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@@johnrobertd748 you need to understand first what happened, it’s like a math problem, you won’t be able to solve it until you understand the problem once you understand you can try different procedures doesn’t matter how you chose to solve it the result is what it matters 😊 one beautiful tip I learned in my own experience is get out from the victim mindset and actually change my perception for example what did I learned from that experience? And now I became health coach helping others to change their perception about themselves 😊
Dr. Maté taught English at my high school and the best thing he did was quit and go to medical school. One of the world's greatest doctors in a sea of careless, greedy mediocrity.
He makes everyone who has been wounded in their childhood feel heard and validated. Finally we can feel relieved for feeling the way we feel and to know that it’s okay to feel like that and that it’s not your fault. Something that strikes me is learning that a child should not have to work to make the relationship between them and the caregiver work. They should not have to be perfect, smart, beautiful and successful to be loved and accepted. I wish I knew these as a 5 year old child.
We can still tell that 5 year old that we were! I do it all the time, teling her:" hey darling, you are feeling very scared now, aren't you? I feel your little body freeze up entirely. Why don't you come into my arms for a bit, come here, baby, I 'm here now, let me just hold you here a little bit. Here, feel my hand on your head, stroking your beautiful hair. It's all right, honey, you are all right. It's just fine, I am here with you." She just melts into my arms, these days. I am so glad that I can be there for her. Pick up the child inside you. Talk to her, sing to her, caress het little face, tell her how brave, how kind, how sweet she is. Tell her that you love her and that you'll always want to get to know her better and she can tell you anything she wants..
Let us pray for those in need of healing. “Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed; Save me, and I shall be saved, For You are my praise.” Jeremiah 17: 14
Dear doctor your face reflects all the pain in the world and I thank you for your deep understanding and compassion for humanity. God bless you beautiful soul.
@@cs99. It is our responsibility to address our childhood trauma and to set up boundaries in our lives to prevent further abuse and harm from our families and so called friends.
Our society of “keeping up with the Jones’” where we feel both parents have to work, is the root of the problems we now deal with. Downsize your home or move to a less expensive area, simplify your life. Then moms and/or dads can stay at home to raise their kids, instead of strangers doing it. Then you know what they’re being taught, what they’re being fed, and materials they’re being exposed to. If you can, homeschool. The junk they are teaching in public schools is ridiculous. Thank you for this interview. This Doctor is a gift to humanity. God bless him!
Thank you for explaining this . I don't feel that something's wrong with me I feel normal in perspective of trauma it explains to me why life has been challenging Thank you for the validation Thank you for this informative interview God bless you for the work you do
I was abused by my ex-boyfriend when I was a teenager. He forced me to record videos of me masturb***** and I did that for him out of “love”. After that, during 4 years of the relationship, when we had fights or when he was jealous, he would bring this up saying he would blackmail me and blamed me with lots of rude words. I cried almost everyday. Eventually, I had him deleted all the videos and broke up with him. Now, I’m 32, thinking back, I want to say thank you for the lessons learned. I have learned to be more careful when taking actions and choosing a friend, and to forgive myself, to forgive him, and be my new self. 🌟🌞
I wonder if your ex will just keep repeating the patterns ... I wonder if it was in his family, too. There are some people in my family who are in prison now because of sexual crimes that they just couldn't stop. Imagine if we could rehab people like Dr. Mate talks about. Your attitude is inspiring, thank you!
I love him but ahead o his time? Ejust has an understanding of all human nature that cado this samething.. He seems a bit older but let thst fool you, so am I, nrot real young anymore but wisdome can cone at different times of life. Are we ready to reicieve this mind blowing guidance thaat e know we nee. I get widom from all types and olors of people. This i beleive will give me more thinks to talk about and DREAMABOUT..Much Love to all🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 God bless
@@karensimpson2112 I do believe he is ahead of his time. His fascinating knowledge of humans nature/behaviour and effects of childhood traumas on our psyche / behaviours is beyond extraordinary. Specially when he himself grew up in the most traumatic of environments. I can only compare him to Sigmund Freud and Joseph Murphy, yes I have that much respect for him as he is a pioneer when it comes to childhood traumas specially when he has been through it himself and came out the other end as this magnificent professor and his aim it to help humanity heal.
I tried to talk to my mom about my childhood molestation by my brother, and she just screamed at me to shut up. That's how it is in my family... so it's not just past trauma, it's continuous trauma when you're shot down by people whom you're supposed to love
@@trudibarraclough478 I got that too -- "I guess we didn't teach you how to say no." Meaning, it's our fault, but not really, you should have said no, and it would have stopped.
I feel for you. This is my story of the life too. Sad … and the scars stay forever. You can deal with it but you learn to understand why you act as you do.
His body and his brain is way much younger - but as you look into his face - you can see honestly his real age. I do love Dr. Mate very much for his work for us here.
Listening to this really struck me. Wounds that have been always hidden are now so clear to me that I started feeling empathy for myself, as if I was looking at myself as a person who experienced so much trauma through life, all the big Ts and little Ts, I surprisingly and suddenly felt so much empathy and sadness for this person that I started crying. Very interesting. Truly cathartic moment for me.
That's wonderful. I'm encouraged by your comment. Do you believe this was a step towards healing your childhood wounds? I'm looking for direction to help myself without seeing a counsellor as I lack faith in them, plus they're extremely costly
I'd like to hear that too. Therapy is expensive but if you find one who you feel safe with it's amazing. I love my therapist and wish it wasn't expensive but that's issue I have with society. Wish you the best in your healing journey
Gabor. Gentle. Powerful. Beautiful. Human. Wise, Respectful. Concerned. Yes, it's 53 minutes rather tha the 1 minute UA-cam shorts. But you really should make the time to watch this and get some deep, fact based learning. Thank you Gabor for your effort in sharing your insights with us. Peace & love to all ☮☮❤❤🤗🤗
My mother left our family for no reason for 15-20 days right after I was born and then came back. I learned this at the age of 25. Until then, I would intermittently lose consciousness for no reason and pass out. It was only after I learned this truth and listened to Gabor Maté that I realized the extent of the trauma. I felt incredibly inadequate, and I still do. And that's mainly because my mom is mentally unstable. Please don't have a baby without maintaining your sanity.
There is a condition after giving birth called post partum depression. This is not a moral issue or a character flaw of women who experience this. They cannot control it. This is where family needs to step in to help new mothers. The more you know.
@@Shirley-t9b Thank you. The past often comes to light as anger and guilt. I feel better every day, no matter how painful it is. I am doing the exercises in the last book of Gabor Mate, The Myth of Normal. it really helps me a lot.
I was born into the troubles in Northern Ireland to a mixed religious, mixed class family and I’m the middle child. By the time I was 10 I was dead inside. Beaten so violently in the locked bathroom naked by my 20 stone 6 foot dad. The healing began march 2020. I can listen to you cos of the beautiful beautiful energy in you words. Your compassionate energy in your voice is a big spiritual blanket I’ve just wrapped around myself. I’m horrified, yet so bloody great full I see and have some kind of beautiful life force 🤕🗽😳☠️🏝️
I'm sad this happened to you. Hoping the universe helps you along with a speedy recovery from this trauma you suffered. Sounds awful. So pleased you are here to tell the story. I think alot of people are walking around with traumas. Wish we could all speak more openly about it like you. Thanks for sharing, God bless!
I never let my babies cry and we cosleep. They are such balanced children, kind, healthy, homeschooled and never one vaccine. My 16 year old starts college this week! So proud of them!!
That's amazing what incredible results. I would urge to reconsider a few vaccines, one's that have 40+ years of data. I'm not saying they don't have risks, but In my experience disease spreads on campus very easily so there's a benefit to consider. I myself got scarlet fever in college which isn't a condition you can vaccinate for but it's just an example. Good luck!
This is just so fascinating. 95% of traumas are multigenerational. "I can tell you your childhood trauma by the last time you got truly upset with somebody". Gabor Mate, how do we thank you for thus profound information you give to the world💜 Thank You 🙏❤️🙏
@@Shirley-t9b : yes indeed - and there are some strange kind of new age gurus who claim - that our souls did make this contract with god and some other afterlife beeings bc we wanted to make a real earth experience? What kind of soul wants to suffer whole life through bc of this fucking trauma from all kind of abuse and violence in your early childhood and later on in life again and again....
Dr. Mate plays such an important role on merging spirituality. Psychology, and healing for humanity. What a contribution in the time of great change! Light and blessings be returned to him tenfold!
Doctor Gabor Mate. I am Australian elderly woman who lived much of the life in India; presently I’m watching all that’s possible to see online of the perspective of yours and Daniel, now just writing to express tremendous appreciation in being able to do so. All good for you and yours, Namaskaram. Apeetha Arunagiri
I had a very eye opening experience tonight that made me realize, at 50 years old that not only am I struggling to process multiple traumas from throughout my life but that I’m now filled with so much anger and rage that I’m barely a functioning human being. Sexual abuse, childhood neglect, a parent having multiple affairs and abandoning the family and returning several times, to as an adult not knowing how to express my own sexuality because I was shown at a very young age that sex is ugly, it’s manipulative, it hurts, it’s a dirty nasty thing to do and that I was a disappointment for having sex and not having sex. As the doctor was saying early on, I’ve now seen those traumas manifest as many different illnesses. Cancer, weight gain, Anxiety and panic attacks, eczema, oral canker sores, headaches, sleepiness, physical pain throughout my body and uncontrollable crying. I don’t function anymore. One of the worst symptoms of my trauma is passing trauma onto my only child. We are adults left holding the broken pieces of our pasts with out the directions to the store where that very special glue to put it all back together is sold. I took it upon myself tonight to research how to start to heal myself. I possibly, a way to send my child some tools to heal her as well. I was injured in a work related accident a few years ago and was unable to return to that type of physical work. With no education and a laundry list of learning disabilities, I have been unable to find new employment. I’ve lost my home, car, my ability to care for myself (emotionally not physically) though the desire to physically care for yourself is gone too. I know that something has to change within me. This is my start. I have no medical insurance and cannot afford therapy. So, thanks to UA-cam, I’ve found some sort of start for myself. I’m also now living with the elderly parents that began a lot of this trauma and they continue to be a source of this pain for me. I feel stuck. Mentally unable to will myself free.
I feel you. Start by giving yourself love. An affirmation: I am worthy of love, i am enough. Get the GAPS books and heal your gut. Walk 20 minutes. Try once a day when you can and work up to once a day. Once you can afford it, start Hatha yoga once a week. This is self love. Thank yourself for doing these things. Healing yourself is the biggest help you can give to your child
God bless you and your struggle. There is hope, sometimes just calling out the name of what ails us will give us the sense of possibility that it's possible to get better.
Wish you a pleasant healing journey 🙏🏽 reminds also of hope dispensa. Gives powerful tools. Big awareness and intention to heal are first powerful steps!
Dear Tina, it is very apt that you have the same name as Tina Turner. Get her book on happiness. It may help you. What an amazing life. Just like Gabor. Your suffering will will turn into medicine and help many people. ❤
The myth of normal and Dr Gabor saved my life, I've been on a soul journey my whole life. I met my mother for the first time when I was 21 she and my father both have addictions and so did I. This awareness and healing work is hard but can be done. We work on healing these wounds. Pray for me❤ just had a baby and my hormones have me lashing out at my partner 😮
Dr. Maté brought tears to my eyes when he told his story of his early infancy. 😢 The human condition is full of trauma. But sometimes we find a way to understand our wounds & let some of them go. Great discussions. Thank you!
Trauma can be healed. I went through my own deep healing from severe childhood and early adulthood Trauma from 30-40 years old. My therapy was in-depth soul/heart healing from deep within to outward symptom healing. I then in my mid 30’s became a Spirit filled therapist. Only true deep healing occurs with the power of The Holy Spirit. It is amazing how God works because the Lord in the 80’s gave me the same teachings and words as Gabor. Depth psychology and John Bradshaw’s books, Healing the Child Within, Winter’s Past by Nancy Smith a nurse who became paralyzed on the mission field in South America brought back to the states to undergo therapy for repressed abuse as a child and was healed. True and lasting healing and wholeness is possible!✝️👑
@@shorelined1 I was not implying such only sharing what God had done for me in hopes that even if one person may be helped. It’s the facts. My beliefs are not religion but about relationships with the God who heals. Religion is man trying to follow a set of rules to reach up to God. Christianity is about the Lord coming to meet us on our level. Experiencing such unconditional love is what heals us. I believe We only heal through love that transcends.
This man is not only brilliant, but he given humanity so much reassurance, hope, and understanding in the human “conditions”. As a fellow Canadian-he’s one of few Canadians I’m proud of. ❤
He is such a gift to humanity. Such a brilliant mind and heart. I soak up his wisdom like a sponge and feel healing just listening to his wisdom. Thank you ❤
I was adopted and at the age of 58 I finally traced my birth fathers family, with the help of a DNA detective. It’s so strange because he had a traumatic childhood that scarily mirrored mine. In my case my birth mother abandoned me at one month and I was put into foster care. I was adopted to abusive parents who primarily seemed to want me to work on their farm when I was 3.5. I went back into foster care at the age of 15. In his case his mother abandoned the family when he was 2 and he and his brothers were put in and orphanage. At the age of 4 he and his brothers went with his uncle and his wife to work on their farm. I was blown away. He was deceased by the time I found the family but learned all this from his brothers. It’s so strange….I never met the man but I feel like I know him.
Thank ou for sharing... Adoption seems to be a common thread among people who suffer from abandonment syndrome. (Read my share above starting with "This makes so much sense to me now"). May God bless you in your journey to healing!
@@TheSapphireSprit Here is my post, copied and pasted: This makes so much sense to me now... I was adopted by very poor, illiterate people when I was 4 months old. My adoptive dad pushed my adoptive mom (who really didn't want children), so I grew up unwanted by her, and eventually faced indifference from my dad once the novelty wore off and the hassle of paying attention to your kids became too much for him. They kept reminding me how "lucky" I was that they adopted me and that I owed them big for the favour. In spite of feeling unwanted and not having a place in this world, I graduated from university, subsequently got 2 more diplomas. I now have a successful career in a field I am passionate about, I speak 4 languages fluently and have achieved some degree of financial stability. The biggest impact for me has been in the romantic relationship department. I invariably end up with men who give me the moon at the beginning (they must love me, right?) and eventually become emotionally, psychologically and/or verbally abusive (sometimes all 3!). I drag on these relationships way past the point I should have let go because of avoidance - avoidance of guilt for breaking it up, guilt for abandoning them or hurting them, etc., and fear of dying alone. This in spite of having found my biological siblings at age 40 and being very close to some of them, a handful of friends who have been around for decades and who accept me for who I am, and cultivating healthy and productive work relationships with most people I come across in my work. I am reasonably healthy in my late 60s except for chronic and acute lower back pain (resentment? carrying this heavy emotional load for so long?). This stuff is far-reaching and has repercussions in ways we could not possibly imagine...
Childhood trauma has a profound effect on a person’s mind and soul. We all process traumatic experiences differently, some of us dissociate from it until it erupts at some point in our lives as it will always be manifesting or bubbling beneath the surface, we may have our box of tools to fight off those feelings until we can’t avoid them any longer and our tool kit is no longer effective. Others numb their pain through substance abuse to avoid the overwhelming sense of pain and suffering. There is always trigger point on life when we have to engage with those memories, emotions and thoughts, going back is often the only way to go forward. Toxic people or “stressor” family members that ignite those emotions and exacerbate the pain of the past must be extracted from our lives to help us achieve the peace, stability, happiness and freedom of the pass, boundaries are imperative in achieving a Better version of ourselves.
What you said about toxic people that trigger or ignite these repressed emotions? My husband does and says a lot of things that trigger my own deep-rooted sense of inadequacy and insecurity; making me wonder if I should 1. be grateful for him bringing my trauma to the surface so I can hold it and heal myself, or 2. break our relationship and move to a place where I feel safer and can heal in a place where my emotions don't feel so threatened? Only I can decide this.
@@dianacudby7290 Diana, why live in a permanent state of emergency and fear. Living With a person that triggers your emotions and causes you such deep anguish is not healthy. You’re living a punished life and you seem conditioned to thinking this is acceptable or all you’re worthy of. You deserve so much better than this and you should be allowed to process your passed emotions in a healthy manner, through therapy, time, kindness and support. You don’t seem to have any of these resources in place right now. You deserve so much better than this. Life is short, fragile and you don’t deserve to cut yourself short of peace and happiness. Don’t live in a state of despair and impending doom with a trigger puller.
This is unbelievable. I have trauma. I have rheumatoid arthritis and crohn's disease. Now fibromyalgia and trigeminal neuralgia. My dad passed 6 months ago with terminal cancer. My health has been affected. I have had flare-ups and now know why. This gives me so much insight. I do practice mindfulness and qigong. However i now know that i have been triggered. I have just bought your new book. I will continue my journey feeling more informed. Thank you Dr Gabor Mate ✨️🙏✨️
As a four year old my parents didn't protect me against horrific outside abuse. Then at 8 mom tried to strangle me. So, yeah, I understand this trauma thing. I needed to reverse the thoughts connected with both events. It's been a lifetime worth of work, but I believe I've done it. God bless you Dr. Mate for bringing this to the surface and your work. and yeah, I wish this was common knowledge, but for now it's up to those who can to talk about it.
@@MetallicDec75 I am at one with my stillness. In other words, I am doing great! I have found. a way to work through the difficulties and it has transformed my consciousness. I hope you have experienced profound healing as well.
So many psychology lectures leave me feeling more overwhelmed by the hurdles of attempting to heal trauma. I could listen to Dr Mate for hooooours and actually feel like his words are healing my soul as I listen. Like I'm actually getting better in the moment rather than learning a new to-do list of things I need to "do" You are a treasure Dr Mate. Thank you for all you do for us with your teachings. I will continue to follow you and buy all your books ❤️
I think that's because Dr. Mate really understands what he's talking about, and so can convey it easily in a manner that others will understand. A lot of other professionals in the field are guilty of hiding their lack of comprehension on these subjects behind technical jargon and word salad, much in the manner of how a parrot may mimic human speech, and in turn it continues to perpetuate the cycle of inaccessibility of mental health support for those who need it as you've described. We truly need people in this field like Dr. Mate receiving more recognition.
Dr Maté, you are God-sent, your trauma has become such an important life lesson to our wholesome health! I am 73, married for 51 years. Your experiences resonate with me and my hubby. We watch your videos together and talk for hours sometimes about your message.😂😂 Inter-generational trauma is mentioned in the Bible. I value all your videos n interviews on UA-cam made available to us. Thank you from Newcastle Australia. God bless you, your good wife and your family.
And Mate’s attention to how we use language is fascinating. OMG I’m always mind enlightened by the immense compassion and psychological understanding of human behaviour of this beautiful human being. For example, when Mate considers we don’t really want to ‘manage’ our emotions but better understand them, identify them and change them. Thank You - again! 😊
Awesome interview. Luckily, I learnt about the importance of attachment as a parent so I tried and managed to send my kids to institutionalised daycare (nursery)as late as possible. I've made sure that my kids knew they could rely on me. I also met a very smart lady when my baby was about 1.5 years old, who was homeschooling her kids with her husband. She opened my eyes to how unnatural it is for kids to study (be in groups) with their age-group, when in it is never the case in society- family, workplace, university, church, NGOs, leisure clubs, etc. From then on I always tried to make sure my kids were part of groups made up of different generations as my own family was broken. At age 13 my son's teacher personally congratulated me on the way I was bringing him up and said he was years more mature than his peers, with a unique and great personality. He's 21 now, and we're still watching films (good, funny and mostly, inspirational) together. And when I'm in trouble, both my kids are there for me, fully standing by my side and say that they have great childhood memories- ones I never had. And I did it all alone with and then without my abusive ex-husband, their father. Not without a cost though cause now that I'm alone and older, I suffer from serious mental health issues. In a way, I believe the time has come for me to deal with my own traumas and it's excrutiating. It was so much easier when I was in full lioness mode- both a mother and father for my children, who needed ME.
He lost me when he started speaking woke. "two main genders", women of colour suffering intersectional derived illnesses. I mean defining actual trauma from actual events is one thing, attributing group based pathology to critical theory based narratives is another...
Everything I learn from Dr. Gabor Mate brings about a major light bulb moment. He has opened my eyes so much, my life has changed for the better, and it no doubt will continue. ❤ I cherish this man.
I suffered severe trauma 16 years ago as a teenage. Spent my whole life fighting trauma. I got diagnosed with ADHD and suffered severe depression. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I would like to know from those who have solved PTSD and anxiety, if they have solved it definitively and how to understand what quantity of psilocybin to take and when, for how long. And can you really heal without having an addiction? Thanks to everyone for helping me understand, I want to understand if it's something that can help me solve the problem (I have c-ptsd)
From my experience it really works excellently! It doesnt even need to be a full hit. With potent shrooms 2-3 small ones will still make a clear difference. It will be a few hour cosy rumbling moment around rest time, but afterwards its just calm and you feel amazing and gain your freedom. Psilocybin is different dudes, its the only "treatment" I would recommend to someone who genuinely wants to get better. There is no addiction, withdrawal, or negative side effects. It's just pure healing., far more effective than any anti-depressant. You can thank me later
I was horrifically depressed since childhood. It was relentless. I assumed it would ultimately end me somehow. About twelve years ago I randomly accepted the offer from a friend of a few doses of mushrooms. I did them two consecutive nights alone. First night was pretty mild. The second night? Wow. I saw my depression from every angle, realized much. Next day: depression totally gone. Never came back, never coming back. It's like it's a forest far away I can remember, and could probably find again with enough effort, but it has zero impact on anything in my life or mind. They honestly saved my life and improved it immensely. I never did them again, either. I wish there was a good, organized way to administer them to people who would benefit from them.
I wish some of this could be taught in schools or at least given as information to pregnant women..I feel terrible for the mistakes I made as a mother out of complete ignorance. No wonder we're in such bad shape here..
Julie, I also didn't know but I have been learning amazing stuff for replacing the trauma affects by truly helpful soulful info & energy. After years of study & applying it I teach people. Happy to help, send your email
He's definitely made me feel like a failure as a mother. But crap I didn't know!!!!!! I was told to let my son cry it out and now I feel soooo bad because my son is having issues and I feel like it's my fault
You are someone,you did your best …..what else is there,you cared you tried…now it’s up to your son.just the fact you posted this shows me you are and we’re a loving parent .no one gets through life unscathed❤
That would be great but it always goes back to the powerful entities at the top, enforcing societal changes that benefit their profits, like a stable workforce who "behaves". It makes one question who approves the books and curriculum. I've long wondered why nuclear families became the norm too.
He's probably been through more than half the people he's dealt with. To be empathetic to those who are less damaged is amazing!!! I'm done, I was bullied my entire life and ignored, I don't even like to be around people and trust no one. I love listening to this Dr.❤❤
I love how Dr. Mate isn't a psychologist..... He's a family physician who cared about his suffering patients enough to investigate the root cause for their ailments. It also seems as though our traumas were necessary when we can use it for the greater good.
Whoa! This is the 3rd video of his I watched and I thought he had a PhD in psychology. He truly is an amazing man. I thank God for him, he is such a huge blessing. 🥹🤍
So grateful to have found this today. Gabor always takes me to my next level of awareness and healing. Today the added gift of my right to say 'NO' to family assumptions of "my responsibility" for things that have nothing to do with me. Deep deep gratitude as always.
When the host said "in closing", Gabor was just starting to talk about what one does as a traumatized person. I'd have asked HOW does one stop ppl pleasing and being afraid to say no when it's been so ingrained and used for survival one's whole deprived life? I'm trying to give myself permission to be ok with my needs since a couple years ago, when I first heard Gabor speak on childhood trauma. I feel like I've never known who I am so it's very hard to sort out the feelings of what I should do and what I really want to do. Making almost any decision is very stressful for me. I try to weigh everything out and still don't know what's best for me. I never got to just be me. I have no idea how to do that.
How deeply I understand this! I highly recommend getting Gabor’s last 2 books. 1. When the body says no 2. The myth of normal Also rec The Body Keeps Score by Bessel Vander Kolk (probably misspelled his name lol)
So true but the parents that need to watch this video would probably reject this video as they would believe Gabor mate is spreading false information even though he is spreading the truth. Why would they reject the truth? Probably because they have a lot of trauma that they need to address themselves.
The pathological narcissist is not a human being but a monster who knows what he/she is doing. You must never feel pity for the narcissist because they will use it to destroy you.
I used to work in a day care center in Amsterdam, all my pregnant collegues didn't want to bring their own child to daycare, neither did I. I was sure I was the person who should take care of my son. Now 33 years later me and my son are stil greatfull and happy for this.
What healing isn't: clutching the pain and resentments of the past, and telling everybody about it. We don't need to "get over" our pain and resentments. We just need to allow ourselves to be with it and letting it be. From The Gift, by Edith Eger. What I like so much about The Myth is that he quotes a lot of experts from their books. I've found myself countless times in a place of just letting it be, and feeling ok about it, only to find myself back in clutching mode again, and feeling sorry for myself. The healing path is rocky and uncertain, and not everyone can reach the endpoint, if there is one.
I already figured out many things Dr. Gabour talked about here, but I found it very helpful that he validated things I already knew about. And I feel blessed that YT exits and people are able and willing to share this crucial information with others ℹ️ Thank you!🙏
Gabor Mate reminds me of Chiron from the Greek Mythology. The story of the wounded healer who healed others, but carried himself a deep wound that wouldn't heal. To all astrologers out there, Gabor Mate has a Moon-Chiron aspect in his birth chart. Studies have shown that some of the most influential healers and therapists have a dominant Chiron in their birth chart, and/or Chiron in aspect to the personal planets. Their own suffering and wisdom is what makes them capable of healing others.
Im vedic astrologer! You are right. Chiron myth is one ofnthe most insightfull i ever read and understood. Great point from you. Yes we all have chiron but not in all chart the chiron isnmaking aspect to personal planets or kendra ( 1,4,7,10th house ) May you all have a space to feel it. I love you all ! Shiv Narayan
Love this guy, i was browbeaten called a liar, told I was living in a fantasy world, my parents and siblings were horrid, I broke free from them finally and I am trying hard every day to heal my trauma, I have a lot of health issues but I try and stay strong, gabor helps a lot, making perfect sense but the main thing is that I wasn't imagining it ❤
I’ve heard this before, but now that I’m dealing with the death of a 22 year relationship, I’m hearing this with fresh ears. “Attachments”, “Wounds”, embedded in the body’s physiology is resonating and why I’m not moving on as I thought is because you have to really understand what Dr. Gabor 4:04 is explaining about our beginnings and needs during development that are suppressed over the years. WoW! I’m not crazy for no reason, I’m longing for the love I missed, which drives my behavior for acceptance😮 Thank You ❤🙏🏽♾️
Dear soul. I am dealing with my own darkness, after trying to get my life few times . All started after heavy medication in hospital, wrong doings, and antidepressants. All started with this. For 2 years I became someone else. I did crazy things. I don't know from where and how I am still able to push it. I couldn't read, I couldn't understand the basic language anymore, I had lost my memory and cognitive ability. Physical I can't even describe what I went through. While dear familiy members tried to help me, after 8 months all discharged me. They couldn't take it anymore. I had to face something unbelievable. My body took control over me, all the repress trauma came to surface in such a way, that even now I am asking myself, how is still possible to be alive? So since then slowly, slowly, slowly I did progress. When beautiful people around the world, when I was in my desperate state, looking online for help,... Jumping from one topic to the other, looking for anything can rasonate with my situation, all of them kindly asking me to be patient, to take one step at the time. I hated all of them, because i didn't know that time how can I survive another minute. I hated their advices. Now 2 years later I am better. And grateful for all of them. I in my heart ask for forgiveness for what i was thinking. But i was desperate. I couldn't handle the symptoms. I don't trust medical system, doctors. Since i was young i was abused, and always given wrong diagnose, and heavy meds. Now at 39,i have to find a way to clean my system of all that dark.. Gosh. I am better. Not fully well. But at least my cognitive came back, memory 50%, amd and etc I now believe in holistic, alternative, mental, mind, amd healing the past trauma. I hate amd and don't wanna hear ever about medical system. All brain washed and applying from books. I can do that too. I believe just in emergency situation. That's all they can do and serve for me. Rest, is rubbish
@@nickcaption308 : I feel you - but - there are people out there - incl. myself - which have to deal with all that trauma and bs on their very own - there is no loving people or family around me since decades - had to go into no contact bc of their abusive and violent behavor - and its much better to be alone than having toxic or false prophets around me - for sure.
ONE OF THE VERY FEW IN THE MEDICAL PROFESSION WHO COMES PUBLIC WITH HIS RESEARCH AND PRACTICE EXPERIENCES VERY PERSONAL COMPLETELY HONEST AND COMMITTED TO GENERATION'S SUFFERING. PERSONAL APPEARANCE IS MORE EFFECTIVE THAN STANDING BEHIND PUBLICATIONS.THANKS FROM THE HEART 🙏
Why are people arguing, its subjective and not quantifiable, affecting everyone differently to different degrees and two experiences of something will be the same
He is so right about authenticity and attachment....his work is amazing. For some reason, when he talks about how children were treated and the kind of support network they got in the dawning of Homo sapiens, it reminds me of Dr. Sarah Blaffer Hrdy (not misspelled) 😊 an evolutionist biologist who has written amazing books on attachment of children to their mothers and others in a family. She calls the “others”, allomothers. Allo meaning “other”.
Finally I have the feeling someone is telling the truth about the world reality! Thank you for it. If there were more of us thinking in a similar in way, the world would be a good place to live in.❤
I'm so grateful to have found the somatic understanding of Mate and Levine among others. I've been so frustrated to again and again to just have positive thinking thrown in my face but experiencing what can only be described as a terrorist rage within me that wreaked havoc. Positive thinking is certainly helpful but for those dealing with trauma it is not comprehensive enough. Thank you for your work.
My wife developed Rheumatoid Arthritis in March 2009. I was depressed as my dad was dying and I stopped work and nursed pop. Later that year I suffered my first bout of Rheumatoid arthritis too. The doctor didn’t confirm diagnosis until they day after my dad passed in July 2010. We’re still both living with it and on heavy drugs. We need to get out of it but I can see we need to change.
Amazing podcast! The wounds from our past need to be brought to the surface for healing to occur. His story about his own abandonment issues was profound. Love Gabor's Course In Miracles analogy. There is so much psychological truth in ACIM.
This is a precious piece of information. I myself suffered rheuomatoid arthritis. Still need to understand the cause so that anymore disease conditions are avoided. And maybe I can help others too. The education system needs to be changed on many aspects according to today's world.
Dr Gabor, thank you for speaking out about a reality that's hurting society. The Bahais are doing community building to move past this lonely approach and create vibrant communities in neighbourhoods. Your talk made me realise how important this endeavour is.
"The Myth of Normal" is an awesome and helpful book which I have personally read. I'll always watch a video by Dr. Maté. I sincerely appreciate his body of work.
❤ amazing I’m so blessed and grateful to God who led me to Gabor and his book, I’m listening to it on audible it’s a blessing I think he went in that so he helps himself and all of us so we can heal 🙏
Yes, I agree. Gabor is awesome in his uniqueness. His insights on healing are on a whole other level,above and beyond "the standard" level. I love listening to him❤
Ive always been aware of my childhood trauma, but never did anything to deal with it. Ive had multiple abusive boyfriends since then, alchoholism since the age of 14- now (26) My abandonment trauma and co-dependency have plagued me but again, I never did anything to deal with it. I was go go go my whole life with alchohol as my cruch to relax and now at 26 I have been bed bound for 5 months with crippling anxiety, dpdr, flashbacks of every chapter of my life, depression and suicidality. Its all hit me like a truck and I dont know how to deal with it (im 9 months sober too)
Congrats on being sober! It is a slow process...But meetings are great. Either AA or emotions anonymous...There are many other types of anon meetings, even codependency anon. Education helps, watching these vids, books, going to mind + other groups. I had groups on facebook too. Best of luck!
Thank you Gabor, so much 🙏. Thank you for being here for me 🦋 Through the Jerry Springer childhood and things in my reality, i cant explain right now. surpressed alot of it and now at 43, everything is coming up for me. I sit here in my room alone, in a place where i don't feel is home. I have never felt at home anywhere. I have tried to make friends, i dont know whats going on. Im now sick with an autoimmune desease, like my mom and i have been reaching out for help, in people but usually no answer. You have become a light in the darkness for me, so thank u
Me too. They ignore you when you are feeling sick or say you are lying and when your body collapse, they scold you for not saying anything. I had chicken pox and was forced to go to school for days until I was so miserable that I said to the nun I was leaving (without asking for permission) and I went to my father's best friend (pediatrician). He called my mother to tell her I had chicken pox and I should be in bed. I could hear her laughing; she was nervous that it was too obvious for him she didn't cared about me (her mask falling was her only concern). Take care ❤
Wheres the healing part at in this video ? its just best to not have kids, no one has a perfect childhood, bad things will happen to you regardless, We are living on a prison planet ran by the demiurge
Thank you so much for the opportunity to listen to this conversation. As doctor Maté says we need attachment, I love listening to people’s stories and by sharing them, we discover we are going through the same things. Is not about finding a solution but been able to speak and realize that someone cares for you.
As an African American, I am now so interested in diving further into this science of generational trauma. Imagine “the holocaust” happening over and over again to a group of people 😢 I feel it in ways I can’t explain
Health and Healing. Yes Bro. Continues battering from multiple sides/ppl. Generational, yes again in understanding and as you find out about it things become clear about self and our relationship to each other. Bless
The information he shares can be absolutely heartbreaking. To think my son's ADHD could have been prevented through a father who didn't abandon him and if i had sought out more help. It was a risk to bring a child into a home with a burnwd out Mom and absent Father.. I would have given my life to change his diagnosis or prevent it from happening all together. After reading years and years of research on ADHD reading Gabor mate and his work has opened my eyes to generational wounding, tuning out, and how kids can pick up on a tired mama even though we try so hard to hide it. The lesson here is... Never end the estimate the power of two and their impact on raising a healthy child and the long-lasting impact it can have on an innocent child and the entire family for a lifetime 😢
I love you Gabor Mate. I ve watched so many videos and learned soooo much and i thank you so much cause it made a lot of change in my life. If i ever see you i ll give you a big hug. Single mum of 5🥰
Wow I'm in tears. I always picked up my kids when they cried simply because I loved them and I understood that crying was their only way of communicating. My babies slept well and were amazing kids. (now great adults with compassion). I was on my own with my opinion at the time. Now hearing it from you, Gabor, as good practice, I'm blown away. I hope many mothers can hear this. I see a lot of kids struggling with their loneliness in Britain as well as in Hungary because their parents simply don't care. God bless you.
Oh my! This is one of those videos that everyone should listen to. I just listened to it twice and could listen to it a couple more times. I'm letting it all sink in. Thank you Gabor!
I absolutely agree with Dr.Gabor where he says childhood trauma leads to different physical medical conditions as I am the living example of it.RecentlyI had a work stress situation where I repressed my right to address it has now resulted in tinitus.Unfortunately present day GPs do not associate childhood traumas or stresses of life with ailments, they do not even think about it.I strongly feel Dr.Gabor's studies should become mandatory for medical schools etc.
Whilst I find so much of this so helpful. I worry there is a risk of it encouraging victim blaming. Sometimes an angry reaction is a reaction to an unacceptable situation (for example abuse), whilst trauma may influence the response, it doesn't always make it the reason
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Wow. “ trauma is not what happened to you but what happened inside you” this was a great statement.
Well I knew that already but that does not mean the healing is coming much more easier now - its pretty hard path - my whole life long already....
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That sentence hit me also❤
But how to repair the damage???
@@johnrobertd748 you need to understand first what happened, it’s like a math problem, you won’t be able to solve it until you understand the problem once you understand you can try different procedures doesn’t matter how you chose to solve it the result is what it matters 😊 one beautiful tip I learned in my own experience is get out from the victim mindset and actually change my perception for example what did I learned from that experience? And now I became health coach helping others to change their perception about themselves 😊
Dr. Maté taught English at my high school and the best thing he did was quit and go to medical school. One of the world's greatest doctors in a sea of careless, greedy mediocrity.
U got to be joking...he is, and always was, a greedy, self interested businessman. The ones I spoke with who know him, don't like him.
Wow!! That's awesome! I truly love his work
@@annastinehammersdottir1290 he's not mediocre, but he's certainly GREEDY!
how come he’s greedy? genuinely curious!
@@sallyq1156 don't insult my intelligence...if u've been here awhile, this should be perfectly obvious to u.
He makes everyone who has been wounded in their childhood feel heard and validated. Finally we can feel relieved for feeling the way we feel and to know that it’s okay to feel like that and that it’s not your fault. Something that strikes me is learning that a child should not have to work to make the relationship between them and the caregiver work. They should not have to be perfect, smart, beautiful and successful to be loved and accepted. I wish I knew these as a 5 year old child.
Even if we were all these things, it wouldn't matter to the parent. They would just move the bar.
Amen! I wished the same thing when he said that.
Absolutely!
Same. Same. At the same damn age.
We can still tell that 5 year old that we were! I do it all the time, teling her:" hey darling, you are feeling very scared now, aren't you? I feel your little body freeze up entirely. Why don't you come into my arms for a bit, come here, baby, I 'm here now, let me just hold you here a little bit. Here, feel my hand on your head, stroking your beautiful hair. It's all right, honey, you are all right. It's just fine, I am here with you." She just melts into my arms, these days. I am so glad that I can be there for her.
Pick up the child inside you. Talk to her, sing to her, caress het little face, tell her how brave, how kind, how sweet she is. Tell her that you love her and that you'll always want to get to know her better and she can tell you anything she wants..
“The attempt to escape pain creates more pain”...very true! What you resist, persists.
Yes, but there comes a time when enough is enough. Smell the flowers!
Please pray for me to heal physically in my brain and all body systems and in my mind and spirit and soul.
I will pray for you beautiful soul Nan 💛🤍
Pray for me as well
Let us pray for those in need of healing.
“Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed;
Save me, and I shall be saved,
For You are my praise.”
Jeremiah 17: 14
Heal them, Loki
I will not pray but believe in you ❤️
Dear doctor your face reflects all the pain in the world and I thank you for your deep understanding and compassion for humanity. God bless you beautiful soul.
Yes, definitely, his face seems in pain all the time.
Hahaha very good comment to make for a person....
Good revelation. Give it to God. Speak it out, then replace with God's love
I don't even want to think of all the people this narcissist hurt. 😂
@@unanielson8837 He is a collapsed narcissist, so he is looking for supply with his channel.
Every time I listen to Gabor, I am newly healed and reclaiming all the needs that were were denied
well said Robin. It's like Dr Mate makes us feel accepted as flawed wounded humans and it's our responsibility to heal for ourselves. ♥
@@cs99. It is our responsibility to address our childhood trauma and to set up boundaries in our lives to prevent further abuse and harm from our families and so called friends.
@@laraoneal7284 Thanks. AS you are aware, Some abusive people think otherwise. we can only take care of ourselves and God help us all! Cheers
Psicolobim can work for PTSD ? I need help
every single time....
“Your yes is only meaningful when you know how to say no.” 🤯
Our society of “keeping up with the Jones’” where we feel both parents have to work, is the root of the problems we now deal with. Downsize your home or move to a less expensive area, simplify your life. Then moms and/or dads can stay at home to raise their kids, instead of strangers doing it. Then you know what they’re being taught, what they’re being fed, and materials they’re being exposed to. If you can, homeschool. The junk they are teaching in public schools is ridiculous.
Thank you for this interview. This Doctor is a gift to humanity. God bless him!
Thank you for explaining this . I don't feel that something's wrong with me I feel normal in perspective of trauma it explains to me why life has been challenging Thank you for the validation Thank you for this informative interview God bless you for the work you do
Have y’all ever asked who are the jones? It’s probably not who u think. That being said do you know how to think?
I was abused by my ex-boyfriend when I was a teenager. He forced me to record videos of me masturb***** and I did that for him out of “love”. After that, during 4 years of the relationship, when we had fights or when he was jealous, he would bring this up saying he would blackmail me and blamed me with lots of rude words. I cried almost everyday. Eventually, I had him deleted all the videos and broke up with him. Now, I’m 32, thinking back, I want to say thank you for the lessons learned. I have learned to be more careful when taking actions and choosing a friend, and to forgive myself, to forgive him, and be my new self. 🌟🌞
I wonder if your ex will just keep repeating the patterns ... I wonder if it was in his family, too. There are some people in my family who are in prison now because of sexual crimes that they just couldn't stop. Imagine if we could rehab people like Dr. Mate talks about. Your attitude is inspiring, thank you!
Sorry you
We're so badly abusedañd hurt
Pure genius. Such a pleasure to hear him speak. Some people who walk amongst us are so ahead of their time and he is one of them. Respect
I love him but ahead o his time? Ejust has an understanding of all human nature that cado this samething.. He seems a bit older but let thst fool you, so am I, nrot real young anymore but wisdome can cone at different times of life. Are we ready to reicieve this mind blowing guidance thaat e know we nee. I get widom from all types and olors of people. This i beleive will give me more thinks to talk about and DREAMABOUT..Much Love to all🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 God bless
@@karensimpson2112 I do believe he is ahead of his time. His fascinating knowledge of humans nature/behaviour and effects of childhood traumas on our psyche / behaviours is beyond extraordinary. Specially when he himself grew up in the most traumatic of environments. I can only compare him to Sigmund Freud and Joseph Murphy, yes I have that much respect for him as he is a pioneer when it comes to childhood traumas specially when he has been through it himself and came out the other end as this magnificent professor and his aim it to help humanity heal.
I tried to talk to my mom about my childhood molestation by my brother, and she just screamed at me to shut up. That's how it is in my family... so it's not just past trauma, it's continuous trauma when you're shot down by people whom you're supposed to love
I tjink that reaction comes from guilty feelings. Mine didn't believe me then blamed me, and blamed my sister too. "Why did you let him?"
@@trudibarraclough478 I got that too -- "I guess we didn't teach you how to say no." Meaning, it's our fault, but not really, you should have said no, and it would have stopped.
So sorry you went through that abuse
I feel for you. This is my story of the life too. Sad … and the scars stay forever. You can deal with it but you learn to understand why you act as you do.
@@edhinsa sorry i know it makes you ill the brain keeps the score these sbuses you should
I cant believe Dr Maté is almost 80. He looks like he's in his 60's
he looks like tired alchoholic. more legit than 10/10 supermodel influences and spirit channelers
Indeed !
His body and his brain is way much younger - but as you look into his face - you can see honestly his real age. I do love Dr. Mate very much for his work for us here.
Listening to this really struck me. Wounds that have been always hidden are now so clear to me that I started feeling empathy for myself, as if I was looking at myself as a person who experienced so much trauma through life, all the big Ts and little Ts, I surprisingly and suddenly felt so much empathy and sadness for this person that I started crying. Very interesting. Truly cathartic moment for me.
I'm really happy for you
That's wonderful. I'm encouraged by your comment.
Do you believe this was a step towards healing your childhood wounds?
I'm looking for direction to help myself without seeing a counsellor as I lack faith in them, plus they're extremely costly
I'd like to hear that too. Therapy is expensive but if you find one who you feel safe with it's amazing. I love my therapist and wish it wasn't expensive but that's issue I have with society. Wish you the best in your healing journey
@dianacudby7290 it's definitely a part of the healing process. Keep listening and learning. I have hope for you too.
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Gabor. Gentle. Powerful. Beautiful. Human. Wise, Respectful. Concerned. Yes, it's 53 minutes rather tha the 1 minute UA-cam shorts. But you really should make the time to watch this and get some deep, fact based learning. Thank you Gabor for your effort in sharing your insights with us. Peace & love to all ☮☮❤❤🤗🤗
My mother left our family for no reason for 15-20 days right after I was born and then came back. I learned this at the age of 25. Until then, I would intermittently lose consciousness for no reason and pass out. It was only after I learned this truth and listened to Gabor Maté that I realized the extent of the trauma. I felt incredibly inadequate, and I still do. And that's mainly because my mom is mentally unstable. Please don't have a baby without maintaining your sanity.
There is a condition after giving birth called post partum depression. This is not a moral issue or a character flaw of women who experience this. They cannot control it. This is where family needs to step in to help new mothers. The more you know.
Sorry to here that the brain takes every thing in i hope you heal maybe therapy may help you take care x
@@Shirley-t9b Thank you. The past often comes to light as anger and guilt. I feel better every day, no matter how painful it is. I am doing the exercises in the last book of Gabor Mate, The Myth of Normal. it really helps me a lot.
Sounds awful. Nobody with severe trauma should have children.
@@robynhope219 : yeah, tell this to those people - my be they will take your advice serious.
I was born into the troubles in Northern Ireland to a mixed religious, mixed class family and I’m the middle child.
By the time I was 10 I was dead inside. Beaten so violently in the locked bathroom naked by my 20 stone 6 foot dad.
The healing began march 2020.
I can listen to you cos of the beautiful beautiful energy in you words. Your compassionate energy in your voice is a big spiritual blanket I’ve just wrapped around myself.
I’m horrified, yet so bloody great full I see and have some kind of beautiful life force
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So glad to hear you are finally healing - just remember, it is a lifelong process, so never stop taking care of yourself ❤️
@@valtracey6180that's so lovely and reassuring. X
I'm sad this happened to you. Hoping the universe helps you along with a speedy recovery from this trauma you suffered. Sounds awful. So pleased you are here to tell the story. I think alot of people are walking around with traumas. Wish we could all speak more openly about it like you.
Thanks for sharing, God bless!
I never let my babies cry and we cosleep. They are such balanced children, kind, healthy, homeschooled and never one vaccine. My 16 year old starts college this week! So proud of them!!
This made me happy.. we need to keep our children away from the corrupt system and refuse all vaccines.. I did the same ❤
@@madney0410-- ALL vaccines?!!!
Polio's made a comeback.
@@leftykeys6944I recommend ‘Dissolving Illusions’ by Suzanne Humphries
That's amazing what incredible results. I would urge to reconsider a few vaccines, one's that have 40+ years of data. I'm not saying they don't have risks, but In my experience disease spreads on campus very easily so there's a benefit to consider. I myself got scarlet fever in college which isn't a condition you can vaccinate for but it's just an example. Good luck!
@@chriscook9433 There is no genuine safety data for any vaccine on the childhood schedule
“Trauma isn’t what happened to you…it’s what you created inside because of it…” Thank you.
This is just so fascinating. 95% of traumas are multigenerational.
"I can tell you your childhood trauma by the last time you got truly upset with somebody".
Gabor Mate, how do we thank you for thus profound information you give to the world💜
Thank You 🙏❤️🙏
My god its like we have these mental health probs cause the abuse we suffered in are chilhood very sad
@@Shirley-t9b : yes indeed - and there are some strange kind of new age gurus who claim - that our souls did make this contract with god and some other afterlife beeings bc we wanted to make a real earth experience? What kind of soul wants to suffer whole life through bc of this fucking trauma from all kind of abuse and violence in your early childhood and later on in life again and again....
Dr. Mate plays such an important role on merging spirituality. Psychology, and healing for humanity. What a contribution in the time of great change!
Light and blessings be returned to him tenfold!
Doctor Gabor Mate. I am Australian elderly woman who lived much of the life in India; presently I’m watching all that’s possible to see online of the perspective of yours and Daniel, now just writing to express tremendous appreciation in being able to do so. All good for you and yours, Namaskaram. Apeetha Arunagiri
I had a very eye opening experience tonight that made me realize, at 50 years old that not only am I struggling to process multiple traumas from throughout my life but that I’m now filled with so much anger and rage that I’m barely a functioning human being. Sexual abuse, childhood neglect, a parent having multiple affairs and abandoning the family and returning several times, to as an adult not knowing how to express my own sexuality because I was shown at a very young age that sex is ugly, it’s manipulative, it hurts, it’s a dirty nasty thing to do and that I was a disappointment for having sex and not having sex. As the doctor was saying early on, I’ve now seen those traumas manifest as many different illnesses. Cancer, weight gain, Anxiety and panic attacks, eczema, oral canker sores, headaches, sleepiness, physical pain throughout my body and uncontrollable crying. I don’t function anymore. One of the worst symptoms of my trauma is passing trauma onto my only child. We are adults left holding the broken pieces of our pasts with out the directions to the store where that very special glue to put it all back together is sold. I took it upon myself tonight to research how to start to heal myself. I possibly, a way to send my child some tools to heal her as well. I was injured in a work related accident a few years ago and was unable to return to that type of physical work. With no education and a laundry list of learning disabilities, I have been unable to find new employment. I’ve lost my home, car, my ability to care for myself (emotionally not physically) though the desire to physically care for yourself is gone too. I know that something has to change within me. This is my start. I have no medical insurance and cannot afford therapy. So, thanks to UA-cam, I’ve found some sort of start for myself. I’m also now living with the elderly parents that began a lot of this trauma and they continue to be a source of this pain for me. I feel stuck. Mentally unable to will myself free.
I feel you. Start by giving yourself love. An affirmation: I am worthy of love, i am enough. Get the GAPS books and heal your gut. Walk 20 minutes. Try once a day when you can and work up to once a day. Once you can afford it, start Hatha yoga once a week. This is self love. Thank yourself for doing these things. Healing yourself is the biggest help you can give to your child
God bless you and your struggle. There is hope, sometimes just calling out the name of what ails us will give us the sense of possibility that it's possible to get better.
Wish you a pleasant healing journey 🙏🏽 reminds also of hope dispensa. Gives powerful tools. Big awareness and intention to heal are first powerful steps!
Dear Tina, it is very apt that you have the same name as Tina Turner. Get her book on happiness. It may help you. What an amazing life. Just like Gabor. Your suffering will will turn into medicine and help many people. ❤
I'm so so sorry to read your story ,I sincerely hope that you can use these excellent videos to begin your new journey and healing . Best wishes Xx
"The connection between trauma and addiction became inescapable", so true
If a woman is given pain killers when she is in labor ,the baby will grow up with a drug addiction
@@RMillerMiller here is an example of a sauvinist man!
@@RMillerMiller : Guess what? That´s just not true.
The myth of normal and Dr Gabor saved my life, I've been on a soul journey my whole life. I met my mother for the first time when I was 21 she and my father both have addictions and so did I. This awareness and healing work is hard but can be done. We work on healing these wounds. Pray for me❤ just had a baby and my hormones have me lashing out at my partner 😮
Meditate. Don't lash out. 😇
Dr. Maté brought tears to my eyes when he told his story of his early infancy. 😢 The human condition is full of trauma. But sometimes we find a way to understand our wounds & let some of them go. Great discussions. Thank you!
Trauma can be healed. I went through my own deep healing from severe childhood and early adulthood Trauma from 30-40 years old. My therapy was in-depth soul/heart healing from deep within to outward symptom healing. I then in my mid 30’s became a Spirit filled therapist. Only true deep healing occurs with the power of The Holy Spirit. It is amazing how God works because the Lord in the 80’s gave me the same teachings and words as Gabor. Depth psychology and John Bradshaw’s books, Healing the Child Within, Winter’s Past by Nancy Smith a nurse who became paralyzed on the mission field in South America brought back to the states to undergo therapy for repressed abuse as a child and was healed. True and lasting healing and wholeness is possible!✝️👑
That's great religion works for you, but please don't imply one must pick a religion or believe in a god to heal.
Praise God! That's what I believe I need. God knows. He cares. May he fill me with his spirit!
@@shorelined1 I was not implying such only sharing what God had done for me in hopes that even if one person may be helped. It’s the facts. My beliefs are not religion but about relationships with the God who heals. Religion is man trying to follow a set of rules to reach up to God. Christianity is about the Lord coming to meet us on our level. Experiencing such unconditional love is what heals us. I believe We only heal through love that transcends.
@@peterwu8471 yes I pray so Blessings.
@@CICMCB Thank you!
This man is not only brilliant, but he given humanity so much reassurance, hope, and understanding in the human “conditions”.
As a fellow Canadian-he’s one of few Canadians I’m proud of. ❤
He is such a gift to humanity. Such a brilliant mind and heart. I soak up his wisdom like a sponge and feel healing just listening to his wisdom. Thank you ❤
Where in Canada is he from?
He says it in the video.
And Jordan Peterson.
He's Hungary/Canadian yet still proud regardless of ethnic or nationality!
Love this man, so wise. He has helped me so much. Bought his book The Myth of Normal and it is excellent.
Me too!
I want to get it too
What did you find helpful in the book?
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I was adopted and at the age of 58 I finally traced my birth fathers family, with the help of a DNA detective. It’s so strange because he had a traumatic childhood that scarily mirrored mine. In my case my birth mother abandoned me at one month and I was put into foster care. I was adopted to abusive parents who primarily seemed to want me to work on their farm when I was 3.5. I went back into foster care at the age of 15. In his case his mother abandoned the family when he was 2 and he and his brothers were put in and orphanage. At the age of 4 he and his brothers went with his uncle and his wife to work on their farm. I was blown away. He was deceased by the time I found the family but learned all this from his brothers. It’s so strange….I never met the man but I feel like I know him.
Wow, that is crazy 😲😲 I hope you are healing
Thank ou for sharing... Adoption seems to be a common thread among people who suffer from abandonment syndrome. (Read my share above starting with "This makes so much sense to me now"). May God bless you in your journey to healing!
@@pierrettebrousseau282 hi Pierrette! What a wonderful reply. Unfortunately I can’t find your previous post. Can you possibly repost it? ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@TheSapphireSprit Here is my post, copied and pasted:
This makes so much sense to me now... I was adopted by very poor, illiterate people when I was 4 months old. My adoptive dad pushed my adoptive mom (who really didn't want children), so I grew up unwanted by her, and eventually faced indifference from my dad once the novelty wore off and the hassle of paying attention to your kids became too much for him. They kept reminding me how "lucky" I was that they adopted me and that I owed them big for the favour.
In spite of feeling unwanted and not having a place in this world, I graduated from university, subsequently got 2 more diplomas. I now have a successful career in a field I am passionate about, I speak 4 languages fluently and have achieved some degree of financial stability.
The biggest impact for me has been in the romantic relationship department. I invariably end up with men who give me the moon at the beginning (they must love me, right?) and eventually become emotionally, psychologically and/or verbally abusive (sometimes all 3!). I drag on these relationships way past the point I should have let go because of avoidance - avoidance of guilt for breaking it up, guilt for abandoning them or hurting them, etc., and fear of dying alone. This in spite of having found my biological siblings at age 40 and being very close to some of them, a handful of friends who have been around for decades and who accept me for who I am, and cultivating healthy and productive work relationships with most people I come across in my work.
I am reasonably healthy in my late 60s except for chronic and acute lower back pain (resentment? carrying this heavy emotional load for so long?).
This stuff is far-reaching and has repercussions in ways we could not possibly imagine...
Tes. I feel like you DO know him, even though you never met him. May you be comforted on your way.
Wow! This is fascinating .. I just knew when my son was born yet every one around me just said you’re loving him too much. How is that possible 🙄🤷♀️
At 71 I feel like I have finally been understood. I appreciate you so much for Being You and bringing this to the light. ✨💖✨
Childhood trauma has a profound effect on a person’s mind and soul. We all process traumatic experiences differently, some of us dissociate from it until it erupts at some point in our lives as it will always be manifesting or bubbling beneath the surface, we may have our box of tools to fight off those feelings until we can’t avoid them any longer and our tool kit is no longer effective. Others numb their pain through substance abuse to avoid the overwhelming sense of pain and suffering. There is always trigger point on life when we have to engage with those memories, emotions and thoughts, going back is often the only way to go forward.
Toxic people or “stressor” family members that ignite those emotions and exacerbate the pain of the past must be extracted from our lives to help us achieve the peace, stability, happiness and freedom of the pass, boundaries are imperative in achieving a Better version of ourselves.
What you said about toxic people that trigger or ignite these repressed emotions?
My husband does and says a lot of things that trigger my own deep-rooted sense of inadequacy and insecurity; making me wonder if I should
1. be grateful for him bringing my trauma to the surface so I can hold it and heal myself, or
2. break our relationship and move to a place where I feel safer and can heal in a place where my emotions don't feel so threatened?
Only I can decide this.
@@dianacudby7290 Diana, why live in a permanent state of emergency and fear. Living With a person that triggers your emotions and causes you such deep anguish is not healthy. You’re living a punished life and you seem conditioned to thinking this is acceptable or all you’re worthy of. You deserve so much better than this and you should be allowed to process your passed emotions in a healthy manner, through therapy, time, kindness and support. You don’t seem to have any of these resources in place right now. You deserve so much better than this. Life is short, fragile and you don’t deserve to cut yourself short of peace and happiness. Don’t live in a state of despair and impending doom with a trigger puller.
Omg …. Wow this was ment for me to read😢
This is so spot on..
@@dianacudby7290 Did you decide yet, Diana?
This is unbelievable. I have trauma. I have rheumatoid arthritis and crohn's disease. Now fibromyalgia and trigeminal neuralgia. My dad passed 6 months ago with terminal cancer. My health has been affected. I have had flare-ups and now know why. This gives me so much insight. I do practice mindfulness and qigong. However i now know that i have been triggered. I have just bought your new book. I will continue my journey feeling more informed. Thank you Dr Gabor Mate ✨️🙏✨️
Bless you. Im dealing with identical health but with lupus instead of chrons. It is something isnt it? Flares 😢
The Body Keeps the Score is a much better book. It offers many suggestions on how to help heal trauma.
@@Vihabpointe it is especially important to get restful sleep, eat healthy, and exercise.
It would be useful to have a list of the books Dr. Mate mentions during this valuable podcast. He is a gift to humanity.
As a four year old my parents didn't protect me against horrific outside abuse. Then at 8 mom tried to strangle me. So, yeah, I understand this trauma thing. I needed to reverse the thoughts connected with both events. It's been a lifetime worth of work, but I believe I've done it. God bless you Dr. Mate for bringing this to the surface and your work. and yeah, I wish this was common knowledge, but for now it's up to those who can to talk about it.
What you've been through is terrible. I do remember my mother holding a big sharp knife to my neck. That was as a 20 year old.
Also- the actual soul wound…ua-cam.com/video/vWdnhc5I-9c/v-deo.html
@@angelamurphy75 than you so very much for the video.
I'm curious as I have had similar beginnings. How are you now later in life?
@@MetallicDec75 I am at one with my stillness. In other words, I am doing great! I have found. a way to work through the difficulties and it has transformed my consciousness. I hope you have experienced profound healing as well.
I love that Gabor calls Justin out on the inference that he's about "managing" stress and corrects him.
So many psychology lectures leave me feeling more overwhelmed by the hurdles of attempting to heal trauma. I could listen to Dr Mate for hooooours and actually feel like his words are healing my soul as I listen. Like I'm actually getting better in the moment rather than learning a new to-do list of things I need to "do"
You are a treasure Dr Mate. Thank you for all you do for us with your teachings. I will continue to follow you and buy all your books ❤️
I think that's because Dr. Mate really understands what he's talking about, and so can convey it easily in a manner that others will understand. A lot of other professionals in the field are guilty of hiding their lack of comprehension on these subjects behind technical jargon and word salad, much in the manner of how a parrot may mimic human speech, and in turn it continues to perpetuate the cycle of inaccessibility of mental health support for those who need it as you've described. We truly need people in this field like Dr. Mate receiving more recognition.
Right on❤
If I had had this knowledge I would’ve trusted all my intuitions and inclinations.
Dr Maté, you are God-sent, your trauma has become such an important life lesson to our wholesome health! I am 73, married for 51 years. Your experiences resonate with me and my hubby. We watch your videos together and talk for hours sometimes about your message.😂😂
Inter-generational trauma is mentioned in the Bible. I value all your videos n interviews on UA-cam made available to us. Thank you from Newcastle Australia. God bless you, your good wife and your family.
And Mate’s attention to how we use language is fascinating. OMG I’m always mind enlightened by the immense compassion and psychological understanding of human behaviour of this beautiful human being. For example, when Mate considers we don’t really want to ‘manage’ our emotions but better understand them, identify them and change them. Thank You - again! 😊
Awesome interview. Luckily, I learnt about the importance of attachment as a parent so I tried and managed to send my kids to institutionalised daycare (nursery)as late as possible. I've made sure that my kids knew they could rely on me. I also met a very smart lady when my baby was about 1.5 years old, who was homeschooling her kids with her husband. She opened my eyes to how unnatural it is for kids to study (be in groups) with their age-group, when in it is never the case in society- family, workplace, university, church, NGOs, leisure clubs, etc. From then on I always tried to make sure my kids were part of groups made up of different generations as my own family was broken. At age 13 my son's teacher personally congratulated me on the way I was bringing him up and said he was years more mature than his peers, with a unique and great personality. He's 21 now, and we're still watching films (good, funny and mostly, inspirational) together. And when I'm in trouble, both my kids are there for me, fully standing by my side and say that they have great childhood memories- ones I never had. And I did it all alone with and then without my abusive ex-husband, their father. Not without a cost though cause now that I'm alone and older, I suffer from serious mental health issues. In a way, I believe the time has come for me to deal with my own traumas and it's excrutiating. It was so much easier when I was in full lioness mode- both a mother and father for my children, who needed ME.
Amazing insights! Gabor Maté is an absolute gem. We need more voices like him to get to a more holistic perspective on human health!
I so agree !
He lost me when he started speaking woke. "two main genders", women of colour suffering intersectional derived illnesses.
I mean defining actual trauma from actual events is one thing, attributing group based pathology to critical theory based narratives is another...
It's an eye opening.."when you repressed the emotions, you repressed the immune system"
Everything I learn from Dr. Gabor Mate brings about a major light bulb moment. He has opened my eyes so much, my life has changed for the better, and it no doubt will continue. ❤ I cherish this man.
I suffered severe trauma 16 years ago as a teenage. Spent my whole life fighting trauma. I got diagnosed with ADHD and suffered severe depression. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
I would like to know from those who have solved PTSD and anxiety, if they have solved it definitively and how to understand what quantity of psilocybin to take and when, for how long. And can you really heal without having an addiction?
Thanks to everyone for helping me understand, I want to understand if it's
something that can help me solve the problem (I have c-ptsd)
From my experience it really works excellently! It doesnt even need to be a full hit. With potent shrooms 2-3 small ones will still make a clear difference. It will be a few hour cosy rumbling moment around rest time, but afterwards its just calm and you feel amazing and gain your freedom. Psilocybin is different dudes, its the only "treatment" I would recommend to someone who genuinely wants to get better. There is no addiction, withdrawal, or negative side effects. It's just pure healing., far more effective than any anti-depressant. You can thank me later
I was horrifically depressed since childhood. It was relentless. I assumed it would ultimately end me somehow. About twelve years ago I randomly accepted the offer from a friend of a few doses of mushrooms. I did them two consecutive nights alone. First night was pretty mild. The second night? Wow. I saw my depression from every angle, realized much. Next day: depression totally gone. Never came back, never coming back. It's like it's a forest far away I can remember, and could probably find again with enough effort, but it has zero impact on anything in my life or mind. They honestly saved my life and improved it immensely. I never did them again, either. I wish there was a good, organized way to administer them to people who would benefit from them.
We need voices in the world like this. Thank you.
I wish some of this could be taught in schools or at least given as information to pregnant women..I feel terrible for the mistakes I made as a mother out of complete ignorance. No wonder we're in such bad shape here..
Julie, I also didn't know but I have been learning amazing stuff for replacing the trauma affects by truly helpful soulful info & energy. After years of study & applying it I teach people. Happy to help, send your email
He's definitely made me feel like a failure as a mother. But crap I didn't know!!!!!! I was told to let my son cry it out and now I feel soooo bad because my son is having issues and I feel like it's my fault
You are someone,you did your best …..what else is there,you cared you tried…now it’s up to your son.just the fact you posted this shows me you are and we’re a loving parent .no one gets through life unscathed❤
I keep wondering how much trauma can happen even to a foetus ,i mean to an unborn child
That would be great but it always goes back to the powerful entities at the top, enforcing societal changes that benefit their profits, like a stable workforce who "behaves". It makes one question who approves the books and curriculum. I've long wondered why nuclear families became the norm too.
He's probably been through more than half the people he's dealt with. To be empathetic to those who are less damaged is amazing!!! I'm done, I was bullied my entire life and ignored, I don't even like to be around people and trust no one. I love listening to this Dr.❤❤
I love how Dr. Mate isn't a psychologist..... He's a family physician who cared about his suffering patients enough to investigate the root cause for their ailments.
It also seems as though our traumas were necessary when we can use it for the greater good.
Whoa! This is the 3rd video of his I watched and I thought he had a PhD in psychology. He truly is an amazing man. I thank God for him, he is such a huge blessing. 🥹🤍
So grateful to have found this today. Gabor always takes me to my next level of awareness and healing. Today the added gift of my right to say 'NO' to family assumptions of "my responsibility" for things that have nothing to do with me. Deep deep gratitude as always.
I want his book how to get it
Dr Gabor Mate, thank you for speaking the truth. I hope people in the world will listen to you. Love from Sara❤
Gabor is one of my heroes, I've just decided. Thank you for this "MBG".
When the host said "in closing", Gabor was just starting to talk about what one does as a traumatized person. I'd have asked HOW does one stop ppl pleasing and being afraid to say no when it's been so ingrained and used for survival one's whole deprived life? I'm trying to give myself permission to be ok with my needs since a couple years ago, when I first heard Gabor speak on childhood trauma. I feel like I've never known who I am so it's very hard to sort out the feelings of what I should do and what I really want to do. Making almost any decision is very stressful for me. I try to weigh everything out and still don't know what's best for me. I never got to just be me. I have no idea how to do that.
Same 😢 4:33
I relate to your story so much!
Please @Jason Wachob ask Gabor back to explain more how we can heal ourselves
How deeply I understand this! I highly recommend getting Gabor’s last 2 books.
1. When the body says no
2. The myth of normal
Also rec The Body Keeps Score by Bessel Vander Kolk (probably misspelled his name lol)
Love Gabors disposition and approach to therapy. He’s got the right touch. He’s calm and assured. ❤
Almost any situation in our life i believe, is to give us the or an opportunity to learn and grow. Even trauma. We are here to learn and grow.
So far, I've only listened to the first part, but this is something every parent to be needs to listen too
So true but the parents that need to watch this video would probably reject this video as they would believe Gabor mate is spreading false information even though he is spreading the truth. Why would they reject the truth? Probably because they have a lot of trauma that they need to address themselves.
So much empathy 🙌🙌
Let's build this world where we can look at each other as humans
The pathological narcissist is not a human being but a monster who knows what he/she is doing. You must never feel pity for the narcissist because they will use it to destroy you.
I used to work in a day care center in Amsterdam, all my pregnant collegues didn't want to bring their own child to daycare, neither did I. I was sure I was the person who should take care of my son. Now 33 years later me and my son are stil greatfull and happy for this.
What healing isn't: clutching the pain and resentments of the past, and telling everybody about it. We don't need to "get over" our pain and resentments. We just need to allow ourselves to be with it and letting it be. From The Gift, by Edith Eger.
What I like so much about The Myth is that he quotes a lot of experts from their books.
I've found myself countless times in a place of just letting it be, and feeling ok about it, only to find myself back in clutching mode again, and feeling sorry for myself. The healing path is rocky and uncertain, and not everyone can reach the endpoint, if there is one.
I already figured out many things Dr. Gabour talked about here, but I found it very helpful that he validated things I already knew about. And I feel blessed that YT exits and people are able and willing to share this crucial information with others ℹ️ Thank you!🙏
The last 5 minutes are key.
What a great man 🙏
Gabor Mate reminds me of Chiron from the Greek Mythology. The story of the wounded healer who healed others, but carried himself a deep wound that wouldn't heal. To all astrologers out there, Gabor Mate has a Moon-Chiron aspect in his birth chart. Studies have shown that some of the most influential healers and therapists have a dominant Chiron in their birth chart, and/or Chiron in aspect to the personal planets. Their own suffering and wisdom is what makes them capable of healing others.
Beautiful🌙🌟
wow interesting
I have questions but he makes so much sense.
We all have a Chiron in our Birthchart. Every one is a Healer. Astrology can help.
Im vedic astrologer! You are right.
Chiron myth is one ofnthe most insightfull i ever read and understood.
Great point from you.
Yes we all have chiron but not in all chart the chiron isnmaking aspect to personal planets or kendra ( 1,4,7,10th house )
May you all have a space to feel it.
I love you all ! Shiv Narayan
Love this guy, i was browbeaten called a liar, told I was living in a fantasy world, my parents and siblings were horrid, I broke free from them finally and I am trying hard every day to heal my trauma, I have a lot of health issues but I try and stay strong, gabor helps a lot, making perfect sense but the main thing is that I wasn't imagining it ❤
I’ve heard this before, but now that I’m dealing with the death of a 22 year relationship, I’m hearing this with fresh ears. “Attachments”, “Wounds”, embedded in the body’s physiology is resonating and why I’m not moving on as I thought is because you have to really understand what Dr. Gabor 4:04 is explaining about our beginnings and needs during development that are suppressed over the years. WoW! I’m not crazy for no reason, I’m longing for the love I missed, which drives my behavior for acceptance😮 Thank You ❤🙏🏽♾️
Dear soul. I am dealing with my own darkness, after trying to get my life few times
. All started after heavy medication in hospital, wrong doings, and antidepressants. All started with this. For 2 years I became someone else. I did crazy things. I don't know from where and how I am still able to push it. I couldn't read, I couldn't understand the basic language anymore, I had lost my memory and cognitive ability. Physical I can't even describe what I went through. While dear familiy members tried to help me, after 8 months all discharged me. They couldn't take it anymore. I had to face something unbelievable. My body took control over me, all the repress trauma came to surface in such a way, that even now I am asking myself, how is still possible to be alive? So since then slowly, slowly, slowly I did progress. When beautiful people around the world, when I was in my desperate state, looking online for help,... Jumping from one topic to the other, looking for anything can rasonate with my situation, all of them kindly asking me to be patient, to take one step at the time. I hated all of them, because i didn't know that time how can I survive another minute. I hated their advices. Now 2 years later I am better. And grateful for all of them. I in my heart ask for forgiveness for what i was thinking. But i was desperate. I couldn't handle the symptoms. I don't trust medical system, doctors. Since i was young i was abused, and always given wrong diagnose, and heavy meds. Now at 39,i have to find a way to clean my system of all that dark.. Gosh. I am better. Not fully well. But at least my cognitive came back, memory 50%, amd and etc
I now believe in holistic, alternative, mental, mind, amd healing the past trauma. I hate amd and don't wanna hear ever about medical system. All brain washed and applying from books. I can do that too. I believe just in emergency situation. That's all they can do and serve for me. Rest, is rubbish
You are loved and precious and wanted. Is a matter to meet the wright people 😊
@@nickcaption308 : I feel you - but - there are people out there - incl. myself - which have to deal with all that trauma and bs on their very own - there is no loving people or family around me since decades - had to go into no contact bc of their abusive and violent behavor - and its much better to be alone than having toxic or false prophets around me - for sure.
ONE OF THE VERY FEW IN THE MEDICAL PROFESSION WHO COMES PUBLIC WITH HIS RESEARCH AND PRACTICE EXPERIENCES VERY PERSONAL COMPLETELY HONEST AND COMMITTED TO GENERATION'S SUFFERING. PERSONAL APPEARANCE IS MORE EFFECTIVE THAN STANDING BEHIND PUBLICATIONS.THANKS FROM THE HEART 🙏
Being abandoned by a parent is the most traumatic experience
No living with someone who abandons you emotionally every day is
I remember 3 years old trauma
Confirmed by others
I remember vividly
I think abuse is
Realizing you abandoned the Creator (Father) to have your _separate_ existence is the most difficult realization. _You chose this._
Why are people arguing, its subjective and not quantifiable, affecting everyone differently to different degrees and two experiences of something will be the same
I have Chrons,MS and have just finished chemo for breast cancer.I am very impressed with his blog. I now am following him.
What a lovely authentic human being ❤bless you Dr Mate🙏🏽
This is absolutely the truth! Thank you Dr.
Louise Hay have been talking about this for years. You can heal your life 😢😊❤
He is so right about authenticity and attachment....his work is amazing. For some reason, when he talks about how children were treated and the kind of support network they got in the dawning of Homo sapiens, it reminds me of Dr. Sarah Blaffer Hrdy (not misspelled) 😊 an evolutionist biologist who has written amazing books on attachment of children to their mothers and others in a family. She calls the “others”, allomothers. Allo meaning “other”.
In elephant herds, there are several allomothers for the babies. The babies always feel safe. We humans could learn a lot from ellies 🐘🐘🐘🐘
Finally I have the feeling someone is telling the truth about the world reality! Thank you for it. If there were more of us thinking in a similar in way, the world would be a good place to live in.❤
I'm so grateful to have found the somatic understanding of Mate and Levine among others. I've been so frustrated to again and again to just have positive thinking thrown in my face but experiencing what can only be described as a terrorist rage within me that wreaked havoc. Positive thinking is certainly helpful but for those dealing with trauma it is not comprehensive enough. Thank you for your work.
My wife developed Rheumatoid Arthritis in March 2009. I was depressed as my dad was dying and I stopped work and nursed pop. Later that year I suffered my first bout of Rheumatoid arthritis too. The doctor didn’t confirm diagnosis until they day after my dad passed in July 2010. We’re still both living with it and on heavy drugs. We need to get out of it but I can see we need to change.
Expressing ur thoughts and emotions verbally is VITALLY IMPORTANT TO UR HEALTH.
Love Gabor Mate, a gift to humanity 🌟🌟🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🌟🌟🌟
Amazing podcast! The wounds from our past need to be brought to the surface for healing to occur. His story about his own abandonment issues was profound. Love Gabor's Course In Miracles analogy. There is so much psychological truth in ACIM.
This is a precious piece of information. I myself suffered rheuomatoid arthritis. Still need to understand the cause so that anymore disease conditions are avoided. And maybe I can help others too. The education system needs to be changed on many aspects according to today's world.
❤wow hallelujah to Gabor Mate for revealing such powerful truth and insightful knowledge!
Dr Gabor, thank you for speaking out about a reality that's hurting society. The Bahais are doing community building to move past this lonely approach and create vibrant communities in neighbourhoods. Your talk made me realise how important this endeavour is.
"The Myth of Normal" is an awesome and helpful book which I have personally read. I'll always watch a video by Dr. Maté. I sincerely appreciate his body of work.
❤ amazing
I’m so blessed and grateful to God who led me to Gabor and his book, I’m listening to it on audible it’s a blessing
I think he went in that so he helps himself and all of us so we can heal 🙏
Yes, I agree. Gabor is awesome in his uniqueness. His insights on healing are on a whole other level,above and beyond "the standard" level.
I love listening to him❤
Ive always been aware of my childhood trauma, but never did anything to deal with it. Ive had multiple abusive boyfriends since then, alchoholism since the age of 14- now (26)
My abandonment trauma and co-dependency have plagued me but again, I never did anything to deal with it. I was go go go my whole life with alchohol as my cruch to relax and now at 26 I have been bed bound for 5 months with crippling anxiety, dpdr, flashbacks of every chapter of my life, depression and suicidality. Its all hit me like a truck and I dont know how to deal with it (im 9 months sober too)
Congrats on being sober!
It is a slow process...But meetings are great. Either AA or emotions anonymous...There are many other types of anon meetings, even codependency anon. Education helps, watching these vids, books, going to mind + other groups. I had groups on facebook too. Best of luck!
Thank you Gabor, so much 🙏. Thank you for being here for me 🦋 Through the Jerry Springer childhood and things in my reality, i cant explain right now. surpressed alot of it and now at 43, everything is coming up for me. I sit here in my room alone, in a place where i don't feel is home. I have never felt at home anywhere. I have tried to make friends, i dont know whats going on. Im now sick with an autoimmune desease, like my mom and i have been reaching out for help, in people but usually no answer. You have become a light in the darkness for me, so thank u
I had a narcissistic mother growing up and it was hell, hence why I grew up with so many undiagnosed health problems…
Me too. They ignore you when you are feeling sick or say you are lying and when your body collapse, they scold you for not saying anything. I had chicken pox and was forced to go to school for days until I was so miserable that I said to the nun I was leaving (without asking for permission) and I went to my father's best friend (pediatrician). He called my mother to tell her I had chicken pox and I should be in bed. I could hear her laughing; she was nervous that it was too obvious for him she didn't cared about me (her mask falling was her only concern).
Take care ❤
Wheres the healing part at in this video ? its just best to not have kids, no one has a perfect childhood, bad things will happen to you regardless, We are living on a prison planet ran by the demiurge
Thank you so much for the opportunity to listen to this conversation. As doctor Maté says we need attachment, I love listening to people’s stories and by sharing them, we discover we are going through the same things.
Is not about finding a solution but been able to speak and realize that someone cares for you.
As an African American, I am now so interested in diving further into this science of generational trauma. Imagine “the holocaust” happening over and over again to a group of people 😢 I feel it in ways I can’t explain
I agree
So we'll said! Thank you 😊.
Health and Healing. Yes Bro. Continues battering from multiple sides/ppl. Generational, yes again in understanding and as you find out about it things become clear about self and our relationship to each other. Bless
The Psy Ops are very effective. Dr Sowell makes more sense to me than any one on the Cultural Oppression of every Race
Many peoples experience generational trauma. So true. Why the 'holocaust' in quotes?
Dr.Mate ,your speech is eye opening and enlightening.you have unveiled what is unseen beneath disease and Medical practice.
The information he shares can be absolutely heartbreaking. To think my son's ADHD could have been prevented through a father who didn't abandon him and if i had sought out more help. It was a risk to bring a child into a home with a burnwd out Mom and absent Father.. I would have given my life to change his diagnosis or prevent it from happening all together. After reading years and years of research on ADHD reading Gabor mate and his work has opened my eyes to generational wounding, tuning out, and how kids can pick up on a tired mama even though we try so hard to hide it. The lesson here is... Never end the estimate the power of two and their impact on raising a healthy child and the long-lasting impact it can have on an innocent child and the entire family for a lifetime 😢
I love you Gabor Mate. I ve watched so many videos and learned soooo much and i thank you so much cause it made a lot of change in my life. If i ever see you i ll give you a big hug. Single mum of 5🥰
Superb, very emotional and so true about attachment and it’s connection to the physical body and illness. I must learn to say no much more.
Wow I'm in tears. I always picked up my kids when they cried simply because I loved them and I understood that crying was their only way of communicating. My babies slept well and were amazing kids. (now great adults with compassion). I was on my own with my opinion at the time. Now hearing it from you, Gabor, as good practice, I'm blown away. I hope many mothers can hear this. I see a lot of kids struggling with their loneliness in Britain as well as in Hungary because their parents simply don't care. God bless you.
I can't cope when l hear children crying I find it absolutely physically distressing The natural thing is to pick them up They need to be heard
to realize that you've missed being held, that you'll never know what feels like to be held , but Gabor's pain is unfathomable , uneah
Lengthy life for this Dr! Horrific, byproduct becoming a Dr! Thanks for your work!
Oh my! This is one of those videos that everyone should listen to. I just listened to it twice and could listen to it a couple more times. I'm letting it all sink in. Thank you Gabor!
I absolutely agree with Dr.Gabor where he says childhood trauma leads to different physical medical conditions as I am the living example of it.RecentlyI had a work stress situation where I repressed my right to address it has now resulted in tinitus.Unfortunately present day GPs do not associate childhood traumas or stresses of life with ailments, they do not even think about it.I strongly feel Dr.Gabor's studies should become mandatory for medical schools etc.
Whilst I find so much of this so helpful. I worry there is a risk of it encouraging victim blaming. Sometimes an angry reaction is a reaction to an unacceptable situation (for example abuse), whilst trauma may influence the response, it doesn't always make it the reason
Beyond grateful for your life of work Gabor 🙏🏻
Dr Gabor Matè is brilliant. Thank you 🙏