Are Dumpers Avoidant?
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- Опубліковано 9 лис 2022
- Attachment Theory (Attachment Style) is how we learn to attach to our caregivers from a young age. Is my Ex avoidant? Is my Ex anxious? This video will help you know whether you and your EX are secure, anxious or avoidant in our attachment patterns. - The Love Chat
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Hi Friends - what is your attachment style?
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Learned I was a fearful avoidant because of Coach Craig Kenneth. Love his channel & this channel . Your channel has helped calm down my anxiety a lot. Been working on my attachment style since my breakup and facing issues that were present in my relationship that I feared. I appreciate your channel so much! It’s really helping people. 😊
First time I've seen your face, Rory. Haven't visited this channel in a while since our talk. We had a Skype call a few years ago, was incredibly helpful. If I recall correctly, at one point you actually said "seems you're doing the right thing. Just leave it alone and keep doing what you're doing." I just needed the reinforcement. If anyone doubts this channel, I can tell you firsthand it's legit advice that this man gives. Don't listen to the fake ones out there.
Much love and thanks to you brother, don't watch your videos anymore cause they are no longer needed thought I'd stop by and leave a like, all your free advice helped me figure out what I needed to do with myself. People listen to this man, focus on your healing after the first hurt anything that comes after shouldn't hurt as much or you know how to deal with things better. Relationships come and go but remember you have yourself, love yourself first and hopefully you can share that love in future relationships. No contact also works people!
Great video Rory, you explain it in a clear & concise way. Thank you for clearing up some of the confusion.
Thank you for the video Rory. Truly helped me understand myself and people around me.
Glad I could help!!
Great video. ❤️
I like your face. Definitely not what I expected!!! Thank you for your videos. I’m trying to feel better. This is very hard but your videos help for sure
I love your new videos, Rory. Thank you.
You are so welcome!!
Thanks Rory! Pulse..
My ex would say that she’s not the one to need from someone…
Another great video and style, and better hat!
Great t shirt
I'm a dumpee. Gf of 7 yeas dumped me. And I think I was the secure type for all those 7 years, but since I got dumped, I think I jumped straight to no. 4 lol sigh
Hey Rory, nice video! Can a breakup change someone's attachment style? I used to be secure but nowadays (two years after my breakup) I feel like I'm somewhere between fearful avoidant and dismissive, I definitely leaned on the "less people, less trusting" side of things.
Hey, 5 months in here! Don't worry, just work on yourself, with time you will be more secure. I was a bit avoidant after breakup too - after 1 month a girl wanted to be in a relationship with me, and I felt like I'm trapped, thats when I said "aha!" to myself. But after 5 months, I feel like I want intimacy, so with time it normalizes.
Yup absolutely
Hey Rory can you please do a video on when people breakup with you and go back to their toxic abuseive exs and will it last with them or do they come back
It will be on and off. Forget about such people. They’re permanently broken.
Hi Rory.
My ex and I were together for 3 months unofficially.
About a week after we made it offical she told me she doesn’t have romantic feelings for me.
She seemed really happy and really loving whilst we were together and I’m really confused.
I’ve been in no contact for 2 months now.
What do?
Also I love your work thank you so very much.
Any update? I’m in a similar boat here.
Is it possible to not have a secure attachment style even though I was in a loving and caring family with both parents? By the way I acted in the last relationship I would definitely not describe it as secure even though I was raised in a good environment.
Yes! Events throughout your life after childhood can impact this as well
@@TheLoveChat Will you be making a video about what we can do to "fix" each one. 99% sure im fearful avoidant anyways.
My ex wants to stay as friends with me for two months before she wants to patch up with me cause she doubts I didn't change...if things go peacefully and postively she willl work things out that's what she told me...what should I do?
Im really sorry to hear that Acash! Imo your girlfriend is puttin you on hold. She's not 100% Invested in you. I'll let you decide if that healthy for you and your ex. Focus on yourself now, dont look back at her for coming back. No contact. Social media pause. Hit the gym. And she' s back before you know it. And i'll promise you, that you will by that time be thinking about that if it's even worth it to go back to her. Remember that you made her emotional invested in you before, dont you think a 2.0 version of yourself cant do it again ? and maybe even 2x better ? :) Take care
If you are still in contact with her, You tell her this: Hey …. I hope everything is going okay. I’ve thought about it and I’ve realised that I can’t be friends with you, I think we have too much chemistry to just be friends and it isn’t something I want. I also don’t think it will be wise of me to stick around and watch you eventually date someone else. I see a relationship as something that can be very healthy for both of us, but I need a partner that can communicate and share with me problems so we can work on them together. If you think you can be that for me then let me know. If you cannot, then I cannot accept your friendship, and good luck out there.’
Then you walk away and don’t look back.