Hi I jus wanted to tell u Lisa I used to love and watch your shows dedicatedly but now just have a look at all the thumbnails all show a negative caption like dot be fooled , walk away, stop being nice , I do support women empowerment but why does it have to be negative ? I would suggest pls have a look and lets create a positive mindset. thnx
A man i was dating asked to take a step back. I said ok. A few hours later he tried to text me. I told him he doesn't have access to me during this time, and he should stand on his word. Four days after that he text me asking did I want something I left in his car. I told him to throw it away. A month after that he sent flowers to my house on Mother's Day, we dont have children together. However, during the month I walked away, I realized I wanted more than he has to offer. I loved him and thought about him every day during that time, but that time was valuable for me to reflect.
@ice water He tried to make me jealous by posting something that appears to be him on a date. He showed him buying 2 drinks. I thought it was pathetic. Again, walking away allowed me to view the situation objectively. I require a mature man that doesn't play games. Walking away or no contact should not be a desperate attempt to win an Ex back. It is a time to invest in yourself. Trust me, it was very hard walking away from someone I love. However, I love myself too much to chase after someone that is not sure about me. I'm always going to bet on me!
@Marlene Gonzalez He was dating after a month. Chances are he would've treated me worse because I would've been teaching him that I had no self-respect. I'm sure he's sorry, because we had a great connection. Hopefully, he will learn to respect and value women.
Butg women reject all the men that value them its in your dna to reject men who value you because your programmed to get the best catch possible, this means in your mind unless someone doesnt value you he must be below me, so you reject all those men and only go for the ones who dont care about you at all, best case scenario is he cheats and uses you for sex, worst case scenario is he is really abusive and ends up hurting you ! its no use saying only go with men that value you, you just wownt do that ! like EVER ! It amazes me that women dont realize this, especially when they look back at who they rejected and all those awful dispicable discusting men they slept with on the very first night !
When you finally get the courage to walk away, also prepare for the possibility that he may never come back and be ok with that. That’s how the healing process starts. No contact work but it comes with discipline. I’m learning to work away from people who don’t see my value.
Chiiiiile I had to do that two weeks ago. Told him if you see no value in me as a friend then what good am I as a partner.... so it's been 2 weeks and I ain't heard from him since. 5 years of friendship down the drain cuz he was ultimately looking to smash and i was not on that trajectory. I'm good though, and wish him well. 😌
@Marlene Gonzalez if he comes back don't double back.....you left the first time for a reason. He wasn't your person. He is who he is he's not going to change. Love yourself enough to know you deserve unconditional love....stay blessed Marelene.
My husband, when we were dating, also said he didn't want a serious relationship. I said ok. I cried once with a broken heart but kept on moving. I never called him. A month later he called me and just couldn't believe I would give up that easy if I truly loved him. I told him "I love him and I also love me and I truly believe if I am not wanted in the way I need to be, I need to move on for my piece of mind and happiness ". We have now been together and married for 24 years.
Lisa’s totally nailed it - if a man doesn’t want you (or offers commitment) within a certain time-frame, WALK AWAY. Don’t waste your life ‘waiting’ - get on with your life and he’ll see what he’s missing. And (from experience) if he doesn’t capture you, he’ll be the loser. Guaranteed.
@sabajahangir1588 don't demand it. Discuss commitment with him and what it means to you both, tell him where you would like for your relationship to go and what you would like for your future in general (marriage, children, etc.), then listen to his side, and if the two don't match and there is no room for compromise, release each other. Demanding won't get you anywhere, it's counterproductive and sets a very bad tone for the relationship as a whole.
You have to honour that everyone has a different pace at which they reach commmitment, but a conversation needs to be had and a middle ground established.
I don’t think men gain perspective from distance. They immediately take up with someone else, so they don’t have any distance. The woman should still respect herself by dropping him, though.
True. They tend to rebound a lot, they don't want to or can't seem to process their emotions. But whoever dates them during this phase is not getting the best version of the man though especially if he had deep feelings for the woman that walked away.
He was never a man to begin with. Boys distract themselves with flings and fun to avoid the work of growth. Some boys are too scared to become real healthy men. Now we have a bunch of scared boys looking like men that will harm women and children instead of protecting them. They will neglect,emotionally abuse, physically abuse and more instead of protecting, supporting, loving them. They can't give it to themselves so they can't give it to others.
This is true to some extent but you can also attract a lot of broken men too that are craving your light and energy! You have to be aware because this has caught me out a few times!
Iv done the work but I'm going through undesirable circumstances at the mo re other stuff In my life and I believe this is mirroring out. I can affirm I have no undesirable circumstances but at the mo I believe I'm shedding past crap
Yes , I was in the same relationship he didn't want to commit so I just walked away 2 yrs later we reconnected both still single , I gave him time & space to realize a lot of things & he was sorry & he was ready, the catch is I didn't feel the same...I had moved on.
@@aneeshaatkins9888 After 2yrs I guess I was just curious of what was going on in his life...Sometimes curiosity kills the cat & after that I kept it moving
@@shekiLane1166 oh i wasn’t referring to you i was referring to the woman the Pastor was talking about. But kudos to you! Forward movement for the win. 😊
I walked away three years ago because he asked me to. Three years later, I'm still getting texts with his favorite pictures of me he saved in his phone. I do not respond. I've never loved a man like I loved him. I gave him every part of me faithfully...when he said he didn't love me anymore that's exactly what I said, okay. I've never been with a man again and nor do I want to. I'm good and happy alone.
No. Open your heart. Therecare 4billion men out here. Dont punish urself because hes a moron. He is not the right for you. Never was never will be. When u r happy with new man truthfully hes gonna crawl back. And u kick him to te curb without remorse. He does not deserve u. He will always play u because hes not seeing worth in u at al if he was able to do all those things. If hewoud have loved u hewoud have proposed long time ago to lock u up
I'm right there with you. There is a freedom and being alone and getting to know yourself. Putting yourself first. The one who is worthy of you and you ❤ will come at the right time.
Some men do comeback and some don’t. What’s important is that you walked away and didn’t allow that man to mistreat you, disrespect you or whatever he did.
@@kay35rc Yep, total scam! The ONLY thing you can give me is the REAL TRUTH about why you acted the way you did, an apology WITH SINCERITY, COUPLED WITH paperwork showing me you'd gone to counseling/therapy and now you're a better man. If you can't or won't do me that courtesy, there's nothing else to talk about. PERIOD! We're not getting back together EVER, but you, AT THE VERY LEAST, owe me that. However, if you left me for another woman, ALL BETS ARE OFF FOREVER!
@@TheMallyjoe they lack of empathy for others, dehumanizing others, preoccupied with self, unrealistic expectations just to name a few from own experience
This happen to me too, when a women can walk away from a man she loves without any issues and move on with life this is a sign of Power of this women. The women knows who she is, what's good for her, and what she needs to do to stay healthy mentally, psychically emotionally, and spiritually
1. Happy And Fulfilled In Singleness. 2. Know your own purpose. 3. Be aware of areas of brokenness. 4. Be open and willing to change. 5. Rest In God For The Fulfillment Of Healing.
I can relate to this conversation. I walked away from a man that did the same thing he did. I gave a lot and received nothing in return. I walked away and yes told him how I felt. Men Don't realize how good of a woman they have until she's gone
I don’t care if they come back. Normally they come back only to repeat the same cycle. Believe them when they reveal themselves the first time and go look for someone that respects you and value you.
She is a professional and absolutely a good listener and she is well disciplined when somebody's talkin she's just listening and when they finish thats the time she will speak she is good❤
Women do the same. We (humans) all offer our best in the beginning and our shadows eventually come out. Who on the first date or first month of dating shows all of their negative traits? That's not narcissism that's just relationships!'😅
Ladies Ima be honest…take what these dating coaches say with a grain of salt. I’m so confused as to how his love story is “beautiful”…a good woman took a chance on a serial cheater and he told her he didn’t wanna marry her..only to change his mind when he realized that she can pull a “high value” man. Dating men involves so much mental gymnastics….why can’t i love you 100% without you getting weirded out. The more i talk to married women..and single women the more i don’t see men as worth it. When you ask men why they are bitter towards women it’s always something around money or the woman having emotions and asking them to have accountability. Weeding out a gold digger is not rocket science…men are willfully ignorant cuz they want that chase and subconsciously desire women who don’t want him. If Blakes wife remained single…he would have never wanted her back but because he saw the caliber of man she can pull…now she’s a queen. Men care more about the opinion and values of other men than what woman is best for them
I walked away from my ex after years of wasted time and two children. He's been trying hard to win me back for 2 years now. Unfortunately I'm not Lisa I don't have anymore years to give away, and I don't trust that a man who has never been faithful will suddenly become faithful. I could be wrong but God hasn't told me to go back, he told me to go forward.
Yes babe you did well my sons father called me 100 times he put me down in every way so I said then leave he wanted me to be a maid and kept sending me to the kitchen when I do modeling and I don’t eat massively he’s like I don’t care if u don’t eat breakfast u get up and make it for us sausage and I’m like no I don’t want that smell and dishes early when I can wrap a tortilla with cheese. He also wanted to lay down for days in my house and eat my food and tell me he doesn’t go out at night like I had no fun he wanted to meet woman on apps and tell me I have to stay because I’m no good until I get his validation that I’m doing better I’m like I’m not a home attendant I’m a cosmetologist influencer I don’t eat like that and I have to keep my beauty hours of creating not cooking so he can lay down and smoke he was useless I won’t ever let a man use me for my place he’s still trying to come back after he didn’t find a girl to move in with because he has roommates smh and used up my WiFi free loader
It’s true. A lot of the time if there is TOO much space, usually it’s the woman who decides “hold up, I’m worth more than his indecisiveness, I’ll make the decision here.” 😅 Thinking time is awesome and needed. He doesn’t want me? Ok, I’m not chasing or begging. My self-esteem and worth are much more important. A man WILL move mountains to pursue a woman he loves, so there’s no excuse. None. I always remember a quote from long ago, “Silence IS your answer.”
This man is a legend. Have been listening to him for 2 years now and raised my self worth, self consciousness, helped me to remind me who I am and what I deserve, heal soul from toxic and narcissistic relations. his amazing teachings and books should be mandatory especially for younger generations.
Say that 5xs. That is so true. I hope that realize that. Men say I want a woman who truly cares. When they have her , their toxic behaviors run her away.
This is so true I walked away from a marriage that wasn't good for me and I took time to heal like almost 3 years and I met someone unexpectedly and we just so compatible and he treats me with so much respect it was all worth it
I hope it works out for you in the LONG HAUL and not just for a few years. Like in my experiences. Walking away from a 10 year relationship is NOT easy. I couldn't take the emotional neglect anymore and I finally told him it's over last night.
I totally agree with the last point this man made!! My grandmother, in her infinite wisdom, stated to court several but sleep with NO ONE!!! We as women give men too much access to our bodies and think this will make them want us….no! We have to learn to respect ourselves!!!
If someone tells you they don’t want you it’s hurts worse to try to stay, walk away, heal, learn grow you deserve better and who wants to give genuine love to you
Don't chase a man or a woman who has bad behavior because they are not worthy of your goodness. They don't deserve in your life.They are not a great loss in your existence. There is still an individual who is much much better than them. Just enjoy life in many good ways to the fullest each day without hurting other people.
Wow, this is so uplifting, it’s important to stay inspired. I feel a deep sense of emptiness, it’s been 2months since jack left and everyday feels like an eternity without him. My mind’s been flooded with memories of our time together. It’s so painful that I’d never get to experience the little things with him again. I’ve texted him several times telling him how much I miss and want him sadly he replied none. Guess all I can do is just hold unto the memories.
It’s ok to grieve dear It’s clear that you’re not just missing jack but a part of yourself that you shared with him. Your message to him is a testament to the love you still have for him. It’s takes courage to be that vulnerable. It’s ok to feel the pain of heartbreak but don’t loose hope. My own heart break story is one of devastation . It was sudden and brutal leaving me lost. Desperate for solace and guidance, I reached out to a spiritual counselor who was recommended by a friend for help.
I got rid of a "man" ...& I RAN...I did not WALK! God has opened the door for the man that has come into my life. He treats me like the good woman that I am!! 💃🏾💃🏾 RC Blakes is an amazing man of God. I've been following him for years now! I truly understand what a good man looks like now!!
Chasing a woman versus Pursuing a woman. When he highlighted the difference, it really resonated with me. It's funny I've focused more energy on toxic situations with a guy that was chasing and it devolved into a game of tom and jerry...And yet there is one guy who has been pursuing me in a very calm and soft manner. And this has me really trying to focus on my own healing and learning what is the right type of attention for me. The right person comes on time, not before nor after.
I hope you find true, unconditional love - sounds like you've done some valuable personal inventory on this topic. For what it's worth, and from personal experience, when it's the right person, you just know... it's like grace, almost.. a feeling of comfort and grounding all the giddy stuff with new love too... Anyway, you'll know! Just be true to yourself. :)
Love this! So inspiring! My mind has been completely consumed by thoughts of her. It’s been six months since She left, and the pain of losing her feels like a physical ache. The laughter, the memories, the adventures sadly, it’s all gone. I’ve tried everything to distract myself, but the harder I try, the more I find myself thinking about her. How do people let go and move on? It’s been months, yet the memories of him are still so vivid. I miss her more than words can say.
It’s ok to grieve! It’s clear that you’re not just missing her but a part of yourself that you shared with her and Your message to heris a testament to the love you still have for her It’s takes courage to be that vulnerable. It’s ok to feel the pain of heartbreak but don’t loose hope. My own heart break story is one of devastation . It was sudden and brutal leaving me lost. Desperate for solace and guidance, I reached out to a spiritual counselor who was recommended by a friend for help.
I understand. I've experienced this for the first time ever, a shock to my otherwise healthy systems; it lasted 4 months and I've finally closed the door to him. I hope you are doing better.
Woow. I needed to hear this. I spent time CHASING a man && it ended me up in a HORRIBLE place. I finally walked away. Didn’t block him or anything because I knew that meant nothing. I want to live my life as if he doesn’t even exist && it has been GREAT! I have received so many blessings and my life is flourishing in the way it needs to.
Doing this now it hurt so much I don’t understand why he is acting this way he tears up saying he loves me but never in his life he loved this way but yet pulling back I’m confuse I’m tired of wondering and chasing
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
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I don’t even know Lisa but I love her Her courage Her strength Her forgiveness Her self respect Her standards Her tolerance Her patience Omg I love it If a man isn’t ready for what you’re ready for & you know it’s only going to bring out the best in you two Drop him leave him & if he doesn’t come back then it was never meant to be Nobody have time to be playing with indecisive people Either you want forever with me or get out the next persons way who does want forever with me 🤭
Mam oh man I love the last part of your comment stand up beautiful lady LET HIM GO.. HE IS TOSSING OUT THE PEARL FOR HIS what might only be plastic l...hand him a fork d walk out .. .. what a woman Lisa is
He is so lucky she took him back and he got another chance. Amazing they worked out. Most men probably would’ve gotten their ego boosted so hard they’d leave her again.
She took him back because and it worked because it was God design for them to be together. Everyone ain't meant to be together that's why it don't work and the other person leave because it's not from God. When God put 2 people together nothing can tear it apart.
Well, you can "torture" him a bit 😊 just don't allow him to get you back so easily, give him the feeling that he needs to step up and fight in order for you to come back and give him a new chance 😊
@@the_professional007 and this is where good girls go wrong. They don’t understand the power of negotiations, think they are being “mean” and so don’t do this, so the man comes back easily and thinks he could have done better. A critical ingredient to love is feeling like you did the best you could and nature has a beautiful way of pairing people up with the best they can get. The amount of our crap the other person is willing to take is a sign they are not our equal. Why many men marry the girl that walked away…
@@AkireMaru if a girl takes him back like nothing has happened....she is being mean towards herself, it is going to affect her self esteem, her value will drop even in her own eyes (in his also). With that being said, when a guy wants to leave, let him, ignore him, don't text him, put yourself first, and if he comes back, it is up to him to win you over, and you act distant 😊 know your value and demand respect 😊 that would be my advice 😊
This video is what I needed to watch right now. Just went through this and had to walk away from someone I truly loved but my self respect is much more important than someone not meeting my needs. It hurts but the power of walking away is necessary to preserve your self worth!
Is a pride thing, she hurt his ego by choosing someone else over him after he said no and he felt it like no other. Your toy looks so much different in someone else’s hands. He felt that he owns her regardless so when she walked away he knew he has to do something. You can tell she loved him cause she took him back…hope was a wise decision from her part. The man admitted he was the problem as we all heard…
I agree it’s ridiculous and a woman with true self respect does not go back to a man who caused her to leave. We should not be accepting this low standard. Men like this have issues.
Those who comment on the issue of Sis. Blakes walking away, you have to hear Bishop Blakes full testimony. He said that he had to heal from his past toxic life and allow God to do the work on the inside. He wasn't ready for marriage then. Look at them now and the number of years they have invested. God was in control and still is.
Stop chasing mankind period. Do this instead: Matthew 6:33 “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” King James Version (KJV) Matthew 6:34 “Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.” King James Version (KJV) There can be no positive results on this planet without seeking The Most Highest first! Teach that!
I don't understand why women or men antagonize themselves this way,, it either is or it isn't. Be ok if it isn't, praise God and be appreciative if it is.
"You can live a full life if the Right Person never finds you." This is precisely why I no longer believe there is somebody out there for everyone. I am 41, have done "the work" on myself for over 2 decades now and still do not attract the right person or anyone at all. SO MANY people die alone without ever meeting the right person, just a lot of wrong ones.
A lot of dates disappointing dates being used being deceived attempted narcissism . The dating world is toxic is like these men and possess , cold-hearted and they play games. You have a couple of decent conversation you think it's going somewhere them bam they disappear or say something very bad.
Giving the same energy that you're getting is key and if you don't like that energy then move on. It can be hard but that's when you need to choose yourself over the damn illusion/fantasy. A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period. So... If he ignores me I will step back and he will lose me. Simple. Simple. Non-dramatic and uncomplicated. I don’t, under any circumstance: play these childish-abusive-controlling mind games. I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me, and treats me as the Queen, I AM. (Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!) Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman: who knows my worth. Period.
He really is a legend because he talks about HIMSELF! not just everybody else. How many men expose themselves like this and have a testimony? Find that!
He’s the only one I listen to because yes been married for decades. The other “gurus” aren’t married and they don’t seem to be in long term relationships.
Baby! What he is saying is ABSOLUTELY CORRECT! ❤Absence gives them time to adjust their perspective!!!! They have always came running back and marriage is ALWAYS THE OFFER!!!! Signed… happily married ❤
Lisa , I love that you brought RC Blake on your show. This man’s knowledge and wisdom has empowered me to heal and value myself, after being broken by narcissistic abuse. He also tought me how to spot a narcissist. Seriously all ladies should go check his material out. He is fabulous !!!!
I walked away three months ago. He looked me in the eue and said we have to stop doing this. I said okay. Left his house, didn’t call, didn't text and two weeks later he started reaching out. I let him back in and he still didn’t choose me. Tuesday I walked away again telling him I am done. My self worth is more important than our relationship.
After 10 months of us knowing each other and dating, I told him I wanted more. He said he wants friendship. I told him I have too much to offer and will not wait for him, chase or beg him. He blocks me after that.Just before that I was vulnerable with him on the phone and he did hear me weep but I did pull myself together and sent him that txt and wished him luck. I see it must have hurt his ego but I dont want anything less either. It's been a day since this happened and I do miss him and cry. WHAT'S MEANT FOR ME WILL BE MINE! I ATTRACT I DO NOT CHASE.
I walked away from my daughters father I loved him but there's was no direction in our relationship. There was no intimacy romance just banging. He didn't fight he got with someone else, I was heartbroken felt worthless but I didn't regret my decision because I know my worth. 5 years on I'm so glad I did the blessing that came into my life has been wonderful
8 years ago I loved one boy so much that I almost believed his words when he said, I will never find anyone like him when we breakup, but today because of his word I turn out to be more stronger than ever in all my relationships, i now prefer my wellbeing, please let no one gives access to anyone to play with your happiness .
I agree with you completely- I was in a situation where I loved him - he told me he love me as well as he was showing me differently and was not communicating with me, hiding, lying and opening up about certain things. So I decided I deserved to be treated much better than that and I walked away, I prayed that if he wanted me he would reach out to me.
I'm sorry you had went through this as well. My exact story. I just left a guy who treated me the same way. He love bombed me. His communication was not the best in the beginning. That was my red flag. I expressed interest in him because he was so called nice guy since college. However, he was not the same guy with ne. Everyone thinks he is so great. I know the real him. He is attention-seeking, Mr. Social media, always on the scene. That was why I did not like him in college. Definitely a lot of kessons learned. I will not tolerate that behavior again. I would rather be by myself.
Ladies don’t fall for it. He didn’t fight to get her back because he recognised he loved her. It was his ego. She was with another man, a millionaire. He saw she is doing good without him. His mother had to talk to him. Usually when you give the man a second chance, he is happy and sweet for a short time and then will fall back into old behaviour!!! You deserve a man that is sure about you. Don’t date menchilds
Lady go sit down somewhere🙄. Just because YOU think and say it was his ego and not his heart doesn’t mean his realization/recognition and fight to get her back was not HIS experience. Just share your own experience instead of discrediting someone else’s🫤
I didn’t hear realization, recognizing or even fight. I too hear ego. “She’s the only woman I’ve ever been faithful to…I (simply) called her and she said yes…How you leaving this multimillionaire and coming back to a little broke preacher”? It’s all feeding of the ego and just sounds unrealistic in the “narrative” of how things unfold.
This intriguing video serves as a poignant reminder of the heartache I've been enduring since my 7 year relationship came to an end 4 months ago. My cherished partner, the love of my life, made the difficult decision to part ways, leaving me consumed by thoughts of him. Despite my earnest attempts to win him back, I find myself facing frustration and an overwhelming sense of emptiness, unable to envision a life without his presence. Despite my efforts to move on, I'm compelled to confess my lingering feelings and longing for him here
The process of releasing a loved one can be an uphill battle. I can relate, having navigated a similar journey when my 8 year relationship dissolved. Despite the heartache, I refused to relinquish hope and embarked on a quest to win him back. Turning to a spiritual counselor for assistance, I found guidance that ultimately led to our reconciliation.
I've been reading a few of these comments and might i say there are some beautiful souls on here. Its easy to hate the people who take us for granted and hurt us it feels beyond repair but now i pray they heal. There is no bitterness in my heart. I had my heartbroken and was emotionally, spiritually broken (he was a narcissist), it took me years to recover and to be happy within myself. Im now at peace and ready for the man who will love me unconditionally. It will come to me like it will come to you. Ill pray for you all that love and happiness comes your way!!
So true. I'd never heard of Narcissistic tendencies until a few years after my ex abandoned me but now that I know the signs (and the triggers) I can see my ex in a different light. Whoever got him (I suspect he returned to his e(strange)d wife) is welcome to him.
@@EdelweisSusie Hey..I hope you are doing better now...hope you are in a happy and a better place. Life is all about learning and relearning..more power to you.
RC Blakes has been truly a God send. I had been trying to go no contact + with his encouragement, I left. He started stalking me + I called the police. It’s over now + I’m Grateful
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
@@DarylSimpson58 its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
This has been unbelievably hard but not for the same reasons. After 27 years of marriage with an abusive Narcissist I've found myself alone. He finally broke me (which I unwittingly allowed.) And he secretly moved onto another woman. One day my world was turned upside down after discovering this. I do NOT want him back. But the long connection between us leaves me so vulnerable and desperate on occasion. Not desperate to have him back but desperate to know I'm still valuable. When in truth, I know I was always valuable & he still doesn't deserve me. I've grown more in a few months than the last decade. I just NEED to let go of my desire to feel valid to this man.
Gosh I hurt for you sis! From my understanding a person like that will never give you what u deserve! You know u are valuable and just remember it’s not you. It’s him, I know it sounds crazy but he knows I are valuable , that is why he treated you the way you did to make u think you weren’t! You were his bait he knows he isn’t valuable!! You will be waiting until death to receive that validation from him. I went through something a little similar and still trying to pin point when someone is a narci! I always wanted validation from him and he came to someone that wasn’t broken and knew I was able to validate myself. I wanted it from him and know till this day, I will never get it! They are beneath us’ I hope this helps and hope it makes sense!
Your story is an excellent example of why women should abandon ship ASAP when there's a red flag (instead of ignoring said red flag). It sounds like a sunk cost fallacy. You put nearly three decades into a person, so you're trying to get some return on your investment even though he couldn't care less about you. Sounds like he shouldn't have even gotten three months.
This really hit home because I’ve been in this type of relationship for years, no commitment just allowing him to keep coming back and God has sent several Bentley’s and I keep letting the station wagon sit in the driveway. Thank you for this video.
It’s been 7 months since I walked away. I’m every name in the book which idc but the threats that he was gonna kill me was so DEMONIC! He used to beat on me & tried to fight my son & I believe he wanted my daughter as well. I did the right thing & refuse to go back! PERIODT 👏👏
I’m going through the same situation….it happened yesterday I choose myself, I was bitting myself up but this affirmation that I made the right decision
*It's crucial to recognize our worth and not chase after someone who isn't serious. Let's invest our energy in those who reciprocate our feelings and efforts. Here's to respecting ourselves and attracting the love we deserve.*
It’s Cap he just knew she was enough for a better man which means that she was too good for him which made him open his eyes….Boy the Ego is something else
Yes. He is sooo fake. Actually his mama felt how dare the ex upgrade. He spelled her to come back. So she would not have the BEST. Now he brainwashing people like he is a pastor.. He is fake
Nice video. My five year relationship ended a month ago when the love of my life left me. I can’t stop thinking about him and have tried everything to get him back, but nothing has worked. I’m frustrated and can’t see my life with anyone else. I don’t know why I’m sharing this here, but I really miss him.
I’ve been through something similar. My relationship ended two years ago, and I couldn’t let go either. I sought the help of a spiritual adviser, and he helped me get him back. Now we’re together again, and I’m enjoying every moment.
Some need to experience the reality of what's in the streets. All the masks, secret phones, lying, lil side odd jobs that's terrible just to see how life would be with that person.
WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!
Mine too !!!
@@ashajeremiahqw8775😮😮😮 floppy drives for o by
Hi I jus wanted to tell u Lisa I used to love and watch your shows dedicatedly but now just have a look at all the thumbnails all show a negative caption like dot be fooled , walk away, stop being nice , I do support women empowerment but why does it have to be negative ? I would suggest pls have a look and lets create a positive mindset. thnx
@@akayk1928 ..
I already sent you $600
A man i was dating asked to take a step back. I said ok. A few hours later he tried to text me. I told him he doesn't have access to me during this time, and he should stand on his word. Four days after that he text me asking did I want something I left in his car. I told him to throw it away. A month after that he sent flowers to my house on Mother's Day, we dont have children together. However, during the month I walked away, I realized I wanted more than he has to offer. I loved him and thought about him every day during that time, but that time was valuable for me to reflect.
Awesome❤
@Marlene Gonzalez Thank you. Self love is the first love and last love. You teach people how to treat you by what you accept.
Chiiile. I feel like there needs to be a part 2! Wha happened next . Guys there is an update check the comments
@ice water He tried to make me jealous by posting something that appears to be him on a date. He showed him buying 2 drinks. I thought it was pathetic. Again, walking away allowed me to view the situation objectively. I require a mature man that doesn't play games. Walking away or no contact should not be a desperate attempt to win an Ex back. It is a time to invest in yourself. Trust me, it was very hard walking away from someone I love. However, I love myself too much to chase after someone that is not sure about me. I'm always going to bet on me!
@Marlene Gonzalez He was dating after a month. Chances are he would've treated me worse because I would've been teaching him that I had no self-respect. I'm sure he's sorry, because we had a great connection. Hopefully, he will learn to respect and value women.
If someone doesn't value you,walk away without expecting to reach out to you, it's better to be alone than to be with people who take you for granted.
This is at least 50% of the reason why I'm about to divorce my husband.
@@irinaivanovic9792umm 👀
@@irinaivanovic9792 100% why I Divorced mine,and I don't regret it one bit!!
Butg women reject all the men that value them its in your dna to reject men who value you because your programmed to get the best catch possible, this means in your mind unless someone doesnt value you he must be below me, so you reject all those men and only go for the ones who dont care about you at all, best case scenario is he cheats and uses you for sex, worst case scenario is he is really abusive and ends up hurting you ! its no use saying only go with men that value you, you just wownt do that ! like EVER ! It amazes me that women dont realize this, especially when they look back at who they rejected and all those awful dispicable discusting men they slept with on the very first night !
OMG stfu. You are SO dead wrong on all that nonsense. Stop listening to Red Pill and mgtow videos! geez..@@mcpartridgeboy
"If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they’re yours; if they don’t, they never were!" True words 🎉❤👍
Yes indeed!
Sometimes they try to make patterns of this so if they come back and leave after that then it should be done
they shouldnt walk away in the first place
@@kazbaby261 Let it be God's will, not your own doing!
Just cause they come back don't mean they're good for you. Don't leave it up to him. Decide for yourself.
If the wrong person is occupying your life, he's keeping the right person from you.
This is such a great perspective😭 I feel much better from a heartbreak 🙏🏽🙏🏽thank you!!!!!
yes ! this is so true, and people will string you along with absolutly no intentions to give you anything.
Love this comment ❤️
Great Point ❤
Amen
When you finally get the courage to walk away, also prepare for the possibility that he may never come back and be ok with that. That’s how the healing process starts. No contact work but it comes with discipline. I’m learning to work away from people who don’t see my value.
Good riddance. Your future is not with the people who leave.
Chiiiiile I had to do that two weeks ago. Told him if you see no value in me as a friend then what good am I as a partner.... so it's been 2 weeks and I ain't heard from him since. 5 years of friendship down the drain cuz he was ultimately looking to smash and i was not on that trajectory. I'm good though, and wish him well. 😌
@Marlene Gonzalez if he comes back don't double back.....you left the first time for a reason. He wasn't your person. He is who he is he's not going to change. Love yourself enough to know you deserve unconditional love....stay blessed Marelene.
same.
We have children but… I wish
My husband, when we were dating, also said he didn't want a serious relationship. I said ok. I cried once with a broken heart but kept on moving. I never called him. A month later he called me and just couldn't believe I would give up that easy if I truly loved him. I told him "I love him and I also love me and I truly believe if I am not wanted in the way I need to be, I need to move on for my piece of mind and happiness ". We have now been together and married for 24 years.
Ahhh + awww ❤ I love this! And good for you - I feel trusting that radar in your heart is so important
I am currently in this situation but he is younger than me… so idk if i shud just give up and move on or no
Wow so he was playing games and it backfired on him 😂😂😂 that’s why it’s so important for women to love themselves first
@ThePersonalDevelopme My mama use to laugh at him after we got married and say to him "the hunter got caught by the game 😂 ".
Beautiful story. You showed your worth and self respect
Lisa’s totally nailed it - if a man doesn’t want you (or offers commitment) within a certain time-frame, WALK AWAY. Don’t waste your life ‘waiting’ - get on with your life and he’ll see what he’s missing. And (from experience) if he doesn’t capture you, he’ll be the loser. Guaranteed.
If he give a baby and leave it what should do
After how much time should we demand committment when dating a guy?
@sabajahangir1588 don't demand it. Discuss commitment with him and what it means to you both, tell him where you would like for your relationship to go and what you would like for your future in general (marriage, children, etc.), then listen to his side, and if the two don't match and there is no room for compromise, release each other. Demanding won't get you anywhere, it's counterproductive and sets a very bad tone for the relationship as a whole.
@@tatina3 thank you. That's a really good advice 🙏
You have to honour that everyone has a different pace at which they reach commmitment, but a conversation needs to be had and a middle ground established.
I don’t think men gain perspective from distance. They immediately take up with someone else, so they don’t have any distance. The woman should still respect herself by dropping him, though.
True. They tend to rebound a lot, they don't want to or can't seem to process their emotions. But whoever dates them during this phase is not getting the best version of the man though especially if he had deep feelings for the woman that walked away.
So true Gotta love yourself first don’t ever settle for less
He was never a man to begin with. Boys distract themselves with flings and fun to avoid the work of growth. Some boys are too scared to become real healthy men.
Now we have a bunch of scared boys looking like men that will harm women and children instead of protecting them. They will neglect,emotionally abuse, physically abuse and more instead of protecting, supporting, loving them. They can't give it to themselves so they can't give it to others.
This is how you know he's not the one God has for you.
They definitely do…
“If you do your personal work, you will attract what you are!”
This is true to some extent but you can also attract a lot of broken men too that are craving your light and energy! You have to be aware because this has caught me out a few times!
This is the ☝🏼 💯
That part‼️🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Iv done the work but I'm going through undesirable circumstances at the mo re other stuff In my life and I believe this is mirroring out.
I can affirm I have no undesirable circumstances but at the mo I believe I'm shedding past crap
6:38-6:40 is it for me. A wife is one who demands what she desires. The woman in his case knew her value place n timing
Yes , I was in the same relationship he didn't want to commit so I just walked away 2 yrs later we reconnected both still single , I gave him time & space to realize a lot of things & he was sorry & he was ready, the catch is I didn't feel the same...I had moved on.
Same.
I would’ve kept on walking, but God bless!
@@aneeshaatkins9888 After 2yrs I guess I was just curious of what was going on in his life...Sometimes curiosity kills the cat & after that I kept it moving
@@shekiLane1166 oh i wasn’t referring to you i was referring to the woman the Pastor was talking about. But kudos to you! Forward movement for the win. 😊
Good for you.
I walked away three years ago because he asked me to. Three years later, I'm still getting texts with his favorite pictures of me he saved in his phone. I do not respond. I've never loved a man like I loved him. I gave him every part of me faithfully...when he said he didn't love me anymore that's exactly what I said, okay. I've never been with a man again and nor do I want to. I'm good and happy alone.
His loss.
I’m so sorry.
Thank you for this discussion 🙏 I was married to a Man who was a habitual liar and womanizer 23 years. I walked away from DRAMA 👣⏰😁
No. Open your heart. Therecare 4billion men out here. Dont punish urself because hes a moron. He is not the right for you. Never was never will be. When u r happy with new man truthfully hes gonna crawl back. And u kick him to te curb without remorse. He does not deserve u. He will always play u because hes not seeing worth in u at al if he was able to do all those things. If hewoud have loved u hewoud have proposed long time ago to lock u up
I'm right there with you. There is a freedom and being alone and getting to know yourself. Putting yourself first. The one who is worthy of you and you ❤ will come at the right time.
Some men do comeback and some don’t. What’s important is that you walked away and didn’t allow that man to mistreat you, disrespect you or whatever he did.
And some come back unchanged
@@TheJaiNetwork MOST of them come back unchanged. That's why you don't let them back.
So true.
@@marciawade9101 Right. They say things toget back in but their actions are the same.
@@kay35rc Yep, total scam!
The ONLY thing you can give me is the REAL TRUTH about why you acted the way you did, an apology WITH SINCERITY, COUPLED WITH paperwork showing me you'd gone to counseling/therapy and now you're a better man. If you can't or won't do me that courtesy, there's nothing else to talk about. PERIOD!
We're not getting back together EVER, but you, AT THE VERY LEAST, owe me that.
However, if you left me for another woman, ALL BETS ARE OFF FOREVER!
Narcissists are demons. Turn away from the adversary.
Exactly very demonic beings
It’s true I just walked away from one but it’s breaking me into pieces
@@Jovalela3 It takes time but it will get better🙏
What is narcissist behavior?
@@TheMallyjoe they lack of empathy for others, dehumanizing others, preoccupied with self, unrealistic expectations just to name a few from own experience
This happen to me too, when a women can walk away from a man she loves without any issues and move on with life this is a sign of Power of this women. The women knows who she is, what's good for her, and what she needs to do to stay healthy mentally, psychically emotionally, and spiritually
Here! HERE!....AMEN..!
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Going through it right now!!!! Soooo hard sometimes I hate my heart is so vulnerable
This is me Lmaoo
I needed to see this thank you ❤
Never make someone a priority when to them you are only an option! 🙌🏻♥️🙏🏻
Period
She said OK. We ended the conversation. She never called me back. 🤣 Go Lisa!!! That’s what you have to do.
I laughed so hard 😂
And he probably kept thinking she’ll come back.
Lisa a real one 😂
@@MattRomPsalms facts!
Lmao! Men only want love if it’s torture 🤣
So hard to be Lisa 😅 maybe I can fake it til I make it 🙏
1. Happy And Fulfilled In Singleness.
2. Know your own purpose.
3. Be aware of areas of brokenness.
4. Be open and willing to change.
5. Rest In God For The Fulfillment Of Healing.
Sounds like you got your head on straight, Theo. You could be a catch!
Love this
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What God has for you nothing can take it away…
You're right
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Amen so true!
I can relate to this conversation. I walked away from a man that did the same thing he did. I gave a lot and received nothing in return. I walked away and yes told him how I felt. Men Don't realize how good of a woman they have until she's gone
Sometimes I suppose. If he's a Libra or Leo, there's an even bigger chance that he STILL won't give a damn after she's gone. Smh.
@@irinaivanovic9792oh how spot on!
@@irinaivanovic9792oh ys he was a libra....
@@aswathyreena1963same
Yes
I don’t care if they come back. Normally they come back only to repeat the same cycle. Believe them when they reveal themselves the first time and go look for someone that respects you and value you.
true
I agree with this!
Yes ❤
However, he said they were together for years and he never cheated on her. He grew up.
This right here ❤ 🙌 Felt this to the core, Amen 🙏
I LOVE how Lisa allows her guests to speak and finish their thoughts without interrupting. This makes for a truly amazing interview. Thank u!❤
same! so respectful🌸
She is a professional and absolutely a good listener and she is well disciplined when somebody's talkin she's just listening and when they finish thats the time she will speak she is good❤
My mom described what men do to me as “false advertising”. It’s initial narcissistic love bombing. They establish a relationship and then get distant.
Women do the same. We (humans) all offer our best in the beginning and our shadows eventually come out. Who on the first date or first month of dating shows all of their negative traits? That's not narcissism that's just relationships!'😅
@@IndigoWisdom1 I mean they get distant and then drift away. That’s if they don’t outright ghost. It’s like they were just after the conquest.
Facts
@@genxx2724absolutely!!
They get distant because they don't LIKE you anymore. That's when you Walk away!
Ladies Ima be honest…take what these dating coaches say with a grain of salt. I’m so confused as to how his love story is “beautiful”…a good woman took a chance on a serial cheater and he told her he didn’t wanna marry her..only to change his mind when he realized that she can pull a “high value” man. Dating men involves so much mental gymnastics….why can’t i love you 100% without you getting weirded out. The more i talk to married women..and single women the more i don’t see men as worth it. When you ask men why they are bitter towards women it’s always something around money or the woman having emotions and asking them to have accountability. Weeding out a gold digger is not rocket science…men are willfully ignorant cuz they want that chase and subconsciously desire women who don’t want him. If Blakes wife remained single…he would have never wanted her back but because he saw the caliber of man she can pull…now she’s a queen. Men care more about the opinion and values of other men than what woman is best for them
Thank you🙏🏾
👏👏👏 you nailed it! It's exactly that! I happy someone said
Hush Chile 🙄
So spot on everything you say! 👏
Heavy on the weirded out because they want us until they get us and then start acting like that wasn’t the plan like WHAT? It’s too much
"The way you start is the way you finish" so much truth to that!!!
She summed up the most important rule for all women, forever: “ No matter what though if he doesn’t want me, I will walk away”. Amen
I walked away from my ex after years of wasted time and two children. He's been trying hard to win me back for 2 years now. Unfortunately I'm not Lisa I don't have anymore years to give away, and I don't trust that a man who has never been faithful will suddenly become faithful. I could be wrong but God hasn't told me to go back, he told me to go forward.
Hope you are still doing well.
Update pls
Yes babe you did well my sons father called me 100 times he put me down in every way so I said then leave he wanted me to be a maid and kept sending me to the kitchen when I do modeling and I don’t eat massively he’s like I don’t care if u don’t eat breakfast u get up and make it for us sausage and I’m like no I don’t want that smell and dishes early when I can wrap a tortilla with cheese. He also wanted to lay down for days in my house and eat my food and tell me he doesn’t go out at night like I had no fun he wanted to meet woman on apps and tell me I have to stay because I’m no good until I get his validation that I’m doing better I’m like I’m not a home attendant I’m a cosmetologist influencer I don’t eat like that and I have to keep my beauty hours of creating not cooking so he can lay down and smoke he was useless I won’t ever let a man use me for my place he’s still trying to come back after he didn’t find a girl to move in with because he has roommates smh and used up my WiFi free loader
How are you coping?
Amen sis
It’s true. A lot of the time if there is TOO much space, usually it’s the woman who decides “hold up, I’m worth more than his indecisiveness, I’ll make the decision here.” 😅 Thinking time is awesome and needed. He doesn’t want me? Ok, I’m not chasing or begging. My self-esteem and worth are much more important. A man WILL move mountains to pursue a woman he loves, so there’s no excuse. None. I always remember a quote from long ago, “Silence IS your answer.”
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Right. That part. Clearly.
I was literally just talking with my sis about this yesterday. Silence is definitely an answer!
CANT love a woman these days tho so don’t expect no mountain moving😂🤡
This man is a legend. Have been listening to him for 2 years now and raised my self worth, self consciousness, helped me to remind me who I am and what I deserve, heal soul from toxic and narcissistic relations. his amazing teachings and books should be mandatory especially for younger generations.
AMEN ❤
I totally agree ❤
So true.
Me also ! ❤
So happy you have recieved such a benefit from him! ❤
Yes. I started listening to him last year and he has been a blessing to me.
I walked away too. Some guys loose and are not going to ever know that kind of love again. FORGET THEM.
Say that 5xs. That is so true. I hope that realize that. Men say I want a woman who truly cares. When they have her , their toxic behaviors run her away.
@@kay35rcor they try and break her and turn her into the lunatic so they can leave and blame it on her. Fools 🤡
It’s ok if they walk away, or you gain the strength to walk away… Because the best is yet to come!🧘🏾♀️🤍
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Saw this @ 3:33
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
THANK YOU, JESUS!!!!
@@miabellah1639 💗💗💗👁️
Yes, you walk away, they gain perspective and miss you, then they come back. But they will lose perspective again. It’s a never ending cycle.
This hurts
This is so true I walked away from a marriage that wasn't good for me and I took time to heal like almost 3 years and I met someone unexpectedly and we just so compatible and he treats me with so much respect it was all worth it
Congratulations dea
I hope it works out for you in the LONG HAUL and not just for a few years. Like in my experiences. Walking away from a 10 year relationship is NOT easy. I couldn't take the emotional neglect anymore and I finally told him it's over last night.
Wow
I am so glad you have someone that respects you. That is important.
So happy for you😢
I totally agree with the last point this man made!! My grandmother, in her infinite wisdom, stated to court several but sleep with NO ONE!!! We as women give men too much access to our bodies and think this will make them want us….no! We have to learn to respect ourselves!!!
If someone tells you they don’t want you it’s hurts worse to try to stay, walk away, heal, learn grow you deserve better and who wants to give genuine love to you
Don't chase a man or a woman who has bad behavior because they are not worthy of your goodness. They don't deserve in your life.They are not a great loss in your existence. There is still an individual who is much much better than them. Just enjoy life in many good ways to the fullest each day without hurting other people.
Wow, this is so uplifting, it’s important to stay inspired.
I feel a deep sense of emptiness, it’s been 2months since jack left and everyday feels like an eternity without him.
My mind’s been flooded with memories of our time together. It’s so painful that I’d never get to experience the little things with him again.
I’ve texted him several times telling him how much I miss and want him sadly he replied none. Guess all I can do is just hold unto the memories.
It’s ok to grieve dear It’s clear that you’re not just missing jack but a part of yourself that you shared with him. Your message to him is a testament to the love you still have for him. It’s takes courage to be that vulnerable. It’s ok to feel the pain of heartbreak but don’t loose hope.
My own heart break story is one of devastation . It was sudden and brutal leaving me lost. Desperate for solace and guidance, I reached out to a spiritual counselor who was recommended by a friend for help.
That sounds intriguing, I’m curious what exactly does the spiritual counselor do?
His name is fatherabulu and he's an amazing spiritual counselor who specialize in helping people reconnect with their ex
I’m grateful for your suggestion, you have no idea how much this means to me.
I got rid of a "man" ...& I RAN...I did not WALK! God has opened the door for the man that has come into my life. He treats me like the good woman that I am!! 💃🏾💃🏾 RC Blakes is an amazing man of God. I've been following him for years now! I truly understand what a good man looks like now!!
This man is my adopted dad, uncle, brother and Pastor all at the same time!
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Hahaha, me too.
The wisdom he has and how he delivers it in such humility is phenomenal.
what is adopted dad? he adopted you or you adopted him? 😂
Yessssss mine toooooo
I love how the comment section never disappoints. There’s more valuable insights and advice here than in the actual video! 😂
Amen!
Yes!! Me reading this and nodding, I was thinking about it as well!❤😅
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When you take something for granted, you don't realize what you have until it's gone.
Moral of the story is that alot of men take women for granted. Gotcha. Smh
Right. That part is clear for real. Drop the mike. Lol.
They leave to test if I will beg then look dumb when u don’t
Right…😂😂
Very sad
That is so sad because we deserve better
Accept people for who they are while placing them where they need to be.
Exactly.
Word
The answer to an idiot is silence. Whoever doesn’t want you is obviously an idiot 🗣️ this was much needed to remind myself who I am
Whatever you do. Do not look in the mirror. You might see something that needs changing and fixing
Chasing a woman versus Pursuing a woman. When he highlighted the difference, it really resonated with me. It's funny I've focused more energy on toxic situations with a guy that was chasing and it devolved into a game of tom and jerry...And yet there is one guy who has been pursuing me in a very calm and soft manner. And this has me really trying to focus on my own healing and learning what is the right type of attention for me. The right person comes on time, not before nor after.
I hope you find true, unconditional love - sounds like you've done some valuable personal inventory on this topic. For what it's worth, and from personal experience, when it's the right person, you just know... it's like grace, almost.. a feeling of comfort and grounding all the giddy stuff with new love too... Anyway, you'll know! Just be true to yourself. :)
That's a good way of describing it as a Tom and Jerry cartoon where the relationship is something that's not even serious when it should be.
Chasing x pursuing! Never realized the difference!!
AMEN
I can relate!
Love this! So inspiring! My mind has been completely consumed by thoughts of her. It’s been six months since She left, and the pain of losing her feels like a physical ache. The laughter, the memories, the adventures sadly, it’s all gone. I’ve tried everything to distract myself, but the harder I try, the more I find myself thinking about her. How do people let go and move on? It’s been months, yet the memories of him are still so vivid. I miss her more than words can say.
It’s ok to grieve! It’s clear that you’re not just missing her but a part of yourself that you shared with her and Your message to heris a testament to the love you still have for her It’s takes courage to be that vulnerable. It’s ok to feel the pain of heartbreak but don’t loose hope. My own heart break story is one of devastation . It was sudden and brutal leaving me lost. Desperate for solace and guidance, I reached out to a spiritual counselor who was recommended by a friend for help.
That sounds intriguing, I’m curious what exactly does the spiritual counselor do?
His name is father tosin ayodele and he's an amazing spiritual counselor who specialize in helping people reconnect with their ex
I’m grateful for your suggestion, you have no idea how much this means to me.
This is what I've been struggling with. Now I see my error. I will be strong and walk away because it's not right and I'm tired of crying EVERYDAY
Its so painful and hard to walk away bt better to be in pain walking away than staying and hurt and cry everyday
I understand. I've experienced this for the first time ever, a shock to my otherwise healthy systems; it lasted 4 months and I've finally closed the door to him. I hope you are doing better.
@@aycoyote Did you announce your departure explaining why you’re leaving or did you just block him ? I need help 😢
@@briz4722if u just block a man for no reason don’t be mad when one leave u with a kid for no reason😭😭🤡
Woow. I needed to hear this. I spent time CHASING a man && it ended me up in a HORRIBLE place. I finally walked away. Didn’t block him or anything because I knew that meant nothing. I want to live my life as if he doesn’t even exist && it has been GREAT! I have received so many blessings and my life is flourishing in the way it needs to.
Doing this now it hurt so much I don’t understand why he is acting this way he tears up saying he loves me but never in his life he loved this way but yet pulling back I’m confuse I’m tired of wondering and chasing
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
I don’t even know Lisa but I love her
Her courage
Her strength
Her forgiveness
Her self respect
Her standards
Her tolerance
Her patience
Omg I love it
If a man isn’t ready for what you’re ready for & you know it’s only going to bring out the best in you two
Drop him leave him
& if he doesn’t come back then it was never meant to be
Nobody have time to be playing with indecisive people
Either you want forever with me or get out the next persons way who does want forever with me 🤭
Amen 🙏🏾
Mam oh man I love the last part of your comment stand up beautiful lady LET HIM GO.. HE IS TOSSING OUT THE PEARL FOR HIS what might only be plastic l...hand him a fork d walk out .. .. what a woman Lisa is
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Lisa should have found away to stay with the athlete in my opinion!
Nay
He is so lucky she took him back and he got another chance. Amazing they worked out. Most men probably would’ve gotten their ego boosted so hard they’d leave her again.
She took him back because and it worked because it was God design for them to be together. Everyone ain't meant to be together that's why it don't work and the other person leave because it's not from God. When God put 2 people together nothing can tear it apart.
Well, you can "torture" him a bit 😊 just don't allow him to get you back so easily, give him the feeling that he needs to step up and fight in order for you to come back and give him a new chance 😊
And it also helps if that person ends up to be your soulmate 😉
@@the_professional007 and this is where good girls go wrong. They don’t understand the power of negotiations, think they are being “mean” and so don’t do this, so the man comes back easily and thinks he could have done better. A critical ingredient to love is feeling like you did the best you could and nature has a beautiful way of pairing people up with the best they can get. The amount of our crap the other person is willing to take is a sign they are not our equal. Why many men marry the girl that walked away…
@@AkireMaru if a girl takes him back like nothing has happened....she is being mean towards herself, it is going to affect her self esteem, her value will drop even in her own eyes (in his also).
With that being said, when a guy wants to leave, let him, ignore him, don't text him, put yourself first, and if he comes back, it is up to him to win you over, and you act distant 😊 know your value and demand respect 😊 that would be my advice 😊
Knowing your worth helps a lot even if another person might not understand it.
Do your personal work, wait on the right person, and keep that space open for him earning all of you💍. That's enough said.
This video is what I needed to watch right now. Just went through this and had to walk away from someone I truly loved but my self respect is much more important than someone not meeting my needs. It hurts but the power of walking away is necessary to preserve your self worth!
Amazing job on choosing YOU. I hope you're okay ❤
I'm glad you chose you! Keep pressing forward.
You made I good choose. Keep strong. Better things will come!
@@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool yes I’m okay! I definitely know I made the right decision.
@@katonyashakir8847 thank you 🙏🏼
Why does it have to take the woman walking away for you to act right? Why????? It's emotionally draining dealing with this kind of thing.
Is a pride thing, she hurt his ego by choosing someone else over him after he said no and he felt it like no other.
Your toy looks so much different in someone else’s hands.
He felt that he owns her regardless so when she walked away he knew he has to do something.
You can tell she loved him cause she took him back…hope was a wise decision from her part.
The man admitted he was the problem as we all heard…
If i walk away I do not take them back. I’m done 😂
I agree it’s ridiculous and a woman with true self respect does not go back to a man who caused her to leave. We should not be accepting this low standard. Men like this have issues.
100% agree. Men are so immature
Those who comment on the issue of Sis. Blakes walking away, you have to hear Bishop Blakes full testimony. He said that he had to heal from his past toxic life and allow God to do the work on the inside. He wasn't ready for marriage then. Look at them now and the number of years they have invested. God was in control and still is.
Stop chasing mankind period. Do this instead:
Matthew 6:33
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”
King James Version (KJV)
Matthew 6:34
“Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.”
King James Version (KJV)
There can be no positive results on this planet without seeking The Most Highest first! Teach that!
Amen 🙏
I don't understand why women or men antagonize themselves this way,, it either is or it isn't. Be ok if it isn't, praise God and be appreciative if it is.
Glory be to God! Mtt6:33 is the key! May the Lord give me the grace to keep this scripture first
Amen❤❤
Best thing I heard in a long time
"You can live a full life if the Right Person never finds you." This is precisely why I no longer believe there is somebody out there for everyone. I am 41, have done "the work" on myself for over 2 decades now and still do not attract the right person or anyone at all. SO MANY people die alone without ever meeting the right person, just a lot of wrong ones.
Do you put yourself out there?
I'm similar. But I don't venture out much.
I say better to be happy in yourself with God, than miserable and all sorts of negativity with a man
Consider dating younger men
@@felicitygrace5113 Very true
A lot of dates disappointing dates being used being deceived attempted narcissism . The dating world is toxic is like these men and possess , cold-hearted and they play games.
You have a couple of decent conversation you think it's going somewhere them bam they disappear or say something very bad.
If you do your personal work, you will attract what you are. Preach Sir🙌🏽💯
I read this right when he said it in the video gave me chills 🥺
like being a serial cheater? He's said he was never faithful to any woman . I bet he doesn't preach on that at his church.
VALUE YOURSELF, EVERYONE.
No one else does until YOU do.
Love YOURSELF-- you're worth it, my beautiful friends.
Thank you for your comment ❤
There's a huge difference between a man who can lead and a man who is leading you on!
Giving the same energy that you're getting
is key
and if you don't like that energy
then move on.
It can be hard
but that's when you need to choose yourself
over the damn illusion/fantasy.
A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period.
So...
If he ignores me
I will step back
and he will lose me.
Simple. Simple.
Non-dramatic
and uncomplicated.
I don’t, under any circumstance:
play these childish-abusive-controlling
mind games.
I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me,
and treats me as the Queen, I AM.
(Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!)
Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine
and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman:
who knows my worth.
Period.
He really is a legend because he talks about HIMSELF! not just everybody else. How many men expose themselves like this and have a testimony? Find that!
He’s the only one I listen to because yes been married for decades. The other “gurus” aren’t married and they don’t seem to be in long term relationships.
Lisa walking away, said" if you didn't value my presence... he won't feel my absence"
Baby! What he is saying is ABSOLUTELY CORRECT! ❤Absence gives them time to adjust their perspective!!!! They have always came running back and marriage is ALWAYS THE OFFER!!!!
Signed… happily married ❤
Lisa , I love that you brought RC Blake on your show. This man’s knowledge and wisdom has empowered me to heal and value myself, after being broken by narcissistic abuse. He also tought me how to spot a narcissist. Seriously all ladies should go check his material out. He is fabulous !!!!
I walked away three months ago. He looked me in the eue and said we have to stop doing this. I said okay. Left his house, didn’t call, didn't text and two weeks later he started reaching out. I let him back in and he still didn’t choose me. Tuesday I walked away again telling him I am done. My self worth is more important than our relationship.
Two weeks ain’t enough give it 5 months
@@ctokyox977*Besides getting a few (answered and unanswered) calls and hoovers, mine popped up on me recently -- 10 MONTHS LATER! Boy bye/F¥ck off!*
after he literally told you that y'all have to stop doing "this", why did you let him back again in to begin with.
So true. I did this too three months ago. They rarely change. We give them so many chances and they do not change.
That is good he realuzed that his wife was who he wanted to marry. It is sad when they do not care even when you leave.
He has some good points.
After 10 months of us knowing each other and dating, I told him I wanted more. He said he wants friendship. I told him I have too much to offer and will not wait for him, chase or beg him. He blocks me after that.Just before that I was vulnerable with him on the phone and he did hear me weep but I did pull myself together and sent him that txt and wished him luck. I see it must have hurt his ego but I dont want anything less either. It's been a day since this happened and I do miss him and cry. WHAT'S MEANT FOR ME WILL BE MINE! I ATTRACT I DO NOT CHASE.
It's hard but you can do this. I'm going through it too.
I’m going through that as well we going to get through it 💯💯
Same me here
Same 😢
Same 🤍
I walked away from my daughters father I loved him but there's was no direction in our relationship. There was no intimacy romance just banging. He didn't fight he got with someone else, I was heartbroken felt worthless but I didn't regret my decision because I know my worth. 5 years on I'm so glad I did the blessing that came into my life has been wonderful
8 years ago I loved one boy so much that I almost believed his words when he said, I will never find anyone like him when we breakup, but today because of his word I turn out to be more stronger than ever in all my relationships, i now prefer my wellbeing, please let no one gives access to anyone to play with your happiness .
Give men peace of mind and distance.❤ If it's meant to be, it will be.
I agree with you completely- I was in a situation where I loved him - he told me he love me as well as he was showing me differently and was not communicating with me, hiding, lying and opening up about certain things. So I decided I deserved to be treated much better than that and I walked away, I prayed that if he wanted me he would reach out to me.
I'm sorry you had went through this as well. My exact story. I just left a guy who treated me the same way. He love bombed me. His communication was not the best in the beginning. That was my red flag. I expressed interest in him because he was so called nice guy since college. However, he was not the same guy with ne. Everyone thinks he is so great. I know the real him. He is attention-seeking, Mr. Social media, always on the scene. That was why I did not like him in college. Definitely a lot of kessons learned. I will not tolerate that behavior again. I would rather be by myself.
Ladies don’t fall for it. He didn’t fight to get her back because he recognised he loved her. It was his ego. She was with another man, a millionaire. He saw she is doing good without him. His mother had to talk to him. Usually when you give the man a second chance, he is happy and sweet for a short time and then will fall back into old behaviour!!!
You deserve a man that is sure about you. Don’t date menchilds
Say this again. I just went through this with a guy who was emotionally immature.
You can’t judge and think everyone or man does the same things
Then when that rich man leave u with a kid u gonna be going right back 2 the first dude🤡
Lady go sit down somewhere🙄. Just because YOU think and say it was his ego and not his heart doesn’t mean his realization/recognition and fight to get her back was not HIS experience. Just share your own experience instead of discrediting someone else’s🫤
I didn’t hear realization, recognizing or even fight. I too hear ego. “She’s the only woman I’ve ever been faithful to…I (simply) called her and she said yes…How you leaving this multimillionaire and coming back to a little broke preacher”? It’s all feeding of the ego and just sounds unrealistic in the “narrative” of how things unfold.
I learned this the hard way but the day I finally walked away I gain my self-worth and life back!
I did too. I am so glad you walked away as well.
Narcissists always come back, but they will not have changed
This intriguing video serves as a poignant reminder of the heartache I've been enduring since my 7 year relationship came to an end 4 months ago. My cherished partner, the love of my life, made the difficult decision to part ways, leaving me consumed by thoughts of him. Despite my earnest attempts to win him back, I find myself facing frustration and an overwhelming sense of emptiness, unable to envision a life without his presence. Despite my efforts to move on, I'm compelled to confess my lingering feelings and longing for him here
The process of releasing a loved one can be an uphill battle. I can relate, having navigated a similar journey when my 8 year relationship dissolved. Despite the heartache, I refused to relinquish hope and embarked on a quest to win him back. Turning to a spiritual counselor for assistance, I found guidance that ultimately led to our reconciliation.
Impressive! How did you manage to connect with a spiritual counselor, and what's the process for me to reach out to her?
Allow me to introduce Suzanne Ann Walters, a highly skilled spiritual counselor known for her expertise in rekindling past relationships.
Thank you for this invaluable information; I've just checked her out online. Very impressive indeed!
Same. Also 7 years.
when you're with the right one you wont need space to figure anything out. confusion will cause pain.
Say that. I walked away because it was toxic.
I've been reading a few of these comments and might i say there are some beautiful souls on here.
Its easy to hate the people who take us for granted and hurt us it feels beyond repair but now i pray they heal. There is no bitterness in my heart. I had my heartbroken and was emotionally, spiritually broken (he was a narcissist), it took me years to recover and to be happy within myself. Im now at peace and ready for the man who will love me unconditionally. It will come to me like it will come to you. Ill pray for you all that love and happiness comes your way!!
🙏
Thank you love ❤️
Narcissists create a facade infront of you ..only for you to fell for them..and then they leaving like nothing ever existed.
👍🏼
Exactly
So true. I'd never heard of Narcissistic tendencies until a few years after my ex abandoned me but now that I know the signs (and the triggers) I can see my ex in a different light. Whoever got him (I suspect he returned to his e(strange)d wife) is welcome to him.
@@EdelweisSusie Hey..I hope you are doing better now...hope you are in a happy and a better place.
Life is all about learning and relearning..more power to you.
I walked away .. Freedom and no
more disrespect!!!!!
Yes! So true!
RC Blakes has been truly a God send. I had been trying to go no contact + with his encouragement, I left. He started stalking me + I called the police. It’s over now + I’m Grateful
I am happy it's over Lori. That stuff is so scary and dysregulating. Hope you are feeling a lot better ❤
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
His name is Fatherabulu , and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
He is Fatherabulu he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked he up now online. impressive
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
@@DarylSimpson58 its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
@@BonnieSetliff this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.
I'm going through that right now not divorce yet but constant threats and I'm just trying to make him happy and get the help we need. Any tips
@@DarylSimpson58 I 😅
I learned how to walk away no matter how painful through losing my 5 yr old niece and my sister. .
ABSOLUTELY.. it definitely worked for me.. Never let anyone tell you or show you that they don't want you!! Love yourself !! AMEN 🎯🙏🏾❤️
Loved this! Women are giving men too much sexual access! Preach .
So true. When some guys do not value us. It is sad how some guys treat women.
You are correct 👍
Yes. I understood it well now.😢
This has been unbelievably hard but not for the same reasons. After 27 years of marriage with an abusive Narcissist I've found myself alone. He finally broke me (which I unwittingly allowed.) And he secretly moved onto another woman. One day my world was turned upside down after discovering this. I do NOT want him back. But the long connection between us leaves me so vulnerable and desperate on occasion. Not desperate to have him back but desperate to know I'm still valuable. When in truth, I know I was always valuable & he still doesn't deserve me. I've grown more in a few months than the last decade. I just NEED to let go of my desire to feel valid to this man.
You will, Sis. Prayerfully keep walking in the other direction.
I don’t know if this will matter much from a complete stranger but, I want you to know that you’re valuable. God bless you sis.
Gosh I hurt for you sis! From my understanding a person like that will never give you what u deserve! You know u are valuable and just remember it’s not you. It’s him, I know it sounds crazy but he knows I are valuable , that is why he treated you the way you did to make u think you weren’t! You were his bait he knows he isn’t valuable!! You will be waiting until death to receive that validation from him. I went through something a little similar and still trying to pin point when someone is a narci! I always wanted validation from him and he came to someone that wasn’t broken and knew I was able to validate myself. I wanted it from him and know till this day, I will never get it! They are beneath us’ I hope this helps and hope it makes sense!
I can relate to what you've said here.
Your story is an excellent example of why women should abandon ship ASAP when there's a red flag (instead of ignoring said red flag). It sounds like a sunk cost fallacy. You put nearly three decades into a person, so you're trying to get some return on your investment even though he couldn't care less about you. Sounds like he shouldn't have even gotten three months.
He is so right!! Be available for the right man!
So glad I’ve discovered these videos, they’ve kept me strong 💪🏽 I really slipped up and let a inconsistent man get away with too much too long.
Good luck! You desverve the best ❤
Same
Same! But it's never too late to turn it all around
Ditto! We've all been there. It takes a tremendous amount of courage to leave someone alone that has literally SHOWN you all the red flags!!
I did that for way too long as well. But thank God I finally let go, feeling free and light.
Don't hesitate to walk away from the place where you are not valued and not respected, just leave and walk away whatever it is....
This really hit home because I’ve been in this type of relationship for years, no commitment just allowing him to keep coming back and God has sent several Bentley’s and I keep letting the station wagon sit in the driveway. Thank you for this video.
It’s been 7 months since I walked away. I’m every name in the book which idc but the threats that he was gonna kill me was so DEMONIC! He used to beat on me & tried to fight my son & I believe he wanted my daughter as well. I did the right thing & refuse to go back! PERIODT 👏👏
*Stay strong, Niece, and don't go back!!!*
*Many are proud of you, rooting for you, and praying for you ⚘️!*
Wow. Talk about a domestic violence situation. Glad you got out.
I’m going through the same situation….it happened yesterday I choose myself, I was bitting myself up but this affirmation that I made the right decision
Stick to the plan!! You’ve got this😊
Same, just ended it with someone.
Stay strong 💞
*It's crucial to recognize our worth and not chase after someone who isn't serious. Let's invest our energy in those who reciprocate our feelings and efforts. Here's to respecting ourselves and attracting the love we deserve.*
I agree walking away will show you what’s for your highest good. Trying to beg or force someone to see your vision is nothing but a waist of time.
Waist of time for real, especially when they do not care.
Rejection is protection. Now block him and succeed in your life ❤️
It was her walking away AND DATING SOMEONE ELSE. Not just walking away. Especially with men.
good point
Right
Don't stay where you are not valued or wanted👌. Know your worth
At 57 years old, I'm still learning and hoping that I get it right.❤
60 yo the same... 🙏🏼
59 and the same!!
*64 and Fabulous...but still the same 👍!*
I am almost 40 and I am wondering if I will ever be in a healthy relationship.
I'm 63, still learning and hoping I can get it right
It’s Cap he just knew she was enough for a better man which means that she was too good for him which made him open his eyes….Boy the Ego is something else
Yes. He is sooo fake. Actually his mama felt how dare the ex upgrade. He spelled her to come back. So she would not have the BEST. Now he brainwashing people like he is a pastor.. He is fake
Right. The guy she was with was famous and had money. Shoot. Lol.
💯💯💯exactly how it is
Nice video. My five year relationship ended a month ago when the love of my life left me. I can’t stop thinking about him and have tried everything to get him back, but nothing has worked. I’m frustrated and can’t see my life with anyone else. I don’t know why I’m sharing this here, but I really miss him.
I’ve been through something similar. My relationship ended two years ago, and I couldn’t let go either. I sought the help of a spiritual adviser, and he helped me get him back. Now we’re together again, and I’m enjoying every moment.
Amazing! How did you find the spiritual counselor, and how can I reach one?
His name is Fatherabulu, and his a gifted spiritual counselor who can help bring back ex partners.
Thank you for the information I just looked him up. Impressive!"
Be strong❤
I feel like most men do not see what they missed with a good woman. I feel like they move on without realizing what they missed prior.
Janellmd Most people
Some need to experience the reality of what's in the streets. All the masks, secret phones, lying, lil side odd jobs that's terrible just to see how life would be with that person.
Most men for real.
@Erica-cf1xb then they try to come back like we will welcome them with open arms 😂😂😂.