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I have a question what is this trend that men think showing your you know what to a woman impresses a woman some guy told me he had a dream that he wanted to show his you know what to me in my car didn't respond only with a cartoon showing that a real man protects and provide
Please I need your advice. My boyfriend have been acting wired, he finds it hard to reply my message and when I complain he says he is busy. But he is not busy to post WhatsApp update and is difficult to even say hi to me. And he posted a girl's picture and said "no cap" I don't know what that means.and for about almost two weeks he have not texted me. Please what do I do
Video Summary: 1. sending too many lols and laughing emojis >>> you're unconfident 2. talking down on yourself >>> he realizes you're fishing for validation 3. don't flirt first >>>decreases your respect 4. overresponding >>>he's not interested 5. if you're always initiating a conversation >>> he's not interested
I stopped responding to the “WYD” guy and months later he tries to come back with conversation and full sentences! Lol I’m working on myself so I don’t have to deal with this anymore!
Ladies, realize we have more power than you think. YOU choose the man not him chooses you. So many men chase us and we worrying about the one who might not. You’re a goddess queens
Yes all this should be common sense to women. Espec not to flirt if she wants anything of depth and even slightly meaningless. I never ever respond to bs lazy/no effort msges like wyd etc from any guy. Like why would any woman even entertain that bs
I dislike texting because it's too easy to have a joke flop or not be able to flirt. I usually tell a new guy that I prefer to hear his voice, let's do an actual phone call. Most men my age (fifties) are cool with that.
Hmm... I just realized that Kev is giving us advice on how to play the game with fuck boys 🤔.... Not saying you're necessarily not giving true and useful advice... But basically you're just telling all of us to second guess everything we would naturally do so that we can "appear as though" and catch a fuck boy's attention.. Cuz a genuine, authentic, stable, whole and secure man wouldn't think this deep and judgemental based off ONE message from someone he DON'T KNOW.. Just say he curved you cuz he's a shallow fuck boy who didn't find you attractive enough to overlook your awkwardness. 🤷🏾
@@MelenaSoleil I can see how you would get that impression but I disagree. Kev is simply stating that men perceive too many LOLs as over eagerness and take advantage of that. Any man that likes you would take advantage of the opportunity if he could WHEN IT SEEMS LIKE YOU'RE OKAY with it. Men don't have to be an f-boy to take advantage. I've seen guys with no game take advantage the moment they knew had the chance to (when a woman let her guard down, like after a break up). Men do pay attention to stuff like this. If they can get to your bed faster it doesn't matter if they're an insecure nerd or a secure boss man. They will take advantage. Why wouldn't somebody that was insecure take advantage of someone when the opportunity presented itself? All men are capable of taking advantage and are very likely to. 💯 I've had friends that straight up told me I never thought I would cheat but now I have. I've also had my guy friends tell me she was easy so I just let it happen. Men don't respect insecurity, and over entertaining them comes off as insecure. Women don't find it attractive either. No woman wants an insecure man unless she's a gold digger. Kev is stating facts that don't just apply to men honestly. I've had women complain to me about how a guy was too eager because he was laughing too much and trying too hard to entertain her. No one likes a try hard not men or women. Kevin's not telling women this is how you respond to get them to go out with you. He is saying this is how you come off when you do this. That is not teaching us how to play the game that teaches us the game that's getting playing on us. He is simply making us aware not telling us what to do. He's not telling us to give in to these guys either. There is nowhere where he said that. He actually said the opposite and told us it's better to show them that we have boundaries, that we don't have to sugarcoat everything and shouldn't have to. I don't feel pressured at all. I completely understand what he's saying because I'm one of those people that on occasions will say LOL whenever I think something I've said might offend someone.(I honestly do this with a everyone and not just men) I love the fact that he said if you mean what you say don't try to sugarcoat it if that's who you are or a boundary you're setting. We shouldn't have to tiptoe over men's feelings through text using. LOL every other sentence to protect their fragile male ego.
@@FreedomUninterrupted My only thing is texts are not real life conversations so when said dude approaches me in real life and finds out all that he thought to be true in his head from a few texts was him straight up lying to himself then he'll be the one feeling some type of way. You can't truly express the way you feel completely in a text and a real man realizes that. Writing a letter, Zoom, talk on the phone yes but it says ALOT about HIM and how he does his due diligence in getting to know you when his main conversations with you are via texts. Now if I'M tee-heeing and kee-keeing on every word he says or making jokes about EVERYTHING I say in real life that's one thing and I'd agree with guys seeing you as insecure and silly but so would any person. Otherwise, in my opinion, that's a sign to me he's lacking verbal intelligence when he's for the most part relying on texts to communicate but maybe I'm from a different era 🤷🏾♀️
@@FreedomUninterrupted wooooow... Sheesh that... That was a read smdh and it explains why you would defend some bullshit like this smgdh.... Did you really say that every man would take advantage of an insecure woman and did you really just try to pass that off as NOT a fuck boy trait?... Wow... Just... Wow. Also, what I find even crazier is that you don't even see where you highlighted the difference when it comes to women who deal with insecure or desperate men... How many women do you know personally that saw a desperate insecure man and said oooo I'm bout to get some DICK tonight?... That's the difference of ANY actually DECENT person to NOT take advantage of ANY person. Insecure or otherwise.. I can't believe THIS is the rebuttal you came with... Smh truly sad and sadly laughable hun. But I get it now. That's why YOU don't. Wow.. Not the best way to start my morning lol smh
Kev drop knowledge about #4! I just stopped talking to a man who was notorious with the wyd, hey boo, O nice, texts. Literally that's it! Plus no dates, or phone calls, or video chats, but he wants to talk about my ass. BLOCKED 🚫
The last tip you gave is my struggle. I'm tired of wanting more intellectual/deep convos with someone who can't reciprocate the energy. Thanks, Kev! I'm inspired to do better.
I'm currently in this situation, don't get me wrong we are good and all but I think there's some level of selfishnrss here I really want to have deep convos because I mean it's central to my personality but he just brushes it off, either because he feels less informed than me or he likes it when I listen to him but not the other way around via texting its bad honestly I don't know what to say to him besides asking about his day,
@@kgabomolele3346 Sounds like you're unevenly matched. I, like you, need the intellectual, deep conversation. This would be a red flag and I'd dump this dude. I don't have time for raising insecure little boys.
I think that texting purpose to send a quick message. Technology has gone left on this. Conversations can be misunderstood, you can't read body language, etc. And....you can hide behind a text. We need to get back to face to face meetings and phone calls again.
Yes, I totally agree! You got some people who will hold on to a few texts you sent them for years and think they know all about you 🙄 but never actually talk to you in real life, smh.
When people try to self-deprecate around me I always say “your words, not mine.” Or “if you say so, then cool.” I’m not about to be re-assuring grown folks. I learned the hard way those kinds of people need 500 compliments a day. Real energy vampires. 🙄🙅🏽♀️🤣
BAYBEEEHHH!!! Nail-on-head, sis!! I’m not going for it. I’ve had to love and lift myself through bad choices, failed relationships, tears, and ugly emotions, so I have no room in my life for emotionally frail people. It’s called SELF-love... and you’ll get it out of the mud like everyone else.
All I hear from this is that men think way too highly of themselves. And I don’t need to play games to realize which men they are. Imma be me and the person I vibe with will meet me halfway.
Ugh. "wyd" has got to be the LAZIEST of the already lazy form of communication between men and women, texting. To me, it comes off as you having so little interest, that you can't be arsed to form a complete sentence. I'd just text back "English, please." Which is already two syllables more he deserves.
I always get "are you good", and I figured it could be that he is uninterested but you know what's hard it's when a guy can't leave you alone when they can't act right, Ive tried to spark a lot of topics and they always go unanswered but it's always "are you good" like why does he avoid the deep convos I want to have. I'm ready to leave honestly but when we meet in real life we never run out of conversations, it's iust Annoying though
I always reserve texting for quick messages when I am not in a position to talk. Never as a form of actual communication. If I am speaking with a man and he wants to "talk" I'll give him a time frame of my availability to call. Texting takes up too much of my time and day responding, waiting on a reply, checking my phone over and over. I'm out here living life, ain't nobody got time for that!
When texting a guy, using too many “lol”s and “😂”s can make you seem like a court jester and give off desperate vibes. When I talk to men, wether it’s via texting or on a dating app, I don’t want to come across as desperate or too flirty
The trickiest aspect of dating is the balance of intellect and attraction, and expressing oneself in a way that highlights both equally. Kev, please do a video about good ice breakers for both in-person and dating app convos. ( Shy lady here) Thanks for all the great content! ❤️
I get that. I always end up with them putting in lots of energy telling me about themselves and never asking anything about me, then they're shocked when I say what I think. Guess I should assert myself more and ask less about them 🤔
I've been talking to dorks asking me about my size, body stats etc. Urgghh when I refuse to answer or say something mildly sarcastic, they say I'm being judgemental. Block block block!! People do this early on in the conversation and it's not ok!
I'm a jokester...I wanna be myself buttttt I also wanna be aware of a energy and vibes I give off. I lead with laughter but I'm also intelligent, deep, soulful and laid back...
You lol, hahaha or whatever because it made you chuckle on the inside and/or to show you are lighthearted in the conversation because people get so easily offended nowadays. You probably don't see texts as real life conversation, because...they aren't and for certain people who don't like to communicate verbally all they have are text to go on to know you as a person, which is weird in and of itself. I'd rather for someone to lol, hahaha or smiley emoji in a text not really knowing what their intent is behind it and to be honest not really needing to at that point than to make a bunch of jokes about something in a real life conversation when attempting to share a part of themselves with me when it really counts.
This one guy and I were DM-ing each other (long paragraphs) and seemed to hit it off so we exchanged numbers. I stopped talking to him immediately because he would text me "hey" and "wyd". It is a major turn off as I'm a deep person and love intellectual conversations.
Uh oh Kev, hope you're feeling better...😰😰😩😬. You're right sir...there's a time to laugh and a time to not laugh. Ladies, there's no need to make a spectacle of yourself to gain the likes of a man. Don't put so much effort into getting his attention. If you find yourself doing such things, then stop because he's not worth it. Remember, you're the prize NOT him 🙂!!!!!
People these days have no balls to be honest. Also they enjoy the game playing of throwing around your emotions and confusing you, because they themselves are confused. Don’t entertain confused men!
Great advice I been dealing with a guy who keeps messaging me and hes coming across desperate keeps saying how hes got to find a woman 🙄and the lols ,its just unattractive.Definitely gives off the desperate vibe and as far the allergies I feel ya mine have been bad for about a month and nothing seems to help
Totally agree with the last one. My ex was not a good texter... he hated talking on the phone... meeting up in person was great for the first 3 months, then in the second 3 months he got "too busy with work and family"... so we ended up meeting twice a month. I was thinking... how on earth are we supposed to get to know each other and will this ever change, I mean will he ever get less "busy"? It was such a dead end. I'm still sad about it because he's a great person and I liked him a lot. But I saw that I was the one running after him.
How do u really know he's a great person if u haven't spent time with one another getting to know one another as well his behavior doesn't come across as a great person it seems u were aiming for more than he was willing to give dont feel sad he showed u who he really was it didn't work glad u found out now versus later when you're in love with him
@@alexaarrah696 Thanks for weighing in, I appreciate that. It's tough for me cuz I'm so giving....I'm always like "hey, you want some of this bbq pork I made?"😅 I feel like I just automatically fall into the caretaker role. Gonna work on that!
Men have changed since 1980s... My Generation X ers had it easier.... Men and women met and got married easily.... You didn't have to be fake or phoney to get a man.... Those men love women with Sense of Humor at Right Moments🤣🤣 Not Over kill but a Balance Woman.. I miss those types of Real Men back in 1980's... I really weep for young women now... They may not experience the Real Love that I have; not even a portion😭 Today, Young Men have way too many requirements and not half of what they want... Im glad i can be my a real Queen with My Real King💕💕👫👑👑 That is one many reasons Marriages is on Decline in America 🤔 Kevin: I really enjoyed your videos and thank you for all you do....💕
yes! returning to the dating world after the end of a 32 year old relationship that included 24year of marriage, I found that I fell into the over sensual banter which left me disheartened. I have now took the time to gather myself and observe what is happening in the dating world and I'm not sure it's for me. I'm thinking and may work on turning the tied in my favour be hosting interaction so I can see what's out there. what do you think 🤔
If it's been that long, don't rush it, things have change. It can be overwhelming and frustrating at the same time. Just keep all his advice in your head and I think you'll be solid. I wish I found Kev a long time ago. Would have saved me a lot of frustration when I was younger. Good luck!
If he only responds with heart and he does not send you a message, he's not that into you.He may be intrigued but thats all.I think a person should move on.
Depends on the sentence.I think most of the time your sentence won’t look rude - even without the “lol”. If it’s not necessary to say don’t send it.If it is necessary then don’t put “lol” since it’s something serious you need to say.Try have phone calls instead so you can hear his voice.
A truly genuine, stable, whole and secure man won't judge you this deeply based off your use of 'lol' no matter how frequently you use it. Sorry but Kev is teaching us how to navigate that which is thee fuckius boyius so we can have the upper hand smh cuz the relationship will not last if a dude is THAT worried that you used lol or too many emojis
I never take those type seriously I jus keep them as contacts for entertainment purposes when I'm bored and reminders of what I should be avoiding in real life situations.
I totally agree with the lol and jokingly texting part ...ive had guys out of nowhere disrespecting me when all i ever did was to make the conversation funnier or more entertaining
On #3- I completely agree with Kev on this topic. You can’t trade desire/or sex in order to get a genuine emotional connection from a guy; it’s an easy way to get attention, but it’s also putting you in a position to be seen as the woman he doesn’t have to show up for or respect (because she doesn’t respect herself enough to go after what she really wants and possibly get rejected). It’s just like a guy exchanging friendship, and leading with friendship with a woman he wants a romantic relationship/or just sex from in hopes that she will “see his value” and see him in a sexual light when that’s not how he set the tone in the first place. Don’t let the fear of how he is going to respond change how you show up for yourself, your wants, your needs, your desires, when first talking to a man. You want respect from a man- not for him to merely like you.
There's nothing wrong with flirting first the problem is people don't know how to switch it up and direct the conversation to a serious topic after that. There has to be balance, let a dude know your interested in a romantic way and in a serious way. If you're being too serious and the dude won't think you're interested at all.....
It’s so funny to me because I never realize that I have a few men that over text me and I get annoyed with it because if I wanted to respond I will respond but when it comes to me texting a guy and over text him somehow I think that’s OK ? I played myself lol. This video made me come to this conclusion and I literally just deleted any guy phone number out of my contacts that I feel like I’m stretching too far/over texting because if they wanted to respond they would 😅
Kev coming through with that golden/original advice as always; especially that laughing emojis/LOL overuse. I can just imagine this going on in person. 😄💀 I hope everyone has a good weekend! 💚✌🏼
Ladies it's not worth it. If you have to work this hard to talk to him....Remember you are the Prize. Enough Already you are chasing them ..... Men come on don't you feel a lil lady like these days now these women are chasing you? Just a ?
*Kev ain’t lyin’ bout the lopsided texts y’all* I knew a relationship I was in about 10 years ago had run its course because of the way my texts were being answered. I picked up on the disinterest and gave him a one way ticket to Blockville. Then the fool started calling and texting from a different number! I didn’t respond🙌🏾
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Hey Kev, omg i think that text messages are so impersonal. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with texting but in a situation where you are interested in someone or they are interested you in text messages are lame. you can misunderstand a persons thinking or like you said what they are really trying to say
B4 all this internet people met people get to know them the normal way now its dont do this dont do that and relationships and marriages now still dont work it's too much work
Your so true! i really can say i was degrading myself by coming off as being insecure towards a guy who i could say was an aqquaintance and he was basically giving me warning signs by telling me i overthink and gotta relax even ghosting me, well it's too late because we don't talk anymore sad thing is i miss him but i know how he feels about me and my pride won't let me reconnect with him..
Kev is simply stating that men perceive too many LOLs as over eagerness and take advantage of that. Any man that likes you would take advantage of the opportunity if he could WHEN IT SEEMS LIKE YOU'RE OKAY with it. Men don't have to be an f-boy to take advantage. I've seen guys with no game take advantage the moment they knew had the chance to (when a woman let her guard down, like after a break up). Men do pay attention to stuff like this. If they can get to your bed faster it doesn't matter if they're an insecure nerd or a secure boss man. They will take advantage. Why wouldn't somebody that was insecure take advantage of someone when the opportunity presented itself? All men are capable of taking advantage and are very likely to. 💯 I've had male friends that straight up told me I never thought I would cheat but now I have. I've also had my guy friends tell me she was easy so I just let it happen. Men don't respect insecurity and over entertaining them comes off as insecure. Women don't find it attractive either. No woman wants an insecure man unless she's a gold digger. Kev is stating facts that don't just apply to men honestly. I've had women complain to me about how a guy was too eager because he was laughing too much and trying too hard to entertain her. No one likes a "try hard" (not men or women). Kevin's not telling women this is how you respond to get them to go out with you. He is saying this is how you come off when you do this. That is not teaching us how to play the game that teaches us the game that's getting playing on us. He is simply making us aware not telling us what to do. He's not telling us to give in to these guys either. There is nowhere where he said that. He actually said the opposite and told us it's better to show them that we have boundaries, that we don't have to sugarcoat everything and shouldn't have to. I don't feel pressured at all. I completely understand what he's saying because I'm one of those people that on occasions will say LOL whenever I think something I've said might offend someone.(I honestly do this with a everyone and not just men) I love the fact that he said if you mean what you say don't try to sugarcoat it if that's who you are or a boundary you're setting. We shouldn't have to tiptoe over men's feelings through text using. LOL every other sentence to protect their fragile male ego.
Dayyyyyuuuuuum kev! 🤣 you just put us up on real shit next level covert fuckboy game. These clowns are gonna be so mad 🤪😂😂 back to tinder with ya wyd at 3 am ass!!! Boy bye!!! We too good for this ladies 🙌🏻✌🏻 much love kev
The the fair exchange of energy in regards to communication is so accurate. Give me a one word responses, or a short response from my last message without a follow-up then I'm out. I'm not wasting my time to pull a conversation out of you. ✌
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I have a question what is this trend that men think showing your you know what to a woman impresses a woman some guy told me he had a dream that he wanted to show his you know what to me in my car didn't respond only with a cartoon showing that a real man protects and provide
The last guy who didn't give me the same energy in conversation I blocked him.
"That's what's up" were his last words....at least we ended on a positive note.
Please I need your advice. My boyfriend have been acting wired, he finds it hard to reply my message and when I complain he says he is busy. But he is not busy to post WhatsApp update and is difficult to even say hi to me. And he posted a girl's picture and said "no cap" I don't know what that means.and for about almost two weeks he have not texted me. Please what do I do
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Video Summary:
1. sending too many lols and laughing emojis >>> you're unconfident
2. talking down on yourself >>> he realizes you're fishing for validation
3. don't flirt first >>>decreases your respect
4. overresponding >>>he's not interested
5. if you're always initiating a conversation >>> he's not interested
💯💯🔥Wow this is spot on.
I stopped responding to the “WYD” guy and months later he tries to come back with conversation and full sentences! Lol I’m working on myself so I don’t have to deal with this anymore!
Yesssss lol
“WYD” texts are the worst
THANK YOU effing annoying!!!
Right
He’s trying to the point he don’t even know what to txt
It’s funny
Yessss
Ladies, realize we have more power than you think. YOU choose the man not him chooses you. So many men chase us and we worrying about the one who might not. You’re a goddess queens
THIS 📌
I agree
Amen!!!
I agreeee
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All great tips. Definitely don't flirt 1st...and Definitely don't over respond. Keep the same energy with guys ma. IJS
Yes all this should be common sense to women. Espec not to flirt if she wants anything of depth and even slightly meaningless. I never ever respond to bs lazy/no effort msges like wyd etc from any guy. Like why would any woman even entertain that bs
@@realtruth3762 FR. Desperate women I guess. Idk. Lol
I dislike texting because it's too easy to have a joke flop or not be able to flirt. I usually tell a new guy that I prefer to hear his voice, let's do an actual phone call. Most men my age (fifties) are cool with that.
I’m the same way, until they call 📱 me on FB/IG!!! Hold-up, Partner!!!
In my experience younger millennial men avoid phone calls like it's a chore at best or a damn colonoscopy at worst
Where y’all finding these men who will actually call you?
3+ minutes on Lols!!
It’s like talking to men is a whole PR event😩🤦♀️
Hmm... I just realized that Kev is giving us advice on how to play the game with fuck boys 🤔.... Not saying you're necessarily not giving true and useful advice... But basically you're just telling all of us to second guess everything we would naturally do so that we can "appear as though" and catch a fuck boy's attention.. Cuz a genuine, authentic, stable, whole and secure man wouldn't think this deep and judgemental based off ONE message from someone he DON'T KNOW.. Just say he curved you cuz he's a shallow fuck boy who didn't find you attractive enough to overlook your awkwardness. 🤷🏾
@@MelenaSoleil I can see how you would get that impression but I disagree. Kev is simply stating that men perceive too many LOLs as over eagerness and take advantage of that.
Any man that likes you would take advantage of the opportunity if he could WHEN IT SEEMS LIKE YOU'RE OKAY with it. Men don't have to be an f-boy to take advantage. I've seen guys with no game take advantage the moment they knew had the chance to (when a woman let her guard down, like after a break up).
Men do pay attention to stuff like this. If they can get to your bed faster it doesn't matter if they're an insecure nerd or a secure boss man. They will take advantage. Why wouldn't somebody that was insecure take advantage of someone when the opportunity presented itself? All men are capable of taking advantage and are very likely to. 💯
I've had friends that straight up told me I never thought I would cheat but now I have. I've also had my guy friends tell me she was easy so I just let it happen. Men don't respect insecurity, and over entertaining them comes off as insecure. Women don't find it attractive either. No woman wants an insecure man unless she's a gold digger. Kev is stating facts that don't just apply to men honestly. I've had women complain to me about how a guy was too eager because he was laughing too much and trying too hard to entertain her. No one likes a try hard not men or women.
Kevin's not telling women this is how you respond to get them to go out with you. He is saying this is how you come off when you do this. That is not teaching us how to play the game that teaches us the game that's getting playing on us. He is simply making us aware not telling us what to do. He's not telling us to give in to these guys either. There is nowhere where he said that. He actually said the opposite and told us it's better to show them that we have boundaries, that we don't have to sugarcoat everything and shouldn't have to. I don't feel pressured at all. I completely understand what he's saying because I'm one of those people that on occasions will say LOL whenever I think something I've said might offend someone.(I honestly do this with a everyone and not just men)
I love the fact that he said if you mean what you say don't try to sugarcoat it if that's who you are or a boundary you're setting. We shouldn't have to tiptoe over men's feelings through text using. LOL every other sentence to protect their fragile male ego.
@@FreedomUninterrupted and that’s real 💯
@@FreedomUninterrupted My only thing is texts are not real life conversations so when said dude approaches me in real life and finds out all that he thought to be true in his head from a few texts was him straight up lying to himself then he'll be the one feeling some type of way. You can't truly express the way you feel completely in a text and a real man realizes that. Writing a letter, Zoom, talk on the phone yes but it says ALOT about HIM and how he does his due diligence in getting to know you when his main conversations with you are via texts. Now if I'M tee-heeing and kee-keeing on every word he says or making jokes about EVERYTHING I say in real life that's one thing and I'd agree with guys seeing you as insecure and silly but so would any person.
Otherwise, in my opinion, that's a sign to me he's lacking verbal intelligence when he's for the most part relying on texts to communicate but maybe I'm from a different era 🤷🏾♀️
@@FreedomUninterrupted wooooow... Sheesh that... That was a read smdh and it explains why you would defend some bullshit like this smgdh.... Did you really say that every man would take advantage of an insecure woman and did you really just try to pass that off as NOT a fuck boy trait?... Wow... Just... Wow. Also, what I find even crazier is that you don't even see where you highlighted the difference when it comes to women who deal with insecure or desperate men... How many women do you know personally that saw a desperate insecure man and said oooo I'm bout to get some DICK tonight?... That's the difference of ANY actually DECENT person to NOT take advantage of ANY person. Insecure or otherwise.. I can't believe THIS is the rebuttal you came with... Smh truly sad and sadly laughable hun. But I get it now. That's why YOU don't. Wow.. Not the best way to start my morning lol smh
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Kev drop knowledge about #4! I just stopped talking to a man who was notorious with the wyd, hey boo, O nice, texts. Literally that's it! Plus no dates, or phone calls, or video chats, but he wants to talk about my ass. BLOCKED 🚫
Sounds like the situation I’m in right now
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I love the women in the comment section. You ladies make me feel like I’m not alone in this fuckery.
The last tip you gave is my struggle. I'm tired of wanting more intellectual/deep convos with someone who can't reciprocate the energy. Thanks, Kev! I'm inspired to do better.
I'm currently in this situation, don't get me wrong we are good and all but I think there's some level of selfishnrss here I really want to have deep convos because I mean it's central to my personality but he just brushes it off, either because he feels less informed than me or he likes it when I listen to him but not the other way around via texting its bad honestly I don't know what to say to him besides asking about his day,
They dumb that’s why
@@kgabomolele3346 Sounds like you're unevenly matched. I, like you, need the intellectual, deep conversation. This would be a red flag and I'd dump this dude. I don't have time for raising insecure little boys.
Facts I always need intellectual conversations. I’m not a fan on shallow convos.
I think that texting purpose to send a quick message. Technology has gone left on this. Conversations can be misunderstood, you can't read body language, etc. And....you can hide behind a text. We need to get back to face to face meetings and phone calls again.
I agree completely!
Right! I can't get to know shit through a text message
Yesssssss could not possibly agree more
Yes, I totally agree! You got some people who will hold on to a few texts you sent them for years and think they know all about you 🙄 but never actually talk to you in real life, smh.
I agree 👍
When people try to self-deprecate around me I always say “your words, not mine.” Or “if you say so, then cool.” I’m not about to be re-assuring grown folks. I learned the hard way those kinds of people need 500 compliments a day. Real energy vampires. 🙄🙅🏽♀️🤣
BAYBEEEHHH!!! Nail-on-head, sis!! I’m not going for it. I’ve had to love and lift myself through bad choices, failed relationships, tears, and ugly emotions, so I have no room in my life for emotionally frail people. It’s called SELF-love... and you’ll get it out of the mud like everyone else.
Amen! I can't like this comment enough!
I like that! Ima start using that!
Mmm. FR
Sorry-we don’t always do it on purpose or to suck energy/fish for compliments/start drama. Borderline Personality Disorder....
All I hear from this is that men think way too highly of themselves. And I don’t need to play games to realize which men they are. Imma be me and the person I vibe with will meet me halfway.
Ugh. "wyd" has got to be the LAZIEST of the already lazy form of communication between men and women, texting. To me, it comes off as you having so little interest, that you can't be arsed to form a complete sentence. I'd just text back "English, please." Which is already two syllables more he deserves.
I always get "are you good", and I figured it could be that he is uninterested but you know what's hard it's when a guy can't leave you alone when they can't act right, Ive tried to spark a lot of topics and they always go unanswered but it's always "are you good" like why does he avoid the deep convos I want to have. I'm ready to leave honestly but when we meet in real life we never run out of conversations, it's iust
Annoying though
I always reserve texting for quick messages when I am not in a position to talk. Never as a form of actual communication.
If I am speaking with a man and he wants to "talk" I'll give him a time frame of my availability to call. Texting takes up too much of my time and day responding, waiting on a reply, checking my phone over and over.
I'm out here living life, ain't nobody got time for that!
I'm definitely guilty of "😂 😂 😂" abuse
Me, too. Mentally kicking myself. Live and learn, I guess.
“It seems ass kissy😘”
Kevin you are killing me ahahahahha
I’m naturally giggly in person so I tend to “lol” a lot 🥴 that’s just my personality, not out of insecurity
Kev don't like the "lol crap"....lol (thats my personality too!)
Lol same sis same
Same here but we have learn how to not be giggly. Even if it's natural, it's not a beneficial attribute and we need to drop it
@@sasorah6414yes, don’t be overly interested is key
Well cut it out!!!! 😅😅😅
When texting a guy, using too many “lol”s and “😂”s can make you seem like a court jester and give off desperate vibes. When I talk to men, wether it’s via texting or on a dating app, I don’t want to come across as desperate or too flirty
The trickiest aspect of dating is the balance of intellect and attraction, and expressing oneself in a way that highlights both equally.
Kev, please do a video about good ice breakers for both in-person and dating app convos. ( Shy lady here)
Thanks for all the great content! ❤️
I get that. I always end up with them putting in lots of energy telling me about themselves and never asking anything about me, then they're shocked when I say what I think. Guess I should assert myself more and ask less about them 🤔
Kevin has an old video for shy people who are into dating. Check it out!
@@suzannax If they are not asking much or anything about you...they most likely don't have high interest or much interest in you miss. IJS
@@jayc5756 Thanks
@@makeitmakesense4836 👌
Don’t over respond I actually used to this shit 😭if he doesn’t text back the first time just leave it
I've been talking to dorks asking me about my size, body stats etc. Urgghh when I refuse to answer or say something mildly sarcastic, they say I'm being judgemental. Block block block!! People do this early on in the conversation and it's not ok!
Good they let you know early who they are.
I’m guilty of the “lol” /awkward humor and over responding wow ! thank you for this video you’ve helped so much 🙌🏾
Especially that half ass energy! Thanks Kevin.
I'm a jokester...I wanna be myself buttttt I also wanna be aware of a energy and vibes I give off. I lead with laughter but I'm also intelligent, deep, soulful and laid back...
Right, me too. I thought I was just keeping things light. But I'll be more aware going forward 🤷♀️
@@4naymsakeRW me too
Agreed, same here
This man is teaching me how to respect myself 🥰
For real. Kev is saving us a lot of time.
Amen sis!!!
You need a man to teach you how be a better woman
@@gingerhenry8558 Usually to offset the issues another man passed on to us (our father)
After Tony Gaskins...I really like this guy too...I also love the fact that he's married too and you know it!
I love learning on this channel. Thanks, Kevin. I rebuke those allergies in Jesus' name! Amen.
Thanks for the tips! I hate the inappropriate/overuse of “LOL” it’s sooooo cringe! It’s so disingenuous and unsophisticated 🙄
Ughh. Guilty as charged. Love this insight 🔥
Me too. Your not alone ! Ugh
You lol, hahaha or whatever because it made you chuckle on the inside and/or to show you are lighthearted in the conversation because people get so easily offended nowadays. You probably don't see texts as real life conversation, because...they aren't and for certain people who don't like to communicate verbally all they have are text to go on to know you as a person, which is weird in and of itself. I'd rather for someone to lol, hahaha or smiley emoji in a text not really knowing what their intent is behind it and to be honest not really needing to at that point than to make a bunch of jokes about something in a real life conversation when attempting to share a part of themselves with me when it really counts.
Give energy to a man that serves you energy first unless I’m slow that’s what I got
This one guy and I were DM-ing each other (long paragraphs) and seemed to hit it off so we exchanged numbers. I stopped talking to him immediately because he would text me "hey" and "wyd". It is a major turn off as I'm a deep person and love intellectual conversations.
"So WTF... "
I needed to hear this Kev 🙏🏾
I'm cutting everybody off.
3 guys come to mind immediately 🚮
Uh oh Kev, hope you're feeling better...😰😰😩😬. You're right sir...there's a time to laugh and a time to not laugh. Ladies, there's no need to make a spectacle of yourself to gain the likes of a man. Don't put so much effort into getting his attention. If you find yourself doing such things, then stop because he's not worth it. Remember, you're the prize NOT him 🙂!!!!!
❤❤❤ this.
Kev right on time again with the real talk. Why does dating have to be so complicated? Why can't people just speak their truth?
People these days have no balls to be honest. Also they enjoy the game playing of throwing around your emotions and confusing you, because they themselves are confused. Don’t entertain confused men!
lol I’m p
🤣🤣 he said, so wtf?🤣
The best part!
@@j-tenn226 right! Because that's how I feel. The perfect expression of my confusion on how people act. 😂😂
Welp I’ve done all this with one person. No wonder i got left on read after a while 😬
High key same
Same too 😬😬
“Lol 🤣”
I had a guy tell me what he loved about me the most was I wasn't easily flattered by a man, exactly, that's all you need to know 🙂
So true Kev. Get well soon. Nothing is so uncomfortable like allergies. Hope you get a good and accurate prescription and some rest.
Great advice I been dealing with a guy who keeps messaging me and hes coming across desperate keeps saying how hes got to find a woman 🙄and the lols ,its just unattractive.Definitely gives off the desperate vibe and as far the allergies I feel ya mine have been bad for about a month and nothing seems to help
I hate when men say that.
Totally agree with the last one. My ex was not a good texter... he hated talking on the phone... meeting up in person was great for the first 3 months, then in the second 3 months he got "too busy with work and family"... so we ended up meeting twice a month. I was thinking... how on earth are we supposed to get to know each other and will this ever change, I mean will he ever get less "busy"? It was such a dead end. I'm still sad about it because he's a great person and I liked him a lot. But I saw that I was the one running after him.
How do u really know he's a great person if u haven't spent time with one another getting to know one another as well his behavior doesn't come across as a great person it seems u were aiming for more than he was willing to give dont feel sad he showed u who he really was it didn't work glad u found out now versus later when you're in love with him
Truly Appreciate your straightforward, no BS insights.
Salaam and Happy Saturday!
The more I listen to you the more you become my Ibn(Son) in my head! May Allah give you swift healing from those allergies!
I needed this! About to back wayyy off. Is it ok to text him first if we're friends? Or is that still coming off a certain way? Thoughts please 🙏
It can come off as chasing I'd wait for him to reach out...
@@alexaarrah696 Thanks for weighing in, I appreciate that. It's tough for me cuz I'm so giving....I'm always like "hey, you want some of this bbq pork I made?"😅 I feel like I just automatically fall into the caretaker role. Gonna work on that!
@@patriciaholloway honestly me too...im so giving...and I used to over invest in ppl. But friendships and relationships involve two people...
Perfect timing. I'm juz about to slide in somebody dm 😌
Wow! Ok
Men have changed since 1980s...
My Generation X ers had it easier....
Men and women met and got married easily....
You didn't have to be fake or phoney to get a man....
Those men love women with Sense of Humor at Right Moments🤣🤣
Not Over kill but a Balance Woman..
I miss those types of Real Men back in 1980's...
I really weep for young women now...
They may not experience the Real Love that I have; not even a portion😭
Today, Young Men have way too many requirements and not half of what they want...
Im glad i can be my a real Queen with My Real King💕💕👫👑👑
That is one many reasons Marriages is on Decline in America 🤔
Kevin: I really enjoyed your videos and thank you for all you do....💕
I love the part about approaching him as an intellectual with curiosity ❤
Never message/approach men first period.
Wish I’d known all this in my early 20s * sigh*
Indeed!!! AND Wish a Lot of Young Girls learn that too!!!
I totally agree with you on this
yes! returning to the dating world after the end of a 32 year old relationship that included 24year of marriage, I found that I fell into the over sensual banter which left me disheartened. I have now took the time to gather myself and observe what is happening in the dating world and I'm not sure it's for me. I'm thinking and may work on turning the tied in my favour be hosting interaction so I can see what's out there. what do you think 🤔
If it's been that long, don't rush it, things have change. It can be overwhelming and frustrating at the same time. Just keep all his advice in your head and I think you'll be solid. I wish I found Kev a long time ago. Would have saved me a lot of frustration when I was younger. Good luck!
Thank you for this clarity. I use to be this girl. Extending myself to someone who was giving me little to some effort.
I'll paint my house with a qtip before I take on Masculina energy and approach a man 1st.
That’s funny. A q-tip🤣
If he only responds with heart and he does not send you a message, he's not that into you.He may be intrigued but thats all.I think a person should move on.
You mean heart react to the last thing that you said, or heart emoji?
I use “lol” to set the tone so the recipient knows I’m being light hearted or tongue in cheek. It’s not necessarily a laugh
Depends on the sentence.I think most of the time your sentence won’t look rude - even without the “lol”. If it’s not necessary to say don’t send it.If it is necessary then don’t put “lol” since it’s something serious you need to say.Try have phone calls instead so you can hear his voice.
A truly genuine, stable, whole and secure man won't judge you this deeply based off your use of 'lol' no matter how frequently you use it. Sorry but Kev is teaching us how to navigate that which is thee fuckius boyius so we can have the upper hand smh cuz the relationship will not last if a dude is THAT worried that you used lol or too many emojis
@@MelenaSoleil LOL(and I actually lol'd on this comment) @fuckius boyius and totally agree with you.
@@humblewarrior7593 😂😂😉
@@MelenaSoleil "Fuckius boyius": A distinct species of the Playa Family. I knew high school biology would come in handy one day!
I never take those type seriously I jus keep them as contacts for entertainment purposes when I'm bored and reminders of what I should be avoiding in real life situations.
I love you so much kev 💛 I wish you were my brother or best friend. Thank you for this. I wish you the best thing life has to offer fr. God bless you.
I totally agree with the lol and jokingly texting part ...ive had guys out of nowhere disrespecting me when all i ever did was to make the conversation funnier or more entertaining
On #3- I completely agree with Kev on this topic. You can’t trade desire/or sex in order to get a genuine emotional connection from a guy; it’s an easy way to get attention, but it’s also putting you in a position to be seen as the woman he doesn’t have to show up for or respect (because she doesn’t respect herself enough to go after what she really wants and possibly get rejected). It’s just like a guy exchanging friendship, and leading with friendship with a woman he wants a romantic relationship/or just sex from in hopes that she will “see his value” and see him in a sexual light when that’s not how he set the tone in the first place. Don’t let the fear of how he is going to respond change how you show up for yourself, your wants, your needs, your desires, when first talking to a man. You want respect from a man- not for him to merely like you.
There's nothing wrong with flirting first the problem is people don't know how to switch it up and direct the conversation to a serious topic after that. There has to be balance, let a dude know your interested in a romantic way and in a serious way.
If you're being too serious and the dude won't think you're interested at all.....
It’s so funny to me because I never realize that I have a few men that over text me and I get annoyed with it because if I wanted to respond I will respond but when it comes to me texting a guy and over text him somehow I think that’s OK ? I played myself lol. This video made me come to this conclusion and I literally just deleted any guy phone number out of my contacts that I feel like I’m stretching too far/over texting because if they wanted to respond they would 😅
Same. I can’t stand when me double text me. It’s like they are rushing me to text them back 😅
I really enjoy watching your videos on your channel. Don’t be like Derrick Jaxn get yourself caught up. Continue doing what you do best! Much love 💕
Not many guys like u, too many low effort guys with bad intentions who not value woman.Your wife lucky one😔👍
Kev coming through with that golden/original advice as always; especially that laughing emojis/LOL overuse. I can just imagine this going on in person. 😄💀
I hope everyone has a good weekend! 💚✌🏼
Kevin said he don't want no parts of the Derrick Jaxn drama....... Imma do my videos 😅
One of your best videos ever!
Ladies it's not worth it. If you have to work this hard to talk to him....Remember you are the Prize. Enough Already you are chasing them ..... Men come on don't you feel a lil lady like these days now these women are chasing you? Just a ?
Damn Kev why you gotta do us like dat? 😂😂😂
This video has opened my eyes 👀
Well shit, I appreciate this.
👋Heyyy Kev Hick!
Love what you speak on. Keep up the good work. 👍🏽😊
I hope you feel better thanks for the video
*Kev ain’t lyin’ bout the lopsided texts y’all* I knew a relationship I was in about 10 years ago had run its course because of the way my texts were being answered. I picked up on the disinterest and gave him a one way ticket to Blockville. Then the fool started calling and texting from a different number!
I didn’t respond🙌🏾
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Please don't disappoint us like Jaxn!! You seem way more genuine tho.
Girl i was thinking the same thing. But he looks more genuine definitely.
Get one of those face rollers it wonders on allergies apply a bit of pressure to move the fluids in your face. Thank me later😏
you can get it at 5below its called face roller. Its either green. Black . Or pink if you feeling fancy 😌
Apply pressure but do it when you in the shower. It been helping when i get headaches and sinus trouble.
They also sell them at most Dollar Tree stores known as Jade Rollers,I have lots of them.
Killin it here Kev...the full on WTF had me LOL...LOL! Hang in there with us; some of us be learnin/giitin it!
Why text???? Pick a phone and call him and say what u want whatever u need. Stupid texting is for kids people wake up!!!!
Felt this
Hey Kev, omg i think that text messages are so impersonal. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with texting but in a situation where you are interested in someone or they are interested you in text messages are lame. you can misunderstand a persons thinking or like you said what they are really trying to say
B4 all this internet people met people get to know them the normal way now its dont do this dont do that and relationships and marriages now still dont work it's too much work
And just like that, I feel like quite the idiot! 😔😔 I can fix that though! It’s a hard pill to swallow but thanks Kev!
I hate bad jokes -my ex had so many bad jokes and I would give a fake laugh to his bad jokes and then we laughed at my fake laugh lol
Some times people self deprecate with out too much seriousness just to make others feel more comfortable around them. When not overdone.
And u don’t want a compliment.
This is great! Bit too late after my last message I literally just sent to him with lots of lols and hahas but good to know in future thanks!!
I should’ve seen this before I blew my chance with my crush of 4 years 🤦🏻♀️ came in too hot too fast. Which is what pushed all my past crushes away 😩
Been there! Done that! The crash and burn is a mess! 😩🤣🥂
Dam this was the realist shit I’ve heard all year!!! Thank you!
omg the wtf you said during this made me laugh - awesome lol
Your so true! i really can say i was degrading myself by coming off as being insecure towards a guy who i could say was an aqquaintance and he was basically giving me warning signs by telling me i overthink and gotta relax even ghosting me, well it's too late because we don't talk anymore sad thing is i miss him but i know how he feels about me and my pride won't let me reconnect with him..
I enjoy your personality and your delivery is niiiiiice.
Thank you💜
Damn this shit is DEEP. I'm here for it😊
ughhhh this the one i needed 🤦🏽♀️😆👌🏽 thank you!!
FINALLY I DONT DO THIS STUFF ANYMORE!!! Lol! I used to do all this shit all the time.
Kev is simply stating that men perceive too many LOLs as over eagerness and take advantage of that.
Any man that likes you would take advantage of the opportunity if he could WHEN IT SEEMS LIKE YOU'RE OKAY with it. Men don't have to be an f-boy to take advantage. I've seen guys with no game take advantage the moment they knew had the chance to (when a woman let her guard down, like after a break up).
Men do pay attention to stuff like this. If they can get to your bed faster it doesn't matter if they're an insecure nerd or a secure boss man. They will take advantage. Why wouldn't somebody that was insecure take advantage of someone when the opportunity presented itself? All men are capable of taking advantage and are very likely to. 💯
I've had male friends that straight up told me I never thought I would cheat but now I have. I've also had my guy friends tell me she was easy so I just let it happen. Men don't respect insecurity and over entertaining them comes off as insecure. Women don't find it attractive either. No woman wants an insecure man unless she's a gold digger. Kev is stating facts that don't just apply to men honestly. I've had women complain to me about how a guy was too eager because he was laughing too much and trying too hard to entertain her. No one likes a "try hard" (not men or women).
Kevin's not telling women this is how you respond to get them to go out with you. He is saying this is how you come off when you do this. That is not teaching us how to play the game that teaches us the game that's getting playing on us. He is simply making us aware not telling us what to do. He's not telling us to give in to these guys either. There is nowhere where he said that. He actually said the opposite and told us it's better to show them that we have boundaries, that we don't have to sugarcoat everything and shouldn't have to. I don't feel pressured at all. I completely understand what he's saying because I'm one of those people that on occasions will say LOL whenever I think something I've said might offend someone.(I honestly do this with a everyone and not just men)
I love the fact that he said if you mean what you say don't try to sugarcoat it if that's who you are or a boundary you're setting. We shouldn't have to tiptoe over men's feelings through text using. LOL every other sentence to protect their fragile male ego.
Dayyyyyuuuuuum kev! 🤣 you just put us up on real shit next level covert fuckboy game. These clowns are gonna be so mad 🤪😂😂 back to tinder with ya wyd at 3 am ass!!! Boy bye!!! We too good for this ladies 🙌🏻✌🏻 much love kev
I'm going
to avoid the LOL thing but guys do that too...I've realized this is a defence mechanism of sorts. Very useful tip!! Thanks ❤️
Such a great video Kev , thanks for sharing this tips with us ladies 🙌🏽
Who is here after DJ? Yall good?
The the fair exchange of energy in regards to communication is so accurate. Give me a one word responses, or a short response from my last message without a follow-up then I'm out. I'm not wasting my time to pull a conversation out of you. ✌
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Being funny goes a long way 😁
Good flirting first texts as bad idea, good info
Hey handsome is a bad idea?
@@snooty4180 Yes. Horrible idea. Stop putting him on a pedestal. He hasn’t earned it