WHY DOES DATING SEEM SO HARD? (EP. 40)
Вставка
- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
- 🚨NEW EPISODE of @niceandneatthepodcast available on UA-cam and all streaming platforms‼️
(S4, EP3) ‘Why Does Dating Seem So Hard?’ The fellas understood that it can be more difficult to date in 2022 but it is also much easier to meet people, leaving people with more “options”. These “options” add to creating heightened expectations and perceived happiness based off of access and social media. The fellas also pointed out that identifying gender roles play an important part within the dating process. Let’s dive in!
Please be sure to tune in to our Instagram Live on our Instagram platform @niceandneatthepodcast for a conversation around todays climate in dating Friday 3/11 @12pm.
👉🏾 Subscribe to our channel '👈🏾
@duke @omar.bolden @just.jalon
Intro song: @xaroc__ - pledge of allegiance
WATCH MORE:
ua-cam.com/users/ch....
EXCLUSIVE CONTENT:
/ niceandneat
FOLLOW NICE & NEAT:
Instagram: / niceandneat. .
Facebook: / nice-neat-th. .
TikTok: / niceandneathe. .
The tension between men and women is way too high, A lot of healing to be done.
Too many people are living according to each others narratives or trends instead of living according to their own true values.
This is so true!
And it’s always the same talking points on social media fueling it
💯💯💯💯
You guys were spot on when he talked about accessibility in the dating scene. Everyone can be connected with each other in the matter of seconds and so people think they have all these options and aren’t making genuine connections in fear of “losing out” on something better. People need to be clear with their intentions when it comes to dating and not be so ready to write someone off due to the standard media has put into place. The dating scene was needs more communication, which is crazy when we have access to all these form of communication!
90% of women are only interested in the top 10% of men
@@darknightemperor8174 this is true. But those men in the top 10% are also dating down giving women who they wouldn’t even marry a chance which makes them think those are the men they are fit for.
@@darknightemperor8174 90% of women aren't even in proximity to the top %10 of men nor do they have access to them. Cut the madness.
In a world full of " podcast " and toxicity I give you guys props. I always recommend you guys to anyone I date or anyone i'm around when the topic of podcasts comes up for positive perspective and energy. Such a breath of fresh air .🙌🏾
Episode Ideas
1. 3 things you’ll instill in your son/daughter
2. How to handle conflict in a business/casual situation.
Just because social media gives us access to more people doesn’t mean a damn thing.. the dating pool has pew in it 😩. These streets is trash and it’s hard to find value and someone with a mind and a vision for their life and what they want and don’t want to play games. Because there is more access a lot of men feel like they can have their hands in many pots and they don’t have to treat you with integrity because anything is acceptable to the next girl 🤷🏽♀️ and they have a lot to choose from.
Always can count on my big bros to keep it real about any topic! Can we get Candice and Chanel’s take on this???? Love you guys!!!
Yes, they should bring they’re ladies on. & get their input about relationship in general as well as their on relationship the good & bad.
It’s harder to decide when you’re someone’s choice or a stepping stone.
Marriage has also lost its sacredness. You can easy become a “starter wife/husband” because people aren’t looking to be a wife or husband, they want self-serving relationships where they maintain the control of its value and longevity.
Because honestly, they are looking to have certain lifestyles and they all realize that could take time and using lots of people to climb.
Integrity and honor is gone.
It’s about getting an image.
Social media adds pressure to have proof you’ve joined the exclusive club of “winning at life”
Relationships are the new cutthroat ladder to climb. Most of peoples relationships are “snacks” because their TV/Insta inspired ideal has not appeared yet.
In reality, lots of people are being hurt and hurting others, avoiding their own traumas and inner work, being very heartless and using others, and looking for what they can get.
No one is truly concerned with being a real husband or wife.
Thank you, gentlemen, for this conversation. It is so necessary. May God continue to bless your businesses, podcast, and relationships.
Jalon brought up a really good point … he said “the endpoint of dating isn’t dating”; which I 100% believe, but the way a lot of ppl move is as though it is 🥴 making it extremely hard to date
you all should have Shan Boody - she would be good on the show!
Yes!!!
I miss the sound that signaled halftime 😕
The woman y’all choose needs to be someone who isn’t afraid to debate back. And not agree with what y’all saying. This one could’ve went left..
You guys have really good style
I sho was being catfishes or whatever using celeb guys faces or whatever and they get no money outta me doe . And um still looking for the one great guy of my life . That’s crazy People so wicced and lotta valid points about dating i just don’t. Look and like pictures um always on social media scared out here in this world shit be so fake
Its funny hearing you guys talk about people as cars... I did some tik tok videos titled Relationships aka Cars
Good episode. I believe you all need to have different types of women for part 2 showing various perspectives. All women do not think the same. Alot depends on age, experiences and where you are in life. I nominate me!
Honesty and transparency is key! I want common value systems above anything else.
The ladies from Pour Minds would be interesting lol
Shan Boodram
I love the piece about being a savage is actually just you living comfortable, and being scared of being hurt
Jalon - "for how long?" 🔥🔥🔥🔥 Jalon - "when you got your guard up you can't experience somebody" 🔥🔥🔥🔥
He was definitely given evolving mature energy in this episode and I loved it!!!
Shan Boody would be a great guest
To go deeper on being catfish it’s really b/c the people that are getting catfished they are wanting a relationship/love too much so that blinds you even if this person don’t have videos your brain will justify it. You must become a person who can control yourself
Shannon Boodram for part two
Man, I def needed this episode. I’ve been single for two years and this shit ain’t no joke lol. The rules are very different now and personally having a harder time at picking someone I could seriously date. Tricky out here fr
Living comfortable doing what they want to do & living scared of being hurt, but nine times out of ten I’m sure we have all been hurt by someone in a relationship. I think once it feels right you’ll know when to move forward.
I really love watching you guys….I pray men can gain knowledge from you guys.
Yes 🙌🏿 I love it
Shan Boodram would be great to talk about the dating landscape! She is very knowledgeable and has great content!
Great convo fellas! Points were made.
Why aren’t people amplifying podcasts like this?? Those other clowns get WAYYY too much publicity.
The best way to avoid getting catfished is to completely remove yourself from dating apps and get back to the old fashioned way of meeting people: stores, restaurants, library, etc AKA in person.
Great convo. Y'all should collaborate with our girl Jouelzy here on UA-cam. She's super dope!
Shan Boody
This is one of my favourite podcasts for sure! Can't wait for part 2 with a woman's perspective 👏🏽. I do miss the musical intro and outro to the half time show, it was dope.
🥃🥃of topic though I can never express how grateful I'm to this podcast and to you guys, watching and listening to yall made me remember my self worth, and most importantly being decisive about what I want and need in a partner. Even unto today I can't and won't settle for less . So thank you once more #AllTheWayFromSouthAfrica🇿🇦 🙏 ☺️
Get Shan Boody on!!
I’d love to see yal bring Rebecca Lynn Pope on for part 2, that would be a dope conversation
Facts!
I thought the same thing !!!!!! She would absolutely give perspective from different angles and the different age group for women
I think y’all should bring Toni Tone on the show discuss the topic even further, but she’s all the way in the U.K. Sooooo maybe a virtual episode of this? Idk lmao
I'd definitely like to give perspective to this episode. Interview me and you would find that I have validity on this matter from 3 years of intentional experience
I would love to see drea and lex from pour minds on the part 2
Dating is more difficult because people are not being honest. That's it.
People can screen record someone’s videos though and use it
Was this episode cut short...I needed to hear more but yep definitely a female is needed for this one.. and that intro was everything for the season trailer..
Well orange hat, welcome to being a woman........ that how we always feel. Before social media and the pandemic
Everyone wants to be comfortable that's good one
Love your natural, Tati Cokley,
Nice podcast, was so entertaining, blessing from Costa Rica ✌🏽
19:58 WHEW 😰 yes!
Y’all need to talk about the Michael Beasley interview
Anyone know What the name of their intro song is?🔥
“What color the seats, fam?”
🥃🥃🥃
Shan Boody would be PERFECT for the part two episode.
This was gonna be my suggestion! I love Shan Boody
Shan Boodram would be a great plus one for this conversation.
She's completely opposite with dating values.
@Shanboody !!! Please have her on 😭
I came straight from the Spotify podcast just to send a message. I have watched/listened to y’all since s1e1 and you guys are awesome. BUT this specific podcast was just not conducive to the truth of women getting finessed over men. I’m engage and been in a relationship for 4 years now and I am very happy so I have to say that, due to what I’ll be saying be now. Women gain more in a relationship over a man. If a marriage comes from a relationship but IF divorce were to come then men are more in shambles then a women. Men lose half of everything they have and that’s best case scenario. And if you have children, regardless of the type of man you are, you lose that and more than half of whatever you have. The Netflix show became that because it is rare for that to happen, not because it happens often. Divorce rates are high and are largely happening due to women wanting to divorce. Y’all are great and I’m a huge fan. But y’all have amazing women in your life and that is awesome but they aren’t the average or a majority of people here in the dating world. And y’all are also not the average man in the dating world. That perspective can’t be overlooked.
All respect and love
Carlos R.
Yes I would love to know why Dating is so hard. This guy just hung up in my face because he said I was laughing too much… But got two kids under the age of seven and only been in Texas for seven years it’s just so many hell know.Where can I even find these higher value men where do I find him I’m not on social media’s.
Omar looks extra young without his facial hair, 😂😆! It still looks 👌🏽👍🏽 on him though.
I saw that Netflix documentary. What a mess. I couldn't believe that people were still getting fooled by people like him.
Social media is one thing but On the surface , like everyday life we coexist well with each other when you get too the meat like spend time around or even hours the tension is more prevalent def noticeable . Podcast is 🔥 keep going this is necessary and nice light on black men especially young will go far
Do how to move on
I think a woman would be great to help unpack but I think a boy and a girl from this generation maybe someone in their 20’s would be great!!
Speaking from a women perspective - Shan Boodram
catfish advice Kamie Crawford
These guys may not have all of the answers (no one does btw) but they are well rounded and I can appreciate each of their perspectives on this topic. The fact that they understood they needed a woman's perspective says a lot ( to me anyway lol) especially in a climate where I feel a handful of popular male-hosted podcasts(at least the ones I've seen) aren't quite doing their selves nor viewers justice by lacking a broadened perspective on certain topics. Not to put anyone else down , just saying this podcast is definitely a breath of fresh air. #2cents
The 80/20 rule is so real. It's easy to focus on something you feel is missing and then inflate it's importance in your next partner, only to realize you took a loss.
Jalon to what extent do you stop pouring into someone after you’ve done & shown how much your trying to grow with this person and it’s not being mirrored back?
I don’t think catfish in the since that y’all were describing really exist today the catfish now is filters and angles so you may not know what someone actually looks like until they meet.
Yall niggas got me singing that intro song RELIGIOUSLY 😂
I think you guys should invite fantasia on for this conversation. What do you think?
You have to use extreme discernment. If it seems too good to be true.....it probably is.
So the Tinder Swindler and Inventing Anna are the two competitive stories. Inventing Anna was ... okay. Her voice annoyed me to no end, but some swear that it was an amazing series. The Tindler Swinder was crazy though and now Simon is being sued by the REAL Leviev family. How these ladies never looked up the family to see if he was a member is beyond me. Guess those enemies are real now. Great ep!
Maybe Kamie Crawford from Catfish would be a good guest for this topic
Melli Monaco
Absolutely more difficult. It’s non existent for me.
Just found yoy guys podcast, i really enjoyed it...
I enjoyed this podcast a lot, very insightful and intelligent convo
Y’all motivated me to start my podcast! I’m definitely going to share my female perspective!! 💪🏽💪🏽
im not gonna lie i was watching it and was like aint no way these grown women done that stupid shit but WHEN the girl wanted to hit her car on a running train cuz of all the debt as a result i felt sooo sorryy for them
you guys should have pour minds on the show!!!
This is amazing!! Thanks so much for sharing guys!
I was on apple and I was like uhhh this is lit, I need to watch this not just listen! I wish it wasn’t cut tho
Great conversation!! I'm looking forward to part 2!! Please make sure the woman is (1) single!! Also it should be 3 types of women! Beautiful and Fit, Looks challenged and Beautiful/looks challenged plus size women! That's going to be great content and widens the scope for your audience!!
Six the goddess !!!
I love this podcast because it really showcases all aspects even bringing in the partner POV, I appreciate it
I’d love to see the First Ladies weigh in on this topic! 💯
🤗🤗🤗
We need part two on this one ❤️❤️❤️❤️ my favorite is Podcast
THE DEPTH AND NUANCE 🔥🔥❤️❤️
Nah fr gender wars are at an all time high
I appreciate y’all’s perspectives fr.
This podcast is underrated!
Whew, this was good 🥃
I love this podcast!!
I love the podcast 🤞
So good 🙌🏾
i would love to be apart of this dialogue !
we have a group chat with me & two of my good friends … we watch your episodes and all discuss it so we would love to be apart of the part two of this conversation topic
Shan Boody please.
Loved the conversation, as always!
I think Jessie Woo would be great for a woman’s perspective
And I bought this stupid ass iPhone 13 and it’s so dumb is glitching had a less than two months and it doesn’t even let me see what I’m commenting. So if the grammar is wrong this is why I can’t see anything
I’d be interested in hearing y’all dialogue with @shanboody on the topic
You guys should do part 2 with @shan boody