Hey loves! If you're trying to figure our where to start so that it doesn't feel overwhelming, this video shares EXACTLY what I did: ua-cam.com/video/mFIqMyN6FHI/v-deo.htmlsi=EoiHxmFVe0JVnZer
As a guy i have a 6 months rule if i dont use a item or object in 6 months it goes if im not sure ill pack it in a cupboard for future removals but still usable when needed if i dont use that the next 6 months it goes to the bin. My problem is despite me not having anything or care to horde stuff the rest of the family will think hey i might use this one day and keeps everything. Even the clothes i have 7 identical pants and 7 similar tops it is less then a 1/4 of space hanging the rest is the wifes clotes and half of that she is too big for and keep saying it will fit if i lose weight... I did my part i can only bring a horse to water short from drowning it i cant make it drink.
To Kristi or any of her followers: If any of you know of a UA-camr that addresses the following, please let me know. I noticed almost all decluttering UA-camrs show how to get rid of stuff when it's attained through the same mindset: simply buying more than you get rid off. This video being a prime example. That's not the problem with members of my family. This is just my theory, but the mindset we're dealing with seems to come from (and been "handed down" from) the Great Depression Era. There's a sense of keeping anything that's not trash because it could be used for something else. Back in an era when most families did that because it wasn't a throw away economy and they also couldn't afford to just buy everything. One example being cleaning out and saving butter tubs because Tupperware was still expensive decades ago. Anyway, that mindset seems to have a rock solid hold, because the various households of my relatives can afford things just fine. I messaged a couple decluttering people, but with millions of followers, I've decided to start putting this comment on every UA-camr/Tiktoker, hoping one of them or a follower can direct me to the correct video/person. Thank you.
I started saving nice things "for the future" when I was about 25 years old. I'm now almost 70 and I haven't used that stuff! So I'm asking myself, how old do I think I have to be before it's ok to use the nice things?
I used to have that same issue. I wasted so much money and time shopping for things I never used. I now only buy things I plan on using in the present bc tomorrow isn’t promised.
My grandmother would buy nice things and put them away. She would buy sheets and towels and put them in a trunk never to be used. We always had the same sheets for months on our bed, of course, they were washed once a week, but she never used the new sheets or put out the good towels and face cloths. When she passed, all that stuff was so old that it almost disintegrated upon touching it. I found that I was doing the same thing until my husband pointed it out to me that I was buying nice dishes and towels and other things only not to be used. Now, I buy things for my house and myself and use it immediately. Life is short, what are you saving those things for? Someone to find after your departure only to either use it themselves or give it to the goodwill or someone else.
I’ve seen a few of these stories and it’s wild that we do that. It makes me sad to think we can go our whole lives never actually enjoying the moment bc we “save it for later”.
Really like the info this speaker is relaying. She doesn't ignore the psychological factor. Many decluttering speakers ive listened to don't address the psychological aspects beyond a tiny amount. It's important to include possible mental blocks we declutterer people often have. And then implement the ways we can effectively and sensitively work through them. I can think of several things right now, which Ive been unable to let go of until now. Successful reworking of outlook thanks to this speaker. I'm very grateful.
This mind set also comes from poverty, never having enough, or thought of it will keep you buying things just to say you can, and never use it 🙏🏾😢❤it was in my family too.
My favorite question to ask is, "how would I feel if this spontaneously combusted?' If I wouldn't be sorry (or if I'd be secretly glad) then that item should probably go.
Similarly, when in doubt about a piece of clothing, I think: if I spotted a stain or a tiny hole in this, would I be relieved to have a reason to get rid of the object, or do I love it enough to keep wearing or try to repair it? On a gut level, you know what you really love.
I remember feeling relief when a dish smashed as I was sorting out the kitchen (getting ready to declutter). That made me realise how much I wanted to let stuff go and made it easier to get rid of things. I still need to make another pass over the contents of my kitchen cupboards, but I'm pleased with how much I've let go and donated to charity already.
COVID taught me to use my nice things, use my Christmas coffee cups year round, and wear my best clothes I save for special occasions without there being a special occasion. Life can be taken so quickly.
@@pruzzilla3771 Some people think it's weird to have nice things without an occasion or without "earning" them. You're right; surviving can be a feat that warrants celebrating. (Why else would we celebrate birthdays, anyway?)
I finally decluttered only to realize that my home was still a mess because I have too many friends who are hoarders and have gotten into the habit of storing their stuff at my place. Seriously, I have entire rooms I can't use, and people refuse to get their stuff for years while expecting me to store them for free. It's actually costing me a few hundred dollars a year to cope with not being able to use entire rooms of my house. This New Year's Day I let everyone storing their trash at my house have two months' notice that I'll be disposing of it. One person got mad at me for being petty since I have such a big house, so I explained that I wasn't going to start charging them a storage fee. Another told me to sell his stuff and give him the money, but I refused to take a volunteer position when my time is already spoken for...by me. I feel much better now, and although I'm sure I'm going to hear more about it I don't see that I have any legal obligation to care anymore when they can't be bothered to care either.
I have a similar situation. My garage and storage room are full of all of my grown children's stuff. I like the solution you've come up with and am going to present it to my kids (27-43 yrs old)
@@saundraandrade9019 It will make you unpopular for a little while, but it demonstrates the self-respect essential for respect for others. I can tell you from personal experience, though, that children sometimes don't realize how much we're imposing on our parents. My parents responded in kind by bringing a box of my baby clothes I didn't even know was stashed at their home and giving it to me as a birthday present. My husband was ticked, but it made me happy because I realized that they understood how ridiculous the situation is. I want to enjoy their company, not be a burden.
Yes to this. My mom’s friend left a couple of boxes of stuff at my mom’s house for a decade and I was like if she hasn’t needed it by now then she doesn’t need it and it got trashed when we moved my mom.
I firmly believe that while we help others, you also gotta do what works for you! Can't love others well if you aren't loving yourself- and getting your space functioning for you is a form of self-love.
I started watching this on my tv but came to my phone to comment. I’m about 5 minutes into the video. When you said something about your marriage, I quickly thought “oh she’s married very young” nothing too deep, just a quick thought. Then you said you’re 43 and my mind is blown! Girl what?! You barely, barely look 25! 💕💕💕
Hi, I agree with you! I had a similar reaction to her and her appearance. I thought she MUST be very young. Then she told us her age, and I was astonished! She looks quite young and lovely. Her skin is great and her complexion is flawless. Her teeth are gorgeous, too. (I am quite jealous.)
My first reaction was wow, this woman has it together and how beautiful she is. Look at that smile, it’s perfect. And he skin! What a beautiful soul to get to the essence of a problem and give us a pathway to solve it.
It don't Crack! Lolol I'm 5'1, 116 lbs andmy 13 year old is more developed and taller than me (and I have 4 other children). When I tell them I'm in my 30s they're like, "Oh.." 😂😂 always thinking I'm 12 😭😭
I just turned 76, I decided to finally use all my finery I collected over 40 years from sets of 24k gold rim fine bone china from England to sterling silver picture frames, limited addition Lalique perfume bottles ( for my $30 perfumes from Target 😂, ) crystal vases for my handpicked flowers on my nature walk, 18 century silver handheld mirror to pluck my eyebrows, 1930 silver bridal flower basket for all my incoming mails & bills to be paid, antique Italian lace tablecloth etc. Those were some of my NICE THINGS passionate collectibles for years carefully wrapped in my cedar hope chest waiting for that someday, some special occasions, (in case the Pope or Queen Elizabeth 😂😂 happened to drop by my humble home for a visit) but today I finally decided that ‘my everyday’ is a special occasion, so I started to use them daily and it brought me so much JOY! One day I’ll sell them or gift them to people that deserve them. 🎉🎉 they’ll find other loving homes.
Lol I purchased a 24k hostess set for my mom and her two sisters- my mom always used hers during the holidays. Anyway my cousin was having a five year anniversary at her moms house and my mom asked my aunt (her sis) if she was going to use her hostess set and she said no 😢my aunt has since passed on, and nobody knows what happened to that set 🤔
Great tips about getting rid of deceased family members' things. The stuff makes me feel sad and that's a great reason to simply get rid of it. Thank you! And yes, they've been gone for 20+ years now. Again, thank you so much!
Bring the family to go through maybe? I know that I don’t need my mom to keep all my grandmothers things for me for the future- I can look through right now, and choose the heirlooms that call to me specifically. That way I have things hers that holds meaning for me as a person…and nothing more 💜
I’ve been decluttering for well over 10years. Started as merging two households into one and then purging what we don’t need, etc. I started to hardcore declutter about 5years ago when I realized I still couldn’t keep up with the house work. I’ve had two key takeaways - first I needed to find my “clutter threshold” and second, I realized I was buying things to “temporarily fill a need” instead of just buying the better item up front. So I was never truly happy with what I owned. Now I buy with intention. If I have to wait a little longer, so be it.
Something my DinL OFTEN says when she visits my house is, "your house is so peaceful." I believe what she's really noticing is the clean kitchen surfaces, the lack of clutter throughout & the calming effect created by having an easily maintained home. It pleases me, for her, that she has found a place of respite. ♡
Now THIS, right here, has inspired me. My grandsons come over, and they LOVE it here because our house is bigger, but also, comparatively clear and neat. However, 26 years has taken a toll, and I really MUST get RID of some of the accumulated stuff. I have my daughter's prom dress from when she was 16! (She's the one with the kids.) I have instruments and board games that will never be played, clothes that will never be worn, dishes that are "too nice" to use, art supplies that will never become anything more, and I'm really ready to divest myself of all of the mental "weight" of it.
Girl, I just donated my dad's tuxedo a few weeks ago. He's been gone almost 25 years. I kept one of his sweaters and I use his old scissors and shears when I sew. Those things make me feel close to him. The rest didn't. My mom - I kept her nurse's cape and a housedress she used to love hanging out in. Those two things make me feel close to her, and celebrate who she was. But it takes time to realize what those few things are and pare down the rest.
THANK YOU GIRL hubby of 49+ years moved to Heaven 2 1/2 yrs ago. Moved from 2 bed/2 bathroom and large garage with his maintenance Shop with stacks of wood on his side/ my supplies for crafts/tutoring/drawing and chalk-acrylic At projects... Writing supplies/ Hosp Pro Med Caring Clown costumes and supplies Sewing supplies... Whew !!! Moved into Senior Housing security Hotel ONE BEDROOM...YEP... You get pic. Two seniors helping with move suggested "just renting smallest 5x5 TEMPOARILY"of boxes too tough to go thru "because might need some day". Well... When Good Lord asked a simple question, " how long been since you've looked here?) Over year. Justify ""But it's onlY $63" YES... COULDN'T THAT ANY N BE BETTER USED TO BUILD PERMANENT KINGDOM ABOVE? WHEN I'D FREALIZED ID SPENT CLOSE TO$1,000.00...I was sick to my stomach. Thanks for your kind questions and layered concept. Gratefully for your vulnerability!
Yes!!!! My mom passed away in my late twenties. I felt like I was obligated to hold on to her things: 1- because mamaaaa!!! 😭and 2- as the only girl in the family I was expected to be the Chief Mama Memory Protector. 🙄 So it was really hard to declutter her things. ON TOP OF THE FACT that she was the family historian and the eldest daughter of the daughter! So she had her things, granny and pawpaws things, my brothers things, ALL THE THINGS! C L U T T E R - C I T Y It was hard but I made a lot of headway. Still a journey tho... Thank you so much for your videos!
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a shared bond that none of us really want to have but helps us to understand what each other is going through. Wow!!! Yes, that's a lot. Being the one who feels duty-bound to manage all of the memories is quite a heavy load. So proud that you've made some headway!!!
Someone told me "other peoples stuff is not your burden"...it helped so much dealing with all my mums stuff after she passed. I still have a few things I need to let go...a few bits of antique furniture I have no space for. They will go, I'd rather someone else get use of them than they collect dust, take up space in my mind and home. ♥️
Whew thank you because I'm both you and your mama. My brothers didn't help with anything and they are 10+ years older than me. I started asking my family if they wanted certain memories and trinkets and now I'm trying to digitize things so that others have access to them and I don't leave my future children with the burden that was left on me.
I’m just gonna say. Birthday cards is what I love I kept now. My grandparents died and that is mainly what I have left over from them talking to me directly their handwriting and words they actually chose for me as I can feel like I can read that and have them there with me for a moment. I’d think long and hard before throwing away letters from family and people you’ll always love and miss
Love this! Definitely don't think that things you still go back to are clutter- especially not hand written notes. Keep those memories!!! I was talking about the stuff that we have no attachment to and don't know why we're holding on to it. 💕
I totally get your thoughts! I took my grandmother cards and ones given to my mother and aunt by my grandmother cut the important words out and part of picture I liked and glued a collage onto an plain box from Hobby Lobby and gifted it back to them. They were amazed and grateful. Now the cards can be ‘seen’ and have a useful purpose. Cheers!
THIS IS GOOD. ESPECIALLY THE QUESTIONS. I TELL PEOPLE THAT DECLUTTERING IS A PROCESS THAT MUST BE DONE IN BITE SIZE PIECES OR THEY WILL GET OVERWHELMED AND STOP ALTOGETHER. MANY FEEL BAD BECAUSE THEY KNOW IT NEEDS TO BE DONE BUT THEY DON’T HAVE THE ENERGY TO DO IT. ONE MUST HAVE A STRATEGY, A TIMELINE, AND EITHER AN AUDIOBOOK OR SOME GOOD MUSIC TO SET THE ATMOSPHERE SO THEY CAN GET THAT ONE CORNER OR THAT ONE BOX DONE TODAY. THANK YOU. 😊😊😊😊😊
#3 Layer is also a key to spending money wisely. Discovering how much you buy for your ideal or fantasy self but don’t actually use is a real eye opener.
Oh my goodness, yes- that is SUCH and eye-opener! Also made me realize I wasn't treating myself the way that I deserved. St. Louis is a fun, undercover gem!
I would love to visit sometime. But my driving abilities is limited, so am too skittish to get on the highway needed to get there, cannot afford to fly or Greyhound, as for the train, I would got to go 5 hours north then shoot hours back south. Maybe one day. Would love it if at least can go to the mall with my baby boy who can handle the highway driving.
I’m 60 and don’t want to leave a mess for my children, I’ve been widowed 4 years and have 2 special daughters who will be with me until I die. I not only want but need to de clutter! I feel like my stuff controls me! I am happy I found your page.
I'm so glad you're here. It can be really difficult to let stuff go, but we have to push ourselves to do it. Take small steps toward it if you need to. I just did this video as a follow up and I think it'll be helpful. ua-cam.com/video/Dyuy3vAbhlA/v-deo.html
I certainly hear what your saying, l don’t want to leave a bunch of stuff behind for my family, l have stuff packed in storage boxes,its memorabilia so they can keep what they want or get rid of it.
I don’t know if they have done studies on this but I strongly suspect that grief or trauma may very well be the main cause for hoarding behaviour. I was never hoarder until certain things happened in my life and then I suddenly started hoarding and found it so hard to stop!
Great advice. I have gone through layers of cleaning our over decades. I’m almost 60. Raised 6 children. Married 20 yrs. I like what you have to say here. One category I made up was “props.” This is the delusional category. Hahahaha Things we keep for a life we don’t actually have. I had some home bread making things. I was never going to use them, but I saw myself as a home made bread maker. Lol it was this weird glass tube for long, thin loaves and some other things. I do make home made bread occasionally. A regular bread pan is fine. I didn’t need all this extra things way back when our small house was over crowded. I don’t miss it at all.
I recently lost 123lbs. I’m currently in the process of moving. I just rid of a construction size bag of clothes that I really loved or never got to wear. I kept them thinking that I can tailor them, but it would basically be reconstructing a whole new garment. I had to remind myself that I now have the opportunity to enjoy the clothes that actually fit me now.
I moved from size 1x, then 16, 14, now 10-12 These clothes are too good for Goodwill. Looked around at church, assistant yoyth pastor is a vit larger than I, so two shopping bags and handful of things on hangers, she'll save $$$ and I have space.
I just found your channel today. I've already listened to this post twice, and I know I will be listening to it again. My best "Aha!" moment came when I listened to Dana K White's channel, and she explained her "container" definition. definition. Your house is a container. It has a limited size and volume. Then she breaks it down even further. Each room in your house is a container. Each closet, drawer, shoebox is a container. You can only fill each container with the amount of stuff that fills that space. Whatever does not fit must find another home, be donated, or trashed. I'm paraphrasing quite a bit, but once I got that I could not just keep stuffing my containers to overflowing, it became easier to pick out what was most important to me to keep in that container. Six trashbags of clothes were, quickly, donated. It's still a slow process for me, but it's getting better and easier. Good luck to everyone going through this process.
This is me. By time I get a day off I attempt to start to declutter/organize. I stare-eat-walk dog-sleep. I get tired just by the thought of where to start.
Take one drawer in any room of the house. Pull up a garbage can and a chair. Open the drawer. Why is all of that trash in there. Throw out trash and reorganize. Move to the next little thing that won't take long to do. Proceed another small drawer. Repeat as often as you'd like.😊❤❤❤ And do NOT beat yourself up about anything. You'll feel so good from cleaning up one drawer that it gives you the momentum to continue. I'm in the middle of it right now, and I'm loving the lifting of heaviness that lifts more and more off of my shoulders with every single drawer/cabinet/closet I declutter and rearrange. May GOD continue to bless you, my friend.❤❤❤
This is absolutely me!😕 I told my family that I wasn’t going to travel this year, so I could get my houses in order, and it’s August, and it pretty much looks the same that it did back in November, when I said it!😢 I get tired and overwhelmed thinking about where to start. Then when I do, sometimes I think I make things worse…it’s depressing.😞🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
it doesn't matter where you start. You could literally flip a coin to decide where you start. also you can spend minimal time like 15 minutes a day. even 2 minutes a day!
I’ve been saving things since 2005. I started selling all those things on eBay and Mercari during the pandemic. 400 listings and 2 garage sales later I’ve finally decluttered my life.
I want to develop the bandwidth to sell on a platform. I just don’t feel right about donating anymore. I think I owe it time myself to try to recoup some money
I extend my most sincere condolences for the loss of your parents. Thank you for mentioning why you kept their belongings in storage. It has been three years since losing my mom in law. I had a very hard time parting with her things, and my late father in laws things as it was like losing them all over again or like disrespecting them by letting their belongings go. I realize it is okay to let someone else enjoy the pieces, whether furniture, knickknacks, or clothing. I also realize I have to have my own things around me, which align with who I am and not live "in someone else's house, living someone else's life." It has taken over three years to unload three storage units and to clear out my own house but I am 90 percent done and I am starting to feel like my old self again. The time it took to fuss with all the stuff was overwhelming, time consuming and depressing.
That’s a lot of loss. I lost my mother 10 years ago (I was 35 and her passing was unexpected). I found that it put things in perspective for me. If I can live without my own mother, I can live without mere possessions. It’s been a good reminder as my children get older as well, and the pull of their artwork and baby clothing feels overwhelming.
Thank you and condolences on your loss as well. 💜 The trauma of loss really does a number on our sense of reasoning. I have come to terms with that realization as well that letting their stuff go doesn't equate to letting them go. I think I always knew that mentally, but my heart/healing had to catch up with it. But it has been a weight and it's time to fully heal. Thank you so much for sharing your story.
@@katiejon17wow-this is a super powerful way of thinking about things. My mind is kind of blown because I’ve listened to SO many decluttering videos/podcasts/audiobooks etc, and not a single person has ever mentioned this, which is surprising. I’m sorry for your loss, but think it’s amazing that you were able to come to what I consider a pretty profound realization, that I want to thank you for sharing x100000. I’m lucky enough to still have my parents with me, but have been struggling with clutter/overwhelm for as long as I’ve lived on my own. I’m also very ADHD, which certainly doesn’t help things-but I spent SO much time just LOOKING for things….and now I’m thinking about my parents’ ages and how that wasted time looking for things-and honestly, the time spent wasted due to the overwhelm caused by clutter (which makes cleaning much harder and a longer process!). So you’ve kind of lit me up and inspired me to be ruthless in my decluttering-which luckily I’d already planned on doing for half of today! Thanks again for sharing your wisdom!
@@Hmy8799 I’m happy it helped! I shut down my YT channel a few years ago and I’m toying with getting it back up. There’s so much discussion for all of us to have. And certainly when we choose to live minimally, our finances also improve without even trying. ❤
My husband recently passed away. He bought our home when he was 19 yrs old. And he did not believe in throwing stuff away. It's was a nightmare for me to get rid of 45 yrs of stuff some which he hadn't used since the 70's. I found two denim bell bottom suits. Suits !! 😂😂. It's taken me months to delete it all. Don't leave stuff behind for your loved ones. It's hard enough to grieve and no one needs to be stuck with your mess. ❤❤
I’m so sorry for your loss. And wow, it’s seems you have a really healthy ability to detach the stuff from his memory. ❤️ Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My husband passed away a few months ago also, and I need to get rid of most of his clothing, so I can have more closet space, which tells me that I definitely should go through my things too!
@@kristidoingthings I kept the most sentimental things for sure. The small things he used everyday. But I'm lucky I had no sentiment towards his clothes and tools and other things. But I had no choice. I couldn't keep the house and had to sell it quickly. And it sold the day it went in the market. I know how hard that is for so many spouses tho.
I rent a bedroom from this lady I met on Craigslist. I tell people not to give me gifts because I have no space. I’ve had several people tell me I should get a storage room… so I would then be paying interest on items I bought that I’m saving to use? I tell people to give me portrait picture of them. Nobody does that anymore. But a photo to cherish when your old and people have moved on is priceless, and it fits nicely in an album.
It's really wise of you to prioritize space and focus on what truly matters, especially when living in a rented room. Photos can hold so much value, capturing memories and relationships without taking up much room. It’s a beautiful way to cherish the people in your life and create lasting memories. Sounds like you've found a meaningful way to live simply and thoughtfully!
I had a storage unit for years that I got shortly after I became a single parent with 3young children. Things that were “sentimental”, that “maybe they’d want when they were older” or that I wanted for myself when I was an empty nester, filled that unit over the years. Then, I got really sick and almost died just before my youngest was going into their senior year of high school. And then I almost died again about a month after school started. I went to my folks to recover and my youngest went to my sister’s to continue at the same school. As I got better, my grandmother had a stroke and came to live at my folks. Then my dad’s dementia got bad rapidly. I stayed to help my mom care for both of them. My youngest graduated and went off to college. My dad passed after about 2 years and my grandmother about 6 months later. My college kid came home to my folks on breaks. My grandkids came to my folks house but knew it as the house where their grandmother and great grandparents lived. When it was down to just me and mom, we decided we didn’t really want to live alone in 2 separate households. After another year or so, I finally told my kids to clean out the storage and keep what they wanted, bring me about 5 things I wanted and do whatever they wanted with the rest. I couldn’t go help then. It was too emotional for me. I kept the mindset they would just be doing what they would have done if I had died. Not paying that bill every month was such a relief. Knowing they took what they really wanted was such a relief. Now, my mom and I clean out closets, cabinets and bins a little at a time and the kids/grandkids let us know if there’s anything they do want. ❤
Thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you've gone through so much, and letting go of the storage unit must have been a huge emotional and financial relief. It’s inspiring how you allowed your kids to choose what mattered most to them and released the rest, recognizing that holding onto items isn’t always worth the burden. Now, as you and your mom continue decluttering together, you're creating space not only in your home but also in your hearts. It’s a beautiful way to honor your journey and embrace the present. ❤️
The taking a picture idea is a superwoman level solution. 💪 Take pictures and then print them on photo paper or regular printer paper. Put them in a photo album and write a little blurb or the story of the memory with the date of each experience. Then, you really can let go of the actual item. The memory is what is important. 🥰
This. The hardest thing for me to get rid of has been my son's stuff from when he was a kid. This is going to help me break through today. Thank You! 🙏🏽💙💙💙💙💜🌎🕊️
One way I look at my possessions that have served their purpose for me is to ask myself "Could this item make someone else happy?" If so, I give it to Good Will. I have some expensive toys that I bought long ago for my grandkids when they came to stay. They are all now in their late teens. I saved the toys because I spent a lot on them, but they are just sitting there. Since these toys could be a joy for someone who cannot pay full price now, I can peacefully give them to Good Will.
i took a huge tub of photos, art work, certificates, documents and scanned them all and put them on an external hard drive. A lot of work, but well worth it.
This sounds like me. However, I turned 57 a month ago and promised my self this is the end of that tradition. I am going room by room and decluttering and going to enjoy the things I have. I look back at the living room furniture over the years that was never utilized, as well as the vehicles barely driven. I can’t believe I have accumulated so much stuff overtime. I am actually feeling overwhelmed, but I got this.🙏🏾🙏🏾
Another component to this is donation. Donate the items you really can’t use that you know someone else would really love, but donate to a cause that is close to your heart for me It was donating to a local, battered women shelter, and a domestic violence, safe house, because I went through domestic violence, this gave me a sense of purpose and love.❤
Thank you for saying with Layer 4 - there’s no set time to release items. It’s good to hear from the perspective of someone that understands that an emotional loss is the hardest to deal with when trying to declutter.
I personally tried to change my shopping habits by instead of buying everything that i am interested in, i would take a picture of it and if i keep going back to that picture or can't stop thinking about it then i might actually buy it but it often results in me not buying it and helps me to keep my space.
I’m 82 and have largely gotten through the first layer. Plenty of the second too but you sure right about the layers. I’ve digitised some, more to go. Great self questions. Thanks for your help. Funnily enough I finally got rid of some really great 36 size pants because I hadn’t lost weight. Then I did keto 5 years ago and have been buying 36 waist pants! At my age I appreciate irony.
It’s wonderful to hear you’re making progress through those layers! Digitizing can be such a game-changer. So funny about the pants!!! Thank you for sharing your journey 😊
Terrific tips that are actionable TODAY! Thank you, I’m so glad I found you on UA-cam! I was having a hard time decluttering before a move and I can now see how subconsciously having to navigate these layers was killing progress. All that work underneath the surface really adds to the cognitive load of the task - but without realizing it. I was like, why am I so tired doing this? Now I pick a room or area of the house and start by sorting the clutter into these four layers, and then tackle layer by layer for that area. Game changer. Amazesome. Seriously. I’ll add one bonus question to Layer 3: Would I clean poop off of it? (Like if it fell in some dog s- or there was a freak toddler eruption in your house.) If the answer is no, you can let it go. For me this is the fastest way to sort out how I feel about something and whether it deserves to take up space in my life. Now I just need a similar question to sort out people in my life …
I totally relate to this I have moved between MA and SC twice in the last 5 years. I have two storage units in MA. I finally said enough is ENOUGH. I booked a flight and took off work so I can spend 2-3 days clearing out my storage and moving on. These are great tips to get me thru it. Thank you ❤
Great video! If you need a little more incentive to declutter, calculate how much of your mortgage payment is spent each month for the space taken up by clutter. Say if you have a 1800 sq. ft. house and a $2000 mortgage you are paying $1.11 per month ($2000/1800) for each sq. ft. of your home. If you have a 12 x 12 ft. room full of clutter, that is 144 sq. ft. You are paying 144 x $1.11 = about $160 a month for that cluttered up space!
I have a problem with mail too (everything, but mail seems like it should be the easiest to conquer). There are stacks of paper everywhere. I can’t figure out what to keep sometimes. These types of videos are always inspiring, so thank you!🙏
I realized I had a clothes hoarding problem when I got a stain on something and I felt relieved that I could get rid of it. It was out of my control, and for some reason, I just sighed and it felt good. One less thing to worry about. It can be so hard to get rid of things. I felt that if I got rid of something, it would be my fault that I was sad or that I missed it, and I understood that my problem extended from abandonment trauma, an obscured sense of self, and when my home caved in and I lost so much. I got clothes to try and feel good about myself, but materialistic things don't heal. You need to rid of stuff that distracts you from your true purpose. You need time to do more things other than constantly decluttering. You will feel good once you open up your time to more fulfilling things, you can do it! ❤
I’ve been decluttering for about 2 years. It’s been getting so much easier now. I noticed that some things are harder than others to get rid of. My weak spot is all of my office/craft supplies
I thought I was going to need counseling to get rid of my craft supplies, but it turned out to be easier than I thought. I didn’t know about the layers then but looking back, I did go through the layers. I got rid of duplicates. I looked at what my current interest were, and got rid of items associated with crafts I no longer enjoyed or did. I got rid for old patterns with sizes that no longer fit & were outdated styles. For the sentimental stuff, I picked a spot and only allow myself to keep what would fit in the designated space. That made me decide what was really important to me. What made it easier was donating some supplies to teachers. Giving things to people that I knew would use and enjoy them. I sold some items, which put some money back in my pocket. When I start slipping, I remember my reason why, which was to make space for what I really enjoy. Now I’m realizing I need to watch the lack mentality-not wanting to throw things away because I could use it to make something. What can I say…I see treasures in trash. I own it. I just have to be mindful about that. If I’m not making anything with it…I don’t have a current project or use for it, I let it go so I don’t end up going down that rabbit hole.
I have had the honor of cleaning out the homes of four loved ones who have passed away, I also helped my best friend clean out her mother's items. I've only kept some of my mom's items. Like the blazer she would wear. It's soothing for me. I walk into the closet, hug it, and tell her that I love and miss her. I have three pieces of furniture of hers in the garage. They have been there for four years. I wanted to reupholster two single chairs. They're about 45 yrs. old. If I'm completely honest with myself, I'm not going to do it. Besides my mother's items, I have so many things that I need to get rid of. Your video has helped me to begin the journey of decluttering. I know I will experience pain, joy, crying, laughing, headaches, and finally a great relief when it's all done. Thank you so much for this video. I stumbled upon it. I don't believe in coincidence. God brings things to our lives at the right time to make changes for the better. Blessings to you and yours.
Thank you for sharing your experience; it sounds both profound and emotional. It's beautiful that you’ve kept certain items from your mom as a way to feel connected to her. I do the same. Starting the decluttering process is a big step, and it’s great that you’re ready to embrace the mix of emotions that will come with it. It’s all part of honoring those memories while making space for new ones. I truly believe that finding your way to this video was meant to help you take that journey. Wishing you strength and peace as you move forward-blessings to you as well! 😘
My husband passed in January. I’ve been trying to get myself through the decluttering process and I didn’t even realize I’m someone else now and that’s my block until your video. Thank you.
Aww, I'm so sorry for your loss. I imagine it feels a bit overwhelming at times. Show yourself grace and don't try to do it all at once. Sending you love and hugs. 💜
I went on holiday recently and came to a harsh realisation of the type of life I really wanted. So on the day of my return, instead of resting, I unpacked my suitcase and began chucking out bags of clothes and items. The next day in my work break, I was digging out and recognising what I no longer need. I took a post it note and marked the items that were next to be discarded. By the end of the weekend I emptied out my wardrobe of useless bags and shoes in boxes, books, magazines, notebooks etc. I tell you, I slept well that evening
It sounds like that holiday was the kickstart you needed! It's amazing how a shift in environment or perspective can suddenly bring clarity about what really matters. I often say that our physical spaces often reflect where we are mentally. The fact that you slept well after clearing out all those unnecessary items shows how much lighter and more focused you must have felt. So happy for you!!!
You are the 1st declutter to PRECISELY identify my struggle. I am a master organizer. I can enter any room, closet, or garage overflowing with disordered piles of things, literally floor to ceiling, and put it in orderly intuitively labeled organizers - but my OWN treasures? …they’ve been hanging around. You spoke to my needs. I subscribed!
Aww, so glad you’re here and that it helped! I truly believe we have to understand why we do things to get to the root of it. I was re-reading your comment and thought about how I am also a really good organizer. I had so much less perfectly tucked away, and home so clean, but I knew there was stuff that needed hanging and could feel the weight of it. Best of luck as you continue your journey!
I LOVE your layers!!! GREAT explanations of each!!! For layer 4, I recommend if people have multiple items from a past away loved one(s) they are trying to declutter. Think of the memories the items bring up. Every life has its ups AND downs. So only keep a few of the items that bring up the VERY BEST memories of your loved one! The Minimal Mom had a vid on UA-cam where she explained how she had these dolls as a child and she loved keeping them in pristine condition. Whenever her younger cousins came over she got anxious about some of her dolls bc of how they played with their own dolls, and wanted to hide them. Then as an adult, her mother 1 day suddenly brought her the bin of all her childhood dolls for her own girls. She looked at them and the happy memories were there as well as the anxious feelings about her cousins ruining them. Instead of giving them to her girls, she decided that she didn't want to see them in her house and think of those anxiety thoughts all the time whenever she see she kids playing with them, so she donated them to charity! Much like my story of a person who broke into my house while I was sleeping...(long story cut out)... I never wanted to see that same bedroom again. I changed my entire bedroom from blue & green plaid to pink and white. I even got rid of my side table. And the old bed set? I brought it to an animal shelter in a different city than the one that I volunteered at (just to make sure that I would never see it again!)
Thank you so much you are encouraging...I am almost 64 and I currently have 3 storages taking up my money not to mention the garage and my advice is get on it sooner then later while you are strongband healthy and you have your husband while I still have my husband of 44 years praise God he is going truogj some health issues at the present and now it's oh no why didn't I do this sooner stop putting it off...I'm trying to save someone money here...om still trying to get to mine...I blew out my ankle in auto accident 20 years ago which gets in my way from time to.time especially in those times where I feel like ok let's do this...I a retired teacher. .and yes I still have my stuff...ugh....pray for me and I pray that God will keep giving you guidance and wisdom and strength
Thank you for sharing your journey! It’s inspiring to hear your determination, especially with everything you’re navigating. I completely understand how those storages can weigh on you both financially and mentally. Prayers sent and thank you for your prayers as well! I’m cheering you on as you make progress with your decluttering! You’ve got this! 🙏❤️
I soooooooo can relate to this and I've gotten a little better donating things. Me & mail have the same relationship as you mentioned 😅 I hate going through it.. I lost my husband 4 years ago and our bedroom/his closet still looks like he's coming home 😢 I've managed to donate two boxes of his clothes/shoes.. it's hard but your video has inspired me to get going even if it's with other "stuff" first 👍🏾
I’m so sorry for your loss 💔 Letting go can be so tough, especially when it comes to such personal things. You’re already making incredible progress, and even starting with other items is still a big step forward. Be gentle with yourself, and keep going at your own pace-you’re doing amazing. Sending you strength and encouragement. ❤
“I will make sure this doesn’t BECOME clutter by…” LOVE it I work from home now & now i have to actively wear my clothes & jewlry but also acknowledge some stuff i don’t need anymore
I have a craft room that is taking over my life. I can’t get into it and when I do squeeze my way in there, I can’t create anything so after I heard your video, I took an Imaginary pencil and I split the room up into six imaginary parts and I’m going to start cleaning it as soon as I press the send button and thank you for sharing how to declutter. Pray for me I’m going in.😂😂😂 11:50
🤣🤣🤣🤣 yes I’m alive but I have to be honest. I cleaned one corner of the room and started a mess on the other corner of the room but I’m still alive. I’m so sad. It’s funny. I am so sad that I can’t get this room clean.🤣🤣🤣
@@robinrice1540I need to do this too. And wanted to share that I am going to divide the hours spent in the room to clean and on what days. Hope that will help you as well.
I realize that less is more and I’ve been working periodically on decluttering, everywhere l look in this house is stuff, 50 towels, dishes etc- I’ve gotten rid of some things and don’t miss them at all. Real good video
i got so overwhelmed i got depressed and stopped my journey of decluttering which compounded it. Thanks for talking about the fourth layer , the heart. ,this explains why moving or geting rid of thing that were m y mom's was so very hard while onlookers kept saying you need ot get rid of all that. It felt like someone was ripping my heart out
Hey! Don’t forget sometimes we hang onto things for positive vibes as well! Some folks have tshirts, socks, hats, etc. that they use as memories of fun events or times where they did something memorable. BUT, they are taking up unnecessary space. 10 shirts from The Bahamas!!!! 30 pair of Christmas socks???? Come on now! Let it go. Keep 1 or 2!
Agreed! BTW…we need to get rid of some cards!!!!! And some doggone tshirts!!!!! Grrrr. Round 4 of decluttering in the Patterson household! Kristi let’s do some things!
I have a t-shirt that was bought on holiday 44 years ago. I could just about squeeze into it, but I would never wear it and haven't since I was a teenager. I think it's time it went to the great rag pile in the sky!
Another idea is, if you have a large plastic storage tub, fill with water & just toss them in. In time, they become mush. Then drain & toss out. You can also use it for mulch in your garden. Saves time without shredding/tearing. More time to declutter...lol..
@@TheChickenn08 I do that too!!! Then hand shred😂.....well if I can still see what's on them. That paper get heavy! But I never thought about the mulch in garden🤔 thanks for that little life hack.
You're so welcome. Funny how really simple things can make such a huge difference. We are in a 30 day decluttering challenge right now. You should check it out. ua-cam.com/video/S4INgfnUXW8/v-deo.htmlsi=i6VFYkiiwTTTzqd_
Thank you, you have explained something that I have been searching for an answer to for a long time. I have items I have kept from when I was unwell and unable to do much at all, the fear of ending back there, has kept me from tossing these out. I cant bring myself to use these items because they bring back a mindset of depression, overwhelm and dread, yet I have kept these because they were my only source of comfort during that horrible time. Even now knowing what I need to do, tears are in my eyes because they are old friends. I think I will donate these items so if I ever find myself missing them I can at least think of other people getting enjoyment from them. Again a massive thank you.
I’m so glad my message resonated with you! It’s completely understandable to feel a strong attachment to those items; they represent a difficult time, but also your resilience. Donating them is a beautiful way to honor that journey while also allowing yourself to move forward. It’s such a generous choice to think of others who might benefit from what you’ve held onto. Remember, it’s okay to feel emotional during this process-it’s a sign of your growth and healing. You’re doing an incredible job!
I struggled with decluttering all my life. Nothing seemed to help. Until one day, when I just realized what I had was an unhealthy attachment to... useless stuff. To be honest, it was almost like a spiritual awakening. Why was I so attached to all that stuff? It was worthless and I always wasted energy trying to organize it, to find new ways of storing it. I was a slave to my own junk. Useless, insignificant objects that I couldn't throw away because I was too emotionally tied to. For example, I had so so many things from my grandparents who passed away. Why did I need so many of them? Were my memories of them depending on objects? Would giving up that stuff mean I would forget they ever existed? Obviously not. So I ended up only keeping my grandma's earrings and grandpa's mug. That's it. I had tons of newspapers and magazines that I kept with the intention of using in my DIY projects, but I never got the time to actually do those projects. I kept telling myself I HAVE to keep them and use them somehow because it's recycling and it's a good thing. It actually added a lot of pressure on me because every day I saw them was another day I would blame myself for not DIYing. Sooo toxic. Eventually I just gave them to a recycling company. It's still recycling, I don't have to do the entire process myself. It's honestly the best feeling ever. To finally understand that stuff is just stuff, unimportant, and I am above it. I am the one that matters.
How freeing to no longer be a slave to "stuff". It's amazing how when we finally let go, we realize how much these things that we thought were so vital were actually only serving to hold us back- plus we don't even miss them when they're gone. Yes, you are the one that matters! So happy for you!!!
I can’t imagine the difficulty in trying to let go of your parents’ belongings. I’m so sorry you lost them at such a young age. Sending lots of love and hugs your way. Taking a picture is the main way I can get rid of tons of stuff. Great advice. I love this video. I will definitely subscribe. Love your sense of humor at the beginning too! ❤😊
Thank you for your kind words and for subscribing. It means a lot, and I’m glad the advice resonates with you. We have a good time over here! Sending love and gratitude your way! 😊❤
I've been loving this since I started my decluttering journey. I've donated and thrown away a big portion of my stuff, keeping only the things that spark joy. However, I've realized that I still have clutter because of these items. So, I now have a donation bag near my door, where I'll put things I haven't touched in weeks. Then, I'll see if I miss or remember having them. If not, they're going to be donated 😊❤😂
What a great strategy! Having a donation bag ready makes it so much easier to keep the momentum going in your decluttering journey. It’s amazing how we often forget about things we thought we needed. I love that you’re giving yourself the chance to see if you truly miss those items-such a great way to ensure you’re only keeping what truly brings you joy! Keep up the great work! 😊❤
We have lived in this house for 24 years, so there's a lot. I've almost emptied the upstairs and attic, but my office downstairs is the worst. Gotta celebrate the small wins, though.
I always say, the more stuff you have, the more you have to take care of, the more time it takes, the less time you have for the things that really matter. I'm currently decluttering! Thanks for posting this ❤
I like watching the videos because it allows me to see the difference between knockoffs. If it looks well made, it saves time, and the HQDUPE is not much different from the real thing. I would love to continue watching more videos like this if I have the time.
This is very useful. My mom passed away 2 years ago. She had already sold her home & car & had been living with me. She brought a few items that even though she told me to get rid of I couldn’t while she was living because that was all the “stuff” she had from her previous life. After she passed i methodically got rid of it the way I thought she would have. Her clothes went to a homeless program. Her medical supplies went to our church for a give away. Her yearbooks went to organizers of her class reunion to auction off as a fundraiser for scholarship funds. The only think I have left are pictures. I still find hard to look at & they are tucked away for now.
I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s amazing how we all process grief so differently. It helped you to think through it logically and systematically and not have extra stuff to deal with. I know she’d be proud of you! ❤️
Thanks for the "questions" to ask ourselves. We are getting ready to move soon, ourselves. When my husband and I got married, I put a tub in our utility room. I told him it was there and if there was anything he didn't want, need, like, used, or couldn't wear to put it in the bin. Once it got full I would be taking it to Goodwill. This still gave us a chance to "go back and get it" if we needed to. After 16 years, there has only been 1 time that he/I went back to get something out. He repurposed said item and is still using it today. 🙂
Hoping this helps me as I am leaving a comment before I even watch🤞. I "decluttered" my closet of probably 10 boxes of new shoes never worn, clothes, exercise equipment barely used, Christmas decor, jewelry, purses, moved on to the kitchen and tackled small appliances, etc... Honestly the boxes I took to the women's shelter filled my kitchen (I have photos) and the attendant asked me THREE TIMES, "Do you need a receipt"?? Got back home and still SO MUCH CLUTTER!!! 😭😭I felt defeated😩
But you did it!!!! I'm very proud of you. Even though there's still stuff to do, I can imagine it feels like such a weight lifted. I hope the video helped give you some fresh ideas. ♥️
Idea for cards and paper memories, you can use a scrapbook or photo book, cut the cards in half and put them in a way that lets you read what’s written if you’re the type to have attachments to those things. That way it’s functional and can easily be put on a bookshelf or somewhere accessible. Only suggest this route if you actually go through them regularly.
I put all of my Mom's photo albums in one spot....or thought I was. There were so many it filled the entire closet under the stairs (abt a 6x4 floor space stacked all the way to the coat rod) and half of her empty laundry room. I would love to scan and save to flash drives for my brother and I and my deceased sister's family. But that would take years. I get tired just looking at it.
Hi, new here. I just let go of 200 bits of make-up I kept for 15 years and never touched. I was so attached to them but in my late 40's I only wear lip gloss, eye liner and mascara. I donated it all and feel fantastic about it.
The most beautiful youthful 43 year old I've ever seen. Last comment: I would never throw out my cihldren's art because THEIR kids find it hilarious. "Here's a picture of a dog your mommy drew when she was your age". Hysterical laughter from the child and flushing face syndrome from my daughter. All in good fun, of course.
I just love you. I’ve been watching decluttering videos & they’ve been very helpful including yours! I’m going to write these questions on a white board & have it in front of me in any space I’m working in. I feel like I’m constantly decluttering & I DONT SHOP A LOT. I’m 34 & yet I have so much crap from years! I have a bigger house but I don’t want it full! I want it functional.
Sunk cost w/storage unit for years, and mail paper....yep. Great video, thank you! A middle-layer tip: If this is something I rarely use or don't use yet, and could readily re-purchase it? Then maybe I can get rid of it.
Absolutely! It’s all about shifting that mindset-if you can easily replace it, why hold on to it? Letting go of those sunk costs can really lighten the load. Keep rocking that decluttering journey, and thanks for sharing your insights! 😊✨
As a rule, I really love to declutter. Even so, I get bogged down at times (okay, pretty often lol) and then search for a thought-provoking channel to refocus. There are some good videos out there, but yours is one of the BEST I’ve seen. Thank you for explaining your concept of declutterring layers. It’s an excellent way of understanding the process. I haven’t yet looked to see if you already have, but you should definitely write a book!
I have a storage unit I'm cleaning out. Im not even going to tell you how long I've had it. 😮 My family doesn't need anything out of there. I just need some art, kitchen items, albums and books. Other than that, it's getting tossed. I have cleaned out my closets and donated quite a bit to Purple Heart Also, UPS stores provide shredder services as well
Storage units are... Difficult. After my first husband died, I moved back to Kansas but was paying for storage in California until I could finally afford to go back out there and deal with it. I donated a bunch of it to Salvation Army, had somebody haul away a whole other bunch of it, shipped back about five or six large boxes of things I wanted to keep, then took the remainder to the nearest dump. It was a big 'ol pain. What I should've done was gone back, shipped what I wanted to keep, then stop paying and let the storage company auction off everything else. "But that's bad for your credit!" I can hear people saying. Eh. Is it? If you're in a stable place and it's unlikely anything will need a credit check any time soon, whatever. It rebounds eventually.
I am doing this one room over the weekend. I am almost done. Have been crying over my hard to say goodbye thing but it feels so good to have decluttered spaces.
I love the investigative questions, and giving deadlines to use the items. This helps me even more with my decluttering project. I am excited to jump back in. Thank you so much for this video!
This video is gold for me. Just got divorced, I have been living in this small 2-bedroom apartment and it is STACKED with pictures of all sizes, big and small, all occasions. Not to mention other handy items like the sewing machine and like you mentioned, there's games, kids' artwork, so aside from two fish tanks and that closet full of my clothes too, I got a whole bedroom that I cannot use because, memories.
I like the idea of referring to LAYERS. . . because it gives the mind space to see or put objects into... in a sense. The "asking yourself" questions for each item does provide a gate to put them through; whether that's I'm keeping it because JOY JOY HAPPINESS JOY, or the gate where you push things through that twist up your gut. You process it to a place, somewhere, a location, so you can launch the item out of your happy heart space, your home, once you are ready to set yourself free. Another question is, "can I buy this for $20 or less?" for those "I'm not sure" items that pose no real problems per se but you don't necessarily use them annually.
Kristi, I so appreciate your honesty - love the photos of the "real" issues! My personal hot mess is PAPER - mail, files, unfiled things, old letters (notes from my kids, grandkids, other relatives, loved ones), calendars - yes, they are a type of diary, I guess; old files from a business we used to have, and more. I have shredded so much, with more to go. I can file, but it's hard to defile. I've tried scanning documents, but then the files get corrupted or lost. I'm 69 now, so I have to do this to save my children from it! Anyway, thank you again for your 4 layers - that really helps. Also, I'm starting the one in, one out method for not accumulating so many items, such as clothes, kitchen stuff, yada yada. My brother gives me stuff also that was my mom's and he has things he saved from his / our childhood plus his wife, my SIL, is an only child who inherited all of her mom's everything!!!! Thanks again!!
Aww, you're so welcome! It sounds like you’re really taking on a big task, and it’s completely understandable to feel ALL the emotions. The one-in, one-out method is a fantastic strategy, especially when it comes to managing incoming items. It can help create a more balanced space without feeling overwhelmed. It’s also wonderful that you’re thinking ahead to lighten the load for your children-it shows a lot of care and foresight. As for scanning, it can definitely be tricky, but don’t hesitate to explore other digital options or even organizing tools that might make it easier. Keep going-you’re doing an amazing job! Wishing you all the best as you continue this process!
I've been in my house for 23 years, from 45 to 68 years old. I have been through many changes in lifestyle in those years and being in 1 place for so long the clutter has just added up. Time to clear the cutter! Thanks for you help!!
New STL subscriber here! Excellent video. You broke this down so well and it helped me to hear that you’re also still working through your declutter journey. Progress not perfection 💯
I found this video and found myself down a rabbit whole of can she help me.... The answer is yes! I think we friends cause she is reading me down! Thank you for being transparent. Being a guide for healthier lifestyle changes and dealing with the mountains along the way.
Hey loves! If you're trying to figure our where to start so that it doesn't feel overwhelming, this video shares EXACTLY what I did: ua-cam.com/video/mFIqMyN6FHI/v-deo.htmlsi=EoiHxmFVe0JVnZer
As a guy i have a 6 months rule if i dont use a item or object in 6 months it goes if im not sure ill pack it in a cupboard for future removals but still usable when needed if i dont use that the next 6 months it goes to the bin. My problem is despite me not having anything or care to horde stuff the rest of the family will think hey i might use this one day and keeps everything. Even the clothes i have 7 identical pants and 7 similar tops it is less then a 1/4 of space hanging the rest is the wifes clotes and half of that she is too big for and keep saying it will fit if i lose weight... I did my part i can only bring a horse to water short from drowning it i cant make it drink.
To Kristi or any of her followers: If any of you know of a UA-camr that addresses the following, please let me know. I noticed almost all decluttering UA-camrs show how to get rid of stuff when it's attained through the same mindset: simply buying more than you get rid off. This video being a prime example. That's not the problem with members of my family. This is just my theory, but the mindset we're dealing with seems to come from (and been "handed down" from) the Great Depression Era. There's a sense of keeping anything that's not trash because it could be used for something else. Back in an era when most families did that because it wasn't a throw away economy and they also couldn't afford to just buy everything. One example being cleaning out and saving butter tubs because Tupperware was still expensive decades ago. Anyway, that mindset seems to have a rock solid hold, because the various households of my relatives can afford things just fine. I messaged a couple decluttering people, but with millions of followers, I've decided to start putting this comment on every UA-camr/Tiktoker, hoping one of them or a follower can direct me to the correct video/person. Thank you.
I started saving nice things "for the future" when I was about 25 years old. I'm now almost 70 and I haven't used that stuff! So I'm asking myself, how old do I think I have to be before it's ok to use the nice things?
I would say it’s time to start using all your nice stuff!!! ❤️
Use it now. Get rid of your boring stuff.
Omg this is me too, I hear you. Looks like we are looking for a perfect version of ourselves. We need to enjoy our things, tomorrow is not assured❤
Use the stuff you love and give the stuff that no longer work for you for someone else will want and bring them joy❤
I used to have that same issue. I wasted so much money and time shopping for things I never used. I now only buy things I plan on using in the present bc tomorrow isn’t promised.
My grandmother would buy nice things and put them away. She would buy sheets and towels and put them in a trunk never to be used. We always had the same sheets for months on our bed, of course, they were washed once a week, but she never used the new sheets or put out the good towels and face cloths. When she passed, all that stuff was so old that it almost disintegrated upon touching it. I found that I was doing the same thing until my husband pointed it out to me that I was buying nice dishes and towels and other things only not to be used. Now, I buy things for my house and myself and use it immediately. Life is short, what are you saving those things for? Someone to find after your departure only to either use it themselves or give it to the goodwill or someone else.
I’ve seen a few of these stories and it’s wild that we do that. It makes me sad to think we can go our whole lives never actually enjoying the moment bc we “save it for later”.
This is me. I use some, but I have a LOT of unused/ muultiple items
Really like the info this speaker is relaying. She doesn't ignore the psychological factor. Many decluttering speakers ive listened to don't address the psychological aspects beyond a tiny amount. It's important to include possible mental blocks we declutterer people often have. And then implement the ways we can effectively and sensitively work through them. I can think of several things right now, which Ive been unable to let go of until now. Successful reworking of outlook thanks to this speaker. I'm very grateful.
This mind set also comes from poverty, never having enough, or thought of it will keep you buying things just to say you can, and never use it 🙏🏾😢❤it was in my family too.
Nowadays you might as well give them away or sell it on eBay cause goodwill charges such ridiculous prices lol.
My favorite question to ask is, "how would I feel if this spontaneously combusted?' If I wouldn't be sorry (or if I'd be secretly glad) then that item should probably go.
Love this!!!!
Similarly, when in doubt about a piece of clothing, I think: if I spotted a stain or a tiny hole in this, would I be relieved to have a reason to get rid of the object, or do I love it enough to keep wearing or try to repair it? On a gut level, you know what you really love.
This is fantastic! Thank you!
I remember feeling relief when a dish smashed as I was sorting out the kitchen (getting ready to declutter). That made me realise how much I wanted to let stuff go and made it easier to get rid of things. I still need to make another pass over the contents of my kitchen cupboards, but I'm pleased with how much I've let go and donated to charity already.
I found myself envious of the people who lost their homes in the fire in a nearby town. Now what does that tell you?!
COVID taught me to use my nice things, use my Christmas coffee cups year round, and wear my best clothes I save for special occasions without there being a special occasion. Life can be taken so quickly.
This is good.
Amen sis
Every day is a special occasion!! It's the only day that matters. Good for you for making that change and enjoying your nice things whenever you want.
This is so true!
@@pruzzilla3771 Some people think it's weird to have nice things without an occasion or without "earning" them. You're right; surviving can be a feat that warrants celebrating. (Why else would we celebrate birthdays, anyway?)
I finally decluttered only to realize that my home was still a mess because I have too many friends who are hoarders and have gotten into the habit of storing their stuff at my place. Seriously, I have entire rooms I can't use, and people refuse to get their stuff for years while expecting me to store them for free. It's actually costing me a few hundred dollars a year to cope with not being able to use entire rooms of my house.
This New Year's Day I let everyone storing their trash at my house have two months' notice that I'll be disposing of it. One person got mad at me for being petty since I have such a big house, so I explained that I wasn't going to start charging them a storage fee. Another told me to sell his stuff and give him the money, but I refused to take a volunteer position when my time is already spoken for...by me.
I feel much better now, and although I'm sure I'm going to hear more about it I don't see that I have any legal obligation to care anymore when they can't be bothered to care either.
I have a similar situation. My garage and storage room are full of all of my grown children's stuff. I like the solution you've come up with and am going to present it to my kids (27-43 yrs old)
@@saundraandrade9019 It will make you unpopular for a little while, but it demonstrates the self-respect essential for respect for others. I can tell you from personal experience, though, that children sometimes don't realize how much we're imposing on our parents. My parents responded in kind by bringing a box of my baby clothes I didn't even know was stashed at their home and giving it to me as a birthday present. My husband was ticked, but it made me happy because I realized that they understood how ridiculous the situation is. I want to enjoy their company, not be a burden.
Yes to this. My mom’s friend left a couple of boxes of stuff at my mom’s house for a decade and I was like if she hasn’t needed it by now then she doesn’t need it and it got trashed when we moved my mom.
I firmly believe that while we help others, you also gotta do what works for you! Can't love others well if you aren't loving yourself- and getting your space functioning for you is a form of self-love.
Sell my things and give me the money 😂😂😂😂😂 somebody went to Costco and bought the audacity in BULK
I started watching this on my tv but came to my phone to comment. I’m about 5 minutes into the video. When you said something about your marriage, I quickly thought “oh she’s married very young” nothing too deep, just a quick thought. Then you said you’re 43 and my mind is blown! Girl what?! You barely, barely look 25! 💕💕💕
🥹This is too sweet, thank you so much! Yes, girl- I am grown, grown!!! 😂
Hi, I agree with you! I had a similar reaction to her and her appearance. I thought she MUST be very young. Then she told us her age, and I was astonished! She looks quite young and lovely. Her skin is great and her complexion is flawless. Her teeth are gorgeous, too. (I am quite jealous.)
My first reaction was wow, this woman has it together and how beautiful she is. Look at that smile, it’s perfect. And he skin! What a beautiful soul to get to the essence of a problem and give us a pathway to solve it.
It don't Crack! Lolol I'm 5'1, 116 lbs andmy 13 year old is more developed and taller than me (and I have 4 other children). When I tell them I'm in my 30s they're like, "Oh.." 😂😂 always thinking I'm 12 😭😭
Incredible looking woman, agreed!!
"No matter where we are in life, no matter our age, we are just in time to live the life of our dreams."
I LOVE this sentiment!
Thank you!!! It’s my life affirmation! 🤗
THIS!! Caused me to IMMEDIATELY subscribe and click on the notifications button!
I ❤that sentiment,too
YES!🩷
I just turned 76, I decided to finally use all my finery I collected over 40 years from sets of 24k gold rim fine bone china from England to sterling silver picture frames, limited addition Lalique perfume bottles ( for my $30 perfumes from Target 😂, ) crystal vases for my handpicked flowers on my nature walk, 18 century silver handheld mirror to pluck my eyebrows, 1930 silver bridal flower basket for all my incoming mails & bills to be paid, antique Italian lace tablecloth etc. Those were some of my NICE THINGS passionate collectibles for years carefully wrapped in my cedar hope chest waiting for that someday, some special occasions, (in case the Pope or Queen Elizabeth 😂😂 happened to drop by my humble home for a visit) but today I finally decided that ‘my everyday’ is a special occasion, so I started to use them daily and it brought me so much JOY! One day I’ll sell them or gift them to people that deserve them. 🎉🎉 they’ll find other loving homes.
Everyday is a special occasion!! Love this so much!
Lol I purchased a 24k hostess set for my mom and her two sisters- my mom always used hers during the holidays. Anyway my cousin was having a five year anniversary at her moms house and my mom asked my aunt (her sis) if she was going to use her hostess set and she said no 😢my aunt has since passed on, and nobody knows what happened to that set 🤔
It must be so cool to use all your special treasures every day!
What's your address? Just curious! Hahah jkjk
@@lotus_puppylol 😅 lets all have a civilized tea party in the midst of world chaos. Shoot, why not?! 😂
Great tips about getting rid of deceased family members' things. The stuff makes me feel sad and that's a great reason to simply get rid of it. Thank you! And yes, they've been gone for 20+ years now. Again, thank you so much!
Aww, you're so welcome!
Bring the family to go through maybe? I know that I don’t need my mom to keep all my grandmothers things for me for the future- I can look through right now, and choose the heirlooms that call to me specifically. That way I have things hers that holds meaning for me as a person…and nothing more 💜
Doing this for my mother. She has been doing this for other people and family. She deserves an uncluttered safe space.
Awww, I love this! 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
Very hard to do it for your parents, unless they are ready to make a change. Though, most elders don’t think clutter is not healthy 😕
I’ve been decluttering for well over 10years. Started as merging two households into one and then purging what we don’t need, etc. I started to hardcore declutter about 5years ago when I realized I still couldn’t keep up with the house work. I’ve had two key takeaways - first I needed to find my “clutter threshold” and second, I realized I was buying things to “temporarily fill a need” instead of just buying the better item up front. So I was never truly happy with what I owned. Now I buy with intention. If I have to wait a little longer, so be it.
This is SOO good!
Yes!!!
Something my DinL OFTEN says when she visits my house is, "your house is so peaceful." I believe what she's really noticing is the clean kitchen surfaces, the lack of clutter throughout & the calming effect created by having an easily maintained home. It pleases me, for her, that she has found a place of respite. ♡
Clean is so peaceful!
Now THIS, right here, has inspired me. My grandsons come over, and they LOVE it here because our house is bigger, but also, comparatively clear and neat.
However, 26 years has taken a toll, and I really MUST get RID of some of the accumulated stuff. I have my daughter's prom dress from when she was 16! (She's the one with the kids.) I have instruments and board games that will never be played, clothes that will never be worn, dishes that are "too nice" to use, art supplies that will never become anything more, and I'm really ready to divest myself of all of the mental "weight" of it.
Girl, I just donated my dad's tuxedo a few weeks ago. He's been gone almost 25 years. I kept one of his sweaters and I use his old scissors and shears when I sew. Those things make me feel close to him. The rest didn't. My mom - I kept her nurse's cape and a housedress she used to love hanging out in. Those two things make me feel close to her, and celebrate who she was. But it takes time to realize what those few things are and pare down the rest.
Love this! It sometimes takes a while to figure out what is most valuable to us.
Same here, I kept three clothing items of my dad. I may add them to a quilt. I also saw someone make an apron out of her dads dress shirt.
THANK YOU GIRL
hubby of 49+ years moved to Heaven 2
1/2 yrs ago. Moved from 2 bed/2 bathroom and large garage with his maintenance Shop with stacks of wood on his side/ my supplies for crafts/tutoring/drawing and chalk-acrylic At projects... Writing supplies/ Hosp Pro Med Caring Clown costumes and supplies
Sewing supplies... Whew !!!
Moved into Senior Housing security Hotel ONE BEDROOM...YEP... You get pic.
Two seniors helping with move suggested "just renting smallest 5x5 TEMPOARILY"of boxes too tough to go thru "because might need some day".
Well... When Good Lord asked a simple question, " how long been since you've looked here?)
Over year. Justify
""But it's onlY $63"
YES... COULDN'T THAT ANY N BE BETTER USED TO BUILD PERMANENT KINGDOM ABOVE?
WHEN I'D FREALIZED ID SPENT CLOSE TO$1,000.00...I was sick to my stomach.
Thanks for your kind questions and layered concept.
Gratefully for your vulnerability!
Yes!!!! My mom passed away in my late twenties. I felt like I was obligated to hold on to her things: 1- because mamaaaa!!! 😭and 2- as the only girl in the family I was expected to be the Chief Mama Memory Protector. 🙄 So it was really hard to declutter her things. ON TOP OF THE FACT that she was the family historian and the eldest daughter of the daughter! So she had her things, granny and pawpaws things, my brothers things, ALL THE THINGS!
C L U T T E R - C I T Y
It was hard but I made a lot of headway. Still a journey tho... Thank you so much for your videos!
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a shared bond that none of us really want to have but helps us to understand what each other is going through.
Wow!!! Yes, that's a lot. Being the one who feels duty-bound to manage all of the memories is quite a heavy load. So proud that you've made some headway!!!
Someone told me "other peoples stuff is not your burden"...it helped so much dealing with all my mums stuff after she passed. I still have a few things I need to let go...a few bits of antique furniture I have no space for. They will go, I'd rather someone else get use of them than they collect dust, take up space in my mind and home. ♥️
Whew thank you because I'm both you and your mama. My brothers didn't help with anything and they are 10+ years older than me. I started asking my family if they wanted certain memories and trinkets and now I'm trying to digitize things so that others have access to them and I don't leave my future children with the burden that was left on me.
That’s a lot of responsibility. I hope you can delegate some to brothers if you still have too much
The hoarder in me: "Maybe my house is just too small" 😂😂
Haha lol that's me too !!!😅
🤣🤣🤣 Um…no, lol
In all fairness, we are having that issue too.
This is Me! 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Declutter book Declutter at the Speed of life talks about this and using the container concept
I’m just gonna say. Birthday cards is what I love I kept now. My grandparents died and that is mainly what I have left over from them talking to me directly their handwriting and words they actually chose for me as I can feel like I can read that and have them there with me for a moment. I’d think long and hard before throwing away letters from family and people you’ll always love and miss
Love this! Definitely don't think that things you still go back to are clutter- especially not hand written notes. Keep those memories!!! I was talking about the stuff that we have no attachment to and don't know why we're holding on to it. 💕
This is my weakness, I can’t get rid of cards, pictures or obituaries 😢
Those are the hardest to get rid of but the photo idea is a good one as paper and ink fade with time.
I wish I'd realized this... what a wonderful way to keep them close.
I totally get your thoughts! I took my grandmother cards and ones given to my mother and aunt by my grandmother cut the important words out and part of picture I liked and glued a collage onto an plain box from Hobby Lobby and gifted it back to them. They were amazed and grateful. Now the cards can be ‘seen’ and have a useful purpose. Cheers!
THIS IS GOOD. ESPECIALLY THE QUESTIONS. I TELL PEOPLE THAT DECLUTTERING IS A PROCESS THAT MUST BE DONE IN BITE SIZE PIECES OR THEY WILL GET OVERWHELMED AND STOP ALTOGETHER. MANY FEEL BAD BECAUSE THEY KNOW IT NEEDS TO BE DONE BUT THEY DON’T HAVE THE ENERGY TO DO IT. ONE MUST HAVE A STRATEGY, A TIMELINE, AND EITHER AN AUDIOBOOK OR SOME GOOD MUSIC TO SET THE ATMOSPHERE SO THEY CAN GET THAT ONE CORNER OR THAT ONE BOX DONE TODAY. THANK YOU. 😊😊😊😊😊
Yes!!! A little bit at a time works wonders!
#3 Layer is also a key to spending money wisely. Discovering how much you buy for your ideal or fantasy self but don’t actually use is a real eye opener.
I lived in St. Louis. Loved it!
Oh my goodness, yes- that is SUCH and eye-opener! Also made me realize I wasn't treating myself the way that I deserved.
St. Louis is a fun, undercover gem!
I would love to visit sometime. But my driving abilities is limited, so am too skittish to get on the highway needed to get there, cannot afford to fly or Greyhound, as for the train, I would got to go 5 hours north then shoot hours back south.
Maybe one day. Would love it if at least can go to the mall with my baby boy who can handle the highway driving.
I’m 60 and don’t want to leave a mess for my children, I’ve been widowed 4 years and have 2 special daughters who will be with me until I die. I not only want but need to de clutter! I feel like my stuff controls me! I am happy I found your page.
I'm so glad you're here. It can be really difficult to let stuff go, but we have to push ourselves to do it. Take small steps toward it if you need to. I just did this video as a follow up and I think it'll be helpful. ua-cam.com/video/Dyuy3vAbhlA/v-deo.html
@@kristidoingthings
I certainly hear what your saying, l don’t want to leave a bunch of stuff behind for my family, l have stuff packed in storage boxes,its memorabilia so they can keep what they want or get rid of it.
I don’t know if they have done studies on this but I strongly suspect that grief or trauma may very well be the main cause for hoarding behaviour. I was never hoarder until certain things happened in my life and then I suddenly started hoarding and found it so hard to stop!
I'm not sure either, but I suspect you're right. Hmmm...now you're gonna lead me down a research rabbit hole, lol!
I watch the show hoarders. And this revelation is true for many of the hoarders on the show .
Great advice. I have gone through layers of cleaning our over decades. I’m almost 60. Raised 6 children. Married 20 yrs. I like what you have to say here. One category I made up was “props.” This is the delusional category. Hahahaha Things we keep for a life we don’t actually have. I had some home bread making things. I was never going to use them, but I saw myself as a home made bread maker. Lol it was this weird glass tube for long, thin loaves and some other things. I do make home made bread occasionally. A regular bread pan is fine. I didn’t need all this extra things way back when our small house was over crowded. I don’t miss it at all.
Sounds like you've made SOOO much progress! Congrats! 🤗
I recently lost 123lbs. I’m currently in the process of moving. I just rid of a construction size bag of clothes that I really loved or never got to wear. I kept them thinking that I can tailor them, but it would basically be reconstructing a whole new garment. I had to remind myself that I now have the opportunity to enjoy the clothes that actually fit me now.
I moved from size 1x, then 16, 14, now 10-12
These clothes are too good for Goodwill. Looked around at church, assistant yoyth pastor is a vit larger than I, so two shopping bags and handful of things on hangers, she'll save $$$ and I have space.
Congratulations
Congratulations!!! That's so inspiring! Sounds like you are enjoying a whole new life!💜
I’m proud of you! I know your health is better because of what you’ve accomplished (physical and emotional).
Congratulations
I just found your channel today. I've already listened to this post twice, and I know I will be listening to it again. My best "Aha!" moment came when I listened to Dana K White's channel, and she explained her "container" definition. definition. Your house is a container. It has a limited size and volume. Then she breaks it down even further. Each room in your house is a container. Each closet, drawer, shoebox is a container. You can only fill each container with the amount of stuff that fills that space. Whatever does not fit must find another home, be donated, or trashed. I'm paraphrasing quite a bit, but once I got that I could not just keep stuffing my containers to overflowing, it became easier to pick out what was most important to me to keep in that container. Six trashbags of clothes were, quickly, donated. It's still a slow process for me, but it's getting better and easier. Good luck to everyone going through this process.
That is a really brilliant strategy! Thank you so much for breaking it down. Glad you found the channel! 😉
This is me. By time I get a day off I attempt to start to declutter/organize. I stare-eat-walk dog-sleep. I get tired just by the thought of where to start.
Take one drawer in any room of the house. Pull up a garbage can and a chair. Open the drawer. Why is all of that trash in there. Throw out trash and reorganize. Move to the next little thing that won't take long to do. Proceed another small drawer. Repeat as often as you'd like.😊❤❤❤
And do NOT beat yourself up about anything. You'll feel so good from cleaning up one drawer that it gives you the momentum to continue.
I'm in the middle of it right now, and I'm loving the lifting of heaviness that lifts more and more off of my shoulders with every single drawer/cabinet/closet I declutter and rearrange.
May GOD continue to bless you, my friend.❤❤❤
This!!!
@reginagrayson2465 said exactly what I was going to say! You gotta start somewhere. Doesn’t need to be big but just “show up”. 🫶🏽
This is absolutely me!😕 I told my family that I wasn’t going to travel this year, so I could get my houses in order, and it’s August, and it pretty much looks the same that it did back in November, when I said it!😢 I get tired and overwhelmed thinking about where to start. Then when I do, sometimes I think I make things worse…it’s depressing.😞🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
it doesn't matter where you start. You could literally flip a coin to decide where you start. also you can spend minimal time like 15 minutes a day. even 2 minutes a day!
I’ve been saving things since 2005. I started selling all those things on eBay and Mercari during the pandemic. 400 listings and 2 garage sales later I’ve finally decluttered my life.
Woohoo!!! Congratulations!!! I imagine it feels SOOO good and freeing!
I sell on all the platforms and it’s taking awhile. I decided not to go back to my bargain stores.
You inspire me
I want to develop the bandwidth to sell on a platform. I just don’t feel right about donating anymore. I think I owe it time myself to try to recoup some money
@@marshahill3473 mercari, depop, ebay - great platforms!
I extend my most sincere condolences for the loss of your parents.
Thank you for mentioning why you kept their belongings in storage. It has been three years since losing my mom in law. I had a very hard time parting with her things, and my late father in laws things as it was like losing them all over again or like disrespecting them by letting their belongings go. I realize it is okay to let someone else enjoy the pieces, whether furniture, knickknacks, or clothing. I also realize I have to have my own things around me, which align with who I am and not live "in someone else's house, living someone else's life."
It has taken over three years to unload three storage units and to clear out my own house but I am 90 percent done and I am starting to feel like my old self again. The time it took to fuss with all the stuff was overwhelming, time consuming and depressing.
That’s a lot of loss. I lost my mother 10 years ago (I was 35 and her passing was unexpected). I found that it put things in perspective for me. If I can live without my own mother, I can live without mere possessions. It’s been a good reminder as my children get older as well, and the pull of their artwork and baby clothing feels overwhelming.
Thank you and condolences on your loss as well. 💜 The trauma of loss really does a number on our sense of reasoning.
I have come to terms with that realization as well that letting their stuff go doesn't equate to letting them go. I think I always knew that mentally, but my heart/healing had to catch up with it. But it has been a weight and it's time to fully heal. Thank you so much for sharing your story.
That's such a good and healthy way to look at it! It's always amazing to me to see how differently we all process grief. 💜
@@katiejon17wow-this is a super powerful way of thinking about things. My mind is kind of blown because I’ve listened to SO many decluttering videos/podcasts/audiobooks etc, and not a single person has ever mentioned this, which is surprising. I’m sorry for your loss, but think it’s amazing that you were able to come to what I consider a pretty profound realization, that I want to thank you for sharing x100000. I’m lucky enough to still have my parents with me, but have been struggling with clutter/overwhelm for as long as I’ve lived on my own. I’m also very ADHD, which certainly doesn’t help things-but I spent SO much time just LOOKING for things….and now I’m thinking about my parents’ ages and how that wasted time looking for things-and honestly, the time spent wasted due to the overwhelm caused by clutter (which makes cleaning much harder and a longer process!).
So you’ve kind of lit me up and inspired me to be ruthless in my decluttering-which luckily I’d already planned on doing for half of today!
Thanks again for sharing your wisdom!
@@Hmy8799 I’m happy it helped! I shut down my YT channel a few years ago and I’m toying with getting it back up. There’s so much discussion for all of us to have. And certainly when we choose to live minimally, our finances also improve without even trying. ❤
My husband recently passed away. He bought our home when he was 19 yrs old. And he did not believe in throwing stuff away. It's was a nightmare for me to get rid of 45 yrs of stuff some which he hadn't used since the 70's. I found two denim bell bottom suits. Suits !! 😂😂. It's taken me months to delete it all. Don't leave stuff behind for your loved ones. It's hard enough to grieve and no one needs to be stuck with your mess. ❤❤
I’m so sorry for your loss. And wow, it’s seems you have a really healthy ability to detach the stuff from his memory. ❤️ Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My husband passed away a few months ago also, and I need to get rid of most of his clothing, so I can have more closet space, which tells me that I definitely should go through my things too!
@@marthasousa2001 awww. Thanks. You as well. Bless. Yeah. It's a good time as you move forward to clear the nest.
@@kristidoingthings I kept the most sentimental things for sure. The small things he used everyday. But I'm lucky I had no sentiment towards his clothes and tools and other things. But I had no choice. I couldn't keep the house and had to sell it quickly. And it sold the day it went in the market. I know how hard that is for so many spouses tho.
....this!!!
Thank you for showing your real home in its real state.
🤣🤣🤣 Yes, it gets messy! That’s part of life.
I rent a bedroom from this lady I met on Craigslist. I tell people not to give me gifts because I have no space. I’ve had several people tell me I should get a storage room… so I would then be paying interest on items I bought that I’m saving to use? I tell people to give me portrait picture of them. Nobody does that anymore. But a photo to cherish when your old and people have moved on is priceless, and it fits nicely in an album.
It's really wise of you to prioritize space and focus on what truly matters, especially when living in a rented room. Photos can hold so much value, capturing memories and relationships without taking up much room. It’s a beautiful way to cherish the people in your life and create lasting memories. Sounds like you've found a meaningful way to live simply and thoughtfully!
I had a storage unit for years that I got shortly after I became a single parent with 3young children. Things that were “sentimental”, that “maybe they’d want when they were older” or that I wanted for myself when I was an empty nester, filled that unit over the years. Then, I got really sick and almost died just before my youngest was going into their senior year of high school. And then I almost died again about a month after school started. I went to my folks to recover and my youngest went to my sister’s to continue at the same school. As I got better, my grandmother had a stroke and came to live at my folks. Then my dad’s dementia got bad rapidly. I stayed to help my mom care for both of them. My youngest graduated and went off to college. My dad passed after about 2 years and my grandmother about 6 months later. My college kid came home to my folks on breaks. My grandkids came to my folks house but knew it as the house where their grandmother and great grandparents lived. When it was down to just me and mom, we decided we didn’t really want to live alone in 2 separate households. After another year or so, I finally told my kids to clean out the storage and keep what they wanted, bring me about 5 things I wanted and do whatever they wanted with the rest. I couldn’t go help then. It was too emotional for me. I kept the mindset they would just be doing what they would have done if I had died. Not paying that bill every month was such a relief. Knowing they took what they really wanted was such a relief. Now, my mom and I clean out closets, cabinets and bins a little at a time and the kids/grandkids let us know if there’s anything they do want. ❤
Thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you've gone through so much, and letting go of the storage unit must have been a huge emotional and financial relief. It’s inspiring how you allowed your kids to choose what mattered most to them and released the rest, recognizing that holding onto items isn’t always worth the burden. Now, as you and your mom continue decluttering together, you're creating space not only in your home but also in your hearts. It’s a beautiful way to honor your journey and embrace the present. ❤️
The taking a picture idea is a superwoman level solution. 💪
Take pictures and then print them on photo paper or regular printer paper. Put them in a photo album and write a little blurb or the story of the memory with the date of each experience.
Then, you really can let go of the actual item. The memory is what is important. 🥰
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Love this!
This. The hardest thing for me to get rid of has been my son's stuff from when he was a kid. This is going to help me break through today. Thank You! 🙏🏽💙💙💙💙💜🌎🕊️
Also take before and after photo of each area as you are working on declutter.
One way I look at my possessions that have served their purpose for me is to ask myself "Could this item make someone else happy?" If so, I give it to Good Will. I have some expensive toys that I bought long ago for my grandkids when they came to stay. They are all now in their late teens. I saved the toys because I spent a lot on them, but they are just sitting there. Since these toys could be a joy for someone who cannot pay full price now, I can peacefully give them to Good Will.
I REALLY love this perspective. Thank you so much for sharing it! ♥️
i took a huge tub of photos, art work, certificates, documents and scanned them all and put them on an external hard drive. A lot of work, but well worth it.
I need to do this too!!!
Me too, what a relief!!!!🤗
This sounds like me. However, I turned 57 a month ago and promised my self this is the end of that tradition. I am going room by room and decluttering and going to enjoy the things I have. I look back at the living room furniture over the years that was never utilized, as well as the vehicles barely driven. I can’t believe I have accumulated so much stuff overtime. I am actually feeling overwhelmed, but I got this.🙏🏾🙏🏾
Yes, you've got this! I'm seeing you posted this comment a few weeks ago, so I have to ask- how's it going?!?!
Another component to this is donation. Donate the items you really can’t use that you know someone else would really love, but donate to a cause that is close to your heart for me It was donating to a local, battered women shelter, and a domestic violence, safe house, because I went through domestic violence, this gave me a sense of purpose and love.❤
So true. I really love this component of donating to places that mean something to you- makes it a lot easier 💜
Scout troop or small private preschool would be so happy with craft supplies.
“Where I am in my life, would I buy this? I LOVE that!! I’m in the process of moving and needed this.
So happy that it helped! ❤️
Thank you for saying with Layer 4 - there’s no set time to release items. It’s good to hear from the perspective of someone that understands that an emotional loss is the hardest to deal with when trying to declutter.
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I personally tried to change my shopping habits by instead of buying everything that i am interested in, i would take a picture of it and if i keep going back to that picture or can't stop thinking about it then i might actually buy it but it often results in me not buying it and helps me to keep my space.
Love this so much!!! Great idea!
I'm so pleased you told us that the background was staged and showed us the moving imperfection. Love it! So much more relatable.
I'm so glad that it was helpful to you! ♥️
I’m 82 and have largely gotten through the first layer. Plenty of the second too but you sure right about the layers. I’ve digitised some, more to go. Great self questions. Thanks for your help. Funnily enough I finally got rid of some really great 36 size pants because I hadn’t lost weight. Then I did keto 5 years ago and have been buying 36 waist pants! At my age I appreciate irony.
It’s wonderful to hear you’re making progress through those layers! Digitizing can be such a game-changer. So funny about the pants!!! Thank you for sharing your journey 😊
Terrific tips that are actionable TODAY! Thank you, I’m so glad I found you on UA-cam!
I was having a hard time decluttering before a move and I can now see how subconsciously having to navigate these layers was killing progress. All that work underneath the surface really adds to the cognitive load of the task - but without realizing it. I was like, why am I so tired doing this?
Now I pick a room or area of the house and start by sorting the clutter into these four layers, and then tackle layer by layer for that area. Game changer.
Amazesome. Seriously.
I’ll add one bonus question to Layer 3: Would I clean poop off of it?
(Like if it fell in some dog s- or there was a freak toddler eruption in your house.)
If the answer is no, you can let it go. For me this is the fastest way to sort out how I feel about something and whether it deserves to take up space in my life. Now I just need a similar question to sort out people in my life …
Aww, so glad you're here! Getting to the root of it is SO important.
I totally relate to this I have moved between MA and SC twice in the last 5 years. I have two storage units in MA. I finally said enough is ENOUGH. I booked a flight and took off work so I can spend 2-3 days clearing out my storage and moving on. These are great tips to get me thru it. Thank you ❤
Get it, girl!!! Love this!
Great video! If you need a little more incentive to declutter, calculate how much of your mortgage payment is spent each month for the space taken up by clutter. Say if you have a 1800 sq. ft. house and a $2000 mortgage you are paying $1.11 per month ($2000/1800) for each sq. ft. of your home. If you have a 12 x 12 ft. room full of clutter, that is 144 sq. ft. You are paying 144 x $1.11 = about $160 a month for that cluttered up space!
It’s too early in the morning for that much math 😂😂
Oooh, I love this!!! Really puts it in perspective...and, ouch!
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OMG I’m thinking you must be an engineer! LOL
@sharondalynnewton7562 Ha Ha! You caught me!
I'm at the "can I find it the next time I need it" stage. Everything needs its place.
Love this!
So real regarding the items I have in storage, I could calculate what I've spent on them but I won't because I don't want to know!!!
I have a problem with mail too (everything, but mail seems like it should be the easiest to conquer). There are stacks of paper everywhere. I can’t figure out what to keep sometimes. These types of videos are always inspiring, so thank you!🙏
You're so welcome! I now let my hubby manage the mail because we've both accepted that it's not my strength.
I realized I had a clothes hoarding problem when I got a stain on something and I felt relieved that I could get rid of it. It was out of my control, and for some reason, I just sighed and it felt good. One less thing to worry about. It can be so hard to get rid of things. I felt that if I got rid of something, it would be my fault that I was sad or that I missed it, and I understood that my problem extended from abandonment trauma, an obscured sense of self, and when my home caved in and I lost so much. I got clothes to try and feel good about myself, but materialistic things don't heal. You need to rid of stuff that distracts you from your true purpose. You need time to do more things other than constantly decluttering. You will feel good once you open up your time to more fulfilling things, you can do it! ❤
THIS!!!
I’ve been decluttering for about 2 years. It’s been getting so much easier now. I noticed that some things are harder than others to get rid of. My weak spot is all of my office/craft supplies
I hear you on the craft supplies! I’m a serious crafter! Have an entire room dedicated to the hobby. Nope not gonna do it! Lol
Lol, we can never have enough craft supplies...that we never use🫣😂😂
I, too, have a weakness for office supplies/stationary/crafts. 😂
Same! The main improvement I've made is to stop looking at stationary and crafting supplies, even when there's a sale :)
I thought I was going to need counseling to get rid of my craft supplies, but it turned out to be easier than I thought. I didn’t know about the layers then but looking back, I did go through the layers. I got rid of duplicates. I looked at what my current interest were, and got rid of items associated with crafts I no longer enjoyed or did. I got rid for old patterns with sizes that no longer fit & were outdated styles. For the sentimental stuff, I picked a spot and only allow myself to keep what would fit in the designated space. That made me decide what was really important to me. What made it easier was donating some supplies to teachers. Giving things to people that I knew would use and enjoy them. I sold some items, which put some money back in my pocket. When I start slipping, I remember my reason why, which was to make space for what I really enjoy. Now I’m realizing I need to watch the lack mentality-not wanting to throw things away because I could use it to make something. What can I say…I see treasures in trash. I own it. I just have to be mindful about that. If I’m not making anything with it…I don’t have a current project or use for it, I let it go so I don’t end up going down that rabbit hole.
I have had the honor of cleaning out the homes of four loved ones who have passed away, I also helped my best friend clean out her mother's items. I've only kept some of my mom's items. Like the blazer she would wear. It's soothing for me. I walk into the closet, hug it, and tell her that I love and miss her. I have three pieces of furniture of hers in the garage. They have been there for four years. I wanted to reupholster two single chairs. They're about 45 yrs. old. If I'm completely honest with myself, I'm not going to do it. Besides my mother's items, I have so many things that I need to get rid of. Your video has helped me to begin the journey of decluttering. I know I will experience pain, joy, crying, laughing, headaches, and finally a great relief when it's all done. Thank you so much for this video. I stumbled upon it. I don't believe in coincidence. God brings things to our lives at the right time to make changes for the better. Blessings to you and yours.
Thank you for sharing your experience; it sounds both profound and emotional. It's beautiful that you’ve kept certain items from your mom as a way to feel connected to her. I do the same. Starting the decluttering process is a big step, and it’s great that you’re ready to embrace the mix of emotions that will come with it. It’s all part of honoring those memories while making space for new ones. I truly believe that finding your way to this video was meant to help you take that journey. Wishing you strength and peace as you move forward-blessings to you as well! 😘
My husband passed in January. I’ve been trying to get myself through the decluttering process and I didn’t even realize I’m someone else now and that’s my block until your video. Thank you.
#Condolences
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Aww, I'm so sorry for your loss. I imagine it feels a bit overwhelming at times. Show yourself grace and don't try to do it all at once. Sending you love and hugs. 💜
"WE ARE JUST IN TIME FOR OUR DREAMS" wow first time watcher and already in love!
🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽 Thank you!!!
Girl, your decluttering system with layers and questions is 🔥! I haven't heard anyone else have a process like this. Looove it!
Thank you so much!!! I think a lot about the why of things and finally realized what had been holding me back.
I went on holiday recently and came to a harsh realisation of the type of life I really wanted. So on the day of my return, instead of resting, I unpacked my suitcase and began chucking out bags of clothes and items. The next day in my work break, I was digging out and recognising what I no longer need. I took a post it note and marked the items that were next to be discarded. By the end of the weekend I emptied out my wardrobe of useless bags and shoes in boxes, books, magazines, notebooks etc. I tell you, I slept well that evening
It sounds like that holiday was the kickstart you needed! It's amazing how a shift in environment or perspective can suddenly bring clarity about what really matters. I often say that our physical spaces often reflect where we are mentally. The fact that you slept well after clearing out all those unnecessary items shows how much lighter and more focused you must have felt. So happy for you!!!
You are the 1st declutter to PRECISELY identify my struggle. I am a master organizer. I can enter any room, closet, or garage overflowing with disordered piles of things, literally floor to ceiling, and put it in orderly intuitively labeled organizers - but my OWN treasures? …they’ve been hanging around.
You spoke to my needs. I subscribed!
Aww, so glad you’re here and that it helped! I truly believe we have to understand why we do things to get to the root of it.
I was re-reading your comment and thought about how I am also a really good organizer. I had so much less perfectly tucked away, and home so clean, but I knew there was stuff that needed hanging and could feel the weight of it. Best of luck as you continue your journey!
I LOVE your layers!!! GREAT explanations of each!!!
For layer 4, I recommend if people have multiple items from a past away loved one(s) they are trying to declutter. Think of the memories the items bring up. Every life has its ups AND downs. So only keep a few of the items that bring up the VERY BEST memories of your loved one!
The Minimal Mom had a vid on UA-cam where she explained how she had these dolls as a child and she loved keeping them in pristine condition. Whenever her younger cousins came over she got anxious about some of her dolls bc of how they played with their own dolls, and wanted to hide them.
Then as an adult, her mother 1 day suddenly brought her the bin of all her childhood dolls for her own girls.
She looked at them and the happy memories were there as well as the anxious feelings about her cousins ruining them. Instead of giving them to her girls, she decided that she didn't want to see them in her house and think of those anxiety thoughts all the time whenever she see she kids playing with them, so she donated them to charity!
Much like my story of a person who broke into my house while I was sleeping...(long story cut out)... I never wanted to see that same bedroom again. I changed my entire bedroom from blue & green plaid to pink and white. I even got rid of my side table.
And the old bed set? I brought it to an animal shelter in a different city than the one that I volunteered at (just to make sure that I would never see it again!)
I love that! Keeping the very best memories!!! So often we only remember the good things and don't realize why we have mixed feelings about an item.
I'm 61. Both my parents are gone and everything nice I inherited, I use everyday!!
"I will make sure this is not clutter by ____"
is so helpful and makes you really think about it!
Thank you so much you are encouraging...I am almost 64 and I currently have 3 storages taking up my money not to mention the garage and my advice is get on it sooner then later while you are strongband healthy and you have your husband while I still have my husband of 44 years praise God he is going truogj some health issues at the present and now it's oh no why didn't I do this sooner stop putting it off...I'm trying to save someone money here...om still trying to get to mine...I blew out my ankle in auto accident 20 years ago which gets in my way from time to.time especially in those times where I feel like ok let's do this...I a retired teacher.
.and yes I still have my stuff...ugh....pray for me and I pray that God will keep giving you guidance and wisdom and strength
Thank you for sharing your journey! It’s inspiring to hear your determination, especially with everything you’re navigating. I completely understand how those storages can weigh on you both financially and mentally. Prayers sent and thank you for your prayers as well! I’m cheering you on as you make progress with your decluttering! You’ve got this! 🙏❤️
I soooooooo can relate to this and I've gotten a little better donating things. Me & mail have the same relationship as you mentioned 😅 I hate going through it.. I lost my husband 4 years ago and our bedroom/his closet still looks like he's coming home 😢 I've managed to donate two boxes of his clothes/shoes.. it's hard but your video has inspired me to get going even if it's with other "stuff" first 👍🏾
I’m so sorry for your loss 💔 Letting go can be so tough, especially when it comes to such personal things. You’re already making incredible progress, and even starting with other items is still a big step forward. Be gentle with yourself, and keep going at your own pace-you’re doing amazing. Sending you strength and encouragement. ❤
“I will make sure this doesn’t BECOME clutter by…” LOVE it
I work from home now & now i have to actively wear my clothes & jewlry but also acknowledge some stuff i don’t need anymore
It’s so easy to have the same outfits on rotation when we work from home!
I have a craft room that is taking over my life. I can’t get into it and when I do squeeze my way in there, I can’t create anything so after I heard your video, I took an Imaginary pencil and I split the room up into six imaginary parts and I’m going to start cleaning it as soon as I press the send button and thank you for sharing how to declutter. Pray for me I’m going in.😂😂😂 11:50
Hi? Are you still alive?
Yes, we all want to know how you made it out?!?!😂
What a brilliant way to divide up your space and start getting it in order.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 yes I’m alive but I have to be honest. I cleaned one corner of the room and started a mess on the other corner of the room but I’m still alive. I’m so sad. It’s funny. I am so sad that I can’t get this room clean.🤣🤣🤣
@@robinrice1540 😂😂
@@robinrice1540I need to do this too. And wanted to share that I am going to divide the hours spent in the room to clean and on what days. Hope that will help you as well.
My issue is that no one interacted with me as a young child. No one taught me to clean! But I got this 💪
Same here girl but my mom always blame us for the mess
You can do it!!!
I realize that less is more and I’ve been working periodically on decluttering, everywhere l look in this house is stuff, 50 towels, dishes etc- I’ve gotten rid of some things and don’t miss them at all. Real good video
Thanks for sharing!! It's wild when we realize how much stuff we've kept. So glad that it resonated with you. 😊
i got so overwhelmed i got depressed and stopped my journey of decluttering which compounded it. Thanks for talking about the fourth layer , the heart. ,this explains why moving or geting rid of thing that were m y mom's was so very hard while onlookers kept saying you need ot get rid of all that. It felt like someone was ripping my heart out
Aww, I completely understand. It's incredibly painful when it feels like that is all we have left of our loved one. You'll know when it's time. 💜
Hey! Don’t forget sometimes we hang onto things for positive vibes as well! Some folks have tshirts, socks, hats, etc. that they use as memories of fun events or times where they did something memorable. BUT, they are taking up unnecessary space. 10 shirts from The Bahamas!!!! 30 pair of Christmas socks???? Come on now! Let it go. Keep 1 or 2!
Very true!!!! Thanks for that reminder. I think that could fit in happy memories (layer 2). Hmmm…thoughts?
Agreed! BTW…we need to get rid of some cards!!!!! And some doggone tshirts!!!!! Grrrr. Round 4 of decluttering in the Patterson household! Kristi let’s do some things!
I have a t-shirt that was bought on holiday 44 years ago. I could just about squeeze into it, but I would never wear it and haven't since I was a teenager. I think it's time it went to the great rag pile in the sky!
I feel so happy to know I'm not the only person sitting around trying to hand shred mail😂
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I use the garbage disposer. Get it super wet. Works like a charm
@@lindsaywells5225 very interesting 🤔 never thought about that
Another idea is, if you have a large plastic storage tub, fill with water & just toss them in. In time, they become mush. Then drain & toss out. You can also use it for mulch in your garden. Saves time without shredding/tearing. More time to declutter...lol..
@@TheChickenn08 I do that too!!! Then hand shred😂.....well if I can still see what's on them. That paper get heavy! But I never thought about the mulch in garden🤔 thanks for that little life hack.
Oh wow, "why do I want this?". I have never thought to even ask myself this question! I am struggling to declutter. I will have to try this. Thanks!
You're so welcome. Funny how really simple things can make such a huge difference. We are in a 30 day decluttering challenge right now. You should check it out. ua-cam.com/video/S4INgfnUXW8/v-deo.htmlsi=i6VFYkiiwTTTzqd_
Thank you, you have explained something that I have been searching for an answer to for a long time. I have items I have kept from when I was unwell and unable to do much at all, the fear of ending back there, has kept me from tossing these out. I cant bring myself to use these items because they bring back a mindset of depression, overwhelm and dread, yet I have kept these because they were my only source of comfort during that horrible time. Even now knowing what I need to do, tears are in my eyes because they are old friends. I think I will donate these items so if I ever find myself missing them I can at least think of other people getting enjoyment from them.
Again a massive thank you.
I’m so glad my message resonated with you! It’s completely understandable to feel a strong attachment to those items; they represent a difficult time, but also your resilience. Donating them is a beautiful way to honor that journey while also allowing yourself to move forward. It’s such a generous choice to think of others who might benefit from what you’ve held onto. Remember, it’s okay to feel emotional during this process-it’s a sign of your growth and healing. You’re doing an incredible job!
Thanks for the advice. I am on a working on leveling up in life and I truly feel that my clutter is distracting and weighing me down. (Crazy but True)
Actually, it’s not crazy at all! I actually have another few videos talking about exactly that! Best wishes as you work to get rid of the clutter!
Not crazy at all!
Not crazy at all. I'm currently feeling the same way.
Same!! It can feel suffocating and causes me anxiety which is my motivation to go through the tough process.
I struggled with decluttering all my life. Nothing seemed to help. Until one day, when I just realized what I had was an unhealthy attachment to... useless stuff. To be honest, it was almost like a spiritual awakening. Why was I so attached to all that stuff? It was worthless and I always wasted energy trying to organize it, to find new ways of storing it. I was a slave to my own junk. Useless, insignificant objects that I couldn't throw away because I was too emotionally tied to. For example, I had so so many things from my grandparents who passed away. Why did I need so many of them? Were my memories of them depending on objects? Would giving up that stuff mean I would forget they ever existed? Obviously not. So I ended up only keeping my grandma's earrings and grandpa's mug. That's it. I had tons of newspapers and magazines that I kept with the intention of using in my DIY projects, but I never got the time to actually do those projects. I kept telling myself I HAVE to keep them and use them somehow because it's recycling and it's a good thing. It actually added a lot of pressure on me because every day I saw them was another day I would blame myself for not DIYing. Sooo toxic. Eventually I just gave them to a recycling company. It's still recycling, I don't have to do the entire process myself. It's honestly the best feeling ever. To finally understand that stuff is just stuff, unimportant, and I am above it. I am the one that matters.
So helpful tome, thank you.
How freeing to no longer be a slave to "stuff". It's amazing how when we finally let go, we realize how much these things that we thought were so vital were actually only serving to hold us back- plus we don't even miss them when they're gone. Yes, you are the one that matters! So happy for you!!!
To me too!
I can’t imagine the difficulty in trying to let go of your parents’ belongings. I’m so sorry you lost them at such a young age. Sending lots of love and hugs your way.
Taking a picture is the main way I can get rid of tons of stuff. Great advice.
I love this video. I will definitely subscribe. Love your sense of humor at the beginning too! ❤😊
Thank you for your kind words and for subscribing. It means a lot, and I’m glad the advice resonates with you. We have a good time over here! Sending love and gratitude your way! 😊❤
I have loved my decluttering journey :) Makes me feel ready for love ❤️💜
Oh, I love this!
I've been loving this since I started my decluttering journey. I've donated and thrown away a big portion of my stuff, keeping only the things that spark joy. However, I've realized that I still have clutter because of these items. So, I now have a donation bag near my door, where I'll put things I haven't touched in weeks. Then, I'll see if I miss or remember having them. If not, they're going to be donated 😊❤😂
What a great strategy! Having a donation bag ready makes it so much easier to keep the momentum going in your decluttering journey. It’s amazing how we often forget about things we thought we needed. I love that you’re giving yourself the chance to see if you truly miss those items-such a great way to ensure you’re only keeping what truly brings you joy! Keep up the great work! 😊❤
We have lived in this house for 24 years, so there's a lot. I've almost emptied the upstairs and attic, but my office downstairs is the worst. Gotta celebrate the small wins, though.
You've done a lot!!! Yes, small wins are still wins. 😉
I always say, the more stuff you have, the more you have to take care of, the more time it takes, the less time you have for the things that really matter.
I'm currently decluttering! Thanks for posting this ❤
Whew, this is SO true!!!! Thank you so much for sharing that perspective!
😂😂❤❤LOVED HIM.."just keep turning"..❤
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I like watching the videos because it allows me to see the difference between knockoffs. If it looks well made, it saves time, and the HQDUPE is not much different from the real thing. I would love to continue watching more videos like this if I have the time.
This is very useful. My mom passed away 2 years ago. She had already sold her home & car & had been living with me. She brought a few items that even though she told me to get rid of I couldn’t while she was living because that was all the “stuff” she had from her previous life. After she passed i methodically got rid of it the way I thought she would have. Her clothes went to a homeless program. Her medical supplies went to our church for a give away. Her yearbooks went to organizers of her class reunion to auction off as a fundraiser for scholarship funds. The only think I have left are pictures. I still find hard to look at & they are tucked away for now.
I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s amazing how we all process grief so differently. It helped you to think through it logically and systematically and not have extra stuff to deal with. I know she’d be proud of you! ❤️
Thanks for the "questions" to ask ourselves. We are getting ready to move soon, ourselves.
When my husband and I got married, I put a tub in our utility room. I told him it was there and if there was anything he didn't want, need, like, used, or couldn't wear to put it in the bin. Once it got full I would be taking it to Goodwill. This still gave us a chance to "go back and get it" if we needed to. After 16 years, there has only been 1 time that he/I went back to get something out. He repurposed said item and is still using it today. 🙂
I REALLY like this idea!!! Thanks so much for sharing! Good luck on your move 😊
@@kristidoingthings Thanks! Hope you get settled in soon to your new place.🙂
I absolutely love this idea! Thank you so much for sharing it. ❤️😊
Hoping this helps me as I am leaving a comment before I even watch🤞. I "decluttered" my closet of probably 10 boxes of new shoes never worn, clothes, exercise equipment barely used, Christmas decor, jewelry, purses, moved on to the kitchen and tackled small appliances, etc... Honestly the boxes I took to the women's shelter filled my kitchen (I have photos) and the attendant asked me THREE TIMES, "Do you need a receipt"?? Got back home and still SO MUCH CLUTTER!!! 😭😭I felt defeated😩
But you did it!!!! I'm very proud of you. Even though there's still stuff to do, I can imagine it feels like such a weight lifted.
I hope the video helped give you some fresh ideas. ♥️
I like the layer concept/method.
Thank you!!
Idea for cards and paper memories, you can use a scrapbook or photo book, cut the cards in half and put them in a way that lets you read what’s written if you’re the type to have attachments to those things. That way it’s functional and can easily be put on a bookshelf or somewhere accessible. Only suggest this route if you actually go through them regularly.
I put all of my Mom's photo albums in one spot....or thought I was. There were so many it filled the entire closet under the stairs (abt a 6x4 floor space stacked all the way to the coat rod) and half of her empty laundry room. I would love to scan and save to flash drives for my brother and I and my deceased sister's family. But that would take years. I get tired just looking at it.
Yes, really like this! I so wish I was an aspiring scrapbooker.
Hi, new here. I just let go of 200 bits of make-up I kept for 15 years and never touched. I was so attached to them
but in my late 40's I only wear lip gloss, eye liner and mascara. I donated it all and feel fantastic about it.
Welcome ✨✨ Love this!!!
The most beautiful youthful 43 year old I've ever seen. Last comment: I would never throw out my cihldren's art because THEIR kids find it hilarious. "Here's a picture of a dog your mommy drew when she was your age". Hysterical laughter from the child and flushing face syndrome from my daughter. All in good fun, of course.
Thank you!!! It's not clutter if you find it valuable and it sounds like you get great use out of it!
I just love you. I’ve been watching decluttering videos & they’ve been very helpful including yours! I’m going to write these questions on a white board & have it in front of me in any space I’m working in. I feel like I’m constantly decluttering & I DONT SHOP A LOT. I’m 34 & yet I have so much crap from years! I have a bigger house but I don’t want it full! I want it functional.
Aww, thank you so much! I hope they help as you continue this journey. It took me a while to realize that bigger doesn't mean "fill it up!"
Sunk cost w/storage unit for years, and mail paper....yep. Great video, thank you! A middle-layer tip: If this is something I rarely use or don't use yet, and could readily re-purchase it? Then maybe I can get rid of it.
Absolutely! It’s all about shifting that mindset-if you can easily replace it, why hold on to it? Letting go of those sunk costs can really lighten the load. Keep rocking that decluttering journey, and thanks for sharing your insights! 😊✨
As a rule, I really love to declutter. Even so, I get bogged down at times (okay, pretty often lol) and then search for a thought-provoking channel to refocus. There are some good videos out there, but yours is one of the BEST I’ve seen. Thank you for explaining your concept of declutterring layers. It’s an excellent way of understanding the process. I haven’t yet looked to see if you already have, but you should definitely write a book!
Aww, thank you so much! I haven’t, but I’m loving the idea!
I have a storage unit I'm cleaning out. Im not even going to tell you how long I've had it. 😮 My family doesn't need anything out of there. I just need some art, kitchen items, albums and books. Other than that, it's getting tossed. I have cleaned out my closets and donated quite a bit to Purple Heart
Also, UPS stores provide shredder services as well
Thanks for the tip!!!
I think storage is the best money trap ever invented 🤣
Storage units are... Difficult. After my first husband died, I moved back to Kansas but was paying for storage in California until I could finally afford to go back out there and deal with it. I donated a bunch of it to Salvation Army, had somebody haul away a whole other bunch of it, shipped back about five or six large boxes of things I wanted to keep, then took the remainder to the nearest dump. It was a big 'ol pain. What I should've done was gone back, shipped what I wanted to keep, then stop paying and let the storage company auction off everything else. "But that's bad for your credit!" I can hear people saying. Eh. Is it? If you're in a stable place and it's unlikely anything will need a credit check any time soon, whatever. It rebounds eventually.
THIS!!! 🙌🏾
I always thought you could cancel the unit and they charge a ‘clean out fee’ and they make money either way.
I am doing this one room over the weekend. I am almost done. Have been crying over my hard to say goodbye thing but it feels so good to have decluttered spaces.
Awww, so proud of you hon! It’s hard and amazingly freeing at the same time!!!!
This was good and really a realistic view from someone in the same situation. I appreciate you.
I appreciate that. You’re so welcome.❤️
I love the investigative questions, and giving deadlines to use the items. This helps me even more with my decluttering project. I am excited to jump back in. Thank you so much for this video!
🤗 Yay! I am so, so glad that you found it helpful!
“This is what we’re actually working with “ 😂😂😂thank your for showing what moving really looks like !! For being real !❤. Great video !!
🤣🤣🤣 Thank you!!!! Moving is UGLY!
This video is gold for me. Just got divorced, I have been living in this small 2-bedroom apartment and it is STACKED with pictures of all sizes, big and small, all occasions. Not to mention other handy items like the sewing machine and like you mentioned, there's games, kids' artwork, so aside from two fish tanks and that closet full of my clothes too, I got a whole bedroom that I cannot use because, memories.
Wow, sounds like you have just a few things to sort through. Don't overwhelm yourself. It's a fresh start to make things what you want them to be.
I like the idea of referring to LAYERS. . . because it gives the mind space to see or put objects into... in a sense.
The "asking yourself" questions for each item does provide a gate to put them through; whether that's I'm keeping it because JOY JOY HAPPINESS JOY, or the gate where you push things through that twist up your gut. You process it to a place, somewhere, a location, so you can launch the item out of your happy heart space, your home, once you are ready to set yourself free.
Another question is, "can I buy this for $20 or less?" for those "I'm not sure" items that pose no real problems per se but you don't necessarily use them annually.
The "$20 or less" question is a great addition to help decide whether to keep something or let it go!
Kristi, I so appreciate your honesty - love the photos of the "real" issues! My personal hot mess is PAPER - mail, files, unfiled things, old letters (notes from my kids, grandkids, other relatives, loved ones), calendars - yes, they are a type of diary, I guess; old files from a business we used to have, and more. I have shredded so much, with more to go. I can file, but it's hard to defile. I've tried scanning documents, but then the files get corrupted or lost. I'm 69 now, so I have to do this to save my children from it! Anyway, thank you again for your 4 layers - that really helps. Also, I'm starting the one in, one out method for not accumulating so many items, such as clothes, kitchen stuff, yada yada. My brother gives me stuff also that was my mom's and he has things he saved from his / our childhood plus his wife, my SIL, is an only child who inherited all of her mom's everything!!!! Thanks again!!
Aww, you're so welcome! It sounds like you’re really taking on a big task, and it’s completely understandable to feel ALL the emotions. The one-in, one-out method is a fantastic strategy, especially when it comes to managing incoming items. It can help create a more balanced space without feeling overwhelmed. It’s also wonderful that you’re thinking ahead to lighten the load for your children-it shows a lot of care and foresight. As for scanning, it can definitely be tricky, but don’t hesitate to explore other digital options or even organizing tools that might make it easier. Keep going-you’re doing an amazing job! Wishing you all the best as you continue this process!
I've been in my house for 23 years, from 45 to 68 years old. I have been through many changes in lifestyle in those years and being in 1 place for so long the clutter has just added up. Time to clear the cutter! Thanks for you help!!
you can do this!!! 💜💜💜
New STL subscriber here! Excellent video. You broke this down so well and it helped me to hear that you’re also still working through your declutter journey. Progress not perfection 💯
Hey girl!!!! Welcome! I’m so glad you found the video helpful and relatable. Thank you so much for being here! 💪✨
I found this video and found myself down a rabbit whole of can she help me....
The answer is yes! I think we friends cause she is reading me down! Thank you for being transparent. Being a guide for healthier lifestyle changes and dealing with the mountains along the way.
Aww, thank you! So glad it's resonating with you and you're finding it helpful. I truly do believe in taking care of our WHOLE selves.