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Woman Unironically Asks ''Why Not ME?''
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You don't need to be a jerk or rude to "hurt" a woman. I've had women call me both because I got tired of putting up with nonsense. A lot of women don't understand or seem to care that you can turn a man off that cares about you.
@@Error-000 Most women just cant handle rejection. I had this one girl how was literally begging me to sleep with her i told her i wasnt interested no its not you it me(You know softening the blow) in truth I didn't want to be with her because she was very abusive to the people who wearnt me (friends and family) and I didn't want to deal with that.
She started crying,getting hysterical saying I must have some other girl and all types of other things.
Exactly, they are so entitled, they think men need them by default, and when men are "harder to get" than originally planned, they just lach out at you like spoiled kids, cuz that's what lot of them are, spoiled.
@@creeperkingdom3190 she sounds like she had a lot of sexual.partners
Neurotic women have slept around.
@@Error-000 it really depends if her feeling hurt is valid or not. If you first did sexual things with her, then say you don’t want a relationship, it is valid for her to feel hurt and you are in the wrong imho. Red pilled men should protect their own feelings, but also the feelings of females by not playing them (since they are clueless, you are not).
@@creeperkingdom3190 Bro, you are humblebragging. You didn’t impact her life at all. That was just the initial rejection, she got over you really really fast. Most Men remember rejection for a long time. However, most women get emotional when rejected, but they have so much more options than men, that the rejection doesn’t stick around for long. Don’t pretend in the comments that you where the one and only for that girl.
I have learned over the years that any women who says they never done anything wrong in a relationship is a liar.
The funny thing is that they aren't lying in the moment, they genuinely make themselves believe this to be true.
Yeah if it isn’t explicitly said, what they really mean is that they FEEL “they have never done anything wrong in a relationship”. They will then lean into this feeling so strongly that even evidence unequivocally proving them wrong with either be outright rejected (because it doesn’t line up with her feelings) or she will own up to it, but still defend herself by saying “but those were never my intentions. I’m a good person.”
If a girl makes this sort of admission (I’ve never done anything wrong in an LTR”), be grateful that she was so transparent in revealing to you the giant walking red flag that she is.
Any person that says that is a liar. Man or woman.
choosing the wrong partner and knowing it is already a lie to themselves
side note, They may also come out as "All my exes are the same!"
This reminds me of an ex who was shocked when I told her I am not responsible for making her happy. She froze for a good minute from the shock.
@surprisedpikachu For the voyage is long
And the winds don't blow
@surprisedpikachu and it time for us to leave her
Afro Versifying ---- I have said that to every woman I've ever been with and most of them are shocked when they hear you say that.
That's a very freeing realization to know that no one is control of our happiness
You sure she was shocked because she thought you were supposed to or the shock could be on how you said it it could come off as accuseing someone if said in certain tone. Or she can take it as she should only put you first and her feelings don't matter.
Everything about this woman is a warning sign.
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Nose-ring, upper ear piercings, dyed hair, cake makeup and baby fat.
@@noimnotnice and hair that does not reach below her shoulders.... 🚩🚩🚩
Her jacket is cool though. However, she didn’t make the jacket.
@@clandes7ineindya154 all of these modifications are correlates to mental instability. Yes, especially tattoos.
Cba to find the publications showing this, but Dr Ed Dutton made videos on the topic.
The horrible irony is:
The women who NEED to learn the most will never listen.
Those go hand in hand obviously.
Slight correction: they Can't learn.
Her neurochemicals have programmed her to a point that she has absolutely no self control.
@@meenki347 Oh they CAN, they just Won't.
My take is that perhaps ignore women with bad behavior and instead find someone with good behavior and other characteristics you value. In my experience I see good women kicked to the curb and guys running around the women with issues who seem to have an endless revolving door of men who would put up with anything. While I have no right to tell men who to date lol..but since this channel often focuses on women with bad behavior, it might be a more productive strategy to establish dating rules that involve getting to know people's characters before jumping into anything, so that proper selection can eliminate bad behavior. This might be why in the days of old instead of dating it was courting...my understanding is that courting had an expected end goal and the courting process was to establish compatibility. it would seem like dating is a failed system that has brought out some of the worst aspects of people. But hey! I could be wrong.
@@STak-ju7gx you have a point in courting a woman flower's chocolate any and all gifts were never allowed because they understood
The only reason she's pissed off is the fact she missed out on a free holiday.
Underated comment!
It's not even about why they broke up or how she loved him (atleast fake). She is nagging about missing a holiday with straight face. Amazing.
@@hadi_drums The man smelled a gold digger and bailed
Ding ding ding. This guy gets
@@clandes7ineindya154
Most men don't even have relationships because women won't even look at them.
And you want them to not only understand the delusions of this woman but to also have compassion for her?
I understand her emotions. But I think she's delusional. And that she made very bad choices and they have led her to this point.
All the problems in my life are my fault and therefore my responsibility.
No one else can fix them. Or could have prevented them.
I am to blame for all my problems.
Women need to read some Nietzsche
She's probably the first one who would be toxic
The worse is that, for them, who is responsible for them chosing toxic men? Nice guys.
Nice guys should pay for these women's choices.
I hope for a reset. Like AI hot female robots and it's all over media. Guys get them because they're easy to deal with,cheap and low maintenance. Maybe men will get a hooker once in a while but normal women have to really change themselves and become less demanding and entitled.
It's always a man's fault. Even when she's attracted to toxic men it's a man's fault.They never see themselves wrong or think what did, I do or didn't do.
It's bizarre people don't see patterns
To be fair men often do the same thing. They want the hottest girl they can get.
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Dating is very easy for women as they are the selectors and hold a strong monopoly on mate selection. They never need to make the first move. For woman dating is like a multiple choice question test. For men it’s worse then a written exam. Its mathematically impossible possible to sit a multiple choice test and get every single answer wrong without already knowing the answers and deliberately picking the wrong ones. It just baffles me how they still manage to get this wrong
@@grizzlybear2702 It's because they keep picking "D. All of the above."
And by the way nose piercing is already a huge red flag.
Same with frequently changing hair colour
@@grayhalf1854 true, I know a few high quality women and ZERO of them have piercings others than ears, neither blue/pink/green or some other unusual hair colour, or visible, large tattoos (well the last one is a damn plague recently and even high quality women have tattoos, but usally they are minimalistic and in such places that they cannot be seen easily, so they are not visible e.g. at work). I don't say that anyone with piercings or tattoos is automatically a bad person, but it signalizes that they want to manifest something, question is what... and why?
@@altair91100 Unstable sense of self, frequently. Borderlines and suchlike.
@@clandes7ineindya154 Yes it is a redflag because it means you make impulsive decisions. Men have to study women and learn to send out certain signals. If a woman has visible chest tattoos and piercings on her face what kind of signal do you think she's sending to men?
@@clandes7ineindya154 I am not gonna lie, I don't have any specific, scientific data to back up my thesis. It's just my own personal observation, that there is a strong correlation between excessive piercings/tattooes and mental issues or character traits that makes an individual not suitable for a relationship. I explicitly said that having tattoos and/or piercings doesn't automatically make anyone a bad person. That 'need of expression' can be fullfiled in many different ways. Permanent changes to your body that often are, to put it brutally honest - awful, are not a good way for one to 'express' themself.
It's probably not even about her choice in men. The thing that always gets me is, how women can not and do not self reflect on their own actions in the relationship.
I loved this woman who was from Brazil. I'm just using this as her identifier.
Miss Brazil started off great. After a year, it was constant nagging and trying to change me.
"Aren't you too old to play video games?" - I'm playing the game with her daughter who was struggling with a level I helped her get past.
A new doctor started working at her hospital, she would tell me how awesome he is.
But the final kicker was, I had just worked out a deal with my ex to get my daughters back.
Up to this point, I had baby sat her daughter many times and took responsibility.
I had to go to work one day to solve a problem and asked Miss Brazil if she could watch my girls.
She took off to the library, left them alone and had the nerves to say "they're not my responsibility".
But then wonders why I left her.
I found out some years later she even told a mutual friend of ours she just feels I wasn't ready for a serious relationship.
So yeah, it's accountability for me with women. They need to stop thinking the relationship is all about them and being so demanding and then saying
there are no good guys when they chase them off.
And the lady in this vid just has the look of a narcissist who felt it was all about her and did little to reciprocate back
The first red flag is saying "Aren't you too old for playing video games?". They can't even fathom that gaming is pretty good for stress relief, unlike most modern woman that only add to the man's stress levels.
Toxic women, stay a bay.
@@clandes7ineindya154 but..… but He never even implied what you are asking
Indeed, an experience too many ( good ) men have with women.
@@tsuukaX Women have a problem with staying on topic, or noticing what is actually being said. Clandes7ine had to "read" something else into what was said -- something that wasn't even there. Typical female.
To know that she would make the same mistake again - that’s extremely selfish to have you on the phone for hours using your emotional support for nothing.
I have a hunch Alexander knows better not to be her sponge for her residue of emotional self-sabotage.
@@Aivottaja maybe. But he does have a lot of empathy and compassion for a man.
@@thenarrator1984 Most m3n do. On the average, I would say m3n have more empathy and compassion than wom3n. M3n are just not as expressive and superficial about it as wom3n are. Plus there's the reigning cultural idealization of the caring mother. Which, if you follow the news, or hear one run-of-the-mill custody battle, turns out to be fake.
But that's not the issue here.
In case you're wondering about the silly obscuring of the words, that's just to get pass the word filter. Funny how they work. I can't use those words for some reason in this message.
@@Aivottaja I absolutely.agree.
Women are not biologically designed to be empathetic with anything but their own children.
This is why the only women who understand the male.experience a little bit are
A) extremely cognitive women (very rare)
B) mothers of boys.
@@thenarrator1984 I actually agree with you at least to a certain extent. A few years ago I was driving and had a moment of Clarity. why do my brothers hear a scream and jolt towards it in case someone is in trouble and I would rather tie them down and keep them safe? Why is it that everytime they walk out the door, I warn them not to do anything stupid like jumping infront of something dangerous to save some lady because some strangers' family is not more important than theirs. Why is it that the men I know seem so willing to expose themselves financially especially to women and I am not and would rather keep control... it is for the same reason that I can do a million things at once and even when I feel like crap I make sure everyone I love is doing ok even if it means whinning through it and sometimes having to do some nagging. The reason is the difference in our natures. As a female human , there is a kind of love that I don't think I am capable of but men are, at least the average normal men are, not necessarily the few that represent the outliers and cause alot of trouble.
I might be wrong, but I think while men are not very good at empathy which involves placing themselves in the shoes of someone else, men are capable of a love that consumes them with abandon of self while women are not very good at that but are often better at empathy because in place of someone else in a situation, they can place themselves in it which makes us feel the discomfort of another person through our own lenses and by that we feel for the other person. I also think that children help women to experience a love that surpasses our nature because mothers that love their children, seem to be able to love with that self abandon ... it might be the reason why there is a quote in the Bible that says the woman is saved by child bearing. The point of this is that I think men are generally more capable of that love with self abandon for certain people, or things in their lives, but with women it is not exactly the case. Men can go to work for a million hours to take care of their families and in many cases they don't even look at themselves or their own well being, women can do the same but the resentment will build up because of the sense of self being lost in the process. For this reason, men may be more comfortable working like dogs and providing for women who wouldn't even have jobs or do much at home (as I have seen some cases like this). But the reveserse is very very very very very rare and a house man that does nothing while the woman works so hard, I can't think of a case where there will be any love left, women can't take it and neither should they, it's unnatural.
Now this is not to say that men are noble creatures, it's an observation on just one area in life as all humans are selfish...although there is something to be said about the extreme self indulgence practiced by women today and feuled by the every facet of society but that's a whole different topic. Every human is both capable of highest good to the basest evil and anyone that denies this in themselves are dangerous due to self ignorance or intentional deceit. The only thing that can qualify someone as decent, is actively making choices that reflect goodness and kindness to others, learning to not encroach on others' paths/lives, and with relationships, learning how to be a true companion by having by being reasonably flexible.
disclaimer: My observation of the particular nature of women might not generalize, in which case, i probably just came to understand the monster that I am...but I am confident that it does generalize in certain ways and to some extent. In thus case, It would be interesting to see other thoughts on this.
I don’t think she was picking the wrong man, that man just got rid of the wrong woman
What lol
Exactly
You have more chances of being struck by lightining than expecting women not acting on emotions
Reason why they shouldn't vote. Serious societal matters should not be dealt with from an emotional standpoint; hence modern society. Isn't it lovely?
Well, not entirely. While you're thinking "what a great girl," she's cold-bloodly calculating your net worth and which ribs to shove the knife between, should she ever feel the need.
Listening to this from a woman’s perspective and he’s right. Women DO make that decision as to whether or not to go out with a man at the peak of their emotional instability. Maybe that in itself isn’t so much a problem, but it’s whenever that feeling is the expectation for the rest of the relationship. It’s not practical and it’s exhausting, especially for the man, but for the woman too. If a woman doesn’t emotionally evolve with the relationship, it’ll never work. Moreover, women in today’s society don’t know what they really want/need/desire in a man in the first place.
@@clandes7ineindya154 they don't know because women don't understand men. At all.
They've been horribly led by the previous generation of bimbos and divorcees
I think as a guy women don't look at the total package of what we may offer and some of us seem really boring up front. Wish they would dig a little deeper. Women who also say they don't need a man to complete them are messed up in my experience. They want to fit you into their box.
@@clandes7ineindya154 she doesnt know either lol
They are so delusional she still thinks she's entitled to his time money and attention even after they break up, and many times does a women say "I love you" when really she loves what you can do for her which obviously she's one of them so I don't blame him why he didn't choose her.
She is the exact definition of a pick me girl unlike what most people use it for to degrade traditional women.
you wouldnt say the same if it was a woman rejecting a man
@@catiena while they say we're afraid of rejection 😂
You also say that like the table are turned against women which they're not. If a women approaches a man she is much more likely to not get rejected but when it comes to men approaching them they literally have to be perfect because if they even do 1 thing wrong she will say it's harassment which isn't rejection it's false accusation.
@@clandes7ineindya154 Typical shaming tactics you grimlins use everytime when you can't come up with anything, if you don't have an argument just shut up sheesh🤦♂️
This has been one of the most revolutionary thought shifts I've ever experienced in my lifetime. During my entire childhood and teenagehood I would pursue guys completely blindly and would be sucked into a world of hurt as a result (mainly deriving from having a difficult relationship with my father). These kinds of guys seemed too good to be true, because my mind idolized them as potential saviors from my miseries, but were only just horrible people. My mindset at that time could be boiled down to this sentence, "No, I need THIS specific guy" (which is ironic given I thought about this for multiple people). Then at 19, I had the profound realization that this is all caused by my own terrible decisions to pursue these types of people (I kind of knew this, but never wanted to admit it). The term "obsessed" doesn't even do justice to how passionate I was in pursuing them. But even I still managed to break a 10-year-old pattern from deliberate intention alone. And now, I feel much more fulfilled and choose partners on entirely different criteria (such as intelligence and character), although the older tendencies do tend to creep up sometimes. But I always catch them in their tracks and reassess. So I do believe there is hope for other women stuck in this rut as well 😅
@@andrewu2480 😅 I call bullshit big time. But it's okay, you are a different person from me, you would not understand my experience of how I view other people, in this case being my romantic partners. Understandable. And you seem to have your own idea of what deception is as well. In my book, a man being consciously chosen for having wonderful qualities instead of on the grounds of the woman experiencing the butterflies and whatnot, would only be interpreted as deception by guys who don't understand female biology, are unable to distinguish between biological tendencies and conscious choice and who lack in depth.
Choice will always be more powerful than fleeting feelings of attraction. And these kinds of feelings don't turn into love. That's where the real deception lies in you believing that it will do so. Have a nice day :)
In addition, a female's biological nature of being attracted to guys on the Dark tryad spectrum doesn't have to dictate her choice in partners. In the same way that I don't choose to act on impulse although I might really be compelled to.
And on a final note, from ever wishing this type of a thing upon somebody, I believe you need to take a look at how miserable you yourself might be.
Translation: Chad and Tyrone wouldn't commit to me so after I lost my pair bonding ability due to having multiple partners I started going for Beta males with money.
Ability to pair bond is fully intact, thanks for the concern 😅
Dear Lady. Please continue to be self aware. It is important both for the guy you choose in the future and yourself. Overwhelmingly,women who have a love/hate relationship with their father ,again and again turn on the guy in their life. I call it monkey behaviour. We swung down out of the trees with certain patterns ingrained. And ,I include all of us,all too rarely use free will just when it is most important.
There's a book out there you may care to read. Men Who Hate Women and The Women Who Love Them. Very accurately describes men I have worked with. What is not mentioned in the book is that there are just as many women who truly hate men. For exactly the same reasons. And that is who I was raised by.
The cycle can be broken. It does take conscious choices though. The more self aware you are,the better for you. All the best.
Japanese girl I knew some years ago: "I know who the bad guys are, but I still go for them."
They all do, over and over again. And then they complain bitterly when the bad guy eventually treated them, well, badly. Like the one before him did, and all the others before that. From their early teens until well into their 60s most females repeatedly choose the same kind of male. They just never learn. They never grow up. And should they ever happen to be in a relationship with a good man you can count on it that THEY will treat HIM badly.
@@clandes7ineindya154 I didn't mean actually abusive men. Of course women don't want men who insult them, beat them up, or openly cheat on them on a daily basis. And yes, I did generalize, as this is just a UA-cam comment and not an elaborate sociological essay. I wanted to make my point very clearly and also a bit provocatively, but I'm fully aware that women, or people in general, are not all the same. There are patterns, though, and I've seen a great many cases of nice, caring men finishing last.
How do i become a “bad boy”?
My life, it appears, would be much easier.
Interesting thing that she probably wouldn’t mind “hurting HIM” at all after breaking up by immediately dating someone else.
She actually sounds more obsessed with Tijuana trip, rather than her ex.
It's about the validation/money/effort: she wanted that to be spent on her, so she could be in the spotlight, post the awesome pictures on IG, have great stories to tell her friends, get the attention...basically anything to pedestolize her. She doesn't care about the living person of flesh and blood, just somebody, anybody I'd reckon at this point, who spends the effort and money of taking her on a romantic city trip and adore her all the way.
Agreed
Maybe he promised or they talked about it together dragged her along with excuse why he can't be romantic maybe busy saving money to do something only to leave her when he has it together.
@@rey_nemaattori Or as female we know men do those thing when in love so if female loves a man she hopes to see him put in effort to validation the feelings not all guys show love in the same way but seeing that shows he never cared about her he when as so as he dumped her so wasn't a money issue of finding out high school bf now late 20s to a gf on trip were as teens all he could to was fast food. But with that much time in-between and if as teen he showed love the ex is going to feel cheated. she said week after dumping her only a week
@@clandes7ineindya154 exactly It could be a nice walk the point is she didn't get the quality time.
Once you go Chad you never....
....get clear or logical in your head.
... get rid of that HPV
...accept any less, and I’m talking about BEING Chad to any one girl.
Get a taste of that and tell me you’ll gladly go back to going by her “rules” and playing her stupid games just to get a piece of her sugar walls.
Once you get treated like Chad, it’s Chad or bust for every subsequent girl.
... go Doomer. 😆😅
...feel satisfied by the non toxicity
Well.... there's the flip side. Maybe she was dating a good man. But she behaved in such a way that he decided she wasn't worth being in a relationship with. That he could do better. Maybe he was a high-class man, but realized she wasn't a high-class woman. So, he broke up with her. Then met someone who was attractive, flirty, fun to be around. And as a rebound girl, he just wanted a good time with her. That's another possibility.
Or he just got a hotter girl.
There's a lot of possibilities.
It's still general things that happen.
Exactly. It could most definitely be that. There isn't much context. But a lot of these women who post a video to complain never offer that type of context. They never add what they may have done to cause the end of a relationship.
Yes, and that would hurt the girl why not her why. He doesn't even know the other girl that well
@@thenarrator1984 And that's not hurtful that girl be average so she gets the boring lack effort as she put her heart into it for only guys to bow down and have the fun with the hottie that might not be very nice used her as a place holder its the same as men being invisible worst at least the ladies leave alone what they don't want you men use and only want the hot ones also.
@@bunnyboo6295 when people are done in a relationship, u need to be too. Dwelling on someone after u have been in a relationship isn't going to help u at all. I've been hurt this way. U wanna know what dosen't help? Saying she isn't allowed to go to another guy after a day. If it was that easy, i just except it and move on to the next. Women get men more than men get women. Y'all have a bigger available pool of people that will take u after a relationship. If anyone has the potential to learn this, ud think y'all can.
seriously man, their programming "emotions and butterflies over logic" is one of the most hilarious thing to me. like you said, "over 30" and still believing in santa. and don't forget to add their lack of accountability to the mix. recipe for disaster
Yeah and sometimes you see them with like a giant baggage like kids. To me that's a giant red flag lol. Like I don't see that many dudes with kids popped around from left and right. Most likely is a baggage from her little young years adventure with Mr. Chad when she was still figuring out herself. And yeah sad that some haven't really matured.
@@agoogleuseranonymous2658 they'll be the ones having to suffer the consequences of their actions. unless some fool takes on that baggage and they have plenty to choose from
If someone in a relationship entirely blames the other person chances are they are the primary fault
Short answer: eyebrows.
What attracted me to my wife was that she is a good person. She always wants to do the right thing. I chose well, and deserve to be happy. As selective as young women are, they sure don’t choose good men. It’s actually funny how bad their selections in men are. It’s almost like they just choose the highest drama they can.
He dumped her because she's the type of girl to post a video asking "Why not me?".
It's surreal seeing all of these. I've almost broken my phone to keep it from tracking me and selling my data. I can't understand the appeal of venting your most personal thoughts and feelings in video format on a publicly available website.
@@clandes7ineindya154 I'm not calling her a bad person, I'm saying that I literally can't comprehend the appeal of voicing my private life online. I've internalized from a very young age that asking for help is weakness, and weakness is shameful. Expressing my emotional hurt in appeal for sympathy from strangers online just doesn't occur to me.
@@free_at_last8141 She just wants the ego boost that the sisterhood, the social media and the army of simps can provide her. She wants the attention, it's that simple.
@@clandes7ineindya154 as men, we deal with emotions in a different way, the masculine way.
It doesn't matter how much society tells us to "express & talk about your feels" as women do cause it'ss nonsense, the same society and women berate the men that do it, so that argument is a big pile of BS.
Men and women process emotions in different way, don't expect us to do as you do
"why not me?"
Better question: "Why you?"
At this point I don't even believe the guy that dumped her is a "bad boy" unless I am shown concrete evidence to support the claim.
#BelieveNoWoman
I have always had this thought at the back of my mind, but now to hear it been spoken out loud makes me feel like I was never the crazy one all along. Thank you Alexander Grace.
Awesome reflection Alex - so so true! Women lead with their hearts and see commitment as a sign of love.
Men lead with their heads and see commitment as responsibility- they plan for the future.
Women get caught up in the glow of being adored on rather than co- creation.
10/10
Why not her? Because she is a one point five maximum and has a septum piercing.
@@clandes7ineindya154 Probably not, no. Both of the aforementioned aspects would put me off to a large degree. Hence my post.
@John Wiesmer Here she'd be a 1.4. She could keep the septum piercing, but we'd use it to tether her outside pubs.
She is aiming for men out of her league.
AKA Hypergamy
@@clandes7ineindya154 damn this video really triggered the hell out of you. Give it a rest sis. Go and get some air.
7:20 It is entirely normal for a women to need completion from a man. The problem of modern women is that feminism has destroyed the normativity of one partner for life. They are out riding the hypergamous carousel and destroying their ability to pair bond with the man that is potentially made for them.
A women 'who needs no man' to feel complete because she is 'strong and independent' is not attractive, nor will she have realistic standards for a partner.
As a woman I agree with the majority of this video. I’ve had so many friends complain to me about men who were walking red flags and it gets so frustrating for me to comfort them when they make the same mistakes over and over again.
However I do have one point of contention. I do believe you can have a healthy relationship with both the “spark” and the “calming/peace” feeling. As in, you find your partner attractive, funny, smart and you have a crush on them. AND they are an emotionally stable and good person.
I don't think he said that you can't have a healthy relationship with both of those features. The point is that women's main criteria to look for is the spark so they often forgo deciding whether or not the guy is actually the right guy for them.
@@ColonelHoganStalag13 do you believe men forgo physical attraction and just look at women’s personalities when choosing a mate?
Looks like you are the caretaker of the group lol
@@whitewizard2002 I am 😩
The spark is pure BS. That’s exactly what players use to pull women. I’m talking specifically about not feeling a spark on the first date or two. I think women need to think a little more logically
Don't women have this exact same mentality in the form of "Make him wait" and the response everytime is "She doesn't owe you anything"? If women want it that way, It should be the exact same in reverse.
They will never take responsibility, just like children!
ENJOY THE FALL GENTLEMEN!
I remember one time I went to visit my ex and say goodbye before I left town. She was ranting about how terrible her mother was for something that she said, and I asked a very simple question suggesting that she might have been overreacting. She became so unhinged and upset that I quietly decided to leave after she stormed out of the room. She then followed me out into the street as I was getting into my car and asked me "why I came over if I was just going to piss down her throat".
The victim-complex knows no bounds.
@@clandes7ineindya154 She was, she kept calling me up while I was at Fort Huachuca for training and sobbing at me. I couldn't find it in me to cut her off completely, because I got addicted to her interesting and complex personality.
Yeah. I got orders for a year in Okinawa, so I figured if I called my ex-gf she’d feel “safe”, that I wasn’t trying to start anything (I even said those exact words) and sure enough, she showed up.
I thought about what I wanted to happen. This is the love of my life we’re talking about here.
I really thought: “Do I REALLY want to take her to a hotel room and have sex? What KIND of sex would it be? Obviously, I’d get emotional and I’d be making LOVE to her, fighting back the tears. It would open that scar tissue I’d built up over the last 4 years.
I’d also have to assume there was someone else’s stuff inside her, recently deposited. No evidence, just a logical assumption. So would I go down on her?
Then I felt a wave of anger sweep over me. She DUMPED me! Because, as she said on that couch in her living room: “I want to play the field”.
I still loved her though.
I was torn. Time was running out. I had to make a decision.
I didn’t have a credit card, so id have to borrow my moms credit card. That would be an awkward conversation.
If I get this hotel room, and everything goes great - As it most likely would have- I was 22 and she was 19 - I’d be on that bird all emotional all over again, knowing she’d be on the carousel while I was doing my best for Ronald Reagan on one of the greatest battlefield in the history of the United States Marine Corps.
So…no.
Her first question was “where are you staying?” She was quietly pissed the rest of the time. But we made out like it was 1982 all over again. So sweet.
The beer was empty, and our tongues were tired
And running out of things to say
She gave a kiss to me as I got out
And I watched her drive away
Just for a moment, I was back at school
And felt that old familiar pain
And as I turned to make my way back home
The snow turned into rain
I’ve seen women in their 40s continue to do this. As you said, some will consciously and deliberately keep choosing these types of men.
@@clandes7ineindya154 The type of men that Alex mentioned in the video.
@@clandes7ineindya154 This video wasn’t about the woman in the first clip.
That feeling your caller described living for sounds like additction. If she can talk through it for 3 hours, see it logically but struggle with implementation she probably needs a different kind of help. It's upsetting to hear.
Alexander you are helping so many people with these videos seriously 🔥🔥🔥💪
My ex chose me because I gave her that sense of calm and security, but she couldn’t stand it after awhile. Started making up drama just for drama’s sake. Eventually she left me because she claimed she wasn’t happy and she needed to find herself. I’m not sure modern women can handle a long term calm relationship.
Can but women have so many emotions. Also overthinking. Some search so called bad boys, with good ones they find life is boring. But in the end many of them are unhappy with men who are interested only about parties, sex, adventures.
you can say "no thank you" to people (of any gender) and they'll take it as a personal insult worthy of their infinite hatred and scorn
HoW DaRe YoU!
@@avppr3451 LOL chill out Greta 😆
@@clintonrobinson8070 XD
Love the intensity. Too bad things are gonna get worse before it gets better. We need a cyber attack that takes down all of the internet for people to come back to reality
Don't these ladies realize that they themselves are giving this much power to alpha/chad males?
I also think it's weird that they post all their Ls online 🤦🏻♂️
Lady?
Where?
This is the worse part.
The online validation is crazy
Women see their followers as a support network. Its quite crazy
@@thenarrator1984 well to be fair, there are a lot of men that watch this channel for similar reasons. It can be confusing to women who feel they are doing all of the right things in a relationship, but a man may see things differently. Maybe she assumes she is being supportive but she is doing something that really bothers the guy? A lot of problems are about a lack of communication. This girl reminds me of some girls I have been friends with in the past. When things haven't worked out for them, they ask similar questions like, "why not me? I have all the same qualities of what he says he wants..." The problem is that relationships are more than just meeting a set of criteria and a lot of men will just ghost instead of having an honest conversation so someone can stop making the same mistakes. Sometimes the girl has done something wrong, but doesn't realize it but if nobody tells her, she will likely keep repeating the same mistake.
Sometimes it is also the fault of the guy that a relationship doesn't work out. Maybe the guy just found the new girl more attractive so he left his girlfriend. In that case, perhaps she didn't actually do anything wrong other than have the wrong body type or face and she picked a guy who wasn't loyal, unfortunately. That can be frustrating if that happens to her more than once and eventually it leads to trust issues and other problems, including a negative attitude that repels men. Nobody likes being around someone who is negative all of the time and even if you are an attractive person, a negative attitude will make someone less attractive. I think dating is just hard.
@@crystalh450 your first point.
Are you comparing.
#1 women posting all their personal stuff online for validation and support
To #2 men. Viewing data to educate themselves
Because if that's what your saying and that's what it looks like you're saying.... That's ridiculous
@@crystalh450 your second point basically says that it's complicated.
Yes no one said It was easy.
But instead of blaming the other person. Accept it's your fault. That is the #1 thing to learn..no matter what happens it is your fault. You.ate to blame..male or female.does not matter.
There is only.one way to find a good person and that is to expose your weakest side to being hurt.
And once hurt..move on and evolve.
I will say this though.
The relationship problems society is experiencing are a direct result.of women's "empowerment". Women need to get back to fundamentals.
Stop sleeping around deny men sex until they know the man is the one.
Stock to having one man for.their entire .lives.
This one thing will.
#1 make women happy again.
#2 make children have parent
And basically fix the west.
It's a personal cost but it's a great personal reward
Women are not men. And women living like.they are men has made.women unhappy more than anything else.
Women who have slept around have become.worthless to any man with self respect.
They become .neurotic and any smart man should avoid them.
This is hitting very close to home right now. I have several women in my space that are destroying themselves this way. You have captured this exactly.
Over and over again, my mother kept referring to a wise old woman character from a Disney cartoon, with complete disgust, "Follow your heart." She knew this was something she didn't have to tell a boy. It was just an example of a bad influence on little girls.
Everyone has a choice.
Someone choose to stay in an abusive relationship and some not. You have always a right to choose, where you want to be.
Its hard for some when it comes to the narc. Narcs use tactics to trap victim they cut off support they may not want their partner to work so they don't have the funds to movie away. It is best to keep your eyes opening to red flags never place yourself in vulnerable positions but those that are normally prey on were already in a vulnerable place.
You produce some of the most relevant videos, and so much of this can be tied into what we are seeing in society today.
This is very true. These ladies who are in their 30s and still single, asking where all the good men are seem completely unaware that "good men" have been in and out of their lives the past decade or so, they just gave them no attention. They go for Chad instead.
It's their comfort zone. They are not ready to leave it.
When I first saw the thumbnail of this girl, I thought, 'she's cute.' Once I started watching the video and listening to her oh-woe-is-me-men-suck rant, I can completely understand why her ex took off without her.
Fun Fact: “Why Not Me?” was the second career number one hit for The Judds, topping the country music charts soon after its release in September 1984.
Thank you, Alexander! Amazing video! Your compassion to both men and women make a huge difference for me while researching this topic. It's refreshing because indeed your approach isn't on surface and shallow, it's touching my heart. Thank you for your love and empathy, for the deep analysis of the root problem!
Are you kidding me?? The question I have, why would a guy OR a girl PAY for and most likely ruin their vacation with a person that just broke up with them?? Am I the only person that can visualize the attitudes, resentment, arguments, insults that would be thrown back and forth during said vacation?? Who the hell in their right mind would do that (man or woman)?
She probably dumped him after he had already paid for her trip to Tijuana, so he took someone else
I would dump a girl that rants on tik tok too
I would never date one to begin with
As a Playa, Learn how to give a woman that spark, that bit of excitement, Give her that emotional charge.
I stop trying to be the great guy, the nice guy, the faithful guy back in 1995, An became a womanizer and be one ever since.
A woman will fall weak for how you make her feel, i focus on things that can get her hot and emotional,
I am not gonna treat her the best, but she will feel good until i move on.
She needs drama, anxiety and passion.
I love the face Alexander has the first minute 😂😂 like “what is she talking about??l 🤣🤣
there is a way to make the old comment visible again ?
It’s astounding how simple women’s worldview is. It’s actually mind-boggling. I used to talk this logic to an x and she used to give me this blank stare, like TF I’m lost, WTF are you talking about? It was like I was speaking monkey language to her.
Solipsism in action.
Privilege is blind to those who hold it.
Another one that's going to help me be a better me. Thank-you again (as always Alexander) 🙏
Right on for calling her out!
I was crushing on this beautiful girl... but although I WOULD have eagerly slept with her I KNEW she was bad news.
So I never tried with her.
I also liked this girl who I thought liked me, she was sweet, kind, and intelligent, and I enjoyed our conversations - she was a friend - but I had virtually no passion for her bedroom-wise.
When she said she loved me and wanted to be more than friends I was curious, and thought it might be good to get to know her better - to EXPLORE her (and myself) - hardly a hot and passionate response, I know.
So I told her (calmly but with nervous butterflies for taking this step) that I loved her and wanted to see where we could go with this.
22 years later we are still together.
It turned out that we both liked being "intimate" with each other.
We liked each other's company a LOT.
And we could trust each other (generally - some things we learnt NEVER to trust the other with).
We've also learnt things about each other that we don't like at all.
We split up once - briefly, and have had some really bad things happen to us individually and because of us being together.
Yet we have also supported each other through every bad thing and every moment when we failed, fell, and had to start all over again at life.
Through every lost job.
Through attacks from jealous people.
Through the blackest of personal despair and misery.
And we are stronger together for it.
We truly do love each other, but that meant finding out what we are BEST at together and what we are WORST at together.
We've had a kid, and that brought a WHOLE NEW load of struggles that strained our relationship.
But we both wanted to explore parenthood together (plus the making was fun!)
22 years and still going.
We've learnt so much about each other, and experienced so much together, that we often sit and reminisce on the past.
We remember those loved ones we've lost.
We laugh at some silly thing that happened.
We talk long into the night about our feelings, and make plans for the future.
We.
I hope it never ends.
I know it will, one day, but I don't want it to.
And neither does she.
She's admitted to me that she ALSO didn't have passion for me when we first met, but I grew on her, apparently 😉
Not jealous guy, sorry. You two sound like two people that somehow settled for each other.
Who broke up with you, can I ask? (it's never entirely mutual). Either of you used that time to be with somebody else? If they did, did one strike out, and come back to the other, out of insecurity?
To many people, what you've written is normal, but that feels sad as s*it, frankly.
No passion at the beginning - doesn't sound like a great deal, I'm afraid.
If it's been 22 years, oxytocin and self justification might well shape any replies I guess from here on in. But no sir, I don't envy you somehow. There's sim* DNA in this here story...
I've been a si*p previously, so I'm not here to brag - I've gone some loser stuff before, and healing with the man*sphere help.
But it's the splinter in the Matrix - you're never entirely content, until it's solved. Not buying it guy.
Bro.. she's cheating on you, I just hope you see the truth and stop with this fantasy.
This sounds like it was written by a girl.
Her description of what men have done to her describes the women I've been in relationships with. One made sure she had a new boyfriend locked in before breaking it off with me. These women who think it's "men who are the problem" lack any self-awareness.
Most of the times a man says he loves you and cares about you, he is telling the truth. If he ends up hurting you in the end you likely were the one who killed his love and care.
Alex... your crinkle eyed look of contempt is priceless as you listen to this human drekk. God Bless your Soul, you are truly doin the Lord's work
It’s like you pay to play! Men pay up front and women pay at the end. And then comes marriage.
If a man views a relationship with a woman as anything other than transactional, he is being led by the nose down a very bad path.
Haven't finished the video but:
"Why are you so bitter? Who hurt you? Not all men. Perhaps you should choose better."
This woman deserves only a reverse UNO card from everything thrown at men when we complain about women. That's it! Nothing more.
I salute Alanxander and i appreciate you for existing
Majority of history men and women didn't have choice in who they marry. It's very recent women have their own choices, and their choices explain why arranged marriages where necessary in the past.
This reminds me of one of my male friends who keeps going after women because "The sex is mind blowing!" and then three months later she's attacking him with a butcher knife! 😆
Chances are if she's insane in bed it's because she really is insane.
This video is talking about the female version of this.
The more you want them the less they want you.
@@clandes7ineindya154
It's interesting that you automatically conflate interest and desire with desperation. And disgusting, frankly.
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What nonsensical perspective. Enjoy your life of rejection and solitude.
@@clandes7ineindya154 Who wants to own you your delusional.
Humility is a quality seldom seen in women of this age, Defining long term loyalty is replaced with sexual or ego based gratification and this hardly fills the void in ones heart or life.
One of your very best Alexander! Cheers!
Im clearly not doing that bad but my ex and his gf went somewhere and that's somehow my business and deeply hurts me. I am a victim of watching 2 people whose business isn't mine go on vacation
you likely were broken up longer and there likely wasn't any empty promise. What the girl in video went through is close to being cheating on they were barely separated she likely was never treated on a vacay perhaps not even a decent day
She dumped him I assume as she simply referred to him as her ex and "we broke up" (inclusive language which has the effect of blame sharing then blame shifting. Additionally overt kinesics. Suddenly she cares because he's going on a romantic getaway with his new girlfriend? Two weeks? Half a month seems quick but maybe she hurt him, and he's on the rebound (wrong of course, and only hurts in the end). Maybe he wanted to in part show her what could have been (and by doing so is using the other girl)? Should he wait 6 months or more? Maybe he's nearly 40? There are only 52 weeks a year, and the average lifespan... The urgency of time in life notwithstanding,, from her attacks on men as a whole, clearly she's not a high quality woman.
Can't Help a person that don't want help.
Change has to come from within.
Never actually accepting blame is a common thing. I have seen women justify cheating multiple times with " well he was an ahole" lmao
Alexander these women are already broken and are not good partners even for good men. She may get in a relationship with a good guy to escape the cycle only to cheat with the bad boy. She is already hooked on the rush.
She does not know value normal.
Hi, ALex, I´m a fan of your channel. In this case, why you assume she choiced a jerk? Maybe the ex BF is a good boy/man that simply discovered she´s not for him (maybe because bad behaviours, possesiveness, etc, etc... or simply he want a most beautiful girl). Best regards.
Exactly what I was thinking
Thanks a lot Alexander!
I am that kind of man who thinks (since my teenage years) that somebody, some girl/woman is going to save me and to complete me. Couple of month ago my Chinese medicine lady, to whom I come for a acupuncture treatment due to my severe depressions, told me that it is the result of my unhealed childhood trauma and she recommended me to seek a therapy to help me to resolve and heal my trauma. I am curios how the therapy is going to be and what result it is going to be.
The results will be less money in your pocket..
Everything you said is 100% true, keep up the awesome work mate
They act like mad messed up children and excepting us to stick around.
None of them are calm or rationale.
It's probably your attitude sweetheart.
Why assume that the man was actually a jerk?
What a genuine, authentic, caring man this bloke is.
So she looked you dead in the eye and told you that she won't listen to you and will stay being delusional, unaccountable, in denial and blame men for everything they did and didn't and you still feel compassion for them, I mean don't hate them but feeling compassion for women who show no room for improvement, who are on a path of destruction, gotta leave whatcha can't save, killer video though.
Honestly without knowing the dynamics of this woman's relationship, and the context of why it ended, we can't draw any kind of accurate conclusions about how bad of a man she was with or how bad her taste in men is that lead to this outcome.
This vid is filled with enough insight to give these particular women enough insight to make changes.
I'll wait for the results...
I like the comparison of such relations to taking drugs.
The better you feel at the beginning, the worse you will feel at the end.
The fact that you talk to social media about your private life says 100^50% how you really are and why he dumped you.
The level of arrogance on display with women like this is insane.
Was a very good perceptive. I really like your point of view regarding this issue. Good job
Most people ( particularly women ) seem quite unaware that if they become too emotional then in order to protect itself the cortex becomes ( usually temporarily ! ) disconnected. Though it would seem too many people run around this planet quite unaware of how to use their cortex ( not that we are ever taught how to use it ) - Rather than the binary choice resulting from the fact that the now quite inadequate 2 valued, either/or logic of the ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle is STILL built into the English language, I found out that life is MUCH easier if we use both logic & emotions to balance each other out - works for me :)
When I was a kid, I used to think women were angels, love embodied on this earth. I used to think that the way I believe them to be, is what they would be. In sense, my genuine love for them would bring out the best of them. Every year I got to experience that as a lie. Now, I don't care about what they go through. I now understand they are shady, evil, and dumb as any foolish being. Treat them as always expecting bullsht, because they are capable of living in bullsht if it makes them feel good/better about themselves. They will openly live a lie, if the delusion makes them feel good. As far as I'm concerned. They choose what they want to go through. They choose the men they want to call their significant other. They don't need my empathy when the consequences hit them. Feel it and burn. Maybe then they will learn the lessons they refuse to learn through reflection. They run away from accountability because it has a little sting to the pride/ego. They didn't want to take the little sting by choice, so let them take the big sting with no choice. lol
PS. And the sad part is, even after a big sting, most don't even learn a damn thing. Just right back to being the same version. There are more women in the world, yet there are still more good men, than good women. Let that sink in.
Almost like Arranged marriages at 18, was made for a reason...........!
Remember the old adage: "Every problem a woman has is because of something a man did, said, didn't say or didn't do". With that mindset it's no wonder we're in this mess.
Her: Guys constantly hurt me over and over again!
Him: I'll never hurt you, because I'm ending it
yeah, but what can be said about those women's psychological immaturity, from an evolutionary perspective/POV ? or is it all just the Disney-like fairytale world doing all that to them? and if so, any thoughts on why they are so susceptible to these fantasies? an explanation, by means of mechanisms that could have been selected for by evolution? I feel this would have been an interesting point, and more 'in-line' with the usual content of this channel ..?
Women's psychological immaturity is normal and healthy *when* checked in patriarchal submission to a man in marriage for life. The feminist approach to treat women like men is to be rejected, even from a male-positive perspective.
Unless we turn the degeneracy of modernism around (I doubt it can happen) and destroy atomizing individualism in favor of family units under the leadership of men, nothing will mend the immaturity of women.
*... and if so, any thoughts on why they are so susceptible to these fantasies?*
Females may mature physically quicker than males but some never mature emotionally until their backs are pressed against the wall of reality from premature motherhood and the rigors of urban society. Boys learn right from wrong very early from playing contact games with their friends...if you hit a friend too hard he is going to hit you back harder. They learn the importance of the pecking order very early on and unless they move physically to a new environment, it usually remains firm for the life of those friendships.
Girls usually dont learn from this context, they make emotional displays to get what they want and this usually works quite well throughout their childhood so they dont learn how to 'play well with others'. Unfortunately they learn early on to crave the roller coaster ride of emotional highs and lows for their rewards and they become addicted to the hormonal spikes and the crashes afterward. When this become the normal way of being for them and they naturally carry this into the dating market, emotionally stable guys just dont do it for them...they are "too nice". And when she has the misfortune to fall under the spell of a controlling narcissist, she is doomed. He will play her like an old fiddle to bring her to extremes of emotional highs and lows for the fantastic and passionate make up sex. She is programmed to think these emotional extremes are normal and anything less is boring.
Listening to her speak makes me feel astounded as well.
Mostly that the Human race has made it this far using her as a midline metric.
Good discussion. Interesting anecdote. Liked your description of a healthy start to a relationship. 🤔🤔😁
I've had women do the exact same thing. "I love you and I care about you" next day they're out the door.