You should NEVER send them that closure text or reply to a breadcrumbing text ever. I replied to my ex’s text after 70 fuckin days of no contact, thinking that I was absolutely over him, but fuck my life, I saw his indifference again and spiralled, almost like I’d never even begun to heal. DONOT reach out to them ever once it’s over, no matter how much time has passed, it’ll never do you any good, no matter what. Trust me when I say this.
it has been 308 days of no contact. And yes, I just said this out loud, with a huge smile on my face. My smile was missing with the narc. Take care of yourself, and no more contact, ever!
Totally agree with you. No one has to give closure to someone that broke your heart. I’ve been through the exact same situation and I chose not to reply back when he texted not because I didn’t care; it was because I wanted that person to know that abandoning me, ghosting me, and not answering me for an entire year was never ok. To whom ever is going through the same situation, don’t give closure to anyone unless you want to, not because it’s necessary to move on. Take a step back and think through before making that choice for yourself. Your self-worth is more important than the person who hurt you ❤
I feel that pain. And I hope you have found that with 2+months of no contact your reaction and spiraling is already starting to be shorter and maybe less intense. It's not sobriety tho, it's healing, when we're putting in the work it might feel like a major setback to square one, but it's not. You noticed it and it strengthened your resolve. I'm not trying to be overly positive about this at all, just letting you lie that you're right to feel the way you do and please be gentle with yourself as you walk thru this healing and a shift in perspective can often help us when we're knocked down into a pit again and feel like all the 70 days was for nothing. I know it feels like it, I've been there way too many times and need reminded when I'm there, it's not for nothing at all. It's not back at the start, it's more like a hurdle we didn't clear that put us on the ground hurting again. So of course it feels similar to the beginning of healing. But we are this far into the journey already and we didn't lose that ground, just learned the hard way that wasn't the way over that hurdle. You're doing great and may we all be healing more each day.
@@johnsonjj117 ugh. I'm so sorry. That's my ex. Smooth, cunning and turns everyone to his favor when I was trying to avoid therw being sides at all. I'm sorry.
Don't blame yourself for being imperfect and dont second guess yourself. They could and should have communicated their concerns at any point when it was early on and healthy to do so. If they choose to repress resentment and pretend everything is great to self preserve and then blindside you, YOU and your mistakes were NEVER the problem. Their lack of communication was. We all know after the fact that those issues would have been easily resolved if we KNEW our love was at risk. They didn't tell us. That's on them.
Just happened to me as well. 10 years together and engaged for almost 2 years, down the drain. He ended it the DAY of our engagement photos. Grabbed a prepacked bag and left. Talk about a stab in the back.
I just turned 43 last week and my husband, whom I was with for a total of 22 years (since I was only 18), passed away very suddenly and unexpectedly a little over 2 years ago in June of 2022. I cannot even begin to describe the state of paralyzing shock I was in for the first several months after he passed. It was completely unexpected, and he was only 52 (he had just turned 52 a few weeks before his passing). Fast forward to early March of 2023, I met and fell madly in love with my now boyfriend of the last 19 months. I couldn't imagine my life without him. He has completely changed my life in ways that I never thought were possible. I honestly don't know how I ever lived without him! My biggest fear was always losing the ones that I love (my parents, close friends, romantic partner, pets, etc.). He, himself, actually had a near death experience in 2017 and he has really taught me to live in the present and stop living in perpetual anxiety over losing people. He always says to me, "We're all going to die. I've already died once, but I came back, and I'm going to die again. So are you! Live in the present and enjoy where you're at." The BEST advice ever.
Wow such a great great advice he gave you here❤ You're so strong for being able to go through that, being anxious after all of this can only be natural you're doing good
The way you explained how our minds prefer guilt over helplessness reminds me of the illusion of control. We so often try to impose meaning on situations that are out of our control, like blaming ourselves for outcomes that were never within our power to begin with. A friend of mine struggled for years with guilt after her father’s passing, thinking she should’ve done more, but hearing that guilt is a false sense of control could be such a freeing revelation. Thank you for bringing such clarity to a deeply painful emotion
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Having lost both a partner and a child to death the issue of guilt is real. There is always the “could’ve, should’ve” going on in my mind. With my husband I regretted not showing him how much I appreciated all he did for me while he was alive. He needed that reassurance. Also, I wasn’t there for him when he passed in the ICU after life supports were withdrawn. I thought to myself, “He’s a tough man, he will be here in the morning.” He wasn’t. As for my adult child. She passed away from suicide. As a parent I will always wonder what I did wrong. I suffered prolonged pain. As time passes I am trying the best I can to practice gratitude and be grateful for having these beautiful souls in my life.
Heartbreaking is such an anemic word for these, and I'm so sorry. Which also feels pretty unhelpfully weak. Sending you peace love and rest for your heart mind buddy and spirit! ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss… that must feel very difficult and painful. I’m no expert, but just watched this video and apparently he truly is the grief expert- it all makes sense. If I were your friend and you just told me of your losses, I’d want to reassure you that your husband probably knew how much you appreciated him. I think that can be shown in many unspoken ways. And I’ve read and heard from other friends that a loved one committed suicide- and they too, had no idea. You can’t know, your daughter most likely didn’t want you to know. I do believe she didn’t do it for you to live in guilt- that would devastate her. And I don’t think it was done to devastate you. But I can’t imagine feeling any different than you do in this situation. Just don’t beat yourself up … and don’t believe everything you tell yourself. You’re only human. ❤
One of the VERY BEST interviews I've seen! So appreciate David's light, hilarious humor on such a dark topic. 😂 More so, grateful for his educated insight.
David had me laughing & crying almost simultaneously. Wow! Wisdom. Depth. Compassion. Realism. Exactitude. And what a no nonsense approach. Thank you David. I received so much from this video 🙏🙏
I listened to both videos with David Kessler & they were so impactful. His testimony, resiliance, and humor touched my heart. I appreciated his re-framing of how we look at situations, time-lines, and our life in general. To be self-accepting and start where we are now. Him validating that our grief is hard for us because it is what we are experiencing, showed compassion. The stove falling on some of us...wow yes. I resonated with his example of grieving the parent you had...and the one you didn't have. It is painful when they are alive and you have this ongoing grief to process. Estrangement is painful when you are willing to have a relationship but the other person makes no effort, are neglectful & rejecting. Thank you so much for these recordings, they helped me.
Yes, I grieved over a whole life ending, when my LONG time partner left me. That also meant mutual friends and industry colleagues ended. Social life. Everything was intertwined. My job also collapsed and my pets died. This happened over six months. Then covid lockdowns happened. I was going through grief alone in a pandemic, and I was angry and regretting how much time and energy Id given them. Thankfully Id just gone to see my doctor before lockdowns, and started video sessions with a psychologist. We had to breakdown my life, deal with multiple grief and abandonment, and then build me back up over four years. It was so frustrating to know my ex is out there continuing as normal, with all our friends, the contacts I helped him make, the social life I had...and ill always grieve it a bit. But I think I'm in a much better place now in a new life, and I try to remember all the great stuff I did over that time. I DID SO MUCH! People say 2020 was the worst, mine was 2019. My best was 2021 when I finally moved forward.
This is extremely powerful. I wanted to be at this retreat and intuitively decided not to go. My mom passed on the 10th. It was good to be home. I've listened to it twice today and shared it with many. It covers a multitude of grieving. Bravo and much love for your openness to help others and not stay in the cobwebbed house. 🙏👍
This Video is soooooo helpful. I stuck in the guilt spiral and the proximate causation. Now that I know about it, I can change it. The blank paper that was given to me by life hasn't to be tinted with guilt and shame. Thaaaaank you so very much.
A wonderful, wonderful, video. David Kessler is so insightful and has a heart just bursting with compassion. I pre-ordered his workbook as soon as I finished watching this video.
I pray I can speak to a professional for my severe depression. I just feel sad having to think that I was left alone in this great melancholy. It's sad when you seek help from people, but all are busy. I pray.
I get down too. So hard, I pray you do find what you need. I'm following Jesus and its a tough road. I still wake up to very dark thoughts. I need prayer too. We will get there.
Wow, what a great conversation. David is so wise. I've been listening to him and his wisdom since 2020, and I've learned a lot. It has helped me heal a lot of things I've been through. ❤
Thank you for sharing this video so that more people could benefit from such insightful conversation. It has helped me to understand guilt and grief. Thank you ❤
I loved that soooo much! Got a great deal from it. Amazing two people delivering top value on something we just don't really understand fully, or even talk about except maybe in therapy so this was absolutely an awesome surprise. Thank you!!! Much LOVE
❤️❤️ so love this interview. It was so profoundly helpful. Looking forward to reading his book. Thank you for this talk and introducing us(who hadn't known of him) to him and his work. 🙏🏻
This was just so very healing and helpful. I have so many notes and I pray they stick in my heart and brain to stay free. Thank you both so very much ❤❤
Aquarius 😂😂😂😂. David is great. Fantastic interview Matthew, I know you must have felt like there was not nearly enough time to get to even a fraction of the topics and questions.
I had this experience with my Mom's death and funeral. I just let everyone be whatever kind of A$$ they naturally are, and the whole thing went so smoothly! Fortunately, there were a few kind, and generous people, and they helped me to cope emotionally.
Mercy: You are a being, gentle and kind. You've carried burdens heavy in your mind. No more should you endure such pain. Don't be cruel with eyes that hold no rain. Don't let harshness be your guiding light. Don't trap yourself in a confined state of plight. Don't rub salt in wounds that haven't healed. Don't reopen scars that time concealed. When wounds are dry, don't tear them anew, Creating chasms deeper than the blue. Don't clip your wings with burdens untold. Don't drown yourself in stories yet untold. There's love you need, a love more profound. Embrace yourself, let kindness surround. Compassion's touch, a gentle embrace. Whisper comfort, find a peaceful space. Treat yourself sometimes, a gift so sweet, A fragrant biryani, a citrusy treat. Indulge in coolness, a scoop of delight, Ice cream's embrace on a sunny, bright light. Each day, walk hand-in-hand with the dawn, Let gentle sunlight grace your way on. Explore the world, witness wonders untold, Paint freely, let your colors unfold. Sing off-key, let your voice take flight, Dance with abandon, lose yourself in the night. Do for yourself what you yearn for from another, Let joy bloom, for love deserves no other. May those who cherish you find solace true, Seeing the happiness blooming anew! If you have 3 minutes, come to my channel and watch a beautiful video based on this poem.ua-cam.com/video/mF6nDyJZ4p0/v-deo.html&lc=Ugxp9OR6IITeZgIf02F4AaABAg
Respectfully, I think you missed the point. This comment, especially the very end of it, is what reproduces the illusion, nurtures it, and sadly attaches all life purpose to it.
Yes Louis Hayes was instrumental in getting my life moving in a positive direction. Someone just out of the goodness of their heart gave me one of her books. I don't recall the name now but it was full of positive affirmations and also what a more esoterical meaning of certain diseases and illnesses really meant at a deeper level. Very life changing for me. It started my mind functioning in the most beneficial ways. I'll always remember the young woman that gave me that book. It truly was the start in changing my life. I did not reeeaaallllyyy know how to use my mind properly. Yep. Louis Hayes!! LOVE
A guy I really liked ended it yesterday before ever meeting in person. He simultaneously claimed he could not know yet where this would go, but he wanted friendship (all of a sudden), then ended it after I was confused by that. He believed all of his misinterpretations about me and left.
Sadly Grieving Children a person never had. How the Grief of Divorce, or loss of a Brother, or a child. Grieve the cost of actually raising that child to being successful. Most women grieve that Fairytale wedding but not that cost to have it and how parents will take a 2nd mortgage out to pay for it. I love this video. Thank you 😊
My second husband passed in 2001, after cheating on me eight months earlier. I know it was because his twin brother died, and he was grieving, so I forgave him. I can tell you from experience, and I've said it many times since. I would rather lose him in death than have him leave me for another woman. Unfortunately, I've had to deal with two divorces and a long-term relationship that ended in them cheating. One left me, the other I cut off because he was too toxic. I'd rather they had died, not because I want them to die, but because then I could properly grieve and let go.
people change, or maybe we might make up an idea of them that isn't even real in our head and expect them to live up to it. either way, the person that was with you in that time and the personality they had that you fell in love with no longer exists, so they have died in a way. and if you made up something beautiful in your head that wasn't even real in the first place, you have faced the reality of who they are which has made the idea of them die in your head and you can grieve that and move on, let go and heal. someone I loved love bombed me and after months when I was talking to him about how he has changed and treated me poorly, his answer was " what are you talking about?! I was always like this" so in my case it was a dose of being played + the idea and the potential that I had made in my mind that I needed to let go of.
@@Nikki.....same… I am grieving the person he was the 1st year + the fantasy/ potential I created of him. 2.5 years later I see the reality of him and of it all and it’s so so painful. I am in pain. Such deep emotional pain. But I know it’s for good. He ultimately is not who I thought he was/ who I wanted him to be. We had great and intense chemistry on many levels. Yet he doesn’t have the qualities for a true deep long lasting relationship:(
You should NEVER send them that closure text or reply to a breadcrumbing text ever. I replied to my ex’s text after 70 fuckin days of no contact, thinking that I was absolutely over him, but fuck my life, I saw his indifference again and spiralled, almost like I’d never even begun to heal. DONOT reach out to them ever once it’s over, no matter how much time has passed, it’ll never do you any good, no matter what. Trust me when I say this.
it has been 308 days of no contact. And yes, I just said this out loud, with a huge smile on my face. My smile was missing with the narc.
Take care of yourself, and no more contact, ever!
Totally agree with you. No one has to give closure to someone that broke your heart. I’ve been through the exact same situation and I chose not to reply back when he texted not because I didn’t care; it was because I wanted that person to know that abandoning me, ghosting me, and not answering me for an entire year was never ok. To whom ever is going through the same situation, don’t give closure to anyone unless you want to, not because it’s necessary to move on. Take a step back and think through before making that choice for yourself. Your self-worth is more important than the person who hurt you ❤
I feel that pain. And I hope you have found that with 2+months of no contact your reaction and spiraling is already starting to be shorter and maybe less intense. It's not sobriety tho, it's healing, when we're putting in the work it might feel like a major setback to square one, but it's not. You noticed it and it strengthened your resolve. I'm not trying to be overly positive about this at all, just letting you lie that you're right to feel the way you do and please be gentle with yourself as you walk thru this healing and a shift in perspective can often help us when we're knocked down into a pit again and feel like all the 70 days was for nothing. I know it feels like it, I've been there way too many times and need reminded when I'm there, it's not for nothing at all. It's not back at the start, it's more like a hurdle we didn't clear that put us on the ground hurting again. So of course it feels similar to the beginning of healing. But we are this far into the journey already and we didn't lose that ground, just learned the hard way that wasn't the way over that hurdle. You're doing great and may we all be healing more each day.
My problem is mine isn’t going anywhere, she’s the mother of my child and has a way of disarming everyone around her
@@johnsonjj117 ugh. I'm so sorry. That's my ex. Smooth, cunning and turns everyone to his favor when I was trying to avoid therw being sides at all. I'm sorry.
"The worst grief is always yours." Simple and profound.
“fear doesn't stop death, fear stops life”
“our mind would always rather feel guilty than helpless”
"Fear stops the relationship".
Learnt this the hard way.
Don't blame yourself for being imperfect and dont second guess yourself. They could and should have communicated their concerns at any point when it was early on and healthy to do so. If they choose to repress resentment and pretend everything is great to self preserve and then blindside you, YOU and your mistakes were NEVER the problem. Their lack of communication was. We all know after the fact that those issues would have been easily resolved if we KNEW our love was at risk. They didn't tell us. That's on them.
👏👏👏
Can't be more real. Thanks for this
That is exactly what happened to me 😔
Just happened to me as well. 10 years together and engaged for almost 2 years, down the drain. He ended it the DAY of our engagement photos. Grabbed a prepacked bag and left. Talk about a stab in the back.
@@madibabe356 Oof, a classic avoidant discard. I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's gutwrenching and disorienting.
I just turned 43 last week and my husband, whom I was with for a total of 22 years (since I was only 18), passed away very suddenly and unexpectedly a little over 2 years ago in June of 2022. I cannot even begin to describe the state of paralyzing shock I was in for the first several months after he passed. It was completely unexpected, and he was only 52 (he had just turned 52 a few weeks before his passing). Fast forward to early March of 2023, I met and fell madly in love with my now boyfriend of the last 19 months. I couldn't imagine my life without him. He has completely changed my life in ways that I never thought were possible. I honestly don't know how I ever lived without him! My biggest fear was always losing the ones that I love (my parents, close friends, romantic partner, pets, etc.). He, himself, actually had a near death experience in 2017 and he has really taught me to live in the present and stop living in perpetual anxiety over losing people. He always says to me, "We're all going to die. I've already died once, but I came back, and I'm going to die again. So are you! Live in the present and enjoy where you're at." The BEST advice ever.
Wow such a great great advice he gave you here❤
You're so strong for being able to go through that, being anxious after all of this can only be natural you're doing good
I am so sorry. You are doing absolutely amazingly xx
So happy you found him! Hope I can find someone as well.
“The wisdom to heal is within us.”
The way you explained how our minds prefer guilt over helplessness reminds me of the illusion of control. We so often try to impose meaning on situations that are out of our control, like blaming ourselves for outcomes that were never within our power to begin with. A friend of mine struggled for years with guilt after her father’s passing, thinking she should’ve done more, but hearing that guilt is a false sense of control could be such a freeing revelation. Thank you for bringing such clarity to a deeply painful emotion
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I’m exactly there. It is unbearable
Having lost both a partner and a child to death the issue of guilt is real. There is always the “could’ve, should’ve” going on in my mind. With my husband I regretted not showing him how much I appreciated all he did for me while he was alive. He needed that reassurance. Also, I wasn’t there for him when he passed in the ICU after life supports were withdrawn. I thought to myself, “He’s a tough man, he will be here in the morning.” He wasn’t. As for my adult child. She passed away from suicide. As a parent I will always wonder what I did wrong. I suffered prolonged pain. As time passes I am trying the best I can to practice gratitude and be grateful for having these beautiful souls in my life.
Heartbreaking is such an anemic word for these, and I'm so sorry. Which also feels pretty unhelpfully weak. Sending you peace love and rest for your heart mind buddy and spirit! ❤
So sorry for your loss sending prayers up for you and yours
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you love and peace.
I’m so sorry for your loss… that must feel very difficult and painful. I’m no expert, but just watched this video and apparently he truly is the grief expert- it all makes sense. If I were your friend and you just told me of your losses, I’d want to reassure you that your husband probably knew how much you appreciated him. I think that can be shown in many unspoken ways. And I’ve read and heard from other friends that a loved one committed suicide- and they too, had no idea. You can’t know, your daughter most likely didn’t want you to know. I do believe she didn’t do it for you to live in guilt- that would devastate her. And I don’t think it was done to devastate you. But I can’t imagine feeling any different than you do in this situation. Just don’t beat yourself up … and don’t believe everything you tell yourself. You’re only human. ❤
One of the VERY BEST interviews I've seen! So appreciate David's light, hilarious humor on such a dark topic. 😂 More so, grateful for his educated insight.
his discussion topics and advice are so calming and reassuring. I appreciate this man for doing what he does ❤
David had me laughing & crying almost simultaneously.
Wow! Wisdom. Depth. Compassion. Realism. Exactitude. And what a no nonsense approach.
Thank you David.
I received so much from this video 🙏🙏
I listened to both videos with David Kessler & they were so impactful. His testimony, resiliance, and humor touched my heart.
I appreciated his re-framing of how we look at situations, time-lines, and our life in general. To be self-accepting and start where we are now.
Him validating that our grief is hard for us because it is what we are experiencing, showed compassion.
The stove falling on some of us...wow yes.
I resonated with his example of grieving the parent you had...and the one you didn't have. It is painful when they are alive and you have this ongoing grief to process.
Estrangement is painful when you are willing to have a relationship but the other person makes no effort, are neglectful & rejecting.
Thank you so much for these recordings, they helped me.
Yes, I grieved over a whole life ending, when my LONG time partner left me. That also meant mutual friends and industry colleagues ended. Social life. Everything was intertwined.
My job also collapsed and my pets died. This happened over six months. Then covid lockdowns happened. I was going through grief alone in a pandemic, and I was angry and regretting how much time and energy Id given them. Thankfully Id just gone to see my doctor before lockdowns, and started video sessions with a psychologist. We had to breakdown my life, deal with multiple grief and abandonment, and then build me back up over four years. It was so frustrating to know my ex is out there continuing as normal, with all our friends, the contacts I helped him make, the social life I had...and ill always grieve it a bit. But I think I'm in a much better place now in a new life, and I try to remember all the great stuff I did over that time. I DID SO MUCH!
People say 2020 was the worst, mine was 2019. My best was 2021 when I finally moved forward.
@@RadicalValkyrieI hope I do too :(
@@Imgonnarise Wishing you the best! You can do it. It takes time. Small steps. x
Beautiful story. Keep sharing it so people know that their is hope.
@@shilogibson9167 Thank you 🙏
Beautiful amazing words amazing I lost my husband 4 years ago and still dealing with the grief thanks for the videos they're helping
This is extremely powerful. I wanted to be at this retreat and intuitively decided not to go. My mom passed on the 10th. It was good to be home. I've listened to it twice today and shared it with many. It covers a multitude of grieving. Bravo and much love for your openness to help others and not stay in the cobwebbed house. 🙏👍
Wish you all the best.
This Video is soooooo helpful. I stuck in the guilt spiral and the proximate causation. Now that I know about it, I can change it. The blank paper that was given to me by life hasn't to be tinted with guilt and shame. Thaaaaank you so very much.
A wonderful, wonderful, video. David Kessler is so insightful and has a heart just bursting with compassion. I pre-ordered his workbook as soon as I finished watching this video.
David is a witty and engaging speaker, with great little nuggets of wisdom. Great video, thanks for this!
Laughter is the best medicine ever
I pray I can speak to a professional for my severe depression. I just feel sad having to think that I was left alone in this great melancholy. It's sad when you seek help from people, but all are busy. I pray.
I get down too. So hard, I pray you do find what you need. I'm following Jesus and its a tough road. I still wake up to very dark thoughts. I need prayer too. We will get there.
Wow!!!! Standing ovation!! Incredible content in this beautiful interview! My soul was deeply moved throughout!! Such a blessing!! Thank you!!! ❤
Wow, what a great conversation. David is so wise. I've been listening to him and his wisdom since 2020, and I've learned a lot. It has helped me heal a lot of things I've been through. ❤
❤❤❤❤ Thank you I need this right now and I’m grateful that addiction, abuse, guilt and fear are all in this video. These are all real topics.
An episode to rewatch for sure. Thank you 🙏🏼
Brilliant. This whole conversation was just brilliant. What a gem, can't thank you enough for this. Radical acceptance!!! Beautiful!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️
Wonderful video. Book ordered. I am in tears, and feeling both humbled and inspired by what I have heard tonight.
Sitting here crying, thank you! So needed this.... ❤
I am deeply touched by this conversation. Thank you ❤
Me too was good for me after losing my late husband 4 years ago it's interesting
Thank you for sharing this video so that more people could benefit from such insightful conversation. It has helped me to understand guilt and grief. Thank you ❤
Every moment is wonderful and makes so much fall into place ♡♡♡
"We are here to love the wrong people - to replicate the wounds to finally heal them." What if you did it right? Accept. And move on.
Fantastic interview. What a character! So distinct with his message. 😊
I love so much this interview that I keep watching it again and again❤! Thanks for bringing David Kessler ❤
Loving your talks with David Kessler. Listened to him years ago on Hay House.
I loved that soooo much! Got a great deal from it. Amazing two people delivering top value on something we just don't really understand fully, or even talk about except maybe in therapy so this was absolutely an awesome surprise. Thank you!!! Much LOVE
This is one of the best interviews, so reassuring
❤️❤️ so love this interview. It was so profoundly helpful. Looking forward to reading his book. Thank you for this talk and introducing us(who hadn't known of him) to him and his work. 🙏🏻
This was just so very healing and helpful. I have so many notes and I pray they stick in my heart and brain to stay free. Thank you both so very much ❤❤
Aquarius 😂😂😂😂. David is great. Fantastic interview Matthew, I know you must have felt like there was not nearly enough time to get to even a fraction of the topics and questions.
Thank you for this heartwarming personal story ❤ i feel with you 😢
He lives, yet he’s gone-a quiet ghost drifting through his world, while you linger in the hollow echo of who he once was to you 💔.
The Questions you asked were so on point, Amazing
the best humor today, and with wisdom. Thank you.
Thank you very for sharing this video with us. I love your work and Dabid Kessler's work❤
why ,I can't talk after reading typos? 😋😁
I had this experience with my Mom's death and funeral. I just let everyone be whatever kind of A$$ they naturally are, and the whole thing went so smoothly! Fortunately, there were a few kind, and generous people, and they helped me to cope emotionally.
David is a true channeler.
This has come at the right time when griefing right now 😢
Mercy:
You are a being, gentle and kind.
You've carried burdens heavy in your mind.
No more should you endure such pain.
Don't be cruel with eyes that hold no rain.
Don't let harshness be your guiding light.
Don't trap yourself in a confined state of plight.
Don't rub salt in wounds that haven't healed.
Don't reopen scars that time concealed.
When wounds are dry, don't tear them anew,
Creating chasms deeper than the blue.
Don't clip your wings with burdens untold.
Don't drown yourself in stories yet untold.
There's love you need, a love more profound.
Embrace yourself, let kindness surround.
Compassion's touch, a gentle embrace.
Whisper comfort, find a peaceful space.
Treat yourself sometimes, a gift so sweet,
A fragrant biryani, a citrusy treat.
Indulge in coolness, a scoop of delight,
Ice cream's embrace on a sunny, bright light.
Each day, walk hand-in-hand with the dawn,
Let gentle sunlight grace your way on.
Explore the world, witness wonders untold,
Paint freely, let your colors unfold.
Sing off-key, let your voice take flight,
Dance with abandon, lose yourself in the night.
Do for yourself what you yearn for from another,
Let joy bloom, for love deserves no other.
May those who cherish you find solace true,
Seeing the happiness blooming anew!
If you have 3 minutes, come to my channel and watch a beautiful video based on this poem.ua-cam.com/video/mF6nDyJZ4p0/v-deo.html&lc=Ugxp9OR6IITeZgIf02F4AaABAg
Brilliant video, thank You so much for your guest and the questions you presented to him ❤
Fantastic transmformative interview.
Feel Wounded beyond repair 💔
I wish the best for you. Whatever your wound, I hope it heals in a way that brings you peace ❤ may joy and love finds you while at it
So healing and helpful. Thank you both so very much ❤❤
WANTING TO HAVE CHILDREN AND FAMILY IS NOT AN IULLUSION. IT IS THE BEST LIFE GOAL, THAT GIVES MEANING TO EVERYTHING WE DO.
Respectfully, I think you missed the point. This comment, especially the very end of it, is what reproduces the illusion, nurtures it, and sadly attaches all life purpose to it.
Yes Louis Hayes was instrumental in getting my life moving in a positive direction. Someone just out of the goodness of their heart gave me one of her books. I don't recall the name now but it was full of positive affirmations and also what a more esoterical meaning of certain diseases and illnesses really meant at a deeper level. Very life changing for me. It started my mind functioning in the most beneficial ways. I'll always remember the young woman that gave me that book. It truly was the start in changing my life. I did not reeeaaallllyyy know how to use my mind properly. Yep. Louis Hayes!! LOVE
Was it called "you can heal your life"?
How absolutely wonderful, omg who is this guy?! Well done, Matthew!
Thank you for a Beautiful talk. ❤ Coming out of my house and enjoying the sunrise. 🙏
He is amazing! Great interview 🙏❤️
Oooffff! That hit hard! What a beautiful conversation.
i hope people heal. bless.
Thank you I have learned so much from this guy he's very very intelligent and it is so wonderful to hear somebody very very very very very amazing
A guy I really liked ended it yesterday before ever meeting in person. He simultaneously claimed he could not know yet where this would go, but he wanted friendship (all of a sudden), then ended it after I was confused by that. He believed all of his misinterpretations about me and left.
Awesome what a guy! Book coming :)
What a wonderful way of thinking! Thank you
So powerful - thank you❤
You have you have made it richer thank you so much you are a blessing
Thank you so much this was amazing 👏🏻👏🏻🙏🙏🙏💫
My husband died in 2019. I am not the same person I was then. We can’t have faith and fear.
This has helped me so much 🖤
Really Beautiful and Real Video thanks for sharing, cheers!
Loved this! Thanks for posting.
Sadly Grieving Children a person never had. How the Grief of Divorce, or loss of a Brother, or a child. Grieve the cost of actually raising that child to being successful. Most women grieve that Fairytale wedding but not that cost to have it and how parents will take a 2nd mortgage out to pay for it. I love this video. Thank you 😊
Incredibly Powerful 💯
Absolutely loved this!
DAVID ! You are awesome sir 🙌🙌
❤ so much love is shared, I smiled the whole vdo.
I needed this thank you both of you ❤
I loved this!!🙏🙏🙏🙏
That was WONDERFUL! THANK YOU ❤️
I started crying. Thank you for this.
So good. Bless everyone’s heart
Whewweeee, that was profound.💫
I LOVE LOUISE HAY!! RIP
Priceless!
Omg thank you for this video 😊❤
That's a lot and great
Thank you❤🙏
45:46 I’m currently working on that this year because I memorized her NPD precursor patterns.
This was amazing!
My second husband passed in 2001, after cheating on me eight months earlier. I know it was because his twin brother died, and he was grieving, so I forgave him. I can tell you from experience, and I've said it many times since. I would rather lose him in death than have him leave me for another woman. Unfortunately, I've had to deal with two divorces and a long-term relationship that ended in them cheating. One left me, the other I cut off because he was too toxic. I'd rather they had died, not because I want them to die, but because then I could properly grieve and let go.
people change, or maybe we might make up an idea of them that isn't even real in our head and expect them to live up to it. either way, the person that was with you in that time and the personality they had that you fell in love with no longer exists, so they have died in a way. and if you made up something beautiful in your head that wasn't even real in the first place, you have faced the reality of who they are which has made the idea of them die in your head and you can grieve that and move on, let go and heal.
someone I loved love bombed me and after months when I was talking to him about how he has changed and treated me poorly, his answer was " what are you talking about?! I was always like this" so in my case it was a dose of being played + the idea and the potential that I had made in my mind that I needed to let go of.
@@Nikki.....same… I am grieving the person he was the 1st year + the fantasy/ potential I created of him. 2.5 years later I see the reality of him and of it all and it’s so so painful. I am in pain. Such deep emotional pain. But I know it’s for good. He ultimately is not who I thought he was/ who I wanted him to be. We had great and intense chemistry on many levels. Yet he doesn’t have the qualities for a true deep long lasting relationship:(
I ❤ Louise Hay...did she really find love at 90?? I grieve rhe life I wasted and ruined on my own
😁 this is so good - thanks
DAMN this is soooo cool. Oh I could have really used to go to this retreat. I need to know about this too! Thank you for sharing.
I tell ya...sometimes I wish I DID have a time machine. lol But I understand what he said.
Brilliant 👏 👏
Excellent. Thank you
So many gems
Brilliant!! Thank you.
I agree about the parents yep I agree about that
This is great