8 ways CON-MEN GAIN LEVERAGE over women to use them
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- Опубліковано 13 лип 2024
- 8 ways CON-MEN GAIN LEVERAGE over women to use them
Con-men love to trick women out of things. Just like gold digging women try to con men. Men often use cons to trick women and gain emotional leverage over them. Once they get you to fall for them you become their property and willing participant to abuse. Beware of these 8 signs. - Навчання та стиль
1. Everything moves fast 💨.
2. Future projection.
3. Act's entitled.
4. Inserts into your finances.
5. Overreactes to negative affection.
6. Victimizes himself with your boundaries.
7. Suggest you are un loyal.
8. He is the victim in all his stories..
Apply to friends and family too... ❤️
#8😂😂😂😂Yep, in every story. Oh poor them😒
Sounds like my ex unfortunately gosh how did I fall for that ish
scary truth
@@radioog6945 I say that sometimes but we know better now. Literally laugh in people's faces and say naw B you got me f#$k up.🤣 Not fr I just laugh and carry on.
Even if they are not a con, these traits are red flags of abusers, manipulators and weak men. ❤
All the Kevin Samuels worshippers
Don't forget narcissists.
I was coming here to say all of this 😔
Yes and control freaks
And psychopaths
"He's not committed, he's a stranger." 😂 A lot of us needed to hear that part lmfao
If a man ask you for a dollar or to borrow something early in dating he is a con man.
Please explain. I had someone ask for $100, then pay me back the next day. I think it was a test to see if I would be willing to help. He said he couldn't find his debit card.
@FocusVenesa yes, it's a test and he'll borrow a big amount and he'll never pay anymore
If they test you fail the test. Let them walk. Don't play
@@focusvenesa It is not your job to "help" a grown man! It is a con to see if you will fall for the bait. "He couldn't find his debit card", a classic con man's game. Whenever a man asks YOU for money, politely decline, and cut off all communication with him. He will expect YOU to pay for everything in the future. Learn the game, or get played. Your choice.
@@focusvenesa
*1,000% it was a test.*
I was fed the same line. First, I said "Aww" (expressing pity for him), then told him that he must become more responsible, as losing your wallet is major. I also suggested/reminded him to call the 🏦 1st thing in the AM, and cancel his 💳s.
He felt a bit condescended, but still asked if I could pay his $90 phone bill.
I asked if he could pay online. He excitedly said YES! I said _sure_ ...and sent him a $90 Zelle request via 📱 while _still_ in that call. 😅 He was confused.
I reminded him that losing one's debit card doesn't mean you lose _access to the funds in your account,_ so thankfully he can still make online payments and transfers...Especially with apps! 🤓😉
Likely embarrassed, he instantly Zelle'd me the $90, and I used it to pay his bill online.
I gave him a chance, giving him the benefit of the doubt that perhaps he was just having a bad spell and not using his 🧠. A few weeks later, he called _while working_ and asked me to buy him lunch. He was upset when I told him NO, that I do not give men money.
_I am no fool._
...Especially after I _was, once,_ >a decade ago. I _never_ forgot that time... And I STILL want my $10 back from _that_ dude!! 🤣 (LoL, but seriously. Call me petty, but he was petty for asking, _then_ for _not_ paying me back.😒)
Anyhow, I made it extremely clear who I am, my standard, and how I function Then, I sweetly suggested that perhaps we're not compatible, and that we each deserve what we desire, and to be loved for who we are. He refused to lose me, and began Zelle'ing _me_ money, and asking my clothing and shoe sizes.
Some men are bill-splitters, and that is totally fine for women who are, as well.
*I am not, nor will I ever be. I will NEVER be a cosigner, and I will never [again] give a man money.* {That lil' $10 was a great one-off lesson for me.}
If you're one who differs from that, fine. Just know who you are, and behave accordingly. Be Well, Be Blessed.🙏🏽💖
Lol, just ran across one of these. He fit this description perfectly. 30 days he was professing his undying love and ready to get married. Then came the business crisis…Also beware of the words Power Couple. They love that one. I have a stern rule on not giving men money so he could never. He started at 5,000 and ended up at $200. I told him I can pray with him but I can’t give him any money. He soon disappeared. Lol
Smart woman!!!!
Lol I know that’s right
😂
Good on you!
Loved “I can pray with you, for you.” 😂 He vacated real fast then. Thank God!
He's not committed .he's a stranger... stranger danger.. This s*** took me out..
Absolutely 💯
I will never forget this advice from Kev “I don’t owe you anything INTERNET STRANGER”
Meet people in real life !
Never accept friend requests from Facebook that you do Not! Know. Sure sign of a con.
The entitlement is always at an all time high. And they get jealous over everything and then start gaslighting you.
Wow that happened to me :( he even send his friends to get me to talk to him again..I read its narcissistic behaviour but yeah a lot if ppl are kinda narc these days.
It's sad because I loved him but he did everything you said in your comment. We were together for 1.5 yr.. but everything was my fault. And I tried to go to therapy and even then he told me I would Lie...what.
I taught myself now if someone tries to try your boundaries and you dont understand what happens. Take a moment and try to go over someone else's boundaries in your mind if you love them. If you know you would never do that... there's your answer. He's hurting you the way you would never hurt him.
Us empaths find them.
Exactly
Yess..the jealousy is weird
I don’t tell men I’m a Christian anymore because I want to see where he’s at in relation to his Christianity.
Smart!!!
You don’t have to tell them really…our lives should be speaking for us…we don’t go around quoting scriptures and preaching but the light of Christ should be evident in our life…but I get what you’re saying ❤
Hallelujah honey! Hallelujah!!
@@cherylkay1636 seems like you misunderstood the point.
You can ask a general open question...like " Do you believe in God" that should get you a perspective from him. I feel that is important! Because do you honestly want to be with a atheist?
Omg!!! I just got out of a situation with someone that showed all 8 signs... Thank God I caught on to it and it only lasted 5 months... The worse part about dealing with someone like this is they make you doubt yourself, and you're left feeling violated.. You also get a sense that you're being manipulated, if and when you feel that way RUN!! YOU'RE GUT FEELINGS DON'T LIE! Ladies, pleeeease be safe out there. Kev thanks for always putting out content to inform of these shenanigans..
Wooow you went through this someone using u I delt with this with a ex all he did was take advantage
I got out in one week…
Becareful internet dating it went From I love you to I will kill you in 4 days!!!
You have spoken the truth!!!💯💞
Me too... time to rebuild...
A con man would be mad at me because I don't play about my money/finances.
😂💯
Me neither.
Let me tell you I’ve experienced all of the above. Was married but got a legal separation, fresh on the dating scene, and bam got hit with all of these types of men. Thank you for helping us women realize what to look out for. I only wished I had this knowledge beforehand.
Me to girl I went through the same thing married and all
@@jumpNjaq You married the con man? What was that like?
I feel sorry for you
You should be teaching in highschool, college, churches, .... everywhere!!! Thanks for this very educational video! God bless you!
This would be a good 101 course. 😂
Yeah but you often don't because your parents don't want you to grow up!
After the final discard, my ex said “whether it’s you or someone else, I need to get married to them quick before…” and then he caught himself. It made me think of when we were first together and he said he’d want to get married in 6 months and I was like “well I think we need a bit longer than that.” Sheesh. You never know the danger you in until you’re out.
True
Why was he saying with in six months? Like why did he need to get married that soon.
@@GraceDaughter
Right, good question. There can be a number of/varied reasons; not always "conning" _per se._ Like some women, some men are actually _desperate_ for love and relationship, especially after so long without, after a string of heartbreaks, and/or a certain age. I have 2 friends like this, and they _reek_ of it; it's pitiable.
That said, desperation is also troubling, to say the least.
@@BL3SSed-Bliss Thanks for responding, my God Sister recently got married, after a VERY SHORT MEETING, they are both in their fifties, however, I pretty much think everybody is scamming some type of way, always as WISE AS A SERPENT, YET GENTLY AS A DOVE!
@@GraceDaughter
I hear you, GraceDaughter... And I *LOVE* that rendition of Matt 10:16❣️ I prefer it, as I find "gentle" more relatable than [and superior to] "harmless" or "innocent"; so I will absolutely use and embody that henceforth.
Blessings❣️🙏🏽
Also they will tell you they love you very early on. They dont even know you and they are “in love”.
If they mention you should change your looks early on “you should stop wearing makeup ect” they are testing you to see if you will change yourself for them.
And lastly, if you ask them “what are we” they wont give a straight answer. They might be literally telling you they love you but cant clearly define what the relationship is or where its going.
Ask em to define Love itself! 😅that'll show a lot (of feigned feelings)
💯💯yeas nah this da ☝🏾
The primary reason men ask you to stop wearing makeup is because it enhances your attractiveness and he wants to reduce the number of men who feel compelled to approach or pursue you, leaving less opportunities for you to leave him for a better man. Stay discerning ❤️💫🌍
@@HoneyBunches100 So true
I don't think pressuring on either end is good ... nobody should be pressed into anything or answers...just keep your boundaries up mentally well people will respect yours
My ex was love bombing me and moved fast talking about marriage within the first 2 months. He wasn’t trying to con me per se, he was super codependent and always needed validation from others as well. But whatever the reason may be, moving Uber fast is never a good sign. As someone in their mid/late 40s we need to know the delicate balance between wasting time and moving too fast
A codependent person is trying to con us...into codependence... at the very least trying to test us for it. They know what they need, and it's not justified so they don't discuss it. That's a con.
He's narcissist!
3 months in... he said "one day you won't wanna be without me"😳
🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ & hated the word No.
When I hear the words fast friends, I love you, marriage, my alarms go off like a NYC firetruck racing through a one way street!!! I am gone!!!
@@mermaidtales4009 remember that Destiny's Child song..."the first time I said no, it's like I never said yes before" 🏃♀️
This video is full of excellent information. The only thing I will add is that a con man boyfriend or husband can wait years to start conning you rather than a month or two like this video suggests. I was conned out of most of my life savings by my boyfriend of six years and he didn't start conning me until 3 years into the relationship. Please don't think you can't be conned just because you've been close to someone for years or they are family.
Correct.
cw7069, I was just thinking the exact same thing. It doesn't have to be someone new; it can be someone you've "known" for some time and it doesn't have to just be about the money. Some men are just conning you emotionally for the game of it.
@@grittykitty50 Yes, especially when you've been married for so many years .
You can't even trust males...you have known for decades...they get badder as they age ..when they are in their 50s going into their 60s...and don't have anything to show for their life ..they are the Worst and all the baggage they have...Love and Romance ..and Sex is for when you are young...it is truer then....For the Very Best Companion ..get a Dog or other Pet..their Love is True...You don't need Sex as you get older..
Or friends ...
Some of us are widows as well. But I learned the game real quick! He “became a fake Christian”! God showed it to me. He even asked me if I was saved. He told all the men in the church he was going to sleep with me! He conned Christian women. It was a game to him.
Omg I just experienced this!!!! Thought dudes walk with God was soooo deep. 🙄 crazy
Smdh-Preying on women...😳
The devil himself...
Yea I'ma Sr. and avoid those "Social" teas that the Church be trya to hook Me up with..
My ex was a constant figure at the church and had everyone fooled..even the pastor..who treated him like a son..wow....there is no decent men..except my 2 sons...and no decent girls enough for them.
I remember when I started dating again. The guy was younger, and he knew I had a business and all of my own stuff. He was at my house and said, "I would like to stay here with you but I have to go to work. I could stay with you but that's $200 I'm going to miss," and he looked at me. I said, "Oh okay, well, call me when you're free," and I meant that both literally and figuratively. I've never been one to give men money. It's just not a part of my make up.
OK, see. That part about missing the $200 would have just went right over my head. I would've said, "well, you best be getting on to work, then."
Boyyyyy. Some gems here. Thank you 🙏🏽🔥🙏🏽
I was conned recently and you nailed it. Especially at the end when I was on to him he yelled, texted, even did tik toks on how disloyal I was! They lie about EVERYTHING.
Thanks so much for this. I'm new on the dating scene after 15 years and all I can say is omgggggg. I have men I've only been talking to for 3-5 days talking about having babies and telling me we can move together, they are also very impatient they want to link up immediately and im not talking about going out, they move extremely fast to the point that it scares away.
Social media has put the love scams in overdrive
@@cgray5025 yes I blame social media also
Yup known a guy for a month now and he wants to get right to it. I told him we need to get to know each other and he asked what I wanted to know but didn’t ask me any questions.
@@user-mb9jx5tx9y "he didn't ask any questions." Says a lot...
Look up hobosexual, some are just looking for a home and steady sex without doing a darn thing to earn it
"He victimizes himself with your boundaries."
MIC. DROP.
I mean just boom. Boom.
Thank you for putting these words into the world -- this is exactly what some abusers do, and it's so so so toxic, especially to folks who are already healing from a past. And when someone does this self-victimization, it can play WILD mind games. Again, thank you!
thank you for the video, i'm a singel mom, lost my husband in cancer almost 5 years ago, i was 15 when we started dating, 16 and a couple for 29 years
meeting someone again, i don't know anything ….modern dating it's scary!
This! I was with someone from 15 to 53. The first guy I dated was a narcissist. I dropped him. Talked to a few guys since they’re all the same, users. Men today are not like the ones from back in my day.
Wow! I was in a whole situation like this. 6/8 of these were his characteristics. Though I sensed it, I enjoyed the game until his aggression got the best of him. I was soooo outta there. My safety became jeopardized I’m no longer living with him anymore 😮
Definitely taking my time this go around 😂
Preach sir!! I just dodged a bullet - 7 years younger, very good looking man, suddenly got very interested in me, wanting "all, relationship"; no long term career behind him; labeled me "paranoid" for exercising caution and needing the slow pace; had a strong emotional reaction along with it; calling me out cs my age (!); expressed entitlement twice early on (he provided a service in something important for me and he was paid for it, that's how we met) stating "I saved your life". So four out of eight con - ways he pushed on me. I rejected him (after being intimate with him, as it felt too "business like" for me). Soon after, he put a WhatsApp profile photo of him and some young girl kissing him, hahaha. I'm too old and too smart for that shyte.
yup!!!!!!👏
Dude i met is like 6years younger but im like...not old 😂😂😂lmao
I got called "silly" bcz I told him not to touch me...🚩
He's couple years older than me ...I don't mess with young ones at all ..big 🚩
@kslucki his bruised ego 😂😂😂 good for you for not getting entangled with his nonsense
I know someone who without justifiable reason, is always so easily offended. Yet, in reality, he's always the most offensive in most scenarios... "Victim, victim, victim!" The moment you don't acquiesce to his wants, he has no use for you. Hahaha So very true! Pity.
This part!! Can offend the world but plays victim. 💯
Whew Chile sounds like we dated the same person 😂
This is a sign of narcissism... Victim mentality...
It's ALWAYS word salad with these people 🙄
That too!
I dealt with a con man a couple years ago I saw every red flag and called him out on it immediately he began punishing me ridiculing me putting me down then stalking me and he still keeps trying to show up. He thought I was stupid the entire time 😂I wasn’t I was lonely but I saw it, I just felt sorry for him and was nice. It was crazy how quickly he was trying to get into my finances too. I put a stop to all of it immediately. Disgusting behavior. It was never going anywhere ever I had just got out of 18 year relationship where I built a business with my ex I wasn’t about to let him into my financial life after what I had already been through. It took years to have what and I’m still trying to recover from the past trauma we ended things right before the pandemic it makes sense. I was vibing low and attracted a low life. I wasn’t about to let a stranger just move in on it and I never would. Great video
I met a narc who exhibited 100% of these behaviors and discarded his ass fast. You ain’t never lied, Kev.
I just still feel so ashamed and embarrassed. How could I let this happen to me over and over again? I’m done with dating lol 😢😢
👸don't blame yourself. i been thru much worse w/trifling academy award oscar winning men, putting on a phony act🤥! but no sex🙅until marriage 👰♀️💍has weeded out the lying loser rats🐀 much faster😌
I’ve been here recently and knew it but I had to see how far he would go
Guard your heart!
Don't be trusting of a stranger..
Be cautious!
Look for red flags when he talks...
@@mittizzaspurs9841 right and it’s upsetting when you want some real
@@TheHoodHippi exactly and even though you know how this may play out somewhere in the back of your mind you're hoping it's all in your imagination cus you had such high hopes that he's actually the one!😔
“Victim victim victim victim” is going to be my new warning alarm when I run into those types 🤣🤣 Thank you for this video and all of your uploads Kev! You’ve helped me swerve quite a few ain’t shit guys since I’ve started watching. I’m newly divorced for a year now and needed to prepare myself before I consider a new relationship.
🙌🏾
OMG yes I had some man say he had to take care of his “nana” with dementia full time, was 6”5 and made 6 figures and that was his whole personality. When I told him I didn’t want to speak to him anymore (he never asked me questions, said he wanted to take me shopping but never set up a date to meet and said he was “cheap” 😂 and that he needs to find a woman he can “tolerate”) he said his nana is on his death bed and I was the second person to reject him that day and he wants to meet but he’s so busy with his business😂 good lawd why is he dating then
That’s the worst trait, and a sure fire sign of NARCISSISM. They are always the misunderstood victim. They are constantly trying to get people to feel sorry for them. Normal functioning people do NOT like pity. Even when they deserve it! People (men or women)who seem to enjoy pity are weird.
Can definitely relate to:
- victim victim victim, always a sob story
- future protection, one day this and most of the time in the present they doing zero
- of course love bombing, they treat you you're the most wonderful thing they ever met
- over-reacting and guilt trips
I’m glad I found your channel. I’m 25 and I was in a long term relationship most of my early twenties. I don’t know what’s out here and after my relationship my heart was very open. It was hard out here. And what I’ve learned that men who aren’t even trying to approach you romantically will try you. I’ve met some real narcissistic manipulators. I will continue to watch you. Thank you 😊 edit - Even men who you’ve “known” for a long time could be this way.
I’m glad you found it too. This stuff is extremely important for young women.
A lot of these signs show a lack of self-control, and even if you think these characteristics are coming from a genuine place, a lack of self-control is not something others can deal with long-term.
I feel like all of these points can describe a man/woman who is emotionally unavailable with an insecure attachment style as well. Someone who isn’t intentionally “using” you or “controlling” you but is manipulative because of his/her insecurities. Either way, one should leave the relationship. Does that make sense?
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Cool point.
Subconscious vs conscious con - either way still a con tbh regardless of why they are manipulating you
"Born for fun, loyal to one." Themselves I guess ..
That is an original, classic, narc O.G.
I was shocked at that ovar the top narc created statement. Fascinatingly deviant.
Thanks to the Lord for the news flash!!
Jesus Christ on a crutch; as Mom used to say.
I live to walk in Faith for another day.
And a REAL man to find my Honor and stay for the Glory. That's Right.
It does!!
Wish I had learned this as a young woman. Thank you for putting this together for us! 🙏🏼
Me too! At 15 would've been helpful! Really helpful.
The entitled victim will ruin your life! 13:55 The conman accuses you of being a conwoman. Run!
One ex always dangled having kids together but I couldn’t even count on him to help me when my car broke down. What’s makes you think I would trust you with a kid or a lifetime together? 😂😂
Guys hate that I'm indifferent to kids
@@shergirl92 they think all women want or need to have kids. It removes the tethering to them 🙃
@@shergirl92 Once they realize I don’t value their seed as much as they do, it takes the winds out their sails. I’m not dying to birth your kids Sir, you aren’t special.
If he wasn't a mechanic he's not there to fix your car. LoL
@@lonniewhite4262 he was since he owned a motorcycle shop but he didn’t even offer to take a look or pick me up. In my book, if you’re my guy & I can’t even count on you in times of distress then it’s a huge red flag.
My ex-husband never said I owe him, but I started noticing when I had a little extra money he was nicer to me. I noticed another guy I dated was nicer also when I had extra money. I've learned not to care about niceness. My husband knows not to even think about playing games with me. I'll sign papers in a heartbeat, before I lose anything. Thank u Bro for this video! It's great!!!
Omg, I remember when you said your wife wants you to grow a beard a long time ago 😂 Looks good 🖤
Victim victim victim!!!!! This is absolute 🔥🔥🔥Millons of people need to see this! Liked and Shared!!💜
That entitlement is such a good point-as a giving person I could easily feel like because they gave a little, now I’m obligated to, or feel like I don’t want them to get mad..but that’s SUCH a red flag but many women, who are conflict avoidant will go forward despite feeling highly uncomfortable..thank you for backing us up where we need it so much 🙏🏼
Man , now you tell me. I’ve been coned over and over again. I keep hurting myself. I will not do this again! 😢 thank you for this message. I will listen to this over and over again. Thank you so much ❤
Please do not beat yourself up for having a decent kind heart!! Those jerks are just very well trained to preform the way they do! Think of them like the trained sea animals at ocean world or a circus. There's nothing wrong with you! They are the issue.
@@dawnjohnson6245 thank you ☺️ that’s a good way to look at it lol
@@jazminerenee4077 Years ago, I made a set of "rules". To this day, I haven't not broken them. I learned by watching other people's mistakes. No matter what a mofo tell you, NEVER date or marry a man if he doesn't have his own: "Home/apt, car, job, money & credit". Follow my rules:
1. DO NOT lend or give a man money for any reason.
2. DO NOT let him move in to live with you.
3. DO NOT put his name on your apt or home.
4. DO NOT let him drive your car.
5. DO NOT put his name on your bank account.
6. DO NOT give him a key to your car, apt or home.
7. DO NOT make him an "authorized user" on any of your credit cards.
8. DO NOT have s3x with him. (Tell him you are celibate)
9. DO NOT rent a car for him to drive.
10. DO NOT go "50/50" on a date! (The man PAYS for all dates, trips, etc. NO EXCEPTIONS!)
11. DO NOT let a man make you a "place holder", stringing you along for years with no ring or wedding date. (Date only 1 to 2 years maximum)
23. DO NOT let him know where you live, or pick you up for a date at your home. (Always drive your own car, and meet him at the place of the date.)
24. DO NOT go on "coffee dates", "meeting in the park", etc. (He's cheap, don't want to spend money on you)
25. DO NOT go to a man's home after a date for any reason.
26. DO NOT let a man come to your house to "Netflix & chill."
27. DO NOT start cooking and feeding a man. He is NOT your husband.
28. DO NOT tell him where you work, or how much money you make.
29. DO NOT give a man money to "start a business". (An old con game)
30. DO NOT tell him what type of man you're looking for. (He will only "pretend" to be him)
31. ALWAYS bring your own money and credit card with you on a date. (He may claim to not have his wallet, or not pay at all for the dinner. If so, pay YOUR half, then leave.)
32. NEVER "offer" to pay for anything on dates, including leaving a tip.
@@jazminerenee4077 Read this book ASAP! "The GAME - 41 shades of men" by Princella L.R. Clark. She talks about 41 types of men you'll meet, their lies & games, scientific data, etc. to back up everything she says. The book is FIIIRRREEE!!!! Trust me, you will never be played again after reading this book.
You need to change number #11 You are single until you’re married. A woman should never take herself off of the market. A man never takes himself off of the market and never will and a man is never ever single
I just came from commenting on TBC UA-cam page on Charlamagne recommending that con man use the low self esteem big woman for a green card and stuff. Dude got No Class man. SMH 🤦♂️
I've had men that I've known 20-25 years use these same tricks. I've seen abusers use these tricks on their actual wives. A con is a con.
The fact you put this out while going through a similar situation is kinda scary! Thank you so much 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I will stay single because I'm spoiled and i owe these men nothing. Don't be desperate ppl be comfortable being alone
Facts!!
I’ve encountered one in atlanta and shut it down immediately. It was going too fast and I later found out his whole identity and name was a lie. I love the 🏃♀️ run from that man comment soooo true!
Experienced something similar
Outstanding 8 points 😮 we need 8 more because so many romance online scammers is ruining our beautiful women. I know someone right now who’s going through it and won’t run
Michelle if I can possibly be of any assistance to your friend being as I have experienced them please let me know!! My heart breaks for anyone having to go through what they do.
This sounds like a grandiose narcissist which are the biggest con artists in the game. 😪
It's odd that the guy I was in a situationship with was financially secure but he literally had all these "signs" I felt like I was emotionally conned if that makes sense.
A narc who doesn't want to use his money for bills but to look good
Some just want to possess you
I’ve experienced the 6th one and the last one. It was so off putting and a HUGE turn off. He was ALWAYS the victim. Not only that, he believes ALL MEN ARE THE VICTIMS and I quote , “Women are the most evil creatures ever created by god.” 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Regarding #6, he indirectly complained about not being able to have access to my body after a few dinner dates because (referring to other women he’s dated) “I’m tired of filling their bellies with food and getting nothing out of it.”
Un-fucking-believable that this is all that is out there now. I’m done dating because it has become nothing but a potentially **dangerous** waste of my precious time.
That guy turned 44 years old on February 19th btw. 🤦🏼♀️
Sometimes the older the person the more bitter they can be.
Tell him "let me pay for a few of your dinners then you come do some yardwork." 😅 jk
You simply have to have the wisdom. Once you do...
And once you Detect you are in the presence of a Snake...cut him off!
But keep dating. There are white knights out there. The vultures usually get to is first...because there are sooo many
Sounds like that lady that recently went on Kendra show talking bout she met dude late last year, now already engaged to be married in April. Mann. SMH! Hopefully she wakes up soon.
You are absolutely spot on, I got taken in by someone with every single one of these traits and I fell for it, so stupid. Years on and I’m still recovering financially. I’m so glad you’re putting this information out there and I hope it makes a potential victim stop and think.
Thank you for this! I just dodged a bullet a couple of hours ago. I’m like dude you’re moving too fast…it ended with him telling me he was only looking to “hook up” and I was only ok looking and not wife material. I told him he was worse than ok looking, my last ex was my fiancé that I left, and not to be mad because he could never sleep with me lol. The nerve of these cons!! And they come in all colors too!
Yes. I kicked a yt dusty to the curb a few months back who was just a LOSER, chile. A loser at LIFE. You really do have to vet them ALL.
I’ve dated some guys who i soon found out were conmen. I actively used them for a good time, I let them pay everything since they insisted, I played along with their phantasies and future faking, then I dropped them like they meant nothing.
Iris916, be very careful. Players don't like to be played and some of these men are extremely angry and could be violent.
@@grittykitty50They don't know her either
Thank you very much for these important signs. Soooooo freaking True!
Thank you very much for this very accurate and informative video, great job 👌
This information was not just about Con men but you just perfectly described an abuser. I worked with survivors of domestic violence and the tactics and patterns of behaviors you described for Con men are the exact same tactics and behaviors of abusers. So folks, stay far, far away from such dangerous people.
Oooo.....good looking out, Kev! We on the lookout for these fools! 😅👍🏿👍🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Man this can apply to a business man to cause some of these flags happen in a business deal based on my true story.He had been con people for 20 years but because I had been in unhealthy relationships I immediately knew the signs .
Thanks that reason I stop answering my phone , but thank you I need to hear this 😊
OMG. This is so on point. Listen up ladies!! Very manipulative behaviors and there is always a motive.
3:22 - 🧐 love this, sometimes it’s about just getting back to basics. We teach our kids this & at some point we forget because we desire to only see the good 😔
Stranger Danger took me out! Mannn you my dude. 🤣🤣🤣Thank you so much for this advice, fr fr. It’s scary out here on these dating streets. God bless you and your family. 💚
I wish I had seen this in my 20s I fell for this and became a single mom because I was so ignorant to the signs. Im glad I know so much better now
Thank you. Sure wish I could have seen this about 2 years ago 😢 I was even thinking about speaking with him again. I'll remain the villain in this situation.
This is a great video! Hopefully women will listen to you cause it seems like women don’t listen to other women! Moving fast is such a huge red flag and so many women get caught up in this and get pregnant, my hope is that women, start self preserving, raising their self esteem & stop falling for these emotionally unavailable and/or abusive men. Also: The “victim, victim, victim” is stuck in my head 😂
Thanks Kev, I appreciate you 🥰😘The con-man could be anyone....it doesn't have to be a new person in your life.... I re- connected with someone I knew from high-school..... it had been at least 15years..... he was always cool..... but I picked up on some con artist behavior.... all he had to do was be himself, that was the attraction.... I didn't need convincing or controlling.... when people don't feel good about who they are and what they have accomplished in their lives they show up as the con-person
Kev over here savin’ brain cells and bank accounts!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Just know, ladies and gentlemen, these people (men and women alike) are soulless. Utterly devoid of any moral qualms or shame in ruining another person's life. If they can do it (take advantage of you in any way), they will. Don't let them! There's absolutely no way for these people to give up their lifestyle of lying and thievery, so it's unfortunately up to us ladies and gentlemen to beware of these kinds of individuals. If there is anything that you sense is even a little off, run like the wind! 🏃🏃🏻♀️ Intuition is never wrong! Anyone who doesn't accept that you have boundaries is a psychopath or narcissist or something like that, because they are mad that they can't take advantage of you!
Watch out for the guy who OVER GIVES! There are ALWAYS expectations attached to those gifts! I’m talking about gifts that are over the top and inappropriate in relation to the length of time the relationship has been going on. Love bombers.
This was so good. I’m two years out of a ten year marriage and I’m still in shock with what I’m learning from the these cons and from dating coaches. OMG I feel like I’m shark bait almost. I’m learning from the coaching though. Smh
Narcissistic behavior! Red flags flying. I'm going to start dating again after 8 years after divorce, so I really enjoyed this video. Lots of aholes on online dating sites 😢
I'm a guy and I'll warn you. Dont bother.
Sounds like a narcissist!
A woman's intuition will always alert her when things don't seem right
The problem is, we ignore those signs/feelings
But these times have already been written🙏
2 Timothy 3
3 But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. 2 People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, 4 treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God- 5 having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.
6 They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over gullible women, who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desires, 7 always learning but never able to come to a knowledge of the truth.
This should be a part of high-school education.
The skin is glowing dammit, great content
Thank you!
Yh he looks great!
Thank you so much brother for this list
It came at a right time in my life. I needed to hear this.
Thank you. 55 y.o. divorcee dating a 44 y.o. Everything is so different!!!😮😮😮. I'm always wary of time pressure situations.
Thank you. This is all true. Happily, these people leave when they do not get their way, however there are cases of women marrying these guys and losing a lot $ and health.
This video is pure Gold;; Players Beware,;sl🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
This is so helpful..I realized I already know a lot of this but it’s good to re hear it and also validate my own personal experiences where I wasn’t quite sure but ended up cutting them off (thankfully!!) and so good for women to hear in general! Thank you, you have the best content, so clear but easy to follow and real!!
He's good! I wish years ago before I went through with a con man/ narcissist ...wish I heard this. This man just laid out a con man's playbook 😂
Yes Iv had my share of con men trying to com to with that bs and when I figured them out they leave 😂 and tell me oh you don't love me I help you and carrying on I'm like bye boo thanks for the advice ❤
Hey Kev, thank you for your videos. It's helped me become more discerning and to protect my values when dealing with toxic people. 💯
Beard looking good Kev.
Thank you
Oh my gosh you are so right!! Especially point number 8. Thank you for the pointers.
Kev!!! Facts every time!
Thank you for this message!❤️
Thank you Kev. You are saving a lot of people a lot of painful experiences
Whew! I’m a brand-new subscriber. You said everything that needed to be said! I actually had decent boundaries until this last guy. Now I can’t say he is consciously conning me. But he is addicted to cigarettes & alcohol - he denies the alcohol. What I've learned from a former co-worker who’s in recovery is that all addicts are liars, even if they are just lying to themselves. So I’m being emotionally conned - if he can’t be truthful to himself, he can’t be honest with me. Thank you!! Me finding your channel is a sign that the work I’m putting in is paying off.
This advice is pure GOLD. I will keep this video and pass it along to all of my friends. Where were you ten years ago?? Would have saved me a lot of pain 😢
Note taken. I’m running!!
since im only 16 yrs old im just starting my dating journey. recently had my first love and out of nowhere he just left and betrayed me. made me feel like i didn't wanna date ever again but this video is making me feel motivated again that i will find the right person one day if i look out for these red flags.
At this age, getting your education and deciding on what career or business you want to start should be your top PRIORITY!!! Leave these boys and men alone! They will only use you for your young age, ruin your life, maybe leave you as a single mom; and before you know it all of your best years are gone. The std and HIV/AIDS rate is out of control.
What you say here is more succinct, valuable and informative than most of my university classes were. Thank you.
Thank you!
It’s mind-boggling how many of these guys (and maybe gals) are out there.
This is so helpful. I hope someone else finds it in time. What if someone has all 8? Last one should have been obvious to me but it wasn’t. The world needs more men like you. Thank you.
I really enjoy your videos. They're so helpful.
Good info! And thanks for presenting the information concisely and not drawing it out unnecessarily. Much appreciated!
Kev, I like your advice because it’s straight, true and short and to the point ! You go Kev !!!!