REVEALED! The Only Solution To Crazy Women
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I would say as far as this video goes prevention is good. I have a similar regime but I've found myself in a situation, the person was a great friend. She seemed to be great while I was vetting her, a little on the sensitive side mind you. Come to today and honestly I spend most of my time trying to avoid using words like crazy or insane when describing her.
The peak and trough of this relationship is 6 months apart, and I can say without any doubt that I did everything I could.
I'm just glad I can use WhatsApp's chat export as a safeguard. Along with some other things I am taking no chances with this woman.
Never in my life have I met someone with what I've coined 'Chiwawa syndrome'. Doesn't matter how nice or lightly you tread around her it's "you're being mean to me". Apparently she's been giving me 'opportunities' to fess up to things I didn't do. I learned pretty early that talking to her just goes in one ear and out the other. I spent more time talking to her insecurities than her. She believes that 'people can't be objective they just try' to be but in the end they're not so she doesn't try she just goes with emotion.
Nope. Let them have the 304s they been chasing. They've supported and encouraged 304 behavior so that's what they should get.
Alexander :
Can you make a video explaining or at least theorizing on why women seem to have a desire/ find joy and excitement in doing things that are known to be illogical, dangerous and worst of all inmoral. What aspect of their base psychology leads them to act like that and think it is normal a d acceptable and what aspect of society seem to nurture it, encourage it and why.
Edit: And as a side point why do they find further joy in this when it's done at the expense of men.
"Deserve" - no, no one deserves anything. Would I advise the woman to avoid him? Yes, the risk of a relapse is too great.
When I divorced my ex-wife she tried to destroy me as a person. That sounds hyperbolic but it's not. I'll never be the same man again. In some ways it's made me stronger, and has also made me realize how precious love and kindness are because I've met their nemesis. But there's also a part of me that's broken and which I know will never heal.
A good piece of advice for you young lads is to pay careful attention to how a potential or actual girlfriend treats other people. Any bad behaviour you see is likely to be aimed at you one day. And as Alex says, never underestimate a woman's capacity for vengeance, it can lie behind even the sweetest of smiles.
Yes, and her wrath will be even more intense against you.
in what ways did she try to destroy u
Oh i knew when she didnt want to tip any person at a restaurant didnt matter if they were male or female she would try to not tip no matter what so i would always tip them good
Been there as well. I think it's not about healing, I just woke up and became aware. You gained experience and leveled up. Is that the often cited "trauma"? It's what you make of it.
The same happened to me. It traumatized me.
I remember hearing a story once about a woman who was claiming she was a victim of domestic abuse because her husband hit her. When asked why her husband hit her she said, "Because I hit him over the head with a frying pan"
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Must have been the 70s. The cops wouldnt give him a fair shake post 9/11
Gotta defend this poor abused woman! Man, male, of course had frying pan coming!
The ultimate solution is never sleep with crazy women.
Trouble is they're all crazy.
@@ChrisLee-yr7tz acid her face as a revenge
but it also make us evil
@@killerclown-df9lz you what? Wtf?
but they’re all crazy, so just don’t sleep with them at all
@@ChrisLee-yr7tz 😂😂
My sister physically assaulted me 2 years ago, she lied to an uncle and he seriously threatened me of dead. I had to move away from my home, each time my sister enters the room I exit the room instantly, never talk to her or be close to her. She still plays the victim and my mom is on her side telling me I have to forgive her or I’m “destroying the family”. She never confessed anything, she keeps lying and sometimes she screams insults while I’m exiting the room. She is definitely out of my life forever, no matter what my mom or anyone says
You never need toxic people...even family
I’m very sorry to hear that. I hope the best for your future.
Exactly, you only forgive people who repent from their behavior and apologize to all they have hurt and lied to. Tell your mom there’s nothing to forgive because she’s not asking for forgiveness, she’s asking for a free pass
Shun your mother as well. These are predatory relationships. They are going to try to use you for finances. They will nickel and dime you.
Your a man, what’s the problem ? You act like a G D victim. Move the f on . . That’s what men do with anyone who shows zero respect
@@JimJones-gd2jy I have moved on but the preventions need to stay in place so it never happens again
Yup. My ex-girlfriend's family broke my infant daughter's arm and didn't take her to the hospital for THREE DAYS. I filed for custody and she retaliated with a child support filing where she lied on her income to make me pay the maximum. In New Jersey, that is 60% of my income and they take it right out of my paycheck. I have been homeless for 5 straight years as a result and unable to pay rent for most of the last 10 years. It's a disgrace.
You're a strong man if this hasn't broken you. I think most of us would have already cracked and left this existence along with your ex's family. At least she might have a better chance even in the foster system, she is already with monsters. Truly a twisted story, be strong man..
The West wants to enslave and destroy men in service of the evil and maniacal matriarchy.
Men need to be more educated on women's dark traits, it's such a shame that will never happen because of our gynocentric ways.
@@jayc342009 don’t you know that if women had all the power in the world, then everything would be pure, just and fair? There wouldn’t be any double standards, men would be cared for, and hypocrisy would be a thing of the past.
@@peripheralparadox4218 good one
Underestimating how dark female psychology can be...
It's all about survival. not about love or morals. this is how world actually works.
@@Gay_Alien_69 Which I'm all for, but then they remove the ability for a man to survive in the same world, or even to have a fighting chance. Definitionally unfair, but that's how it goes, I guess.
@@adamd9166 Yeah, they did it so that they can have all the power. most people in power are corrupt.
I was stripped of seeing my kids and into debt. still in debt but my kids are grown up and they don't talk to me much. The system in the U.S. is screwed up. Taking a father driver's license away is not justice, it's vengeance. Why take away a means to make money? Why make it more difficult? Where I live, you have to have a car because there is no public transportation. "Take an Uber or lyft", even if that were an option (which it isn't), it would be way too costly.
Move overseas.
This response is actually kinda of incredible I didn't think it was possible to be that unhelpful and stupid in 2 words
@@MRB1THCES Those two words are becoming increasingly popular. Passport Bros. Look it up. More and more men in the U.S. are going that route.
@@pegg00 Parental Alienation Syndrome. Look it up. @Chris Faulkner my heart goes to you. Human rights for fathers in the USA are lacking, to say the least
I see you and staggs share the same braincell sharing is caring👍
As Sam Hyde has said, imagine living your life without having the risk of getting punched in the face. Think about what that would do to your attitude. Or how it would affect your behavior. What you could get away with.
I supports gender equality
Need i say more?
Equal rights, equal lefts
It's massively ironic that women then complain endlessly about how they are at such a high risk of this happening. Privileged and remorseless.
@@TIOLIOfficial you sound like you dildo your own ass.
Fair point, but at least most men live their life without the risk of being raped.
Be careful when filming a woman who is using her tears as a weapon. This is when they are the most likely to become violent. Fully expect them to attempt to destroy your phone by knocking it from your hand, and then pretend that you tried to hit them.
Yeah. When filming someone in a conflict, you must also show that you're deescalating. While filming, you should be back away and talking softly.
Try to set it up so that your phone records directly to cloud storage. Even if she destroys your phone, you can still retrieve the recordings.
Yes. I had a video of my ex full on being a demon. She was hitting me and screaming like a banshee. She flipped the switch to victim mode when she discovered I was filming. She was screaming and hitting then changed to crying and acting like I was attacking her. It would be great to upload to YT to teach the world how they lie, and society always believes them.
I'm a woman. Women are the ultimate chameleons, though. They are great at hiding who they are.
facts
Well they really aren't that good, men tend to ignore red flags whether it's purposeful or not.
I remember seeing a video where a woman literally threw herself out of a moving car, assuming she could blame it on the guy sitting next to her. Problem was he actually filmed it, and asked her not to do it.
Woaw that's crazy ! Do you have the source of your video ? 🤣
@@qassimo688 ua-cam.com/video/riKYD4CXvq4/v-deo.html
@@hfcriske thank you very much for your video ! It's completely amazing ! Women can be very toxic and crazy !
Wait you have the video?
@@Dreamstrafe ua-cam.com/video/riKYD4CXvq4/v-deo.html
I'm a woman and I know what he means. I worked on a cruise ship and my direct supervisor was a woman and she made the 6 months of my contract unbearable. Management was very lenient with her although she was lying through her teeth. The most horrible boss I ever had.She was like a spoiled child.
Thing is, no woman would stand with a female boss but prefer male bosses. But for some reason men cannot complain about it. I was at a school with a feminist wannabe (I say wannabe because the irony of her feminist rants against men was paralleled with absolute worship and dependence on them behavior wise), and every time it came to an evaluation, she would jump to the male evaluator and point me to the female one.
I had a f boss like that, every person that leaves that job comes up to me like my god I free
Every single boss I have ever had has been a woman. Every single one of them has acted exactly like this without fail.
My mother is like that. I just walked away, I couldnt imagine being on a boat with her though 🤮
He's right about the camera.
My dad had a REALLY nasty breakup with a woman he had some legal entanglements with, (like police got involved and he spent the night in jail nasty) so he needed to see her one last time to sign some papers, and asked me to go as a witness.
Knowing that if she said something happened, I didn't like our odds of being believed, even 2 on 1, I started recording and put my phone in my shirt pocket before we even entered the building, so it still had a view while just looking like it was sitting there.
I still have that recording on my phone, all these years later, JUST IN CASE.
Good job protecting your family
Better upload that recording somewhere safe, phones break and get stolen
Make backups.
@@meyerjac Good rule. Two is one, one is none.
And 3 is a party
When I spend any time alone with a woman I don’t know (for example, driving a female friend of a friend home after a night out), I have my Voice Memos recording.
This has already saved my backside, after an accusation was levelled at me (“he made a pass at me, he told me he expected to f**k because he drove me home, what a creep”) which I was able to immediately prove false.
There were repercussions to recording however. Things said included:
“Did you get permission to record? That’s a violation of privacy!”
“Oh my God, are you so suspicious of everyone that you record everything?”
“How dare you use that as a weapon.”
“You can’t blame her, she misinterpreted signals you had to be giving off that doesn’t come across in a recording.”
In the end I was vindicated but what I learned was who was _really_ my friend and who wasn’t.
Importantly, my girlfriend of the time was _not_ supportive until I played the audio of the entire journey. She then started her mental gymnastics to try and justify/excuse the actions of her friend no matter what I said, no matter the proof I had.
So in the end I ended the relationship. And yes, I recorded that too.
Your girlfriend was right to be angry. You shouldn't have been driving another woman around, and you definitely should not have been driving around one that you knew was going to try something. I really have to wonder about what your motives were. With a recorder, you can't pretend that your own motives were pure and that you expected nothing to happen. I'm guessing you wanted to cheat on your girlfriend, and you made the recording for blackmail, or in case she accused you of forcing it. If you're transporting females around that you have to record, then you're the one doing something wrong.
@@Andrew.the.Philosopher Wow, did you really just strawman a person who already laid it out on the table?
Need a namechange bud, perhaps Andrew.The.Clueless would be more accurate?
@@_Meriwether Alternatively, you could develop some morals and stop being so manipulative. Most philosophers would tell you that you'll get further in life that way.
This can go both ways. An ex of mine went off her head, called the cops on me. I was almost going to run away out of my own house when I thought, stuff that again and started to record on my phone. Was like a red rag to a bull, she came straight for me punching me, trying to smash the phone. When the cops came, I had enough and although I am reluctant to ever say anything, I told them what happened. She was locked up for the night and released in the morning. The police put a restraining order on her that she blackmailed me into removing. After breaking my ribs while I was driving the car, I pulled over, kicked her out of the car and drove away. I have never seen her again and seven years later I'm still terrified to get involved with females even now.
Lol your name is quite ironic given your horrific experience
At least you made it out with your life brother. What if she had a knife nearby?
Alexander is not wrong. Vetting women is one of the most important skills that we can teach our sons.
In a 6 month span, the Ex:
- sent a ‘flying monkey’ to contact my new fiancée with false allegations that I was somehow physically, sexually, and emotionally abusive.
- within 2 hours of my 2nd wife announcing our marriage on FB, the Ex created a gofundme with vague emotional abuse allegations against me.
- just as a new custody evaluation began, I was targeted by a mysterious allegation to Child and Family Services alleging that I was abusing my son. CFS deferred the situation to local PD for investigation. Detective reported that he could find no evidence of abuse.
Being mindful of all my conduct, combined with careful record keeping, is the only reason why I’m still intact and free as a man.
And I’ll bet the psychopath didn’t face any consequences?
@@facelessandnameless you bet correctly.
Well, I did manage to win 50/50 custody of my youngest. He became repeatedly suicidal in her care, while stable and happy in my home. That’s what it took for a father to get 50% custody: clear medical documentation of the child becoming suicidal in the mother’s care. He was only 10 years old!!
@@Brentisimo sorry to hear about the suffering your child at the hands of his/her mother.
Chameleons are everywhere. Vetting only goes so far.
Cops are now required to wear body cams, so too should wives.
Study how she behaves with others in public.
Does she treat everyone well? This is a good sign.
Is she a noticeably different person in public than she is alone with you? -if her behavior is noticeably different, this not a good sign.
Do her friends behave in a way you find distasteful, while she's being a "good girl"? -she's being a chameleon.
Look for the signs.
I left a lot of girls because they were 2-faced. It cannot be fixed, dont bother you gullible 19 y/olds out there
Massive human rights violation...so true
That has always been my rule. Women only get one chance. If she ever does anything on purpose, premeditated to harm me in any way, I walk away and completely cut her out of my life. You might think that is a terrible strategy but I've been married to the same woman for 39 years. I've been successful in marriage because I left crazy women alone as soon as they showed me their crazy character.
Well done.
That right there is giga chad behaviour.
All true, been through an acrimonious divorce myself and the ex just lied and lied and lied, fortunately the (female) divorce judge believed me not her, the ex even demanded I pay her legal costs as well as my own, again the judge shut her down, I came away with a 100% win!
Long before you get married, move in together or even go on your first trip, a person will show you their level of crazy, lazy, mean or keen. Pay f***in attention to that
The worse it is the sooner they show it
If they present crazy, lazy, mean or not keen (on you). love of god disengage
I recently went out with a girl who was objectively very attractive, but immediately started being rude and presenting personality disorder traits. If I kept my mouth shut and played it off we would have hooked up. But I can't tell you how much better it felt to tell her she was a rude nutter and to kick rocks
I lost out on a hookup but stopped any number of disasters that could have occurred from being in close proximity to an unstable person
She probably likes you more now haha
long trip is excellent test.
I've been doing this lately and the cartharsis of calling it bullshit flat out and being outcome independent far outweighs any FOMO.
Thing is, women will ghost a dude for a nothing and do not expect this from guys, yet it should be employed on them just as they employ it on men. Men wanting to be magnaminus with women is absolutely erroneous, because magna implies a superiority which does not exist. Much the way animals are superior to humans as far as feeding themselves and giving birth relatively painlessly, women do not have to go through the same pains as a dude to set it all up, from a date all the way to a life with her. We are not superior to them, and this is a common misconception dating from the Freudian idea of rationality vs primitive behavior.
@@sfertonoc excellent points, thank you
Happened to me. In the worst state possible, California. I couldn't even defend myself. Ironically enough she did that to three other men including her family member.
Here's a cautionary tale. A guy I knew ended up in jail when a woman's false accusations about a specific act done in the bedroom (on more than one separate occasion) was actually unwanted. After he was sentenced, his public defender sympathized with him, telling him that the woman and her friend took turns accusing and convicting men of assault so they could access government cash payouts to victims of abuse. The women had been running the same racket for years, targeting broke nobody dudes, to feed their drug habits. Didn't help the poor guy to know he'd been scammed and set up. Those facts were inadmissible in court due to laws passed to protect genuine victims from the trauma of having their relationship/activity history used against them in court. So now the guy's got a permanent record, a ruined reputation, he can't travel and he's on a registry. Beware the easy hook-up.
I've heard of cases where men filmed and police didn't even want to see the footage. They ended up staying a few nights in jaiil
Often the police act that way because that's the official policy or law. That's why Alexander said it's a human right violation being treated like an everyday circumstance.
In my case hiring a private investigator was more powerful especially in court. I was able to overcome and have full custody of our children. Without video evidence, pictures, etc I would have been destroyed. Yes it was very difficult because all were taking accusations as fact though nothing she was saying was true.
"If I feel slighted by you then I'll loose all empathy for you. You have become the enemy; you're barely even human." ... that's an emotion right there yup yup yup
a someone who was falsely accused, I needed to hear this..
He's right, I'd say a willingness to lie to you is almost ALWAYS going to lead to MASSIVE consequences.
To make a long story short, I caught my ex out, near the start of our relationship in what felt like some pretty dumb lies.
Fast forward to near the end, and we made a deal where we both agreed to do something we didn't want to, but the other person wanted.
Then months later, when she was pissed about something entirely unrelated, she started talking about how I "forced her to do something she didn't want to." as a way to try and shame me into doing whatever new thing she was demanding at the time. Completely ignoring that she was the one who started it in the first place.
Thankfully, she never took that lie to anyone else, or my life may well have ended years ago with the false claim.
Yep, this has been my solution so far. Never had any random stupid drama in college because I reigorously vetted those around me guy/gal before I become close and started sharing personal stuff.
The moral of this story is, DO NOT GET MARRIED! Filming is for those who are already in deep. Why would you enter into a contract where she has all the legal power to abuse you and you have nothing with which to defend yourself??
So true. A marriage is nothing more than a contract where you give up the right, for life, to ever sleep with anyone else. And if things don't work out, she gets half your stuff. Why would you sign such a one-sided contract? Also, as a man, you essentially, lose all your rights as an adult when you marry a woman.
I have a theory on this. Is long so bear with me here:
In my opinion the reason why these radicalized child like "venusians" feel justified in doing immoral stuff or just straight up don't care about the Morality of the situation is because as we know "venusians" are the child-bearers and thus the physically weaker half of the species since their skinn and muscles are design to be soft and elastic for when they get pregnant. This factor is what gives them an internal need to want the "martians" to "protect and provide" for them, which is what they are design to do by nature (stronger muscles, willingness to take risks, logical and abstract thinking for "what if" situations, etc.).
This is why most venusians don't think or seem to care about logic, morality and the consequences of not staying inline whith either. They are naturally designed to mainly focus, care and think about the material/physical, their material needs, material desires, etc. This is because by extension it will lead them to focus on the material well beign of their future child, who they ("venusians") will be naturally attached to because of their genetic, and by extension their emotional, bond.
Abstract ideas like Morality logic, "karma" and things like philosophies bearly passes through the minds of these conditioned venusians, since normally it would be something left for their fathers and husbands to be in charged of and decide on and normally they, the daughters and wives, would trust their judgement s and decisions on such matters; that is when they themselves don't want to take the time or responsibility of doing them themselves if they even could or want to. However now a days they base their view on what's right/moral and wrong/immoral on what is allowed and dictated by the ruling class, making it an artificial substitute for fathers and husbands, or on what is collectively considered ok by the masses (public opinion), wich is mostly based on what is propagated by the ruling class/state through their media.
There's also the fact that for "venusians" with a narcissistic and predatory mindset it makes them feel special and important having the men be screwed and seen as bad gives them a sense of "moral" superiority just for being of the other sx without having done anything to earn it. The worst part is when they relish and enjoy Mn suffering and going through problems to the point that they need to see them suffer and be ignored because it makes them feel even more superior for just being a Wmn due to the narcissistic and above all predatory mentality they've been conditioned to have, especially when they themselves were the caus eof said"martian's" suffering.
The worst thing about this is that "venusians" only feel justified doing immoral crap like that because they are at the moment backed and protected by the ruling class/state. The ruling class is for the moment allowing this behavior because it allows for the demoralization and de-franchizing of men becuase men are the biggest treath and competition for the state due to them being naturally design to care about things like Freedom, Morality and Independence. Once this is done the state will turn on them and there will be no men left or willing to defend them.
Where is the state going to get all those extra soldiers from in the end? Didn't they already ruin the men?
I've been saying the attack on masculinity is to remove men as a threat to the state/system. Empower women and smite/weaken men. Men are a treat to the government and the candidates for a revolution. Weak men will never be able to revolt against the government. This is why guns are under attack. The government is trying to eliminate the chance of a revolution. Women will go along with whatever the government wants so long as the government makes them feel "empowered." Women are blind to fake glorification. Actually, women aren't blind they just eat it up. It is a feel-good mental drug to women. Look how women get all warm and fuzzy when they are told being obese is beautiful. The women know it isn't, but they love the praise and admiration. The West wants an all female society. Omg, women have no clue how oppressed they are gonna be in 20 more years with no men around. The women of today are walking into a big trap. I, for one, am just gonna eat my popcorn and enjoy the demise.
Women almost always operate under the idea of "the ends justify the means"
The sooner a guy figures this out the better for him. Stay strong fellas
Even worse, it may not even be his child. I know so many guys who've been screwed over in divorce court. In fact, I don't know one who hasn't.
Actually happened to me. Had an argument with an ex, at my house. The discussion escalated and I just had enough so I told her I want to break up and I want her out of my house. She moved towards the door but then she refused to leave. She took the keys from the lock and threw them under the furniture.
This is the point where I took out my phone and started filming, asking her calmly to get out of my house. I managed to get the keys out from the furniture and opened the door. In the end she left. Later that day she asked for the video, arguing that it's a video of hers that I wasn't allowed to take. I stood my ground and told her that that video is private property, shot on my private property, it will never be made public but I won't share with her or delete it.
Still, there are many ways an evil woman could lie about you and you could never protect yourself.
In the Shari’a, a woman’s word is defined to count half of a man’s word. I guess they put it in there for a reason.
Who knows a womans nature better than their creator
"Hell hath no fury like an Australian woman in the Family Law Court"
I hear Australian family courts are particularly bad.
@@adamd9166
The worst
Cool typo o negative pic! Peter Steele was a legend 🖤
@@simple3382He was indeed. I discovered them in late 2022!
This is all valid advice. I got rid of the Mother of all crazy women by recording toxic conversations where she would hurl verbal abuse. The crazy thing is she would tell me fairly regularly how she fully intends to fabricate a legal situation to ruin my life, shich is enough to freak anyone out. Once I started recording her threats were empty because I never did anything wrong to her. She was always on edge and once she got to the emotional state reasoning with her was no longer an option. It's an unfortunate situation but it is reality
That is really twisted how she would tell you she is planning to do that. Most women get away with it too... disgusting.
The best book I have ever read on self-defense only had a few actual self-defense techniques, and they were in the later chapters.
Most of the chapters were to emphasize IF YOU DON'T WANT TROUBLE, STAY AWAY FROM TROUBLE.
Every action carries a certain amount of risk and there is no getting around that. To live is to take risk.
BUT we can choose to stay away from people, places, and situations with a high risk of trouble. Stay away from the seedy night club and don't show off your valuables in the high-crime area (or most areas, for that matter). If someone is clearly crazy or deceitful, stay the hell away from them and if you can't avoid it, then at least keep some (physical, social) distance from them.
Another piece of advice I can offer is to be selectively incredibly boring. These kind of dangerous people love drama and gossip, so if you fly under the radar and are as boring and drama-free as possible to them, you're likely to repel them. You can even be selectively unattractive in your mannerisms. IE if some drama girl finds you hot, then act like a total wimp if you know she doesn't like wimps to drive her off (be smart about this, obviously)
Suddenly Islamic law where a woman's testimony is worth half a man's is starting to make sense.
In the U.S. some states require both parties to consent to a recording. Some only need one. Otherwise the recording is inadmissible. I’ve also heard of guys who have started recording and when the police show up everything was dropped.
The same over here in Germany! An audio recording without prior consent of both (or all) parties is illegal in general and not admissible in court. A judge might still view it and consider it admissible, especially if it was recorded to prove a crime.
@@GermanGuy007 so your saying that recordings are admissible and not admissible at the same time. Great.
I can back up what Alexander is saying here 100%. I got involved with a woman 13 years younger than me and ignored some red flags early on. She was a single mother, so I thought a little extra patience was just compassionate. While I am fortunate to have become a father, because of the situation, the struggle with my son’s mother Has been beyond anything I could’ve imagined. Fortunately, after eight years I am winning. I had to document behaviors with my phone and involve the police many many times. She was violent and physically destructive often and threatened to hurt the kids. It took her getting foolish and texting the threats after I refused to speak with her on the phone before the police would do anything. Meanwhile, I took a lot of damage from false allegations where the police and authorities took her word and put the responsibility of proof on me that it didn’t happen. Fortunately I have a great relationship with my son, and he spends most of his time over here with me at my house now, but I have to be ever vigilant as to what kind of game is being played in why I can’t ever take things at face value. There has got to be a better way to be father. The worst part is that my son will not be raised in a home with two cooperative parents, but I am the stronger of his two influences and he prefers to be in my home.
I've generally always done this with both males and females. One of my big criticisms of modern women is that they don't practice prevention, because it requires accountability. They believe they can play with fire and shouldn't get burned and when they do, they blame the fire. I don't buy this "if it had been you, you wouldn't have known that guy was abusive" crap. Maybe not, but that was not the only problem with the dude. It never is. Don't ignore red flags.
I'm from India, age 32, male, and I keep wondering, since the past 2 years - "does this topic not get discussed in court? Is the law there not evolving anymore?"
We share the same name buddy. Mine is spelled with jit.
I am fortunate enough to live in Germany. Listening to all those horror stories from the US and even Australia is just baffling! In Germany the father has a custodial right, the mother can’t deny him, unless he is PROVEN to endanger the children’s well-being. And making up stories of abuse is a really bad idea for the mother as false accusations can come with a fun 6 months to 10 year prison sentence.
The mother of my children is a good mom to them, but since she is fluent in Womanese and no other common language, I have to communicate with her in writing only.
lol what a fortune to live in Germany. I'll ping you in a 2 years and will ask how the industrial powerhouse of Europe is doing.
Very good advice …… trust it . The phone idea is great . My old rule was never never be alone with a hateful woman for a second …… you walk into the front door walk through the hallway and walk out …… then you have a assault charge because you punched her in the hallway …… a friend broke that rule , was brought in for questioning, but a officer looked at the photos and noticed a slight yellowing , a physical exam proved that the bruises were days not hours old ……. Lesson learned
Spy cams and mics. Catch them saying stuff when they think your not recording.
Men need to become more vicious in legally defending themselves. If it is proven that she lied, he needs to levy every possible legal means to punish her. Defamation, restraining order, assault charges etc.
Until there is a real legal risk to her for acting up, she has no incentive not to.
6:25 this is literally BPD girls in a nutshell. *this is why you dont date BPD girls*
not easy to spot at first if you don't know much about BPD
@@jayc342009 Agreed, Paul Elam has several videos about the early warning signs.
@@jayc342009 I ended up marrying one, freakin' worst nightmare of my life! They first lovebomb you (should have listened to crazy in the bed, crazy in the head rule!), then the subtle red flags come on, the it was all down hill, I missed my chance to get off (got pregnant and at the time was living in a very unfriendly country for fathers). Now I know LOTS about BPD and narcissists, enough to write a book on. BEWARE OF THE WARNING SIGNS AND GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!
if you are not trustworthy in small matters, you will not be trusty worthy in larger matters.
They wonder why we are leaving
Why is it just assumed the mother should get custody?
Activists and special interest lobbied to have the law made that way
Put hidden cameras in your house. And make sure it's recorded in the cloud never tell your girlfriend about it. Just in case if she finds out, just see it's against burglary
If things go so horrible may be it is time to break up?
@@lpi3 still need proofs of innocence for breakup period
What you said is very true about crazy women. Prevention is the key to avoid them. Thank you for the advice & will take note of it. 😃🙏
Don't stick your junk in crazy women always do background checks better safe than sorry
It s not junk though, it s a tool for pleasure and giving life.
in 04 my fiancée and i moved into a starter home /condo and our son was born in the fall of 05. by far thee greatest day of my life ever. my son will be 18 years old this fall and i raised him by myself with no help, not a cent from ANYONE since he was 13 months old and i had an absolute blast and i wouldn’t have done it any other way so don’t think i’m going into some victim story. when my son was 13 months old i came home from work and my son was starving, diaper overflowing and where was mom? nodding off on some trainspotting ish. since he was born she’d be waiting for me to go to work and all day long her sister and her were doing god knows what. i called her family/father and said your daughter is the mother of my child and she needs help. please please help me get her in a rehab. he said why should i believe you???? 😂 she already had been throwing me under the bus to everyone. i tried to approach her calmly and said we have to get you in a rehab asap and you have a 13 month old son who needs you. she said that if i didn’t leave her alone she would call the cops and say i was threatening to hurt her because i was messing up her high. me being an idiot i said go ahead they’ll never believe you. she called and they believed her 😂😂😂 i had to leave my home and more importantly my 13 month old son with a skid row heroin user who couldn’t even take care of herself let alone a baby because cops and the law ALWAYS ALWAYS SIDE WITH THE WOMAN. PERIOD. 24 hours later i go back and i figured i’m not going to get anywhere yelling. they LOVE DRAMA MORE THAN ANYTHING, i had to play jedi mind tricks like never before. I basically told her that I was sorry for all that I had put her through and who was IT ever tell her how to live and basically presented this delusional apology that she ate right up and I literally said look I’ll take our son I owe you time to relax and to be yourself so you can be the woman you’ve always wanted to be and I’ll even pay you child support and I’ll take care of our son. i took my son and left EVERYTHING in my house. just close on my back and that’s it. and i did proceed to pay her child support for 3 years so she would stay away from us and i said tell everyone that i’m the dead beat and you raise him. she did. three years later my work slowed up and I called her and told her I’m not bankrolling your drug addiction anymore and I stopped paying child support for a kid that she was never taken care of not one day. Child support lapsed in the next month the courts wanted to see me up there and they were ready to slap shackles on me and throw me in jail for failure to pay. I brought paperwork up there and it was equivalent to a stack it look like they were for phone box and I came in and I put them on this Case Worker‘s desk and she said what’s all of this I said it to receipts money orders notarized letters saying that my son has lived with me and resides with me and has for the past three years and the caseworker looked at me and said let me get this straight you’ve been paying child support for three years and take care of the child I said correct. She said why didn’t you say something I said no I did I did plenty but you guys didn’t listen and I just can’t pay no more. She said get out of here I wanna see her ass up here and that was the last I’ve heard of it. The first six years of my sons life she was nowhere to be found and my son never asked where is my mom once.
So true and seems like a pandemic of such stories, sad to see children's life ruined between incompatible parents. When will there be a unbiased support for men/fathers too?
The BEST way to get to know her is t take a 1-2 week sailing trip with no internet ! Then her true nation will come up to surface ...
Andrew Tate knows this first hand 😂
Yeah, even Top G isn't immune to this...
@@Shadamachaeon Yeah, Andrew Tate was up against international money from a group with global reach who don't tolerate their orthodoxy being questioned. Doesn't matter what country you take refuge in, they can bribe officials anywhere.
I have gained so much respect for your work in these videos. I was “destroyed” I by a toxic women, took me more than a year to be myself again. I guess she was most likely a person with a personality disorder. But the troubles within that is kind of the same that you’re talking about. You have my respect. Cheers
In addition to protecting you legally, it also becomes entertaining content
It might not protect you though. But it's better than nothing.
Show it to your buddies so they can laugh with you.
I saw that episode of Love is Blind too! I was also shocked at the harmlessness of Cole's comment about the orange. That show is a guilty pleasure about relationships.
Glad I'm not the only one watching that show with an anthropological lens.
Narcissistic personality disorder is a subject every man should study before letting any potential demons into their lives. I speak from very painful experience, just wish I had of had internet access when looking for a partner years ago.
Seconded! I have the same experience and it can turn into real hell! Years of life and thousands of dollars later. It's very hard to understand NPD, especially covert narcissism unless they experience it. And it's much more prevalent than people think, probably something like 1/7 or 1/8.
The little details tell the big story...
reminds me of Johnny Depp case, video/audio evidence is a life saver
I’ve disposed of them all. You failed to mention that even this most angelic angel, a paragon of logic, reason and morality will turn on you when there’s a provocation irrespective of how small it’ll be. In my relationships, it was as though perpetually had to sleep with one eye open. Life with my dog trumps any associations I had with women.
My list of red flags.
Tattoos
Really short hair (exemption for types of cancers)
Rarely where's a dress or skirt.
Claims to be an independent woman.
Masculine energy.
Extra long fingernails ( obviously doesn't do housework in her own place)
BMI higher than 23.
Swears a lot.
Smokes
Drugs
Drinks more than me ( lucky if I have a glass or two a fortnight)
Is on antidepressants or a myriad of other medications (Hayfever and daily low dose aspirin is ok)
Talks ill of either of her parents.
Bodycount in double digits.
Is overly talkative, just keeps rambling on and you can't get a word in.
Can't cook ( not reheat or mic). If it's all up to me then she'd better start liking it spicy, as Tobasco is for drinking.
A party girl ( needs to go clubbing or regular girls nights).
Excessive piercings. (A pair or two of earrings is ok)
Much rather stay single and sane.
Good list. 👍
Perfect bro you are a real man
Spot on
Good list , but You also need to take a hard at who her friends and immediate family are and how they act, a fruit does not fall very far from the tree, also avoid women who show disrespect to service providers of any sort(waiters, plumbers, the pizza delivery guy)...keep an eye that one. Not saying there is never a reason to get upset, just keep an eye on it
False accusations are the primary way that abusive women bully men.
Stumbled on to this video and your intro story was exactly what happened to me. I fought for my daughter in court for over 3 years and had to give up my career and everything to be in her life, but I was successful and half joint custody with restrictions on mom now.
The courts are crazy, even for people with perfect records. Your final advice is good. I started wearing a body camera anytime my ex and I interacted and collected evidence and it helped me win in court. I also kept our communication to emails and a talking app. I would bring a witness whenever I could.
This is a long but very important so please bear with me here:
The reason why there's a wide spread hatred for Mn and an exaggerated deification of Wmn is because the state/ruling class has propagated those ideas through their schools and media throughout all of western society. Why? Becaue Mn have always been a treath to the state and Wmn have always been it's most blindly eager supporter. This is because Mn have a natural sense and desire for logic, Morality, Independence/self-sufficiency, Freedom and Unity. Because of these factors they are the ones who would most likely be vigilant and stand against and authoritarian control system (the state/government) in order to maintain theirs and everyone else's rights and freedoms. Wich is why their are the ones who, through history, have started rebellions and civil wars against any type of ruling class/control system/government. Meanwhile Wmn are naturaly design to a) care mainly for their own physical well being/safety in the here and now, because by extension it would lead to the well being of their would be children and b) to have said needs provided by someone else since acquiring these things comes with their own risks to someones safety and well being. This however will naturally lead them to not think and care about the logic and Morality of how this is achieved as long as it is achived. Normally both of these roles are ment to be filled first by the father and later the husband, aka the other complementary gndr. It is them who take the risk to acquire the resources necessary to live and are driven to care about abstract notions and principles like Logic and Morality that are necessary to guide them/help them achive this goals the best ways possible, and normally the Wmn would trust and support their respective fathers and husbands in this endeavor.
However now a days Wmn, due to the propaganda/programming by the aforementioned state controlled schools and media, have substituted loving fathers and husband with the state/a ruling class that doesn't care about them and sees them as inferior beings to be control. They have been dupped into thinking that the (non existing) "safety net" that they think the state provides is more efficient, sustainable and trustworthy than having a male figure working and providing for them at a personal and communal level simply because the ruling class/state feels more efficient due to all the power and wealth they have accumulate without earning it (also the propaganda). Not to mention that all the ruling class/state asks in return is simple obedience and compliance (extreme submissiveness) without having to prove that it truly deserves it, and thus they ( the ruling class) allows Wmn to run wild in their feelings and live without holding themselves to any standards and make decisions based on their whims and their egoic desires without fear of consequences because they believe the ruling class will protect them from said consequences of their actions.
Meanwhile a father and husband would hold them to a true logical and moral standard and expect them to give something in return like trust, chastity, respect/appreciation and self control. Things that would require them to use logic, consideration, empathy, understanding and appreciation of others actions and above all to set aside their self centered desires for what is beneficial to not just themselves but to others as well. And the current modern/conditioned Wmn don't want that due to their egoic/narcissistic mindset that they got thanks to the pandering and above all the support and manipulation of the ruling class/state.
Sadly what they, modern/conditioned Wmn, don't realize is that this "support" will only last as long as it is useful for the sate. Once they've taken away all the rights and freedoms from Mn they will turn on their pawns (gynocentric Wmn) and take away their rights and all the special privileges that they gave them since they will no longer be needed and put them in the same category that they helped the Mn be put inn. In other words the sate will make the Wmn equal to Mn the only way they care to: without rigths and beneath them (the state) and under their control.
I have a theory on this. Is long so bear with me here:
In my opinion the reason why these radicalized child like "venusians" feel justified in doing immoral stuff or just straight up don't care about the Morality of the situation is because as we know "venusians" are the child-bearers and thus the physically weaker half of the species since their skinn and muscles are design to be soft and elastic for when they get pregnant. This factor is what gives them an internal need to want the "martians" to "protect and provide" for them, which is what they are design to do by nature (stronger muscles, willingness to take risks, logical and abstract thinking for "what if" situations, etc.).
This is why most venusians don't think or seem to care about logic, morality and the consequences of not staying inline whith either. They are naturally designed to mainly focus, care and think about the material/physical, their material needs, material desires, etc. This is because by extension it will lead them to focus on the material well beign of their future child, who they ("venusians") will be naturally attached to because of their genetic, and by extension their emotional, bond.
Abstract ideas like Morality logic, "karma" and things like philosophies bearly passes through the minds of these conditioned venusians, since normally it would be something left for their fathers and husbands to be in charged of and decide on and normally they, the daughters and wives, would trust their judgement s and decisions on such matters; that is when they themselves don't want to take the time or responsibility of doing them themselves if they even could or want to. However now a days they base their view on what's right/moral and wrong/immoral on what is allowed and dictated by the ruling class, making it an artificial substitute for fathers and husbands, or on what is collectively considered ok by the masses (public opinion), wich is mostly based on what is propagated by the ruling class/state through their media.
There's also the fact that for "venusians" with a narcissistic and predatory mindset it makes them feel special and important having the men be screwed and seen as bad gives them a sense of "moral" superiority just for being of the other sx without having done anything to earn it. The worst part is when they relish and enjoy Mn suffering and going through problems to the point that they need to see them suffer and be ignored because it makes them feel even more superior for just being a Wmn due to the narcissistic and above all predatory mentality they've been conditioned to have, especially when they themselves were the caus eof said"martian's" suffering.
The worst thing about this is that "venusians" only feel justified doing immoral crap like that because they are at the moment backed and protected by the ruling class/state. The ruling class is for the moment allowing this behavior because it allows for the demoralization and de-franchizing of men becuase men are the biggest treath and competition for the state due to them being naturally design to care about things like Freedom, Morality and Independence. Once this is done the state will turn on them and there will be no men left or willing to defend them.
But what if the man in the relationship self-identifies as a woman, claims that the woman self-identified as a man, and requests to be afforded woman's rights?
This video is very close to my heart , my Japanese wife of 20 years tried to destroy me , she successfully did a lot of damage , you think you know someone after 20 years together but you only know them in divorce court .
Having a smart phone on her wouldn't have made much difference, she wasn't hysterical and crazy , but a cold calculating psychopath.
As a man, if you have a child in the USA, the child isn't yours.
Basically no.
Couldn't help but think of 'The Entire History of You' episode from Black Mirror. In a way it's kind of spooky to see how close we're getting to that dystopian reality.
I always start recording whenever my girlfriend starts acting out. All women are hormonal and all women will act crazy from time to time. You have to be prepared, it only takes a second to turn your cell phone on and stick it back in your pocket, it could save your life. I also want to add that most women are not evil enough to lie and ruin your life with a false accusations. You should still be aware of the risks though.
There is a lot of very good advice here in the video. My mother was crazy ruined my fathers life and i later had a number of crazy girlfriends. What Alex says is all true , when you actually see what goes on in toxic relationships it changes your view. Gas-lighting, lies , false accusations all come very easily to women. So easily they do not even notice.
If a woman ever hits you, the best thing to do is immediately hit her back, straight away, before she even has the chance to process the fact that she hit you.
You then tell her under no uncertain terms, to never ever hit you again. Or you cut her out of your life entirely.
Stop dating. It’s the only way to be sure.
The only solution is to avoid them. Go your own way.
if a woman tried to hit me, and I block her, and that block hurts her arm/leg, can I sstill be at fault?
if yes, am I supposed to take the hit or try and dodge it?
Dodge and walk away. Be like Neo! Also move overseas and find a traditional women.
Just punch her. Atleast you Will go to jail for a real reason
according to current society, she’s making you a favor by hitting you since she’s blessing you with her touch. so if a woman strikes you, you should say thank you
It almost doesn't matter because they could lie anyway. I say block it and walk away.
@@AsurmenHandOfAsur When doing this, stay overseas, race traitors!
Getting involved in a relationship is like playing Global Thermonuclear War on WOPR: ""A strange game; the only winning move is not to play".
I’d put my phone on audio record and leave it in my pocket, but the court witnessed her crazy in real time and still coached her to maximum benefit every time.
Everything he’s saying is absolutely correct,
I lived it. Lied, ruined my reputation, didn’t see my son for a month, For
absolutely no reason. Eventually got 50/50 custody. But the damage was done. This happened in 2016, I haven’t been able to date since. Ruined my life,
Listen to what he’s saying, it’s true.
It happened to me, and to some family members, my uncle and my cousin. False accusations are very common today.
I didn’t know it but I was married to a “Christian” female psychopath for 23 years and had a son with her. Since she was so good at hiding who she was, I allowed her to homeschool our son while I worked my ass off. Always knew there was a problem but, well you know. All came to a head when I retired and could see things clearly since I was always at home. She was mentally and emotionally abusing our son, not just me. I had ignored the red flags because nobody would listen to me.
After demanding accountability for her behavior I got served divorce papers. I took control of the finances and bought a recording device that looks like a pen and would leave it recording while I was gone. Even though the divorce was financially devastating, she humiliated herself in court and got her just dessert. That recording device was the best $120 I ever spent.
Alexander, I concede there maybe times when it is appropriate to film a situation with a "crazy woman". I have never found myself in such a situation where I did feel it was needed. I am one of those that have stayed right out of "modern woman's" way.
I have kept myself @ a distance from women for almost 2 decades now. I am the 1st to admit that it is not idea & it has never been what I wanted for my life but till that solid solution manifest (that solid solution by far is not filming, & it may be that there is no solid solution for generations to come!).
I am not saying don't film because it could truly be that scrap of evidence that does exonerate you. But you should never count on it. It could just as easily go the other way in al kinds of unforeseen directions, if not more so.
Don't think for a minute that you filming can't be twisted & turned back on you too. Now obviously that depends on the detail of what plays out, much of which men will have little control over but to walk away. Walking away can be turn back on you too.
If you Alexander have truly managed to consistently discern a good egg from a bad one(pun intended), then that great, more power to you.
I am 51 & though it is fair to say that my more advanced years have given me a more broader insight to how humans work, (more as in comparison to when I was younger, I am not comparing myself here to you or anyone) but I constantly remind myself how that is well insufficient, especially when it come to women.
It is a little different when you choose to totally not engage women or let them in. It is simpler, not easier, bit simpler. But if you choose to still pursue connections with women it is way more difficult to discern a good woman from bad. "vetting" no matter how sophisticated the method is not a full proof strategy for most of us. Pretending it is well that just leave one open to greater risk.
I can not imaging what the other half of you content could possible adequately protect men again crazy woman fuckery. I am not calling you liar, I have not seen the other half of you content. I just can't imagine. You say a lot of good sense stuff in you videos but I can't see that discernment being something that can or should be relied on with women.
I wish I had something more helpful to add. I know what I have written here give men no hope & I believe something should, but that something should be real & tangible. Something that can be duplicated by any man.
But the issues with women extends well beyond our scope to be able to meaningfully have a positive impact.
Just because you Alexander have supposedly managed to cultivate balanced connections with a network of women does not mean that most of use will be able to.
I can't imagine what it would be like to be married to a balanced & naturally occurring woman I don't think most men realistically can. & it is not the only problem.
Dude; there are NO "High Quality Women". There are women that are controlling their behavior and behaving in an agreeable way because they are getting what they want. The moment you take away her options, resources and the ability for her to get what she wants; she WILL turn feral on you.
Nuh that's just the type u attract maybe. There are plenty of men who take advantage of women too. Garbage people will be garbage people.
Jeez bro who hurt you
@@chrisclancy6756 LOL!
Nah, not true. But your base assumption must be that women are duplicitous serial liars out to exploit you. And you then test her and challenge her.
I had the exact same thing when my daughter was very young, she played the abusive card (17 years ago) in the order to play happily families with a new bloke and my daughter. I took her to court and when the people judging the case were siding with me she got up screaming expletives at the judges and stormed out of the court room. I was obviously given the required access to my little lamb. I was denied contact with my daughter until it went to court when we are very close, and i missed a few wonderful early months during that special stage. Its cruel how some women will abuse men.
Yep, my estranged wife after 12 years of marriage she switched like a light switch and became unbelievably abusive physically, emotionally, and mentally. I misunderstand it as a mental health break. This went on for about 4-5 years before I just had enough and no longer wanted to help her. The last 8 months before our separation I recorded her. I have 150GB of video and audio. The last day she stayed with me she attacked me for no reason. It came out later that a debit card she had declined at the store and evidently it embarrassed her. She believed that I made it decline on purpose. It was odd. Anyways i happened to have my DSLR camera recording in the background. She attacked me, I threatened to call the police. She lost her mind bit my face, scratched me, kneeled, punched and elbowed my back, trying to get the phone away from me. I got her off of me and contacted the police. She started to beat herself up, punching herself in the face, hitting her arms on the corners of the wall. She then also contacted the police and said I beat her up and had a gun out. The officers came in my house ready to shoot me. Lucky for me I was having a panic attack and the officers looked confused and felt I wasn’t much of a threat at that point. I was able to pull the video off the SD card and show them. It was the opposite of what the 911 operators were telling them. They immediately arrested her. Thank god for the 8 months of video and audio recordings I have. I have one phone conversation with her. She snarls and growls at me. Like it was super low growl, and snarl. Kind of put goosebumps on my arms. I said, “I’m not going to speak with you if you keep growling.” She said, “You can’t read my mind…”. She made a physical audible growl and snarl sound and said she didn’t because I can’t read her thoughts…? That’s a lot of crazy. She is also 5’9” about 165lbs and super attractive and athletic. At the time I was 5’5” 230lbs fat guy.
yep, I understand how they can get....similar event happened to me, I didn't record it at the time so the police found we both need protection from each other..
Australia and the medical fascist regime, which happened during the plandemic shows everything you need to know about the WEST.
Love it! Thank you, Alexander. I've been using this approach for a little while now.
Avoid them all.
Where was this 12 years ago?
Unmade.
I've been friends with 3 men that had false accusations. If there is any question have your phone in your pocket recording.
This is real good advice.
Unfortunately for me the courts and people judging don't care so much for real world evidence, but having a recording even just audio gives you the confidence to hold your ground, and even listen to yourself to better yourself. I wholeheartedly condone this method, use it when things start to go bad and you need a witness.
Alexander Grace nails it again and again
Excellent perspective. Very wise counsel for young men to cut out red flag women. Most of my male friends and family are sorry that they didn't do so sooner.
Here's a cautionary tale. I knew a guy who ended up in jail when a woman's false accusations about a specific act done in the bedroom (on more than one separate occasion) was actually unwanted. After he was sentenced, his public defender sympathized with him, telling him that the woman and her friend took turns accusing and convicting men of assault so they could access government cash payouts to victims of abuse. The women had been running the same racket for years, targeting broke nobodys to feed their drug habits. Didn't help the poor guy to know he'd been set up. Those facts were inadmissible in court due to laws passed to protect genuine victims from the trauma of having their relationship/activity history used against them in court. So now the guy's got a permanent record, a ruined reputation, he can't travel and he's on a registry. Beware the easy hook-up!
I still have the footage the police ignored. :(
This young man says so eloquently what many men needed to hear growing up. Nice work Alexander!
Great video, there is realy no better defence against toxic person, than film/record their behaviour.
Yep. Disengage
I know a girl that cheated on a guy with a dude not one of her friends liked, left the bf for him, and when people started questioning timeline (because she suddenly bf/gf with the new guy within days of dumping the previous guy), suddenly the old bf was abusive and a borderline grape guy.
All because she didn't want to be known as a cheater.