Love how well you think out loud your decision making process! You are actually teaching your viewers the thinking behind editing our closets. Thank you, Alyssa!
Not only our closets but our lives too, where do you want to be 3 years from now?? Ya gotta hv a home base. From there you can always travel anywhere 🌎
The pieces that you seem to want to declutter, have negative connotation attached to them. That means every time you pick them up, you get a negative feeling. Just declutter them girl. We want to reach for a piece and feel joy. 💚
Definitely agree. When decluttering I ask “does this piece make me mad?” (eg doesn’t fit right, don’t like the colour or cut) and “would I choose something else instead of this?”
OR, if it reminds you of a negative feeling, wear it to something really fun. If it looks great on you, like the dyed sweater, wear it to fun events and change the mood of the garment.
I so agree! I often love something so much when I buy it (usually 2nd hand) that I wear it as often as I can. But the following year, I may not wear it at all - because I’m a little bored with it. Then another year goes by, I rediscover the item and start wanting to wear it again. I also regret some things that I donated, and wish I hadn’t been so hasty,
Same!!!! I mean some pieces I had to just buy in my sleep 😂 But years later I still think of so many beautiful classic pieces I deemed boring where the correct name, as I matured, should be timeless quiet elegance. Oh my plum trousers please come back home…..😢
I agree. I like to set items aside (not all of them, a few may actually need to go) and pack them away in a tote with some cedar blocks and come back to them after a year. I’m usually happy to see I still have some of those items! Plus keeping things one size up or down as life (weight changes) happens. Good clothes are harder to come by now with all this made in China fast fashion so hanging onto nicer made things is just smart IMO.
@@elaineroberts7493 I regret donating things to thrift shops because I volunteer in one. The majority of op shop customers have no appreciation for good clothing and expect to pick up clothes for $2. When I have paid $150 for a dress this is highly offensive to me and I would rather leave it hanging in my closet than let some bogan buy it for $2
I love your honesty about purchasing things on a whim and being encouraged by influencers to purchase items. It really helps to see that nobody is immune. I'd love to hear if your style changed or shifted while you traveled in Europe. I know you still have your three words, but did you find you gravitated away from anything?
Your mom's shrunken merino wool sweater looks stunning on you! Not sure why, some things just work! You definitely should keep it even if just for a warming layer in winter. But you should wear if for more than just that:)
I love you in deeper, warm, higher contrast colours. Have you considered getting your colour palette assessed? You wear a lot of cool tones but I think you shine more in tones which have more warmth. Just my two cents, take it or leave it!
I’m glad you decided the green jacket. I love the green jacket I have one like it and I wear it with everything. Well not everything but I wear it a lot
I'm glad that you didn't let go of the jeans that may not fit you at the present time, but are in silhouettes that suit you. I have regretted getting rid of pieces that don't fit when I gain/lose weight and then try to replace them, when I should have just kept the original ones.
This was really helpful on a number of fronts (1) yes, it is difficult to edit. Phew! (2) the reflection and rationalization is helpful to the decision-making. I always feel better when I can actually see what I have in my closet. 😊
The white shirt dress is lovely. Try soaking it in Oxy Clean in addition to using a bar of laundry soap on the stains. I find this really helps me to maintain my white summer items.
Great format with your 'stream of consciousness' deliberation! And I am so glad you kept the red coat...it may not be one of your chosen colors, but it is definitely 'your color' in that it looks fabulous on you! Also the home-dyed sweater: love the nuance of the color, BETTER than just another black turtleneck, imo. Hope your dad is doing well; he must be so happy to have you there.
Love the guest appearance of your mom. Would love to see a clean out of her closet. Also love the KarenBritChick shout out. I follow her as well and she's wonderful in a very different way.
My best tip is before I go on holiday. I declutter ( sometimes I declutter along the way and make a donation bin in my closet) clothes/ shoes/ accessories etc… I then take them on vacation with me. I wear them in different ways and the things that make me feel good I come back with the rest I donate and come back home lighter or the same ( if I shop. I know this is not for everyone especially since ppl want to look their ultimate best on vacay for pics but I like my clothes they are nice even the things I declutter so I don’t really look frumpy on vacay. This helps a lot with those on a whim purchases.
About the peach trouser suit, someone else pointed out that it doesn't photograph well. Amen. It looks to me like the lapels are lined with sheets of plastic or whatever--they look unnaturally flat and therefore cheap. Not at all like our sweetly undone Alyssa. You are so brave and charmingly honest about your mistakes. Warm wishes for whatever comes next in your life.
I am worried for you. I hope all is well. This has to be one of the best videos - I love it so much. It could have been twice as long. And still waiting for part 2.
Thank you for thinking out loud. It made me realise that I hardly - if ever - think like this with my clothes ending up with a closet of sameness, pieces I can’t get rid of because they’ve been given to me, or spur of the moment buys I feel guilty of letting go. I loved this. I had no idea watching someone go through their closet was educational. Oh this is going to be hard for me. 🤣
@Helen Blunden You may find Alyssa's earlier videos on Decluttering also provide some additional confidence and tips. There are various ways to approach a declutter so as to reduce the "decision fatigue" and feeling overwhelmed. Saving time to try on your "Maybe" or "Unsure" pile can also clarify a keep or donate decision. Have fun!!
You set such a great example. You got rid of things I expected you to and are thinking about some I would have tossed AND some I am glad you are keeping. My closet is enormous so I will just do tops/blouses this week. Still working on my words but have a theme….
Your "umpteen ways to style" a pleated midi skirt is one of the first videos of yours that I saw, and I loved it so much that I bought a pleated midi for myself in silver...and eventually black. To each her own! That was something of yours that I loved but that I wanted in more cool, "me" colors. Both of those were purchased new at retail because I could not find what I wanted in gently used, although I m buying a lot more gently used than I used to. Merci!
This made me smile - I remember that video as the first of Alyssa's I watched, having bought a pleated midi because I liked the idea of it and then just couldn't get it to work for me.... which ended up being the beginning of my slow fashion journey and better understanding my style (said skirt has since been sold... with tags!) :)
I don’t know why… but your way of speaking registers some genuine warmth and niceness, which I really like. Thank you for sharing your decluttering process! This is very educational as well as inspiring-I’m gonna declutter my closet!
Alyssa, regarding the white silk dress, I've had a lot of success using The Laundress products to address the pit and collar stains, even on delicate fabrics. Saved many a beloved item!
Try soaking the white dress in Oxy clean. I soaked my mothers yellowed wedding dress in Oxy, a lot of Oxy clean, for two days and it is 100% white again. No yellowing. You almost need to make a paste with water.
@@kimchristensen2091 this! ☝️And baking soda+vinegar as a step 2 if the stains remains. I tried it on my wedding dress along with the OXY clean and the water immediately turned yellow.
This was inspiring and thank you for letting us see your struggle and process. I have a hard time letting go of good pieces, in good shape etc, but they simply aren't me. You bring me back to my 3 words, so important. Thank you!!
@@AlyssaBeltempo I’m really enjoying the videos! You walk through your process without waffle and fluff. Who are you favorite designers or clothing lines for women? I’m looking specifically for well made, classic, long lasting items ( ie not fast fashion ) Thank you
Thank you for sharing how you talk through your rationale. I held my breathe hoping you would keep the lavender dress! That dress is gorgeous and it really looks great on you. I so hope your seamstress can make it work for you and would so love to see the change if it happens.
Oh gosh this was so much fun! Love watching how you deliberate/decide (especially referencing back to your three words, and whether or not to go with it!). If it's not too late, I'd love to see a try-on of before and after you get those few items tailored and then what you decide about them. Looking forward to seeing Part 2!
Since you love the white silk shirtdress, maybe your seamstress could re-create it for you. That also would give you a pattern to make others in your choice of fabrics, if you were so inclined.
I'm so invested into your wardrobe. I've thought about that Christian Dior dress so many times. It's so so pretty.. It does go with my three words for sure 😉
That dress doesn't look like your style at all. I've tried altering things like that and it's just throwing away money. I was still unhappy with them! I'm sure someone else would love that dress as is.
@@IevaKambarovaite OMG BEST ANSWER EVER. It's all good - I have spoken to my favourite vintage reseller and she will make sure it goes to a good home :)
I loved this! Not only because I know most of your pieces and your vibe, but because you share your thought process! I am getting much better at decluttering too, thanks to your example! AND now with wish lists, low buys and other such strategies, I am really saving myself from making mistakes in the first place! Again, thanks to you!
Fun and alot of work!!!! Good luck with Part 2. Please keep the Italian bomber...way too cool to ler that go! Will be excited to see your evolution! Xo Joanne
Sooo happy & relieved you're keeping the camel suit to split up with other pieces not together! Also, yay pockets! Thanks for the inspiration, I 've reached critical mass & need to get busy!!
Loved this! Super helpful to hear your decision process about letting go of items. Your mom is awesome. Loved that she commented on the "silhouette" of the sweater in helping you decide. Reminds me of my stylish mom. Hope you are doing ok. Sounds like there are some stressful things going on in your life right now. Remember to take some time for yourself. xo
If you still have the white dress, try sunshine. The sun has amazing ability to bleach stains out of white. You may need to wait for summer since your winter sun may not be intense enough. I stained a favorite white tee with lily pollen. I tried every commercial and homemade stain remedy known to man and those stains didn’t budge. A day in the summer sun did the trick!
Hi Alyssa! Loved hearing your process. Thank you for sharing. That silk shirt dress is amazing! I'm so glad you kept it! You can try soaking it in white vinegar solution for 30 min or even boiling it in water to make it white again. It's a stunning piece. Big hugs, n 🍁🍁🍁
I just did re-evaluate my clothes, based on the 3 words l discovered (thanks to you). Didn’t have to purge a lot, which is great. It eas easy to let go! And l found out why everything is there and how to wear them!
One of the biggest challenges I have with my wardrobe, is collecting items for my actual life vs my fantasy self! It requires a lot of soul searching. I have dressy pieces in my closet that I added over time, for a special occasion that has not happened yet, lol, so I am learning to be ok with that!!
If I dare for once to give advice to you, rather than listen to what you say: keep your too big pieces! My weight is going up and down all the time (I mean, Covid didn't help, but it was the case my whole life with my depression, for which I am getting help btw), and I have over the years gotten rid of soooo many great items. Whenever I came back to something similar to my previous weight, I've always wished I kept the old pieces. Nowadays I just pack them in cardboard boxes and put up the loft. They don't have to clutter my closet, but they are good to keep.
Ciao Alyssa. When you said that the pieces that you wanted to let go are pieces that were supposed to be your vibe: that really resonated with me and I realized they are those I'm letting go. Deep learning. Thanks for having always something to share. Un abrazo desde Madrid, España
I wish I could declutter again I am struggling with finding myself , I did the konMari method with my clothes , I really need to do it again but my weight goes up and down so drastically since going through menopause . I’m currently not able to fit in a lot of my clothes most are secondhand . Your video is helping me to at least try .
I love this video! I am also going to declutter soon. Your mom is pretty,like mom like daughter! By the way that grey blazer you were going to get rid of looked very classy on you!!❤️👍
When I have a piece like your white dress, I will typically save it as a template for another garment. I do this with perfect-fitting khakis that get stains or holes: I find another garment that’s similar on sale (or at a thrift shop) that’s about a size too big, take it into the tailor with the old pair of khakis and say “Make these the same as those” and it works every single time.
This was so eye opening, holy cow I’m heading to the closet TODAY. Thank you so much for taking the time to talk through your honest reasoning behind purchases, that part trips me up often when looking to purge.
I thrifted the most beautiful light wool blend muted brown pant suit from the men’s section for $10. I just had to tweak the jacket a little to bring the shoulders in on that same visit I got a chocolate brown cardigan which will go really cute under it maybe with a button down as well. I can’t wait to wear it. Didn’t have to change the hem either they were perfect length for my 33” inseam
Loved the raw and real feel this video has. So sick of all the 'styling lessons' videos on yt which are actually just advertisements. (I do get that people just want to make a living, too). So I love your honest approach, including your real thoughts about your items and whether they work for YOU in YOUR environment. Your Mom's iconic, by the way! I've "borrowed" so many of my moms vintage cashmere sweaters over the years...wouldn't know what to do without them.
Also, a couple of minutes in my brain started imagining a parody skit of this: a woman in a time of personal upheaval (disappointed by love), at 1am with 3rd glass of wine in hand, yelling at a beige sweater/no one in particular "what are you then, a crew neck or a scoop neck? Commit to something!!!" And then moving on to a DIY haircut tutorial... 🤭
I have just finished my decluttering on the weekend. It seems that there is always something that we need to justify keeping even though we know it's not my style. So after watching your video they are going to another loving home. Thanks for clarifying my thought process.
Last summer I did the Marie Kondo way on everything in the house.The last half year I have gone constantly deeper into being concious about my closet, taking out some things and added some basics. Now, after seing your Shop your closet twice this week (recorded from last saturday) AND digitalized everything into OPEN WARDROBE, AND landing on three words, I am kind of exhausted. But I think finished. For now. So thanks, I have a great closet to shop from now, starting to see my garnments as my ELEMENTS OF STYLE, juhu :)
I had a job change and my wardrobe is very relax so I wear jeans daily now that it’s fall. I have two pairs of trouser chino’s that I feel the same way about. However I wish I could get rid of all the business casual I acquired the last 2 1/2 years but I’m afraid if I make another career change I will need it again. I’m fluctuating in weight but in the opposite direction where I have gained weight.
😊Yes, even in the best of times, not all of us can rush out & buy 💳 a whole new wardrobe whenever the whim takes us. L🤍ve that Alyssa's approach to style definitely leans toward being more integrative on the whole. 😉Tend to think in terms of category clothes: church, office, special, date, play/errands, exercise, etc. 💰Invested in more formal quality corporate fashion for decades that I refuse to part. Shifted into a more informal lifestyle, but there are times I still want to look authoritative & powerful. Plus, gifted stylists like her cleverly show us how to use classic suit pieces🖤 in more casual, ageless ways. 🎲🎲 Odds are I will return to a more stuffy job before I retire. Plus, I do seem to flutuate ⏫️up & down⏬️ on the scale ⚖️. Nice to have clothes in reserve that I can draw upon for these reasons. 💚Bridget from Cali☘️ (using my pal's YT acct)
OOOhh !! the lilac Dior ! on a a padded hanger would be better, you will surely have that event which calls for a superb dress. I enjoy your company on youtube , we don not always have sunny days , having a to do list and catching up with your content is refreshing, xx
I totally understand about having pockets!!! I declutter 2x a year by warm & cold season clothes, but I struggle with the pieces that checked all the boxes when I got them and somehow just don’t wear very often. 🫤
The white shirt dress is lovely. For my white/light coloured pieces that I love where I can’t remove a stain… I dye them with a fabric dye-black/grey… or another colour depending on your preference.
This is so relatable, I love how you went through everything. Made me feel a bit less guilty about those items I had high hopes for in my wardrobe that just didn’t end up working out for my lifestyle even though I try to be very mindful with every purchase!
Try a Product called OUT/ "White Brite" that will take the yellow stains out of your White shirt dress. I have been using it for 10 years. Every spring I do this to re-fresh to my white Capri's, white Jeans & Tees for the up-coming summer months. Works great for bed linens & towels too. Soak for minimum of a half hour. Then wash as usual. Try to use the warmest to hottest water the garment can take.
I usually detox my closet twice a year, spring and fall.It is such a great feeling doing it and checking if the clothes are still aligned with your personality.
This was really fun!! Stains are my nemisis, especially sunscreen and armpit stains on white, and sometimes there is just no way I can get them out. What I loved about this is when you pull items out of your closet like that, nothing personal lol but I think, meh, none of those pieces look that great to me. HOWEVER I know from having you wear them that they look like a million bucks on you because of how you wear them and style them. Which makes me think of my own clothes differently. Love your mom’s cameo appearance too!
Oh wow!!! That was so fun! I feel like we took a walk down memory lane!! I was remembering how you styled those lacy shorts, and that pleated skirt, and that comme de garçon T-shirt!! So fun and it will be so fun to pass some of it on to someone else! Great video!
Love hearing your thought process when sorting through your closet and talking through what can stay and go. I have been evolving my mindset and closet to reflect more of the slow fashion movement, and your videos are always useful and inspiring! Thank you, Alyssa! :)
I really appreciated your process in this video. I have been decluttering recently and really struggled with certain pieces. Which, I have sat on the fence with for ages! I just need to let them go and move on. Thank you Alyssa, for continuing to inspire me.
This was such a fun video to watch! Idea for your silk dress - dye it a darker colour if you can't get the stains out! I did that recently with a white dress shirt I loved that I stained with sunscreen. Now it's a dark grey and still in rotation!
Maybe it was due to the editing process but YOWZA, you sure made a quick decision re: that 2-tone jacket! I find that I typically need a few days to dwell/think about any item I'm considering letting go. Mad skills, Alyssa!!!
Loved this, Alyssa! I’m glad you ended up keeping that green pleated skirt; I love it on you. I remember when you got those grey trousers. I think you swapped them out for another pair of pants you had in your closet. At the time, I really liked the pants you got rid of and I wasn’t a fan of the grey trousers. So funny that you ended up not liking them. For stains on your white shirt dress, try equal parts baking soda, peroxide and Dawn dish soap. It makes a paste and lifts any stain on my white linen shirt. Try it on the underarms, but it mightn’t work. However, those coffee stains will be history. Love you channel!😍
This was such a therapeutic video to watch, you gave me so much confidence regarding making those difficult decisions whether to keep something or to let go! Thank you.
Very helpful to watch (and hear) you go through your closet and decide what stays, what goes. Lately I've been doing this: I pick out something to wear on a "who cares how I look" day and if I feel good in it all day, it's a keeper. If I am uncomfortable or just don't like the look, it immediately gets rewashed and goes into a bag for donations.
My fave: if it’s not a hell yes it’s a no! ❤
Oooh yes i love this!!
Love how well you think out loud your decision making process! You are actually teaching your viewers the thinking behind editing our closets. Thank you, Alyssa!
Ooh I'm so glad you found it helpful and not just rambling lol thank you for watching!
Not only our closets but our lives too, where do you want to be 3 years from now?? Ya gotta hv a home base. From there you can always travel anywhere 🌎
Agreed
Do you have any videos that help us identify our 3 words?
See? When you get back to Canada, the Ehs begin.😘 Canadian here living abroad.
The pieces that you seem to want to declutter, have negative connotation attached to them. That means every time you pick them up, you get a negative feeling. Just declutter them girl. We want to reach for a piece and feel joy. 💚
I can relate to this! You are right. If it's attached to a bad memory I need to say good bye..
Ahhh I feel this! Thank you for the validation!
That's an astute comment.
Definitely agree. When decluttering I ask “does this piece make me mad?” (eg doesn’t fit right, don’t like the colour or cut) and “would I choose something else instead of this?”
OR, if it reminds you of a negative feeling, wear it to something really fun. If it looks great on you, like the dyed sweater, wear it to fun events and change the mood of the garment.
Alyssa, don’t rush, I regret 90% of my de clutter. ´ Haven’t worn it for a year? Get rid of it. ‘ what a mistake listening to that rule.
I so agree! I often love something so much when I buy it (usually 2nd hand) that I wear it as often as I can. But the following year, I may not wear it at all - because I’m a little bored with it. Then another year goes by, I rediscover the item and start wanting to wear it again. I also regret some things that I donated, and wish I hadn’t been so hasty,
Same!!!! I mean some pieces I had to just buy in my sleep 😂 But years later I still think of so many beautiful classic pieces I deemed boring where the correct name, as I matured, should be timeless quiet elegance. Oh my plum trousers please come back home…..😢
I agree. I like to set items aside (not all of them, a few may actually need to go) and pack them away in a tote with some cedar blocks and come back to them after a year. I’m usually happy to see I still have some of those items! Plus keeping things one size up or down as life (weight changes) happens. Good clothes are harder to come by now with all this made in China fast fashion so hanging onto nicer made things is just smart IMO.
My weight also fluctuates, so sometimes certain garments look better than others. Better than buying new clothes every time I gain/lose a few lbs
@@elaineroberts7493 I regret donating things to thrift shops because I volunteer in one. The majority of op shop customers have no appreciation for good clothing and expect to pick up clothes for $2. When I have paid $150 for a dress this is highly offensive to me and I would rather leave it hanging in my closet than let some bogan buy it for $2
Seeing how you think through things is so helpful as I work on finding my own individual style. Loved the moment with your mom. 😊💖
Ooh glad it helped! xx
I love your honesty about purchasing things on a whim and being encouraged by influencers to purchase items. It really helps to see that nobody is immune. I'd love to hear if your style changed or shifted while you traveled in Europe. I know you still have your three words, but did you find you gravitated away from anything?
Your mom's shrunken merino wool sweater looks stunning on you! Not sure why, some things just work! You definitely should keep it even if just for a warming layer in winter. But you should wear if for more than just that:)
Being honest about your lifestyle and your style is refreshing. That's what I'm telling myself more and more. Thanks!
Yes! It's worth it down the road!
I love you in deeper, warm, higher contrast colours. Have you considered getting your colour palette assessed? You wear a lot of cool tones but I think you shine more in tones which have more warmth. Just my two cents, take it or leave it!
Funny, I think the opposite. Her skin looks darker but Im pretty sure it's olive. To me silver, pearl greys and optic white look amazing on her.
OMG!!! I’m in love with your mom! She’s such an elegant lady.
@7:43 🤣 "I don't know why I'm trying this on...." Yep. Pass. I love your mom. She's right - keep that blackish sweater.
for the white dress have your seamstress make a pattern from it and make a copy of it for you in white or other colors.
I’m glad you decided the green jacket. I love the green jacket I have one like it and I wear it with everything. Well not everything but I wear it a lot
I'm glad that you didn't let go of the jeans that may not fit you at the present time, but are in silhouettes that suit you. I have regretted getting rid of pieces that don't fit when I gain/lose weight and then try to replace them, when I should have just kept the original ones.
This was really helpful on a number of fronts (1) yes, it is difficult to edit. Phew! (2) the reflection and rationalization is helpful to the decision-making. I always feel better when I can actually see what I have in my closet. 😊
The white shirt dress is lovely. Try soaking it in Oxy Clean in addition to using a bar of laundry soap on the stains. I find this really helps me to maintain my white summer items.
Great format with your 'stream of consciousness' deliberation! And I am so glad you kept the red coat...it may not be one of your chosen colors, but it is definitely 'your color' in that it looks fabulous on you! Also the home-dyed sweater: love the nuance of the color, BETTER than just another black turtleneck, imo. Hope your dad is doing well; he must be so happy to have you there.
Love the guest appearance of your mom. Would love to see a clean out of her closet. Also love the KarenBritChick shout out. I follow her as well and she's wonderful in a very different way.
The blue and gray jacket from Italy...so so beautiful on you 😭
My best tip is before I go on holiday. I declutter ( sometimes I declutter along the way and make a donation bin in my closet) clothes/ shoes/ accessories etc… I then take them on vacation with me. I wear them in different ways and the things that make me feel good I come back with the rest I donate and come back home lighter or the same ( if I shop. I know this is not for everyone especially since ppl want to look their ultimate best on vacay for pics but I like my clothes they are nice even the things I declutter so I don’t really look frumpy on vacay. This helps a lot with those on a whim purchases.
About the peach trouser suit, someone else pointed out that it doesn't photograph well. Amen. It looks to me like the lapels are lined with sheets of plastic or whatever--they look unnaturally flat and therefore cheap. Not at all like our sweetly undone Alyssa. You are so brave and charmingly honest about your mistakes. Warm wishes for whatever comes next in your life.
I am worried for you. I hope all is well.
This has to be one of the best videos - I love it so much. It could have been twice as long. And still waiting for part 2.
Watched the beginning of your video, decluttered a bunch of tshirts i never wear. Watched the end of the video. 😁
Thank you for thinking out loud. It made me realise that I hardly - if ever - think like this with my clothes ending up with a closet of sameness, pieces I can’t get rid of because they’ve been given to me, or spur of the moment buys I feel guilty of letting go. I loved this. I had no idea watching someone go through their closet was educational. Oh this is going to be hard for me. 🤣
@Helen Blunden You may find Alyssa's earlier videos on Decluttering also provide some additional confidence and tips. There are various ways to approach a declutter so as to reduce the "decision fatigue" and feeling overwhelmed. Saving time to try on your "Maybe" or "Unsure" pile can also clarify a keep or donate decision. Have fun!!
You set such a great example. You got rid of things I expected you to and are thinking about some I would have tossed AND some I am glad you are keeping. My closet is enormous so I will just do tops/blouses this week. Still working on my words but have a theme….
Your "umpteen ways to style" a pleated midi skirt is one of the first videos of yours that I saw, and I loved it so much that I bought a pleated midi for myself in silver...and eventually black. To each her own! That was something of yours that I loved but that I wanted in more cool, "me" colors. Both of those were purchased new at retail because I could not find what I wanted in gently used, although I m buying a lot more gently used than I used to. Merci!
This made me smile - I remember that video as the first of Alyssa's I watched, having bought a pleated midi because I liked the idea of it and then just couldn't get it to work for me.... which ended up being the beginning of my slow fashion journey and better understanding my style (said skirt has since been sold... with tags!) :)
The question I've found most helpful in making decluttering decisions is, "Would I buy this again?"--makes it much easier.
I don’t know why… but your way of speaking registers some genuine warmth and niceness, which I really like. Thank you for sharing your decluttering process! This is very educational as well as inspiring-I’m gonna declutter my closet!
The fact that you struggle to de-clutter too, makes me feel better about my indecision!
Alyssa, regarding the white silk dress, I've had a lot of success using The Laundress products to address the pit and collar stains, even on delicate fabrics. Saved many a beloved item!
I’m wondering if dying it a dark colour/ black would hide the stains or not? Maybe someone with more knowledge could let me know.
Try soaking the white dress in Oxy clean. I soaked my mothers yellowed wedding dress in Oxy, a lot of Oxy clean, for two days and it is 100% white again. No yellowing. You almost need to make a paste with water.
@@kimchristensen2091 this! ☝️And baking soda+vinegar as a step 2 if the stains remains. I tried it on my wedding dress along with the OXY clean and the water immediately turned yellow.
@@kimchristensen2091 ooooh haven't tried oxy yet!! Thank you!
@@tilywinn yes!! Dying will be my last resort!!
This was inspiring and thank you for letting us see your struggle and process. I have a hard time letting go of good pieces, in good shape etc, but they simply aren't me. You bring me back to my 3 words, so important. Thank you!!
Ooh I'm so glad you found it helpful - the struggle is real!
@@AlyssaBeltempo
I’m really enjoying the videos! You walk through your process without waffle and fluff. Who are you favorite designers or clothing lines for women? I’m looking specifically for well made, classic, long lasting items ( ie not fast fashion ) Thank you
It's great to meet your mom on this video!
Thank you for sharing how you talk through your rationale. I held my breathe hoping you would keep the lavender dress! That dress is gorgeous and it really looks great on you. I so hope your seamstress can make it work for you and would so love to see the change if it happens.
I find you very relatable when you can’t let go of something deep down you know you don’t wear 😂❤❤❤. The struggle is real. 😊
I’m shocked how much I liked and benefitted from this video. Just watching how you made decisions was very helpful!
Love when you think to yourself out loud.
Oh gosh this was so much fun! Love watching how you deliberate/decide (especially referencing back to your three words, and whether or not to go with it!). If it's not too late, I'd love to see a try-on of before and after you get those few items tailored and then what you decide about them. Looking forward to seeing Part 2!
Since you love the white silk shirtdress, maybe your seamstress could re-create it for you. That also would give you a pattern to make others in your choice of fabrics, if you were so inclined.
No wonder you have such good style sense as your Mom exudes it naturally. You’re a lucky lady 😊
Love your mom’s cameo. Bring her back 😊
I'm so invested into your wardrobe. I've thought about that Christian Dior dress so many times. It's so so pretty.. It does go with my three words for sure 😉
Oooh Ieva ... I am thinking of selling it - let me know if you're interested I think it would really suit you!
That dress doesn't look like your style at all. I've tried altering things like that and it's just throwing away money. I was still unhappy with them! I'm sure someone else would love that dress as is.
@@AlyssaBeltempo you're too kind, Alyssa.. I have too many dresses 🤦🏻♀️
@@IevaKambarovaite OMG BEST ANSWER EVER. It's all good - I have spoken to my favourite vintage reseller and she will make sure it goes to a good home :)
@@susanwexler6983 lol that's so funny, i had the same thought! See my note above!
Really fun. Love hearing your thought process. Would love to see what your seamstress comes up with…pocket in the slacks….neckline on the Dior.
I loved this! Not only because I know most of your pieces and your vibe, but because you share your thought process! I am getting much better at decluttering too, thanks to your example! AND now with wish lists, low buys and other such strategies, I am really saving myself from making mistakes in the first place! Again, thanks to you!
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Fun and alot of work!!!! Good luck with Part 2. Please keep the Italian bomber...way too cool to ler that go! Will be excited to see your evolution! Xo Joanne
One of my 2023 tasks to go through jackets...and sweaters! Thanks for the encouragement. 😁
Beautiful Mom! ❤️
When I changed to a natural deo I stopped staining the pits of my white shirts. Thanks for sharing your edit process. Very helpful.
Sooo happy & relieved you're keeping the camel suit to split up with other pieces not together! Also, yay pockets! Thanks for the inspiration, I 've reached critical mass & need to get busy!!
Hey, this was fun. Re the white silk shirt dress, you can try Rit dye. Silk takes dye really well. You can even look up organic dyes.
Yesss thank you Naureen I love this idea if the cleaning ideas don't work!
Loved this! Super helpful to hear your decision process about letting go of items. Your mom is awesome. Loved that she commented on the "silhouette" of the sweater in helping you decide. Reminds me of my stylish mom. Hope you are doing ok. Sounds like there are some stressful things going on in your life right now. Remember to take some time for yourself. xo
If you still have the white dress, try sunshine. The sun has amazing ability to bleach stains out of white. You may need to wait for summer since your winter sun may not be intense enough. I stained a favorite white tee with lily pollen. I tried every commercial and homemade stain remedy known to man and those stains didn’t budge. A day in the summer sun did the trick!
Hi Alyssa! Loved hearing your process. Thank you for sharing. That silk shirt dress is amazing! I'm so glad you kept it! You can try soaking it in white vinegar solution for 30 min or even boiling it in water to make it white again. It's a stunning piece. Big hugs, n 🍁🍁🍁
I just did re-evaluate my clothes, based on the 3 words l discovered (thanks to you). Didn’t have to purge a lot, which is great. It eas easy to let go! And l found out why everything is there and how to wear them!
One of the biggest challenges I have with my wardrobe, is collecting items for my actual life vs my fantasy self! It requires a lot of soul searching. I have dressy pieces in my closet that I added over time, for a special occasion that has not happened yet, lol, so I am learning to be ok with that!!
Dying laughing at your delayed gratification “decisions”. Giving maybes another season of opportunity to stay or go. Decluttering? 🙄 Me? Same!
If I dare for once to give advice to you, rather than listen to what you say: keep your too big pieces! My weight is going up and down all the time (I mean, Covid didn't help, but it was the case my whole life with my depression, for which I am getting help btw), and I have over the years gotten rid of soooo many great items. Whenever I came back to something similar to my previous weight, I've always wished I kept the old pieces. Nowadays I just pack them in cardboard boxes and put up the loft. They don't have to clutter my closet, but they are good to keep.
I remember you dying that sweater. It feels like I'm decluttering with my sister 😊 absolutely love it
I was keeping my fingers crossed for the slip skirt and brocade jacket!
@@Keapix looks like we all have our favourites 😉
Ciao Alyssa. When you said that the pieces that you wanted to let go are pieces that were supposed to be your vibe: that really resonated with me and I realized they are those I'm letting go. Deep learning. Thanks for having always something to share. Un abrazo desde Madrid, España
Don't chuck the baby blue sweater!! Looks gorgeous on you 😍
Gosh I’m happy I found you!
The part with tapered trousers 😂👌🏾❤️
I love watching the thought process and the struggle! Thanks for sharing.
Loved the pale pink turtle neck..I know you ended up letting it go. You have inspired me to go back through my closet and let go of a few things
I wish I could declutter again I am struggling with finding myself , I did the konMari method with my clothes , I really need to do it again but my weight goes up and down so drastically since going through menopause . I’m currently not able to fit in a lot of my clothes most are secondhand . Your video is helping me to at least try .
I love this video! I am also going to declutter soon. Your mom is pretty,like mom like daughter! By the way that grey blazer you were going to get rid of looked very classy on you!!❤️👍
When I have a piece like your white dress, I will typically save it as a template for another garment. I do this with perfect-fitting khakis that get stains or holes: I find another garment that’s similar on sale (or at a thrift shop) that’s about a size too big, take it into the tailor with the old pair of khakis and say “Make these the same as those” and it works every single time.
This was so eye opening, holy cow I’m heading to the closet TODAY. Thank you so much for taking the time to talk through your honest reasoning behind purchases, that part trips me up often when looking to purge.
I thrifted the most beautiful light wool blend muted brown pant suit from the men’s section for $10. I just had to tweak the jacket a little to bring the shoulders in on that same visit I got a chocolate brown cardigan which will go really cute under it maybe with a button down as well. I can’t wait to wear it. Didn’t have to change the hem either they were perfect length for my 33” inseam
Loved the raw and real feel this video has. So sick of all the 'styling lessons' videos on yt which are actually just advertisements. (I do get that people just want to make a living, too). So I love your honest approach, including your real thoughts about your items and whether they work for YOU in YOUR environment. Your Mom's iconic, by the way! I've "borrowed" so many of my moms vintage cashmere sweaters over the years...wouldn't know what to do without them.
Also, a couple of minutes in my brain started imagining a parody skit of this: a woman in a time of personal upheaval (disappointed by love), at 1am with 3rd glass of wine in hand, yelling at a beige sweater/no one in particular "what are you then, a crew neck or a scoop neck? Commit to something!!!" And then moving on to a DIY haircut tutorial... 🤭
@@segafred1239 bahhahah this is amazing
Your mom is adorable! Sounds like my mom, she always loves when I declutter cause she gets everything I don’t keep.
I love seeing your thought process! The baby blue sweater looks good on you. You should keep it! 🙂
I have just finished my decluttering on the weekend. It seems that there is always something that we need to justify keeping even though we know it's not my style. So after watching your video they are going to another loving home. Thanks for clarifying my thought process.
Ok love your mom!
Last summer I did the Marie Kondo way on everything in the house.The last half year I have gone constantly deeper into being concious about my closet, taking out some things and added some basics. Now, after seing your Shop your closet twice this week (recorded from last saturday) AND digitalized everything into OPEN WARDROBE, AND landing on three words, I am kind of exhausted. But I think finished. For now. So thanks, I have a great closet to shop from now, starting to see my garnments as my ELEMENTS OF STYLE, juhu :)
I had a job change and my wardrobe is very relax so I wear jeans daily now that it’s fall. I have two pairs of trouser chino’s that I feel the same way about.
However I wish I could get rid of all the business casual I acquired the last 2 1/2 years but I’m afraid if I make another career change I will need it again.
I’m fluctuating in weight but in the opposite direction where I have gained weight.
😊Yes, even in the best of times, not all of us can rush out & buy 💳 a whole new wardrobe whenever the whim takes us.
L🤍ve that Alyssa's approach to style definitely leans toward being more integrative on the whole. 😉Tend to think in terms of category clothes: church, office, special, date, play/errands, exercise, etc.
💰Invested in more formal quality corporate fashion for decades that I refuse to part. Shifted into a more informal lifestyle, but there are times I still want to look authoritative & powerful. Plus, gifted stylists like her cleverly show us how to use classic suit pieces🖤 in more casual, ageless ways.
🎲🎲 Odds are I will return to a more stuffy job before I retire. Plus, I do seem to flutuate ⏫️up & down⏬️ on the scale ⚖️. Nice to have clothes in reserve that I can draw upon for these reasons.
💚Bridget from Cali☘️
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So chic! Black and blue!
The dyed sweater is also great
OOOhh !! the lilac Dior ! on a a padded hanger would be better,
you will surely have that event which calls for a superb dress.
I enjoy your company on youtube , we don not always have sunny days ,
having a to do list and catching up with your content is refreshing, xx
I totally understand about having pockets!!! I declutter 2x a year by warm & cold season clothes, but I struggle with the pieces that checked all the boxes when I got them and somehow just don’t wear very often. 🫤
This was very inspiring. I do think the baby blue sweater looked lovely on you though 😊
The white shirt dress is lovely. For my white/light coloured pieces that I love where I can’t remove a stain… I dye them with a fabric dye-black/grey… or another colour depending on your preference.
I am cleaning and purging my closet today! Great timing:) And, I always enjoy your content.
Great video. Time to revisit your words video. I let go of jeans that were to small now I regret that.
I ❤ Marie Kondo’s saying - does it spark joy? 😊
OMG that dyed sweater is my favorite thing you own!! LOLOL!!
This is so relatable, I love how you went through everything. Made me feel a bit less guilty about those items I had high hopes for in my wardrobe that just didn’t end up working out for my lifestyle even though I try to be very mindful with every purchase!
Try a Product called OUT/ "White Brite" that will take the yellow stains out of your White shirt dress. I have been using it for 10 years. Every spring I do this to re-fresh to my white Capri's, white Jeans & Tees for the up-coming summer months. Works great for bed linens & towels too. Soak for minimum of a half hour. Then wash as usual. Try to use the warmest to hottest water the garment can take.
I usually detox my closet twice a year, spring and fall.It is such a great feeling doing it and checking if the clothes are still aligned with your personality.
Love your stylish mom! This was such a great video. It makes me want to take the rest of this rainy day and declutter. You inspire!
This was really fun!! Stains are my nemisis, especially sunscreen and armpit stains on white, and sometimes there is just no way I can get them out. What I loved about this is when you pull items out of your closet like that, nothing personal lol but I think, meh, none of those pieces look that great to me. HOWEVER I know from having you wear them that they look like a million bucks on you because of how you wear them and style them. Which makes me think of my own clothes differently. Love your mom’s cameo appearance too!
Oh wow!!! That was so fun! I feel like we took a walk down memory lane!! I was remembering how you styled those lacy shorts, and that pleated skirt, and that comme de garçon T-shirt!! So fun and it will be so fun to pass some of it on to someone else! Great video!
Love hearing your thought process when sorting through your closet and talking through what can stay and go. I have been evolving my mindset and closet to reflect more of the slow fashion movement, and your videos are always useful and inspiring! Thank you, Alyssa! :)
I really appreciated your process in this video. I have been decluttering recently and really struggled with certain pieces. Which, I have sat on the fence with for ages! I just need to let them go and move on. Thank you Alyssa, for continuing to inspire me.
This was such a fun video to watch! Idea for your silk dress - dye it a darker colour if you can't get the stains out! I did that recently with a white dress shirt I loved that I stained with sunscreen. Now it's a dark grey and still in rotation!
Thanx again, always looking forward to your videos 🎉 Whatever you are going through, be well 🤗
Maybe it was due to the editing process but YOWZA, you sure made a quick decision re: that 2-tone jacket! I find that I typically need a few days to dwell/think about any item I'm considering letting go. Mad skills, Alyssa!!!
Same here. Need to dwell a few days before deciding to finally letting go.
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You look great in that two tone jacket. Seems like it would great with a skirt.
Loved this, Alyssa! I’m glad you ended up keeping that green pleated skirt; I love it on you. I remember when you got those grey trousers. I think you swapped them out for another pair of pants you had in your closet. At the time, I really liked the pants you got rid of and I wasn’t a fan of the grey trousers. So funny that you ended up not liking them. For stains on your white shirt dress, try equal parts baking soda, peroxide and Dawn dish soap. It makes a paste and lifts any stain on my white linen shirt. Try it on the underarms, but it mightn’t work. However, those coffee stains will be history. Love you channel!😍
Loved seeing the process, loved the cameo of your beautiful mom, and love your channel!
Thanks for sharing 🤗
This was such a therapeutic video to watch, you gave me so much confidence regarding making those difficult decisions whether to keep something or to let go! Thank you.
Very helpful to watch (and hear) you go through your closet and decide what stays, what goes. Lately I've been doing this: I pick out something to wear on a "who cares how I look" day and if I feel good in it all day, it's a keeper. If I am uncomfortable or just don't like the look, it immediately gets rewashed and goes into a bag for donations.
Hello Alyssa, hearing you talk to yourself about your clothes with such honesty and humour bought such a big smile and just made my day :)