12. Anxiety: The Object Relations View

Dr. Kavaler-Adler discusses the object relations view on anxiety as a repressed or dissociated state of fear of anger, rage, and loss.
Feel free to reach Dr. Kavaler-Adler by writing her at [e-mail] or/and calling (US) at 212-674-5425

[@junepeyer1200]

I grew up with a very narcissistically injured mother who was very smothering and emotionally abusive and a very codependent father who was very ‘out of it.’.
After my mother’s death, I went into therapy (again) and found a psychologist who deals with the ‘wounds of childhood”. My healing has been on a nice smooth ‘fast track’ ever since. I totally understand the ‘why’ of my parents and it helps explain the why of me. My sister’s therapists are doing her a disservice by not exploring her childhood, which her therapist told her, “we don’t want to go there with you, it’s too painful.”:
I was drop jawed. I her while the thoughts and feeling ARE PAINFUL, she absolutely needs to explore her repressed feelings about our parents with a good therapist -she needs to go there to heal.
She is still resistant to the idea.
As for me, I am so glad I forged ahead! I was sometimes the scapegoated middle child of seven kids, so the idea to break free was always appealing to me. I became a police officer and I have a great life. I am retired after 20 years of police work, live in Germany with my husband- he is a government employee and things are good.

[@velvetclaw2316]

Your videos are brilliant and helping me so much with my training. Thank you so much for doing these seminars.

[@bellakrinkle9381]

You've described perfectly how I awaken these days, cringing about the discovery of how far my savings have dropped in today's financial markets - I know, off topic - apologies. Now, I will listen from the beginning now that I've discharged my expression of how not to wake up, daily.
Two nights ago I dreamt that I lost everything, therefore, I needed to move back to my mother's house for refuge. She's been gone nine years now. OMG, I have residual feelings to work out!

[@happygucci5094]

You break things down brilliantly

[@NarcissistFreealmost]

Excellent. Thank you for taking the time to do this vid.

[@twelphsoul]

So much of what you say reverberates...at 59..Im doing what i can to sort these issues..your work helps..

[@kpatino6197]

great videos. please keep them coming x

[@bucketmanism]

Brilliant, so well expressed, explains a lot.

[@isilnecef3942]

very helpful! thank you.

[@lindokuhlesithole6723]

Hey doc, what are your sources? i would be interested to read