thank you very much After watching this video with Dr. Gabor Maté, I feel like I’ve gained such an important perspective on emotional wounds. Dr. Maté explains that many of us carry unresolved pain from our past, even if we're not fully aware of it, and that these emotional wounds can impact our relationships, mental health, and even physical well-being. He emphasizes that healing starts with acknowledging and understanding these past experiences, rather than pushing them away. His words really resonated-it’s like he’s saying we don’t need to "get over" our pain, but instead, we need to recognize it to truly heal. Thank you so much for sharing such eye-opening content!
I'm so glad to hear that the video resonated with you! Dr. Maté's insights truly offer a profound perspective on healing and understanding our emotional wounds.
An extended Primal Theoretical (≈ÆPT) explanation (by me) of mainly and most importantly ourselves has it that: Of all our social needs, the earliest, most fundamental and most consequential if deprived (the more completely deprived the more consequential) is the need for reassuring touch and close physical contact. If this need is going chronically unmet (or too protractedly so) it amounts to a predicament or ordeal that can be described, almost conventionally, as "quietly traumatising". The same description also befits circumstantial factors that most directly pose this kind of (for whatever prior reasons ended up under) threat/peril or (overly onerous) predicament. However, to me this expression is less than optimal because of the meaning-muddling common usage of the word "trauma". This is why it pleases me to be able to provide two alternative acronymic expressions; two of just a handful (5 or 6) of anthropogeny and human affairs explaining ’precision tools for thought' with which to grasp (lingual 'lenses' for gaining insight into and an overview of) those aspects, and one other closely related aspect, of what is going on. Those two ÆPT concepts (concEPTs) are some of the least unsuccessful results of my 'MAD-inspired' attempts at emulating the apt allusiveness and inbuilt defining logic of the nuclear arms race shaming acronym for "Mutually Assured Destruction".
@@yourinnerchildmattersAn extended Primal Theoretical (≈ÆPT) explanation (by me) of mainly and most importantly ourselves has it that: Of all our social needs, the earliest, most fundamental and most consequential if deprived (the more completely deprived the more consequential) is the need for reassuring touch and close physical contact. If this need is going chronically unmet (or too protractedly so) it amounts to a predicament or ordeal that can be described, almost conventionally, as "quietly traumatising". The same description also befits circumstantial factors that most directly pose this kind of (for whatever prior reasons ended up under) threat/peril or (overly onerous) predicament. However, to me this expression is less than optimal because of the meaning-muddling common usage of the word "trauma". This is why it pleases me to be able to provide two alternative acronymic expressions; two of just a handful (5 or 6) of anthropogeny and human affairs explaining ’precision tools for thought' with which to grasp (lingual 'lenses' for gaining insight into and an overview of) those aspects, and one other closely related aspect, of what is going on. Those two ÆPT concepts (concEPTs) are some of the least unsuccessful results of my 'MAD-inspired' attempts at emulating the apt allusiveness and inbuilt defining logic of the nuclear arms race shaming acronym for "Mutually Assured Destruction".
@@bkirstie : if the rest of your family is toxic and dysfunctional - better let go - and instead of trying to change those sick people - just try to get you help healing yourself - because we all do deserve healing from childhood trauma and their emotional wounds. May God bless you and heal your very body and soul.
Thank you for sharing your insight! It’s so important to highlight the role of co-regulation in therapy-your perspective really adds value to this conversation.thanks and bless you
I think there are too many negative comments on the Internet about therapy. Good therapy is very healing and overtime. It heals things that you didn’t even know needed to be fixed.!!! if you really get a good therapist and work hard, yes, it’s expensive but it’s worth it
@@katrinat.3032People need to determine what they believe 'good' therapy is while understanding what it is to be individuated and not become solely dependent on a therapist or else they enter the dangers of being gaslit, cultural biases and chance regressing. An interdependent relationship that offers review on goals, purpose, quality of support and feedback in order to retain and grow in family, interpersonal and social relationships is valuable. Safe space, (privacy disclosures - weather on line, digital spaces, in an office with laptops, phones, etc.) creating comfort agreements, taking time to get to your therapists background chosen philosophies and style, taking on an active role in your own healing and growth is key. Otherwise there's an amazing amount of on line support to help advance personal causes, yet all of it is traceable profiling on line. People have a choice to gather and grow in this via trust and standing upon the wild frontier of it all or take it on behind the scenes. Off line, with out social media, channels and profiling. The benefit of online support is that the materials are far-reaching areas that may not receive quality significant materials, and education and 'edutainment' which in one way is a traditional form of localized community healing and evolution. Thanks for mentioning the significance of having a therapist - including meeting them in person to maintain having an actual personable connection. People need, benefit and thrive from being in and amongst one another.
Thank you so much for sharing. It’s truly inspiring to hear that you're still healing and growing at 69 - that takes so much strength! Dr. Gabor’s work has such a deep impact, doesn’t it? Wishing you peace and encouragement as you finish Scattered Minds. Keep going - healing is a journey, and you’re doing great! ❤️❤️ bless you always!
Grateful for responses ..Sooo did not discover that I was neurodivergent, ADD and or ADHD... until about 1.5 yrs ago ...then discovered Dr. Gabor! Read Realms of Hungry Ghosts... Addiction... initially... Carrying On but he and all on this channel keep me going...Answer is not ADDERALL!!! I have friends that think so! Love and Light Debs
This is why compassion is important. His message is so logical and straight forward it should be common knowledge. Not excusing bad behaviour, but developing more compassion towards ourselves and others is very important.
Absolutely, compassion is so important. Dr. Gabor’s message really makes sense and feels like something everyone should know. Understanding ourselves and others doesn’t mean we’re excusing bad behavior-it just helps us all grow with more kindness. Thank you for sharing this!
My Compassion is faulty, as it tends to _excuse_ my bad behavior, e.g. "it's been a rough day, you deserve to get high and relax." I've always wondered how one goes about "developing more compassion." I treat myself unfairly, and if there ia a hidden COMPASSION switch somewhere, please share the Secret. :D
We need to be merciful and forgive our aggressors, if we want God to be merciful with us. Because we all are faulty. And now I can understand how some people can forgive even those who have killed a son or daughter.
@@akitajapan1651 We need to heal the wounded Inner Child. We don't need to forgive our brutal parents or agressors if we don't want, we need ONLY care for the poor, wounded Inner Child. And we will Fall in Love with ourselves and the world again. Every thing becomes new, like to the eyes of a child. _NAMASTE_ ∞
I am definitely the loneliest when I’m around a lot of people. It’s just this huge disconnect, like a gulf is separating us. It’s just hard when isolation feels like the answer but time goes by and you realize it’s only creating a bigger problem.
I understand exactly what you mean. Being around people but still feeling disconnected can feel so lonely. It’s like being close but feeling worlds apart. Isolation can feel like a safe answer sometimes, but you’re right-over time, it can make things harder. I hope you always remember that you’re not alone in feeling this way. There are people who truly understand and care about what you’re going through. Take it one step at a time. ❤️ bless you dear
I come back to Gabor's videos time and time again when things happen and I need to find a reason to understand them. Gabor not only makes such sense of trauma and past experiences but also gives us the opportunity to find a way of healing from all of the past. This man literally saved my life and I will always be eternally grateful to him for all his words of truth and wisdom.
Thank you so much for sharing your heartfelt words. It’s truly amazing how Gabor’s wisdom and understanding of trauma have helped you find healing and clarity. Knowing that his teachings have made such a difference in your life is incredibly moving. Wishing you continued strength and peace on your journey-you’re not alone. ❤️
Exciting video, A year ago I took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain sister , after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Living back with my mother due to her health has taught me so much about why I am what I am. It also taught me how I can avoid doing the same things in the future. I did not have a happy childhood. There were happy times, but they were few and far between.
Thank you so much for sharing this. It sounds like you’ve been on such a deep journey of understanding and healing. Going back to live with your mom and reflecting on your past must bring up so many feelings, both challenging and eye-opening. It’s truly brave of you to face it all and learn from it. Wishing you healing and peace as you continue moving forward
This doctor, Dr. Gabor, is the one, who led me to self help and self healing. Though I am not sure if it can be healed completely, but I do believe it is a journey to well being. Sometimes we have to live with the wounds and accept they are there so that we can carry on our lives. Thank you, Dr. Gabor! ❤
When I worked as a registered nurse we learned that wounds should be healed with moisture and not left to air dry as before. The same have I applied for healing my trauma wounds. When people speak about tough love I preach soft love and that we need a safe space to express our emotions. I've always needed a big cry now and then, to self soothe myself. Nobody could ever hold this safe space for me, until now with my man Daniel. I'm healing lymphoma and then more we can be together and authentic with our pains and wounds, I can feel my lymphoma is healing too. I've always felt alone and I've felt like I rather be alone than with people who can't handle it. No psychologist or friends or family have been able to be there for me. So I didn't neither even if I always have been sensitive towards others feelings and pains. My daughter has been through sexual abuse and she's been hardened and me as her mom is authentic and soft loving. Because of this she acts very narcissistic towards me and keep herself distanced from the ones who truly love and care about her. I can feel her scares arising and she lashes out towards me, when I show her love and affection. I pray and hope we someday can meet common ground. I love how openly you both speak about your trauma. This made me feel safe and that I'm not responsible for my daughters coping mechanism for her trauma. Much soft healing energy from my heart to yours who struggle. We're not alone even if we feel lonely. And you guys make me feel less alone. Thank you✨🧡💙🧡✨
Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful, heartfelt message. Your words really resonated with me. It’s so powerful how you’ve connected the healing of your physical and emotional wounds. Soft love is truly what we need, especially when facing such deep pain. I’m so glad that you’ve found a safe space with Daniel, and I hope that your healing journey continues to bring you peace and connection. It’s clear how deeply you care for your daughter, and I believe your love will eventually reach her, even if it feels hard right now. Healing is a process, and it’s so comforting to know that we are not alone in this. Thank you again for your openness. Sending you all the soft healing energy and love. Bless you sweet angel nurse!
@yourinnerchildmatters oh thank you for your beautiful feedback. It really touch deep inside my heart and soul and my tears start running. Thanks you beautiful brother from another mother 🥰😭🥰 Together we heal all the hard feels. I truly feel heald by your supporting words🥰🥰
I act the way you're daughter does it sounds like. If I was kind forever, at this point no one would forgive me anyway, so there's no point. People want you to be perfect. Why try to please them?
@@MorganHyde-ie5ru it's not about being kind forever because I put boundaries. She doesn't blame me for what happened but she is in trauma reaction and have been building a defense to not break. I keep being myself and I'm not a bulldozing mom. I feel sad about what I see but don't put up with her behavior. This video was very healing for my trauma of not knowing about the abuse and that I've been carrying blame for not knowing and seeing this when it happened.
Thank you so much for your vulnerable share. It means a lot to me to hear your journey. It is a grace and gratitude to be able to be aware take care of yourself as well be able to be soft, and assertive yet connective too!! I can really relate to your discovery for how in your recognition to heal your lymphoma, particular space is NEEDED and you stated why and how. I see and honor you in this.... Your willingness is a bridge builder and leaves room for change to make way - when you demonstrate creating sound boundaries. I've lived through a very similar circumstance, though could see all the brokeness, pains and growing dis-eases that had a life of it's own in the entropy of intergenerational wounds gone unaccounted. The gaping holes and interweaving veins of threaded pains from grandparents and generations desiring a new path through it all. Just when one part of a generation senses they're setting themself free, it's virtually a layer that's being stripped away - not getting to the heart or root of shared family traumas, community and societal wounding. The discovering of the wound and awareness is so embedded. For example - when my own Mom may've been most receptive to grow with me - I may've been them slipping into pain and numbness realizing her lack of not being there for her youthfulness and lack of awareness - was a point where my upset was amassing for feelings gone repeatedly denied and unexpressed. How could she know and act upon a new example if she herself didn't have enough of an example? After having feelings stuffed for 15+ years it built up strong feelings trapped and came out 'sideways' and then not having supportive help and running into starting a youthful long term life relationship was just a repeat of part of the family brokeness that had built as a generational pattern for 20 years. The pain exploded in me feeling lost and abandoned by her in those trapped blindspots of hers, which became mine and I projected them outwards again, looking for approval and love in all the wrong places, becoming needy, judgemental and even intimidating at times towards others. It takes a lot of undoing of those patterns when it ultimately comes down to a repeat of abandonment, lack of feeling safe, shaming, guilt in having been made a scapegoat for being taken in and lack of expression being pillaged. A pattern of protecting forceful means over others as being the sole way to survive under a massive loss of trust, which only promotes controlling people...... and loss of true connection. As I cannot speak to your experience, all I can say is in mine - that healing the lashing out and chaotic behaviors originate whereby providing first an invitation (not labeling others) for safe space. Having the courage to be vulnerable and express the downfall or fallout with care. (I tried to convey this to my family for my regressions - they rejected it for not being in their own safe space, as of yet.) What so important IS to individuate in creating one's own accountability for themselves. If a parent didn't have a chance to individuate and a child/adult child doesn't consciously get an opportunity to integrate this too, it provides a long journey out. A parentified child suffers until they can sit in their own willingness and creativity to see a way beyond their ailments, dis-eases in life. Building awareness in creating an invitation for a comfort agreement and safe space to acknowledge the need for taking on an other, as a part of you - let's others know you ultimately do care about them. It's important knowing no one is what happened to them. It provides re/building trust and reassurance that if, as a parent you did abandon (consciously or not), or as a child/adult-child - you too (consciously or not) then abandoned your parent(s) or guardians - that you all now see, honor and work to establish means to safely grow together - beyond betrayals, losses, wounds. Ultimately safe space needs to be held and cultivated in each individual first and foremost as an individuated practice to allow for room to effectively grow together. The awesome thing is in establishing a practice in doing this work - can be in and amongst a safe group of chosen community that sees you, in also wanting for your growth and care. You are advancing in this lifetime of yours. May where you are in this bring on all the more opportunities to multiply on the healing(s) and life activation to thrive!! In holding preferable discussions - actually slowing down having the feelings, the sensitivity and connectivity in reciprocity is vital to healing and growing. Being in on line conversations, doesn't always allow for that level of needed reciprocity. (Albeit my tech skills and time to have discourse is all too limited.) I wish you all the best in self-care and building that bridge - together - knowing ultimately your daughter and your lineage will always be a part of one another. Just know with your already ages ahead awareness - you're providing an opportunity as an example. Here's to closing the gap so others can witness this need sooner in healing intergenerational traumas and provide a most excellent roadmap toward living an abundant and prosperous life in cultivating the growing of compassion, peace, love and joy for generations to come. 💗🙏🏼💖
Fear is Greater than Love. A real man spends time with his family, doesn’t run away from his problems. It’s easy to leave your family. It takes a real man to bring good change to your family.
@ yes ofcourse there are always exceptions in those types of cases. But even in cases where one spouse has mental health challenges they stayed and recovered through therapy and other ways.
Not sure about term of use for 'real man' yet I could see saying perhaps a 'supportive man' who makes time to understand himself, his family to bring about collective change in the face of fear builds character with a foundation of love. This too being for women, non-binary and all ages to take on in the role modeling of values and taking on of personal meaning and purpose. Bringing out compassion and leadership within one another amongst a family and chosen community is key. Including listening, encouraging personal growth and support and taking on necessary resources to see everyone be in support, have a way to be expressive, communicate and grow - be it via any combination of culturally sensitive counsel, the arts, self-care and discovering co-creative means for interplay. Thank you for expressing a desire for families to grow together by growing beyond fears, in listening, acknowledging and hearing one another - knowing a foundation of love cultivated in one's self allows a prime needed example for instilling same in generations to come. ❤
As someone that was sexually abused as a child for years, that is exactly the experience and how it feels especially the isolation and lonely part. Even after 40 years.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you've been through. Thank you for sharing something so deeply personal here. It's truly heartbreaking how the pain of childhood abuse can stay with us for so many years, and how the feelings of isolation and loneliness can linger. Please know you’re not alone, and there are people who care and want to support you. Your voice matters, and sharing your experience can be a powerful step. Sending you lots of virtual hugs.
I understand your concern. It’s hard to imagine how society will change with so many people going through trauma. But I believe that by supporting each other, sharing our stories, and focusing on healing together, we can make progress. Healing is a journey, and we can all be part of it.
yes! it’s like what teal swan always says - “it’s kinda silly for us to believe that we will heal relational trauma, which is most trauma, outside of relationships. it’s like expecting to get over a fear by never addressing and experiencing scary things.”
Thank you for sharing that insight! Teal Swan's perspective is powerful, and it’s always great to see others recognizing the importance of relational healing.
I believe it is a lot lot deeper than that because there are actually 4 people involved in every relationship. ( two adults and two inner children) The relationship that one must deal with is that of the inner child within themselves to get to the root of their problems. When the healthy adult is looking after their healthy inner child, they will always have healthy relationships with those that they choose to share themselves with on every level. The very reason why relationships break down is because one or both people continually has inappropriate hurtful behaviour or poor ,toxic communication skills towards the other. Dictatorships,emotional abuse,verbal abuse,physical abuse,sexual abuse,infidelity,addictions ,abandonment,gaslighting,stonewalling are some examples of a wounded child acting out as an unhealthy adult….. A healthy adult would never allow someone else to emotionally,physically,verbally,sexually abuse a child and they wouldn’t allow them to lie,cheat,steal,gaslight,stonewall and be an addict in the presence of a child or towards a child. Therefore, if we want to understand relationships, we need to go deeply into the relationship we have with our adult self and our inner child! A healthy adult would never allow anyone to do any of these negative things towards them because they would be protecting the happy healthy child within themselves immediately.
It works like exposure therapy You gotta be in the «same» environment to be able to be triggered and then rewire your brain/fears/traumas by processing, self regulating/ soothing and accepting so it will pass/fully process it is not necessary to understand it, but to acknowledge it fully, validate and ideally get a different/better outcome - healing
Thank you so much for this video and impressive sharing in the comments.I discovered dr.Gabor in the last few months and he really does provide the highlights of our own healing journey.Even though my English is not well ,I struggle to listen and understand .And I listen again and again .Living with traumas is very difficult and exhausting.I have always been aware of this ,but while I struggled how to heal,I raised three children and now they are going through a difficult time psychologically.Guilt has been added to my traumas and I see myself passing them on to my chidren and this make me feel so helpless 😢😢
Thank you so much for your heartfelt comment. I can feel the weight of what you're going through, and I admire your strength and dedication to your healing journey. It’s not easy, especially when you’re also trying to support your children. Please know that you're not alone in this. It’s okay to struggle and take your time to heal. Healing is a process, and even small steps forward count. I truly hope you find peace, and that you and your children can begin to heal together. You're doing your best, and that’s enough. Take care of yourself 💖 sending you lots of virtual hugs. Bless you dear 💖
Keep holding on to God. No matter what may be trying to keep you down, keep looking up to God. He will always be your hand in helping you get back up. We serve God who can do all things. Romans 8:31 tells us, “What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?” this means that no man, woman, boy or girl is a threat to the purpose God placed on the inside of you. This means that the Only way you experience defeat is when you surrender. In moments of worry and anxiety, we are called to bring our concerns before God in prayer. Instead of allowing anxiety to consume us, we can find peace and comfort in knowing that the Almighty God is attentive to our needs for He cares for us deeply. In the storms of life, God is our only hope. His faithfulness and His goodness are present Even during the darkest storm. We have a lot of growing up to do. we should continue to grow in our relationship with God, and there is no point where we can say we've "had enough" Jesus tells his followers not to worry about food, drink, clothing, or tomorrow, and instead to seek first God's kingdom and righteousness and He will give us everything we need. Give thanks and be appreciative of the small and big things that God is doing in your life. Doing that means that you are looking for God throughout your day. You’re looking for God in your situation. You’re looking for God in your struggles and your pains, and keeping your focus on God instead of focusing on all the bad that’s going on. It’s what God wants you to do. He wants you to keep your eyes on Him. for the Lord will give you understanding in everything. The reason why Jesus tells us not to be anxious is because the Father cares for us. He has your back and will help you through anything, all you have to do is Repent and have Faith. The Bible teaches that God's sovereignty is an essential aspect of who He is, that He has supreme authority and absolute power over all things. There is nothing that God is not in control of. Everything that happens, God either causes to happen or He allows it to happen. However, Everything God does is done in love. There is always some reason for it, and for those who love God and are called according to His purpose, He will work everything out for good. Ultimately, the enemies we face, are not people or objects. It is not our body, It is not physical enemy. we know we don't want to die because dying bodies always end up fighting to survive. Our battle is indeed spiritual, In each of those cases, we can choose to fight the wrong battles, or we can rest knowing God is fighting for us. We fight this war by daily putting on the whole armor of God, always praying, standing firm in the Word of God, and staying alert. We need to live each day guided by an eternal perspective. So rest in knowing that when you keep holding on, you will see that in your weakness, God will be your strength. John 14:27 "Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid."
This eye opening video of Dr. Gabor Maté really touched me. It's amazing how he explains the difference between stress and trauma and the ways these experiences shape us. So many of us carry invisible wounds, and sometimes we don’t even realize how they affect our lives, our relationships, and our self-worth. If you’ve ever felt alone with your struggles or wished you could be more true to yourself, this video might be exactly what you need today. Please watch, share, and let us know your thoughts below. How has facing or understanding trauma helped you grow? You never know who might find comfort or encouragement from your story. #healingjourney, #selfawareness, #traumahealing, #emotionalgrowth, #vulnerability, #mentalhealthawareness, #DrGaborMate
I've found that "doing your work" alone can be really helpful, but really significantly greater levels of healing happen with others involved. One person like a therapist is good, a group thing is better and a community is best with mutual sharing, mutual striving and genuine relationships formed.
@@JimBillyRayBob Agreed! At 51 years old, I knew when was best just to go it alone on certain things. That being said, I like the title of this video because, like the good doc says here, it's really good to exchange solutions to tough problems with who's been there before
I have written a book, Love on a Faultline, Cecile Ravell, which addresses a relationship with a "wounded child". Gabor Matè explains this so well. He is a wonderful, compassionate human being whom I resonate with
Thank you for sharing. Your book Love on a Faultline sounds beautiful and meaningful, especially with its focus on relationships and the ‘wounded child.’ Gabor Maté truly has a gift for explaining these deep topics with compassion. Wishing you all the best with your book! ❤bless you
Thank you for your kind comment! I agree, Dr. Gabor’s work is truly amazing. Family Constellation work is so powerful too-it's wonderful how both approaches help us heal and grow.
More people need to listen and take note of Dr Gabor and these podcasts … everything dr Gabor says makes perfect sense, why are so many people in denial ?? Thank goodness after my traumatic childhood/ adolescence resulting in being a very unhappy messed up adult for such a long time, I was lucky I worked it out.. worked on myself. But here there is help . These podcasts should be talked about on tv. Written about in big newspapers .. we need to spread the word . ❤ thanks Dr Gabor .. keep these podcasts flowing, they are fascinating 😌
Thank you so much for sharing your story and for your kind words! 💖 It’s amazing to hear how you’ve worked through so much and found healing. You’re so right - Dr. Gabor’s insights really do make sense, and the more people hear these messages, the more lives can be touched. We’ll keep sharing to help spread the word. Thank you for being here with us! 🌟❤
@ thanks for your lovely response . One day there maybe a breakthrough with all this as long as we never give up.. and keep spreading the world with the help of peoples stories and admissions about what they have been through ..I’m so very passionate about this, I could shout if from the rooftops ! If you ever want to hear my story and how I got there.. and how I sustain this peace in my life, I have ways for this and one of them is not getting sucked into the toxic social media / phone addiction. JOMO is key! Joy of missing out ! No smartphone.. no social media .. only UA-cam and an iPad I strictly keep at home .. give me an old little Nokia anyway !
I had selective mutism as a kid and a few years ago it finally dawned on me the timing of it all(had been sexually abused by another child prior). The anger I feel at my parents for not doing enough to help me and the shame I felt as a result of not being good enough has really affected me. A recent experience at a church triggered these old memories and it’s been really painful accepting and trying to heal all of this.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm so sorry you went through such a painful experience and that it's still affecting you now. It takes a lot of strength to face those memories and try to heal from them. Please know that your feelings are valid, and it’s okay to feel both anger and sadness. Healing is a journey, and it sounds like you are taking brave steps. Be kind with yourself, and remember that you deserve compassion and peace. You’re not alone in this. big hugsss
Been alone my whole life... You know what's worse then being alone... Being with people that make you feel alone... I have begged people for help and been pushed aside for their own selfish purposes... People are the problem... They could be the solution... Funny how that works.
I'm very sorry to hear you feel this way. Being around people who don’t truly see or support us can feel even lonelier than being alone. It’s truly hard to feel alone, especially when you're around people who don’t make you feel seen or valued. You’re right-people can bring so much hurt, but they can also bring healing and connection. I just want you to know that there are people out there who genuinely care and understand. Sometimes, it takes time, but there are kind souls who can make a difference.. I hope you find those who truly care and support you. sending virtual hugs from me to you. bless you!
I want to thank you for the layouts in this video. It made it so easy to understand. Sometimes i find these topics a bit difficult to listen to but you made it easier with the text, the pauses with pictures and text and really good sound. Thank you❤
Thank you so much for your kind words! ❤ I'm really happy to hear that the layouts, text, and pauses helped make the topic easier to follow. Your feedback means a lot to me, and I’ll keep working to make my videos clear and enjoyable for everyone. Thank you for watching and sharing this-it truly motivates me!
Thank you for this video about childhood wounds and how they affect us as adults. Outbursts of rage. I can relate. If you are yourself and open up about emotional pain people leave so after awhile i quit talking and become a stranger to myself. Losses so hard to take. Especially friendships.❤
I truly appreciate you taking the time to share your experience. It takes a lot of courage to open up about emotional pain, and your words resonate with many. Thank you for being part of this conversation!
I wash not lucky enough to find me a real good trauma therapist - in 3 decades. I am very grateful for therapists and experts like Dr. Gabor Maté - if I listen to him not only once - but again and again as times goes by - its almost like having a therapy session right with him. His words and his compassion are like a real healing session for my very heart and soul. Jesus, my invisible friend even does know how precious those video sessions are for traumatized people like me. May everybody here on the comment section get blessed and healed by Jesus and people like Dr. Maté. Amen and may GOD bless you all.🙏❤🧡💛
I really appreciate your heartfelt comment. It’s wonderful how the right words can feel like a healing hug. Wishing you continued strength on your journey!
There are an extremely rare number of quality therapist. I never found a good one either. Support groups are beneficial as are quality therapists on UA-cam.
Actually heart centering prayer as taught by Father Keaton of the Episcopal Church can also bring me to bliss. I’m not a member of that denomination but learned it from a priest in our community who was Catholic & had a near death experience on a soccer field as a young man. He went to Japan & learned to meditate in a Buddhist temple then returned to Snowmass Colorado to a famous monastery before deciding to marry. Then he became an Episcopal priest but kept the best of all he’d discovered. The night he sat cross legged in the sanctuary & used a Tibetan singing bowl to teach anyone interested how to meditate is when I sent straight to bliss on his cassock tails & it felt like a spiritual orgasm! There was a dove in my heart & I could feel those wings gently touching the walls of my chest cavity ✨ I was hooked & now go to bliss in a few deep breaths after dropping my mind into my heart then breathing there as I repeat a simple mantra as I float free of my physical body. Many paranormal experiences have come from this method that include clairvoyant interaction with souls at the light level as well as those still here on earth
Thank you so much for sharing this! It’s wonderul how heart-centered prayer and meditation can bring such deep peace. Your story-from learning with Father Keaton to finding your own way to bliss-is really inspiring. I love how you’ve woven together different spiritual paths to make something so personal and meaningful. Being able to reach that calm and clarity with just a few breaths is such a gift. Thanks for the beautiful reminder of what these practices can bring us. 🙏
Trauma will make the sanest person act completely irrational. Feelings are meant to be expressed otherwise it will manifest itself in some other horrible way or it will explode like a ticking time bomb. I was in an intense situation and my childhood wounds came to the surface in one horrible moment. I felt, and this very important, i felt, like i was trapped, like danger was encroaching on me from every direction. I had a freeze response, stopped talking, lost bowl movements, and couldnt get back into my body. It was like death in the sense my nervous system shut down and i couldn't find words or fathom what was wrong. This started my journey into learning everything there is too do psychology, personality, traumas, and mental health. Since my endeavours ive discovered my preconceptions of what happened when i was a child were not nice but they were a result of my parents inability to face their own demons. I was yelled at a lot and struck a few times but nothing like others have experienced. My reaction to negative situations has always been a sore spot for me and only now i am aware of my triggers i am now discovering the psychologist had a wrong. I have had multiple diagnosis including schizophrenia, bpd, ptsd, depression and anxiety. And i am very overwhelmed often especially when stress ensues. I believe i have adhd because the source of my issues arise from me wanting to argue, not being able to follow instructions, memory issues, frustration and anger, a deep sadness when i perceive no one will ever understand how not normal i feel as some days just normal shit feels impossible. Education is needed so ppl are aware the processing of feelings and how to manage your thinking is a MUST ❤
Thank you for sharing your story-it takes so much courage to open up. Trauma can truly make us feel trapped and disconnected, and your journey into understanding psychology and mental health is inspiring. It’s frustrating to feel misunderstood, especially with so many diagnoses, but your self-awareness and willingness to learn are powerful. ADHD traits, combined with other challenges, can feel overwhelming, but your efforts to heal and process your emotions are a big step forward. Please know that your feelings are valid, and you’re not alone in this. There are people out there who do understand, and your bravery in sharing this helps others feel less alone too. Keep going-you’re on a path of healing, and that’s so beautiful. ❤ bless you and take care always
@yourinnerchildmatters thank you for your support. Awareness is a must for me and being outside my thoughts. The mind is a powerful thing indeed. I couldn't understand why i react i do in certain situations but now i am starting to get an understanding and by delving deeper into the why, at least for me, can help those around me who are effected by my shortcomings. 😊
At the moment I have a fresh wound but on closer inspection & with the tools I have gained over the past few years, I am able to see that this fresh wound is on old scar tissue. To closed & desensitized untill recut, now is the perfect time while it hurts to see if I can see where & what the original wound was , Gabor thank you for your truly great insights , I am so glad I came across your work/passion . To be honest It hurts like hell but I must be brave dig a little deeper .❤
Thank you so much for watching this video and sharing your journey. I deeply admire your courage to face such a painful process and your willingness to dig deeper to understand and heal. It’s not easy, but it’s so powerful that you’re using this moment to uncover the roots of your wound. I’m truly inspired by your bravery and reflection.
@yourinnerchildmatters thank you I appreciate your heartfelt words ❤️. I asked for many years to be able to see these things as i did a lot of inner work but the deep stuff was unavailable or I was unable to see it, eckhart tolle was telling a story of a woman when things went wrong she said i cant be spiritual now. & he says "the time when things are going the most wrong is the time you should be spiritual." we continue to learn & to unlearn certain things & to work on ourselves till we no longer need to . thank you for your content & great channel ❤️🕉
I wasn’t highly functioning or looked okay from the outside I actually became so fearful and “shy” that I couldn’t and didn’t talk anymore, my nervous system was a wreck. My abuse was very specific in the way my abuser wanted to socially humiliate me , he liked to spit at me every time I made eye contact with him so by the time I was 5 yo I was “ painfully shy”. Sometimes, disorders like Autism and Adhd are actually the result of child abuse, not that the child doesn’t have those disorders at all, but the symptoms are made much more profound and worse by abuse, then the cycle of blame starts from teachers and parents.
I'm so deeply sorry for what you've experienced. It's very brave of you to share this, and I want you to know that you're not alone. The pain and isolation you describe are real, and it's heartbreaking to hear that it’s lasted for so long. Please be kind to yourself, and know that healing is possible, even if it feels like it takes time. You deserve support and understanding.
Dr. Gabor Mate shares valuable insights into trauma and emotional wounds, helping us understand why we feel certain ways and how our past can affect us. But if people listen to him every day, I believe they might actually start to feel more depressed. Focusing constantly on trauma, pain, and unresolved emotions can keep us anchored in those heavy feelings. There’s a fine line between understanding our struggles and letting them become the main story of our lives.
Thank you for sharing this perspective. 😊 It’s true that too much focus on painful experiences can sometimes feel heavy. Dr. Gabor Maté's insights are meant to help us understand and heal, but balance is important too, so we don’t get stuck in those feelings. I really appreciate your thoughtful reflection-finding that balance is something we all need. ❤
Gabor Mate always touches me with his explanations on trauma. I had no idea I was traumatised until I was in my 60's!! I achieved absolutely NOTHING throughout life apart from becoming transgender! All because of horrific sexual abuse as a baby and child! When you're traumatised to that degree, you don't 'make friends' - instead predators seek you out to prey on you! This has been life long experience. I have always been alone! The mother (Evelyn Patricia Kremer/Claydon) was satanic!! The father (Michael Kremer) was a paedo!!
Thank you for sharing such a deep part of your story. It takes lots of courage to speak about your experiences, and I'm so sorry for the pain you've endured. Gabor Maté’s insights touch so many, and it's inspiring to see how understanding trauma can help us on our journeys, even later in life. Please know you're not alone in this, and that your voice and truth are powerful. Wishing you healing and peace ahead. ❤ bless you
Addiction is such a complex and deeply personal experience, and you're absolutely right that trauma often plays a big role in it. It’s heartbreaking to think about the pain people carry that leads them down that path. Let’s keep having these conversations with kindness and understanding-everyone deserves support and healing. bless you
My Parents left me as a 2 year old to my maternal (for 4 years) Grandparents ( whom I adored) but still longed for my Mother's love. As a Teenager,I was rebellious and always longed for validation from my Parents.Growing up with six siblings we grew up being compared from each other and we seem to be in constant competition from each other.It was exhausting.I can never please my Father.
Thank you so much for watching this video and sharing your story. I can feel how deeply this has impacted your life, and I truly admire your strength in opening up about it. Growing up longing for love and validation is such a heavy burden to carry, especially with the challenges of comparison and competition in a big family. Please remember, your worth is not defined by anyone else’s approval. You are enough just as you are. Sending you lots of kindness and support on your journey.
My wounds came from autoimmune diseases and dysregulation which were diagnosed after 30 years. Whenever my autoimmune conditions reactivates pain, then I go through derealization/dissociation.
Good grief… my Mum saw her classmates annihilated in a German bomb drop across the road. A few years later I was born. I can’t remember my early life but I know it was traumatic.
This is what worked for Him personally I guess. I disagree about authenticity. But that's a nice thing to suggest. I have been authentic a very long time, it didn't change a thing and I am still alone without family or friends. The CPTSD ruined my life. I had hope it wouldn't but it did.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and your experience. I'm truly sorry to hear how hard it's been for you, and I can only imagine the pain that CPTSD has brought into your life. Being authentic is hard, especially when it doesn’t always lead to the connections we hope for. Please remember, your story and feelings are valid, and you're not alone in this journey. There are people out here who care and want to listen. I hope, little by little, things get easier for you. Sending you virtual hug, bless you.
When I meet up with friends and family, I mostly have to tell myself, “stfu, no one cares about your thoughts, opinions, or knowledge.” It’s very lonely in a crowd…
I’m so sorry you feel this way. It can be really tough feeling like no one is interested in what you have to say. Remember, your thoughts and opinions do matter, and there are people out there who care and want to listen. Sometimes it just takes time to find the right people who appreciate you for who you are, and don’t stop being yourself. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's important to acknowledge how trauma can affect us as adults. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and it's okay to seek support.
Same! But I am much happier, healthier, and at peace. Everything and Every person with whom we surround ourselves. Our world is full of toxicity , literally! Pay heed to what goes in your mind, body, and soul. 😊
Recognizing our wounds and scars is the first step toward healing. Setting realistic goals is key to managing them effectively. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. It's tough to carry the weight of emotional wounds, especially when they involve loved ones. Remember, healing takes time, and it’s okay to seek support.
The trouble is when we are our authentic selves people judge punish and reject us for it which can also lead to isolation and lonliness. Easy to say harder to do.
Everyone individuals are individually unique . Everyone has their ownself mental health issues which is extremely important and challenging complicated very fragile like very thin glass only one ownself knows how they go through each and everyday..one must understand that with distinctiveness with understanding . Everyone is suffering differently in different ways different measures. Be kind to ownself and to everyone as much you can. First understand ownself be kind and forgive ownself for being hard on yourself. Thank you .
Thank you for sharing such a thoughtful comment! It’s so important to remind ourselves and others about the significance of understanding and kindness in our lives. bless you and thanks again
7:29 The non-existent Free Will. A question that begged for solution in my mind since my senior high school days. Only reached my own sad conclusion of this void after a lifetime experiencing discord and discontent among my fellow humans. It is an idealized concept out of reach for our species, even though, we invented it.
Thank you for sharing this thought. It’s heartbreaking to think about how people, especially across generations, are deeply affected by living in constant fear and danger. Growing up in such conditions can have lasting effects on their lives, often causing pain and struggles well into adulthood. Sending love and strength to all who have been through this.
Great video. I have found hypnotherapy was a good modality for me to heal many trauma wounds from past lives. My physical illnesses slowly began to improve as I released and healed the old energy of the past that led to the wounds.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! It’s wonderful to hear that hypnotherapy has helped you heal and release old energy from the past. It’s amazing how powerful inner healing can be, even for our physical health. Wishing you continued peace and strength on your healing journey. 🙏
I have been authentic in my pain, but I got more isolated,judged and everyone made it worse, my authenticity only made it worse becausebsociety is not ready to face the truth of pain and how difficult it is to heal, with todays methods. I need real mentor and real medicine but its deniad because im poor
I'm truly sorry to hear about the pain you're going through. Being honest and open about what you're feeling takes so much strength, and it can be so hard when others don’t understand or respond with the support you need. You're not alone in feeling this way. Healing is a journey, and I hope you can find people who see and respect your truth. Remember that your story matters, and there are people who genuinely care and want to help. Please don’t give up on finding that support; you deserve compassion and healing, no matter what.
Yes, it's very difficult to heal when you have zero support and can't afford to seek support. Not everyone has loved ones, or supportive people in their life. Some people are truly alone. We're told to get the support- which always requires money.. heavy sigh.
Thank you for your perspective. I understand what you’re saying Jewish people and atheist find their peace in rituals, New Age and Ayahuasca. We, Christians have Jusus. Is that simple. You can not advocate it bc of yur roots and beliefs I guess Being Christian you dont need Ayahuasca just relay on Him and He will lead you and you will feel loved and healed.
@ramonaharter6407 even prayer is a ritual. People have been so misled and ignorance and fear (deeply rooted in societal constructs) keep them from seeing it. Fear is a great weapon. Keeps us limited. That's how 1 percent rule over us. Religious trauma has caused such a negative impact in society.. I didn't realize how much it had effected me personally until starting the process of self development/healing. Once your eyes open to what you were previously oblivious of, you can't unsee.. also why they say ignorance is bliss 😆.
@ in my case was the opposite. I was mot religious at all, but sth was missing so I turned into New Age spirituality but after a long long journey I find my peace in Jesus. Me and my husband both at the same time… its crazy as we were suppose to separate but Christianity will bring us back together
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Loneliness can be really hard, especially when it feels like everyone has left. One thing that helped me was focusing on things that bring me joy and peace, even small things like listening to music, reading, or going for a walk. Sometimes, connecting with ourselves can bring a sense of comfort. Remember, you’re not alone in this feeling, and there are people out there who understand. Take it one step at a time. sending you a lots of virtual hugsss
I'm so sorry to hear you've been through so much. Dealing with this every day must be incredibly hard. Remember, you’re not alone, and sometimes small steps can make a difference. Please keep taking care of yourself, and know there are people who care and want to help. Sending you strength and kindness. ❤️
You’re not alone. You can make tiny changes/moves in a new direction. Keep asking yourself, how good can it get? And throughout the day acknowledge the good. For me sometimes it’s just the sun shining or the beautiful clouds changing form or meeting up with a salamander. Allow and revel in what is good.
How can we be full perants when we were not tought ,we can follow our instincts but we still cant relate to some things as all we had was abuse How do we explaine this to OUR children ????
Thank you for sharing this. It’s truly hard to be the parents we want to be when we didn’t have a good example growing up. Trusting your instincts is already a big step, and even though it’s tough, just being aware and open to change means you’re already doing better for your kids. Sometimes, it helps to be honest with them in simple words - let them know that you’re learning and trying your best. You don’t have to have all the answers right now. The love and effort you’re putting in make a real difference.
он маn, almost same thik, i.last time pee in bad i was like, 11, 12, 13 i can't remember exactly, and i was also interupt tha claastimeates, the teacher nonstop callin my parent' (seperated) by the way! But we live in good and love from now to the last day oof our life's ❤❤
Great topic, trully interesting, very valuable. Pity ot the video caracterizations of Dr. Maté words... it really takes out the attention of his words and your questions. Maybe these videos look childish. We do not need to see pleple laughing when he mentions a person that is happy. etc.
Thank you for your question! It's important to clarify these things, and I appreciate your attention to detail. I always aim to follow Fair Use guidelines, which allow us to share clips for commentary and educational purposes. Also, I’ve included a link to the full episode in the description for anyone who wants to see the entire interview. I truly appreciate your understanding and support! bless you
Is there anyone in the World, infj, Infp, anyone, who does see the wounds of narcissts, borderliners, avoidants ans co? They seem to be hated the most along the Web, cause their behaviors are not best, and People Tell "they have no feelings and they can not be healed." So what would Jesus gave Done? The behaviors are not ok sure, can be trained and understood rationally, if not emotionally, but May I ask: Where in this world is the compassion for those souls who act angry and cold? I still think uts not liked they full know, but their System goes Autopilot. I don't know what to do, but in this World I see lots of wounded souls. Still I believe in a compassion that not is crying for reciprocity "love me, like me and I like u back", but such as: "Being strong enough not needing love and like from others and still giving empathy, compassion and having healthy boundaries. To me it looks like there are lots of grown People, still interacting out of their wounded child. Strange World. Blessings.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts so openly. You’ve touched on something really important-so many people are hurting, acting from their wounds, often without even realizing it. It’s true that behaviors like anger and coldness can push others away, but behind those walls, there’s usually pain and fear, not malice. Compassion doesn’t mean excusing harmful actions, but it does mean seeing the human behind the behavior. Healing is possible, even for those who seem unreachable, but it takes time, understanding, and boundaries-just like you said. You’re right; it’s a strange and wounded world, but your belief in compassion without needing anything in return is so inspiring. If more people thought like you, the world could become a kinder place. Blessings to you too.
There is far, far too much social emphasis on emotional wounds! Everyone has them. But traumas can and do heal. Self-pity does as much harm in the long run as the problems. What people really need is the GUTS to get on with it.
You make an important point! Healing from emotional wounds is definitely a journey that requires courage and action. It's all about finding that balance between acknowledging our pain and pushing forward.
Hi there, thank you so much for watching the video and sharing your story. ❤️ It sounds like you care deeply for your partner, and that’s such a beautiful thing. Supporting someone with borderline personality can be challenging at times, but your love and understanding can make a big difference. Remember to take care of yourself too-you matter just as much. Sending you lots of strength and kindness! 🙏bless you
@yourinnerchildmatters thank you very much for your kind words. That's really helping me and it's difficult to ask for my personal space. But I keep claiming that space, even though it makes him break up with me a 1000 times out of fear of abandonment.
@yourinnerchildmatters after he breaks up with me, I just go to his house and give him a hug to let him know that I won't leave. Then, in one minute, he is calm and happy again. I just don't listen to his negative bla bla. It helps that I won't let him speak negative in my face. He does his negative thoughts on letters, and he gives them to me. It's a lot of 'I'm going to leave you' bla bla. He doesn't mean his mean words.
thank you very much After watching this video with Dr. Gabor Maté, I feel like I’ve gained such an important perspective on emotional wounds. Dr. Maté explains that many of us carry unresolved pain from our past, even if we're not fully aware of it, and that these emotional wounds can impact our relationships, mental health, and even physical well-being. He emphasizes that healing starts with acknowledging and understanding these past experiences, rather than pushing them away. His words really resonated-it’s like he’s saying we don’t need to "get over" our pain, but instead, we need to recognize it to truly heal. Thank you so much for sharing such eye-opening content!
I'm so glad to hear that the video resonated with you! Dr. Maté's insights truly offer a profound perspective on healing and understanding our emotional wounds.
An extended Primal Theoretical (ŮPT) explanation (by me) of mainly and most importantly ourselves has it that:
Of all our social needs, the earliest, most fundamental and most consequential if deprived (the more completely deprived the more consequential) is the need for reassuring touch and close physical contact.
If this need is going chronically unmet (or too protractedly so) it amounts to a predicament or ordeal that can be described, almost conventionally, as "quietly traumatising".
The same description also befits circumstantial factors that most directly pose this kind of (for whatever prior reasons ended up under) threat/peril or (overly onerous) predicament.
However, to me this expression is less than optimal because of the meaning-muddling common usage of the word "trauma".
This is why it pleases me to be able to provide two alternative acronymic expressions; two of just a handful (5 or 6) of anthropogeny and human affairs explaining ’precision tools for thought' with which to grasp (lingual 'lenses' for gaining insight into and an overview of) those aspects, and one other closely related aspect, of what is going on.
Those two ÆPT concepts (concEPTs) are some of the least unsuccessful results of my 'MAD-inspired' attempts at emulating the apt allusiveness and inbuilt defining logic of the nuclear arms race shaming acronym for "Mutually Assured Destruction".
@@yourinnerchildmattersAn extended Primal Theoretical (ŮPT) explanation (by me) of mainly and most importantly ourselves has it that:
Of all our social needs, the earliest, most fundamental and most consequential if deprived (the more completely deprived the more consequential) is the need for reassuring touch and close physical contact.
If this need is going chronically unmet (or too protractedly so) it amounts to a predicament or ordeal that can be described, almost conventionally, as "quietly traumatising".
The same description also befits circumstantial factors that most directly pose this kind of (for whatever prior reasons ended up under) threat/peril or (overly onerous) predicament.
However, to me this expression is less than optimal because of the meaning-muddling common usage of the word "trauma".
This is why it pleases me to be able to provide two alternative acronymic expressions; two of just a handful (5 or 6) of anthropogeny and human affairs explaining ’precision tools for thought' with which to grasp (lingual 'lenses' for gaining insight into and an overview of) those aspects, and one other closely related aspect, of what is going on.
Those two ÆPT concepts (concEPTs) are some of the least unsuccessful results of my 'MAD-inspired' attempts at emulating the apt allusiveness and inbuilt defining logic of the nuclear arms race shaming acronym for "Mutually Assured Destruction".
tell that to the rest of my family
@@bkirstie : if the rest of your family is toxic and dysfunctional - better let go - and instead of trying to change those sick people - just try to get you help healing yourself - because we all do deserve healing from childhood trauma and their emotional wounds. May God bless you and heal your very body and soul.
Most people with childhood trauma experienced lack of co-regulation. It’s so important to have a therapist that can provide safe co-regulation
Thank you for sharing your insight! It’s so important to highlight the role of co-regulation in therapy-your perspective really adds value to this conversation.thanks and bless you
I think there are too many negative comments on the Internet about therapy. Good therapy is very healing and overtime. It heals things that you didn’t even know needed to be fixed.!!! if you really get a good therapist and work hard, yes, it’s expensive but it’s worth it
In europe a therapist cost a fortune! Salary 1400,rent 800+ bills food 350! So where can I find the money to go to a therapist
@@katrinat.3032People need to determine what they believe 'good' therapy is while understanding what it is to be individuated and not become solely dependent on a therapist or else they enter the dangers of being gaslit, cultural biases and chance regressing. An interdependent relationship that offers review on goals, purpose, quality of support and feedback in order to retain and grow in family, interpersonal and social relationships is valuable. Safe space, (privacy disclosures - weather on line, digital spaces, in an office with laptops, phones, etc.) creating comfort agreements, taking time to get to your therapists background chosen philosophies and style, taking on an active role in your own healing and growth is key.
Otherwise there's an amazing amount of on line support to help advance personal causes, yet all of it is traceable profiling on line. People have a choice to gather and grow in this via trust and standing upon the wild frontier of it all or take it on behind the scenes. Off line, with out social media, channels and profiling. The benefit of online support is that the materials are far-reaching areas that may not receive quality significant materials, and education and 'edutainment' which in one way is a traditional form of localized community healing and evolution.
Thanks for mentioning the significance of having a therapist - including meeting them in person to maintain having an actual personable connection. People need, benefit and thrive from being in and amongst one another.
Most therapist suck even if you have the money for it😢 my trauma ended in therapy so much worse, with very much therapists @@patriciavandevelde5469
I love Dr. Gabor ...I have been reading his work for a year... Wounded woman here...but still healing at 69! Trying to finish Scattered Minds!❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing. It’s truly inspiring to hear that you're still healing and growing at 69 - that takes so much strength! Dr. Gabor’s work has such a deep impact, doesn’t it? Wishing you peace and encouragement as you finish Scattered Minds. Keep going - healing is a journey, and you’re doing great! ❤️❤️ bless you always!
63 here. Just now starting to honor my inner child.
I really resonated with that book, I was so scattered when I ordered it I got two copies
Grateful for responses ..Sooo did not discover that I was neurodivergent, ADD and or ADHD... until about 1.5 yrs ago ...then discovered Dr. Gabor! Read Realms of Hungry Ghosts... Addiction... initially... Carrying On but he and all on this channel keep me going...Answer is not ADDERALL!!! I have friends that think so! Love and Light Debs
This is why compassion is important.
His message is so logical and straight forward it should be common knowledge. Not excusing bad behaviour, but developing more compassion towards ourselves and others is very important.
Absolutely, compassion is so important. Dr. Gabor’s message really makes sense and feels like something everyone should know. Understanding ourselves and others doesn’t mean we’re excusing bad behavior-it just helps us all grow with more kindness. Thank you for sharing this!
My Compassion is faulty, as it tends to _excuse_ my bad behavior, e.g. "it's been a rough day, you deserve to get high and relax." I've always wondered how one goes about "developing more compassion." I treat myself unfairly, and if there ia a hidden COMPASSION switch somewhere, please share the Secret. :D
We need to be merciful and forgive our aggressors, if we want God to be merciful with us.
Because we all are faulty.
And now I can understand how some people can forgive even those who have killed a son or daughter.
@@akitajapan1651 We need to heal the wounded Inner Child. We don't need to forgive our brutal parents or agressors if we don't want, we need ONLY care for the poor, wounded Inner Child. And we will Fall in Love with ourselves and the world again. Every thing becomes new, like to the eyes of a child. _NAMASTE_ ∞
I am definitely the loneliest when I’m around a lot of people. It’s just this huge disconnect, like a gulf is separating us. It’s just hard when isolation feels like the answer but time goes by and you realize it’s only creating a bigger problem.
I understand exactly what you mean. Being around people but still feeling disconnected can feel so lonely. It’s like being close but feeling worlds apart. Isolation can feel like a safe answer sometimes, but you’re right-over time, it can make things harder. I hope you always remember that you’re not alone in feeling this way. There are people who truly understand and care about what you’re going through. Take it one step at a time. ❤️ bless you dear
I totally understand what your saying I'm with you.
@@yourinnerchildmattersyes I care about her I feel her pain and I hope she sees she's not alone we are not alone
Being competent is far better than being happy.
Some people start to dissociate when with people and some alone.
I come back to Gabor's videos time and time again when things happen and I need to find a reason to understand them. Gabor not only makes such sense of trauma and past experiences but also gives us the opportunity to find a way of healing from all of the past. This man literally saved my life and I will always be eternally grateful to him for all his words of truth and wisdom.
Thank you so much for sharing your heartfelt words. It’s truly amazing how Gabor’s wisdom and understanding of trauma have helped you find healing and clarity. Knowing that his teachings have made such a difference in your life is incredibly moving. Wishing you continued strength and peace on your journey-you’re not alone. ❤️
Exciting video, A year ago I took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain sister , after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Living back with my mother due to her health has taught me so much about why I am what I am. It also taught me how I can avoid doing the same things in the future.
I did not have a happy childhood. There were happy times, but they were few and far between.
Thank you so much for sharing this. It sounds like you’ve been on such a deep journey of understanding and healing. Going back to live with your mom and reflecting on your past must bring up so many feelings, both challenging and eye-opening. It’s truly brave of you to face it all and learn from it. Wishing you healing and peace as you continue moving forward
This doctor, Dr. Gabor, is the one, who led me to self help and self healing. Though I am not sure if it can be healed completely, but I do believe it is a journey to well being. Sometimes we have to live with the wounds and accept they are there so that we can carry on our lives. Thank you, Dr. Gabor! ❤
Thank you for sharing your experience! Dr. Gabor truly has a gift for guiding others on their path to healing. Your journey is inspiring!bless you
When I worked as a registered nurse we learned that wounds should be healed with moisture and not left to air dry as before. The same have I applied for healing my trauma wounds. When people speak about tough love I preach soft love and that we need a safe space to express our emotions. I've always needed a big cry now and then, to self soothe myself. Nobody could ever hold this safe space for me, until now with my man Daniel. I'm healing lymphoma and then more we can be together and authentic with our pains and wounds, I can feel my lymphoma is healing too. I've always felt alone and I've felt like I rather be alone than with people who can't handle it. No psychologist or friends or family have been able to be there for me. So I didn't neither even if I always have been sensitive towards others feelings and pains. My daughter has been through sexual abuse and she's been hardened and me as her mom is authentic and soft loving. Because of this she acts very narcissistic towards me and keep herself distanced from the ones who truly love and care about her. I can feel her scares arising and she lashes out towards me, when I show her love and affection. I pray and hope we someday can meet common ground. I love how openly you both speak about your trauma. This made me feel safe and that I'm not responsible for my daughters coping mechanism for her trauma. Much soft healing energy from my heart to yours who struggle. We're not alone even if we feel lonely. And you guys make me feel less alone. Thank you✨🧡💙🧡✨
Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful, heartfelt message. Your words really resonated with me. It’s so powerful how you’ve connected the healing of your physical and emotional wounds. Soft love is truly what we need, especially when facing such deep pain. I’m so glad that you’ve found a safe space with Daniel, and I hope that your healing journey continues to bring you peace and connection. It’s clear how deeply you care for your daughter, and I believe your love will eventually reach her, even if it feels hard right now. Healing is a process, and it’s so comforting to know that we are not alone in this. Thank you again for your openness. Sending you all the soft healing energy and love. Bless you sweet angel nurse!
@yourinnerchildmatters oh thank you for your beautiful feedback. It really touch deep inside my heart and soul and my tears start running. Thanks you beautiful brother from another mother 🥰😭🥰
Together we heal all the hard feels. I truly feel heald by your supporting words🥰🥰
I act the way you're daughter does it sounds like. If I was kind forever, at this point no one would forgive me anyway, so there's no point. People want you to be perfect. Why try to please them?
@@MorganHyde-ie5ru it's not about being kind forever because I put boundaries. She doesn't blame me for what happened but she is in trauma reaction and have been building a defense to not break. I keep being myself and I'm not a bulldozing mom. I feel sad about what I see but don't put up with her behavior. This video was very healing for my trauma of not knowing about the abuse and that I've been carrying blame for not knowing and seeing this when it happened.
Thank you so much for your vulnerable share. It means a lot to me to hear your journey. It is a grace and gratitude to be able to be aware take care of yourself as well be able to be soft, and assertive yet connective too!! I can really relate to your discovery for how in your recognition to heal your lymphoma, particular space is NEEDED and you stated why and how. I see and honor you in this.... Your willingness is a bridge builder and leaves room for change to make way - when you demonstrate creating sound boundaries.
I've lived through a very similar circumstance, though could see all the brokeness, pains and growing dis-eases that had a life of it's own in the entropy of intergenerational wounds gone unaccounted. The gaping holes and interweaving veins of threaded pains from grandparents and generations desiring a new path through it all. Just when one part of a generation senses they're setting themself free, it's virtually a layer that's being stripped away - not getting to the heart or root of shared family traumas, community and societal wounding.
The discovering of the wound and awareness is so embedded. For example - when my own Mom may've been most receptive to grow with me - I may've been them slipping into pain and numbness realizing her lack of not being there for her youthfulness and lack of awareness - was a point where my upset was amassing for feelings gone repeatedly denied and unexpressed. How could she know and act upon a new example if she herself didn't have enough of an example? After having feelings stuffed for 15+ years it built up strong feelings trapped and came out 'sideways' and then not having supportive help and running into starting a youthful long term life relationship was just a repeat of part of the family brokeness that had built as a generational pattern for 20 years. The pain exploded in me feeling lost and abandoned by her in those trapped blindspots of hers, which became mine and I projected them outwards again, looking for approval and love in all the wrong places, becoming needy, judgemental and even intimidating at times towards others. It takes a lot of undoing of those patterns when it ultimately comes down to a repeat of abandonment, lack of feeling safe, shaming, guilt in having been made a scapegoat for being taken in and lack of expression being pillaged. A pattern of protecting forceful means over others as being the sole way to survive under a massive loss of trust, which only promotes controlling people...... and loss of true connection.
As I cannot speak to your experience, all I can say is in mine - that healing the lashing out and chaotic behaviors originate whereby providing first an invitation (not labeling others) for safe space. Having the courage to be vulnerable and express the downfall or fallout with care. (I tried to convey this to my family for my regressions - they rejected it for not being in their own safe space, as of yet.) What so important IS to individuate in creating one's own accountability for themselves. If a parent didn't have a chance to individuate and a child/adult child doesn't consciously get an opportunity to integrate this too, it provides a long journey out. A parentified child suffers until they can sit in their own willingness and creativity to see a way beyond their ailments, dis-eases in life.
Building awareness in creating an invitation for a comfort agreement and safe space to acknowledge the need for taking on an other, as a part of you - let's others know you ultimately do care about them. It's important knowing no one is what happened to them. It provides re/building trust and reassurance that if, as a parent you did abandon (consciously or not), or as a child/adult-child - you too (consciously or not) then abandoned your parent(s) or guardians - that you all now see, honor and work to establish means to safely grow together - beyond betrayals, losses, wounds. Ultimately safe space needs to be held and cultivated in each individual first and foremost as an individuated practice to allow for room to effectively grow together.
The awesome thing is in establishing a practice in doing this work - can be in and amongst a safe group of chosen community that sees you, in also wanting for your growth and care. You are advancing in this lifetime of yours. May where you are in this bring on all the more opportunities to multiply on the healing(s) and life activation to thrive!!
In holding preferable discussions - actually slowing down having the feelings, the sensitivity and connectivity in reciprocity is vital to healing and growing.
Being in on line conversations, doesn't always allow for that level of needed reciprocity. (Albeit my tech skills and time to have discourse is all too limited.)
I wish you all the best in self-care and building that bridge - together - knowing ultimately your daughter and your lineage will always be a part of one another. Just know with your already ages ahead awareness - you're providing an opportunity as an example. Here's to closing the gap so others can witness this need sooner in healing intergenerational traumas and provide a most excellent roadmap toward living an abundant and prosperous life in cultivating the growing of compassion, peace, love and joy for generations to come. 💗🙏🏼💖
Fear is Greater than Love. A real man spends time with his family, doesn’t run away from his problems. It’s easy to leave your family. It takes a real man to bring good change to your family.
Thank you very much for sharing such a thoughtful comment! It’s always inspiring to see others recognize the importance of family and courage.
Exception when the other spouse is not well. See August Osage county Meryl Streep Julia Roberts. Summary online. No good solutions....
@ yes ofcourse there are always exceptions in those types of cases. But even in cases where one spouse has mental health challenges they stayed and recovered through therapy and other ways.
Not sure about term of use for 'real man' yet I could see saying perhaps a 'supportive man' who makes time to understand himself, his family to bring about collective change in the face of fear builds character with a foundation of love.
This too being for women, non-binary and all ages to take on in the role modeling of values and taking on of personal meaning and purpose. Bringing out compassion and leadership within one another amongst a family and chosen community is key. Including listening, encouraging personal growth and support and taking on necessary resources to see everyone be in support, have a way to be expressive, communicate and grow - be it via any combination of culturally sensitive counsel, the arts, self-care and discovering co-creative means for interplay.
Thank you for expressing a desire for families to grow together by growing beyond fears, in listening, acknowledging and hearing one another - knowing a foundation of love cultivated in one's self allows a prime needed example for instilling same in generations to come. ❤
What's a real man?
As someone that was sexually abused as a child for years, that is exactly the experience and how it feels especially the isolation and lonely part. Even after 40 years.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you've been through. Thank you for sharing something so deeply personal here. It's truly heartbreaking how the pain of childhood abuse can stay with us for so many years, and how the feelings of isolation and loneliness can linger. Please know you’re not alone, and there are people who care and want to support you. Your voice matters, and sharing your experience can be a powerful step. Sending you lots of virtual hugs.
😢 @@yourinnerchildmatters
Wow, can't believe he's 80! He looks twenty years younger!
@Selah1141 Interesting.
I thought that too !
I often wonder how society will evolve with the increasing number of traumatized people and what we will do to collectively heal.
I read a book and that book has healed my wounds day by day. Actually it was not the book but thr God. The book's name is Masnawi, the writer is Rumi.
I understand your concern. It’s hard to imagine how society will change with so many people going through trauma. But I believe that by supporting each other, sharing our stories, and focusing on healing together, we can make progress. Healing is a journey, and we can all be part of it.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Rumi's Masnawi really does have a special way of touching the soul.
So the concept of developing self compassion is what you are referencing! So important.
yes! it’s like what teal swan always says - “it’s kinda silly for us to believe that we will heal relational trauma, which is most trauma, outside of relationships. it’s like expecting to get over a fear by never addressing and experiencing scary things.”
Thank you for sharing that insight! Teal Swan's perspective is powerful, and it’s always great to see others recognizing the importance of relational healing.
I believe it is a lot lot deeper than that because there are actually 4 people involved in every relationship.
( two adults and two inner children)
The relationship that one must deal with is that of the inner child within themselves to get to the root of their problems.
When the healthy adult is looking after their healthy inner child, they will always have healthy relationships with those that they choose to share themselves with on every level.
The very reason why relationships break down is because one or both people continually has inappropriate hurtful behaviour or poor ,toxic communication skills towards the other.
Dictatorships,emotional abuse,verbal abuse,physical abuse,sexual abuse,infidelity,addictions ,abandonment,gaslighting,stonewalling are some examples of a wounded child acting out as an unhealthy adult…..
A healthy adult would never allow someone else to emotionally,physically,verbally,sexually abuse a child and they wouldn’t allow them to lie,cheat,steal,gaslight,stonewall and be an addict in the presence of a child or towards a child.
Therefore, if we want to understand relationships, we need to go deeply into the relationship we have with our adult self and our inner child!
A healthy adult would never allow anyone to do any of these negative things towards them because they would be protecting the happy healthy child within themselves immediately.
It works like exposure therapy
You gotta be in the «same» environment to be able to be triggered and then rewire your brain/fears/traumas by processing, self regulating/ soothing and accepting so it will pass/fully process
it is not necessary to understand it, but to acknowledge it fully, validate and ideally get a different/better outcome - healing
Thank you so much for this video and impressive sharing in the comments.I discovered dr.Gabor in the last few months and he really does provide the highlights of our own healing journey.Even though my English is not well ,I struggle to listen and understand .And I listen again and again .Living with traumas is very difficult and exhausting.I have always been aware of this ,but while I struggled how to heal,I raised three children and now they are going through a difficult time psychologically.Guilt has been added to my traumas and I see myself passing them on to my chidren and this make me feel so helpless 😢😢
Thank you so much for your heartfelt comment. I can feel the weight of what you're going through, and I admire your strength and dedication to your healing journey. It’s not easy, especially when you’re also trying to support your children. Please know that you're not alone in this. It’s okay to struggle and take your time to heal. Healing is a process, and even small steps forward count. I truly hope you find peace, and that you and your children can begin to heal together. You're doing your best, and that’s enough. Take care of yourself 💖 sending you lots of virtual hugs. Bless you dear 💖
I am 72 . Trauma is so profound and often buried deep. Thanks for this
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's truly inspiring to see you engage with such important topics at any age.
Keep holding on to God. No matter what may be trying to keep you down, keep looking up to God. He will always be your hand in helping you get back up. We serve God who can do all things. Romans 8:31 tells us, “What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?” this means that no man, woman, boy or girl is a threat to the purpose God placed on the inside of you. This means that the Only way you experience defeat is when you surrender. In moments of worry and anxiety, we are called to bring our concerns before God in prayer. Instead of allowing anxiety to consume us, we can find peace and comfort in knowing that the Almighty God is attentive to our needs for He cares for us deeply. In the storms of life, God is our only hope. His faithfulness and His goodness are present Even during the darkest storm. We have a lot of growing up to do. we should continue to grow in our relationship with God, and there is no point where we can say we've "had enough" Jesus tells his followers not to worry about food, drink, clothing, or tomorrow, and instead to seek first God's kingdom and righteousness and He will give us everything we need. Give thanks and be appreciative of the small and big things that God is doing in your life. Doing that means that you are looking for God throughout your day. You’re looking for God in your situation. You’re looking for God in your struggles and your pains, and keeping your focus on God instead of focusing on all the bad that’s going on. It’s what God wants you to do. He wants you to keep your eyes on Him. for the Lord will give you understanding in everything. The reason why Jesus tells us not to be anxious is because the Father cares for us. He has your back and will help you through anything, all you have to do is Repent and have Faith. The Bible teaches that God's sovereignty is an essential aspect of who He is, that He has supreme authority and absolute power over all things. There is nothing that God is not in control of. Everything that happens, God either causes to happen or He allows it to happen. However, Everything God does is done in love. There is always some reason for it, and for those who love God and are called according to His purpose, He will work everything out for good. Ultimately, the enemies we face, are not people or objects. It is not our body, It is not physical enemy. we know we don't want to die because dying bodies always end up fighting to survive. Our battle is indeed spiritual, In each of those cases, we can choose to fight the wrong battles, or we can rest knowing God is fighting for us. We fight this war by daily putting on the whole armor of God, always praying, standing firm in the Word of God, and staying alert. We need to live each day guided by an eternal perspective. So rest in knowing that when you keep holding on, you will see that in your weakness, God will be your strength.
John 14:27
"Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid."
This eye opening video of Dr. Gabor Maté really touched me. It's amazing how he explains the difference between stress and trauma and the ways these experiences shape us. So many of us carry invisible wounds, and sometimes we don’t even realize how they affect our lives, our relationships, and our self-worth. If you’ve ever felt alone with your struggles or wished you could be more true to yourself, this video might be exactly what you need today. Please watch, share, and let us know your thoughts below. How has facing or understanding trauma helped you grow? You never know who might find comfort or encouragement from your story. #healingjourney, #selfawareness, #traumahealing, #emotionalgrowth, #vulnerability, #mentalhealthawareness, #DrGaborMate
I've found that "doing your work" alone can be really helpful, but really significantly greater levels of healing happen with others involved. One person like a therapist is good, a group thing is better and a community is best with mutual sharing, mutual striving and genuine relationships formed.
@@JimBillyRayBob Agreed! At 51 years old, I knew when was best just to go it alone on certain things. That being said, I like the title of this video because, like the good doc says here, it's really good to exchange solutions to tough problems with who's been there before
I have written a book, Love on a Faultline, Cecile Ravell, which addresses a relationship with a "wounded child".
Gabor Matè explains this so well. He is a wonderful, compassionate human being whom I resonate with
Thank you for sharing. Your book Love on a Faultline sounds beautiful and meaningful, especially with its focus on relationships and the ‘wounded child.’ Gabor Maté truly has a gift for explaining these deep topics with compassion. Wishing you all the best with your book! ❤bless you
@yourinnerchildmatters I have received wonderful reviews from both male and female readers. It has been described as "a gift".
Gabor’s work is brilliant! 🎉Family Constellation work has also been addressing these issues, and more, for decades!
Thank you for your kind comment! I agree, Dr. Gabor’s work is truly amazing. Family Constellation work is so powerful too-it's wonderful how both approaches help us heal and grow.
More people need to listen and take note of Dr Gabor and these podcasts … everything dr Gabor says makes perfect sense, why are so many people in denial ?? Thank goodness after my traumatic childhood/ adolescence resulting in being a very unhappy messed up adult for such a long time, I was lucky I worked it out.. worked on myself. But here there is help . These podcasts should be talked about on tv. Written about in big newspapers .. we need to spread the word . ❤ thanks Dr Gabor .. keep these podcasts flowing, they are fascinating 😌
Thank you so much for sharing your story and for your kind words! 💖 It’s amazing to hear how you’ve worked through so much and found healing. You’re so right - Dr. Gabor’s insights really do make sense, and the more people hear these messages, the more lives can be touched. We’ll keep sharing to help spread the word. Thank you for being here with us! 🌟❤
@ thanks for your lovely response . One day there maybe a breakthrough with all this as long as we never give up.. and keep spreading the world with the help of peoples stories and admissions about what they have been through ..I’m so very passionate about this, I could shout if from the rooftops ! If you ever want to hear my story and how I got there.. and how I sustain this peace in my life, I have ways for this and one of them is not getting sucked into the toxic social media / phone addiction. JOMO is key! Joy of missing out ! No smartphone.. no social media .. only UA-cam and an iPad I strictly keep at home .. give me an old little Nokia anyway !
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Dr Gabor is a gift to us, to society as a whole. He promotes understanding- which seems to be integral to the process of healing.
This channel and Dr. Gabor is helping me to heal from childhood abuses. Ty ❤
I'm so glad to hear that our content and Dr. Gabor's insights are making a positive impact on your healing journey.
@@yourinnerchildmattersit absolutely is. I finally feel like someone understands what I went through. ❤
@@LovelySoul33 i'm so glad it resonated with you. You’re not alone, and your experiences truly matter. Thank you for sharing this with us. big hugs
@@yourinnerchildmatters 🙏🏽❤️
I had selective mutism as a kid and a few years ago it finally dawned on me the timing of it all(had been sexually abused by another child prior). The anger I feel at my parents for not doing enough to help me and the shame I felt as a result of not being good enough has really affected me. A recent experience at a church triggered these old memories and it’s been really painful accepting and trying to heal all of this.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm so sorry you went through such a painful experience and that it's still affecting you now. It takes a lot of strength to face those memories and try to heal from them. Please know that your feelings are valid, and it’s okay to feel both anger and sadness. Healing is a journey, and it sounds like you are taking brave steps. Be kind with yourself, and remember that you deserve compassion and peace. You’re not alone in this. big hugsss
Dr Mate is a very good and wise man.
Absolutely! Dr. Mate truly embodies wisdom and compassion in everything he does.bless you
Been alone my whole life... You know what's worse then being alone... Being with people that make you feel alone... I have begged people for help and been pushed aside for their own selfish purposes...
People are the problem... They could be the solution... Funny how that works.
I'm very sorry to hear you feel this way. Being around people who don’t truly see or support us can feel even lonelier than being alone. It’s truly hard to feel alone, especially when you're around people who don’t make you feel seen or valued. You’re right-people can bring so much hurt, but they can also bring healing and connection. I just want you to know that there are people out there who genuinely care and understand. Sometimes, it takes time, but there are kind souls who can make a difference.. I hope you find those who truly care and support you. sending virtual hugs from me to you. bless you!
I want to thank you for the layouts in this video. It made it so easy to understand. Sometimes i find these topics a bit difficult to listen to but you made it easier with the text, the pauses with pictures and text and really good sound. Thank you❤
Thank you so much for your kind words! ❤ I'm really happy to hear that the layouts, text, and pauses helped make the topic easier to follow. Your feedback means a lot to me, and I’ll keep working to make my videos clear and enjoyable for everyone. Thank you for watching and sharing this-it truly motivates me!
Thank you for this video about childhood wounds and how they affect us as adults. Outbursts of rage. I can relate. If you are yourself and open up about emotional pain people leave so after awhile i quit talking and become a stranger to myself. Losses so hard to take. Especially friendships.❤
You are not alone. I can relate to what you're saying. We are all a work in progress. Hang in there! One day at a time. 💖
I truly appreciate you taking the time to share your experience. It takes a lot of courage to open up about emotional pain, and your words resonate with many. Thank you for being part of this conversation!
Absolutely! It’s comforting to know that we’re all in this together, and every step counts in our journey of growth.
Dr. Mate appreciate the information you share helping many around the world.
Thank you for your kind words! Dr. Maté's insights truly resonate with many, and I'm glad to share them with you.
@yourinnerchildmatters Thanks again!
This is a beautiful video. Gabor Mate is an amazing man ❤ thank you
Thank you so much for your kind words! Dr. Gabor Maté truly is an inspiring person, and I'm glad you enjoyed the video
I wash not lucky enough to find me a real good trauma therapist - in 3 decades. I am very grateful for therapists and experts like Dr. Gabor Maté - if I listen to him not only once - but again and again as times goes by - its almost like having a therapy session right with him. His words and his compassion are like a real healing session for my very heart and soul. Jesus, my invisible friend even does know how precious those video sessions are for traumatized people like me. May everybody here on the comment section get blessed and healed by Jesus and people like Dr. Maté. Amen and may GOD bless you all.🙏❤🧡💛
I really appreciate your heartfelt comment. It’s wonderful how the right words can feel like a healing hug. Wishing you continued strength on your journey!
There are an extremely rare number of quality therapist. I never found a good one either. Support groups are beneficial as are quality therapists on UA-cam.
Great dialog exchanged … thank you for sharing this …
Thank you for your kind words! I appreciate you taking the time to watch and engage with the content.
Fantastic advice God Bless🙏
I really appreciate your kind words! It’s always great to hear that my advice resonates with viewers like you.
Thank you tremendously for this. I needed it.😢
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad that the video was helpful to you! hope you are ok, sending you hugs
thank you very very much for this wonderful video. i learned a lot from it.
I'm so glad to hear that you found the video helpful! Thank you for watching!
Great information!
Thanks for watching!
True and SO POWERFUL. Thank you Dr Mate❤
Thank you for your kind words! Dr. Mate's work has inspired so many, and I'm glad you appreciated it.
Actually heart centering prayer as taught by Father Keaton of the Episcopal Church can also bring me to bliss. I’m not a member of that denomination but learned it from a priest in our community who was Catholic & had a near death experience on a soccer field as a young man. He went to Japan & learned to meditate in a Buddhist temple then returned to Snowmass Colorado to a famous monastery before deciding to marry. Then he became an Episcopal priest but kept the best of all he’d discovered. The night he sat cross legged in the sanctuary & used a Tibetan singing bowl to teach anyone interested how to meditate is when I sent straight to bliss on his cassock tails & it felt like a spiritual orgasm! There was a dove in my heart & I could feel those wings gently touching the walls of my chest cavity ✨ I was hooked & now go to bliss in a few deep breaths after dropping my mind into my heart then breathing there as I repeat a simple mantra as I float free of my physical body. Many paranormal experiences have come from this method that include clairvoyant interaction with souls at the light level as well as those still here on earth
Thank you so much for sharing this! It’s wonderul how heart-centered prayer and meditation can bring such deep peace. Your story-from learning with Father Keaton to finding your own way to bliss-is really inspiring. I love how you’ve woven together different spiritual paths to make something so personal and meaningful. Being able to reach that calm and clarity with just a few breaths is such a gift. Thanks for the beautiful reminder of what these practices can bring us. 🙏
Did you mean Thomas Keating? I'm trying to find this online.. I'm interested in learning about this. Can you possibly reference a link? Thanks!
Trauma will make the sanest person act completely irrational. Feelings are meant to be expressed otherwise it will manifest itself in some other horrible way or it will explode like a ticking time bomb. I was in an intense situation and my childhood wounds came to the surface in one horrible moment. I felt, and this very important, i felt, like i was trapped, like danger was encroaching on me from every direction. I had a freeze response, stopped talking, lost bowl movements, and couldnt get back into my body. It was like death in the sense my nervous system shut down and i couldn't find words or fathom what was wrong. This started my journey into learning everything there is too do psychology, personality, traumas, and mental health. Since my endeavours ive discovered my preconceptions of what happened when i was a child were not nice but they were a result of my parents inability to face their own demons. I was yelled at a lot and struck a few times but nothing like others have experienced. My reaction to negative situations has always been a sore spot for me and only now i am aware of my triggers i am now discovering the psychologist had a wrong. I have had multiple diagnosis including schizophrenia, bpd, ptsd, depression and anxiety. And i am very overwhelmed often especially when stress ensues. I believe i have adhd because the source of my issues arise from me wanting to argue, not being able to follow instructions, memory issues, frustration and anger, a deep sadness when i perceive no one will ever understand how not normal i feel as some days just normal shit feels impossible. Education is needed so ppl are aware the processing of feelings and how to manage your thinking is a MUST ❤
Thank you for sharing your story-it takes so much courage to open up. Trauma can truly make us feel trapped and disconnected, and your journey into understanding psychology and mental health is inspiring. It’s frustrating to feel misunderstood, especially with so many diagnoses, but your self-awareness and willingness to learn are powerful. ADHD traits, combined with other challenges, can feel overwhelming, but your efforts to heal and process your emotions are a big step forward. Please know that your feelings are valid, and you’re not alone in this. There are people out there who do understand, and your bravery in sharing this helps others feel less alone too. Keep going-you’re on a path of healing, and that’s so beautiful. ❤ bless you and take care always
@yourinnerchildmatters thank you for your support. Awareness is a must for me and being outside my thoughts. The mind is a powerful thing indeed. I couldn't understand why i react i do in certain situations but now i am starting to get an understanding and by delving deeper into the why, at least for me, can help those around me who are effected by my shortcomings. 😊
A lifetime work. Being a believer, makes accepting and loving easier. Not easy though. Grateful for dr Gabor’s work and efforts.
Absolutely! Dr. Gabor's work truly helps us understand the complexities of acceptance and love. It’s a journey worth taking!
Great hosting/questioning technique. And as always great info by Dr Mate ❤
Thank you for the kind words! Dr. Mate truly has a knack for delivering great information in an engaging way.
This was so healing, hearing Dr Gabor ❤
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I’m glad that you found the video healing. Dr. Gabor truly has a special message.
Excellent
Thank you
Thank you so much! I really appreciate your kind words and support.
This is really good. Thanks!
thank you for watching
Great video! Thank you! I’ll definitely check out the books.
Thank you so much for the kind words!
At the moment I have a fresh wound but on closer inspection & with the tools I have gained over the past few years, I am able to see that this fresh wound is on old scar tissue. To closed & desensitized untill recut, now is the perfect time while it hurts to see if I can see where & what the original wound was , Gabor thank you for your truly great insights , I am so glad I came across your work/passion .
To be honest It hurts like hell but I must be brave dig a little deeper .❤
Thank you so much for watching this video and sharing your journey. I deeply admire your courage to face such a painful process and your willingness to dig deeper to understand and heal. It’s not easy, but it’s so powerful that you’re using this moment to uncover the roots of your wound. I’m truly inspired by your bravery and reflection.
@yourinnerchildmatters thank you I appreciate your heartfelt words ❤️.
I asked for many years to be able to see these things as i did a lot of inner work but the deep stuff was unavailable or I was unable to see it, eckhart tolle was telling a story of a woman when things went wrong she said i cant be spiritual now. & he says "the time when things are going the most wrong is the time you should be spiritual."
we continue to learn
& to unlearn certain things & to work on ourselves till we no longer need to .
thank you for your content & great channel ❤️🕉
It all make perfet sense. Thank you
Thank you for your kind words! It means a lot to know that the content resonated with you!
I wasn’t highly functioning or looked okay from the outside I actually became so fearful and “shy” that I couldn’t and didn’t talk anymore, my nervous system was a wreck. My abuse was very specific in the way my abuser wanted to socially humiliate me , he liked to spit at me every time I made eye contact with him so by the time I was 5 yo I was “ painfully shy”. Sometimes, disorders like Autism and Adhd are actually the result of child abuse, not that the child doesn’t have those disorders at all, but the symptoms are made much more profound and worse by abuse, then the cycle of blame starts from teachers and parents.
I'm so deeply sorry for what you've experienced. It's very brave of you to share this, and I want you to know that you're not alone. The pain and isolation you describe are real, and it's heartbreaking to hear that it’s lasted for so long. Please be kind to yourself, and know that healing is possible, even if it feels like it takes time. You deserve support and understanding.
Dr. Gabor Mate shares valuable insights into trauma and emotional wounds, helping us understand why we feel certain ways and how our past can affect us. But if people listen to him every day, I believe they might actually start to feel more depressed. Focusing constantly on trauma, pain, and unresolved emotions can keep us anchored in those heavy feelings. There’s a fine line between understanding our struggles and letting them become the main story of our lives.
Thank you for sharing this perspective. 😊 It’s true that too much focus on painful experiences can sometimes feel heavy. Dr. Gabor Maté's insights are meant to help us understand and heal, but balance is important too, so we don’t get stuck in those feelings. I really appreciate your thoughtful reflection-finding that balance is something we all need. ❤
The presenter is really cool, just an ordinary dude trying to heal like all of us. Beautiful humans make the ugly people invisible.
Thank you for your kind words! It’s wonderful to see people connecting over shared experiences and healing together.
The host is standup comedian Theo Von - from his podcast show “This Past Weekend “
The images are just distracting and so unecessary. I can't watch but I am listening.
Gabor Mate always touches me with his explanations on trauma. I had no idea I was traumatised until I was in my 60's!! I achieved absolutely NOTHING throughout life apart from becoming transgender! All because of horrific sexual abuse as a baby and child! When you're traumatised to that degree, you don't 'make friends' - instead predators seek you out to prey on you! This has been life long experience. I have always been alone! The mother (Evelyn Patricia Kremer/Claydon) was satanic!!
The father (Michael Kremer) was a paedo!!
Thank you for sharing such a deep part of your story. It takes lots of courage to speak about your experiences, and I'm so sorry for the pain you've endured. Gabor Maté’s insights touch so many, and it's inspiring to see how understanding trauma can help us on our journeys, even later in life. Please know you're not alone in this, and that your voice and truth are powerful. Wishing you healing and peace ahead. ❤ bless you
I’m sending you love and support as you heal and thrive.💜
I am sorry for your pain and wish you all the best in your future.
Theo is so relatable ❤
thanks for watching
Amazing interview. 🙏
Thank you so much for your kind words!
Addiction is not a genetic disease.
It's a response to trauma 😢
Addiction is such a complex and deeply personal experience, and you're absolutely right that trauma often plays a big role in it. It’s heartbreaking to think about the pain people carry that leads them down that path. Let’s keep having these conversations with kindness and understanding-everyone deserves support and healing. bless you
I love the fact he stayed with his wife all these years , family man
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
6:30 yes!
Thanks for watching!
My Parents left me as a 2 year old to my maternal (for 4 years) Grandparents ( whom I adored) but still longed for my Mother's love. As a Teenager,I was rebellious and always longed for validation from my Parents.Growing up with six siblings we grew up being compared from each other and we seem to be in constant competition from each other.It was exhausting.I can never please my Father.
Thank you so much for watching this video and sharing your story. I can feel how deeply this has impacted your life, and I truly admire your strength in opening up about it. Growing up longing for love and validation is such a heavy burden to carry, especially with the challenges of comparison and competition in a big family. Please remember, your worth is not defined by anyone else’s approval. You are enough just as you are. Sending you lots of kindness and support on your journey.
My wounds came from autoimmune diseases and dysregulation which were diagnosed after 30 years.
Whenever my autoimmune conditions reactivates pain, then I go through derealization/dissociation.
I truly appreciate you sharing your experience. It takes a lot of courage to talk about such personal challenges. Your strength is inspiring!
To cut the strings of past wounds, I have found that meditation, existing in the present moment, and forgiveness have been vital to my life.
I feel for Daniel. I experienced that too. Bless you and your family
Good grief… my Mum saw her classmates annihilated in a German bomb drop across the road. A few years later I was born. I can’t remember my early life but I know it was traumatic.
I think discovery and forgiveness play an integral role in healing trauma.
Thank you for sharing your journey! It's inspiring to see how meditation and forgiveness have made such a positive impact on your life.
Thank you for sharing your story.
This is what worked for Him personally I guess. I disagree about authenticity. But that's a nice thing to suggest. I have been authentic a very long time, it didn't change a thing and I am still alone without family or friends. The CPTSD ruined my life. I had hope it wouldn't but it did.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and your experience. I'm truly sorry to hear how hard it's been for you, and I can only imagine the pain that CPTSD has brought into your life. Being authentic is hard, especially when it doesn’t always lead to the connections we hope for. Please remember, your story and feelings are valid, and you're not alone in this journey. There are people out here who care and want to listen. I hope, little by little, things get easier for you. Sending you virtual hug, bless you.
Thank you
thanks to you too.
When I meet up with friends and family, I mostly have to tell myself, “stfu, no one cares about your thoughts, opinions, or knowledge.” It’s very lonely in a crowd…
I’m so sorry you feel this way. It can be really tough feeling like no one is interested in what you have to say. Remember, your thoughts and opinions do matter, and there are people out there who care and want to listen. Sometimes it just takes time to find the right people who appreciate you for who you are, and don’t stop being yourself. ❤️
@ Thank you. 🙏💖
This is exactly what I deal with trauma wise I always been myself but abused for it so now as a adult the second guessing comes up and anxiety ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's important to acknowledge how trauma can affect us as adults. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and it's okay to seek support.
TY ❤
Thank you so much for your comment! I appreciate your support!
I chose to be true to myself at 30. I have been ostracized by family and friends and now am single and childless at 55.
I truly appreciate you opening up about your experience. It's inspiring to see someone prioritize their authenticity, even in the face of adversity.
@@dailybls hugs
Those are family and "friends" you don't want or need in your life. I hope you can find your Tribe. 💛
Same! But I am much happier, healthier, and at peace. Everything and Every person with whom we surround ourselves. Our world is full of toxicity , literally! Pay heed to what goes in your mind, body, and soul. 😊
How about we all define and identify our wounds and scars. Follow that up with realistic goals for self management and communication
Recognizing our wounds and scars is the first step toward healing. Setting realistic goals is key to managing them effectively. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Is that sarcasm?
@@TheresaKing-lz6gs no. it's practical
I have complex PTSD for many reasons, but the main one is seeing my older brother suffering all his Life I just can't get over it..
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. It's tough to carry the weight of emotional wounds, especially when they involve loved ones. Remember, healing takes time, and it’s okay to seek support.
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you 😊
The trouble is when we are our authentic selves people judge punish and reject us for it which can also lead to isolation and lonliness. Easy to say harder to do.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It’s so true that being authentic can be tough. I really appreciate your perspective on this important topic.
Love Dr Mate, mate 😉
I'm glad to hear you love Dr. Mate! He brings such a unique perspective .
Everyone individuals are individually unique .
Everyone has their ownself mental health issues which is extremely important and challenging complicated very fragile like very thin glass only one ownself knows how they go through each and everyday..one must understand that with distinctiveness with understanding .
Everyone is suffering differently in different ways different measures.
Be kind to ownself and to everyone as much you can.
First understand ownself be kind and forgive ownself for being hard on yourself.
Thank you .
Thank you for sharing such a thoughtful comment! It’s so important to remind ourselves and others about the significance of understanding and kindness in our lives. bless you and thanks again
7:29 The non-existent Free Will. A question that begged for solution in my mind since my senior high school days. Only reached my own sad conclusion of this void after a lifetime experiencing discord and discontent among my fellow humans. It is an idealized concept out of reach for our species, even though, we invented it.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, much apreciated.
And imagine how multiple generations are traumatized in chronic war zones. Incubated in terror produces
many problems in adult life.
Thank you for sharing this thought. It’s heartbreaking to think about how people, especially across generations, are deeply affected by living in constant fear and danger. Growing up in such conditions can have lasting effects on their lives, often causing pain and struggles well into adulthood. Sending love and strength to all who have been through this.
Great video. I have found hypnotherapy was a good modality for me to heal many trauma wounds from past lives. My physical illnesses slowly began to improve as I released and healed the old energy of the past that led to the wounds.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! It’s wonderful to hear that hypnotherapy has helped you heal and release old energy from the past. It’s amazing how powerful inner healing can be, even for our physical health. Wishing you continued peace and strength on your healing journey. 🙏
I so recognize myself in Gabor 😮😮😮
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's great to know that Dr. Gabor resonates with so many people.
Not necessary to insert the photos while Dr. Mate is talking.
Just let him talk.
No need for embellishments.
We're not stupid, we are unaware - Dr
Thank you for your insightful comment!
5:21 read this book last year...
thank for sharing your thoughts
I have been authentic in my pain, but I got more isolated,judged and everyone made it worse, my authenticity only made it worse becausebsociety is not ready to face the truth of pain and how difficult it is to heal, with todays methods. I need real mentor and real medicine but its deniad because im poor
I'm truly sorry to hear about the pain you're going through. Being honest and open about what you're feeling takes so much strength, and it can be so hard when others don’t understand or respond with the support you need. You're not alone in feeling this way. Healing is a journey, and I hope you can find people who see and respect your truth. Remember that your story matters, and there are people who genuinely care and want to help. Please don’t give up on finding that support; you deserve compassion and healing, no matter what.
Yes, it's very difficult to heal when you have zero support and can't afford to seek support. Not everyone has loved ones, or supportive people in their life. Some people are truly alone. We're told to get the support- which always requires money.. heavy sigh.
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Thanks for watching! I'm glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you for your perspective. I understand what you’re saying Jewish people and atheist find their peace in rituals, New Age and Ayahuasca. We, Christians have Jusus. Is that simple. You can not advocate it bc of yur roots and beliefs I guess Being Christian you dont need Ayahuasca just relay on Him and He will lead you and you will feel loved and healed.
I truly appreciate your perspective! It’s always valuable to hear how faith plays a role in healing for different people.
Are you insinuating that the Christian Church isn't completely filled with rituals. They're the most ritualistic cult on Earth. You're delulu
Go to church every Sunday right that's a ritual you get baptized that's a ritual a wedding is a ritual what are you talking about
@ramonaharter6407 even prayer is a ritual. People have been so misled and ignorance and fear (deeply rooted in societal constructs) keep them from seeing it. Fear is a great weapon. Keeps us limited. That's how 1 percent rule over us. Religious trauma has caused such a negative impact in society.. I didn't realize how much it had effected me personally until starting the process of self development/healing. Once your eyes open to what you were previously oblivious of, you can't unsee.. also why they say ignorance is bliss 😆.
@ in my case was the opposite. I was mot religious at all, but sth was missing so I turned into New Age spirituality but after a long long journey I find my peace in Jesus. Me and my husband both at the same time… its crazy as we were suppose to separate but Christianity will bring us back together
Makes it worse when 95% of your life you've been alone
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
That "in the womb" remark hit me hard.
That's the question.
Did I die before or after I was born.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's amazing how a simple remark can spark such deep reflections on life and existence.
@yourinnerchildmatters Ain't it the truth.
if he has difficulties handling his trauma even today, I am doing just fine
It's great to hear that you're doing well! Everyone has their own journey, and it's important to focus on your progress.
So, why are you listening to this if you are just fine?
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How i heal my lonlieness when all left me
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Loneliness can be really hard, especially when it feels like everyone has left. One thing that helped me was focusing on things that bring me joy and peace, even small things like listening to music, reading, or going for a walk. Sometimes, connecting with ourselves can bring a sense of comfort. Remember, you’re not alone in this feeling, and there are people out there who understand. Take it one step at a time. sending you a lots of virtual hugsss
@ yes !! But how to heal it
@@yourinnerchildmattersgarbage advice to tell somebody to take a walk. Yeah I think you should be ashamed of yourself
Botox & waa... adrenaline..👀. Good talk.
My whole life has been traumatic...really not what? I deal with this everyday....I know all about it but I can't do anything about it.
I'm so sorry to hear you've been through so much. Dealing with this every day must be incredibly hard. Remember, you’re not alone, and sometimes small steps can make a difference. Please keep taking care of yourself, and know there are people who care and want to help. Sending you strength and kindness. ❤️
I know exactly what you're saying - I'm here too!
You’re not alone. You can make tiny changes/moves in a new direction. Keep asking yourself, how good can it get? And throughout the day acknowledge the good.
For me sometimes it’s just the sun shining or the beautiful clouds changing form or meeting up with a salamander.
Allow and revel in what is good.
The video stock footage ruins this whole important video
Thank you for pointing that out!
Bed wetting at 13 and 26
? Huh, that’s nothing, I’ve never stopped wearing nappies and I’m 65
Thank you for sharing your journey!.
Dissociated urinated in my clothes up to highschool. Mother gave me Zanax and kept on yelling, hitting, pinching. Also a gp.
I survived
Was invisible. That was my superpower.
How can we be full perants when we were not tought ,we can follow our instincts but we still cant relate to some things as all we had was abuse
How do we explaine this to OUR children ????
Thank you for sharing this. It’s truly hard to be the parents we want to be when we didn’t have a good example growing up. Trusting your instincts is already a big step, and even though it’s tough, just being aware and open to change means you’re already doing better for your kids. Sometimes, it helps to be honest with them in simple words - let them know that you’re learning and trying your best. You don’t have to have all the answers right now. The love and effort you’re putting in make a real difference.
How narcissism feels from the inside.
4:30 nice guy
он маn, almost same thik, i.last time pee in bad i was like, 11, 12, 13 i can't remember exactly, and i was also interupt tha claastimeates, the teacher nonstop callin my parent' (seperated) by the way! But we live in good and love from now to the last day oof our life's ❤❤
Thank you for sharing your experience!
Great topic, trully interesting, very valuable. Pity ot the video caracterizations of Dr. Maté words... it really takes out the attention of his words and your questions. Maybe these videos look childish. We do not need to see pleple laughing when he mentions a person that is happy. etc.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I'm glad you found the topic interesting, and I’ll definitely take your feedback into account for future videos.
Do you have permission to use his content
He’s not even showing the video. Pausing and narrating his own text. Yes this is accepted by YT to be monetized.
Thank you for your question! It's important to clarify these things, and I appreciate your attention to detail. I always aim to follow Fair Use guidelines, which allow us to share clips for commentary and educational purposes. Also, I’ve included a link to the full episode in the description for anyone who wants to see the entire interview. I truly appreciate your understanding and support! bless you
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I appreciate your feedback. thanks again
The channel is run by AI buddy it’s 2024 almost 25
What year is it?
Is there anyone in the World, infj, Infp, anyone, who does see the wounds of narcissts, borderliners, avoidants ans co? They seem to be hated the most along the Web, cause their behaviors are not best, and People Tell "they have no feelings and they can not be healed." So what would Jesus gave Done? The behaviors are not ok sure, can be trained and understood rationally, if not emotionally, but May I ask: Where in this world is the compassion for those souls who act angry and cold? I still think uts not liked they full know, but their System goes Autopilot. I don't know what to do, but in this World I see lots of wounded souls. Still I believe in a compassion that not is crying for reciprocity "love me, like me and I like u back", but such as: "Being strong enough not needing love and like from others and still giving empathy, compassion and having healthy boundaries. To me it looks like there are lots of grown People, still interacting out of their wounded child. Strange World. Blessings.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts so openly. You’ve touched on something really important-so many people are hurting, acting from their wounds, often without even realizing it. It’s true that behaviors like anger and coldness can push others away, but behind those walls, there’s usually pain and fear, not malice. Compassion doesn’t mean excusing harmful actions, but it does mean seeing the human behind the behavior. Healing is possible, even for those who seem unreachable, but it takes time, understanding, and boundaries-just like you said. You’re right; it’s a strange and wounded world, but your belief in compassion without needing anything in return is so inspiring. If more people thought like you, the world could become a kinder place. Blessings to you too.
There is far, far too much social emphasis on emotional wounds! Everyone has them. But traumas can and do heal. Self-pity does as much harm in the long run as the problems. What people really need is the GUTS to get on with it.
You make an important point! Healing from emotional wounds is definitely a journey that requires courage and action. It's all about finding that balance between acknowledging our pain and pushing forward.
That deep longing to be mothered is true in many intimate relationships, not just heterosexual!
Thank you for sharing your insight! It’s so important to recognize how our emotional needs play out in different dynamics.
@@yourinnerchildmatters Yes, that's why I was surprised to hear an astounding clinician like Gabor use exclusive language.
Hihi, I'm in a relationship with a beautiful soul. But he has borderline personality. It's hard sometimes to accommodate all of his inner child needs.
Hi there, thank you so much for watching the video and sharing your story. ❤️ It sounds like you care deeply for your partner, and that’s such a beautiful thing. Supporting someone with borderline personality can be challenging at times, but your love and understanding can make a big difference. Remember to take care of yourself too-you matter just as much. Sending you lots of strength and kindness! 🙏bless you
@yourinnerchildmatters thank you very much for your kind words. That's really helping me and it's difficult to ask for my personal space. But I keep claiming that space, even though it makes him break up with me a 1000 times out of fear of abandonment.
@yourinnerchildmatters after he breaks up with me, I just go to his house and give him a hug to let him know that I won't leave. Then, in one minute, he is calm and happy again. I just don't listen to his negative bla bla.
It helps that I won't let him speak negative in my face. He does his negative thoughts on letters, and he gives them to me. It's a lot of 'I'm going to leave you' bla bla. He doesn't mean his mean words.