7 SECRET THOUGHTS A Man Has When He's INTO YOU

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  • @MeetStephanSpeaks
    @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +143

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    • @lindabaker1782
      @lindabaker1782 3 роки тому +10

      I enjoyed listening to this I need this because this symbol to the man that I am with we were high school friends and now we are trying to be together and I never felt this Loved Before

    • @lindabaker1782
      @lindabaker1782 3 роки тому +2

      @Bara Cephas thanks

    • @ashleybigger32
      @ashleybigger32 3 роки тому +2

      Thank you Stephen Speaks. You are absolutely correct in this video. I needed this video.

    • @1starpage
      @1starpage 3 роки тому +4

      @@lindabaker1782 do you…it’s up to how you feel furthermore go & have a conversation with the almighty god because never forget I tell u this
      👉🏽👉🏽man cannot help you
      Especially if they can’t help themselves put on A front like they do
      Never ever forget that to the fullness 💯

    • @dafnenoel9825
      @dafnenoel9825 3 роки тому +4

      I ordered your book on December 6th just finished reading 📚 it today. 👌🏾 I told a friend about it and she ordered it as well. Me and my Fiance read it together.❤

  • @fayewearing581
    @fayewearing581 3 роки тому +2317

    My dad & stepmom have been married for 30 years. The number one rule I learned from them was COMMUNICATION is a two-way street. LISTEN with love & RESPOND (NOT REACT) with respect.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +118

      Communication is definitely key!

    • @beefaye18
      @beefaye18 3 роки тому +50

      That's Beautiful💕.....in my experience lots of men struggle wit communication....they just shut dwn...

    • @CoachLove
      @CoachLove 3 роки тому +41

      Always good to read about faithful and healthy marriages.

    • @brokenbutsavedbyHisGrace
      @brokenbutsavedbyHisGrace 3 роки тому +10

      Yessssssss🔥🔥❤️

    • @bernessabass6409
      @bernessabass6409 3 роки тому +5

      Thank you

  • @gravityclarity
    @gravityclarity 2 роки тому +713

    What men think when they really like you:
    1) Does she really love me?
    2) Is she thinking about me?
    3) I hope she really likes this
    4) Will she still respect me?
    5) I really want her to know how serious I am about her
    6) I don't want to lose her
    7) She's the only woman I want to be with

    • @primadonna4253
      @primadonna4253 2 роки тому +104

      Thank you girl because these videos be too long lol

    • @gravityclarity
      @gravityclarity 2 роки тому +22

      @@primadonna4253 lol🤣

    • @jillybeanthegringa4104
      @jillybeanthegringa4104 2 роки тому +22

      I wish when I ask these questions to my husband he’d answer them . Truthfully. Unfortunately we are on different communication maturity levels. 😢

    • @dr.hannah1155
      @dr.hannah1155 Рік тому +6

      Thank you Sis!

    • @filmladyproduction
      @filmladyproduction Рік тому +4

      Does he mean 'Real Men' right? Or vulnerable and insecure men?

  • @jaywillie7840
    @jaywillie7840 2 роки тому +764

    I’d been accustomed to thinking that most men are sex-crazed, but my boyfriend said, “If there’s something to learn about my love language (physical touch) is that sex isn’t the most important thing to me. What’s most important is that I know a woman cares and gives a damn about me…you show and tell me that every day even when we’re apart” Another time I was telling him how I’d like to spoil him and he said “I already feel spoiled by the love and attention you give me” I was actually shocked because I thought I was doing basic stuff, but for him it was much more than that. I knew that he was used to more abusive/toxic behavior in previous relationships, but that emphasized it even more!
    In my more masculine days lol, I was that woman who’d think “Umm he’s got all these women complimenting him…he knows he looks good, so I don’t need to say it. I don’t want to pump his head up too much!” 🤦🏾‍♀️ Now I’m never too far from complimenting my boyfriend & showing appreciation! 😍 The other day, I wasn’t feeling well, he asked if there’s anything I needed. I reluctantly asked to be taken to the grocery store (I know his days are busy with 2 jobs). He readily agreed, gave me a time to be ready by. I was soo appreciative lol he looked so sexy carrying my water & bags to my apartment 🙈 I had to let him know and thank him again for setting time aside for me 🙌🏾 he’ll say “You done lovin’ on me woman?” I’m like “Never! 😍🤗”

    • @a.m.thomas9366
      @a.m.thomas9366 2 роки тому +18

      You shouldn't be having sex if you're not married, women should be afraid to flaunt that.

    • @misselle1430
      @misselle1430 2 роки тому +43

      @@a.m.thomas9366 where did she even talk about sex tho. But it would be nice if people waited but guess what ... not everyone wants or believes in marriage.

    • @mobonimokikan
      @mobonimokikan 2 роки тому +15

      You just listened/read to reply!!! 🙄 . Please do better

    • @soobaafrica4330
      @soobaafrica4330 2 роки тому +5

      Beautiful 😍🥰

    • @cassier3544
      @cassier3544 2 роки тому +30

      My current boyfriend is always like “you’re so nice to me” “and no one’s ever cared about me like that” which is always sweet to hear

  • @heathertaylor4979
    @heathertaylor4979 2 роки тому +361

    Communication is everything. I was married for 53 years until he passed and our motto was “never go to bed mad”..

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +13

      Communication is definitely key. Thank you for sharing ❤️

    • @Ohkeh640
      @Ohkeh640 2 роки тому +3

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @katrinajones8806
    @katrinajones8806 3 роки тому +857

    When u work on yourself in all aspects ...mentally , physically , and spiritually ....stay in prayer , have faith , and dont settle .....The person God has for you will come and there will be no questioning what thier place and position is in your life !!.....make sure you give what you want to receive and be prepared for the relationship you couldn't even dream about 🙏😇

  • @sandragreen5146
    @sandragreen5146 3 роки тому +516

    The right guy who knows that he wants to be with a woman doesn't play around.He sticks to his plan and proves that he is the one to be with.

  • @KitchenDance
    @KitchenDance 2 роки тому +363

    Loving it. A Maya Angelou quote: "Never make somebody a priority when all you are to them is an option."

    • @sterntaler64
      @sterntaler64 Рік тому +1

      Heard this saying so many times... but what has it to do with this video? 🤔

  • @thisismystone9658
    @thisismystone9658 3 роки тому +331

    I like how you let us really understand that men are as emotional as ourselves and that they love us too...

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +8

      Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 3 роки тому +2

      Yes!!!

    • @humbleking7990
      @humbleking7990 3 роки тому +11

      This is my stone. Thanks for the positive encouragement/credit when due, us men need this kind of compassion/call consideration and vicversa.

    • @thisismystone9658
      @thisismystone9658 3 роки тому +3

      @@humbleking7990 you're welcome. I shall keep that in mind.

    • @vincpinkus1713
      @vincpinkus1713 3 роки тому +14

      Bro men are so damn emotional but they supress their feeling, because their afraid to be seen as weak. If you can accept a man that can let his guard down 100% hes probavly gonna trust you more. ❤️

  • @MIMIDSH
    @MIMIDSH 2 роки тому +98

    I recently began complimenting him- telling him he's good looking, intelligent, and why I like him so much (his best qualities). He's loving it. I don't think he has heard that much in his life. I've noticed he's opening up with his emotions a lot more now, and the compliments from him are becoming deeper and more meaningful.

  • @mashenka6189
    @mashenka6189 2 роки тому +111

    It’s not that complicated…if a man truly wants you he will show it pretty quickly..I spent nearly 3 years living with a man who wasn’t sure about our future..I left that relationship..I met my man and within 2 months he proposed..he said he he knew I was his dream girl the night that he met me…he told his best friend that he will marry me. It’s not that complicated…

    • @esthero1994
      @esthero1994 2 роки тому

      How did you meet him?

    • @mashenka6189
      @mashenka6189 2 роки тому +4

      @@esthero1994 at a friends birthday party…old school..

    • @esthero1994
      @esthero1994 2 роки тому +14

      Awesome...i guess i will have to start attending more family and friends gatherings...usually they are better quality ppl than you meet at the club🤦‍♀️

    • @marleneakimana2597
      @marleneakimana2597 2 роки тому +1

      Waouh...i meet a Guy and he 's absent work so much, i felt that I'm not a priority for him ... Your msg confirm that i have to focus on myself and let him go

    • @mashenka6189
      @mashenka6189 2 роки тому +7

      @@marleneakimana2597 yes! I learned the hard way….my previous partner was just not that into me…but I’m happily married for 18 years now with2 beautiful children…just move on..xx

  • @kimwinder8837
    @kimwinder8837 2 роки тому +256

    Communicate. Be Honest. Spend Time Together. Spend Time Apart. Don't take the person for Granted.🥰

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +3

      Thank you for sharing, communication is definitely key ❤

  • @privateequityguy
    @privateequityguy 3 роки тому +135

    *Many people will panic to find a charger before their phone dies, but won’t panic to find a plan before their dream dies*

  • @marshafarquharson3816
    @marshafarquharson3816 3 роки тому +131

    When the man is right for you he shows it period.

  • @michelleblue655
    @michelleblue655 3 роки тому +357

    All points that you have made were extremely insightful and well-spoken, Stephan. However, the excerpt about vulnerability really stuck out to me. As a clinical therapist, I see many individuals who have experienced diverse traumas both inside and outside of relationships which has impacted the ability to let down guards and/or challenge learned defense mechanisms. Until we are able to completely unpack our own baggage-as distinct and painful as it may be, we will not be able to truly engulf in that form and level of intimacy. Vulnerability=intimacy and intimacy is what a lot of relationships appear to be starved of. Thank you for your insight, as always. ❤️

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +17

      My pleasure ❤

    • @lcarp545
      @lcarp545 3 роки тому +17

      Great comment. What type of therapy does one recommend to help push through these issues?

    • @mosim9691
      @mosim9691 3 роки тому +2

      @Michelle Blue Thanks, Dr. Blue!

    • @ME-vb6pq
      @ME-vb6pq 3 роки тому +4

      I LOVE this response. Until I unpacked my baggage this was me! I shoulda made an appointment a long time ago. I coulda been with my baby. Turns out he’s somebody I have known my entire life. Go figure! 😁😊

    • @sasb3675
      @sasb3675 2 роки тому +1

      @@lcarp545 I'd love to know too!

  • @LanaMcAra
    @LanaMcAra 2 роки тому +51

    Such an important point you made there: "Just because the wrong men didn't appreciate something doesn't mean the right man won't appreciate it."

  • @luciussterling6977
    @luciussterling6977 3 роки тому +320

    When a man is into you; his thoughts and actions align with his poise and confidence in you. You'll be on his mind and he'll show you that no matter what you come first in his heart and prioritization in his life.
    God has a man , a king for you ladies , queens. Align yourself to receive it.
    Hala Nicole Mayweather

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +4

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!

    • @JelinaHavanaSergioLopez
      @JelinaHavanaSergioLopez 2 роки тому

      Amen.

    • @Beanp2025
      @Beanp2025 2 роки тому +2

      I don't think so, maybe God wants you to be alone, isn't it possible? I met a lot of truly horrible selfish criminal men.

  • @thebettercouple5572
    @thebettercouple5572 3 роки тому +359

    *ENERGY & ACTIONS will tell you everything you need to know* 💯
    *If the energy is off and the actions are few, that’s all you need to know* 👎
    *Great video sir* 🙏

  • @368carameldelux
    @368carameldelux 2 роки тому +61

    I'm currently going through this phase of my romantic relationship now and I love it!! My sweetheart and I are treating one another as if we're already married. Disagreements get squashed before the following day and we have the utmost respect for one another. It's hard work but when you have two willing people, and God as a foundation, it all works out. ❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @KaraKahn
      @KaraKahn Рік тому +2

      How's it going a year later?

  • @leratosani2656
    @leratosani2656 2 роки тому +98

    You're a big brother that some of us never had. Thank you for sharing your wisdom

  • @rebekahgreig2844
    @rebekahgreig2844 3 роки тому +112

    I appreciate the part about watching out for the negative people planting seeds of doubt. My boyfriend and I had experienced it and we had made a decision together to say something to the other people about it. Hearing this, I realized that the people who kept planting seeds of doubt were having their own relationship issues.
    My boyfriend puts so much effort into giving gifts that speak to things I love. The gifts I received for Christmas last year are being used so much by me. I know he worries whether I will love the gift. I make efforts to say it, but consistently using the items he gave me shows it. My sweatshirt is fading due to how many times I'd wear it and have to wash it. I tell him all the time that it's my favorite sweatshirt of any I've had. He put so much thought into it.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +3

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

    • @sanharrison7533
      @sanharrison7533 2 роки тому +1

      Awww this is so sweet, my Guy bought me a Sweat Shirt for Valentine my Favorite color with other items, but I Love it, even though it’s to big, because he picked it out, I refuse to get my size 💜

    • @Robert-sq5ri
      @Robert-sq5ri Рік тому

      Listen to your partner. To be a man in a relationship means to be fair. .

  • @Abbott12
    @Abbott12 3 роки тому +86

    Let God put the relationship together if he's the elastic the glue that holds it together when insecurities do pop up because they will then he'll keep you his grace is sufficient

  • @ChoppedByTPodcast
    @ChoppedByTPodcast 3 роки тому +85

    We talk about this all the time on our podcast. Throwing a Vulnerability back in anybody’s face is the quickest way to have somebody not trust you

  • @jossyj1
    @jossyj1 3 роки тому +126

    I’m a Cancer woman who has fallen for a Scorpio man. He’s EVERYTHING I meditated for and manifested. The BEST part is that we are wired the same. He’s about his business, children and ME! Nothing extra and we’re both fulfilled and feel like we have all we need. It’s a easy, light type of love as long as I’m controlling that Cancer cray cray🤣 I’m super grateful for him 🥰

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +3

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

    • @sashalawrence4786
      @sashalawrence4786 3 роки тому +15

      Scorpio is too intense for most people but Pisces and cancer are great matches for them

    • @jossyj1
      @jossyj1 3 роки тому +9

      @@sashalawrence4786 Cancers are super intense too. That’s why I thought we’d click because we understand that side of one another. I love that our personalities are similar. I’m just a lil eerie about upsetting him. That Scorpio cut off is no joke and I don’t want no parts of it. Wish us luck…lol ~ I’ve never dated a Pisces…

    • @sashalawrence4786
      @sashalawrence4786 3 роки тому +11

      Don't tip toe around upsetting him, he will sense it but if you dob upset him just a genuine apology , something thoughtful like his favourite meal or anything genuinely thoughtful and then leave him alone. calmly let him know you won't tolerate his temper and make sure you don't. Then Let him come to you.best wishes 😊

    • @jossyj1
      @jossyj1 3 роки тому +4

      @@sashalawrence4786 Received. 🙏🏾💛

  • @RS-fr8fb
    @RS-fr8fb 2 роки тому +2

    I will never repeat such mistakes ever.
    Blessings to you Brother and my Coach.

  • @adavis7678
    @adavis7678 3 роки тому +342

    I agree that people make the mistake of over texting when dating. Texting may be convenient, but it can lead to a lot of things getting lost in translation and a breakdown in communication. There definitely needs to be a balance between talking on the phone, face time and texting. Also, I loved the book Stephan it was a great read. Thank You for continuing to inspire and encourage us with your words of wisdom. You are an amazing man of God. Continue letting your light shine❤️🤗🙏🏼 Happy Holidays Everyone🎄🙏🏼❤️

  • @otyliasethi5622
    @otyliasethi5622 Рік тому +4

    You are the wisest relationship coach I found anywhere, thank you!

  • @TheDarkRaven
    @TheDarkRaven Рік тому +5

    The "how serious i am" talking point is legit. I thought the guy im with was not into me because of low texting and texted him that i was taking a step back since i like a guy who knows what he wants.
    I texted him later with a pouty picture of me sad with his ghosting and he tripped out wondering where i got that idea.
    He and I cleared it up and now we on way better communication terms once i explained to him that i liked hearing from him. He really was serious about me. 😃

  • @preciousobasi6898
    @preciousobasi6898 2 роки тому +9

    Ever since I found you on UA-cam, I can hardly stay a day without watching your videos! You've brought so much clarity my way. Thanks, Stephan. God bless you

  • @angelinasamson6996
    @angelinasamson6996 2 роки тому +7

    I’m always complimenting him , he don’t know how to take them , he’s so good looking and well dressed . He’s so passionate about his beliefs and he’s so used to be taken for granted or put down over and over and over again ❤

  • @reshaundaliv9176
    @reshaundaliv9176 3 роки тому +63

    Good video, I feel it's nothing wrong with texting/ calling a man to just say " Hey, I was just thinking about you,hope your day is going great, ect.. and if you feel that you are the one always making the first move and he's not reciprocating back.Follow your Spirit and keep it moving..

  • @donna9592
    @donna9592 2 роки тому +10

    When I met my husband 18 years ago I didn't realize how God was going to change my life by meeting him. As I got to know my best friend I didn't know that he prayed for a soul mate just for him. After all I been through I never thought I would find a great man of God. Some times you go through life with trials and troubles so much that he will put the right people in your life to help you along the way.

  • @lacrystalwyatt1116
    @lacrystalwyatt1116 3 роки тому +64

    I’ve been on a self love journey, now ready for love.. Thanks Stephan I know the qualifications to look for in a relationship

  • @idagreen3495
    @idagreen3495 Рік тому +4

    I really appreciated this video. I just started talking to a guy. He does always make the effort. I shared a personal experience with him last night. He really listened and also shared with me something about himself. After listening to some of this, I texted him and told him how much I appreciated him listening to me last night and I appreciated him sharing with me. He's about 15 years younger than me but is truly a real man. He does take the lead in calling me. Last night he told me to text him when I got home today and then he would call me. I'm crying now thinking I've possibly truly found the one❤ everything you're saying makes a lot of sense. Thank you

  • @kourtney101
    @kourtney101 3 роки тому +40

    Such a beautiful message. Every person should find their 'A-Game' partner who brings him the best AND brings out the best in him and vice versa.

  • @dianedorney5147
    @dianedorney5147 2 роки тому +6

    I was told by a man that loved me that men take heartbreak harder than women...I was very gentle with his love...till he died in my arms...Stephan your dialogue touches my soul your words are very affective...makes me sad when I remember

  • @kymiisayoo4006
    @kymiisayoo4006 2 роки тому +7

    I met this guy about a year ago through an app, we flight to Colombia this month (June 2022) to meet each other. Oh my god! Now i understand all his behaviors, here while we're in Colombia, he is constantly asking me if im okay, if i had fun during the day. He is always trying to please me in all aspects, cooking, providing, it feels weird sometimes when youre no used to that kind of treatment but I like it. 🌼🌻 Thanks for bringing me some clarity.

  • @mslissa5793
    @mslissa5793 2 роки тому +50

    After being on the dating scene in this last year following a 9 year relationship, I had faith I would find the right- one despite a couple of lessons learned, and hearing this I'm sure I have now. Thank you for this

  • @thisismystone9658
    @thisismystone9658 3 роки тому +45

    We have a saying that when you tell him how handsome he is, how much he makes you get butterflies every time you set your eyes on him, what his dressing does to you, you stand a chance of him stepping on your head or thinking you love him more than he does and then he takes advantage of how you feel.
    So, in most cases, we keep our drooling in our minds.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +39

      A man who truly loves you 💯 will never take advantage of how you feel!

    • @beefaye18
      @beefaye18 3 роки тому +12

      Its a shame....u can't be honest because they use it against u 😤

    • @jacquelineanglin8290
      @jacquelineanglin8290 3 роки тому +4

      True

    • @jacquelineanglin8290
      @jacquelineanglin8290 3 роки тому +1

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks Thats so true

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +5

      @@beefaye18 I feel you, it isn't an easy situation but the focus should be on doing what is truly best 🙏

  • @heatherberry640
    @heatherberry640 2 роки тому +13

    Out of all the relationship coaches ive watched, this man is truly the best!❤

  • @yolandamastersjones4818
    @yolandamastersjones4818 3 роки тому +40

    I totally agree that a man will approach you when he is interested in you. I personally would not approach a man because I was not raised up that way.

  • @sandraaqueenllc9218
    @sandraaqueenllc9218 3 роки тому +34

    THISSSS message is so ❤️ BEAUTIFUL. My heart is warmed because if a person did their BEST I can't ask for more. I LOVE vulnerability in a man it's very masculine. Open up so that u can grow together. POWERFUL, I'm sharing this. Thx u.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +2

      Thank you for sharing ❤ I appreciate your support!

  • @drianak8175
    @drianak8175 2 роки тому +16

    Hearing the male perspective on this is indeed so insightful. Women should also be considerate of men’s feelings. Loved the video, thank you❤️

  • @tishaadams2366
    @tishaadams2366 3 роки тому +47

    Awesome message. Taking a break from dating and situationships. This message is great for when God bless me with my king. Thank you!!

  • @catherinebrinson5692
    @catherinebrinson5692 2 роки тому +8

    My man and I are over 50 and 13 months old. He has been the pursuer consistently from the beginning. He asked me to be officially his @ 3 months.

  • @EllieM_Travels
    @EllieM_Travels 2 роки тому +4

    Women run away from the man who can really hurt them. The guy they’re not really that into will get a lot more opportunities. Wow! This explains so much!

  • @OurDailyBread913
    @OurDailyBread913 2 місяці тому +1

    This is so on point!!! Thank you Stephen for this nugget of wisdom ❤

  • @dianemcguffin6346
    @dianemcguffin6346 3 роки тому +14

    Thank you, there are several of those thoughts that a man may express to his lady...gals be sure to truly listen

  • @sharondawilliams624
    @sharondawilliams624 3 роки тому +31

    9 mins in.... A good leader leads by example. Model what you want in a relationship. The woman will mirror your actions.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

  • @Mona-mr1cd
    @Mona-mr1cd 3 роки тому +44

    You’re a very wise and balanced person with your assessments 🙌🏽💜

  • @womenwhodate7643
    @womenwhodate7643 3 роки тому +57

    I can’t express how thankful I am for your videos - they definitely help people understand men better and get through the dating/relationship with better success. Thanks, you are a blessing ❤️🙌

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +4

      I'm glad the videos are helpful I appreciate your feedback and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing 🙏

    • @dafnenoel9825
      @dafnenoel9825 3 роки тому +1

      Yesss

  • @alisachaise3
    @alisachaise3 2 роки тому +3

    Stephan is absolutely correct! The good man who’s into you, you’ll know it. He’ll come correct!! And you can communicate with him as he leads with communication.

  • @abigalestoll
    @abigalestoll 2 роки тому +19

    I believe everything you said in this video. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️. Personally, I believe that I loved too much in the past and that's one of the reasons I stayed abstinent for over 7 years. I'm scared to get hurt again. When I love someone it's like that's the only man existing on earth. It feels like no other man could ever be better than him except God. Love is very scary for me ❤️. I stay at home, I do my sewing and my house chores and I don't care to go on the road unless I have an important business to transact. When I love someone my heart is out of my chest. That's how scary it is for me ❤️.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

    • @jujudaku
      @jujudaku 2 роки тому +3

      I am the same. Know you are not alone in the way you love with your whole heart and whole self. 💓 It is a wonderful gift and a horrible thing at the same time. I am still recovering from betrayal trauma from over 2 & 3 years ago. Guarding my heart feels so foreign to me. But I am beyond afraid to feel that again.

  • @brendadevries6087
    @brendadevries6087 2 роки тому +4

    Oh my God, I needed to hear this!! 😭😭😭Ladies, when he’s showing signs that he’s into you… and you like him back?reciprocate! I was so damaged from chasing after a guy who just wasn’t interested in me, and have had to wrestle with my own insecurities regarding my own sense of self worth and allowing myself to be loved. There’s a guy who’s been showing major signs that he’s been interested in me. I REALLY like him back, but because I was so used to reaching out and being ignored, my fear has been that this guy’s going to do the same, and that if I start chasing him, he’s going to run away. Then last week I spent time with him and a few of our mutual friends whom I’d not seen in a while. One of our other girlfriends was like hanging all over him, and he wasn’t doing anything to stop her, to the point where I was like, “What the hell???” I spent the whole next day crying about it. In having a conversation with my cousin a few days later, I realized I haven’t been as clear with my reciprocation as perhaps I could be. Then it dawned on me: he needs to know I like him back!! I reached out to him yesterday while inviting him and a number of other people over for the weekend, and he just started texting back like crazy.
    I’m not going to full-on confess my love out loud just yet, but I am going to take more initiative to let him know, “Hey. I’m into you too.” 😌❤️‍🩹 And if he does pull back after that? It’s okay. I trust him, and he’ll know if we’re not a good match. 👍 And that’s okay, because then there will be people out there who are better for us both.

  • @naledimailula296
    @naledimailula296 2 роки тому +3

    Stephan, you are making so much sense. Goodness, I'm 'seeing' someone from a different nation and in his culture, men don't show emotion. But' we had a disagreement cause I deleted a text where I'd said I miss you and would love to see you. He was so hurt and said I had no idea how my texts make him feel. But goodness, I've been so reluctant to go all in cause the serious conversations haven't had, like the title. I'm from a marriage and this dating thing isn't something I'm used to but geesh, you make a lot of sense.

  • @gap2376
    @gap2376 3 роки тому +9

    We just have to learn to be thankful for the little things and don't take anything for granted. Appreciate the people you love life is too short.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @jaqueen_bleszed
    @jaqueen_bleszed 3 роки тому +16

    Beautifully stated. Thank you for these pointers. FAITH with God in the midst of growing something beautiful. 🙏

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +1

      ❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

  • @katrinastarchild
    @katrinastarchild 2 роки тому +4

    Amazing points. Not too proud to say I see where I was falling short of these points in part relationships. While I'm single i will intentionally work on these aspects of myself. Amazing.

  • @andytorto5416
    @andytorto5416 3 роки тому +25

    Great video! I agree
    Men are emotional beings too. We like to hear nice things and get sweet texts from the one we like too

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +2

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!

    • @a.m.thomas9366
      @a.m.thomas9366 2 роки тому +1

      Thank you for saying that, but why do you guys take so long to respond ?🙄

  • @clhb06
    @clhb06 3 роки тому +9

    This is a perfect video for both men and women to watch and learn. It's an education.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +2

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

  • @msolbelangerl2055
    @msolbelangerl2055 2 роки тому +10

    Im doing all of these things to my Man naturally.☺️ He said he is obsessed with me and that I dont know how Much he likes me. I feel the same, baby ☺️☺️ beautiful relationship and thank you for that vidéo Stephan!!! It's Nice to see that we are doing the right thing and see the beautiful results.

  • @VIsidore
    @VIsidore 3 роки тому +11

    As a married woman of 33 years, you have some good points.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

    • @VIsidore
      @VIsidore 3 роки тому +1

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks when a man really likes a woman he will make the effort to show her how he feels. She doesn't have to do very much. My boyfriend at the time introduced me to his friends and family fast. He took my parents' to dinner to make sure they knew his intentions. My father didn't show, but that's a different story. It's all in actions, not words. A man knows what he wants. Anything else may be just a play thing. My boyfriend let his go after he met me. Cream always rises to the top. 😊

  • @TheAttractionTriggers
    @TheAttractionTriggers 11 місяців тому +1

    *Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your hearth or burn down your house, you can never tell.*

  • @newimprovedrie2272
    @newimprovedrie2272 3 роки тому +40

    I love this one!!! If everything you have taught me so far it's been true ... Thank you so much for your prayers and your wisdom

  • @tyjonesss21
    @tyjonesss21 2 місяці тому

    I was talking to a guy for a while and he kept asking me if I liked him , he would ask often. I would get upset and shut him out. I felt like he was asking to manipulate me because I felt it was obvious that I liked him.
    Thanks Stephan for opening my mind to the idea that he could’ve just needed reassurance.

  • @nubiameryhor369
    @nubiameryhor369 2 роки тому +3

    I didn't have a father to explain that to me. So I am forever grateful for your amazing generosity and transmission! you can only be blessed forever! Merci depuis la Guadeloupe

  • @bootzz89
    @bootzz89 2 роки тому +6

    @7:22 you hit the nail on the head with that logic...... I’m a gay male and I’m going through this situation with another male ofc lol..... he’s worried about what others think and that’s what makes me back off.... but we’re both so attracted to each other that it’s unbearable to be near each other and not speak every single word that comes out of our mouths To each other.... but I’m DEFINITELY not twisting no Mans arm..... ESPECIALLY a Grown one.... the road not taken 🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️ but the chemistry is out of this world.... so I say handle them demons and if I’m still around.... you never know.... but I’m not waiting.... P.S. I know this is towards Woman but it’s not to far off from any sexual preference....

  • @blackcatno9
    @blackcatno9 3 роки тому +22

    Aww, I love this. I cried so hard. So many baes are
    Sweet and vulnerable and a little goes a long way, if only they knew? You have to show them.
    Don’t ever be afraid to apologize.
    I do almost every day, and also I give every day-compliments and energy, the more I give the more I get. It’s a risk-oh man. But men are sweet as hell if you give them some rope.
    Not in a kinky way, but let them think things through, give them space and back to god, and be surprised. Sweet baes are out there.
    They get hurt, they cry. They pay attention.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!

    • @blackcatno9
      @blackcatno9 3 роки тому

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks no problem, people think men are so cold but you don’t get the same support for your sweet side! Keep preaching.

  • @a.m.thomas9366
    @a.m.thomas9366 2 роки тому +72

    " DO NOT EVER THROW HIS VULNERABLE MOMENTS BACK IN HIS FACE !" I shall remember that in Jesus'name. 😁

  • @laurawinters1504
    @laurawinters1504 3 роки тому +14

    This is a enjoyable video, filled with great ideas. Thanks for the post Stephan. I especially loved the point about a man thinking he does not want to lose her. That's beautiful because it shows how deeply a man is thinking, and his willingness to make the relationship work.

  • @nattywho
    @nattywho 2 роки тому +23

    Loved this video! I absolutely believe men are very fragile, when it comes to their hearts! It takes a lot for a man to decide to give it over to someone and when he does, it’s scary…lol. I think women handle hurt and rejection a little better, because we allow ourselves to deal in our emotions and men don’t! When they get hurt, they make so many women pay for it afterwards! I am a true believer in flirting with your significant other! My guy and I flirt with one another every day and we always compliment one another! Men are strange creatures sometimes…lol. I just asked him what was one of the main reasons I am The One. He said, because I genuinely care about him! Wasn’t what I was expecting to hear, but I understood! That’s obviously something important to him! Anywho, relationships take work man and we have to be willing to clock in every day!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @reeseyanceyms.rayiamwhoiam100
    @reeseyanceyms.rayiamwhoiam100 2 роки тому +15

    Thank you Stephan so much for the knowledge you have shared with us. I do believe that man and woman need to show and be their authentic selves. When we do this we are being true to the one we are interested in as well as ourselves from the beginning. We have to stop assuming and stop being someone we are not. When we stop allowing representatives show up instead of our true self is when we get started on the wrong path. When you are your true self then it will speak to the spirit of the person and therefore we are being our true authentic self and the other person will know this and will be move to be there true authentic selves. Keep it 💯 always.

  • @CeliaMitchell-ot5ir
    @CeliaMitchell-ot5ir Рік тому +2

    Hi . I'm just loving this video because even at my age I'm learning from this.
    I did not have examples of how a marriage should be.
    I've been married a long time and this is very insightful.
    Thank you.

  • @noma5584
    @noma5584 2 роки тому +14

    So hurt from past relationship but I'm learning thank you

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +3

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you, and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

    • @ericaortega1087
      @ericaortega1087 Рік тому

      My ex was like this in the beginning but was total narcissist. How would you trust after that ? Or believe a man and not feel like he will flip later

  • @latiffanywilliams5758
    @latiffanywilliams5758 Рік тому

    WOW I'm taking back right now, have you been speaking to my Man? LITERALLY EVERY WORD you spoke I heard him say, and. I feel horrible for rejecting him because I was in my emotions and thought he was just saying stuff to get back in my good grace. WOW what a wake call

  • @ashiamarsh6960
    @ashiamarsh6960 3 роки тому +6

    @Stephan speaks This put many things into perspective for me. Sometimes we as people don’t acknowledge physical signs of our mates attempting to inform us on their feelings, while often seeing what we want.

  • @akrodriguez2720
    @akrodriguez2720 3 роки тому +15

    Another EXCELLENT video, great topic. Not being a Man, there is no way for us to really know how men think. All of your points and examples expanded my understanding. Women and men have to give attention and respect to each other to grow and keep a relationship. Your videos are always on point!

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      @mariohunter7403 3 роки тому

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      @mariohunter7403 3 роки тому

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    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому

      I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

    • @mariohunter7403
      @mariohunter7403 3 роки тому

      whatsAzpp him ☝️

    • @barbarasatawhite4483
      @barbarasatawhite4483 3 роки тому +1

      If your man don't spend holidays with you New years Valentine's Day his birthday your birthday what is going on when they claim that he is into you or wants to be with you is he playing games or what is it I don't get it

  • @cocoleluz
    @cocoleluz 3 роки тому +12

    I love giving complements 🥰 I know men loves that.

  • @tamaralandreneau8005
    @tamaralandreneau8005 Рік тому +2

    I made it a point, to affirm him. I told him, that he is sexy, handsome, sweet, precious, strong, a great kisser ! But, he only affirmed me, during the 1st 2 weeks, than, he got scared of his feelings and broke up.

  • @cathya1645
    @cathya1645 Рік тому +3

    Healthy communication and
    vulnerability is a MUST. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Stephan.

  • @BirdFinder100
    @BirdFinder100 Рік тому

    No cap, I was getting slight simp vibes from this guy, but the more I listened, I realize this guy is speaking truth. You doing good work here my brutha. Just discovered you.

  • @u4riacy
    @u4riacy 3 роки тому +27

    This is so beneficial! I truly understand how appreciation breeds production 💯 This is absolutely true when it comes to men. Thank you!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +2

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

  • @humbleking7990
    @humbleking7990 3 роки тому +6

    Because listening just to respond to each other,creates misunderstandings, false perceptions, empulsivity.... Yes as Stephan Speaks, usually explains that healing is vital to have a healthy/happy relationship, along these lines.

  • @brokenbutsavedbyHisGrace
    @brokenbutsavedbyHisGrace 3 роки тому +14

    I love the fact that you give such an in-depth look into the minds of men. I learn sooo much from your videos. God bless you! ❤️🔥

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +2

      Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌 and may God bless you as well!

    • @brokenbutsavedbyHisGrace
      @brokenbutsavedbyHisGrace 3 роки тому

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks I receive it in Jesus Name🙏🏽❤️

  • @jasmineshuman6993
    @jasmineshuman6993 3 роки тому +9

    Needed this info!!! So far I've grown so much since watching you!! Lol my personal favorite relationship coach!!

  • @marlenetorres5395
    @marlenetorres5395 3 роки тому +7

    God has blessed you with the wisdom of Solomon when it comes to relationships and dating. Thank you so much for allowing yourself to be used by God to help us heal and have healthy, loving relationships. God bless you, Stephan.

  • @Ladybug-zn9fw
    @Ladybug-zn9fw 2 роки тому +2

    Stephan I value this because I always try to understand the man's point of view and
    strive to show respect and appreciation but at times I may have made it all about me and that's what shut the communication down. May God continue to Bless you with wisdom and knowledge 🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @elisena80
    @elisena80 2 роки тому +15

    I'm actually laughing while you are talking. "He tricked me!" I am going through this right now. Thank you for this "women check yourself, men are human and have feelings" video. It was needed because I was really was starting to wonder.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +1

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

  • @gma904
    @gma904 2 роки тому +11

    This man is so on point! I am seeing all these things rn from a close friend and it’s encouraging to know I’m not being as mean as I used to be.

  • @anacromwell3759
    @anacromwell3759 2 роки тому +4

    I notice about relationship is don’t assume your other half do the same things like you do because it never go down well.What I mean is like my husband is not romantic, he doesn’t give flowers like every weekdays or once a month he is not that type of a guy.I learn not to assume all men buy flowers or hold your hands etc.If I starts dwelling and keep telling him buy me this and that I learn to accept him.He buy me gifts really expensive once a while and that makes me happy because I did not expect him to be like that, I learn to accept his flaws and have good communications.Never sleep angry each other, we talk and apologize because life too short.
    Not all men romantic, you just have to learn accept it or you have to tell him you like him to do this and that because men can’t read women minds🤣 give them work and reward them after they are done, specially the reward is sex he will clean your house in a heartbeat 🤣 he even clean your feet🤣

  • @lailapastor4233
    @lailapastor4233 2 роки тому +2

    It's good to hear a guy speaking like that. Refreshing

  • @blkrayvn1978
    @blkrayvn1978 Рік тому +3

    It's so precious to me when a man is in love. 🥺❤

  • @rsamuels6969
    @rsamuels6969 2 роки тому +4

    It is so great to hear a mans POV on what’s going on. This helped me to understand a lot!

  • @mwhite805
    @mwhite805 3 роки тому +8

    Thank You .Mr. Stephan... Very Enlighten and very important
    subject. Yes I agree men have feelings and I think when you are into a man that you have feelings for .. patience ,care. and Understandings helps especially when the man is showing his love towards you To give in a relationship works both ways

  • @RayanEiPOWERELECTRICLLC
    @RayanEiPOWERELECTRICLLC 7 місяців тому +1

    Man I love this video so true

  • @sandragreen5146
    @sandragreen5146 3 роки тому +12

    So true, it's so nice to be loved by someone special, its beautiful everyday.I love your channel Stephen you're great!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому +1

      Glad to hear that, thank you for your response and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

    • @sandragreen5146
      @sandragreen5146 3 роки тому

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks you welcome❤always🤗

  • @renee167
    @renee167 3 роки тому +8

    Thanks for sharing this information! It’s important to realize that men get hurt too, with that being said women must ensure that the man feels secure.

  • @hilo5901
    @hilo5901 3 роки тому +20

    “This is not the guy I signed up for “…😂🤣😂🤣…I love that! Stephan, your advice is working so well, I am using it in a new and creative way with fantastic results! We both love each other! Your advice helps me put myself in check too; I have changed! So thrilled!! Can’t wait to see how it all turns out. 😍😍🤞🔥🔥

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  3 роки тому

      Glad to hear that, I appreciate hearing your feedback❤ 🙏

    • @hilo5901
      @hilo5901 3 роки тому

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks I did experience the fragile heart. If I had not known what you shared about his state of mind, Being in Love, I would have totally took a good thing all out of context. I had to enjoy the revelation to myself! 😄 What a mind blower! Then I had to make peace with my Beloved: assuring him that I ONLY love him! I’ll see how that works out for him today. 💕

  • @YvetteInnerGrowth
    @YvetteInnerGrowth 3 місяці тому

    A man I'm dating is suspicious when I'm giving him genuine compliments from time to time. I think people despite gender are so damaged that small acts of kindness seem weird...I want him to feel that I admire him as a great man, good human being and that I'm greatful for everything he organise for our dates. Man will not put endless efforts if criticised all the time or not appreciated. I 100 agree om that, recognise efforts and let him know about it! ❤ Love this!

  • @AllThingsNaturalHair
    @AllThingsNaturalHair 3 роки тому +4

    New subscriber! Watched one video and now I am addicted and cannot stop watching. Everyone in the house looking at me asking when I am going to cook dinner.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂