Dr. Gabor Maté Explains: The Dangers of Ignoring Your Own Needs
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- ✨ Dr. Gabor Maté Explains: The Dangers of Ignoring Your Own Needs and Understanding the Impact of Self-Suppression
In this enlightening video, we explore the profound effects of chronic self-suppression on our health, guided by the insights of Dr. Gabor Maté. Discover how neglecting personal authenticity and consistently prioritizing others' needs over our own can lead to significant health consequences.
🔍 Key Topics Covered:
🌿 The Dangers of Ignoring Your Own Needs: Learn from historical examples and personal anecdotes about the physical manifestations of neglecting self-care.
🌿 Autoimmune Diseases and Emotional Suppression: Understand the link between autoimmune diseases and emotional self-abnegation, especially in women, through the lens of the mind-body connection.
🌿 Healthy Anger as a Boundary Defense: Find out how appropriately expressed anger serves as a healthy defense mechanism and its parallels with the immune system.
🌿 Disease as a Manifestation of Internal Processes: Reframe your understanding of disease as a dynamic process influenced by life experiences, beliefs, and relationships.
💡 Why You Should Watch:
✨ Gain valuable insights from Dr. Gabor Maté on the interconnectedness of emotional health and physical well-being.
✨Discover practical advice on setting healthy boundaries and expressing emotions constructively.
✨ Learn how cultural and societal roles impact health, particularly for women, and what can be done to mitigate these effects.
✨ Empower yourself with knowledge to transform your health through self-awareness and emotional authenticity.
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This may sound stupid, but what if you don't even know what your own needs are?
No it’s not stupid…
I don’t know what my needs are either.
I’m a recluse & socially isolated and rarely mix with anyone in society.
It's not stupid at all! Understanding your own needs can sometimes be a challenging journey, but it's important to take the time to self-reflect and figure out what truly matters to you.
Start to get to know yourself. Explore what you love. Find the things that spark passion. This is the fertile ground that purpose and fulfillment sprout from.
People are here but only a few are alive.
Not stupid at all! You can be so conditioned to suppress your needs you forget to ask yourself what they are. Take the time to ask and be patient with yourself. It’s what I’ve had to do.
I have been there for very long .Now i am into 7th year rediscovering who i am .Discerning between what i love and hate 😂.Now i allow myself the freedom to say what i hate and with that i discover what i adore .I hate war and fights .I love most animals ,the pesky ones i hate .All flowers are beautifull? I like people but i had to learn to turn my back on some . We" give off " an energy .If you prefer being alone thats okay ,be in your own happiness .Why would i go to meeting where people fight if i can plant a tree 😂? Do what makes you happy ...
I believe the only way to know your needs is to spend lots of time alone, exploring different activities and experiences to find out what you like and don’t like. Then sharing the things that give you joy with others ❤
Thank you for sharing your insightful thoughts on self-discovery and spreading joy. It's important to take time for ourselves and then give back to others.
This makes total sense. Any suggestions on how to do this when you're married with a family? A lot of alone time literally feels impossible.
@@averyllesmith2957 i have a Family too, I try to curve out sometime for myself like leaving my boys with their grandparents and signing up for a dance class, or painting class or just trying a new recipe when my kids are around. It’s possible you can do this. 😘
That's an amazing advice
What goes on your mind, goes in your body...
Thank you Dr Gabor !
Thank you for appreciating Dr. Gabor's insights, they are truly life-changing!
U needed this guy to tell u that?
Thank Dr Gabor. You have just told me WHY!
Thank you for your comment!
If only there was more of you ! Thank you so much !❤
Thank you so much for your kind words! Your encouragement really fuels my passion for creating more content!
Dr Gabor love your book “The Myth of Normal” it explains so much that has been helpful to me. Have you ever thought of coming to Halifax, Nova Scotia? Love to see and hear you in person😀
Thanks for replying! It is helpful
Thank you for your kind words!
Wake up call…
Thank you for watching!
Thats one thing u've never done: ignore ur needs😅
He focus on what you are doing self to others 😅 cancer without real understanding 😅 AI is just a bad joke 😅
I was a people pleaser, I developed cancer. I recovered after an aggressive drug regime. I attributed my illness to my interaction with others. 31 months after diagnosis, I completely changed my life. I am no longer a people pleaser, and 16 years on, I'm still fit and healthy. My advice would definitely be to put your own wellbeing before anyone else's.
Thank you Dr Gabor gift to the world is immeasurable.
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so glad to hear about your recovery and how you've transformed your life. Your advice about prioritizing your own wellbeing is truly inspiring. Wishing you continued health and happiness.
May the good Lord continue to Bless you, don’t forget to do fun things! Congratulation and Best healthy wishes for your life!…❤🎉🕊✝️🙌🙂
Oh I’m happy to read that outcome ❤
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I’m 62 and if I feel any anxiety about an upcoming event that I don’t have to attend but feel obligated to, I now choose to stay home or work if I’m scheduled. I don’t go out of my way for others when they don’t appreciate my efforts. I don’t put extra stress or pressure on myself because I know it can lead to exhaustion and health problems. Be kind to yourself first. ❤
Right never ignore your needs rather ignore whoever ignores those
Thank you for the reminder to focus on self-care and not let others neglect our needs.
The background music is soooo unnecessary!!! Actually distracting
I was abused and bullied throughout my childhood: I know this is common, but I couldn't gain weight as I felt continually ill through stress and couldn't eat much, had eczema on my body, had tonsillitis once a month, couldn't stop shaking. There were also obvious mental illness symptoms. Yes, trauma and later suppression of being allowed to show your anger and feelings towards noone doing anything for you at the time and then having to care for them later in life, affects your physical health dramatically.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you've been through. Your pain is valid, and it's important to acknowledge the impact it has had on your life. Remember, you deserve care and support. Please take care of yourself and seek out the help you need. You are strong for sharing your story.
Oh no, I hope you are free from those shackles now
It sure does...I hope you gained some weight!
That sounds really tough. Isn't it a shock when you realize your family just doesn't care? Blows me away how awful people can be. You hang in there. Sounds like you're on the road to healing. Best of luck!
Discover the life-affirming wisdom of Dr. Gabor Maté as he discusses the importance of prioritizing your well-being in this insightful video. Learn why it's crucial to never ignore your own needs and how to cultivate a healthier relationship with yourself. Join us for a transformative journey towards self-care and self-awareness with Dr. Gabor Maté. #DrGaborMaté, #SelfSuppression, #EmotionalHealth, #AutoimmuneDiseases, #MindBodyConnection, #HealthyBoundaries, #SuppressingEmotions, #WomenHealth, #ChronicIllness, #HealthConsequences, #EmotionalSuppression, #HealthyAnger, #DiseaseManifestation, #EmotionalWellbeing
Is this Gabor Mate's channel? I don't think so.
Thank you for this video ✨
As a busy mother of three and with lots of other responsibilities I found out that I just need to say “I need time alone”, “I need to go out with my friend” or “I need this time just for myself “…and etc.
I didn’t realize it right away, but when I just say what I need (simply saying it without emotions, just stating because it’s true) your needs will be met with respect by your loved ones as a crucial and important factor. Because you matter! You matter to yourself!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! ✨ It's amazing to hear how you've found a way to prioritize your needs. As a busy mom of three, you have so much on your plate, and recognizing the importance of self-care is so powerful. Your message is a great reminder that it's okay to ask for time for yourself and that our loved ones will understand and respect our needs. You definitely matter, and taking care of yourself helps you be the best for your family. Thank you for the inspiration! 🌟
I understand. I just don’t know how to
Change. Even in my marriage I have abandoned myself and my emotional needs plus my intimate needs. I wish my husband could see and understand. I am
not happy.
All my traumas are like a raw nerve right now. I need help.
I told my GP that the dermatologist only wanted to give me pills for my eczema. Very expensive pills. My eczema went away years later afte I realized my family demanded to define who I am and I took my power back. I cut ties with them. All better. My doctor doesn't get it.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s inspiring to see how you took charge of your health and happiness.
These insights both attract and scare me. Being "good" and "caring" and "selfless" is and has been my identity since childhood (yes, grew up with an alcoholic but kind dad and a loving but emotionally drained mother) I don't know how to claim my space or acknowledge my needs, and every time I try I'm told that I'm selfish and hurt (my husband) people. I panic inside, get dizzy and sort of freeze because I don't wan't to be the cause of someones pain and can't handle it. I understand I have to, I just don't know how or where to begin.
It's completely understandable to feel that way, especially with such a complex background. Remember, it's okay to prioritize your own needs; self-care is not selfish. Starting small and gradually asserting yourself can help you find your voice.
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you! ❤️
@@helenaakerlindgunnars838 bless you!❤
thanks....i am going through a difficult trail right now....
i am living in my car....because i have been abused in shelters and i dont meet the criteria for domestic violence shelters...we are living in a violent culture. people are like vultures and prey on you and your orivacy and personal belongins....the other day i saw on a car that said #onlythestrongsurvive....it made me very upset. being in my car has limited my ability to really think things through clearly ..i am always in upheaval....i have to straigten my car out every day...its always getting messy because there isnt much room...
i cannot get a job and i find that tehre are wicked cruel women who are bent on sabotage and rub in my not workig and say things like I have to get to work etc....they wont give me a job becaue i am a christian..i have to make some major decisions ..ia m being stalked and harassed by cops and cops in their own personal vehicles..
i want to be around people who really love me...
I'm so sorry to hear you're going through such a tough time. Your strength and resilience in the face of all this are truly admirable. It’s heartbreaking to know how much you're struggling, and it's important to remember that you deserve kindness and respect. Please keep reaching out for support, and know that there are people out there who care about you. Take care of yourself as best as you can.
@@yourinnerchildmatters
@@yourinnerchildmatters my heart ached reading about your experience. I’m replying to recommend you listen to Louise Hay to learn to love yourself. Everything will change when you find that self love. EFT -tapping helps me immensely and maybe it will help you too to relieve anxiety and despair. You can do tapping for self love too. My love to you, wherever you are.
@@karenhartman9774 ❤
Fantastic info provided here❤ grateful for all your doing ❤
Thank you for your kind words, I'm glad you found the information helpful!
It is me people and relatives pleaser. It completely drained me and i got sick ,my knees developed arthritis and hardy walk more than three blocks. When i confronted my immediate family with their behavior they turn against me and isolated me more and more. Even my tenent take advantage and doesn't want to move and pay the rent. That is why you cares for people and use you
I'm sorry to hear about what you've been going through. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and set boundaries with those who take advantage of your kindness.
Contemplate this:
"Dear God, I need money"
The prayer is instantly granted. You need money.
All creation begins with a decision to have a desire.
All we humans ever do is imagine and decide.
Or contemplate this:
Q. How do you know you don't NEED it?
A. You don't have it ❗
These diseases are also a result of abuse, you can’t blame it all on the victim. Also, financial abuse.
thanks for sharing your thoughts
Well, when you’re an adult, stop being a victim. Take responsibility for your own healing and health.
You can make this choice at any time, although it seems hard. Feelings of being a victim also cause stress.
Now we know that more women have MS because it’s linked to the X chromosome, of which women have two. Men are XY - only one X.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
I'd like to see that study.
Chromosomes are genetic information. It's very dangerous to assign a causal relationship. It might be related, ie, activated by anxiety, but to say "more women get it "BECAUSE" is very problematic
Which is why the ERA needs to be passed in the USA--and full access to birth control, abortion and divorce. The feminists got it right. The liberation of women increases the health and well-being of women.
Thank you for recognizing the importance of the ERA and women's rights.
I don’t agree with abortion, I believe once you decide and go through the process of killing your baby growing inside of you, it will leave you traumatized. And you can’t go back and redo it. Please honor and respect yourself enough to not have casual sex. God told us, sex is between a husband and his wife for our own good, to protect us. It’s hard being a woman today, having a stressful career and being a mother and a wife. It’s too much, but this is my opinion; I thought I would share. ❤
Thank you Dr Gabor. You are an inspiration to me. ❤
thanks for watching
To Dr. Gabor, the awakened mind is a state where self awareness is independent of phenomena. Phenomena being the happening now of everything as a constant happening irrespective of any particular thought, feeling or image of any kind. Ones sense of self awareness is derived by placing attention on yourself as a meditation. A state of being aware you are aware is a state where the mind can only hold one thought and it's yourself alone to the extent you can keep your attention placed there. Basically keep doing this inward meditation and the energy you return to yourself will awaken a perspective that no longer is subject to propaganda because our sense of self isn't derived through thought. It will never leave and you will forever identify with it in duality. This sense of self or awareness is the doorway to all understanding says the Tao Te Ching. Adyashanti knows this sense of self as the awakened self or however culturally you want to define it.
However knowing this doesn't render one feeling less, quite the contrary. One in this state is able to truly expeditiously endeavour kenosis or emptying one's self. The self awareness one gains by placing attention on the self enables this. Don't forget this sense of self is the direction of the kingdom of heaven. The kingdom of heaven is the full realization of the self within manifestation inhabiting both worlds at once. Seeing both polarities at once.
I appreciate your insightful comment and the depth of your understanding. thanks again
Dr Gabor is amazing.
We need specific detailed teachings on how to do this. How to even identify our own needs. What healthy selfishness looks like in practical terms.❤
I appreciate your support and interest in learning more about these topics. Stay tuned for more content on this!
thanks for this video ❤😘
I'm glad you found the video helpful!
“ those are the ones that get cancer by the way” where’s the studies
Thank you for your comment!
He is a doctor and is entitled to tell his personal experiences and observations. People get cancer for many reasons, this certainly could be one factor. Be kind.
This statement could possibly be related to ACE scores and studies- adverse childhood experiences.
Yes so many “diseases” are born out of the “dis-ease” we are carrying inside from our subconscious patterns that were created in age zero to seven. You can rewire the brain to heal
❤ Gabor Mate MD PhD CM ❤
I'm 65 years old and have worked most of my life on the fact that I grew up in an alcoholic family. Anytime it occurs to me that I have a need my first statement to myself is that I can't have it or I don't deserve it. I know that I do it but even at this late age it's hard for me not to default to that. It's really frustrating.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's incredibly brave to acknowledge and speak about the lasting impacts of growing up in an alcoholic family. Many people carry similar burdens throughout their lives, and it's important to recognize that healing is a lifelong journey. It's never too late to work towards changing those deeply ingrained patterns of thought.
Remember, you are deserving of love, care, and all the good things life has to offer. Consider seeking support from a therapist or support group that specializes in these issues-they can provide tools and strategies to help you overcome those feelings of unworthiness. Your awareness of this pattern is a significant first step, and every effort you make towards self-compassion is a victory. Stay strong and keep moving forward. You deserve it.Bless you dear!
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you. Onward.
Ignore them or not, they still never get fulfilled! 🥴
Thank you for the reminder.
So how do you say I have...whatever then? I am processing Autism? Or any other fill in the blanc? Thx
Interesting content but the background music is so off putting
Thank you Dr. Gabor I love to hear you speak. I always learn something you. God Bless you!…🕊✝️❤️🙂🙏🎼
I'm glad you enjoy my videos and find them informative!
My partner well maybe soon to be ex partner always invalidates my opinion, also passive aggressive. Wasn't always this way I changed too when my dad passed away suddenly massive heart attack in 2018. I took a nervous breakdown June 21. I'm better than I was but not 💯 yet.❤
I'm really sorry to hear about what you've been going through. Losing a loved one and dealing with a breakdown is incredibly challenging, and it's understandable that it would affect you deeply. It's important to prioritize your mental health and well-being. Have you been able to talk to your partner about how you're feeling? Sometimes open communication can help, but if they continue to invalidate your feelings, it might be worth considering seeking support from a counselor or therapist. Remember, you deserve to be in a relationship where your feelings and opinions are respected. Take care of yourself and stay strong. ❤️
@@yourinnerchildmatters ive tried talking might as well talk to a brick wall. I'm bisexual and she is gay. She dislikes when men approach me then suppose anyone be like that. I talk she gives silent treatment or says I'm sick talking about this crap. I wanna be with somebody that understands me. I feel uncomfortable broaching some subjects with her now (wasn't always like that). I'm still struggling with the death of my dad. Sometimes I wanna just disappear.❤️
@@nataliemcgowan3425 I'm really sorry to hear about what you're going through. Relationships can be incredibly challenging, especially when communication breaks down. It's important to be with someone who understands and supports you, and it sounds like you're not getting that right now.
Have you tried explaining to her how much this means to you? Sometimes people don't realize the impact their actions have. If she still isn't responsive, it might be worth considering if this relationship is healthy for you.
Also, I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is really tough, and it's normal to feel overwhelmed. Please don't hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or a counselor for support. You don't have to go through this alone.
Remember, your feelings are valid, and you deserve to be heard and understood. Take care of yourself. Bless you dear!
Thanks for posting this. Reassuring as this has been my belief for the past 2 decades or so
Thank you for your kind words and for being a long-time believer in the message of this video!
Beautiful thank you. I have been in the process of change. Thanks to God and his guidance, i am recovering. I am in authenticity. I live one day at a time following my instincts and feelings. I have let people go, expressed myself, stood up for myself, total compassion and empathy for myself. I now love myself unconditionally as i continue my blessed, scared journey
Thank you for sharing your inspiring story. Your strength and self-love shine through.
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you
Just realized this guy’s wife is Gabor Mate’s mate
Beautiful and very true. Dr Gabor provides so much helpful information for us to heal.
I just wish he would apply this logic to the Jewish people in Israel. Many feel very hurt by his warped views. May all humans heal and live in true peace.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's great to see people engaging in meaningful discussions.
Love you Dr. Mate, you are so inspiring, Thank You ❤
Thank you so much for watching.
Very important video and thought provoking. Thank you for sharing ❤
Thank you for taking the time to watch and share your thoughts!
So… I’m gonna die early! NONE of my emotional needs are met 😢
Start educating yourself. Take responsibility for understanding what your emotional needs are and how to meet them.
My dad always told me, I'll be sorry for the things I said (every time i tried to tell him what I don't want). He died of cancer 7 years ago, I miss him, but I am not sorry. Im only sorry it took me so much time to speak up. Once he passed away it became easier to idolize him, though Im still horribly pissed at him coz he ruined my mom's life and my ability to ever trust men. Best decision of my life was to leave and never look back.
I appreciate you opening up about your experience. It’s important to voice our feelings, and I’m glad you found the strength to do so. Your journey is inspiring to many!
Just consider the knowledge that to have a thought there are two things, the thought and the entity the thought occurs within. Now ponder this logic and understand everything about it and you will discover your presence. Easy peasy.
This also explicitly makes clear the separation of the self from thought in that thought occurs within the self not outside it. To say outside it is nonsensical.
Thank you for sharing this insightful perspective!
Thank you for highlighting the importance of recognizing the separation between the self and thoughts.
Check and check
thanks for watching!
This videa is an eye opener
Thank you for watching! I'm glad you found it insightful.