all beautifully and I know he loves me due to his actions. I’m finally beginning to relax into our relationship and love him more deeply because my fears are clearing away more every day. You’re a blessing to be sharing so much with us regarding the reality and complexity of relationships. It’s not easy but I’m in love and finally at 50 having what feels like my first healthy and potentially long term relationship! We’re stepping into year two and I’m so happy 🥰
He should not have to be unhappy, to make me happy. I should not have to be unhappy, to make him happy. If I am to be in a relationship, it can't be a competition between me and the man. We are not each other's prisoner.
I agree with you but on the last point I would like to add that a lot of us want a healthy partner but we fail to do the work to become healthy ourselves..not realizing that he also deserves the best of you…equally yoked
It took me 12 years to realize my husband and I have totally different energies. Even to a point he physically steps on my feet at the most inappropriate times. He has a nervous and anxious energy that irritates me and makes me nervous. He is definitely a good guy. He is kind and responsible. We completely don’t match in a bedroom. I asked him many times what I like but it has zero effect on him. It is best not t have any intimacy with him that is how upsetting it is. I don’t remember once where he kissed me on my lips. His occasional kisses are on my ear where I feel it damages my ear drum. Zero romance in this relationship. That is why I am ending it.
At 24:50 Unfortunately I’ve discovered that the age of 54 that what you’re saying about men not knowing how to do this thing called emotional healing is absolutely true. And since I really have come to that conclusion I have been begging healers out there to specifically target men for healing. Yes women need healing too but we have a variety of outlets to do this. Men don’t have the same luxury. I applaud you for stepping into your light work and dedicating a channel for men to get some guidance. Healing is real and men need it too!!!
This one was GOLD!!! Your insight paired with the empathy and kindness you show towards other people is really admirable. You’re great at what you do and I’m so glad I get to hear this advice.
I love your videos. I've found myself looking for a relationship following the death of my husband suddenly after 31 years. I've met a wonderful man and your advice and guidance has helped us move the relationship into a wonderful and caring place. Thank you for helping me to find happiness again xxxx
Whoop whoop 5 out of 5 again!!! I truly have to constantly thank God for him and truly truly appreciate him!!! Sometimes I take him for granted.❤🙏🏽💯 I've tried to sabotage our relationship so many times but God loves me enough to have sent me the perfect person "for me" and he chose to be patient!!!
Sounds like you still need to heal and work on self worth. He's not going to be patient forever. It doesn't matter that he's checking all the boxes if you aren't. I wish you the best in your journey. Much love.
@@pinkishdiamondz things have already changed drastically. Love always win and we're doing AMAZING. Getting married soon, and planning our pregnancy!!! Appreciate your concern!!!
@@obailey973 I am so happy to hear that. And please don't think my comment was to wish bad on you, it was literally in hopes that you open your eyes and not lose a good man. Again, I'm very happy for you. Y'all stay blessed.
@@pinkishdiamondz funny that you responded. I came back here to respond and I usually don't do that. I just wanted to make it clear that I'm probably one of the most confident, most self-assured people on God's beautiful green earth. My issues had NOTHING to do with that. He and I have been friends for well over a decade, and my thing was this CAN'T be because I would have thought it would have already happened in all that time, AND even though he is truly a wonderful human being, there were things about him I usually wouldn't accept in a relationship but weren't important to me as his friend (ie, stability, organizational skills, house is a mess, car is a mess, etc). So even though I knew he was in love with me, I just never thought pass our friendship. God LITERALLY aligned our lives, and put in place an answer to everything that I found challenging, and I have not been happier. So, yes, he would have been there waiting because we both believe in our hearts it happened just as God planned for it to happen. The purpose of this comment is to not pre-judge a situation you are not familiar with. People come on here all the time diagnosing and making statements that are NOT true. An opinion is ok, but you can't tell a person their life, if you don't know it. Love Always wins!!!!❤💯
3 kids, 1 failed marriage, I'm about to turn 30 this Sept & yet no man has truly "loved" me how I feel I deserve so for now I've given up on it... for now.. but I've realized this past year that the more I focus on myself the more content I am on the "little" BIG things in life that God has to offer me the better I am being single.
You’re so young still! A whole lifetime ahead of you with your children and creating a good life for yourselves. Healing is so important. So that you can be ready when that special person arrives in your life. I wish you the best because life really starts happening at 40 anyway.
I have the man who is really into me. And let me tell you. I made a unintentional mistake and boy. Did I get the business🤣. I felt like I got in a fight with Ali and lost. He did not yell, scream or raise his voice. He did not curse. I was so scared. It was over ago. But I still remember it like it was yesterday. Its so true. He's very sensitive and he was also very tight. And I had a hard time reading. So that's where I went wrong. I fixed that quick😂. Nothing like I ever experienced before. In my 22 year previous relationship. But he was intentional and a man of his word. It scared the hell out of me. But I thank the Lord for him. He sent me exactly what I needed. I wasn't looking. Just doing my job. Then boom! That's my Boaz. My protector, My provider... Nothing to do with money. He provides some much more. Wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. My God sent angel! I had to knock down the wall of Jericho. But it was worth it💛
You are very correct on this, there are some men who loves you so much and are afraid they will lose themselves, and because of that he doesn't really know how to face and express things, but he is there for you every step of the way, not everyone is that expressive but that doesn't mean they don't Love you, i think we should focus more on the Strength than the weaknesses, love is critical and our wisdom matters a lot.
Related to being a “yes man,” everyone needs to learn how to set and enforce their own boundaries. For their own mental health and spiritual evolution, not because the other person might find them less attractive.
So true...after being with my kids father (24years) i finally found the man god sent to me is almost wayyy to good to be true...I have never felt love besides my kids like this before and he is definitely a godsend he survived lead poisoning and open heart surgery he's a walking miracle my angel I say. ... wish everyone the best and hope you find that One 💯🙏❤️ Believe I tried to sabotage us because of being broken but I gave love a chance again and I'm thankful I did...
Yes agree, if a man values my opinion and takes what I think into consideration, that's a sign of respect & appreciation. It also says, I value you and trust your viewpoint/advice. If a man cannot satisfy a woman in physical intimacy that can happen initially as the two people are learning each other. Yet, I always feel when you have a deep level of emotional intimacy, connection, and just trust each other not to mention love, the physical intimacy just magnifies that bond. When a person feels too good to be true & they are genuine, then you have likely met your best match. When two people come into alignment & they just mesh on all levels, that is one way you can know who is truly for you. Love is a reflection of ourselves & often we match best with a partner who shares many of the same beliefs & value systems. Excellent video !! Blessings, peace, & light to you.
I am hearing that women not only get lost in a relationship but men do too if they are really in love. Support him and hold him accountable but not being disrespectful.
Yes! Stephan, you had it at "priority". Please don't forget the Maya Angelou quote: "Never make a priority of someone that only sees you as a priority". Ladies? Woman to woman- this should be top of mind
When my man told me the number 2 tip. It blew my mind because i had never been told that or loved that way. I was stunned and I was also so speechless. Thank you for posting this because your vids have serviced as confirmation in my journey of transformation.
You hit it on the nail with staying in a long term relationship or marriage and the person is terrible in the boudoir. It's sad actually because we have to go back to the basics of communication. If you don't ask you don't get. If you don't teach them they won't learn or know. So I agree you can't stay with someone if neither party us satisfied and happy with the other. I think classes, therapy, advice, communicating what you like, and more can help in relationships.
Hello, just want to say I really like the topics you speak about, and the great advice you give. As a married women in my 40's and who's been happily married for 23 years, I must say I still am learning and growing in this game of love, and you actually teach me things. I understand all your points and templates on relationships, and I really resonate. All I have to say to the ladies who is looking for long term and true love, is... Keep your self up, never get overly comfortable, go to the movies and out for drinks and dinner at least once a month, always be your best physically, do your hair, wash up every day (stay fresh and clean) ... shave even those hairy knees and legs😂 get your nails done or a simple manicure and polish. Stay cute, cook home cook meals, and most importantly don't have sex" every day" (make him miss that good good, he'll appreciate it more) but when you do drop that thing, make it like it your best performance😂 (seriously y'all) sex is very important rather it's penetration or bobbing for apples, do it good🤷🏾♀ That's all folks😂🙏🏽👍🏽
Stephen listening to you made me realise I've known nothing about relationships for long. I was single even as I dated. Focusing on my own well being now
My man is clearly not a cook...he goes to my kitchen and continues to organize my kitchen right down to moving my spices and utensils...i have told him too many times not to move my things
Early stages=its his representative talking. So give it time to KNOW the REAL MAN!!! I usually go 1 1/2-2 yrs but u can set ur own time range. But that's when they can't hide behind the representative anymore. Eventually HE COMES OUT!!! So yes early stages=be ALERT!!!!!!
This is something I learned my husband was a musician and when he was up there on stage in his masculine faze I felt so attractive to him.. but when he was at home he was different. I couldn’t understand why he was different until I learned that he had to come down more to a feminine state to love me” at home. Which makes sense he can’t show you he loves you in a masculine state, it’s to powerful. But when he’s in public he turn to protective mode, the leader. If this makes sense.
Great video! For me I do value someone who is willing to listen to what I think. However, I do like a man who can take the lead in most situations. This does not mean that you have to be controlled by a man, but if he can effectively take charge in a situation then let him do that.
I love your insets, its so good time spending listening to all your videos. WILL YOU PLEASE address "A younger man, in love with an elder woman". I've met this professional man who adores me, but I am 10 years older
Me and bf of 7 years have a lot of these problems, but he won't talk about any issues. He is a really private person with his emotions and thoughts. Instead, I had to learn to small talk with him to have a conversation because that is all he is willing to do. He feels happy in our relationship but obviously, I feel disconnected.
Stephan, your references at minute marker 10:25 … about the man possibly being ‘nervous’ … ‘too fast’… etc: All those awkward reactions to ‘uncommitted’ sexual activity are the very reason why it is BEST to wait until both parties can relax in the knowledge that they belong together, in Heart, Mind, Spirit, and Legalese!!!!
Thank you for this message! I truly needed it! I’m currently dating a gentleman that I’ve been friends with for almost 4 years, dating 2 months!He’s 10 years older and is an amazing man! I’m still shocked that he showed interest in me but our chemistry is amazing! However, I don’t feel like I measure up to the type of woman he deserves. I struggle when it comes to opening up to him about my feelings and he asks ever so often even though he’s the type that doesn’t talk about his feelings and says that he will show me. Long story short I’m afraid to be completely vulnerable. I just pray that we can work through this because we really could be great together.
He became so insecure even after 3yrs Of my trying to show him how to please me intimately. That made him think that I would look elsewhere , so there was no trust . Refuse to fake my fulfilment . Crossing the line of threatening my My life , his obsession , and anger . I learned , ENOUGH IS ENOUGH !
It is soooooooooooo crazy... I listen, read and witness so many situations regarding relationships and l have yet to come across someone I totally agree with 💯 percent. Stephen has truly saved my relationship because I have all he talks about in my man but somehow I try to find something wrong (and have been unsuccessful in finding ANYTHING) but still constantly look. I thank you for the consistent reassurance when I am so doubtful. Truly heaven sent 🙏🏽 ❤
Many people have different meanings of what it means to love someone. People get together and find out that they can't handle what comes with them getting together. Many folks are not even equipped to put in the work that will help their relationship to be a healthy one. This is why many are hurting now.
IDK if I agree with point at 23 min. mark. I don't think some men need an excuse to be a jerk and say no, because he feels a need to assert his masculinity.... Rather, I think a man can be level-headed and evaluate and make decisions based on given information and not his own emotions. That is the mature, sensible approach.
I know he cares for me more than he wants me to know. One way I knew is because he took me to a friend's big birthday party, and they were openly stunned he brought someone.😱 We are (well...were) very close, but the rollercoaster ride of emotions and seeming confusion on his part became too much. It destroyed us, unfortunately. I was exhausted. 😢💔🙏🏽
It's Finally Happening!!! Screams!!! Thank God, My Family & You So Much for All The Love and Support (Sincerely) 🙏🏿🕊💜🕊🌹... Everything You Said Was and Is On Point...
The puns!🤣😂 Yup, it is always HOW you say something(the approach); not what you say that makes another person listen and actually consider your feelings. I just love they way you explain and dissect every point you make, which makes things SO much more clearer! It's really easy to blurr the lines. 💯 Thank you, thank you!🙂❤
Until just a few weeks ago l was married to a guy that was doing all of the things mentioned by Stephen and l really thought he loved me unconditionally. He let me be me, strong independent woman that became his teacher after he arrived from the foreign undeveloped country to US and who did everything possible to support him in his American journey. Everyone was amazed at how wonderful my husband was and how he seemed to love me. Even though he has been already 5 years in this country, he wasn't yet where he wanted to be, however I was looking forward to seeing him more of a provider sometime in the future. But one day few weeks ago, out of nowhere, he asked to separate claiming that l didn't love him the way he wanted to be loved. Because I brought him to this country, l am torn in deciding if his love, with all 5 sings described by Stephen, was a reality or just acting. I know he loved me, he showed it in many ways, but my people around me try to tell me otherwise claiming it was a great acting to get his papers here. We've just separated officially after 6 years of marriage, 7 years together and his 5 years in US. Nobody saw it coming, me especially.
7 years ago I fell in love deep in love with her but she didn’t or I guess couldn’t feel the bad. She was still living with her kids father because she had nowhere to go. Sparing the personal but let’s say things was bad at home and she would always use me as a form of escape. Though she made it more physical I didn’t mind but I felt I wanted to save her protect her all I ever thought about was her and how I can make her happy. I paid attention to all her little things she does as a human being learned how she works. When I didn’t know all she wanted was to be with me and be intimate and spend time with one another with one another. I ignored that because I felt that wasn’t even she ended up saying I was too emotional which in turn I felt was a low blow because I wanted to just make her happy.she ended moving away and we started talking after 7 years I moved to where she lives she told me she’s ready for me how she sees what I was offering is what she needed all along. So I took it serious because when she broke it off I said Later on if we meet up again would you marry me she mentioned that and I was like fudge. All this time my feelings towards her never changed weird giving the fact we both had another child. I remember asking her has she fallen in love with anyone after me she said yes about three times it made me feel terrible. I told her which is true I haven’t been able to love anyone the way I loved her. What’s crazy is that now that we’re older we talked more then we ever have when we were together and it’s great but I noticed she became more drawn to me in a sexual sense so I was like nope she’s not ready so I just been keeping her at a friendship level all she ever ends up mentioning is sex. For those 7 years I have had endless sex I don’t need that from a woman I just want to be loved and held I want what I give to them in return. Because of our parting it hasn’t left me the same inside as a man. Idk what to do but I’m still the happy person I’ve always been not saying I don’t have a bad side but with good people I treat them with respect and love.
This was beautiful- thank he heart takes time too heal - but always remember this- you have a heart this big that it chose to love in the first place. You opened yourself up to Love. After the pain subsides you will know when you open yourself to the full force of Love again- just know you can handle it. It’s the best teacher ever. And before we die,when we finally learn all of Love’s lessons that we can in the short time that we are here- know that you have the greatest gift the Universe ever produced : Love. I hope this message finds you well- with 💗
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Subscribed! Stephen I hope to hear about handling yourself in a connection, for both men and woman specially. I have to admit something though, I feel in a true connection that is endorsed by God, both parties fit like a glove physically , emotionally, spiritually, mentally on a core blueprint level, and the physical intimacy has a very spiritual depth to it, so I feel it’s something that will come naturally in physical intimacy and overall not much needs to be discussed in this department in a connection, maybe some minor things may need to be discussed. The pull and energetic resonance is so high that the mind stops and pure energy takes over. This is just how I feel it should be in a connection. But other things such as insecurity, fear , boundaries all need to addressed for the connection to bloom and blossom.
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1.He cares about your opinion (he wants to include and impress you)
2. He struggles to satisfy you (, when he loves you, he's more cautious, more sensitive and more fragile.., because he may he overthinking or in his head to much, it can make him nervous and cause him to have a harder time satisfying you, try criticizing him positively)
3. He always makes himself available to you (do not him allow him to focus on you so much that he looses focus on his life/future/career)
4. He never tells you NO (because he's so concerned with making you elevate/happy/etc etc, he says YES to everything)
5. He would seem to good to be true ( try to let go of what love you're accustom to, try being able to receive him willingly)
My daughter told me her cousin had a man that loved her. I told my daughter, he doesn't love Nicole. No man that loves you would let you drive his rattle trap vehicle 30 miles to work, while he took the good car 10 miles to work! A man who loves you cares about your safety.
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@@sharonbraselton4302 she could drive the car he had, and she was a good driver!
The man who loves you wants to bring you peace and clarity. The man who doesn't care- or who isn't serious bring you chaos and confusion"Brilliant and so helpful💜
🙏 Glad I could help!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you welcome❤️😊
I agree
… you’re talking about God, right? …. because there isn’t a man on this planet (male or female) who can give peace or clarity to anyone, including themselves, only God can do that ~ so if you’re lacking peace and clarity, don’t turn to man in your quest for it, it can only arise from within you, nobody can give it to you and likewise, nobody can bring chaos or confusion into your life; because of the perfect and immutable law of cause and effect, if you are chaotic and confused within you, you will be met with chaos and confusion in your outer life/the world of appearances/the manifest world, which may appear in the form of a man, but trust me, no man (ego) is powerful enough to cause either chaos or confusion in you or your life unless it was already there to begin with.
Stop looking to the body of flesh to give you that which only God can give and once you have no lack, because you turned to God, you can then enjoy the most exquisite, sublime and the most truly ecstatic mind blowing experience you will ever have with another body, and boy, once you’ve experienced that, you’ll never go back to the imitation of love, you’ll see how little it has to offer no matter how much peace and clarity the guy thinks he can give you …
@@autumn5852 Imagine being on this Earth, in this World and thinking others can't bring you Love. Only God. Ohhh Honey... God has you here to love and be lived and YES, it takes another human to do this. Exactly HIS plan. Doesn't mean you don't Love God but... why are you here if all you need is Gods love? Learn your lessons here. Learn to love here with other humans. This uppity BS is annoying AsF.
A man who loves you will take care of you, he will always make sure you are all right, he will always put you first before anything else. He will grow old with you. He will always value your opinion, what you think and what you want. He is happy when you are happy, he is sad when you are sad, he is worried when you are not feeling well. Love should not be one sided.
I love this.
@Monkeybar54621 This needs to be announced on a loud speaker❤
I’m dating a new guy. We’ve been talking for 3-4 months and we made it official Labor Day weekend. He truly loves me. He always puts me first, he thinks of my feelings before his, he always put him first. I don’t know why I question my feelings at times though. Maybe it’s too early.
Well said 👏
Watching these while single is the best tbh. it's like studying.
I definitely agree!!
🙏 Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Me too
Still learning
I agree! I’m single and taking notes… 📝
Yesss!🙌🏽
Who is watching this after 2 yrs❤
Me🤚
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Hi Stephan, Ive been watching your videos for the past 3 years after I left a toxic relationship. They've played a huge part in my healing and I can't thank you enough for your informative wise advice. Now I am in the best relationship of my life with a man I can hardly believe exists and I'm so happy and at peace. I am not religious but have benefited so much from your work. Keep doing what you are meant to do, much love from Canada ❤️❤️
He drove three hours after working to put a cabinet together for me. That's when I knew he really loves me. 🥰
I am 80 years old. My man who is 77 told me on the second date that he loves me and I should marry him. Was stunned but have come to realize he does love me as I love him.
All of these signs are true,but as a woman obviously you can feel it when that man really loves you through their actions and not only his words.
It is always important to listen to your intuition. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤
@@MeetStephanSpeaks i agree with you
Sandra Green, AMEN 🙌. Actions speaks louder than words for sure. My maiden name is Green😂😂.
Amen! Pay attention to their words but, watch their actions!
Sometimes even that can be confusing when his actions are good and his words aren’t. That’s super confusing. Stephan I would love to hear your thoughts on that. ❤️
I love a "yes man". My man can sense when I need him to take the lead. He asked flat out yesterday "do you want to chose or do you want me to take charge?" I really loved that and said "you take charge". I realize after this video I need to tell him I liked that so he will know to keep doing that. haha
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A true leader doesn't ask for the green light if he can lead and take charge. That's YOU leading him. He just does regardless and he stands firm on that. A yes man is not a leader. Yes man has a negative connotation, not positive lol
nah, he was being sensitive to my needs and accessing how I wanted to be handled. It was genius.
@@108latte so considerate💜😊
Yes mam!!!!!!!
When a man loves you...you won't question" if he loves me" you will know.
Absolutely!
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Not necessarily. Some people are insecure and blind and will never see or accept love even when it's staring them right in the face
Facts
Exactly!!! Don't take all that to be in to relationship
My man is he very best communicator I have ever had. We can talk about anything, and he hears me and responds. That is priceless.
Men definitely treat you differently when they love you! You can tell when they put their heart ❤️ on the line.
I love my wife so much I’ll use every and any sign to show her 😂 edit: I told my now wife I love her a month after dating in high school. Looking back now 11 years later, that love pales in comparison to what I have for her today. Signs of love and love languages change but communication is key and just watch the love grow.
Amen 🙏🏾
God bless the two of you! A love like that is rare.
I just took at look at your channel. I hope you are healed, have a speedy recovery and enjoy one another for many many years. 🙏🏽
Thats beautiful
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👏🏽, i appreciate this
If someone really loves you they will find more reasons why love prevails than excuses to throw in the towel ❤️
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That’s a very good one 👏🏽
Well stated 👌
There's a thin line...sounds like it could be a bit toxic. If someone keeps giving you reasons to question your love and loyalty, then they're not the one.
I don't think this is true, sometimes it's necessary to throw in the towel nomatter how much you love a person, that doesn't mean you would love them any less, but you have to know when to leave a person alone or you'll go thru the same cycles.
Yes that's RIGHT someone who loves you will bring you peace, love and joy and someone who doesn't will bring you chaos, drama and confusion including difficulties. Judge someone by their actions not their words. Not everyone is right for us but only GOD knows who has a USEFUL purpose in our lives. Love is sweet when it is with the RIGHT person.
With the right person...Amen.🙌🏾🙏
💯 Yes!
@@healed2011 I love this! I hope I find my right person someday
This is correct on every level that matters in love!
Absolutely yes with the right person.
Love is action... not just words. And there are a ton of Prince Charming romance scammers on the prowl who will play into a woman’s emotions in order to get what they want (sex, money, food, a place to stay, etc). Gotta move super slow to find out people’s true intentions.
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3. Make sure you ask him what he is doing with his life so you can make sure the time he spends with you does not make him lose sight of his goals. Make him feel like his accomplishments turn you on so he will want to keep doing those things instead of forgetting that he has a life to live outside of you. He has money to make because he needs it to become one with you in his life.
A masculine man will tell you what his plans are. You don’t have to ask him anything. His words would be, “ My plan is to …..”
@ Right and when you hear the words “I want to be” come out a man’s mouth you need to run. I want to do is a better word because it has room for doing anything. The ones who say I want to be will lay on you all his life telling you that people are stopping him from being that. If every woman leave them until they become that, they will never become that because they only wanted someone to take care of them while they dream.
My ex boyfriend told me he wanted to become a comedian when he finish high school. I told him that’s cool because he can tell some good jokes. He than told me about all the money he wanted to spend on his prom. When he could not afford to make that dream come true, he cheated on me. I guess he was mad because I had the money he needed to buy the limo and the ring he wanted to give me at his prom but I never offered it to him.
That is when I knew his future dream was to sit on his ass while I take care of him until his dream comes true.
He still a security guard now. He still tells me his dreams of every business he thinks about opening because he see I opened a business for my husband.
My husband told me he wanted to learn how to do everything any man knows how to do so he don’t need any man to come fix anything for him, around his family.
He knows how to do everything except fly a plane and he wants to learn that too.
He delivered our babies by himself and he never hire any lawyers when he needs to go to court.
His main income is a CDL driver owning his own trucking company.
He learned how to build a car using a shell only, in order to get my fathers blessing to marry me.
I have a friend taking care of some man who claims he is an artist and a poet. He won’t get a job, claiming people not giving him a chance to do his craft. I seen his art and heard his poetry. He is trash at both.
She believes in him so much that she rented out an art studio to show his works in hope that someone buy that trash. I went to see his art and it was nails on a board with a bunch of rubber bands all over it, not even paintings. She has a lil son that he stays home to watch while she goes to work. I hope he not at home doing things to that baby.
Those type men like to scare women into staying with them claiming they will become rich as soon as the woman lose faith in them.
No man ever thinks to give any money to anyone who believed in him for a long period of time before they finally could not afford to take care of him while he dreams. They just leaves with anger and revenge on their mind and never look back.
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🙌❤️ and I appreciate your support
I know my man loves and adores me. However, he will tell me "no," but he tells me in the most beautiful and sexy way ever that I haven't cared that much that I got a "no," because I am left with a sensible understanding as to why he came with it.
Loving the right person is a blessing.
You're absolutely right!
More than a blessing for sure!😌
Marsha Farquharson I sooo agree with your comment, & also being loved by the right person is a blessing as well.
@@ms.gracefullybroken8724 right!! I hope I get that blessing someday
@@wshelby83 WE will sweet pea❤️
All true!! I had a man who loved me like no other, used to say "To the moon & back", amongst so many poems, love letters, flowers delivered...picked up the phone every time i called, even in the middle of a work meeting...while maintaining his masculinity at the same time - Perfect...for 5 yrs. Asked me to marry him after 4. I swore I'd never allow myself to take him for granted. Unti i did, the 5th yr. I lost myself, let fear from my past & the unknowns of the future dictate my decisions, thoughts, how i treated him. Allowing self sabotaging to take over. Pushed him away until one day he listened to me. I was and still am in shock, 5 months ltr. Biggest, hardest lesson of my life. Now, im devastatingly sad, guilty, sprinkled with REGRET. Asking the universe over & over again "Why???" When i really know the answers. Ladies, do yourself a favor and listen to song "Like Im gonna lose you" & live by it, love by it!! ❤
Yes! yes! and yes! to being made priority. You’re not a convenience or a toleration (as one man put it). You are priority! Any man who doesn’t make you priority just step. You are too worthy and too valuable to be treated less. Don’t settle for that. 💜
Exactly 💯
I hear ya - Christiana! Lol
Great tips - Stephan! I can see how a man who cares too much about his woman’s opinions can be a sign that he loves her - it makes perfect sense.
If he didn’t love her why would he care? But, I can see why it’s also problematic, because women like men who can lead, and he’s not leading - if he has to constantly be asking for her input.
He just needs to find a balance, I guess. Maybe he should try surprising her every once in a while, I’m sure women love surprises - good ones of course! Lol
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Meaning If your walking at night it cold freezing out walking across town he home doesnt offer come and get you. Leave him.
Thank you for this candle.🕯
Amen!! I am a priority (after God of course)!! Send him, Lord!! 💗🙌🏽
As a young woman, I’ve honestly used these videos in hindsight of my relationship. I was skeptical about our relationship at first because of the age difference ( six years) . He may not voice it all the time but he shows that I’m his priority. This man invests in me to a different spectrum and it shows. Some of your key points he displays all the time. For the first time, I get to experience what loves feels like ! I love your videos!!
Are you younger than him or is he older than you
Then no me dhis! *Jamaican accent*😂😂😂 Yassss! 🙌 God bless y'all.
The keyword is "invest." He finds you valuable and worthy of investment, and anything a man invests in, he keeps and protects and takes care of. I'm happy for you and encouraged for myself. God bless.
Yeah. Same. I'm 42, he's 36. Such an awesome respectful man!! ❤️
I'm right where you are. There's a big age difference, he said he loved me first. We have only been together 4 weeks, and I see alot of this already. I have waited a long time for this. Good things come to those who wait.
It took me a bit of maturity to understand that the "nice guy" is the type of men to build a great life with 😊
A woman can be too good to be true to a man when she loves him too. A man needs to understand that also. Because they have been hurt they end up sabotaging the relationship.
This💯‼️👏🏼
So true...after being with my kids father (24years) i finally found the man god sent to me is almost wayyy to good to be true...I have never felt love besides my kids like this before and he is definitely a godsend he survived lead poisoning and open heart surgery he's a walking miracle my angel I say. ... wish everyone the best and hope you find that One 💯🙏❤️ Believe I tried to sabotage us because of being broken but I gave love a chance again and I'm thankful I did...
yes!!!!!
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Sexually chemistry starts in our heads first, then goes to the physical. A confident man can look you in the eye, and ask you for something in that moment, and in return... he gets what he wants because he knew he could get it. That level sexy, that level of confidence, it will always win. Love this! Keep them coming.
❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching. I will!
OMG Yes! Speak on it. I’m almost in tears. Forgiving past traumas to accept the blessing in front of you. I’m ready to receive. ❤
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Me too this is so true
When ready to receive, start giving
Every man needed to think about these 5 signs... When we start to look at the other with empathy as we look ourselves, we will start to understand love...
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
The LAST thing he said about thinking he's too good to be true and you may feel you don't deserve it causing problems, REALLY hit home with me! Past childhood and adult trauma has made it seem impossible for me to believe he really loves me and then when I question it and accuse him of not loving me, he gets upset and we both go off. I'm now seeing a therapist to heal my trauma. I just have to calm down and trust him. Thank you Stephan
Fear can be self sabotaging if you don't allow yourself to heal, so healing is the 🗝️ I agree communication is also important too but majority of the time men aren't emotional or don't allow themselves to be vulnerable so when we as women share things like our fears it creates fear for them too. Especially if you have one that relies on your input for numerous of things. Or some run, so you definitely want to stay prayed up, communicate, get therapy if necessary and heal in order to receive & give healthy love
May go back to
therapy. I want to have real Love in my Life
Amen! Take it to church! Stay preyed up!
Amen Honey B 🙏
These type of males are also Not good listeners. And later then, communication becomes a loss along with other relationship activities. Because we realized that we had been talking to the wall for a long time. Words that don’t match with their behavior and still justify themselves after knowing that is wrong.
When a man falls in love with a woman it's a blessing ❤️💯.
Most definitely!
# 5 Yes !! I'm nervous fearful because I really did feel as if I didn't deserve such a good Man but it's time for me to embrace my Man Love he tells me all the time WE ALL HAVE A PAST!! Thank you 😊
A good woman will draw the line herself and just won’t ask for “too much”.
Thank you for this.. I’m grateful I made it through the first year with my man. I had a lot of pain, fear and past issues that came up but he handled it all beautifully and I know he loves me due to his actions. I’m finally beginning to relax into our relationship and love him more deeply because my fears are clearing away more every day.
You’re a blessing to be sharing so much with us regarding the reality and complexity of relationships. It’s not easy but I’m in love and finally at 50 having what feels like my first healthy and potentially long term relationship! We’re stepping into year two and I’m so happy 🥰
I am 62 and the happiest I have ever been.
Aww I’m so happy for you x
I’m 56 and finally have a man that really shows me he loves me. I hope your relationship lasts forever!
Amen love blessings it’s never too late for❤
I am 69 years old & enjoying my life now ~ more than the last 23 years 💁🏾♀️🙏🏾💕🙌🏾🙋🏾♂️ 35:19
He should not have to be unhappy, to make me happy. I should not have to be unhappy, to make him happy. If I am to be in a relationship, it can't be a competition between me and the man. We are not each other's prisoner.
You are absolutely right.
Say it...because some people will accept u being unhappy as long as u are making them happy 🙄
I agree with you but on the last point I would like to add that a lot of us want a healthy partner but we fail to do the work to become healthy ourselves..not realizing that he also deserves the best of you…equally yoked
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Yes ,u will absolutely know it.u will feel it!
It’s peaceful and it’s different feeling from other relationships.
Absolutely!
Yeah... some how you will know it..
It took me 12 years to realize my husband and I have totally different energies. Even to a point he physically steps on my feet at the most inappropriate times. He has a nervous and anxious energy that irritates me and makes me nervous. He is definitely a good guy. He is kind and responsible. We completely don’t match in a bedroom. I asked him many times what I like but it has zero effect on him. It is best not t have any intimacy with him that is how upsetting it is. I don’t remember once where he kissed me on my lips. His occasional kisses are on my ear where I feel it damages my ear drum. Zero romance in this relationship. That is why I am ending it.
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At 24:50 Unfortunately I’ve discovered that the age of 54 that what you’re saying about men not knowing how to do this thing called emotional healing is absolutely true. And since I really have come to that conclusion I have been begging healers out there to specifically target men for healing. Yes women need healing too but we have a variety of outlets to do this. Men don’t have the same luxury. I applaud you for stepping into your light work and dedicating a channel for men to get some guidance. Healing is real and men need it too!!!
Healing is definitely key thank you for sharing, I appreciate that 🙏
Yes! Men need help from MEN. They sharpen one another. Great point.
This one was GOLD!!! Your insight paired with the empathy and kindness you show towards other people is really admirable. You’re great at what you do and I’m so glad I get to hear this advice.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback!
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Yes indeed
I love your videos. I've found myself looking for a relationship following the death of my husband suddenly after 31 years. I've met a wonderful man and your advice and guidance has helped us move the relationship into a wonderful and caring place. Thank you for helping me to find happiness again xxxx
Whoop whoop 5 out of 5 again!!! I truly have to constantly thank God for him and truly truly appreciate him!!! Sometimes I take him for granted.❤🙏🏽💯 I've tried to sabotage our relationship so many times but God loves me enough to have sent me the perfect person "for me" and he chose to be patient!!!
Thank you for sharing I appreciate your feedback ❤️
Sounds like you still need to heal and work on self worth. He's not going to be patient forever. It doesn't matter that he's checking all the boxes if you aren't. I wish you the best in your journey. Much love.
@@pinkishdiamondz things have already changed drastically. Love always win and we're doing AMAZING. Getting married soon, and planning our pregnancy!!! Appreciate your concern!!!
@@obailey973 I am so happy to hear that. And please don't think my comment was to wish bad on you, it was literally in hopes that you open your eyes and not lose a good man. Again, I'm very happy for you. Y'all stay blessed.
@@pinkishdiamondz funny that you responded. I came back here to respond and I usually don't do that. I just wanted to make it clear that I'm probably one of the most confident, most self-assured people on God's beautiful green earth. My issues had NOTHING to do with that. He and I have been friends for well over a decade, and my thing was this CAN'T be because I would have thought it would have already happened in all that time, AND even though he is truly a wonderful human being, there were things about him I usually wouldn't accept in a relationship but weren't important to me as his friend (ie, stability, organizational skills, house is a mess, car is a mess, etc). So even though I knew he was in love with me, I just never thought pass our friendship. God LITERALLY aligned our lives, and put in place an answer to everything that I found challenging, and I have not been happier. So, yes, he would have been there waiting because we both believe in our hearts it happened just as God planned for it to happen. The purpose of this comment is to not pre-judge a situation you are not familiar with. People come on here all the time diagnosing and making statements that are NOT true. An opinion is ok, but you can't tell a person their life, if you don't know it. Love Always wins!!!!❤💯
Your ability to articulate and express is outstanding!.. great advice for those who are unaware... you are hilarious, with a great smile and laugh!🥰
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
EssMax,, I agree with u💯
3 kids, 1 failed marriage, I'm about to turn 30 this Sept & yet no man has truly "loved" me how I feel I deserve so for now I've given up on it... for now.. but I've realized this past year that the more I focus on myself the more content I am on the "little" BIG things in life that God has to offer me the better I am being single.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Sweetie, I pray that you find love and are cherished exceeding your wildest imaginations. Don’t give up. Hope you move past the hurt
You’re so young still! A whole lifetime ahead of you with your children and creating a good life for yourselves. Healing is so important. So that you can be ready when that special person arrives in your life. I wish you the best because life really starts happening at 40 anyway.
@@NnekaLocs Thanks so much for taking the time to share this with me ❤️ made me smile 😊 May God bless you & hear you 🙏🏼
@@bisoyeakintolu4928 I am currently working on it 🙏🏼 thank you for you kind & encouraging words ❤️
I have the man who is really into me. And let me tell you. I made a unintentional mistake and boy. Did I get the business🤣. I felt like I got in a fight with Ali and lost. He did not yell, scream or raise his voice. He did not curse. I was so scared. It was over ago. But I still remember it like it was yesterday. Its so true. He's very sensitive and he was also very tight. And I had a hard time reading. So that's where I went wrong. I fixed that quick😂. Nothing like I ever experienced before.
In my 22 year previous relationship.
But he was intentional and a man of his word. It scared the hell out of me. But I thank the Lord for him. He sent me exactly what I needed. I wasn't looking. Just doing my job. Then boom! That's my Boaz. My protector, My provider... Nothing to do with money. He provides some much more. Wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. My God sent angel! I had to knock down the wall of Jericho. But it was worth it💛
You are very correct on this, there are some men who loves you so much and are afraid they will lose themselves, and because of that he doesn't really know how to face and express things, but he is there for you every step of the way, not everyone is that expressive but that doesn't mean they don't Love you, i think we should focus more on the Strength than the weaknesses, love is critical and our wisdom matters a lot.
My fiancé is the exact same way
*Many receive advice, but only the wise will profit from it*
You are absolutely right!
I have listened to your talks for a few months. Just 30 minutes a week has changed my life. Thank you!
Related to being a “yes man,” everyone needs to learn how to set and enforce their own boundaries. For their own mental health and spiritual evolution, not because the other person might find them less attractive.
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So true...after being with my kids father (24years) i finally found the man god sent to me is almost wayyy to good to be true...I have never felt love besides my kids like this before and he is definitely a godsend he survived lead poisoning and open heart surgery he's a walking miracle my angel I say. ... wish everyone the best and hope you find that One 💯🙏❤️ Believe I tried to sabotage us because of being broken but I gave love a chance again and I'm thankful I did...
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Stephan is still the #1 coach I listen to when I struggle ❤🎉
Yes agree, if a man values my opinion and takes what I think into consideration, that's a sign of respect & appreciation. It also says, I value you and trust your viewpoint/advice. If a man cannot satisfy a woman in physical intimacy that can happen initially as the two people are learning each other. Yet, I always feel when you have a deep level of emotional intimacy, connection, and just trust each other not to mention love, the physical intimacy just magnifies that bond. When a person feels too good to be true & they are genuine, then you have likely met your best match. When two people come into alignment & they just mesh on all levels, that is one way you can know who is truly for you. Love is a reflection of ourselves & often we match best with a partner who shares many of the same beliefs & value systems. Excellent video !! Blessings, peace, & light to you.
Yasss!!!
Thanks for the positive energy! 🙏.
Thank you for sharing I appreciate that 🙌
Always my pleasure to share, keep up the great content. ❤🙏
@@JamaicaLove876: Well said!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I am hearing that women not only get lost in a relationship but men do too if they are really in love. Support him and hold him accountable but not being disrespectful.
16:38 thank you for explaining why he can struggle to satisfy due to nervousness etc. that actually makes me feel a lot better.
God doesn’t do mediocre, so if it feels too good beyond your imagination, it’s because God gives the best gifts 🙌
🙏 Amen!
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Yes! Stephan, you had it at "priority". Please don't forget the Maya Angelou quote: "Never make a priority of someone that only sees you as a priority". Ladies? Woman to woman- this should be top of mind
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When my man told me the number 2 tip. It blew my mind because i had never been told that or loved that way. I was stunned and I was also so speechless. Thank you for posting this because your vids have serviced as confirmation in my journey of transformation.
Definitely appreciated when you're able to analyze both sides and provide clarity 🙏🏾❤️
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Love your personality and videos. Watching all of them! Thank you for always sharing. Always wished to be the best I can be for my partner in life❣️
You hit it on the nail with staying in a long term relationship or marriage and the person is terrible in the boudoir. It's sad actually because we have to go back to the basics of communication. If you don't ask you don't get. If you don't teach them they won't learn or know. So I agree you can't stay with someone if neither party us satisfied and happy with the other. I think classes, therapy, advice, communicating what you like, and more can help in relationships.
You are absolutely right communication is definitely key!
Hello, just want to say I really like the topics you speak about, and the great advice you give. As a married women in my 40's and who's been happily married for 23 years, I must say I still am learning and growing in this game of love, and you actually teach me things. I understand all your points and templates on relationships, and I really resonate. All I have to say to the ladies who is looking for long term and true love, is... Keep your self up, never get overly comfortable, go to the movies and out for drinks and dinner at least once a month, always be your best physically, do your hair, wash up every day (stay fresh and clean) ... shave even those hairy knees and legs😂 get your nails done or a simple manicure and polish. Stay cute, cook home cook meals, and most importantly don't have sex" every day" (make him miss that good good, he'll appreciate it more) but when you do drop that thing, make it like it your best performance😂 (seriously y'all) sex is very important rather it's penetration or bobbing for apples, do it good🤷🏾♀ That's all folks😂🙏🏽👍🏽
Stephen listening to you made me realise I've known nothing about relationships for long. I was single even as I dated. Focusing on my own well being now
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My man is clearly not a cook...he goes to my kitchen and continues to organize my kitchen right down to moving my spices and utensils...i have told him too many times not to move my things
Early stages=its his representative talking. So give it time to KNOW the REAL MAN!!! I usually go 1 1/2-2 yrs but u can set ur own time range. But that's when they can't hide behind the representative anymore. Eventually HE COMES OUT!!! So yes early stages=be ALERT!!!!!!
This is something I learned my husband was a musician and when he was up there on stage in his masculine faze I felt so attractive to him.. but when he was at home he was different. I couldn’t understand why he was different until I learned that he had to come down more to a feminine state to love me” at home. Which makes sense he can’t show you he loves you in a masculine state, it’s to powerful.
But when he’s in public he turn to protective mode, the leader.
If this makes sense.
Great video! For me I do value someone who is willing to listen to what I think. However, I do like a man who can take the lead in most situations. This does not mean that you have to be controlled by a man, but if he can effectively take charge in a situation then let him do that.
Thank you and absolutely! I think most women would agree with you.
I my watching this vedio..u were asking for 10k followers....u are having 1M in a year...truely deserves you❤❤
One invests prayerfully, consistently, and considerately in who or what one highly values and cherishes
Number 5 is definitely a problem that I could have of wanting to run and not handle it properly.
We put a lot of expectations on ourselves & or partners. Allow for faults, but never displace nor project responsibility. Grow in love 💯
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I love your insets, its so good time spending listening to all your videos.
WILL YOU PLEASE address "A younger man, in love with an elder woman". I've met this professional man who adores me, but I am 10 years older
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
Me and bf of 7 years have a lot of these problems, but he won't talk about any issues. He is a really private person with his emotions and thoughts. Instead, I had to learn to small talk with him to have a conversation because that is all he is willing to do. He feels happy in our relationship but obviously, I feel disconnected.
Stephan, your references at minute marker 10:25 … about the man possibly being ‘nervous’ … ‘too fast’… etc:
All those awkward reactions to ‘uncommitted’ sexual activity are the very reason why it is BEST to wait until both parties can relax in the knowledge that they belong together, in Heart, Mind, Spirit, and Legalese!!!!
Thank you for this message! I truly needed it! I’m currently dating a gentleman that I’ve been friends with for almost 4 years, dating 2 months!He’s 10 years older and is an amazing man! I’m still shocked that he showed interest in me but our chemistry is amazing! However, I don’t feel like I measure up to the type of woman he deserves. I struggle when it comes to opening up to him about my feelings and he asks ever so often even though he’s the type that doesn’t talk about his feelings and says that he will show me. Long story short I’m afraid to be completely vulnerable. I just pray that we can work through this because we really could be great together.
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He became so insecure even after 3yrs
Of my trying to show him how to please me intimately. That made him think that I would look elsewhere , so there was no trust .
Refuse to fake my fulfilment . Crossing the line of threatening my My life , his obsession , and anger . I learned , ENOUGH IS ENOUGH !
It is soooooooooooo crazy... I listen, read and witness so many situations regarding relationships and l have yet to come across someone I totally agree with 💯 percent. Stephen has truly saved my relationship because I have all he talks about in my man but somehow I try to find something wrong (and have been unsuccessful in finding ANYTHING) but still constantly look. I thank you for the consistent reassurance when I am so doubtful. Truly heaven sent 🙏🏽 ❤
Glad I could help 🙏
Time will reveal all things. Praying for a complete and speedy recovery.
Many people have different meanings of what it means to love someone. People get together and find out that they can't handle what comes with them getting together. Many folks are not even equipped to put in the work that will help their relationship to be a healthy one. This is why many are hurting now.
Number 5 and learning to trust go hand in hand, especially if you've been hurt before.
Stephan u r blessing to this generation.......Thank u so much♥️
I listen to various coaches..in French, English, American, Spanish, Dutch.. You are the greatest! Thank you !
IDK if I agree with point at 23 min. mark. I don't think some men need an excuse to be a jerk and say no, because he feels a need to assert his masculinity.... Rather, I think a man can be level-headed and evaluate and make decisions based on given information and not his own emotions. That is the mature, sensible approach.
I know he cares for me more than he wants me to know. One way I knew is because he took me to a friend's big birthday party, and they were openly stunned he brought someone.😱 We are (well...were) very close, but the rollercoaster ride of emotions and seeming confusion on his part became too much. It destroyed us, unfortunately. I was exhausted. 😢💔🙏🏽
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Sounds like a narcissist 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Not gonna lie been hearing your name in the streets and took it lightly but when you just said he can't think without you...💯💯💯💯...you a real one
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It's Finally Happening!!! Screams!!! Thank God, My Family & You So Much for All The Love and Support (Sincerely) 🙏🏿🕊💜🕊🌹... Everything You Said Was and Is On Point...
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That is so true, we have to talk, address issues together. If one person is talking and the other one is quiet, but always say they love you.
The puns!🤣😂
Yup, it is always HOW you say something(the approach); not what you say that makes another person listen and actually consider your feelings.
I just love they way you explain and dissect every point you make, which makes things SO much more clearer! It's really easy to blurr the lines.
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Until just a few weeks ago l was married to a guy that was doing all of the things mentioned by Stephen and l really thought he loved me unconditionally. He let me be me, strong independent woman that became his teacher after he arrived from the foreign undeveloped country to US and who did everything possible to support him in his American journey. Everyone was amazed at how wonderful my husband was and how he seemed to love me. Even though he has been already 5 years in this country, he wasn't yet where he wanted to be, however I was looking forward to seeing him more of a provider sometime in the future. But one day few weeks ago, out of nowhere, he asked to separate claiming that l didn't love him the way he wanted to be loved. Because I brought him to this country, l am torn in deciding if his love, with all 5 sings described by Stephen, was a reality or just acting. I know he loved me, he showed it in many ways, but my people around me try to tell me otherwise claiming it was a great acting to get his papers here. We've just separated officially after 6 years of marriage, 7 years together and his 5 years in US. Nobody saw it coming, me especially.
I'm huge on communication!! I'm quick to walk away these days when I've expressed that I need communication and the other person makes NO effort!!!
That is my man! He is amazing and I am so grateful that God has sent him to me. ❤
Class is in session!! Ladies & gents take notes 📝 thanks for sharing.
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Wow this guy is really, really,deep i learned alot from him,thanks stephan!!!!
7 years ago I fell in love deep in love with her but she didn’t or I guess couldn’t feel the bad. She was still living with her kids father because she had nowhere to go. Sparing the personal but let’s say things was bad at home and she would always use me as a form of escape. Though she made it more physical I didn’t mind but I felt I wanted to save her protect her all I ever thought about was her and how I can make her happy. I paid attention to all her little things she does as a human being learned how she works. When I didn’t know all she wanted was to be with me and be intimate and spend time with one another with one another. I ignored that because I felt that wasn’t even she ended up saying I was too emotional which in turn I felt was a low blow because I wanted to just make her happy.she ended moving away and we started talking after 7 years I moved to where she lives she told me she’s ready for me how she sees what I was offering is what she needed all along. So I took it serious because when she broke it off I said Later on if we meet up again would you marry me she mentioned that and I was like fudge. All this time my feelings towards her never changed weird giving the fact we both had another child. I remember asking her has she fallen in love with anyone after me she said yes about three times it made me feel terrible. I told her which is true I haven’t been able to love anyone the way I loved her. What’s crazy is that now that we’re older we talked more then we ever have when we were together and it’s great but I noticed she became more drawn to me in a sexual sense so I was like nope she’s not ready so I just been keeping her at a friendship level all she ever ends up mentioning is sex. For those 7 years I have had endless sex I don’t need that from a woman I just want to be loved and held I want what I give to them in return. Because of our parting it hasn’t left me the same inside as a man. Idk what to do but I’m still the happy person I’ve always been not saying I don’t have a bad side but with good people I treat them with respect and love.
This was beautiful- thank he heart takes time too heal - but always remember this- you have a heart this big that it chose to love in the first place. You opened yourself up to Love. After the pain subsides you will know when you open yourself to the full force of Love again- just know you can handle it. It’s the best teacher ever.
And before we die,when we finally learn all of Love’s lessons that we can in the short time that we are here- know that you have the greatest gift the Universe ever produced : Love.
I hope this message finds you well- with 💗
Mmmm I don’t tell him that truth because I feel like I’m going to make him feel bad!😢
It’s ridiculous how on point Stephan be! Man this was all facts 👏🏾‼️
😏 thank you ❤️
I love the way your put your comparison it shows the foawas in both parties therefore it becomes more interesting to me watch and understand 😊
So agree; definitely seems to good to be true. Unbelievable in every way. All started with a facebook comment.
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