MISTAKES women make when men ask for their number | DO THIS INSTEAD for INNER PEACE and RESPECT
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MISTAKES women make when men ask for their number | DO THIS INSTEAD for INNER PEACE and RESPECT
Women always ask me about how to attract guys who are more serious. How to get guys who are genuinely interested to engage. The problem isn’t that those men aren’t. The problem is usually women wasting time dealing with the guys who aren’t and afraid to set standards and stand by those standards from the first interaction. Being afraid to come off too serious or run a guy off is what often gets a woman played. If you want to impress a guy who’s serious while repelling guys who aren’t set standards from his first approach. Men who are serious will be more intrigued. Men don’t respect women and who play power games test those boundaries early on. Discontinue those connections immediately. When a man is serious, he hears you and wishes to make that known. How to tell if a guy is serious. How to establish standards and earn his respect.
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NOTE TO SELF:
He's going to play anyway.
So why even worry about what he'll feel if you tell him your standards.
He does not like your rules?... you walk.
Guys don’t even ask for my number anymore. They give me theirs! I say “my dad always taught me that women don’t get a man’s number” and they get upset 😭 😂.
Already did a video on that. Reject the number. Tell them that’s a mans job. You’re looking for a leader who knows what he wants and takes initiative. That’s princess syndrome
@@KevHick unfortunately, most men are feminized these days. It’s a national issue that needs to be addressed by our leaders.
@@KevHick thanks!!! Agreed
And that’s such a turn off when they do that. I always tell them I am not the chaser nor am I a masculine woman. And me reaching out first will set the whole situation up where I would end up being the leader and always reaching out.
Men get so upset at me when I politely decline them giving me their number.
Same concept but different in a way. I told a guy I don’t do last minute dates and need to be scheduled with at least 3 days in advance. He ignored that and kept asking me like mid day if I’m available later on. I told him twice my boundary, the third time I just politely told him I’m not interested anymore. Just bluntly not give AF about the boundary I set. I’m not a back up plan.
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Right, I don't like last minute stuff. I went through that as well. I just met a guy 5 days ago and he asked if he could take me out. So the next day he set up something for Saturday (2 days) from now. That's a week in advance. So it's starting off ok but I just want to enjoy myself and see what he about. The last guy I was dealing with before him never even took me out andi allowed it🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
I'm ol skool. I miss the world I grew up in before text messaging..this is for the birds.
Kev, you are seriously one of the best out there. Calm, cool, level head. Excellent speaker and just get to the point respectfully without all the time wasting filler. And totally on our side. Much love.
He is the best. He truly is, and he’s just being himself too which is endearing
Fr don't you hate the time waster filler, they do. He is straightforward one trait i look for in all my relationships even with friends.
“Men want to empower their woman, when they themselves are honorable people” best line in this video. Always well said kev.
OMG!!! I had this happened to me. He asked for my number and he started texting me. When I asked him if he would call me tomorrow, he texted me and told me he would let me know when he would call me but for now we would text only. I explained that I didn’t give him my phone number to text me because we could’ve just stayed on the site to continue to text one another. I gave him my phone number so he could call me and talk to me over the phone. He gave me some excuse about he was out of town and he didn’t have good reception to make phone calls where he was located. So I told him to call me when he does get good reception because I don’t like to text. He thought he would continue to text me and I guess he got the hint when he was left on read… I absolutely love this video and so glad to know I handled the situation right… Because I have had men tell me my standards are to high or a little rigid and I need to lower them because it is not all about me and be less aggressive . But I found that it has helped me to pick out the weeds in my garden and not waste my time… Again Thanks Kev, Great Video❤️
If a lot more of us had 🍆 anxiety...we would be a lot less messed up out here😆 🤣
I cracked up when he said that. I completely agree. As a woman who’s been intentionally celibate for the past 3 years…I really wish more women would be selective about who and when they gave their bodies and wombs (pregnancy/babies).
If we kind of spoke with one voice regarding a high level of expectations from men, we would all be better off.
Hold the line ladies, we are worth it!!
@@shawniet2352 I’ve been celibate for 2.5 years. Join the club 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾 lol
@@amerokeewiya1320 i just hit my two year mark partly due to player peen paranoia 😅😅😅 but mostly I just love the growth and peace now 🥰🙏🏿🥰
@@TheLadyBlerd 👍🏽👍🏽💪🏾💪🏾
Yep. I’ve been celibate for 3-ish years now and only use my “toy” if I need it. No woman should need an actual male 🍆 to satisfy herself these days because all it will do is show them we want plain sex just like they do (no commitment, no emotional connection, no love, etc).
Wow its exhausting being a women. We have to be so guarded, cautious, on our game and all sorts just to have the basic respect afforded to us that should be a given. Then we have to police and enforce contraception. And when that fails, largely bring up the kids, keep the home. It's fucking tiring always having to be the adult in the room. Surely we should live in a world already where men respect women as fellow human beings off the bat and who's mothers and father's have taught them how to behave? Good advice though. Sigh.
perfectly summed up
I could not agree more. This comment should be pinned!
Yep men don't value or understand how hard and stressful it is just to try to keep ourselves safe. They're supposed to protect us but we have to be in fear for our safety.
36 here I caught on early… it’s very exhausting…. The ones who are 45+ who still don’t get it r miserable. Nobody has time for that
I'm listening to him regularly like a Bible to keep myself on the right path of self respect , healthy boundaries and all that that shows me as the woman of worth that i am.Have sold myself short too much. Thank you Kev 🙏🏻 .
Me toooo
It's crazy that when I was in my 20's this was never a topic. Had no choice but to call, lol
True lol
I as a woman are not easily swayed by sweet talk. Until I know you inside and out. I throw test at guys and they all failed. I respect myself.
My ex from 8 years ago texted me out of no where and all the text said is that his dog died. wtf? seriously? I have not seen or talked to him in 8 years
Don’t start now
Block him
This stops scammers too. A guy from Indiana isn't going to have a Cuban accent.
"If more of yall had d**k anxiety we'll be less messed up out here! I'm weak 🤣 Kev!
Exactly 🎯 Did y'all hear about that IG model Gina Tew who just admitted that she has full blown A*DS💥 and she is linked to Chris Brown and Nick Cannon!😱 Nobody knows if they got it too but the internet is definitely on the case!🕵️♂️🕵️♀️🕵️ Nowadays, ERRBODY GOTS to be mo careful💯💥👀
Why would a grown man want to sit and text all day? And on top of that, it’s mainly nothing but “ how was your day?” “ Good morning beautiful “ or “ I hope you have a great day.” Nothing of substance, just generic things. Do men think when they message these things? A lot of people use the excuse “ I don’t like talking on the phone “ or those avoidant generic excuses- BYE. We don’t have time. You will only be running in place if you entertain that. It’s not worth a damn.
100% sis
I like that. “Don’t text me”!
Kev, you are a freaking genius and many generations will be grateful with your contribution.
Preach!!! I met a guy this past Sunday and he stated “I’ll text you” to which I replied I don’t do text and explained in detail I prefer call. Needless to say within 48 hours he got deleted. This is a grown man in 40 age range bracket and he couldn’t get past the basic 101. Some of them are pathetic out here. What Kevin is saying is straight facts and ladies keep your word regarding your standards period!!!
I only allow texts messages to check to see if I am available to talk or when would be a good time I am free to call 👍🏾
Oh perfect-thank you!
Omg this is what I tell men. I prefer phone calls. I don’t even like texting ppl I know all day. There’s so much more to learn and say while speaking to someone.
The ONLY reason to text me is when I'm having vocal issues. Besides, as an educator, the grammar issues and abbreviations irk me.
To no end!!! Someone said me “ you’re cute FR we should hang out and see if we vibe ur my type physically “ and I wanted to throw my phone across the room.
Mm learnt something new heard this standard only accept a date from someone who asks on the phone not a text 🤔
Kev, I met my husband at age 19 married him age 22, was married 35 wonderful years, he died of cancer 8/2018, I'm newly dating seriously since 3/2022, what a mess! The games, took me a while to open up! By the way I am a licensed & ordained minister for many years and I ordain you MKev! 😊🕯️🙏🏽
Thank you for this. If a guy only texts me, I block him in about a week. Men will waste your time gaslighting and playing with you because their bored. This is great advice. I'm tired of giving out my phone number to men who don't want anything.
Didn’t think it was possible, but your videos are just getting better and more timely. You are so right, don’t ask for my number if your not gonna call. I’m not 16 sir❤️👌
When I say ur advice works, it really works
Of course. He's the man. FR
Glad you’ve been applying it👏🏽
If only I had listened to a video like this before I went through a very difficult lesson. After my long relationship ended, I naively went to a dating site and there I met a wolf in sheep's clothing who gave me a bunch of false promises and dragged me for too long with texts. Now I deleted dating site and put myself in hermit mode. Very disapointed with all that. Anyway thanx for your message it will help many woman not to put themselves in the texting trap.
Same thing happened to me. I’m in hermit mode all over again. Smh
Am i the only one who feels uncomfortable getting a call from a guy i like, i prefer texting. It turns me off when a guy simply call me whenever he wants.
That happened me too they said they only like to talk on the phone like I’m not gonna chase you
I'm going to start this immediately. Yes give us strategies Kev. Amazing & winning. I just curved a guy doing this BS with texting majority of the time.
oh man......that's a game changer!
FR
I love this! I hate texting. Now I know why!
Yes me as well. I'm going to start telling guys I don't accept text messages.
They whole you can have my number if you call me is a good one but I'm so traumatized by phone calls from being a 911 dispatcher, it's really not possible for me. I can't even answer the phone when my mother or kids call.
I thought this was going to be a video about how to turn a man down when he asks for your number and have inner respect and peace. I'm tired of saying "oh, I have a boyfriend" or "I'm spoken for" to get a guy to take no for an answer. It seems that I only get respect in my decision if there is an imaginary other man involved.
Thank you, I hate texters.
Boredom is peace… exactly
Reason I’m breaking up with my ldr fiance. He would only call/videocall a few days or weeks after we saw each other and then would stop and only want to text. The last message I sent him a week ago I told him “the next time you really want to talk to me call me because I won’t be answering your texts anymore. We’re supposed to be getting married soon and you want this relationship to succeed on text messages only being that we are in long distance?” It’s been a week and still no call. And a few minutes ago he texted me all dramatically that that was the last time I’ll ever “hear” from him boy bye 🤣
Kev ❣️ I wish I found these videos when I was younger!!!! But it’s not too late to change, I’m 29 & just now learning how to establish boundaries properly.
That sucks cause I’ve been here for seven years. Better late than never though.
This is one of your best videos. This advice is brilliant & exactly what I needed to hear. I was asking this question during your last live and how to handle this situation but you had so many questions to get to. I am going to apply this immediately. I am so tired of meeting guys that I am genuinely interested in, just to end up in a stale, boring AF, never ending texting marathon that goes nowhere. Even when I tell them I prefer talking over texting they still text. I am going to start the hard boundary of not returning texts from men I am getting to know like you suggested. Great video 🔥🔥🔥
This right here from now on out.
Now this is a great weed em out method, thanks Kev! So simple✨️
Weed them out quickly & efficiently
I like this. Simple and efficient. Gunna use it. 👍🏽
Bless!
This is so true. I just stumbled on you by accident and I am so glad I did. It’s hard to hear things sometimes but when you hear these things and it stops you then you realize, you need to listen and actually “hear” what is being said. Thanks, I’m watching more! I need to be so much stronger and I am gonna work on it.
WOW!!!! This actually is a great tip bro.
Once again, Kev The Genius gives some more great advice. At 1st I was like wait, what if she likes to text...but let me wait and see what he says 1st. And then you explained it...like we can text later.
This is genius. Cause it will most likely wein out the real ones that truly want to get to know you...and the usual time wasters. Great tip Kev. Mann. Give it up for Kev. I hope the women take heed to this advice and apply it. We will see.
But thanks Kev for everything you do...all the great tips you give and everything.
Thanks bro! Exactly. It filters out the guys who are just f*cking chicks as efficiently as possible. And casual sex guys will lose patience or just not call. No guy who’s really curious will have a problem with it. They hope to speak anyway.
@@KevHick EXACTLY!!!
Just 1st time hearing this advice ever. But yes, this is Great. It should save women the extra unnecessary heartache and heartbreak. And help the real genuine good men and women connect more...hopefully.
In all honesty ANY requirement or condition that you give a man that will require HIM to do more than right below BARE MINIMUM will expose how serious he is or isn't about trying to get to know you lol
Kev if you aren't preaching tonight! I have turned my gfs on to you and they can't stop watching your videos
We ALL need this refresher at one time or another. I'm back mingling and all of this will come in handy.🙌🏾🙌🏾
Thank you Kev. Would you consider making a video about your thoughts on saying no to men asking for your phone number? Just this weekend I ended up giving my number to a very persistent guy who I really didn't want to have any further access to me. I was mad at myself after & had an even longer similar conversation when he called explaining that I just wasn't interested in dating right now & him trying to change my mind & asking all kinds of questions to try to keep me talking. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but it seems like some men pick up on that & become insistent. I see I'm not ready to date in part because of this "nice-girl" syndrome. If I suck at turning down phone number requests from a strangers, I'm concerned about all the other NOs I will need to say in dating. Thanks again!
Use an anonymous phone number app or google number until you learn to stop being so conflict avoidant. That way when the line rings you know it’s some guy you don’t want to talk to and just never answer the phone
You should read "the subtle art of not giving a F*..by Mark Manson..it teaches you to not care of what people think and that way you can start setting more boundaries..therapy also helps..I've had that issue before but sometimes we need that extra help..good luck.
@@DianaGarcia-lb9dl oh nice, I am going to get this book. Thanks for the recommendation.
@@KevHick yep I use a google voicemail number until I know the guy well enough and we been seeing each other for a while. If a guy has an issue with it then that’s a red flag to me.
@@KevHick I did get that small part right. I gave him my Google phone number 👍🏽 & when the call came in I was mentally prepared for it. But I have decided to never give any number to anyone I don't want calling again. Thanks for the advice!
@El Sol Nothing wrong with a coffee date. A coffee date is actually a good 1st date imo. It supposed to be casual, no pressure...just getting to know a person. You don't need a a big fancy dinner date to get to know a person ma. Maybe to impress...yeah. But if the goal is to get to know each other...I think a coffee date is fine imo.
I agree.
I disagree. I think a coffee date is low effort. You can go out to lunch/brunch/dinner and it doesn’t have to be somewhere fancy or expensive. It doesn’t have to last 5 hours. It can be an hour or two. Having coffee afterwards is fine, but a coffee date isn’t a real date to me.
If you’re both concerned about what the other looks like in real life vs. photos then a quick FaceTime call will help.
A coffe isn’t a date! My dad said that. It is date 0. It is to see if you accept the least effort.
@Jay C yes I agree. I used to only go on dinner dates & got tired of wasting my evening & being held hostage by men who I had no connection with or someone who totally misrepresented themselves online. Now during the 1st meetup over coffee, I have no problem leaving after 10 minutes if I see any red flags or if they misrepresented themselves. My time is too valuable to waste. If we hit off during our coffee date then we can plan a second date such as dinner.
@@vc9185 exactly! If there isn’t a good vibe or it’s not a good match you know pretty quickly. A coffee date is a good way to do that without wasting each other’s time. If we like each other than we can go out on another date and spend more time together without the awkwardness.
I’ve never heard this before and when you first said it, it didn’t initially make sense to me. BUT the more I listened to what and why, the more I loved it. Thanks, Kev! I’ve watched many of your videos and you give great knowledge and insight. You are appreciated!
Thanks for listening
The lion meets strength 💪♥
Thank you. I hate the whole text thing. I'm older and I remember when people used to actually TALK to each other. Great advice.
I do this and it really does make a difference. Here comes the text and I'm so unbothered. And they really will stop .
Thanks brother for dissecting their web of games & kicking them in the curb for me………..my heart is so played at this point…..NO MORE
This is the best advice I've heard in a long while. Thanks to the member who suggested you revisit this topic.
Your advice is absolute golden
Sometimes if you say something serious to a man in a "cutsey way" they don't take you serious. Be polite, but firm.
Right
This will never expire ❤
Thank you, Sir 👑
😂 Under him sweating. That's funny. This is a great message. Stand firm. I don't date if I start I'll remember this. God bless you and all you do ❤️❤️🙏🏼
I will try my best to not fall asleep to finally catch a ,,live" from Kev as it will start at 1:30 am in UK. Most probably I will not succeed 😉 but worth trying.
Not a live but a video premiere. Go to sleep and watch it tomorrow 😂. I’m going live Thursday night and a few times this weekend.
@@KevHick Thanks Kev👍💤😴
@@mrsbutterflyrainbows5900 Lol 😆
Wow I love that you stated this about texting because I’ve had that standard for sometime but haven’t said it out loud from the jump. I appreciate this.
AWESOME! I like this in addition to what I currently do. When a man ask for my number I say maybe... I'll give you my email. This is my way of weeding out the scumbags and also knowing if they can form a sentence😂I will add this to my standards. Thank you!
Yes let's get started I'm real early
You are an Exceptional teacher.
I'll wait 👋
I get their name and phone number first then check them outin Been Verified. If there's no name found on the number I report them as possible scammers.
If different names attached to phone number they are likely married.
I dump or report those men who rush right away to take me off a dating site right away.
I met a man that would do that, phone calls no texting but as I got to know him thru conversation all he wanted was sex situationship so ladies don't ignore your intuition that's a lesson I learned so not all men that call have good intentions
Thanks Kev, giving me the advice I can’t get from a father or brother. Appreciate you.
Im in the online dating scene and today a guy asked me for my number . I said let’s continue speaking through here. I’m intrigued to see what his response will be to this. I was on the fence at first because dm response/ conversations take a long time but I also wanted to know how he would react to challenges and boundaries. Also we’ve only been messaging for a few days, hasn’t even been a week
That’s a good idea. I’ve done this to test men too, and one guy wanted to meet up right away without any texting or even a phone call. I asked can we talk on the phone first for a bit and go from there? He blocked me. 🙄🥴
Get off online dating.
I love your videos. I have been bingeing them the last few days. So much wisdom! I’m burnt out from dating but I’m going to apply these techniques I’m learning asap and hopefully I’ll get a better dating experience!
This is frigging genius
Thanks for your video!!! Keep making these videos!!!!
K.H. thank you for this inspiring message sometime when you in love you are not really thinking straight. This is one message that I truly need it. When it come down to relationship with me I believe in closed mouth don't get fed.
I am not a mind reader and some men like to play mind games with you. And they might not be who you think they are. They don't like to communicate with you the right way. They know how to get to your heart but when it comes to my heart I have respect for myself so it is time for me to let them go I rather be safe than sorry.
I don't want to be caught up in somebody's sex traffic. You just don't know who's real or fake.
When a person is taking too long to communicate with me I think they are not who I think they are. I can see a red flag they are not really serious with me in any way. I don't have any problem getting any man I just got to be very careful in this world today. W.❤ your fan the night owl. 🦉B.J.🦉😊
Damn good advice. Too many folks hide behind texting, which *always* leads to a lack of clarity especially over time, and anyone not willing to get on the horn to clear ups coms isn't worth the time of day.
And did it work?
Your content is amazing thank you
My pleasure 😇
Yes yes and yes!!!
LOVE this video!!!
I think you are on point!!!
This is perfect
Kev your a relationship GEE!! Thanks buddy 😊
I love your videos. I love your authenticity, and I love your style.
Yes, some men will pull that text messaging for my experience on multiple occasions. It’s usually because he’s not serious. He wants 😮texting or phone sex or married. He’s just trying to play with you.
As long as you say it with kindness, love and dignity, how he interpreted is not your responsibility.
No matter where the guy contacts me whether it’s on a dating app or on social media, he’ll message me I say I immediately need to see your face for me. That’s a nonnegotiable, and I see it with love and kindness and respect to the gentleman.
I believe when you said your standards, men either step up to the plate or they run there’s no gray area
Once you set your standards, if he runs that told you everything you need to know good job for not folding and caving into your standards!!!
I just did this standard last week on a dating site. Before I gave the guy my number advices do not text nor ft me call on my profile and in message and he called but told me since I have been messaging him in the dating app then it shld be fine to text is phone. Blocked for being deceitful
Let him know upfront this is nonnegotiable
@@KevHick lol I did tell him that before I gave him my number and agreed to not text.” Or ft and he still did it. Oh well his loss
It was like he wanted to see if I like him enough to do it anyway. Smh
Amen Kevin Amen. I just cut off this dude for the same reasons. SEX! This guy only wanted to text and when I saw that that's all he wanted I just stopped talking all together. I even called him once and he knew I would and he didn't pick up. Instead right after it went to vm he texted me asking if he could call me back and he never did. Boy bye.
Once again great advice. Thank you Kev.
Your message is on point Kev ✊🏾 thanks for sharing
I agree with everything you say!!!
That's funny usually I Tex with him for a while at first to see if I even want to waste my life talkin on the phone
Oh, I'm using this! ❤
Awesome! Never thought to do that. Thanks!!!
I really love your style, clarity and valuable advice, Kev! This is brilliant, thank you!
Kev you are the best,all your videos is perfect,no time wasting,very straight forward
This advice is genius. Helpful, insightful and so spot on. Thankyou for taking the time to explain this. We're so grateful🙏
Excellent advice
Thank you. Am learning. Change is coming. Watching from Kenya.
Kev, what about those men who ask us for our social media or “more pics” before even asking for our phone number?
Brilliant advices. Thank you for it. Sometimes I think that nowdays for people relations through comunicators is enough.
This is going into full affect today! Thanks Kev!
I respect your honesty. On the way you break things down. It’s very respectful, very straight to the point and very matter of fact, sometimes the stuff you say personally hurts me hurts my feelings, but that’s just because it’s true and sometimes the truth hurts. But you open my eyes. I just turned 37 years old on Halloween yesterday, and this last two weeks I’ve discovered you you have opened my eyes. I was strictly mind blown because there has been a few relationships in my past past where I was extremely hurt, and as I reflect on it, I feel like now I victimize myself, which isn’t a bad thing because when you know better you can do better so I appreciate you but damn how do you become so knowledgeable on this? What classes did you take or is this just from your heart? ❤❤❤❤❤❤
The lion makes the difference
Don't text??? That's bs, if your the man she really wants she will allow you to text, email, snap chat, write a letter and send up damn smoke signals.
This is fantastic advice. Text messaging is a time waster.