5 CRITICAL QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE GETTING MARRIED w/ GUEST RAY MURRAY (EP. 58)
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EP. 58) 5 CRITICAL QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE GETTING MARRIED w/ GUEST RAY MURRAY We’ve all heard of financial literacy but why haven’t we heard about marriage literacy? Don’t you think it’s important to have a class about arguably the most important decision you will ever make in your life? @iamraymurray took us to school in this episode. He covered the 5 critical questions that you should ask before getting married. If you’re someone who’s married, dating or interested in jumping the broom this episode is for you!
Enjoy! 🥃🥃🥃
“Someone without direction, cannot lead someone else !” That line was POWERFUL !!!!!!!!
Wooow “Your marriage can’t heal your lack of direction” that’s a very powerful message. You can’t take these kind of conversations for granted and I am happy to have found this podcast.
This is the best conversation about marriage I’ve ever encountered. Seriously.
Agreed.
Still picking up gems 💎🥃
One of my favorite lines from the pastor "Someone else's experiences are not your Bible" whew! And how others can affect your relationship 😩
1. Who breaks the tie?
2. Are you compatible with my purpose?
3. Can we talk finance?
4. What’s the vision for our marriage?
5. Do we agree?
Is there someone who has a bigger voice than me?
Aw man we absolutely need a part 2, this was such a dope episode! So much insight and gives you a lot to think about while preparing for marriage and just dating in general.
What was your favorite part of the episode?? 🥃🥃🥃
50:52 was gold. This is key to a healthy partnership
You heard him say we can do it again! We need a part 2 & 3!! Exceptional conversation about what’s it’s really like to be in a union, outside of the frivolous things that are amplified to our generation today on social media!
“You don’t need a chip on your shoulder to be great” a whole word!
“Men who are not locked 🔒 into a vision for their lives end up hurting their mates” big facts i’ve always felt like as a man I should have something going and have a very solid understanding of who I am before I bring a woman into the mix. This was further confirmation. Great gems dropped in this episode.
to be clear...it goes both ways...everyone, man or woman or other...you gotta take care of you first.
Bravo 👏🏽
When he said "are you compatible with my purpose." I was amazed because that really does matter.
1. Compatible with my purpose lifelong
2. Who breaks the tie
3 .Financial openess
4. Vision for Marriage
5. Agreement
Bruh I'm like five minutes in to this podcast and bro already blew me away! Going through a divorce and this is so on point. My ex and I are still great friends, but my purpose didn't meet our compatibility, but I never knew. Wow so real.
As soon as P Ray said to “open up the books” I thought “okay well if you aren’t ready to hand over your phone and give them everything in it, you surely not ready to do it with your home/marriage/life”
I’ve been to many marriage seminars, counseling sessions, meetings. I would say this is by far the best conversation on marriage I’ve experience. I need to follow this man on social platforms because God passed this man some keys. I’m trying to get some doors open
1:02:20 - when Omar said “C’mon” three times in a row when pastor was talking I cackled 😂😂😂😂 but it’s soooooo true, commitment and discipline is doing things even while frustrated or not in a happy space. The mission is what pushes us through! Great episode, I literally sent this to all my friends in relationships 😂
I hope we get another show with him as a guest! This is my favorite episode by far 🙌🏾🙌🏾
I’m happily married, however I wish I’d heard this before we got married 🥃🥃🥃 love, love, love this. Every bit of this
Wow….. This is one of them ones!!!!!! What a great episode fellas. As a divorced Woman about to remarry I completely agree with the Pastor…..you definitely need a partner who aligns with your purpose!
Omar: what’s that called?
Duke: …discipline
Me: 😮💨
Fire episode! I didn’t want it to end. God bless all 4 of you 🖤
Lord protect ME cause this man has BARS. Wow, powerful convo
I don’t know how I missed this episode I’m a woman who listens to every episode! This one was very Amazing from start to finish 💯🙌🏾
That was amazing. “Sometimes I workout mad but when I get done I can say I did that”the wisdom in that. I appreciate y’all bringing this message
When you spend time with them around their family you will see it too.
This is by far the most valuable information on marriage/relationships I’ve ever heard 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I love listen to intelligent black men conversing with each other💪🏾👌🏾🥂🎯TOP TIER, Each one teach one. Great show guys, BRAVO
This is my new favorite episode, though I love them all. Please bring Pastor Ray back. And can he start a husband school? 🥃🥃🥃
Yhew! Man oh man. How is this podcast pushing my mental boundaries EVERY WEEK?! So much new perspective from this episode!
Same queen!!!!!!
Girl I’m rewatching this!
There is ALOT of content on a healthy marriage and relationships out there. Books, podcasts and videos from therapists and everyday people who lived it. Of course vet your sources, but there is still alot of reliable content out there. Especially now. It may not use the exact phrase "marriage literacy," but seek and you will definitely find. But this was a GREAT discussion!
Share some please 🚫😎💡
A word! I Thank God he sent me a man that holds me accountable. I knew my purpose but I didn’t have a map!
“We’re dangerous without purpose!!”.. Wow!! Powerful episode. Keep up the great work my brothas. I needed to hear this.🙏🏽
As a women this episode moved me. I’ve I’m not new to N&N either . But thank you for providing such a great gift to many of us🙏🏾💕
The pastor is the truth!! Also thanks duke for being transparent and vulnerable as always .
Blessings guys 🫶🏽
1:00:27 “I don’t feel it today, but I’m committed”. 👏🏽
He mentioned another one which I think is number 6: “ is there anyone in your life that has a bigger voice then me in your life ?”
Did Omar say "that shit don't matter" in front of the pastor? lol tickled me so lol 😂👏🏾 Great show guys, loved these topics.
Ahhhh! It was so good! I didn’t want to listen to this at first, because as a single person no where near marriage, I didn’t know how relevant it would be. But wow, so many takeaways. ”If you don’t have the next chapter, you stay in the current chapter.” …in fear…blew my mind. Figuring out the tie breakers up front, what a great strategy for compromise. Recognizing and acknowledging each others strengths up front before pride is in the way. 😅 The breadwinner giving their stay home spouse a separate allowance account to respect the sacrifice and not dehumanize them, beautiful solution. One can only hope that their partner would be as introspective as you all and surrounded by men like this that can share such wisdom. The way you all self improve, the way you all love your women. I want my community and crew to look like you all! Maybe when I make it back to LA I will connect with you all and your beautiful women. You all are truly a community of inspiration! Oh, and I shared this!
By far one of the best episodes so many gems I did not want it to end y’all definitely gotta bring him back ! 🤞🏾
As one who has experienced every single thing Ray mentioned, it was beautiful to see the The Bruthas in awe of the "Experiences of Marriage & Divorce" that end up being textbook formulas that are not normally taught to us before marriage. #️⃣SubmitToEachOtherIsTheGospel🏆
Like Ray, I can easily spot a current pending divorce, ppl who are rushing erroneously (bio-clock or not), & unyielding traditionalists heading toward inevitable divorces (before they even get married.) Made & was exposed to all of those mistakes society erroneously trains us to make.
ALL of these cliche constructs are a moot point if your partner & you are not in full mutual alignment & have no clue who they are separately. Sleeping around while single does not help one figure themselves out. Finding your purpose 1st & healing from family traumas does.🎯
Wow! This is by far the best episode so far! P Ray is amazing!!
This is why this is the number one podcast❤️
Thank you guys for this! I know as a single lady, this conversation is needed and appreciated! We need more of this especially perspective from our black males
This was toooo good! We need a part 2!!
Bruuuh, 3/4 in, but the amount of bars Ray's dropping is ridiculous. I'm gonna have to re-listen to it a couple times and take notes. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Shhhhheeeeeeesssh. This is gold! People need to hear this. Men and women. Can’t wait for Part 2 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
We need a part 2!!! This was amazing!!!
I just love hearing mature black men speak about their experiences and feelings on life and relationships
This was such an insightful episode. Although I am a woman, I still found this to be useful and full of truth. Thank you for all you do fellas!
This was a great conversation gentlemen. I love the guest appearances. Pastor was dropping gems.
I think to avoid rushing we have to start dating intentionally. That way you
Can start to ask the questions needed to determine if that person is gonna be your person.
THIS 📌
The quality of this podcast continues to improve🙌🏽 Visuals & content 👏 Great job you guys 🔥
Definitely needed to hear every bit of this. Thank you nice & neat ✍🏾
This was 🔥🔥🔥🔥great one fellas ..
Will be waiting for part 2🥃🥃🥃
Such blessing, please part 2
incredible episode! So many gems!
This episode was amazing. He dropped so many gems 👏🏾
Much needed conversation!!!! Thank you! 💎💎🥃
Outstanding episode keep it up fellas. 🙌🏾
There’s too much! Will definitely listen again and share. So many gems
What a beautiful episode. So much substance and very thought provoking. Love yall so much!!!!!!!!!
Bros this was one of ya'll best episodes! Definitely sharing it with others! I wish I had this back in the day, but glad it's here now!
What a great episode! Such good knowledge 🔑🥃🥃🥃 we need a part 2 of this marriage literacy!
What an insightful episode! So many gems.Thank you💙💙
Yeah I’m definitely saving & keeping this one… and we really really need a part 2 to this. Incredible 🥃🥃🥃
This is such a great episode I'm catching up on the old episodes this is amazing! Thank you all for this space, the greatest takeaway I took "is this person compatible with the purpose" I'm definitely going to be coming back to this episode.
Such a transformational episode, fellas! Thank you for blessings us
DEEPLY INSIGHTFUL.
BEST EPISODE!!! Gems upon gems upon gems💎🔥🔥🔥
Wow, this was amazing! Thank you guys!
Amazing 🎉 I really enjoyed the part about being committed even when you aren’t feeling it! Thank you all
This was sooo good!! I needed to hear this. Y’all keep doing your thing, you’re blessing many people with these gems of wisdom 💎🙏🏽
Great discussion as usual! 👏🏾
This was an amazing episode. SO insightful. Absolutely incredible!!!
This was a great episode. These young men and women need to hear this.
Never been married…when I say I took so many notes! Literally, not mentally ✍🏽 this was amazing! 🙌🏽 Stepped on necks but respectfully…so necessary. Very valuable gems here 👏🏽
Incredible! Mind shift for real. Why was I waiting to watch this sheesh!
Amazing episode! Need pt 2 for sure!! 🥃
This conversation is important. I’m thankful that I had the opportunity to listen to this. I intend to listen to this message again.
Such a powerful eye opening episode!!! Seriously incredible words of wisdom from everyone of you! Blessings to y’all and more success with this podcast! Keep y’all foot on the gas!
Incredible conversation! Thank you all for your transparency, intentionally and overall depth in this very much needed topic. I hope you guys get the opportunity to do a part two to this episode. With gratitude 🙏🏽
mans drop so many bars! i got captions for the rest of the year!
Best episode to date fellas🙏🏾. Great discussion
Some really good and amazing points....take your time!
Loveeee this!!
Best podcast yet fellas! Keep it goin 🍹 ❤️
This is my 1st time listening to this podcast. Discovered thru IG clip. Excellent dialogue & SO appreciated. Will be checking out more eps.
Wow, what a phenomenal episode. This was truly a blessing to receive.
Powerful Episode ! 🥶
I absolutely love and enjoyed this podcast SO much. So much valuable knowledge and very valid questions asked and answered. I would love to see more of him on your Podcast!!
This was the best episode of Nice & Neat!
Duke!!! Thank you shedding light on the comments people make on it being time to be married . I needed to hear it. Right on time! Question 4 was directed for me . Thank you!
Incredible episode 👏🏽 the last 10 minutes alone were so profound
This is too good!
This was definitely a great episode and I thank yall for this one.💜🙏🏾 I really do feel like all the information was important so I can't really pick a favorite
This was another excellent episode. I definitely took notes on this one. Thank you guys for bring beautiful, intelligent, eloquent, inspiring, and healthy content to the social media space.
This was fire!! Part 2?
Whew… this episode 😮💨😮💨😮💨 so many gems was dropped.
This should have wayy more views.. AMAZING CONTENT.
SERIOUS PAUSE: (We used to have the stereotype: Angry Blk Woman)
Nowadays, it seems like most Blk Men feel they GOTTA BE: HARD and/or ANGRY to be STRONG or POWERFUL.
It seems like we have more Angry Blk Men than Angry Blk Women now. 😳
This episode should go viral! I have to watch again to take notes
I love all of your podcasts and I found the page through Instagram. It’s refreshing to hear grown men’s perspective on these topics that have realistic thoughts on them.
this was soooo good
The big thing that needs to pointed out is that PEOPLES PURPOSES change and PEOPLE CHANGE later in the relationship. Complicates things more.
Truly amazing conversation. Thanks y’all