To Parents Who May Have A Transgender Child:

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  • Опубліковано 12 січ 2015
  • This is solely my personal advice. Most importantly, 5:14 until the end has my main advice there. Links & resources below!
    Resources for parents:
    List of gender therapists: www.lauras-playground.com/gend...
    PFLAG: community.pflag.org
    The Gender Book: www.thegenderbook.com
    The Parents Project: theparentsproject.com/category...
    Parent's Project Book: theparentsproject.com/the-book/
    Trans Student: transstudent.org
    Legal: transgenderlawcenter.org/
    Local resource finder: www.glbtnearme.org
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 610

  • @internationalaquarium8566
    @internationalaquarium8566 7 років тому +794

    *wants to show this to parents but is to fricking scared*

    • @thatoneperson1783
      @thatoneperson1783 7 років тому +20

      Akatosh thanks for saying the words for me

    • @Chilidog02
      @Chilidog02 7 років тому +5

      Akatosh same

    • @michaeln3081
      @michaeln3081 6 років тому +4

      Me to

    • @diamondinthesky4771
      @diamondinthesky4771 6 років тому +15

      You have no idea how much I feel the very same way :( I would give anything to just be able to FEEL like I'm starting to transition.

    • @TIKAL1973
      @TIKAL1973 5 років тому +1

      how the bitch stole Christmas same

  • @sifinerdprincess
    @sifinerdprincess 9 років тому +440

    Well, it's 7am, i haven't slept, I've been feeling extremely dysphoric and I've been crying a lot. Contemplating sending my dad a link to this video. I already came out to him but he basically said its a phase and pushed me back in the closet…

  • @isiahkt
    @isiahkt 3 роки тому +56

    *"They're not gonna change because there's nothing to fix."* That hit hard😔 3:02

  • @tacoburger5
    @tacoburger5 9 років тому +530

    i have two brothers. my parents tell me they are so happy they finally got a girl. but i am a boy inside

    • @skylarkeleven
      @skylarkeleven  9 років тому +125

      if you had been born a boy in their eyes, i imagine your parents would tell you that they were so happy to have three boys. it may be hard for them to feel they are losing 'their only daughter' but they would be gaining a son. if you ever tell them, i hope they will see that :)

    • @tacoburger5
      @tacoburger5 9 років тому +6

      thanks youre sweet

    • @lyndza1989
      @lyndza1989 8 років тому +17

      +tacoburger5 you cannot live a fulfilled life trying to fill someone else's dreams/ideals.. if they love you they wouldnt want that fate for you

    • @penelopecromd6852
      @penelopecromd6852 7 років тому +1

      tacoburger5
      its ok they'll except u and its harder for me im not sure if im transgender female use 2 think im a girl but then i shut that out growing up and im not labeling my sexuality im attracted 2 male and female because none of them feel right i looked at all bi poly pan none

    • @larcenciel7428
      @larcenciel7428 7 років тому +10

      Omg so same. I'm the youngest child and the only "girl". I feel so guilty sometimes because I'm not a girl, but I just want to be happy.

  • @user-ge2ky3vy8b
    @user-ge2ky3vy8b 8 років тому +388

    I'm thinking of sending this to my mom...wish me luck?

    • @TatePhillips
      @TatePhillips 5 років тому +11

      Did you ever send it to your mom? How’s did it go if you did?

    • @kidsaccount9232
      @kidsaccount9232 5 років тому +5

      :3 gl

    • @user-ge2ky3vy8b
      @user-ge2ky3vy8b 5 років тому +68

      @@TatePhillips yes! I did send it to my mom! I'm starting t in a few days!

    • @mossiris816
      @mossiris816 5 років тому +7

      @@user-ge2ky3vy8b SO HAPPY FOR YOU GOOD LUCK!!!

    • @TatePhillips
      @TatePhillips 5 років тому +4

      :3 Yay!! So happy for you :D

  • @alfaback1532
    @alfaback1532 8 років тому +192

    I identify as a Trans girl, and i plan on coming out very soon. I'm already out as a gay cis-male and my parents accept me and say they love me unconditionally. But In the past I tried drag makeup and just really got into the makeup scene and this made them very uncomfortable and they didn't want me presenting myself as a "female". I tried explaining how it was just a mask or a character and they still didn't understand. But I'm hoping that coming out as a fully female identified individual they will begin to understand. And this video will definitely be played for them. Thank you so much for your wisdom and kind words Skylark.

    • @arcade8706
      @arcade8706 5 років тому

      Alexander yo I hope it's going great!!!

    • @hongry-life
      @hongry-life 5 років тому

      You are part of the (beast) system until you break free from it. Open your eyes and see the sick psychopath ruling class promoting to mutilate the bodies during all of our lives from birth to death. It is a dangerous death cult. WAKE UP.

    • @arcade8706
      @arcade8706 5 років тому +7

      hongry life literally nobody asked you my dude

    • @ifuckedyourdad709
      @ifuckedyourdad709 5 років тому

      Alexander i hope it’s going well, girl!

    • @hongry-life
      @hongry-life 5 років тому

      That is not true, Nathan Crouse. I am here because of the exhibitionism of others and them posting this and answering to those calls. God's way cannot be known by us, but they are there to take notice of. Me saying this is a straight and personal message to who calls for it.

  • @Miguel-td2qg
    @Miguel-td2qg 7 років тому +90

    I'm not crying you're crying. my parents weren't supposed to find out and it's really damaged me the way they reacted. I needed this

    • @liamstorm8015
      @liamstorm8015 6 років тому +2

      Mikey Johnson
      Yeah me too

    • @brisaweinert8952
      @brisaweinert8952 3 роки тому +4

      Same... my mom found out while I was telling my friends who understand and don’t give a crap honestly but my mom she’s so confused like what I’m telling you I’m just not a girl and I’m non-binary it’s that simple god damn it hurts so much

  • @kairose3161
    @kairose3161 8 років тому +90

    My mom is very transphobic and I'm really scared to come out but I want to be happy and start to transition

    • @GalaxyGal-
      @GalaxyGal- 8 років тому +4

      Whatever your mom decides, you are who you are, and if she hates you for who you are, she doesn't deserve you.

    • @rachelheffron224
      @rachelheffron224 8 років тому +20

      My dad was phobic of everything lgbt and openly opposed it all my life. Up until the moment I came out to him as trans with tears in my eyes. He cried with me and held me for hours when he saw how upset I was. Then said it didnt matter to him if I wanted to be his daughter insted of his son as long as I was happy. Even the most bigoted parents can find instant acceptance in their hearts when acctually confronted with what they fear. Youd be supprised just how far a parents love will go. Dont be afraid to tell your mom, it WILL keep you in the closet and that is a dangerous place to be. Have faith that your mother will understand and want to help you. Best of luck with what ever you decide.

    • @transgamer2826
      @transgamer2826 8 років тому +4

      +Rachel Heffron My dad and mom will accept me only as gay, I don't even wanna ask them if they accept transgenders but I hope you get to transition. may god bless you.

    • @finnelijah829
      @finnelijah829 7 років тому +4

      Rachel Heffron The exact same thing happened to me. My mother was always joking about LGBT people... But after I told her I was trans she was so sweet and I guess she got over her hate.!

    • @little_sky2441
      @little_sky2441 6 років тому

      Kai Rose Mine too

  • @Color_me_Rorange
    @Color_me_Rorange 4 роки тому +35

    My 13 year old told me today.I love my child and want my child to feel supported and loved. I am struggling to wrap my head around it.Thanks for pointing to some resources.

    • @deborahrolski7737
      @deborahrolski7737 Рік тому

      Hi! I hear ya!

    • @breannas2869
      @breannas2869 Рік тому

      And same I fully support mine is anxious and quiet and hard for her to task reigns but this topic more so so def need help

    • @DrSharonFair
      @DrSharonFair Рік тому

      ua-cam.com/video/IDlgJok3Ss8/v-deo.html&lc=UgydiMDQbNJZEYVZ8TB4AaABAg.9mocDzIsDmr9mocjWgVmkM

  • @jennyolivia1998
    @jennyolivia1998 9 років тому +126

    I'm a boy. I don't know how I'm going to transition, but I'm going to do it.
    I'm going to become the Riley I am inside.

    • @VulpisDraws
      @VulpisDraws 4 роки тому +7

      i believe in you, riley 💙

    • @ceecue5367
      @ceecue5367 3 роки тому +2

      Wherever you're at now, I hope you realize that you're making a mistake

    • @dragonflysage6206
      @dragonflysage6206 3 роки тому +3

      Best of luck, Riley! I believe in you!

    • @dragonflysage6206
      @dragonflysage6206 3 роки тому +15

      @@ceecue5367 No. You're making a mistake. Let this person be who they really are! Don't be a f***ing dumbass. Have a nice day! 😁

    • @basma.gogogo
      @basma.gogogo 2 роки тому +5

      @@dragonflysage6206 haha I really like you bro :)

  • @Rid97527
    @Rid97527 9 років тому +99

    How are you so well-spoken & grammatical? Beautiful, Skylar xx

  • @jlavery1981
    @jlavery1981 8 років тому +209

    My daughter came out to me as transgender a few days ago. I just told her I loved her and I'd love for her to become my son. She's still deciding on pronouns so for now I use the old pronouns, with her ok. I just don't know the first steps to help her on this journey. :(. Any advice would be great.

    • @honeylemon1427
      @honeylemon1427 5 років тому +19

      Just listen to what he\she\they are feeling, I really helps even if you don't understand just the effort shows yourw trying💙

    • @theretard9306
      @theretard9306 5 років тому +22

      I know im just a kid my self and i just came out but i hope this helps...
      Just sit down with her/him and say "this is your decision and a long journey but i want you to know i will be there with you every step of the way. I love you no matter what...boy,girl,gay,lesbian. Your still my child and this is your life. You do what your comfortable doing and being called And i love you"
      I wish my family said that when i came out....my family dosnt except me...

    • @AB-uf1et
      @AB-uf1et 5 років тому +11

      Hey, can you give us any updates on your child and their transition (if they transitioned ofc)? I'd love to hear

    • @ryderyoung3468
      @ryderyoung3468 4 роки тому +9

      Look, as a dude who’s mom is non supportive let me just tell you, listen and be open, tell them you love them unconditionally and they’ll be happy.

    • @carelesslycareless9961
      @carelesslycareless9961 3 роки тому +6

      I don’t have any advice, but I’d just like to say you are such a sweet parent. More children deserve parents like you.

  • @rmmartin92405
    @rmmartin92405 9 років тому +84

    As a trans (parent) I love watching your videos and getting this type of advice information. Seeing you happy and thriving gives me confidence that my little guy is going to grow up and continue to be as happy as he is now even though at this point he's still so innocent and young and it's us as his parents who are dealing with the majority of it at this point. But I'd do it all over again any day. Anyway great video and great tips.

    • @skylarkeleven
      @skylarkeleven  9 років тому +15

      that is truly amazing. thank you for being that parent :)

    • @Kiki-lx8wz
      @Kiki-lx8wz 8 років тому +1

      You are truly amazing parent

    • @milkita2816
      @milkita2816 4 роки тому

      Does it matter what age you are when you come out

    • @rat3905
      @rat3905 3 роки тому +1

      please adopt me

    • @sushilovermf
      @sushilovermf 2 роки тому

      @@rat3905 same

  • @bestmusiccompilation7339
    @bestmusiccompilation7339 8 років тому +58

    I want to come out to my parents as ftm, however they are incredibly disrespectful towards anything LGBT+ related, and I'm terrified that I will become further alienated from my family. Part of me wants to wait until college, where I'm in a safer situation but the other (larger) part wants to come out now so I can be in a better mental state.

    • @bestmusiccompilation7339
      @bestmusiccompilation7339 8 років тому

      .

    • @sagoens8512
      @sagoens8512 3 роки тому +4

      Same I really want to come out but my parents are extremely LGBTQ+ against so I’m coming out when I’m 17or18

    • @sushilovermf
      @sushilovermf 2 роки тому +3

      SAME, I’m in the exact same situation

    • @DrSharonFair
      @DrSharonFair Рік тому

      You are confused. You are a GIRL. ua-cam.com/video/IDlgJok3Ss8/v-deo.html&lc=UgydiMDQbNJZEYVZ8TB4AaABAg.9mocDzIsDmr9mocjWgVmkM

  • @carolinechuter9546
    @carolinechuter9546 8 років тому +37

    just watching , my daughter is mtf and i fully support her, shes now nearly 10 xxx

  • @skunkite8156
    @skunkite8156 4 роки тому +17

    I need to show this to my dad...
    He needs to understand that his daughter is not his daughter but his son...

    • @noellll3903
      @noellll3903 3 роки тому +1

      Same but they are Christians who tell me it’s a phase and I will grow out of it. The other day my mum said “your brain isn’t even fully developed till your 25, so that’s why I say it might not be true”

    • @skunkite8156
      @skunkite8156 3 роки тому +1

      @@noellll3903 that's a very poor excuse, some kids realize they are transgender at the age of 2 or 3, I wish you the best, hopefully, your parents will grow and learn to accept you!

    • @noellll3903
      @noellll3903 3 роки тому +1

      ThatCrazyTimberWolf i hope so too シ

    • @DrSharonFair
      @DrSharonFair Рік тому

      You are confused! ua-cam.com/video/IDlgJok3Ss8/v-deo.html&lc=UgydiMDQbNJZEYVZ8TB4AaABAg.9mocDzIsDmr9mocjWgVmkM

    • @JimJimmy-lt5te
      @JimJimmy-lt5te Місяць тому

      Well that is true, it seems that a pretty big and important part of trans people accept their gender from 20 to 25.

  • @thehomohomie5259
    @thehomohomie5259 2 роки тому +9

    The urge to send this to my mother after she gave me crap about being trans grows with every minute I'm alive ò-ó

  • @EthanEatsFlowers
    @EthanEatsFlowers 7 років тому +155

    I wanna show this to my parents... so bad...

    • @EthanEatsFlowers
      @EthanEatsFlowers 7 років тому +5

      dat random pinecone they'd kill me...

    • @thegirlnextdoor4939
      @thegirlnextdoor4939 7 років тому +2

      Ethanhasnothing totalkabout I want to show mine too but they'll kill me too

    • @happylittleflower7335
      @happylittleflower7335 7 років тому +1

      Ethanhasnothing totalkabout I wish I could show my mom this because she told me I "can't be trans" I tried to tell her 2 years ago and I was so upset when she aid that. I pretended that I didn't want to be a boy at all for 2 years. I've recently accepted it.

    • @katelyndickinson3458
      @katelyndickinson3458 6 років тому +1

      me too! i think when they are less busy ill just be brave but fuck im so scared

  • @Atoruja
    @Atoruja 8 років тому +37

    Im showing this to my mom
    I can't stand this hate anymore ..
    She is the only one who understands me
    My dad..I just don't know anymore..

    • @noellll3903
      @noellll3903 3 роки тому

      Did you do it?!

    • @rat3905
      @rat3905 3 роки тому

      I feel you. My biological "dad" is transphobic and my stepdad thinks that I can't be non-binary as a minor.

    • @basma.gogogo
      @basma.gogogo 2 роки тому

      @@rat3905 I don't get the connection... Do you have to be 18 to understand what is your gender identity...?

    • @rat3905
      @rat3905 2 роки тому

      @@basma.gogogo No, but that's what my stepdad thinks.

    • @basma.gogogo
      @basma.gogogo 2 роки тому +1

      @@rat3905 yeah that doesn't make any sense, I'm sorry for you 😔

  • @izzynarnia3619
    @izzynarnia3619 9 років тому +54

    I just know I'm one....I was literally jealous of everyboy who got to wear bowties and suits...and I had to wear dresses....I-I...I just don't know anymore =(

  • @BlackxSkittlez
    @BlackxSkittlez 9 років тому +31

    As a child of a foreign mom who has never heard about transgenderism until the day I came out, I wish this video was here in 2009 then I could have shown this to her. She's fully accepting now though but back then, she was in a huge denial of me. Thought it was a phase and it couldn't be right. Now, she's the one who got me the Testosterone I've been taking for a while.

    • @skylarkeleven
      @skylarkeleven  9 років тому +8

      that's amazing how she's come around. i too wish my parents could've seen this in 2009. thankfully being trans is more talked about now than it was 6 years ago, but having to wait for acceptance is really hard. i'm glad you are where you are now!

  • @DamienCoppersan
    @DamienCoppersan 9 років тому +53

    Thanks again Skylar. I feel like your timing is always right because I was looking to make another attempt to get my mother to understand me better and lo and behold, a video that deals with just that. Man, it would've been cool if you could talk to my parents in person. You're a wonderful human being, you're the type of person I want to be in life.

    • @skylarkeleven
      @skylarkeleven  9 років тому +25

      that's so funny because i truly wish to someday work with lgbt youth and their families to have these conversations :). and just as i am the type of person you want to be, you are a part of me and vice versa. my existence is only made real by your perception of it - so know that all of the good you see in me is the reflection of the good you would see in you if you were to look.

  • @manonj1364
    @manonj1364 9 років тому +12

    THANK YOU. Just... Thank you. I almost cried of happiness when I saw the title of this video.
    I looked for videos like this one for days, and I couldn't find a single one.
    I want to come out. I need to come out. But the idea of being rejected by the one that I love is even stronger than my dysphoria. I want my parents to understand me, to understand what I am and what it's like to be a transgender person. And I think that you - through your videos - will help them to.
    You're just amazing : handsome, clever, and just fucking useful. You probably don't realize it, but seing you being proud and open about being trans really helps desesperated trans teens - like me - to be positive about the futur.
    You're a fucking inspiration.

  • @letterstoyou6737
    @letterstoyou6737 2 роки тому +2

    All those things that you said not to say is what was said to me in the 9th grade, so I completely shut down and dissociated myself from myself and became full of self hatred. And now that I'm here as an adult, I'm like it's time to stop pushing myself to be someone else to make everyone else happy

  • @supernaturaldestiel1830
    @supernaturaldestiel1830 7 років тому +14

    this made me cry tbh. ur voice is so calming. ill show this to my parents. thanks❤

  • @sheilaj.1163
    @sheilaj.1163 7 років тому +49

    Great advice for parents... I hope alot of them take a look and listen!

    • @sylviabrown3047
      @sylviabrown3047 7 років тому +1

      Sheila J. Shiela! :))))

    • @shadowclaw9369
      @shadowclaw9369 3 роки тому

      Hello :)

    • @DrSharonFair
      @DrSharonFair Рік тому

      No, horrible advice! Wait and see what happens to this person in a few years! ua-cam.com/video/IDlgJok3Ss8/v-deo.html&lc=UgydiMDQbNJZEYVZ8TB4AaABAg.9mocDzIsDmr9mocjWgVmkM

  • @kai-of2wx
    @kai-of2wx 3 роки тому +5

    2:06 is how my grandma reacted. She's the first and only family member to know. I'm going into 7th grade, and I know when I'm going to come out to my (obviously homophobic and transphobic) parents. When I have moved out fully and I don't need them for anything, because they are not gonna be accepting at all. I'm also gonna have to be emotionally ready for them to yell at me, because for now everytime someone yells at me I cry. Idk why. So, in probably like 7 or 8 years, can my future self reply to this comment? Tell me how it went? If you need a reminder of what part if your life this is, I just turned 12 seven days ago. I'm about to go to Chelsea's to summon Camio, the dog translator one. I'll probably reply to myself each milestone of the way, but, I hope I'm still alive by then. And if you're me in a couple years, about to end it, don't. For me. There's so much hope. Alright, that's it. Thanks for reading.

    • @yunus1947
      @yunus1947 3 роки тому +1

      Your grandma sounds amazing so there is hope for you you wouldn’t believe the amount of support and understanding people have today

  • @immortalcheeseburger5228
    @immortalcheeseburger5228 4 роки тому +3

    The last part made me cry, alot I have been looking up videos because I came out to him a few weeks ago and he doesn't believe me, on Wednesday I broke down hard and cut most of my hair off and he doesn't know yet I NEED him to understand and ik he might see this text once he goes down the comments I just want to be his son

  • @arrowhead8856
    @arrowhead8856 3 роки тому +9

    I came out, but my parents won't use my pronouns or help me with my name. I feel like they're not even trying. They didn't have a negative reaction, but they said I've always been a girl and I've always acted like a girl, which really hurts me.

    • @DrSharonFair
      @DrSharonFair Рік тому

      ua-cam.com/video/IDlgJok3Ss8/v-deo.html&lc=UgydiMDQbNJZEYVZ8TB4AaABAg.9mocDzIsDmr9mocjWgVmkM

  • @KimmyHearts1D
    @KimmyHearts1D 9 років тому +9

    Whoever has your heart must be the luckiest person in the whole entire world. You are hands down the most sweetest awesome person ever I am so happy I discovered your channel!

  • @avyo8654
    @avyo8654 9 років тому +1

    Thanks for this, man.
    It's one of three videos I'm getting my parents to watch when I come out to them next week.

  • @TheKaineHill
    @TheKaineHill 5 років тому

    I was looking for videos to show my mom (whom I came out to just 2 weeks ago), but while watching this I realized my mom already did and said all the perfect things. I'm really lucky she's so accepting. Wish all of you the best of luck and lots of strength~

  • @buffysummers138
    @buffysummers138 5 років тому +1

    Omg I love you so much. Thank you for this upload. My mom is trying to be supportive to my little sister. She just came out over this weekend (her 14th bday). She wants to cut her hair like a boy and ditch the girly shirts in favor of guy clothes.
    My mom is working thru what it means to have a trans gender child and she is fighting her on the hair cut saying everything was happening too fast. She loves my sister's hair. (It is beautiful)
    I was searching UA-cam to find parents of trans videos to send her to try and help her through what has to be a very scary and emotional experience, and this is the best one so far. You touched me in so many ways. My sister knows that when she's able to be a boy, I will love my brother just as much as I loved my sister because no matter the gender our love is real and unbreakable, but because of your video I will keep a conscious effort to remember to ask specifically "how can I support you better" especially in these early stages.
    Thank you so much for this video. I hope you have peace and love and a huge support system and lots and lots of friends and that you are a genuinely happy person.
    You made an impact today on a random stranger and gave them words to live by. Thank you so much for that.
    Peace forever and lots of internet hugs, a tear or two and well wishes,
    Nicole

  • @misslinda6699
    @misslinda6699 Рік тому

    My grandkid, who I love with all my heart, recently came out and is transitioning. They don’t yet know where this journey will take them, but the process has begun. My immediate reaction was letting them know that I love them, but also surprise because I know nothing about these sorts of feelings or processes. I’ve been searching for thoughtful direction, ways that I can fully love and support them, and found my way to your video. You’ve been so very helpful. You have a loving and kind heart and the fact that you would take the time to help parents/grandparents says so much. I hope you have found the love and acceptance that you are entitled to. Thank you, again.

  • @KaiMarieMartin
    @KaiMarieMartin 9 років тому +56

    Omg thank you it was looking for a video like this.

  • @enajd9552
    @enajd9552 Рік тому

    Just found your video, months after my 16yr old came out to me - thank you! She transitioned at home with us first then, in school. To reconcile the emotional turmoil I feel as her mother, I think of her as my hatchling. It took 16 yrs for her to break the shell of her assigned gender but she’s done it! Some days my heart aches with fear for her future in this cruel world. Other days I marvel at this confident glowing personality that always seemed to be unable to connect with her friends or be completely at ease in social situations in the past. The personality is still the same, wickedly smart, funny, sensitive but now it seems to flow unfettered by the sadness that I could never reach when she was younger. Thank you for you, for your visibility, for your inspiration to other trans kids & to parents like myself & my husband who will always love our kid.

  • @daeslepr400
    @daeslepr400 9 років тому

    Always thoughtful & helpful, thanks.Sounds trite but 2 way communication is soooo important. Hope you're doing well, you're looking good.

  • @Disapproving_Welsh_Corgi
    @Disapproving_Welsh_Corgi 8 років тому +7

    Hey, thank you so much for making this video! My parents are finding it really hard to accept my transition but my counsellor suggested I send them a few videos and websites of information and advice and I'm definately sending them this video!
    I'm hoping too to make a channel about Trans issues and my transition so maybe one day I'll be able to make a video as helpful as this
    Ps. I love that we are both Skylar K's :P

  • @CharlesAxtell
    @CharlesAxtell 9 років тому +11

    This was beautifully balanced and well thought through. You're amazing

  • @nevin1180
    @nevin1180 5 років тому +2

    I'm so glad I've found this I'm planning on coming out and I didn't know how I was going to but I found a way, thank you.

  • @brycealexander7302
    @brycealexander7302 9 років тому

    I shared this on FB so hopefully my mum will see it, she usually ready my links and stuff...I just wish it would be easier than this, i wish i was born a Cis guy but then again i wouldnt be as strong as i am today. Skye u r such an inspiration and by watching your videos it shows me that life really does get better. thats why im still hanging on, bc i stumbled around this channel and watched ur timeline and just wow. your amazing. Thank you.

  • @Sillmyril
    @Sillmyril 9 років тому

    Thank you for sharing so much of your insight. I so much wish that more people could take your advise and love unconditionally. Everyone needs to feel accepted and everyone needs love. You are helping more people than can ever know even if they just start learning to accept themselves.

  • @anthonyreppucci7086
    @anthonyreppucci7086 9 років тому

    This is really good advice. I've been best friends with your cousin Cassidy and she told me last year and we are still the best friends that we are today and it really doesn't change anything. She showed me your transition today and it is good that you are happy the way you are! 😄

  • @dorothydiana1998
    @dorothydiana1998 5 років тому

    Awesome video- thanks for making it and hopefully making the path smoother for others.

  • @tesseract7537
    @tesseract7537 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much for your compassion and understanding, you are a remarkable human being.

  • @TheSilverWolf133
    @TheSilverWolf133 7 років тому

    Please write a book, I would read it religiously. You are perfection thank you I'm struggling with myself right now and you an enormous support and help. I'm sitting the HSC right now but as soon as it is over I'm showing this video to my parents. Thank you so much, I hope you know how lovely and helpful you are and that you're making a beautiful change in this world.

  • @eurusgeesusway4813
    @eurusgeesusway4813 5 років тому +4

    Lmao, "No you're not" and "You're wrong" was exactly my mom's reaction it was awesome (but not really)

  • @williamchilds216
    @williamchilds216 6 років тому +1

    First emotion I've felt in a few weeks. Well, it wasn't an emotion. Its was just tears. Tears of something. Thank you, mate. Thank you.

  • @wesanderson7918
    @wesanderson7918 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for putting this out here for parents to watch. My transgender daughter came out to us the other day and I have been so full of emotions but I am happy for her. She has been struggling with a darkness we never understood for 5 years and now we do. Time to heal and be you Noah.

    • @HeyItsEmilyLove
      @HeyItsEmilyLove 2 роки тому +1

      Parents like you are very inspiring. I hope your family is doing well and she’s happier now. Thank you for caring 💙

  • @teresagonzales7285
    @teresagonzales7285 5 років тому

    Thank you. I shared this with my brother as his daughter is starting her transition journey.

  • @coolbruh1223
    @coolbruh1223 8 років тому

    I'm so glad this video was made, and I'm so glad someone finally said what needed to be heard.

  • @chrisnr8638
    @chrisnr8638 2 роки тому

    Thank you for your message. As a parent, it is helpful to hear what you needed. Hopefully, you can still bridge the gap with your own parents. Remember to also give them “yet another chance” if you guys are not in the best terms right now… I am unaware of your curent situation but it feels like there are still a lot of heavy feelings left… BEST OF LUCK!!!

  • @totallynotstan6313
    @totallynotstan6313 4 роки тому

    Thank you for making this video I will use it when coming out once again thank you : )

  • @flamewolf8007
    @flamewolf8007 5 років тому +5

    An actual conversation between me and my mom
    Me: mom I ummm I feel like I should be a boy I mean idk I think im trans
    Mom: Ha that’s a joke right?
    Me:oh uhhh
    Mom:Your not trans your not changing

  • @firesong83
    @firesong83 4 роки тому

    That was truly beautiful. So many parents could learn so much from you.

  • @thundercat287
    @thundercat287 9 років тому +5

    I'm no longer a child by age, but my parents still treat me like one. I've come out to my parents but they are not unconditionally accepting. Right now they're acting like they're putting up with my gender and want to hide it from our relatives. My cousin is having a wedding in less than two months and my parents are considering not having me attend just because I cut my hair short. They say they are accepting but it's not accepting if they don't let me be myself. It's like I went back in the closet and my parents hide there with me, and they look out if the coast is clear for me.

  • @YouDoYouAndImmaDoMe
    @YouDoYouAndImmaDoMe 8 років тому

    Hey Skylar, I think this could be a big help with my parents. I appreciate the videos you make bud!

  • @LeenaCyrus0919
    @LeenaCyrus0919 9 років тому

    Hi Skylar. I've been watching your videos for a while and I just love them. You have a gorgeous smile and seem like an amazing person. I'm not trans, nor do I know anyone who is (or have I in my life) but I would be proud of my (future) child no matter what. I think this advice will stand to help plenty of people in the future. Keep being amazing! ❤

  • @grace1876
    @grace1876 8 років тому

    This video is amazing- I need to show my parents to help them understand what my brother/sister is going through

  • @willardmcmorris9702
    @willardmcmorris9702 9 років тому

    You have gotten more confidence in your speaking on vids, You were never bad, I mean you confidence is growing and showing, Sky I have an aquainance who appears androgoness i dont know if they want to be genderless, any suggestions
    and thanks for all the help you are giving to the community! over the years!!!

  • @rpower204
    @rpower204 4 роки тому

    Thanks for making this man. It was really I helpful I even used it to come out to my mam

  • @FogglyBloggly
    @FogglyBloggly 9 років тому

    Sky, I'm going to be in Boston during valentines day, and id love to meet you! you have inspired me so much

  • @Demonsrulez
    @Demonsrulez 9 років тому

    It's very inspiring of what you said about transgenders. I thought it was very touching and agree with you. Its sad to have loss Leelah Alcorn because of not being accepted. I am thankfully have had a very supportive group and people being proud of me as a transgender myself f-t-m. I didn't know what I was until I was in college, for although I am born female I didn't feel right and prefer to be called male since as far back as I remember. Although there are some people I know that have a hard time believing and accepting it. My family really doesn't know and I have a feeling they probably won't accept it as Christians themselves. I am proud of who I am and glad to say i'm a transgender. I want to do all I can to help my people out. I also would let my own family, kids, spouse, and everyone else that comes along into the future of who I am. Thank you for taking the time to commit and support us transgenders. :)

  • @jacksonswartz8544
    @jacksonswartz8544 6 років тому

    hello, for a couple months i have been writing a paper that will hopefully give my parents a better view upon hormone therapy and i am going to use this video to start off my paper. I really want to thank you and i hope your words can help my parents. Hopefully i will leave another comment later this summer telling you how my paper worked and how they reacted to me wanting to start hormones!

  • @jakis5705
    @jakis5705 5 років тому

    thank you for this even though i love my child as she or he is and just want him to happy for the rest of her/his life x

  • @loveFFKamloops
    @loveFFKamloops 9 років тому

    Omg dude ! You made me cry! You are an awesome dude and so eloquent !

  • @davefisher1840
    @davefisher1840 10 місяців тому

    This was excellent. Thanks for posting 😊

  • @crowfatality
    @crowfatality 9 років тому

    I've had many friends over the years throughout my transition where the parents would definitely have benefited from this video.
    But I'm grateful to say that my most recent experience has been with my friend, who is the mother of a boy who recently came out as trans; and she has dealt with the whole thing amazingly. Even without knowing that I was trans, she has interacted with trans folk before and was involved enough in her child's life to foresee this outcome and be there to support him in any way necessary. Her regret was that she didn't question him about it, she left it to him to make his decisions and come to her. But that was unfortunately after a failed suicide attempt and medical intervention.
    In the end, he's got a great mom, he's in a good place at school, supportive friends, and the other boy on his roller derby team is stoked that there's now two boys. He's one awesome little dude.

  • @MizukiAkemi
    @MizukiAkemi 6 років тому

    i came out a year and a half ago to my parents and was met with unacceptance. i was sat down with my drug rehabilitation therapist (disclaimer i wasnt an addict shit just happened thats another story) and was told that i couldn't "chose" this until i was 18 and would never be supported. I came out through a letter and my dad never read it. my mom did but it really got me nowhere so i spent a year and a half trying to be female but failed because im not and i cant change that. thank you for this video, wish i could've seen and shown this to my parents back then. i think next time i come out ill show this to my parents. :) (haha this is so much rambling)

  • @jeanninekelly4748
    @jeanninekelly4748 2 роки тому

    Thanks so much for giving this wonderful advice!!

  • @VivreAvec
    @VivreAvec 9 років тому +1

    This is a beautiful love message, even though I'm not transgender I love watching your videos because it makes me discover and learn so much about gender identity and kindness.. Thanks you, really, you do so much good!

  • @cloroxbleach3838
    @cloroxbleach3838 9 років тому

    Hey Skylar, I like this video and your channel a lot. It really does help people out. Hopefully I can get the guts to tell my parents that I'm actually a boy not a girl. I've been struggling to change myself but it's hard since I'm still in highschool and people always bully me for the littlest things. My mom and dad won't get it though they will ground me and think it's a phase I'm going through so that sucks :/ I wish you were my parent or older brother because you do understand what I'm saying, ya know... Haha thanks anyways :) x

  • @bangtanarmy6845
    @bangtanarmy6845 2 роки тому +1

    I don't know why but this video made me cry especially the end. Coming out is scary as HECK we don't know what'll happen.

  • @MrsNouika
    @MrsNouika 9 років тому

    I might show this to my parents. ^^ Thank you for being such an inspiration for me.

  • @atoliito008
    @atoliito008 9 років тому +1

    Hey Skylar. I have a petition, can I use this and subtitle it? I'm from Mexico and I want to come out to my parents but I'm afraid of their reaction and this might come handy the day I do it. I love your videos and you're one of my heroes and one of my role models thank you for all the things that you have done. I love you :)

  • @mariaqttv
    @mariaqttv 7 років тому

    This video is so good! im gonna show this to my mom ASAP!

  • @copinkprincess60
    @copinkprincess60 2 роки тому

    I’m watching this after my child came out to me I was not surprised he has friends who are finding themselves too. He is not the only in our family to come out. I love all my children for just being them. I did suspect that he was finding himself and knew knew they loved rainbow and to color their hair currently purple. He is 11 and I love him for being him

  • @allylyon3497
    @allylyon3497 9 років тому +1

    Wow, thanks Sky, I wish my parents had seen this before I came out.

  • @moonbugyy
    @moonbugyy 5 років тому

    O told my mum I was Trans awhile ago, but she obviously didn't grasp the meaning of it, so yesterday (1/12/19) after asking about getting my hair cut short and whatnot we were finally able to talk about it, and now she knows truly what I am. She seems accepting of me, but I still have my doubts. After all, she was happy to have me after having four boys...
    Good news though, I've officially gotten that off my chest with her, and I'm going to get my hair cut and dyed Friday as a day late birthday present ^^'

  • @lefr8
    @lefr8 9 років тому

    Skylar you are truly an angle on this Earth. You inspire me as an activist for trans rights. You are powerful beyond belief. xx

  • @drose005
    @drose005 2 роки тому

    Thank you for the video! You are helping many families!

  • @theaudienceofdeath6380
    @theaudienceofdeath6380 2 роки тому +1

    sending this to my mom, she doesn’t support me from what i know but i really need her behind me right now. wish me luck

    • @HeyItsEmilyLove
      @HeyItsEmilyLove 2 роки тому

      I hope things went well and you’re in a better situation. No matter what happened, please know there’s a big community of people that will love you just the way you are 💙

  • @HeyItsEmilyLove
    @HeyItsEmilyLove 2 роки тому

    You’re wonderful and I appreciate this video. Love and respect 💙 I hope you’re doing well

  • @travellingcats1047
    @travellingcats1047 Рік тому

    Thank you!! I'd be interested to hear how your parents reacted and how it made you feel.

  • @crazyfamily9995
    @crazyfamily9995 3 роки тому +3

    THANK YOU!!

  • @mordechai_engels
    @mordechai_engels 4 роки тому +1

    Bro you pass like 1000% and I love your voice

  • @russellgrice6966
    @russellgrice6966 4 роки тому +2

    Good shit ❤️ working through this regarding my son, f>m. Given my breakdown with his mum (completly unrelated), it's been tricky for us all. But we're very open and looking to make things work in the best possible way. X

  • @dawnmcgrew2874
    @dawnmcgrew2874 9 років тому +1

    Wow...well spoken. Thank you for that.

  • @Chilidog02
    @Chilidog02 7 років тому

    I'll send this to my parents, thank you so much ❤

  • @talvinmoore455
    @talvinmoore455 4 роки тому +2

    I really wanna show this to my parents but I live in germany and they're not good at english but I think I'm gonna use this to try to explain it to my parents/family...

  • @AutumnRoaseS
    @AutumnRoaseS 9 років тому

    I'm considering sending this to my mom. Thanks Skylar!

    • @skylarkeleven
      @skylarkeleven  9 років тому

      anytime my friend! nice to hear from you :)

  • @MariesMadness31
    @MariesMadness31 9 років тому

    I think I will send this video per email to both my parents as my co... ;-) Thansk for it!

  • @pashalove_as
    @pashalove_as 9 років тому

    Great message, very emotional video!

  • @babagroznica5493
    @babagroznica5493 3 роки тому +3

    Oh god I'm gonna send this to my parents.. I'm so scared!

  • @CGI_Andy
    @CGI_Andy 5 років тому +1

    My parents won’t let me come out publicly even though I am ready. My mom’s argument is that she can’t see me as a girl. My dads argument is that high school can be tough. I agree with my dad more.

  • @myutube5882
    @myutube5882 4 роки тому

    Absolutely beautiful! That is the best thing a parent can do. "How can I support you? What can I do to help? I love you no matter what." Parents need to get that this is not a choice. Who would choose this? It's not easy but parental support can make all the difference! If you love your child, love them unconditionally! "Unconditional love is the only love worthy of the word," to quote Leo Buscaglia.

  • @ribbonandhearts
    @ribbonandhearts 8 років тому

    I'm making a video for trans youth and their parents this afternoon, you have some very sound advice, i hope you don't mind me promoting this video to friends and family. Thanks for everything

  • @mj_free_9025
    @mj_free_9025 6 років тому

    So crazy story
    I came out to my mother yesterday, telling her I was a boy and she was a lot calmer than I expected but then told me that she loves me but won't accept it and that I hv to go to a specific church that delivers people😩
    I took so long to finally accept who I am and now I'm expected to "change" and I don't think I want to change. I'm a dude and I'm cool with it 💃

  • @blue_is_not_sad
    @blue_is_not_sad 9 років тому

    This made me cry three times thinking of what it will be like to come out to my family

  • @deathlikereviews6648
    @deathlikereviews6648 2 роки тому +1

    I want to show this to my parents but I’m not sure if I should,I’m just realizing all this. I’m 19 and have been living as a male my whole life. Thank you so much for this video.