Everytime I listen to Mrs. Mwine Rachel, I feel blessed and something feels healed inside me. Her submissions are calm, considerate, filled with divine feminine wisdom, and never patronizing. Thank you Rachel for being you.Lots of love ❤.
And there's me tearing through this episode 😭😭😭 Pumla gave me checker one,Manuela gave the injection,Rosette cooled the fire,Racheal straight to the point and Angie fired straight to the heart. Thank you Ladies....I bless the day I landed on this channel. Surely I'm to re-watch this show.
Hey ladies. Let me kunyumiza you" in Manuela's voice. Do u remember that episode where you appreciated your partners? Otyoo. I am kinda shy so i wrote a letter to my boyfriend expressing my appreciation for things he has done for me that "altered my brain chemistry". He doesnt like letters so i forced him to read it while i was seated next to him. Guys! His reactions! He even shed a tear or two. He never thought i used to acknowledge those small small acts of kindness. Ps: We started dating in s5 in 2015. Now contemplating marriage. All i wanna say is mbagala nnyo my source of inspiration is bump love❤
My advice would be: 1- Pay Attention to how someone makes you feel rather than how you feel about them. 2_Listen very careful to what he/she says: everything you need to know is in those conversations. 3- Keep your eyes open: see things for what they are and not what you want them to be. 🙌
This sounds like 'Questions to ask before marriage in your 30's'. Realistically, in our early and mid 20s, its very difficult to have this mindset and foresight. Iam 37 and i married at 27. I was ready but never had the mindset of having a deep conversation on most of these issues. All i can say, date as long as you can before marriage until both of you break character (stop acting/pretending/being nice to each other all the time). If you have not seen your partner angry or under pressure, do not think/assume you know them!
One of the best conversation I had with my husband pre marriage was on "non negotiables". I think it's paramount to know your non negotiables and state them before walking down the isle. One of my non negotiables is no relatives. They can visit, we can help them, but we're not taking in relatives to live with us. I'm very pedantic, particular and intentional about my space, and I know living with people who are not wired like me, or at the very least, know and respect that about me would make me absolutely miserable. There's a place for compromise in marriage, but if you know in your hearts of hearts there's something you absolutely cannot compromise on, then that is a non negotiable, state it and see if your partner is willing to accept it or not, before you hitch your wagon to his.
Angie is right, I knew what I want, whom I want to marry and that I was to be a good wife to that kind of person, I prayed to Allah for such a person and he came into my life, at 22yrs and him at 24 got married , now 5yrs in a happy marriage, both of us below 30yrs, Al-hamdulillah
Hi ladies,I have watched 80% of the show since 2019,I love the show,I got married last year❤but before that,I did all the tests,had the fights,had no sex with him,asked about his dead mom and where she was burried,like I did the questioning in that by the time the marriage happened,it was like I had know this man for a life time,do people change,yes!but my biggest prayer is the we both grow towards the same direction as we want the same things and both our vision boards are full and we are both willing to push each other. Thanks ladies,much love, Sofiya ❤
Am always hesitant to comment on the forum partly because I scroll through and hardly come across comments from male gender...😅but I enjoy the conversations,thou with my reservations
Banage Rosette when you talk about what our partners like, banage with my husband i refused to do house work during dating, he had to take me out to tell me doing chores is a show of someone that can be a good wife. I openly told him if he wants to consider house work before marriage, he is with the wrong person, low n behold!! The man latter left me🙈 Banange it was painful, but after a while he came back, and now he is hubby. Just know I am glad i played that, it revealed alot about him.
I agree with Rachel on childhood traumas and someone's past. Though I think the traumas shouldn't necessarily disqualify someone especially if they are working on being better. So the red flag for me is a person comfortable in their childhood traumas.
Just to add, consider the families you are coming from. Ask yourself, imagine i got married in my family. Bad families get children who liberate themselves from bad live but most times majority remain bad hearted. Key words, everyone wants good things and we must counsel ourselves to be better citizens of this country. Well raised children will change the world. Let's have kids we can afford to look after in terms of time, and finances. Thank you ladies for always giving us your life experiences
I love this, my grandmother told us to consider lineage as an important aspect before marriage interms of longevity Have you seen your great grandparents, your grandparents, your parents? If you are an orphan, what caused the death of your parents, are the other members of your family still alive? Your grandparents children (they include your parents) Are they all alive? What about you their children, are you all alive?
This show has shaped me so much and I'm deeply grateful. When Mrs. Mulondo was talking about financial personalities, I remembered that we also have financial traumas yet people don't realise. I'm suggesting we talk about more it. Otherwise I'm glad I joined watching this show in my early twenties, my decisions are now more clear and I know exactly what it is I want and won't settle until I get it.
I feel like we shld hv another show about this topic, wish to listen more of it. Its wide with different topics to consider ( talking to yoself, finance,polygamy,...) its alot under
Am so so so glad am getting to hear this conversation before messing up.. 27 no child, in a long distance relationship with someone from my religion and my tribe..Former childhood bestfriend. Same story with Manuela. Holy spirit confirmed it.. And now l have more clarification..
Ladies and your entire team, thank you so much for this particular episode. LET THOSE WITH EARS LISTEN but allow me to recommend two books that have opened both my inner and outer eyes and ears because all that the Ladies have said I found in a book Titled " Things I wish I knew before I got Married by GARRY CHAPMAN" And another titled " Who You Should Marry by Chris Okonkwo" I am forever grateful for the fact that God picked all these ladies and their entire team to deliver us from so much..!
The conversation on how to fix it when things go wrong needs to be had. How to handle conflict in a way that wont break them apart but rather be a source of learning and growth.
Kemi you are right on point with the other health conditions. Sickle cell anaemia is a serious problem in the African community but we never think of testing for such diseases.
I think about Angie saying that we should marry from our same tribe, religion etc is not necessarily the case . We can always talk to our partners about our values, norms and beliefs to see if they are OK with them because some of us don't even fancy men from our tribes.😅
I love the way Pumla opened this episode, and I remember writing a letter to God about the man I wanted, it was real deep conversation with God. I still have my letter, after 10 years I looked at it and I keep ticking. 😂 i remember mister telling me " I am not looking for a girlfriend " I need a wife😂, that qn. determined whether the conversation had to go on or stop. Though times change, one thing I have discovered is you don't go less of what your expectations were rather you grow more and dreams and vision evolve in that line as longer as you keep communication key in your relationship. Great information especially for the young people looking for spouses however the Bible says " A good wife/ husband is a gift from God. Pray and open your eyes at all times. Be wise 👌. ❤❤❤❤❤ to you ladies.
Actually, He gave me better, humanly I presented my petition that included the qualities of a man I wanted, but above all, I needed someone who would love me for who I was, And Yes God answered me and more. ❤
Angie about polygamy your right!..I have a friend whose friends used to cheat and this year he also ended up there! Sadly for him the marriage is gone.
Before I even watch this episode I have a confession- Am I the only one addicted to Bump Love? So yesterday I woke up thinking about my to do list- I had abit of a long drive to do and I was excited when I remembered I will be riding with BumpLove new episode. I flip to YT app and I just can’t find the episode🤔… i am thinking to myself what has happened to Mr Mulondo has he forgotten it’s Friday?? As my disappointment sets in, the holyspirit reminds me to chill- It’s just Thursday 🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️. Ehhh bajenzi Bump lovers we need a brunch meeting at Tulip restaurant😂😂😂😂. Ok let me watch💖💖💖
Us singles nga we going to suffer!😮 We surely needed this, soo many things to consider even before you start a relationship with someone 🤦🏾♀️these streets are hard, thank you ladies.
@@Flourish_todayhave seen people who don't even date, and have successful marriages and those that date, go through this, knowing this that.. same tribe but bad marriages
My dear these things have no formula actually couples that even don't date, have more successful marriages than those couples that dated and had all, this steps have bad marriages.
As a 25 year old lady who's grown up in the diaspora, am so surprised that such conversation are news to some girls (even here in London). But Mrs. Mulondo is right; young people should put 'dancing each other' on hold because your dancing 'parts' are not going anywhere, moreover time waits for no man. LIVE IN THE NOW, BANANGE! Be woke and vigilant kati kati. Anyways, thank you ladies :)
Am always looking forward to Friday . I thank God for this educative channel. Honestly speaking most of the issues we get in marriage is because we don't listen to conversations with our partners. Sitting on a table to initiate serious topics would attract lies but being attentive and questioning the conversations gives perfect answers. You're doing an amazing job ladies😍
Angie! 👌👌👌. The conversation is on-the-go 6, 10, 15 years down. It does not necessarily have to be scheduled! It can be as you both brush or dress up for 5 minutes yiveni! It doesn't have to be over a scheduled 'date night'. Lovely conversation ladies!
I am literally 23 yrs and I feel I really understand the coming point and love these guys cause these always states of confusion in myself most especially when it comes to let's have settles relationships but this give me alot of confidence
Given increasing infertility problems, couples should discuss options that they will consider if they face them. Ask your date/partner, what if we never have children? Would you be open to do IVF or other assisted reproductive techniques?
i liked angie's advice of getting genetic testing. and here in the USA, please...we need to check our credit score and college debt because money troubles and debt collectors are a no no for me. living here, outside of uganda, has exposed me to being open to other tribes, religions.... we aren't so into culture like that so it is easier
To add on yr issue that u're not into tribes/ethnicities, religion,etc: I think that's an issue that is only present in some few families and individuals, hitherto, thro' out the world; it has never been a big issue with the majority of folks worldwide! Africans have been marrying all over that continent for generations! Regions, religions have never been a big thing in separating us; because even when a person says... Allah for example that's Arabic language and for me it wasn't till after matriculating at college in the USA that l found out, that not all Arabs are Muslims! Additionally, from long ago the white were fighting each other and conquering neighbors; e.g, Britain is a mixture of Anglo Saxons: German, Dutch, on a grand scale. Such cultural concoction existed in Africa before the coming in of Arabs, Europeans. Again, u may see the Caucasians but besides their morphologies/external appearances these fellas have totally different cultures. H'ver, their open minds started long ago and to demystify such negativities; that's why royal families in eastern Europe could marry from Western Europe, vice versa! Then came a time when they traversed the world in such of wherewithals which culminated into the deception of discovering the Americas...bcz u can't discover where other people already are inhabitants! As they came to the Americas they further intermarried; moreso they started leaving their women in the homes to go and sleep with their slave women! Lastly, the founders of religion fathom it that it's an option of the mind; today u're Catholic, tomorrow u're Adventist or protestant/ which means protesting the other faith! In Africa we had our ways of communicating with Allah or God; in BUGANDA, for instance, gods had different names based on what the natives were pleading for at a given moment! And this fact is well elucidated by the names: mukasa, Musoke, Muwanga, kisaakye, Kiwanuka, etc. This phenomenon was true throughout Africa! In a recapitulation, when it comes to ethnic segregation the Asians were the most, worst adamants! Nonetheless, amongst their newer generations that mindset has evolved! For instance: Indian girls are falling in love and marrying Africans today, this' all over the hemisphere; Koreans are marrying anybody, Chinese are marrying everyone and during the pandemic of covid-19, unexpectedly we saw how many Chinese have married Africans inside China mainland!
Thank you ladies as always. I Was just worried today you didnt have something to drink. We need sponsers here to sponser you with drinks. One hour without something to drink is not healthy. I beg all the Sponsers to remember our Ladies who takes time to educate us always ❤
@bumplove is a whole class for me. Kati I sit down with my notebook and write down life lessons from this show. Thank you so ladies for the free master class❤
I got married in my early twenties and still happily married. I believe everyone matures differently and different stages. These are good questions to examine yourself and potential future patner. Thanks again ladies for another banger 🔥🔥
Me wen it comes to disclosing finance hoo! I don't give correct info 😢 but all these conversations are uncomfortable coz truth be told some people are not true to themselves but u have articulated it well ladies big up
Oh Angie dear, how we missed you. Pumla as usual shaking tables unprovoked 😂 I love it. Thank you ladies. The amount of knowledge I have amerced from bump love beats all the Canadian prairies and what not that I have ever studied in my entire existence, Christ. Mwebale nyo.
I remember trying to have that money talk with this guy and I immediately got branded a "gold digger". He was like why would I want to know what he earns if am not going to start demanding for things yet he has responsibilities that I don't know of. I had just started getting introduced to the money conversation and I was definitely not yet strong enough to delve thoroughly into it. I let it be and unfortunately for me, I was a gold digger till my friends who truly knew me sabotaged that rumor and it died down.
Questioning genetic diseases was my #1. Very often we disregard the criticality of questioning genetic conditions. Just to later discover your kids have Tay-Sachs, hemoglobin disorders, thalassemia and sickle cell anemia. It wasn’t until our daughter was born 3 months and 3 weeks early that I learned my ex-husband' maternal and paternal family has a history of premature births and Tay-Sachs disease. So, genetic conditions and amount of debt is critical.
Thanks ladies for equipping us with advise we who are not yet married. And you have reminded me how C.V Mathews defines world view that your your world view and you world view is you.
For the first time ..Rcheal is not the first to say out her views,,, Pumla took the lead. Otherwise am sitting here with my notebook n a pen, ready to learn. Thank u ladies.
As a medic....i will over emphasize medical research...en tests....blood group is keyyyyy...rhesus factor on the blood group for both partners is important
Am always excited about Friday.......thank you bump love.......i thing us who are not yet married we know what to day in the right time .....wow i really thank you ladies for each episode
Hello bump love queens. Yes I'm commenting before watching because I know it will be lit🔥🔥. New fan from Kenya. I'm still re-watching old episodes & I must say I don't know why I dint know you sooner🤩🤩 Edit: The convo about money is actually very important. Especially one's money personality.
Thank you, Ladies. Besides all that is mentioned, it's important to have open, honest and uncomfortable discussions with your partner about various aspects of your life together. These discussions can help ensure that you are on the same page and have a strong foundation for your marriage. Some technical questions to consider can depict the inner person in your partner: (1) Health and Wellness Are there any existing health issues or concerns that could impact our relationship or future plans? How do we prioritize physical and mental well-being in our lives, and how can we support each other in staying healthy? (2) Communication and Conflict Resolution How do we handle disagreements and conflicts, and what strategies do we plan to use for resolving them? What are our communication styles, and how can we improve our communication as a couple? (3) Long-Term Goals What are our individual and shared long-term goals for our life together? How do we envision our retirement and financial planning for the future? (4) Social and Support Networks How do we plan to maintain relationships with our friends and family after marriage? How can we support each other's social and emotional needs? And (5) Negative Individual Traits. Using a critical approach, in most cases, our partners tend to depict some bad manners, and we let it be. Choosing not to discuss, demonstrates a fishy future. May all of us have blessings and peace with our partners. Amen.
Just pure wisdom. Another thing I'd say is ask, "If I was to be diagnosed with a terminal illness, would you stay?" Though in practice things might pan out differently, it is a clear indication of how seriously they take the vow-in sickness and in health, till death do us part."
Angie says marry from your tribe, religion and I would love to add and tell the ladies, out of the the 50 expectations you set, if he has 49, give him a chance.
So many nuggets herein. What struck me the most is the bit on financial personality. We tend to downplay a lot on finances and this impacts our relationships. Thanks ladies for always sharing the truth candidly but also gently. Bless❤
I think these questions shouldnt be used to try to find someone like u. Coz most likely the person u marry is totally different from u. Similarity isnt necessarily marriage compartiblilty. The answers to some of these can help u know how to "assist" yourself when u get there. But also realise growth happens and growing together is a good thing. That said one should have their most important questions. Other boxes get ticked [or not] later in life when maturity happens for the 2
Self awareness gives a ground to know your purpose and view of life and what you can accommodate within. Before marriage we should all be aware of ourselves and the adaptability to change. Even in a place where one is incapacitated, you already know your stand as an individual.
these conversations if never had during the courting time, can be had within the first 3-5yrs. you now know each other and each others habits so you know your strengths and weaknesses. you can even do post marital counselling as you have this conversation so you have a mediator. if you are committed to making the marriage work such a conversation regularly will be to strengthen your relationship. love from zambia
I only wish i bump love ladies had talked about this topic before i made certain decisions,but now that i know,am a mum of 3 girls trust me,i will surely guide them,am saving this episode ,its for keeps,my girls have to be better than me.
You ladies are the bomb! Grt show. I believe all the qns are valid but I think they're better observed like Angie intimated at some point, than asked coz chances are high that lies will carry the day. Genetic testing n qns about congenital diseases should be asked. Am also of the view that such conversations [qns] ought to be started way early with parents, this wld help the children ask/observe for the right clues when time comes. Truth is, our hearts always run so fast ahead of the head hence missing crucial bits in the journey of r/s which attimes are regrettable.
Great Talk. We talked about finances, expectation interms of roles as a wife and husband ,number of kids but also as time goes on in marriage, we compromise here and there.
I totally relate to marrying someone from different cultures and religion. I'm married to a turkish man and as much as we are very open to assimilate each others cultures, sometimes its frustrating because there's too many differences like language, food, religion and the way of life.
Exactly. The cultural differences are such a big deal eventhough many people ignore it initially. Rituals / practices start coming out at child births, naming ceremonies, funerals etc. It's a lot
@pumlanabachwa8668 🥰🙋🏽♀️ it's all about respecting each other's traditions and values and not forcing one another to partake in something if there not comfortable yet. We're also learning about each other's cultures and being open minded. One major thing that almost broke us was religion, but my husband agreed to change to mine. Funny enough, we actually dated for like 6yrs(since Uni) and now we've been married for 2yrs, I should've known better but I thought love is what matters cause I could clearly see the extreme differences. When we moved back to his country that's when it hit me that we should've definitely listened to what our families were telling us.
Conversations before marriage are key. However, some galz get desperate as they age and just go with everything as it is. But Pumla, things of polygamy are difficult to discuss because men will most likely lie that they don't support it even when they do
Kibi mwogede late 😅. I wish I had access to this in my early 20's, I would have paid so much attention and asked these questions. I regret not having conversations in the beginning because I am now bearing the consequences.
Ladies, I've been watching your show since I was 19 and it's shaped me so much. I'm able to avoid so many mistakes because of the things you share. This particular episode is really insightful because im in my early 20s and I'm not settled at all as you're describing 😅
Getting to read your prospective partner is really very important. They will always exhibit behaviors of their true self without even intending to. We just have to be very observant while dating. While dating my ex, i met him with his boys having fun. One of them jokingly said something to my ex but the way my ex reacted was enough to make me understand that he had anger issues & violent. But no, i brushed it off & im regreting up to now.
Everytime I listen to Mrs. Mwine Rachel, I feel blessed and something feels healed inside me. Her submissions are calm, considerate, filled with divine feminine wisdom, and never patronizing. Thank you Rachel for being you.Lots of love ❤.
me too. ooba i just like her as a person
I thought am the only one who enjoys that lady.
@@deborahkalunginsubuga1448 I feel you, she is quite likeable
@@nayigaswagi-eq4hh Me too, I can see we are many 😊.
And she looks like me mbwenu i love her as how i love myself Shana
And there's me tearing through this episode 😭😭😭 Pumla gave me checker one,Manuela gave the injection,Rosette cooled the fire,Racheal straight to the point and Angie fired straight to the heart. Thank you Ladies....I bless the day I landed on this channel. Surely I'm to re-watch this show.
Amiina 🙏🏾
Am also rewatching it over en over
Thanks Ladies
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I really appreciate bump love for teachings
yes dear...here we watch every show more than once.. the deeper it registers home, the more the number of re-watching
Hey ladies. Let me kunyumiza you" in Manuela's voice. Do u remember that episode where you appreciated your partners? Otyoo. I am kinda shy so i wrote a letter to my boyfriend expressing my appreciation for things he has done for me that "altered my brain chemistry". He doesnt like letters so i forced him to read it while i was seated next to him. Guys! His reactions! He even shed a tear or two. He never thought i used to acknowledge those small small acts of kindness.
Ps: We started dating in s5 in 2015. Now contemplating marriage. All i wanna say is mbagala nnyo my source of inspiration is bump love❤
Blessing follow you bby gal
Things i love to read and hear about
happy for you gal❤
Awwwwwwwwww so happy for you. Tag us when you get married so we remember this comment. ❤
YEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSS
Healing attachments - one relationship at a time. Love this
I really love how Pumla protects her ex husband
Exactly❤ Maturity at its best
With a lot of wisdom ate
Very mature
Very mature
It's I guess more of respect
My advice would be:
1- Pay Attention to how someone makes you feel rather than how you feel about them.
2_Listen very careful to what he/she says: everything you need to know is in those conversations.
3- Keep your eyes open: see things for what they are and not what you want them to be.
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I love this
Point number 2....that one.very very true
you have said it all, I wish we learned these things way back
Thank you connie ❤
Manuella black and white was made for you and you absolutely look beautiful and always smart in it.
Oh thank you...... 😊
At this point I think we need a live bump love show..... ladies please think about it ❤
We surely do please invite me for the first live show
Definitely ❤❤❤
Thank you for speaking my mind,I thought about it long timeeee ,consider it bambi dear ladies
I believe so too
Miss Pumla said this session is around the corner. Just keep it locked here.
This sounds like 'Questions to ask before marriage in your 30's'. Realistically, in our early and mid 20s, its very difficult to have this mindset and foresight. Iam 37 and i married at 27. I was ready but never had the mindset of having a deep conversation on most of these issues. All i can say, date as long as you can before marriage until both of you break character (stop acting/pretending/being nice to each other all the time). If you have not seen your partner angry or under pressure, do not think/assume you know them!
One of the best conversation I had with my husband pre marriage was on "non negotiables". I think it's paramount to know your non negotiables and state them before walking down the isle.
One of my non negotiables is no relatives. They can visit, we can help them, but we're not taking in relatives to live with us. I'm very pedantic, particular and intentional about my space, and I know living with people who are not wired like me, or at the very least, know and respect that about me would make me absolutely miserable.
There's a place for compromise in marriage, but if you know in your hearts of hearts there's something you absolutely cannot compromise on, then that is a non negotiable, state it and see if your partner is willing to accept it or not, before you hitch your wagon to his.
I agree with you Manuela 100% have the conversation before any intimacy.
Sis, intimacy can make you see rainbows in a desert. 😂
😄😄 very true its an eclipse
This episode is mainly for us who are not yet married thank you ladies 🥰🥰🥰
Oh yes! Today we are here JUST FOR YOU!
Angie is right, I knew what I want, whom I want to marry and that I was to be a good wife to that kind of person, I prayed to Allah for such a person and he came into my life, at 22yrs and him at 24 got married , now 5yrs in a happy marriage, both of us below 30yrs, Al-hamdulillah
Masha Allah
Alhamdulillah 🙏🏾
Wow..I love this and it applies to me..am just praying to met that person
I tap your blessings
I learn so much from this show, I am still in my twenties and not yet married. The knowledge shared here is gold.
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All this 5 women are powerful and their views on this topic are great.kudos🇳🇦
Thank you neighbor ❤
Meanwhile Friday is like Christmas to some of us the we wait #bumplove love you always
MERRY CHRISTMAS Justiiiiiiiinnneee 🎉. P
😂😂😂You have said it
@@pumlanabachwa8668 🤣🤣🤣
Hi ladies,I have watched 80% of the show since 2019,I love the show,I got married last year❤but before that,I did all the tests,had the fights,had no sex with him,asked about his dead mom and where she was burried,like I did the questioning in that by the time the marriage happened,it was like I had know this man for a life time,do people change,yes!but my biggest prayer is the we both grow towards the same direction as we want the same things and both our vision boards are full and we are both willing to push each other.
Thanks ladies,much love, Sofiya ❤
Leero was not a back bencher
Was in front writing my notes.
Thank you ladies.
Who is their mentor, it is important that you look into where your future spouse gets counsel. Do not settle for things like I do these things alone.
Am always hesitant to comment on the forum partly because I scroll through and hardly come across comments from male gender...😅but I enjoy the conversations,thou with my reservations
Banage Rosette when you talk about what our partners like, banage with my husband i refused to do house work during dating, he had to take me out to tell me doing chores is a show of someone that can be a good wife. I openly told him if he wants to consider house work before marriage, he is with the wrong person, low n behold!! The man latter left me🙈 Banange it was painful, but after a while he came back, and now he is hubby. Just know I am glad i played that, it revealed alot about him.
I agree with Rachel on childhood traumas and someone's past. Though I think the traumas shouldn't necessarily disqualify someone especially if they are working on being better. So the red flag for me is a person comfortable in their childhood traumas.
Yes, if they are oblivious to them and are unwilling to do the work, that's a red flag.
You are a great researcher and speaker Pumla 😍
Thank you Evelyn
When Rachel speaks ❤❤❤
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Hello bumb love am turning 20 this year but I really love u ladies and Every topic u bring out to us.
Thanks Recheal and Angie for being soooo realistic
Just to add, consider the families you are coming from. Ask yourself, imagine i got married in my family. Bad families get children who liberate themselves from bad live but most times majority remain bad hearted. Key words, everyone wants good things and we must counsel ourselves to be better citizens of this country. Well raised children will change the world. Let's have kids we can afford to look after in terms of time, and finances. Thank you ladies for always giving us your life experiences
I had to watch this with a pen 🖊️ and note book 📖 cause everything said was important so I had to write it down.
Thank you ladies 🤩
This was my episode who is 30 but not in a relationship knowing what to talk about thanks girls with love from bump fan
I love this, my grandmother told us to consider lineage as an important aspect before marriage interms of longevity
Have you seen your great grandparents, your grandparents, your parents?
If you are an orphan, what caused the death of your parents, are the other members of your family still alive?
Your grandparents children (they include your parents) Are they all alive?
What about you their children, are you all alive?
I like this, it is more of spiritual mapping and it is very helpful
THAT! Crucial.
This show has shaped me so much and I'm deeply grateful. When Mrs. Mulondo was talking about financial personalities, I remembered that we also have financial traumas yet people don't realise. I'm suggesting we talk about more it. Otherwise I'm glad I joined watching this show in my early twenties, my decisions are now more clear and I know exactly what it is I want and won't settle until I get it.
I feel like we shld hv another show about this topic, wish to listen more of it. Its wide with different topics to consider ( talking to yoself, finance,polygamy,...) its alot under
Am so so so glad am getting to hear this conversation before messing up.. 27 no child, in a long distance relationship with someone from my religion and my tribe..Former childhood bestfriend. Same story with Manuela. Holy spirit confirmed it.. And now l have more clarification..
Amen. Happy for you. Don't forget to get the third confirmation. All spirits must be tested
Ladies and your entire team, thank you so much for this particular episode. LET THOSE WITH EARS LISTEN but allow me to recommend two books that have opened both my inner and outer eyes and ears because all that the Ladies have said I found in a book Titled " Things I wish I knew before I got Married by GARRY CHAPMAN"
And another titled " Who You Should Marry by Chris Okonkwo"
I am forever grateful for the fact that God picked all these ladies and their entire team to deliver us from so much..!
Thanks for the recommendation of books ♥️
Thanks for the books.
@@empresswakanda20 you are most welcome
The conversation on how to fix it when things go wrong needs to be had. How to handle conflict in a way that wont break them apart but rather be a source of learning and growth.
Kemi you are right on point with the other health conditions. Sickle cell anaemia is a serious problem in the African community but we never think of testing for such diseases.
Because sex comes before everything and blinds everyone 😂😂😂
I think about Angie saying that we should marry from our same tribe, religion etc is not necessarily the case . We can always talk to our partners about our values, norms and beliefs to see if they are OK with them because some of us don't even fancy men from our tribes.😅
Why do you over speak the truth prossy 😂😂😂,the issue of tribe mate is also at 0.1% for me😅
True abt not wanting same tribe lol however it would be so much if your tribemates however in short it's a hustle we have choosen 😂
I love the way Pumla opened this episode, and I remember writing a letter to God about the man I wanted, it was real deep conversation with God. I still have my letter, after 10 years I looked at it and I keep ticking. 😂 i remember mister telling me " I am not looking for a girlfriend " I need a wife😂, that qn. determined whether the conversation had to go on or stop.
Though times change, one thing I have discovered is you don't go less of what your expectations were rather you grow more and dreams and vision evolve in that line as longer as you keep communication key in your relationship. Great information especially for the young people looking for spouses however the Bible says " A good wife/ husband is a gift from God. Pray and open your eyes at all times. Be wise 👌. ❤❤❤❤❤ to you ladies.
Did the man God gave you exactly what you had written to him in the letter?
Actually, He gave me better, humanly I presented my petition that included the qualities of a man I wanted, but above all, I needed someone who would love me for who I was, And Yes God answered me and more. ❤
Angie about polygamy your right!..I have a friend whose friends used to cheat and this year he also ended up there! Sadly for him the marriage is gone.
Before I even watch this episode I have a confession- Am I the only one addicted to Bump Love? So yesterday I woke up thinking about my to do list- I had abit of a long drive to do and I was excited when I remembered I will be riding with BumpLove new episode. I flip to YT app and I just can’t find the episode🤔… i am thinking to myself what has happened to Mr Mulondo has he forgotten it’s Friday?? As my disappointment sets in, the holyspirit reminds me to chill- It’s just Thursday 🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️. Ehhh bajenzi Bump lovers we need a brunch meeting at Tulip restaurant😂😂😂😂. Ok let me watch💖💖💖
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Hahahaaaaa! It's Furayidaaaaaayyyyyyy 🎉
😂😂we love you Olivia
You guys are doing serious ministry....some of these things people do not even hear in pre-marital counselling...well done girls...
Welldone ladies. I needed this 4 years ago but let me choose to do better.
Can we have the male views about this?? Please
Us singles nga we going to suffer!😮 We surely needed this, soo many things to consider even before you start a relationship with someone 🤦🏾♀️these streets are hard, thank you ladies.
You will not suffer. Speak positively into your life. You will flourish, you will success and you will find a partner who suits you.
@@Flourish_todayhave seen people who don't even date, and have successful marriages and those that date, go through this, knowing this that.. same tribe but bad marriages
My dear these things have no formula actually couples that even don't date, have more successful marriages than those couples that dated and had all, this steps have bad marriages.
Aaaawwwnnn my bump lovers...I really love you ladies 🥰🥰
Shout outs from Ghana ✌️✌️✌️💃💃💃
As a 25 year old lady who's grown up in the diaspora, am so surprised that such conversation are news to some girls (even here in London). But Mrs. Mulondo is right; young people should put 'dancing each other' on hold because your dancing 'parts' are not going anywhere, moreover time waits for no man. LIVE IN THE NOW, BANANGE! Be woke and vigilant kati kati.
Anyways, thank you ladies :)
The parts are not going ANYWHERE............
Dancing each other 😅😂😅😂
@@manuelap.mulondo 😂😂😂😂 pun unintended
Am always looking forward to Friday . I thank God for this educative channel. Honestly speaking most of the issues we get in marriage is because we don't listen to conversations with our partners. Sitting on a table to initiate serious topics would attract lies but being attentive and questioning the conversations gives perfect answers. You're doing an amazing job ladies😍
Pumla and Manuela, I would ask that you teach us especially financial matters in marriage and courtship
We will tag team and do this for you
We will soon
Rachel’s last point just liberated me, that’s what I have been struggling with. Thanks Rach
Angie! 👌👌👌. The conversation is on-the-go 6, 10, 15 years down. It does not necessarily have to be scheduled! It can be as you both brush or dress up for 5 minutes yiveni! It doesn't have to be over a scheduled 'date night'. Lovely conversation ladies!
Im here with my notebook 😂 Thanks for helping me out❤
I am literally 23 yrs and I feel I really understand the coming point and love these guys cause these always states of confusion in myself most especially when it comes to let's have settles relationships but this give me alot of confidence
Rosette.. green is your colour. You look absolutely lovely 😍
Thx boo 😊
Given increasing infertility problems, couples should discuss options that they will consider if they face them. Ask your date/partner, what if we never have children? Would you be open to do IVF or other assisted reproductive techniques?
Yesssss very important!!!!!!
i liked angie's advice of getting genetic testing. and here in the USA, please...we need to check our credit score and college debt because money troubles and debt collectors are a no no for me. living here, outside of uganda, has exposed me to being open to other tribes, religions.... we aren't so into culture like that so it is easier
To add on yr issue that u're not into tribes/ethnicities, religion,etc: I think that's an issue that is only present in some few families and individuals, hitherto, thro' out the world; it has never been a big issue with the majority of folks worldwide! Africans have been marrying all over that continent for generations! Regions, religions have never been a big thing in separating us; because even when a person says... Allah for example that's Arabic language and for me it wasn't till after matriculating at college in the USA that l found out, that not all Arabs are Muslims! Additionally, from long ago the white were fighting each other and conquering neighbors; e.g, Britain is a mixture of Anglo Saxons: German, Dutch, on a grand scale. Such cultural concoction existed in Africa before the coming in of Arabs, Europeans. Again, u may see the Caucasians but besides their morphologies/external appearances these fellas have totally different cultures. H'ver, their open minds started long ago and to demystify such negativities; that's why royal families in eastern Europe could marry from Western Europe, vice versa! Then came a time when they traversed the world in such of wherewithals which culminated into the deception of discovering the Americas...bcz u can't discover where other people already are inhabitants! As they came to the Americas they further intermarried; moreso they started leaving their women in the homes to go and sleep with their slave women! Lastly, the founders of religion fathom it that it's an option of the mind; today u're Catholic, tomorrow u're Adventist or protestant/ which means protesting the other faith! In Africa we had our ways of communicating with Allah or God; in BUGANDA, for instance, gods had different names based on what the natives were pleading for at a given moment! And this fact is well elucidated by the names: mukasa, Musoke, Muwanga, kisaakye, Kiwanuka, etc. This phenomenon was true throughout Africa!
In a recapitulation, when it comes to ethnic segregation the Asians were the most, worst adamants! Nonetheless, amongst their newer generations that mindset has evolved! For instance: Indian girls are falling in love and marrying Africans today, this' all over the hemisphere; Koreans are marrying anybody, Chinese are marrying everyone and during the pandemic of covid-19, unexpectedly we saw how many Chinese have married Africans inside China mainland!
With all that is said, be the one to make a difference, don't be like others who don't, who haven't, who didn't get chance to important things.
Give God your marriage life because he will give u the fitting shoe for u .. Trust me for that
Thank you ladies as always. I Was just worried today you didnt have something to drink. We need sponsers here to sponser you with drinks. One hour without something to drink is not healthy. I beg all the Sponsers to remember our Ladies who takes time to educate us always ❤
This can be your sponsorship contribution Susan
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@bumplove is a whole class for me. Kati I sit down with my notebook and write down life lessons from this show.
Thank you so ladies for the free master class❤
I got married in my early twenties and still happily married. I believe everyone matures differently and different stages. These are good questions to examine yourself and potential future patner. Thanks again ladies for another banger 🔥🔥
Am with u even our granny's married before 20 and has successful marriages
@@kiraboneema808 don't count on them because dnas seem to prove most grannies have kids out of wedlock
@@kiraboneema808 our grannies kugumad😂😂😂
And the families (more mature people) chose partners for them
Me wen it comes to disclosing finance hoo! I don't give correct info 😢 but all these conversations are uncomfortable coz truth be told some people are not true to themselves but u have articulated it well ladies big up
Who else waits fr Friday like me🎉
Thank you ladies....
Oh Angie dear, how we missed you.
Pumla as usual shaking tables unprovoked 😂 I love it.
Thank you ladies. The amount of knowledge I have amerced from bump love beats all the Canadian prairies and what not that I have ever studied in my entire existence, Christ. Mwebale nyo.
Haha! Canada is looking for labor. That prairie knowledge just might come in handy 😅
Wisdom will kill you one day ladies🥰🥰
I remember trying to have that money talk with this guy and I immediately got branded a "gold digger". He was like why would I want to know what he earns if am not going to start demanding for things yet he has responsibilities that I don't know of. I had just started getting introduced to the money conversation and I was definitely not yet strong enough to delve thoroughly into it. I let it be and unfortunately for me, I was a gold digger till my friends who truly knew me sabotaged that rumor and it died down.
I looooove Pumla....Cheeeiii. Woman knows what she wants and how she wants it.
Hahaha! I'm sure you do/can to. Thanks Raahidah 😊
Finances, will make or break you. Very important conversation 👌
Questioning genetic diseases was my #1. Very often we disregard the criticality of questioning genetic conditions. Just to later discover your kids have Tay-Sachs, hemoglobin disorders, thalassemia and sickle cell anemia.
It wasn’t until our daughter was born 3 months and 3 weeks early that I learned my ex-husband' maternal and paternal family has a history of premature births and Tay-Sachs disease. So, genetic conditions and amount of debt is critical.
Talk of it, its just a few weeks i have been told about hemoglobin disorder. That am a carrier.
And to think that the list of genetic diseases is endless. We need to normalise genetic counselling and screening
ooh God i be waiting for Friday like nothing,i love Pumla,s phrase of ideas,her reasoning and she does her
Love that you're enjoying the content
Thanks ladies for equipping us with advise we who are not yet married.
And you have reminded me how C.V Mathews defines world view that your your world view and you world view is you.
For the first time ..Rcheal is not the first to say out her views,,, Pumla took the lead.
Otherwise am sitting here with my notebook n a pen, ready to learn.
Thank u ladies.
But can't you just enjoy the content and not over analyse??? 😅
@@pumlanabachwa8668😂😂😂😂
As a medic....i will over emphasize medical research...en tests....blood group is keyyyyy...rhesus factor on the blood group for both partners is important
Am always excited about Friday.......thank you bump love.......i thing us who are not yet married we know what to day in the right time .....wow i really thank you ladies for each episode
Hello bump love queens. Yes I'm commenting before watching because I know it will be lit🔥🔥. New fan from Kenya. I'm still re-watching old episodes & I must say I don't know why I dint know you sooner🤩🤩
Edit: The convo about money is actually very important. Especially one's money personality.
It is indeed
Glad that you were able to return & watch the whole episode
Health,finance and honesty is key conversation
Health health health...very important
Thank you, Ladies. Besides all that is mentioned, it's important to have open, honest and uncomfortable discussions with your partner about various aspects of your life together. These discussions can help ensure that you are on the same page and have a strong foundation for your marriage. Some technical questions to consider can depict the inner person in your partner:
(1) Health and Wellness
Are there any existing health issues or concerns that could impact our relationship or future plans?
How do we prioritize physical and mental well-being in our lives, and how can we support each other in staying healthy?
(2) Communication and Conflict Resolution
How do we handle disagreements and conflicts, and what strategies do we plan to use for resolving them? What are our communication styles, and how can we improve our communication as a couple?
(3) Long-Term Goals
What are our individual and shared long-term goals for our life together?
How do we envision our retirement and financial planning for the future?
(4) Social and Support Networks
How do we plan to maintain relationships with our friends and family after marriage?
How can we support each other's social and emotional needs?
And (5) Negative Individual Traits. Using a critical approach, in most cases, our partners tend to depict some bad manners, and we let it be. Choosing not to discuss, demonstrates a fishy future.
May all of us have blessings and peace with our partners. Amen.
It's true😊😊😊
Just pure wisdom. Another thing I'd say is ask, "If I was to be diagnosed with a terminal illness, would you stay?" Though in practice things might pan out differently, it is a clear indication of how seriously they take the vow-in sickness and in health, till death do us part."
Angie says marry from your tribe, religion and I would love to add and tell the ladies, out of the the 50 expectations you set, if he has 49, give him a chance.
So many nuggets herein. What struck me the most is the bit on financial personality. We tend to downplay a lot on finances and this impacts our relationships. Thanks ladies for always sharing the truth candidly but also gently. Bless❤
Very important discussion to have and observe with your eyes......
I think these questions shouldnt be used to try to find someone like u. Coz most likely the person u marry is totally different from u. Similarity isnt necessarily marriage compartiblilty. The answers to some of these can help u know how to "assist" yourself when u get there. But also realise growth happens and growing together is a good thing. That said one should have their most important questions. Other boxes get ticked [or not] later in life when maturity happens for the 2
Self awareness gives a ground to know your purpose and view of life and what you can accommodate within. Before marriage we should all be aware of ourselves and the adaptability to change. Even in a place where one is incapacitated, you already know your stand as an individual.
Love this. So true
these conversations if never had during the courting time, can be had within the first 3-5yrs. you now know each other and each others habits so you know your strengths and weaknesses. you can even do post marital counselling as you have this conversation so you have a mediator. if you are committed to
making the marriage work such a conversation regularly will be to strengthen your relationship.
love from zambia
Of course at bumplove we are a TEAM " Together Everyone ,Achieves ,More"
I only wish i bump love ladies had talked about this topic before i made certain decisions,but now that i know,am a mum of 3 girls trust me,i will surely guide them,am saving this episode ,its for keeps,my girls have to be better than me.
Pumla thanx for pronouncing luganda words properly.God bless u
Hahaha! We now thank for pronunciation? 😅
Oh Lord this so real, how I wish learnt this when I was in my early twenties😢
I will gladly teach my nieces, nephews and children
You ladies are the bomb! Grt show. I believe all the qns are valid but I think they're better observed like Angie intimated at some point, than asked coz chances are high that lies will carry the day. Genetic testing n qns about congenital diseases should be asked. Am also of the view that such conversations [qns] ought to be started way early with parents, this wld help the children ask/observe for the right clues when time comes. Truth is, our hearts always run so fast ahead of the head hence missing crucial bits in the journey of r/s which attimes are regrettable.
Very critical issues have been discussed today. Banange thank you for saving lives.
And here we are again 🤸🤸🤸🤸 issa bump love Friday ladies come we enjoy🌹❤
Thank you ladies, this is one of those conversations I wish someone had sat me down about in my early 20s. The butterflies are not the thing😊
Most settled element indeed! When you are younger, you may not understand why you must have a partner who has so much in common like you.
51:22 Show me your friends I will tell you who you are 👌
That's so true Pumla, a person supporting that kind of behavior is a definite red flag
Yup! Red Flag Alert
So no one is commenting about racheals tshirt and the msg on it.... Christ all the way
This is synonymous with clerking in medical practice
Getting the full biodata,family history,socioeconomic hx,...
Thanks soo much bump love, am a better mum now and I now honestly think thru things mukama abawangaaze 🙏🙏♥️
Great Talk.
We talked about finances, expectation interms of roles as a wife and husband ,number of kids but also as time goes on in marriage, we compromise here and there.
The roles!!! Very key
@@PhionaNabudeyaa
I think it saves alot
I totally relate to marrying someone from different cultures and religion. I'm married to a turkish man and as much as we are very open to assimilate each others cultures, sometimes its frustrating because there's too many differences like language, food, religion and the way of life.
Exactly. The cultural differences are such a big deal eventhough many people ignore it initially. Rituals / practices start coming out at child births, naming ceremonies, funerals etc. It's a lot
So how do you navigate through the differences?
@@pumlanabachwa8668 You kuguma. 😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😍🤣
@pumlanabachwa8668 🥰🙋🏽♀️ it's all about respecting each other's traditions and values and not forcing one another to partake in something if there not comfortable yet. We're also learning about each other's cultures and being open minded. One major thing that almost broke us was religion, but my husband agreed to change to mine. Funny enough, we actually dated for like 6yrs(since Uni) and now we've been married for 2yrs, I should've known better but I thought love is what matters cause I could clearly see the extreme differences. When we moved back to his country that's when it hit me that we should've definitely listened to what our families were telling us.
@@FlorenceTaha 100% .It is until you start doing life together that you realise the effects. Courtship is not marriage. 🤫
Conversations before marriage are key. However, some galz get desperate as they age and just go with everything as it is. But Pumla, things of polygamy are difficult to discuss because men will most likely lie that they don't support it even when they do
True. People do lie during the "impressing" period
Kibi mwogede late 😅. I wish I had access to this in my early 20's, I would have paid so much attention and asked these questions. I regret not having conversations in the beginning because I am now bearing the consequences.
Kati we have a chance to do better going forward 😅
Am in my early twenties ..campus still the trend but I love the way my mind set is changing because of bump love❤..
I'm a KENYAN from Kisii Community married to a Ugandan from Lang'i Community
Oh nice. The more the merrier ❤
@@pumlanabachwa8668 thank you my sister Pumla
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Hey inlaw ahaha
@@judithejangtravelblog hi
Ladies, I've been watching your show since I was 19 and it's shaped me so much. I'm able to avoid so many mistakes because of the things you share.
This particular episode is really insightful because im in my early 20s and I'm not settled at all as you're describing 😅
Good job ladies. What a purposeful and empowering conversation . Really proud to be an African Woman, look at us grow and glow up together 😍😍❤️❤️.
Getting to read your prospective partner is really very important. They will always exhibit behaviors of their true self without even intending to. We just have to be very observant while dating. While dating my ex, i met him with his boys having fun. One of them jokingly said something to my ex but the way my ex reacted was enough to make me understand that he had anger issues & violent. But no, i brushed it off & im regreting up to now.