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  • Why guys string you along after they decide they don't want you
    Guys string women along all the time. Don't put yourself in this position. If a guy doesn't want a relationship move on and don't victimize yourself with blind loyalty.

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  • @KevHick
    @KevHick  Рік тому +10

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  • @thatchica08
    @thatchica08 Рік тому +249

    “Stop manipulating yourself into believing there’s something on the other side of this”
    I felt that!

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +3

      it's like nice guy tokens adding up to s-x but nice girl tokens adding up to marriage

    • @marlenerami3151
      @marlenerami3151 Рік тому +1

      He doesn’twant me, his actions prove it. I put the distance a long time ago so he drives by repeatedly and stalks me.

  • @jayc5756
    @jayc5756 Рік тому +262

    8:38 "Sought after men are not normally single cause they haven't found the right 1 or a great woman. They are single because They DONT CARE How Great a woman is".
    FACTS!!! 💯

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +8

      pick n mix man
      very madonna wh-re complex
      uses good girl for wifely stuff
      bad girl for mistress stuff

    • @traceylennon1204
      @traceylennon1204 Рік тому +8

      This whole paragraph actually makes sense of this WHOLE MESS of The proverbial "trying to find a man" Miss me with ALL of it!!

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Рік тому

      @@traceylennon1204 Lol

    • @tiffany9234
      @tiffany9234 Рік тому

      Yep

    • @tramelparker2085
      @tramelparker2085 Рік тому +2

      This one blew my mind

  • @littlemissunimpressed
    @littlemissunimpressed Рік тому +171

    “He’s not going to get rid of you” So you have to do IT. Do the cutting ✂️✂️

  • @vhayashi7369
    @vhayashi7369 Рік тому +257

    To keep a steady flow of attention coming towards them to feed their ego. Selfishness. Usually narcissistic and they don't know what they want.

    • @RAJOHN-ke7mc
      @RAJOHN-ke7mc Рік тому +5

      They do know what they want. They dont want the one theyre stringing along
      We have to stop lying to ourselves.

  • @DrJackisChannel
    @DrJackisChannel Рік тому +168

    Access to sex. Plain and simple. Ladies, pull the plug and walk, no RUN away and never look back.

    • @Lovely-ff7uv
      @Lovely-ff7uv Рік тому +18

      Right!
      Accessibility!
      Are there really women out here that don't know this? I am truly confused

    • @ReRe-hh5my
      @ReRe-hh5my Рік тому +8

      @@Lovely-ff7uv … sometimes you can be so deeply involved in the mess, that you’re blind to the obvious.

  • @TheNisiu
    @TheNisiu Рік тому +100

    SAY IT Kev!!! “When he’s told you what he didn’t want & you stuck around trying to change his mind, you’ve strung yourself along”. NEEDED to be said.

  • @candacemarquette
    @candacemarquette Рік тому +55

    The reason some men don't care that you are great is because they aren't. These boys want to stay boys and are looking for mommies to keep coddling them. Ladies! Let's be kindhearted to ourselves. You are more precious and beautiful that you know! ❤️ 😊❤️

  • @missyc8458
    @missyc8458 Рік тому +115

    This so powerful and true. Some men don’t value women and only use and play women like a recreational sport.

    • @amab1853
      @amab1853 Рік тому +1

      Absolutely 💯

    • @imablazeuonfiya
      @imablazeuonfiya Рік тому +1

      It's fun for us men to do that to you women

    • @Purplecolors88
      @Purplecolors88 Рік тому +2

      @@imablazeuonfiya thanks for the tip . Now we know lol

  • @britanny5363ify
    @britanny5363ify Рік тому +34

    “Sought after men aren’t normally single bc they haven’t found the right one or a great women, they are single bc they don’t care how great a woman is.” Damn that’s some truth!

  • @julietonuoha5931
    @julietonuoha5931 Рік тому +58

    I keep my distance from a guy who starts showing me inconsistency or mixed signals. I take it that you don't like me.
    Thanks Kev, you are like the big brother I never had. Your videos has helped me a lot, you have taught me so much and because of you I was able to get out of a toxic relationship in 2021. Now I've healed and I know my self worth never to allow a guy make me an option or booty call. 💕💕

  • @tlhogid663
    @tlhogid663 Рік тому +43

    💯
    I gaslit myself like this in my last "situationship" 3 years ago. Rejection is a much easier pill to swallow than the pain of being toyed around with by someone whose ill intentions were clear from the start

    • @mindyobizz
      @mindyobizz Рік тому +7

      Omg. I'm doing it right now. It's so hard. Gaslighting myself...I like that statement. Thank you, I have to stop

  • @sheallwhimsical3738
    @sheallwhimsical3738 Рік тому +111

    Thanks Kevin✨✨. This level of false hope & foolish loyalty leads us, women, blindly into many a situationship! I watched an exercpt of Judge Toler telling a young lady to NEVER let a man tell you he don't want you twice!!

  • @BooDotBoo
    @BooDotBoo Рік тому +41

    Yep, this is a weird one. Like, if you're not interested, what is the point of keeping in contact? We really have to learn to cut things off for ourselves because men will keep contacting you to keep you on the hook while they're trying to find someone else or figure out what they want. I've had guys talk about staying friends while knowing I was interested and, of course, contact lessened, usually because they've found someone else they are interested in and want to see if that will go somewhere before fully letting you go. I learned, if guys do that, sure, you can stay friendly, but be out there dating others because, at some point, if whomever else they are seeing works out, they won't be trying to string you along, anymore. If anything, they'll ghost you and, if things go south in the future, they'll be sending a "wyd" text because you were the backburner girl. And they still won't commit to you, you'll just be entertainment until he finds someone else he is interested in.
    Basically, if you're not okay getting more friends, and I'm not a fan of trying to be friends with someone you like romantically because it's putting yourself through unnecessary emotional crap for no reason, if a guy doesn't want what you want, just let it go. No man who is actually interested in you, who now knows you like them seriously, would play around in a way they could lose you. They just wouldn't. They'd, at least, be open and honest about their situation if something is keeping them from committing... but truth is, unless guy is dying or something, very little would stop a man from committing if he actually wants you.
    But one thing, NEVER do girlfriend/wife stuff for a man who isn't committing to you, either. Stop doing it. In fact, don't even start it with a man who hasn't committed in the first place.

    • @osolvholts
      @osolvholts Рік тому

      🔥

    • @DolphinsPlayingInAquaMoonlight
      @DolphinsPlayingInAquaMoonlight Рік тому +2

      "No man who is actually interested in you, who now knows you like them seriously, would play around in a way they could lose you. They just wouldn't."

    • @VeliProduction
      @VeliProduction Рік тому +1

      Those are great points, and I will add one so that I can help someone with my experience. I once dated a guy who was getting divorced. As I am divorced, Iwas like "Man, that's the guy for me :D" because I thought we could relate giving our circumstances and the fact we had much to talk about. So we dated a couple of times, it was going very well, but a HUGE RED FLAG was that on our 2nd date, he asked me NOT to hold hands as his wife-soon-not-to-be could see us and this would impede their divorce process. I should have said BYE in the middle of his sentence and walked away. Well, I walked away 2 dates later :D So don't fall for their BS, if they are not sure whether they want commitment or not, walk away. They are double-minded and playing games, and you don't have the time to spend on their BBBBSSSSS. Something much better is coming your way :)

  • @blazefitwarrior1698
    @blazefitwarrior1698 Рік тому +8

    “ If he doesn’t want what you want - stop stringing yourself along” THAT RIGHT THERE!! 💯 💯 💯 💯 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽

  • @miss_bb2
    @miss_bb2 Рік тому +37

    I'm so glad I'm no longer the pick me girl. I'm just too quick to lose interest nowadays, I've been in talking stages with many people, they do something I don't like I communicate, they repeat it I get rid of them🚮

  • @cindeed4422
    @cindeed4422 Рік тому +26

    You think you’re woman enough to change his mind. You’re not. You are correct Kevin. You string yourself along! The problem is that we want closure from him instead of just walking away. But that is your closure.

  • @QueenUglyDuckling
    @QueenUglyDuckling Рік тому +17

    "Stop victimizing yourself from YOUR own decisions......"
    RIGHT THERE 💥🔥

  • @ShynaLarke
    @ShynaLarke Рік тому +35

    Sit back and watch. Most will eliminate themselves because they realize if they aren’t planning to put the effort in that you expect it. They won’t even act like they will fulfill your expectations. They will just move onto someone that they don’t have to put any effort into.

    • @sososanchez3512
      @sososanchez3512 Рік тому +2

      Deep ..Absolute Truth..

    • @nataliem8174
      @nataliem8174 Рік тому +6

      100 per cent true. I do the sit back and watch method. It's so good as most of them do eliminate themselves and we don't waste time on them.

    • @lisabradford8180
      @lisabradford8180 Рік тому +5

      You nailed it, shana. The last guy I was interested in was one that showed, eventually, that he didn't want to put in any work and moved on to a woman that didn't require it. I definitely didn't need another one of those in my life.

    • @ShynaLarke
      @ShynaLarke Рік тому +3

      @@nataliem8174 it's annoying starting over all of the time but it's better than getting out of something when it's harder.

    • @ShynaLarke
      @ShynaLarke Рік тому +3

      @@lisabradford8180 being single is much better than having the headache!

  • @lmusima3275
    @lmusima3275 Рік тому +24

    Some guys string along because the women allow it by sticking around fulfilling their needs, the friends with benefits dynamic. Then they get emotionally attached wanting something more when the guy isn’t interested. I tell myself the minute a guy tells me he’s not ready for a serious relationship I’m off. He gets no benefits from me. Blocked from contacting me.

  • @LucaAnamaria
    @LucaAnamaria Рік тому +4

    "A man who's using you can't be trusted to stop." 💥 Wow. That is facts, right there. 🙌🏻

  • @Bigshaman23
    @Bigshaman23 Рік тому +14

    It’s called Self love. Knowing your worth and knowing your purpose and understanding growth and value. The key is You ladies

  • @moniquelauzon3475
    @moniquelauzon3475 Рік тому +54

    Many women are lacking the confidence today to take their power and protect their worth.
    Thank you for your raw honesty Kk. We need to hear this straight up.

  • @ariban
    @ariban Рік тому +76

    Oh shoot. You're so right. Thanks Kev. When I created the separation, I felt like a huge weight lifted off of me. We weren't physically intimate but emotionally it was like this weird dynamic. Definitely a situationship.

  • @iamgoddessoflove
    @iamgoddessoflove Рік тому +17

    Staying in an unhealthy relationship will keep you from discovering your true path in life. We have to make healthy choices to walk away not only to save us from heartache, but also to protect our emotional and mental health.
    💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

  • @simskiara
    @simskiara Рік тому +25

    This helped me tremendously, I couldn’t get over the fact he stringed me along and didn’t see my value. So I cut it off and I’m at peace ❤

  • @notthatvashti8127
    @notthatvashti8127 Рік тому +64

    Wow, this touched my spirit! Nothing but truth. We are often, for lack of a better word, so desperate for love and attention that we will let go of any common sense. A sort of blindness that pervades our thoughts and reason. Thanks for this! Sometimes we just need to be proverbially slapped back into a solid reality!

    • @nickorobinson5328
      @nickorobinson5328 Рік тому +3

      💯💯💯what u just said..

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +1

      sunk cost fallacy

    • @mandyg5747
      @mandyg5747 Рік тому +4

      I think that the reason why we get so desperate is because we had bad Dad's that we had to try to moderate his mood and put up with his bad behaviour because our mum told us to. Plus maybe put into daft situations at church where there is a lack of men. It creates a false reality. The reality is that any relationship is about us too....especially a romantic one. If we are not happy, miserable and treated badly its not our job to fix it like we have been told. Its our job to leave and feel no guilt. If the man doesn't appreciate us then he doesn't deserve to have us. So sad that many of us have been conned so much of our lives.

  • @dayanahmaahzhnahyasharahla7606
    @dayanahmaahzhnahyasharahla7606 Рік тому +11

    That was absolutely 💯! Been there and done that. When I got tired of the BS, I BLOCKED AND DELETED HIM OUT MY LIFE! DAMN IT FEELS GOOD!!

  • @mariadiaz-iw9yi
    @mariadiaz-iw9yi Рік тому +33

    They want to hold on in case it fails on the other side, just cut the cord and burn it .

    • @adaofcharles1217
      @adaofcharles1217 Рік тому

      You are so right on this one, more like option B or back up plan.

  • @annruth7213
    @annruth7213 Рік тому +25

    Hardest lessons of my twenties. I'm in my 30s now. I had to realize this for myself some time ago. He is absolutely right.

  • @styledbyemilyxo6035
    @styledbyemilyxo6035 Рік тому +39

    I'ver had someone contact me again and again after I told him to leave me alone over and over. Some guys are relentless. He was always saying that I should "give him some time" (I assume to be in a relationship.. I had stopeed listening at this point) Some men are truly predators and some women (like myself) DO have self esteem. At some point it becomes harassment.

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +1

      yes after the second firm no

    • @LadyAngela678
      @LadyAngela678 Рік тому +3

      You didnt block him. So 🤫.

    • @styledbyemilyxo6035
      @styledbyemilyxo6035 Рік тому +4

      @@LadyAngela678 Acually, I did block him, he used a different number.He kept saying that he missed me and wasnt "quite there" in terms of wanting a relationship and presented a lot of "evidence" as to why we should continue to talk.Despite not offering comittment. I share this story to illustrate that some men DO string women along, for real. It isn't just ALL in our heads.

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому

      @@styledbyemilyxo6035 that's stalking, using multiple numbers
      a crime

  • @moonmaiden4197
    @moonmaiden4197 Рік тому +13

    Do it right back to them! Message then all excited “Heyyy! 😊 How are you???…. Then ghost 👻 high energy low investment. This is how you take the power back

  • @Msamm777
    @Msamm777 Рік тому +33

    "Sought after men don't care how great a woman is" Kevin my ex boyfriend has so many women friends and after my final talk with my ex boyfriend I "saw" how he actually feels about women. Kevin I feel like I have just been released from jail with this last statement from your video. Thank you!

    • @danyelgarcia3689
      @danyelgarcia3689 Рік тому +2

      Wow, that's deep! How does he really feel about women?

    • @Msamm777
      @Msamm777 Рік тому +3

      @@danyelgarcia3689 it's ok for women to want him though not Ok for women to need him

    • @danyelgarcia3689
      @danyelgarcia3689 Рік тому

      @@Msamm777 I'm guessing a woman needing him is to much of an inconvenience.

    • @Msamm777
      @Msamm777 Рік тому

      @@danyelgarcia3689 it would seem so. Not needy just need.

    • @Msamm777
      @Msamm777 Рік тому

      Also I have to ask myself why did I pick him? I am learning of my role also. Being clear what I would desire in a partner could also save me heartache

  • @gwortman3515
    @gwortman3515 Рік тому +24

    We are the gate keepers of our own selves..... lock up the gate from these men...don't open your legs to let him through!!! Keep it locked!!

  • @felishapittman2778
    @felishapittman2778 Рік тому +23

    This is the brutal honesty that women need. Thank you! Let yourself go!

  • @tonyasmith8502
    @tonyasmith8502 Рік тому +28

    They are jerks thats why, and they know we are all good women out here, cause God made us that way and they (guys) know they are made totally different and don't care about any of our feelings as long as they can still get what they want whenever they can

  • @barbarabreaux8341
    @barbarabreaux8341 Рік тому +7

    I already lived it and learned from it! A boy is going to play games with an inexperienced young lady. He may string you along, but the time will come when a young lady becomes a woman and there is nothing that boy can do to change your mind about you leaving for good. You will remember all the things he has done to hurt you. He has to live with his mistakes and regrets. Leave in peace when you are ready! Thank you! for sharing!

  • @LarennPBel
    @LarennPBel Рік тому +26

    When ur not being treated well leave his ass

  • @EvaElizabeth
    @EvaElizabeth Рік тому +10

    It's true ,he was afraid to lose his life support system. He is single because he doesn't care about how great a woman is

  • @lyteqt
    @lyteqt Рік тому +45

    Hardcore truth something we as women don't want to hear but need to hear!!! This hit hard! Nothing but facts 💯. I know you were speaking to me for sure... While listening to your video I received a text from him... 😂 Made me think twice about answering back... I didn't! Thanks for the advice!

    • @chynadoll77cyn59
      @chynadoll77cyn59 Рік тому +2

      I do I love ❤️ the truth..

    • @catchcourtcourt
      @catchcourtcourt Рік тому +11

      I got a text this morning! He told me Monday that he's "processing some sh*t" where it concerns losing a best friend who turned into a FWB until she met someone else. He "doesn't miss the sex, hE mIsSeS hIs BeSt fRiEnD". and he wants to "continue what we have". Why? so I can sit there with him knowing he's still grieving this other woman? I left him on read. I've been sad all week until this popped up today. I wasted a year with this guy, not wasting another second, not even the finger effort it takes to respond.

    • @nickorobinson5328
      @nickorobinson5328 Рік тому

      💯💯💯💯💯

    • @trinaglali6974
      @trinaglali6974 Рік тому +5

      Thank you so so so much Kevin,you really really woke me up to know that I am keeping myself from a real men by staying with an man that don't want me at all...

    • @trinaglali6974
      @trinaglali6974 Рік тому +1

      When we ladies leave a boy for good ,he always come back just to see if he can get back in if you let him back in and give him a inch he will take a yard if we let the same ones that don't want you... When the boy comes back ladies don't give into him NOT one inch because he'll be saying I got her where when I want her.... NO DRAMA LADIES LET THE BOY GO BECAUSE he is NOT a MAN yet...

  • @beautybyjanet27
    @beautybyjanet27 Рік тому +27

    Thank you Kevin for the brutal honesty. This video came at the right time as I just cut off the guy that I made myself to believe that something would happen on the other side. I’m just hurt and exhausted now - but I’m glad I finally took the situation into my own hands and got rid of him for good.

    • @VeliProduction
      @VeliProduction Рік тому +3

      You go, girl, hurt goes away, pride stays and you will be appreciated for your courage :) Been there, done that, you deserve better!

  • @travisscottjr2298
    @travisscottjr2298 Рік тому +27

    This thing popped up when I needed it. Thank you so much for the insight, Kev!
    This is very true though. My last ex said that he wasn't looking for a relationship so I walked away. But he acted like nothing happened, keep searching for more access, seeking benefit, I always refused to meet him since then, I already lost my trust towards him, I already removed him from all social media (He should've understand that I don't want to talk to him again), but he's still reaching out and seeking attention (Even after months of no contact!). So, the ball is in your field, ladies. I suggest you just have to ignore them, they just hit you up when they were bored or need validation, they don't truly care about you. They will never changed.

    • @lizzyscarlettmwansa9452
      @lizzyscarlettmwansa9452 Рік тому +3

      wow that hits

    • @VeliProduction
      @VeliProduction Рік тому

      Nope, they wont and you shouldn't care ;) I had a guy I dated a couple of times, so not even bf, just 3-4 dates. He acted as if he had been amazed by me, even made me a surprise. Then, after a last text of his saying how gorgeous I was, he stopped talking to me completely, out of the blue. Yeah, I enjoyed his company, but boy I would never reach out to you again! The moment I sense someone's playing games, I'm out for good. I don\t even care what his reason was - I would never humiliate myself asking him "why". He can't serve me, so I just move on. I would never do that to a guy, so I expect no less. I have had instances where the other party would text me a few months after we had separated ways saying stuff like "Oh, I had a dream about you last night." I never replied, instead I just though "Keep on dreaming, man" :D

  • @jayc5756
    @jayc5756 Рік тому +39

    Exactly!!!
    Like when I was with these good women...but I knew they wasn't for me...and they wanted more with me....I let both of them go. They immediately found their husband a few months after me. Facts!
    But a lot of guys are territorial...so a lot of these f boys not gonna let you go. You have to use your own discernment and leave when its not beneficial to yall. Stop waiting for Him To Let You Go ma. Cmon now. SMH!

  • @sablekat1984
    @sablekat1984 7 місяців тому

    "Sought after men are not normally single cause they haven't found the right one or a great woman, they are single because they DONT CARE HOW GREAT A WOMAN IS". Very profound!!!! Thank you!

  • @kellymills8779
    @kellymills8779 Рік тому +15

    WORD, Kev! Stop giving these fools "permission". YOU cut it off. You're only hurting yourself. 👍🏿👍🏿

  • @mo0729.
    @mo0729. Рік тому +9

    Literally, he texted me as I was watching your video. As usual, no lies detected, Kevin. 💯

    • @mo0729.
      @mo0729. 6 місяців тому

      I rewatched this video and liked this comment. Imagine my horror when I realized that I wrote and posted the comment a year ago. 😮

  • @tammerry9496
    @tammerry9496 Рік тому +9

    Kev is right. We really need to work on our ghost mechanism. Focus on ourselves. Out if sight of out of mind.

  • @cup_o_TMarie
    @cup_o_TMarie Рік тому +4

    Another great reason to TAKE INTIMACY SLOWLY….and yes I mean the bedroom too!
    I’ve been there & yet never felt more power & self love when I FINALLY learned to detach myself when anyone (friends too) started playing games like this!

  • @winnie_ijay
    @winnie_ijay Рік тому +19

    This notification came just at the right time! Thank you so much for knocking some sense into me! My bff mad at me cause I keep entertaining this nigga, and making excuses for his toxic behavior! I guess this is the permission I needed from God to ghost his manipulative a** 🙏 I’m outrightly done with relationships for now! Emotionally draining ughhh

  • @Maria-wc3wr
    @Maria-wc3wr Рік тому +12

    This man is fed up with peoples stoopidness damn😂

  • @LuluDirection1m
    @LuluDirection1m Рік тому +2

    ‘Stop waiting for permission to move on’ shooo I felt it. This video is on time, Thanks Kev.👌

  • @jelizabethpetrie6656
    @jelizabethpetrie6656 Рік тому +2

    Kevin, you gave the hard Honestly…If women feel strung along…High majority of us…Have done it to ourselves…tough love observation. High Wisdom of the Year!

  • @analyticalchick3064
    @analyticalchick3064 Рік тому +11

    I met this guy last winter/Spring who told me he wasn't looking for a relationship. I said something like "ok thanks for your time." He came back with this "friends" shit. I just didn't reply. That's the game that they play with women. I didn't have time for male friends. I got a DM a few weeks later from a guy with intention to love. I'm already married.
    Oh and my brother-in-law had a "girlfriend" for 5 years. She happened to break up with him around when we got engaged. When we first got married, the brother was mopey about his "girlfriend" breaking up with him, but at 40 some years old, he strung along a girl for 5 years. She was about 4 to 4 and a half years too late in breaking up.

  • @geeavo4058
    @geeavo4058 Рік тому +4

    Thanks for the freeing statement you made at the tail end of this video Kev, “he won’t see you as a valued woman, because that’s not what he’s looking for.” Blessings!! Pls keep at what you’re doing. You’re helping a lot of us.

  • @Jeanninecomeau
    @Jeanninecomeau Рік тому +13

    Remember Pandora releasing all the evil in the world, but when hope was about to escape, she closed the box.

  • @Addease
    @Addease Рік тому +3

    Because they don’t want to deal with repercussions of hurting you while reaping the benefits of using you. Move on. You’re welcome. Don’t get hung up on people who don’t care about you, focus on finding the good ones.

  • @Reshme77
    @Reshme77 Рік тому +10

    And they get mad if you move on

  • @QueenUglyDuckling
    @QueenUglyDuckling Рік тому +3

    "....YOU are assisting in this abuse of power, you are assisting in the disrespect...you are assisting in the self destruction.....very few people give the HONOR of HONESTY...."
    (*microphone 🎤 Drop*)~~Kev Hick said that.

  • @lisabradford8180
    @lisabradford8180 Рік тому +18

    kev, this here was so true, so real that i listened twice💖💖 all i can say is thank you. thank you for being honest, for making us see the truth, as hard as that may be but it's much needed and appreciated, even to an old woman like me that''s not in the game much anymore😁 you are a national treasure, definitely a treasure to us women🙏

  • @chestnutrose187
    @chestnutrose187 Рік тому +10

    It's a hard pill to swallow but he's speaking truth.

  • @faizahanif9515
    @faizahanif9515 Рік тому +6

    Men can give these excuses for their bad behavior. That doesn't mean karma is not eventually coming to bite them back. They're not getting away with this behavior but women who got hurt by such men surely need to get far far away from this toxicity.
    Ladies, as women, do your part and leave these garbage men alone. Let the God and universe do their play to teach these men a lesson.

  • @traceylennon1204
    @traceylennon1204 Рік тому +5

    We (US WOMEN) have tactfully tried to tell these men that we don't want them,but their ego wouldn't ALLOW IT!!

  • @MegaLadylove2012
    @MegaLadylove2012 Рік тому +7

    I think the biggest flex for any woman is to not care. Because a lot of these so called dating relationship coaches are benefiting from the supposed insecurities of women. If you listen carefully, they don’t care about women. If anything, their messages always glorified the behaviors of men as if they’re god and always have the upper hand. In reality, men are getting played too left and right so why would women care about what men think? I don’t get it
    Besides have you ever watched any of this guy’s video and felt good about yourself? Didnt he shame you and tell you all the reasons why you sucked as a woman? If you pay attention, you see his videos brings down your self esteem by putting men on a pedestal and clown you the dummy for falling for the tricks men play and you really should stay away from stuff like this
    How many of you have watched this guy’s videos and felt good afterwards? Tell me. It’s alway how you’re not good enough. Or how you’re being played blh blah. Never any real accountability for the men to change their nasty ways and become decent humans for their own sake. Or this is why he does this or why he’s stringing you along like who gives a scent. You shouldn’t care what men thinks. Women put too much emphasis into the thoughts, feelings or opinions of these insignificant men. And is more reasons so called dating coaches guys like this thrive online. You would become so much more powerful when your attention is towards something more meaningful in your life. Period. Don’t sleep with them. Don’t give your time or energy and certainly not your money. And you would be fine. Thts it. You don’t need a dating coach because they ain’t telling you ish Thts going benefits your life whatsoever other than benefiting off your so called weakness. Ever wonder why guys like these makes videos in their cars? Thts because they be capping. They can’t say stuff like this around their so called wives or ppl who know them and Thts because they’re exactly like the men they described on their videos. Trying to make it seem like the women they married are better than you. Yeah right. Y’all better turn off those jokers and look inward for guidance and stop giving a sh!t

  • @levettabrown689
    @levettabrown689 Рік тому +10

    Dang bro you keep it so real. I have done this to myself before. Glad you put things into context.

  • @Prettyeyes8279
    @Prettyeyes8279 Рік тому +4

    I wasn’t ready for this convo you just came for my neck 😢 I needed to hear that

    • @tiffany9234
      @tiffany9234 Рік тому +1

      Yes me too

    • @Prettyeyes8279
      @Prettyeyes8279 Рік тому +1

      @@tiffany9234 I’m in the same situation he described I over played my part thinking we was moving closer to a relationship and the man was starting to tell people I was his girl and as soon as I asked what are we he hit me with just enjoying each other’s company and I’m not ready for what you want and I never mislead you. This video was about me 😂😔

  • @michellewade5166
    @michellewade5166 Рік тому +10

    I love your brutal honesty. Thank you for your inspiring and motivational commentaries. I love these and I need to hear at least 95 percent of your videos. I’m so exhausted with men. Well my Silly childish man. 😢

  • @Zandry21614
    @Zandry21614 Рік тому +2

    No man can fool me with his actions if he says he doesn't want something serious! If he keeps on with you after saying that, he's just made you a jump off. You have a chance to put a stop to it if you're in that situation. Anyway, you nailed this Kev!! 💯👍

  • @nappyfries
    @nappyfries Рік тому +1

    Yessss! We gotta start holding ourselves accountable for the things we do & allow. It’s not always a man’s fault.

  • @RRthee1
    @RRthee1 Рік тому +8

    Oh. My. God. Your very last line is right on time today. 😢 Thank you. 🔥🔥🔥

  • @robinnewton1061
    @robinnewton1061 Рік тому +3

    Thank you Mr. Hicks for your honesty and truth. You’re helping so many women. God bless you and yours.

  • @oshun2866
    @oshun2866 Рік тому +2

    Every living being tries to force its will. He still wants to fulfill his agenda for you even if it does not align with yours. You may be the back up for when his ego, confidence is low or needs someone he can depend on when he’s destitute. In the meantime the woman mistakes his pursuit to mirror what she wants. He will even let you believe it just get what he wants.

  • @cassandraj1722
    @cassandraj1722 Рік тому +5

    Simple, Men do whatever women allow !!!

  • @DD-ry4mm
    @DD-ry4mm 9 місяців тому

    Wow you described everything!
    I felt out of control cuz I didnt want to be the one CUTTING this off.I was waiting for him to let me go".Which means I gave him my POWER 💣🚩
    I feel sooo much relief when I told him not to ever contact me again!
    Its when I LEARNED that could trust myself ❤

  • @Beccathree
    @Beccathree Рік тому +1

    Phew this was brutally honest but is the whole entire truth! If he wanted ya you’d know and never forget it

  • @roshonda8562
    @roshonda8562 Рік тому +4

    My my my!!! This is a REAL Message!! I've definitely been there, but no more!!!

  • @DominiqueGarofalo
    @DominiqueGarofalo Рік тому +1

    This is one of the most sensible things I've ever heard!

  • @rogers5622
    @rogers5622 Рік тому +4

    I got stuck on " giving him money"😳Tha hell . I am in my late 40s and it's crazy to think this is common now. Great advice as usual ,Kev .

    • @BooDotBoo
      @BooDotBoo Рік тому +2

      This and the fwb thing never resonate with me because it's not happening over here. I'm not even near my 40s and I don't get it. Baby, unless you are at the very least my committed live in boyfriend (helping with bills and rent and chores), I'm not letting you borrow any money, a car, I'm not cooking for you (I do take friends plates/gifts of food I've made, but I'm not at your house cooking a full meal every night or something), I'm not cleaning your place besides picking up something I dropped on the floor... I'm really confused where all this has come from. When so many men are giving way less than they should, why are women out here living like housewives with a man who has barely even taken them on a real first date; no one should count "hanging out" at the crib as a date, that's something that comes after multiple dates out in public. But then again, I've been called old fashioned in my dating practices and I will continue to be. It's given me more stable relationships than this whole situationship stuff. That's something I'm only just now running into after taking time after a three year relationship and taking time to heal from that. And I see women out here encouraging it, talking about don't worry about when you sleep with a man or give him time (even though it's been months or even a year). Then, men out here telling women that whole "I'm not ready, but give me some time" BS, too. If it's been months and you've been dating me, you know if you're ready to date me or not. If not, you must not be interested. Simple as that.

    • @rogers5622
      @rogers5622 Рік тому

      @@BooDotBoo valid points made .People can't expect housewives behavior when they are not doing their part .

  • @JollyCelery
    @JollyCelery Рік тому +1

    I believe in 99.9% of cases, when he says, "I don't want a relationship and I don't want to date" it means "I don't want a relationship and I don't want to date YOU". Because right after they say it, they be out dating and booing up the next girl they meet. It's a way to say you suck, but I don't want you to hate me incase I want to come back and use you. Run!!!

  • @CrochetStudent36
    @CrochetStudent36 Рік тому +2

    Why would he??? 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ The simplest shyt ever!!! Why would he give up his lifeline!??

  • @trasation1774
    @trasation1774 Рік тому +2

    Ughhhhh, I placed my hand over my eyes without first realizing it. Thx...again👑

  • @sophieacapella
    @sophieacapella Рік тому +1

    Wow, this is powerful talk and this is exactly what I needed to hear tonight.
    Thank you so much, Kev ! 😊

  • @candy5742
    @candy5742 Рік тому +3

    🔩 Nailed It!! All they need to do is listen to The Supremes “ Set Me Free”. They was even talking about this in the 60’s. Smh

  • @queenk.ish27
    @queenk.ish27 Рік тому +3

    Ok I did this to myself recently. It's not worth the emotions it will bring out of you. I wanted him to end things. I strung myself along I take accountability for that. To be honest I wasn't ready to accept the rejection. I learned many lessons along the way and I really enjoyed my time with him and that's the part that sucks but I know I have to let go.

    • @GrowwithmebySarahNicole
      @GrowwithmebySarahNicole Рік тому

      Yes it’s the rejection that’s addicting and hard to let go of but it hurts

  • @SL-bh5sp
    @SL-bh5sp Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much for being straight to the point. I needed to hear it just as you said it. No sugar coating. It makes perfect sense.

  • @Lucilockit
    @Lucilockit Рік тому +5

    Oof, Iiiiiiii get it! Glad I'm single and doing my own thing. This was useful , thank you 🙏🏼✨️

  • @lpickens6297
    @lpickens6297 Рік тому +1

    What a true statement you made in this video. Thank you

  • @jazmincharis6917
    @jazmincharis6917 Рік тому +3

    I didn't wait for some damn permission because I chose myself and moved on to what I knew I deserved. I don't have time for games.

  • @lisataylor3027
    @lisataylor3027 Рік тому +2

    Needed the absolute truth!!! Stop living in what if fantasy worlds!!!

  • @Got2BOshun
    @Got2BOshun Рік тому +1

    I thank you for this severe edge snatchage , I needed this here

  • @tanyabetterblessed1401
    @tanyabetterblessed1401 Рік тому +1

    WOW 😳 ITS ME.....not him. Realization thanks Kev I need to desperately cut the cord this is the answer I've been searching for. WILL DO thank you 💖

  • @mychannelafc
    @mychannelafc Рік тому +7

    Damn. Uploaded 36 seconds ago. Fresh kev served!
    Video request in case you see this: dealing with polyamory people who want to hook you into their crap. So many ppl doing this now. "Compersion"

  • @ReRe-hh5my
    @ReRe-hh5my Рік тому +1

    Thank You!! I was absolutely captivated with the entire video because every word you said hit home. He’s not the problem, I am…. Or I was…lesson learned!

  • @Ravilette
    @Ravilette Рік тому +2

    💛 This is me. But not after today. Thanks, Kev!

  • @tam_to_evolve
    @tam_to_evolve Рік тому

    This man is speaking straight facts! You’re stringing yourself around 🗣👌👌

  • @traceylennon1204
    @traceylennon1204 Рік тому +2

    It keeps me in mind of the song by The Supremes "Keep Me Hanging On"!!

  • @stephaniejoywoodside9942
    @stephaniejoywoodside9942 Рік тому +2

    This message right here will preach!!! 💯

  • @CharlenePBlair
    @CharlenePBlair Рік тому +1

    Good word young man 👏🏾💛. Keep it coming. #RealTalk We have to learn how to move on without closure.

  • @marybanks6190
    @marybanks6190 Рік тому +1

    I watched this video yesterday and Your words helped shape my decision I instantly understood and saw myself as the words you were speaking….. today I saw 👀 this person who helped to keep me a victim and I felt nothing thank you 🙏🏽 your words gave me strength to walk away

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  Рік тому

      Glad to hear it 😁

  • @andreadufresne3264
    @andreadufresne3264 Рік тому

    Dang I've been called out I take full accountability for my actions. Thank you for the honesty

  • @danyelleterry2138
    @danyelleterry2138 Рік тому +2

    Amen! Thank you brother! You give the greatest advice! Appreciate you