The Physical Symptoms Of Grief

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    00:00 Introduction
    0:18 How grief impacts the brain
    1:25 How grief impacts the heart
    2:23 How grief impacts tears
    3:41 How grief impacts the immune system
    4:21 How grief impacts appetite
    5:19 How grief impacts sleep
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  • @susanborkenhagen58
    @susanborkenhagen58 8 місяців тому +240

    That is one reason why so many people die within a few years of a loved one's death. I get mad when some people say, "Get over it, get on with your life, move on, etc". Everyone grieves in a different way and that should be accepted and respected.

    • @melissahanna2815
      @melissahanna2815 6 місяців тому +17

      Oh only if it were that easy none of us would be listening to this video. I lost my love three days ago and I have trouble breathing and my heart hurts like my heart can’t catch up with the beating

    • @cococarton3601
      @cococarton3601 6 місяців тому +15

      Thank you Susan for pointing this out. I lost my son to cancer when he was 23 years old. I will never get over his loss,,,,but everyone thinks I should. I was okay when my mum and dad passed away, as that is the normal, but to lose a child is the absolute worst. And then the fact that everyone abandons you.....cause they say they dont know what to say. Well for a start....try just saying something.

    • @melissahanna2815
      @melissahanna2815 6 місяців тому +7

      @@cococarton3601 people are strange. How about depending on who it is. Perhaps a hand on a shoulder with a squeeze just to without words tell the person who is grieving, that your here for them. Acknowledgement goes along way

    • @cococarton3601
      @cococarton3601 6 місяців тому +4

      @@melissahanna2815 Thanks Melissa, that is what I thought. Take care from Vancouver, Canada

    • @gargoyleking529
      @gargoyleking529 4 місяці тому +6

      My sympathy to all of you dealing with losing a loved one. Its been 6 months since I lost my partner and best friend. I dont know how I'm still here

  • @MrzBadaBing
    @MrzBadaBing Рік тому +370

    The only thing keeping my alive after losing two brothers at such a young age unexpectedly is Jesus Christ . Without him I wouldn’t even be here he’s the only thing keeping me alive and sane .

    • @crivket1233
      @crivket1233 6 місяців тому +19

      AMEN !!!! Im right there w/you !!!

    • @thebearfootgardener8728
      @thebearfootgardener8728 6 місяців тому +27

      Amen ❤ I don't know how people survive grief without Him

    • @RyannLagattuta
      @RyannLagattuta 6 місяців тому +18

      That’s very sad to hear. Imagine looking to an empty sky for peace. Seek real healing and help.

    • @kristenwiebe8244
      @kristenwiebe8244 6 місяців тому +4

      I !most my grandmother and my young 9 year old sweet rescue corgi both this fall. Jesus isn't help ing you he's hurting you I want to talk to someone my parents won't let me. So I'm talking to someone from our church. Your strange. Plus I play the violin its my natural gift.

    • @kristenwiebe8244
      @kristenwiebe8244 6 місяців тому +4

      Typo I lost my grandmother

  • @jld4870
    @jld4870 8 місяців тому +39

    Matthew 5:4
    “Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.”

  • @gr8macaw1
    @gr8macaw1 Рік тому +89

    I am 73. Everybody I have loved are gone now. My mom, dad, fiancé, brother, my dog and 2 months ago my beloved Moluccan cockatoo. I now feel that the last bit of my heart has died. I have nobody left.

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +20

      I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.

    • @karenc1733
      @karenc1733 4 місяці тому +9

      I understand completely what you’re saying.

    • @janetrussell2908
      @janetrussell2908 4 місяці тому +10

      Jesus sees your pain.

    • @isabellemdh5305
      @isabellemdh5305 2 місяці тому +4

      May the Lord be with you and comfort you in your sorrow. Perhaps if you join a walking group or volunteer in your community, you will feel the Light warm your heart. ❤❤❤

    • @Jensen1959
      @Jensen1959 2 місяці тому +4

      I hope you are feeling better 🤗 I send you a hug as to show you my support.
      It is hard when those close to us leave, whether they be family, friends or a pet. My sister passed away at 70 years in 2020 from complications with COVID-19. My best friend, the same from COVID-19, 2 years later at age 61. It just felt like at the time 2 of the people I was closest to died. It was a shock and I think about them and other family members who have passed away at least once a day. I still have an older brother & his family, but it's not the same and has been a major adjustment for me. I'm grateful for my 2 small dogs that have helped me through the grieving process.
      The 3 major stresses in life are divorce,death & moving. I have gone through all of those in the past 9 years. What a challenge at times it has been.

  • @Power-of-three
    @Power-of-three Рік тому +338

    Grief. I buried my 3 children ages 12,15,17 death date 3.29.19. A mother is not supposed to do this. I found this very informative and in no way could I grasp it before this time. I thought I would die. I wished I had died. But no. So grief never leaves. It is my new normal. Be kind to those out there as you never know the journeys.

    • @melb2258
      @melb2258 Рік тому +11

      😓💙💔💔💔

    • @Hillr2249
      @Hillr2249 Рік тому +21

      I'm so so sorry 😢😢😢

    • @E-Kat
      @E-Kat Рік тому +17

      😭😭😭I'm so sorry dear Pamela! You'll see them again when it's your time to join them.
      Sending you my love ❤

    • @jenjem5810
      @jenjem5810 Рік тому +10

      Pamela Erts,
      What a difficult situation bro come to grips with. Truly sorry.
      The loss is temporary, as ALL in the Memorial Tombs will awaken...
      John 5:28

    • @Disorderlychicpets
      @Disorderlychicpets Рік тому +16

      Omg I lost my Daddy and Sister last year 4 months apart but I can’t imagine ur pain.. I’ve been crying for four hours straight but your pain… I am so so sorry😢

  • @cashfrancios7284
    @cashfrancios7284 5 місяців тому +32

    I lost my sweet 26 year old son to a hit and run on 10.23.23 . Jesus is our blessed hope and resurrection.. 🙌

  • @lizyliz2154
    @lizyliz2154 5 місяців тому +18

    Losing a loved one is the hardest thing ever

  • @user-rz1kx7rf5v
    @user-rz1kx7rf5v 4 місяці тому +89

    I nursed my husband during COVID, we were alone. He died, restricted numbers for cremation service. COVID continued, no one came round to visit. Throughout all that time I received no comforting hug, or warmth, other than phone calls from my sister. I grieved on my own, BUT Christ and his blessed Mother were by my side.

    • @denisel780
      @denisel780 3 місяці тому +7

      I am so sorry 💗

    • @janhensley3617
      @janhensley3617 3 місяці тому +2

      I’m very sorry. 😢

    • @j.c.8493
      @j.c.8493 3 місяці тому +2

      I feel so bad for you. Hugs to you ❤

    • @robinjaime
      @robinjaime 2 місяці тому +6

      I am so sorry. Journaling really helps me. I write to my momma all the time. And talk to her everyday.

    • @djrondo1224
      @djrondo1224 Місяць тому +1

      Sad to hear may you receive grace and peace.

  • @annmarieknapp2480
    @annmarieknapp2480 Рік тому +469

    As a neuroscientist and someone who has taken my mother's loss exceptionally hard. I can tell my cognition and health have taken a massive hit. She was the love of my life and when she died shd took me with her. I'm literally and physically a different person now.

    • @cathy1520
      @cathy1520 11 місяців тому +62

      My mother passed away 14 years ago and it feels like it was yesterday. I remember everything that happened in the 7 1/2 months leading up to her passing. I too am a different person what I realize now is that I learned a lot from her while she was ill, because I was her only caretaker. I had zero help from anyone. I now know that I am stronger than I thought I could ever be, and I’m not afraid to speak my mind like I used to be before she became ill. I talk about her as if she were still with me. That’s the only way that I can keep sane. She was truly my best friend and my only real friend. I miss her every minute of every day.

    • @brendamandrak2863
      @brendamandrak2863 11 місяців тому +18

      Hello Ann, I am not a qualified scientist like you but several of my instincts often end up proven by professors. My instinct about what made my own health deteriorate makes me wish I had my chemical make-up tested and stored and then compared to how my body is now after years of trauma and grief.

    • @user-do3qz7kt2m
      @user-do3qz7kt2m 11 місяців тому +7

      Thank you ❤😢😢😢😢😢😢

    • @Lisa-ek7bm
      @Lisa-ek7bm 11 місяців тому +37

      My daughter died unexpectedly in 2020, I now have high b/p, take meds for that. Like you when she died I died too, I’ll never be the same. I look for her everywhere and death will be a relief.

    • @user-do3qz7kt2m
      @user-do3qz7kt2m 11 місяців тому +35

      I found my partner dead a month ago ,he was only56 years old.we lived together for 17 years,one day we had plans and dreams now I just don’t know how to function anymore. I have been through so much in my 54 years,but this is the worst pain I have ever experienced.your mums time came and there is nothing you could have done,she would want you to be happy."….thinking of the beautiful time you spent together.I wish I had a mum just like yours.she sounds so sweet,you stay alive so those memories can be shared.god bless you

  • @dianealbrecht496
    @dianealbrecht496 4 місяці тому +29

    The only thing that got me thru the deaths of my loved ones is I believe in God, & that I will see them again.

  • @ezzellchic
    @ezzellchic 4 місяці тому +21

    My son died nearly 8 years ago and I will never be a whole person again. Some days are ok, some days i just don't want to move. I hate this so much.

    • @BrendaDrumm
      @BrendaDrumm 27 днів тому +3

      Im the same i lost my adult daugjter yr half after my son they took my life the day they went my house is a mess i cant be bothered i go about a sort of daily routine havent been in my back garden for over 2ys or more

    • @meshell1399
      @meshell1399 8 днів тому

      I'm so sorry, will this grift ever leave us? I to find it hard two move on. my legs will move but I can't get my heart two let go nomatter what I do.🌷

    • @CherylSimon-ij2db
      @CherylSimon-ij2db 8 днів тому

      @@BrendaDrumm
      I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my niece/godchild over 15 years ago. She was my sister’s only child. We are a very close family and she was like one of my own. I watched my sister in so much pain for years. I had a very difficult trauma occur almost 9 years ago when I found out about my husband’s infidelities. I was devastated and my world fell apart. I now have PTSD. My psychiatrist told me that a person can only take so many traumas and their brain just “breaks”. I do not leave my home. Actually live in my bedroom. Have absolutely no motivation to do anything. I loved sewing before those 9 years ago. Sewing brought me so much joy. I have lost all joy, peace and comfort. I have learned to NOT listen to anyone telling me I need to get out of the house to overcome the trauma. I was never a social person to begin with. I do not have any desire to go out anywhere. During all of these years of being so depressed and even more depressed because I can’t get out of my depression. I finally accepted this is who I will be for the rest of my life. I never will be the woman I was before all of this happened. I found somewhat of a freedom once I accepted this is who I am and how I deal with life. Don’t ever be down on yourself. I’ve lost a few people who I was very close to. I lost my dad. Then I lost my 21 yr old neice, and I lost my mom in August of 2022. The only comfort I do have is that I know I will see them again when I take my last breath on this earth. Please be kind to yourself. Especially do not beat yourself up because you can’t do what you did before. It does not make your worth any less. God loves you and is with you 24/7. Some people question God when they experience any hardships. And that’s ok. He understands and is there for you. I talk to God all of the time. Sending prayers your way. 🙏🙏🙏

  • @mariaan2609
    @mariaan2609 Рік тому +63

    My son are missing. The police never found his body. This is a non stop grieving process😢😢😢

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +6

      I’m so sorry to hear that. Warm wishes, Teresa.

    • @mariaan2609
      @mariaan2609 Рік тому +4

      @@LewisPsychology Thank you so much

    • @scottys1423
      @scottys1423 4 місяці тому +4

      Oh my god. Any news? Are they still investigating? Are you nagging the police to keep the case at the forefront. I am so sorry for your loss and hope they at least find him.

    • @jlb56
      @jlb56 4 місяці тому +6

      Iam going through this right now.myson has been misding for 7 weeks now.Foul play is suspected. Its pure torture.my life is at a standstill.

    • @ShintogaDeathAngel
      @ShintogaDeathAngel 3 місяці тому +1

      @@jlb56 I am so sorry, that sounds awful to be dealing with, but I hope there will be closure at some point (hugs)

  • @dishokaur1410
    @dishokaur1410 Рік тому +260

    My husband passed away 8 months ago we were married for 33 years.
    I totally believe in broken heart syndrome my heart was racing thought i was having a ❤ attack & not sleeping & was overwhelmed with sadness.I dont wish this on anyone my heart aches & the loneliness is unbearable 😢

    • @silverdale3207
      @silverdale3207 Рік тому +21

      Hang in there, it takes a long time to work through it, I'm 3 and a half years into losing my partner and still feel like I have a way to go. Just be good to yourself, treat yourself and live to make them proud. It's a long hill to climb but every step gets us closer to living with the reality. All the best.

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +17

      I'm so sorry to hear about your loss and that the loneliness is unbearable. Wishing you peace. My thoughts are with you, Teresa.

    • @wearsidelass5013
      @wearsidelass5013 Рік тому +22

      I lost my husband 13 weeks ago and the grief is unbearable. We were together nearly 60yrs since we were 13yrs old, childhood sweethearts, and my hearts breaks for him. People say it will get better in time but it doesn’t feel like it will.

    • @silverdale3207
      @silverdale3207 Рік тому +6

      @@wearsidelass5013 It seems that way for a start, but eventually you can cope. I'm pleased you got 60 good years with someone you loved, that's rare nowadays. We lost mum back in August, they were married 63 years. Dad's got great memories and is doing ok. All the best.

    • @tormid100
      @tormid100 Рік тому +9

      I understand. I too share your grief.

  • @pamaladarsow2763
    @pamaladarsow2763 11 місяців тому +19

    If I didn’t suppress my tears , I would be crying all the time

  • @lindsayjenions2795
    @lindsayjenions2795 8 місяців тому +225

    My little brother died in 1979, my elder sister died in my arms in 1991, my Dad died in 1994 & my husband died 2.6.23. Grief is a tough road. May you all find peace after the loss of a loved one xx

    • @erinclaman6875
      @erinclaman6875 7 місяців тому +2

      ❤️💔❤️

    • @sheilalawrence54
      @sheilalawrence54 7 місяців тому +7

      I am sorry you have lost so many of your loved ones.

    • @rowenasuarez1868
      @rowenasuarez1868 7 місяців тому +2

      Grief is hard work

    • @roxannekaren1111
      @roxannekaren1111 6 місяців тому +4

      Thank you Lindsay, my husband died 25.10.23 - It a tough road, thank you for sharing encouraging words. May you find peace as well.

    • @lindsayjenions2795
      @lindsayjenions2795 6 місяців тому +5

      @@roxannekaren1111 Thanks for your response, Roxanne, my heart goes out to you... the first 2 months felt surreal, now at 5 months it still sometimes feels unreal that he's gone but I'm getting stronger & the grief now comes in waves that are overwhelming... it's the little things, memories, that get to me... & I am unable to part with his toothbrushes in his mug above the bathroom basin or his things in the bathroom cabinet like his shaving foam & after shave, they comfort me... but it does improve & I'm not on auto-pilot anymore... you will find who your true friends are & I say love them with all your heart, they are the soldiers of your soul who carry you through this... & don't forget God, I am not religious but I very strongly believe in God... I have found indescribable comfort in God xx

  • @timm1139
    @timm1139 Рік тому +573

    People can also experience grief from the loss of a pet, an item, or the way that life has turned out at 30, 50 or more years. We all have some kind of loss at many points of our lives, and honestly it really sucks. It’s really ok to scream or cry or simply do nothing. Find someone to talk to, work out, go for a walk, journal, or clean the house, but please don’t isolate yourself, as grief demands a witness. Be with someone even though it may feel strange. You don’t even have to say anything, just be with somebody. I’m there right now, as I lost my 15 year old boxer-shepherd mix Faith about 5 weeks ago. It’s really hard today. I wish you all peace in your difficult time.

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +25

      I'm sorry to hear about your loss Tim. I wish you peace during this difficult time. Thank you for sharing your insights for others. Take care, Teresa.

    • @Chelzebelles
      @Chelzebelles Рік тому +20

      Yup, no one really talks much about the grief that comes with divorce/breakup with a life partner. I lost my father & finally divorced my abusive husband when he was caught bragging that he was going to take half of whatever my father left for me...
      I had also just lost my paternal grandmother, who acted as mother in my life, my husband had dumped me over committing to being her end-of-life caregiver for free, but wouldn't allow for me to divorce him due to all the extra money he got from the military pretending we were together.
      I went thru some much grief in that time-frame, plus all the stress of rebuilding all alone, that I didn't actually process the grief of the divorce until nearly a decade later.

    • @petergerritgroen3157
      @petergerritgroen3157 Рік тому +3

      Solidago d6 hilft !!!
      Die Nieren leiden bei Trauer.

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +7

      ​@@Chelzebelles Yes, there are many different types of loss. It certainly sounds like you have gone through a lot in a short period of time. Wishing you peace, Teresa.

    • @audaciousred
      @audaciousred Рік тому +32

      Oh I am so sorry for the loss of your fur baby. I think losing them can be harder than losing a person. I know I've grieved harder over them than I have most people. Please accept my condolences and know that you will be together again one day 💔

  • @teresamcdaniel8873
    @teresamcdaniel8873 Рік тому +96

    Grief can knock you down, and wreck the body. It never goes away, it's juct tucked in the back of the brain.

    • @PaperbackWriter...1966
      @PaperbackWriter...1966 Рік тому +5

      You may not get over it but you can get through it.

    • @desertrose1226
      @desertrose1226 Рік тому +4

      Me and my husband haven’t been the sane since we lost our mothers. He lost his in 19 and I lost mine in 20. Only a few months apart. We are tired, look older, and we have had a lot of illness. We both feel ancient. I worry more for hubby as he also has a demanding job Whereas I only work part time. In age he’s still youngish only mid 40s but he feels about 70 he says some days and tbh so do I and I’m only 38….

    • @patcummings6950
      @patcummings6950 4 місяці тому +2

      And it roars back with every new loss.

    • @Jungaloowi333
      @Jungaloowi333 Місяць тому

      ​@@PaperbackWriter...1966you don't really get through it. It sticks with you. All you do is learn to live with it

  • @amyslingsby6947
    @amyslingsby6947 Рік тому +449

    About a year after my husband’s sudden death, a cardiologist diagnosed me with broken heart syndrome. For a second there I thought he was being cruel but he explained. The thing is that I had no outlet for my grief. Everyone abandoned me like I was contagious and I lived overseas from my family. I was utterly alone. No one to talk to at all. I thought I might die, it felt like it but the VERY important thing is that I DID NOT. I carved a life for myself and that life included none of those awful people. I moved back to my home and 7 years later met the man that is my husband now. There IS life ahead. It may not be remarriage, but there’s life, there’s healing and there’s hope.

    • @SinisterScoundrel6562
      @SinisterScoundrel6562 Рік тому +10

      It's things like remarriage that can save lives. It certainly saved you.

    • @elaa1934
      @elaa1934 Рік тому +21

      crazy how people abandon you in the most volatile time of your life. I experienced the same thing, when my mom passed. I try to understand and not judge, but sometimes its hard to see how heartless and brutal people can be. So sad! happy you found your peace. I am very much still in the grieving process.. miss her very second of every day, see my mom was my soulmate, love of my life and l feel that the world went dark. Gives me hope that there is good things ahead.

    • @DawnSTyler
      @DawnSTyler Рік тому +9

      Beautiful words of hope🙏

    • @moniqueengleman873
      @moniqueengleman873 Рік тому +10

      My mother died of broken heart syndrome. She was so sad. They had been 86 and 83 years and married for 62 years. Now I am an old lady orphan.

    • @desertrose1226
      @desertrose1226 Рік тому +15

      My Uncles and other family abandoned me when my mother died. They called to see if I was ok for a week then stopped and I’ve not heard from them since I saw my auntie in a shop and waved to her but she blanked me…
      People can be so bloody cruel.

  • @inesnaglic472
    @inesnaglic472 Рік тому +35

    I buried my doughter Friday, she was 32 years old, I trying to be strong as I can, it's so hard💔💔💔🌹🌹🌹

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +2

      I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. Sending you my deepest condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.

    • @inesnaglic472
      @inesnaglic472 Рік тому +1

      @@LewisPsychology Thank you💙

    • @LukeRev480
      @LukeRev480 Рік тому +3

      I'm so sorry.

    • @inesnaglic472
      @inesnaglic472 Рік тому +1

      @@LukeRev480 Thank you 😔💖

    • @maihoang8567
      @maihoang8567 2 місяці тому

      ​@@inesnaglic472
      I feel your loss ,
      i buried my 30 yo only daughter on 9 Jan 2024 she died Christmas day 2023 .

  • @christineleblond7777
    @christineleblond7777 Рік тому +135

    My son died on Christmas Day in 2018. Eight months later I had an angry lump in my breast. It was cancer. I feel it was directly related to my deep grief.

    • @sue1657
      @sue1657 Рік тому +10

      God bless you breathe deep. slowly. think about yourself. you have to go on

    • @terrificbabe60
      @terrificbabe60 Рік тому +10

      I'm sure glad ur here, my heart goes to u. Plus you set us an excellent example if you can tough it out and make it so can we!

    • @lesleylevwnthal2519
      @lesleylevwnthal2519 Рік тому +9

      I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter so I know the pain you are going through. I am so sorry about your cancer and wish you a speedy recovery ❤

    • @bornagain2890
      @bornagain2890 8 місяців тому +7

      My husband left me for another woman after eighteen years of marriage in July 2021. My heart broke! I went through an immense amount of emotions. I recently had breast cancer and a mastectomy on the left side. I attributed it to my broken heart. If I did not have the Lord Jesus Christ in my life I would have died. ✝️👑💞
      He's the only one was put my life and heart together.
      💔❤️‍🩹❤️💝

    • @lt2547
      @lt2547 4 місяці тому +1

      I learned I have been grieving the gradual loss/change in my career path after being discriminated, and lied to so a younger favorite person could leapfrog me. I just found a lump in my right breast, and will go through diagnostic testing soon. I believe they have harmed me. I’m going to have to seek justice, this is so wrong! I’m so sorry you had this happen to you, and I do believe it is a symptom of stress/grief! So sorry!

  • @candaceismyname5131
    @candaceismyname5131 Рік тому +23

    I am so scared, I am watching and caring for my mom as she declines from Stage 4 colon cancer. Each hour of each day is different.. some days are great while others I can't breathe from crying so hard and my partner must tend to my mom because I don't want her to see me breaking down. I love my mom soooo much. I will be without both my parents when she is called home and I am not ready!!!!!! Cancer sucks!!!

  • @victormeza7859
    @victormeza7859 Рік тому +37

    THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE THAT IS
    PRAYING FOR YOU. I AM THE LAST IN
    MY FAMILY BUT SOULS IN HEAVEN ARE
    ALWAYS PRAYING FOR YOU. PRAY, PRAY

  • @lesliecarter8867
    @lesliecarter8867 4 місяці тому +17

    My mother died in June 2022, I am still grieving and my physical health has declined.She was my whole world,a part of me died with her😢

    • @dreil1000
      @dreil1000 4 місяці тому +2

      I'm soo soo sorry your going through that, nobody should ever have to go through such pain. My gf lost her sister yesterday, and she lives 11 hours plane from me so i cant even comfort her and it breaks me seeing her so sad and me not being there physically

    • @andrewdaley5480
      @andrewdaley5480 4 місяці тому +5

      I lots my mother six years ago it took me three years to get my head round it. You have ti learn to put it in a place in your head you never ever get over it but you do have to put it in a place in your head or it will destroy you and you will never move on. Please feel free to talk to me im after nothing i just know sometimes its better to talk hold things in will make you ill. 🇬🇧 ❤️

    • @fauzianalwoga1002
      @fauzianalwoga1002 Місяць тому +3

      Me too. She died last year this month at just 44. Can we be friends because I am an only child and i miss her so much

    • @michelles2299
      @michelles2299 19 днів тому +1

      You can never replace a mum my mum died in 2013 I think of her everyday 🌹🙏

    • @Cedel_4747
      @Cedel_4747 2 дні тому

      My Mum too passed so suddenly in May 2022. I think I was just numb for the first year and a half after, couldn't quite grasp what had just happened. But absolutely crumbled these past 6 months. Never have I felt so lost and shattered. The loss is so immense I'm not sure who I am without her. Only now starting to see some light, but it's so fleeting.

  • @darcandelaria
    @darcandelaria Рік тому +266

    Both my parents were killed in a horrific way and I witnessed it at 11 years old. I've been grieving since that day. My heart is permanently broken.

    • @anne-vl7qf
      @anne-vl7qf Рік тому +23

      🙏God bless you ❤

    • @darcandelaria
      @darcandelaria Рік тому +9

      @@anne-vl7qf You too, thank you ❤️

    • @boota1979
      @boota1979 Рік тому +12

      @darcandelaria Peace and Love to you.

    • @patriciadessire
      @patriciadessire Рік тому +9

      My deepest condolences 🕊️🕊️🕊️ I’m sorry you have to experience such pain. RIP 🕊️🕊️

    • @dixiehodges4802
      @dixiehodges4802 Рік тому +14

      I am so sorry for this trauma to you. Sending you 🙏

  • @dragonwithagirltattoo598
    @dragonwithagirltattoo598 4 місяці тому +21

    My next door neighbor 20 years ago, lost her husband. During his funeral, she put her head on her son’s shoulder and died of a heart attack. She was totally lost without him. It was so sad and shocking.

    • @MelModica
      @MelModica Місяць тому

      Oh my god that is so sad 😞

  • @nonyabiness4023
    @nonyabiness4023 Рік тому +34

    I found my son senselessly shot about 4 1/2 years ago. He ended up dying. I had broken heart syndrome, loss of appetite, weight gain from cortisol hormone…PTSD…and ended up diagnosed with cancer almost a year ago. I felt myself getting sick. I was. I allowed myself to grieve but I was bitter about no justice. No accountability! Grief and stress can definitely kill you!

  • @michelledoyle1969
    @michelledoyle1969 Рік тому +71

    My son died he was 18yrs old & i miss him more than anything i did have a few of these symptoms especially ver eating which i found strange although it was through the pandemic also.,my life has been changed but i have Jesus Christ who has comforted me throughout,

    • @cyndimoring9389
      @cyndimoring9389 Рік тому +5

      Read Journey of Souls.

    • @michelledoyle1969
      @michelledoyle1969 Рік тому +3

      @@cyndimoring9389 will look it up thankyou 💫

    • @melb2258
      @melb2258 Рік тому +5

      Amen, Jesus Christ is our savior in all that we do ! So glad to hear that from you. A lot of ppl lose faith during such times, but he is the only way to really find true comfort 💔🙏

    • @cyndimoring9389
      @cyndimoring9389 Рік тому +2

      @@melb2258 yes, Jesus, Buddha, or Allah. They all work, depending on your upbringing.

    • @maybelline081
      @maybelline081 Рік тому +1

      Michelle 🙏🌹 (Canada)

  • @patc2296
    @patc2296 Рік тому +499

    My mom passed away at the end of 2021. Her passing shook me to the core but I had to stop feeling the grief because I literally started having scary chest pains every time I started to cry for her. The first few days after her passing, my body started going numb, my breathing was very shallow and painful when I took deep breaths, I lost about 8 lbs in a matter of three days. Even now, when the wave of grief comes back, I can’t let myself give into it because the moment I let it, my chest hurts the same way it did back then. I feel the need to cry my eyes out but I can’t because of the scary chest pain I get. I don’t know how to embrace the wave and cry for my mom until I feel relieved. I’m 52 and I still miss my mom so much and forever until I get to be with her in the after life. I love you mom 🥹

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +39

      I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. Sending you warm wishes, Teresa.

    • @dragonwithagirltattoo598
      @dragonwithagirltattoo598 Рік тому +37

      Pat I’m 52 as well and lost my mother in October 21. I know exactly what you are talking about. I have had several anxiety attacks since then. It’s so scary. I never had one before my mother died. We have to take good care of ourselves. In time I think it will her a little better but right now, we’re adjusting to our new normal. Hang in there dear.

    • @RetroReminiscing
      @RetroReminiscing Рік тому +17

      May your mom rst in peace pain free.. everything you wrote there sounds like myself exactley when my mum passed away in 2018...I have only cried once....which was the day after she passed away and it physically hurt me ! in my gut and right through my body....that crying momeny hurt so much I block out every sad thought about looseing her now to stop myself from crying ....I feel and understand your emotional and physical pain

    • @lindamaltese5853
      @lindamaltese5853 Рік тому +26

      I'm sooo sorry the loss of ur mom ...I loss my mom in 2018 still cry for her I won't stop until I meet her in heaven...I know ur pain.Blessings ✝️🙏

    • @pupskin123
      @pupskin123 Рік тому +26

      Lost my mum 2018 and the grief comes and goes but the pain never leave you. She was 64. We left on the best terms but I'd give my right arm to have more time with her. Sending my sympathies to fellow grievers xx

  • @Coogi622
    @Coogi622 Рік тому +73

    My mom was murdered in front of me and I couldn't do anything about it in 2018. She was my only living relative. I was 125 pounds, lost down to 86 pounds, unable to eat or sleep. I cried so hard for so long my blood pressure went through the roof and high cortisol affects my whole body. I'm trying to gain weight. I was diagnosed with Takutsmo syndrome (broken heart syndrome). I'm now 96 pounds but it's so hard gain and keep it. Grief has rewired me in ways that I may never recover from since the damage was extensive. Hugs to anyone experiencing this. 🤗

  • @BriaBarrows
    @BriaBarrows Рік тому +49

    The most unfair and debilitating thing anyone can go through on this earth in my opinion. It’s so sad that we live in a world where we will have to grieve the ones who love us the most. God give us all the strength. This life is a lot

    • @MelModica
      @MelModica Місяць тому +3

      Yes it’s overwhelming and even worse we are expected to go to work and carry on an act like everything is ok while we are drowning in grief!

  • @wbl5649
    @wbl5649 Рік тому +128

    After my husband died I had heart palpitations for nearly a year. Very uncomfortable. Finally went to the doctor who did an EKG. Normal. She chalked it up to grief stress. It finally went away.
    Even now 8 years later whenever I smell wood smoke I cry, because it takes me back to all times my husband and I spent camping. It also reminds me of my childhood because my mom loved to keep a fire going in the fire place.
    Its hard being the only one left. Im in my early 60's with no family and no children. And its very hard to cultivate meaningful friendships..

    • @paulinepaterson5918
      @paulinepaterson5918 Рік тому +14

      WBL. I know exactly what you mean. Heart palpatationw, the works. One year on, it washes over me like a wave sometimes....I wonder will it, does it, get better?

    • @andreabradley5837
      @andreabradley5837 Рік тому +8

      I get those too. So scary.

    • @kellilien1736
      @kellilien1736 7 місяців тому +6

      My father passed away 25 years ago from Alzheimer's. My mom passed away five months ago at the age of 96. I had been responsible for much for her, although she was in a nursing home the last four years ... which was an awful experience all around. I feel a profound loss. Even a couple of nights ago, I woke up in the middle of the night with much guilt that I "could have done more". I do have two sons who are adults but not married w/no children. I have a husband who is 70. Our little dog is 9, she sleeps with us every night, but has a bad heart now. I lay there at night and know that currently I am surrounded by these two people who I love, and who love me, so very much. But that someday, I will probably be the one alone in this bed. I know I shouldn't waste time I have now by thinking these kinds of thoughts. But, of course, I do from time to time. I am sorry for this woman's grief. I know what she means about cultivating meaningful relationships later on in life. I hope someone is on her path to being a meaningful friend in the near future.

    • @anon3807
      @anon3807 4 місяці тому +3

      Be patient, there are still genuine ppl in this world who would love to cultivate a true friendship... Be patient and kind to yourself... Its always on the horizon.

    • @karenc1733
      @karenc1733 4 місяці тому +2

      My situation is so similar to yours. The chest pains, the loneliness, not having any family.

  • @DawnSTyler
    @DawnSTyler Рік тому +343

    Mom died in February. My whole body has been effected. I thought maybe I was dying too but slowly things are getting back on track. I scheduled a bunch of tests because I had so many physical symptoms.
    Can you believe that at least here in Northern California- the standard amount of time given to people to mourn the death of a family member is only 6 days? 😮 and I am pretty sure because of my corporate job, I am lucky to get that. Our culture is so unrealistic about the grieving process.

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +9

      I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mom, sending you my sincere condolences. Take care, Teresa.

    • @DawnSTyler
      @DawnSTyler Рік тому +3

      @@LewisPsychology thank you ♥️

    • @cyndimoring9389
      @cyndimoring9389 Рік тому +15

      I lost my husband 6 months ago and am still a mess. My therapist says it takes at least 7 months to even see a way out

    • @DawnSTyler
      @DawnSTyler Рік тому +13

      @@cyndimoring9389 I’m so sorry for your loss. A close friend of mine lost her husband last summer and she is still very much in grief too. I started doing ketamine guided therapy to try and heal from the loss of my mom. I took care of her for 5 years before she passed. By the end I was so exhausted. I have so much guilt about not doing enough even though I did as much as I could and far more than I knew I was capable of. Hopefully you are not dealing with guilt along with grief but if you are it can turn into “complicated grief” that can sometimes go on years and years. The ketamine therapy is helping move my feelings through rather than bottling them up and soldiering on. I cried a million gallons on my first session but 5 days post now - and I do feel some relief. I was able to connect with my mom’s spirit (at least in my own mind) and make more apologies. I’ll do another session next week and keep going until I can function properly again. At least that is my plan. I have no way of knowing if you relate to any of my stuff? Grief is just so brutally painful. Like your chest is caving in on itself without that person in your life to fill up your middle. Thought I’d share to try and be useful. Sending you prayers of love and light to support you on your healing journey.

    • @cyndimoring9389
      @cyndimoring9389 Рік тому +12

      @@DawnSTyler yes, I relate completely. I was my mom's advocate until she died, and I nursed my husband for months watching him die of cancer. Guilt is always an easy way to go, but imagine if we hadn't been there to help them. When my mom died I told her dr. we could've done more and he told me this is every loved one's feeling. Very natural because we wanted them to live, but not valid, since they would've died anyway. If we'd done one thing right, something else would've happened anyway. Yes, guilt is not what the dead want for us. When I'm in deep grief mode I feel a true hole in my heart/gut. Just tell yourself, what would you loved one want for you now? We don't want them to feel guilty over us.

  • @bhillis99
    @bhillis99 Рік тому +42

    When my cat died 2 months ago, he was an angel and best animal ever. He died in my hands. I was petting him. My heart hurt for 4 days. Literally.

    • @PaperbackWriter...1966
      @PaperbackWriter...1966 Рік тому +9

      It was the Queen who said, "Grief is the price we pay for love." So true.

    • @bhillis99
      @bhillis99 Рік тому +5

      @@PaperbackWriter...1966 I’d happily pay for it again.

    • @brookeelizabeth8266
      @brookeelizabeth8266 Рік тому +8

      I just lost my cat of 17 years almost a month ago. She was killed on my front porch by two unleashed dogs. I found her in my yard and was able to be with her for her last few breaths. It is such a deep loss when we lose our little companions. Just know you’re not alone

    • @user-ty2xv6xw8j
      @user-ty2xv6xw8j 8 місяців тому

      🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️@@brookeelizabeth8266

    • @anon3807
      @anon3807 4 місяці тому +2

      Yeah it does hurt literally, especially over beautiful fur babies.. I grieve all my furbabies waiting for me at Rainbow Bridge... They will be the first to greet me there with my Dad who is probably the caretaker of their garden.

  • @tifrap
    @tifrap Рік тому +228

    At 63 I am getting used to the frequency with which family and old friends are dying, and the regular addition of another heartbreaking loss. This has given me a new respect for the frail elderly, ageing is not simply a matter of the body wearing out, its is a body besieged with cumulative grief that we will all nurture into our 90s, if indeed we make it that long.

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +11

      I'm sorry to hear you have experienced multiple losses. Sending you warm wishes, Teresa.

    • @elenal2012
      @elenal2012 Рік тому +3

      Very true.

    • @DawnSTyler
      @DawnSTyler Рік тому +15

      I’m at the beginning of this realization. Mom died in Feb and it hurt more than anything I’ve experienced before. Then I started looking at the people I love sort of like ticking time bombs… imagining how broken I will be if/when I lose them someday. It freighted me and I realized what old people must experience by the time they get there. Nobody will know 100% for sure until we pass ourselves but I do have a very strong belief that our souls are eternal and will always be reunited with other souls we love again at some point if we wish it to be so. I don’t think it is goodbye forever just goodbye for now.

    • @johntuohy1867
      @johntuohy1867 Рік тому +12

      Any one of us any minute....
      Life is fragile.
      Handle with prayer.

    • @stacyblaisdell9474
      @stacyblaisdell9474 Рік тому +9

      @David Parfitt I will never forget you said that. At 56, I feel my losses so deeply. We often look at older people without seeing them and stopping to consider what they carry. Thank you for pointing this out.

  • @patriciacestare232
    @patriciacestare232 Рік тому +11

    My chest hurts when I thinking about all i have lost

    • @peacenholiness6855
      @peacenholiness6855 Рік тому +1

      Relieve yourself with daily meditation and prayer ☯️

  • @f.frederickskitty2910
    @f.frederickskitty2910 Рік тому +11

    Grief feels like a boulder crushing your chest but you can't push it off.

  • @lindsayjenions2795
    @lindsayjenions2795 8 місяців тому +25

    Thank you for this video. My husband died on 2nd June 2023. I'm trying to find who I am. I'm so grateful for my little Chi dog. My children are grown up & out of the house with their own children. Life is very different without him. I feel directionless & living is lonely. I've lost a lot of weight though I eat like a horse & healthy good food! What has pulled me through so far is watching & listening to UA-cam videos of Freddie Mercury & Montserrat Caballe & Queen & now the 2023 Rugby World Cup xx God Bless everyone in their heartache xx

    • @patcharlton8837
      @patcharlton8837 Місяць тому

      Same here lost my husband in January and my kids don't live near me. All I have is my cat to talk to and my phone friends. I watch alot of youtube. I like the lady that dies the Littlepoet.

    • @lindsayjenions2795
      @lindsayjenions2795 Місяць тому

      @@patcharlton8837 My heart is with you in your grief Pat, these are tough days for you... it's now 11 months for me & the days are still tough. Bless you, Pat xx

  • @lilpoohbear653
    @lilpoohbear653 Рік тому +13

    have been watching my sister die for 11 months...she will pass any day now...my body and mind are worn out completely...I am so physcially tired and my chest hurts at times. I have nothing left(I mean, physcially n mentally)

  • @originalcoffeelover2725
    @originalcoffeelover2725 Рік тому +23

    I truly believe I have broken heart syndrome. I lost my husband back in 201&. My life was turned upside down… I’ve never been the same since.

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +3

      I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. Sending you my condolences. Warmest wishes, Teresa.

    • @originalcoffeelover2725
      @originalcoffeelover2725 Рік тому +1

      @@LewisPsychology thank you for your kind words. GOD BLESS YOU🙏🏻✝️🙏🏻✝️🙏🏻✝️

  • @Decgyrrl
    @Decgyrrl Рік тому +26

    I will always believe that my mom, died from a broken heart. She outlived my father, by 9 yrs & 2 days, from the date of his death.
    As for me, when each of them died, it was like the air left the room, and the volume of my hearing lowered, as tho u turn down a radio. It was so hard. Devastating. My whole immediate family, are gone now. I a 63 & I miss them terribly.
    Nothings been the same. U simply learn to live a new normal. But grieve, we must.
    RIP mom & dad❤❤❤❤

  • @gradosa8272
    @gradosa8272 Рік тому +13

    My father passed in March and I just lost my daughter. I don’t know how I can move on. So lost, confused, sometimes I want to cry but can’t. Brain fog. I’m considering retiring, I don’t have the drive anymore. 😭😭😭Praying is keeping me from completely break down. My dear grandma is very weak. I’m losing my network.

    • @angelmtshali3032
      @angelmtshali3032 3 місяці тому

      May you find ease in your pain through prayer. May your regain your strength.

  • @janedough6575
    @janedough6575 11 місяців тому +27

    Six years ago my son passed away in bed in his apartment, from something treatable. I was in shock for a year. Still live a much more withdrawn life.

  • @donnae2013
    @donnae2013 Рік тому +68

    I physically felt my insides being pulled out. My digestive system shut down for over a week. The physical symptoms are so real

    • @bogusmogus9551
      @bogusmogus9551 9 місяців тому +5

      I can so relate. Hope you are doing ok. Sometimes survival is a struggle in itself.
      Much love ❤

    • @clairemooney1429
      @clairemooney1429 7 місяців тому +2

      i lost my beloved husband in febuary and since he died i feel lost and so lonly he was my sole mate and i was his sole mate and i dont no what to do without him

  • @kathymiller5781
    @kathymiller5781 Рік тому +176

    Thank you for this video. You are spot on! I lost my daughter, my only child 6 years ago. My husband and I had just retired. My daughter was a single Mom, so we raised our granddaughter who was only 7. The symptoms are correct. I stopped eating and my cortisol was insane. The Drs couldn't help except prescribe sleeping meds. I didn't sleep for almost a year. We are still grieving but life must go on. Our precious granddaughter just started highschool.😢

    • @blsdbyndmsr
      @blsdbyndmsr Рік тому +7

      So sorry for your loss😢I'm so glad you and your husband were able to take your granddaughter. Praying for strength for your family

    • @MrzBadaBing
      @MrzBadaBing Рік тому +8

      May Jesús Christ heal your heart sis he’s always with you .

    • @maybelline081
      @maybelline081 Рік тому +2

      Kathy Miller 🙏🌹 (Canada)

    • @pamelapowell4463
      @pamelapowell4463 Рік тому +3

      I pray for u an your family her daughter your grand daughter going need a lot of help in her life to come brain changes an your heart I lost my sister 6 months ago moved in care for her but after she passed her husband illness come back which cancer in many places of his body ! I do my best to speak life in him but I am fighting myself in my lost I stayed with him because no one deserves to be alone in illness I will never have heart to walk out regardless if only my brother in law but lesson learn , you can only give so much your self I do not work care him full time an do not get out much due anxiety an depression just exhausted in thought I got go though this again ! I have mom sister live near but they work so it’s only me at this time! My anxiety getting beat of me thougn so reaching out to find sone thing to help burnt out fighting it alone ‘ I pray for all you in this Iam sorry to hear of your lost !

    • @lesleylevwnthal2519
      @lesleylevwnthal2519 Рік тому +3

      I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter and I know the pain you are going through. I wish you peace and love 💔

  • @sireorcry
    @sireorcry Рік тому +37

    To everyone in the comments ❤ you are all sensitive people and you all loved the ones you lost. That's why you feel the grief so much. You are important and touch the lives of others even in these comments. Love you all 💔🙏

  • @sfutterer1234
    @sfutterer1234 7 місяців тому +6

    Crying is so healing. I cry all the time. I cry at least once a day. I feel so good when I have a good cry. I thank God for the tears He gave me.

  • @maggieharris3721
    @maggieharris3721 Рік тому +11

    Deep, deep grief has affected me in more ways than one 😮🥺😪😥

  • @raymondtendau2749
    @raymondtendau2749 Рік тому +15

    In a nuclear family of 5, Dad is gone, mum is Gone, 2 brothers gone. I am the last man standing. I go to sleep everyday hoping not to wake up. But when i do wake up, its just suffering and hard to be happy. Resorting to drugs will mess up my situation. Trying to stay sane in this life of mine is really crazy. One day, when i meet God in the after life, i got really good questions for him.

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +3

      I'm sorry to hear that you have lost your family. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.

    • @raymondtendau2749
      @raymondtendau2749 Рік тому +1

      @@LewisPsychology 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

    • @drchristineobrien9704
      @drchristineobrien9704 Рік тому +1

      I had questions too until some videos, insights told me to just aaccept...no questions asked.

  • @kendallbr9166
    @kendallbr9166 Рік тому +11

    My grief turn to depression after my mother died 6 year’s ago and every year’s is worsening.

    • @mjparham6430
      @mjparham6430 Рік тому +5

      My Mother Died 6Years Ago part of My Soul died I will Never Be The Same It Changes You Forever.

  • @pamcornelius9122
    @pamcornelius9122 Рік тому +102

    My husband of 41 years died very suddenly and unexpectedly in August, 2021. In 2022 I was diagnosed with HBP and an irregular heartbeat. My blood pressure wouldn’t come down even with medication. I just had my annual cardiology appointment (2023) and the doctor said all of my symptoms have resolved and are back to normal. I still cry every day.

    • @fjb6631
      @fjb6631 Рік тому +11

      I lost my husband 4 months ago I was wondering if I would ever stop crying now I know I guess I won't 😢

    • @mindytaylor4950
      @mindytaylor4950 Рік тому +4

      I'm sorry for your loss.

    • @desertrose1226
      @desertrose1226 Рік тому +5

      Oh my god I’m so sorry for you all.. I’d be completely broken without my husband. Honestly I just couldn’t live on. I feel I’d have nothing to live for. I’m praying that you all are surrounded by the love of others to help you through, but for me personally I just couldn’t do it. My H had been sick recently and I’ve been out of my mind with worry…

    • @susieneves9596
      @susieneves9596 Рік тому +5

      So sorry❤

    • @PraveenSriram
      @PraveenSriram Рік тому +3

      My 70 year old father has advanced stage lung 🫁 cancer ♋️ and I’m not sure how long he has left to live but he is okay ✅

  • @meshell1399
    @meshell1399 9 місяців тому +15

    I lost my husband of 28 years in January 2023 then I lost my beloved dog of 12 years 8 mouths later..I miss them both so much..it fells so hard to move on.😢 it hurts to live without them.

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  9 місяців тому +2

      I’m so sorry to hear about your losses. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.

    • @meshell1399
      @meshell1399 9 місяців тому

      @@LewisPsychology Thank you Teresa 🧡

    • @carolyndawn2160
      @carolyndawn2160 Місяць тому +1

      I’m so sorry ❤

    • @meshell1399
      @meshell1399 Місяць тому

      @@carolyndawn2160 Thank you 💙

    • @meshell1399
      @meshell1399 8 днів тому

      @@LewisPsychology Thank you dear 💕

  • @leahbel25
    @leahbel25 9 місяців тому +15

    I have had two little boys. They both died at age 4. Our first died then I had another 1 1/2 years later than he also died at age 4. Completely changed me. Inside and out. I no longer fear death. I fear nothing because I have experienced the worst in life IMO. Every day, I hope is my last.

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  9 місяців тому +1

      I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your boys. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.

    • @darcandelaria
      @darcandelaria 8 місяців тому +1

      😢 I'm so sorry to hear about your precious little boys 💔 if you don't mind me asking how did they both pass at the same age? Have you considered adopting or fostering?

  • @yasskye768
    @yasskye768 Рік тому +109

    I hope everyone who is in grief here finds a way to trust the remaining time you have in your destiny- no matter how different or useless or difficult you feel - you are still here, looking at this screen, hearing words you need to hear, existing for the rest of us and for yourself and for time. If it feels empty and colorless and anxious, that is okay. If all you did today that didn’t feel hard was nothing, that is okay. We are taught to believe life on earth can only feel good with sprinkles of bad but even a baby comes into this world traumatized, crying, lost, dependent. This sounds dark but I don’t mean it that way. You have to get spiritual about it. You have to know there is an other side, that it sees you, hears you, can help you if you ask. Don’t worry about who you were before loss. You are exactly what and who and how you’re divined to be right now. Don’t worry about how long it feels it’ll take to feel normal for a bit. Time isn’t real. It just passes and we breathe. We love. We get love. And we go. Trust nature. Trust your pain. Trust your body’s survival. Let go of the fear that life won’t allow you the freedom to feel or recover. That is half the pain. I hold all of you in my chest, my arms, my eyes, with deep understanding and humanity. Search for warm people to hold you with their purity. And if you can’t find them, look in an animal’s eyes. Look at a leaf shaking in the wind. Feel the ground carrying you. I promise, on the other side of loss is bold freedom. Is the adventure of the next life. If you’re never the same, trust you completed the role your identity came to play. Trust who you are now, with all of your remaining heart and mind - you are perfect. You are here. You have the right to continue in any way possible for you. Be kind to yourself. Take your vitamins. (Specifically, vitamin D, fish oil, magnesium, rhodiola and gaba). Let anyone who doesn’t understand where you are or hurts you further in the experience, go. You will reunite with all you lost, when the will of time believes you should. When you feel afraid of all this uncertainty and change, tell yourself you’re brave. Life is asking you to be brave. To be excited to see what could possibly be left for you to learn or do or give or receive. It could seem small but if you are here, you are not done. If you are here, you are not done. You don’t have to know anymore, what that means. Losing this control is your chance to claim total, complete, independence and trust in life. Magic happens then. Even if it has to find you in between agony. Look at how strong you are looking at this screen. I’ve had years where just doing that much was too traumatic. There was no relief from agony anywhere. And I can type now. I couldn’t then. I was alive and dead at once in every way. I couldn’t pet my dog, look at the sky, not resent the sunshine, see color, in anything. My body collapsed so often. I don’t know why I’m here - but I can type to you. I can validate you. And if you were in front of me, I could give you unconditional love. Even if it’s just in my intent. That’s magic. That’s the surrender to time. If we all embraced this more, we could take care of each other in all of life’s jarring shifts. Hold onto anything, I mean literally anything, that gives you a sand particle of pleasure, unashamed of it. And when pain shows up, as it will - tell it you’re not afraid. You will embody this thing. You will let it come out and leave you. You are a force of nature. Even if you can’t move, you change, molecules around you - you change life. Your power, your identity, your purpose isn’t lost. It just needs to be noticed differently by you. That’s all. This is the task of grief. You can fucking do it. You really can and you really will. And if you die from this, let’s say you die from it - that’s okay too. That just means you leave this plane. This isn’t the only one. This is a short trip. It feels intense, but it’s short. So trust it’s pace. Trust your pain. Trust your past. And let the future be. You’re golden. I am so grateful you are here. I am so proud of you for giving yourself the chance to be human. I am so honored to type for people who feel deeply and love deeply enough to grieve. I hope these words have something in them for you that you need. If you’re still on this random ball floating in space, it still will find a way to guide you into place. Everything in space does that. Always, after chaos. Trust what you can’t know and you will be whole again - home again, in a new way. Trust your new home. You are that home. No matter how much hurt you hold. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +14

      Thank you so much for sharing such beautiful words of wisdom and compassion. Your words touched my soul, thank you again. With my best wishes, Teresa.

    • @yasskye768
      @yasskye768 Рік тому +11

      @@LewisPsychology thank YOU for you and your noble work and your channel. I am honored to have the opportunity to say anything that speaks anything to your or anyone’s soul. Best wishes back, truly🙏🏼❤️

    • @maureenustenci448
      @maureenustenci448 Рік тому +10

      I love you. Did you lose a child? I did, and the words you wrote could have come straight from my heart. I can feel your love and compassion for the pain of grief, and that it must have come from experience. You gave me a! Tittle light tonight

    • @maureenustenci448
      @maureenustenci448 Рік тому +7

      That was meant to be a little light for gods sake.oh well

    • @shubarose44
      @shubarose44 Рік тому +5

      Thankyou❤

  • @cgravelle4937
    @cgravelle4937 Рік тому +15

    I lost my husband to cancer in 2018.
    It is now 2023.
    I cannot stop crying.
    It us so bad that evenwhen I am not crying tears fall down my face anyway.
    The pupils in my eyes are also growing smaller.
    I cannot stop thinking about How much we were in love
    My husband is the love of my life and we were together for 43 years..
    To be truthful. I do not have any reason to want to go on living. He was my whole world.
    We had no children. It was just him and me. We did everything together.
    Everything I did was because have made me so happy that everything I tried doing I was happy doing .
    He was so kind , thoughtful and so giving .
    ALL I want is to be in his arms again and to put my arms around him.
    I do not know if there is an afterlife, but if there is I want to be with him forever. I hear,my name being called out sometimes.
    It does not sound like my husband's voice but I could be wrong. Sometimes I think my grieving is,making me crazy , to hear my NAME being called.
    Could he be trying to get in touch with me.
    Maybe, But I will never know.

    • @SnarkasticSunny
      @SnarkasticSunny 10 місяців тому

      This life ends, but the spirit goes on to eternal life.
      Also, Love is spiritual & transcends death of the body.
      That's all I know with enuff certainty to share this with you.
      "Guideposts" has books & a little magazine, Angels, real stories from real people, that I think you'd find helpful & comforting, when it comes to what you are wondering about & being reunited in Eternity. Nothing hokey, or overly religious, etc. It sure helped me in a Not-Pushy way. I read as much, or as little as I could handle at that moment in time. I liked that alot! I'm now almost finished with most recent book of true stories. (A writer works with them to write their story, since most of us aren't natural writers.) I'd be happy to pass them along to you, since I'm done with them. Might find tear stains on a few pages, but other than that, are in almost perfect condition. I just don't know where to ship them to you, is all. (I'm not at all social media savvy, i'm afraid. But there must be a way to do it.) I never read same books twice, so they'd just sit on the bookshelf & collect dust.
      Think about it & let me know if you'd like to have them.
      My name is Sunny☀️

    • @Hopespringseternal543
      @Hopespringseternal543 10 місяців тому +2

      Cgravelle, I lost my husband in 2019 of a heart attack that didn’t kill him but he kept coding every half hour or so for hours. The doctors told me they didn’t know what it was doing to his brain. After this went on for hours, I finally told them to let him go after they made me see them jumping on top of him and trying to get his heart going again, time after time. So I had to live with, did I do the right thing?
      We were married almost 50 years. My high school sweetheart, my best friend, the absolute love of my life. I feel exactly like you do, and still cry everyday. I want him back with me so bad some days I can barely stand it and often times feel like I’m in a dream, or a nightmare, and will wake up and everything will be back to normal.
      One difference in you and I is that I have studied the Bible for years and am convinced death was never part of Gods plan for humans. The Bible refers to it as an enemy. But it is an enemy that will one day be done away with when God resurrects the dead back to life, and reunites them with their loved ones to have the chance to live forever right here on the earth.
      I would be happy to show you where it says that in your Bible, and how we can be sure it’s true, and that it would comfort you to know he’s only sleeping, as the Bible describes death. The good news is, that we are living in what the Bible describes as the last days, just before God sends his son, Jesus, to destroy all enemies, including death. Yes, there is an afterlife, right here on earth, back with our families. You may not have long to wait.
      If you would like to contact me to see if this teaching is true and provable, I would love to hear from you, or anyone else reading this who are interested. Just send me an email to westonfam@ frontier.com. My name is Julie. Put RESURRECTION in the subject line to catch my attention. In the meantime here are some scriptures to look up in your Bible that I think will bring you comfort.
      1 Corinthians 15:26; Revelation 21:3:4; John 11:11-13 John 11:23-25; Acts 24:15

    • @SnarkasticSunny
      @SnarkasticSunny 10 місяців тому

      @@Hopespringseternal543 ...That was a most wonderful response from you to her, especially since you both understand what it feels like, on deeper level than most of us can. (We only think we understand.) It was so kind of you do send that reply. I was crying reading hers, then my 'eyes began leaking' again as I read yours. And, you're right about life not over when this 1 ends. Bible refers/infers to same. Jesus couldn't tell us more cuz' we are flawed (humans) & some would not "be their best self" if thought they'd 'have more chances'. (Silly humans! Not so simple as that.) I have good reason to believe (personally) that real Love transcends physical death & that our spirit does indeed live on! Not sure on the how/when details of the happy reunion, but of Love & our souls being eternal ~ of that I have no doubt. The rest we must take on Faith. This life is temporary; Eternal life of the soul/spirit lives on eternally. (I'm just hoping my "new body" will be healthier & not look like my current one. LOL)
      But seriously... May God Bless you for your heartfelt, caring reply to her ~ and may it being her some comfort to know her Love is not over, just kinda' on pause, for a time of God's choosing. God Bless you in all ways, my dear.🤗

    • @SnarkasticSunny
      @SnarkasticSunny 10 місяців тому +1

      @@Hopespringseternal543 ...BTW ~ You did the right thing. Considering the situation you described, I truly believe this. I know that doesn't make it easier, but so very glad that you have your Faith to help you thru the tough times. You did the right thing for your husband, & did it out of Love for him. Bless you for loving him so much that you put him & his well-being first! That's True Love indeed. Never, ever doubt that! You are strong & you are loved eternally, of thst I am certain.💖

  • @audreygrace6464
    @audreygrace6464 9 місяців тому +25

    Yes, I have lost my parents and my only sibling in the last 15 years. Divorced and the nephews that I adopted and raised have left to live there own lives. I have no extended family close by and was not raised around them.
    The grief and fear of being alone and facing life alone is unbearable
    My counselor says that this is the trend now
    People have no family

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  9 місяців тому +2

      I’m so sorry to hear of your loses. Sending you my warmest wishes, Teresa 🌸

    • @lesliedavid-kg8pc
      @lesliedavid-kg8pc 8 місяців тому +2

      I lost my mom n devasted.

    • @wilmachaffin8517
      @wilmachaffin8517 7 місяців тому +2

      I feel your pain.

  • @vvalasek
    @vvalasek Рік тому +35

    I’m sorry for everyone who is where and has experienced loss. May you be granted some sort of peace

    • @missg.5940
      @missg.5940 5 місяців тому +1

      I hope some peace comes soon. I am shutting down. I can’t sleep or think. I miss him so deeply. My life feels empty.

  • @dreday6320
    @dreday6320 4 місяці тому +7

    My grandma just died yesterday. I'm so broken because she was the rock of my entire family. I want my grandma back

    • @klanderkal
      @klanderkal Місяць тому +2

      💔... same here, My grandma was all I had left. My Dad was murdered, and my Mom passed. I took early retirement to take care....My job couldn't allow my return. With complete loss, I have depression. It's all so unbearable.
      Take Care ♥️🙏

    • @dreday6320
      @dreday6320 Місяць тому +1

      @@klanderkal Stay strong buddy. I really hope the best for you and sorry for your loss as well ❤️

    • @klanderkal
      @klanderkal Місяць тому

      @@dreday6320 Big thanks for caring about me...! 🙏💔
      ... barely hanging on at this point. Not very strong 😕
      🙏

    • @vanessavilchez1587
      @vanessavilchez1587 19 днів тому +1

      Courage!

    • @klanderkal
      @klanderkal 19 днів тому

      @@vanessavilchez1587 .... I need some,.. I used to have, b4 this happened...

  • @dianasantos5841
    @dianasantos5841 Рік тому +86

    My Father passed away 10 years ago. My mother passed away in 2020. And also lost my 2 grandfathers and my paternal grandmother. The pain is indescribable. My mother's death really took a toll on me. All the strength for those who also lost loved ones. 🙏🏾

    • @sue1657
      @sue1657 9 місяців тому +3

      boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.kjv

  • @andreabradley5837
    @andreabradley5837 Рік тому +10

    My youngest brother was murdered nearly a year ago. I had to force myself to eat for two months, mostly fruit and bread. I often felt that my spirit was leaving my body. I still have crippling anxiety. I have work tomorrow and truly just wish I could call in sick.

  • @sagbrady8414
    @sagbrady8414 Рік тому +9

    When my daughter was diagnosised with a brain tumor...every other word out of her mouth was about dying not making it thru...i research & sent her to a greif counselor...i went a few times with her too...single best thing i did...her attitude changed...surgery was a success...she is now the mother of 2 & i am proud of her...

  • @EagleRockers
    @EagleRockers 7 місяців тому +29

    My husband died 4 weeks ago after a sudden, short illness. I'm still feeling devastated and cry multiple times a day. I know this is a process I must go through, but it's difficult and depressing. I've noticed the weather also affects my mood also. Sunny day = happier, overcast day = sadder. Thank you for this video, it helped me understand what is happening in my body.

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  7 місяців тому +3

      I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warmest wishes, Teresa 🌺

    • @grettalemabouchou6779
      @grettalemabouchou6779 5 місяців тому +1

      You are in my prayers dear.

    • @EagleRockers
      @EagleRockers 5 місяців тому

      Thank you!@@grettalemabouchou6779

    • @is2269
      @is2269 4 місяці тому +1

      💜 take care 💜

  • @ohmeowzer1
    @ohmeowzer1 10 місяців тому +9

    My sister died suddenly 10 years ago and I am still in deep grief,,,I am devastated

    • @NothingToNoOneInParticular
      @NothingToNoOneInParticular 8 місяців тому

      I am so sorry, and can so relate. When I lost my Mom, it devastated me. I was the family caregiver
      . I took care my brother, my Dad, my Mom and held them as they died. I cared for other family members too. My Mom died and was the last of my family to do so, I¡ve been alone since I was 32. As in, completely alone.
      I woke up every single single morning for a decade, once realizing I was awake for the day cried. It hurt as bad a decade later as the day I put my Mother in the ground. I knew something wasn't right. I sought a grief therapist. Luckily she was the perfect fit for me. I don't know how it worked and I didn't notice right away, but that debilitating sense of grief dissipated.
      Please consider finding a grief therapist. It works. My grief dissipated like a morning fog. My life isn't completely fixed, I will always. E a bit broken for having lost my family, but there's no fog and life is at least in black and white. It may never come back to be a technicolor life, but b&w is really ok.
      Just remember life is cyclical and will get better again, life's a banquet and we all get stuck in the shit sandwiches sometimes. You just have to make some positive changes, deliberately and give it time. Choose to make some good decisions and stick with it. It CAN be done, I know. I've done it.

  • @MakeupMobster
    @MakeupMobster Рік тому +50

    When my mom passed I felt like I was dying. I sincerely felt like something was wrong with me. I felt physically ill. I was convinced that I was suffering with some type of autoimmune disorder or something. I didn’t realize it actually was my grief. 6 years later I feel a lot better.

    • @susanthoms6268
      @susanthoms6268 Рік тому +3

      When my only sister died I could not eat because the smell of food made me nauseous. And my hands shook so badly I could not hold anything.
      This lasted for about half a year. I thought I was going to die.

    • @calila650
      @calila650 Рік тому +4

      This is what I’m going through. I feel overwhelming exhaustion, brain fog, body aches and pains, cold feeling on my skin.

  • @komoriaimi
    @komoriaimi Рік тому +38

    Been grieving since 2020 non stop. I cry almost everyday. I lost my healthy dad to covid. I haven't been myself ever since. I'm the type of person that looks younger than I am but this last 3 years have aged me more than the previous 10.

    • @desertrose1226
      @desertrose1226 Рік тому +4

      I feel your pain I really do - I lost my mum in 2020 and it really aged me I looked young always and I was always being ID’d for things but now since her sudden and untimely death I feel I’ve aged 15 years more. I no longer get carded and people think I look my age and more. My health has been dodgy and my husband has been sick too since losing his own mom.

    • @DawnSTyler
      @DawnSTyler Рік тому +6

      Both my parents have now died long traumatic deaths. My Dad passed in 2008. My Mom died this February. By the time my Dad died after 7years in a nursing home with Parkinson’s and Dementia I looked aged and my back was actually breaking. I thought I would never recover. There was a large gap in time between my parents deaths. Eventually I know I healed from the loss of my Dad and there were some really great years in between. I miss my mom so much right now and I can see the grief speeding up time in the mirror. I keep reminding myself. We can rebuild. In another comment someone said to take all the love that you wish you could give your missing person and give it back to healing yourself. That’s what your loved one would want for you, love because they loved you. I liked that,so passing it on. Hearts and Beauty can both regenerate in time with self care and love.

    • @komoriaimi
      @komoriaimi Рік тому +3

      @@DawnSTyler Thank you for reminding me that I'm not alone in this. That others suffer too and try hard to keep going.aybe we can rebuild after all.

    • @komoriaimi
      @komoriaimi Рік тому +1

      @@desertrose1226 Thank you for sharing with me and reminding me that we are all together in this somehow.
      I also gained weight on top of all. I read the other comment and I really liked a phrase "We can rebuild" something new, since it'll never be the same. But maybe we can rebuild because that's what they would have wanted for us.

    • @sue1657
      @sue1657 Рік тому +2

      times get tough. . rest on God

  • @lilly5157
    @lilly5157 Рік тому +8

    I lost my husband of 40 years 4 years ago. I thought I was going to die. And I wanted to. Hours of crying, not sleeping, it was horrendous. The last 6 months or so I don't cry for hours, but I do still cry every.

  • @clippertae
    @clippertae Рік тому +6

    Lost mum, 6 weeks later my partner to cancer, 6 months after that and then to cap it off my beloved dog died too - the pain, i can't even measure.. i am now an orphan and its lonely, worst tho' is how others almost insist on 'getting on'...its just so incredibly hard and i totally feel those who have also lost and utter despair. The only thing i can muster is - i know exactly how you feel you are not alone and very muched loved x

  • @lindsayjenions2795
    @lindsayjenions2795 4 місяці тому +7

    I've not yet said how my little brother died & I'd like to do so because I know many others have suffered this & are suffering this. My little brother died because of a drunk driver. He died one month & 5 days after his 18th birthday. It was high holiday/festive season, the 8th January 1979. He was on his motorbike wearing his bike gear, helmet & lights on & was on a main road with right of way. A car pulling/towing a caravan, driven by a drunk man with his wife sitting beside him, drove through a stop sign - my little brother didn't have a chance to stop & nowhere to go, he went straight through the caravan. He survived the crash but had immediate complicated surgery due to the multiple, severe fractures of his one leg - our hopes for his recovery were high, he was positive & cheery in his hospital bed - he died from a blood clot from his leg which travelled into his lung. Our family was devastated, particularly my parents, he was their youngest child. In life, he was 6 foot tall - after his cremation, I couldn't comprehend how he could fit in such a small box... My mother has just turned 90, she still has not got over his death. My heartfelt condolences to anyone suffering grief of a loved one due to a drunk driver xx

    • @nadiabolamac2014
      @nadiabolamac2014 День тому

      My 18 year old little brother died from a blood clot in his lung also. It’s only been 5 months and it still feels
      So unreal, it’s not until I sit and actually think about it that I realize it had actually happened. I miss him, he was such a sweet boy with a great heart. ♥️

    • @lindsayjenions2795
      @lindsayjenions2795 День тому

      @@nadiabolamac2014 My heart goes out to you, Nadia - gone too young your little brother. You will always miss him... I think our loved ones are always with us even though they have physically departed this world. God Bless xx

  • @AESmith-bw1fy
    @AESmith-bw1fy Рік тому +13

    I’m the last of my nuclear family, it’s very isolating. I’m also a bereaved parent due to suicide. I’m only 45 but I often feel as if I’ve been here forever already. 😢

    • @LukeRev480
      @LukeRev480 Рік тому +6

      Same feeling. 38 years sickly since birth almost died at 28. Sometimes when mental exhaustion hits which is often, I wonder what is so "special" about me that I keep living while others die.

  • @amyquinn9609
    @amyquinn9609 Рік тому +39

    I just lost my mom to cancer. I stayed with her the whole time she was in hospice. I saw her body go the the stages of death and was there when she took her last breath. I feel devastated and guilty because I put her in hospice . I feel like I will never recover. Thank you for sharing

    • @nineteenfortyeight6762
      @nineteenfortyeight6762 Рік тому +7

      You were there. You did better than me. There's really no way to win.

    • @tormid100
      @tormid100 Рік тому +8

      I share your grief. I have never met you Amy and I love you .

    • @Annapurna818
      @Annapurna818 Рік тому +9

      Hospice is the best solution. Was able to stay with my sister too. Do not feel guilty.

    • @PaperbackWriter...1966
      @PaperbackWriter...1966 Рік тому +10

      The hospice workers we had when my husband passed from cancer
      were angels on earth. I don't think you could have put your mother in better hands.

    • @Tawroset
      @Tawroset Рік тому +4

      For a moment there, I actually thought I must have written this and just forgotten posting it. I went thru the same except my mom died a few minutes before I got to the hospice. I found her dead in her bed and called the nurse and then I just sat there beside her.

  • @gypsymoth8977
    @gypsymoth8977 Рік тому +18

    Two days after my mom passed I had an ovarian cyst rupture (first time). The pain of the rupture compounded with the pain of not being able to call my mom and have her with me was unbearable.

  • @dhenderson1810
    @dhenderson1810 Рік тому +31

    I am convinced that one of the things that contributed to my father's heart attack was losing his son (my brother) to cancer 18 months earlier.
    In fact, when the doctor said that dad's heart had been damaged by the heart attack, I thought to myself *Well, his heart has already been broken".

  • @MsTrace
    @MsTrace Рік тому +9

    Grief nearly killed me last year
    Hyper empathy a close 2nd
    I wish all of you, inner peace 🕯️

  • @heydayma10513
    @heydayma10513 Рік тому +10

    I'm immersed in grief!

  • @senjahawks857
    @senjahawks857 4 місяці тому +3

    I've had a lot of loss. My nerves are shot. 4 months ago, my oldest daughter died. A wk ago, my youngest daughter attempted suicide. I lost 2 husband's . We all grieve in differently and can be a long ery. I miss them all who have died. I've lost pet's in recent yrs and I take it very hard. Please don't ever stuff your grief down. Let just it come and work through it. We move on the best we can.

  • @kathleenhensley5951
    @kathleenhensley5951 4 місяці тому +4

    Tears suddenly came when you mentioned broken heart ... Lost my husband of 44 yrs Jan 2020 - so just before Covid hit. Covid isolated me profoundly. Most of the time i was on my own, I have no living family, except my husband's brother and his wife and they live on the East coast. My heart truly broke. I don't know if I had the medical condition you described, but My heart did break. Now, 4 yrs later, I am regaining my life... life doesn't seem so bleak. I am going to learn to drive this year and I am returning to my crafts ... and taking more of an interest in my life and home. I still miss him terribly but he asked me, before he died, to go on and I promised him I would not die from the grief.

  • @JonnyQ408
    @JonnyQ408 4 місяці тому +4

    my second oldest brother passed away back in 2015, and a year later I started having panic attacks, then I started thinking about him more often, I started getting dizzy, headache, racing heart, etc

  • @shannonjeffries5734
    @shannonjeffries5734 2 місяці тому +3

    I lost my mom on September 29,2023. She was my best friend. I went to her home, she didn't answer her door. I didn't have a key. I crawled through her window. I thought she sleeping. Ill never get over this. I wanted to get a home for the two of us, i wanted to take care of her. I wanted to tell her i found us a place. My heart will be forever broken. 💔. I ve read some many of the comments. I hope on to the Lord, that one day we all will be reunited. Until then she'll be greatly missed.

  • @user-zj1ig9ni3r
    @user-zj1ig9ni3r Рік тому +10

    My husband passed in February My grief is immense and my heart feels like it is literally broken

  • @Rain-yh9ws
    @Rain-yh9ws Рік тому +7

    I lost everyone & the trauma cost me my health. I was actually diagnosed with broken heart syndrome. Its real. It cost me my health & later my career.

  • @loriflynn78
    @loriflynn78 Рік тому +9

    Lost my husband of 27 yrs to Covid19 in 2020, I hate life now.

  • @deelightful6124
    @deelightful6124 4 місяці тому +4

    I was once a mother of 4 …. Now only 2..The day before thanksgiving 2023, my son died in a horrible a accident on his job., 4 weeks before his 29 th bday. I was crushed. shocked angry bewildered and broken hearted… five weeks later my youngest son died from sickle cell a week after his 28th bday. The pain in my chest was so severe I thought I was haven’t a heart attack, unable to focus, extremely forgetful,,, I’m experiencing all the symptoms she mentioned. Prayer family and are keeping me from losing it .

  • @Supportdog2020
    @Supportdog2020 6 місяців тому +5

    Your not alone I am devastated since my wife died the mental pain is almost unbearable at times when you love someone so deeply and that person dies they take a piece of you with them them leaving you feeling empty inside I hope you have people to talk to and distract you from your grief

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  6 місяців тому

      I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warmest wishes, Teresa 💐

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  • @user-mj3rj7iq1z
    @user-mj3rj7iq1z 11 місяців тому +15

    We are in this together , I lost my Son in December. It one of the worst thing a mother could go through. It is tough. For me it truly my faith in God that is helping me on this journey. I also draw strength for mothers in my Church who have been down this part. My family I can’t understate have been very supportive to me. I am in tears just doing this comment. My prayer is with all those are going through this time of grieve.

    • @janedough6575
      @janedough6575 11 місяців тому +2

      God bless you, I lost my son in 2016, it will take a long time to come back from this. But you will.

  • @memyself898
    @memyself898 Місяць тому +2

    I just lost my grandmother last week. She was 86. Her health was declining. We knew it was coming. But we were very close. I was closer with her than my mom. I talked with her twice a day everyday, for approaching 25 years. I know I will get over this but right now, it hurts. It hurts a lot. I love you grandma.

  • @justiceforsavi
    @justiceforsavi Рік тому +5

    I lost my daughter last year and I am just lost over it I lost my self when I lost her

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому

      I’m so sorry to hear that. Sending you warm wishes, Teresa.

  • @GjpgrD
    @GjpgrD Рік тому +8

    I thought she would touch on actual physical pain. When my husband died, I experienced the most relentless chest pain that came & went. Usually during & after a huge sobbing fit. It wasn't a cardiac attack, but more like someone was sitting on me & wouldn't get up. "Heartache" in it's purist form. Nothing like that has happened before or since, not even when I lost my beloved mother, my baby brother, or my very dear grandparents. It was an intense grief & depression that I never knew was possible. And it lasted for at least a year.

  • @susanrochford1906
    @susanrochford1906 Рік тому +7

    My dad was in the forces and was killed aged 31 in Cyprus, mum had lung cancer, I really struggled after my mum died, it affected me badly, had another daughter she died aged nearly 5 years old, it's affecting my health all the time, I have Never truly got over the shock! She was named Chrissie......

  • @sanchezroman8995
    @sanchezroman8995 11 місяців тому +4

    ..am grieving at the moment...l suddenly lost my beloved wife of 44-years of marriage just a few weeks ago..
    Everything seemed so surelist..like coming to your home but everything seemed to have been rearranged..
    Speaking of the song..
    " CRY ME A RIVER"...
    My wife and I have been together for a Total of 52- years..that included our engagement period..
    For me, Loosing a Life partner is the hardest 😢..🙏

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  11 місяців тому

      I’m very sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.

    • @sanchezroman8995
      @sanchezroman8995 11 місяців тому

      @@LewisPsychology
      Thank you so much 💞 for your empathy..
      I shall include you and your family in my daily prayers 🙏🌹
      Incidentally..one of my daughters is named TERESA..
      a name l found so beautiful while at grade school,
      that l promised myself, should the LORD give me a daughter, l will name her TERESA..
      The Good LORD gave me 4-daughters😊💕🙏

  • @karenrehm9423
    @karenrehm9423 Рік тому +10

    This is so important.
    The DSM is now trying to name grief extending more than a year-mental illness. This is evil lies.

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +2

      That's so wrong. Thank you for sharing this information. Best wishes, Teresa.

  • @greenpiggybank
    @greenpiggybank Рік тому +5

    My 17 year old passed away 7 weeks ago. It doesn't seem real. It's so painful

    • @maybelline081
      @maybelline081 Рік тому

      greenpiggybank For U 🙏🌹 (Canada)

    • @chrissyheiss1820
      @chrissyheiss1820 Рік тому +1

      Big hug and prayers for you

    • @maybelline081
      @maybelline081 Рік тому +2

      greenpiggybank I can feel your pain. My son has an incurable & metastasic cancer, my heart is in thousands pieces

  • @Lezlie2012
    @Lezlie2012 4 місяці тому +3

    I appreciate this insights this video provides. I lost my mom and was left alone. I had one last source of comfort, my pet therapy dog, Frosty. Frosty was a constant source of love,comfort and joy. God decided He needed Frosty in heaven. He died 10 days ago and Im devastated. Every day Im overwhelmed at periods with grief. Im experiencing much of what is discussed here.

  • @julieheptinstall1321
    @julieheptinstall1321 Рік тому +10

    Like others here, I too lost my beloved husband suddenly in December 😢 and miss him every day. I cry when I have to, but choose to keep going as he would want me to, hard though it is. Keep plodding on, reaching out, and reliving good memories, people…❤

  • @lindajohnson9282
    @lindajohnson9282 Рік тому +107

    I have suffered from PTSD for about 20 years. Lots of traumas since then, including the death of both of my parents within 7 months of each other in the same year. PTSD is now CPTSD and complicated/complex grief; this includes the apparent loss of my son since he moved to the other side of the country, married a nutter and now identifies as non-binary (at least he’s separated from the nutter).
    I thought that I had all the physical symptoms except an impaired immune system, because I don’t tend to pick up bugs and get ‘sick’ with whatever is going around (partly because I’ve been pretty much a recluse since 2004). But I do have immune problems by way of auto-immune conditions. My gastritis is constant, although is now under control by the use of probiotics (PPIs are evil!). My psoriasis shows up every now and then, but not badly. But my arthritis is starting to become more and more painful and apparent.
    And I swear I thought I was going to die from Takotsubo cardiomyopathy (Broken Heart Syndrome) and, with my ongoing grief - grieving for a loved-one who isn’t dead - I’m still not going to rule it out.
    To all of you who are grieving, it’s because you have love to give but it has nowhere to go. Use it on yourself… your loved-one would want you to. You are grieving your own loss… allow yourself to do so. Grieve however you need to. Be around people who feel the same way as you and who don’t judge you for not just ‘soldiering on’. Get in touch with your grief and try to do things to honour your dearly departed as part of a way to make things as right as you can. And go out and do good for others… bringing joy to those less fortunate than yourself can be of great comfort ❤

    • @LewisPsychology
      @LewisPsychology  Рік тому +6

      I'm really sorry to hear about your experiences Linda. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Best wishes, Teresa.

    • @lindajohnson9282
      @lindajohnson9282 Рік тому +1

      @@LewisPsychology ❤️

    • @cyndimoring9389
      @cyndimoring9389 Рік тому +11

      I am also grieving my son who isn’t dead. His wife had 2 babies and they moved away to her parents town. She’s decided I don’t deserve to know her or the babies. I rarely speak to my son and we were very close until now. I think about this almost daily. It’s the worst kind of grief because time is passing and one day we’ll regret this.

    • @lindajohnson9282
      @lindajohnson9282 Рік тому +6

      @@cyndimoring9389, I feel your pain but, fortunately, there aren’t any children involved, and seeing the very large back-end of my daughter-in-law (not that I saw her but for a few times over three occasions, in over a decade) is a blessing.
      I can no longer, in good conscience, tell someone in your position to hold onto hope that things will get better because that may be false hope. After much heartfelt reflection, deliberation and selfishness I feel as though it’s come down to ‘every man for himself’, i.e. self-preservation. I’m going to drown in the pain this situation brings if I don’t let go. My son knows that I’ll be here when he’s done what he has to do, learned his lessons and can appreciate what it is that he so carelessly discarded so long ago.
      My late mother - without whom I will be enduring a 14th Mothers Day (in Australia) - used to say, “A son is a son ‘til he takes him a wife. A daughter’s a daughter for all of her life.” I suffer a lot of grief from her death; both she and my Dad died in 2008, and I was there with them both when they died (January and September).
      The loss of my elder son has hit me like a ton of bricks so that, I suppose, the apparent estrangement to my other son has been less painful. But it will indeed be a very sad Mothers Day for me this year. No Mum to spoil. No kids to even ring me. My siblings may ring (I moved a couple of hours away to be closer to my elderly in-laws (for hubby’s sake), and my only friend lives on the other side of the world. And, to add insult to injury, hubby’s going out to brunch with his Mum, Dad, brother and his lady, and I’ll be home with my dog (she’s my security blanket but can’t go into restaurants).
      So I’m sure I’ll shed more than my fair share of tears, on the day, but I’m starting to think of them more as my psychic self-cleaning system… I am learning to let those tears remove at least some of the pain.
      I know that this is a time when everyone in the world is going through huge personal transformation (including my own kids) and I only hope it’s for everyones higher good. May you find your own way to peace, and in your own time. Wishing for your future much love, laughter, peace, prosperity and good health 🙏🏼❤️

    • @cyndimoring9389
      @cyndimoring9389 Рік тому +3

      @@lindajohnson9282 I'm so sorry you're alone on Mother's Day. I have a younger son who has felt very deeply for me and we have a better relationship than ever since his girlfriend left him and my partner died last winter. I've learned to adjust to the reality that our children don't remain our children forever and the more I talk to other parents of adult children, the more I see there are some parents who 'lost' their children a long time ago. I had expectations that they would never desert me emotionally but I had to do that with my own mother (she was bipolar) because she gave me CPTSD, and maybe this is just what parenting is. Can you share mum's day with your husband's mum? Thank you for sharing.

  • @Tiger-Heart
    @Tiger-Heart Рік тому +5

    I cried for 5 years, when my sister told me to stay away until she decides it’s time to get together again. This was hard on me because I have no family- mother, father, grandparents are passed, so I have only 1 blood brother and sister (her), and 3 half-brothers.
    I live separately with my ex-husband, and we have 2 sons. My family was very dysfunctional, yet I have always longed to have a good family relationship with everyone.
    I don’t- they have all pushed me away or kept me at a long distance, or I have not spoken to them because of past abusive behavior. It all is very emotional for me- and my therapist said that I have PTSD my whole life, and now I’m 65 and have multiple serious health issues. 😔

  • @Buster_Piles
    @Buster_Piles Рік тому +41

    I can confirm that "broken heart syndrome" is a reality. After the loss of a loved pet I had chest pain which spread into my jaw and down my left arm over a matter of weeks. I was checked in hospital where they didn't find any explanation but I found out about BHS later.

    • @wilmachaffin8517
      @wilmachaffin8517 7 місяців тому +2

      Yes I've lost my furkids too and still can't get over the last one. I loved him more than words. So been 7 years and still sometimes grieve him.

    • @Buster_Piles
      @Buster_Piles 7 місяців тому +2

      @wilmachaffin8517 funny isn't it? It's a pure love, there's no complications the way there is with people. They don't pretend or lie or manipulate you, they're just honest. I read your comment there and my heart goes out to you, I mean that. The saddest thing about having pets is that they have short lives I guess but who knows, maybe we'll see them again one day in heaven or another life. Nobody knows but we can hope. Take care Wilma, and Love and Best Wishes to you.

  • @ceeleemetcalf2780
    @ceeleemetcalf2780 Рік тому +9

    The day I found out my daughter died I felt it felt like someone reached in and crushed my heart. it has been years but I still grieve. It is something you never get over.

    • @peacenholiness6855
      @peacenholiness6855 Рік тому +3

      She is still with you in spirit 🙏🧘‍♂️☯️

    • @janedough6575
      @janedough6575 11 місяців тому +1

      Yes, and it lives in your gut forever. Physically.

  • @mags.
    @mags. 5 місяців тому +3

    My mum passed new years day 2017. I shut down , I just carried on and blocked it out. I didn't want to crack because I have two disabled children. So went through the motions. 2018 I was diagnosed with malignant melanoma .I had surgery a graft and got the all clear. 6months later I was unwell and was unable to breathe properly. I truly thought it was my asthma meds needing adjusting.
    But after bloods was diagnosed with acute, myeloid leukemia. I truly whole hearted belief the absolute. Shock of her passing &me not looking at the grief or choosing to ignore my loss it all went inwards and something strange happened.
    Please don't think I'm blaming my mum. I'm just saying grief is a real & hard thing and can believe too much a shock of the body.
    Lower the bodies annuity and can have profound affect on the body . I've since had a stem cell transplant and numerous chemos ,I'm now in remission.
    To all who are grieving now my prayers go out to you all
    We just keep going day by day it never goes away.x

  • @grettalemabouchou6779
    @grettalemabouchou6779 5 місяців тому +5

    My love and faith in my Lord Jesus Christ has given me peace in the storm. I lost Mother two days ago. She is at peace and with family. I don't wish her back here.....no way. She is Free. God bless.

  • @treasureforashes3497
    @treasureforashes3497 9 місяців тому +7

    I had never been sick all my life until I turned 44 when I lost my mom and my kids, entire body was in pain. The heart ached soo much

  • @JodiM-xu2fi
    @JodiM-xu2fi Рік тому +40

    100% accurate. I lost my father who was my best friend 7 years ago and not only that it was in a horrific accident I witnessed, I have never been the same after with multiple autoimmune diagnoses since then which I am sure has been triggered by the trauma of losing my dad