No Mercy! If She Flakes On You DO THIS
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Realistically, any woman who wants a man won't flake, and if she cancels, she will do the most to make it up to you. When she cancels, she will apologize and make several offers to reschedule. If shes not doing this, she doesn't want you. If she doesnt want you, let her wander. Find a woman who does want you.
This. Most problems can be solved if we look at them for what they really are. The truth is not always what you want to hear, but it's what you need to hear.
Facts
@juanancriadillas
I disagree... The last thing you want a woman to have is confidence it turns them into monsters
Correct.. even better make her work for it.
@juanancriadillas
You do not want such a woman.. if you actually think they are doing this run.
When I was dating, I would always take girls to a pool hall for a date. That way if she didn't show up I still got to play some pool. If she was late, I didn't notice I was busy playing pool.
@John Volken You make a valid point, but I'm a larger man, so I don't' usually have to worry, also On a first date if she runs off with some other guy I say good riddance.
Props for this
I usually would prefer to meet them somewhere where I had friends at (I would breakaway from them if she showed up), or meet them at the park for a picnic (and bring a book). If they never showed up, I could keep myself entertained.
Hahaha that's awesome.
I like your logic.
She flakes on you? Be happy! Thank the universe. Seriously. She filtered herself out. Imagine investing time, money, build something, or even get her pregnant and later finding out she is a flaker!? You would be is some serious trouble. You dodged a bullet, she spared you of herself.
I wonder if there is a connection between women who flake and women who initiate divorce.....
Or paying decades of child support!
@@hazardousjazzgasm129 lmao
This is dumb logic. Just because you can imagine a worse scenario doesn't mean the universe did you a favor.
@@runreilly It's just an expression. He means she's done you a favor and be content is all.
Women have endless amount of options to choose from. No point in trying to reschedule after she flakes unless she offers a counter day. Remember if a woman really desires you she’ll make TIME FOR YOU
I agree. BUT if she tells you that she wants to meet you, she comes. If the meeting is not good well ok it will not work. I undertand. But if she says that she comes and she doesn't come, she shows no respect for you. Actions lead to conséquences. Today girls think that there are not conséquences, they can do everything. Just no. I will trashtalk her so maybe the next guy will thank me because the girl will come anyway at their first date.
@@perretlaurent6665
Trash talk is counterproductive.. the next guy will not thank you. Just take it like a man,and leave her guessing.
Do not reschedule for less that 2 weeks later...
Marc Grundfest I wouldn’t reschedule or reach out at all lol why tf would I ask again in 2 weeks when she’s not even putting in effort to counter another time ?
@@CertifiedTyrone
Then don't.. that's ok . But dont trash talk .. it shows weakness not strength.
Marc Grundfest Im not the one that said I’d trash talk lol I go 👻
ok but the fact that you sent pictures with another girl back to her is kind of iconic and hilarious 😂😂😂
Boss move
I would definitively go with that lol
I would definitively go with that lol
I do like the humorous gesture which puts the ball back in her Court to make a decision about whether or not she really wants to get to know you or is putting you off because she doesn't. Like he said women tend to be more emotional with their decisions, well this is truly an emotional decision.
I did the same thing. Never asked either girl out again but it felt good and I moved on.
The worst thing is thinking that is your fault.
Flaking on you is not your fault!!
marcelo2169 Yes, if she wasn't interested, she shouldn't have led you on.
I agree. However, for many men, if they endure enough rejection, drama, BS, fake phone numbers as well as being stood up despite lowering their standards, many of them just give up entirely on women.
Actually, it can be your fault. Sometimes you look attractive enough, and have a life and personality she would enjoy being a part of and have a relationship with, but you lack seductive ability, not the least of which includes the ability to make an emotional connection and lead an interaction. If a woman feels like there'll be a lot of negative pressure in the form of awkwardness or that she'll have to make all the moves, it's hard to feel excited about meeting you.
Not the man fault If he never was given the opportunity to build those skills up. I suppose anybody could but you will be though as a creep as you build those skills up. The point is is it worth deali MN g with all this bs just to barely get a shot even when you mastered those skills? Maybe, it just depends on the person. I prefer not dealing with it.
Narcisstic women don’t feel nothing.
Double negative
@@MidnightPolaris800 Thank you, saved me from pointing that out but I'm guessing it flew right over their head. It's cool often when people use a double negative as you can have fun with it.
Yes they do, they have weak ass egos I've seen it I'm on roll bruh lol
@@notanotheryoutubechannel777 Lol. It's easy to break a woman's ego. Call her out on how weak her body is and mal nourished her breasts are. She will think about that comment for the rest of her lives because of her ego.
Anything*
When they say they’re busy that’s only a front.
It can be those 3 things
1.She wants you to pursue her.
2. She wants to raise her value by appearing « busy ».
3. Her interest is not high enough to go on a date with you yet.
Everybody has free time it’s only a front guys.
Nailed it
Vamoo yes very commun too, I’d rather not swim In those swimming public pools full of std’s, not even with a speedo hat.
She's mostly busy with a bunch of Chads and Tyrones.
Getting that excuse should be an automatic delete and block.
If the roles were reversed then you'd have to be really rude to flake on a woman or to set up a date with her if you weren't even going to commit to it. It's been done to me a few times and i often wonder if they are setting up dates with many guys so if the one they like cancels then she won't flake on you.
Text her this: Why didnt you come? You dont care about me? Because i really care about you, and i really want to be with you, because i like you so much.
---Rejection guaranteed LOL
LOL HAHAHAHA!
*DEFINITELY using this*
If you like games. Text her about 40 min later and say you are sorry you are late, but you ran into an old friend...
You will have lots of fun,if you have game..
That would actually be funny as hell to say to a woman. It would most certainly be taken sarcastically.
Hahahahaha!!!
Bruh, it's a lifehack how to make woman you don't like to stop liking you without any drama
Everyone who is flaky, shows lack of respect for your time. Not only women. Put the ball in their court and be willing to walk away.
If she contacts you, make no effort to go on flashy dates.
This is a video specifically about women..
Flashy dates is a waste of $...... dating is a waste of $.
Thanks AMS
Pizza only.
@John Volken I actually disagree with Alexander a lot in this video. He offers too much weak advise.
Never give a woman the opportunity to flake on you twice. Counter-offers maybe but on her dime not mine.
Usually if they flake, they aren't interested.
I learned to just ghost them if they do this.
The first few times I worried that they might have been in an accident or something.
I was raised to make it to appointments on time, and if I even think I may be late, to try to contact the other parties and let them know, sooner, better than later.
It didn't occur to me that most women don't have enough respect for others to bother with social niceties.
They see no issue with insulting people by wasting their time.
I only had one woman ask for a second chance. After 30 minutes, I declared her a no show, and left the restaurant and went out with friends.
Later I learned she was an hour late, and waited on me, and assumed I stood her up.
And that's all I remember about her.
@@Weaseldog2001 Who the hell assumes THEY are the one getting stood up when they are A WHOLE HOUR late? Incredible the nerve of some people...
@@hazardousjazzgasm129 Anyone who is used to people waiting on her, and sees that as normal.
@@Weaseldog2001 : 30 minutes without her sending you a message that she is running late is too much time wasted. I give them 15 minutes and leave. You did good anyway.
@@childfreesingleandatheist8899 I don't rush a good stout.
As a woman, it's honestly shocking and embarrassing, that a video like this has to be made. What happened to common courtesy?? Its just plain rude to flake people, no matter who you are. Texting people isnt hard jesus.
Sabergon you must be one of the rare unicorns out there unfortunately majority rules
When growing up didn't you ever come across such horrible women? Even as early as 5th grade, I've seen women who got off manipulating men for their own pleasure. The worst is when a girl pretends to like you just so she and her friends can laugh at the inside joke of making the guy into a gullible fool. I even knew someone in high school who committed suicide over it. A girl pretended to like him, then mocked him in front of her friends. They all laughed at him. He killed himself that very day.
@@bullballsallday I'm sorry to hear that happen to your friend, unfortunately everyone has the potential to be a nasty and inconsiderate pile of heaping steamy garbage. Men, women, white, black, asian, ect. What you're born with and your character are two separate things. You cant control your birth, but you can control who you become and how you treat others.
Altho I cant say I've experienced that scenario specifically, I've had my fair share of heartbreak or consoling someone who's in heartbreak because of how self centered someone was.
How is this shocking though lol. I have been flaked on so many times in my life i lost count. Its extremely wide spread.
today it's become a rare thing to find a woman who doesn't flake
if she flakes i'll put the ball in their court and send a text saying "no worries, let me know when youre free" and then go on about life dating other women. if shes genuinley interested she'll get back, if not then youre already on to other girls anyway so no biggie. Never get angry, some girls get a rise out of that.
How about "no worries, I'll let you know when I'm free next".
Then ghost.
@poopscoop exactly
@@muskokamike127 Its up to you how you respond but in my opinion, she'll know you're pretending to have "forgotten" the date as a way to save your pride. People arent that gullible.
@@muskokamike127 You also get to decide if and when she's good enough for you.
@@Thewiseone124 while it's unlikely, she may have pulled out of the date for a genuine reason hence why i send the text. It means if her reason for flaking was genuine and she's actually interested, she'll hit you up another time to meet up. If she ghosted you or stood you up, thats another matter altogether and i'd agree that in that case you should just move on. Up to you though man, only do what makes you comfortable and live your best life
This guy is like a low budget Jordan Peterson .
More like red pilled gbp
hahaha
😂😂😂 the funniest thing I’ve read today. Captain Sinbads needs to do a spinoff now lol
@Google User He wasnt really addicted to benzos, just had extremely unpleasant withdrawal symptom which is also very rare
😂😂😂
Regarding the first example, I was literally just about to say the same thing while i was watching the vid... and then alex said it first...
‘If she flakes on you, she just done you a favour’
This is exactly why i watch your content. You literally speak my mind and what i already know so well in almost every video. I wish you so much more subscribers man...
But yeah its true. If a girl flakes you on a first date, return the favour by forgetting she exists. Not out of malice or spite at all. But simply to show her that she isnt the only one whose valuable. Regardless of her being the female and having more dating options because of the way our society is structured around men chassing women and not the other way round.
If she flakes on you. She done you the ultimate favour by showing you with her actions that shes a rubbish girl. She just saved you a world of bs. now keep it moving to the next chick and forget about it.
Youre a man. You dont have a body clock that expires in your 30’s. So you have waaaaaaayyy more time to enjoy the dating world than a woman ever will. Embrace that, and enjoy your gift. Move on to the next girl.
James W thanks.. just telling the truth. Glad it resonates with you
If she flakes she's done, don't try to spend time with someone who doesn't show by her ACTIONS that she wants to spend time with you. Simply ghost her and move on.
It's telling how they always look at each other before answering. You will never get an honest answer on any question while another woman is around.
After seeing several videos, at this point is annoying how repetitive that behavior is
agreed, but even just the camera will do that
There may be some truth to that. It's the nature of conformity, although there are too many different names for the same concepts. I'm always having to translate into whatever "language" a person understands. I think in patterns and drop down into words. Language divides the mind and perception into too many compartments.
When I tell people I've studied qabalah, this is essentially what I'm referring to and has nothing to do with religion and is more like the binary machine code underlying the Matrix or the nature of the universe and physics. The human mind complicates the simple, such as E=mc2.
But I'm not a man, human or genius, because no human would claim to be human, no man would claim to be a man, and no genius would claim to be a genius. Everybody knows that. It's common sense.
"Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen." - Albert Einstein
When a girl cancels on me, I ghost them right away even after we had a few dates. I move on quick and they beg for me back. I still don’t give in. Too bad, no time for low quality women.
Nobody cares.
Lel flat earth.. I think you are doing them a favour.
Unknown IP I make 7 figures a year after tax. What do you make bro? Prob work at Mc Donald’s lmao. Loser
@@TheFlatEarthChannelcom what do you work as.
Hussain Alshara I own video game outsourcing studio. Marketing studio and a run a Airbnb rental company, along side invest in a bunch of original IP projects. I employ over 100 employees.
I'm very glad to have seen this now. I have currently landed myself in a position where I am finding myself consistently asking a girl to hang out with no reciprocation so far. I had a great first date with an old love interest which seemed promising, and it's been about a week & a half, and she has been claiming that she's busy since then. ( I have asked to make plans 3 times so far ) I feel very much like asking her straightforward whether or not she wants to continue so I can move on, but after seeing this I think I'm going to leave it be. I have been placed at a position that isn't worth recovering from because it would end in a relationship I'm not happy with. Thank you for your content, Alexander, I recommend you to all of my friends.
Judge a woman by her actions. If her action contradict her words, just believe her actions above everything else. A woman thats interested will move mountains. If she's not initiating contact that only means you're a low/no priority to her. Women and most people hate confrontation so thwy wont be upfront with you. So dont expect or ask for closure. Just take her unavailablility as a sign she's not that into you.
Go for fatties. They’ll call back for sure
@@caseybanana8114 Ahaha, I have no issue finding dates, I just don't like doing it or going on them because I find it difficult to connect with people & I have very peculiar standards. Truthfully, this has been the first time I have been left clueless after a first date. It's a very bizarre thing, because my expectations were far from reality. I got too excited, and expected a lot from the beginning and that's my fault. I'll take your advice though ;)
I don't chase women any longer. If they're interested in you, they'll go out with you. If they don't show interest they're not into you so why bother with them? They're going to be bad in the sack.
@@dat2ra problem is, i have a hard time getting them to find interest in me..
A female will often put you on her options list, even when she's currently in a relationSHIT. Their goal is to Trade up but if you leave her then she just checks her list. This is why females seem to have moved on so quickly, it wasn't luck it was planned
One or two hours before the date send her a text like "See you in an hour :)". If she doesn't respond she is probably going to flake on you and you can save yourself the time of going to the date location.
Most of the time I already had plans to be at a location, so if she shows, she shows.
This is what I do, I text them an hour or so before trying to get some sort of "confirmation". Rule of thumb for first dates: thursday is probably the best night to schedule. It is more likely she will flake on you if you have a first date scheduled over the weekend. She might bail on you for her friends or a party for example. If I've already gone out a couple times with a girl and I know she can be flaky, the way I invite her out is something like "hey this friday I'm gonna go grab a bite and some drinks at so and so bar. You are welcomed to join me" That way you make it seem like you're going with or without her. And that's the idea, you should go even if she flakes. Always invite a girl out to places that you want to go to - do it for you, not for her
You guys don't understand yet. ALWAYS take your "date" to places you normally wanted to go anyways. For example I invited this chick if she wanted to come to a record store I go to. Guess what? I was going to do that anyways to buy some used records. Invite her to a bar you enjoy going to by yourself, that way if she doesn't show up, you can just hit on other chicks at the bar or play pool and have fun anyways. Invite her to the beach, but bring your board with you in your car so if she doesn't show up you can get some surf in. I do this with every single date. I never go on dinner dates early in a relationship.
"Walk like a man, talk like a man. Walk like a man my son. No woman's worth crawling on the Earth, so walk like a man my son." -The four seasons
The current dating culture is the real problem and as long as you participate in it, you are part of that problem.
The woman that gives her phone number (without intention for the dating) does that for Validation purposes. The more texts she get, the more she is satisfie, as in her mind she thinks being a higher number - this is validation.
Just like Instagram likes!
That "How are you going to make it up to me " got a reply of "Don't contact me again "
Yup that sounds desperate silence is the best answer.
🤣🤣
I could have learned this way earlier. I've done all the wrong strategies which led to my loss of the high quality woman I met before. It was a big pain in the ass but it eventually led me to watch this kind of content. We are now awaken. Just move on. Thank you very much.
Humility is key brother, you learned from those failures and it makes you stronger.
Get her off that pedestal, she does not deserve it
This is totally true!! When you ask "how you can make it up to me" totally works guys. Try it and you will immediately know whether it's the right girl or not
I would word it: "Ah. Well u can make it up to me later. 😏😉😁" don't give her the choice. Imply that I will dictate the terms!
@@fan-i-am 'later' is the weakness in your sentence. Later can be 5 years later in her head, which is equal to 'never'.
My wife canceled on me on our 3rd date. She admitted she really liked me and was scared. I just responded with " O.K." After about 30 minutes she said she regretted it and rescheduled. Been together ever since. ;-)
"OK" is a perfect complete response to a flake text
Sorry but it wasn't because she liked you and was scared. Grow up
how long have you been together?
@@bnlhu 7 years on the 21st of August matter of fact. 😎
@@keid1020 well congratulations man, not a lot of people make it that long. Just remember to always protect your assets and to have an exit plan, divorces break men, the court system is vicious
Has anyone ever noticed that the only girls who are flakey are skinny 20 year olds, like the two girls in video. 30 and 40 year olds never flake on you because they hit the wall and lost all their dating Power.
Nah that still happens with 30 year olds. Happens all the damn time. If anything, it seems like it has become more common in my 30s. Never in my life had I had more problems with dating than in my 30s. I remember being broke and fat in my early 20s and had more dates lined up than I do today.
They days are long but the decades are short. Men age like fine wine, women age like sour milk.
hahaha
@John Volken She's a 6/10!? I need to move to Russia. Have you been to an American Walmart?
They do bud.
It’s disengenuine to just be fun cause it’s not authentic. The sexual marketplace has become a game. Control is good, but in the long run it will not work and will be stressful to have to always hide Your true feelings.
Congruency is my path’
I am comfortable with following my guts. It's not about manipulation for me either. Oh, and i don't have dates. :Ddd I can't believe i dodged so many bullets!!
True
Women made it that way: the offer adapts to the demand
He's spot on. My g/f was jokingly talking about Valentines Day, more or less setting it up like it's a day all about her. I replied with, "you better not forget my special day, i expect rose petals leading up to a bathtub." it easily shifts the power dynamic back in your court, but she's too busy laughing to notice that she's been put on notice.
If this is was a guy who flakes women be like “oh my God I can’t believe he just stood me up”
It would probably make them want you even more
@@joshy2joshy Thats probably true Josh...lol we both have the same first name
@@GodhandPlusOne and then they get only reinforcement of these beliefs because of social media echo chamber.
lol I know its ultra petty but I had one girl flake on me and I got her back in jerk way. She was super hot and kinda arrogant so I knew what I was getting into. She texted and flaked some excuse so I rescheduled and she agreed for some reason but the second time, yep you guessed it she just didn't show and then texted 30 minutes later about some problem. I didn't bother to respond. Then one day she shows up at my place of work looking for a job. She never saw me but I politely told the hiring manager what happened and what kind of person she was. She smiled and let me throw away her resume. Man it was petty but it felt good. She never knew but still.
Oh I would have done it in front of her while laughing with the manager.
😂😂😂🐐
Rommullus - what was the point then? You should have done right in front of her so that she got the point!
@@wiseonwords like I said, ultra petty, childish and dumb. I don't do stuff like that anymore. Just airing it out and letting it go. Easier to vent to the internet than to people I know.
Nice but next time don’t set up a second date if she flakes on the first one. If she’s not trying to rearrange a later date then you have to move on. Love the irony in your story though lol
This is so true, I had a friend who accepted every date offer, then went through the list to decide who was the best she wanted to go with. She even asked me to call some back to tell her she was sick, which I declined to do, it was her mess.
Just delete and move on...
@Godhand Yupp
@@GodhandPlusOne this is just going to make them think they won..trust me, dont block her just stop texting her. That's enough
@dadidgital that's alot of steps that lead to nothing. And you would have to know that specific woman actually cares. Best bet just dont respond and move on
If you're the foreman at a job site and the new guy doesn't show up or keeps giving you excuses, would you tolerate it? Would you expect his behavior to get any better if he did continue to work for you?
No?
Okay, now just apply this toward women...
She wants you to submit to her power, yet she wants you to be powerful. She's irreconcilably conflicted, and she doesn't even know it.
I’ve tested the “how are you going to make it up to me many times over the year”. It doesn’t work. the best thing to do with flakes is to delete their information and move on. Don’t waste a second more of your time for someone who doesn’t respect you or your time
A few examples of responses to that question?
if she flakes without explanation,she"s out,number deleted,flaking shows emotional immaturity,not the type of woman anyone should want to date,if she justifies it,one more chance,but only one,there is always another girl
Well said my man
Women smiling and laughing when their game is uncovered and men know their game.
I've been flaked on, and cancelled on. I always tell 'em, "Ok, on to plan "C." 😂🤣😂🤣😂✌🐸
As long as it's not choke-the-chicken...well how does that work out for you?
It's a shame women just can't be upfront. If you don't want to date us, just say so. Be upfront and honest about it. We'll get the message and leave you alone and move on. But no....it's just cowardly mindgames because too many people are just afraid to be decisive and honest. Things would be easier for us all if more women would stop with the weak excuses and just say "No" every once in a while.
When a girl flakes, she thinks she might have a better option than you but doesn't want to burn her bridge with you either. That';s why they'll never be upfront about it.
Understand women, they're not programmed to be up front.
As a few people have already pointed out, many of the narcs are just looking for validation, makes them feel good to know they can have you if they want, flaking probably feels better to them than a thousand Facebook likes
@@NeonagiYer exactly.
I had a date once : the girl sent me a mssage 2 hours after the time of date.
She said : sorry, I could not came.
Yes, indeed, I noticed that because I was there.
I take the advice of my hero DOC LOVE. He always says If she cancels and doesn't give you a counter offer its low interest on her part. I simply say "no worries lets just do it some other time" this is vague and leaves you as a man with self control "have a good night" erase the number and never ever ever......call her again. If only i knew this stuff in my teens, but like most males we were lied to by our family, friends, female friends about what women truly want and how to properly handle them.
"How you going to make this up to me?" Thats a 50/50 coin toss and giving her the power. Not replying is also a 50/50 but ignoring her will get more under her skin and make her replay back if shes actually interested. If she doesn't then you just saved your time. Problem solved.
I know what ur saying. And I agree. But I would modify the reply from a question to a statement, like this: "Ah. Well, you can make it up to me later. 😏😉😁"
That way I keep the power/dominance/ assertiveness etc without giving her a choice. 😊 see how she responds
@@fan-i-am Her interest would need to be very high (which it probably isn't, given the context) or else this looks like you've already compromised your interests for a promise of sex, one that she didn't even make.
@@dreamcore that's my point. If her interest isn't that high then u should keep sailing. And I'm coming from christian perspective of securing the relationship before sex.
Exactly. Even being "flirty" seems to be letting her know that you still want her, which gives her the power. I would say to wait for HER to extend a hint or invitation of another date or whatever, and then make sure it is on your terms. Otherwise, she just never sees you again.
In short: Respect yourself.
You don't invest time & energy into people who are not interested in being with you.
Chicks is dating multiple guys why would put yourself in that boat.
Bc I'm dating multiple women. If they can do it why can't I? Plus I wanna be her #1 ,but she's probably #4 to me lol
Anyone who you have to play games with is not worth it. If you're hurt and she hurt you, it's ok to say it. If she can't handle it, too bad. You cant play games for your whole relationship. Be honest and str8 forward. It's how you're going to be in your regular day to day life anyway with her. Always present who you are. You don't want them getting attached to a fake illusion that you can't sustain or can't consistently be. It just validates their eventual complaint that you've changed or aren't the same or whatever. If she's sorry and likes you, she either won't act that way, or will actually be apologetic. If not - NEXT
C'MON BRO
THAT'S NOT IT BRO
YOU GOTTA HAVE GAME BRO.
BRO!
Matt M unfortunately every women like to play games
Cyberneticxylem You said it BRO
You can’t just tell her she made you upset Bro
What’s wrong with that guy BRO ?
@@idobackflipz you don't just say "you hurt me!" Lol. You tell her she disappointed you. She let you down. She embarrassed herself. Those kind of responses make them feel ashamed of their behaviour and the good ones smarten up. You don't say your feelings are hurt. You express disappointment in their lack of respect for others and themselves shame works with children. It works with women
Matt M I hear you man . Honestly I just thought cybers comment was funny so I was adding to it .
Okay, honestly.. I have a lot of experience and telling her "how are you gonna make it up to me? :)" mostly results in her telling you "uhm.. idk", "excuse me.. I don't owe you anything?" or no reply at all. true, some girls respond with "i'll buy you a drink" or something like that, but most of the time they act like your're a needy/rude guy if you say that.
BLACKPILL: *If she flakes on you she thinks you're ugly or not attractive enough to take time for you!*
@Thanos That's a fairly plausible argument. How is that a load of bullshit?
Absolutely concur Schiggah. In the hierarchy of men that she has access to, if she doesn't know you well enough to make a determination if you're the best character match, she has nothing else to go on other than the physicality of her matches.
I would say that overwhelmingly so, most women flake because they're not interested in you because they're not attracted to you. I think the minority is women who have boyfriends/husbands who flake because they couldn't meet the logistical requirements to be a whoring cheater.
@Thanos you're just defensive and are not looking at the truth.
@Thanos Bluepilled
@Thanos yeah and for $400 he'll tell you how he did it!
Wow this vid is actually so good and needed for so many men, not just to help them with how to act but the mindset it can help create. Nice work Alex.
if she flakes you don't do anything, no messaging, no calling...just give her the code of silence and move on. She doesn't even deserve your words!
It's worse when you drive twenty miles to a girl's house for the second date and she won't come to the door. Frankly, I should have taken her to small claims court for gas money.
Lol wtf
Merry Christmas Alexander, keep up the great content throughout 2020 an beyond. Cheers
Hi Alexander, thank you for the videos and the work you do. Much appreciated.
This is vary insightful! Never occurred to me to be spin a awkward situation into a playful
Correction, 90% of the time girls don’t even message back! Even when there is a plan to do so... let alone text back’
The scales are at an all time high’
Don't invest allot on first dates, just drinks during happy hour. Getting upset because she flaked is your problem and not hers so be a man and move on with stoic frame.
I often find how vile the comment section under your videos are. I believe many of these men have been broken as I. Though where I have retreated into a depressed state of self-loathing. I sense a wrathful state of self-loathing. There is a distinction between content creator and the content consumer here. Your self confidence and assurance in your self is fascinating. It makes me feel not so alone in my plight. Never stop improving brothers. We are in this struggle of self-value together, my friends.
How can anyone thumbs down these videos?! Your content is hands down the most well balanced, rock solid advice on the internet!
its australians thinking thats the thumbs up
Being unforgiving is a red flag aswel. If you can not forgive people for their mistakes is a sign of narcisism. Read the situation, if you know she is not that into you, its ok to go your separate ways. But if this is not the case, lighten up and forgive her with a light hearted text like Alex said.
6:55 How do you respond
Me: Please the is nothing you can say leave her.
7:00 So how are you gonna make this up to me.
Me: Oh my gosh I think his on to something.
Alexander, you are truly a wealth of knowledge, mate!
I'm happy I discovered you, I kinda learned a month ago to be myself and work on myself. Just need some guidance on the way there.
I met this girl online that lived pretty close and we really hit it off at first, when it came to actually going on a first date I made several suggestions as to where we should go/what we could do. And she seemed interested in me. Then, when I tried to pinpoint a date she would reschedule because she was busy with school/other things. Fair, she goes to Uni after all.
At the beginning she suggested we'd go to a concert, of a rapper we liked, together as a first date. And I bought a ticket for myself beforehand (it was a cheap one, don't worry.) And she didn't buy a ticket (claimed to have problems with her bank account because she was getting a new card). I believed her, but still I ended up selling my ticket because I was discouraged to go alone after a long day of work.. Keep in mind she didn't even apologize or anything, just said "nope" when I asked her if she was gonna go.
Afterwards, I ghosted her. And she called me out on it lmao, saying I was being childish. I was like well that's whatever, I had this underbelly feeling something was wrong about this girl, but we started talking again. Big mistake on my part.
Tried to schedule to do something AGAIN, and this time I asked: Are you mine this saturday? :) She said: "well, i have a test on Friday, but i'm free this weekend, so yes."
Friday comes around and I try to discuss the details of the date the next day. And she says "Oh, that was this saturday? I didn't know that, can we reschedule it? I'm kind of tired. (Haha, here's me, moving it again)".
Frankly, I was irritated and called her out, saying that I felt like it was a weak excuse that you're tired the day before. And her other excuse was that "we didn't discuss anything in detail yet". Which was literally what i was trying to do at the time. I asked "Do I need to put a request in writing to do something with you?" I was already done at that point. She definitely didn't like that comment HAHA.
There are plenty of girls out there that have no problem meeting up for a first date but for some reason this girl seemed reluctant. It seemed like she was more into the IDEA of going on a date with me than actually going on one. Despite acting like she was all into me. It's a shame Corona is a thing right now, because I already had a date planned with another girl.
Remember, its not about her finding the time... its about making the time.
This one is actually really good and practical advice. No doubt I'll be in a situation again where I can implement these methods.
You've got great videos, my dude. Thank you very much for your work.
Do I want to give such a person the chance to 'make it up to me'?
Not really tbh. Unless there was a _good_ reason for the cancellation. I'm not into these sorts of games.
Too much thinking is going into all these things. Just dont let people mess you around.
Your strategy seems like it would work just fine ..... if you are trying to date men. If you aren't willing to use subtlety to assert power in a relationship dynamic then you are gonna have to just settle for what women decide to give you instead of what you really want.
If she is still interested, she will offer to make it up. And then you can choose the terms.
They flake to regain control of the situation. There are 100000’s of women out there, move on.
On dates, every girl wants a free coffee or meal. Not every girl wants to get to know you. Ask them to join you in something you love to do. Go on a hike, bowling. And if they say yes, if y’all hang and you feel she is solid, than take her out if you want.
She pretty much gets a free meal/coffee and they can't even bring themselves not to flake on that lol
What a content you present here for free, man. Seriously, congrats. Awesome content.
If she flakes, specially if no apology was presented, cut off ALL communication.
If she sees you out in public and tries to talk to you, give her a few minutes and let her talk while putting her on ice.
Women like this are most likely strong, independent, and don't need no man. And the best way to show support for women like this is to make sure that they stand by it. 😊
Geez, Alex, the Internet and you should exist way earlier when I was young ;) So much basic knowledge most of us doesn't even know we miss ;)
That's the reason I ended the last relationship - FLAKING! She'd apologize and then repeat the same mistake over and over. I didn't ghost her. I simply moved on. She asked for another chance. Sorry, the door is closed!
I believe in giving one or two chances early on if she is genuinely apologetic. But if the behavior continues? Gone.
I'm an older guy and I remember before cell phones, if a girl have you her number, it meant she wanted you to call her. Now it means nothing, even if she initiates the number exchange.
The moment she flakes is the moment she ceases to exist. She is no longer worthy of your attention.
Don't "put the ball in her court." That's just another way for her to put you on the back burner. If she flakes, just say, "Not a problem." She has to make the initative to keep the relationship up. Don't make it seem you'll come at her every call.
If she flakes on the date with no warning, forget about her and move on. There’s more fish in the sea. Watch her actions, don’t listen to her words.
Usually if she texts me, letting me know she can’t make it, I say “no problem, if you change your mind, you know where to find me”
Still waiting at that promised spot?
Honestly it shows that you have nothing else to do but sit around at that spot waiting for her if she changes her mind.
Instead just a simple okey will and pretend nothing happened , with contact really low or none and if she contacts you then pretend , as Alex said , as if nothing ever happened.
Wouldn't it be better to just say "bye"?
weak
That reply is still too invested for me. Back in my dating days, when a woman flakes, I simply reply with an “k” and move on.
I've been graced with knowledge. Thanks!
Very thorough, unbelievable accurate, can't believe he had to learn the hard way like I did.
0:17 look towards each other before answering
Hey Alex. I have another topic suggestion inspired by a comment I've read here: "Guys, not complicated , if she flakes on you with no counter offer, do not contact her. "
Now, I've seen many many MANY comments and even some advice coming from you that amount to something to the effect of "Just move on", see the problem is, this is a viable strategy in a metropolis where there are a LOT of dateable women. However, I come from Serbia, our capital, Belgrade has barely over a million inhabitants. Every other town, has far less (including mine) so the strategy where I just "move on" just doesn't work.
So logically same strategies aren't applicable here, so would you consider making a video on the topic of how would you go about it when the dating pool is quite limited, not to mention the amount of actual quality women and you have little option of moving to an environment with more people?
Love your videos!
I think it will actually work better in a smaller place. You set yourself up as the strong quality man with standards against the limited pool of weakness. Won't take long for word to get around that you are the prize and they will compete for you.
@@root1657 Not in my experience, but thank you for your advice :)
Improve yourself with no expectations
"Dating pool is limited" is not a real thing. It is an excuse. No way you are forced to stay with a person because there is no other around. Like it's not just the two of you on a desert island.
@@blitzchips8109 Dude what are you even talking about? I live in a town that has 10000 inhabitants. Half of which are female, quarter or MORE are older women (serbia has a negative birth rate) at least quarter are under age, many girls are abroad or studying somewhere. You do the math. "is not a real thing..." Yeah, it's all in my imagination buddy.
If a woman flakes, I just lose interest very quickly. I don't make attempts to reschedule, invite her again another time, or whatever. If she does nothing to correct her behavior on her own, I just don't initiate anymore and let it all go.
Feels good to hear a guy with the right insights
You could reply with, “Aah, that’s too bad. I just had my Lamborghini waxed and polished just for the occasion”.
Another great video. I will say this though, having to say stuff like "so how are you going to do to make this up to me? ;)" and trying to maneuver around mind games and PUA stuff is f***ing g*y. I bet most men wouldnt bother trying this arduous style of communication on anybody except for except for people they really care about (family, close friends, important co-workers etc), much less complete strangers.
I mean its so adversarial...holding grudges as ammunition for the right moment to manipulate a social power dynamics- its so antithetical to what guys want from women and relationships. It sounds like the things they tell high level management consultants and corporate negotiators to deal with rude clients.
You clearly have more game than me so you're probably right about this approach, but you can probably see why a lot of guys would deem the whole endeavour too troublesome to deal with.
I suppose it is good that you outline all of this stuff in an easy to understand video for the young men out there. Fast track is definitely better than learning the hard way.
Its nature bro, you've been taught wrong
i agree with you, sincerely, but i think all that needs to be said is, if you want to deal with women, this is what it takes. theres a reason they call it "game"
The secret is not to take it personally. That’s why experienced men treat it like a numbers game.
They gave their answer in one sentence to our every trouble . “It always depends on the type of guy”
I don’t know if you’d ever read this comment......but your channel is helping me a lot....thanks bro
In a nutshell, how to pursue a girl boils down to ...
Be the one who is pursued
Perfect, thank you.
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Yeah man I signed up to a few lately,
I had a situation with a girl where I tried setting a time for a date and i could never get her to agree on a time. She only told me how long it would take for her to get to the restaurant we were planning on meeting at, so I offered a time to meet but got no response. I tried calling her like 4 times to confirm a time. I didn't leave to go because i had no idea what time to be there and out of nowhere she texted me saying she was pulling up to the restaurant 😒 she didn't communicate well at all and it pissed me off. I stopped talking to her after that day.
I'd rather hang out then date. You'll learn the person faster in my opinion.
Why date at all if you have to jump through these hoops, go against your nature, and be burned? Your suffering in the relationship is her "fun vibe", count me out.
Brilliant advice !! "How are you going to make this up to me?" I used this and it works !
Great video, Alex.
A girl only gets one chance. Then drop her and move on
honestly what happened to common decency and just telling someone "sorry im not interested"? or Id rather have a girl tell me im not her type, im ugly, look like a loser, or any other type of insult than get ghosted/flake. Even though an insult can hurt, at least theres closure and I can move on, but if im ghosted, then im left to be like Sherlock Holmes putting clues together to wonder what happened
You're overthinking lol, 99% of the time they just lose interest. Just accept what's happened and move on, getting ghosted isn't your fault.
She flakes on you, ignore her. If you let it slide she won’t respect you and will eventually cheat on you.
Was seeing this smoke’n hot girl from the same church I attended.
On the con side, she had two kids. However, she was doing a very good job of raising them on her own.
Even with the two kids she was in demand and guys were interested in her. She was a hotty for sure, a good personality, fun to be around, kept a good house, knew how to cook, honest, and even though she was hot she could be trusted not to cheat.
She was looking for a man in her life, made no secret about it, and there was no shortage. Even in her blessed position she was selective about who she would let in.
She was the whole package except for the kids. They weren’t good or bad, just normal kids for their age. One girl and one boy. I got along with both of them fine. I liked playing board games with them on the living room floor with their mother also playing along with us.
Everything seemed to be going fine and other guys at the church would give me this “you lucky dog” look as I would pass them in the hallway.
So, now my boss is having his annual fall festival at his large home/farm. His wife is a schoolteacher and she has all sorts of fun activities planned for the kids that will be coming. She spent money on supplies based on how many kids are coming. My boss has tractor/hay rides planned for the kids, paint ball for the adults, a barbeque, a bond fire, plenty of food and refreshments, a large screen television….. it’s a big event and it’s good to be seen at these sorts of things when they happen.
We are allowed to bring a guest and I asked “Karla” if she wanted to join me. She had come to other in office parties and was familiar with most of the people that would be there. She said yes, and the deal was sealed.
On the day of, the morning of the festival I call her to verify times and other things. We were expected there around 1430hrs. later that day.
Now here comes the sh!t test. She announces to me over the phone that she would like me to come over at the scheduled time but instead of picking her and the kids up she wants me to delay our departure and help her clean her house for about two hours (I suspect that had I gone for this it would be more than two hours) before we leave to go to the festival! I am shocked at this request. She knows how important it is for me to be there and that I had already committed to my boss that I would be there, on time, and would be bringing a case (500 to a case) of paint balls. It came out of left field. When did she know this and why did she wait till now to tell me this? She said she wanted the house to be clean in case the social workers came over to look at the children’s living environment. Really? And you chose now to clean the house and is two hours of cleaning really going to make a difference on an already orderly house?
I was calm and told her that I would be glad to come over and pick her and the kids up at the planned time and take them all to the festival as planned without delay but would not be willing to spend any time cleaning up her house or waiting for her to do so.
She said, it’s only two hours.
I reminded her that I had committed to being at the festival at 1430hrs.. and was responsible for bringing paint balls and other items that are also expected to be there on time.
At this time of the year it starts getting dark around 1730hrs.. So, any paintballing would have to be over by then. Being two hours late would put my arrival at 1630hrs. You do the math.
She said, well can’t you be two hours late.
I said, yes I can but I am not going to do it for the reason of cleaning your house. That’s not a good reason.
I politely told her that if she wanted to clean her house it was certainly fine with me and I would make excused for her and her kids not being at the festival and that I was still planning on attending and arriving on time with or without her and her children.
She stuttered a little at this and then asked me if she could drive there on her own after cleaning her house and arrive late at the festival.
I told her if she wanted to do that it would be fine with me.
The bosses house/farm was not close and I started to give her directions. I could tell she wasn’t getting it. She had trouble getting around the city she lived in, much less out in the country.
She had already gotten in too deep to change her mind about cleaning her house and instead come with me to the festival. So, when it became painfully obvious she was not going to be able to drive herself out to the festival later in the day, she conceded that she would just stay home and not go.
I wished her all the best and we hung up. I went to the festival without her and when asked about where she was, I just said that things came up and she was not able to attend. I know all the guys wanted to see her. As I said, she was smoke’n hot.
Well anyways her phone stopped ringing and after about a week she called me and asked if everything was alright. I was very polite and told her that things were fine. I can tell she wanted to ask me why I hadn’t called her, but she didn’t. We had a very cordial conversation and I could also tell she was a little puzzled.
On that same call I made no future promises to see or call her, and I could tell she wanted me to. When I would see her in church I would always smile and say hi to her and sometimes she would even stop in the hallway to talk with me. She never asked me to stop over or why I wasn’t calling her or stopping over but I could tell she wanted me to ask her if I could come over sometime or to make plans to go out with her for some activity. Not happening.
As far as I was concerned she had given me a sh!t test and I passed and she failed and was now dealing with the consequences of her “test”.
Fortunately, I am in a position in life where I don’t have to be clingy. I put girls/orbiters in the friend zone, they don’t put me in the friend zone. With that move she had reached her expiration date, she could easily be replaced, and she knew it. I dropped her faster than a prom dress on prom night.
I don’t know why she thought she could play that card with me, but she did, and when she did, and put it on the table, it was set and game.
Absolutely brilliant. I needed this