How do you even know you were an option were things going on that you were ok with in the beginning of the relationship I bring very many good things to the table and I appreciate the person Im in it with. Maybe you should work on your communication and hey if you got divorced and didn't work on it they you lose out to.
@@CandyFoley-o8w We learn not to ignore the red flags. The signs were there but I just chose not to believe it until it was too late. Always trust your gut.
Wow, this video hit deep. It’s incredible how powerful silence can be-not just for reclaiming your worth, but for forcing others to confront their own behavior. A must-watch for anyone tired of being taken for granted!
If I had access to these words of wisdom years ago, I would’ve saved myself lots of heartache, but hey, we have it now and we’re able to apply it in our lives! God bless and grant you serenity in your lives♥️
My ex wife of 20 years is a covert narcissist. She had been manipulating, deceiving, smearing my name, lying, cheating, poisoning my food etc... I placed her on a pedestal and did everything to assist her in improving her life. She started taking me for granted and eventually she overplayed her hand. She threatened me with divorce for many years and I finally accepted it, I moved and immediately went complete no contact! Its now been 16 months since I left her and I will never look back! I'm healing through the power of God and I know my value and worth and I'm not giving discounts!
Yep I wish women would understand what we bring to the table, but when we do anything other than what they want it's fighting time. I'm in a relationship with somebody I don't think it's going to work out over time. I'm trying to just stop talking to her and just focus on the kids.
Silence is your power.’ That line hit deep. Walking away isn’t weakness-it’s strength, clarity, and self-love. This video perfectly captures what it means to reclaim your value. Bravo!
If you let them back in they will cross you again so don't ever ever look back. move on forever do whats right for you and stand on it with pride and principles.
It’s incredible how disappearing can shift the dynamic and force people to face their own actions. Walking away isn't just about leaving them behind-it's about finding yourself. 🙌✨
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1. The sting of rejection. 2. The void of missing you. 3. Overwhelming curiosity. 4. Deep self reflection. 5. The urge to pursue you. 6. The battle between relief and regret . 7. The desire to play the game. 8. The crushing weight of silence. 9. The fear that brings them crawling back. 10. The realization of emotional independence.
This message resonates so much. People often realize your value only when you’re no longer there. This isn’t just about them missing you; it’s about finding yourself again. Loved the insight!
This video hits deep. Sometimes, disappearing isn’t about revenge or games-it’s about reclaiming your peace and reminding yourself of your own worth. Thank you for sharing this powerful perspective!
You're truly an amazing and remarkable person. A few weeks ago, my man ended things. He said he needed space, and while it broke my heart, I couldn’t blame him. There were no big arguments just… over. I’m struggling to accept that it’s really the end and that I might never hear from him again. I miss him so much.
Oh, sweetheart, my heart goes out to you. I’ve been in your shoes, and I know how deeply painful this can be. But I want you to remember there is hope, and healing is possible. Would you be open to speaking with a spiritual counselor, Father Abulu? He helped me so much, and I truly believe he could make a difference for you too.
A spiritual counselor? That’s something I’ve never considered. But if it worked for you, I’m willing to give it a try. Can you tell me more about what to expect and how it helped you?
I completely understand. I was skeptical at first too, but working with him truly transformed my perspective. His name is Father Abulu, and his approach is incredibly gentle and compassionate. I genuinely recommend him with all my heart.
This is very, VERY deep. I'm not standing for being an option either. Going through it right now. Someone else was chosen over me... alright, good luck with that. I am now going deep beast mode into silence, improving myself, and my situation. She will see the error in her decisions. I am doing this for me, and I will not be ignored by the right ones.
That's true for some, but not for all. It's been three weeks for me and I hurt like hell, but it needs to be done. God willing, we can find something that works for us both. I've not met anyone else that could replace her in my life, and though I can and do live alone, it's rather pointless.
@Mikexxx531 Yes, I have been there! I thought that he was the man of my dreams. But, he was the devil in sheep clothing! You need time away from this person. You'll see her for what she's! Stay strong...
This practice doesn’t result in getting your ex back. It results in feeling like you never needed your ex in the first place and helps you feel better about life without them. Don’t think ‘no contact’ gets your ex back all the time. It works sometimes. Usually not. Get healthy physically and the mind will soon follow. The only way out of the dark hole is to work on your physical and mental health. Do the physical and the mental will follow. Stick with it for 6 months. Also, and more importantly than all…. pray for your ex. Not to get them back. Pray that God guides them to a Godly relationship whether it be with you, or another. This is true power. ✝️ All the best.
This resonates so deeply: 'You never know what you have until it’s gone.' A tough lesson for them, but a necessary breakthrough for us. Who else feels stronger after choosing themselves first? 💪💭
It doesn't feel good at all, and I've never cared about power that much. If I don't get her back, I'll be living without a hot female body forever. That's a bad choice, but I'd be doing the same if I chased her. Sometimes there's no solution, and that hot female body still means the world to me. The only other female bodies equal to hers are all 10's and 11's. I wish there was a way to know if it was ever safe to get back together again. I even liked her mind, but not her ego and games.
Wow, this video is such a powerful reminder of the importance of self-respect and emotional independence. Sometimes, disappearing isn’t about punishing them-it’s about rediscovering your own worth. Thank you for shedding light on this!
Moving on doesnt mean youve got someone new. Moving on for me means that person no longer has any effect on me. At that point,shes just another person,no longer special.
This video is a reminder that sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away and let your absence speak volumes. Emotional independence is such a game changer-thank you for breaking it down so clearly!
The idea that silence speaks louder than words really resonates. Walking away is tough, but it’s also the ultimate act of self-respect. Amazing insights in this video!
I have done the same. One of the advantages of ageing is that these type disappointments don’t hurt like they used to. It’s a glorious liberation, in my mind🥰
I have had this done to me, and I can tell you, it shakes you to the core. Wondering what you said or did to deserve it. Ultimately, it makes the person on the other end feel like they are unlovable and discarded, like throwing a piece of trash out the window and not caring where it lands. Congratulations tuff guy! If you want to hurt someone, this is exactly how to do it. But did you really love or care about them??? What's wrong with just being honest so they can work on their flaws?
being honest with people who KNOW what they do wrong and them doing it again to you is what makes people want to ghost them this way its time people start being honest with themselves
I was suffering for almost 2 weeks when I discovered that I am only an option...I've lost 4kls. Because of no appetite but now I realized that I can live without him....thanks God coz now I already recovered 🙏🙏🙏
Ghosting- When there’s nothing left to say or when things are better left unsaid 😐 Let them experience every bit of pain that their poor decisions and behavior has caused. Don’t cushion their fall by tossing the pillow of saying ‘I forgive you’. You can forgive them without telling them.
Yeah , I have done this almost a year ago . Deep inside I feel real freedom from lots of things , I am paying more attention to improve myself and only myself every day .
Silence is your power" might be the best advice I’ve heard in a long time. The idea of letting them sit with the consequences of their actions is such a game-changer. Loved every second of this video! 🙌
So I loved this girl with all my heart. And I also felt back some emotion but not at the same magnitude. It started with a friends with benefits relationship and I ended up loving her. But the more I put time into it the less she appreciated me for everything I did. I finally decided to cut contact completely. And man, was it heartbreaking. It took me a little over 1 year to completely heal. Heal in the sense of seeing her photos and not be bothered with flashbacks. Another year goes by, I meet someone else meantime and have a good relationship. My ex (if I could call her that), calls me on Christmas to whish me all the best and ask me how I'm doing. A very respectful and calm conversation takes place and I end up telling her I appreciate the time we spent together and that I thank her for everything, because I also learned a lot. Wishing her the best and good luck. I hope she will find closure as I managed.
That’s crazy I ended my 35 year friendship I feel like they really care about me. I am depressed about my relationship that ended. I felt as friend u would there for me but their for another friend more than me also chose boyfriend over I need a friend help crazy how everything open up to everything. It’s sad but I been on my own so I will stand tall.
Im done being an option and have distanced myself completely from some people over the years.Let them wallow in the abyss they created.Very helpful advice.Appreciate it.Thank you.
Here’s the deal! The reason I severed ties with my family is strictly for self preservation. My husband and children have seen their malice, jealousy and toxicity towards me. I see now that I have allowed it, but I no longer give them permission. They don’t have power over me anymore. I feel free and liberated. Thanks God for your guidance, grace and mercy 💕🙏🏻💕
Never had fb, everyone tells me to get it. Leave my phone home when I go anywhere. Everyone gets mad when you do what you feel right for you and don't let them browbeat you 👍 LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO DEAL WITH ANUSES, i know, ive died twice.....
It does take a load of "SELF -LOVE." PRACTICE LOVING YOURSELF ABOVE ALL ELSE. With that, you acquire the skill of saying... "PLEASE GET OUT OF MY SPACE. "
My rule: If you betray our relationship you will never be a part of my world again. I have had women beg me to talk to them again. No. And NEVER come around me again. You no longer exist in my mind or my world. This absolute rule has been very effective and I have had a great life.
It's been just over a month that he has told me goodbye he's now with somebody else can somebody explain to me why he calls to" check" on me?😢😢😢 It makes absolutely no sense does she know he's "checking" on me? Telling me he loved me over 20 years now this is over and it suddenly?😢😢😢😢 I've cried so much I don't think I have any tears left. I made an error and I used to answer the call now I remain SILENT SILENCE IS DEFINITELY MY SUPERPOWER!!!!!! PLEASE GOD HELP ME THROUGH THIS😢😢😢😢😢 I JUST WANT THIS PAIN TO GO AWAY AND THESE VIDEOS ARE ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC!
I'm sorry to hear this, but time will heal. It's an opportunity to learn how to be emotionally stronger as life will repeat itself. I just accept it as in there's no coming back with the person. Cut all contacts and no checking on their social status. The sooner I go cold and find other positive things, places, and people to fill my time, the faster I feel better. I'm better at this now as I'm older. It hurts less, and takes me maybe a weak to deal with my emotional pain, regrets, guilts, shame...etc. I had to accept and give up all power, fun, friends, time, and money to let that person go. And that's okay. 😢🎉😊😅
This happened to me some years ago. The man I lived with for 7 years left me for someone else. I was devastated. I can still see me on my knees begging him not to leave. 😢 Accept that you’re not the one for him and that he’s not the one for you . There’s something about you that he’s holding on to but that “something” is only a part of you. You want someone to need ALL of you. Fast forward now, I’m in a different relationship. I’m married and know with assurance that all of me is valued. If you hold out and don’t engage you will rise above this with strength and self confidence you never knew you had. Trust….you will be ok
@@larcbi oh I'm not begging him to stay please understand that! I'm just sad the way he left me after 20 years and I'm pretty sure he was with somebody else the whole time 😭😭😭😭 he can go to hell for all I care I do cry yes because it hurts. He called me January 1st to tell me Happy New year he has a lot of nerve to tell me that after what he did in November! I'm done with him too. And I am completely silent 😭
I walked away from everything and everyone 25 years ago. I know they tried to find me, but they never did, no one did. I certainly do not regret leaving with zero contact, not one bit. I left toxic relationships behind completely, and found peace and meaning in my life.
I don't have a social circle. I barely have friends. It used to be all I focused on, and it was getting me nowhere. The moment I isolated myself from everyone and focused on myself, I finally became somebody. My growth took off, I have everything I want and don't have any more struggles. I do whatever I want, whenever I want. Life is beyond amazing and its all because I stick to myself. Maybe one day I can meet a good woman who will be a true bestfriend. But for now?? I'm more focused on getting rich!
This is the best video I've ever seen on UA-cam. The at peace now music, the inspirational words, the sense it makes. It's what the good guys have always needed to hear.
It depends, but it can be an abuse tactic. This video is lessons in avoidant behavior and will make the dysfunction worse, unless you are truly leaving a truly dangerous situation. Most aren’t.
Wow! What a fantastic video! Thankyou. I stumbled across this today at a low point. Everything that has been said from start to finish is spot on. Whether it be family members (grown up kids speaking to me like they are my parent) or friends choosing to reply back, when it suits. This video has really gave me some sound advice. Usually, point 7 is what they do to hurt me, but then point 8 is myself - I question everything - I ponder through my mind what I could have said or done, in order for them to ignore me. Then I realise it's not me, it's THEIR behaviour, yet I'm made to feel guilty for something I've not done😢. Then I suddenly realise having watched this all the way through - the behaviour is on them. It's about their desire for control and manipulation. I maybe on my own and have lost many friends sadly, but it's better that, than putting up with the toxicity and negativeness last year in my life. Thankyou beautiful soul for this video. 🫂 good life lessons learnt ! Im done being an option! ❤🙏🏿 virtual🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂 hugs for one's that needs one. 😊. Sal.
This is what happened to me in a school i worked. I stayed there for 5 years and they started taking me for granted. I resigned urgently and when they saw my status boarding a plane to teach in anothe country 😅😅😅 it killed their feelings.
Yeah im done being an option and its really hurt me,slapping the red flags on my face but still indenial..now its time for me to move on. Self care,self worth♥️
I walked away 3 years ago from a 15-year relationship with a beautiful New Zealand woman. She cheated and got caught. I left and never looked back. It was the toughest thing, like climbing Mt.Everest 2000 times. I did it. Over her, I forgave life with God is the best !!!!!
I went no contact 20 years ago from my family of origin. I’m a childhood trauma survivor. On top of all the abuse they designated me as the scapegoat and when that happened I said no more and I meant it.
It’s truth, especially women who take your emotions for granted and think you will always be there. I’ve dropped every single woman that doesn’t show me equal effort and respect. No regrets
I was in a yoyo relationship with a boyfriend, I realized how pointless it was to keep trying. I just up and moved to another city, no warning, no goodbye, nothing. Two days later he called and poured his heart out, but it was too late. I literally met someone within 2 hours of moving in a serendipity type situation. I moved forward with the new guy, that was 30 years ago. When the moment hits you to just go, GO.
on't let them back into your life to repeat the same mistakes. Keep moving forward, stay true to yourself, and stand firm in your values and self-worth. Your future deserves better than your past.
4th October 2024 I was no longer your option V you tried to make contact but I remained silent. I was no angel but you took dangerous woman to a new level. I forgive but will never forget. By not forgetting I remember how deadly you were. I needed this. God will prevail in my life. God bless people 🙏🙏🙏
just because we have been disrepected, does not mean we should disresepct them back, it makes us just as bad as them. an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind :(
If you want to make them feel the sting of rejection you are comming at it from the wrong place. 1 because it's still about them and 2 because you're not comming at it from a place of love and that never ends well. Just choose yourself for the love of yourself, wish them well and move on.
Don’t disappear to hurt someone or get even “make them miss you”. You are only hurting yourself by doing that. Disappear because you stop caring. Who cares how they feel. It should be inconsequential.
I did let go of my former best friend today.. I have felt heart broken when i had to make choise. I am not some mear friend, she don't have time for me anymore. I know that she cares and want me to be there but it's too hard for me to se someone turn back cos their companion demands it.
I learned this from both sides. First as the one taking another for granted and yeah this is a hell but it’s closer towards self sufficient purgatory before heaven, I both deserved her never talking to me again and also grew immensely as a person. Then when I was taken for granted I took a note from her lesson and ghosted him entirely after I had that “I am done being your punching bag” moment. I am so different than I was before even when my ideal self view was an immature fantasy but I am a happy valuable woman who has finally got her life started and set up. He can grow from this provided he wants to and even when and if he does I will still unwaveringly not talk to him or even think about him(this video has been the first time in almost two months he even came across my mind and hopefully the last). I am done being an option.
This was helpful. I’d get dumped sometimes several times a month and I’d chase her and get her back, rinse and repeat. The last time was on 12/20. I’m done being treated like I’m disposable.
Silence is the best answer. Took me a while, but I'm done being an option.
It took me awhile as well I know what to do now
How do you even know you were an option were things going on that you were ok with in the beginning of the relationship I bring very many good things to the table and I appreciate the person Im in it with. Maybe you should work on your communication and hey if you got divorced and didn't work on it they you lose out to.
Never make someone your priority when you know in your heart for them you are only an option.
@@CandyFoley-o8w We learn not to ignore the red flags. The signs were there but I just chose not to believe it until it was too late. Always trust your gut.
@@richardcmccants9158 That's good bro. Don't ignore the red flags and trust your gut. When ppl show you who they are, BELIEVE THEM!
Never get attached to anyone or anything, ever . Attachment is root cause of all suffering
I try too😢
Sad life
Only Jesus
@@memadelrey4832
Jesus is dead.
Attachment is not by wish! It is like a inevitable disease
"The quickest way to get someone else's attention is to remove yours" That's a very powerful statement.
I agree
Thanks buddy ur words touched my heart😊
To the one seeing this, I hope love finds you wherever you are, fills your life with warmth, and stays forever ❤
Amen
Wow, this video hit deep. It’s incredible how powerful silence can be-not just for reclaiming your worth, but for forcing others to confront their own behavior. A must-watch for anyone tired of being taken for granted!
Thank you kindly for knowing 🙏 🙌
love only exist in the hearts of men, women dont have any of it
If I had access to these words of wisdom years ago, I would’ve saved myself lots of heartache, but hey, we have it now and we’re able to apply it in our lives! God bless and grant you serenity in your lives♥️
My ex wife of 20 years is a covert narcissist. She had been manipulating, deceiving, smearing my name, lying, cheating, poisoning my food etc... I placed her on a pedestal and did everything to assist her in improving her life. She started taking me for granted and eventually she overplayed her hand. She threatened me with divorce for many years and I finally accepted it, I moved and immediately went complete no contact! Its now been 16 months since I left her and I will never look back! I'm healing through the power of God and I know my value and worth and I'm not giving discounts!
You my friend described me exactly. Many good men like us are going through Absolute hel.
Stay the course. God is great!
Poisoning food is crazy
Hi my name is Monica will be praying for you 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Yep I wish women would understand what we bring to the table, but when we do anything other than what they want it's fighting time. I'm in a relationship with somebody I don't think it's going to work out over time. I'm trying to just stop talking to her and just focus on the kids.
Silence speaks volumes
I walked away
For my own self worth
I felt second best & worthless
Not any more....
My heart was 💔
I'm healing...
Non-attachment stop caring about people completely. You won’t ever hurt again I promise you.
Did u have kids involved?
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I'm done being an OPTION, I don't chase I attract 😊
That’s what mentality I’ll people say. You’ve got to work for things of you want them and I’m not talking about females.
Silence is your power.’ That line hit deep. Walking away isn’t weakness-it’s strength, clarity, and self-love. This video perfectly captures what it means to reclaim your value. Bravo!
If you let them back in they will cross you again so don't ever ever look back. move on forever do whats right for you and stand on it with pride and principles.
@@boygorge4166 principles not proud. Love not hate. Forgive as you need forgiveness as well. My love.
It’s incredible how disappearing can shift the dynamic and force people to face their own actions. Walking away isn't just about leaving them behind-it's about finding yourself. 🙌✨
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Yes, it’s about finding yourself!
1. The sting of rejection.
2. The void of missing you.
3. Overwhelming curiosity.
4. Deep self reflection.
5. The urge to pursue you.
6. The battle between relief and regret .
7. The desire to play the game.
8. The crushing weight of silence.
9. The fear that brings them crawling back.
10. The realization of emotional independence.
thank you
Am done with being disrespected", they can go where the sun doesn't shine" am great don't need you am confident 🎉🍷😍👁️🥳😘👠
@@lady-w1f2o Your confidence is inspiring! Knowing your worth and refusing to tolerate disrespect is true strength.
I think points go from most solid statements (1.-3) to wishful thinking. Remember that "disappearing" is primarily to help you, not to them
Hey how did you get sp smart? ❤ very wise words and the first time seeing them thanks for the inspiration much appreciated
So true. When someone betrays you , treat them as if they don’t exist. Let them be dead to you. Or better still , that you never knew them.
When they show you who they are the first time, believe them.
That's too easy to say, because the first person they showed was the person you liked... I feel like that's such a cop out answer
@@PopTheIcon the 1st time they start acting up
@@PopTheIconkind of missed the point.
This is the ultimate guide to Ghosting
Ghosting in the most respectful and honorable way.
This message resonates so much. People often realize your value only when you’re no longer there. This isn’t just about them missing you; it’s about finding yourself again. Loved the insight!
Frfr
ghost them merci Lesly
My Silence Speaks Louder than Words!!
This video hits deep. Sometimes, disappearing isn’t about revenge or games-it’s about reclaiming your peace and reminding yourself of your own worth. Thank you for sharing this powerful perspective!
You're truly an amazing and remarkable person. A few weeks ago, my man ended things. He said he needed space, and while it broke my heart, I couldn’t blame him. There were no big arguments just… over. I’m struggling to accept that it’s really the end and that I might never hear from him again. I miss him so much.
Oh, sweetheart, my heart goes out to you. I’ve been in your shoes, and I know how deeply painful this can be. But I want you to remember there is hope, and healing is possible. Would you be open to speaking with a spiritual counselor, Father Abulu? He helped me so much, and I truly believe he could make a difference for you too.
A spiritual counselor? That’s something I’ve never considered. But if it worked for you, I’m willing to give it a try. Can you tell me more about what to expect and how it helped you?
I completely understand. I was skeptical at first too, but working with him truly transformed my perspective. His name is Father Abulu, and his approach is incredibly gentle and compassionate. I genuinely recommend him with all my heart.
Thank you so much for connecting me with him. I’m truly grateful, and I’m looking forward to seeing how this can help me.
I feel your pain ! The one i thought appreciated and loved me in reality was using me for money to help them !! No one takes me for granted
Ur there for people and they take u for granted leave them alone
This is very, VERY deep. I'm not standing for being an option either. Going through it right now. Someone else was chosen over me... alright, good luck with that. I am now going deep beast mode into silence, improving myself, and my situation. She will see the error in her decisions. I am doing this for me, and I will not be ignored by the right ones.
Keep going lad, don’t break and stay strong. Silence and self respect is your power
@@Sh3ddy369 Thank you brother.
I left 1-18-2024 and didn't even look back! NoContact for nearly a year now. Best decision ever!!
❤ good for you
That's true for some, but not for all. It's been three weeks for me and I hurt like hell, but it needs to be done. God willing, we can find something that works for us both. I've not met anyone else that could replace her in my life, and though I can and do live alone, it's rather pointless.
@Mikexxx531 Yes, I have been there! I thought that he was the man of my dreams. But, he was the devil in sheep clothing! You need time away from this person. You'll see her for what she's! Stay strong...
@@mortischahicks5341 narcisst
I did the same thing 2-14-24. I know my worth now. Best thing I ever did
This practice doesn’t result in getting your ex back. It results in feeling like you never needed your ex in the first place and helps you feel better about life without them. Don’t think ‘no contact’ gets your ex back all the time. It works sometimes. Usually not. Get healthy physically and the mind will soon follow. The only way out of the dark hole is to work on your physical and mental health. Do the physical and the mental will follow. Stick with it for 6 months. Also, and more importantly than all…. pray for your ex. Not to get them back. Pray that God guides them to a Godly relationship whether it be with you, or another. This is true power. ✝️
All the best.
I really like your comment and advice, I will start in next few days!
Wow....really well written! Thank you!
Thanks. This is great advice. I will try to start exercising.
Thanks, great wisdom in what you say. I especially like the fact that using your body to heal, motivate the mind is powerful.
You are 100% accurate on everything you've said. Dealing with this with an ex. It feels so good to have my power and self worth back ❤
This resonates so deeply: 'You never know what you have until it’s gone.' A tough lesson for them, but a necessary breakthrough for us. Who else feels stronger after choosing themselves first? 💪💭
It doesn't feel good at all, and I've never cared about power that much. If I don't get her back, I'll be living without a hot female body forever. That's a bad choice, but I'd be doing the same if I chased her. Sometimes there's no solution, and that hot female body still means the world to me. The only other female bodies equal to hers are all 10's and 11's. I wish there was a way to know if it was ever safe to get back together again. I even liked her mind, but not her ego and games.
I’m done being an option. I’m also living happily ever after without them. I’ve outgrown them.
Wow, this video is such a powerful reminder of the importance of self-respect and emotional independence. Sometimes, disappearing isn’t about punishing them-it’s about rediscovering your own worth. Thank you for shedding light on this!
Father God is more important than any lie.
There is no father God
We have only one GOD ALMIGHTY ALLAH.@@AngelaAljaser
Moving on doesnt mean youve got someone new. Moving on for me means that person no longer has any effect on me. At that point,shes just another person,no longer special.
This video is a reminder that sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away and let your absence speak volumes. Emotional independence is such a game changer-thank you for breaking it down so clearly!
I’m done being an option
Agre totally ❤️
I'm done being an option! God's great at all time!
I'm finish to be an opinion for anyone.
God is imaginary
I am DONE being an option.
You are not alone in this...43years long good 😊
I'm done being an option
I kicked a lot of people out of my life over the years and I never felt the sting of absence from any of them
The idea that silence speaks louder than words really resonates. Walking away is tough, but it’s also the ultimate act of self-respect. Amazing insights in this video!
I have done the same. One of the advantages of ageing is that these type disappointments don’t hurt like they used to. It’s a glorious liberation, in my mind🥰
Same here it’s peaceful now
@@NortongrooveYour so right😊
You feel no anger?
I have had this done to me, and I can tell you, it shakes you to the core. Wondering what you said or did to deserve it. Ultimately, it makes the person on the other end feel like they are unlovable and discarded, like throwing a piece of trash out the window and not caring where it lands. Congratulations tuff guy! If you want to hurt someone, this is exactly how to do it. But did you really love or care about them???
What's wrong with just being honest so they can work on their flaws?
being honest with people who KNOW what they do wrong and them doing it again to you is what makes people want to ghost them this way its time people start being honest with themselves
I was suffering for almost 2 weeks when I discovered that I am only an option...I've lost 4kls. Because of no appetite but now I realized that I can live without him....thanks God coz now I already recovered 🙏🙏🙏
Ghosting-
When there’s nothing left to say or
when things are better left unsaid 😐
Let them experience every bit of pain that their poor decisions and behavior has caused.
Don’t cushion their fall by tossing the pillow of saying ‘I forgive you’. You can forgive them without telling them.
Well Said, nice choice of words
Most of the time they won’t accept forgiveness anyway because they don’t feel like they did anything wrong.
True narcissist!
Yeah , I have done this almost a year ago . Deep inside I feel real freedom from lots of things , I am paying more attention to improve myself and only myself every day .
Silence is your power" might be the best advice I’ve heard in a long time. The idea of letting them sit with the consequences of their actions is such a game-changer. Loved every second of this video! 🙌
Never get attached to anyone or anything, ever .
I'M DONE BEING AN OPTION!😊
Watching with tears unstoppable!!!!
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So I loved this girl with all my heart. And I also felt back some emotion but not at the same magnitude. It started with a friends with benefits relationship and I ended up loving her. But the more I put time into it the less she appreciated me for everything I did.
I finally decided to cut contact completely. And man, was it heartbreaking. It took me a little over 1 year to completely heal. Heal in the sense of seeing her photos and not be bothered with flashbacks. Another year goes by, I meet someone else meantime and have a good relationship.
My ex (if I could call her that), calls me on Christmas to whish me all the best and ask me how I'm doing. A very respectful and calm conversation takes place and I end up telling her I appreciate the time we spent together and that I thank her for everything, because I also learned a lot. Wishing her the best and good luck.
I hope she will find closure as I managed.
The internal dynamics espoused here is absolutely, unequivacable and unilaterally brillient...Well done my friend..well done...
I'm Done Being An Option! 50 Year Friendship Done ☑️
Wow!!!
Mine was "only" 30+ years, but it was a heavy process to let it go
That’s crazy I ended my 35 year friendship I feel
like they really care about me. I am depressed about my relationship that ended. I felt as friend u would there for me but their for another friend more than me also chose boyfriend over I need a friend help crazy how everything open up to everything. It’s sad but I been on my own so I will stand tall.
Im done being an option and have distanced myself completely from some people over the years.Let them wallow in the abyss they created.Very helpful advice.Appreciate it.Thank you.
Here’s the deal! The reason I severed ties with my family is strictly for self preservation. My husband and children have seen their malice, jealousy and toxicity towards me. I see now that I have allowed it, but I no longer give them permission. They don’t have power over me anymore. I feel free and liberated. Thanks God for your guidance, grace and mercy 💕🙏🏻💕
Silence is the best answer. I have understood what it takes to overcome the feeling of being just an option
Im done being an option. Vanish and walk away. Never look back. Walk forward and focus on myself.
Never had fb, everyone tells me to get it.
Leave my phone home when I go anywhere.
Everyone gets mad when you do what you feel right for you and don't let them browbeat you 👍
LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO DEAL WITH ANUSES, i know, ive died twice.....
I am done being an OPTION...I deserve to be loved cared respected and valued
I'm trying it's so hard ,, and I just turned 33 years old a week ago and I'm still learning about letting them go( family,friends and relationships)
Just don’t start conversation.
It does take a load of "SELF -LOVE."
PRACTICE LOVING YOURSELF ABOVE ALL ELSE.
With that, you acquire the skill of
saying... "PLEASE GET OUT OF MY SPACE. "
My rule: If you betray our relationship you will never be a part of my world again. I have had women beg me to talk to them again. No. And NEVER come around me again. You no longer exist in my mind or my world.
This absolute rule has been very effective and I have had a great life.
Very true facts but somtimes you can be relieved that person has gone and not returned
It's been just over a month that he has told me goodbye he's now with somebody else can somebody explain to me why he calls to" check" on me?😢😢😢 It makes absolutely no sense does she know he's "checking" on me? Telling me he loved me over 20 years now this is over and it suddenly?😢😢😢😢 I've cried so much I don't think I have any tears left. I made an error and I used to answer the call now I remain SILENT SILENCE IS DEFINITELY MY SUPERPOWER!!!!!! PLEASE GOD HELP ME THROUGH THIS😢😢😢😢😢 I JUST WANT THIS PAIN TO GO AWAY AND THESE VIDEOS ARE ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC!
I'm sorry to hear this, but time will heal. It's an opportunity to learn how to be emotionally stronger as life will repeat itself. I just accept it as in there's no coming back with the person.
Cut all contacts and no checking on their social status. The sooner I go cold and find other positive things, places, and people to fill my time, the faster I feel better.
I'm better at this now as I'm older. It hurts less, and takes me maybe a weak to deal with my emotional pain, regrets, guilts, shame...etc.
I had to accept and give up all power, fun, friends, time, and money to let that person go. And that's okay. 😢🎉😊😅
You'll be fine in time. I just accept it and move on. Cut out all coms.🎉
people change but memories don't.
I feel yr pain
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This happened to me some years ago. The man I lived with for 7 years left me for someone else. I was devastated. I can still see me on my knees begging him not to leave. 😢
Accept that you’re not the one for him and that he’s not the one for you . There’s something about you that he’s holding on to but that “something” is only a part of you. You want someone to need ALL of you. Fast forward now, I’m in a different relationship. I’m married and know with assurance that all of me is valued. If you hold out and don’t engage you will rise above this with strength and self confidence you never knew you had. Trust….you will be ok
@@larcbi oh I'm not begging him to stay please understand that! I'm just sad the way he left me after 20 years and I'm pretty sure he was with somebody else the whole time 😭😭😭😭 he can go to hell for all I care I do cry yes because it hurts. He called me January 1st to tell me Happy New year he has a lot of nerve to tell me that after what he did in November! I'm done with him too. And I am completely silent 😭
Its been 11mths and i didnt ghost her to hurt her,it was to save myself. I now know my worth and its all worth it.
I walked away from everything and everyone 25 years ago. I know they tried to find me, but they never did, no one did.
I certainly do not regret leaving with zero contact, not one bit. I left toxic relationships behind completely, and found peace and meaning in my life.
They don’t care cause no one actually cares about anyone. People are selfish and are only out to get what they can.
Everytime I encounter a stoicism video, I like even without listening and then download it for later when I'm alone and quiet. Peace.
Simple be yourself, not for others. We come alone and we go alone. Life is happiness blessed by God's. ✌️
Please use a different expression. Nobody understands "be yourself" the same way, and very few understand it at all.
I don't have a social circle. I barely have friends. It used to be all I focused on, and it was getting me nowhere. The moment I isolated myself from everyone and focused on myself, I finally became somebody. My growth took off, I have everything I want and don't have any more struggles. I do whatever I want, whenever I want. Life is beyond amazing and its all because I stick to myself. Maybe one day I can meet a good woman who will be a true bestfriend. But for now?? I'm more focused on getting rich!
Silence isn’t empty-it’s full of answers. Let them feel your absence while you focus on your growth.
When he says if you have come this far, you have surpassed 99 percent of people, that is where I felt I have done everything right. Thank God!
I just love this piece. It's a clicker. Thanks for sharing
This is the best video I've ever seen on UA-cam. The at peace now music, the inspirational words, the sense it makes. It's what the good guys have always needed to hear.
ghosting is one of the worst forms of abuse!
It’s not abuse. It’s the only form of action one can implement to break free.
It depends, but it can be an abuse tactic. This video is lessons in avoidant behavior and will make the dysfunction worse, unless you are truly leaving a truly dangerous situation. Most aren’t.
Wow! What a fantastic video! Thankyou. I stumbled across this today at a low point. Everything that has been said from start to finish is spot on. Whether it be family members (grown up kids speaking to me like they are my parent) or friends choosing to reply back, when it suits. This video has really gave me some sound advice. Usually, point 7 is what they do to hurt me, but then point 8 is myself - I question everything - I ponder through my mind what I could have said or done, in order for them to ignore me. Then I realise it's not me, it's THEIR behaviour, yet I'm made to feel guilty for something I've not done😢. Then I suddenly realise having watched this all the way through - the behaviour is on them. It's about their desire for control and manipulation. I maybe on my own and have lost many friends sadly, but it's better that, than putting up with the toxicity and negativeness last year in my life. Thankyou beautiful soul for this video. 🫂 good life lessons learnt !
Im done being an option! ❤🙏🏿 virtual🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂 hugs for one's that needs one. 😊. Sal.
"Let your silence be your power" . . .
This is what happened to me in a school i worked. I stayed there for 5 years and they started taking me for granted. I resigned urgently and when they saw my status boarding a plane to teach in anothe country 😅😅😅 it killed their feelings.
Yeah im done being an option and its really hurt me,slapping the red flags on my face but still indenial..now its time for me to move on.
Self care,self worth♥️
The sheer power behind this video 🙌 well made!
I’m not only done with being an option I’m just done with others giving up on me
I walked away 3 years ago from a 15-year relationship with a beautiful New Zealand woman. She cheated and got caught. I left and never looked back. It was the toughest thing, like climbing Mt.Everest 2000 times. I did it. Over her, I forgave life with God is the best !!!!!
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I went no contact 20 years ago from my family of origin. I’m a childhood trauma survivor. On top of all the abuse they designated me as the scapegoat and when that happened I said no more and I meant it.
It’s truth, especially women who take your emotions for granted and think you will always be there. I’ve dropped every single woman that doesn’t show me equal effort and respect. No regrets
The overwhelming fear is real but it's too late. I've already moved on. Someone who seeks depth. Am walking towards my own freedom and happiness
I was in a yoyo relationship with a boyfriend, I realized how pointless it was to keep trying. I just up and moved to another city, no warning, no goodbye, nothing. Two days later he called and poured his heart out, but it was too late. I literally met someone within 2 hours of moving in a serendipity type situation. I moved forward with the new guy, that was 30 years ago. When the moment hits you to just go, GO.
Got out right before COVID quarantine 👌🏾
on't let them back into your life to repeat the same mistakes. Keep moving forward, stay true to yourself, and stand firm in your values and self-worth. Your future deserves better than your past.
4th October 2024 I was no longer your option V you tried to make contact but I remained silent. I was no angel but you took dangerous woman to a new level. I forgive but will never forget. By not forgetting I remember how deadly you were. I needed this. God will prevail in my life. God bless people 🙏🙏🙏
I’m done being an option 💪🏾
I really needed to hear this ,thax so much
I’m so done being an option! I trust in you, Lord Jesus
I trust in the universe and my angel! 🙏😇🙏
Man
There is not a single line from which i can not relate to !!!
Thank you so much for such a video!!
just because we have been disrepected, does not mean we should disresepct them back, it makes us just as bad as them. an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind :(
Shau you simp ass up
I stopoed bei g an OPTI ION befire the clock stuck 12 bring in 2025! . And I feel Reborn!! I fir the 1 st ti e PRIORITIZED..MYSELF ❤❤❤❤❤
I needed to hear this message i will take all this to heart thank you
If you want to make them feel the sting of rejection you are comming at it from the wrong place.
1 because it's still about them and 2 because you're not comming at it from a place of love and that never ends well.
Just choose yourself for the love of yourself, wish them well and move on.
this is powerful video..
and YES.. I'M DONE BEING AN OPTION.. tq
Especially if they are narcissistic 😮
Amazing message ❤thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏
Sadly I'm on the recieving end. 💔
Good for you. Don’t ever take good people for granted
This teaching is so beautiful. A real lesson to help us protect our mind and heart, is a strenght pill. Thank you so much.
Silence is Gold 😅🎉🎉🎉
Oh yea! & they feel it! Rather you see it or not!
This only works when they actually cared about you.
I'm done being shoved aside unless someone needs me to do them a favor
I'm SO done with being an option. I'm done being his option
This is really the best video I have watched today
I am done being an option!
Don’t disappear to hurt someone or get even “make them miss you”. You are only hurting yourself by doing that. Disappear because you stop caring. Who cares how they feel. It should be inconsequential.
Exactly
I did let go of my former best friend today.. I have felt heart broken when i had to make choise. I am not some mear friend, she don't have time for me anymore. I know that she cares and want me to be there but it's too hard for me to se someone turn back cos their companion demands it.
Thankyou Universe 💖 Thankyou Divine 💖 Thankyou 🎉🎉🎉❤
My silence is my power
I learned this from both sides. First as the one taking another for granted and yeah this is a hell but it’s closer towards self sufficient purgatory before heaven, I both deserved her never talking to me again and also grew immensely as a person. Then when I was taken for granted I took a note from her lesson and ghosted him entirely after I had that “I am done being your punching bag” moment. I am so different than I was before even when my ideal self view was an immature fantasy but I am a happy valuable woman who has finally got her life started and set up. He can grow from this provided he wants to and even when and if he does I will still unwaveringly not talk to him or even think about him(this video has been the first time in almost two months he even came across my mind and hopefully the last). I am done being an option.
Realist video ever
This was helpful. I’d get dumped sometimes several times a month and I’d chase her and get her back, rinse and repeat. The last time was on 12/20. I’m done being treated like I’m disposable.
Good video, I love these subjects
It's heartbreaking...simply heartbreaking 😢❤
I just CANCELED /DELETED 😮 my FBPAGE 🎉😂❤...#FEELING GREAT 👍 TYLORD
Im done being an option ❤thank you so much ❤🙏