When I told my Ex-Wife No to getting back together.. and I said " Have a nice Life " , she said "No No Wait, what you mean Have a Nice Life". I explained that I will not be around anymore, I think that destroyed a part of her, I felt terrible, but I had no choice.
The funny thing is that he never met my standards. I lowered my standards looking at the potential and trying to help/fix while also believing the manipulation and not understanding that there are truly horrible people out there, not your typical murderers, robbers and crooks but even worse.
I discarded the narcissist and literally spent a year and half fully breaking free he wouldn’t leave me alone! He ran to his supply he cheated on me with and I never chased him and just let it go and that wasn’t apart of his plans they’re toddlers trying to act like they’re capable of being in relationships they need deliverance!
Went permanent no contact and never gave him a reason why. Never told him I never wanted to see him/speak to him ever again. I showed with my actions. He even tried reaching out a year and a half later and I still never broke no contact. I walked away and gave him the permanent silent treatment when he was playing me with that crap.
I’m finding your videos at the end of my healing journey. When I first started watching videos on narcissism it was trying to figure out what was going on. A confusion of chaos. Now at the end of my healing journey I feel like I got my doctorate in narcissism, and watching videos feels like being a psychologist and keeping up with peer review studies. It’s a huge difference. When I first started I was so traumatized and watching videos was more triggering. Now it’s way more analytical. I’m not watching out of my hurt. I’m watching out of my growth and letting it add to new layers of revelation. The end of this video really spoke to me. Because I was a child of narcissistic parents and yes they groomed me to think how I would be treated was normal. Being devalued is normal. Needing to prove myself, etc… I’ve had a series of narcissistic relationships until I got one super overt one that made me finally have a piece to look up and figure out what is happening. Your video is so right. I didn’t think about it. But my parents are probably shocked how I’m not missing them and wanting to talk to them every day. They think they are giving me the silent treatment, but that doesn’t work on someone who has no interest to speak to you in the first place. ✌🏾
I really relate to the not drinking. She drank regularly like clockwork and unleashed hell on me. I'm 8 years sober and I thought I could hang. God it hurt so much. Being devalued while she was drunk. My not drinking was me constantly judging her. She also only hoovered me while she was drinking. Every time. I'm not going back this time. It's been 4 months. Hoping to stay strong. Thank you for this!
I came to realise everything you're saying in this video and the knowledge is very liberating. I've experienced the narcissist and their flying monkeys normalising the abusive behaviours because they're weak mentally and are toxic as well. They claim at times to be neutral but always go along with the abuse by partaking and laughing about it. Seeking the approval of the narc. They always need to be forgiven only to do the same and worse again. I've learned to detach from them. Rumination has allowed me to realise there wasn't much of a relationship. People who knew us from childhood confirmed it to me. It was built on deceit, disrespect and hidden hatred. Our values could never align because there was no love in them. Only love for material things. I did the work and now my vibration is high. All their projections are a waste of time. My self worth is strong and I don't need any validation. The minute I see or hear something off I recognise it and shut it down. They've learned a hard lesson that I will leave you behind if you abuse me in any form. I've learned that a bunch of sick people banning together doesn't make them right. Sadly, unbiased individuals from the outside looking in see them as horrible people but they're too self absorbed to recognise it. So much childish manipulative nonsense. They lost someone valuable. I'm at peace with my decision to let toxic individuals go. 🙏
Omg I just broke up with my narc yesterday and I need to listen to this everyday because everything you said about do you want to go back to that is so true. Thats all it was constant cheating, constant lying, verbal abuse, it ended because he started an argument once again- raging, through a headset at my head and tried to slam me in the door and told me to pack all my stuff* and go! He came to my house later to apologize and I told him I'm done. This guy really took me through the ringer.
I never liked the narcissist. I figured it out in the love bomb. There was no sex. Still, he aggressively pursued and refused to accept “no”. These people are very sick and IMO operate out of a psychotic state and alternate reality.
It gets real ❤I dated 7-8 narcs from 14-45 the last narc I looked at her and said ,”I rather be alone than to Evaaaaaaa do that cycle or those codependent behaviors ever again. I will never let my little self down again. I deserve so much better, I realized I still had low self esteem and self worth. My ex was ugly I never would have dated her not my type but she seemed like a good person. “Seem” they are delusional 😂 ! My standards are not low and I’m never settling because I can be alone! I couldn’t be alone in my codependency now I’m healing!! ❤
Not only do they believe we’ve changed, they gaslight us, into believing we’ve changed as well. Thank goodness for podcasts like this that help us to clearly understand what we have been subjected to…
When I told my Ex-Wife No to getting back together.. and I said " Have a nice Life " , she said "No No Wait, what you mean Have a Nice Life". I explained that I will not be around anymore, I think that destroyed a part of her, I felt terrible, but I had no choice.
The funny thing is that he never met my standards. I lowered my standards looking at the potential and trying to help/fix while also believing the manipulation and not understanding that there are truly horrible people out there, not your typical murderers, robbers and crooks but even worse.
I discarded the narcissist and literally spent a year and half fully breaking free he wouldn’t leave me alone! He ran to his supply he cheated on me with and I never chased him and just let it go and that wasn’t apart of his plans they’re toddlers trying to act like they’re capable of being in relationships they need deliverance!
Went permanent no contact and never gave him a reason why. Never told him I never wanted to see him/speak to him ever again. I showed with my actions. He even tried reaching out a year and a half later and I still never broke no contact. I walked away and gave him the permanent silent treatment when he was playing me with that crap.
I’m finding your videos at the end of my healing journey. When I first started watching videos on narcissism it was trying to figure out what was going on. A confusion of chaos. Now at the end of my healing journey I feel like I got my doctorate in narcissism, and watching videos feels like being a psychologist and keeping up with peer review studies. It’s a huge difference. When I first started I was so traumatized and watching videos was more triggering. Now it’s way more analytical. I’m not watching out of my hurt. I’m watching out of my growth and letting it add to new layers of revelation. The end of this video really spoke to me. Because I was a child of narcissistic parents and yes they groomed me to think how I would be treated was normal. Being devalued is normal. Needing to prove myself, etc… I’ve had a series of narcissistic relationships until I got one super overt one that made me finally have a piece to look up and figure out what is happening. Your video is so right. I didn’t think about it. But my parents are probably shocked how I’m not missing them and wanting to talk to them every day. They think they are giving me the silent treatment, but that doesn’t work on someone who has no interest to speak to you in the first place. ✌🏾
I really relate to the not drinking. She drank regularly like clockwork and unleashed hell on me. I'm 8 years sober and I thought I could hang. God it hurt so much. Being devalued while she was drunk. My not drinking was me constantly judging her. She also only hoovered me while she was drinking. Every time. I'm not going back this time. It's been 4 months. Hoping to stay strong. Thank you for this!
He planned a trip to Florida and he knew how badly I wanted to go with him. I didn't find out until he got back that he took someone else.
Being alone is AMAZING
I came to realise everything you're saying in this video and the knowledge is very liberating. I've experienced the narcissist and their flying monkeys normalising the abusive behaviours because they're weak mentally and are toxic as well. They claim at times to be neutral but always go along with the abuse by partaking and laughing about it. Seeking the approval of the narc. They always need to be forgiven only to do the same and worse again. I've learned to detach from them. Rumination has allowed me to realise there wasn't much of a relationship. People who knew us from childhood confirmed it to me. It was built on deceit, disrespect and hidden hatred. Our values could never align because there was no love in them. Only love for material things. I did the work and now my vibration is high. All their projections are a waste of time. My self worth is strong and I don't need any validation. The minute I see or hear something off I recognise it and shut it down. They've learned a hard lesson that I will leave you behind if you abuse me in any form. I've learned that a bunch of sick people banning together doesn't make them right. Sadly, unbiased individuals from the outside looking in see them as horrible people but they're too self absorbed to recognise it. So much childish manipulative nonsense. They lost someone valuable. I'm at peace with my decision to let toxic individuals go. 🙏
Omg I just broke up with my narc yesterday and I need to listen to this everyday because everything you said about do you want to go back to that is so true. Thats all it was constant cheating, constant lying, verbal abuse, it ended because he started an argument once again- raging, through a headset at my head and tried to slam me in the door and told me to pack all my stuff* and go! He came to my house later to apologize and I told him I'm done. This guy really took me through the ringer.
How crazy!!!!!!! What you're attracted to when you're broken, disgusts you when you've healed.🤢🤮😷
Sister you must be a carpenter because you've hit all the nails squarely on the head!!!!!.
They all use the same playbook! It's absolutely disgusting!
Youre on point. It gets me when you say it: "You did too much".
I never liked the narcissist. I figured it out in the love bomb. There was no sex. Still, he aggressively pursued and refused to accept “no”. These people are very sick and IMO operate out of a psychotic state and alternate reality.
It gets real ❤I dated 7-8 narcs from 14-45 the last narc I looked at her and said ,”I rather be alone than to Evaaaaaaa do that cycle or those codependent behaviors ever again. I will never let my little self down again. I deserve so much better, I realized I still had low self esteem and self worth. My ex was ugly I never would have dated her not my type but she seemed like a good person. “Seem” they are delusional 😂 ! My standards are not low and I’m never settling because I can be alone! I couldn’t be alone in my codependency now I’m healing!! ❤
Not only do they believe we’ve changed, they gaslight us, into believing we’ve changed as well. Thank goodness for podcasts like this that help us to clearly understand what we have been subjected to…
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It's going to hurt him a lot when I am living like an empress and he is still living his miserable life.
You have a solid grasp on reality! A rarity these days! Every thing you describe is so true!