I sent my man a good morning text that said: "my day is brighter when I think about you".And I attached a pic of the sun. He loved my message and called me about 3 times that day just to talk. Women should remember that men have feelings too and want to know they are loved and appreciated.
Love this!!! I was just telling my girlfriends this very same thing. Men have feelings top and want to feel appreciated. My guy appreciates the small things and I love that!
*You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won't mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.*
When we first got together he would send me cute messages all day long. I would always respond even though I was at work. Then all of a sudden he just stopped. I still sent things to him but he wouldn't even open them. After a couple weeks I stopped sending them. I even told him how much I appreciated his messages. They made my day. He just smirked and walked away. I didn't realize it at the time, I was dealing with a covert narcissist.
I’ve learned to accept the nice messages but not accept the person so easily. You have to separate the person from the message. Just because someone says nice things doesn’t mean they’re a nice person. It’s all about how they treat people.
You're absolutely right. Nice messages doesn't prove the person is nice or right for u. People pretend very well. And you will never know their true emotions and intentions behind their nice messages if God doesn't reveals it to u..
I will ALWAYS pursue a woman that I like. HOWEVER, if she has hurt me in some way or made me feel like there is another guy in her heart/mind, I will NOT pursue her the same way. I could TRULY still be into her, but I won’t pursue her or put the same effort once she has hurt me, disrespected me or shows any signs of still not being over another man or dealing with another guy in any capacity. I’ve had girls do those things and yet still expect me to pursue or “simp”. They act confused because maybe other guys would still pursue her under those circumstances, but not understanding that it’s probably because those guys just want sex, not a relationship. When a guy or girl just wants sex, a lot of them will lower their standards. When a guy wants a relationship with a girl, his standards for her are higher when compared to a girl that he only wants sex from. Girls are no different. When it’s based on LUST ONLY, you don’t really care too much. But when your heart is involved, you move differently. When it’s based on LUST, you ask questions like, what are you doing tonight? When your heart is involved, you ask questions like, how is your relationship with your father? But I can’t speak for all men. Just speaking from me personally.
I guess many men like to conveniently tell themselves that all women want commitment. In reality, no desirable woman is looking for a relationship she won't get any value from.
@Rico-RR I agree with you about a man's standards going up if he wants a relationship. That is not to say that a man's standards should go up only for that reason, but it is definitely one of them.
Yup, and sometimes both of you are insecure and the relationship spectacularly implodes like what happened to me when I dated a friend I'd known for 4 years 😭 I had just started dating again after my marriage ended, and I didn't know that his last girlfriend had cheated on him... his friend told me only after I had already broken up with him. If I'd known I would have understood why he was keeping me at arms length and acting so weird and wouldn't have broken up with him. Hopefully he'll talk to me again some day
Thank you for this. Been talking to a man for about 1 month. He asked me to give him a list of my favorite things. I was shocked because no man has ever asked me that before. 🤗🙏🏻
@@kristeneades8888exactly! I’ve had a man do something similar and then it wound up being all talk. He would just ask these deep questions and never produce anything.
Just a word of caution - this is typical Narcissistic behavior in the love-bombing stage. They want to know EVERYTHING about you so they can absorb you fully and ultimately use it as ammunition against you. IJS
That is where learning each other’s love language can make such a difference. Working together towards understanding what fills each other’s cups keeps the lines of communication open. This can pour into every aspect and increase the joy!
I think we need to open the discussion between “chasing” and “reciprocating.” A lot of my female friends I hear say they won’t do certain things when the man has clearly done the pursuing and then they don’t reciprocate because they think it’s “chasing.” They are not the same thing. Would love your thoughts on this.
I did everything you shared here. This man just stopped caring for us and our relationship. I gave up on him, and now I'm finding my happiness getting divorced.
Always appreciate what you put out here for us. I'm in a new dating situation after my marriage of 26 years ended. Some valuable lessons here. Thank you again.
I met a guy one month ago. We clicked instantly. He’s sooo my type, makes me laugh, insanely smart and emotionally intelligent. We’ve been texting and calls here and there since his departure - he lives in a neighboring country. I sent him a message that I miss his presence randomly. Instantly he text to say he’ll call in 1 hour - he called and we spoke for 4.5HOURS!! At the end of our call, he asked if I was feeling better and comforted. He said if I needed him for anything, even though he’s super busy, and far he’s only just a call away ❤ That felt good.
Awh thanks Stephen! There’s a man into me, he was very vulnerable in a message & wanted to know I was sure I loved him before he showed interest. I didn’t understand until this video, I wondered why he’s been more sensitive, thanks ☺️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I send & share your videos with all men & women I meet! Women thank you & men thank you for helping them understand them 😂 you’re doing Gods work 🙏🏼
I often feel like I’m reaching out and initiating more often than him. I know he cares about me. I think it’s a difference of personality and attachment types. We are also long distance which make it more challenging. Sometimes I feel like he doesn’t understand that I need him to reach out more and to initiate our time together. It’s almost like he thinks I already know so he doesn’t need to keep showing me.
well beware of narcissists who will express feelings towards you within a couple of weeks of chatting with you online and then expect you to feel the same when you're still getting to know them and no trust or healthy foundation has been established yet. however they say they love you and that you have them forever (you haven't even had a voice/video call yet). but they keep asking invasive questions about your feelings when you've already told them that you'd like to continue getting to know them and see where things go. but that's just not (soon) enough for the crazy person so they keeping on trying to break your boundaries. when that doesn't work they start taking offense at everything you say, saying that they are just emotionally sensitive and feel hurt by you. and from there on they feel justified in being verbally abusive towards you...
Thank you Stephan, I get so much out of your teaching and I haven't found disagreement in anything as of yet in all the topics I followed you with. I jjust read this excerpt yesterday.
I don't struggle with insecurity as much as I see other men struggle with it. I credit Joyce Meyer for that. I feel like she is the leading Bible teacher on insecurity, or, at least, the best that I have heard. I jokingly think, "I am not insecure because I took my Joyce Meyer vitamins.". 😂
Yes!! This! Spot on about men going thru that getting sensitive phase...checking for you when they don't hear from you, concerned about what is plaguing you..listen...I have no problem nurturingmmy potential man thru this phase
So many great points, I have been with men who are users even though I was very up front I want a long term relationship so now I have to be careful to not ruin a chance with a good man who means well. I have now met someone who is very respectful.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Yes you right ..but some are still in relationship... sinful of cheating one and others ..making choices are not an easy .... choices has love fonds the way .in many many millions and miles away .true love finds it owns ..is my testimony.
EXACTLY with that Statement from the beginning. I Agree with All of that. Thats All I was trying to say to my homegirls and ppl lately. Let that man Pursue you ma. Just reciprocate the same energy. Its That Simple! Stop Constantly Chasing after all these players!!!
Can you do a video on what to do when you walk away from a relationship that you aren’t benefiting from and weeks later they reach back out to you? Do men ever reflect on letting a good thing go and genuinely want to try it again?
The guy I was dating was never satisfied with my efforts, if I went to the gym 3xs a week instead of everyday, he wasnt satisfied even he didnt make it to the gym everyday, so why have such an expectation of me that he could've fulfill himself? 🤷🏾♀️
@@uptownsfinest1204 I don’t think we can tell others how to interact. This is a tough situation, I’ve been in it with friends. Eventually I accepted it, but I never felt the same about my friends.
I always think that Aj is not instrested me,cuz when I think it him ,I get nervous. When I saw at first, he didn't smile at.But I was tryna get him to smile. I really want him 😊
You guy are so differentiated and wise , you re bringing issues to the very point! I am from Germany and 64 of age and always get new input and reassurance of the contains of what you re saying ...not many like you around in the internet. I love to listen to you...full of humour and livelyness, its pure adorable ...
This video is so good. You explained it so well in way I never thought could be put into words. It validated what I thought he’s going through and I see every single thing you mentioned in him. Thank you!
I find myself asking the same questions for validation or confirmation… in the beginning we talked often now we LINK up once a week and nothing else but he always sends via text or verbally tell me he loves me and I truly have been loyal and love him over 1.5 years. When I try to talk mushy stuff or ask about “future” at times he’ll ignore or deflect from what I’m asking. I’m lost in love 😩 I know my worth and confident just thought different of this person
If a man's first impulse is to reject, devastate and haunt a woman. How do you come back from that? How does a high value woman take him seriously at all? You can't!
Only some women would get in their feelings if their man books a flight and hotel and doesn't do the small stuff.. wow I'm loving the fact he did what he did.. I can make it work!!!
I told a male friend of mine’s that I have feelings for him. He said he has feelings but not of a romantic nature. I guess after that I just be his friend. Strictly platonic. Although I still have strong feelings for him. I’m trying to accept that it is the way it is. I see him every Sunday at church.
Yes, it does but we are still friends. I am sure God may have some one else who’s attracted and will pursue me. I will never express my feelings to a man again unless he expresses his interest to me. I guess Stephan makes sense.
And sometimes they were motivated for the hunt but once they got you they return back to who they really are which is just getting by, both financially and emotionally. I'm not chasing someone that is mismatched. Your scenarios are not relatable to what I've encountered out here. Broke men stay broke because they don't care about the things that other men care about. I'm not mothering someone into getting enough money to take me out after being together for several years. Am I wrong? I don't think he's lost motivation I think he never had it until he wanted to go after something but now that he's got it he's back to his old coasting. How do I tell what to do next
Omg 😢 I think I may have messed up my chances. He bought a Manson for me and us in another state to surprise me and only asked me for $5hundred to wrap up this home ,, and I was upset because he didn't even ask where I wanted to live. Plus I can not do stairs due to my health, and he didn't consider me for that. Then he said, he will buy an elevator. 😢 I'm feeling horrible and don't want to lose him And still want to meet him First !!!❤❤❤
@@MeetStephanSpeaks bless you, because at this point I’ve seen a lot of your videos and I can tell some believing women about it. I’m also looking at scripture and trying to focus on how to please God, first. :)
I really hope all the ppl still playing w other ppl's hearts and emotions understand that ultimately you are just hurting yourself, karma is vry real... if you r grown enough for sex than you need to be grown up about other ppl's feelings because it's rarely jst sex, unless u r paying for it from a professional
We’ve been talking for over a year. I moved closer 6 months ago. He says he’s fallin hard for me. But will not physically see me. Because he’s afraid. Makes every excuse for why he cannot see me or date me. But then calls and says he wants me. Then he doesn’t. Even after I tell him I’m madly in love. He keeps pushing me away. It hurts
Because he’s lying. I hate to break it to you, I remember I dated a guy for a couple months and he started acting inconsistent and making excuses so I told him off and blocked him, he kept hunting me down but I moved on. I couldn’t deal with that. Luckily for me, I barey like him so it was easy to move on. If he wants to see you, cmon, he’ll make an effort, don’t deal with bs
I just blocked a man who kept me hanging on and never showed when he said he would. I stupidly slept with him in the 15 minute time span he had for me after knowing him for about 4 months. The sex was mediocre and last time he was with me he gets a phone call from a girl who he puts on speaker and then gestures to me to keep quiet. So I blocked his married ass. It hurt. I had the illusion of finally finding my soulmate and was mad mostly of myself for sleeping with him.
I appreciate the advice. I’m sure he’s hiding something. It’s difficult because we were such good friends from high school which was 30 years ago now. I just told him goodbye.
I tell him I love him and he says it’s lust, I reply I also lust for you. He acts like he loves me but can’t say it. I message him and compliment him. He calls me daily, there is a distance between us and he makes the drive when possible however, has never invited me to his place. It’s been 8 months of dating, I do feel in love. Patience is at play here for me.
Stephan what would you say about my situation, I like this guy when ever I call or message this guy his very fast to respond he will never ignore me. But home boy just do not call nor message me 🤷🏾♀️ I feel like why should everything just come from my side, does he think about me though?
My Honey got me diamond earring for Christmas. He gave me the gift box in the car while he was driving. I opened the box and in my excitement I didn't meet his expectation in enthusiasm. His comment was " you don't know how to accept a gift". I understand now that he wants excitment! Hugs kisses holding his hand and telling him emphatically how much I loved his gift he picked out for only me. I myself do not get overly excited about anything ever. I realized he needs that. He made the trip to the store search for the perfect gift. Knowing him he put thought into the pair of earrings he gave me. Not to mention he could have spent the money on another one of his 5 vacuums. That's an entirely different story. ☺ I do love him, but I feel I have not been showing him to the point he needs.
It's wild to me how often you have to disclaim that you know men do these things too but you're talking to women. Are that many of us getting mad at you for giving advice specifically to us when it's a channel geared towards women? Why bother seeking this advice if you're going to get upset? You do awesome work! Thank you for encouraging us to take ownership of the work we can do instead of trying to control the actions of someone else, which is so much more empowering and provides us with the clarity we need to decide whether a situation we're in is truly healthy or not.
The last point is something I didn't understand to do until now I'm much older, lol. Appreciate the efforts tho details are important to me, just let it go! 😂
Hey Stephan How do you show the man you are interested to invite him without pursuing? I feel like guys stare so heavy but don’t approach, maybe I’m holding back? Idk 🤷🏽♀️
Ok. I did thr things you mentioned in point 2 to him last week...i sent that message saying i was thinking about him...he reacted positive....i sent the message saying i would love to see him....he planned the kind of "first date"...but this week....not communication after that date when we were supposed to meet one day of the week and is already friday...what do you say about that Stephen?...i do feel he is into me...i also have my fears and it costed me work to take that step but i dod because i know how shy he is...we were friends first.... So?
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I sent my man a good morning text that said: "my day is brighter when I think about you".And I attached a pic of the sun. He loved my message and called me about 3 times that day just to talk. Women should remember that men have feelings too and want to know they are loved and appreciated.
❤🌞 Aww.. I love it! Great insight. This is so true.
Love this!!! I was just telling my girlfriends this very same thing. Men have feelings top and want to feel appreciated. My guy appreciates the small things and I love that!
It was a wonderful feeling to experience that.
😊
I wish I knew what that felt like💔
That’s sweet. I’m gonna do something like that tomorrow.
I always say that a relationship should work like a tennis match. 🎾 both of you need to serve first at times and hit the ball to keep it in play.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Hey I like this
Great analogy
👊😎💯 this.
@eve837 thank you 😊 🙏 💓
*You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won't mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.*
True
When we first got together he would send me cute messages all day long. I would always respond even though I was at work. Then all of a sudden he just stopped. I still sent things to him but he wouldn't even open them. After a couple weeks I stopped sending them. I even told him how much I appreciated his messages. They made my day. He just smirked and walked away. I didn't realize it at the time, I was dealing with a covert narcissist.
Yes typical behaviour, that smirk is a dead give away, but you learned that that charm is short-lived! Cut and run, quickly.
@@janetkane682 I walked away 10 months ago and went no contact.
Wow, interesting 🤔
I’ve learned to accept the nice messages but not accept the person so easily. You have to separate the person from the message. Just because someone says nice things doesn’t mean they’re a nice person. It’s all about how they treat people.
You're absolutely right. Nice messages doesn't prove the person is nice or right for u. People pretend very well. And you will never know their true emotions and intentions behind their nice messages if God doesn't reveals it to u..
I will ALWAYS pursue a woman that I like.
HOWEVER, if she has hurt me in some way or made me feel like there is another guy in her heart/mind, I will NOT pursue her the same way.
I could TRULY still be into her, but I won’t pursue her or put the same effort once she has hurt me, disrespected me or shows any signs of still not being over another man or dealing with another guy in any capacity.
I’ve had girls do those things and yet still expect me to pursue or “simp”.
They act confused because maybe other guys would still pursue her under those circumstances, but not understanding that it’s probably because those guys just want sex, not a relationship.
When a guy or girl just wants sex, a lot of them will lower their standards.
When a guy wants a relationship with a girl, his standards for her are higher when compared to a girl that he only wants sex from.
Girls are no different.
When it’s based on LUST ONLY, you don’t really care too much. But when your heart is involved, you move differently.
When it’s based on LUST, you ask questions like, what are you doing tonight?
When your heart is involved, you ask questions like, how is your relationship with your father?
But I can’t speak for all men. Just speaking from me personally.
Please take a look at my post. I'd like to know your thoughts.
Why would she exclusively deal with you just because you like her? 😂
I guess many men like to conveniently tell themselves that all women want commitment. In reality, no desirable woman is looking for a relationship she won't get any value from.
@Rico-RR I agree with you about a man's standards going up if he wants a relationship. That is not to say that a man's standards should go up only for that reason, but it is definitely one of them.
@@Sunshannlol I really would like him to respond to you 😂
This concept goes both ways. A woman also can experience feelings of insecurity when she's in the presence of a man that she genuinely is attracted to
Yup, and sometimes both of you are insecure and the relationship spectacularly implodes like what happened to me when I dated a friend I'd known for 4 years 😭 I had just started dating again after my marriage ended, and I didn't know that his last girlfriend had cheated on him... his friend told me only after I had already broken up with him. If I'd known I would have understood why he was keeping me at arms length and acting so weird and wouldn't have broken up with him. Hopefully he'll talk to me again some day
That excerpt is 100% facts. He really isn't that into you. Move on and spare yourself the indignity ladies!
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
EXACTLY. The Same Exact thing I was trying to tell my homegirls yesterday.
Thank you for this. Been talking to a man for about 1 month. He asked me to give him a list of my favorite things. I was shocked because no man has ever asked me that before. 🤗🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Beware. It's still early. Give him one or two, but not too personal yet...that's my advice.🙄
@@kristeneades8888exactly! I’ve had a man do something similar and then it wound up being all talk. He would just ask these deep questions and never produce anything.
Just a word of caution - this is typical Narcissistic behavior in the love-bombing stage. They want to know EVERYTHING about you so they can absorb you fully and ultimately use it as ammunition against you. IJS
@@kristeneades8888 💯!! And no ‘list’ tell him 1 or 2 verbally and coyly tell him he’ll have to learn the others over time.
That is where learning each other’s love language can make such a difference. Working together towards understanding what fills each other’s cups keeps the lines of communication open. This can pour into every aspect and increase the joy!
I think we need to open the discussion between “chasing” and “reciprocating.” A lot of my female friends I hear say they won’t do certain things when the man has clearly done the pursuing and then they don’t reciprocate because they think it’s “chasing.” They are not the same thing. Would love your thoughts on this.
💯!
I definitely agree! 💯💯
2:44 Does She Really Love Me?
8:35 Is She Thinking about Me?
13:36 I Hope She Really Likes This
You are so right. I don't tell him that I missed him or complimented. I thought only women needed this stuff.
Yes ! Pondering " I wonder what him/her is doing at this moment."
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
It melts my man's heart when he sees a text from me the moment he wakes up. ❤
I did everything you shared here. This man just stopped caring for us and our relationship. I gave up on him, and now I'm finding my happiness getting divorced.
Always appreciate what you put out here for us. I'm in a new dating situation after my marriage of 26 years ended. Some valuable lessons here. Thank you again.
Glad I could help 🙏
Hello,
I'm at the end of a marriage of 25 years 33 together and wanted to reach out to see how things are going? If you don't mind me asking 😊
I met a guy one month ago. We clicked instantly. He’s sooo my type, makes me laugh, insanely smart and emotionally intelligent.
We’ve been texting and calls here and there since his departure - he lives in a neighboring country.
I sent him a message that I miss his presence randomly. Instantly he text to say he’ll call in 1 hour - he called and we spoke for 4.5HOURS!!
At the end of our call, he asked if I was feeling better and comforted. He said if I needed him for anything, even though he’s super busy, and far he’s only just a call away ❤ That felt good.
That's so sweet! How are things going with the two of you?
Please give update.
Update please. Did it work out?
That is soooo sweet!! ☺️🥰❤️❤️❤️
Everything you're saying is exactly how I feel too... im trying really hard to break my "old way" of thinking but its an inner struggle
Awh thanks Stephen! There’s a man into me, he was very vulnerable in a message & wanted to know I was sure I loved him before he showed interest. I didn’t understand until this video, I wondered why he’s been more sensitive, thanks ☺️
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I send & share your videos with all men & women I meet! Women thank you & men thank you for helping them understand them 😂 you’re doing Gods work 🙏🏼
Hey Stephan am addicted to your videos
Watching 1 always makes me wanting 2,3,4
And even more
Stay blessed
❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching I appreciate hearing from you!
I often feel like I’m reaching out and initiating more often than him. I know he cares about me. I think it’s a difference of personality and attachment types. We are also long distance which make it more challenging. Sometimes I feel like he doesn’t understand that I need him to reach out more and to initiate our time together. It’s almost like he thinks I already know so he doesn’t need to keep showing me.
I feel you so much. It's fine at the first few months but when it's too much, I just feel like giving up.
Or he has someone closer to home
I feel like man, do all they can at first to get you, and later on, they'll stop doing things they used to do.
I am married but I still watch your videos. They are so interesting.
My only regret is not having these lessons before I got married.
Your video is therapy to me. Thanks Stephan!!❤
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
well beware of narcissists who will express feelings towards you within a couple of weeks of chatting with you online and then expect you to feel the same when you're still getting to know them and no trust or healthy foundation has been established yet. however they say they love you and that you have them forever (you haven't even had a voice/video call yet). but they keep asking invasive questions about your feelings when you've already told them that you'd like to continue getting to know them and see where things go. but that's just not (soon) enough for the crazy person so they keeping on trying to break your boundaries. when that doesn't work they start taking offense at everything you say, saying that they are just emotionally sensitive and feel hurt by you. and from there on they feel justified in being verbally abusive towards you...
Thank you Stephan, I get so much out of your teaching and I haven't found disagreement in anything as of yet in all the topics I followed you with.
I jjust read this excerpt yesterday.
Stephan is out here saving lives! 😅Our lives! God bless him. 💫👑
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks ❤🙏🏽
I tell him every morning & every evening how much I love him, miss him & appreciate him ❤
I don't struggle with insecurity as much as I see other men struggle with it. I credit Joyce Meyer for that. I feel like she is the leading Bible teacher on insecurity, or, at least, the best that I have heard. I jokingly think, "I am not insecure because I took my Joyce Meyer vitamins.". 😂
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
She has a lot of wisdom
Yes!! This! Spot on about men going thru that getting sensitive phase...checking for you when they don't hear from you, concerned about what is plaguing you..listen...I have no problem nurturingmmy potential man thru this phase
So many great points, I have been with men who are users even though I was very up front I want a long term relationship so now I have to be careful to not ruin a chance with a good man who means well. I have now met someone who is very respectful.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Stephen you should do a live Q and A....I ❤your spirit
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
Yes please! That would be pure fire🔥!
Yes you right ..but some are still in relationship... sinful of cheating one and others ..making choices are not an easy .... choices has love fonds the way .in many many millions and miles away .true love finds it owns ..is my testimony.
Wow. I so needed to see this today. Thank you.
My pleasure ❤️
EXACTLY with that Statement from the beginning. I Agree with All of that. Thats All I was trying to say to my homegirls and ppl lately.
Let that man Pursue you ma. Just reciprocate the same energy. Its That Simple!
Stop Constantly Chasing after all these players!!!
Chasing a man reeks of desperation 👀
100%
@@msdemeanour Exactly
Can you do a video on what to do when you walk away from a relationship that you aren’t benefiting from and weeks later they reach back out to you? Do men ever reflect on letting a good thing go and genuinely want to try it again?
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
Yes they do..... After their supply has run out, then they'll realize that nobody else is going to put up with their bs
These shorter videos are great, thanks. I can't concentrate longer than 20min. Short & sweet 😉
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
supeeer agreee
Bro! Yes!
What?? You got to work on that, man. You’re missing out on great content. Just do an activity while you listen.
Me too much too lengthy to obsorb
Thanks!
Yes! Stephan, you are so on point. This is my boyfriend and it explains a lot. Thanks I really needed this and appreciate you and all you do.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
This was a very sweet video. I liked the topics and points you touched on. ❤😊
❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching. I appreciate your feedback!
"...and men can get very deflated very fast." Bruh!! THIS is the video I've needed. Appreciation. Got it.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
The guy I was dating was never satisfied with my efforts, if I went to the gym 3xs a week instead of everyday, he wasnt satisfied even he didnt make it to the gym everyday, so why have such an expectation of me that he could've fulfill himself? 🤷🏾♀️
Well that’s that! I’ve done all of this and it’s not returned… I didn’t want to accept the fact that … he just isn’t interested in me …
I really appreciate this discussion Steph 🙏🏿
Can you do a video how to get over someone when they are still friends with your family
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
You need to set boundries with your family and with your ex
@@uptownsfinest1204 I don’t think we can tell others how to interact. This is a tough situation, I’ve been in it with friends. Eventually I accepted it, but I never felt the same about my friends.
I always think that Aj is not instrested me,cuz when I think it him ,I get nervous. When I saw at first, he didn't smile at.But I was tryna get him to smile. I really want him 😊
You guy are so differentiated and wise , you re bringing issues to the very point! I am from Germany and 64 of age and always get new input and reassurance of the contains of what you re saying ...not many like you around in the internet. I love to listen to you...full of humour and livelyness, its pure adorable ...
GOOD video, Stephan! I can honestly say I've never thought of these things.
Yes we need to avoid outside, talk about what happened and how you feel. You may need a little more time or spend time in person not texting.
This video is so good. You explained it so well in way I never thought could be put into words. It validated what I thought he’s going through and I see every single thing you mentioned in him. Thank you!
One thing I know when I’m In a relationship I absolutely love affection like to the point he’s getting sicken. I love that
I love this man! I bought the books! All good to read!!!
This described my situation so closely and was super helpful thank you ❤
Can we clone you🤣. You're amazing in every way & such a gift to this world. Thank you for YOU❤️🔥!
Good discussion Stephan, appreciated 🙏🙏🙏. Cynthia from Nigeria
I love the truths you spoke on here. Also quite comical of how clueless men can be lol but we, women, should appreciate the effort!
I am and have done everything you say on my part.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that 🙏
I would love a video about how prior military men,especially ones whom are retired see relationships. 😁
I need help in this area. I’m dating one and it’s been tough
Simple but powerful advice…. Thank you!🙏🏾
My pleasure ❤️
Stephan you’re definitely doing gods work 🙏love your videos
I find myself asking the same questions for validation or confirmation… in the beginning we talked often now we LINK up once a week and nothing else but he always sends via text or verbally tell me he loves me and I truly have been loyal and love him over 1.5 years. When I try to talk mushy stuff or ask about “future” at times he’ll ignore or deflect from what I’m asking. I’m lost in love 😩 I know my worth and confident just thought different of this person
If a man's first impulse is to reject, devastate and haunt a woman. How do you come back from that? How does a high value woman take him seriously at all? You can't!
Only some women would get in their feelings if their man books a flight and hotel and doesn't do the small stuff.. wow I'm loving the fact he did what he did.. I can make it work!!!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
I told a male friend of mine’s that I have feelings for him. He said he has feelings but not of a romantic nature. I guess after that I just be his friend. Strictly platonic. Although I still have strong feelings for him. I’m trying to accept that it is the way it is. I see him every Sunday at church.
Yes, it does but we are still friends. I am sure God may have some one else who’s attracted and will pursue me. I will never express my feelings to a man again unless he expresses his interest to me. I guess Stephan makes sense.
And sometimes they were motivated for the hunt but once they got you they return back to who they really are which is just getting by, both financially and emotionally. I'm not chasing someone that is mismatched. Your scenarios are not relatable to what I've encountered out here. Broke men stay broke because they don't care about the things that other men care about. I'm not mothering someone into getting enough money to take me out after being together for several years. Am I wrong? I don't think he's lost motivation I think he never had it until he wanted to go after something but now that he's got it he's back to his old coasting. How do I tell what to do next
Long distance relationship are so complex, things seem to get so confusing
Stephan you always look good! ❤❤❤🔱
You stay getting us on game lol
Amazing video. Thanks for this perspective
Stephan, I would like to put in my request for a video about healthy places to meet people, if you feel led to do it.
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
Thanks for this! Friendship and respect first.
Omg 😢 I think I may have messed up my chances.
He bought a Manson for me and us in another state to surprise me and only asked me for $5hundred to wrap up this home ,, and I was upset because he didn't even ask where I wanted to live. Plus I can not do stairs due to my health, and he didn't consider me for that. Then he said, he will buy an elevator. 😢 I'm feeling horrible and don't want to lose him And still want to meet him First !!!❤❤❤
Thank you , this was confirmation
I'm happy this has been helpful to you don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing and clarity ❤🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks bless you, because at this point I’ve seen a lot of your videos and I can tell some believing women about it. I’m also looking at scripture and trying to focus on how to please God, first. :)
Stephan you have the most beautiful laugh. i hope you know that. ❤
I really hope all the ppl still playing w other ppl's hearts and emotions understand that ultimately you are just hurting yourself, karma is vry real... if you r grown enough for sex than you need to be grown up about other ppl's feelings because it's rarely jst sex, unless u r paying for it from a professional
I get it thanks I’m taking notes
Great Video❣️❤️🔥❤️🔥 I totally agree 😊
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Yessss my brotha👏🏽 TEACH🥰💪🏽We thank God for you ❤💯🙏🏽😘
I appreciate that 🙏
We’ve been talking for over a year. I moved closer 6 months ago. He says he’s fallin hard for me. But will not physically see me. Because he’s afraid. Makes every excuse for why he cannot see me or date me. But then calls and says he wants me. Then he doesn’t. Even after I tell him I’m madly in love. He keeps pushing me away. It hurts
Because he’s lying. I hate to break it to you, I remember I dated a guy for a couple months and he started acting inconsistent and making excuses so I told him off and blocked him, he kept hunting me down but I moved on. I couldn’t deal with that. Luckily for me, I barey like him so it was easy to move on. If he wants to see you, cmon, he’ll make an effort, don’t deal with bs
Girrrrlllll!!! A year!? And you moved closer… nah girl. It’s time to dive internally and remember your worth, you deserve better ❤
He’s married Hon
I just blocked a man who kept me hanging on and never showed when he said he would. I stupidly slept with him in the 15 minute time span he had for me after knowing him for about 4 months. The sex was mediocre and last time he was with me he gets a phone call from a girl who he puts on speaker and then gestures to me to keep quiet.
So I blocked his married ass. It hurt. I had the illusion of finally finding my soulmate and was mad mostly of myself for sleeping with him.
I appreciate the advice. I’m sure he’s hiding something. It’s difficult because we were such good friends from high school which was 30 years ago now. I just told him goodbye.
Great message
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Thank You for Sharing
My pleasure ❤️
What happens if there are other females around him even if he loves you?
This is an awesome teaching..
Thank you for sharing
My pleasure ❤️
I think he has a video on that
such a King, thank you! ❤🥰👑
Totally agree with you!
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
In my experience every time I do all of those things for a guy, they just pull away, every time.
I tell him I love him and he says it’s lust, I reply I also lust for you. He acts like he loves me but can’t say it. I message him and compliment him. He calls me daily, there is a distance between us and he makes the drive when possible however, has never invited me to his place. It’s been 8 months of dating, I do feel in love. Patience is at play here for me.
I definitely agree especially if you have responded to his singles
How about when he is prioritising his job?
Stephan what would you say about my situation, I like this guy when ever I call or message this guy his very fast to respond he will never ignore me. But home boy just do not call nor message me 🤷🏾♀️ I feel like why should everything just come from my side, does he think about me though?
Great points💯🤦🤔🤔🤔🫡
This was good👍👍
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Great video…unique subject :)
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
My Honey got me diamond earring for Christmas. He gave me the gift box in the car while he was driving. I opened the box and in my excitement I didn't meet his expectation in enthusiasm. His comment was " you don't know how to accept a gift". I understand now that he wants excitment! Hugs kisses holding his hand and telling him emphatically how much I loved his gift he picked out for only me. I myself do not get overly excited about anything ever.
I realized he needs that. He made the trip to the store search for the perfect gift. Knowing him he put thought into the pair of earrings he gave me. Not to mention he could have spent the money on another one of his 5 vacuums. That's an entirely different story. ☺
I do love him, but I feel I have not been showing him to the point he needs.
🙏 I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best.
Turn THAT AROUND FAST before you lose him!
I really learn alot from this vedio
Yes
I do all that for the love of my life❤
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I am very grateful for your advice.
My pleasure ❤️
It's wild to me how often you have to disclaim that you know men do these things too but you're talking to women. Are that many of us getting mad at you for giving advice specifically to us when it's a channel geared towards women? Why bother seeking this advice if you're going to get upset?
You do awesome work! Thank you for encouraging us to take ownership of the work we can do instead of trying to control the actions of someone else, which is so much more empowering and provides us with the clarity we need to decide whether a situation we're in is truly healthy or not.
Love it ❤️
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
The last point is something I didn't understand to do until now I'm much older, lol. Appreciate the efforts tho details are important to me, just let it go! 😂
Hey Stephan
How do you show the man you are interested to invite him without pursuing? I feel like guys stare so heavy but don’t approach, maybe I’m holding back? Idk 🤷🏽♀️
Ok. I did thr things you mentioned in point 2 to him last week...i sent that message saying i was thinking about him...he reacted positive....i sent the message saying i would love to see him....he planned the kind of "first date"...but this week....not communication after that date when we were supposed to meet one day of the week and is already friday...what do you say about that Stephen?...i do feel he is into me...i also have my fears and it costed me work to take that step but i dod because i know how shy he is...we were friends first....
So?