Am I the only one that gets irritated every time the piano music starts, the Doctor is drowned out, and then the lady starts talking?! Why can we just continue to listen to him instead of his speaking being interrupted?!?!
Always thought I wasn’t good enough, definitely a people pleaser doing things to keep everyone around me happy. Would get stressed, frustrated and angry trying to control everyone’s thoughts. Now I’m 52, I have rheumatoid arthritis, and feel free that I no longer have to worry about other people’s emotional wellbeing. It’s not that I don’t care, I’m learning to think about my wellbeing first and not be there for others at the detriment of my own health and happiness.
i spend all my life trying to prove i m good enough. in my case, that is the reason i become artist, in many formes. so thank you, shity grand ma, dad, and all of you who made me feel that way. well, i am good enough. and much more. and more . and more. ❤
Though I’ve been appreciating him for many years, I can’t get enough of Gabor Mate’s powerful, profound and practical teaching and lectures. As he tells us, the road to recovery and healing- and blossoming,- is ongoing and never ends. God Bless You and Keep you with us, dear Doctor/Healer! Deep and joyful, soulful thanks! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
sum 00:30 Reason for addressing Trauma 10:26 How to address trauma 22:29 importance of recognising the response pattern 32:39 importance of compassion 40:40 importance of childhood experience 46:36 Unresolved trauma and physical symptoms 51:22 Bodies reaction to trauma 57:25 Support systems examples 01:06:27 role of compassion and mindfulness
Gratitude to Inside Serene and Dr. Gabor Mate. Childhood trauma has led to years of me being a people pleaser, not feeling good enough, or worthy enough, and the inability to say NO. I am now on my healing journey, and although I still have difficulty, I'm healthier than before. People don't like it when I say no to their demands, but they need to work on their own self care. Their healing and self care are their responsibility. I'm happy to be in this good space. I am at peace with myself and the decisions I make.
You’re welcome I’m actually on the same phase of my life through this community I was able to pay more attention to myself because I have this opportunity to share methods that help me navigate the road to full recovery - keep your journey sending ❤️❤️❤️
Nagyon köszönöm. A trauma már az anyaméhben kezdődik. Engem feldolgozatlan gyász közben vártak. A testvérem 13 évesen elhunyt. Leesett a padlásról, csigolyatörés. Egy “okos” pszichológus ajánlotta, hogy legyek én vígasznak. Nem lettem, mert nem lehettem. Apám ott ütött, ahol ért, alkoholista lett a fia halála után. A poklot megjártam. Sokat megértek az előadásaiból kedves Gábor. Thanks again.
You can’t fake your way out of feelings feel it I mean really feel it it’s ugly scary and it hurts like hell but watch that negative energy leave your body once you acknowledge it..💖
YOU BEAUTIFUL MAN. HAVE AFFECTED SOOO MANY WITH YOUR DEDICATION TO VERY HARD CASES. NOT ALL REACH ME. THANKYOU THANKYOU. PROFOUND WISDOM. ❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊 BLESSINGS 🙌 🙏 ✨️ ❤️ ADORE YOU .
Been listening to Gabor for years he's such a beautiful soul. It's such ashame how broken society has become we should be living the most abundant life in human history so why are we living the complete opposite where a very select few have the abundance and Billions are left by the wayside through no choice of there own.
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, Doctor Greg Mushrooms he is a great man of God who has the great insight on psychedelic and mushroom. He will guide you on how to use mushrooms to get good trip.
Now everything makes sense! I was abused as a child and had asthma, ironically my asthma disappeared when I left home at 18, doctors call it “childhood asthma”.
most people do grow out of it if acquired childhood. Your house could have also had mold, or you ate better? I get it though --- my gang style family abuse 4 on 1 (them on me) caused diabetes as a child. Sadly, this doesn't go away :(
@@Milenamijangos Same experience. I had asthma and digestive problems as a child that were so severe that I was hospitalized. I left my abusive home at 16 and they miraculously disappeared.
Lately I have been realizing how much stress I have had and still have related to lack of financial security. I am getting better at minimalistic living which is helping me and also clearing blocks. Thank you for your lectures they are helpful
Trauma is inner pain, a psychic wound, a wound on your soul invisible to medical world, only visible to you. Acknowledge it, be with it, accept it, lean to it with compassion, feel it fully, welcome the pain, breath in and breath out on top of it, make prayers for this wound, bring this wound to your consciousness, it feels like another part of your psyche integrate with this part, talk to it, embrace it...... isn't it all the healing modalities listed below addressing the same simple principle of feel the feelings fully and let it complete in your body and experience:- 1. TRE (Trauma Release Exercise) 2. Somatic Experiencing 3. Somatic Practicing 4. FOCUSING 5. VIPASANA 6. Embodying 7. Eckhart-shining light of consciousness 8. Shadow integration 9. Completion exercise 10. Compassionate Inquiry 11. Tapping 12. WuWei wisdom Acceptance 13. EMDR 14. Yoga 15. Inner Child healing 16. Gratitude Journal 17. CBT 18. Talk Therapy 19. IFST
What thoughtful explanations and guidance for self- healing and self-compassion! Now, it seems to me that most of our emotional obstacles and diseases can be traced back for a profound healing. I loved it! Thank you!
Gabor every single thing you're saying is what happened to me in my life I was abused as a child I never expressed my anger I said yes to everybody as a people pleaser and now I have multiple sclerosis I have skin cancer I've been depressed I mean having a crack addiction for 25 years it is proven cuz every what you're saying is happening to me I plan on hearing myself once I heal my childhood trauma all my diseases will go away
I was raised by 2 wonderful dillusional adopted parents who brought me into a home with a 2 1/2 year old mentally "challenged" child. I was 5 months old. I went through hell with his mother because she had no training in this area. She became neurotic. Our dad died of a heart attack when we were young. You know, people just expect too much from each other and this manifests in our minds and bodies. I've taken 2 1-2 years to look back and rewrite my past. The truth of what I know I suffered through. And what I put my kids through with this traumatizing man who I helped her with because of her trauma bond and my feeling obligated to this shame based toxic person. And when I began this journey, I had to prepare myself. I said, "Anything is possible with people". And what I discovered was that this family was never mine. It was all pretend. Because they hid my father's gift to his children to support them in their lives. Our mother lived a very comfortable life while we lived in poverty. But, ten years ago, she had her day of Judgement. I know it sounds trite. But having to live with that lie did catch up with her. She questioned her destiny. And I won't. Because I know I'm a good honest person. People do things they don't even recognize others know they're doing. And that's the blind side. I was always watching them and I believe God was through me. Fight these liars. You might just have been a testamentary. I know I was and carry no man ordain and shame. I wish you all the best and light that is coming your way.
It's one and the same thing. In Chinese medicine, the skin belongs to the lung system. Often, the ''successful treatment'' of asthma with Western medicine is transformed into a skin problem.
What you say is true, Dr. Gabor. The best thing I have heard about the relationship between the body and the mind, and after listening to your lectures, I learned to say no effectively.❤
I had asthma growing up. Everything being said resonates. Thus far I have practice meditation, which I’ve noticed improve my situation, but no lie it takes time. The body is a tape recorder.. And bringing awareness to it, releases the energy, the psychic energy. Mindfulness meditation watching your thoughts is the way. I feel I still have a long way to go. I find and I am angry. In spite of all my effort.
Grew up CSA, child abuse. A cutter, drank to blackouts in high school. One abusive relationship after another. Not being able to say no. Saying no and not being respected. Suicide attempt at 24. Breast lump at 35. Dr. Mate is so right about connecting childhood trauma to illness. I had headaches from age 11 onward and stomach pain from age 16. Nothing was ever found. I find having an empty nest syndrome stress traumatic now being isolating for 5 years with my daughter an adult and me thinking I better clean up my life to prevent disease.
@youtuber-cc8sx Do Respect but also share good knowledge. it's is also important as healthy argumentations! And yeah your point is valid we have to show respect which i think we often forget.
@@BionicBunny333 just training is different for them - more oriented to reach pharmaceutics first rather than the holistic approach. But it shifts now … depending where you go and who you see.
I was told by my stepmother that that I was going to be a loser alcoholic just like my mother and I was told by my mother that just because I thought I was better than her didn’t mean I was ever gonna be in any better because I was always always gonna be a loser. This has to be by design. It’s like I’m in some kind of horrific experiment just to see when I will actually break even though I’ve already tried to kill myself multiple times. Not the “cry for help” kind of trying to kill yourself… The real kind where you’re in the ICU for several days clinging to life. 😶
My mom kept telling everybody I'm a lazy loser and for years I believed that that I'm worthless irresponsible and nothing it's been a while since I've tried to get rid of all the crap she put inside me at least nowadays I'm out of the house and I even see some of my old classmates now hopefully by next year I will have gotten my shit together. Fingers crossed
I saw a study where if there was yelling the child stops playing and looking around to do anything. They were baby’s that probably couldn’t walk yet but survival make humans stop what we’re doing when danger is near and listen.
I have been learning that a lot of these symptoms also manifest in our chakras. A blocked solar plexus, throat, and third eye chakra can have symptoms of a not feeling good enough
We all heal differently. Seek out your personal healing. I had severe depression n anxiety attacks. I’m 100 free from all that. I found healing thru connecting w Holy Spirit. This connection w God has been a healing journey in itself. Wrong teaching and my own immaturity in understanding the Heart of our Heavenly Fathers love towards me kept me away from our Heavenly Fathers healing embrace. Ministers like Kathi Oates n Bev Tucker have helped bring down lies aka walls to connect me w God. I like this man’s explanation on how stress on parents effects their children. I’m open to learn from all. I give credit to Jesus for my heart’s healing. Pray all get healed🙏🙏🙏
What a wonderful talk, Gabor Maté, thank you so much!! You address the essence of life: interconnectedness and wholeness. It is such a simple truth and yet so hard to find in Western society. I'd love to hear your talk uninterrupted by Inside Serene.
Dear man, in my life experience, it’s never too late to use free will to change the programming and trauma. My hope and prayer is that you will open your heart with compassion for yourself and make the positive and soon joyful shift into self worth. You’re truly worth it and as Gabor Mate says, our true authentic self is the jewel and pearl of great price! That’s who you are, dear brother. ❤😊
@@ionageman I feel the same way. I’ve been in therapy and feel better for a couple weeks but the low self esteem and self loathing come right back. I’ve been trying all my life and it never goes away.
Actually, they are liked by many people because those people do t get to see the narc's true self. The majority of them get to witnesses the narc with their nice person mask on. It's the very very close family and friends that see the monster emerge behind closed doors.
The videos between the speech are painful to watch. The music and voice are very abrupt and take away significantly from what is to have attention paid to it.
No bars hold … I enough ! I will honor my own intentions and create a better life in my world with others to support those who are on board with being better themselves . We must build a strong community together , rgst which is positive and supportive and able to love unconditionally and live a long and happy life ! No exceptions ! Unconditional love should be a club ! Haha Dr. Mate has changed my life of thinking , awakening and enjoying me, my tribe I choose to live happy and healthy and respectful ! I still have so much to learn and grow as a person who wants only to be authentic and know thy self ❤🎉😂 ty Dr Gabor Mate for being born! 🎉
I’m trauma trained-spent a lot of money I didn’t have getting certified, licensed etc only to live in a state of financial stress and loneliness after the pandemic . Healing doesn’t just happen without community -we are hurt by people and stay hurt unless and until the conditions change. I can’t afford what I’m trained in . A sense of humor is all I am left with, if that -no one told me it would get worse after age 65-financially- this monopoly game ruins lives
I’m not good enough mindset coupled with PTSD and choosing a partner that made me feel like I was always wrong gave me depression. Don’t play around, know your value make changes. I didn’t think I could get depression. The symptoms manifested physically first …. Now I know what depression feels like. It feels like you’re in prison inside your own body. You want to do but you can’t because you have no energy and the apathy sucks
@@Maomao_3010 do you know what your parents felt about having children when your mom was pregnant with you? Did they want a boy? What emotions did your mom suppress? Did you feel loved by them? Were they critical, punishing, demanding, controlling? What we’re their childhoods like? What was their relationship like? Did they love each other (from your pov), did they fight a lot, did they complain to you about each other? Where do you feel you got the message “I’m not good enough”?
@@juliebennion8856 they told me that they are expecting a boy when I was still in the womb. Does it have an impact? Maybe another factor was I feel like they favor my sister more than me.
@ there you go! They were expecting a boy while you, a girl child, were developing in-Utero, experiencing their expectation translating emotionally into a feeling of wrongness/I’m wrong; I’m not what they want. Then their preference for your sister, on top of that… sounds to me like you didn’t feel wanted, loved, valued. And that’s traumatic for a baby child, growing up, surrounded by such a lack of acceptance, appreciation, adoration. Does that feel true? In your heart, your soul? Not ‘what do your thoughts say’; What’s your gut feeling.
Thanks for this post extremely helpful. Healing, learning and getting clear. So heartbreaking this human condition and I hope to attract what is good for me to grow not hurt and hurt.
Outstanding amazing incredible. I want the focus to be on the overcoming healing love attention to self. Which you cover very well. I appreciate that you do disscuss,he often doesn't discuss healing but the issues. Thank this is brilliant!❤❤❤❤
The last part where Gábor was talking was really good.
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I was traumatized as a young child and again throughout my young adolescent and teenage life. The worst was when I was 24 when I discovered my narcissist wife now divorced 24 years was cheating on me. Will I ever recover? I don't believe so. I've made peace with that fact.
I wish I had come across this wonderful content way before I became addicted to spending valuable years of my life in front of the computer screen and didnt realized how it would mess my brain up. If I had had a vivid, normal childhood and adolescense and was great at school and haven't gone through years of bullying and socialwithdrawal, I wouldn´t have given in irrelevant and endless stupid entertainment. My brain suffered a lot and even writing this comment is tough for me. Bullying, therefore, social withdrawal has lasting consequences no matter how it is done. We should l
I can’t help but view this understanding in the light of pandemic protocols. All of the stress responses were triggered by a significant portion of our societies. Of course the suppression of the immune systems, while a viral infection is surrounding us is counterproductive. Perhaps, this body/mind connection was surfacing to be healed in the collective consciousness of the humanity. Having grown up in the post war era, the family stress Dr. Mate discusses was extremely prevalent in most households. Seniors were considered the most vulnerable group, which makes the timing accurate. Interesting.
Its not just childhood. Even innlate adulthood we are attacked. In my 50's after a life time of always doing thebright things generallybaccept getting a divorce... my father just lent into me telling me Everything he hates about me and told me I destroy everything I touch . Note I was a child of divorce from 3 yo on... Henwas always passive agressive towards me teeating my sister as if she was better tho she was a drug addict and did everything destrictive in the world... where i did none of it... At 60 im more insecure than ever. I dont onow how to brish this feel ok ng away and feel like indestroy every situation in life now.
I was recently told that I might have MS. I need a brain CT to confirm. I have been feeling like it is not likely MS, but rather stress, emotions and mental abuse that I have been dealing with. I am so grateful to have found this video that actually reaffirms what I was thinking. Trust your gut, right? I will follow up with the brain CT, but I really think I need to focus on healing my mental health.
@BeanieAnn read The Cayenne Pepper Cure ebook and then The Enema Cure ebook as well. Both free pdfs. Also, Dr. Elizabeth Moser's free ebook, How And When To Be Your Own Doctor. (I sound like a 'free ebook peddler' but I'm not haha. Pretty sure there's no such thing either). Good reads anyway, wish the best to you, warmest regards :)
I've got a traumatised body and mind & there's absolutely no way of dealing with it as far as I've been able to discover, in fact trying to has only led to hostility being ostracised and ridiculed!
Looking in the mirror I see a person I walk away and go on with life Not knowing who that person is There is no core No sense of self Constantly wondering how others see me Fear of rejection was a lesson well taught Learning I should be a certain way, look a certain way And worry about being shunned Was instilled very early And judgment was prematurely passed That the world would not like who I was Yet I was only then beginning to learn who I was Criticism was my constant companion as a youth Given by a parent Who laid their insecurities upon me And stifled the person that only wished to find themselves as youth do preventing me from developing my true self or accepting my persona with love No Stifled I was Until I became an empty mold Pried into shape by my environment And adaptive to what the world needed from me A mask A being inside that mask Ever searching for who they are Going from experience to experience Struggling within and ever unsure In fear Of learning about, accepting, and growing that persona For fear as my parent explained That the world would not like the true person inside Who never the chance to grow To let their qualities shine through To feel confident and have faith in themself To finally learn and accept who they are And live among those that can see the beauty Of the humanness in me And appreciate the scars of imperfection The scars of criticism that hide the beauty For I only see a monster When I look in the mirror And though I can accept that impression is in my head Installed there by a parent and siblings that enforced the harsh criticisms upon me Yet Inevitably I am taunted Even in my later years Spending most of life struggling To find a sense of self And wandering Searching for a place of where I can feel safe To let the person inside me grow And be revealed And be evermore surprised As I continue to explore who I am And how the world sees me And discovering That my parent was wrong… My Self beautiful.
I know this is true for some people, but the more stress I have been, the better I breathe. I have the opposite effect. I’m 62 years old and have experience this my whole life on and off.
After a accident, Jesus showed himself to me in a daytime vision. Twice! After I chose to follow him. I was given the second blessing maybe a month later.I didnt eveb know what happened to me because iv never read the bible. Its been a wild ride man. Iv seen crazy spiritual things. Its 100% real. Going on 2 years born again.
I wasnt abused physically or sexually. But man Mom and Dad sure made sure i have absolutely no self esteem 😂😂. I was usually ignored, and that was better, but when they would talk to me it was to just tear me down. "The world is not about books", "how can you possibly this bad at catching a ball", "Oh you need glasses? Well it figures your eyes are as weak and worthless as the rest of you" . You get the idea😊
Thanks guys. I mean as I've lived my life I've since heard stories of childhoods that would turn your hair white. But the insidiousness of what occurred to me sticks to you in ways I'm still trying to unravel at 54. Probably always will be. Perhaps therapy would help, I might look into it.
We need to bring trauma info and education into the medical field! Why isn't it there!? I don't understand! It makes no sense! I'm going to make it my mission to get it there!!
Because they don't make money off of the public following through with this knowledge of how to heal themselves &/or avoid getting sick in the first place. They want us to stay sick so that they can make money off of their drugs!
Dr. Mate - what a good man. So kind.
Am I the only one that gets irritated every time the piano music starts, the Doctor is drowned out, and then the lady starts talking?! Why can we just continue to listen to him instead of his speaking being interrupted?!?!
@@o0Blu3b1rd0o
Agreed.
You’re not alone. I feel that way with all the videos. They don’t get that less is more.
yep
These comments about the piano music are nonsense and you are missing the point of listening to this video, shallow minded
That must be your trauma ❤
Always thought I wasn’t good enough, definitely a people pleaser doing things to keep everyone around me happy. Would get stressed, frustrated and angry trying to control everyone’s thoughts.
Now I’m 52, I have rheumatoid arthritis, and feel free that I no longer have to worry about other people’s emotional wellbeing.
It’s not that I don’t care, I’m learning to think about my wellbeing first and not be there for others at the detriment of my own health and happiness.
i spend all my life trying to prove i m good enough. in my case, that is the reason i become artist, in many formes. so thank you, shity grand ma, dad, and all of you who made me feel that way. well, i am good enough. and much more. and more . and more. ❤
@@mikkilee-ry2te touché 🥰
@@godzillamanstreb524 ❤️
@mikkilee-ry2te
I can relate!!
What kind of art do you producing?
ME TOO. ARTIST
wow that was incredible Dr Garbo Mates 😃💕
Though I’ve been appreciating him for many years, I can’t get enough of Gabor Mate’s powerful, profound and practical teaching and lectures. As he tells us, the road to recovery and healing- and blossoming,- is ongoing and never ends. God Bless You and Keep you with us, dear Doctor/Healer!
Deep and joyful, soulful thanks! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
O, please...rolls eyes!!
but deceives about cancer and what cancer really is and that it has fully been cured by alternative methods.
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00:30 Reason for addressing Trauma
10:26 How to address trauma
22:29 importance of recognising the response pattern
32:39 importance of compassion
40:40 importance of childhood experience
46:36 Unresolved trauma and physical symptoms
51:22 Bodies reaction to trauma
57:25 Support systems examples
01:06:27 role of compassion and mindfulness
@@tahsinnurun4075 thank you ❤️
Gratitude to Inside Serene and Dr. Gabor Mate. Childhood trauma has led to years of me being a people pleaser, not feeling good enough, or worthy enough, and the inability to say NO. I am now on my healing journey, and although I still have difficulty, I'm healthier than before. People don't like it when I say no to their demands, but they need to work on their own self care. Their healing and self care are their responsibility. I'm happy to be in this good space. I am at peace with myself and the decisions I make.
You’re welcome I’m actually on the same phase of my life through this community I was able to pay more attention to myself because I have this opportunity to share methods that help me navigate the road to full recovery - keep your journey sending ❤️❤️❤️
@@insideserene ❤️
@ sending love ❤️❤️❤️
Nagyon köszönöm. A trauma már az anyaméhben kezdődik. Engem feldolgozatlan gyász közben vártak. A testvérem 13 évesen elhunyt. Leesett a padlásról, csigolyatörés. Egy “okos” pszichológus ajánlotta, hogy legyek én vígasznak. Nem lettem, mert nem lehettem. Apám ott ütött, ahol ért, alkoholista lett a fia halála után. A poklot megjártam. Sokat megértek az előadásaiból kedves Gábor. Thanks again.
You can’t fake your way out of feelings feel it I mean really feel it it’s ugly scary and it hurts like hell but watch that negative energy leave your body once you acknowledge it..💖
YOU BEAUTIFUL MAN. HAVE AFFECTED SOOO MANY WITH YOUR DEDICATION TO VERY HARD CASES. NOT ALL REACH ME. THANKYOU THANKYOU. PROFOUND WISDOM. ❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊 BLESSINGS 🙌 🙏 ✨️ ❤️ ADORE YOU .
This video would be so much better if your just let him talk
Been listening to Gabor for years he's such a beautiful soul. It's such ashame how broken society has become we should be living the most abundant life in human history so why are we living the complete opposite where a very select few have the abundance and Billions are left by the wayside through no choice of there own.
@@mikepackham5260 It’s bc they are beyond evil & they want us dead…
@@mikepackham5260 💯
I love seeing your face. In it is something very touching to the heart. Pain and sincerity. May you be blessed with happiness and contentment.
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
People need to realise that people with anxiety disorders have oversensitised nerves, it's not a simple case of manning up and getting over it.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, Doctor Greg Mushrooms he is a great man of God who has the great insight on psychedelic and mushroom. He will guide you on how to use mushrooms to get good trip.
Please, how do I reach doctor Greg?
He’s on the internet
Now everything makes sense! I was abused as a child and had asthma, ironically my asthma disappeared when I left home at 18, doctors call it “childhood asthma”.
I had a lot of environmental triggers that were a part of my parents neglect as well that contributed to my childhood asthma
most people do grow out of it if acquired childhood. Your house could have also had mold, or you ate better? I get it though --- my gang style family abuse 4 on 1 (them on me) caused diabetes as a child. Sadly, this doesn't go away :(
@@Milenamijangos Same experience. I had asthma and digestive problems as a child that were so severe that I was hospitalized. I left my abusive home at 16 and they miraculously disappeared.
Lately I have been realizing how much stress I have had and still have related to lack of financial security. I am getting better at minimalistic living which is helping me and also clearing blocks. Thank you for your lectures they are helpful
Instead of "I'm not...." say "I am grateful for [ Fill in daily, like a breakfast, lunch, dinner, snack, treat, change of thought, a present 🎁 ]
Thank you ‼️🥰
@@zovalentine7305 I’m grateful for the air that I breathe and the love I receive
It's hard to be grateful when I really taste the food
Thanks sis
@@zovalentine7305 I am so grateful for hearing u, period. Happy happy days
Trauma is inner pain, a psychic wound, a wound on your soul invisible to medical world, only visible to you. Acknowledge it, be with it, accept it, lean to it with compassion, feel it fully, welcome the pain, breath in and breath out on top of it, make prayers for this wound, bring this wound to your consciousness, it feels like another part of your psyche integrate with this part, talk to it, embrace it...... isn't it all the healing modalities listed below addressing the same simple principle of feel the feelings fully and let it complete in your body and experience:-
1. TRE (Trauma Release Exercise)
2. Somatic Experiencing
3. Somatic Practicing
4. FOCUSING
5. VIPASANA
6. Embodying
7. Eckhart-shining light of consciousness
8. Shadow integration
9. Completion exercise
10. Compassionate Inquiry
11. Tapping
12. WuWei wisdom Acceptance
13. EMDR
14. Yoga
15. Inner Child healing
16. Gratitude Journal
17. CBT
18. Talk Therapy
19. IFST
My Mom and Dad would be very proud of my accomplishments if they were still alive. I got the best of both of them.
I have chosen to live out the best of mine...! SOOOO empowering!!
What thoughtful explanations and guidance for self- healing and self-compassion! Now, it seems to me that most of our emotional obstacles and diseases can be traced back for a profound healing. I loved it! Thank you!
Gabor every single thing you're saying is what happened to me in my life I was abused as a child I never expressed my anger I said yes to everybody as a people pleaser and now I have multiple sclerosis I have skin cancer I've been depressed I mean having a crack addiction for 25 years it is proven cuz every what you're saying is happening to me I plan on hearing myself once I heal my childhood trauma all my diseases will go away
Yes
I was raised by 2 wonderful dillusional adopted parents who brought me into a home with a 2 1/2 year old mentally "challenged" child. I was 5 months old. I went through hell with his mother because she had no training in this area. She became neurotic. Our dad died of a heart attack when we were young. You know, people just expect too much from each other and this manifests in our minds and bodies. I've taken 2 1-2 years to look back and rewrite my past. The truth of what I know I suffered through. And what I put my kids through with this traumatizing man who I helped her with because of her trauma bond and my feeling obligated to this shame based toxic person. And when I began this journey, I had to prepare myself. I said, "Anything is possible with people". And what I discovered was that this family was never mine. It was all pretend. Because they hid my father's gift to his children to support them in their lives. Our mother lived a very comfortable life while we lived in poverty. But, ten years ago, she had her day of Judgement. I know it sounds trite. But having to live with that lie did catch up with her. She questioned her destiny. And I won't. Because I know I'm a good honest person. People do things they don't even recognize others know they're doing. And that's the blind side. I was always watching them and I believe God was through me. Fight these liars. You might just have been a testamentary. I know I was and carry no man ordain and shame. I wish you all the best and light that is coming your way.
@@jenndel4 may u heal soon. sending love n prayers.
I hope u get to try psychedellic mushrooms
It really helps
Trust it
u seem to be working on all this right now, and succeeding!
Thank you for sharing this important information 🙏
I have asthma and eczema... Ive noticed that stress makes it worse, its a challenge not to be around stressful people
It's one and the same thing. In Chinese medicine, the skin belongs to the lung system. Often, the ''successful treatment'' of asthma with Western medicine is transformed into a skin problem.
What you say is true, Dr. Gabor. The best thing I have heard about the relationship between the body and the mind, and after listening to your lectures, I learned to say no effectively.❤
when I say YES I often don't know what I'm doing. SO IMPORTANT NOW!!
I had asthma growing up. Everything being said resonates. Thus far I have practice meditation, which I’ve noticed improve my situation, but no lie it takes time. The body is a tape recorder.. And bringing awareness to it, releases the energy, the psychic energy. Mindfulness meditation watching your thoughts is the way. I feel I still have a long way to go. I find and I am angry. In spite of all my effort.
This video would be amazing if it wasn’t for all of the interruptions with the overly sentimental music and the unnecessary interpretations.
Grew up CSA, child abuse. A cutter, drank to blackouts in high school. One abusive relationship after another. Not being able to say no. Saying no and not being respected. Suicide attempt at 24. Breast lump at 35. Dr. Mate is so right about connecting childhood trauma to illness. I had headaches from age 11 onward and stomach pain from age 16. Nothing was ever found. I find having an empty nest syndrome stress traumatic now being isolating for 5 years with my daughter an adult and me thinking I better clean up my life to prevent disease.
I’m here to support you lets get well together its hard but it can be done sending ❤️❤️❤️
I’d love to send this to my GP. Doctors are so uninformed about trauma and the body.
Absolutely
@youtuber-cc8sx Do Respect but also share good knowledge. it's is also important as healthy argumentations!
And yeah your point is valid we have to show respect which i think we often forget.
@@BionicBunny333 you are the doctor, and now you know.
@@BionicBunny333 just training is different for them - more oriented to reach pharmaceutics first rather than the holistic approach. But it shifts now … depending where you go and who you see.
@@annaalcyone6469 I’m sorry you are either born a healer or you’re not and let’s face it many of them are not natural born healers.
I can see myself trying to prove myself Im good enough because someone told me for many years I was not
only time to really worry about false judgements is when you are fully grown and responsible, the OTHERS should worry about doing u as a child.
I was told by my stepmother that that I was going to be a loser alcoholic just like my mother and I was told by my mother that just because I thought I was better than her didn’t mean I was ever gonna be in any better because I was always always gonna be a loser.
This has to be by design. It’s like I’m in some kind of horrific experiment just to see when I will actually break even though I’ve already tried to kill myself multiple times. Not the “cry for help” kind of trying to kill yourself… The real kind where you’re in the ICU for several days clinging to life.
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My mom kept telling everybody I'm a lazy loser and for years I believed that that I'm worthless irresponsible and nothing it's been a while since I've tried to get rid of all the crap she put inside me at least nowadays I'm out of the house and I even see some of my old classmates now hopefully by next year I will have gotten my shit together. Fingers crossed
I believe he says "soothe themselves," not "suit themselves." Amazing message.
Not my first Dr. Mate lecture…I’m always a puddle of tears when I listen to him.
Man.
Thank you for sharing this.
I saw a study where if there was yelling the child stops playing and looking around to do anything. They were baby’s that probably couldn’t walk yet but survival make humans stop what we’re doing when danger is near and listen.
Whoever is stopping to talk in between. Please stop. I came to listen tp Dr. Mate
I have been learning that a lot of these symptoms also manifest in our chakras. A blocked solar plexus, throat, and third eye chakra can have symptoms of a not feeling good enough
I'm more than enough. Don't give a shit what negative people think.
you must be self employed.
@@averayugen7802lol! 😆
ME TOO!!!!!!!! Yea!!!
@@Niko-xz5lk I know what u mean to laugh.
Yes you are 💖✨️
"Don't mistake my kindness for weakness!"
@@indigoblue4791 people have made this mistake with me my WHOLE ENTIRE LIFE!!!! I’m now 46 and it’s still happening 🙄
Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding 🙏 Proverbs 4:7
We all heal differently. Seek out your personal healing. I had severe depression n anxiety attacks. I’m 100 free from all that. I found healing thru connecting w Holy Spirit. This connection w God has been a healing journey in itself. Wrong teaching and my own immaturity in understanding the Heart of our Heavenly Fathers love towards me kept me away from our Heavenly Fathers healing embrace. Ministers like Kathi Oates n Bev Tucker have helped bring down lies aka walls to connect me w God. I like this man’s explanation on how stress on parents effects their children. I’m open to learn from all. I give credit to Jesus for my heart’s healing. Pray all get healed🙏🙏🙏
Amen!
What a wonderful talk, Gabor Maté, thank you so much!! You address the essence of life: interconnectedness and wholeness. It is such a simple truth and yet so hard to find in Western society. I'd love to hear your talk uninterrupted by Inside Serene.
The editing and additional comments need to improve a little bit… it would have been better to have the complete video uninterrupted.
Thank u dr. Mate.
I have learned to #focus on what's being said...not what I'm thinking 🤔
#selectivelistening😂...
Remove those adds please, really awful! Salute to Gábor!
I have never heard anyone say that illness was the best thing that happened to me
I had to die to learn to live better for myself.....those who see things through the lenses of faith, we see light from dark
Thank You for Sharing, this is so helpful to clarify the healing journey 😇🥰
The music and lady speaking really interrupts Doctor Mate
Had this all my life .. I will never be good enough & have resigned myself to it .
Dear man, in my life experience, it’s never too late to use free will to change the programming and trauma. My hope and prayer is that you will open your heart with compassion for yourself and make the positive and soon joyful shift into self worth. You’re truly worth it and as Gabor Mate says, our true authentic self is the jewel and pearl of great price! That’s who you are, dear brother. ❤😊
@@ionageman I feel the same way. I’ve been in therapy and feel better for a couple weeks but the low self esteem and self loathing come right back. I’ve been trying all my life and it never goes away.
A narcissist is not liked by most people. I thank God for the true friends I have and the good in the world.
Actually, they are liked by many people because those people do t get to see the narc's true self. The majority of them get to witnesses the narc with their nice person mask on. It's the very very close family and friends that see the monster emerge behind closed doors.
The videos between the speech are painful to watch. The music and voice are very abrupt and take away significantly from what is to have attention paid to it.
What a powerful talk. A lot of this resonates with me and the psycho biological connection is interesting
I just don't appreciate the way you editing this video, interrupted the speech.
Second this
Third this
Fourth this. I just wanted to listen to the lecture uninterrupted.
fifth this
Exactly, very annoying
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In the Cicle we needed to keep Balance ✨️💫💖
These narcissists hate that I'm happy, creative and loving.
Oh yeah
@@JasonMomoa999 I'm not (then again, I'm not a narc, lol). I'm happy for you!
No bars hold … I enough ! I will honor my own intentions and create a better life in my world with others to support those who are on board with being better themselves . We must build a strong community together , rgst which is positive and supportive and able to love unconditionally and live a long and happy life ! No exceptions ! Unconditional love should be a club ! Haha
Dr. Mate has changed my life of thinking , awakening and enjoying me, my tribe I choose to live happy and healthy and respectful ! I still have so much to learn and grow as a person who wants only to be authentic and know thy self ❤🎉😂 ty Dr Gabor Mate for being born! 🎉
So many great insights in one video. Thank you!
Thanks for the information and a different way of thinking! Always learning ❤
I’m trauma trained-spent a lot of money I didn’t have getting certified, licensed etc only to live in a state of financial stress and loneliness after the pandemic . Healing doesn’t just happen without community -we are hurt by people and stay hurt unless and until the conditions change. I can’t afford what I’m trained in . A sense of humor is all I am left with, if that -no one told me it would get worse after age 65-financially- this monopoly game ruins lives
I’m not good enough mindset coupled with PTSD and choosing a partner that made me feel like I was always wrong gave me depression. Don’t play around, know your value make changes. I didn’t think I could get depression. The symptoms manifested physically first …. Now I know what depression feels like. It feels like you’re in prison inside your own body. You want to do but you can’t because you have no energy and the apathy sucks
@@PowerGurhl wow, going through sth similar
"The addiction is not the problem. The addiction is actually an attempt at a solution."
Wheres my reply ?
1. Excellent talk as always from Dr Gabor Mate
2. The bad acting from the guy in the yellow shirt with a tummy ache around 46 minutes was hilarious!
lol at first I thought, wtf you're talking about, then I watched and laughed
I've been loved authentically by many including my family.
I am so happy for you❤
The adds ruin the whole thing sadly 😢
I was never abused by my parents, but I still grew up thinking that I'm not good enough and not worthy to live.
@@Maomao_3010 do you know what your parents felt about having children when your mom was pregnant with you? Did they want a boy? What emotions did your mom suppress? Did you feel loved by them? Were they critical, punishing, demanding, controlling? What we’re their childhoods like? What was their relationship like? Did they love each other (from your pov), did they fight a lot, did they complain to you about each other? Where do you feel you got the message “I’m not good enough”?
@@juliebennion8856 they told me that they are expecting a boy when I was still in the womb. Does it have an impact?
Maybe another factor was I feel like they favor my sister more than me.
@ there you go! They were expecting a boy while you, a girl child, were developing in-Utero, experiencing their expectation translating emotionally into a feeling of wrongness/I’m wrong; I’m not what they want. Then their preference for your sister, on top of that… sounds to me like you didn’t feel wanted, loved, valued. And that’s traumatic for a baby child, growing up, surrounded by such a lack of acceptance, appreciation, adoration. Does that feel true? In your heart, your soul? Not ‘what do your thoughts say’; What’s your gut feeling.
This excellent. All of this.
Thanks for this post extremely helpful. Healing, learning and getting clear. So heartbreaking this human condition and I hope to attract what is good for me to grow not hurt and hurt.
This is a fantastic video on how everything is interconnected in our body. Wow!!! I'm on a healing journey and this is really eye opening.
Outstanding amazing incredible. I want the focus to be on the overcoming healing love attention to self. Which you cover very well.
I appreciate that you do disscuss,he often doesn't discuss healing but the issues. Thank this is brilliant!❤❤❤❤
The last part where Gábor was talking was really good.
I was traumatized as a young child and again throughout my young adolescent and teenage life. The worst was when I was 24 when I discovered my narcissist wife now divorced 24 years was cheating on me. Will I ever recover? I don't believe so. I've made peace with that fact.
What an amazing talk !
People didn’t appreciate me being decent and cordial and now I’m through with that and well they aren’t going to like my alternative so enjoy
I am this nice that has adapted to be safe
As someone that struggles with treatment resistant depression, an LSD trip gave me an entire year of freedom from pain and depression.
Did you did it with the help of a therapist? I struggle with the same problem
@@janetklumper6048 I didn't. I tried it recreationally and was so surprised by the results! Now that I am older, I do engage in regular therapy.
I wish I had come across this wonderful content way before I became addicted to spending valuable years of my life in front of the computer screen and didnt realized how it would mess my brain up. If I had had a vivid, normal childhood and adolescense and was great at school and haven't gone through years of bullying and socialwithdrawal, I wouldn´t have given in irrelevant and endless stupid entertainment. My brain suffered a lot and even writing this comment is tough for me. Bullying, therefore, social withdrawal has lasting consequences no matter how it is done. We should l
My trauma is definitely an “I’m not good enough” sorta thing. ADHD. It’s the worst. I would give it away if I could.
Powerful! ❤
I can’t help but view this understanding in the light of pandemic protocols. All of the stress responses were triggered by a significant portion of our societies. Of course the suppression of the immune systems, while a viral infection is surrounding us is counterproductive. Perhaps, this body/mind connection was surfacing to be healed in the collective consciousness of the humanity. Having grown up in the post war era, the family stress Dr. Mate discusses was extremely prevalent in most households. Seniors were considered the most vulnerable group, which makes the timing accurate. Interesting.
Its not just childhood.
Even innlate adulthood we are attacked.
In my 50's after a life time of always doing thebright things generallybaccept getting a divorce... my father just lent into me telling me Everything he hates about me and told me I destroy everything I touch .
Note I was a child of divorce from 3 yo on... Henwas always passive agressive towards me teeating my sister as if she was better tho she was a drug addict and did everything destrictive in the world... where i did none of it...
At 60 im more insecure than ever.
I dont onow how to brish this feel ok ng away and feel like indestroy every situation in life now.
Thanks for sharing. Hope you are going well. You are enough. Sending love from Portugal. ❤
Sorry to hear that. Would some counselling help? Sending you love
I was recently told that I might have MS. I need a brain CT to confirm. I have been feeling like it is not likely MS, but rather stress, emotions and mental abuse that I have been dealing with. I am so grateful to have found this video that actually reaffirms what I was thinking. Trust your gut, right? I will follow up with the brain CT, but I really think I need to focus on healing my mental health.
@BeanieAnn read The Cayenne Pepper Cure ebook and then The Enema Cure ebook as well. Both free pdfs. Also, Dr. Elizabeth Moser's free ebook, How And When To Be Your Own Doctor. (I sound like a 'free ebook peddler' but I'm not haha. Pretty sure there's no such thing either). Good reads anyway, wish the best to you, warmest regards :)
cheesy background music adds nothing, it distracts
I've got a traumatised body and mind & there's absolutely no way of dealing with it as far as I've been able to discover, in fact trying to has only led to hostility being ostracised and ridiculed!
Ever listen to Eckart Tolle? Stay strong ❤
WOW - so much needed information
They are jealous of me b/c I'm high-vibrational, pretty, talented, intelligent and confidant.
Yep
Just don’t go to the past or future the past is depression
The future is anxiety
Right now there is nothing wrong without the past and future
Thanks❣️
The commentary takes away from the video.
Fantastic video, thank you 🙏💖
This is incredibly enlightening and insightful.
I would have preferred if I would have listened only to the doctor. I fast forwarded the parts that had the narative.
So insightful
No Sense of Self- A Poem
Looking in the mirror
I see a person
I walk away and go on with life
Not knowing who that person is
There is no core
No sense of self
Constantly wondering how others see me
Fear of rejection was a lesson well taught
Learning I should be a certain way, look a certain way
And worry about being shunned
Was instilled very early
And judgment was prematurely passed
That the world would not like who I was
Yet I was only then beginning to learn who I was
Criticism was my constant companion as a youth
Given by a parent
Who laid their insecurities upon me
And stifled the person that only wished to find themselves
as youth do
preventing me from developing my true self
or accepting my persona with love
No
Stifled I was
Until I became an empty mold
Pried into shape by my environment
And adaptive to what the world needed from me
A mask
A being inside that mask
Ever searching for who they are
Going from experience to experience
Struggling within and ever unsure
In fear
Of learning about, accepting, and growing that persona
For fear as my parent explained
That the world would not like the true person inside
Who never the chance to grow
To let their qualities shine through
To feel confident and have faith in themself
To finally learn and accept who they are
And live among those that can see the beauty
Of the humanness in me
And appreciate the scars of imperfection
The scars of criticism that hide the beauty
For I only see a monster
When I look in the mirror
And though I can accept that impression is in my head
Installed there by a parent
and siblings that enforced the harsh criticisms upon me
Yet
Inevitably I am taunted
Even in my later years
Spending most of life struggling
To find a sense of self
And wandering
Searching for a place of where I can feel safe
To let the person inside me grow
And be revealed
And be evermore surprised
As I continue to explore who I am
And how the world sees me
And discovering
That my parent was wrong…
My Self beautiful.
this is so important
I know this is true for some people, but the more stress I have been, the better I breathe. I have the opposite effect. I’m 62 years old and have experience this my whole life on and off.
I've faced multiple traumas and family dysfunction when I was young, I now have fibromyalgia and chronic pain 😢
After a accident, Jesus showed himself to me in a daytime vision. Twice! After I chose to follow him. I was given the second blessing maybe a month later.I didnt eveb know what happened to me because iv never read the bible. Its been a wild ride man. Iv seen crazy spiritual things. Its 100% real. Going on 2 years born again.
❤🙏🏻Glory to God!
Hbhu
I wasnt abused physically or sexually. But man Mom and Dad sure made sure i have absolutely no self esteem 😂😂. I was usually ignored, and that was better, but when they would talk to me it was to just tear me down. "The world is not about books", "how can you possibly this bad at catching a ball", "Oh you need glasses? Well it figures your eyes are as weak and worthless as the rest of you"
. You get the idea😊
Seems rough. Stay strong Mark. You are enough
Thats terrible. I went through something similar though...
Thanks guys. I mean as I've lived my life I've since heard stories of childhoods that would turn your hair white. But the insidiousness of what occurred to me sticks to you in ways I'm still trying to unravel at 54. Probably always will be. Perhaps therapy would help, I might look into it.
Why do you laugh about that ? Is that a joke for you ?
That's still abuse. Sorry Mark. I pray you've come to believe your goods enough ❣️
We need to bring trauma info and education into the medical field! Why isn't it there!? I don't understand! It makes no sense! I'm going to make it my mission to get it there!!
@@jenndel4 thats true I just came from my emotion healing programme that question pop in yes we need someone like you
it doesn't make money...that's why
Human awakening is not the priority of capitalism
Because they don't make money off of the public following through with this knowledge of how to heal themselves &/or avoid getting sick in the first place. They want us to stay sick so that they can make money off of their drugs!
@@jenndel4 maybe it's about selling pills.
No thank you I am researching for my self. Have a great day ✨
Utterly brilliant