2 way’s women INSTANTLY LOSE RESPECT | The psychology of getting respect from men
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- 2 way’s women INSTANTLY LOSE RESPECT | The psychology of getting respect from men
Women always ask me about how to show interest without losing a guy’s respect and maintaining their dignity. Too often we are taught to mask our interest in people to save face. Women learn to play hard yo get to maintain respect instead of just requiring respect through sensible but firm boundaries. Pretending mot to like a guy or pretending to not be available does nothing if once a man gets you alone you are easy to bang and rule over physically. Women don’t lose respect by showing interest. They lose respect by allowing men to decide what happens physically and the pace things progress unilaterally. Your boundaries dictate your respect levels not your interest.
How to get respect from guys while showing interest
How to get guys to respect you.
How to let a guy know you like him while maintaining your dignity. - Навчання та стиль
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This is some great insight on the psychology of a man. Men are not stupid. They pay attention to a lot more than us women think they do. They watch your every move but say nothing and act accordingly.
Your RIGHT EXACTLY
I "knew" a man for 20 years. Understood us to be "friends" so when he hit me up with interest to get to know each other more deeply, I felt I trusted him enough because we "knew" each other and our friend circle over the years. Very slowly as he got to know me, the respect he claimed to have, faded and I was ultimately treated like trash. The irony is that I grew in the midst of his games and I was able to see that he had low self worth and had used women until he got bored in his codependency. So I say to women, be careful about accepting a man's judgment about you, he is often less than he wants to be and is projecting it onto you.
That's the irony they can have so many issues, trauma, lack of accomplishments, high body counts but have the audacity to judge women and call them damaged. I knew a guy who slept around in his past but he goes around calling women 304s like sir.
This is so true. Women must take themselves seriously.
Yes!!!
Wow! Love #1. A guy I hadn’t even gone on a date with yet asked to sync Apple Watches, tried to insinuate controlling my appearance and other weird behavior. I told him goodbye. Red flags.
You made an exemplary point to say, "wise men watch the actions of fools" is exactly why most men do not deserve respect in the first place. The women you're speaking of are operating from the same space. So, 1. Respect the women who are coaching women into self respect. 2. Build a community based in better morals. The man's ego says because he's getting all this pootang he's to be respected by other men, however, the women are to be disrespected for entertaining him. It's disingenuous. And then, these men don't know how to bring grocery stores, doctors offices and any other viable products into the community.
You said it very well..I agree 💯👍
“It’s the men’s fault!” - women
Sad ain't it. 💔
As a women i also look into a mans background cause what applies to women also applies to men and plus i'd think : so many other ladies had access to him etc
Me too. I actually have ALWAYS decided not to date a man based on the previous women I know he's been with. So Kevin is definitely telling the truth.
The fact that a man is deciding my level of respect based on a made up scenario in his head of me being his woman and he would want me to do this or not as HIS woman and not respect me outside of that on an individual level outside of any connection to him is absurd. It's already crazy the level of entitlement 😂. I don't need or want any entitled man or woman's respect attention or interaction then to begin with/
How do you decide your level of respect for men you don’t know?
@KevHick how they use there knowledge and implementation of information elevates there lives...Thereby they need to get passed the hype and get to the truth..get passed social propaganda
Well said, the nerve of people right????👍😎
I've met very entitled men and it's a way to disarm them. It's with your natural super power. It's a god complex. You know they don't have dominion over you, yet they should still be respected for being human. Treat people better then how you would want to be treated. Most men have been disrespected their whole life, you can do your part to help soften their heart.
I didn't get that from his message at all. And I think judging your level of respect for the things he's named is reality. You're fooling yourself to think a man is going to judge you primarily by your intellect.
Again Ibn hits another one out of the ball park!
As a military veteran I'm often the only Woman in the company of many Men. I'm usually outnumbered however I make it known by just aura I will be respected.
I was in a class and one guy said...
"Girl, come over here."
I stopped him right there.
"First I'm not a girl. I'm a Woman. Secondly, don't ever command me like I'm your pet!"
Silence.
Another male vet came up and said...
"Miss Sonja. You are definitely going to make sure you get your respect."
Never heard anyone else pose this viewpoint. Thank you for the perspective. Appreciate your teachings.
Hey Kev, don’t know if you’re gonna notice my comment but I just wanted to say how much I appreciate what you do. I’ve been following you for the last 5 years and to me you’re like the caring, loving, zero BS older brother I never had, but always needed. Before I had no confidence, no self love or self esteem, I’ve made every mistake in the book. I didn’t know any better, mentally abusive men was all I’ve ever known. I’ve had horrible, soul crushing dating experience. But your words really spoke to me. With your advise I learned to love myself and not tolerate minimum effort, low quality men. With time I build the skill set to distinguish men who have integrity and would actually make a good husband, what is love versus lust, and so on … I transformed. I’m happily married now to the love of my life and I don’t think I would’ve been able to recognize his green flags and give him a chance if it wasn’t for your advice. Thank you so much for everything you do, Kev. God bless you and your beautiful family ❤️
I really appreciate you sharing your story. I’m grateful to have helped you and made an impact in your life. Congratulations 🎊🎈🎉 on growth and evolution. It feels so great knowing that my goal and intention to touch lives as a distant brother to so many women has been reached. I never went viral but my work hasn’t been in vain. I needed to hear this. Thank you 🙏🏾
I listened to you teach this in another video and I stopped walking to Wal-Mart at night, which I loved doing. I never knew the man's perspective. I also made sure that it was obvious that i take my safety seriously. I remember the Middle Eastern owners of my old corner store lovingly but seriously telling me to wear pants under my dresses. Wow! My neighbor here became visibly upset when he saw me allow a man to side hug me at Wal-Mart then the other neighbor who overheard the first one got on my case the NEXT day! God has always blessed me that the men around me would try to look out for me. Wow! I'm glad you're letting women know❤
This reminds me of the times I used to be out super late with my fake friends. It was always a man there that could tell I didn't belong there and would keep me company for the night. He knew I was the DD and I was out watching those who were with me. Now, the creeps be out all times of the day. This is where the discernment is needed. The worst people I've met has been at work. Superiors and coworkers.
Very Interesting. I Never understood why women don't look too much at the man's dating history resume to see if he may be a good partner. But that makes sense. I guess that's what makes us different than them. Mann
I agree with this to a point. We have to focus on narratives and context as well. I have someone who takes everything out of context bc of his own insecurities and creates his own narrative that is a false reality. He allows women to touch him or take up his time. But then feels like I shouldn’t talk to men due to “respect”.
Oh my god the second thing that u said literally blowed my mind cause that was my problem in my dating life.
Breaking down this topic in understandable language really helps. I get it now.
Excellent explanation of a man's point of view, Kev!
Very clear and mindful. Thanks!😊
Good Job Kev, as always, another ANOINTED VIDEO, Thank You as usual.
If men care that much about the shame from others, than that “man” isn’t a man. End of the story
A man without shame also has no pride. Don’t often get one without the other.
Words spoken by someone who has not even a basic understanding of human nature. Men can feel shame. It doesn’t change their gender.
Reeeeally good information here that I need to share
Thanks for sharing
Love the message and love the new look of the opener👌🏼
Great message Kev. 🙌🏽
Wow, I never thought about this before, that a man would look at it that way.... Good information!!!
Thank You so so much for this Kev🙏🏾
LISTEN ... she is saying she FEELS ... that definitely doesn’t equate to acting like we are 16. We are mature women who carry ourselves as such. I would personally feel embarrassed to be out here acting like my kids who are close to 30. She's right ... but no I am well aware that I am NOT young anymore and trying to deny it won't change that fact
Truly. And it reminds me of the saying, “Water seeks its own level.”
‘Miss me’ 😩😩😩😭😭 I love when content creators open the videos with all the smoke cause the comment section is always crazy. 🤣
Some men give too much respect and I don't like that either. They view you as too squeaky clean and just leave you alone.
Because men like toxic
1:22 Oh yeah, this player co-worker dude be doing that All the time..and these ladies just be really doing that or stopping for this dude...I be like Really?? I just shake my damn head. SMH! 🤦♂️
Thank you so much Kev!!😊
I think men do all this to protect themselves and fragile egos. I mean makes sense. But that also means men are sensitive asf. I thought we're the emotional ones. Every time I deal with a man I end up being the tough one and they're the sensitive ones then I just leave.
Do what? Explain your position, please.
@@SimonKnight1023 judging women and placing them in certain categories based on how they act towards "other men". Well why are u even imagining her as your woman and basing her actions off of that? Treat her as an individual outside of your own expectations and scenarios. For example if a man tells me to come here politely I will! So that means I'm easy to control to some other man watching? That's sooo silly and simple minded lol. I would want to help if I can, anyone not just a man. That's just an example based on 1 of yours. Just trying to understand your thought process here...
@@lisaq5074 it's like backwards in a way or inverted. I don't mind a sensitive man but in my case time and time again they are dramatic sensitive and very jealous and obsessive even. Meanwhile I'm more poised and contained. I'm not lovey dovey or soft. I like to tackle things straight on and in a very down to earth way. Sure is complicated 😫
@@nawal10 So according to your logic if a man beats on other women you shouldn’t use that as indicator of his behavior towards you?
That’s not a good example. It’s one thing if a man politely asks you to come and speak with him but if he says it you to you in a rude and aggressive way then men are going to assume that you like rude and aggressive men. Which is logical.
@@SimonKnight1023 but the original vid creator never mentioned any violence or aggression. He simply said if a man asks u to come here or asks something of u and u answer to it other men will not respect u. Like what? Why? Lol. So that's why I said men come up with these scenarios and assumptions to protect their own egos and vulnerability. They want a woman who only they can control. Who will only answer to them lol. Sounds like fear.
Wow. I previously was in an abusive relationship. I got out and didn't date for 2 years. I recently was dating again.. I told the guy about previously being in that type of relationship and he now appears to shy away from me. Listening to this I see why now. Is it anything we can do to gain his respect?
Red flag #1, so in the future next time don't tell new men that you're dating about your previous relationships because what may end up happening is that he'll end up using that against you and end up doing you worse. To avoid that from happening again, don't ever mention your past relationships to any new man that you date or have a conversation, that's one red flag and that's why he walked away. Always seek a counselor or relationship therapist for consultation, not men. Hope this helps.
thanks Kev, came looking for this info today.
Really enjoyed this video. Saved
I appreciate you and all the valuable information you give to us women to help us better ourselves and to find high quality men. Thank you Kev Hick
Thanks Kev 💯
This guy is really good
Exactly men are strange for wanting authority over a complete stranger.
I was so desperate with this guy he would allow his boys to talk to me any kind of way and never put them in their place😢 because my past of choices😢🎉🎉😢😮.
😂 everything you’re saying is true! maybe only three out of 20 men actually think this way. At least in the real world. They talk the talk on Internet world, but in the real world they can’t even count past three to even be smart enough to come up with this mindset 😂 so I could care less. It’s hilarious to me. It doesn’t matter what type of man what race of man what age of men men are different in the real world than they are on the Internet when they meet you in person their mindset goes. Daaahhhhh 😂 but then come on the Internet and have all these criteria‘s. he’s 100% right on this video however, but whatever. 😂
I would like to think that if a guy calls himself a Christian he is able to extend Grace and mercy and not judge a woman by her faulty decision making (perhaps wrought out of childhood trauma). I would hope Christian men would extend the same Grace and forgiveness Christ provides them, as surely they too aren’t 100% perfect.
One would sincerely hope such a Believer would be operating from
Matthew 7:1
“Judge not, that ye be not judged.”
Great advice, thank you! I had to subscribe as my corresponding action for my appreciation.👏🏽💙🎯💯⚓😁✌🏽
All Facts!!!
it doesn’t matter if a man loses respect for a woman she can move on & find another man that does respect her 😂
This makes sense, it’s kind of like Ciara and Russell. Though Russell clearly has respect for Ciara, he’ll likely always be compared to and chastised about the decisions she made before him, unfortunately.
So very true and very good advice ❤
Love this
Thanks 👍 kev
Story of my life. No one has EVER protected me. Except. Dad he tried to teach me. He wasn't a big man. He was a smart man. I didnt get it. A foolish will not take up for you, esp. If he doesn't see himself as a strong in some part of his life. I dont think i give a crap what would make a man loose respect for me. Im not foolish either.
Thanks!
Just Yeah old school 66 ab
A guy said to me literally two days ago ...I have two choices, stay in a hotel with him in "x" city or he'll come stay at my mum's house....
On a first date!
I declined both.
I've put men's will before my own as a younger woman but I've lived & learned & not now!
Thank you!
You go girl!
so thats why some women say that u cant tell men when youve been abused by other men because then they also feel like they can take advantage as well? am i understanding correctly? how about if u were abused by your parents, how do they take that? not well is my guess. men are so selfish
Basically just stop trauma dumping to strangers, especially men! They don’t care and will use it against you if the relationship fails. It’s certain things you keep to yourself or speak to a therapist about it.
@@anonamous6320The thing is, for some people, to not be vulnerable feels like lying or hiding one's true self. My grandmother always said "you don't tell a man everything." I never knew what she meant and felt she was just bitter, but I learned they absolutely use info against you. One has to learn though.
Love these day's have became a friggin hustle and most of us are way past the
B/S of it all that is no longer even worth our energy. So make total idiots out of yourselves if you think that shtt is going to work unless on the inexperienced whose unfortunately haven't been schooled about the game of love and how to avoid it.
🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
I would find it very inappropriate and see it as controlling, possibly jealous behavior for a man of any age or background to ask me about my “body count.” That’s privileged information and just rude to ask IMO.
God loves and his son died n rose for you
Well yes old school 66 ab
Same how women feel about men On this topic
Sometimes we talk to a man or go on a date with a man that we Won’t be able to know yet is an ass. For example, a coworker at a new job who other men there know but I don’t yet (personal example). I looked into him after the date because there weee some things he said that were suspect. But at first he presents himself in a certain way and you don’t KNOW. Other men might know but she doesn’t.
P.s.
I'm being a little transparent here.
I'm in a religion that has a definite patriarchal hierarchy. Being who I have grown to be there has been a lot of controversy with me because the males think the women are just "supposed" to listen because they have a penis.
Not I, said the Kat.😅
Many males in my religion dont like me because I'm not just gonna respect and be subservient to someone because they have a penis!
Name a major religion, or any, that isn’t patriarchal (cults don’t count!)… It’s pretty wack when you consider females are the creators of mankind. So it follows that bible/ qu’ran thumpers feel intense rage when confronted by women who have questions & insist on equal standards of conduct.
Kev you look more and more jaded in your videos. But I love the conversation you bring
Kev hick i realize people are to u liability or an assets. Some people are more liability to u and is not worth investing your time, heart to that person whether is a male or female.
I admire your wisdom ❤
Thank you.
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If I message men first, does it come off poorly?
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I promise i don't care ok because if a person doesn't respect me imma move around trust me
Where have you been
@KevHick I have watch two of your videos and they were helpful to the point of me knowing how he thinks but what I dont hear is how do I gain back that respect...
In my experience, respect is so big with guys, not only for themselves but how they see you. And I think once gone, it doesn’t come back.
What if she's listening to her father over him?
Bring them shame from who? Who's opinion are men caring about so much? Why?
Wanting to be respected, and admired, is basic human psychology for both sexes. But respect for men also leads to power, safety, and the ability to earn money. Power because, when other men like you and want to be like you, you gain influence over them. This means your word means something. Your face card is more valuable. Think of this like a social credit score. Safety, because when other men don’t respect you, they often disrespect you in ways that could lead to violence. Ways that could endanger you or your family because things tend to escalate when me and start having conflict. Especially as it relates to a man’s wife. If a man doesn’t respect a man, he won’t respect his woman. Which means he will disrespect her, causing that man to have to defend his woman likely in some physical altercation. Men see the potential for violence as much as they see the potential for sex every day. Women have tried to make this argument about being insecure, or having a fragile ego, but it’s not that simple. The ability to earn, because when men respect you, and they admire you, and your word is good, and your face card is valuable, they help you create more opportunities to gain power and influence through the role that you assume professionally. As much as women want to make this about a man’s fragile ego this is as valuable, a part of a man’s intuition as a woman’s motherly intuition. This need for respect serves the family of the man who gains it. Most times when preference doesn’t favor women many intentionally misunderstand the preference as a means to avoid the shame of not being preferred. Just as they avoid shame, as a means to protect their ego, a man would like to avoid the shameful woman, as a means to protect his. Both sexes care about what people think. Men are just better at making judgments based on women doing things that are shameful. Women reserve their judgments for the men that they don’t have strong feelings for and make accommodations for the ones they do. When men don’t do the same thing, some women intentionally misunderstand basically principles to project shame in an effort to avoid it. Just as men misunderstand principles that don’t serve them in the realm of preference. For example, broke men insult or misunderstand women who prefer high earners.
@@KevHick I greatly thank you for your time and sharing your knowledge!
I don't get all of it. I read it several times. I see the effort you put in!
As a woman I don't worry about who admires me, or having power and influence over others. If you want, can you do some videos on this? Why power, admiration, and influence over others, and from others, is so important to many men? Is it just between men, or do men want the power, admiration and influence over every sex?
I get that you're saying men want to avoid shame from other men because it could lead to fights, and avoiding danger is important.
"Men think about violence as much as sex" . Whoa, that never occurred to me for a lot of men.
I get that opportunity could = money, could = security, could =safety, part. I don't get the admiration, avoidance of shame from your mate part.
If I am skilled, capable, have a professional reputation, and am accepted as a decent enough person to get along with, then that = opportunity, = money, =security, = safety.
Admiration doesn't enter the picture. Neither does my partner. If women were judged on partners by each other, almost no one would measure up.
You're the only man I've found so far trying to give real answers. Thank you again, sincerely!!!
@@aprilhoffman3090 I’ll do a video
@@KevHick Thank you. It really is hard to understand the opposite sex if you didn't really grow up with anyone you could observe or ask questions to.
Ugh I hate seeing girls go to guys after he said “aye girl come here” like ew omg where’s the RAID???! 🪳