Or hang up the phone on you when you start questioning them about certain things. Happened to me a few months ago and immediately changed my number and went no contact a shortly after.
I shuda loved and left her but I was spellbound and paid the price.If I'd rejected her, played cool she'd still be wanting me but once she knew I liked her it was over.
@@treefrog1962 cause she's a player and you're not a pawn in a game. People like that will forever test and try you. They'll make scrambled eggs out of your brain and emotions. I know it's hard but just keep doing you. Maintain and level up. Finding someone real is very difficult these days. XO ❤️ stay strong and beautiful 🥰
Yes they are! My exN couldn't hold a conversation about anything unless it pertained to his job! Otherwise, he had nothing to say - I might as well have been talking to a wall!
Yes! Very! Mine was the happiest when sitting in our local sports bar flirting. He wanted everyone to see him and if they didn’t come over to speak to him, he wld get up and make his rounds. Very strange people! 🙄
The entitelment, and superiority complex is the core of their insanity. It’s so crazy, that it’s hard to even understand that it is possible. This is the reason that they often get away with their insanity. Outsider who don’t know them can’t belive that they are crazy. They think « oh both sides are part of the problem». They don’t understand that the narcissist lives in a fantasy world. And that their cruelty, manipulation is that cruel. Or that the rage, drama can be on that level of insanity. They know what they have put us true. They never forget!. They think that their rage manipulation will brainwash us to think that we got it all wrong. And that their emotions are the « proof» of them beeing right. Don’t take the bait. Delete the narc, from your life. No contact in real life, declutter them from social media, block them on the phone, hang up if they call. If you see them on the street. Don’t talk to them. If you are forced to talk to them, then be short. Give them zero personal information
It is at heart a delusional and dysphoria disorder. My Narc father told me that he 'is God'. I called him on it and he told me he was joking. He really wasn't joking, he really believes he is God. All narcissists think they are God. Their dysfunction (demon whispering in their ear) tells them they are God and that everyone worships them. That is why they go insane when you walk away. They think you are literally walking away from God. They think we should drop down dead when they leave us and are amazed when we don't. They are totally insane people in a 'cult on one person'.
@@rochellet1333 yeah I had a friend like this would call me consistently and make me feel sorry for her I helped her move house twice the second time her new supply showed up at the end of the day and it was clear she was with him I'm 41 she is 38 going out with an 18 year old now. The hurt I got seeing them together ruined me I'm constantly dreaming about it still getting panic attacks. I was just a flying monkey The stuff she said after the discard killed my good nature. I'm not going to be angry I'm just really let down by someone I trusted.
@@kelvingriffiths6017 there's no way in hell this person has any real empathy she doesn't care at all and it's sad I started thinking really bad about myself after and I didn't deserve it. I was so good to her I put myself aside to help her all I wanted was what I thought she did. A relationship but I didn't realise I was just a flying monkey. Now I look at myself as weak easily manipulated ugly and replaceable.
The narcissist lives off the shiny object syndrome. When that dims down after 3 months . They are already on to the next. This is when they start treating you like a doormat. This is a Hugh red flag 🚩 you’re scratching your head . Wondering what on Earth did I do . Narcissist ARE empty Meat suits .
The decision to let go permanently is not easy when still under the belief there are redeemable qualities. When reality and logic set in, it became clear my standards and needs were not considered at a similar level. I had to decide how vital my principles are and if the other person doesn't display respect, reflect, or even value any of those principles, then there is no reconciliation. One can only compromise so much until it becomes so out of balance the situation becomes intolerable and dangerous to health and wellbeing. If a partner cannot or refuses to discuss anything without being defensive, dismissive, or competitive, then they are not worthy of being my partner or friend. No closure needed, I showed myself out with no regrets.
Excellently put. This is pretty much where I am in my healing journey. The good thing that you can take is that once you find yourself honestly and sincerely focusing on differences in shared values between yourself and your ex, you know there can be no going back. Values and principles are the fundamental building blocks of any relationship, and far outweigh any notion of "chemistry" or "attraction".
Resisting the temptation to take a hit off the narc pipe has been one of the hardest things I've ever done. It's taken months post breakup for me to block her on every forum and stick to it. She knows exactly how to lure me back using my weaknesses against me. But even now, I find myself checking the spam folder so I'm not quite where I need to be but I'm making progress. My experience with this master of manipulation and deception brought me back to Jesus, and for that, I am grateful.
This is a great channel for healing. There’s also a guy named Zion who has great content. Good luck. It’s a bitch, for sure. But so empowering to have the upper hand FINALLY. I will never go back. Not today anyways. That shows I LOSE. It shows him HE WINS. Hell no.
I met the love of my life two months after being discarded at the end of an eight-year marriage, never looked back and absolutely flattened every one of her nasty attempts to demonise me and bully me out of the children’s lives.
This was uplifting to hear. I’m also two months out of an 8 year marriage with a Narc and we have kid’s. Be well, be Happy and most importantly enjoy you’re Freedom my friend.
I have been broken up with the narcissist father of my kids for 7 years. He has made my life hell, as well as my kids yet still had the audacity to text me to ask ME if I wanted to get back together with HIM. This was 2 weeks before X mas when his current supply broke up with him. He had some sort of a collapse when I rejected him and ruined Christmas for everyone. I cannot fathom how he could think there was a chance of reconciliation after all the horrible things he has done.
If you get back together he’s going to make your life worse than before, because now he’s going to make you pay for rejecting him all this time and hurting his narc feelings…. RUN
They never give up on old supply because in their mind they always own you. It usually only happens if their current supply needs have taken a hit. They come back, but are not at all sincere about trying again properly. They are simply using you to temporarily fill a need They have, and will very quickly start devaluing you again, and turn your world upside down once again .. without a second thought for your feelings. So never do it!
The kids are beeing used as enablers. Brainwashed with pity play ( the victim mask), by the narcissist. Don’t take the bait!. Stay in no contact. Don’t buy the narrativ. The narcissist destroyd christmas, hollyday. They always do!. They can’t handle other people getting attention, or joy. The enablers are brainwashed to think that if the victim « only did what the narc wanted, then there would be peace/contentment from drama». In reality this is the scapegoat narrativ. The bad blood is 100% the narcs fault. Stay strong, stay rigid in the truth. And never forget or forgive!. They don’t change!. If there is no change there can never be closure. And this change will never happen. They will just seek a new victim to suck out new supply. Their rage, hatred, bitterness, insanity is the reality of the problem. Stay in no contact. Don’t take the bait. Don’t forget!
Also, it's worth noting that they typically will leave a marriage for ANOTHER narcissist so therefore, it can't last that long because eventually they figure each other out. They never walk away for that same energy. Then they want to come back.
My ex narc left our marriage and I have been no contact for a year or so. I have always suspected that her new man was a narc was another narc. It’s nice to know that this is commonplace
@@davidmckay4423 Let's be real, what kind of person is messing around with a married person? You have to know that will not last. Tale as old as time right? Be blessed!!!
They are only around other narcs, codependents. But the story is always the same. Behind the fasade. There is first idealisation, then comes the devaluation, then the discard, then the hoover. The narcissist will never feel content. They can’t enjoy the « small things» in life. You can be 100% sure, that the narcissist will never find « peace» , « lasting joy». They will work hard to pretend to the victim, that this is the case. But it is all a act. Their entire life is based on fakeing to others, that they have a life. But they are at their core deeply toxic. We all thought that they would settle down, and feel happy with the small joy’s we like to enjoy. But they somehow alway’s complaind, bitched, nagged, sulked. This is their true personality. They wanted to blame their negativ outlook on the world on us. But in reality this is the core of who they are. A new « toy», « trophy partner» won’t change that. Eventualy the new energy from the relationship goes out and they are again desperat for this feeling. Like a child who thinks every day should be like Christmas. Don’t feel sorry for them. Don’t think that you can convince them to have a more possitiv outlook. They are insane. And this is the core of their insanity
They always have a back-up plan, it is what they live for. The new supplies are always there, back up plan ABCD, probably E is in there too. A lifelong cycle of validation is their only meaning on this earth, that is sad. Move on Guy's and don't look back, there are plenty of descent ladies around. Happy New Year 2024, God be with you all. Peace ✌️ ☮️, Servando Navia Jr. Hernandez
So true once my ex narc said in these exact words “Yea I got like 20-30 options and they gon get in place too cause when I come around it’s going down” cut block and deleted him from my life. Just demoralizing persona to say the lease. I have to see him constantly because we work together. Trust every chance I get I don’t give him the time of day I keep it moving and I see him but I don’t see him. Proceeding right in my train smh.
I referred to her to myself as the “zero effort” girl. She took all she could get, then moved on…I don’t play that game! Was gone and never looked back! She still stalks me on social media 6 years later! Makes me laugh! Go and stay NO CONTACT people! It breaks the trauma bond and allows you to heal over time! Give yourself grace!
The sheer audacity and entitlement of them to throw someone on the backburner for perceived “greener grass“ only to try and come back and pretend they didn't just throw someone like a disposable object. And worse of it all is, they expect you to pretend like nothing happened and to give them the full dose of supply like you used to. My ex was just like this, getting attention from people around her on vacation and treat me like I was nothing. Only for her to try and get back in my good graces when the trip was over and she wasn't getting her dopamine hits from strangers. She thought I would give her supply again, I made sure to give her the consequence of her actions instead. Bye hun!
I had to pause after your first sentence, laughing. 'Narcissists tend to make decisions based on how they feel'. Toward the end (23 yrs married) when I didn't give a crap about him staying and actually wanted him to leave, didn't care if the rage came, because it would anyway, I'd say 'ooh, the wind changed direction, now you feel a different feeling. Like a sailboat tossed around...' In the last month he was truthfully killing me, bedridden from 3 autoimmune conditions, no lower teeth from Sjogren's only able to make myself mushy crispix or ramen, he'd start the day with 'I'm going to make you three meals, protein, veg, mashed potatoes' but had a whim and would rage, future faking me every day. I'm 4 months out, bankruptcy 1.5 yrs already (financial control) but I testified about all the abuse and neglect this past year, let alone all the others, and a judge signed a domestic violence order of protection for a year. But his new supply if living with his daughter in moldy section 8 housing, 2 grandaughters in the next building, so they are gonna dote on him, plus I'm sure he's doing porn or on sex dating sites. I don't believe he will ever see me as something important he lost. But i am moving on in many ways. I appreciate your videos, I'm 69 on social security and cant afford decent counseling right now. Thanks for reading. It's late and way more complicated.
@@ruthieclarke9125 Yes. I wrote that 4 wks ago, I AM healing. Yes, his feelings are for himself, but they are a dark and dank basement full of self-loathing, shame and negativity. So that door is slammed, chained, padlock - and leeching off of others, especially gifted empaths like you and me and Zion, is the only way to cover that door, forget it's there, doing any and every despicable thing to get their love supply, to assuage that painful chamber. I'm happy to be branching out again, slowly involving myself in community groups that are for the benefit for others that I was prevented from doing due to that constant drain. I hope you are doing ok, too
You sure mean under. And sure he knows that because therefore he always belittled you (he wanted to always be superior above you but fact is you are more capable for sure...).
@@IsabellaPiesch Yes you are right. I didn’t even know this stuff existed. I reached covert narcissists in August of 2020 and for 2.5 years I was like something a lot of things don’t sound right about him. And then I emailed my hospital pics to one of the guys on this platform and he said I needed to look into the DSM-5, and in Jan of last year I figured out he was a covert narcissistic sociopath. And I was straight shocked to my core. My shrink tells me the synonym to sociopaths are con artists. Been no contact for 3 years 3 months. I will never ever see him again.👈🏻🤯👈🏻😵👈🏻😵💫👈🏻 I was with him 9 months before the accident. He mirrored me and love bombed me so I feel in love with myself. I will eventually try to get my happy go lucky person back and trusting and loving almost everyone, but I doubt anyone can get back to who they use to be. Being a shell of your former self is no walk in the park. Thank you for pointing that out.🙂👍🏻
@@IsabellaPiesch when the personal injury lawsuit is over I will be able to move on with my life, until then I’m in chronic stress. No contact for 3 years 4 months. Lawsuit 7 years on 1/1.🫤
Good morning ! 🌞 How nice to find a new video and to have a cup of joe ☕☕ with Joe ! They were lucky to get us once by conning and pretending, but this luck not going to happen again, they showed us who they are and we dont need that in our life ever again. So, but i hope they remember our kindness and goodness for a looooong time. Thank you Joe , great video ! 🤗❤
When my ex narcissist realized she couldn’t come back she plotted revenge she popped up 3 years after me going no contact these people are nut jobs and don’t want you happy after your done with them they want you to chase the garbage truck and beg for your trash back!!
This video is so spot on. The rage was out the blue and for no apparent reason. Omg the gaslighting hovering emotional manipulation deflecting NO ACCOUNTABILITY WHATSOEVER. I recall a time he said he was going to do something and had a fit of rage when I called him out on it and said how he don’t keep his word and just own what he says I mean STAND ON IT. Then said why you keep telling me to own it you cannot instill that in me I’m tired of you telling me to own it. I just looked at him and said ok are you 5 now? I was so over it. I discarded him immediately that 8 month trail yes I called it a trial because that is what it felt like. I blocked his but
My ex narc of 7 yrs is a princess and LOVES to play damsel in distress and have everyone pandering to her, but she is super sneaky & cunning how she "works" people, especially men. Her currency is looking pretty. She figured a looooong time ago that men are like bees around the honey pot for her. I am scared she "might" put herself in my path just to see what I'm up too. (I live a very private life) I've promised myself that I would NEVER go back, BUT, I am still very much in love with the illusion I was with for 7 years. But that was because I lived in hope that she would be fair and share in my life like I did in hers. But it will never happen so I won't go back. I can't move on my heart is broken. I meet nice ladies but none of them are my girl and it wouldn't be fair to a women for me to enter a relationship if I haven't moved on and am still not available emotionally, so I'm single, but that's OK, I'm seeing pluses in that. Anyway!! Another great video thanks. And my best wishes to those who hurt like I do. There are some lovely people who comment on here that didn't deserve the narcissistic abuse they got!!
"BUT, I am still very much in love with the illusion I was with for 7 years. But that was because I lived in hope that she would be fair and share in my life like I did in hers" ...same here, ifeel so stupid for that, but its still there.
To anyone struggling to heal from narcissistic abuse I will say the one factor you must remember is that karma comes back around for everyone .. in my case I’m a Christian and God saved my life from a very evil person that would’ve killed me .. they are demons in the flesh and will pay a heavy price one day if not this life the next .. so pray, give it to God and be thankful he saved you from pure evil. It’s a mercy. A temporary pain instead of a permanent death down the road mentally, physically and spiritually if you stay with them ..
I went on date, I seen two red flags and stopped talking to the person, she answered her phone during dinner, it was her ex but she said her kid was with her dad, it showed me what I needed to know. Walk away and know your value. Rather be happy alone than sad with someone else. People is shit tho lol
You know the narcissist better than they know themselves Joe. We are the prize. Know your worth and respect yourself. It’s their delusional disordered immature personality which will never change. Humour, guilt tripping and pity won’t work with me. I won’t ever engage and lose myself in him ever again. I was there for him 💯 but not any more. I’ve spent almost a year grieving the relationship. The next 12 months is about me focussing on me and slowly moving on with my life day by day. I don’t need the narcissist. I know he needed me/my supply. Now it’s gone. FOREVER.
These videos were helping me make it through my narcissist ex leaving the relationship after we had a child together. I can't stop thinking about her, even though she completely destroyed our child's and my life and moved on a month later. It's been 7 months of raising our child basically on my own, and I fear when I watch these videos they breed obsession. I wasn't given any closure, I had to find it for myself. I still have to see her 3 days out of the week to drop our child off. It's made It nearly impossible for me to move on after facing what's happened. I wish she would just go travel the world like she would never shut up about when we were together, and leave me to raise my family in a mentally sound state of mind.
I feel you brother.. I'm in a similar situation. One kid.. she monkey branched... Been a rough few months for me... Luckily all exchange are through daycare.. haven't had to actually see her in over a month.. not seeing her helps the recovery process.
@@matthewkeim I envy you. It's been 9 months here. I managed to heal enough to get my head back in the game. I started seeing one of her old friends, It's been a great distraction since the custody case is over. It's been fun, trying not to get attached though, major trust issues im dragging around with me. I still miss that poisonous vine every day, still see her 4 times a week. Doesn't sting nearly as much anymore though.
@@jobforawhiteboy2011 good to know it's getting better. I'm only 4 months out right now. 3 since she moved out.. think about her every fucking day. Dated a new guy the week we broke up.. still living under my bills.. custody not established.. still 50 50 until mediation.. hate that I miss her.. its like my brain is forgetting how bad the 6 years together was..
@@matthewkeim Stay strong. See the way other people see you. You need to face your demons, it's going to make you see what you need to see and become the father you are meant to be for your child. Avoiding it will only prolong the suffering on so many levels. You've got this brother
My twin was the lifelong scapegoat and took her life this year. I was sucked into that role prior to her suicide because I was calling them out. Scariest thing I’ve ever seen. I saw that my twin killing herself was her only way out. She had become homeless and seriously messed up by my parents . She couldn’t get away from them even homeless. I got so deep inside the works of the narc. I don’t love them any of them
Hi i was in 6 yr relationship and i got home 2 monthz ago to find out that i m locked put. Its 2 months withno contact. I still have not been able to gain access to my vehicle's or belongings or clothez. Its tough when all communications goes thru flying fuck monkeys!!!!
Thank you Joe, you described my ex husband to be straight to the point, he used to do that to me, goes away for business trip then expect open arms. Yesterday he got my mum involved to me to stay in the marriage, didn't work, today he accepted the application. I just want to be free from the things you are educating us about these people,especially when married, I endured all that, so confusing and traumatising, it's like they are IT and I am shit in everyway, I am never enough. I am so looking forward to being about to just breath freely pray
A narc wants full control...its a constant cycle with these types..its so important to "know thy self.." narcissists are mean children.Arrested Development. 😢😮😮
Joe how long after the narc left you did you start to feel better? How long after no contact? Ive hear from others it took them several months like 6 months before they felt more like themselves again. Ive heard that the empath will start to feel better when the narcs life is spiraling downwards? But on his fb it looks like his life is better than ever. He even got more comments and likes on his pictures now than before he met me🤷🏼♀️😲 and he was the monster! NOT me! I was kind to him until he pushed me to far, then I turned dark on him😳 I didnt even recognize myself, so I just tried HARD to get away from him. Blocked him. Left him. Spit him in his face. Told him he was bad in bed. I also told him I started looking at other men😳 I was not myself. Maybe I became him and he became me😳 they steal the empaths identity?😳😳😳 or maybe we just get the narsisists good traits after it has gone some time? Anyone who can talk about this? Im trying to get answers cause this has been such a yourney……and the insane thing is that i also felt so incredible beautiful with the narc. It was insane!
Stop stalking him on Facebook. You’re only hurting yourself. You won’t feel better until you make a clean break. What you’re doing now is hoping your absence is hurting him. It isn’t. Focus on your own healing and see a therapist if you need help breaking the trauma bond. Chances are you have issues from childhood that are making you hope that the situation will turn around and you will be chosen. Empath is often a word synonymous with codependent. Stop labeling and get on with healing. He left you for dead. Never forget that. Why do you want someone who left you for dead?
@@tpa617working on it. It takes time. It was even hell blocking him. No contact 10 weeks feels like getting of a drug or something. Even though Ive never used drugs.
Sabotaged the relationship with me only to go back on the hunt for my replacement. He was trying to get away with juggling me with other females while we were living together. Once broken up he started hooking up with one of these "friends". He can choke on rocks, not my problem.
I think it has a 'scientific' or diagnostic name but, what you mentioned about when they are not around you, you ARE NOT in their conscious awareness AT ALL.....maybe compartmentalizing.
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It's amazing how quick they forget what they did to you.
They dont forget
No. They come back “acting” as if nothing happened 🤯
They also forget everything you did for them .. even if you took care of them when they were sick and alone.. run from these people 👹
@@nicholecornes1915, They forget the good you did for them and use the bad against you, guilt-tripping.
Or hang up the phone on you when you start questioning them about certain things. Happened to me a few months ago and immediately changed my number and went no contact a shortly after.
They want who doesn't want them , whom they cannot have
They direspect people who care for them
This is so true. But why they do appear happy outside if they are indeed miserable
The GR8 PRETENDER 👍
@@annegreen4695it’s a facade they are fantasists . It’s all about illusion ❤
I shuda loved and left her but I was spellbound and paid the price.If I'd rejected her, played cool she'd still be wanting me but once she knew I liked her it was over.
@@treefrog1962 cause she's a player and you're not a pawn in a game.
People like that will forever test and try you. They'll make scrambled eggs out of your brain and emotions.
I know it's hard but just keep doing you.
Maintain and level up. Finding someone real is very difficult these days. XO ❤️ stay strong and beautiful 🥰
In my experience narcs are VERY boring people !
Same sh!t..different day 🤨
Yes they are! My exN couldn't hold a conversation about anything unless it pertained to his job! Otherwise, he had nothing to say - I might as well have been talking to a wall!
My dad always said only boring people get bored and he wants correct
They really are.
Yes! Very! Mine was the happiest when sitting in our local sports bar flirting. He wanted everyone to see him and if they didn’t come over to speak to him, he wld get up and make his rounds. Very strange people! 🙄
They are the Devil's Disciples.
Absolutely!
So very true sadists 💯❤️🙏🙌
she wont come back rejection would kill her.
100 percent, the shock and outrage when you refuse to take them back is mind-blowing , after all the BS they've put you through its delusional
The entitelment, and superiority complex is the core of their insanity.
It’s so crazy, that it’s hard to even understand that it is possible. This is the reason that they often get away with their insanity. Outsider who don’t know them can’t belive that they are crazy.
They think « oh both sides are part of the problem». They don’t understand that the narcissist lives in a fantasy world. And that their cruelty, manipulation is that cruel.
Or that the rage, drama can be on that level of insanity.
They know what they have put us true. They never forget!. They think that their rage manipulation will brainwash us to think that we got it all wrong. And that their emotions are the « proof» of them beeing right.
Don’t take the bait. Delete the narc, from your life. No contact in real life, declutter them from social media, block them on the phone, hang up if they call.
If you see them on the street. Don’t talk to them. If you are forced to talk to them, then be short. Give them zero personal information
It is at heart a delusional and dysphoria disorder. My Narc father told me that he 'is God'. I called him on it and he told me he was joking. He really wasn't joking, he really believes he is God. All narcissists think they are God. Their dysfunction (demon whispering in their ear) tells them they are God and that everyone worships them. That is why they go insane when you walk away. They think you are literally walking away from God. They think we should drop down dead when they leave us and are amazed when we don't. They are totally insane people in a 'cult on one person'.
They have no compassion
They are cruel and sadistic!
@@rochellet1333 yeah I had a friend like this would call me consistently and make me feel sorry for her I helped her move house twice the second time her new supply showed up at the end of the day and it was clear she was with him I'm 41 she is 38 going out with an 18 year old now. The hurt I got seeing them together ruined me I'm constantly dreaming about it still getting panic attacks. I was just a flying monkey
The stuff she said after the discard killed my good nature. I'm not going to be angry I'm just really let down by someone I trusted.
Yet always describe themselves as "super empaths".
@@kelvingriffiths6017 there's no way in hell this person has any real empathy she doesn't care at all and it's sad I started thinking really bad about myself after and I didn't deserve it. I was so good to her I put myself aside to help her all I wanted was what I thought she did. A relationship but I didn't realise I was just a flying monkey. Now I look at myself as weak easily manipulated ugly and replaceable.
It’s not the loss of love it’s the loss of expectation of that person
The narcissist lives off the shiny object syndrome. When that dims down after 3 months . They are already on to the next. This is when they start treating you like a doormat. This is a Hugh red flag 🚩 you’re scratching your head . Wondering what on Earth did I do . Narcissist ARE empty Meat suits .
The are Empty, soul less non humans.
Empty souls very sad
Meat suits. Love it. I call em flesh robots
The decision to let go permanently is not easy when still under the belief there are redeemable qualities. When reality and logic set in, it became clear my standards and needs were not considered at a similar level. I had to decide how vital my principles are and if the other person doesn't display respect, reflect, or even value any of those principles, then there is no reconciliation. One can only compromise so much until it becomes so out of balance the situation becomes intolerable and dangerous to health and wellbeing. If a partner cannot or refuses to discuss anything without being defensive, dismissive, or competitive, then they are not worthy of being my partner or friend. No closure needed, I showed myself out with no regrets.
Very true!
Excellently put. This is pretty much where I am in my healing journey. The good thing that you can take is that once you find yourself honestly and sincerely focusing on differences in shared values between yourself and your ex, you know there can be no going back. Values and principles are the fundamental building blocks of any relationship, and far outweigh any notion of "chemistry" or "attraction".
Narcs have ZERO redeeming qualities, no matter how “nice, sweet and outgoing” they seems to be on the outside.
@@stuartwigmore3738💯 Very well said my friend.
Remember one thing, they mirrored us, they played the most horrible head game in life. CPTSD is real, and so is evil who causes it.
They will treat you like however they want, and act shocked when you don't want to be around them anymore.
Resisting the temptation to take a hit off the narc pipe has been one of the hardest things I've ever done. It's taken months post breakup for me to block her on every forum and stick to it. She knows exactly how to lure me back using my weaknesses against me. But even now, I find myself checking the spam folder so I'm not quite where I need to be but I'm making progress. My experience with this master of manipulation and deception brought me back to Jesus, and for that, I am grateful.
This is a great channel for healing. There’s also a guy named Zion who has great content. Good luck. It’s a bitch, for sure. But so empowering to have the upper hand FINALLY. I will never go back. Not today anyways. That shows I LOSE. It shows him HE WINS. Hell no.
Amen!
This channel, zion and
narc con channel are very helpful. @Ehuff
@@laughnowcrylater6871 narcology unscripted, ASSC direct, ask anushka and the tea on NPD… believe me…. I’ve watched my fair share of channels. 😂
Honestly, I give all the credit to JESUS for getting me through the narc nightmare! 🙏✝️🕊️
I met the love of my life two months after being discarded at the end of an eight-year marriage, never looked back and absolutely flattened every one of her nasty attempts to demonise me and bully me out of the children’s lives.
This was uplifting to hear. I’m also two months out of an 8 year marriage with a Narc and we have kid’s. Be well, be Happy and most importantly enjoy you’re Freedom my friend.
I told my narc she was satans daughter one time ,she didn’t take it well😂
That's funny, I called mine a witch, with no response as usual, just the deer in the headlight look.
They're demon 😂
I have been broken up with the narcissist father of my kids for 7 years. He has made my life hell, as well as my kids yet still had the audacity to text me to ask ME if I wanted to get back together with HIM. This was 2 weeks before X mas when his current supply broke up with him. He had some sort of a collapse when I rejected him and ruined Christmas for everyone. I cannot fathom how he could think there was a chance of reconciliation after all the horrible things he has done.
It’s you that won’t forgive and forget. You’re the problem. You’re too sensitive and immature for harping on the past. That was years ago.
Narcissists never learn and never get better. Stay strong and stay away. Go No Contact if you havent all ready.
If you get back together he’s going to make your life worse than before, because now he’s going to make you pay for rejecting him all this time and hurting his narc feelings…. RUN
They never give up on old supply because in their mind they always own you. It usually only happens if their current supply needs have taken a hit. They come back, but are not at all sincere about trying again properly. They are simply using you to temporarily fill a need They have, and will very quickly start devaluing you again, and turn your world upside down once again .. without a second thought for your feelings. So never do it!
The kids are beeing used as enablers. Brainwashed with pity play ( the victim mask), by the narcissist.
Don’t take the bait!. Stay in no contact.
Don’t buy the narrativ. The narcissist destroyd christmas, hollyday. They always do!. They can’t handle other people getting attention, or joy.
The enablers are brainwashed to think that if the victim « only did what the narc wanted, then there would be peace/contentment from drama». In reality this is the scapegoat narrativ.
The bad blood is 100% the narcs fault. Stay strong, stay rigid in the truth.
And never forget or forgive!. They don’t change!. If there is no change there can never be closure. And this change will never happen. They will just seek a new victim to suck out new supply.
Their rage, hatred, bitterness, insanity is the reality of the problem.
Stay in no contact. Don’t take the bait. Don’t forget!
Also, it's worth noting that they typically will leave a marriage for ANOTHER narcissist so therefore, it can't last that long because eventually they figure each other out. They never walk away for that same energy. Then they want to come back.
My ex narc left our marriage and I have been no contact for a year or so. I have always suspected that her new man was a narc was another narc. It’s nice to know that this is commonplace
@@davidmckay4423 Let's be real, what kind of person is messing around with a married person? You have to know that will not last. Tale as old as time right? Be blessed!!!
They are only around other narcs, codependents.
But the story is always the same. Behind the fasade. There is first idealisation, then comes the devaluation, then the discard, then the hoover.
The narcissist will never feel content. They can’t enjoy the « small things» in life.
You can be 100% sure, that the narcissist will never find « peace» , « lasting joy». They will work hard to pretend to the victim, that this is the case. But it is all a act. Their entire life is based on fakeing to others, that they have a life. But they are at their core deeply toxic.
We all thought that they would settle down, and feel happy with the small joy’s we like to enjoy. But they somehow alway’s complaind, bitched, nagged, sulked. This is their true personality. They wanted to blame their negativ outlook on the world on us. But in reality this is the core of who they are. A new « toy», « trophy partner» won’t change that. Eventualy the new energy from the relationship goes out and they are again desperat for this feeling. Like a child who thinks every day should be like Christmas.
Don’t feel sorry for them. Don’t think that you can convince them to have a more possitiv outlook. They are insane. And this is the core of their insanity
They always have a back-up plan, it is what they live for. The new supplies are always there, back up plan ABCD, probably E is in there too. A lifelong cycle of validation is their only meaning on this earth, that is sad. Move on Guy's and don't look back, there are plenty of descent ladies around. Happy New Year 2024, God be with you all.
Peace ✌️ ☮️,
Servando Navia Jr. Hernandez
So true once my ex narc said in these exact words “Yea I got like 20-30 options and they gon get in place too cause when I come around it’s going down” cut block and deleted him from my life. Just demoralizing persona to say the lease. I have to see him constantly because we work together. Trust every chance I get I don’t give him the time of day I keep it moving and I see him but I don’t see him. Proceeding right in my train smh.
Sleeping with the enemy
I referred to her to myself as the “zero effort” girl. She took all she could get, then moved on…I don’t play that game! Was gone and never looked back! She still stalks me on social media 6 years later! Makes me laugh! Go and stay NO CONTACT people! It breaks the trauma bond and allows you to heal over time! Give yourself grace!
Don't be tempted to take another hit off the Narc Pipe!! SO very true!! 👍👍👍👏👏👏
The sheer audacity and entitlement of them to throw someone on the backburner for perceived “greener grass“ only to try and come back and pretend they didn't just throw someone like a disposable object. And worse of it all is, they expect you to pretend like nothing happened and to give them the full dose of supply like you used to.
My ex was just like this, getting attention from people around her on vacation and treat me like I was nothing. Only for her to try and get back in my good graces when the trip was over and she wasn't getting her dopamine hits from strangers. She thought I would give her supply again, I made sure to give her the consequence of her actions instead. Bye hun!
I had to pause after your first sentence, laughing. 'Narcissists tend to make decisions based on how they feel'. Toward the end (23 yrs married) when I didn't give a crap about him staying and actually wanted him to leave, didn't care if the rage came, because it would anyway, I'd say 'ooh, the wind changed direction, now you feel a different feeling. Like a sailboat tossed around...' In the last month he was truthfully killing me, bedridden from 3 autoimmune conditions, no lower teeth from Sjogren's only able to make myself mushy crispix or ramen, he'd start the day with 'I'm going to make you three meals, protein, veg, mashed potatoes' but had a whim and would rage, future faking me every day. I'm 4 months out, bankruptcy 1.5 yrs already (financial control) but I testified about all the abuse and neglect this past year, let alone all the others, and a judge signed a domestic violence order of protection for a year. But his new supply if living with his daughter in moldy section 8 housing, 2 grandaughters in the next building, so they are gonna dote on him, plus I'm sure he's doing porn or on sex dating sites. I don't believe he will ever see me as something important he lost. But i am moving on in many ways. I appreciate your videos, I'm 69 on social security and cant afford decent counseling right now. Thanks for reading. It's late and way more complicated.
They have no feelings except for themselves.
@@ruthieclarke9125 Yes. I wrote that 4 wks ago, I AM healing. Yes, his feelings are for himself, but they are a dark and dank basement full of self-loathing, shame and negativity. So that door is slammed, chained, padlock - and leeching off of others, especially gifted empaths like you and me and Zion, is the only way to cover that door, forget it's there, doing any and every despicable thing to get their love supply, to assuage that painful chamber. I'm happy to be branching out again, slowly involving myself in community groups that are for the benefit for others that I was prevented from doing due to that constant drain. I hope you are doing ok, too
He overestimated me in every which way, and he knows this.
Over or under?
You sure mean under. And sure he knows that because therefore he always belittled you (he wanted to always be superior above you but fact is you are more capable for sure...).
@@IsabellaPiesch Yes you are right. I didn’t even know this stuff existed. I reached covert narcissists in August of 2020 and for 2.5 years I was like something a lot of things don’t sound right about him. And then I emailed my hospital pics to one of the guys on this platform and he said I needed to look into the DSM-5, and in Jan of last year I figured out he was a covert narcissistic sociopath. And I was straight shocked to my core. My shrink tells me the synonym to sociopaths are con artists. Been no contact for 3 years 3 months. I will never ever see him again.👈🏻🤯👈🏻😵👈🏻😵💫👈🏻 I was with him 9 months before the accident. He mirrored me and love bombed me so I feel in love with myself. I will eventually try to get my happy go lucky person back and trusting and loving almost everyone, but I doubt anyone can get back to who they use to be. Being a shell of your former self is no walk in the park. Thank you for pointing that out.🙂👍🏻
@@emmamonroe3311 I believe you become better and have a peaceful life.
@@IsabellaPiesch when the personal injury lawsuit is over I will be able to move on with my life, until then I’m in chronic stress. No contact for 3 years 4 months. Lawsuit 7 years on 1/1.🫤
The narcissist will never win me back. I will never return to him.
My inner self and strength is far too great for his self pity and shame.
Good bye.
When you work out you have been dealing with a narcissist, being around them will like being around a bad smell.
Watched this more than once..thank you
Good morning ! 🌞 How nice to find a new video and to have a cup of joe ☕☕ with Joe ! They were lucky to get us once by conning and pretending, but this luck not going to happen again, they showed us who they are and we dont need that in our life ever again. So, but i hope they remember our kindness and goodness for a looooong time. Thank you Joe , great video ! 🤗❤
THANK YOU FATHER GOD ALMIGHTY FOR EXPOSING THE MAIN NARCISSIST I HAD IN MY LIFE
When my ex narcissist realized she couldn’t come back she plotted revenge she popped up 3 years after me going no contact these people are nut jobs and don’t want you happy after your done with them they want you to chase the garbage truck and beg for your trash back!!
I need to change my way of thinking it's the only way to start feeling better about myself ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉
This video is so spot on. The rage was out the blue and for no apparent reason. Omg the gaslighting hovering emotional manipulation deflecting NO ACCOUNTABILITY WHATSOEVER. I recall a time he said he was going to do something and had a fit of rage when I called him out on it and said how he don’t keep his word and just own what he says I mean STAND ON IT. Then said why you keep telling me to own it you cannot instill that in me I’m tired of you telling me to own it. I just looked at him and said ok are you 5 now? I was so over it. I discarded him immediately that 8 month trail yes I called it a trial because that is what it felt like. I blocked his but
I made sure my Ex did not come back. I divorced him and moved on with my life and never looked back.
Good morning… at least from here!
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I'm making sure that NOTHING will ever be MY fault again. #SHEsGONE
My ex narc of 7 yrs is a princess and LOVES to play damsel in distress and have everyone pandering to her, but she is super sneaky & cunning how she "works" people, especially men. Her currency is looking pretty. She figured a looooong time ago that men are like bees around the honey pot for her. I am scared she "might" put herself in my path just to see what I'm up too. (I live a very private life) I've promised myself that I would NEVER go back, BUT, I am still very much in love with the illusion I was with for 7 years. But that was because I lived in hope that she would be fair and share in my life like I did in hers. But it will never happen so I won't go back. I can't move on my heart is broken. I meet nice ladies but none of them are my girl and it wouldn't be fair to a women for me to enter a relationship if I haven't moved on and am still not available emotionally, so I'm single, but that's OK, I'm seeing pluses in that. Anyway!! Another great video thanks. And my best wishes to those who hurt like I do. There are some lovely people who comment on here that didn't deserve the narcissistic abuse they got!!
"BUT, I am still very much in love with the illusion I was with for 7 years. But that was because I lived in hope that she would be fair and share in my life like I did in hers"
...same here, ifeel so stupid for that, but its still there.
@@simonschneider5913same... Even with her being with someone else immediately..
To anyone struggling to heal from narcissistic abuse I will say the one factor you must remember is that karma comes back around for everyone .. in my case I’m a Christian and God saved my life from a very evil person that would’ve killed me .. they are demons in the flesh and will pay a heavy price one day if not this life the next .. so pray, give it to God and be thankful he saved you from pure evil. It’s a mercy. A temporary pain instead of a permanent death down the road mentally, physically and spiritually if you stay with them ..
🫣 Zombies… run‼️
Yep! dead inside. Its a dead kid basically that never grew up.
Cant have a real relationship with a ghost in the shell. Its sad... for all really.
@@helenmcclay2622 had zero idea these folks existed. An empty husk of a meat suit…
I went on date, I seen two red flags and stopped talking to the person, she answered her phone during dinner, it was her ex but she said her kid was with her dad, it showed me what I needed to know. Walk away and know your value. Rather be happy alone than sad with someone else. People is shit tho lol
You know the narcissist better than they know themselves Joe. We are the prize. Know your worth and respect yourself. It’s their delusional disordered immature personality which will never change. Humour, guilt tripping and pity won’t work with me. I won’t ever engage and lose myself in him ever again. I was there for him 💯 but not any more. I’ve spent almost a year grieving the relationship. The next 12 months is about me focussing on me and slowly moving on with my life day by day. I don’t need the narcissist. I know he needed me/my supply. Now it’s gone. FOREVER.
These videos were helping me make it through my narcissist ex leaving the relationship after we had a child together. I can't stop thinking about her, even though she completely destroyed our child's and my life and moved on a month later. It's been 7 months of raising our child basically on my own, and I fear when I watch these videos they breed obsession. I wasn't given any closure, I had to find it for myself. I still have to see her 3 days out of the week to drop our child off. It's made It nearly impossible for me to move on after facing what's happened. I wish she would just go travel the world like she would never shut up about when we were together, and leave me to raise my family in a mentally sound state of mind.
Song: Such small hands and nobody not even the rain: LA Dispute.
I feel you brother.. I'm in a similar situation. One kid.. she monkey branched... Been a rough few months for me... Luckily all exchange are through daycare.. haven't had to actually see her in over a month.. not seeing her helps the recovery process.
@@matthewkeim I envy you. It's been 9 months here. I managed to heal enough to get my head back in the game. I started seeing one of her old friends, It's been a great distraction since the custody case is over. It's been fun, trying not to get attached though, major trust issues im dragging around with me. I still miss that poisonous vine every day, still see her 4 times a week. Doesn't sting nearly as much anymore though.
@@jobforawhiteboy2011 good to know it's getting better. I'm only 4 months out right now. 3 since she moved out.. think about her every fucking day. Dated a new guy the week we broke up.. still living under my bills.. custody not established.. still 50 50 until mediation.. hate that I miss her.. its like my brain is forgetting how bad the 6 years together was..
@@matthewkeim Stay strong. See the way other people see you. You need to face your demons, it's going to make you see what you need to see and become the father you are meant to be for your child. Avoiding it will only prolong the suffering on so many levels. You've got this brother
My twin was the lifelong scapegoat and took her life this year. I was sucked into that role prior to her suicide because I was calling them out. Scariest thing I’ve ever seen. I saw that my twin killing herself was her only way out. She had become homeless and seriously messed up by my parents . She couldn’t get away from them even homeless. I got so deep inside the works of the narc. I don’t love them any of them
I'm so sorry. 💔
Thank you 🙏🏻
I'm sorry you lost your twin sister 😢🕊️
Alot of your videos relate to many many women today its crazy
Really powerful message, thank you!!! ❤❤❤🇬🇧
Love your channel. This video was especially apt for me. Need to stop "entertaining" him in any way.
Really Fantastic ❤
Hi i was in 6 yr relationship and i got home 2 monthz ago to find out that i m locked put. Its 2 months withno contact. I still have not been able to gain access to my vehicle's or belongings or clothez. Its tough when all communications goes thru flying fuck monkeys!!!!
Thanks!
Thank you!!
Ty 🕊️✨💪🪽🫶
Thank you Joe, you described my ex husband to be straight to the point, he used to do that to me, goes away for business trip then expect open arms.
Yesterday he got my mum involved to me to stay in the marriage, didn't work, today he accepted the application.
I just want to be free from the things you are educating us about these people,especially when married, I endured all that, so confusing and traumatising, it's like they are IT and I am shit in everyway, I am never enough. I am so looking forward to being about to just breath freely pray
A narc wants full control...its a constant cycle with these types..its so important to "know thy self.." narcissists are mean children.Arrested Development. 😢😮😮
I’m one month no contact and this time it’s for good
When you firmly establish what they are pushing their buttons is fucking funny.
So true!!!!!!!
Joe how long after the narc left you did you start to feel better? How long after no contact? Ive hear from others it took them several months like 6 months before they felt more like themselves again. Ive heard that the empath will start to feel better when the narcs life is spiraling downwards? But on his fb it looks like his life is better than ever. He even got more comments and likes on his pictures now than before he met me🤷🏼♀️😲 and he was the monster! NOT me! I was kind to him until he pushed me to far, then I turned dark on him😳 I didnt even recognize myself, so I just tried HARD to get away from him. Blocked him. Left him. Spit him in his face. Told him he was bad in bed. I also told him I started looking at other men😳 I was not myself. Maybe I became him and he became me😳 they steal the empaths identity?😳😳😳 or maybe we just get the narsisists good traits after it has gone some time? Anyone who can talk about this? Im trying to get answers cause this has been such a yourney……and the insane thing is that i also felt so incredible beautiful with the narc. It was insane!
Stop stalking him on Facebook. You’re only hurting yourself. You won’t feel better until you make a clean break. What you’re doing now is hoping your absence is hurting him. It isn’t. Focus on your own healing and see a therapist if you need help breaking the trauma bond. Chances are you have issues from childhood that are making you hope that the situation will turn around and you will be chosen. Empath is often a word synonymous with codependent. Stop labeling and get on with healing. He left you for dead. Never forget that. Why do you want someone who left you for dead?
Seems like you still haven't moved on or at least trying, the way you talking is exactly how the Narc wants you thinking
@@tpa617working on it. It takes time. It was even hell blocking him. No contact 10 weeks feels like getting of a drug or something. Even though Ive never used drugs.
You need to stop Narc videos and keep yourself busy
Sabotaged the relationship with me only to go back on the hunt for my replacement. He was trying to get away with juggling me with other females while we were living together. Once broken up he started hooking up with one of these "friends". He can choke on rocks, not my problem.
I think it has a 'scientific' or diagnostic name but, what you mentioned about when they are not around you, you ARE NOT in their conscious awareness AT ALL.....maybe compartmentalizing.
The term is referred too as..lack of object constancy
Out of sight out of mind too
@@helenmcclay2622 blind. insane.
Christ I don’t even know what year it is I feel like irreversible crap
What’s that artwork from at the beginning?
Go back to the fights?
Exactly! And you fight for nothing - so why should you go back... There is no winning in that whole thing (whatever it is)...
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Sadist I ever met…. 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
It’s not the loss of love it’s the loss of expectation of that person