Patrick Bet-David Explains The Most Annoying Part About Marriage
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- Опубліковано 11 січ 2022
- Patrick Bet-David Podcast Episode 114. In this short clip, they discuss what the worst part about marriage is.
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I’m never thought marriage was for me until I met a girl that actually cares about me and my opinions, I married her within 6 months best decision I’ve ever made, all glory to god
Let's wait 6 years down the line. TRUST ME, it will be the WORST DECISION you have ever made. Mark my comment.
16 years married. I was 23, she was 21.
It’s been tough. We’ve had to give up a lot. We have three kids. Our oldest son has autism, and the first six years of his life were very difficult. Our second kid nearly died three times (long story). Our third kid was an accident - we had her despite having zero time to raise a baby. Okay
We’re polar opposites. She’s loud and emotional. I’m quiet and stoic. We work constantly. We’ve had financial challenges and at one point didn’t have a vacation for five years.
But she’s my favorite person in the world. Being opposites has helped us develop our weaknesses - we’ve made each other better. No one makes me laugh the way she does. She’s an incredible mom and wife. She’s truly a partner in life.
And I pray to God we are able to grow old together.
It’s worth it. Be sure to pick someone (-!; BE someone) who has as much integrity as they do outer beauty.
God bless you and your family bro
Wow all that alone can't be easy
This is beautiful. Nothing worth fighting for is easy.... keep fighting for your marriage/family and joy.
God bless you and your family! With God all things are possible
Your kid has autism? LMFAO!
20 years married. I worked my ass off to make it so she could go to college. 3 kids as soon as we got married. The first 15 years were so damn hard. But it got so good that it's been worth EVERYTHING. I'm glad I married this woman and had our wonderful children. They're more valuable than all the wealth in the world to me.
Hahahaha. How are children worth more than $1 billion dollars? You wasted 20 years of your life to toil and provide for people who won't even give $1 million ROI
I wholeheartedly agree that companionship and the depth of your connection with your partner means everything.
no, it can quickly change, esspecialy in women
I agree with Pat, got married when I was 17, 23 years later I still believe that was the best decision. Also we have 6 kids.
Good for you 🙏 bless your heart
Our world needs families like yours to set examples for our kids in the future.
I wonder what her husband would say...
@@SkywalkerPaul Good point, so far e tells me that he loves me every day or every other day.
Amen! I got married at 19, we have five kids and going on 16 years of marriage! Keep it alive!
Doing marriage well is like leveling up your life. It’s the ultimate motivator. It’s the launch pad to meaning and depth in a man’s life. And children. Don’t get me started on children. Children are the sauce of life. They are your biggest investment. They are your greatest project. Maybe it’s because I’m just a middle class joe, but to me the measure of a man is his family. It tells me all I need to know about him. It’s the hardest thing and greatest thing you’ll ever do.
Real shit
Patrick Bet-David is married to my beautiful cousin Jennifer and I'm so proud of her. She's am amazing woman and Patrick is a lucky man 😊
*Jennifer is lucky
@@kozakgaming2078 Jennifer hit the jackpot! Saw and interview she did a year ago. You can tell she appreciates who he is
34. Never married. Debt free. I'm picky who I allow into my life and wont settle like many guys I grew up with who are miserable.
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I'm 15 years older than you. A good looking dude and lots of options most of my life..HOWEVER, know that as you get older, the worse the options become with emotional and other baggage. You will not find a model with a PhD, so if you find a quality woman who has a few imperfections, lock that down. There is a tipping point where you've waited TOO long and any woman you meet even 5 or 10 years younger has been so used and put away wet that anywhere you go there's a guy she did off of tinder.
@@Mike-tf7wb Ya im starting to see this even now. Ill be 35 in April. Im really trying to make an effort in meeting someone, Im always so picky but realize there won't be that one perfect person.
A good friend of mine graduated college with $250k in loans and has a basic gov job. I can’t even comprehend how she would ever put a dent in paying it off. And I was beyond shocked when someone actually married her😂😅
@@Mike-tf7wb Not true in my case. I'm your age, moved abroad 10+ years ago and there are so many beautiful, young, quality, conservative, family-type women. You can be 60+ and still find a great partner without emotional baggage or having been railed by a ton of guys in her heyday. Every girl I dated so far has been better than the American girls I dated prior to moving abroad in my 30s. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but that's my experience living in South East Asia (and even when I was living in Latin America). They're more in line with what guys want in a "traditional" wife (God and family first). Anyone that is tired of dating in the US should travel abroad and see for themselves. It's never too late to find a beautiful and loving wife abroad. I promise. Just take 1 trip and see.
Being married for 10 year and I’m 31 with 3 kids ,comes down realizing that young playboy shit is over , the partying aspect is just over. On both sides ,it’s either grow up or be alone .
@MotoIncognito had my fun , got tired wasting money on bs
Being alone is ultimate path of the jedi...
@@SkywalkerPaul fax 💪🏼
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My dad told me my condolences my son and I was like dude I’m not dead. And he was like but your dreams are so good luck dude.
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Once when I was a kid I went with a friend to visit his dying grandfather in the hospital. On his deathbed he looked us straight in the eyes and told us " Remember this! Don't ever get married!"
I love Pat, he is the example of what is really important in life while still achieving success 😊
Thank you David for raising these points. I wish we heard more men bringing this stuff up.
I can't understand why people think partying on a regular basis is more important than building a relationship that will get you through anything. Suicide is so high among men, and loneliness and depression are skyrocketing. It's because people are no longer being taught what relationships mean.
I don't need a relationship as long as I have wi-fi
This.
@@SkywalkerPaul fax 😂
@@SkywalkerPaul a woman bitchin at me 24/7 because I don’t wanna go to the grocery store and look at shit all day isn’t a life I wanna live that’s the kind of shit that makes me unhappy
Relationships can be built from the party goers
Such a fan of your content.
Thank you
My mom and dad are best friends. Ive never seen them argue. They do a lot together but they have separate friends. They’ve had three kids, all boys, and genuinely seem happy. That’s what I want for myself. Though I’m 36. It seems like being married could be the best or worst decision.
The hard part for you is that you have seen te perfect marriage and of course you are looking for that for yourself. It is extremely hard to find and it gets harder and harder the older you get, unfortunately, especially these days and in this world
13 years in and 3 kids later, best decision I ever made.
How do you and her get along?
I know women who have paid alimony to their husbands in their divorce and think it’s messed up that everyone on here is acting like divorce only hurts the man. If you get married and your spouse had to put their entire career on pause to raise your kids, you shouldn’t complain that you were the only one screwed by that failed marriage.
Another thing people fail to recognize is that marriages can only be successful if both partners share similar morals and values. Otherwise your marriage is doomed.
And lastly, I will say this. I always thought that I never wanted kids. Until older single people that I knew (usually in their 60’s) started telling me that they all regretted not having children. They just wanted that fun, carefree, party lifestyle and they lived it their whole lives. Until they reached the point where everyone they knew started dying. Parents died, siblings died, friends died. Then you start having health problems and there is no one there to help you. No family to be with on holidays. What are you going to do when you can’t drive or are cognitively impaired? Being old and completely alone is a scary feeling. I don’t know a single man or woman who was completely alone in their old age that wasn’t depressed.
It's an excellent point. However, given the massive selfishness of people today, and I am doing to say especially women, my understanding it like 50% of adult women will be single and childish in America in like 20 years. The future looks bleak for the traditional nuclear family and it seems many things are encouraging that
Good points about Responsibility, Accountability and Commitment. It's super hard. Then you add into that equation that THE OTHER PERSON has be just as committed to that. And then there's that whole, did you even pick the right person? Sometimes people change, or you don't even know their true character for some time. But kids seem to be the binding force, like they mentioned.
my wife and I, we made a deal. We only smoke after sex. I've got the same pack now since 1975. What bothers me is my wife. She's up to three packs a day.” Rodney Dangerfield
I got married at 21 and it was a terrible decision. I was too young and got divorced 5 years later. I’ll think twice before I get married again.
what was terrible about it?
Don't do it again and enjoy your freedom 🤷♂️
Must not be many married ppl watching. Pat allow me to get on these brain storming sessions with you guys and I’ll show you results you never seen before 🙏🏼 I’m a man of my word. God bless
Thanks for the advice " R.A.C" that goes on all floors🤜🏿🤛🏿
40+ year old men speaking, no dude in their 20s today should get married
Looking for a serious man white
Some people know how to make it work.
I was not one of those people. I, like most millennials, married because I had the wrong mindset going into it. I looked at the selfish reasons; I didn't truly love my now ex-wife. If you are about to get married and you're reading this, ask yourself this: do I truly love this person, or am I doing it for bullshit reasons? If you even have to think about it, chances are you don't.
'Is there an F word that happens once a month?" lmao
luv these guys
Thank you guys. ❤R
It's the only contract that can be broken because one party says they ain't feeling it any more.
All the more difficult to stomach when your financial contribution has been much much more during the marriage, but on exit 50/50.
the sound of those metalic sound reflecting objects is really effecting the sound quality of this new set up. I prefer the sound of the old studio
Marriage is great under one, and only one, condition
You have to find the right person for you.
The chances of you actually finding that person, and getting them to love you, are pretty low.
If you marry the wrong person, it gets bad. Fast.
True! The best advice is to get a book called the 101 things to discuss before marrying... Something like that. Go through the exercises and listen for the answers and THEN, compare their actions to their answers. In other words, if they sound amazing, make sure you cross-reference their actions to verify they are amazing! If actions don't match words, RUN!
I preferred the old set
the new setup sucks
I agree! #allergictofailure🤧 #addictedtosuccess🍾 #onlybelieversachievesuccess💪
It's about you life being dictated by the lowest common denominator in your marriage. Kids, wife, your aspirations no longer are yours. It's a slog and don't know if I would do it again. Currently in it, but realizing the struggle and its heavy.
Lot of pros and cons homie. Keep your head up, stay fit, learn, be the best dam version of you, you can be. Time can change almost everything if you let it 👍
Don’t be down it’s all okay, just stay motivated and happy things won’t be perfect and all happy everyday but as long as your happy in your heart and try to do the right thing everyday of your life you’ll be okay, when your married you have to always put your wife first before all things no matter what, that’s why I’m not married I have so many goals I want to reach in my life hopefully 🙏🏼 plus I have seizures and epilepsy and I don’t think I can have kids with the amount of medicine I have to take everyday and I would probably give up on life if I did have kids and they had to live life with the seizures I have Iv broke my neck had brain surgery the whole 9 and I never want someone to ever go through it’s not worth going to the hospital losing jobs being caught up on the doctor medication system force fed 20+ pills that make you feel like shit 24/7 all day everyday an the minute you don’t take them boom you end up back in the hospital on a ventilator and not having insurance hit with a good 30k bill and expected to pay it everytime it’s ridiculous
What’s the name of the podcast that pat talks about?
Nothing i can think of been married for 10years and its been good just complain about small stuff but i do to sometimes
Summation: relationship are more responsibility and less freedom
Exactly, not every male is a man enough to take responsibility.
Marriage is overrated.
@@SkywalkerPaul fax
@@the_real_economics gender has nothing to do with it
The most annoying thing about marriage?? Has to be my wife. She’s a real battle axe
get rid of her if she is a pain to deal with
@@jbevolve2023 everyone has flaws. Unless it’s unbelievable toxic and not going anywhere you should probably work on it.
Well start looking at your self-- then things might improve !
Being married is sometimes having to do and put up with things that you do not agree with.
0:51 "Tell that stupid bitch" thats cold, lmao, love it!!!~
What podcast is Patrick talking about?
Heavy steps Patsy !
Family definitely
The average marriage ends w/in 8 years.
Marriage is giving a girl a gun, then hoping she won't use it. Even if she leaves, you must pay her like you're still married. Worse contract ever.
C-commitment
A-accountability
R-responsibility
Been with my wife since 21, 10 years later married with 3 kids and I feel bad for the guys who still dating lmao. They don't get that marriage is a young person's game. Too much luggage and trauma with a 30+ year old for u to form a meaningful relationship with. Not saying some of them don't work but men are crazy dating and marrying in their 30s. Then they wonder why their wife is not tolerable. Women get bitter as fuck the more their hearts are broken due to break ups in relationships n by the time u marry her her heart and mind are just not in the game anymore.
Why not just marry a younger woman then lol
@@michael43567 gets to a point where a man wants to be able to connect with a woman mentally. Very difficult to connect with someone who doesn't share the same experiences with u because u just got too many years on her
@@Carlosgarciaa793 true, but women do tend to mature faster than men. I plan on marrying in my mid 30's, likely to a woman around 25. There are many 25 year old women who are very mature
You can tell which of these men have their wife on a pedestal. SMH. This is how society conditions men, to have a pedestal in their subconscious and to place a woman on it "get the girl", etc...Men think of women as the prize, but should flip the script and view themselves as the prize.
I think men should skip marriage altogether, just look at the stats and what happens after marriage. No sex, fighting regularly, kids, busy schedules....I question the true "depth" of some of these marriages and think most people are still married out of social conditioning and stigma of divorce that only they believe in. Some of them stay married out of ego.
This whole 'dying alone' is nonsense...its a social trope used to get men to commit to marriage. One of the experts in this field of intersexual dynamics is Rollo Tomassi and he has written about this, it's called 'Myth Of The Lonely Old Man'. Men should spend time reading The Rational Male book series, breaking their social conditioning concerning women and look at reality. Learn about the intentions that drive female behavior.
Also there is the issue of the gov. being involved in marriage (its a lucrative industry for them). The state incentivizes divorce which is why women file 80% of the divorces, because it's profitable for them. Men, educate yourself and learn female nature then learn how to maneuver in the sexual marketplace.
Best post
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They got thier girl in the 80s/90s era very different from today's women and social media era
Yes great post
@@dondp7500 I sincerely apologize for not responding sooner. Please forgive me. I have been ill.
Thank you for your response, time, and consideration.
I did marry my wife in 1994. Yes, the younger generation is different, than my generation (Baby-boomers). I want to emphasize my generation is not better or worse, than your generation. Lack of character, values, and ethics exist in my generation, as well as in your generation.
Today, there are young gentlemen and young ladies who conduct themselves with virtues, character, values, and ethics. There are young gentlemen and young ladies who are making significant positive contributions to humanity, while conducting themselves with virtues, character, values, and ethics. There are young gentlemen and young ladies who desire to be great wives, husbands, parents, citizens, entrepreneurs, and employees. The aforementioned young gentlemen and young ladies do not make the time to do stupid things on social media; socialize at clubs/bars, and/or have negative/inappropriate personal and professional relationships.
Every generation has good and bad humans. Virtues, character, values, and ethics transcendes gender, religion, culture, race, ethnicity, and/or social status.
We can focus on what cannot control, such as other people. Focusing on what we can not control is a waste of time and energy. We can focus on living a life of virtues, character, values, and ethics. We can focus on becoming the best we can be at our calling (What are you called to do? What is your specific mission?). We can control choosing a mate, who has the same virtues, character, values, and ethics, while sharing the same goals. For example, Adam Sosnick is not looking to marry and/or have a serious relationship; therefore, Adam Sosnick will be a man who attracts women who are not looking for marriage and/or a serious relationship. Many people think they want to be married; yet, do not prepare for marriage.
Once again, thank for your response, time, and consideration. I responded with the intent of humility.
Makes zero sense for a man to get married these days. One of the worst financial decisions you can make.
The three keys to success
Responsibility
Accountability
Commitment
Marriage is on course to be for the financially elite. It doesn’t make sense getting married these days
Divorce is expensive. Marriage though???
PBT killed it on that but, I disagree with marriage anyway.
James Sexton needs to come on this show ASAP
Yeah my mom died and my poor father begs to see us cause his other half is gone and we the last thing of her he has left
"Marry someone you like talking with, because in the end, that's all you will have". Now that is a very, very old piece for advice.
why he always brings the guy left to patrick on the show?
I disagree but I don't want to list a bunch of ugly things. Marriage is not for everyone.
"my wife is watching this. All thought the same 🤣"
Marriage is a three ring circus. You have the engagement ring, then the wedding ring, and the suffering.
😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤
Being married is to have someone that can testify to your life. When you are old and you don’t have someone you can reminisce with you will be miserable
i like how they completely sidestepped the divorce concerns 'that's something single guys care about'. If you want single guys to get married, you have to address the 40%+ divorce rate where women initiate 70-90% of the time?
Yep... It is staggering. And the 'reasons' are usually extremely lame like 'we grew apart'. The point being often women are looking to have something from the romance novels they read where as mature women understand the dynamic of any marriage changes over time and the chances of 'the grass is greener' is super slim, but that is not how they think
My parents were the best people I have ever known. A near perfect marriage. Looking back on it as an adult, no one else would probably 7:13 believe it. But, I lived it and witnessed it everyday growing up. I had a nearly fairy tale childhood. I was so blessed to grow up in a safe, loving home. It has made all the difference in me. It really is the most important decision of your life. Thank you, Mom and Dad, best marriage ever ❤️
Good luck emulating that! It is hard to find these days... to have a situation that awesome with another and because you witnessed it, you will be constantly aspiring for that level. GOOD LUCK!
Sadly there’s some immaturity on the panel that stopped the conversational flow & brought the level down somewhat but good clip nonetheless
I love my wife good woman but I know this with out a kid we would love each other less. The kid is the glue that makes it all work 4 the long run fact.
If it Flies, Floats or F*cks, lease it.
Hello
What happened to the man on the far left? Went to another planet for the duration of the conversation. Can see Pat looking over every once in a while. 😂😅
The guy on the left is a Christian. Maybe that’s why he didn’t join in on the conversation. Maybe his view point would be Biblical
I would love to have kids. But I'm not sure about marriage
I'm going to say my wife, 😂😂
Tred carefully my g
At the end of it…. 😂
BS I’ve heard horror stories more often but not.
House gone, alimony, child support….
There’s too much risk my guy.
Can not be yourself
The annoying thing is not to have what you had being single and the best thing is to have what you didn’t have being single.
Sex is the former i'm guessing.
Dude said it doesn't make sense to get married n have no kids lol why doesn't it ? Lol everybdy wants different things
Marriage is a covenant before God. It’s not to be used for sinful acts. Unfortunately traditions play a role in the downfall of this union as “they be of one flesh”. Genesis 2:24 KJV… It wasn’t made to be easy but to have a help meet (Help mate) ie. a wife that a man would love and procreate with. Unfortunately, the biblical constitution of marriage isn’t taken seriously. I believe God wants the best for your marriage if you both believe in the biblical constitution of marriage. Don’t let outside forces penetrate your marriage because the stakes are too high and ain’t nobody got time for that! Praise be Jesus, amen!
I think that as with everything else in life, it is all an individual desire from within. In the animal kingdom, some species mate for life. 95-98% don't
I married aged 43….8 years ago. My wife has backed me to go trek / climb the Himalayas this year. In return I’ve agreed for her to attend a monthly salsa dancing class. “I’AM OK OUT HERE” 🙂
I am Puerto Rican, who has been dancing salsa, as soon as I could walk. Hip mobility; hip flexibility, and rthym!
Hello
Ima not chime in
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My wife is completely enamoured with me.
First thing as a man you gotta find a woman you can stand to be around and still 5 10 20 years later you have kids and your tired of having sex with her your stuck or be hopeful she finds someone else with they generally do lol :)
LAST 💩🤬
Marriage ain’t worth it for guys nowadays
A lot of females feel marriage ain’t worth it either.
I’m single. Swiping gets OLD.
Hello
That forever doesn't mean forever anymore, so what's the point.
If you do get married, make sure she can think independently of the misandrist hive-mind.
I'm all for free speech...but Adam needs some filters in that mouth of his!!!🤣🤣
Marriage and kids…..no way Jose.
Marry a woman you like and is beautiful to you. Make sure she has a matching income and you don't have to worry about giving her half your wealth. Look at your beautiful wife and beautiful kid(s) and be grateful you poured all your energy into the relationship.
I'm not married. Don't even gonna get married. It's so overrated!
But you could still be 60, alone and have half your money.
Adam contributes nothing.
pat seems white sometimes, he talks a lot
Wtf does that even mean?
Looking for a serious man white in my life