I am way too scared to love anyone again. The abuse and abandonment at such a young age left me to fend for myself since I was 15. My Mum passed away and I was abandoned by all family members and haven’t seen them since. I am now 46 years old and I finally gave my heart to a beautiful soul but I was in my early 30’s and he passed away in my presence in a tragic accident and I am way to afraid to ever love again which so many people can relate to. I understand that maybe it’s extremely unhealthy and I’m learning to know who I am. We all wear masks to keep us safe but I am not ready to love. Isolation is not the answer and it’s been almost five years since I lost my partner. How are we supposed to love again when all we experienced was loss of the adults who were not supposed to abandon us? Hate to sound negative but I’m seeking these answers if anyone has any suggestions, I am all ears. Thank you if you read this comment ❤
I'm so sorry for all the pain you've been through. Losing loved ones and facing abandonment is really very hard, and it’s completely understandable to feel scared of loving again. Healing takes time, and it’s okay to not be ready yet. Be kind to yourself and take it one step at a time. It’s true, isolation doesn’t heal us, but finding safe ways to connect with others at your own pace might help. You’re not alone in these feelings, and it’s good that you’re seeking answers. I truly hope you find peace and healing. Sending you love and strength ❤
"As long as we can love each other, and remember the feeling of love we had, we can die without ever really going away. All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there. You live on -- in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here." ~ Morris Schwartz “What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” ~ Helen Keller “Nothing in life is to be feared; it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” ~ Marie Curie "Cycles of life and death can be likened to the alternating periods of sleep and wakefulness. Just as sleep prepares us for the next day’s activity, death can be seen as a state in which we rest and replenish ourselves for new life. In this light, death should be acknowledged, along with life, as a blessing to be appreciated." ~ Daisaku Ikeda "Don't be afraid. Change is such a beautiful thing", said the Butterfly." ~ Sabrina Newby “What is lovely never dies, but passes into another loveliness.” ~ Thomas Bailey Aldrich "Quality of soul... it is our earthly floor, and heaven's door." ~ Paul Jung "The melody that the loved one played upon the piano of your life will never be played quite that way again, but we must not close the keyboard and allow the instrument to gather dust. We must seek out other artists of the spirit, new friends who gradually will help us to find the road to life again, who will walk the road with us." ~ Joshua Loth Liebman "The pain passes, but the beauty remains." ~ Henri Matisse
In this powerful video, Dr. Gabor Maté, a well-known expert in trauma and healing, explores how love and self-compassion can heal us. Learn how being vulnerable helps us grow, the difference between trauma and stress, and why self-love is important for both your mind and body. Dr. Maté shares how listening to your heart and building self-worth can lead to real healing and happiness. If you’re ready to let go of feeling unworthy and discover the power of love, this video will guide you. Watch now to begin your healing journey! #drgabormate, #HealingPowerOfLove, #OvercomeTrauma, #StressRelief, #DrNicoleLePera, #KendallJenner, #LoveHeals, #MotivationalSpeech,
Since I remember anything I was always put in the last place at "home" . Besides when I was in school where the teachers really loved me & appreciated me . later in some places where I worked . I never wanted to date anyone also from fearing any kind of intimacy ( home )which was where all my traumas were imprinted . For me family was a terrible experience. Both parents survived the Holocaust in extremely horrible horrific conditions . As a little kid & a young teenager my parents , concisely or unconsciously , were preparing us the kids for the 3rd world war . It was horrific. I was never hugged or kissed besides one time she held me for a photo opportunity. I remember crying for days , for years they couldn't attend to me , could show any concern or care besides technically issues like being fed far too much or washed.i had to be very clean all the time when going to & back from kindergarten or school make sure I slept so I wouldn't disturb them . I was taken to doctors my by my mom claiming that I was not eating enough . Ectually her subconscious fears was that the big starvation was going to start again tomorrow when the 3rd WW would start . I remember every meal I was crying because I refused to eat so much eventually I giving in to my mom . I was vormating still forced to eat whatever I vo.... . Cleanliness was another obsession of my mom because she told me how badly she suffered from bad hygiene during the Holocaust. If she could peel of her skin & my skin she would have done that too. The food was all what you call today organic , natural totally clean & must be fresh .No doctor could cope up with her standards . Everything on the technical side was more than perfect besides that ,as I mentioned, all was extreme . Till recently I used to wash my hands with a soap about 40 times a day or more . Never she could show or feel any positive emotions definitely no love or affection. She was always thinking negative .She was very aggressive & violent ( means that made her survive parts of the Holocaust when she wasn't totally hidden( like in the Ghetto ). Her mom bribed people to move her out of the Ghetto to a Catholic family where she was the one to get them food outside their home ) .
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m deeply sorry for the pain and trauma you’ve been through. It’s heartbreaking to hear how difficult your experiences were at home and how they shaped your life. Please know that your strength and courage in expressing your feelings are truly admirable. It’s never easy to go through what you’ve described, and I hope you are finding ways to heal. If sharing helps, I’m grateful you felt comfortable enough to do so here. Wishing you love, comfort, and peace on your journey. You are not alone. ❤ Bless you
@@מלי-ש4ג You are sure a " Chosen ONE". Good never gives US anythyng OUR nervous system cannot take. It hurts bad at Times, I lived It TOUGH and still sometimes. You must have undergone a fit PREPARATION for the COMING SHIFT. So. Good on You. You are READY FOR THE CRUSH. LOVE BLESS 💯
I don't understand myself! My life is good ! What do I create the worst case scenario before anything happens! Like a doctor appointment ! I'm always afraid something will happen to me and I'll have to handle this all by myself! We were abondanded mentally abused ! I just want to be free from myself
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. It's hard when your mind always expects the worst, even when things seem fine. Remember, you're not alone in this, and it's okay to feel scared sometimes. Healing from past hurt takes time, but you're strong, and reaching out is a big step. I hope you can find peace and feel free from these heavy thoughts. Take care of yourself. ❤
Thank you for your thoughtful question! 😊 Dr. Gabor Maté often talks about connecting with our true self, which can be similar to the idea of a ‘higher self.’ It’s about being in touch with who we really are, beyond fears, pain, and what others expect of us. It’s a deeper understanding of ourselves, with kindness and compassion. I hope this helps! ❤
Self Love did not work for me. I still know how limited I am. The only thing worked for me was Jesus Love 💕. He Knows How to Heal your Broken Heart ❤️🩹 😊❤
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's inspiring to see how faith can provide such deep healing. Your journey may resonate with so many others who feel the same way.
I am way too scared to love anyone again. The abuse and abandonment at such a young age left me to fend for myself since I was 15. My Mum passed away and I was abandoned by all family members and haven’t seen them since. I am now 46 years old and I finally gave my heart to a beautiful soul but I was in my early 30’s and he passed away in my presence in a tragic accident and I am way to afraid to ever love again which so many people can relate to. I understand that maybe it’s extremely unhealthy and I’m learning to know who I am. We all wear masks to keep us safe but I am not ready to love. Isolation is not the answer and it’s been almost five years since I lost my partner. How are we supposed to love again when all we experienced was loss of the adults who were not supposed to abandon us? Hate to sound negative but I’m seeking these answers if anyone has any suggestions, I am all ears. Thank you if you read this comment ❤
I'm so sorry for all the pain you've been through. Losing loved ones and facing abandonment is really very hard, and it’s completely understandable to feel scared of loving again. Healing takes time, and it’s okay to not be ready yet. Be kind to yourself and take it one step at a time. It’s true, isolation doesn’t heal us, but finding safe ways to connect with others at your own pace might help. You’re not alone in these feelings, and it’s good that you’re seeking answers. I truly hope you find peace and healing. Sending you love and strength ❤
I totally understand u & feel the same....its just to painful/scarey...
"As long as we can love each other, and remember the feeling of love we had, we can die without ever really going away. All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there. You live on -- in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here." ~ Morris Schwartz
“What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” ~ Helen Keller
“Nothing in life is to be feared; it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” ~ Marie Curie
"Cycles of life and death can be likened to the alternating periods of sleep and wakefulness. Just as sleep prepares us for the next day’s activity, death can be seen as a state in which we rest and replenish ourselves for new life. In this light, death should be acknowledged, along with life, as a blessing to be appreciated." ~ Daisaku Ikeda
"Don't be afraid. Change is such a beautiful thing", said the Butterfly." ~ Sabrina Newby
“What is lovely never dies, but passes into another loveliness.” ~ Thomas Bailey Aldrich
"Quality of soul... it is our earthly floor, and heaven's door." ~ Paul Jung
"The melody that the loved one played upon the piano of your life will never be played quite that way again, but we must not close the keyboard and allow the instrument to gather dust. We must seek out other artists of the spirit, new friends who gradually will help us to find the road to life again, who will walk the road with us." ~ Joshua Loth Liebman
"The pain passes, but the beauty remains." ~ Henri Matisse
@@pauljung3534Beautiful quotations ~ Thank You 💖🙏
@@yourinnerchildmatters
Thank you for such a lovely, loving, supportive, well-said response to the above comment ~ blessSings all
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I needed to hear this today. Thank you 🙏
I'm really glad to hear that it resonated with you! Remember, we're all in this together.
❤it may be the only thing that ever does.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
In this powerful video, Dr. Gabor Maté, a well-known expert in trauma and healing, explores how love and self-compassion can heal us. Learn how being vulnerable helps us grow, the difference between trauma and stress, and why self-love is important for both your mind and body. Dr. Maté shares how listening to your heart and building self-worth can lead to real healing and happiness. If you’re ready to let go of feeling unworthy and discover the power of love, this video will guide you. Watch now to begin your healing journey!
#drgabormate, #HealingPowerOfLove, #OvercomeTrauma, #StressRelief, #DrNicoleLePera, #KendallJenner, #LoveHeals, #MotivationalSpeech,
Since I remember anything I was always put in the last place at "home" . Besides when I was in school where the teachers really loved me & appreciated me . later in some places where I worked . I never wanted to date anyone also from fearing any kind of intimacy ( home )which was where all my traumas were imprinted . For me family was a terrible experience. Both parents survived the Holocaust in extremely horrible horrific conditions . As a little kid & a young teenager my parents , concisely or unconsciously , were preparing us the kids for the 3rd world war . It was horrific. I was never hugged or kissed besides one time she held me for a photo opportunity. I remember crying for days , for years they couldn't attend to me , could show any concern or care besides technically issues like being fed far too much or washed.i had to be very clean all the time when going to & back from kindergarten or school make sure I slept so I wouldn't disturb them . I was taken to doctors my by my mom claiming that I was not eating enough . Ectually her subconscious fears was that the big starvation was going to start again tomorrow when the 3rd WW would start . I remember every meal I was crying because I refused to eat so much eventually I giving in to my mom . I was vormating still forced to eat whatever I vo.... . Cleanliness was another obsession of my mom because she told me how badly she suffered from bad hygiene during the Holocaust. If she could peel of her skin & my skin she would have done that too. The food was all what you call today organic , natural totally clean & must be fresh .No doctor could cope up with her standards . Everything on the technical side was more than perfect besides that ,as I mentioned, all was extreme . Till recently I used to wash my hands with a soap about 40 times a day or more . Never she could show or feel any positive emotions definitely no love or affection. She was always thinking negative .She was very aggressive & violent ( means that made her survive parts of the Holocaust when she wasn't totally hidden( like in the Ghetto ). Her mom bribed people to move her out of the Ghetto to a Catholic family where she was the one to get them food outside their home ) .
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m deeply sorry for the pain and trauma you’ve been through. It’s heartbreaking to hear how difficult your experiences were at home and how they shaped your life. Please know that your strength and courage in expressing your feelings are truly admirable. It’s never easy to go through what you’ve described, and I hope you are finding ways to heal. If sharing helps, I’m grateful you felt comfortable enough to do so here. Wishing you love, comfort, and peace on your journey. You are not alone. ❤ Bless you
@@מלי-ש4ג You are sure a " Chosen ONE". Good never gives US anythyng OUR nervous system cannot take. It hurts bad at Times, I lived It TOUGH and still sometimes.
You must have undergone a fit PREPARATION for the COMING SHIFT.
So. Good on You. You are READY FOR THE CRUSH.
LOVE BLESS
💯
Traumatised people (not everyone) have no idea what normal/true love or self love is.....its foreign to me...
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
I KNOW how You feel. I went through that. BUT asked for help, and getting Closer to TRUTH /REALITY/MEANING
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I don't understand myself! My life is good ! What do I create the worst case scenario before anything happens! Like a doctor appointment ! I'm always afraid something will happen to me and I'll have to handle this all by myself! We were abondanded mentally abused ! I just want to be free from myself
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. It's hard when your mind always expects the worst, even when things seem fine. Remember, you're not alone in this, and it's okay to feel scared sometimes. Healing from past hurt takes time, but you're strong, and reaching out is a big step. I hope you can find peace and feel free from these heavy thoughts. Take care of yourself. ❤
Attachment
Being understood
Stability, security
Needs met
I emerge
Thank you for sharing such insightful thoughts! It’s always encouraging to see others reflect on these important themes.
What is the higher self of this lady ? According to what theory ?
and the ancient jewish tradition to go to the mikveh. The purifying immersion pool.
Thank you for sharing that!
Will you be kind enough to explain what is a higher self ?
Thank you for your thoughtful question! 😊 Dr. Gabor Maté often talks about connecting with our true self, which can be similar to the idea of a ‘higher self.’ It’s about being in touch with who we really are, beyond fears, pain, and what others expect of us. It’s a deeper understanding of ourselves, with kindness and compassion. I hope this helps! ❤
Self Love did not work for me. I still know how limited I am. The only thing worked for me was Jesus Love 💕. He Knows How to Heal your Broken Heart ❤️🩹 😊❤
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's inspiring to see how faith can provide such deep healing. Your journey may resonate with so many others who feel the same way.
@@yourinnerchildmatters
Yes! I have heard many testimonies of self love. We don’t care! Whatever Works!