This scares men away and hurts your self image while dating
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This scares men away and hurts your self image while dating
This causes damage to your self image and scares guys away.
Male dating preferences are often over simplified and misunderstood.
This particular preference many men have isn't as vain and shallow as women like to imagine. There are some legitimate concerns men have that are very uncomfortable to talk about. We often hear very mean things said about this particular issue but it is a delicate issue for some of the women who have it. It should be handled with care. I mean no harm or offense. - Навчання та стиль
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sleeping with some random evil man just to feel wanted is something that can only be accepted by American culture, it's like expecting that jumping off a cliff won't AT LEAST break the legs, the trauma they have is something they literally signed on for assuming they were sober adults at the time
Very interested
Hi Kev, do you provide coaching/consultation? There is a guy who is currently a friend and I don’t know what to make of things, but don’t want to cut things off prematurely, if I’m reading the situation wrong.
You didn't offend me at all. I'm overweight. I need to lose 75 pounds. Men still be trying to talk to me but I refuse to date because I feel that I'm not ready. I need to improve a few things for myself first.
same here
I’m glad to hear that. We don’t accept our own flaws but too many of us require strangers to. It’s not realistic. I’m glad you saw my heart in this message. #love
You know you boo! The stuff that comes first and foremost is your self respect, self worth & your health (physical, mental & spiritual)!❤🎉 Everyone needs to be their own best friend.
Try the carnivore diet!! Also organ meat supplements. Once your body gets real nutrition it will let go of the fat. Ancestral Supplements is a really good quality
@@marciebaker9816 I eat very high protein not 100% Carnivore but more paleo
*I noticed how you first created a buffer by mentioning men that are financially unqualified to date, while promoting the sponsor.👍 Honestly, this conversation needed to happen. So many people really should stop dating for awhile and start focusing on SELF improvement. They would feel so much better about themselves and attract from a place of healing and abundance.*
Yes! And when you feel better about yourself, a lot of times, you realize that the people you were allowing to be in your space aren’t even worthy.
Agreed
This is the liberating truth. It really is about being your best self, loving yourself enough to take care of your health, & feeling proud of yourself so you won't settle for all things unworthy. Kev, you are so appreciated for speaking the truth with love. We follow you because we know you love us. Thank you.
“Everybody can’t go out there and lose weight” periodt, its a lot harder for some and easier for others, still doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to be loved
Correct. Also doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try
AND stop with the fat acceptance, it ain't fat, some people are accepting obesity!!!! just NO.
@Liz Towers - OH no, not you! 🤦🏾👉🏾
All Facts, most men do not like over weight women. Over weight women are chasing a small percentage of men who like them.
I spent half of my life hearing men tell me I need to eat a cheeseburger, gain some weight, "get a little meat on them bones", "you're skinnier than I prefer " , to now being curvy (size 12) and men cannot get enough of me. It really plays with my head because I thought I looked my best when I was skinny. I did local modeling and was very toned and fit. Now I am softer and fluffier and I have had to stop going certain places because of how much I get pursued. I've never been healthy as I was born with medical problems (not ones that can be seen) , so it's not like I am motivated to get skinny to "be healthy" again. All I know is, the fattest slob of men that are very mediocre at best and usually old (50+) seem to be the most critical of a woman's body. It's very odd. At the end of the day, as long as you aren't morbidly obese or anorexic, it should only matter how you feel about yourself.
Wow just had someone tell me I don't have meat on my bones and I'm over here trynna get toned even though I'm already skinny, but like you said- I feel my best when I'm skinny and toned. Now I'm starting to think guys would probably like me more if I was "thicc" as they say 😒 I'm 26 now and noticed my metabolism slowing down- i've gained some weight in the past two years but I'm still too skinny apparently. Lol. I have a feeling what's happening to you now will happen to me in a few years.
Thank you Kev 🌟
As an obese, 47 year old woman, this is what we need to hear!
Tough love at it's finest 😊
I have been married twice, and now refuse to subject another man to my ill health.
The time has come to stop distracting myself with relationship after relationship and do the work.
Focussing on my relationship with myself, and the issues that I have first, will no doubt increase the future prospect of being a healthy partner to a healthy man.
As I am learning it's never too late to reassess your life and if you're not happy with the way things are going, then change it!
For those of us who are reinventing ourselves, we appreciate your honest, candid way of relating and getting your message across.
If people are offended by what you are saying, it obviously hits a nerve with them, and they have some more work to do.
As we all do!
Kevin, I love you videos! You have a gift and are a blessing to women of the world. I’m starting over at 57 and am working on my health, toning, strengthening and self esteem after being beaten down for for over 20 years. I’m feeling stronger and more fit and I feel more beautiful and powerful. Thank you for all your help!
Awesome 👏🏽
U got this
A lesson that helped me,In building a relationship that'll lead to marriage..
"NEVER look out for a RICH husband,
BE a RICH WIFE"....I bought my first house at 35years and I can't be more proud than I am right now.
Really glad that I made good decisions about my finances that changed my life for good. I did it, you can do it too
I'm a single mother,got divorced 2 years ago from a toxic marriage. It's really not been a bad decision for me as I've also been fully focused on my finances.
@Sarah This is quite inspirational, please can you share more on how you were able to achieve this?
All thanks to kev who recommended Mrs Virginia maywyne,the advisor on wealth management and guidance in one of his videos few months ago. I finally got involved in her program and its all been positive for me. So i’ll love to say all thanks to kev.
@@Geor_000 how do I connect with this mentor?
@@manha7809 Okay give me a few minutes to drop her whats' apk details👇
Tough conversation that many are not ready for. I'm Slightly overweight by 40 pounds. Men say I look just fine and they don't like skinny women. My issue that scares men off is that I'm too independent. I'm trying to work on it
How are you working on it?
Are you in therapy?
There is nothing wrong with independence. A lot of guys will say they want you to be able to count on them. Then, when you need them they change their tune. Happened to me. Keep your independence.
I can relate to this
As soon as I stopped allowing stranger's opinion of me based on initial physical impression... my life has become so much more free, positive and having energy to put into more meaningful dimensions of life.
Thank you for sharing this!! I will openly admit that I am overweight. I'm aware of the situations I've allowed to put me there, and I'm also proactively working on myself to become healthier. Because of my focus on my health, dating is low on my list. The amount of time, attention, and care that I give to myself while at the gym far outweighs breadcrumbs any low-effort jerk could give me. On top of well-earned confidence and a (more) healthy self-esteem, the added bonus is that the right kind of guy will feel like a million bucks with me on his arm. He's going to be thankful one day for the time it took to get us together
I have done the work inside and out. I glide in my feminine energy. Online i attract every man that looks like he doesnt love himself and is fixated on my apperance. In person the man i desire oepns my door, smile and thinks she's already taken. 🙄. Finding someone equally yoked is exhausting no matter what you look like. Ladies love yourself like no other can.
It's true, take care of yourself, eat well...try to maintain a Normal weight for your height and frame, chubby is ok, curvy, but when you're outta breathe tying your shoes girl, just put the fork down. Plus you can't have decent sex when you can't even see your poon. Same with men, stop with the fat bellies,..do a situp or 4, HAVE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF. SAME WITH JOBS AND HYGIENIC HABBITS.
Great video , I know I need to lose at.least 60lbs and I have been lazy.... my fashion and how I present is not what it was when I was smaller..... when running around to do errands on the weekends, I've caught glimpses of myself in store mirrors and was embarrassed/ashamed. I can do better, this video was the message I needed this morning. Thanks Kev 💜
I’m overweight and I knew what was coming lol. Not offended at all, you are just telling the truth.
Keep speaking that real we need to hear👑
We must work on possessing the type characteristics in OURSELVES that we want in a relationship partner.
I appreciate how you were honest but remained respectful.
Yes, weight had nothing to do with my issue. I stayed with the guy because I liked the attention I got from him. I had not dated in years until I met him it felt good, BUT ! He was mean, angry and down right controlling ! Narcissistic? Yes! I walked Away! Thank you Kev !
You attract your self esteem level in dating partners. We all want to be selected by someone facts.
The bottom line is, is that women are not rehabilitation centers for some men. I’m not saying they’re all like this! But some are. I don’t want to be someone’s psychiatrist ….I don’t want to be someone’s secretary, and I certainly don’t want to be somebody’s mother lol.
Of course kevs a libra, they're known for beauty and balance.
Kev is a Libra. Well. No wonder I appreciate him so. Libras are lovely people.
No they are not..we jus lucky we got Kev the others can go kick rocks 🤣
@@rachelajewole6127 😂😂😂😂 they ain’t perfect but I do favor the Libra.
@@SarahEvansCunningham23 thanks, I am a libra, I’m a great catch still waiting for my true love, I always seem to attract men that have someone, my current situation he tells me for now, but he knows he has to be completely single before we take it to the next level
I stayed away from men for a whole year … getting my mindset together I had been depressed gained a lot of weight .. now I’m back in the gym and caring what I eat. It doesn’t matter how your body may look but that mind has to be in point also. I hid in the house cause I did t want anyone to see me 😢 but this Video needed to be put out… I’m a older woman and I know from experience you are on point with this one
Girl, I’ve stayed away from guys since 2019 🫣🫤
I got divorced in 2017, wanted to be single, then Covid happened, now it’s a confidence thing (not in regards to my body because I’m thin) but more so feeling unstable financially, living with my parents, etc.
I remember dating 10 years ago and it was so different. Men actually planned dates, I never once had a guy suggest going for a walk in the park as a date. Now it’s like the absolute least amount of effort possible
But try to get out there because the longer you wait, the harder it gets. I don’t even know how to date anymore. I get very anxious and cancel dates. Don’t end up like me lol
@@TravelBug189 I was told I should just settle since I’ve gained weight
I don’t know where to start , it’s so hard . I’m just trying to feel comfortable in my skin again. I was going to have weight loss surgery.. being a bigger woman makes it extra hard
Hi Kev now I’m in my 50s And a fitness instructor is my job so I always stay in shape but I have this problem with dating app most of the guys just take pictures if there head and shoulders as they are really over weight .I always ask them nicely to please put a full length picture of themselves if they want to meet up and some do and some don’t as I’ve met up with guys are really huge with really big bear tummy’s ! I don’t mind a bit of weight on a guy but the extreme is a put of for us women too ❤love from the uk
Nothing disrespectful about what you said. It was just straight facts. Especially the last bit about it being harder to stay out of shape for years, that the few months or year to do something about it.
Zero. I mean, it requires a great deal of time to meticulously put all my ducks in a row (financially, physically, psychologically, sexually, etc.) in order to make me feel and look better according to MY comfort level. I DO NOT have enough energy to do that for me AND another person. Ah, hell naaaw! Just like men, I don't want a fat, out-of-shape, out-of financially or psychologically fit man. My mom put her foot down with my dad and told him to level up or she would leave him ASAP! That was the best conversation that I overheard my mom have with my dad, and WOW, did it set a good example for me. To this day, mom didn't even know that I was eavesdropping that day, but I did. Yet, I still struggled with weight by the time I was ready to start dating. It was very hard...
thank you and thank you and thank you for spilling the truth and being straightforward, i love how your getting straight to the point without no bs, its just pure raw true advice, thats why i love watching your videos, you give constructive critism and adivise people in a way that they realise their own bs without feeling shitty about themselves and work on themselves, thank you so much for that! we deeply appreciate your truth and i hope many people get to listen to this
This is gonna be hard for a lot of people to hear !! ❤
As an overweight woman, I have ran into too many guys who try to fix me like I was their project. The last person I talked to is a trainer and he kept mentioning that he wanted me to get outside of my comfort zone. The way he went about it was toxic because it was forced. Anyways, you’re right. This reminds me of a conversation a dad would have with his daughter. Thank you for delivering the truth in such a gracious matter. 🙏🏾
Those men are toxic, why try to date someone who has more weight and then try to change them? Why don’t they just date someone who is their desired weight
@@Mbuyiselo5 Exactly! They were very toxic and were not happy with themselves so they projected their insecurity onto me. And they supposedly had a preference for big girls lol. I also have to look at myself because I wouldn’t attract insecure men like that if I was 100% confident in myself.
@@SianaRepmad I’m so sorry to burst your bubble Sis, I’m an African woman with light skin a small waist, hips and behind and natural hair, all the things men say they want. I have 2 degrees and I’m not a gold digger but I equally attract men that are no good. I’m not saying all men are no good but I am saying that if men need you to be a certain weight and meet all these requirements for them to treat you with human decency they are the problem and not you or your weight.
Once you lose weight there will be some other obstacle that you have to meet. Some men are good men because they want to be and not because you weigh a certain weight.
@@Mbuyiselo5 I hear you, and thanks for that ❤
I needed to hear this today. I fit the description of a few of those examples you gave. Some folks don’t like to hear the truth and get offended. Some folks are in the habit of trying to turn unhealthy bodies into positive new body goals. Truly I think it’s all about confidence no matter the size. I envy larger women that are so confident. I know I can’t get there mentally until I lose this weight. Thanks for the push this morning ❤
I'm not overweight but I just ended things with a guy I dated for 2 months. He's obese & has ED. I had to think if I want to deal with this or wait to meet someone that I'm physically/ sexually compatible with me. He was nice, attentive and planned outings but this wasn't enough.
Obesity can lead to a host of issues.
Kev is so wise! Thank youuu, We are here for these hard truths, no excuses!
I may have missed you say this fam, but ppl can start with meeting with their primary physician and set up a lipids test. If you need to get with a Nutritionist do that too before any meal change or exercise. Some times it's good to have your own personal plan.
I'm a Libra and I just wanna help people . Find your own joy! You are beautiful 😍
Exactly exactly …because no one can put more or undeniable amount of energy in to you if your your not pouring into yourself, if you care about yourself and take care of yourself you will attract that… if you let yourself go an expect some to love more than you love yourself… gotta look in mirror, because we attract we are on the outside and INSIDE….yes men notice everything, for example when I am dating they notice how clear my skin an lips are they notice I don’t wear hardly any make up , they pay attention to you look and carry yourself… yessss it’s important
Well said and all facts! Thank you!
This needed to be said, and Kev phrased the truth as delicately and carefully as possible. He took a risk because his viewers are an income stream, and some viewers could leave. But deep down we know the message rings true and it's essential....AND HELPFUL.
When Women let themselves go, knowing how our looks are SO important to men, then the men can assume ther are reasons why she let herself go....like poor self worth, lack of self discipline, laziness, poor mental health, etc. The same reasons most healthy women would keep away from a man.
The other thing is, obesity leads to some serious health issues down the line....and that's scary if you want a long term partner.
Huge Facts Kev!
Yes! I need to lose this 20-30 lbs 😩. I don’t get any complaints but these pounds are annoying to me 😂. Thank you! No offense taken!
I appreciate your honesty and weight has been an issue for me for the longest and it’s time to change that. I have notice that men don’t take me seriously and more than likely it’s because of my weight, so I’m going to work on losing it; not just for a relationship but for me. Thanks for your honest and tactful feedback.
Kevin is my brother from another mother! This dude tells the truth foreeal! Men are visual, plain and simple, and we want to "nest", so on the flip, we want good providers and protectors. Its primal. I have let myself go somewhat. I have great style, and I'm not fat, so I can camouflage, but I need to tighten up, for sure. I want to feel great naked again!! You have to be, who you want in a partner, is how I see it. Thanks Kev, you spoke with love and caring to your listeners.
I'm not crying over here, cause the truth done hurt my feelings...😢 Nope I'm just rejoicing in the fact that imma make better choices, use these online trainers and get that life partner who needs the best version of me... Been wasting 40years mastering the wifey resume, when I just needed to be cute in the face & tiny in the waste...
Thanks for this video!
We are worthy of no longer feeling insecure about our bodies. We deserve to be 100% happy and our best selves without lowering our standards because we are insecure.
This message is really important. Men are ultimately visual creatures. I am naturally very visual myself & I often notice partnered men checking me out in public, which leads me to notice their partners. Sometimes yes, it's a straight up womanizer but often, it's obvious these men either settled or she has become a little too "comfortable"/secure in the relationship and let herself go. Do women have a lot to juggle nowadays? Sure - but that comes down to you. You should have set boundaries in the first place as to whether you wanted to have 3 kids & still be working as well as if your man was willing to compromise his schedule so you could have time for yourself. What it takes to get him is what it takes to keep him. The truth hurts but it is what it is.
That being said - I wish someone out there would communicate this message to all the highly successful but fat &/or creepy men out there!!! But unfortunately, most women aren't visual creatures like me & they can focus on handbags/material worth.
A mans wealth is like a woman’s weight to many people. We can’t champion women wanting certain things and act like everything a guy desires is wrong. Balance is key.
Ew. That’s quite the assumption that other women don’t care about fitness but handbags. Good lord.
@@halcyondays8945 right. and women are buying their own handbags and homes lol _(which men are throwing tantrums over)_ .
@@KevHick But a man's wealth at a certain point doesn't matter over his appearance to a financially stable women. She gets to value men for their appearance in the same way men get to value women for theirs. Most women aren't aiming for millionaires, especially if they themselves are financially comfortable. They want a man who checks off the other boxes i.e. personality, appearance, lifestyle and who can in his being enhance the quality of her life and when they can't, a lot of women are opting to stay alone, which is why these guys can't find wives. The women that they would have considered took themselves off of the market because the guys weren't meeting their expectations in the non-monetary areas, and aren't around. It's not that the "wifey" types don't exist. They're just not available anymore.
Hello Kev. I hope all is well with you and your family. Just wanted to say thank you for delivering this message, it was greatly needed. It reminds me back when I was underweight, didn't dress well, had no self worth and overall neglected myself. As a result, I received (and accepted) poor treatment from men and people in general. Fast forward to today, I'm in a better space, no longer underweight, I put time & care into my appearance and I'm learning to love myself more. People still try to mistreat me but I no longer tolerate their BS, like I once did. Thank you for being honest and sincere with your advice.
My pleasure 😇
I’ve met some man while on my weight loss journey and they didn’t stick around after seeing more than my face. Well……now I’m 120 lb down, got a mommy make over, and am now a rich man magnet. They can kick rocks lol
👐 we hear you Kev!
Thanks for the advice, well received ❤
I needed this thank you.
Hi Mr. Kev, I’m 19 and I was talking with this guy who would try to shame me for wearing pink and girly clothes (crazy I know) were both black and he would make comments about how black girls are ghetto and bring up stereotypes but I’m not like that …. It’s like he wanted me to feel bad about myself, why would he do that? I was nothing but nice to him and his family and in return he was so rude and nasty towards me
I’m fit, and still need self improvement and self care. Men pay attention to how you treat yourself. I realize you are what you attract.
Kev, wow not use to seeing you with the hat. You are on point. Kev, not everyone will be a size 4-10. Although I have lost 30pounds over the last 5years. My weight have come off slow but remain off. While being healthy is very important it opens up people taking wegovy or Ozempic who are not a diabetic. It is the new craze because of need to lose a great deal of weight. I’m on the fence on this one because I see this can turn into a craze without knowing the medical consequences. I am loosing weight but in the end it’s about being healthy not about attracting a man. I love who I am.
Thank you for your honesty
I love it when I see a new vid from you!
Wow! This video is GREAT! Thank you, Kev❤
My pleasure 😇
I've lost a whopping 45lbs in the past year and change. While I still need to lose about 20lbs more to my goal, I've definitely noticed men checking me out more, and even regard me better. It helps- losing weight- if you feel like your weight problems are getting in the way of feeling confident your partner is into you. Little bass ackwards in regards to dating, but a healthy, supportive relationship helps people feel confident enough to lose weight (or make other tough changes) as well. But once you lose weight (single or coupled up), don't get caught up in there being more men into you. Spoiler alert: most men will STILL only use you for sex.
I always say I’m not gonna be someone’s nurse. We are responsible to take care of ourselves. I don’t even look at someone that is overweight yet they want someone attractive and workouts.😂 I’m a single mom of 3, work full time, go to school part time, take care of my mental health, and go to gym. I also eat better for MYSELF. I want to grow old and feel good not be old and have endless illnesses because I didn’t take care of myself. I also won’t date someone that drinks or smokes, or doesn’t believe in therapy.
When you date, do you reveal the number of kids you have? _(since it is crucial)_ I have been wondering how soon people reveal things and how what factors into
@@Heyu7her3 I NEVER hide my kids. When I used to be on dating apps, I would put it on my bio that I had 3 kids + their ages. If I talk to someone in person, I mention it right away.
Wow really needed to hear this’
I’m losing weight. I’ve heard grumbling and annoyance about it from the guys I met when I was much bigger, and some pulling back. I’m not attracted to the men who are only talking to me now cuz I’m smaller, even if I didn’t know them before, I can always tell from their energy. WTF am I supposed to do??
Men don't like women to have options. Or some other hypocrisy they have
This is so on point! 🔥 🔥 🔥
Ouch! Truth hurts!!!
Thank you kev
Hey, you had to say it cause it’s true. Even me as a woman refuse to date a man who’s not actively in therapy and at the gym.
Motivation to do something about this weight. Tired of being held back by something I can fix 😊Thanks kev
He's right ladies
I don’t even think the same way most ppl seem to think. 😂 I’ve never cared about someone’s clothes or hair unless they just dirty. But idk.
Thanks!
Ain’t said nothing but the truth. I will take heed!
You are correct! I’ve lost70+ pounds and my life has definitely changed!!!!!!
Unfortunately unless the
‘ looks ‘threshold is met, the rest don’t matter. Men are visual it’s just the way it is.
Some people (men or women) don’t have “the rest” either. It can’t be assumed that because they are challenged in one way they would shine in the rest
Sad.. 😥
The best! I know i am not being selected because of unhealthy i look. I am trying to push myself to be better because i want only the best for me. Especially the man
Yes this resonate with me very true facts thank you
My issue is I don't present myself out there enough. Meaning I have a IG but it dosent show me dress to the 9s. I work out, but I don't post any work out videos . Because I'm not presenting myself more on my platform I settle for who chooses me and im never happy with that option.
The reason women aren't willing to settle are practical though. If the woman gets pregnant and can't work, if he doesn't have as much or more that she worked for herself to attain, she's going to be dependent on him to provide her with what she provides for herself and he's not going to be able to provide her what she provides for herself.
did a good job 👏🏽
Thanks 🙏🏽
I agree 100000% and I also want a fit man. I take care of my body I want a healthy man.
Kev love the cut. Great video thanks for getting us women together
The Weight issue is my biggest problem i know that. U are right Mr. Kevin
AWESOME vid
I will listen I’ve been pushing and pushing but maybe for a reason
It's sad but true... people judge you based on how you look 🫣
You know what I think the guy that's for me is going to come to me when the time is divinely right so all I need to do is keep serving my life purpose and mission, living and enjoying myself, and doing my own healing work so that until I meet him the men I do entertain will be in alignment with my vibration and not negatively impact or lower it and since I recently discovered through counseling that my masculine energy is so far out of wack I can see how that would be the best thing for me to do and I actually feel more at peace with this revelation coming together the way it just did.
I know this may not be popular but...I'm not sharing for popularity. Also, I may not be alone in my method of taking a break from fitness to get folks to quit hitting on me. Now, after being single since 2015 and abstaining from fitness since 2018 I now have a boyfriend. He's aware of the reasons I stopped working out and is also on board with my getting back to my fitness goal. Most of my focus will be hydration and toning before I pickup weights.
You aren't being mean. It's just some folks are ultra sensitive to the topic. Like you stated "it's a mind set" and getting out of that depression is not easy.
I appreciate that you care about women presenting their best face forward, because we deserve to look our best because we are all beautiful in our unique way. And I think that is where I have issue with this video. Because looking your best is and weight is subjective, one woman may feel amazing in her skin. There’s nothing wrong with being healthy and women shouldn’t be encouraged to be thinner, but to be healthy and active and fit.
So a man gonna leave if he doesn't like the looks? What about age? People do that regardless. I just don't trust men. I get what I need and keep it moving
You right!!!
Totally agree.
What if you’re fit and content with being with a man who is not ambitious because you care about finding real love? But still run into issues. What then?
Lack of ambition/motivation can be a sign of a lack of self love. It’s not likely to “find real love” with someone in this state. I’d say if one is ok with being with someone who is not ambitious (which had nothing to do with money or assets) this might be an indication that that person is on the brink of settling.
This point is so critical! I am a healthy slim-thick (athletic but got my curves) woman who is only attracted to muscular and athletically built men-period. I've dated a chubby male once but was not physically attracted to him as a result, I stayed in the relationship because he was a conversationalist, he was interesting and so on but over time that lack of sexual attraction started taking its toll on the overall relationship...
I also get approached by males who are scrawny or overweight, I look past them. It is what it is tbh. lol, I will not settle for anything short of my preference...
You speak truth 💯
I don't like lazy people, specially the ones who are overweight and making an excuses. Look after your- mind, body and soul 🙌
I believe the message is good however I believe women care about a man's health and his appearance as well. I really don't think the money comparison is needed. However I would say as a woman who had a sickly father I care about a man's health MORE than his appearance because that is a part of security. Knowing that outside of a freak accident my husband will likely live a long healthy is important. So what if he has a ton of money if he dies young and leaves me a widow. Also as Dietitian there is a lot of misconception that someone who is overweight isn't fit or healthy when there are plenty of thin people who aren't fit and are unhealthy. It's a view society has created. I do agree we should present our best selves. The first goal should be to be healthy and fit. Weight loss will come but if a woman never gets to a small size but she's healthy and fit, that's what matters. Also it's genius to talk about this while promoting a fitness app 😏
FACTS.
This is true..
I’m down about 20, 50 more to go.
I'm the one who's the minority. My medication causes me to be overweight 😅. I eat healthy and only eat out twice a month and only drink tea and water (juice OCCASIONALLY). Tried going to the gym 4 days a week, 2 hour sessions each and still couldn't lose weight. I've always been skinny until I had to take medication.
I don't give up being as healthy as I can be, but truthfully I will never be able to lose much weight until I get off my weight gaining medication. If that's ever possible, tried to recently it didn't go well.
Yea it's depressing being overweight and not being able to do anything about it but I still love myself and am very protective of myself 🥰
Stop taking the medication😉
Uh, I would like to provide you with a serious response. In the past there was no remedy to medication induced weight gain. Now, there are medications like Wegovy that can help you maintain a healthier weight. You have to mindful, track your eating, and exercise, but now you will actually see results instead of little or no progress at all despite the effort you put in.
@@beverlybenjamin5947 Thank you, I actually got recommended wegovy from one of my providers but the problem with that is there hasn't been a steady supply of it due to demand and it's been low stock at pharmacies. I've been waiting months and calling multiple pharmacies to see when it'll be regularly in stock but so far no luck. Funny you commented this today cuz I've been feeling really sad about my weight lately 😭 But thanks for the advice anyway tho 🙂